Is it necessary to marry in life? What's the physical relationship between man & woman? Krishnamurti

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    Bombay (Mumbai) 1984 - Question #4 from Question and Answer Meeting #1
    'Is it necessary to marry in life? What is the physical relationship between man and woman?'
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  • @kawasakiwhiptwo5821
    @kawasakiwhiptwo5821 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3225

    I'm 53,never married,no kids. I feel fortunate that I recognize that I am a genuinely happy person, despite that fact. A person may be able to make you happy existentially. But in your heart,you are either happy by nature,or you are not. If you are not a happy person by nature, the person you marry will not be able to make you happy.

    • @jimbrown234
      @jimbrown234 4 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      But but to have children which look like you and bring them up is a blessing. The thing is you still have to carry out your spiritual work.

    • @sureshjhnanveen6959
      @sureshjhnanveen6959 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      kawasaki whip two wow awesome

    • @nithim4531
      @nithim4531 4 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      Well said..true.. somepeople can't understand this..

    • @ravikantyadav7708
      @ravikantyadav7708 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Superb brother.. ..

    • @jaiso434
      @jaiso434 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      @@jimbrown234 if you cannot see children as children then there is "hope"

  • @Hispanictexaswoman
    @Hispanictexaswoman 3 ปีที่แล้ว +354

    "If your looking for that special somebody to change your whole life, then look no further than the mirror."

  • @vershasharma4366
    @vershasharma4366 3 ปีที่แล้ว +390

    I am Asha. I'm a lawyer. And at a very early stage of my life I decided that i'll never get married and live peacefully.
    It has been 48 years of me on this planet and i never felt like missing out on anything.
    There has been struggle and hardships but i was always there with myself.
    I hope young generation would also learn to have good relationships with themselves and treat themselves in a better way so that they can also treat others better.
    I believe it is completely upto the choice of an individual and nobody should be accountable for this decision, except for the individuals themselves.

    • @srvplwl
      @srvplwl 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Well said.

    • @clarapearl1
      @clarapearl1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Absolutely true . God bless

    • @harshaharry2985
      @harshaharry2985 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How to convince my parents

    • @praveen4440
      @praveen4440 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Don't think me wrong by asking this.
      How did u fulfilled ur biological urges?

    • @rahulpandey6746
      @rahulpandey6746 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I'm 26 and doing PhD from JNU. When I was in school I decided not to marry anybody. I so much happy with my life. We are always alone but filled with love and support from the nature.

  • @satnamo
    @satnamo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +967

    He who does not enjoy solitude does not appreciate freedom;
    Health, youth and freedom are the greatest blessings of life.

    • @cirukarago7251
      @cirukarago7251 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      💯💯💯

    • @PriceCodm
      @PriceCodm 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I disagree and yet I am 18 ~ Enlightenment no matter the age is the greatest blessing.

    • @devendersehrawat2947
      @devendersehrawat2947 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@PriceCodm I wonder how you would feel after 20 years

    • @ashwinidombale7158
      @ashwinidombale7158 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Please don't say youth...It looks scary for a 25yr old😂😂😂

    • @KimmiiaS
      @KimmiiaS 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Health I do agree. But youth? I mean if you are healthy ( physically and mentally ) at any age than you are blessed. I am 26, in my country I am still part of the youth. But I don't see any blessings. My parents who are in their 60s are in a far better place than me. Happy and fulfilled. Anyway this is just a personal opinion.

  • @Jb_Insight101
    @Jb_Insight101 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2044

    I feel complete and happy and in peace by myself. I don't believe in another person making you happy. It is an illusion. You are all you need

    • @20vivekpandey
      @20vivekpandey 4 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      I agree with u...but we need companionship to share things.... sometimes we feel alone...isn't it??

    • @Capricorn0084
      @Capricorn0084 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes indeed!

    • @20vivekpandey
      @20vivekpandey 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @timothy wait agree with u....i know i need to grow up more...

    • @Sindi63084
      @Sindi63084 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      There are needs a woman has that only a man can meet them fir her and vice versa. Let's be real now. But the opposite sex does not come to make you whole but so you both can meet each others needs

    • @chandershekhar3447
      @chandershekhar3447 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      U are going towards nirvana😝

  • @karmaload9154
    @karmaload9154 4 ปีที่แล้ว +737

    "We are never at home with anybody because we are living in our own thoughts in our own problems and our own ambitions." POWERFUL

  • @Babak699
    @Babak699 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1522

    Life is too short to get attached or get too serious about people or things , just observe and enjoy and love unconditionally without expectations ❤️

    • @saraabbas9778
      @saraabbas9778 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      PersianBoy Easier said than done. :)

    • @onlyhuman5669
      @onlyhuman5669 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This.

    • @minodoraburlacu5869
      @minodoraburlacu5869 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      True😍

    • @lalam2890
      @lalam2890 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Observe and enjoy....so beautifully said.

    • @Jay-el9iz
      @Jay-el9iz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      I fully disagree. Life is short enough to get serious about people and things if you wanna do so. Also, how can you care & love without being somewhat attached?

  • @alirjeff3096
    @alirjeff3096 3 ปีที่แล้ว +194

    “My wife and I were happy for 30 years. Then we met.”

  • @TheUntypicalGerman
    @TheUntypicalGerman 3 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    I asked my wife what she wanted for Christmas. She told me nothing would make her happier than a diamond necklace. so I bought her nothing.

    • @e.k8506
      @e.k8506 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @adamabdullah7343
      @adamabdullah7343 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Good one sir..took me a while to understand

    • @prasadms87
      @prasadms87 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂😂😂

    • @benarthurhuzz4664
      @benarthurhuzz4664 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@e.k8506 I didn't get it.... What he trynna say?

    • @VivekMishra-um7hl
      @VivekMishra-um7hl 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😄😄😄

  • @asmitaapardesi405
    @asmitaapardesi405 4 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    It's good to get married!
    But, it's great to remain unmarried.

  • @destroyerofstupid7073
    @destroyerofstupid7073 8 ปีที่แล้ว +427

    I will never get bored of listening to this man speak, like bruce lee he is helping me find my own way by asking myself the right questions. you are the teacher you are the student you are the everything.

    • @hardmelodicbassfuckerz1210
      @hardmelodicbassfuckerz1210 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same R.I.P.

    • @Niabfeatherblackmetal13
      @Niabfeatherblackmetal13 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      How's the journey? Decided to start on mine. Any advice ?

    • @yagneshraviteja
      @yagneshraviteja 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Fun fact : Even Bruce Lee used K's books in building his mental strength n awareness during his time!! :)

    • @yagneshraviteja
      @yagneshraviteja 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Na twosaintz take a book like 'freedom from the known' or 'think on these things' .. read them, understand them n try getting the actual grasp of how your thoughts n thought process start to travel by reading each sentence that u read from the book .. be aware of your own thought n perception :)

    • @Niabfeatherblackmetal13
      @Niabfeatherblackmetal13 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yagnesh ravi teja yrt Thank you so much for the response. Im here now, observing :)

  • @enigma3909
    @enigma3909 4 ปีที่แล้ว +283

    I have never felt the need to marry someone to feel complete. I am happily single and not in any relationship whatsoever.

    • @VitaminM1
      @VitaminM1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Don't fear to take responsibility make your life better so you can make someone's life better..

    • @voidmain9519
      @voidmain9519 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@VitaminM1 What if someone is not meant to be in such responsibility??? I mean if someone like that were to be in a relationship then it makes other's life difficult, it'll be like playing with their emotions and spoiling their inner peace!!! It makes both their lives worse not even better.... Then what is it's purpose here in such cases??? I'm asking you in a respected manner as it is boggling my mind since forever

    • @archanakommala8736
      @archanakommala8736 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That's a good choice.

    • @lazygirlvee
      @lazygirlvee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@VitaminM1 we don't need a companionship to feel complete!

    • @aashimaarya5496
      @aashimaarya5496 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@VitaminM1 why?

  • @prashant4435
    @prashant4435 3 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    What I liked about this man is this that he never answer any question, he always gives the clue and say to you 'Find it by yourself'. 😇

    • @ultimatetruth1051
      @ultimatetruth1051 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yes if he gave the answer it will become belief for most of people's...again your ability to find it out gets lost...because u will consider his statement right for your self which is wrong..

    • @tien7742
      @tien7742 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      When you actually "find it by yourself", it is YOURS; however, if you receive from Others, they aren't yours but rather something you borrowed..Period..

  • @AwakenedSouls
    @AwakenedSouls 4 ปีที่แล้ว +262

    You can be happy in a marriage only when you don't use your partner as the source of your feeling good.
    Being happy alone you can be happy married too.

    • @sakhi1960
      @sakhi1960 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      👌🏼

    • @Hufflepuff248
      @Hufflepuff248 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      THIS 👏👏👏 Absolutely Agree

    • @satyendrsingh6071
      @satyendrsingh6071 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Mystic Editor no, but having sexual intercourse without love, means exploiting eachother. God has given these things to reproduce it's human who use them for pleasure,
      But I know one thing that,
      "INSTANT PLEASURE CAN'T GIVE YOU LIFE LONG SATISFACTION"
      because,
      "NO PAIN NO GAIN"

    • @yashasvinerali
      @yashasvinerali 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well said 👌👌

    • @catherineshaw1122
      @catherineshaw1122 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I tell younger people all the time to stop pining for a partner and spend years living alone first. No roommates either. True independence and solitude. Once you're genuinely very happy that way, then a partner to share in the journey is a positive thing. When you don't need it but it comes along, it's a gift.

  • @PankajKumar-zr3tv
    @PankajKumar-zr3tv 9 ปีที่แล้ว +526

    Wow!! I have read his book "Freedom from the known". I have never seen such an intelligent man. It struck a chord with me when he said "You exploit her, she exploits you". Though subtle, this is true indeed. Why people marry? They want something from each other. Men primarily want sex and women want financial security(In most cases). There is this another need of psychological security as well. Fundamentally, all this is hollow. Because there is no security. Thank you for this video.

    • @mohitverma1853
      @mohitverma1853 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Pankaj Kumar i want book can u give me....original price is very high

    • @PankajKumar-zr3tv
      @PankajKumar-zr3tv 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      +mohit verma Hi Mohit. Actually even I looked for the free pdf copy of this book. I could not find this book online. So I had to buy Kindle digital copy of it. Kindle books can only be read in kindle software. It is not possible to mail kindle books. Sorry :(

    • @mohitverma1853
      @mohitverma1853 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      ok..... i m big fan of krishnamurti.......How much u paid for digital copy??

    • @PankajKumar-zr3tv
      @PankajKumar-zr3tv 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      +mohit verma tinyurl.com/pucwjg3
      Use this link to buy.

    • @mohitverma1853
      @mohitverma1853 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      hmmm.... but i cant afford...thnx fr feed back...

  • @pentangle78
    @pentangle78 8 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    "exploiting". WOW, K. was bluntly wise and honest. and he was right.

  • @SagarKumar-zo9yg
    @SagarKumar-zo9yg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    In this corrupt society, If one wants to walk incorruptible, he must be alone.

  • @ekaiordan
    @ekaiordan 5 ปีที่แล้ว +270

    The most intelligent, smart and integrated person I've ever seen in my life. The deepest respect to him 🙏

  • @katashley1031
    @katashley1031 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    It's pretty simple. Be happy enough on your own that a partner is a best friend with whom you enjoying sharing things. Met my husband at 39, when I was quite content on my own and never felt anything was missing. Because of that, we never feel needy or clingy towards each other. We get to be ourselves and share the journey with someone we genuinely like as well as love, lol. I honestly think that's the secret. Be so fulfilled and happy on your own you don't even need or want marriage. That seems to be precisely when a great spirit feels your vibe and comes right at ya to be with a kindred soul. We are still as happy together today as we were 13 years ago. And I never, ever thought I'd be the marriage type. ;)

    • @iaf4454
      @iaf4454 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Wow beautiful story...💛💚💚

    • @Noneofurbusiness-g1l
      @Noneofurbusiness-g1l ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ❤❤❤ need more stories like this

    • @katashley1031
      @katashley1031 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Noneofurbusiness-g1l I've actually seen quite a few. But I agree, if more people found their own happiness first, and married a best friend, how much better would the world be for everyone?

    • @katashley1031
      @katashley1031 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@iaf4454 thank you! Best surprise of my life, my marriage.

    • @djulietaoleandra7023
      @djulietaoleandra7023 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Do you have children?☺️

  • @Iti755r-xz2dk
    @Iti755r-xz2dk 7 ปีที่แล้ว +302

    Wow, it gives me strength every time I listen to this man. Going through breakup and this gives me some relief.

    • @sriramgautamkodukula3398
      @sriramgautamkodukula3398 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Pawan Kuma...I did the same bro..but I’m married now..haha

    • @yomaddy
      @yomaddy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@SuperTekton sicko spotted

    • @bullseye6969
      @bullseye6969 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@SuperTekton Yeah man everyone is corrupt but you, and yes Only if you can get your Winnie up and running, else she will call someone else in your absence. XD

    • @mohammadsaneie2085
      @mohammadsaneie2085 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This is a man ?!!!!

    • @shradhaawgp1498
      @shradhaawgp1498 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So you get engaged with this particular speech just to seek comfort n sense of security n comfort. Reducing your cognitive dissonance. 😄 how complex is human mind. It can seek anyway what it what's.

  • @kartikg.kartikg
    @kartikg.kartikg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    The reason to REMAIN SINGLE is not because we are unable to handle our partner and related problems. But, we don't want to spend our precious time of life in handling such problems. Rather, we wish to invest time in making a positive change in ourselves and thereby in the society for peace, for humanity and joy.
    🙏
    So, it's your choice to be single or not. But if you are not able to find solutions for existing problems, don't create more complexities in life..😄
    Let it be simple. 👍

    • @rohitisalwayspositiv
      @rohitisalwayspositiv 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes, I agree
      But what about the sexual desires
      Suppose a person does not have them and lives like a monk then that is fine
      But if someone has them and wants to enjoy, then?

    • @kartikg.kartikg
      @kartikg.kartikg 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​Then you should get married to the correct person. The person, whom you know well & will help you in solving your difficulties and vice versa.
      Just remember that keep life as simple as possible.

  • @avneetmanchanda9059
    @avneetmanchanda9059 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1465

    So true.. "If thr is no love.. You use her and she uses you, you exploit her and she exploits you" totally agree

    • @raj-khotmarathawarriorclan
      @raj-khotmarathawarriorclan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Very true

    • @karimajjinaresh8095
      @karimajjinaresh8095 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      If there is love then still the same situation will carry out...
      Love is a very selfish emotion
      Always we use others for our happiness but in love while we using other person for the sake of our happiness they will also get benefited and also get happiness.

    • @bhupendrarajput6824
      @bhupendrarajput6824 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Please avneet how with examples

    • @sureshjhnanveen6959
      @sureshjhnanveen6959 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Avneet Manchanda yes it's absolutely true...

    • @priyankthakur1445
      @priyankthakur1445 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      @@karimajjinaresh8095 your definition for that what you call love is wrong then.

  • @LOD50
    @LOD50 4 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    I am 46 now never married or had children am perfectly happy, however I do sense an expectation from other people sometimes that I should be unhappy about being single. It's a fallacy. Am naturally an optimistic person always have been. Am a realist though and have suffered my fair share of life's challenges. I know life can be difficult at times but you just get back up and brush yourself off and be grateful for this life. The worst that can happen is dying and none of us escape that eventuality.

    • @karthikshetty4946
      @karthikshetty4946 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I am 30 and I have decided to remain single all my life. As I believe in solitude I know I will enjoy my life. But if I come across a woman and if my intuition feels if she is perfect then I could marry. I can remain single and happy but the only thing which I may face is the societal and family impression on me. They may nag me for remaining single but I know I can leave with it and nobody can stop me in experience the good part of this world and lead a peaceful and Serene life

    • @VitaminM1
      @VitaminM1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Don't fear to take responsibility make your life better so you can make someone's life better

    • @Abhishekramanuja
      @Abhishekramanuja 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hinduism tells us not to fear death as you said, its an eventuality. In the years alive, try to make it meaningful for society and yourself. you summed it up perfectly.

    • @ava-if8xc
      @ava-if8xc 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@karthikshetty4946 i want to get married but only if i find someone like...honestly, indian marriage system failed in this new generation. My parents also pressuring me to get married and i said only thing to them 'will you take responsiblity if my marriage failed??' .......i dont want my rest of life just to suffer.

    • @phanikumar2995
      @phanikumar2995 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ava-if8xc inspite of Glory & wealth....Stars like Leonardo DiCaprio @ 46 are not marrying

  • @gautamd.9790
    @gautamd.9790 6 ปีที่แล้ว +166

    We all are frightened and don't want to be alone. We seek Companionship, sexual needs, safety and security.
    We got what we wanted, mostly, but lost our Peace of Mind.

    • @phanikumar2995
      @phanikumar2995 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Marrying is upbringing of children upto 25 years.......After that match a relationship..... Marriage is not easy..... Marriage will not be Suitable for All.....Some shine .....Some Dark

  • @Billybreaks
    @Billybreaks 10 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    This man is incredible

  • @happysoul8281
    @happysoul8281 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Single and never had sex. I’m 35, happier, and excited to live life! I don’t understand the need to have someone’s love for one to have some good time on earth. Ofcourse I adore happy relationships, but I’m here to say: “you are more than enough!”

    • @bharathreddy1134
      @bharathreddy1134 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      36 here hahhaha

    • @Newmoon19
      @Newmoon19 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I wish your parents never had sex 😂

    • @Newmoon19
      @Newmoon19 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      If everyone think like you, no human will be left on earth after 150 years
      So just imagine how wrong you are

    • @sciathain
      @sciathain 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@Newmoon19 And what exactly about it would be wrong ? Do you just listen to people or do you also think

    • @ginopietermaai2764
      @ginopietermaai2764 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Newmoon19 All spirits would be free from their bodily imprisonment.

  • @rolandocaabaysr.5844
    @rolandocaabaysr.5844 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    i dont know why tears are streaming all over my face the moment he spoke. i felt every single word he said. he was truly an amazing speaker

  • @ladeeeedah
    @ladeeeedah 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I have come to love my solitude. I am not chasing anything but I do practice gratitude for even existing, for this very life. I firmly believe everything in life is temporary and it has indeed relieved me of all the negativity that consumes us mortal beings.

    • @katashley1031
      @katashley1031 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's how I was, for many years. I wanted nothing, was totally content on my own. I believe that time and coming to that state was what drew my husband right to me. He's also very independent. We have very different paths but sharing one has been a blast. I'm so grateful for all of it.

    • @abhinkrishna5091
      @abhinkrishna5091 ปีที่แล้ว

      Will take that deep into my soul

  • @bhaskarjoshi17
    @bhaskarjoshi17 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    i don't feel that i cant stand alone. best days are when you are happy with yourself. Usually most people make other miserable, glad i did not fall into the societal trap yet. I feel safe & secure with myself.

    • @ishaanbhoj
      @ishaanbhoj 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      God's grace bro.

  • @ishaanbhoj
    @ishaanbhoj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Albert Camus - 'The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.'

    • @iaf4454
      @iaf4454 ปีที่แล้ว

      💚💜💜

  • @bennymanfrost
    @bennymanfrost 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I read a quote years ago from His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama that was simple and profound- "Love all people more than you need them."

  • @jirasutasakulkittithumrong4103
    @jirasutasakulkittithumrong4103 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    The speaker knows deep into the nature of human beings.

  • @malayangrago5628
    @malayangrago5628 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Very simple: if you marry, you know where to sleep but you can't sleep; if you are not married, you don't know where you'll sleep but you will sleep well. So choose wisely an option that suits you best and don't be regretful for the decision. God bless you, my child.

    • @catherineshaw1122
      @catherineshaw1122 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That doesn't really make sense, lol. Why would you not sleep when married, or not have a place to sleep single?

    • @grdhr4258
      @grdhr4258 ปีที่แล้ว

      DAMNNN son❗

    • @katashley1031
      @katashley1031 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@catherineshaw1122 agreed. A pretty bizarre comment.

  • @justindesilva5878
    @justindesilva5878 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    The idea of marriage in the world long ago was to share responsiblities in life. The women looked after the home and children while the husband earned. There was an understanding. With industrialization the meaning of marriage has changed.

  • @IKilledMufasa5
    @IKilledMufasa5 9 ปีที่แล้ว +276

    Master Oogway? You're alive?

    • @sedditguy1836
      @sedditguy1836 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      +IKilledMufasa5 OOOooh yes Kind Sir ! :)

    • @dkdc2402
      @dkdc2402 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lol

    • @Aven-Sharma1991
      @Aven-Sharma1991 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      He’s the original Master Oogway.

    • @aaronstone_9965
      @aaronstone_9965 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I know right?!😂😂..especially the I don't know at 0:34

  • @andreyvaleroso
    @andreyvaleroso 5 ปีที่แล้ว +214

    This "part of life" really bothers me for a long time. I dont know. I am not just into romantic love. It's too small. The world there is too small. It's like you are limiting yourself to universal love. And by involving yourself to a romantic relationship, you don't get to discover your highest potential as a human being.

    • @hardikparmar7666
      @hardikparmar7666 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      andré valeroso well said ✌🏼

    • @ManPursueExcellence
      @ManPursueExcellence 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      andré valeroso
      You have to put so much focus on one person. I don’t like romantic love. It’s too binding.

    • @andreyvaleroso
      @andreyvaleroso 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@ManPursueExcellence true. there is a deeper type of love everyone should pursue.

    • @fskshj
      @fskshj 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      True but there are married people who continued their spiritual life even after marriage but it’s tough I think.

    • @shwetabajaj2444
      @shwetabajaj2444 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      andré valeroso
      Exactly my thoughts atm

  • @TheUntypicalGerman
    @TheUntypicalGerman 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Wife: "I look fat. Can you give me a compliment?" Husband: "You have perfect eyesight."

  • @shrutiprakashbanerjee790
    @shrutiprakashbanerjee790 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The comment section is a real tresure house 💞

  • @Jacparas
    @Jacparas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I'm 36 not married and no kids (of course) 😅 now I just let the time to decide. Im enjoying gardening for now.

    • @sadafmaqsood2817
      @sadafmaqsood2817 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      M , 37. But unhappy becoz single

    • @rushiraul4084
      @rushiraul4084 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sadafmaqsood2817 Me too

    • @udennyn
      @udennyn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I wish , we all had that liberty in India.

    • @kishorevonguru5700
      @kishorevonguru5700 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sadafmaqsood2817 if u marry u will be even more sad hahaha 🤣

    • @Face1543
      @Face1543 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@sadafmaqsood2817you are very beautiful reason is celibacy are you interested in marry

  • @joydevghosh8017
    @joydevghosh8017 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Nothing is absolutely necessary for a simple life other than the things needed for maintaining one's physical existence with ease.

  • @ishanisarkar86
    @ishanisarkar86 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I am into my solitude.. I love it.. It's a bliss for me🙏🙏

  • @truenews4901
    @truenews4901 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    If you understand that you are whole and complete then you won't depend on anyone for your happiness and joy. Relationships with unconditional love and respect and without any dependencies are true relationships.

  • @Peace4All09
    @Peace4All09 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Firstly, i am glad i live in a country where i can decide what i want to do, others are not so blessed. Not married, never married, have one grown Daughter & two Grand Daughters, feeling contented.

  • @suneeshnt1090
    @suneeshnt1090 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Marriage is to enjoy meterial pleasures......if one can find out the source of Bliss in inside.. no need for a partner....He can share his owerfloying love to anyone....then marriage is not a must.❤️❤️J.K.

  • @lifeengagement8050
    @lifeengagement8050 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Marrying feels very limiting to me, just like living in one place forever.

    • @varunsahk1123
      @varunsahk1123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hmmmm well said girl

    • @suneeshnt1090
      @suneeshnt1090 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yes... freedom is our first choice in life...

    • @amitchothani9832
      @amitchothani9832 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      a bird belongs to the sky...

    • @jaggisarma9513
      @jaggisarma9513 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      This constant demand and talk about freedom and independance can be irritating.What exactly do you want freedom from, people related and unrelated to you or everything around you?freedom should come from within . The most unacceptable part is that we all know that death and only death is the only one that can liberate , free you.Can you be more independant or free like plants and animals?

    • @ritshpatidar
      @ritshpatidar 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It depends on your idea of relationship. If you go after freedom, that "going after" itself limits your freedom.

  • @deepakchandravanshi6274
    @deepakchandravanshi6274 6 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    In all your lectures,i always be waiting for your one smile...because the way you smile that can heals anyone's heart...respect 💝

  • @yogeshasrao8159
    @yogeshasrao8159 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    He is a man who spoke only about facts of life. To understand his words we need a free mind. Thanks for him and all who made his words available

  • @gentlemanlows2928
    @gentlemanlows2928 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Crazy how you can be married and still feel like you dont have enough.

  • @82weeks94
    @82weeks94 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    It take INTELLIGENCE AND INTEGRITY..... most people missed that!

  • @findelka1810
    @findelka1810 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    you can live in a way, that every human being is your friend. Then, when you can talk to just about anyone and connect with them on the basis of being human, you’re never alone. It just requires a leap of faith.

    • @kennth6594
      @kennth6594 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Won't be leaping to faith here

    • @catherineshaw1122
      @catherineshaw1122 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You can pretend that every human being is your friend, but they're not. How do you react when that's not true, over and over and over again, lol?

    • @vj12343
      @vj12343 ปีที่แล้ว

      This is a naive way to live life. Not everybody is your friend. Some people will harm you with the information you share to be benefitted

  • @waedjradi
    @waedjradi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    No other in this Universe completes you.
    That is because you complete yourself.

  • @AtulKumar-hp1ip
    @AtulKumar-hp1ip 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Peop just live together because of fear of living alone.

    • @Melly16yr10
      @Melly16yr10 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Unfortunately true

  • @rahulthukral9333
    @rahulthukral9333 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    He is giving shock for every asleep man or woman without any expectation he was really a blessed one or enlightened one.

  • @gkk2215
    @gkk2215 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    If you don't want to marry, you have to get enrolled in a religious community which is the only way by which you will get socialized and social companionship !! Otherwise society will eat you up unless you are some great contributor in some field.... Especially in India...

  • @starboi1017
    @starboi1017 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    We just gotta flow with life, if u meet someone you think is good ya it's ok to have a marriage, if it goes south later on you just deal with it and let go, every relationship in life is a struggle to a certain degree, all we can do is enjoy whats present for us and if adversity hits heal from it and let go.

  • @LuanaKoch
    @LuanaKoch 7 ปีที่แล้ว +303

    29 dislike....married couple... :D joke

  • @ruchikumari6628
    @ruchikumari6628 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    For men companionship and emotional support
    For women security
    But these days we don't get it from marriage

  • @vj12343
    @vj12343 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Marriage or not. It’s important to realize the most important thing is to be true to yourself as it is with ourselves we have the most important relationship. So, don’t be shocked when the marriage doesn’t work. Be brave enough to choose yourself if you’re not happy. Nothing is permanent.

  • @riccardoc1711
    @riccardoc1711 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for sharing this. And thank you for Jiddu’s parents to have been an instrument of Grace in manifesting such a beautiful Soul into earthly existence.

  • @kishormore9716
    @kishormore9716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You know what i feel about him? Just to hug him with affection. Even i am man i feel such affection for him.

  • @richricogranada9647
    @richricogranada9647 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    It is not easy to keep the sexual appeal forever in a marriage and many marriages end because of that. I would stay in it even without sex if the spouse were kind, respectful, and there was sense of commitment on both sides.

    • @katashley1031
      @katashley1031 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very true. Marriage should not be based on sex or sexual attraction. That naturally wanes over time. A genuine connection and deep love and respect will only deepen.

  • @mohanmansi
    @mohanmansi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    So true life is lonely and complex

  • @fatimazohrabenaicha9320
    @fatimazohrabenaicha9320 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Sadly marriage can be a very lonely place

  • @josephogola4713
    @josephogola4713 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The answer is all opinions expressed are perfectly correct...There is no one answer to such a question

  • @jnananinja7436
    @jnananinja7436 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    A true Master. Should we marry?.. Do what you want! But go into it with full consciousness. And, without love, you will just use each other.
    Krishnamurti always hits the nail on the head, even when he laughs at the question. I personally believe he was a fully Realized being, but others may not see this and what do I really know anyway :)

  • @cledwynstafford4819
    @cledwynstafford4819 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    ..i have married, i have had male lovers, female lovers, i am now perfectly living with myself. I am never alone, there is me, and I existing together in perfect harmony.

  • @2007Club
    @2007Club 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am so glad he speaks all his wisdom in english. I love this guy and brings peace to my heart

  • @ravishingtwinkle3811
    @ravishingtwinkle3811 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I like his sense of humour. It's subtle and wise

  • @laddakang5264
    @laddakang5264 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow,what a profound understanding he had,jiddu Krishnamurti always introduces us with unprecedented approaches.

  • @sureshshenoy6393
    @sureshshenoy6393 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love the way JK s answered to the question. True one getting married is not an issue, but JKs concept is how to live in harmony and with total love. Once u become totally attentive, then the relationship towards ur family and others will be in different level altogether and that state is JK talking about.

  • @Sigma1984-v5o
    @Sigma1984-v5o ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I regret that i got married ...i regret that i did not have enlightenment at that age ....i wish I was that wise which i am today

    • @bharathvarun
      @bharathvarun ปีที่แล้ว

      Any piece of life advice for me?

  • @fretlesssmilemore8905
    @fretlesssmilemore8905 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    '...because most of us cannot stand alone on our own feet...
    lovely answer!😊

  • @perrin6
    @perrin6 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    'Every man should marry. If she's a good wife you'll be happy, if bad you'll become a philosopher.'

    • @learnwithMechLaraib
      @learnwithMechLaraib 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Well..I neither see happy ones nor the philosophers.

  • @Abstractionist7
    @Abstractionist7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Most of us can stand alone without any companion. I never married. I never wish to … and about sexual desires they passes with time. You stop wanting it.

  • @Baron-Von-1973
    @Baron-Von-1973 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Most people think that having a family is the be all end all, I disagree

  • @lakshmis9179
    @lakshmis9179 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    We are comfortable only with ourself...we should learn to live alone...soul is alone...in all relationships there are expectations...when there are expectations in relationship ,it's not pure..

  • @dabreu
    @dabreu ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This man was just too amazing! What a fantastic answer to a silly question. I love when he simply answers at first...I don't know! And smiles. Wonderful.

  • @akhil1753
    @akhil1753 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    If you want a relationship of any nature then Accept don't Adapt. But if not, embrace Solitude and differentiate it from Loneliness.

  • @induprabha1990
    @induprabha1990 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I m feeling so relaxed after reading the comments here

  • @sarlakapadia2132
    @sarlakapadia2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I think marrying is a wonderful thing for a man n woman...It is the foundation for a family..where children learn values through love n acceptance...true any relationship one has to work for...where honesty love unselfishness creates understanding, forgiveness n love....please do not put down marriage...let it be known as a positive step in life...

  • @ThePukarDhital
    @ThePukarDhital 8 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Well having read few comments and of those who questions his teaching! To those I say you still are entangeled in wordly doctrines. All you want is exact Yes or No answer and all the while his very fundamental teaching is experience yourself, know thyself, liberate yourself. Well I can best tell you is by example of teachers. You are seeking for Pre-school teacher who can answer your childish question and whatever be the answer right or wrong you accept it happily because you get what you have asked for and to you your teacher is a hero but Krishnamurti is a Professor and if you are to get his concept you have to be Phd. student. He gives and shows directions and research is your own. So find it out. Alan Watts, Bruce Lee to name few admires him caz they know the depth of his teachings.

    • @thenowchurch6419
      @thenowchurch6419 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      ThePukarDhital.
      This Rastaman also knows the depth of K's teachings.

    • @AndreiGonzalesIturri
      @AndreiGonzalesIturri 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      ThePukarDhital PhD? You just need to pay attention to the world and then you will not still seeking for knowledge, another kind of being materialistic...

  • @mfb3042
    @mfb3042 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I have been married 20 years until she passed away. We were born 12 hours apart same year. I always thought of her to be a soul mate. After passing 1 1/2 years later I met someone unbelievably more magnetically connected, when l learned of the terminology twin flame. In my journey I have to believe in the flow of life there are "meant to be" situations. Planned before birth?

    • @organicwins91
      @organicwins91 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I haven’t experienced this phenomena “yet” - I hope so.

    • @lorralorra222
      @lorralorra222 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      So many people are ashamed to say what u said but it's so true , my friend was married 35 years he passed and she met someone and she said she loved her husband but the new guy was such a different kind of love, i just wish younger people would find that love instead of going with everyone and never really being happy..i know u posted this a year ago but i just watched to video...

  • @GM-yb5yg
    @GM-yb5yg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    To summarize: do what you want and stop bothering me with such questions. Totally agreed with him. Basically if you a relationship then do it because you want to, not because you need to. In other words, don't be codependant, be interdependant.

  • @othomile
    @othomile 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    marriage is one of those institutions of human life meant to unite, build and create stable societies rooting from a marriage unit set up as part of those binding forces of a progressive society, marriage in the traditional sense of the word is more good than bad, it is good but not the best, has room for development, that is why we see marriage laws changing and so on and so forth because it involves a lot, involves children and families and money and norms etc Sometimes these changing laws stengthen but sometimes they weaken this institution... But overall, the intentions are usually good

  • @queentye338
    @queentye338 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I can't give up on my own freedom, unless a deep vivid love is involved, I prefer my own company.

    • @katashley1031
      @katashley1031 ปีที่แล้ว

      Marriage is not loss of freedom. Far from it, if you don't marry for money or sex, etc. Marry your best friend, then every day feels free.

  • @shivampathak3004
    @shivampathak3004 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Everybody fear to live alone that's y they need someone to be their...
    Being alone is best thing u can do ever .

  • @taz-on-the-looseyusef5526
    @taz-on-the-looseyusef5526 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    as a christian from Botswana, i like reading and listening to words of wisdom and so far, Krishnamurti is the wiseman, the way he answers and teaches proves hes a great soul, and the bible talks about three wisemen from the east, eastern philosophy is often rich of wisdom

    • @sabatamoabi4051
      @sabatamoabi4051 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      and *you* are still a *christian*.

  • @sireeshasai3894
    @sireeshasai3894 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I wish I heard this 6years ago!! Thank you anyways! 🙏🏻

  • @mansamusa6505
    @mansamusa6505 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Idiots wont realize she's actually saying yes it's necessary however it requires love, intelligence and integrity

  • @tomandersson810
    @tomandersson810 10 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I really recommend to everyone who likes Krishnamurti's work to read a book called The Present at Truth Contest. It changed my life and can change yours.

  • @VitaminM1
    @VitaminM1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My answer is yes because i am able to say yes to life and able to take care of my partner and my family...

  • @RB-jq6gh
    @RB-jq6gh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Don't outsource your happiness.

  • @ArunSingh-yf9jf
    @ArunSingh-yf9jf 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sir J Krishnamurthy, I feel a lot of incompleteness and void in what you speak...thank God there is an end to everything... And hope you've found peace in losing yourself post death, I think that's all you ever needed!

  • @thegreatest1176
    @thegreatest1176 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love that his answer doesn't really satisfy both of the argument for and against marriage. But i must say loneliness has taken many lives in where i reside, it should be carefully addressed.

    • @pisceanrat
      @pisceanrat 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes there was no simple yes or no... may i ask tho where you live... many suicides going on in here lately too due to depression

    • @jaisaxplyr4263
      @jaisaxplyr4263 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Being alone for 20days first time after 14years of marriage gave me much insight and pleasure. I developed a much deeper self love, exercised more ,lost 3kilos but ate my food exactly how my wife had taught me. The same diet I had learned in marriage helped to provide me with the same feeling of having my wife with me. Man is truly a strange animal.

  • @happytv8981
    @happytv8981 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Be Single...Be Happy... Because great mind said... happiness depends on oneself do not seek it outside... If marriage was happiness then there would not have been the divorce concept... Everyone has different life different opinion...I prefer being single...

  • @faurloiromero326
    @faurloiromero326 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    230 Dislikes - People planning to marry ?

  • @Amrendra_Yadav07
    @Amrendra_Yadav07 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's rare but some days, you need someone.
    Some rare days, some overwhelming days

  • @cirukarago7251
    @cirukarago7251 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I can find security with my family not necessarily with a man in my life... I can even find security with strangers.

    • @sayanmondal3496
      @sayanmondal3496 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Perhaps nature want to do that for continue the survival game, and there is also society who continue pressuring for do the same. Maybe think what suffering they got through marriage everybody should gone through this process & feel the same pain as well. Just read vedanta philosophy and you will realise you are not other than consciousness. Om peace peace🙂

  • @Sunshine-zi7oy
    @Sunshine-zi7oy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    marriage can be considered a shortcut for spiritual maturation... it depends on who really are and how you consider marriage.. your whole story evolves around you and your choices.. marriage is good for those who are ready to (give)

  • @e.k8506
    @e.k8506 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I' m alone not for choice but I realized that the best things did and great desitions I took were, when I was single in my way.. I'm going to be a single for choice 🤣🤣🤣👍