Relationship | Whether You Should Marry or not? | Dr. Hansaji Yogendra
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- Marriage is and should be, a deeply personal decision. But how can one know if it's the perfect time to marry or not? Here's a video to help you navigate this challenging subject and make an informed decision.
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Hope you found this video helpful. Marriage is a life-changing decision. There are many in delusion if marriage is the right choice for them or not, please share the video with someone you believe might benefit from this valuable information in their dilemma. We aim to promote wellbeing in the world!
Amma please make a video on hot to reduce acne scars and pits please amma🙏🙏🙏
Please make a video on whether to have kids or not as well madam....Coz., parenting has been the most challenging these days...thank you 🙏
Hansa Maa could you please make a video on making healthy boundaries? It would be very helpful
Sooo beautifully explained, Maa :)
This really help me with my decisions Amma😘and i can relate to this…Some people always asking me why I’m still single or not yet married? I answered them like this, “Getting married is not a competition, that i have my own timeline..because I don’t like to get married for the sake of having a partner in life…Our relationship will not lasts longer if I force myself to do so..I will just settle down if I’m physically,mentally, spiritually and financially prepared..I am not closing the thought of “ we need a partner “ for as long we are ready and responsible enough to fulfill our duty as partner or as husband or wife..can you enlighten me Amma if i did the right thing or Not…I need your suggestions..Thank You and May God Bless you💕😘😘🙏
Its beautiful to be alone. To be alone does not mean to be lonely. IT means the mind is not influenced by anything
Very true 👍👍
Rightly said
@shubham yes it's possible but u have to make your decision, I took my decision when I was 21 as well
@shubham bro u r just 21 I am 24 now and have no pressure to get married, bcoz I told my father..... I am not going to marry unless I am satisfied with myself. So you have to discuss this with your parents. there is no other way. Try it
True
The woman silently took revenge by offering the shawl to the man even though it was hot outside cos the man had asked her to reheat the rice🤣🤭
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So true....😁😁😁😁
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Well said😂
I am 46, unmarried and very happy. It's important to be content and happy with yourself first. Other things will automatically follow.
Very true question
@@Zada08 wtf
You will regret later on .
@@itsmeedeepu5944 who told you.. Nobody live together till death.. May be husband or wife die... Then you r alone... After marriage also... Even children don't take care of... Then what should you do... Regret for what? Do you know...
@@juhigautam9874 don't do anything sleep tight anyway one day you are gonna die. such negative thoughts you need healing.
Really confusing topic for me ,,,, in today's time it's very hard to find good partner
I am 70 and my marriage has been very happy - so far! One great advantage is I have always admired my wife’s qualities and she has found things to respect in me. But also I made a private decision never to criticize her or blame her, in my mind or outwardly, but always be on her side. I think this helped greatly because I saw so many other couples had a habit of putting each other down, especially to their friends. Which meant neither could be whole heartedly happy. I have also always tried to help her to do whatever she wants to do. But luckily she is a very sensible and reliable person, which meant she never wanted bad things. But I would like to note some differences between the sexes I have seen. When women marry, they often put their whole heart into the thing, but men often hang back. If you spoil that pure heartedness of your wife by your selfish behavior in the beginning, you will miss out on something that will bring you lifelong happiness. Don’t ruin it through pettiness or immaturity! Be kind and big-hearted!
Your comments are really inspiring
This is beautiful to read. ❤️
Wish i could get some one like you. Im in my 20s. Relationship i was in, always made me question my value. Initial years i used to listen him talk on and on lovingly. And he hardly allowed me to sneak in. But eventually it became irritating to me.
He made me feel weak in several other ways. Whatever I did just for him, was nothing for him.
In short, i feel myself fool at the end.
Btw im happy reading this message. I wish you good health and happiness in future :)
This is beautiful. It reminds me that there is hope in this world. There is Beauty and Humanity after all.
Wow .. You are superb sir
I am selfish, uncouthy and heartless.
I am extremely arrogant & bad mannered.
I don't want to change myself for others.
That's what I am. So, Happy as Bachelor. 😊😊😊
I am a normal man.. still I choose not to mrry and lose in the game
Me tooooooo
I also don't want
To get married and be a man's slave
I think our society is the worst , they ruined their life so they want ruin another life
Summary:
Marry if you are ready to adjust and compromise and can find a similar good minded soul as partner.
If you dont want to get married have other selfless goals to serve the society in general in whichever way you can.
Whatever way find a way to serve.
Now a days people are getting married becz of society and family pressure I think this should not happen as it will end up with lot of chaos.
Correct
True
I was in same situation and still not buy that concept no matter how hardship I face I will not bow down until I am sure to get married 👍🤗 U r for once Never live by other rules.
Khud independent bann jao koi kuchh nahi bolega even ladies ko bhi nahi
People were always marrying because of social/peer/parental pressure. In fact the pressure was even more earlier. Atleast nowadays many people are choosing their own partners against the wishes of the society/peers/parents.
I guess a healthy, well balanced relationship comes from communication instead of listening without questioning. But I respect your point of view.
Yes .
Dear Grandmaa I am 23 year old girl and I don't want to marry I want to take care of my parents and give back them all the happiness which they have sacrificed for me..
You can do both. Marry if you want a family to give back the good things given to us. Best wishes.
You can support your family better with a marriage, as your parents will be happy Your children also would support your parents.
Your parents are the past and present...Your Husband will be the present and future....choose your partner with compatibility not looks....
i support you
Sister agar unhone tumhe Aisa boll diya ki beta hum aapke sath nhi rehna chahte tum shadi krke jao or hmari khusi isi m hai ki aap ache se apna ghr bsaye...tb kya jwab dogi unko..fr kaise sacrifice krogi
If this is example of perfect marriage. Then robots gonna be humans partner.
Machine has this quality built-in.
I am not against the institution called marriage. However, to comment that people who are unmarried can never grow spiritually is misleading. To state that you are incomplete without marriage is nothing but social stigma. Though I love Hansaji a lot, I felt her opinion was judgemental and negative against people who chose not to marry. Which ideally is against the principles of yoga. To live and let live Tatvamasi, is that not applicable here.? I understand her intention is to show people the right path about marriage and the strong bond and value this institution can bring into our personal spiritual and social growth but to say without marriage you are nothing is too bad. People shouldn't get married to prove their self worth. Instead they should marry only if they want to share their life with another person. Who is not selfish? People get married to meet their social, financial, relationship , emotional, sexual needs etc. Now if someone feels whole themselves why demotivate like this saying no you cannot be complete without another person
you didnt understand the context. Maa meant that a family member is generally more thoughtful than a single person which makes spiritual journey easier. Maa always talks subtle - never as "nothing" or so... she clearly said, its totally a person's decision.
@@theyogainstituteofficial thanks for the reply. But if a family person is generally more thoughtful than a single person then explain to me our PM Modi, our our Orissa CM, or anybody from any walk of life who doesn't lead a family life. Does it mean they are not spiritual or well-rounded human beings. Who decides who is spiritual and non-spiritual. Sushmita sen, she is not married but one of the most inspiring woman this country has produced. Abdul Kalam, the true father of the nation of this generation, was unmarried. Vajpayee, Lata Mangeshkar...numerous names like these. I understand your love and devotion to Hansa ma and I am sorry if I made you feel defensive but this is just about learning to accept different viewpoints in our society respectfully. I love Hansa ma and have the deepest love and respect for her. I am just sharing a different point of view, that's all. Once marital status should have nothing to do with ones personal growth. Yes, its one medium but not the only medium. And it's not the end game.There are thousands who give up family life and take larger group of people as their own like Mother Teresa. Also there are people who believe in living life on their own and live a vagabond life. They too are explorers of their own purpose and goals in life. There is not right and wrong here. That my point of view respectfully 🙏 let's be inclusive of all. Sooner or later at some point one will realise the real joy is in giving, be it to self, to people around, to community, to nation or the whole world at large. At what ever pace it might be. People who are married also why limit to just family duties? There is more right. Are they better off than others? Even they will not agree 😄 growth is specific to each individual. Let's leave it at that.
I totally agree with you. It is indeed ironical. On one hand celibacy is supposed to be one of the greatest virtues to practice spirituality and on the other hand in this video it is said that get married/stay in family for spiritual growth.
@@pratiraj9750 how did you miss gautam buddha and mahaveer who left family to contribute for mankind
@@kshemendragourav3746 But it would have been better if they were unmarried. Then they would have been more effective in their goals.
Singles hit the like button 😁😜
So basically it is a senseless relationship.....u do whatever they ask u to do without thinking ...great message
True
It is to let go..otherwise never marry
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I would ask my husband to heat it himself :p
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To the person reading this never lose hope there's always something to be grateful for :)
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@@nitikamehta9150 Loads of love and warm welcome your appreciation and support is all I need :)
The wife should've questioned about reheating the rice and the husband about wearing the showl in the hot weather.
It isn't just about listening and obey to each other every time. There's no logic. Trusting each other doesn't mean u should listen and believe each and every thing of the other.
Thanks. Someone said it❤️
Ye bhi sahi baat h
To put context, when young i too, thought the same as mentioned in the comment BUT as became older, the subtlety of the message of the story became clearer. So here, both partners respect each other, if i know something doesn't make sense and my partner is normally a sensible person, then I will GIVE benefit of doubt to his wisdom and not question him in front of others, if alone with each other then may ask him but that too politely. Here my takeaway is when you know and respect your partner in the true sense of the word, you will know, when to keep silent and when and where to question. Hope it helps 🙏
Celibacy is the only way to truth. Avoid marriage at all costs. Without Brahmacharya we cannot be spiritual.
@@plutoneptunewhat if parents are forcing and not ready to take responsibility after something goes bad
All relationships are unstable. 💔 Stay single stay happy.
U are right
Yes
@@madhavimadhu4824 👍
You have Brain .....🤍👍😊
Sure kata hai na Tera🤣
Wow. I needed to be reminded about this. And thanks a ton for this wonderful advice 🙏🙏
The way you explain things always makes special. Loads and love and respect for you mam 😘😍
Problem arises when it's a lopsided relationship. One is submissive, one is dominant/exploitative. In this story, it appears to be balanced and backed with trust.
we urge the couples to work on and have balance, trust, respect, love for happiness and peace in the family and for the ideal society
@@theyogainstituteofficial thank you 🙏❤️
Nope that's wrong
Usually bdsm relations are much healthier than normal relation
Dominant attracts submissive ,submissive attracts dominant...masculine and feminine energies attract each other
Problem is that u want a ur girl friend in ur husband
Thanks ma. This lesson is very empowering. Will remember this.
You are versatile talent. Great to see you. That you give solutions upon every issue. I follow you and thanks.
But isnt it wrong the way you portrayed it? You could have taken some good example where both listen to each other in a better way? The man ordered her to heat the already heated rice for his own benefit while the women told him to wear a shawl for his benefit. It's 2021 and people still think women should be the caregiver while the man can be dominant and order the women around?
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No. The example was correct. I agree it was exaggerated but it is true... Respect and trust with your partner is all we need in a marriage.
You are right when it comes to how this example glorifies absolute trust and respect without any logic behind it. Why heat the hot rice again? Why wear a scarf when it is already hot outside? Both of them should have questioned eachother because neither of their logic made any sense, that would have been considered good communication. Questioning eachother does not mean that they do not respect each other, that is how people grow. Also at some points in the video I can't deny the fact that certain patriarchal undertones does exist.
Absolutely!
I too agree with you but I have a different point of view here. My view is there is no need to be that much devoted that you oversee others mistake. This is not trust, this is foolishness. As a partner you need to grow with each other which can be done by clearing each others mistake hence just to avoid argument not telling truth about someones foolishness or mistake is utterly nonsense thing to do. There should be trust and a thought should be given when your partner points out the mistake then together each others flaws can be removed and one can grow in relation together. Also in a basic sense atleast both should be comfortable with telling each others mistake openly. I like her videos but this example made me dislike her video for the first time.
Thanks a lot mam.. u hv explained everything about the decision to get married or not to get married.. I agreed with ur point whatever u hv briefed in ur speech.. thanks once again for ur quality advice..🙏
This example i dont think is good one. Its madness. Loving does not mean following n listening to stupid things. One should respect decision but should be able to discuss n decide. We r not robots or machines. Humans have brains and they will use it.
True
Thank you.
This video is helpful.
Hansaji gives simple advice as usual, but which is never said openly.
May the Yoga institute prosper and stay safe.
Mathajiiii ❤️ Awesome 🙏🙏🙏..lots of respect to you..Stay blessed and stay Healthy ❤️🙏
I don't think to become selfless anyone needs to marry. Don't know how people associate everything with marriage.
This is hard to take in the western culture. Everything is dissected, from health, to business, to relationships and a different dimension is missing. Madam, you are so right. What can be happier than listening and just roll along providing both have a good heart. But if you just wear something that pleases your mate, the clothing is way inferior to the laughing of the time walking to the park with each other without arguments. We are so accustomed to race our mind, ready to convince, justify.
I think the decision of getting married or not should be absolutely practical and nothing else.
So many people on this planet but hard to meet the right one
U were right first become friends understand them that's important but in most of the families especially in mine ppl think if u spend time to understand it means u liked them and the decision should be yes but it's equally important to know each other and decide it's not about only our life it's abt another person life too and in modern terms that's called dating but arrange marriage has little to no scope for this since parents are involved both sides and they talk decide everything except about the choice and interest of the girl and boy who r getting married
Wonderfully explained Mataji. Thank u 🙏
I bow down to your advice amma 🙏 beautifully explained
Excellent Hansa Ji
Bahut hi Utham aur unda thareeke se bayaan kiye hain aap
If reading this stay focused,life is beautiful,work on yourself.If someone is busy finding faults in you ,you keep on increasing your skill this will help you.believe in yourself and universe
How lovely u put this ! Y so many don't understand this ..nice of u to speak of this ..
thanks for your lovely..nd valuable. lecture mam 🙏🙏🌷🌷🌷
Dear madam, thank u so much for giving valuable advices for our life
Thank you so much madam for this video really very clear to understand
Sooo cute Dr Hansaji. Loves the way she talks and explains about things.
You are our grandma, who give some beautiful advices to us, 🙏
Amazing.
Marriage is not for everyone.
Some Empathetic people can't handle Chaos and Negativity.
They just want live peacefully Alone.
🤍🙏😊
Great Episode, thank you mam. 🙏
Loved this video mam.. You are superb.
It's very important message u gave, it's true words u said Ma'am
Love makes Life beautiful 👍❤️❤️
Hate makes life meaningful
I forwarded your video to my brother who is having so much problem in marriage. Lot of arguments and fight. Hope he will find something from this to live happily
Very nice mam videos always gives me motivation thank you🙏
Hansaji I am everyday watching your videos. You are my daily motivation. Please make videos about hernia care after delivery.
Every boy and girl should watch and understand this before marriage.
beautiful very clear and encouraging....
Wonderfully explained 🌺
Mam your way of explaining and speaking is so soothing thank you for this video
Loads of love and blessings Mam, love U Maa vid respect and regards
Amazing advice....U r just amazing Mam...Love to hear you...
U r chubby
Namaskar Mata Jee🙏
Beautiful video🌸
Thumbs Up~ 251🌸
Por favor , los videos con subtítulos con opcion en español . Mil gracias .🤗
Perfect guidance ! Loved it..
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Thankyou Hansaji . For all your advice.really appreciate.
Beautifully explained. Thanks.
So beautifully u explained mam. In a simple way
Thankyou Dr.Hansaji this is most needed for me.
Love you Amma. You are changing my life
Thanks ma , it's a good advice you have given about marriage
Thank you Amma ❤️Much needed video now a days💯
Wow.. really helpful... thought.. thanks mother 🙏
Thanks mataji for your valueable advice
You are my favourite ma'am ❤️❤️
Love and respect ❤️🙏🏻keep blessings 🙏🏻
Wonderful explanation thank you madam
One of the best explanations!!!
I am the Ayurveda Student, And I am very attached to shrimad bhagavatam and Krishna, I strongly want to Practice Ayurveda, and want to live the life of saffron within following my passion.Should I completely surrender to any Devotional Organization Or Keep up my passion with Devotion?
Amazing advise .Thanks mam
My present situation is same..I too is in this dilemma
Beautifully explained ma'am ☺️.. Marriage is beautiful bond we share with our partner..Yes their is ups and down but we need to understand the difference and situations how to handle ☺️
It is thought provoking and balanced view. Thankyou for the upload. However I am slightly disappointed yoga institute didn't portray our Indian traditional weddings in the video.
👍 true sister
Wonderfully explained
Great thought!👍
Thank you for this video ☺️ I m married from one and half year . Got many answers from this video . Very helpful 😇 I m glad I have started my spiritual journey after marriage 😇🙏🏻
I bet you don't work at a job.. that's why have ample time to start spiritual journey 😅 after acquiring a rich man
@@Deb_deCoder Retirement Plan you mean. 🤣🤣🤣
There should be healthy arguments... The result of arguments should be to come to a conclusion together and not about winning the argument... Just because the spouse needs to invest in a loss incurring company and abiding by their decision will simply push the family into bankruptcy... Love is also about listening and not only about listening...love is made of multiple threads with many many small beads... The only thing is partners should be ready to put effort , improve themselves and work as a team in the marraige..i cudnt fully accept her ideology...marraige is not giving up even when things get difficult... I have seen many couples fighting daily yet couldnot stay away from each other for a day...so in a marriage make your own rules along with your partner..there is no one standard formula for every marriage...
Thanks for sharing your info
"the descision is all yours"....after that spiritual remark and stressing 70% of time on getting married 🙂.
Very Nice. Request you to please use the term "Ithihaas and Puran" instead of "Mythology". 🙏
Lol ...hehe
Salute to you ma'am ♥️
Everything said was upto the mark, but you can't clap from one hand.
Meanwhile
The LEGEND THE GEM
RATAN TATA GARU
LAUGHING FROM THE CORNER
Yes ma'am. You are totally correct. I suffered because my parents misunderstandings, arguments....think 1000times before marry if not ur children will suffer.
So true..... 10000000 agree with you . rishta ma baap ka nh nibh pata .. Toot bache jate h. Bacho ko us gunha ki saja milti h .. Jo glti unhone nhi ki .. Rishta unhka nibha vo nh pa rhe. Saja hume milti h
Exactly....we are 3 kids...and we have an extremely traumatic childhood, till date we are suffering and dilemma still lies to choose happiness or stick to our duties as kids and keep thriving to "make our parents" happy which we don't know is possible or not.
@@InspiroreaderneetikaI have anxiety, depression, going through till now... No one can understand the pain I have gone through...if I could I would unborne myself...my parents are the first reason I don't want get married ever
@@crazyFun129are your parents forcing you to get married?
@@roshnipraveen8901 not forcing yet , but will in the coming year
For now they gave me time to make my mind already...cause they won't support my descision of being single 💔
Off course i will
It's a blessing to be loVed by the team wiVe,s
If any ...
After listening you mam
I still get confused and i have little bit of unknown fear I don't know what it is called. I know that partner is needed for every body's life but whenever I listen about my marriage I started feeling uncomfortable please give me answer of this question?
Excellent video 🙏
Soo beautifully explained
Every body should listen it
Thank u madam. Thought that marriage was a hindrance for spirituality.
Marriage going to be disappear very soon!
Humanity is also going to disappear very soon
Everything has evolved with time but not the institution of Marriage and one must give a thought to it and all your questions will be answered. They say Change is the only Constant but Marriage as an institution neither has evolved nor any improvements have being made to that Bond and personally I believe in love and not marriage because Krishna has taught me love is bigger than this bond of marriage. One can grow spiritually without marriage as well if one believes in love and not owning the other person what I see now a days people in marriage behave as if they literally own the other person and I hate the Government interfering in the Institution of Marriage. Marriage needs a total overhaul then only I can think about getting married till then there is nothing bigger than love and never will be anything above love 😊
Life teaching and learning video.
Actually my age is 30 from couple of days I'm searching that why should we marry. What is the main reason...
To some extent I got answer from this video. And yes if I marry someone I'll maintain that faith, understanding and love which tought in this video.
Please tell me regarding how astrology is most important in marriage Life. Is astrology is correct to predict future am filled with negative thoughts.
Astrology is one part but u have to think from ur whether to have tat person or not,and decide
Meaningful video
Salute to u Ma'am ❤️🙏🙏
Much needed