I don't have kids but I grew up in a home where my mom ran a daycare. I know it's really emotional for a lot of parents to drop off the kids and they really want that sweet "goodbye" moment before heading to work, but I just thought I'd add to your point and say that it's so much easier for the kids if parents leave without making a big deal about it. The more they push to have the big goodbye, the more upsetting it is for the kid and it can really make it much harder for them to recover once the parent has left. When things stay quick and upbeat, the it helps the kids have a great time.
Same, grew up oldest child, in home daycare. Very fun. But yeah, parents need to stop trying to get that "moment". It's distressing. Distract child w friends and toys...run.
Actually the earliest you should go back to work is one year, preferably three and even better six. It causes attachment disorders in children. Bowlby wrote a book on this called Becoming Attached. Attachment disorders lead to sociopatholgy. There's a good reason you have anxiety. But if you have to work you have to work. I did too. But I struggled to keep them home for as long and as much as possible.
Yes 6 weeks would be too tough for me too. I also have 1 year off. I wouldnt have been able to do it in just 6 weeks with all the sleep deprivation from a newborn & if you’re healing from a c section which can take up to 6 weeks to heal.
I was super lucky my babysitter was super close to my job so I can go in my lunch however sometimes I couldn’t go, my job set up a private area I can use my breast pump, all I have to say is that my baby girl is now 3 yrs old and to be totally honest they will not remember and all we can do is snuggle them all the time when we come back from work,,, they are very smart and get used to schedules:)
I always had the worst anxiety about leaving my babies to go back to work. I am so thankful that I am lucky enough to be able to stay home with my kids. Mommas gotta do what we gotta do!
+Surviving as Mom people that have small children or are going to have them need to read this >> Big Pharma is Injecting Us With Cancer Enzymes - Doctors Who Made the Discovery Found Murdered humansarefree.com/2016/02/big-pharma-is-injecting-us-with-cancer.html
+Surviving as Mom It's hard, at the same time I had coworkers who couldn't wait to go back and while I never understood it that was one of the first things that made me realize how different we are as moms ha
+Marriage & Motherhood people that have small children or are going to have them need to read this >> Big Pharma is Injecting Us With Cancer Enzymes - Doctors Who Made the Discovery Found Murdered humansarefree.com/2016/02/big-pharma-is-injecting-us-with-cancer.html
I was a working mom the first 16 yrs raising kids, leaving when having 3 kids (one nursing infant) and pregnant with twins. Been home for quite a few years, but going back this year following my husband's sudden death. With a few kids, it wasn't that hard. You adjust. Now, with a large family, grieving both my husband and my mother (who just died after him), not looking forward to it.
My first thought was "oh crap the comments u are going to get"! But I am a certified Lactation counselor, the message you are sending is wonderful. Of course as a CLC it would be against our ethics to take money or work in anyway for formula companies but honestly I'm glad you did it. The people you will reach with this message will surpass the number that get angry and from what I know about you thru the videos, that's just the point. We have to stand united as moms and never judge them for their choices. I know in my TH-cam classes I never bash and only ever educate and support because no matter what people want to believe and/or say many moms are going to use formula even moms who exclusively breastfeed. I always promote breastfeeding and it's wonderful benefits but mom judging should never be done. My saying like Jeni is "every mom is different and many of us take different paths of motherhood but always toward the same goal." Thanks Jeni! You did good!
Legal Fiction Natural Fact No, that logic doesn't fail at all. What fails is the exact opposite of her logic. Her logic is to encourage mothers to breastfeed & support them in overcoming obstacles to doing so, whenever possible. The opposite of that is shaming them into breastfeeding, or shaming the mothers who can't. What she meant by "they're going to do it anyway" was not that after attempts to shame them into it, they'll continue to defy the "wisdom" that says EVERY mother should breastfeed. Which is what you seem to insinuate. What she meant was that some mothers will continue to use formula, despite her attempts to support & educate them... and that there are a multitude of reasons for this fact. None deserving of shame. Some mothers may have fears that she just couldn't alleviate w/education. Some may try their hardest to breastfeed, but due to the pain (which is far worse for some, due to health conditions or differing tolerance to pain) they just couldn't stick it out, despite her encouragement that it would get better. My mother is a saint, who fought thru mastitis in order to breastfeed me- but from her description of how terribly painful it was, I'm sure many moms who suffer from this condition are unable to keep breastfeeding. (I was my mom's first, so she didn't have other kids to care for, plus she had a lot of support & help- it'd be much harder to cope w/such pain, made 10x worse when your baby feeds multiple x/day, w/out these factors that helped my mom stick to her goal.) For some moms, the stress of working or certain job types (ones requiring long periods of travel, for instance) might make formula feeding necessary. Some moms suffer horrific depression, some w/psychosis (I had severe post-partum depression for months; there are no words to describe it. It's not like feeling depressed, I've had major depressive disorder too. This was something FAR worse.) For these & (I'm sure) many other reasons, many moms may want DESPERATELY to breastfeed, but are simply not able to. I know this because I was one of them. I have chronic health conditions that required me to take medications that were manageable during pregnancy, but would have caused my baby to suffer, had they been passed thru my milk. Having breastfed my first child & being a huge believer in it, knowing all the benefits to the baby, knowing first-hand the bonding that comes w/it... I was DEVASTATED! I researched & asked my doctors if there was another way, but I had no choice. I still wish I'd been able to breastfeed both my kids, always will. There are so many circumstances that could impact the ability to breastfeed. We never know what another mother is going thru, and until we walk in her shoes, we have no right to judge. The way moms are shamed who are unable to breastfeed is terrible, especially if you really wanted to as badly as I did.
Getting out of the house was so intimidating with my 3rd baby. I had a 10 year old, a 2 year old and a newborn...I felt overwhelmed, with everything! I did the Target run thing. Just packed up all 3 and wandered Target or Walmart several times. lol Sounds crazy but it definitely helped.
Great tips Jeni! Thanks for sharing! I think people in the comments are missing the point, it's not about similack, it's about all moms being good moms, the formula company is just the vehicle for the message. Quit hating she's a great mom
This is my second child i have him in 5 weeks. I’m probably not going to be able to take my entire 6 weeks off because I foot all of my bills alone with a NB and a toddler girl. Some of us women have to make sacrifices for our families if you know what I mean. Yes give yourself some time don’t be so hard on yourself neither.
Same reason I have to return at 6 weeks. She's my first baby and I dont know how ill do it. I studied early childhood development and specialized, but dont even work In that field anymore... I say this because I know the importance of being with my baby for psychological, social, physical health and I'm heart broken, but, I also need to provide. All the best to you and the littlest... I hope you're doing well. ❤
@@jaylindiamondnique I'm currently working afternoon/evening shifts so I work around my hubby's schedule. I only work part time around 20ish hours a week so it actually isn't bad!
Yes I used to watch 2 year olds & the parents that would just drop their kids off had kids that stopped crying literally 2 mins after they left. There was a mom who wouldn't leave her kid & he would just keep crying because he knew she would stay!!
I wish I could find tips for folks that had to go back to work 1 week postpartum. I understand the norm is to go back 6 weeks but for people that can’t afford it, what is the best way to go about it? I plan on breastfeeding and pumping as much as I can for the 5 days I’m able to be home (3 of those days are in the hospital) only so much one person can do but I get if it’s not ideal I just not ideal
Sandra Molteni I don’t think anybody can truly recover in just 6 weeks. But we live in the US, so employers have the right to only honor 6 weeks, I’m sure some of them would prefer you come back sooner if they could make you.
I’m at uni doing my Nursing course. Spoken to my rude course leader. She said max I can have is 3 weeks that includes birth n recovery. Then back to lectures n work placements. I’m worried would I heal in time for that uni stress, would my 2 wks old baby be Steiger enough to leave with hubby whose gna spilt in paternity leave into 3 weeks. Then I’d be 3 weeks for annual leave uni would be closed. Then I got 4m hosp placement I have to leave baby his gna be 9wks. Or she has suggested I should interrupt my studies n rejoin in Feb 2020. My baby is due Feb 2019. It is ideal to postpone the course but I think I can do it return back after 3wks. My gods will, hubby n family help, scheduling, planning n I’m quite organised. I’m only 22wks n got all my baby stuff. Only thing left is bottles, on the go express set, breast pump. That 3 wks I’m gna make notes how many time baby eats, poo n sleeps, so I can have a schedule made for my husband n my family whose willing to help me. Sept 2019 I’d start uni 2nd yr, baby would be nearly 7m. 2nd yr gna be tough coz pgdip is intense Nursing course plus I’m gna do my Msc module on top of that. I just pray labour goes well, no c section, babys healthy no illness, I pray baby is a good sleeper so I can study.
I’m a first time mom and I’m just trying to prepare myself for what’s ahead! I understand that i won’t fully get it down packed. Something’s I’ll have to learn by going through it. But I’m resdy
thanks for your input but I was surprised of the Similac sponsorship. I have very much fallow you because I agree with your food choices. kind of made me sad
Need some tips for work at home moms. I feel like I am not getting any quality time with hubby because my babies don't nap at the same time so the only time I have to get work done is at night. Also how to keep pushing through despite the late nights.
Put them in part time day care. The part time day care will take them places and run them around thus exhausting them things you can't do working from home. It's the only way to make working at home possible. What I did was have them in Monday, Wens, Fri. I would drop them off between 9&10 and pick them up between 3&4. On Tuesday and Thurs I would wake up before them and get work done so I could take a longer lunch and tend to them. When they woke up they would be happy to veg in front of the TV with breakfast as they were worn out. And quiet time was always in the afternoon. I didn't force them to sleep but in their bedrooms with books or quiet toys. This was a habit they continued to practice until they left without direction or enforcement from me.
There's no reason why they both should not nap at the same time. Figure out how to do this. I babysat for as many as 10 children under three and they all napped at the same time. Day cares have hoardes of children that all nap at the same time.
+amber Bautista people that have small children or are going to have them need to read this >> Big Pharma is Injecting Us With Cancer Enzymes - Doctors Who Made the Discovery Found Murdered humansarefree.com/2016/02/big-pharma-is-injecting-us-with-cancer.html
+amber Bautista Don't let it! You never know what will change between now and then (new opportunity for either your or dad, etc etc) or you may be life a coworker who went back the time I did and she could not wait! ha
I know this is an old video, but having to justify why you’re working with a company when you don’t use their products or believe in using said products is pretty hard to watch. “They have s good message” though.
I still have 2 months until baby is born and I’m already stressing about having to return back to work 6 weeks after she’s born. I don’t think I’ll be able to leave her so soon after she’s born
omg you had to go back to work after 6 weeks??? and Im complaining cause in my country we get three months and two weeks off and that time is so short to me.
I don't have kids but I grew up in a home where my mom ran a daycare. I know it's really emotional for a lot of parents to drop off the kids and they really want that sweet "goodbye" moment before heading to work, but I just thought I'd add to your point and say that it's so much easier for the kids if parents leave without making a big deal about it. The more they push to have the big goodbye, the more upsetting it is for the kid and it can really make it much harder for them to recover once the parent has left. When things stay quick and upbeat, the it helps the kids have a great time.
Same, grew up oldest child, in home daycare. Very fun. But yeah, parents need to stop trying to get that "moment". It's distressing. Distract child w friends and toys...run.
Erin Wheeler thank you for saying this! I really needed to hear this
I have such anxiety about this, and we don't go back to work until a year after birth! I can't imagine 6 weeks, you guys are superheroes
Actually the earliest you should go back to work is one year, preferably three and even better six. It causes attachment disorders in children. Bowlby wrote a book on this called Becoming Attached. Attachment disorders lead to sociopatholgy. There's a good reason you have anxiety. But if you have to work you have to work. I did too. But I struggled to keep them home for as long and as much as possible.
Yes 6 weeks would be too tough for me too. I also have 1 year off. I wouldnt have been able to do it in just 6 weeks with all the sleep deprivation from a newborn & if you’re healing from a c section which can take up to 6 weeks to heal.
I want to cry 😢 going back to work in 2 wks,strictly breastfeeding and feeling guilty because i have to leave my 3 month old
Jackie Franco hey girl. I’m in your situation right now :( How was it for you?
@@iCeleste7 In the situation now, how'd it go for you :)
In this situation now any updates ??
I was super lucky my babysitter was super close to my job so I can go in my lunch however sometimes I couldn’t go, my job set up a private area I can use my breast pump, all I have to say is that my baby girl is now 3 yrs old and to be totally honest they will not remember and all we can do is snuggle them all the time when we come back from work,,, they are very smart and get used to schedules:)
@@JACKIEFRANCO01 thank you
I always had the worst anxiety about leaving my babies to go back to work. I am so thankful that I am lucky enough to be able to stay home with my kids. Mommas gotta do what we gotta do!
+Surviving as Mom people that have small children or are going to have them need to read this >>
Big Pharma is Injecting Us With Cancer Enzymes - Doctors Who Made the Discovery Found Murdered
humansarefree.com/2016/02/big-pharma-is-injecting-us-with-cancer.html
+Surviving as Mom It's hard, at the same time I had coworkers who couldn't wait to go back and while I never understood it that was one of the first things that made me realize how different we are as moms ha
As a working mom, I totally understand and relate to this. I have 2 toddlers and creating a schedule is definitely needed. Thanks for sharing!
+Marriage & Motherhood people that have small children or are going to have them need to read this >>
Big Pharma is Injecting Us With Cancer Enzymes - Doctors Who Made the Discovery Found Murdered
humansarefree.com/2016/02/big-pharma-is-injecting-us-with-cancer.html
I was a working mom the first 16 yrs raising kids, leaving when having 3 kids (one nursing infant) and pregnant with twins. Been home for quite a few years, but going back this year following my husband's sudden death. With a few kids, it wasn't that hard. You adjust. Now, with a large family, grieving both my husband and my mother (who just died after him), not looking forward to it.
I'm so sorry for your losses. Sincerely wishing you and your family the best. Take care.
Wow. That’s a lot. Bit, you can do this. Your kids can help you. I wish you the best.
My first thought was "oh crap the comments u are going to get"! But I am a certified Lactation counselor, the message you are sending is wonderful. Of course as a CLC it would be against our ethics to take money or work in anyway for formula companies but honestly I'm glad you did it. The people you will reach with this message will surpass the number that get angry and from what I know about you thru the videos, that's just the point. We have to stand united as moms and never judge them for their choices. I know in my TH-cam classes I never bash and only ever educate and support because no matter what people want to believe and/or say many moms are going to use formula even moms who exclusively breastfeed. I always promote breastfeeding and it's wonderful benefits but mom judging should never be done. My saying like Jeni is "every mom is different and many of us take different paths of motherhood but always toward the same goal." Thanks Jeni! You did good!
Legal Fiction Natural Fact No, that logic doesn't fail at all. What fails is the exact opposite of her logic. Her logic is to encourage mothers to breastfeed & support them in overcoming obstacles to doing so, whenever possible. The opposite of that is shaming them into breastfeeding, or shaming the mothers who can't.
What she meant by "they're going to do it anyway" was not that after attempts to shame them into it, they'll continue to defy the "wisdom" that says EVERY mother should breastfeed. Which is what you seem to insinuate. What she meant was that some mothers will continue to use formula, despite her attempts to support & educate them... and that there are a multitude of reasons for this fact. None deserving of shame.
Some mothers may have fears that she just couldn't alleviate w/education. Some may try their hardest to breastfeed, but due to the pain (which is far worse for some, due to health conditions or differing tolerance to pain) they just couldn't stick it out, despite her encouragement that it would get better. My mother is a saint, who fought thru mastitis in order to breastfeed me- but from her description of how terribly painful it was, I'm sure many moms who suffer from this condition are unable to keep breastfeeding. (I was my mom's first, so she didn't have other kids to care for, plus she had a lot of support & help- it'd be much harder to cope w/such pain, made 10x worse when your baby feeds multiple x/day, w/out these factors that helped my mom stick to her goal.) For some moms, the stress of working or certain job types (ones requiring long periods of travel, for instance) might make formula feeding necessary. Some moms suffer horrific depression, some w/psychosis (I had severe post-partum depression for months; there are no words to describe it. It's not like feeling depressed, I've had major depressive disorder too. This was something FAR worse.) For these & (I'm sure) many other reasons, many moms may want DESPERATELY to breastfeed, but are simply not able to.
I know this because I was one of them. I have chronic health conditions that required me to take medications that were manageable during pregnancy, but would have caused my baby to suffer, had they been passed thru my milk. Having breastfed my first child & being a huge believer in it, knowing all the benefits to the baby, knowing first-hand the bonding that comes w/it... I was DEVASTATED! I researched & asked my doctors if there was another way, but I had no choice. I still wish I'd been able to breastfeed both my kids, always will.
There are so many circumstances that could impact the ability to breastfeed. We never know what another mother is going thru, and until we walk in her shoes, we have no right to judge. The way moms are shamed who are unable to breastfeed is terrible, especially if you really wanted to as badly as I did.
This was providential! I go back to work on Monday (9 weeks postpartum) and I am SO thankful I stumbled upon it. As always, you gave great advice!
Getting out of the house was so intimidating with my 3rd baby. I had a 10 year old, a 2 year old and a newborn...I felt overwhelmed, with everything! I did the Target run thing. Just packed up all 3 and wandered Target or Walmart several times. lol Sounds crazy but it definitely helped.
Great tips Jeni! Thanks for sharing! I think people in the comments are missing the point, it's not about similack, it's about all moms being good moms, the formula company is just the vehicle for the message. Quit hating she's a great mom
This is my second child i have him in 5 weeks. I’m probably not going to be able to take my entire 6 weeks off because I foot all of my bills alone with a NB and a toddler girl. Some of us women have to make sacrifices for our families if you know what I mean. Yes give yourself some time don’t be so hard on yourself neither.
Same reason I have to return at 6 weeks. She's my first baby and I dont know how ill do it. I studied early childhood development and specialized, but dont even work In that field anymore... I say this because I know the importance of being with my baby for psychological, social, physical health and I'm heart broken, but, I also need to provide.
All the best to you and the littlest... I hope you're doing well. ❤
For awhile there I lived and breather crock pot cooking and doing everything the night before takes out morning confusion. Lots of good tips here!
I plan on working night shift when i return to work. That way my man and i can manage without sitters.
Hi 👋🏾! How did this work for you? I’m a ftm and I’m trying to figure out the best option for me.
@@jaylindiamondnique I'm currently working afternoon/evening shifts so I work around my hubby's schedule. I only work part time around 20ish hours a week so it actually isn't bad!
Yes I used to watch 2 year olds & the parents that would just drop their kids off had kids that stopped crying literally 2 mins after they left. There was a mom who wouldn't leave her kid & he would just keep crying because he knew she would stay!!
I'm a first time mom. I don't wanna stop working.
How long did you have to take off before going back to work?
Yes, crock pot meals! Great suggestion!
Great tips Jen I'm going back in a couple of months my second will be ten months I'm trying not to think of it
I wish I could find tips for folks that had to go back to work 1 week postpartum.
I understand the norm is to go back 6 weeks but for people that can’t afford it, what is the best way to go about it?
I plan on breastfeeding and pumping as much as I can for the 5 days I’m able to be home (3 of those days are in the hospital) only so much one person can do but I get if it’s not ideal I just not ideal
How is your pelvic floor doing? Where you able to recover in just 6 weeks?
Sandra Molteni I don’t think anybody can truly recover in just 6 weeks. But we live in the US, so employers have the right to only honor 6 weeks, I’m sure some of them would prefer you come back sooner if they could make you.
omg!!! I AM GOING THROUGH THIS RIGHT NOW!! :'(((( YOU ADDRESSED MY EXACT CONCERNS!!!!!! this is my second one!
Great video. You are a great communicator! Love your energy. Not sure what the weird background noise is though? Thanks for the video!
I’m at uni doing my Nursing course. Spoken to my rude course leader. She said max I can have is 3 weeks that includes birth n recovery. Then back to lectures n work placements. I’m worried would I heal in time for that uni stress, would my 2 wks old baby be Steiger enough to leave with hubby whose gna spilt in paternity leave into 3 weeks. Then I’d be 3 weeks for annual leave uni would be closed. Then I got 4m hosp placement I have to leave baby his gna be 9wks. Or she has suggested I should interrupt my studies n rejoin in Feb 2020. My baby is due Feb 2019. It is ideal to postpone the course but I think I can do it return back after 3wks. My gods will, hubby n family help, scheduling, planning n I’m quite organised. I’m only 22wks n got all my baby stuff. Only thing left is bottles, on the go express set, breast pump. That 3 wks I’m gna make notes how many time baby eats, poo n sleeps, so I can have a schedule made for my husband n my family whose willing to help me. Sept 2019 I’d start uni 2nd yr, baby would be nearly 7m. 2nd yr gna be tough coz pgdip is intense Nursing course plus I’m gna do my Msc module on top of that. I just pray labour goes well, no c section, babys healthy no illness, I pray baby is a good sleeper so I can study.
I’m a first time mom and I’m just trying to prepare myself for what’s ahead! I understand that i won’t fully get it down packed. Something’s I’ll have to learn by going through it. But I’m resdy
Great video! I was so nervous going back to work. Wish this video was around a few years back! Thanks for the tips
thanks for your input but I was surprised of the Similac sponsorship. I have very much fallow you because I agree with your food choices. kind of made me sad
sdelizabeth why would the similar sponsorship make you sad ?
sdelizabeth similac
Love love love this video I’m 8 months and a first time mom and I feel like this was really helpful
I can't go back until 3 months im sorry smh . Im so overwhelmed
Do you only get 6 weeks in Canada it is one year
I know this is a old video but it is still super helpful! Thanks!
What made you have a change of jobs?
Thanks for sharing some wonderful ideas & tips!!! Love them!!!
Need some tips for work at home moms. I feel like I am not getting any quality time with hubby because my babies don't nap at the same time so the only time I have to get work done is at night. Also how to keep pushing through despite the late nights.
Put them in part time day care. The part time day care will take them places and run them around thus exhausting them things you can't do working from home. It's the only way to make working at home possible. What I did was have them in Monday, Wens, Fri. I would drop them off between 9&10 and pick them up between 3&4. On Tuesday and Thurs I would wake up before them and get work done so I could take a longer lunch and tend to them. When they woke up they would be happy to veg in front of the TV with breakfast as they were worn out. And quiet time was always in the afternoon. I didn't force them to sleep but in their bedrooms with books or quiet toys. This was a habit they continued to practice until they left without direction or enforcement from me.
There's no reason why they both should not nap at the same time. Figure out how to do this. I babysat for as many as 10 children under three and they all napped at the same time. Day cares have hoardes of children that all nap at the same time.
can you do work from home tips with kids
+Raising Blue Jeans Great video idea! YES!
ugh, I'm so nervous to go back after I have these twins!! I'm only 15 weeks but anxiety is already killing me.
+amber Bautista people that have small children or are going to have them need to read this >>
Big Pharma is Injecting Us With Cancer Enzymes - Doctors Who Made the Discovery Found Murdered
humansarefree.com/2016/02/big-pharma-is-injecting-us-with-cancer.html
+amber Bautista Don't let it! You never know what will change between now and then (new opportunity for either your or dad, etc etc) or you may be life a coworker who went back the time I did and she could not wait! ha
I know this is an old video, but having to justify why you’re working with a company when you don’t use their products or believe in using said products is pretty hard to watch. “They have s good message” though.
Is this an older video I noticed the red stain on the sleeve?
+mrsparrish10 I forgot I had it lol I found two actually that were older
Great tips , thanks so much!
"Tips For Returning Back To Work With After Baby" This title does not even make sense. It's not a complete sentence, but spell check was used.
I still have 2 months until baby is born and I’m already stressing about having to return back to work 6 weeks after she’s born. I don’t think I’ll be able to leave her so soon after she’s born
Me too! 😞😞
Can you tell me your update about your situation now I currently have a 3 month old and the thought of leaving him makes me uneasy
@@angelinacc4206 mine is 6 months still hard.
Babies need to eat, as long as they are eating, all is good. It doesn't matter how they get their milk.
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omg you had to go back to work after 6 weeks??? and Im complaining cause in my country we get three months and two weeks off and that time is so short to me.