Dumper Regret - From Breakup to Reaching Out (Podcast 392)

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  • @floramcdonald5524
    @floramcdonald5524 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Why the hell would any dumpee go back to a dumper that had a rebound relationship. F that

  • @angelatezy8954
    @angelatezy8954 3 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    Trust me we want them back when they don't want us. And when they want us we loose interest

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How are you feeling today Angela?

    • @sammoe1292
      @sammoe1292 ปีที่แล้ว

      You’re what is called toxic. That is very psychologically undeveloped.

  • @nickf9392
    @nickf9392 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    You gave them the best you had....they dumped you....has been out swapping body fluids with everybody in the world but you....and you want that back....really? Don't ever go back, ever.

  • @shauno2535
    @shauno2535 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I can tell you this, my ex sure made it quite clear to everyone we both know that she had no regret of any kind that she hurt me as bad as she did. She tells me the day before she loved me then just didn't care about me...

  • @samhouse9143
    @samhouse9143 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    She tried to gaslight me the other day. But when she saw it didn’t phase me and I ignored it her tone changed.

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope you have a good weekend Joe.

    • @Bucky1836
      @Bucky1836 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@vincentbos i found my purpose, im selling house in a month transfering to new town 2 hurs away from my current town 😇

  • @move6160
    @move6160 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Could u tell me why she did this? She was the one who decided to break up. She came to me telling she does not want. I agree on her decision. I told her i respect her decision then i went no contact. She never blocked me on whatsap. Aftr 3 months she just blocked me yesterday. She was seeing my whatsapp story and i have ignored her. Why is she behaving like that? I use to love her so much but after the no contact i move on

  • @grant2149
    @grant2149 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanx Vincent. Only got time today to watch. Enjoy ur week.👍🇿🇦

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks, you too!

  • @joaofilipegoncalves9849
    @joaofilipegoncalves9849 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    She broke up with me for almost two months and I am still crying for her. I know that she needs space from me but I miss her. I miss her touch, the way she looked at me, her kisses, I am woried that I know nothing about her day. All I think is to send her a mensage and call her but I don't do it because I must respect her time and her space. She already said that she will never get back with me. (And also I am scared of let things worst). I really was good to her and I am hurt with all of these situation. But in the end I still love her, I still miss her and I think that she is the most amazing women that I met.

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Joao, I'm so sorry to hear your pain. Here is a link to a podcast which I think might help you - th-cam.com/video/p6W-PZQ3V5M/w-d-xo.html

    • @joaofilipegoncalves9849
      @joaofilipegoncalves9849 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@vincentbos thank you for the video. I really identified myself on the video. On the first week of the break up I thought that my ex's sister manipulate her to break up with me and I said that to my ex (at the time I believe that I was doing a good thing ... But to be honest it was my desperation talking) but my ex reacting by saiyng that she will never come back to me and unfriended me on all of her social media. After that I saw her on more time at June 28th (we were at the university), I try to talk to her and she didn't look at me I really felt humiliated and sad with everything. Later that day she passed by me and she talked to me. She only said goodbye though ... On that moment I think that I felt chemistry between us but probably is just my imagination. I started no contact with her since this day.
      Keep up your amazing hope. Your videos are amazing, sooth my anxiety and helps me getting prespective on the issues I need to work for myself.

    • @diyeypii8620
      @diyeypii8620 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@joaofilipegoncalves9849 you hurt your chances bro

    • @floramcdonald5524
      @floramcdonald5524 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@joaofilipegoncalves9849 so did she ever contact you again ?

    • @ericlee419
      @ericlee419 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      move on dude!

  • @niVeN271
    @niVeN271 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What about situationships?

  • @sproonianlitch8232
    @sproonianlitch8232 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    what if i did the wrong choices in the first couple months but i went full blown no contact after

  • @jcdezmen
    @jcdezmen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    mine told me she misses me and feels like she messed up and then blocks me. Then she posts a photo of when she visited me in NYC. This hurts so much man. Why would she do this?

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi JC, here is a link to a podcast which might help you - th-cam.com/video/_Qgs8D-On1I/w-d-xo.html

    • @jcdezmen
      @jcdezmen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      hey brother after our call, I found out that he's telling people that I'm a narcissist and spreading lies about me. I'm hurt but now I know who she really is

    • @wilfridjoseph6172
      @wilfridjoseph6172 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jcdezmen been there before

  • @Giovanni-01
    @Giovanni-01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Honestly, imo ,that's why I would prefer if it were the case where you hadn't spoken in a long period, when they reach out they're more likely to miss you more than in a friendly way, bc theyve experience "life without you".
    I wouldn't get frustrated dealing with an ex who would constantly reach out every week, couple weeks or so to "check" on me.

  • @surrealfeline
    @surrealfeline 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    We were together 7 years. When he broke up w me 6 mths ago, he moved out and we went straight into no contact. Like none whatsoever. Its been the most difficult painful last 6 mths of my life. I keep wondering if he will come back but it doesn't feel likely. After this long and after the person went through all the trouble of packing up and moving out, has anyone like this ever come back? He cried more than I did when he was leaving me and nothing I said would convince him to stay. I feel so lost still like ill never have answers and it crushes me to pieces thinking that ill never look at him or talk to him again. How could he just have disappeared like this after 7 years of drilling it into me to never give up on him, that I was his dream girl, that we were meant to always be together. How will I ever get over him? I dont want to.

    • @jajahMantes
      @jajahMantes 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I feel you.. 😭

    • @jorgeriera3337
      @jorgeriera3337 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I'm so sorry you are going thru this pain.
      I myself was and somewhat still going thru it but it gets better trust me I'm sure are an amazing person it's not your lost and it was very smart that you went straight into no contact.
      Look I know its not easy but please please don't have hope and don't stalk his social media erase and block everything and every picture and every gift by now should be in thr landfill.
      Believe me it will get better
      Gym
      Journal
      Join meet up I know its tough.
      Go out with friends
      Take vacation
      Take drives
      Go for walks without your phone.
      Good luck

  • @StarsStars714
    @StarsStars714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You're brilliant!

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’re very kind, thank you

  • @shenadaly6356
    @shenadaly6356 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    After the , I’m sorry it’s not you it’s me I want to be on my own. I lost feelings for you after the lockdown. Angry hurt and shocked I said ok good bye drop of my stuff and never contact me again 🤦🏻‍♀️Don’t think he ever will now Sad after 12 years . It’s been 6 and a half months xx thank u Vincent ❤️

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for being part of my channel community Shena.
      You will find happiness again.

  • @ladyshantae6252
    @ladyshantae6252 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hi Vincent! Great content as always. As you know this video perfectly explains what I experienced with other exes and not my last relationship. My last ex may have had regret but he is still blocked. I am still doing new things ans even considering dating now, which is saying a lot🙂. Your videos are always so timely. I hope all is well.💕

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Lady! Great to hear from you!
      I'm so glad to read that you are healing and improving everyday. Happiness is round your next corner :)

  • @fives2710
    @fives2710 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    How long does the honeymoon period last typically?

  • @jasonrichardson8012
    @jasonrichardson8012 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Another good podcast Vincent keep them coming thanks jason

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you Jason. I hope you have a nice weekend :)

  • @sshhffdhshs3343
    @sshhffdhshs3343 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Anybody available to chat about my situation

  • @notthemanace
    @notthemanace 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    We broke up over a argument n me being disrespectful I blew her phone up for a day the got blocked then I had a friend talk to her I got unblocked then we got n other argument the blocked again after 2 weeks I text her today she did even look shes blocked me on everything but one thing

  • @stevet9938
    @stevet9938 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    These videos are good but they never talk about when the dumper monkey branches into a new relationship, that is a different dynamic.

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This video might help - th-cam.com/video/OUsW35MUhao/w-d-xo.html

  • @xMikeyHardyx
    @xMikeyHardyx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oooohhhh “new girlfriend” let’s have some of this on my work break then

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hope you like it :D

  • @mannybermudez3416
    @mannybermudez3416 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    First

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Manny, you are today's champion!

  • @carlasmith3459
    @carlasmith3459 ปีที่แล้ว

    Talking rubbish ...not every relationship ends because the dumper wants to end things . Sometimes love is not enough and there are many fundamental reasons why two people can't be together . Not every dumper wants to go out and enjoy. Depending on the reasons sone dumpers want to just be on their own and take tine to reflect.