honestly as a 400 year old cryptkeeper with only a skull i've been mourning the loss of my hair for centuries but this video really helped me thanks anthony
Hey hair guy I don’t know if you are reading this but your hair didn’t make you more social, you did that by yourself and your hair was just the catalyst. What I mean is you were always that person with or without the hair and at the end the day you will still be the person if you choose to be, whether your bald or not you can still just be you
Truly, there are countless fairy tales, from several cultures, even sports films that touch on this exact premise of disillusionment... well put too, like as much if not more helpful than Melon's sardonic take on the complex underpinnings of self-image/vanity at large.
Yes, plus people who like you tend to give complements on things that physically stand out about you; long hair will do that for you, for example, but the thing being complemented is often less important than the fact that the person is really saying "I like you". People are often looking for a way to say something that encourages you to be around them, and while they might genuinely like the feature they point out, complements are more about human connection and being seen than they are about what you're being seen for
honestly I unironically love this video, as a 17 year old kid that fears that he's going bald ( the same shit that was happening to the guy on the subreddit is what's happening to me) the vid kinda gave me a bit of confidence, I can fully give myself over to bald gang
Take finasteride..... clinical treatment around 15 us around the world per month (20aud for me) it reduces 5 alpha reductase of testosterone to dehydrotestosterone ( the cause of mpb). No need to go bald if you don't want
I was once a 17 year old kid with the same fears. I shaved it when i was 20 (now 24) and my only regret is that i didnt do it sooner. Dont shave it all prematurely but recognize when its time to let go. Love to my bald kings and queens
I've always been bald ass proud since I was 18. I understand this guys fears but it really had nothing to do with his damn hair. This dude needs to understand he's confident and charming and there isn't an excuse.
i was expecting to lose my hair somewhere down the road, but not at age 17 like i am now. it’s been a difficult time, and i am horrified. this video and the comments of people going through a similar struggle have really helped me accept it, and realize it’s not as bad as i was expecting. i am so thankful for this.
As someone who is also 20 and starting to see my hairline receding a little bit, got it from my grandpa and dad, this was weirdly comforting. I’m rocking long length hair now and it doesn’t look bad, just a little thin on the top but I dread the day that it will become so thinned that I’ll have to shave it off. I’m just gonna enjoy it while I can because I know in 10 years, I’m gonna be bald but it is what it is 🤷🏻♂️ life is short.
If you want to keep your hair you should get treated right away. I managed to save mine because I started looking into treatment as soon as I noticed hair loss. Still like to shave my head though.
I went bald in my early twenties. One piece of advice: accept it as quickly as possible. Don’t hold onto the hair you have and pretend it isn’t leaving. Don’t wear hats to hide it. Just transition and embrace it and focus all your energy on being the fun extrovert you are, this time without hair
I’m coming up on 30. Hairs thinning and getting a bald spot where it’s falling out. Always had long hair. Nothing I can change about it now and my SO and friends don’t care if I’m going to be bald eventually sooner than later. The people who care about you or like your personality don’t care if you’re bald or not.
@@regaul4248 Um why would I do that? It doesn’t make your hair grow back? There’s kits that have stuff like vitamins and rogain i could take but that usually just halts it some
@@FlameOnTheBeat Well you’ll get you’re grown man hairline eventually like all men do even if you don’t go bald. I’m not gray haired either it’d be relatively rare to be around 30. That’s normally a later thing.
@@kenshin1368 If you take it when you're younger it CAN potentially re-grow some hair, but what it DOES do is the hairs that are thinning but havent fallen out yet it will thicken those back up and it will stop you losing any more hair, so all in all after like 6 months or so of taking it your hair will look a bit thicker again. Dudes need to stop being such lil bitches and just take the pills instead of thinking they have to just accept it or be a tough guy about it when they start to lose their hair.
A few thing: 1) here’s my advice, well more like a personal prospective: I was in the same exact situation, long hair, many people complimented me over it, even the period from when I started to griw my hair to when I cut them is Identical. I saw it thinning and basically saw it as an opportunity to reinvent myself, I could wait till my hair falls all out or I could say that I enjoyed it while it lasted but it was time to move to other styles (I could experiment, I could have haircuts that are excusive to short hair, I could have a mohawk like the one Trevis has in Taxi driver, I could make my hair look like that one “blue sky with clouds” jacket that Prince wore in the Raspberry berret music video), I had fun with with long hair (you know, I had some parts dyed, I don’t like dreadlocks but those were an option, braids, many different bun styles) and now it was time to have fun with short hair since I dried up all the possible long-hair-do’s, basically enjoy it while you have them cause (as you should know, just look at older people in books of just around you) they won’t stay there forever 2) Don’t stress over it, stress makes the situation worse for you (not just hair, in general), take it easy 3) Maybe it’s a coping mechanism but since I cut my hair I live way better, it’s no secret that shorter hair is easier to upkeep, doesn’t cause such a heat on your head, it’s less cumbersome, doesn’t require much electricity to dry, it’s just easier at the cost of maybe not looking as good, but from a pragmatic stand point, short hair is amazing
I had curly hair with random patches where hair didn’t grow, so it was no big deal to me when I went bald in my early 20’s and I had to shave my head completely. That being said, I find it unfair that the lost hair returned on my back.
I don't know if this guy is reading these comments, but I just want you to know I was EXACTLY like you. I had long beautiful jetblack italian boy wavy hair and at 17 it started to thin. I was in school and some kid poked my bald spot mockingly and said "wow you're 17 and balding". My heart sank. I went home and looked in the mirror and I noticed it was actually thinning. My identity was so closely tied to my hair, and I felt so powerless that all I could do is weep. I'd get anxiety attacks while styling my hair and I'd have to make sure my scalp wasn't showing every morning. Then at 19, 2 years later, i was just exhausted hiding my baldness. I decided I had enough. I made the step to buzz it down. I felt so relieved that I didn't have to worry about it anymore. Yes, the people I knew were shocked at first but then they get over it after like 10 minutes. I was still the same me that my friends and family loved with or without hair.
One thing I learn in life: if someone judges you on something you have little control over, they're one less thing to care about and you're better off knowing that from the get go.
i expected to open these replies and see countless people arguing over you saying “water is wet” but to my surprise, there’s none of that. just a bunch of lovely people sharing what their floors are made of. proud of you today, internet!
BALD! There is nothing wrong with being bald. I started going bald around 23, and now at 25, I've started shaving it off completely. I prefer it. I've never liked my hair anyway. One less thing to worry about.
Man, I had dope long hair for 18 years and it fell out practically overnight from alopecia. It's fine to take a minute to mourn your image as a part of your identity but the way we look, the jobs we work, band we play in ect. are just surface level stuff and hardly define who we are as people. Just cuz your hair is thinning doesn't mean the rest of you can't be T H I C C
His hair didn’t make people like him, his confidence did. Likely, he felt more of a sense of self possession and personal identity which made him feel more charismatic and confident. In my experience the way you hold yourself has more to do with people’s image of you than the way you dress.
I've been a confident bald man since 2019, and I can say I wouldn't grow my hair back. Hair was a source of insecurity for me. I was always touching it, trying to make it look right, during the last years I was trying to hide my bald spot. But being bald takes all that burden off. Also, it kind of made me more attractive because of my confidence boost I believe. And most important of all, it's confortable AF. For every person ashamed of getting bald, don't be afraid, it's amazing once you go through with it. All or nothing, no middle ground.
Yeah I shaved mine off in 2019 too, went from long to really short, long and so forth throughout school and started noticing it was going thin, decided to try it out and it looks way better now than it did with hair, although I grew a beard to offset it for me personally.
This Sunday marked 2 years since I started shaving my head, and oh my god I actually feel more confident in my appearance than at any point previously. Best decision I ever made, and I wish I had done it much earlier
I'm actually in a somewhat similar situation to the guy here, and I'm glad I'm not the only one who's been looking to Fantano as someone who can assuage my fears of going bald. I care a lot about my sense of style and my haircut is a huge part of it. I've been getting more and more thin at the bald spot area of my head for a few years and it's been making it hard to make a fade look good. I'm having to keep my hair longer than I'd like to and eventually I'll have to cut it all off, probably within a few years. Anthony still manages to pull off a great sense of style with no hair and it's helping me come to accept that reality. I just hope my head is shaped right lol
As a 22 year old who had really long hair and has just shaved his head a couple weeks ago because I have a receding hairline, it's not that bad being a skin head. I feel as if I don't hid behind my hair and can actually be even more social and I feel more confident because my hair isn't a part of who I am. I'm the same guy. I just don't looks as cool when I headband. I approve this message 👍👍
I honestly think that embracing your baldness just signals that you are more confident, literally only good changes happened in ny life when i shaved my head at 19
Yo. As someone who was diagnosed with hair loss at 19, finasteride really helps. I was scared of side effects and avoided it for two years. It was a slow crawl and I definitely lost some ground (in my hairline). Now, at 23, after two years of finasteride the hair looks pretty similar to how it does in high school. If you care about your hair start finasteride ASAP. I had no side effects. It really works wonders, but mostly just stops hair loss rather than regrows. Anthony had an incredibly compassionate response. Hair loss really is such a self-esteem killer and makes me very sympathetic to what women have gone through for years (extreme unfair appearance-based scrutiny). No one should be body shamed!
yep. funnily enough, finasteride is also used as a medication for trans women as a hormone blocker -- male-pattern baldness itself comes from excess production of testosterone
@UCQho5ZEwj_45GzEyM3YxrLA As someone who has seen a lot of hairless in the shower and any time I run my hands through it, I should have taken finasteride a few years sooner. However that relies on the point in time that you become aware of the difference and how long you decide if its normal for your age to complain to a doctor or parent. Bc when you think about it if I already knew at 18 things were progressing why not keep what I have by taking fin from the very start and look quite normal instead of holding on to the hair you would have left if I waiting till 24 or something. I'm taking it now at 21 and you'd never notice the way I style it but I have yet to see the very obvious thinning go away. I guarantee most people with my current hair wouldn't even bat an eye till a few more years. Luckily I have been hyper aware of everything going on with my body even when I thought I was too young to experience X problem.
Hi, just a quick question if you don’t mind. I’ve been on finastride for about 8 months now and still feel some hairs falling as I’m working with my face down over a paper sheet. How long did it take until you’ve noticed your hair stop falling? I’m 20 btw
Honestly as a dude also in his 20s who has noticed his hair thinning, hearing you speaking openly about this and in such a positive way has really boosted my confidence and made me feel more comfortable with the idea that I will in fact be bald someday, and probably sooner than later. So thanks man.
I’m 25 and I have really long, thick hair which hasn’t shown any signs of going away, no receeding or thinning at all. Who knows maybe that will come later in my 30’s but placing too much value on something like that probably isn’t a very good idea. It’s mostly genetics anyways.
I can attest to this. I started getting a bald spot in high school when I had long hair. I kept it through college, but would get so self conscious about how people would think of a 20 year old who's already balding. I fully shaved my head after graduating college and I honestly feel way more confident this way. I miss having hair, but it's nice to not worry about it. Plus I save so much money by not having to go to a barber.
I totally get this. I’m not losing my hair yet but I am quite often paranoid about it, and there are times when I become completely convinced that I’ve found a change in my hairline or a bald spot and proceed to several hours of moping and crying. However, I always come back to the conclusion that my hair doesn’t actually matter. Everyone who I want in my life will still be there once my hair is gone. There are plenty of people I admire who have lost their hair, so there is no reason to believe I’ll become worthless when I lose mine. It really does feel like a the end of me sometimes, but it’s just a matter of letting go of that delusion and holding onto reality: nothing I have accomplished was ever a result of my hair alone.
i had long hair till i was 17, one day i decided to get a super short buzz cut, the next day i went to my first party, smoked weed for the first time, met multiple ppl who are now longterm friends, met the first girl who i would then soon go out with etc. baldness is not bad i would recommend it quite a lot
Damn, I wish I'd seen this post, I could've helped this dude out. Growing up, I always knew the day was gonna come when I'd have to go bald. I had uncles on both sides of the family who just couldn't accept that their time with hair was long since over and we all pitied them, I never wanted to be that way. I had a rule in place: when my hairline got too bad, I'd shave it, no regrets. In March of 2020, my dad asked me to send him a selfie because he hadn't seen me in a while. So, I took a selfie and noticed my hair looked like it was painted on. That was it, it took two months to come to terms with but I eventually did.
Anthony’s advice about this was exactly what I was thinking. I am a guy with long hair too, and if it was taken away from me I would be sad but not crushed necessarily. I became a lot more outgoing with the hair but I don’t think I would change much. I think the difference between me and this guy is that I credit myself in making these strides and not the hair. My dad has hair loss and I know it’s coming so I’m enjoying it while I have it. This is a great conversation to have. He’s taking care of his fans
I used to have this problem but it turns out I had OCD so I just obsessed with the thought of going bald. In reality the majority of men are bald and they’re still successful financially and sexually. The panic from balding is nothing but an intrusive thought.
I think Ol' Fant is forgetting what it's like being 18-22 here. You latch onto wherever you can and make that a thing. For example: I play pool as well as Anthony is bald, and as such that is my personality. As a result I am now married and am a father. I wrote this comment before the video ended. Do you, honey boo. Someone will love you, you just gotta find that person.
As a guy in his mid 20s with very long hair, I would absolutely be crushed if I started to notice serious receding or thinning. I know it’s vanity but it’s such a big part of who I am (that is, how I perceive myself) that I cannot imagine myself without it. Just like this person describes, I take great care of it, spend just as long if not longer than a lot of women on it. I love the way it blows in the wind. Yeah I like how people generally positively react to it, but my main motive is for myself. People like me for plenty of other reasons, but I would personally not like the way I looked or felt regardless of outside influences. So yeah I’d be the same dude but I’d always feel like something was missing. I don’t know, call me dramatic, but it is what it is.
it is almost for this very reason though that you should challenge yourself to cut it one day (you can obvs grow it back in your case), as it is probably skewering your relation to yourself slightly where you're displacing aspects of your self appreciation into what is essentially a mere design aspect. Maybe this is why Buddhist monks shave their heads; don't wanna be all caught up in your own hair
As a mid-thirties guy, yeah sometimes signs of aging like your hair thinning or your wife's boobs getting saggy will make you freak out for a week or two at first but you will get used to them and stop being bothered by it Still waiting for my balls to hang down to my knees though.
@@danielbrown97 I’m just hoping that’s far enough in the future that it won’t matter, like 50+. But it would be cool to be the old man rocking hair to his knees.
@@billhicks8 Lol nah I look dumb with short hair, which is why I grew it out in the first place. My head shape and face shape/features are much more suitable for long hair. I genuinely believe I lose a lot of attractiveness with short hair, so why would I do that to myself, I literally just have to look at old pictures of me as a teen to know it’d be an awful decision. Would also totally wreck any fashion I had going because it tends to be more feminine than most dudes would be comfortable with. I think these ideas are ones that aren’t considered when people just say “Deal with it, it’ll be ok” like no it would alter a lot honestly in a lot of different ways. Those are just two examples. And why does everyone downplay a man’s hair loss but if a woman is losing her hair that’s treated much differently. Like why just because I’m a man does it make it any less awful? I guess because it’s more socially acceptable for men to be bald/balding, but fuck that bro I want my hair lmao
This was a very touching video and as someone who’s going through the exact same thing, I felt every word in that post. It’s not an easy experience but learning to adjust, or make the preparations for treatments is part of the process. Whatever route you go in “fixing yourself” is up to you but don’t build your identity on external factors.
My hairline started receding when I was 15, shaved my hair by the time I was 19 and honestly, it is great. I'm 24 now and just throw my personality out there using my clothes and by just being myself, that's what really matters. Love to the bald kings out there
I am a balding 30 year old guy and honestly the best thing I did was buzzcut it. The worst part is noticing you are going bald so when it's buzzed to like a 3 or a 2 you don't notice it. It did wonders for my confidence
Wasn’t ready for a large reveal like this so closely after the “I’ve been sitting the whole time video”
true sad kirby moment
true sad kirby moment
I still haven’t gotten over the SitGate.
Can't wait for the "I wear glasses" video
Turns out his bald head was the chair the whole time. I'm waiting for the third shoe to drop
I don't think I've ever seen someone that looks so great bald, but so awful with hair as fantano
he just doesn't have the swag for hair
It doesn't matter who it is. Anyone you've known and gotten used to being bald will look absolutely horrifying with hair.
@@musthabe_ no
@@musthabe_ while yes this is true, Fantano also styled his hair like shit
walter white too
honestly as a 400 year old cryptkeeper with only a skull i've been mourning the loss of my hair for centuries but this video really helped me thanks anthony
I can relate
Yes
i’m a girl but this was unironically very nice and comforting to hear
If anything the stigma around baldness would affect women much more than men, but it's also much rarer in women. That said bald women be hot
girls can go bald
@Nivit Mishra G.I. Jane 2, can't wait to see it
I have PCOS and male pattern baldness so I relate lol
@@dr.uracil same
Hey hair guy I don’t know if you are reading this but your hair didn’t make you more social, you did that by yourself and your hair was just the catalyst. What I mean is you were always that person with or without the hair and at the end the day you will still be the person if you choose to be, whether your bald or not you can still just be you
Thanks roach dogg :')
So true, well said. It's kind of like having a magic pair of dancing shoes and they werent magic after all.
Truly, there are countless fairy tales, from several cultures, even sports films that touch on this exact premise of disillusionment... well put too, like as much if not more helpful than Melon's sardonic take on the complex underpinnings of self-image/vanity at large.
Samson disagrees.... seriously though, well said
Yes, plus people who like you tend to give complements on things that physically stand out about you; long hair will do that for you, for example, but the thing being complemented is often less important than the fact that the person is really saying "I like you".
People are often looking for a way to say something that encourages you to be around them, and while they might genuinely like the feature they point out, complements are more about human connection and being seen than they are about what you're being seen for
So Anthony’s advice was if you’re going bald, make sure you have a nicely shaped head 🗒 📝 🙏
Get a tube of scalp shaping putty, a product I assume exists
@@burgermind802 😂
@@burgermind802 overpriced. Much more frugal to use Bondo automotive putty to sculpt your cranium
@@ext93 Eh, still overpriced, just grab a hammer and tap out the bumpy spots. There, perfectly shaped head.
"God made a few perfect heads. The rest of them, he covered with hair."
Melon realizing that he's bald is like America realizing that their dream will never happen.
We knew it all along
Brvtal
Why you do this to me
This post was made by Great Gatsby gang
Ouch.
honestly I unironically love this video, as a 17 year old kid that fears that he's going bald ( the same shit that was happening to the guy on the subreddit is what's happening to me) the vid kinda gave me a bit of confidence, I can fully give myself over to bald gang
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Take finasteride..... clinical treatment around 15 us around the world per month (20aud for me) it reduces 5 alpha reductase of testosterone to dehydrotestosterone ( the cause of mpb). No need to go bald if you don't want
Fanta is pretty holesome
Shave it off, confidently, and pretend like nothing ever happened. That’s what I did and it worked!
I was once a 17 year old kid with the same fears. I shaved it when i was 20 (now 24) and my only regret is that i didnt do it sooner. Dont shave it all prematurely but recognize when its time to let go. Love to my bald kings and queens
Man first he's sitting down now he's bald
Everything is a fucking lie
"It's not the hair on your head, it's the hair on you heart."
Damn Melon, that's fucking deep.
You now can fully complete your transformation into jpegmafia very proud of you melon!
All he has to do now is
is
@@slackstarfish8133 and then
@@Venom272X but also
Yes you're bald but you're also a great dad and that's all that matters
Thanks dad
Dad bald, i'm hello
You can’t convince me that you’re not wearing a bald cap
Honestly as a 23 year old who’s hairline just started receding a couple months ago I can’t tell you how much this eases my mind. Thanks Anthony!
First we learn that he was sitting and now that he is bald, whats next, he actually listens to music?
I've always been bald ass proud since I was 18. I understand this guys fears but it really had nothing to do with his damn hair. This dude needs to understand he's confident and charming and there isn't an excuse.
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way you said it makes it seem like your ass is bald and not your head. maybe you got one of those surgeries where u put ur ass hair on ur head
yeah he's great without his hair too.
@@nextlevelnonce8884 ?
@@nextlevelnonce8884 your handle is disturbing..
I wasn't expecting the entire video to be a 10 minute love letter to the shape of Northernlion's head but honestly I'm here for it.
NL rocks the megamind shape
The cross over I never knew I wanted
He's bald?
Bro actin like Rapunzel fr 💀
very sorry for your loss, mr fanta sando
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@@nextlevelnonce8884 you heard the man
I'm giggling
The melon has finally accepted his true form.
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I will Never Forgive Melon for thinking Death Grips is better than Reasonable Doubt, Me Against the World & Good Kid Maad City
@@no-vk2qe ?
@@no-vk2qe when has he said?
@@no-vk2qe You again? We can all tell your looking for attention, it's just sad that some people dumb enough to take you super seriously
Can we make this a regular thing where people ask Fantano for advice on every day things?
i was expecting to lose my hair somewhere down the road, but not at age 17 like i am now. it’s been a difficult time, and i am horrified. this video and the comments of people going through a similar struggle have really helped me accept it, and realize it’s not as bad as i was expecting. i am so thankful for this.
As someone who is also 20 and starting to see my hairline receding a little bit, got it from my grandpa and dad, this was weirdly comforting. I’m rocking long length hair now and it doesn’t look bad, just a little thin on the top but I dread the day that it will become so thinned that I’ll have to shave it off. I’m just gonna enjoy it while I can because I know in 10 years, I’m gonna be bald but it is what it is 🤷🏻♂️ life is short.
If you want to keep your hair you should get treated right away. I managed to save mine because I started looking into treatment as soon as I noticed hair loss. Still like to shave my head though.
@@x83_t76Y ayo thanks. I'll ask my doctor next time I get my yearly check up
Me too brother, me too
@@Zugzzzwang hello fellow bald king 🫡
I went bald in my early twenties. One piece of advice: accept it as quickly as possible. Don’t hold onto the hair you have and pretend it isn’t leaving. Don’t wear hats to hide it. Just transition and embrace it and focus all your energy on being the fun extrovert you are, this time without hair
"nicely shaped head" we get it Anthony, you're into phrenology.
I feel like your strategy right now is just to get a video out for every possible googleable question about you
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I’m coming up on 30. Hairs thinning and getting a bald spot where it’s falling out. Always had long hair. Nothing I can change about it now and my SO and friends don’t care if I’m going to be bald eventually sooner than later. The people who care about you or like your personality don’t care if you’re bald or not.
take estrogen
@@regaul4248 Um why would I do that? It doesn’t make your hair grow back? There’s kits that have stuff like vitamins and rogain i could take but that usually just halts it some
@@FlameOnTheBeat Well you’ll get you’re grown man hairline eventually like all men do even if you don’t go bald. I’m not gray haired either it’d be relatively rare to be around 30. That’s normally a later thing.
Finasteride does actually help regrow hair. You have to keep taking it though.
@@kenshin1368 If you take it when you're younger it CAN potentially re-grow some hair, but what it DOES do is the hairs that are thinning but havent fallen out yet it will thicken those back up and it will stop you losing any more hair, so all in all after like 6 months or so of taking it your hair will look a bit thicker again. Dudes need to stop being such lil bitches and just take the pills instead of thinking they have to just accept it or be a tough guy about it when they start to lose their hair.
Asking this community for advice might be the worst thing you can possibly do towards solving your issue
A few thing:
1) here’s my advice, well more like a personal prospective: I was in the same exact situation, long hair, many people complimented me over it, even the period from when I started to griw my hair to when I cut them is Identical. I saw it thinning and basically saw it as an opportunity to reinvent myself, I could wait till my hair falls all out or I could say that I enjoyed it while it lasted but it was time to move to other styles (I could experiment, I could have haircuts that are excusive to short hair, I could have a mohawk like the one Trevis has in Taxi driver, I could make my hair look like that one “blue sky with clouds” jacket that Prince wore in the Raspberry berret music video), I had fun with with long hair (you know, I had some parts dyed, I don’t like dreadlocks but those were an option, braids, many different bun styles) and now it was time to have fun with short hair since I dried up all the possible long-hair-do’s, basically enjoy it while you have them cause (as you should know, just look at older people in books of just around you) they won’t stay there forever
2) Don’t stress over it, stress makes the situation worse for you (not just hair, in general), take it easy
3) Maybe it’s a coping mechanism but since I cut my hair I live way better, it’s no secret that shorter hair is easier to upkeep, doesn’t cause such a heat on your head, it’s less cumbersome, doesn’t require much electricity to dry, it’s just easier at the cost of maybe not looking as good, but from a pragmatic stand point, short hair is amazing
woah thats a lot of words
Lot word but good words
That was genuinely so nice, I do hope the guy feels better about the issue now.
I had curly hair with random patches where hair didn’t grow, so it was no big deal to me when I went bald in my early 20’s and I had to shave my head completely. That being said, I find it unfair that the lost hair returned on my back.
“I’m bald”-local bald man
I don't know if this guy is reading these comments, but I just want you to know I was EXACTLY like you. I had long beautiful jetblack italian boy wavy hair and at 17 it started to thin.
I was in school and some kid poked my bald spot mockingly and said "wow you're 17 and balding". My heart sank. I went home and looked in the mirror and I noticed it was actually thinning. My identity was so closely tied to my hair, and I felt so powerless that all I could do is weep. I'd get anxiety attacks while styling my hair and I'd have to make sure my scalp wasn't showing every morning.
Then at 19, 2 years later, i was just exhausted hiding my baldness. I decided I had enough. I made the step to buzz it down. I felt so relieved that I didn't have to worry about it anymore. Yes, the people I knew were shocked at first but then they get over it after like 10 minutes. I was still the same me that my friends and family loved with or without hair.
One thing I learn in life: if someone judges you on something you have little control over, they're one less thing to care about and you're better off knowing that from the get go.
“I’m bald”
Ah yes and water is wet, the sky is blue, and the floor is made out of floor.
My floor is lava
@@brainderp808 my floor is pennies
My floor is clothes
i hate the floor
i expected to open these replies and see countless people arguing over you saying “water is wet” but to my surprise, there’s none of that. just a bunch of lovely people sharing what their floors are made of. proud of you today, internet!
4:32 jesus you couldn’t warn me first?
BALD! There is nothing wrong with being bald. I started going bald around 23, and now at 25, I've started shaving it off completely. I prefer it. I've never liked my hair anyway. One less thing to worry about.
Man, I had dope long hair for 18 years and it fell out practically overnight from alopecia. It's fine to take a minute to mourn your image as a part of your identity but the way we look, the jobs we work, band we play in ect. are just surface level stuff and hardly define who we are as people. Just cuz your hair is thinning doesn't mean the rest of you can't be T H I C C
His hair didn’t make people like him, his confidence did.
Likely, he felt more of a sense of self possession and personal identity which made him feel more charismatic and confident.
In my experience the way you hold yourself has more to do with people’s image of you than the way you dress.
Also, isn’t this the plot from an episode of early Simpsons?
I've been a confident bald man since 2019, and I can say I wouldn't grow my hair back. Hair was a source of insecurity for me. I was always touching it, trying to make it look right, during the last years I was trying to hide my bald spot. But being bald takes all that burden off. Also, it kind of made me more attractive because of my confidence boost I believe. And most important of all, it's confortable AF. For every person ashamed of getting bald, don't be afraid, it's amazing once you go through with it. All or nothing, no middle ground.
Yeah I shaved mine off in 2019 too, went from long to really short, long and so forth throughout school and started noticing it was going thin, decided to try it out and it looks way better now than it did with hair, although I grew a beard to offset it for me personally.
Fantano da 🐐 no 🧢
fantano da coat no gap
I don't think i've heard a less phoned-in response to a question
This Sunday marked 2 years since I started shaving my head, and oh my god I actually feel more confident in my appearance than at any point previously. Best decision I ever made, and I wish I had done it much earlier
I'm actually in a somewhat similar situation to the guy here, and I'm glad I'm not the only one who's been looking to Fantano as someone who can assuage my fears of going bald.
I care a lot about my sense of style and my haircut is a huge part of it. I've been getting more and more thin at the bald spot area of my head for a few years and it's been making it hard to make a fade look good. I'm having to keep my hair longer than I'd like to and eventually I'll have to cut it all off, probably within a few years.
Anthony still manages to pull off a great sense of style with no hair and it's helping me come to accept that reality. I just hope my head is shaped right lol
As a 22 year old who had really long hair and has just shaved his head a couple weeks ago because I have a receding hairline, it's not that bad being a skin head. I feel as if I don't hid behind my hair and can actually be even more social and I feel more confident because my hair isn't a part of who I am. I'm the same guy. I just don't looks as cool when I headband. I approve this message 👍👍
truly harrowing insight from Hair_Loss_9000
I honestly think that embracing your baldness just signals that you are more confident, literally only good changes happened in ny life when i shaved my head at 19
fucking beautifully said melon
Yo. As someone who was diagnosed with hair loss at 19, finasteride really helps. I was scared of side effects and avoided it for two years. It was a slow crawl and I definitely lost some ground (in my hairline). Now, at 23, after two years of finasteride the hair looks pretty similar to how it does in high school.
If you care about your hair start finasteride ASAP. I had no side effects. It really works wonders, but mostly just stops hair loss rather than regrows.
Anthony had an incredibly compassionate response. Hair loss really is such a self-esteem killer and makes me very sympathetic to what women have gone through for years (extreme unfair appearance-based scrutiny). No one should be body shamed!
yep. funnily enough, finasteride is also used as a medication for trans women as a hormone blocker -- male-pattern baldness itself comes from excess production of testosterone
Take the estradiol too fuckre
@UCQho5ZEwj_45GzEyM3YxrLA As someone who has seen a lot of hairless in the shower and any time I run my hands through it, I should have taken finasteride a few years sooner. However that relies on the point in time that you become aware of the difference and how long you decide if its normal for your age to complain to a doctor or parent. Bc when you think about it if I already knew at 18 things were progressing why not keep what I have by taking fin from the very start and look quite normal instead of holding on to the hair you would have left if I waiting till 24 or something. I'm taking it now at 21 and you'd never notice the way I style it but I have yet to see the very obvious thinning go away. I guarantee most people with my current hair wouldn't even bat an eye till a few more years. Luckily I have been hyper aware of everything going on with my body even when I thought I was too young to experience X problem.
I also recommend Minoxidil 2x a day along with finasteride and maybe dermaroller once a week. They really do bring good results
Hi, just a quick question if you don’t mind. I’ve been on finastride for about 8 months now and still feel some hairs falling as I’m working with my face down over a paper sheet. How long did it take until you’ve noticed your hair stop falling? I’m 20 btw
Nuts even
Bald Melon sounds like the name of an unreleased Logic track.
Honestly as a dude also in his 20s who has noticed his hair thinning, hearing you speaking openly about this and in such a positive way has really boosted my confidence and made me feel more comfortable with the idea that I will in fact be bald someday, and probably sooner than later. So thanks man.
I'm sorry to hear of this news.. even sorrier to see it 🥺
na, i hope all melons find peace with their melonness :)
07:54 . HOLD TF UP.
The pancake hair phase erasure is maddening.
Thank you Austin for the brief screen time. Gave me flashbacks.
7:53 Johnny Sins popping up made me lose it
best head in the game
I’m 25 and I have really long, thick hair which hasn’t shown any signs of going away, no receeding or thinning at all. Who knows maybe that will come later in my 30’s but placing too much value on something like that probably isn’t a very good idea. It’s mostly genetics anyways.
never hold on to hair to long. most balding guys look better shaved than fighting nature. from a dude that's into guys
‘A Sincere Enquiry to Anthony Fantano about Coping with going Bald’ is my favourite album by The 1975
Anthony, you aren't bald. You just shaved your head for the video. We all know you have hair.
Yep. Bald and shaved are completely different things
Might sound weird, but a shaved "normal" head looks completely different from a shaved bald head
Whenever someone says you look good bald, they don't take account of tiny hairs still forming your hairline/density.
I think it’s actually great that he asked somebody who is so positive instead of finding weird male hierarchy circles that feed into his insecurities
I can attest to this. I started getting a bald spot in high school when I had long hair. I kept it through college, but would get so self conscious about how people would think of a 20 year old who's already balding. I fully shaved my head after graduating college and I honestly feel way more confident this way. I miss having hair, but it's nice to not worry about it. Plus I save so much money by not having to go to a barber.
Thanks Melon. Gonna shave my head now
Dude fucking Jean Luc Picard was bald and my dude was a G.
I say this with respect (since Sir Pat Stew is married), but Jean-Luc can get it.
“If u can’t socialise without the hair, then u don’t deserve it”- iron man probably
I totally get this. I’m not losing my hair yet but I am quite often paranoid about it, and there are times when I become completely convinced that I’ve found a change in my hairline or a bald spot and proceed to several hours of moping and crying.
However, I always come back to the conclusion that my hair doesn’t actually matter. Everyone who I want in my life will still be there once my hair is gone. There are plenty of people I admire who have lost their hair, so there is no reason to believe I’ll become worthless when I lose mine. It really does feel like a the end of me sometimes, but it’s just a matter of letting go of that delusion and holding onto reality: nothing I have accomplished was ever a result of my hair alone.
I hope this gets played at the palace.
You wouldnt have these confidence issues if you had a ridge wallet OP. Besides, who needs a head of hair when you have a ridge wallet full of cash?
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THANK YOU for calling out the often unsung hero, Johnny Sins. A man of many talents
Melon is a term of endearment, he will learn to accept it 🍈
I remember the Supersonic Home review Ant Knee, I will never forget.
the melon lore thickens
i had long hair till i was 17, one day i decided to get a super short buzz cut, the next day i went to my first party, smoked weed for the first time, met multiple ppl who are now longterm friends, met the first girl who i would then soon go out with etc. baldness is not bad i would recommend it quite a lot
Damn, I wish I'd seen this post, I could've helped this dude out. Growing up, I always knew the day was gonna come when I'd have to go bald. I had uncles on both sides of the family who just couldn't accept that their time with hair was long since over and we all pitied them, I never wanted to be that way. I had a rule in place: when my hairline got too bad, I'd shave it, no regrets.
In March of 2020, my dad asked me to send him a selfie because he hadn't seen me in a while. So, I took a selfie and noticed my hair looked like it was painted on. That was it, it took two months to come to terms with but I eventually did.
This is the best video for me right now ;(
Honestly props to Anthony for making this video, you’re a good dude
Anthony’s advice about this was exactly what I was thinking. I am a guy with long hair too, and if it was taken away from me I would be sad but not crushed necessarily. I became a lot more outgoing with the hair but I don’t think I would change much. I think the difference between me and this guy is that I credit myself in making these strides and not the hair. My dad has hair loss and I know it’s coming so I’m enjoying it while I have it. This is a great conversation to have. He’s taking care of his fans
I used to have this problem but it turns out I had OCD so I just obsessed with the thought of going bald. In reality the majority of men are bald and they’re still successful financially and sexually. The panic from balding is nothing but an intrusive thought.
I didn't choose the Melon, the Melon chose me
Anthony please, chanting "FOLLICLES FOLLICLES FOLLICLES" for 11 minutes straight explains nothing about baldness
4:55: It indeed is a lovely shaped head🙌🏽
Shiniest melon in the game
I think Ol' Fant is forgetting what it's like being 18-22 here. You latch onto wherever you can and make that a thing.
For example: I play pool as well as Anthony is bald, and as such that is my personality. As a result I am now married and am a father.
I wrote this comment before the video ended.
Do you, honey boo. Someone will love you, you just gotta find that person.
6:28 Thank you, I needed to hear this.
As a guy in his mid 20s with very long hair, I would absolutely be crushed if I started to notice serious receding or thinning.
I know it’s vanity but it’s such a big part of who I am (that is, how I perceive myself) that I cannot imagine myself without it. Just like this person describes, I take great care of it, spend just as long if not longer than a lot of women on it. I love the way it blows in the wind. Yeah I like how people generally positively react to it, but my main motive is for myself. People like me for plenty of other reasons, but I would personally not like the way I looked or felt regardless of outside influences.
So yeah I’d be the same dude but I’d always feel like something was missing. I don’t know, call me dramatic, but it is what it is.
it is almost for this very reason though that you should challenge yourself to cut it one day (you can obvs grow it back in your case), as it is probably skewering your relation to yourself slightly where you're displacing aspects of your self appreciation into what is essentially a mere design aspect.
Maybe this is why Buddhist monks shave their heads; don't wanna be all caught up in your own hair
you think this now, but when it eventually does start falling out you will quickly adjust your self perception in order to cope
As a mid-thirties guy, yeah sometimes signs of aging like your hair thinning or your wife's boobs getting saggy will make you freak out for a week or two at first but you will get used to them and stop being bothered by it
Still waiting for my balls to hang down to my knees though.
@@danielbrown97 I’m just hoping that’s far enough in the future that it won’t matter, like 50+. But it would be cool to be the old man rocking hair to his knees.
@@billhicks8 Lol nah I look dumb with short hair, which is why I grew it out in the first place. My head shape and face shape/features are much more suitable for long hair. I genuinely believe I lose a lot of attractiveness with short hair, so why would I do that to myself, I literally just have to look at old pictures of me as a teen to know it’d be an awful decision. Would also totally wreck any fashion I had going because it tends to be more feminine than most dudes would be comfortable with.
I think these ideas are ones that aren’t considered when people just say “Deal with it, it’ll be ok” like no it would alter a lot honestly in a lot of different ways. Those are just two examples. And why does everyone downplay a man’s hair loss but if a woman is losing her hair that’s treated much differently. Like why just because I’m a man does it make it any less awful? I guess because it’s more socially acceptable for men to be bald/balding, but fuck that bro I want my hair lmao
I’m liking all these more off topic videos
Cap
This was a very touching video and as someone who’s going through the exact same thing, I felt every word in that post. It’s not an easy experience but learning to adjust, or make the preparations for treatments is part of the process. Whatever route you go in “fixing yourself” is up to you but don’t build your identity on external factors.
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I like that the men chosen to represent the most desirable bald individuals of our society are Pitbull, Shaq, and Johnny Sins
he wants to be peggy so bad 🤦🏾♂️
Feel it in my bald spot, Anthony Fantano…
My hairline started receding when I was 15, shaved my hair by the time I was 19 and honestly, it is great. I'm 24 now and just throw my personality out there using my clothes and by just being myself, that's what really matters. Love to the bald kings out there
Being bald da 🐐 no 🧢
Ew
@@MyBeautifulDarkTwistedFantasy6 Is that Mr.6/10?!
I am a balding 30 year old guy and honestly the best thing I did was buzzcut it. The worst part is noticing you are going bald so when it's buzzed to like a 3 or a 2 you don't notice it. It did wonders for my confidence
You’re bald?! How could you do this us? 😔
Anthony’s great at giving pep talks
This literally just sounds like a copy pasta
PLOT TWIST
Bald life didn’t choose the melon, the melon chose the bald life!