Not even sure I want her back at this point, it's been 2 months. I've gotten sober and started working out, and she's the same if not worse. If she decides she wants me back, she's gonna have to earn it.
lol it might work out if they love u it will work out, I mean i begged for 3 weeks at one point and i still worked so give it a try, right now though its hard for me again so im doing more no contact but it may work
He did nothing after almost two months😮 not a single message....no effort whatsoever, after so many good things I have done for him. So moving on is the best I can do for myself. No message is also a message, a strong one.
Been in no contact for 5 months. Within that time I have found out who she really is as person and she has also been with 3 different guys since then that I know of. I truly don't think I want her back at all after finding all that out. Also my life has gotten so much better since we broke up I've realized a lot of the stress and issues I was having was because of her and the issues she had going on in her life. I have been doing nothing but working on my self and showing my self the love and respect I deserve. I do think it was a blessing in disguise that we broke up. For those of you who's still waiting to hear back from your ex always remember things happen for a reason, and if it was meant to be it was meant to be. Don't pause your life hoping that you're going to hear from them. Just do you,. When they see that you're happy with out them and doing well that hurts them more than anything. WIsh you all the best!
It’s been a month on my side. We were living together. She cheated, and broke up hiding me the truth, saying that after 8 years of relations, the love was not there anymore. I discovered the truth and informed her that i learnt. It helped me to accept the reality, because i was denying the truth at the beginning and i wanted to remain friend with her. At some point i was angry, and sent her a hard but necessary message to tell her that she was vicious and manipulative and then no contact on my side. For you to know, the girl was already on vacations with her rebound relation, without having moved her stuff from our flat. At some some point she had to pass at home to get some stuffs and to be honest, she acted exactly the way i expected : crying, apologizing, regretting, saying how much i’m the best.. I know that in a way she may have passed the euphoria phase.. and know that she’s in a sort of depressing phase. I was impacted by her speech, but honesty and honour are key for me. I’ll will not come back with her, even if my heart and my fear of being single again are pushing me to do the contrary. I’ll focus on myself rather than blocking on the past, by doing things for myself only (culture, workout, family, friends). At the end this situation is a blessing for me ☪️ 🤲 . Religion is also helping me to move forward as i know that i’m not alone in this situation, and by pushing me in order to move my ass to avoid remaining blocked in sadness ! To conclude, i’ll certainly be stronger in the future, i want to focus on myself and take my time to rebuilt something strong with someone who TRULLY deserves it.
@@deezydzhshe was still connected on her Facebook account on my own laptop. I saw some conversations with friends of her… Hopefully I saw these messages for my rebuild.
I want him to remember the love we shared and the plans & promises we made. I want him to be fully ready for this step of faith in this journey. If he doesn't come back, then he wasn't the one for me.
It works the no contact he keeps contacting me but I haven’t answered him and I won’t go back ,once you hurt me I am done ,the sad part is they think they played you but really they only played themselves out of good and decent person
I am starting to think the No Contact.....is really for ourselves....after going through the struggle and processes counting the days we been ignoring them.... eventually we get distracted of learning how to live without them being there and then we forget to count the days....we r sleeping in peace and laughing again....WE R HEALING ...🤍🕊️👍🏼
Just wanna shout you out coach because my heart doesn’t care whether my ex comes back or not. I remember when this channel had around 500 subscribers and you’ve helped me a lot. I’m positive it will keep doing the same for other. Thank you
Just came here to say that I watched your videos before I initiated a break up with my ex. He was making me feel like I wasn’t important to him and that losing me wouldn’t be a big deal. So I went full no contact for 6 months. He would watch my social media and reach out to congratulate me on milestones but I didn’t give much reaction. Earlier this week he called and expressed how much he has missed me, how he regrets taking me for granted and not realizing how much value I added to his life. So now he’s coming in town and we have a date on Saturday 😊 this 👌🏽 close to having my man back lol I’ve always thought he was a great guy and from the beginning I knew he was the one but you know how with some men it takes them a little longer to see it. I’m so glad I listened to your advice and hopefully this time we stay together for good lol
So happy for you, my ex girlfriend turned round and told me around 3weeks ago that the love has faded and she doesn’t know if she wants to be with me anymore, she decided to take a break at her mothers and move from our home as she wants to be alone for a while as I work a lot and we have a kid and dog together so everything was getting to much for her and she didn’t feel happy being with me. Today I asked if she knows how she feels and said right now she definitely doesn’t want to be with me but things could work in the future as she still loves and cares about me she just feels like right now she wants to be alone for a while and not the fact she doesn’t love me, We’ve tried doing no contact for a while and see if she misses me etc. but I don’t know how to do no contact when you have a daughter together lol.
My ex broke contact yesterday after almost 7 months. It was hard for the first 5 months and it took a lot of strength to not message, not watch stories, or try to keep up with what she was doing. In that time, I lost a ton of weight, built a business, and went on a few casual dates. Our initial convo was super casual and I asked her out and she said she was busy so I ended the convo as recommended. Thank you coach! Your content helped me through some of those tougher times 💯💯💯
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
@ritapeters1330 hi Rita, my wife and I had broken up in March 2022 of 19 years after I found out she had cheated on me, now, I haven't been a Saint either, yes I have cheated before we got married in 2005 before we actually tide the knot in 2006. Throughout the years, we've had many ups and downs as any regular relationship would, especially due to social media. Fast forward to 2019, she found out I had an affair because of the lack of attention and acknowledgment she wasn't giving me since 2017. In 2021, still under Covid, I found out she had an affair since 2017, way before she found out about mine. Since the breakup of 2022, I had moved out, and I did the no contact for a few months and she reached out, we went on dates, she would sleep over, and sometimes be intimate. In June of 2023, we went to Cancun as a couple in my eyes, even though, I never set the title, she did, but I was still skeptical of committing. During the breakup in April of 2023, I accidentally got someone pregnant, where I was freaking out, not knowing what to do or say. Twins were born, I confessed, she was mad, then later understood that we weren't together when this happened, she then later claimed to accept that the twins would be there as she wanted to fix the relationship. Fast forward to now, we would go on dates, either to the movies, dinner, drinks, and sometimes sleep over again, I started catching feelings for her again, and when she would ask me what are we, I would say, "I'm not sure as I still don't trust you" a month later she claims to have potentials, which is why I couldn't trust her as I already knew someone is entertaining her. As of August she confessed to having a boyfriend and doesn't want to fix things with me as this new guy treats her better according to her. She claims she doesn't want to hurt him but still is in contact with me, no we're not doing anything, but she still texts often and calls here and then, why? Why does she still in contact with me if she's in a new relationship.
soo my ex left me 6 months ago, jumped into a re bound relationship. now he's emailing me asking to see me and asking how I am. I think he realized I was the one who truly loved him. sucks for him. I've moved on.
My only concern about no contact is that maybe she's also applying the same tactic and we both remain steadfast and we never find each other again despite actually wanting to be together.
@@HenrijsKalinsif both parties are in no contact zone. How does one reach out? This is the question being posed. If you block me and I block you. How do either of us get in touch?
No contact is such a journey. I read these comments and I feel uplifted when people find resolve whether that be getting their ex back or moving on the mother of my twin boys two years old is my ex now that seems so weird. When will that not we’ve been broken up for two months She got into a relationship with a guy the day before we broke up. He basically lives at my house now I want my family back. I don’t want 5% of the time 50% of the time I will settle for nothing but 100% of the time With my family, my whole family and when I get that back, I’ll come back to this comment and thank you Coach Black for all the advice you’ve given me. This rebound seems to be a match of the ages, but I know what me and her went through. We had our twins in the car. I’m sitting in right now, we didn’t make it to the hospital. Our youngest was purple when he came out of my ex the paramedics life into his purple body. That’s something neither of us will ever forget no thing or person or feelings can keep us away for too long. I need to do a one on one with you, Coach.
I felt the greatest and deepest love for him ever ..he is ghosting me now 7th week ..I do not want him back, he hurt me too much, I am struggling 😢 thanks for your videos Coach Blac ❤ very great help and comforting me
Almost two months since my ex blocked me. Hard bcuz I became attached to her kids & w/ school starting and summer growth I miss them. My new reality has been difficult but I can do no more. She unwilling to except her part & ego & self sabotage & outside influences hindered what could’ve been.
I broke NC about a week and a half into the break up. I did it to get something off of my chest. I only planned on a 2 minute conversation. He kept me on the phone talking like old times. He let me know he missed and still loved me. I got off the phone and immediately decided on going back NC.
@ritapeters1330 The conversation made me happy but NC started making me feel empowered and I started liking it. I started really paying attention to the videos. I found that NC really works. Even conversations after, I go back to NC. Now we are in a good space and taking things slow.
You really help to enforce the self respect. I really didn't focus alot on it. Now i keep it in the forefront of my mind. I do deserve it. Thanks for the positive guidance. Also that we are a reflection of God. Blessings to you coach for serving Him and guiding His children to the most important love of all. God bless you.😊
I went to court yesterday and finalized our divorce. I was very sad at the hearing, not because I lost her, because I got over her in a romantic sense. But because it's just sad to close the chapter and realize 10 years will never come back. And also she forgot the day we got married... just a punch in the gut. Anyway. I'm not looking to get married again. I don't think im looking for anything. I shared a video on my channel about it if you care to look.
I learned a lot from The coach.. I walked away from my relationship. It was a three year and a half… what hurts I got up walked away grab my stuff drove off.. July 11, 2024… it’s been very rough… it’s like a dagger right in the heart.. she knew what she did.. that’s why she text me back. 20 minutes later…. I never answered back. She text me two days later after that… then a few hours later, never replied… trust me it’s been very rough.. I’ll be going to the gym twice a day six times a week… and I feel great… there are times I get upset.. and there are times when I wanna talk to people about it… I’m gonna stay in my masculine.. I’m gonna stay my purpose…
My ex gf broke up with me after a 7 and a half year relationship by leaving a note on the table breaking up with me. That was 9/12/2023. Haven't physically talked to her since that time. Last time she emailed me was 5/2024. Next day she blocked me on FB. I have been in NC since. She said she's afraid of confrontation, that's why she left the note. I don't see her coming back and apologizing, but maybe I'm wrong. Idk what to think. All's I know is I'm moving forward and taking care of me. Thank you for the video. It just popped up so I watched it. Glad I did!
@@blacademic I’m going to be booking a call with you soon because I feel I’m in a very unique situation with my wife and I haven’t seen anyone address how I should handle this recent revelation, or even if there’s anything I can do to get her back at this point
I understand but we have to do it because there’s no other choice. They have to experience what they wanted to get in the first place. If they were the ones who dumped you, let them experience their life without you. As simple as that. And maybe never get back with them at all. It depends on the situation, but have respect for yourself. Don’t let anyone manipulate you and influence your life.
I wish I had the funds to talk with you about my circumstances. Em ex fiance not only left and ghosted me, she ghosted our housing situation forcing me to put up thousands of dollars :/ I appreciate your videos
2 weeks no contact and saw my ex while driving home from work yesterday. I’m not sure if he saw me but he drove fast past me so maybe he did who cares I didn’t reach out!!
Your videos has helped me to learn more about relationships and I was able to teach my friends and family so thanks for helping out keep up alll the good work
We’ve been “on a break” since 7/12. I’ve literally reached out 1x/week since then EXCEPT this last week and I refuse to do it anymore. I love this man immensely, but what’s next?
I've been in no contact for 3 days, but how do I get ahold of kids without talking to her . I'm thinking of buying them a phone and just calling them straight through.
I was trying no contact the past few days, ill maybe get a text or 2 backnper day and the response would be at least an hour after i sent the message but i have too stand my ground this go around... Cant disrespect myself continuously
We've been in no contact for more than 1,5 months after he dumped me and I think he doesn't regret it. I think he won't reach out at all. However, I don't care
Gf of 3.5 years broke up with me via text. Spent a week trying to work things out. Couldn’t get anywhere She wanted “space for this heaviness to ease” - I sent her a bit long lovey message. Hasn’t been opened or read. That’s was 2 months ago. Haven’t reached out to her since then. Still struggling. A lot more so recently tbh.
I stopped responding to texts as he cheated on me and was telling me how much better she was than me and being disgusting to me. He's unbothered by my no contact so he obviously never cared and 1.5 years was a lie?
@@CarolineBlack-x3qmost people don’t cheat because you are a bad person or did something wrong- they just become attracted to someone else … then they use bogus reasons to dump you and make you feel like you did them bad.
Hey coach, could you please spill the background music you used in the videos? It brings up a lot of old memories of my childhood every time I heard it. Thank you.
He said he doesn't want m anymore, then i kind of begged, told him i have other options, did a lot of things the wrong way but i apologized for everything, i would say i begged for the whole month of July lol. I've been absolutely no contact for two weeks now, but recently 9 days ago he commented on my instagram video "nice words....lots of lessons here" it was a video about taking accountability. i also saw a strange comment on the video i released 4 days ago asking "are you in a relationship" i found it so weird this was a strange account and i almost never get comments on my videos...is he expecting me to reach out? should i?
Do not reach out. He broke it he has to fix it. Don’t do his work for him. Keep your head high and let him come to you then he will value your presence in his life.
@@Millianbabe noooo. These are breadcrumbs of breadcrumbs. (((Hug))) it is so hard I know but absolutely NO contact is the best self-respect move you can make.
I was in a relationship with someone that has abandoned issues and treated her right but she keep pushing me away and I didn't understand why I tried to get her to do couples cousling and and I tried to understand it then she broke up with me and now she act like she doesn't no me we had no problem so us breaking up messed me up what can I do to get her back because I looked and read all I could to show her that I care and won't leave her
Hey why would you want someone that doesn’t want you? She may have all of the abandonment issues she wants. Look at your own issues. Why are you chasing someone that is clearly running away? Issues or now, it takes TWO people that WANT to be here. Hope this helps.
@ourworldfinallyelaine just to let you know that I have been working on me and been doing quite well with things that I have to deal with I just couldn't understand why she couldn't do the same everyday it seemed like she would come up with more things to cuose more problems when we don't need it I really tried to be there for her and and to show that she is loved and cared for but that is still not enough I can truly say that I'm done with her I had to go to zoom court because of her they threw it out be I just can't believe that she toke it this far it's really sad that I need no who I was dealing I promise I will never be put in a relationship like this again it hurts like he'll because it's like living with a stranger damn but I'm glad that it's over but I will never forget it
Could you do a video on avoidents and their mind sets before and after the break up, bc sometimes they can just diguard and not lost attraction I don’t think the fear comes in them I’ve done a lot of research wanted to hear your thoughts
Most “dumpers” are “avoidant” ….they are avoiding painful hard conversations. When therapist talk about loss of attraction, they aren’t talking about physical attraction. They are talking about the dumper losing attraction for the relationship/marriage in general. My husband asked for a divorce through email 😅🤦🏻♀️. Didn’t want the painful tough conversation.
@@CatwalkPurz well avoidants r real I don’t understand the “ they do exist and they’re coming from a place of fear im sorry about your situation some people r shitty some people aren’t it’s like they’re grey areas not everyone that breaks up with you is cruel and maybe not lost attraction I understand a lot of the time they do but with these types they’re self sabotaging bc they don’t think they deserve the person they’re with
@@CatwalkPurz well losing attraction could be different for everyone for one could be personality changing for another how people change once they’re official like everyone has their different experiences
So what if they tell you leave me alone let me gothrough my shit and ill be back....i did....webumped into each other heasked me why i stopped contact i told him of his message he said omg i was drunk dont ever listento me when i send this shit so on wewent and tantrums kepy happening inend hesaid he was leaving and did
So she broke up with me a little over a week ago and I've been feeling nothing but sadness and anger and I'm not sure how to deal with this grief. we've been in no contact for a few days now and she wrote to me the other day to tell me she knows how much I'm in pain and suffering and that she doesn't want me to think that she's doing fine or that she doesn't care just because she took this decision and that she knows it hurts but sometimes its the right decision and that she still cares deeply for me. how am I supposed to message her back??
Hi, first time on your channel. You're right. Everything does happen for a reason. So recently my boyfriend broke up with me. On the same day he came to mount my TV. That was weird 😳 to me. I asked him again before he left, and he confirmed that it was over. Im really not sure what to do. Please help
Hi Blac What if we were talking for only 2 months? Will he still miss me? We met online, never mer but we spoke everyday for 2 months. Then he ghosted because I called him out, respectfully, for being disrespectful
So I’ll start by saying I’m in a much better place than July 2nd . Thats when my x of over 5 years ended things . The longest we’ve went no contact is 17 days and then she started reaching out with breadcrumbs but this past Saturday she reached out saying I miss you alot and I think about you everyday . We texted the rest of the day and she later said I still don’t think It’s a good idea if we talk but I’d like to meet with you in a month or two when we’re both fully healed 🤷. I feel fine and am thinking what’s the wait for. Since she’s reached out already a few times should I just send her a text trying to jumpstart this in person meeting or just continue falling back
How long does it usually take them to crack? I gave her the breakup without begging, I said I was very sad to say the least and just wanted her to be happy. It’s been just over 2 months no contact. I have heard on other channels with women if you do no contact they will just move on and it really only works on men. If they rebounded how long does it take for them to crack and reach out in that scenario? I’m assuming they would be in honeymoon phase for a few months at least and it could prolong it. I am distraught and feel sick from this. It came out of nowhere, she was suffering from depression and wasn’t eating or sleeping much, so I believe that played a role. I have accepted she may never come back, but I think about her everyday and I’m trying to move on best I can. I lost my best friend and my love.
NC works on very body even to those stubborn ones just keep going don't post anything on social about love, remove everything associated with her on your social media don't give any hit of contact of any form to her you will be amazed by the result
Should I approach my ex with removing her name from the lease since she said she don’t want to be there anymore. I’m in the no contact stage even though we have a 2 year old daughter
Coach, it's been two months and still no signs, still blocked, still nothing from mutual friends... Should I move on or try to reach her in some manner?
Keep your self respect and move forward 🙏. If she wants contact she will reach out and then you get to decide if you still want her and the possibility she will put you through this all over again and again and again….
I have been in no contact for 4 weeks. I'm struggling. I have never loved anyone the way I have for my ex. We had been together 8 years. Never living together. He has always had commitment issues. He's been hurt in the past by relationships ending, so he is very guarded. Very much an Avoidant. Anyway, he has a porn addiction, and we never have sex. He can be loving and attentive. But not Sexually. I have told him to stop the porn or it's over. He's been lying to me. I've been on his phone and seen hours and hours of porn history when he's told me he doesn't do it. I don't feel respected. He believes I'm overreacting. But it truly rips me apart that he looks at porn. His mother has messaged me, wishing me all the best. So, he has clearly told people it's over. I don't post on social media, so I can't even see if he's looking at my page. I just want him to stop and realise what he's lost because of his porn use Please coach Blac, can you give me some advice Many thanks x
My ex has got back in touch with me. He has been texting me. Asking about my day etc, but he has said that he just wants a FWB situation, which I have said no to, but he keeps coming back. Why?
If he is not ready for really thing stay away don't act emotional stay calm and start to give him distance I mean reduce your interaction slowly make it appears natural
He said this relationship wont longlast after that i begged to sort out the problem then he avoided me like late replies when i started to stop texting or calling him the next day he texted me formally saying goodmorning and good night middle of the day he will ask me what am doing.This is like confusing for me he calls me every morning to see me bfor going to work this happens when we were in love its been a month first he asked for space then within a month he said this wont workout and im in a state like this while i was questioning about his decision he said even at the worst case i wont come back to you i dont know whether it was bcoz of anger or true ..what to do to get my man back🥺
Thank you for the reply:)) most often reactions related to the IG stories, and an initiative of general conversations, but nothing directly like I miss you or I want you back 😔😕😅
True kinda cos even if they do their ego fills them up so dey never reach out…., I know a part of my ex still wants me with the subs on status but she would never reach out after she unblocked me and I left it that way considering I really begged after the break up
Not even sure I want her back at this point, it's been 2 months. I've gotten sober and started working out, and she's the same if not worse. If she decides she wants me back, she's gonna have to earn it.
@EntheogenShaman Damn right, keep up the good work
Haha Classic ye same
That's basically how it is. But she left you, it can happen again. Don't go back. If you don't have children or properties, move on.
@@timesplit--ter2742right !!! That’s the scary part.
Don't take her back! She's not going to change and you deserve so much better! They aren't worth the repeat hurt and pain they cause us.
Amazing words “It is not your job to convince someone to choose you”
No contact is very tough man. Just wish I would have found this page before I went through the begging phase
Same! But do it now.
You're only Human !! My Brutha !!
Oh, boy!, I agree. 😢
Me too but keep going man
lol it might work out if they love u it will work out, I mean i begged for 3 weeks at one point and i still worked so give it a try, right now though its hard for me again so im doing more no contact but it may work
He did nothing after almost two months😮 not a single message....no effort whatsoever, after so many good things I have done for him. So moving on is the best I can do for myself. No message is also a message, a strong one.
Well, no message is not an answer ... no,
no message may also result from a fear of you rejecting him now
Actually, no message is not a message. That’s just silly talk 😂
I see what you're saying. It's a non-verbal message.
I hope things are going well for you xx
Been in no contact for 5 months. Within that time I have found out who she really is as person and she has also been with 3 different guys since then that I know of. I truly don't think I want her back at all after finding all that out. Also my life has gotten so much better since we broke up I've realized a lot of the stress and issues I was having was because of her and the issues she had going on in her life. I have been doing nothing but working on my self and showing my self the love and respect I deserve. I do think it was a blessing in disguise that we broke up. For those of you who's still waiting to hear back from your ex always remember things happen for a reason, and if it was meant to be it was meant to be. Don't pause your life hoping that you're going to hear from them. Just do you,. When they see that you're happy with out them and doing well that hurts them more than anything. WIsh you all the best!
It’s been a month on my side. We were living together. She cheated, and broke up hiding me the truth, saying that after 8 years of relations, the love was not there anymore. I discovered the truth and informed her that i learnt. It helped me to accept the reality, because i was denying the truth at the beginning and i wanted to remain friend with her. At some point i was angry, and sent her a hard but necessary message to tell her that she was vicious and manipulative and then no contact on my side. For you to know, the girl was already on vacations with her rebound relation, without having moved her stuff from our flat. At some some point she had to pass at home to get some stuffs and to be honest, she acted exactly the way i expected : crying, apologizing, regretting, saying how much i’m the best.. I know that in a way she may have passed the euphoria phase.. and know that she’s in a sort of depressing phase. I was impacted by her speech, but honesty and honour are key for me. I’ll will not come back with her, even if my heart and my fear of being single again are pushing me to do the contrary. I’ll focus on myself rather than blocking on the past, by doing things for myself only (culture, workout, family, friends). At the end this situation is a blessing for me ☪️ 🤲 . Religion is also helping me to move forward as i know that i’m not alone in this situation, and by pushing me in order to move my ass to avoid remaining blocked in sadness ! To conclude, i’ll certainly be stronger in the future, i want to focus on myself and take my time to rebuilt something strong with someone who TRULLY deserves it.
how were you able to find out about the different guys if i make ask?
@@deezydzhshe was still connected on her Facebook account on my own laptop. I saw some conversations with friends of her… Hopefully I saw these messages for my rebuild.
You said you don't "think" so yeah she can still return
@deezydzh the grape vine the grape vine. Just remember, most things heard from the grape vine is just bs, so believe what you hear at your own peril
’The goal is to guide you back to yourself’. Love it. Selfworth ✌️
I just recently found your reels which have been very profound. It's not your responsibility to convince someone to choose you. I love this line.
I want him to remember the love we shared and the plans & promises we made. I want him to be fully ready for this step of faith in this journey. If he doesn't come back, then he wasn't the one for me.
NC can be challenging but so necessary and when you come out on the other side you ll feel so much better..Keep healing
It works the no contact he keeps contacting me but I haven’t answered him and I won’t go back ,once you hurt me I am done ,the sad part is they think they played you but really they only played themselves out of good and decent person
Hey Coach! 👋 I think what is meant to be yours will run toward you. Not away from you. Have a great weekend. ☺️
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I am starting to think the No Contact.....is really for ourselves....after going through the struggle and processes counting the days we been ignoring them.... eventually we get distracted of learning how to live without them being there and then we forget to count the days....we r sleeping in peace and laughing again....WE R HEALING ...🤍🕊️👍🏼
Just wanna shout you out coach because my heart doesn’t care whether my ex comes back or not. I remember when this channel had around 500 subscribers and you’ve helped me a lot. I’m positive it will keep doing the same for other. Thank you
Just came here to say that I watched your videos before I initiated a break up with my ex. He was making me feel like I wasn’t important to him and that losing me wouldn’t be a big deal. So I went full no contact for 6 months. He would watch my social media and reach out to congratulate me on milestones but I didn’t give much reaction. Earlier this week he called and expressed how much he has missed me, how he regrets taking me for granted and not realizing how much value I added to his life. So now he’s coming in town and we have a date on Saturday 😊 this 👌🏽 close to having my man back lol
I’ve always thought he was a great guy and from the beginning I knew he was the one but you know how with some men it takes them a little longer to see it. I’m so glad I listened to your advice and hopefully this time we stay together for good lol
So happy for you, my ex girlfriend turned round and told me around 3weeks ago that the love has faded and she doesn’t know if she wants to be with me anymore, she decided to take a break at her mothers and move from our home as she wants to be alone for a while as I work a lot and we have a kid and dog together so everything was getting to much for her and she didn’t feel happy being with me. Today I asked if she knows how she feels and said right now she definitely doesn’t want to be with me but things could work in the future as she still loves and cares about me she just feels like right now she wants to be alone for a while and not the fact she doesn’t love me, We’ve tried doing no contact for a while and see if she misses me etc. but I don’t know how to do no contact when you have a daughter together lol.
In month 4 of no contact. Just yesterday, she liked my Instagram post. Hah! Satan be gone! I ain't falling for that bait! YOUR FREE TRIAL IS UP!
My ex broke contact yesterday after almost 7 months. It was hard for the first 5 months and it took a lot of strength to not message, not watch stories, or try to keep up with what she was doing.
In that time, I lost a ton of weight, built a business, and went on a few casual dates.
Our initial convo was super casual and I asked her out and she said she was busy so I ended the convo as recommended. Thank you coach! Your content helped me through some of those tougher times 💯💯💯
The way I wait for your videos... It’s unhealthy 😂
Haha thanks for watching! 🙏
Oh me too and I just found the videos.
My no contact is forever. I’m never getting back with any of my exes…ever.
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
he is Owen Abiola, he has great powers, he can help you.
His name is Owen Abiola, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information,i just looked her up now online. impressive
guys they do come back. my avoidant ex came back almost 6 months after he broke up with me. i did no contact.
Congrats but just remember them reaching out is only the first step. Be reserved and let them know they have to earn you back.
No contact works but it takes time
Days , months , sometimes years…. It’s a gamble. Life is too short to waste time on someone who’s unsure about you.
@@PhenomenalwomanAllenI agree 💯 you have to move on despite all the hurt
@@ritapeters1330 it’s been since July 11, 2024 and September 2, 2024. It’s been rough no contact…. I wonder what she’s thinking?
@franklujan8304
shehe might not be thinking anything, that is the problem with them, just move on and stay no contact until she reaches out
@ritapeters1330 hi Rita, my wife and I had broken up in March 2022 of 19 years after I found out she had cheated on me, now, I haven't been a Saint either, yes I have cheated before we got married in 2005 before we actually tide the knot in 2006. Throughout the years, we've had many ups and downs as any regular relationship would, especially due to social media. Fast forward to 2019, she found out I had an affair because of the lack of attention and acknowledgment she wasn't giving me since 2017. In 2021, still under Covid, I found out she had an affair since 2017, way before she found out about mine. Since the breakup of 2022, I had moved out, and I did the no contact for a few months and she reached out, we went on dates, she would sleep over, and sometimes be intimate. In June of 2023, we went to Cancun as a couple in my eyes, even though, I never set the title, she did, but I was still skeptical of committing. During the breakup in April of 2023, I accidentally got someone pregnant, where I was freaking out, not knowing what to do or say. Twins were born, I confessed, she was mad, then later understood that we weren't together when this happened, she then later claimed to accept that the twins would be there as she wanted to fix the relationship. Fast forward to now, we would go on dates, either to the movies, dinner, drinks, and sometimes sleep over again, I started catching feelings for her again, and when she would ask me what are we, I would say, "I'm not sure as I still don't trust you" a month later she claims to have potentials, which is why I couldn't trust her as I already knew someone is entertaining her. As of August she confessed to having a boyfriend and doesn't want to fix things with me as this new guy treats her better according to her. She claims she doesn't want to hurt him but still is in contact with me, no we're not doing anything, but she still texts often and calls here and then, why? Why does she still in contact with me if she's in a new relationship.
In times of hardship make strong men.
soo my ex left me 6 months ago, jumped into a re bound relationship. now he's emailing me asking to see me and asking how I am. I think he realized I was the one who truly loved him. sucks for him. I've moved on.
My only concern about no contact is that maybe she's also applying the same tactic and we both remain steadfast and we never find each other again despite actually wanting to be together.
the dumper is the one who needs to reach out
@@HenrijsKalinsif both parties are in no contact zone. How does one reach out? This is the question being posed. If you block me and I block you. How do either of us get in touch?
Nice. But ignoring it isn't really an easy thing to do. It has to be done right. Telling you about it in my place, by the way.
Tips on doing it right?
No contact is such a journey. I read these comments and I feel uplifted when people find resolve whether that be getting their ex back or moving on the mother of my twin boys two years old is my ex now that seems so weird. When will that not we’ve been broken up for two months She got into a relationship with a guy the day before we broke up. He basically lives at my house now I want my family back. I don’t want 5% of the time 50% of the time I will settle for nothing but 100% of the time With my family, my whole family and when I get that back, I’ll come back to this comment and thank you Coach Black for all the advice you’ve given me. This rebound seems to be a match of the ages, but I know what me and her went through. We had our twins in the car. I’m sitting in right now, we didn’t make it to the hospital. Our youngest was purple when he came out of my ex the paramedics life into his purple body. That’s something neither of us will ever forget no thing or person or feelings can keep us away for too long. I need to do a one on one with you, Coach.
Thank you for these video they are big eye opener for us women. We need to hear these words over and over again until we get it.
I felt the greatest and deepest love for him ever ..he is ghosting me now 7th week ..I do not want him back, he hurt me too much, I am struggling 😢 thanks for your videos Coach Blac ❤ very great help and comforting me
You're good at this sir thanks your getting me through this. I'm going to be stronger and a better man
Wishing you well bro! It will all work out
To all my fallen brothers, lets play games together! Lets go through this together. Im on PS5 so reply if u wanna spend some time together
What are u playing lol
@blacademic4 da faq 😂😂😂 bro just go shush
I’m on ps5 too and down to play some games
@@missbrandylicious sure, you can add me: fenixa21_and
What's your PSN
Almost two months since my ex blocked me. Hard bcuz I became attached to her kids & w/ school starting and summer growth I miss them. My new reality has been difficult but I can do no more. She unwilling to except her part & ego & self sabotage & outside influences hindered what could’ve been.
@JP.Ladybug only talk about the kids and keep it strictly professional. She has to make the move
I broke NC about a week and a half into the break up. I did it to get something off of my chest. I only planned on a 2 minute conversation. He kept me on the phone talking like old times. He let me know he missed and still loved me. I got off the phone and immediately decided on going back NC.
What did you make you go back to no contact? Didn't the conversation with him make you happy?
@ritapeters1330 The conversation made me happy but NC started making me feel empowered and I started liking it. I started really paying attention to the videos. I found that NC really works. Even conversations after, I go back to NC. Now we are in a good space and taking things slow.
You really help to enforce the self respect. I really didn't focus alot on it. Now i keep it in the forefront of my mind. I do deserve it. Thanks for the positive guidance. Also that we are a reflection of God. Blessings to you coach for serving Him and guiding His children to the most important love of all. God bless you.😊
I went to court yesterday and finalized our divorce. I was very sad at the hearing, not because I lost her, because I got over her in a romantic sense. But because it's just sad to close the chapter and realize 10 years will never come back. And also she forgot the day we got married... just a punch in the gut. Anyway. I'm not looking to get married again. I don't think im looking for anything. I shared a video on my channel about it if you care to look.
I learned a lot from The coach.. I walked away from my relationship. It was a three year and a half… what hurts I got up walked away grab my stuff drove off.. July 11, 2024… it’s been very rough… it’s like a dagger right in the heart.. she knew what she did.. that’s why she text me back. 20 minutes later…. I never answered back. She text me two days later after that… then a few hours later, never replied… trust me it’s been very rough.. I’ll be going to the gym twice a day six times a week… and I feel great… there are times I get upset.. and there are times when I wanna talk to people about it… I’m gonna stay in my masculine.. I’m gonna stay my purpose…
My ex gf broke up with me after a 7 and a half year relationship by leaving a note on the table breaking up with me. That was 9/12/2023. Haven't physically talked to her since that time. Last time she emailed me was 5/2024. Next day she blocked me on FB. I have been in NC since. She said she's afraid of confrontation, that's why she left the note. I don't see her coming back and apologizing, but maybe I'm wrong. Idk what to think. All's I know is I'm moving forward and taking care of me. Thank you for the video. It just popped up so I watched it. Glad I did!
It’s been 2 months and it hasn’t gotten any easier. Staying strong and trusting the process 🙏🏻
Love your videos. They’ve been very insightful. Thank you for doing what you do, it definitely helps.
Thanks for watching! 🙏
@@blacademic I’m going to be booking a call with you soon because I feel I’m in a very unique situation with my wife and I haven’t seen anyone address how I should handle this recent revelation, or even if there’s anything I can do to get her back at this point
I was dumped 4 months before our wedding...😢
I just found your videos. I love how you keep it straightforward. And not alot of fluff. I definitely plan on a 1 on 1 soon.
I can’t believe I have to ignore someone. I’m not an ignoring ghosting person at all 😩😩😩
I understand but we have to do it because there’s no other choice. They have to experience what they wanted to get in the first place. If they were the ones who dumped you, let them experience their life without you. As simple as that. And maybe never get back with them at all. It depends on the situation, but have respect for yourself. Don’t let anyone manipulate you and influence your life.
I wish I had the funds to talk with you about my circumstances. Em ex fiance not only left and ghosted me, she ghosted our housing situation forcing me to put up thousands of dollars :/ I appreciate your videos
2 weeks no contact and saw my ex while driving home from work yesterday. I’m not sure if he saw me but he drove fast past me so maybe he did who cares I didn’t reach out!!
Thanks
Your advice has helped me so much. Thank you 🙏
I’m glad you are finding the videos helpful. Keep pushing forward bro
Please fo a video on online dating and dating for only a short period of time and how the no contact will or will not work in that context
Your videos has helped me to learn more about relationships and I was able to teach my friends and family so thanks for helping out keep up alll the good work
No contact is working..its true but im moving on ..the fact that i love someone else now and i wouldnt go back 😌
We’ve been “on a break” since 7/12.
I’ve literally reached out 1x/week since then EXCEPT this last week and I refuse to do it anymore.
I love this man immensely, but what’s next?
love has to be patient. if they still have feelings wait. have a talk later. inna same situation except it was onna 16th of July
He just wanted to hit 1 more time
2yrs and broke no contact multiple times and still holding on to feelings
I've been in no contact for 3 days, but how do I get ahold of kids without talking to her . I'm thinking of buying them a phone and just calling them straight through.
The third video ever done on this channel deals with that topic specifically
Day 13 no contact.
Day 20 it gets better
@@missingfiles4119 update?
❤Thank you and God bless you ❤️
God bless you my friend
I realised that Im an Avoidant from NC.
Im now healing and processing just to get through the storm of the BU.
Video definitely popped up. Haven’t seen your content in weeks ❤ and it has 777 likes when I initially opened it. 😊
Good looking coach ur pod casts have helped tremendously
I was trying no contact the past few days, ill maybe get a text or 2 backnper day and the response would be at least an hour after i sent the message but i have too stand my ground this go around... Cant disrespect myself continuously
Texting back and forth is not “no-contact” (((hug))) I know it is hard but it’s worth it to have self respect (which no contact reflects)
The self worth is where most struggle that's why allow this kind of behaviour. So how about a video on how to develop self worth.
@blacademic4 sure whats your email
@blacademic4 Email?
Please make a video about a stubborn ex, I plan on booking a call with you soon.. my stubborn ex came back last week on the 6th and left..
Every single one of the videos in this channel are about a “stubborn ex”. They are ALLL stubborn and refuse to work on the relationship.
@@CatwalkPurzabout my specific situation he doesn’t.. she just came back last week after months apart and left again
No contact works I have a year separated he will no comeback
We've been in no contact for more than 1,5 months after he dumped me and I think he doesn't regret it. I think he won't reach out at all. However, I don't care
Gf of 3.5 years broke up with me via text.
Spent a week trying to work things out. Couldn’t get anywhere She wanted “space for this heaviness to ease” - I sent her a bit long lovey message.
Hasn’t been opened or read.
That’s was 2 months ago.
Haven’t reached out to her since then.
Still struggling. A lot more so recently tbh.
Stay strong
I cut my ex off cold turkey...day 6 today..
So true coach black thanks
Awesome!
I stopped responding to texts as he cheated on me and was telling me how much better she was than me and being disgusting to me. He's unbothered by my no contact so he obviously never cared and 1.5 years was a lie?
Wow
You must have pushed him far away for him to be in that stage of obnoxiousness.
@@swiftnofiono I just asked why he cheated on me? I've only ever been nice why is it my fault?
He's a narcissist it's what they do say nasty things to hurt
@@CarolineBlack-x3q
Stay strong my dear, Give it some time!
@@CarolineBlack-x3qmost people don’t cheat because you are a bad person or did something wrong- they just become attracted to someone else … then they use bogus reasons to dump you and make you feel like you did them bad.
U know when no contact is working is when u have been "unblocked" from their phone
What does it mean if he' s ghosting 7 wks. now, but never blocked you?
I stay no contact
But I am struggling
@@babyluvjr grow up!
@@ritapeters1330 It means you should move on!
What about if you're going no contact and your ex texts you with a legitimate question?
Hey coach, could you please spill the background music you used in the videos? It brings up a lot of old memories of my childhood every time I heard it. Thank you.
He said he doesn't want m anymore, then i kind of begged, told him i have other options, did a lot of things the wrong way but i apologized for everything, i would say i begged for the whole month of July lol. I've been absolutely no contact for two weeks now, but recently 9 days ago he commented on my instagram video "nice words....lots of lessons here" it was a video about taking accountability. i also saw a strange comment on the video i released 4 days ago asking "are you in a relationship" i found it so weird this was a strange account and i almost never get comments on my videos...is he expecting me to reach out? should i?
Do not reach out. He broke it he has to fix it. Don’t do his work for him. Keep your head high and let him come to you then he will value your presence in his life.
No let him fix what he broke....let him came first and be polite but not very insusiastic cos you don't really know his true intentions
@@Millianbabe noooo. These are breadcrumbs of breadcrumbs. (((Hug))) it is so hard I know but absolutely NO contact is the best self-respect move you can make.
I was in a relationship with someone that has abandoned issues and treated her right but she keep pushing me away and I didn't understand why I tried to get her to do couples cousling and and I tried to understand it then she broke up with me and now she act like she doesn't no me we had no problem so us breaking up messed me up what can I do to get her back because I looked and read all I could to show her that I care and won't leave her
Hey why would you want someone that doesn’t want you? She may have all of the abandonment issues she wants. Look at your own issues. Why are you chasing someone that is clearly running away? Issues or now, it takes TWO people that WANT to be here. Hope this helps.
@ourworldfinallyelaine just to let you know that I have been working on me and been doing quite well with things that I have to deal with I just couldn't understand why she couldn't do the same everyday it seemed like she would come up with more things to cuose more problems when we don't need it I really tried to be there for her and and to show that she is loved and cared for but that is still not enough I can truly say that I'm done with her I had to go to zoom court because of her they threw it out be I just can't believe that she toke it this far it's really sad that I need no who I was dealing I promise I will never be put in a relationship like this again it hurts like he'll because it's like living with a stranger damn but I'm glad that it's over but I will never forget it
I would like to know what video my ex is watching or has watched to put me in this position of abandonment
Could you do a video on avoidents and their mind sets before and after the break up, bc sometimes they can just diguard and not lost attraction I don’t think the fear comes in them I’ve done a lot of research wanted to hear your thoughts
Most “dumpers” are “avoidant” ….they are avoiding painful hard conversations. When therapist talk about loss of attraction, they aren’t talking about physical attraction. They are talking about the dumper losing attraction for the relationship/marriage in general. My husband asked for a divorce through email 😅🤦🏻♀️. Didn’t want the painful tough conversation.
@@CatwalkPurz well avoidants r real I don’t understand the “ they do exist and they’re coming from a place of fear im sorry about your situation some people r shitty some people aren’t it’s like they’re grey areas not everyone that breaks up with you is cruel and maybe not lost attraction I understand a lot of the time they do but with these types they’re self sabotaging bc they don’t think they deserve the person they’re with
@@CatwalkPurz well losing attraction could be different for everyone for one could be personality changing for another how people change once they’re official like everyone has their different experiences
@@ge0rgialiv yeah but either way: “Maturity is when you don’t force people to choose you.” You can’t control their choices.
@@CatwalkPurz you can’t force anyone to choose you or do anything I agree with that we all have free will
No point of contact works most times
So what if they tell you leave me alone let me gothrough my shit and ill be back....i did....webumped into each other heasked me why i stopped contact i told him of his message he said omg i was drunk dont ever listento me when i send this shit so on wewent and tantrums kepy happening inend hesaid he was leaving and did
Idk how to tell I deleted all my social medias.
He got offended because i said i wanted to get him coffee...he baked me muffins...petty so im not contacting him
How long did it take of no contact for the woman to get the visit from her ex?
When are you going live again?
So she broke up with me a little over a week ago and I've been feeling nothing but sadness and anger and I'm not sure how to deal with this grief. we've been in no contact for a few days now and she wrote to me the other day to tell me she knows how much I'm in pain and suffering and that she doesn't want me to think that she's doing fine or that she doesn't care just because she took this decision and that she knows it hurts but sometimes its the right decision and that she still cares deeply for me. how am I supposed to message her back??
any update?
Hi, first time on your channel. You're right. Everything does happen for a reason. So recently my boyfriend broke up with me. On the same day he came to mount my TV. That was weird 😳 to me. I asked him again before he left, and he confirmed that it was over. Im really not sure what to do. Please help
Hi Blac
What if we were talking for only 2 months? Will he still miss me? We met online, never mer but we spoke everyday for 2 months. Then he ghosted because I called him out, respectfully, for being disrespectful
@blacademic4
But how? I'm based in Nigeria. How can I make a payment and I don't have a dollar card so no way for me to do a transfer?
Hi blac. Did you text me a number to reach you on? If so, what time would be a good time?
Here's a question for you coach blac.. does no contact work on a narcissist serial dater🤔
Why do you even want a person like that ? No contact is to move on and become strong. Please don't do this to yourself.
Broke no contact yesterday..😫😫 the 23rd of this month will make it 6months we broken up
What made you do that?
Why did you do that
What was the result!
@@edinapolyak4802 my emotions took over that day 🤦♂️
@@rosalindavalenza1393 no answer 🤦♂️
How do i reach out to you to ask a question?
So I’ll start by saying I’m in a much better place than July 2nd . Thats when my x of over 5 years ended things . The longest we’ve went no contact is 17 days and then she started reaching out with breadcrumbs but this past Saturday she reached out saying I miss you alot and I think about you everyday . We texted the rest of the day and she later said I still don’t think It’s a good idea if we talk but I’d like to meet with you in a month or two when we’re both fully healed 🤷. I feel fine and am thinking what’s the wait for. Since she’s reached out already a few times should I just send her a text trying to jumpstart this in person meeting or just continue falling back
How long does it usually take them to crack? I gave her the breakup without begging, I said I was very sad to say the least and just wanted her to be happy. It’s been just over 2 months no contact. I have heard on other channels with women if you do no contact they will just move on and it really only works on men. If they rebounded how long does it take for them to crack and reach out in that scenario? I’m assuming they would be in honeymoon phase for a few months at least and it could prolong it. I am distraught and feel sick from this. It came out of nowhere, she was suffering from depression and wasn’t eating or sleeping much, so I believe that played a role. I have accepted she may never come back, but I think about her everyday and I’m trying to move on best I can. I lost my best friend and my love.
NC works on very body even to those stubborn ones just keep going don't post anything on social about love, remove everything associated with her on your social media don't give any hit of contact of any form to her you will be amazed by the result
If my ex says they need time to process. If I wait 30 days of nc, can I reach out to my ex to check in and see if they are doing ok?
No don't do that they broke up with you let them initiate
Should I approach my ex with removing her name from the lease since she said she don’t want to be there anymore. I’m in the no contact stage even though we have a 2 year old daughter
Trying too hard, no contact means no contact
@@blacademicshe’s back your page really helped
So what was the critical sign..? Just the fact that he returned?
If you watch the whole video the answer is clearly stated.
Coach, it's been two months and still no signs, still blocked, still nothing from mutual friends... Should I move on or try to reach her in some manner?
Keep your self respect and move forward 🙏. If she wants contact she will reach out and then you get to decide if you still want her and the possibility she will put you through this all over again and again and again….
@@CatwalkPurz I was thinking about this, thanks! It'll be tough but I've no other options...
@@S3rpetv (((hug))) it is so hard but “Maturity is when you don’t force people to choose you.” You can’t control their choices.
I have been in no contact for 4 weeks. I'm struggling. I have never loved anyone the way I have for my ex.
We had been together 8 years. Never living together.
He has always had commitment issues. He's been hurt in the past by relationships ending, so he is very guarded. Very much an Avoidant.
Anyway, he has a porn addiction, and we never have sex. He can be loving and attentive. But not Sexually.
I have told him to stop the porn or it's over. He's been lying to me. I've been on his phone and seen hours and hours of porn history when he's told me he doesn't do it.
I don't feel respected. He believes I'm overreacting. But it truly rips me apart that he looks at porn.
His mother has messaged me, wishing me all the best. So, he has clearly told people it's over.
I don't post on social media, so I can't even see if he's looking at my page.
I just want him to stop and realise what he's lost because of his porn use
Please coach Blac, can you give me some advice
Many thanks x
My ex has got back in touch with me. He has been texting me. Asking about my day etc, but he has said that he just wants a FWB situation, which I have said no to, but he keeps coming back. Why?
If he is not ready for really thing stay away don't act emotional stay calm and start to give him distance I mean reduce your interaction slowly make it appears natural
He said this relationship wont longlast after that i begged to sort out the problem then he avoided me like late replies when i started to stop texting or calling him the next day he texted me formally saying goodmorning and good night middle of the day he will ask me what am doing.This is like confusing for me he calls me every morning to see me bfor going to work this happens when we were in love its been a month first he asked for space then within a month he said this wont workout and im in a state like this while i was questioning about his decision he said even at the worst case i wont come back to you i dont know whether it was bcoz of anger or true ..what to do to get my man back🥺
For now do nothing don't beg don't bother him at all it look akward for me to say that but that is the only way you will get your man back
Do you answer heartfelt instagram videos to your inbox ?
I just want my baby back this shit hurts. I truly want to marry this woman God help me
Trust the lord you will marry her
@@cliffdenis144 thank you sir I really appreciate you for this
Same bro been 2 weeks when she broke up with me
My ex is constantly replying to my IG storiess. Would be right to ignore him?
Depends on what he is saying but sounds like breadcrumbs, safer to just ignore
Thank you for the reply:)) most often reactions related to the IG stories, and an initiative of general conversations, but nothing directly like I miss you or I want you back 😔😕😅
Guys could regret it. Girls 100% don't.
True kinda cos even if they do their ego fills them up so dey never reach out…., I know a part of my ex still wants me with the subs on status but she would never reach out after she unblocked me and I left it that way considering I really begged after the break up