Declutter Your Life For Self Love
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ต.ค. 2024
- I offer personal counseling with a scheduled appointment or on an "emergency" basis.
For my help, please contact me: fennavdberg@hotmail.com
Hello there!
My name is Fenna van den Berg, I am a certified coach and counselor. I have worked in the mental health field for over 25 years.
Having been through episodes of Limerence, I have "earned my stripes" to help others with their recovery. I understand the obsession and suffering of Limerence. My passion is being able to share with you, and all limerents, a guided-way forward on your journey of healing. We do this through discovering and practicing self-love and compassion. As someone who has suffered through limerence, I have developed effective coaching for people with limerence. My Coaching has helped countless have a more purposeful life, and I want to help you. We will work together, so that you may have a life more in line with your values and integrity.
Together, we are blossoming a community of friendly people with the same debilitating feelings and experiences of Limerence. Here, we share with, support, and nurture each other in giving love to ourselves, perhaps for the first time.
When you’re ready to end your pain and suffering from seeking the "Other," I’m here to guide you in recognizing your true lovable self, with compassionate teaching, counseling and also private coaching.
For my help, please contact me: fennavdberg@hotmail.com or on
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I know this is what I need to do. A part of me that is unhealed wants to remain unrealized. I have been working on this for a while.
My tech is decluttered too. Phone and computers full of emails, apps, and documents I need to organize better or don't need at all. 😅
I hear you, I have 3000 pics on my phone that I do not need.
@@followingfenna 🤣😂🤣 I know I have more! 😅
Thank you Fenna. I need to declutter my life. I am a hoarder by nature and keep everything. I am afraid to lose stuff, afraid to delete emails too. There was a lot of content in this video so I am going to re-watch it / re-listen to it again.
Me too!
Same haaa! Why so hard for me to let go? Oh yeah, trauma. 😩
I think join a hobby social group...That way you already have things in common with people you are surrounded by and have plenty to talk about on different levels...I love doing art...I will join an art group.
Hurray! What a good 💡!
I'm working on decluttering the calendar. No more rushing around to please everyone and make it to everything
Yeah ! Hurray good to hear
I must have a look at my social life for sure.
I will make a list, I have so much decluttering to do. It was like I was not there during my limerence.
Yes we need to be proactive and do those things on our to-do lists. Be social and get outside a bit. I just tune into this channel to see Fenna and her wonderful home. I could actually fall into limerence with Fenna. LOL!
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She won't let you! You will snap out of it as quickly as you fell. 🤣
@@StephieGsrEvolution Indeed ! Hahaha 😆
EXCELLENT ADVICE ❤
Thank you !!!
Since my wife has been in a limerant affair...our house looks like a hoarders house....I stopped sleeping in the same bed with my wife 14 months ago..and spend my nights in a small apartment...she has gone as much as 3 months with the LO....but seems to always go back...we've been together??..30 years / married for 27...why am I still holding out hope...Wayne R Schneider MD
Friendships - this is my issue. A lot good here. I’m a loner - thx
Me too.
I have to watch/listen to everything you council to keep myself on top of my Limerence. I do miss the opening music jingle.
I'm happy to be a help for you. I also miss my jingle a bit.
I have a question. And maybe you can do a video on this. How to end a "relationship" with someone who is limerent for YOU. In my case, it is the distance. The other is limerent for me, I'm not willing to close the gap and pushing someone away can make them want you even more. And I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Thank you!
Be VERY clear. That's something completely different than pushing someone away.
" I don't want to be with you and I don't want to move for you " being clear is the biggest thing you can do for them.
@@followingfenna Thank you Fenna!
I'm not sure I've ever had a non limerent relationship.😢
I'm so sorry for you. But there is hope yet :)
Hi Fenna
I’ve noticed you repeat a lot that the limerant and LO are highly incompatible. I guess it’s based in attachment theory and one person being more anxious and the other avoidant. My question is who actually is a compatible partner for the avoidant person? If as human beings we are wired for connection and closeness who wants a partner who keeps you at arm’s length emotionally or refuses to get closer than at a superficial level?
No one wants a partner like that. Limerence is not only linked to attachment styles but in general to obstacles, sometimes the avoidant attachment of the other is one of the obstacles. Having a secure dating partner is always the healthy choice and also work on your own issues.
The avoidant is self sabotaging so there is no ' perfect ' fit. Its difficult for the avoidant to maintain a long term relationship. They will have to do some healing work.
Thank you Fenna. Your channel is incredibly valuable