How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone
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Fellow men, it's 2024 stop confining yourselves into these friendzones. If she's not interested for whatever reason, move on. You deserve better, so look for better.
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You don’t deserve better unless you do better. So do better.
True but I have female friends that my attention is friendship.
@@Rideshare-adventures - you don’t have female friends.
@@sloebone7399 what do you mean what is wrong with that?
"Anything other than 'Yes' is friendzone". Thank you very much.
For sire
Yep. I asked a co-worker out she said no for what may be a valid reason but it was still a no. So I stopped looking at her a lot and talking to her-immediately. She was out of it for a few days around me not knowing what to do or say. I don't know if she missed my validation or felt like she made a mistake. It's been 3 weeks I talk to her professionally and treat her like my other female co-workers. I think she was impressed I could flip the switch and not care and I'm hoping she eventually will change her mind. But I'm not going in the friend zone ever again with her.
Thanks julia.friendzone is the deadzone.
I did everything you sad and it worked.Im tired of friendzones,and if its not working out,im moving on.I got my first girlfriend 5 days ago.
How is it going
I'm glad that videos like this help me not being friendzoned simping anymore and I ended up cutting it off.
100% accurate advice. great job!
Thank you for the lesson and advice on getting out of the friend zone Julia.
Boy, this was perfect. Thanks very much for the advice!!!!!!
exactly this happened with me this year , bloody hell
thanks ma''am for the info
Great video keep up the amazing work you do.
Love your videos Julia, short and sweet and right to the point
Perfect timing Julia dealing with a situation like this and i told her I'm just not gonna talk to u anymore
Amazing vídeo
The only way out of the friendzone is through the door you came in through, so you walk away and leave, no malice, no anger. She has every right to not be interested. Just know that when you do find a girlfriend or possibly years down the road when she's single with no prospects she will feign interest. It's still not real interest, it's just a hope that she can stir an ember in the coals to feed her attention again.
She has every right to like what she likes and want what she wants, so if that isn't you, don't waste your time. Being friendzoned actively undermines getting actual dates from women who like you.
Exactly, just make your real intentions known that way your not wasting time. If she says yes then awesome, if she says no then just move on. Thank you Julia! Great advice
My intention is to sleep with her and not call her.
If you put a woman on the spot, she’s going to say no. She needs to know that “friend” isn’t an option because it’s not something you do. That gives her one choice. It’s either a man/woman dynamic or nothing. Friend/friend is a waste of your time and hers.
If you’re already friends and you “ask her out”, she is still going to assume it’s a friend’s thing. It’s pretty pathetic if you’re on a date with a woman and she doesn’t know it.
That is a good point
Just tell her that you're attracted to her and it would make her run away fast. My brother had a woman did that to him and she ran away once he mentioned about going out on dates and said that he doesn't see her as a friend anymore. She was a bit pissed at him because he cut it off.
I think I also fall into this same category as well. I met someone one IG. I made this first move of introducing myself. We both work as freelancers in the live entertainment industry. Shes also a single mom and cares a lot about her son, and we both agreed to hang out one day (possible date) when we both see or work each other in each others cities. Almost every other week, we text each other when we both are not busy, but she does enjoy my responses.
Defenley bro
Julia spitting facts
Also Lot of guy's Fall in friends because she is a relationship and she emotionally invested into someone else and lot of women put guys in friend zone as a backup plan if her and her boyfriend break up
No, their friends are not the backup plan, the guy at the gym is the backup plan. The cute guy at work is the backup plan. The mysterious guy at the bar is the backup plan. Girls don’t go for solid and familiar, they want new and exciting. They live everyday hoping to meet a stranger who will be the love of their life. They’ve already met you, you’re not the guy.
The guy friends are male validation and a shoulder to cry on until she goes off with the next guy she barely knows.
There is nothing wrong with the friend zone. I put women there all the time
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there is, if you want to date her.
If I put a woman in the friend zone it's because I already "dated" her and don't want to be bothered anymore@@abstract-thoughts
Cope.
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If she friendzones you then tell her to F of and then leave her.
The best way to escape a friend zone? Is just. let it be known that a friendship is not what you want and just keep it moving because if the roles were reversed, they would do the same thing. Some people don't want new friends. Some people want a relationship. If people don't want to be friends with you, just let it go. If people don't want to be in a romantic relationship with you, just letting go. Some people will care if you don't want to pursue things with them. Some people don't care the ones that care and have feelings is going to be tough for them to deal with the fact that they've been dealing with for few years spending time with going on dates with and then they friend zoned you and all of a sudden you stop all communication with them and you move on with your life everything just stops.
Finally i stopped being friendzoned after the going deeply into pick-up theme)
im just gon rant here
for a bit. the friendzone is a punishment for people's stupidity. some people "play it safe" when they try to get a girl and end up in the friendzone and try to seek some kinda back door to a relationship when doing this. if you like her just tell her. Julia has said that the worst answer is a no and if you knew your intentions you'll be able to move on andnot gonna get friendzoned. Trust me when i say that being rejected is better than being in the friendzone.
I met a girl years ago with whom I was head over heels for and she placed me in the friend zone and as much as I tried to remedy that situation, it became fruitless. In the end, she would still text me in a flirty fashion for personal verification and attention. I was basically being a simp to her and she's no longer going to respect you after that. I suppose we're all naive once.
I learn from my mistake by being upfront with a woman in what i want from them because I put myself in a woman's friendzoned by being a simp and not being upfront with her so i decided to cut her off by telling her that I don't want to be friends anymore so i want to cut it off and move on because I started being attracted to her and it's not fair to both of us at all. I know that her sons are glad that I cut their mom off because her sons are Millennials like me and their mom is a Generation X woman so i totally understand their situation because I wouldn't want no Millennial dude hanging out with my mom who is a Baby Boomer.
Her:- "I only see you as a friend".
Me:- "Friendship doesn't work for me. Get in touch if you change your mind."
Then do not call them, text them or stalk them, or like their posts on social media for ANY reason. THEY unilaterally changed the dynamic of your relationship so it's on THEM to fix it.
Hit the gym. Lift weights. Level up your physique. And she may look at you differently.
She may but if u dont make an intention to establish an emotional connection then u wont get her to be with u lol
@johnle1723 and if you make your intentions clear, she may still put you in the friend zone if she's not attracted to you. Lifting weights CAN get you out the friend zone and it has. Read Rom Wills' book Nice Guys and Players
@@jeffknowlton5200 Better, yet, do as you mention & find someone else that can actually commit to a simple "yes" when u ask her out. She may regret turning you down but it'll be too late & it's better for you.
@@jeffknowlton5200 just because u have muscles doesnt mean u will get girls lol. There are dudes who get tons of girls looking like twigs.
Should I start dating? Im 16, play soccer at the state level, rank 90th percentile of my class, and have hobbies in engineering. My friends have begun experimenting with dating and im unsure on what to do. The opinions they have are mixed, some good and bad experiences. They also say that I would have a good time dating people as I’m an easy to talk to down to earth type of guy. I would like someone’s input on what I should do, continue working on my self, or begin experimenting giving me experience for the future.
Hi where should I take a girl for the first date and after the first date?
Starbucks or restaurant?
I really don't know where to go and what to do on dates and honestly i don't want to spend so much money on fancy places.
Thank you for your response.
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, well ex girlfriend now, mainly due to not ha ing had one until late in life, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s.
It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others.
But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm.
Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend.
So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel.
I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life.
And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction.
because the way it looks like, guys, men, need to know or learn all of these social skills or social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, have certain social behaviors, have certain talking and communication ability, have a certain lifestyle, because initiating interaction or approaching, leading, getting her attracted to you during the conversation or interaction, flirting, teasing, creating sexual tension, passing her shit tests, leading and taking the lead, leading the courtship, asking her out, planning and setting up the dates, is all social behavior based or social skills based, behavioral aspect based. Along with have a certain lifestyle as well, because men have the burden of building or sparking the attraction, it's like, a woman doesn't need to know how to attract a guy.
Yes I know people will say don't compare yourself to others and don't worry about what other people don't have to do and I don't disagree with that, but I just get angry and annoyed whenever people say that women have to learn as well when the man is basically making everything happen for them so because of that I don't see how women have to learn anything about dating or courtship, attraction, because women basically are just passengers in the whole dating and courtship process, so I don't see how that requires any learning or training or practice on their end
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again.
I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life.
Probably because guys and men to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot.
Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing.
Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training.
It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general.
I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male.
"Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together"
Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad and angry, enraged, that its not appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further.
Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do.
I know I'm not alone in thinking this way in which I have the mindset in which I feel that if I was born a woman I would not have been alone or single that long.
I like to think this way and I know that a lot of people agree with this and that is being born a woman basically guarantees you will always have options because you are on the receiving end of sexual attention just for being born a woman because it's often said that women are in abundance by default but men are in scarcity by default because for all time women are the ones that get pursued and hit on or sought after or get advances made on them and when you are in that position.
I get very angry and pissed off whenever people and Society still think it's better to be a man
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I can’t comprehend how any adult can’t tell within the first seconds if you like somebody in that way and vice versa. I can spot a no go way before even considering saying hello
How do you know she’s a no go until you try? You’re effectively rejecting yourself so she doesn’t have to. If you know she’s going to reject you, you must know why. So you should do what you can to improve whatever it is for the next one.
If you’re just going to see someone you find attractive and assume you’re not what she’s looking for, you’re going to be right every time. If you assume attraction and give it a chance, you’re still going to be wrong most of the time, but not all of the time.
I'm unfortunately in that situation with a girl right now who wants to keep me in the friendzone. after the hard talk she and I had about 6 months ago shes supposedly in love with a mutual friend she and I have who does not even live near by. I told her I was done being her "guy best friend" and i've had very little to no contact with her since. I have not even seen her since the talk she and I had 6 months ago. and i'm already convinced and have been convinced for years that i'll never experience dating, being in a relationship etc. I'm 31, and never once been in a relationship, never even taken a girl on a simple date. I've pretty much given up on the dating game. i'm done with the BS with women.
Chris...YOU are NOT the problem. The women in your country, state or area are the issue! Let me guess. You live in the USA or Canada. If I'm correct than surely it's the type of women you get from those respective countries and others similar in women's mindsets which make females so UNATTRACTIVE in their expectations, characters which would mostly include attitudes which by far are TOXIC. I would write that you are done with the BS from the women in your state or country and there are fine specimens of females outside of it. I would suggest you look further away like so many others who have found the love of their lives in distant countries where women are simpler in their expectations and importantly respectful towards their partners and simply just a pleasure to be with! Take my advice and be happy. YOU deserve happiness like everybody else. Good luck!
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Well my situation was about two weeks in and she starts getting really dry and i end things and she finally opens up and tells me that’s she’s been distant for some problem… drama, etc. and she doesn’t talk much and it’s hard to come up with several conversations when the girl gives no help… anything i can do to have more conversation ideas?
What if you really want to ask her out BUT you really are good friends and don’t want to walk away from that?
You're living in a fantasy world. Get out of your imagination and see what happens.
Master simp!
Tell her, “ I’m into pulling hair, not braiding hair.” Or tell her, “if she wants her hair braided, go to the salon.”
What if she's declines and is in your social circle?
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.... it's true move on!
Proverbs 13:11
Wealth gotten by vanity shall be diminished: but he that gathereth by labour shall increase.
Yes, but i do disagree with one thing
You don't need to completely cut ties with someone who just wants to be friends.
You do need friends in your life too you know.
Friendzones only suck if you can't move on from them. If you can move on while still being friends it's a win win
Hardest thing to do is rejecting them as a friend because men, mostly, will die for a friend, but imo keeping them as friends makes you look worse to other potential girls. I usually just stick with men friends.
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Yeah wish i saw this before.
Im trying to get out of the friend zone .!
STOP trying and fckn DO IT!
Nahum 3:1
Woe to the bloody city! it is all full of lies and robbery; the prey departeth not;
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I mean... I have one girl I like. From the beginning of the relationship I kept saying that I don't want to be her friend (In the fact when we met for the first time she still was in another relationship - But immediately when she have end this relationship I said I don't want to be her friend) Sometimes we meet, we kiss, we have some more romantic moments (Romantism in relationship is more important to me than sexuality) but of course we do have intimate moments either. Nonetheless... Is there a possibility that when I say too much of things like "I don't want to be your friend, I want to be your boyfriend" she will have enough of that and the relation will end?
The relationship will end because she doesn't want a serious relationship. She's happy with the 'friends with benefits' thing. So if you are wanting a fully committed partner than she's NOT the girl and you should be looking elsewhere for that. Plain and simple!
There are thousands of girls to pick from so why would you attempt to get out of FZ and waste your time and energy on 1 girl?
On the contrary, I can't wait to get into the friendzone.
Why do you women think its ok to keep a guy in the friend zone when you know he has feelings for you? That is the definition of a bad person who is an attention-seeking shallow narcissist.
They're not keeping you there. You have to be able to recognize when they don't see you like that. If you want to keep talking to them, respect that it's just platonic.
Dont fall into the grey area. Anything other than yes, is a no.
Women need to stop chasing men
The friendzone let every man's cucumber dry out.
I think that you're confusing friendzone with other things. One thing you should have said firstly is that friendzone comes not from not having your intentions clear. It usually comes from being unattractive to her. Most of the time girls already know your intentions.
So then put a girl to friendzone first b4 she 'll put u😂
Muscles
You never escape the friendzone move on dont listen to her
You will also see that most woman won't leave there toxic relationships because they have male friends in the friend zone that give them daily validation. So in there mind they got the validation from the friend and the bad boy from there relationship. Just do yourself a favor move on.
men put and keep themselves in friend zone, no woman can do that to a man. just dont do it, dont accept such an offer... simple.
Lol I disagree with this shit highly. Some girls can be attracted to you ,and want to be friend first vibes. Simply because there tired of rushing into a unstable ,or toxic relationships that moved way too quickly, and end crashing fast because you didn't take the time to really get to know each other ,and strengthen a bond if theres chemistry there already off rip. Slowing down ,and actually taking the time ,and trying to build a solid sturdy foundation go a long ass way but this depends on what type of girl we talking sbout also not every girl is some fast moving game playing thot.Again some girls can have attraction to you wanna slow down with a little bump and grind on some when R.Kelly wasn't exposed yet lol in my opinion . I think natural testing the ups and downs between you guys as friends can tell you a lot about how yall might be in a relationship ,or could work in one before you actually into rush one . By learning how each other work. By seeing what happens you guys bump heads ,or whatever the case may be can you communicate properly problem solve shit towards one another if a argument happens. Can you understand each other's feelings and respect them? How will yall react to each other's negativity feelings,or thoughts. Lets face it nobody is perfect. It's either gonna end showing you a positive brownie point. By the universe showing yall really do click ,and can handle things maturely when it comes to issues ,or bad energy with be present that bumping heads is a red flag because y'all can't found understanding ,or care too. Lol By being be your friends first you getting inside knowledge of what it could be ahead of time if a relationship could work,or never work because you can't agree,or find middle ground when things get bumpy therefore a relationship would be a waste of time ,and energy. Simply taking the time to learning how each works in a whole can go a long ass way if your friends 1st,and speak volumes on a deeper level before you both put yourself in a trap too early because you wanted unstable puppy love because y'all have no patience. In my opinion in conclusion you either you end up building an amazing strong healthy bond that yall just work,and work together by building trust etc,and a relationship can be a strong valid valuable option if go there. All because you had patience to build a foundation that's strong enough over time to both stand by testing your situationship,and could work as a team, or worst case scenario she loses interest,but if she still wants to ,and is mature enough least you could potentially end being super close as friends. Either way you don't lose out on someone. I agree highly though with her though on make your intentions very clear from the get. Also ask her to be clear about her intentions also. Be clear with each others intentions 💯 Sidenote though.. If you're looking for quick easy ass than just stick to all the broken thots at your local clubs,and bars, arcades, bowling alleys,and roller rinks ,and shit lmao Just stay single don't purse a girl who has no interest other then just friends if she never gave you any signs she fucks with you like that,or plays games. Have self respect for yourself,and vibrate on a higher frequency then she puts you at.Just my advice,and opinion
There will always be exceptions as you mentioned. I will say though is that even if a man chooses to be “friends” w a girl, he is on a very short window to propel that into a date. The longer he waits it out, the more his window closes. And you can’t be too close of friends either otherwise if he asks her out, he can be portrayed as “the guy who tried to backdoor his way into her pants” which isn’t authentic. You can be acquaintances w a girl and ask her out a lil later. Thats ok bc you only know each other on surface via school, work, etc so if say he asks her out a month later, that’s perfectly fine bc there’s still a ton of mystery and they don’t already know each other on personal level yet. This is why if you don’t want to ask someone out right away, the acquaintance route is better. But if you market yourself as a friend, you don’t even give the girl a chance to consider you as dating material.
I stopped dating over 6 years ago. It was the best decision I made!! There is no aggravation, no worries, no guilt trips, etc.!! MGTOW all the way! Give yourself some respect and get away from this sort of trouble.
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