What language are you speaking? As Confucius says, the first order of business is getting your names rectified. Same goes for your heart. Don't use this modern nadsat. Speak from Biblical Origins. I approve. Just cut the weird talk out. It sounds funny. I don't mean you can't use it for exaggeration or anything--I sometimes cuss--but speak a pure language. Use it poetically, to show its vulgarity. That's the same way Ezekiel did.
@@AndrewWYT Basically, you have the core of the gospel right, you just need to use less of the modern slang. It doesn't sound right. I do cuss sometimes, but just that modern slang, it doesn't sound good. It sounds like a different language. That's all.
@@AndrewWYT Rectifying names is a Confucian concept, about using words that fit the proper meaning. So, basically, using words correctly, and accurately to describe truth. Which, modern slang doesn't do. It's kind of bad at communicating anything true at all. I think anyway...
As a woman, this is EXACTLY what helped me fight lust. Keeping my eyes pure, deleted my Social Media and focus on God. I know exactly when my relationship with Jesus weakens and what to do about. It is all about the right community and being ACCOUNTABLE.
I'm still struggling but what helped me was the realization, that you actually do not give up or sacrifice anything, when you leave lust behind, because lust has zero benefits for your life and no value. There are so many things out there to pursue that actually have true value. I think, if we struggle with lust we still believe the lie that it has something to offer, but that cannot be further from the truth.
What an astute comment, thanks for being here! I actually used your comment in my community to talk about lust. Check out what the others had to say www.skool.com/nxtgenmen
ive recently relapsed from being clean for 4 months and u was devastated. For some reason, i just didnt go back to God when i sinned again, i just isolated myself and didnt even take care of myself. what sucks is how i just completely ignoreg God that entire time and made things much worse. Pray for me guys i dont want to give up in the lord, he never gave up on me
Yes man I completely understand and praying for you! Join the group in my description, we are currently about to do an October challenge to overcome lust and pornography!
Thanks for this video, man. I've been struggling, and more and more recently I feel like I'm failing. Whenever I do manage to get over it, it comes back stronger a little bit later (just like Matthew 12:43-45 says, lol); it starts off as neglectable, but the thoughts consume me more and more, and it's hard to push those thoughts out of my head when my class work and the things I do in my free time can be so mind numbing. I struggle to care about church anymore. I feel so disconnected from the church I grew up in; not that any of the people there have mistreated or secluded me in any manner, just that I don't know anyone there and most of them are 3 to 4 times my age. I tried finding a group at the church in my age range, but none of them go to my same service (I attend the more formal service; there's a more informal, youth-aimed one that I'm not too fond of); because of that, church for me is just going, struggling to pay attention, and booking it out the door. I'd love to at least connect to the church via my family, bringing them and discussing the messages, but the people closest to me don't really feel connected to the church and its sermons either. It doubles my lack of interest in focusing on the sermon when I have no one to discuss it with; it doesn't help that the messaging feels so platitudinal at times. I wish I could fear and love and trust God, but I don't even know how to. There are times when I can, but after a while those concepts just become catchphrases for me to regurgitate when I need to know what my relationship with God should be like, in spite of me not actually knowing how to follow up on that in any meaningful way. I try to thank God and talk to God, but I just feel like I'm going through motions with my words and trying to appear good. I feel so lonely some days. All my friends have moved on, and I only ever see them so often. I don't keep a very wide group of friends, so I rely on the few friends I have; however, that's a one way sentiment. My friends care about me, but I feel like I've become an after-thought to some of the people I care about the most. Every day feels the same, and when they're not the same, it's rarely for the better. I feel like all this stuff just builds up, and in moments of selfishness, I begin to view lust as some form of escapism; but rather than breaking the repetitive daily cycles, it cements its place within them, and steals my precious time while damaging my soul. I don't know who to turn to with these issues. Lust, loneliness, guilt, etc. all build up in my mind and make me increasingly hopeless and miserable. I wish I could turn to my family, but I don't think they would understand how to relate to my issue. I wish I could turn to my friends or my church, but I don't think they'd know how to help me, especially when I feel like none of them really know me as well as I'd like. Sorry for the long-winded rant in your comments section, all of this stuff has been on my mind, and it was nice to have a place to think it through and write it out. God bless you, and thank you again for your video
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Hey Brother, I wanted to thank you for being honest about this, I know how hard it can be growing up in this world and growing apart from the ones you were once close to. I would say for the things you're going through, a lot of people are, you are not the only one, so take comfort in that. Looks like you should find a new church, and find a community that fits you. Dont get caught up in the obligation that you have to go to the same church forever. Going back to the basics is the key to fixing this lack of passion in my humble opinion. Look back at was Jesus has done, how everything was created, how meticulously He created you. Getting so caught up in the routines of church instead of actually taking time to connect is exactly what the enemy wants. Let me just tell you, you are the exact kind of person I have my our community for, and would love to have you. Let me know what you think man, don't push community away! www.skool.com/nxtgenmen Thanks for being here man
I feel that I have two main struggles with lust: 1. Social media. Social media is always feeding me with things that tempt me, I'm gonna go delete some of my accounts and get off of TH-cam Shorts, and I feel my struggles with lust will improve drastically 2. I always think, "I'm gonna stop doing this!" and as you probably already guessed, that never solves it, and lust comes back even stronger, Matthew 12:45 says: "Then goeth he, and taketh with himself seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter in and dwell there." I need to stop focusing on fighting lust, and instead need to focus on fleeing from lust and turning to God. Thank you for posting this video! 🙏 (Also, God answered my prayer! I told him about my struggles with lust, and I got recommended this video!)
So proud of you, my brother, the Lord bless you with much, much more wisdom. I'm old enough to be your father and i can tell you that, if unchecked, it'll remain unbridled throughout one's life. If I may add to your word of wisdom, I would ask anyone being overpowered by lust, porn, an unhealthy soul-tie, to commit yourself to specifically praying that the Lord will break the power of it over you. I can testify of His power to set you free. Then, it is in your hands now to remain free.
When i feel like doing the lust act i always remember about jesus sacrifice and suffering to save us, i put christian songs too and the desire fades away. I've been away from social media too, i left tiktok and i blocked reels and youtube shorts, i deleted my facebook account and twitter (twitter was banned in brazil, where i live) so my contacts are just good friends and i try to be pure but sometimes i just start thinking about these horrible desires. Now i've been feeling better and im not thinking that way so much, and im trying to stay away but pray for the people around me who normalize this.
God tells us time and time again through out the bible that he will fight for us if we only let him. The more we trust in him, the more we focus on him, the more he can bless us and deliver us from the evils that haunt us every day.
You are definitely right on the 3rd point. Like I realized if I'm being tempted watching a "how to beat lust" Christian video is not the way to go because it's best not to focus even on that word when being tempted. (Good to watch when not being tempted). God bless everyone.
Unfortunately, its not that im exposed to tempting images. Im not. The problem is earlier this year i was dating a girl from Christian Mingle. She was a virgin, and our relationship got so intimate, we didnt actually have sex, but came really really close. I mean, really really close and did way more than we should have. That still messes me up and its hard to get rid of those memories. I was actually doing fine controlling lust since i got saved until i met her.
@@aaronharlow2137 Cut the soul tie in prayer. Ask the Lord to wash you completely (your body memory as well) and help your mind forget. Forgetting is key. It worked for me.
what's sad is that the enemy can tempt a good vessel sometimes into ruining others walks as well. such is the stories of the promiscuous women in proverbs. But let me just say you need to forgive, because the unforgiveness is actually causing the sin to reoccur in your life. John 20:23
yeah honestly I found one of the best strategies is to just not look at bad images. I do imagine images because unfortunately I'm visually creative, but those are easier to ignore. My main first strategy was to write a note right after I fell to sin, I wrote using all the regret to motivate me and man when I read that note I do NOT feel like sinning. I wrote a huge paragraph including all the reasons that I regret it and it works whenever i read it, mostly because I went in-detail on *why* I should stop, and there's honestly no human more convincing than yourself when you are using 100% of your brain to intelligently poke at all the personal guilts and such things.
@@AndrewWYT I got another problem and I hoped you could help me. I know somebody who has wronged me many times and shows no hope of changing, and I know I have to forgive him and I plan on it. The confusion is what do I do after I forgive them? If they ask, 'what have I done to you?' or if they accuse me of being a horrible person, can I recount the event that I forgave them for? I'd really appreciate an answer, and you seem pretty wise to me, so I'd value your answer too. Thanks.
@@orangeshirtguy01 hey man this is a little too long of a response for me to just give you on here. kind of requires a back and forth that I am going to forget to be honest. join our community in the description and we can hash this out
Giving up porn and lewd images wasn’t too hard for me, what’s difficult to combat is the brief intrusive thoughts when I see a beautiful woman randomly at my job. I know if I had a wife I wouldn’t even care to glance at other women, still searching for her.
for me personally, it Is the catalyst for me doing lustful stuff. but for your issue, a pastor once told me this happened to him, and instead of having those lustful thoughts, take the action to pattern disrupt and start praying for that person instead. thanks for commenting!
@@AndrewWYT yeah I just try my best to put the thought aside and think “every women who is not my wife is my sister and thinking those thoughts about her is wrong.”
I’m gonna be honest with you, I’ve had a recent relationship and trust me all because you are with somebody does not mean your flesh is going to stop tempting you to lust. Sure, you won’t indulge in actions and will certainly have an output for sex with a wife, but your eyes will continue to wander until you somehow conquer it
@@luked4996 I'm not sure that you can completely conquer it, but I think it's about God giving you the strength to cope with it. So every time the temptation presents itself you have an opportunity to seek God's help in prayer and show that you rely on Him to help you.
I got a friend who told me his method Trump all other methods. It's help him focus on other desire. And not be so consumed. 😊 But it come at great sacrifice
Kind of ironic the social media warning but everyone who comments has to have a social media account. (Good video was just pointing out the irony there). God bless everyone.
You have some good points brother. Women are also addicted to lust and porn too though not just men. And it's not more difficult for men in fact in some ways for women its harder as women generally are thought not to be into porn/lust in the same way. But you are so right about bbeing careful what you look at, read, and even who you talk to. Music also. Once you stop your eyes looking at filth or your ears hearing temptation, it becomes easier. Bless you
Lust can't be defeated. It is a natural desire. Just like you have to eat food and drink water. But if same sex marriage and adultery and gossip you must defeat it.
I dont think lust is a natural desire, but desire is. lust is an evil twist to it in my opinion. But we can channel the temptations into good things, you are right
Can't say I have seen people convert based on debating. Debating edifies christians who seek God's will. Want to impact a non believer, IMO Live your testimony, tell your testimony and love people through the spirit of God. Getting saved is spiritual and once they believe they can join the deep discussions. It seems like people focus on the academics. Keep the spiritual and the academic side of the sword sharp.
Yep. The faith that Bible talks about is not an intelectual conclusion, its a _spiritual gift_ *from God* . I wonder when atheists, muslims, jewishs and many Christians will understand that.
the only thing which is my main weakness too is that social media doesn't tempt me to lust usually but my very MAIN problem is that: public. around the city, it's like my eyes just get dragged down to look somewhere I shouldn't, social media has nothing to do with this, my eyes feel like just get dragged to look somewhere it shouldn't. I've been trying so much to not let them get dragged but then it just happens but usually if I turn my head and before I even realise they already start getting dragged to look there.
Yeah man totally understand that! Two things I have for you: 1. A pastor I know said that he was going through the same thing, and he told me he had to hone a practice of actively praying for the women this was occurring to him for. Take every thought captive and stomp it out, and replace it with a godly action! 2: what can help is being in community. Join our men’s community for free (for now) and we can empower you in your journey! Hope to see you there bro www.skool.com/nxtgenmen
In this month I had stayed away for a solid 2 weeks but it came back again. Every beginning of a month I keep deciding to try as much as I can to stop And I lasted the longest without falling this month out of every month so far. In last February it was happening and I wasn’t even trying to do anything to stop it but 7 months later I’m already getting close to completely stopping. I feel just so close. My problem isn’t being addicted to a certain website. I was always scared of those bad websites so I never got into them.
it will always come back, until you die. Every person has a set of tendencies and weaknesses that the enemy uses. No matter how long you stay pure, it will come back and you will need to trust God even then. Moreover, it is God who lets that temptation to return, to test you and grow you in faith.
@@alexei.basyuk well I’m going to keep trying anyway until if I find out it’s actually impossible. I don’t think it’s actually impossible. But if I actually can’t ever get away then I’m going to give up on my life.
@@modernmiderntown3241 Don’t give up man, neither in faith in God, nor on your life. I’m not sure what kind of addiction you had, but if it was sexual, then you won’t get rid of the temptation itself; you’ll not be addicted, but you’ll be tempted. All it takes is to say no to yourself, die to your old way of life, and follow Jesus by obeying His commandments, daily. Trust God by obeying Him in those situations, and remember His word, promises, hatred for sin, and He will help you. As the Bible says, don’t be grieved in doing good, because God will reward you.
@@modernmiderntown3241 Don’t give up man, neither in faith in God, nor on your life. Even though you are free to not sin, you still live with the remnants of your sinful nature. In one way or another, you will sin and fall short, until death. God lets those temptations come to you, to test and grow you. I’m in a similar position as you, where I was addicted, but as I became a Christian, God freed me from it and I’m now able to say no, and be faithful to God. All it takes is to deny yourself, die to your old way of life, and follow Jesus by obeying His commandments. Trust God in those situations, and think about His word, promises, and hatred for sin, and He will help you.
@@lawrenceeason8007 it doesn't have a verse where it says that directly but you'll find in romans 1:26-27 Paul looking down upon lustful actions, as well as multiple in the Old Testament. At the heart of what's bad about it is putting your desire at the expense of God's command
@@AndrewWYT okay I understand you can point out scriptures on lust. What I’m asking is where does it differentiate between lust and sexual desire…because that is what lust is
You do have a bit of Bramacharya glow about you and I believe you are legit. Great video. My advice is not to cling to results to much, but to give it to God with no expectation. When you are kicking yourself for every failure, you tend to do worse than when you just offer the result to God.
As another tip, when you have lustful thoughts, don’t try to get rid of them. Instead try to remember God’s word, promises, glory, and hate for sin; ask God to help you to be faithful to Him, instead of Him getting you rid of those thoughts.
I agree, look to the light and the darkness will go away! thanks for being here, would love you in our community full of Christian men! www.skool.com/nxtgenmen
Go one day without it. If that's an accomplishment for you, acknowledge that. If you can go one day, go two days. Three days. A week. Compete against yourself. Make it a game. Fight for "high scores" until you're down to doing it a couple times a month. Keep going. Acknowledge your successes. Acknowledge your failures. Show yourself what you are capable of, then make that your new standard. For 99% of you, this guy's advice is totally impracticable and unsustainable. Make consistent sustainable efforts.
thanks for commenting man. I do agree that most people won't do these things until they reach the breaking point that I reached. the enemy wants us to believe that we still need to be on social medias, even when it causes us to stumble. for me though, keeping score doesn't work for me and just makes me think of it more
@@AndrewWYT understood. Let’s say you put all responsibility in the hands of your friends or you have to eliminate all tempting content from your environment. IMO you did not triumph over anything. You are hiding from the enemy, not defeating it. You are always at risk of falling back into it. You have to tell every potential relationship partner, “hey, btw, i am too weak to be trusted with any tempting content, so I need you to sterilize your entire world if you want to be with me. Also I’m putting all the responsibility of me not falling back into sin on you, because if it’s on me, I’m failing. And because “zero responsibility” is on me, if I do fail, it’s your fault and everyone else’s. I just don’t see that as a win. Job, Kings, Exodus, and more are all proof that God allows his children to be tempted, and when God gives you that ultimate test, you will fail because you didn’t take it upon yourself to strengthen your resolve, learn how to look temptation in the face, and say ‘no’. If the enemy ever does get his hands on you again, you will fail. (Not you specifically, but the general ‘you’).
@@granthagen3207 But the Bible says to Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. See sexual sin is a sin that we are literally told to flee from not to fight against but flee from. God bless you.
@@FeedingFrenzy91 1 Thessalonians also says we must “learn to control our bodies” (regarding sexual immorality). By putting responsibility on everyone else, you learn to control nothing.
@@granthagen3207 No, One (at least that I've seen) is saying that. Just pointing out that fleeing and fighting are two different things. See getting off the places where you are tempted more isn't putting it on everyone else as far as I've seen.
I want to shine more light on your third point. Philippians 4:8 says, "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things." It does not say, "Think about how you sin all the time." Romans 7:15-17: "15 For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. 16 Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. 17 So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me." Romans 8:1-2: "There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. 2 For the law of the Spirit of life has set you[b] free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death." Focus on good things, like God and His word and your friends and family and other blessings. If you don't believe that YOU are righteous, than you won't be. You ARE righteous because you are transformed through the finished work of Christ. You need to truly trust that you belong to Him. Please, read all of Romans 7 and 8 slowly. READ THIS: God just revealed this again to me yesterday. I prayed the night before for God to help me understand why I fell back into sin. I got these answers the next day; it's one of the best answers to prayer I have ever received. These verses from Philippians and Romans were the second part of His answer. The first part was that we need to confess our sins to one another if we want to be healed. James 5:16: "Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working."
The Love of God is free. 'Freely ye have received, freely give.' The woman who was about to be stoned was told, 'Go, and sin no more.' We know what to do.
No, sir. I did MY part. He hasn't done HIS part. I clearly told Him that as long as I have chronic pain and involuntary celibacy I will never defeat lust. I begged Him on my knees for 5 years for Him to help me and take away my health problems and to give me a partner. He was as mute as a rock. So, no, I will not play by His rules anymore. He can send me to hell if He wants to. I will go to hell knowing that He is unmerciful and unjust. I did not ask to be born. I did not consent to exist and to abide by the rules He imposed upon me. Forcing someone to live an existence of pain against their will is evil.
You're basically saying that you can only defeat it on your terms... in essence that you know better than Him. God knows that you can do this with His help... in fact, He wants you to see that as well. Don't give up, when He sees that you have humbled your heart and continue to depend on His help, that may very well be the time He may grant you a significant other.
@@colinpierre3441 Tons of people know better than Him. "He" didn't even have the right answer on slavery. So no one should care for the opinions of some cosmic weirdo who's concerned with people sating a biological urge that he designed into them.
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What language are you speaking? As Confucius says, the first order of business is getting your names rectified. Same goes for your heart. Don't use this modern nadsat. Speak from Biblical Origins.
I approve. Just cut the weird talk out. It sounds funny. I don't mean you can't use it for exaggeration or anything--I sometimes cuss--but speak a pure language. Use it poetically, to show its vulgarity. That's the same way Ezekiel did.
@@BKNeifert what are you talking about
@@AndrewWYT Basically, you have the core of the gospel right, you just need to use less of the modern slang. It doesn't sound right. I do cuss sometimes, but just that modern slang, it doesn't sound good. It sounds like a different language.
That's all.
@@AndrewWYT Rectifying names is a Confucian concept, about using words that fit the proper meaning. So, basically, using words correctly, and accurately to describe truth.
Which, modern slang doesn't do. It's kind of bad at communicating anything true at all. I think anyway...
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As a woman, this is EXACTLY what helped me fight lust. Keeping my eyes pure, deleted my Social Media and focus on God. I know exactly when my relationship with Jesus weakens and what to do about. It is all about the right community and being ACCOUNTABLE.
Amen, this advice is universal for this! The Bible always has the best advice we just gotta apply it
Good 👍
Same😅
My brother in Christ here is speaking some good news.
Well said. Every word.
Thank you for being here bro!
Agree that was a great grab!
I'm still struggling but what helped me was the realization, that you actually do not give up or sacrifice anything, when you leave lust behind, because lust has zero benefits for your life and no value. There are so many things out there to pursue that actually have true value.
I think, if we struggle with lust we still believe the lie that it has something to offer, but that cannot be further from the truth.
What an astute comment, thanks for being here! I actually used your comment in my community to talk about lust. Check out what the others had to say www.skool.com/nxtgenmen
@@AndrewWYT Sounds good, I'll check it out!
ive recently relapsed from being clean for 4 months and u was devastated. For some reason, i just didnt go back to God when i sinned again, i just isolated myself and didnt even take care of myself. what sucks is how i just completely ignoreg God that entire time and made things much worse. Pray for me guys i dont want to give up in the lord, he never gave up on me
Yes man I completely understand and praying for you! Join the group in my description, we are currently about to do an October challenge to overcome lust and pornography!
Thanks for this video, man.
I've been struggling, and more and more recently I feel like I'm failing. Whenever I do manage to get over it, it comes back stronger a little bit later (just like Matthew 12:43-45 says, lol); it starts off as neglectable, but the thoughts consume me more and more, and it's hard to push those thoughts out of my head when my class work and the things I do in my free time can be so mind numbing.
I struggle to care about church anymore. I feel so disconnected from the church I grew up in; not that any of the people there have mistreated or secluded me in any manner, just that I don't know anyone there and most of them are 3 to 4 times my age. I tried finding a group at the church in my age range, but none of them go to my same service (I attend the more formal service; there's a more informal, youth-aimed one that I'm not too fond of); because of that, church for me is just going, struggling to pay attention, and booking it out the door. I'd love to at least connect to the church via my family, bringing them and discussing the messages, but the people closest to me don't really feel connected to the church and its sermons either. It doubles my lack of interest in focusing on the sermon when I have no one to discuss it with; it doesn't help that the messaging feels so platitudinal at times.
I wish I could fear and love and trust God, but I don't even know how to. There are times when I can, but after a while those concepts just become catchphrases for me to regurgitate when I need to know what my relationship with God should be like, in spite of me not actually knowing how to follow up on that in any meaningful way. I try to thank God and talk to God, but I just feel like I'm going through motions with my words and trying to appear good.
I feel so lonely some days. All my friends have moved on, and I only ever see them so often. I don't keep a very wide group of friends, so I rely on the few friends I have; however, that's a one way sentiment. My friends care about me, but I feel like I've become an after-thought to some of the people I care about the most.
Every day feels the same, and when they're not the same, it's rarely for the better. I feel like all this stuff just builds up, and in moments of selfishness, I begin to view lust as some form of escapism; but rather than breaking the repetitive daily cycles, it cements its place within them, and steals my precious time while damaging my soul.
I don't know who to turn to with these issues. Lust, loneliness, guilt, etc. all build up in my mind and make me increasingly hopeless and miserable. I wish I could turn to my family, but I don't think they would understand how to relate to my issue. I wish I could turn to my friends or my church, but I don't think they'd know how to help me, especially when I feel like none of them really know me as well as I'd like.
Sorry for the long-winded rant in your comments section, all of this stuff has been on my mind, and it was nice to have a place to think it through and write it out. God bless you, and thank you again for your video
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Hey Brother, I wanted to thank you for being honest about this, I know how hard it can be growing up in this world and growing apart from the ones you were once close to.
I would say for the things you're going through, a lot of people are, you are not the only one, so take comfort in that. Looks like you should find a new church, and find a community that fits you. Dont get caught up in the obligation that you have to go to the same church forever.
Going back to the basics is the key to fixing this lack of passion in my humble opinion. Look back at was Jesus has done, how everything was created, how meticulously He created you. Getting so caught up in the routines of church instead of actually taking time to connect is exactly what the enemy wants.
Let me just tell you, you are the exact kind of person I have my our community for, and would love to have you. Let me know what you think man, don't push community away! www.skool.com/nxtgenmen
Thanks for being here man
I feel that I have two main struggles with lust:
1. Social media. Social media is always feeding me with things that tempt me, I'm gonna go delete some of my accounts and get off of TH-cam Shorts, and I feel my struggles with lust will improve drastically
2. I always think, "I'm gonna stop doing this!" and as you probably already guessed, that never solves it, and lust comes back even stronger, Matthew 12:45 says: "Then goeth he, and taketh with himself seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter in and dwell there." I need to stop focusing on fighting lust, and instead need to focus on fleeing from lust and turning to God.
Thank you for posting this video! 🙏
(Also, God answered my prayer! I told him about my struggles with lust, and I got recommended this video!)
So proud of you, my brother, the Lord bless you with much, much more wisdom. I'm old enough to be your father and i can tell you that, if unchecked, it'll remain unbridled throughout one's life. If I may add to your word of wisdom, I would ask anyone being overpowered by lust, porn, an unhealthy soul-tie, to commit yourself to specifically praying that the Lord will break the power of it over you. I can testify of His power to set you free. Then, it is in your hands now to remain free.
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Thank you, it's very encouraging
@@glisem2 love to hear it!
Great video. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for watching!
When i feel like doing the lust act i always remember about jesus sacrifice and suffering to save us, i put christian songs too and the desire fades away. I've been away from social media too, i left tiktok and i blocked reels and youtube shorts, i deleted my facebook account and twitter (twitter was banned in brazil, where i live) so my contacts are just good friends and i try to be pure but sometimes i just start thinking about these horrible desires. Now i've been feeling better and im not thinking that way so much, and im trying to stay away but pray for the people around me who normalize this.
yeah man that's awesome, the practice of sanctification! These social medias have been fed to us to have more value than they actually do.
God tells us time and time again through out the bible that he will fight for us if we only let him. The more we trust in him, the more we focus on him, the more he can bless us and deliver us from the evils that haunt us every day.
Exactly! The more light we consume and align to, the harder it makes it to fall! Thanks for commenting
You are definitely right on the 3rd point. Like I realized if I'm being tempted watching a "how to beat lust" Christian video is not the way to go because it's best not to focus even on that word when being tempted. (Good to watch when not being tempted).
God bless everyone.
Exactly it justs gets you thinking about it more and more. Thanks for commenting bro!
3:40 This spoken to me 😢
Thanks for commenting bro
Don’t fight lust flee from it
Thank you for this video. God bless you 🙏
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Unfortunately, its not that im exposed to tempting images. Im not. The problem is earlier this year i was dating a girl from Christian Mingle. She was a virgin, and our relationship got so intimate, we didnt actually have sex, but came really really close. I mean, really really close and did way more than we should have. That still messes me up and its hard to get rid of those memories. I was actually doing fine controlling lust since i got saved until i met her.
@@aaronharlow2137 Cut the soul tie in prayer. Ask the Lord to wash you completely (your body memory as well) and help your mind forget. Forgetting is key. It worked for me.
what's sad is that the enemy can tempt a good vessel sometimes into ruining others walks as well. such is the stories of the promiscuous women in proverbs. But let me just say you need to forgive, because the unforgiveness is actually causing the sin to reoccur in your life. John 20:23
yeah honestly I found one of the best strategies is to just not look at bad images. I do imagine images because unfortunately I'm visually creative, but those are easier to ignore. My main first strategy was to write a note right after I fell to sin, I wrote using all the regret to motivate me and man when I read that note I do NOT feel like sinning. I wrote a huge paragraph including all the reasons that I regret it and it works whenever i read it, mostly because I went in-detail on *why* I should stop, and there's honestly no human more convincing than yourself when you are using 100% of your brain to intelligently poke at all the personal guilts and such things.
So good man thanks for commenting! Yes the Bible’s best strategy says it plainly to keep your eyes pure! Hope to see you around more
@@AndrewWYT I got another problem and I hoped you could help me. I know somebody who has wronged me many times and shows no hope of changing, and I know I have to forgive him and I plan on it. The confusion is what do I do after I forgive them? If they ask, 'what have I done to you?' or if they accuse me of being a horrible person, can I recount the event that I forgave them for? I'd really appreciate an answer, and you seem pretty wise to me, so I'd value your answer too. Thanks.
@@orangeshirtguy01 hey man this is a little too long of a response for me to just give you on here. kind of requires a back and forth that I am going to forget to be honest. join our community in the description and we can hash this out
Yes keep your eyes pure that helps me tremendously, also not playing with any sexual thoughts, take every thought captive and give it to Jesus.
yes! no need to plant any bad seeds
Giving up porn and lewd images wasn’t too hard for me, what’s difficult to combat is the brief intrusive thoughts when I see a beautiful woman randomly at my job. I know if I had a wife I wouldn’t even care to glance at other women, still searching for her.
for me personally, it Is the catalyst for me doing lustful stuff. but for your issue, a pastor once told me this happened to him, and instead of having those lustful thoughts, take the action to pattern disrupt and start praying for that person instead. thanks for commenting!
@@AndrewWYT yeah I just try my best to put the thought aside and think “every women who is not my wife is my sister and thinking those thoughts about her is wrong.”
I’m gonna be honest with you, I’ve had a recent relationship and trust me all because you are with somebody does not mean your flesh is going to stop tempting you to lust. Sure, you won’t indulge in actions and will certainly have an output for sex with a wife, but your eyes will continue to wander until you somehow conquer it
@@luked4996 I'm not sure that you can completely conquer it, but I think it's about God giving you the strength to cope with it. So every time the temptation presents itself you have an opportunity to seek God's help in prayer and show that you rely on Him to help you.
I got a friend who told me his method Trump all other methods. It's help him focus on other desire. And not be so consumed. 😊
But it come at great sacrifice
Everything great requires great work to achieve it!
This is amazing. Thank you
Thanks for watching! Glad it might’ve helped
Kind of ironic the social media warning but everyone who comments has to have a social media account. (Good video was just pointing out the irony there).
God bless everyone.
Thanks for the comment haha, yeah I know it’s a big ironic, but gotta fight fire with fire! Thanks for being here again
Amen Brother 🙏❤️
Thanks for commenting
You have some good points brother. Women are also addicted to lust and porn too though not just men. And it's not more difficult for men in fact in some ways for women its harder as women generally are thought not to be into porn/lust in the same way. But you are so right about bbeing careful what you look at, read, and even who you talk to. Music also. Once you stop your eyes looking at filth or your ears hearing temptation, it becomes easier. Bless you
Yeah of course, I just targeted this towards men because that’s what my channel is geared towards. But the enemy tempts everyone
Lust can't be defeated. It is a natural desire. Just like you have to eat food and drink water. But if same sex marriage and adultery and gossip you must defeat it.
I dont think lust is a natural desire, but desire is. lust is an evil twist to it in my opinion. But we can channel the temptations into good things, you are right
It can absolutely be defeated. It's just of the highest level of difficulty.
Very good Video! God bless you
Thanks god bless! Hope to see you around more
Can't say I have seen people convert based on debating. Debating edifies christians who seek God's will. Want to impact a non believer, IMO Live your testimony, tell your testimony and love people through the spirit of God. Getting saved is spiritual and once they believe they can join the deep discussions. It seems like people focus on the academics. Keep the spiritual and the academic side of the sword sharp.
Yep. The faith that Bible talks about is not an intelectual conclusion, its a _spiritual gift_ *from God* . I wonder when atheists, muslims, jewishs and many Christians will understand that.
Amen, debating never gets anyone much of anywhere except for other people to take some seeds of truth from what we say. Thanks for commenting
Amen 🙏
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Spreading guilt.
how?
the only thing which is my main weakness too is that social media doesn't tempt me to lust usually but my very MAIN problem is that: public. around the city, it's like my eyes just get dragged down to look somewhere I shouldn't, social media has nothing to do with this, my eyes feel like just get dragged to look somewhere it shouldn't. I've been trying so much to not let them get dragged but then it just happens but usually if I turn my head and before I even realise they already start getting dragged to look there.
Yeah man totally understand that! Two things I have for you:
1. A pastor I know said that he was going through the same thing, and he told me he had to hone a practice of actively praying for the women this was occurring to him for. Take every thought captive and stomp it out, and replace it with a godly action!
2: what can help is being in community. Join our men’s community for free (for now) and we can empower you in your journey! Hope to see you there bro www.skool.com/nxtgenmen
@@AndrewWYT Thanks! I will try to use what you said and maybe ill join in the community too! still not sure, but maybe.
I just decided to delete my account
In this month I had stayed away for a solid 2 weeks but it came back again. Every beginning of a month I keep deciding to try as much as I can to stop And I lasted the longest without falling this month out of every month so far. In last February it was happening and I wasn’t even trying to do anything to stop it but 7 months later I’m already getting close to completely stopping. I feel just so close.
My problem isn’t being addicted to a certain website. I was always scared of those bad websites so I never got into them.
if you wanna fully make the change bro, my free group is doing a month challenge to overcome lust. Join if you wanna beat this thing!
it will always come back, until you die. Every person has a set of tendencies and weaknesses that the enemy uses. No matter how long you stay pure, it will come back and you will need to trust God even then. Moreover, it is God who lets that temptation to return, to test you and grow you in faith.
@@alexei.basyuk well I’m going to keep trying anyway until if I find out it’s actually impossible. I don’t think it’s actually impossible. But if I actually can’t ever get away then I’m going to give up on my life.
@@modernmiderntown3241 Don’t give up man, neither in faith in God, nor on your life. I’m not sure what kind of addiction you had, but if it was sexual, then you won’t get rid of the temptation itself; you’ll not be addicted, but you’ll be tempted. All it takes is to say no to yourself, die to your old way of life, and follow Jesus by obeying His commandments, daily. Trust God by obeying Him in those situations, and remember His word, promises, hatred for sin, and He will help you. As the Bible says, don’t be grieved in doing good, because God will reward you.
@@modernmiderntown3241 Don’t give up man, neither in faith in God, nor on your life. Even though you are free to not sin, you still live with the remnants of your sinful nature. In one way or another, you will sin and fall short, until death. God lets those temptations come to you, to test and grow you. I’m in a similar position as you, where I was addicted, but as I became a Christian, God freed me from it and I’m now able to say no, and be faithful to God. All it takes is to deny yourself, die to your old way of life, and follow Jesus by obeying His commandments. Trust God in those situations, and think about His word, promises, and hatred for sin, and He will help you.
It’s natural. Nothing wrong with sexual desire
desire has been built into us, yes. but lust is an evil twisting of it
@@AndrewWYT can you tell me where the bible defines lust as different from sexual desire?
@@lawrenceeason8007 it doesn't have a verse where it says that directly but you'll find in romans 1:26-27 Paul looking down upon lustful actions, as well as multiple in the Old Testament. At the heart of what's bad about it is putting your desire at the expense of God's command
@@AndrewWYT okay I understand you can point out scriptures on lust. What I’m asking is where does it differentiate between lust and sexual desire…because that is what lust is
He made the devil much stronger than a man.
Edit: I made an entire text for nothing. That was the end of the message.
You do have a bit of Bramacharya glow about you and I believe you are legit. Great video. My advice is not to cling to results to much, but to give it to God with no expectation. When you are kicking yourself for every failure, you tend to do worse than when you just offer the result to God.
I represent Christ not that ✝️ but thank you for watching
@@AndrewWYT Huh? Not that what?
I am a disciple of Christ as well.
@@AndrewWYT Oh perhaps my vernacular in using Bramacharya instead of celibacy made you reply that way.
@@AndrewWYT Thank you for providing a good role model for all our young men walking with Christ.
@@AndrewWYT There are people from all around the world of different shapes, sizes, and cultures that follow Christ.
As another tip, when you have lustful thoughts, don’t try to get rid of them. Instead try to remember God’s word, promises, glory, and hate for sin; ask God to help you to be faithful to Him, instead of Him getting you rid of those thoughts.
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Women too. Geez.
Of course, just not who I’m targeting with my videos
@@AndrewWYT Ok 👍
Go one day without it. If that's an accomplishment for you, acknowledge that. If you can go one day, go two days. Three days. A week. Compete against yourself. Make it a game. Fight for "high scores" until you're down to doing it a couple times a month. Keep going. Acknowledge your successes. Acknowledge your failures. Show yourself what you are capable of, then make that your new standard. For 99% of you, this guy's advice is totally impracticable and unsustainable. Make consistent sustainable efforts.
thanks for commenting man. I do agree that most people won't do these things until they reach the breaking point that I reached. the enemy wants us to believe that we still need to be on social medias, even when it causes us to stumble. for me though, keeping score doesn't work for me and just makes me think of it more
@@AndrewWYT understood. Let’s say you put all responsibility in the hands of your friends or you have to eliminate all tempting content from your environment. IMO you did not triumph over anything. You are hiding from the enemy, not defeating it. You are always at risk of falling back into it. You have to tell every potential relationship partner, “hey, btw, i am too weak to be trusted with any tempting content, so I need you to sterilize your entire world if you want to be with me. Also I’m putting all the responsibility of me not falling back into sin on you, because if it’s on me, I’m failing. And because “zero responsibility” is on me, if I do fail, it’s your fault and everyone else’s. I just don’t see that as a win. Job, Kings, Exodus, and more are all proof that God allows his children to be tempted, and when God gives you that ultimate test, you will fail because you didn’t take it upon yourself to strengthen your resolve, learn how to look temptation in the face, and say ‘no’. If the enemy ever does get his hands on you again, you will fail. (Not you specifically, but the general ‘you’).
@@granthagen3207 But the Bible says to Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. See sexual sin is a sin that we are literally told to flee from not to fight against but flee from.
God bless you.
@@FeedingFrenzy91 1 Thessalonians also says we must “learn to control our bodies” (regarding sexual immorality). By putting responsibility on everyone else, you learn to control nothing.
@@granthagen3207 No, One (at least that I've seen) is saying that. Just pointing out that fleeing and fighting are two different things. See getting off the places where you are tempted more isn't putting it on everyone else as far as I've seen.
I want to shine more light on your third point. Philippians 4:8 says, "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things."
It does not say, "Think about how you sin all the time."
Romans 7:15-17: "15 For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. 16 Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. 17 So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me."
Romans 8:1-2: "There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. 2 For the law of the Spirit of life has set you[b] free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death."
Focus on good things, like God and His word and your friends and family and other blessings. If you don't believe that YOU are righteous, than you won't be. You ARE righteous because you are transformed through the finished work of Christ. You need to truly trust that you belong to Him.
Please, read all of Romans 7 and 8 slowly.
READ THIS: God just revealed this again to me yesterday. I prayed the night before for God to help me understand why I fell back into sin. I got these answers the next day; it's one of the best answers to prayer I have ever received. These verses from Philippians and Romans were the second part of His answer. The first part was that we need to confess our sins to one another if we want to be healed.
James 5:16: "Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working."
This is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you dear brother.
Amen! I would love your insight in our group in the destination bro, all the instruction we need is right in the good book!
Amen
thanks for commenting bro! hope to see you around more
Jesus said to gouge out your eye, and cut off your hand.
I see from the video that you still have both eyes and both hands.
U first
The Love of God is free. 'Freely ye have received, freely give.' The woman who was about to be stoned was told, 'Go, and sin no more.' We know what to do.
Amén! Thanks for commenting
No, sir. I did MY part. He hasn't done HIS part. I clearly told Him that as long as I have chronic pain and involuntary celibacy I will never defeat lust. I begged Him on my knees for 5 years for Him to help me and take away my health problems and to give me a partner. He was as mute as a rock. So, no, I will not play by His rules anymore. He can send me to hell if He wants to. I will go to hell knowing that He is unmerciful and unjust. I did not ask to be born. I did not consent to exist and to abide by the rules He imposed upon me. Forcing someone to live an existence of pain against their will is evil.
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You're basically saying that you can only defeat it on your terms... in essence that you know better than Him. God knows that you can do this with His help... in fact, He wants you to see that as well. Don't give up, when He sees that you have humbled your heart and continue to depend on His help, that may very well be the time He may grant you a significant other.
@@colinpierre3441 Tons of people know better than Him. "He" didn't even have the right answer on slavery. So no one should care for the opinions of some cosmic weirdo who's concerned with people sating a biological urge that he designed into them.
2:30 seriously? Sinning from your own free will has nothing to do with demons. Nice way to take verses out of context!
Whats the context brother? Help me understand
Demonic forces 😂
Read the Gospel of Mark if you want to know about real demons.
Definitely have brother! You don’t believe demonic forces are heavily tempting people?
Amen
Amen
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