This is WHY Some EXs WILL NEVER Come Back: The 3 DEADLY Sins to AVOID During NO CONTACT
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If you do no contact properly, you won't want your ex back when they finally come around..
Love that. Do you have any personal experience in this? How did you do no contact properly? Would love to know
No contact is meant to help you find yourself. If your ex comes back or not that’s up to them but you’ve got to find yourself.
Exactly !
That's for sure though it is easier said than done. Each day we make a stride towards the right direction.
very simple and meaningful comment
So hard to do but it's been a year and a few months since I spoke to him.
He just approached me at work a week ago but I ignored him as if he's no longer living.
Love is a f***ed up thing sometimes, you know the person isn't right for you but you'd do anything to get them back. 😢
I feel like they come back once you are 100 percent over them ! 😂
Definitely how it works for me
this happens to me all the time and I hate it 😭 LIKE WHY CANT PEOPLE APPRECIATE ME WHEN IM IN THEIR LIFE?!?!!!!
ALWAYS
That’s exactly how it worked. I was well on the way to moving on and here came the I miss you text. After meeting up and going out a couple of times, I’m leaning towards getting back together.
@@nanyasanders1022because you don’t know what you got til it’s gone.
They are your Ex coz they DO. NOT. LOVE. YOU. Move on to someone better, worthy & deserving of you🙏🏻
This is why people are failing at marriage … cause people are too scarred to work things out so they breakup or run and others are too hurt to forgive
@@xxxenaaa1993 it does take 2 people to fix things.
Just found out my ex has been chasing his ex while we met yesterday and he cried and said I love you to me😮. He declared directly that he is single and want to meet dan of course sex with her... OMG. What a night, don't want him back and for me he is dead.
@@fennyfenny3579 How horrible for him to feel so entitled that he play with your emotions like that! Better to know, though, instead of feeling like you and he are in a limbo stage. ((((BIG CONSOLING HUG))))
im sorry you had to go through that however I can’t wait for you to find the person that really deserves you❤️
The right relationship isnt brittle... just accept and move on.
relationships are complex, nothing is absolute
@@TyB-BT if a relationship becomes complex you should ask yourself is it worth it to get drained and exhausted?
Yeah it shouldn’t be this hard unless there are exceptional circumstances.
Exactly if they loved you they wouldn't behave this way
relationships are not meant to be easy. There has to be ups and downs for there to be improvement for the better
When you finally get the place and not caring if your ex ever comes back or a thought about them, it’s a beautiful thing. To a point where idk why I’m still subscribed to this channel but thank you coach for helping me through my breakup
This is fax the point of no contact is to better yourself who cares what ur ex is doing give them what they want even if they end up with someone else after the break up it’s gonna hurt but this is where you’ll be tested don’t let it define you instead bury yourself in stuff weather that’s work or school get hungry for something if you don’t have a job go out there and look if you don’t have your drivers license get it let this motivate you and if they come back do what you thinks best just get it done!
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Good luck to you brother! That’s the mindset you need to have 🙏
4 months long,I was full in pain and her attitude was so merciless after 11 years of marriage, whatever happened but happened and today I am totally different to yesterday and before, I don't care,I don't want her back at all,I tried to contact and all she refused and still today she thought the game was still going on, I broke her down today,she didn't answer my messages hours long as she always did lately, always trying her best to answer late and make me stay in tears bla bla, it is now me,who is not even answering her last messages and i don't care,i don't want her,i dont need anybody loves me, lately when i was crying and trying to fix things,she was even ignoring me with very disrespectful attitudes and acting as i am under her feet and she is on clouds,today i told her,i dont want no argument,I don't even want to talk about us, because there is no us,simple,there is you and me, if you like you can see me under your feet or if you want on cloud,the value you give me is your own value,just remember it I said, this is the trick guys, the value they give you is their own value. See it that way and be happy!
Did she ever try to come back?
Wanting a ex back is like drinking a sweet poison, it tastes good and feels right but it’s killing u bc the person is no good for u. 😢 speaking from experience.
Always give a second chance, after that you see the real them after NC for a couple weeks or months
What if the person was good for you. What if the relationship wasn’t toxic one single bit and everything seemed perfect
Needed this as I’m trying to break up
Having an EX is so dangerous nowadays, I know it hurts, but people gotta leave people alone. Let them live their lives!
I've been NC for only five weeks and my feelings have completely changed. You only have to tell me one time how you don't want me. I'm looking forward to moving on now. NC is a great way to get perspective and get free of the emotional traps.
Exactly? My ex was acting hard telling me he doesn’t want me anymore and that’s all I needed to know. I dont want anyone that doesn’t want me.
You guys are strong! respect! best attitude there is ✌🏻
I have been listening to your videos after a breakup. I went no contact and followed what you said and now me and my ex are working things out. Thank you for your great information and advise.
how long you want in no contact?
My ex girlfriend s new girlfriend is jealous of me . She has stalked and harassed me. I havecgotten a protective order and charges are being filed. I just started no contact again with my ex again. Everything is crazy.
can i ask how long u were in NC?
Because they were playing you to begin with? Did not care about you? Were a narcissist and discarded you? Are a fearful avoidant and scared? Are a dismissive avoidant and have gone cold and deactivated ? My gosh modern relationships are difficult to navigate.
Hate to say it, but I hope my ex comes back
Me to😅
And they will keep speaking it into existence (laws of attraction) and I guarantee they’ll come back) even if it’s not as a partner….. but a whole new person
@@pallana3701thank you
Me too
You have to be willing to lose them no matter how much it hurts
Having a kid together definitely changes the game and I hate it.
because you can't really do No Contact right?
I’m still doing no contact! That person is doing what they have to do for them do what’s best for you until you are healed. It’s won’t be forever
0:01 seriously! That’s my situation right now. I believe a separation was very much needed but I still want us back as better people. Especially for our child. But I’m trying my best to do NC while co parenting too. Thank god for our parents. I let them exchange our kid. He’s not seeing me or hearing from me unless it’s about our son! Period.
Same here. My baby daddy is so avoidant he left us so sudden with another woman. It hurts alot that they have been together for 3 years now. Honestly I really need someone to talk been very depressed this days after seeing then together.
@@missgoodvibes8912wow 🙏🏾
My ex blindsided me with a breakup in July & I started NC the day after he ended things. I still miss him & love him, but I'm never reaching out to him. I'm so glad I never begged him not to leave. So glad I didn't degrade myself. I'd love it if he reached out to talk, but I'm sure he never will. Since July I've been in therapy & have really been on a healing journey. I've learned so much about myself & have changed a bit for the better.
Has he still not reached out?
I hope your ok💖💖
That’s a good thing I hope she never ever comes back. I wish she had left me sooner. My life have improved big time every since she has left.
As an average looking, overweight woman, I experience men ALWAYS coming back. I just recently (maybe in the past 18 months) began studying what to do when they DO come back so that I get what I want (apology, marriage, etc.). I would have said 80% of the time before studying, now it's closer to 85% because I'm better at ignoring them and that makes them chase more.
I honestly think that it's because I'm not considered "beautiful" by society's standards. So men think that I'll be easily accessible and available because they falsely think that no other men are interested. Then when I reject their advances, they become confused and sometimes angry. It deflates their ego to think that they could lose a "5" so they jump through all kinds of hoops trying to avoid the blow to their ego. For this reason, I still feel dissatisfied because it's not true attraction. Yes, the attraction improves and so does the treatment but the attraction hasn't been strong enough to lead to marriage.
Your approach and analysis sound really interesting! Maybe you are way to smart for many potential partners out there, too? Wish you all the best!! 😊
I honestly feel like it would be easier for me if he didn’t come back. I don’t want the false hope and I don’t want that feeling of nervousness if he were to reach out. I just want peace so I can focus on my growth and becoming a better person.
Just block him so he has zero chance
This is just little thank you for helping me go through issues with myself after a breakup
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Nice moves!
My ex fiancé did end up coming back, I made alot of big mistakes in the relationship and I was the reason for the break up. I was in no contact and was starting to forget about her, when she started calling me in the middle of the night crying, I would answer letting her know there was nobody else in my bed, and we would talk for hours. It's gonna be a long road back to the way it was, and her family doesn't want to see me? Day by day one step at a time, heart break is emotion that can ruin your life, work on yourself to be a version of you, and they will reach out if you still want them back.
Beta male maneuvers bro
May I ask you how it went?
@apocalypse1180 well in the end after everything I did for the relationship to try to save it she ended up standing me up on new years eve couldn't get a hold of her and I gave up, been in no contact ever since and moved on with my life, sometimes you have to let go, as much as it hurts you have to walk away and find someone who puts in as much effort as you do.
@@daverobbins1579 I feel like at least you did all that you could, and won't have to live with the "what if...". Wish you the best buddy
It really shouldn't be that complicated, if it is, just go through your pain and keep it moving.
Something I love about this channel is that he doesn’t talk down on men or women for how they feel and actually validates that your feelings are strong and understood without being gender specific, this page has helped me through some tough days so far, going on for a month now without contact
the avoidant doesn't even want to have needs,
and they certainly don't want you meeting them...
because then that would mean that they're relying on you,
and that's one of their worst fears!
I have to say that you’re one of the most articulate coach I have seen on the net
The saddest part about the way things are today is you have to play a game to have a relationship and if you have to do that is it worth it?? I say no!! Why can't just being yourself be enough unfortunately these days it is not like I said they don't make them like they used to whether it is a man or woman it doesn't matter being yourself is no longer sufficient
So damn true dating in this generation absolutely sucks and its such a tragedy thag what our generation has come into
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I agrée, everything’s a game in this generation
Sucks big time bro, shit is torture
i fell for someone who i thought was the one. after 7 months he couldn't decide if he wanted to even be exclusive with me so i'm a fool. but either way, these videos are helping me understand what i've done wrong and hopefully will help me to grow into the kind of person that will attract what i deserve. "my thoughts are strong seeds, my mind a fertile field. like water, i am change. whatever i desire, my crop will yield".
I Just had 2 great days of talking to my ex after watching a Few of your videos bro. I actually feel like I gained some respect back, a lot actually, and maintained my stance on what I won’t tolerate from her.. I’m reading now I’m in a great space for myself.. and communicating my thoughts better..
One thing that you showcase greatly is a calm and confident demeanor.. be a thinker when you speak to your woman at all times, no matter the situation or scenario.. Will buy something from the channel soon
I did NO CONTACT and seeing how this plays out. Who makes the first move really is a tough call since all relationships have a different set of circumstances
How’d it go??
@@JFISH222 it worked i actually reached out to her after going no contact and we will start getting back where we left off
@@MikeHalleyhow long no contact ?
@@ProdByXorak 3 months
I blocked my ex. Took awhile but these videos definitely help
Are you the dumper or the dumped? What is the reason for blocking ?
Married for 5 years. Then he cheated. I just want to move on. Your videos are very helpful thank you!
Just be you❤ I say love heals the hardest heart and put God first ❤
Thank you!! everything you’ve ever said is spot on she lost attraction she thought she was higher in the food chain after the break up from my neediness no doubt. so when I stumbled across your videos I went no contact followed your steps level up in my own life in all aspects it wasn’t easy I must say but I always knew who I was and it was just a matter of getting that back. it took me at least 6 months till I started realising those changes and hitting my goals she recently reached out after seeing the growth (I used socials to flaunt it all) we have arranged a meet up as I am still curious. Ultimately if it’s meant to be it will be I’m not going to force anything and if it doesn’t workout I’ve filled my life with abundance I won’t care I’ll keep doing me with/or without her thank you coach I hope to run into you one day!!!!!
How long did it took her to reach out?
Love your content! Going through a break up now it’s been two months NC feeling better every day. Following on your passions makes it a little easier. Take it one day at a time.
Every time I see a video of you, I am learning new things. Not only to get an ex back, even more to keep a good relationship! And you are so enjoyable to watch to.
By the way, it is so satisfying to read al those reactions under all those no contact videos from different coaches that people wrote that it work and that they are back on track and that they are building again there relation.
It's amazing, it allows you to trust the process
Stay strong and know that you are worthy and deserving of love and to be loved. Sometimes we learn in life that people can be good to you but doesn’t mean they are good for you. Or they were there in your life for a reason to prepare you for a better or greater love. Continue to surround yourself with positive people and support systems. God bless you all!
Yep, its been 2 and a half of months in no contact and after seeing this video I better prepare to never see her again cuz I made all these mistakes before i went in no contact. Its a heartbreaking reality 💔
Same
What were the the wrong things?
@hardkorrekords6687 I've been doing all good. I've had time to actually process the entire breakup and yes I've made mistakes, I didn't trust her, I didn't feel safe around her anymore, and more. But I also know I wasn't like this in the first year of my relationship with her. I was actually a great bf, I did everything that makes a girl happy and I did it naturally. But during my birthday I found out she cheated on me with my best friend. Ofc after a long time of her begging I took her back and that was another mistake. But after that moment I couldn't trust her anymore and it ruined the relationship. I know now for sure that I did my best. I'm just in pain with the thought of disappointment that despite her and I promising each other that even if we break up we will work it out together, she isn't here. She decided to block me. So from that point on I've been living my life. Already an engineer in a race car team. Model, and more. Living my life so believe me when I say after a breakup it is not the end of the world 🖤.
I had no choice but to give more at the end. I had to contact her and tell her I'm sorry, tell her I forgive her even though as an alcoholic who won't get help she was more to blame for all this. I had no choice because I'm also in addiction recovery and in order to keep myself sober I have to forgive and apologise for my actions regardless in order to stay clean.
No, we need to hear the truth no matter how harsh!!
Been with my ex over ten years. Loved her with all my heart, but she wouldn’t keep a job. She had this meth addict sister that she kept supporting and giving her money or bailing her out of jail. I have a job that it doesn’t benefit me at all to be involved with all that, so I kept waiting to propose in hopes things would change.
She cheated on me while I was on a business trip a few months ago and has moved the new boyfriend in with her. Broken man. I just want one day to go by that I don’t think of her. I want her back so bad. I just pray this gets easier because the pain of losing her and focusing on the good times we did have is killing me.
I can’t relate because I never being the type to want my exs back. I wish them the best in life even the toxic ones. Keep it moving!! I’m the type of Woman look forward to meeting the new person and getting to know them excited to me❤😊
Anybody that dumps you does not love you. You know why? Because if they did they wouldn’t have left! Don’t ever go back to an ex they have no loyalty or respect for your heart & God rid them out of your life for a very important reason. You’ll be thankful when you find a person beyond amazing for you.
Man this channel started when I had my first break up about a year ago. I remember watching at like 5k subscribers lol. Nevertheless, I love the videos. I knew this channel would help others too
i started watching your videos because of the situation i found myself in and i have to say you give me hope that things can get better and my ex could potentially have feelings for me again
I physically assaulted my ex in a fit of rage as I wasn’t very much in the right mind then. I regret it now and feel very guilty. Willing to do anything to make it right and seeking therapy too. I just hope he comes back to me out of the love we once shared and trust me again that I am working towards changing. Currently he has built up a wall of silence around him and cut off all contact.
Lucky you didn't wind up in jail.
Is that normal behavior for you or does he bring it out. Food for thought
Sounds like a bunch of games to me. Just say what you mean, and mean what you say. All the extra is games
Perfect advice !! sometimes its gods plan and ur cant deny gods plans. move forward and look up lol
“Sometimes I think I’m never going to feel anything anymore, like I felt all that I was going to feel in this life”. I gave so much, that I lost a huge part of myself. I have to let her go because it’s destroying me slowly.
@user-dj8tg9bt6v I don’t want her back ;) lol
They come back as many times as you let them. Sometimes letting go is the BEST thing
NC for a week, last coonversation was when I picked a few things up I had at her place. I will not reach out, I have very firm standards, she ended relationship out of blue, no real reason given, but wanted me to remain friends. Not going to happen, I am not going to down grade myself… I love her and hope only for the best for her. But that does NOT include cutting my own self worth. We were great together, yet her FA type kept up like a yoyo, hot cold cycle. She truly is my best friend, however I also need to love myself enough to move on… self preservation is a good thing!!!
None of this works on me. I broke up, but because he disrespected me. If he came back, apologized and showed me how he worked on himself, I would gladly try to work things out. Now in no contact, I just start to think he doesn´t care anymore and that demotivates me even more.
That is my experience too. I did the breaking up and still no change in their behavior. The no contact didn’t cause them to make any changes
Me too. He probably wont either.
Definitely want a flannel in them colors for myself !!!
She dumped me, went 2 weeks no contact. Came back crying, jumped in my bed a few times. She was sending me nudes, pictures from our vacations and stuff. Saying she missed me and was hungry for me. Then disappeared again. Jumped into someone else’s bed. I hope she reaches out so I can say no, I don’t eat leftovers or scraps 😂
She monkey branched you like my ex did to me. She already had this set up to move to the next guy. I just hope the next guy is not a friend of yours like it was for me. I wish you well. Be strong.
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🤣@ scraps
I experienced a similar situation, confusing asf
#whoorreee
I appreciate your video on this subject, very informative. Right now, I'm dealing with a very recent and painful breakup trying to fight the urges of breaking the NO- CONTACT with her as well as craving the connection and intimacy we once shared. You're right about the importance of not letting your emotions get the best of you. We've had so many struggles in the areas of Communication and Trust. After a huge fight we had, I was led to believe we were on a road to recovery only to find out a little later that she was still very embittered about our fight and told me she no longer sees a future between us or having a relationship. As of now, I'm trying to commit to the NO CONTACT rule, however, she did reach out to me offering "friendship." It has been a painful time going from calling each other PET NAMES to only a first name basis. I don't know if the NO-CONTACT strategy will work in my case with her, I just want the pain of losing her to go away. Any advice you can give me would be most helpful. Thanks.
I think you shouldn’t accept the friendship invitation,she needs to feel the loss of you
@@emiliabonito803 Thank you for reaching out to me
Trust me bro, the no contact rule works!! I made the mistake of slipping back into pursueing and it seriously pushes them away more than anything..
I applied the no contact rule and she reached out, ended up inviting me over, we talked, ended up sleeping together (wouldn’t suggest engaging in that) and I slipped and ended up pursuing and pushed her away,
Ultimately no contact shouldn’t be used as a manipulation tool, focus on improving yourself, look at where YOU were making mistakes and figure out how to really deal with the deep issues in you that made you act like that!
@@tane6394 Appreciate you reaching out to me.
Don't try to be friends. Stick to no contact and you will feel so much better within a short time. Your perspective will change as well. One day soon, you'll discover that you no longer want her and you'll be free. That's not going to happen if you keep interacting with her. Let her go.
Not bad!! Not bad at all!!
Im not sure how I ran across your channel sir, but I am a NeuroPsychiatist. I study how the Brain reacts to what you're talking about. Ive watched some pretty incredible videos(with different authors) on topics like these just for humor really. But, you absolutely know your business!! Good job! Its a hard world and broken people need strength like you to power-up! ❤
@user-dj8tg9bt6v 🤦🏻♀️
Wish I had learned lesson #2 earlier. Left my ex alone for 11 days and she calls out of the blue. Expresses how she misses me. I let my eagerness which is human (but to the point of the lesson was the wrong move) get the best of me. Now it's like I am in the position I was before we split. Low value in her eyes. This whole thing almost feels like a game but that's life I guess when you're in this situation you can't just demand from a human being and expect instant gratification just because you love them as much as you do. It's more complex. Anyways thank you so much man you've helped me a lot
I'm still in the healing process after about 4 to 5 weeks after being ghosted. If he call me or try to get in touch with me I'm going to do exactly what he did. He better hope I don't call the police on him for his warrant. He better keep his focus on whoever he's with now. He hurt me so bad after all the support I gave him. Through him being homeless no car nothing. Helped him because I cared I loved him. When he cried I cried. When he wanted to end himself I was there to tell him about his importance of being here. As soon as he got his home and car he ghosted me. I went through it all and never gave up on him. Now I'm a roller-coaster mess. Feelings all over the place, breaking down crying uncontrollably.
The deadly sin for him is to dial me up. Even when my son passed he wouldn't even be there for me. Forget that lemon.
just want to thank you for all your channels advice, it was reassuring knowing there was hope and surely enough they did return following your advice
i just found your channel & love your content! going through a really tough break up right now & some videos are hard to apply to my specific situation, so definitely gonna save up some coin to book a 1 on 1. 😊
Hey, Coach!! Your expertise is astounding and much needed for so many of your viewers. Thank you….from all of us. ☺️
I dont take them back...I don't care how apologetic you are.....all the excuses I've heard them before over and over again...I no longer listen abeg
Thank you bro , the thing I needed to hear was the artificial timelines … I appreciate everything you do for us
My ex recently broke up with me and I already broke rule #3 by sending a nasty text in the heat of the moment
Fighting myself not to do this. What was the result of the text? I bet it made you feel better atp.
@zandrai7929 It made me feel better at the time but I regretted it soon after
But we all have too learn. Every single one of us. Lol. My ex just kept moaning and wanting everything from me. Mainly money 😅😅😅😅😅. My life is good now. He was greedy, likes things more than me. Pack up your troubles in your own kit bag and smile smile smile.
I like this...supply and demand. If she dont want what your selling, there's no future in the relationship. You cant change her mind. You've gotta wait until she does that herself. Working on 5 months since break up. Ive had a few convo's with her....I took her for granted so I am trying to show her things will change, but at the end of the day, shes gotta want the relationship. Been very slow progress so far...not sure how much longer I want to hang around.
If you love her and u know she still loves you but she have standards I can just tell from what you’ve written but take it from a woman she is staying away because it’s more change that needs to be made on ur behalf, she’s also been without you for a little while and have almost become accustomed to that empty space, out of sight is always out of mind.. she still wants it though because if she didn’t she wouldn’t speak to you ., unless she had no other option , such as sharing children pets materials etc etc when a person gives you their time always remember she’s interested just not invested … she waiting on u but keep it at the pace she allows u don’t want to overwhelm her with rushing and forcing her that will push her further away
But I don’t know you nor her personally but coming from the same SeX I’d say keep trying until she folds and if u do right you’ll win ❤❤❤❤❤god bless u love her so give chase … she knows her worth and so do you
She’s the prize not you in this one instance
Make her know she is the prize
😊😊😊😊😊😊the sperm chases the egg not the other way around 😂
Same. Sucks so much that I was a coward and run again instead of taking and make it right for her.
I feel you
@@pallana3701 I do lover her...she loves me. She has given me a hug each time I left talking to her..But its frustrating b/c she is moving very slowly...slower than most women... But as long as I know i have a chance, i wont give up...I also feel like i have to read between the lines on what she wants...I still have hope.
@@andrecrispim3209 Yeah, it happens. Im still in the fight. I told her I would do whatever i needed to do. Not been easy as its been a long process...
Gm can you do a video on how vulnerability can make you fearful of opening up to someone and you sabotage the relationship before it get started.
We are an older couple he is 58 years old and I just turn 60, we are both in great shape and have good jobs. We been together for 21 years, I left our home to take care of my dad who had cancer with my boyfriend approving for me to care for dad and my 28 year daughter who was suffering from severe depression due to my dad’s declining condition. But I was so deep in caring for them that I was not giving my boyfriend the attention he deserved. So he decided to talk to other women , and told me we must take baby steps because of my action. I gave him room to explore chat groups and now he is traveling come this summer, he also said that he was talking to two women. At first I thought I could prove myself and make him stop this behavior, but once I found out he was going on vacation I draw the line and told him never to call me again. I’m heart broken because I truly love him. And he was so cold to me. He blames me for everything. And he is never coming back.
Don’t negotiate
Don't owe him any explanation
I always like the video right at the beginning because I know you always spit game... So accurate. I experienced this myself when I broke up with my ex best friend. He keeps begging us to be friends again but the more he does, the more I don't like him. Even if I was just starting to miss him before he reached out. Humans are weird. This has taught me to just wait for my man to reach back out. External pressure will only push him further away. Internal pressure is the only way he can come back
You are so cool. It's so great to have a man talk about these things. Your videos on this topic is saving me. I wonder if you have any perspective on twin flame dynamics. I've allowed my trust in him and the purity of our love and the intensity of our connection to keep holding out for him last two years. But the hot and cold continues, to the point he's become passively aggressive, he's picking and choosing when he wants to respond to my calls/ messages. Other times? Complete disregard. What confuses me so much is that when i was on a video call with him a few days ago i could clearly see the love in his eyes and in his words. But 3 weeks down he's back to acting like a narcissist. He's not a bad person, in fact he's the most amazing guy I know. And the fact that i love him so truthfully ( this is real love) and i know that he loves me too, i can't seem to give up on him. But im really realising now that I've to be okay with losing him, no matter how deeply that hurts. But I'm wondering where does law of assumption feature in all of this?! Manifesting your SP back into your life? I'd really love to hear your perspective on this
Post breakup mistakes like letting them continue keeping tabs on you, been there. After a long lingering unhealthy codependent going nowhere, I’m cutting off gracefully and cordially. Mutual accounts, friends etc. have been let go too. Starting to open to possibilities.
I was doing well, even one week ago. And right when I was ok, and I still loved her and missed her, she reappeared, replying to one story and liking some others. Then nothing else, but now I started dreaming of her again, I'm not as ok as I was before...try and keep the mindset guys, the results will come in
Imma be honest with u fellas if u are afraid to be alone and by yourself regardless of what the media says about it if you can’t love yourself and love god JOY then u should NOT be with someone else js
She has no reason to come back.
She won.
She told me she loved me and then she devalued and pushed me away.
If she doesn't come back stay single prove your love and wait for the next birth .❤ This is what I m doing
I love the egg anology
You have help me so much ! Days and nights I’ve been praying about situation and your solution really work! I have watch about 10 of your videos !! God is using you! My ex is bread crumbing me ! But I won’t give in because of watching you videos
I been watching u for awhile u helped me move on even if my heart is broken
It's been 2 months since the breakup (4 year relationship, first love on both parties), we talked a couple times with me trying to convince him to come back, but now I've reached a point where I don't care if he comes back or not. I deleted all individual photos of us together a week ago because I felt ready to let go. I still need to get my stuff back from his place, hopefully I don't get emotional then, will be bringing my male best friend with me for moral support
Great way of putting it. Supply and demand brilliant
I know we won’t get back together.. we had a decent relationship. He did cheat and he once told me if he ever got caught he will never try to to work on an our relationship because it won’t be the same.. with that alone. Tells me he’s a selfish person.. so I’m good.. I deserve better anyway.. and 2 his ego wouldn’t let him do it..
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Best content on this topic EVER!
What do you say to a person when they think your being "disrespectful" to them when your just telling them how you feel? Aren't I entitled to my own feelings?
I don't want nooooo comeback. I even changed my phone number.
😂 every situation is different
The day of the breakup I blocked her on everything, after dating for 2 years. I haven’t heard from her since. It’s almost been 2 years.
Did she break up with you, or did you break up with her?
Hi Coach, can you please make a video for long-distance breakups? For ex: my ex and I broke up because we had to move 3 hours away from each other due to work. Also, can you explain how to navigate modern subtle ways of communication? For example: Spotify playlists
3 hours away is not even long distance
He's such a "ughh, " can't even put into words. The more I'm around him, the more I can't stand him anymore. I'm really judgemental 👩⚖️ and I don't like that, I don't wanna be that kind of person.
You said everything I was doing wrong! Thanks ☺️. I was moving too fast and he starts to disappear again.
Thank you coach. Didnt even think i would listen to anyones advice... But im taking yours because i beleive what you say is true
I reached out to my ex after a month of NC. This is our second break-up. I feel betrayed because he was the one who came back. I have been nothing but respectful except for the time I invaded his personal space to get answers in the beginning. It's painful.
She went to Columbia and decided to stay. She then calls me to break up. I told her I understand and I'm rooting for her success in life. She said I'm going to hang up now & ghosted me. I haven't reached out and it F'N with my head. Sucks!
So if he's the type of guy that always wants what he can't have or what's hard to get, then once he has you back... will he then want you less? Is it always going to be a game? Will I always have to act like I like or love him less to keep him interested? Sounds exhausting.....
Awesome content! God bless you
I'm one month and few days of no contact, at first it were hard but its getting easier, what i need to do is detach myself, lately ive been thinking about him( sending to much energy his way), i'm not gonna make it easy for him.
Currently in a 3mth No contact. I received 2 private calls, could that have been my ex. I usually don't answer unknown phone numbers.
100% it is, ive experienced it.
Yes it's them 😅 they missing you and hurting 😔
Hey coach make a video on how to heal after breakup and after long period of no contact
While in the no contact…. Do you wish a happy birthday? It’s been 3 months since we broke up, but only 6 days since I implemented the no contact within myself
No absolutely not.
This video was quite insightful and gave me perspective on what I did wrong after they reached out after no contact, what can you do to recuperate if you gave them more once than you should have they did reach out, or "gave more supply than there was demand for" which caused them to back down from the interaction?
I like how you explain demand and supply
move on