Same here girl🥺I am a girl, at the age of 24, completed Msc last year...and now..I am at my home, preparing for govt exams...but my father .. constantly snaps at me, saying that..."kisiko pakarke usko shadi karwado"🙂
it is so difficult to explain to our parents why an apparently perfect proposal is not good for me. They use such weird tricks emotional blackmail, crying and what not. It is so frustrating.
I m just 20 they forcing me like hell 😒 they abusing me by bad words.... they going cheap and cheap ...oh my god i didn't know this people go this much
Its also important for both girls and boys to be completely financially independent. Not just some job but financially independence and ability to responsibilities. By this way olny will they have the freedom to make there own life choices. Unfortunately in India lot of the youth is dependent on there parents even in 20s.
I am in a relationship since 10+ years. Parents are completely against it. I tried to make them understand but they always disrespect me. Abuse me emotionally every day and there is no limit to how cheap they say. They are forcing me do arrange marriage .I don't want to leave my parents as I am the eldest daughter and i want to take care of them And I can't leave my boyfriend coz we love eachother and understand eachother. I am exhausted now I really need peace. I don't know what to do.
Exactly shared my thoughts and views. And, this is exactly what's happening to me at the moment. I am a very calm person by nature but sometimes my Mom pushes me so much that I lose my cool and raise my voice to put across my point. Such a therapeutic video. :)
Parents dont understand, they see marriage in a different way. How can society, their image in relatives, their opinions could be more important than their daughter's life. In my case its not just pressure of getting married but get arranged marriage. Like many others, my parents didn't allow us for love marriage and now after seeing the reality i am so shocked. They themselves dont know what they are doing, arranged marriage is a messed up process. Parents dont have the control over the situation. They are married since decades but for them important thing is caste, and then education, job, salary, family... i am not saying its not at all important but there are way more important things than this which they dont even consider. If two people will have to live their life together and forever then i guess trust, understanding, truthfulness, transparency, respect, equality, love are the most important things but here in arranged marriage they are not given importance. How can i know the person doesn't lie, that he is ethical, has the same values, just in couple of talks. i wish i knew this reality before. Love marriage seems far better now, people know who they are marrying, they love their partners after knowing about them and then get married and i think thats the right thing. My parents made me meet a guy yesterday, a complete stranger and they want me to marry him. Now i am trying to find a way to escape this situation but its difficult.
Parents should understand getting to marrying an unknown person doesn't make any sense. How can parents come to the conclusion within a minute that the guy is good.
I'm 23 and this thing start happen with me....I just cleared dmlt this year and i want to complete my steno to persue Central gov job this year but the topic of marriage is just started by doing cooking a day start setup whole house in a day and all home duties😢...
I feel u girlll!! 23🙋🏻♀️🥲...I just graduated MBA...the thing is my parents r trying to get me married at 19 itself..but I survived so far🎉...Only thing I do everyday is manifesting to get married only whn I feel right & only with whom I feel right ❤️🩹
I disagree with your statement saying that, "They have a right to disagree with you, you have to respect that," Absolutely not. They don't have any "right" to disagree with me, on MY choices about MY life. They don't have any "right" on my life, so they don't have any "right" to agree or disagree with my choices. Can they "choose" to not agree - yes, but that's on them. It's a "choice" they are making, which is on them, not a "right" that they are exercising. And I'm in no way obliged to respect "their" choices /opinions on MY life. Using words like "they have a right to", when it comes to issues about parents doesn't actually help. Better omit such words.
I got married on family pressure.. My mom, dad and brother were psychologically disturbing me.. And my elder sister started putting social pressure to me.. 😢😢😢 I got married and about zulaa zul rahi hu... !!!!
Meri maa ne bola sadi karlo.. Yato mar jao.... I'm just 23..they fource me to marry.. But i can't...... I'm not ready.... I want to die...... But i just fearing to suiside
Same 😢I'm 22 and they want to get me marriage before 23age there pressuring me 🙂 I have my plans to get marriage in 26 27 age but after decission with family they are laughing at that age you will be grandmother no one will marry a grandma 🙄it's really hurts my feels while they don't try to understand.😅
How are you right now? If possible leave the house. Live in some hostel. Do not think about suicide and stuff, no one cares. It's only your loss. Family will still be like, "Suicide karliya, ab hum logoko kya jawab denge!"
I am 34 and my parents are so sad that I have decided to stay single. And the worst part is that my personal life has been put up on display for all to see. Everybody is passing passive judgements on my choices. I try to not feel guilty because it’s not my fault. But sometimes it’s just overwhelming
"just look at their own marriage" - end of story. aisa bhayankar example ki you'll think 10times. indian parents/our parents' generation couples don't know the CONCEPT OF CONFLICT HANDLING & RESOLUTION. passive-aggressive silent treatment, gossiping with 20 ppl instead of talking it out calmly with each other, sweeping disagreements/differences under the rug and pretend it never happened FOREVER, except its resentment keeps building up and they grow more and more indifferent and contemptuous and vengeful and bitter. having a decent conversation - WHAT EVEN IS THAT? wife is for the kitchen, husband is for social status and upkeep.
My parent's are being brainwashed by my relatives.. is there any helpline to save my self from thses caos.. im ready to go to police station. Will police take action on my relatives?
I snapped because my father has a weird way of talking to which I won’t take ever cos I have been let down horribly in many areas of life n I tc of my needs When I told them have u ever tried understanding my issues lol then he said I can’t talk to u and hung up ….. After a long time I wasn’t hurt the call got cut n I said what I said
Marriage toh hai usme pressure. Marriage ke badh "kab good news ayega". Meanwhile not wanting kids. Mom toh abhi seh bolta hai job ke badh family barega meh bolta hu meh dekhlunga
Being a girl + preparing for gov job + preparing at your own home is not easy bro
My situation is same as yours !
Same yrr 😢😢
Same situation here
Same here girl🥺I am a girl, at the age of 24, completed Msc last year...and now..I am at my home, preparing for govt exams...but my father .. constantly snaps at me, saying that..."kisiko pakarke usko shadi karwado"🙂
Because of this reason, my focus on studies is also getting affected...
it is so difficult to explain to our parents why an apparently perfect proposal is not good for me. They use such weird tricks emotional blackmail, crying and what not. It is so frustrating.
U r right. Only those know who r stuck in this bad situation
Plus suicidal drama, heart attack drama, gathering all relatives to brainwash, etc etc
Exact its so frustrating
I m just 20 they forcing me like hell 😒 they abusing me by bad words.... they going cheap and cheap ...oh my god i didn't know this people go this much
Really sorry to hear that. I am also going through the same problem. I am 20 too. My parents are giving me silent treatment!🙂
I'm 18 my relatives have already started talking about my marriage..they are asking my parents 😢😂
Its also important for both girls and boys to be completely financially independent. Not just some job but financially independence and ability to responsibilities. By this way olny will they have the freedom to make there own life choices. Unfortunately in India lot of the youth is dependent on there parents even in 20s.
I am in a relationship since 10+ years. Parents are completely against it. I tried to make them understand but they always disrespect me. Abuse me emotionally every day and there is no limit to how cheap they say. They are forcing me do arrange marriage .I don't want to leave my parents as I am the eldest daughter and i want to take care of them And I can't leave my boyfriend coz we love eachother and understand eachother. I am exhausted now I really need peace.
I don't know what to do.
Just let it all go if your parents were able to make it on their own possibly then you can do it yourself
I can feel you
Why they don't accept ur guy
@@drsareekakatkuriphysiother5376 because she wants to merry him. And her parents doesn’t want.
Marry to your bf . Simple
My relatives tried to make me feel guilty... i shut them off
Exactly shared my thoughts and views. And, this is exactly what's happening to me at the moment. I am a very calm person by nature but sometimes my Mom pushes me so much that I lose my cool and raise my voice to put across my point. Such a therapeutic video. :)
I do the same
Meee too....
Parents dont understand, they see marriage in a different way. How can society, their image in relatives, their opinions could be more important than their daughter's life. In my case its not just pressure of getting married but get arranged marriage.
Like many others, my parents didn't allow us for love marriage and now after seeing the reality i am so shocked. They themselves dont know what they are doing, arranged marriage is a messed up process. Parents dont have the control over the situation. They are married since decades but for them important thing is caste, and then education, job, salary, family... i am not saying its not at all important but there are way more important things than this which they dont even consider. If two people will have to live their life together and forever then i guess trust, understanding, truthfulness, transparency, respect, equality, love are the most important things but here in arranged marriage they are not given importance. How can i know the person doesn't lie, that he is ethical, has the same values, just in couple of talks. i wish i knew this reality before. Love marriage seems far better now, people know who they are marrying, they love their partners after knowing about them and then get married and i think thats the right thing. My parents made me meet a guy yesterday, a complete stranger and they want me to marry him. Now i am trying to find a way to escape this situation but its difficult.
Parents should understand getting to marrying an unknown person doesn't make any sense. How can parents come to the conclusion within a minute that the guy is good.
I am feeling that I am in the pressure cooker. 😔
What happen.
what to do if you don’t wanna get married at all? how to convince indian parents?
Even I want to know.
There is no cure move to a foreign country
@@Fifi-zv2ckthat won’t help 😂
Same here.
I am feeling much better after watching this video..
I am 36 not married , know pressure i m facing
Girl or boy
Me too
Just marry when u love someone and can't live without this person, not look at money or other things because time will gooo quickly
Very nice..but this video was needed 17 yrs ago..
How?
Sir, atleast you are saying 28 but here they are saying 25 is the right age :(((((
I'm just 19 my parents is pressuring for marriage 🥲
Some people at 18
@@sumaiyyamansoori8122
😒
And for some it's 22
I swear
I'm 23 and this thing start happen with me....I just cleared dmlt this year and i want to complete my steno to persue Central gov job this year but the topic of marriage is just started by doing cooking a day start setup whole house in a day and all home duties😢...
I feel u girlll!! 23🙋🏻♀️🥲...I just graduated MBA...the thing is my parents r trying to get me married at 19 itself..but I survived so far🎉...Only thing I do everyday is manifesting to get married only whn I feel right & only with whom I feel right ❤️🩹
My age 20 but my parents forced me to get married 😢😢😭😔😔
I disagree with your statement saying that, "They have a right to disagree with you, you have to respect that," Absolutely not. They don't have any "right" to disagree with me, on MY choices about MY life. They don't have any "right" on my life, so they don't have any "right" to agree or disagree with my choices. Can they "choose" to not agree - yes, but that's on them. It's a "choice" they are making, which is on them, not a "right" that they are exercising. And I'm in no way obliged to respect "their" choices /opinions on MY life. Using words like "they have a right to", when it comes to issues about parents doesn't actually help. Better omit such words.
This is the best video so far I have come across on the topic 💯
❤
Thanks
I got married on family pressure..
My mom, dad and brother were psychologically disturbing me..
And my elder sister started putting social pressure to me..
😢😢😢
I got married and about zulaa zul rahi hu...
!!!!
How r u now. I m in the same prblm
How are you now?
Getting married late is better than getting married wrong.
Bhai main to 23 ki hi hoon.. bol v chuki nhi krni bina job ke shaadi.. I'm in middle of my govt job preparation.
Kya kru kch amjh hi nhi aa rha😅
Same 😊
Same here bro
Meri maa ne bola sadi karlo.. Yato mar jao.... I'm just 23..they fource me to marry.. But i can't...... I'm not ready.... I want to die...... But i just fearing to suiside
Same 😢I'm 22 and they want to get me marriage before 23age there pressuring me 🙂 I have my plans to get marriage in 26 27 age but after decission with family they are laughing at that age you will be grandmother no one will marry a grandma 🙄it's really hurts my feels while they don't try to understand.😅
How are you right now? If possible leave the house. Live in some hostel. Do not think about suicide and stuff, no one cares. It's only your loss. Family will still be like, "Suicide karliya, ab hum logoko kya jawab denge!"
Same
Ha! Finally threatening the parents sounds like a thug life thing! Shridhar da man 😎
I am 34 and my parents are so sad that I have decided to stay single. And the worst part is that my personal life has been put up on display for all to see. Everybody is passing passive judgements on my choices. I try to not feel guilty because it’s not my fault. But sometimes it’s just overwhelming
"just look at their own marriage" - end of story. aisa bhayankar example ki you'll think 10times. indian parents/our parents' generation couples don't know the CONCEPT OF CONFLICT HANDLING & RESOLUTION. passive-aggressive silent treatment, gossiping with 20 ppl instead of talking it out calmly with each other, sweeping disagreements/differences under the rug and pretend it never happened FOREVER, except its resentment keeps building up and they grow more and more indifferent and contemptuous and vengeful and bitter.
having a decent conversation - WHAT EVEN IS THAT? wife is for the kitchen, husband is for social status and upkeep.
I swear my parents have the worst marriage and pressure me
Haha, needed this video 2 years ago.... got married in 2020
I needed it 10yrs ago ;)
How's your life now?
How can I initiate going on dates or offering someone to go on date as a female ? And where can I find genuine potentials ?
My parent's are being brainwashed by my relatives.. is there any helpline to save my self from thses caos.. im ready to go to police station. Will police take action on my relatives?
I love someone, he is not yet settled - Im ready to marry but he is not - I have pressure from both ends ..😔
Struggle is hard
I m just 19 can you believe my father and their family members are forcing me for the married
Been there 🥲🥲🥲🫂
Same😔😔🥲🥲
Same here I am 18 they are like why you have to study your husband will bring money why you have to struggle and study
I snapped because my father has a weird way of talking to which I won’t take ever cos I have been let down horribly in many areas of life n I tc of my needs
When I told them have u ever tried understanding my issues lol then he said I can’t talk to u and hung up …..
After a long time I wasn’t hurt the call got cut n I said what I said
Im so worried .. please help me... I don't want to get married.. i don't like girls
Then why from the age of 24???
Please talk about if the husband has online sex earlier before marriage,? And that is ruining their marriage relationship..
I simply love your videos
I'm 42 still not married how to find girl though i'm earning is more than good
Marriage toh hai usme pressure. Marriage ke badh "kab good news ayega". Meanwhile not wanting kids. Mom toh abhi seh bolta hai job ke badh family barega meh bolta hu meh dekhlunga
bro im just 20 they are forcing me from yrs like from 18
N my mom doesn't marry me off n does not do anything aboutbit
Hats off
Thank you 🙏
*But actually parents life will become hell after their son get married*
You are a Counsular don’t generalise and talk. There are different situations for different people. Be a bit more responsible.
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Parents maa dudaye unki kon sun ta h 😂😂
Uff parents
Who loves indians?
No one
Parents 💩💩💩