Dang... I love when he talked about dating. He was just vulnerable. He admitted how hypocritical and shallow he was about judging girls for what he believed were physical shortcomings despite being upset at women doing the same thing to him. Like, he just admitted that... to over a hundred thousand people, online, where nothing ever truly dies. That takes guts, I admire it, and honestly its refreshing. This guy is human. It's awesome.
Yeah, I was initially gonna cut this bit out, but then put it because I figured, if I am truly going to be vulnerable, this is the most honest bit. I am not perfect, it wasn't a healthy way of thinking and if anyone can learn from it, like I did, then it's worth it. I'm glad you appreciated it. Thanks for watching.
@@JustAboutAnything66 it's definitely humbling. good on you for recognizing that in yourself. For me, the hardest part after those realizations, is adjusting my expectations from others. Because once you realize how imperfect you are, then how exactly do you go about selecting traits in other people? It can be hard.
@@CorneliusQuiringIt takes years and hard work on yourself to recognise and admit such thought patterns and work past them. Thank you for sharing this.
You know what's funny? I follow your channel because I dream of being able to sew my own clothes-clothes that fit my "unconventional" body. I'm now in my early 20s, standing at 5'1" and weighing never more than 90 lbs. Well, I also don't know why, but recently I found out that my spine has scoliosis of about 38°, and maybe that's related. All this time I've felt ashamed, scared, and worried because of having a different shape from others-too thin and short, even asymmetrical, not like "how a man should be." And I've been holding it all in because I didn't know how and where to express it. After hearing your story, I couldn't help but write this to say thank you because all those feelings seem to have been represented by your story. Thank you for sharing that story and those feelings. I always enjoy your videos.
First and foremost, Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing a bit about yourself in the comments. I am happy to hear you were able to relate to my story. May you make all the clothes you desire and create your inner confidence. You got this. We got this.
I understand, @zeem12. I have two curves (an S-curve) that are 37° each. I'm lucky, my curves are relatively balanced, but also evident so no backless dresses or swimsuits. I'm (well, I was) 5' 2.5", but unlike you, I've been overweight for most of my life. Turns out there's a medical reason for part of that. Over the years there have been rude remarks about my spine (as if it was something I could control) or weight and both made me feel diminished--until I decided that I can't do anything about their rudeness and I CAN control how I feel about it and/or react to it. That makes life better.
Bernadette Banner does historical sewing, but she has scoliosis and talks about sewing for it. If you're ever interested. Lots of people with asymmetrical bodies find sewing as a way to dress themselves. Just saying, you belong in the sewing community whenever you want. 💜
I'm only 4'10"" and nearly 74years. All my live first my mom and later on I made my own clothes. I have to draft my own patterns. Cornelius you help me so much. Thank you. I'm from South Africa
Very courageous in doing this video about something that is so personal, Cornelius. Not everyone overcomes hurdles but you are true encouragement and a shining example of confidence.
We appreciate the way wood develops a patina with time & the Japanese take this further with their concept of wabi sabi. This celebrates the visible traces life experiences leave in everything. Which is why when a favourite bowl or cup is broken they repair it with gold (kinsugi) to highlight the cracks. Our experiences good & bad, leave visible & invisible scars which make us unique.
I was immediately drawn to you and your work because I could feel that farm boy through the screen. I saw myself, my dad, my grandpa all appreciating your work in my head. Thanks for sharing this.
Love the openness and sharing - We should all live in the "Fullness of Humanity" 💫(the good the bad and the ugly) and love each other along the way. We have NONE of these "issues" yet we all live ALL of these "issues" (we are all different stage of living them)
I've had 13 orthopedic surgeries since my 30's due to arthritis. C-spine fused from C3-C7 with a rod and various devices also nerve damage. You do go through mourning for what used to be and what could have been. I've reduced what I sew to very easy items but I still enjoy the planning and creativity. Thank you for sharing who you are and teaching your craft.
Cornelius, your video "How to draft a men's pant pattern... and fix fit issues!" serves as my blueprint for acquiring a new skill. The reason is that I acknowledge there's a method to learning, and your explanation rates 10 out of 10. In terms of what I've seen so far, (behaviorist method in education), I've successfully completed "Drafting the back" and plan to continue until I finish. I want to express that you are blessed with the gift of teaching, despite any shortcomings resulting from the accident which was no fault of yours. Thanking you for posting these videos and thanking you for posting this video which I personally hope will inspire others to press forward and claim their prize in life.
You are very kind with your words, thank you. Thank you as well for checking out what I post and good luck with the pant draft you're working on. I hope they turn out as you plan.
You’re a star to us Cornelius! This could have been the origin story for a Marvel supervilain, but you turned it into something positive. By the way I’m a 42yo man from Montreal and I have cystic fibrosis. Growing with this disease you cough a lot and you struggle getting all nutrients for growth, which leaves you with a big rib cage and narrow shoulders. I struggled all my life finding clothes that fit, but I recently started learning how to sew and you are a huge help in my journey. Thank you for your amazing work ❤
Thank you for willing sharing a bit about yourself. It sounds like you've managed to embrace yourself as well and hope you are able to make clothes to fit yourself as you desire. Thank you for watching. 🙏🏻
So strong of you to talk about it openly! 💪 love how you explain the mental struggles the accident brought with it - Im sure itll help some people! Your sewing Videos are helping me atm cause I just started and you explain a lot in great detail and you SHOW stuff. Thank you!
Cornelius your rad. 44 today. You taught me how to measure and make my own pants today. I'm a contractor and as hard as a fucking coffin nail. If my buddies new I was watching your videos and loving them I would never hear the end of it. You have more courage than me bud. Keep being you.
You should take pride in knowing how to sew your own pants! I doubt any of your buddies would. It's a skill, and one that should be learned! Take pride in it lad! Here's a line for your buddies if they ever tease you: "You may wear the pants in your family, but I know how to make mine!" Most people now a days don't even know how to sew back on a button to a shirt! I know 'traditionally' sewing is seen as more feminine now a days, but it has a deep masculine history as well, just ask the Scots that knew how to knit! It's a skill that is an important!
You may never know how many people you have touched here by sharing your truth, but know there are now, and will be many people who are so thankful you have! ❤
I'd send it to my younger brother, a sickle cell warrior who couldn't get past the pyschological thing no matter how hard we tried but i'm so sad, he left us early this year. This would have helped, i'm sure. I hope it inspires others ❤❤
I know from RN days how painful sickle cell disease can be during a crisis. I am so sorry that your brother had to endure it. I am sorry that you have lost that part of yourself.
Yes, farms are very dangerous. My partner fell from a tractor at 7 years old which then rolled over child's head. Fortunately the ground was soft or the skull would have crushed. There was no hospital in that very rutal area, so the MD kept the child on his kitchen table all night and slept right there in a chair. There was a huge gash on the temple that a lot of dirt and pebbles had to removed from and a brain concussion, but no paralysis or a displaced fracture. There is still a huge scar on the temple. All in all, a better outcome than M Quiring's, but only by sheer dumb luck.
i can definitely relate to “not looking like other men” and constantly comparing yourself to men that you see on the street, in movies, magazines. i think one of the most beautiful things about being human is the variety of shapes in which we come in, no two people are identical and being perfectly symmetrical is quite frankly, unheard of. people often preach about body positivity, but something that is equally important is body neutrality, and as you state in this video, it is the reality that your body just is
I like the way you used lighting to show how you feel/felt about yourself since your accident. I have muscular dystrophy, so I can absolutely empathize with how you relate to your body. It doesn’t always respond the way you want, and yeah. It’s frustrating as hell. But it is. And you just have to roll with it.
So many of us makers (especially of wearable items) come from a similar background of desiring to dress our bodies in a way standard clothing hasn’t been able to. Thank you for sharing your story and like so many other makers, it really resonates.
You’re such a talented communicator and tailor. I really enjoy learning while being entertained. I didn’t assume any back story relating to your build, really. I like how your clothes look on you. Fit is everything, as they say, and yours always fit nicely. : )
I completely understand the craving of the touch of a partner. About a couple months ago I started talking to my psychiatrist and my therapist that I finally felt like there was space in my life for a relationship. I have a great team of health care professionals in my life, my different ilnesses have been diagnosed, are being treated and followed up, I have found the right kind of medication and dosage to help me and keep me stable, physiotherapy and activities to help physically, an official recognition of having a handicap and social and financial help, a stable housing situation. It took years to have all that, to realise I had real problems, to fight to get the right medical help, to get recognition and the right kind of help, to have put things in place to help me live my life the best way I can with my disabilities. It took years and so much energy to achieve this and now that many things are in place, I finally feel like I have the time, the will and the energy to be able to be in a relationship with someone. Now I just need to find ways to meet people 😅
The mirror is our biggest critic. Your story is inspiring and humbling. We are all on this earth for a reason and your story is inspiring and I thank you for telling it. At 67 I sew my clothes and with your help they make me look great. Thanks for your story and for all you do.
I've wondered about your story for as long as I've watched your videos, but I never expected you to share, or to share in such a personal way. What a gift you've given. Thank you. I'm humbled. The reason I started watching your channel is that I've always felt uncomfortable in my own body, and the way clothes fit (or mostly fail to fit) is a big contributor to those feelings. I don't have a specific reason to feel that way. I'm just tall-ish and lanky-ish enough that the retail experience of clothing myself is a mild but constant humiliation. From the first video of yours that I watched, I thought, "Now, here is a person who understands that clothes should make you feel good." Clothes, like societies, should fit the humans that live in them, not the other way around. I hope you will keep teaching us how to make it so.
Bless you. It is community that helps us grow, but that is a chasm that our inner selves are scared to cross. Everyone, who thinks they don't need them, ridicules support groups. You know the type to which I fefer. The personal experiences in those groups help us to connect and let go of blanket of isolation. I hope I said this right.
@ryneches Well thank you for being vulnerable as well and for sharing a bit about yourself in the comments here. I am glad to hear you were able to get that from my videos and hope you're able to make yourself all the clothes you desire! Thanks for watching. 🙏🏻
woah that for me felt like quite a privilege for you to let us see behind the tailors curtain, takes a lot of strength to lay it out bare to all, admirable and sure it will help others going through the same thought process if not just to say "your not alone in this, i've been there too'" and there is a way through. thanks C
Indeed, it's amazing how much love and support comes back to us when we open up and allow ourselves to be vulnerable. Thanks for watching and for your support. 🙏🏻
I'm pretty new to your channel, but was immediately intrigued by your humor and calm style. I have learned much from your tutorials. with this video, I was riveted and also in a turmoil of emotions. I was born 2 months premature and as a consequence I have Cerebral Palsy. With years of blood, sweat and tears, I have learned to first, strive to overcome my physical challenges, then gradually to learn not to hate my body for its' limitations and to come to a point( when I was in my early 50's) of learning to love my body, accepting it with love. To my surprise, it surprised me by being able to do more than I had previously thought was possible. Your history resonates with mine, and I am grateful to hear of your story, I found myself nodding as you described your experiences and thoughts. It is terribly frightening to put yourself in such a vulnerable position. Kudos and much thanks for sharing, my respect for you has increased tremendously.
Well thank you for sharing a bit about yourself as well. It's great to get to hear from the folks watching my content. Thank you for also being vulnerable and sharing your story in the comments here! It makes me happy to hear you've been able to figure out a way to embracing who you are, but also doing more than you thought you could. Good on you!
I can’t begin to express how this touched me. It’s the most real and beautiful thing I have seen on TH-cam in a very long time….maybe ever. Thank you 🙏🏼
I'm a skinny guy too and i can kinda relate, andi think you use your time and energy on productive way better than me despite the struggles. Your sewing achievements proves it. Awesome channel
Wow. You left me speechless. And in between breathless. I also had an anomaly for years until I had surgery at 36. This 'push his hand away' - I remember it so well! Thank you so very much. You help a lot of people with that video.
You are amazing and brave. Many of us experience similar. I love that you sew. Also, remember that you are a valid person. It’s ok for you to not accept absolutely anyone that happens to fancy you, just like everyone else. You are not defective, you are a survivor and a hero.
I think your (initial?) struggles with dance has as much to do with being raised Mennonite as anything else. 😅 This was a great video. Many of the struggles of permanent injury and chronic disease are nearly universal, even if the individual situations can be very different from each other. And having grown up around three-wheeled cotton pickers and knowing how top heavy they are.. your description of the accident gave me a visceral shiver. It is lucky you survived. Best wishes to you, and please keep making videos to entertain and educate us. They are always well done. I initially followed to catch glimpses of plautdietsch with English subtitles-since the language is pretty much dead in my community-but I enjoy the sewing videos too.
Indeed, being a Mennonite definitely did not "help" making me feel liberated in dance and it was multiplied by the accident. It sounds like you may be a fellow Mennonite or even live in a community with Mennonites? Thanks for watching and for sharing your thoughts in the comments here.
That was the best Christmas gift ever to me. A lesson on radical self acceptance. And a lesson on being authentic. Your sewing alterations have taught me so much, now your story has taught ke more. Many blessings 🌻🍄
What a wonderful video. I am obese. I have tried everything to fix the problem. I hide my body from my husband. I feel shame and disgust. I used to be a healthy person with a normal weight but things change after having children and of course, the age thing. Your video touched me and helped with a little more understanding of life and its tribulations. Thank you.
Cornelius, thanks you so much for showing up just like you are, and also sharing your story with so much presence and acceptation. It resonates so much with me, growing up being constantly bullied and rejected at school for years, divorced parent, no "self-love model". I felt the shame to not be lovable as I am - it impacted much of my life. Today, I'm 30 and I truly feel compassion for us. I'm happy this morning that you're sharing your story. Thanks you. I love who you are! You inspired me to take sewing classes and it's so fun!! 🤙 Cheers from Quebec, Canada.
It really always is the emotional/mental struggle that is the greatest challenge, isn't it?! Indeed, thank you for sharing a bit about yourself in the comments here and thank you for watching mine story as well. It is much appreciated.
It's amazing how much those very specific bodies public figures and especially celebrities usually have can get into our heads and make us obsess over features which, unless they cause pain or practical difficulty, really don't matter in day to day life. We don't need to be perfectly muscular or thin or have a certain complexion or hairstyle to be worthy of love, and your tailoring videos really help me (and probably others, too) to appreciate our bodies and their unique details.
Thank you for sharing. So many things in that I can relate to. It's liberating when you reach that point when you realise you are you and that's more than enough. My motto is similar; It is what it is. Don't dwell on it just embrace it and get on with life. Thanks you for being an inspiration. 👏👏
Cornelius, the beauty of the soul is far more important than the beauty of the body. No matter how perfect our bodies may be, time is a cruel master, and none of us gets to dodge the wrinkles and other imperfections that set in over the passing years. However, the maturity gained through the passing of time will usually improve our hearts and minds, making them ever more beautiful. Never distress yourself over an imperfect body.
Thank you for sharing yourself with all of us. Don’t we all have something that we try to hide. It is such a relief to get that burden off of our shoulders. Thanks again. The best to you.
I will never forget the vulnerability, strength, wisdom and inspiration you have shown in this video. I wish that everyone who feels different and therefore less worthy could see it. Oh, how I relate to the feeling of shame. Thank you.
As a person that developed rheumatoid arthritis at age 33, and all the crapola that came along with it, I wholly resonate with you in this video. When it first happened my entire world shifted 180°. My young son became resentful, my husband left me because I was too much work, and it caused me to lose my job. I hated me and my life. Fast forward to now, I'm 58. It took a couple of decades but I'm no longer angry and resentful about it and my son is now my best friend. It is what it is. We have to adapt. Even it it still sometimes pisses us off because of what was taken away from us. Thank you for baring your soul. And please know you are not alone. Sending you a virtual hug.
Thank you for sharing this. I had an accident too. I am a fire and burn survivor, and I sew because I hate the feel of polyester on my extensive scars, and I detest anything rubbing against the scars on my neck especially. Since there is a lot of garbage fabric sewn by the big companies, I just can't buy it, let alone wear it. Thank you for sharing your expertise here as well as your story.
we love you, Corn! my friends and I spent a good week watching your video on drafting and making pants. it was a great moment that we all bonded over. thank you for sharing and for all you do! “It is/I am” ❤️🔥💯🙏
CQ, your story resonates with me so deeply. Thank you for sharing your emotional journey along with the facts. For this internet stranger, it means a great deal to hear from another person that the feelings are normal and okay. Acceptance is difficult, not impossible, but boy, the road to get there can be rocky sometimes. After 20 years, I don’t feel as angry and embarrassed as I used to that my body doesn’t work the way it should. Thank you for your vulnerability and openness.
Well thank you and thanks for sharing a bit about your emotional journey as well! It's great for me to hear about others experiences of acceptance and personal growth, as well.
Hello ! Just one think : thank you ! Thanks to share with us your story, your emotional journey, your actual feeling. You say : "it is" and "I am" and it's the most important, you ARE and I'm happy too look at you share your sewing thought process with humour, calm and class. I hope, not have a too french english 😂. Have a good day ! Kissss !
I always wondered why you were very direct about everything. Especially in your voice. I’m sorry about your childhood trauma and tragedy. I had a childhood/teenage tragedy as well. I highly understand your feelings.
Corn man, it only makes sense in retrospect. But keep doing what you like to do, keep making your art. You eventually learn you care about these "things" more than anyone else will, and what others actually care about is who you are and what you do. Ive been type 1 diabetic since I was 5 and have countless issues that would take to long to explain. But over time you learn to change your expectations. Not lower them but change them to things you find more important. Worry less about what you cant change and focus on doing what you can. I personally strive to inspire others no matter how small the inspiration. And because of you I made a pair of pants and a pair of shorts. Thats pretty cool. And I will totally make more :P
Thank you for sharing a bit about yourself. It's great to get to hear from the folks watching my content, in this case specifically, sharing your life experiences. I'm glad to hear you've been able to make yourself a few clothes from my videos!
Very emotional and authentic! I feel lucky to hear such a personal story! You are honestly very beautiful! Thank you for sharing such a deep and meaningful story! ❤
I was 10. 1000 lbs of Sheetrock fell on me. It ripped my right foot off. It broke my leg. It crushed my left shoulder. Now I am 68. Our paths are similar. Bless your life journey always. Your teaching is a joy to me. Thanks for sharing ❤
Thank you for sharing your story. The physical body is only a temporary birth suit. A person's character and soul are far more valuable. I have enjoyed the content you share about sewing and your sense of humor You are a blessing
I enjoy your videos, I’m glad you take the time to share your expertise with us. Many people sew because their bodies do not fit easily into shop bought clothing. While yours is an extreme example I think many people fight with how they “should” look, as if there were not billions of answers to that question. I’m glad you took the time to explain your differences, but they are never the thing I see when I watch your videos. I love your humour, your sewing trials, the way you explain things, the interaction with your family. Although you are 1000 miles away I view you as a sewing friend who pops round now and again. Good luck for the future, wishing you all the best.
Well I enjoy "popping by" for a sew and thank you for returning the visit by popping in the comments here :) Indeed, many of us are coming to terms with who we are physically and emotionally. Thank you for the kind words and thanks for watching.
You are incredible , your story is bound to help someone. I’ve been watching your sewing videos and love how you explain everything. Honestly I never realized anything different while watching your videos. Thank you for sharing. You are incredible and amazing.
Oh Cornelius, you are a beautiful human being. You are. I’m so glad I met you on TH-cam! Thank you for sharing who you are, and your talents. As a creative/sewer, you have enhanced my creative therapy by sharing your info and tips! Many blessings to you! Keep up the good work! ❤
Cornelius, you are such a talented unique individual. Surviving the farm accident like you did, is a miracle! Finding your calling as a pattern maker / designer...no small feat. Cool!
Cornelius Quiring-You are Amazing! I never noticed anything but Amazing from your TH-cams! Thank You for always being Awesome You! Thank You for always inspiring us! :)
I came to your channel to learn about sewing. I’m a newbie and so confused with sewing techniques, but you make wonderful videos and take your time to explain things so that even I can understand. I just kept watching and this appeared and you gave me hope about my own struggles. I have a strong faith and know that God put you in our lives to learn to be loving and support each other.
As an occupational therapist watching your video I was curious about the posture of your right hand, trying to assess as I watched. Thank you for doing this educational video. Especially explaining both the physical and emotional aspects of the experience. Your tenacity and commitment to sharing your journey and showing your talents is exactly the example I want to share with my clients as encouragement. 🕺Go Cornelius!
My body is. My brain is. And i am. I'm catching up with you, Cornelius. I'll get there. All my "stuff" happened quickly, and repeatedly. This thing took my dad, BUT I'm still here, I'm abundantly blessed, and I cannot indulge my own self-pity. I don't have time to wait for life to be easy or it'll pass me by. Some people never get to where you are, Cornelius, especially at so young an age. I admire the hell outa you. Your skill levels are French Atelier, you are articulate, eloquent and engaging, and you have become the content creator I would most enjoy having a sewing campout with. Thank you for the youness of you.
Indeed, you are in every way. I wish you all the best in your personal journey of healing but also growth! Thank you for the kind words and I really appreciate you taking the time to watch what I put out there. Sending positive vibes.
@@CorneliusQuiring I see your positive vibes and i raise you one super squishy hug hahahha If you find yourself out on the West Coast, we should swap sewing wisdom over a cuppa. I'm in Victoria.
just found your channel today. Thank you for sharing this. TBH it is super rare for men to be vulnerable/truthful about body image, so thank you for that in itself. Can confirm that finding peace in being embodied is hard times when you are non-normative bodied.
I came to the channel for the sewing but have been so grateful to find this glimpse into the wonderful, inspiring person that you are. Thank you so much for sharing in such an open and creative way. Loved the changes in lighting as you told your story. The videos are amazing. It was also powerful to see the emotion on your face and in your eyes. My sternum is a bit crooked. I’ve always been self conscious about that, with myself and with partners. Your story inspired me this morning. Thank you my friend. This made my day.
Well thank you for opening up a bit and tell me a bit about yourself as well. It's great to get to hear from the folks watching my content. Happy sewing.
Thank you for sharing your story. You are a strong man. Much love to you for the process you have been through. I love your channel and have learned a lot. Cheers!
Sorry about your struggles. You seem to be a very confident and capable person and it appears that God has been looking out for you. Be strong and keep the faith!
It’s so good of you to share this, so many people out there will be going through similar experiences and this could make them feel so much less alone. My mother needed life saving surgery, but it left her facially disfigure. She lost confidence and took a long time getting it back. I wish the world was less obsessed with how we looked.
She had the surgery when I was a young girl, and I can’t remember what she looked like before that. As I got older and realised she was looked at so differently it almost shocked me. Something you take as normal can put fear in others. By the time I was a teenager I would take her out and about with me, I like to think that giving her an ally and a share of my quiet confidence helped. Thank you.
I am really tall and thin, quite flat on both sides; what I’ve learned over the years is God loves all kinds of people tall, short, black yellow, twisted, bent, whatever it is we all are very special and unique. First time I laid eyes on you I absolutely loved you, your style (love the hat), and how you explain and teach us to be better! Don’t see anything wrong with you, you are just right. This video encourages us to work harder. Thank you so much for all your work and dedication. Hopefully the exercises will help with the pain. But check out if you can improve using magnesium, sure helps me with my knee pain.
Friends of mine know that if I ever choose to get a tattoo it would be, IT IS WHAT IT IS! To this nothing can be too big to overcome and where this happens we are free to share who we truly are. I love your videos, but now I love you too. Thank you from my heart.
You, Mr. C., are AN INSPIRATION! For sharing your truth and testament, you have helped so many people to break free and just, be. The late, great Maya Angelou said, “You are enough.” Mr. C, your best is yet to come and YOU ARE ENOUGH. I will say this much: the journey is better with community. Have LOTS OF FRIENDS!!!😊
This is such a lovely, vulnerable conversation with the camera, thank you for sharing. It’s incredibly strong of you. Your sewing videos are very inspiring, so it follows the man making them is too
Wow, I really appreciate your story. I guess I’m in the shame phase. I just finished a year of chemotherapy and am left dealing with the aftermath. Losing muscle mass while gaining belly fat was the start. Adding to that the fatigue and inability to do what I used to do was demoralizing. I’m learning to be kinder to myself and to break projects into smaller chunks. I’m sorry you had to deal with all you had to deal with and I know my story is a pale comparison, but you’ve shown that there is a possibility of peace. I haven’t given up and can tell you haven’t either. It is, what a beautiful point of view.
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story in the comments here as well. I wish you all the best and hope you can create your inner peace. I am happy to hear you haven't give up. Stay strong.
I stumbled upon your channel for the first time yesterday as I was looking for some sewing help. I found that the first sewing video I viewed was helpful, and I enjoyed the humorous and logical way you delivered the information, so I started looking for more. Then I found this one. I wanted to applaud you for sharing your story. It takes a lot of courage to share intimate details like this, and I’m certain that this video will benefit others. 🤗
You are one brave guy. Sharing pictures of the impact of your accident will give others courage and inspiration but I bet it took courage. That’s what inspires your sewing videos - helping yourself and others to deal with the life you were given. Not all heroes wear capes! Good luck in all you do.
You are a wonderful teacher. Your shirt tutorial helped me fix a t-shirt hack. 😅 But that one lesson has propelled me so much in my sewing journey. ❤ Thank you for sharing. Thank you for teaching. Please continue....😊
I had no idea there was anything "different " about you. All I ever saw was a really good looking bloke. To be honest, I STILL DONT see anything "different " about you. And even if I could, the beauty you radiate from within TOTALLY OVERRIDES anything else. You are awesome in every sense, looks, personality and talent. The nxt time you don't love yourself the way you should, stretch out your right hand and pay attention to the pose it's in. In sign language, that means I LOVE YOU 🤟. Sometimes God has a msg for all of us. Maybe that's yours. Sending love from South Africa 🇿🇦
I really like that! I did not know is was sign language but I'm going to adopt this and use it moving forward! Thank you for watching and sharing. You are kind.
Thank you for sharing your story, I’m really glad I found your channel. I ❤ to sew, but being half blind is challenging, I’ve ruined so many yards of fabric, but I never give up.
Thank you Cornelius for opening up like that .. I am teaching myself sewing and I always love your lessons and atmosphere ..you’ve helped me a lot ..! Much love to you ..!
Thank you for this brilliant video. I felt similar about my body for different reasens. Im now 60. When i see Fotografs from 30, 40 years ago, i see, that most of my insecutitys where invisible. Apart from flare ups of bad excema, that are hard to take for a young woman. It never stopped me from beeing aproached by men. Amazingly. At some point, i realised, that these things cant stopp me from living a full, joyfull life. Which i started to do, most of the time. Hearing your words i can still feel the pain. Your words really touched me. Thank you
I am new to your channel, but ever since I watched your video about the little ruler gauge, I was hooked. I think I just watched about 20 of your videos and then came across this one. I've been sewing for about 65 years, but I have learned so many things from you that I never knew. I watch to learn, but also I absolutely love your sense of humor and timing. I'm so glad you survived that accident, because the sewing world would have lost a real treasure. And you know what, no one cares if one arm is different from the other. It's the person inside that matters, and from what I've seen of you, it's awesome. Plus I love the black cowboy hat. It makes you unique and stand out from all the others. I join all the others in thanking you for sharing your story with us. That takes a lot of courage, but I can tell you that many, many people have been blessed by hearing it. 😊
You are very kind, thank you. I appreciate you taking the time to get to know me online. I'm honoured to have been able to share something new in the world of sewing.
Thank you for sharing this Cornelius. I've always admired you, you have a soothing voice and a way of communicating to your audience that is captivating. Though injuries are part of who you are, it doesn't define you as a person. Your talent, dedication and strength shine through. Much love to you.
This is a wonderful, moving story. Thanks for sharing it. I have struggled for many years with cancers, many of which have left scars on my face, and have taken part of one ear. I struggle a little with those scars, because they are so "visible" to me. I don't know that anyone else cares, but it is still a challenge for me. I really relate to your story! Your challenges are so much greater than mine, but your strength is even greater. You are still a hero to many of us. Thanks
I have Severe Psoriatic Arthritis have had Psoriasis since I was 2. Can't be cured. It now affects my joints. I understand this video. I feel this video. I am overweight have 4 kids. Not young anymore. I have 4 grandkids. The man who "loved" me well after 20 yrs = 10 yrs lonely. Is no longer in my life. BUT YOU HAVE A TALENT. As an adult that means something. It means A lot. I enjoyed your video. Thanks, and just know You are 1 of many. We all rebuild ourselves sometimes many times in a life time and that just means WE CHOOSE TO COME OUT THE OTHER SIDE COME WHAT MAY.
Thank you for sharing a bit about yourself and being vulnerable in the comments. You said it very well and indeed it is up to us to move forward. And yes, these days everyone gets a chance :) Turns out it was me.
Thank you for sharing. I'm hypermobile so have had a lot of joint injuries including separated shoulders and a spinal fracture, and deal with chronic pain, and one of the things people hear me say as I'm doing something a little differently to either work around a current injury or prevent future injury is "life is all about the workarounds". Gotta figure out how to do what you want to do with what you've got. Sometimes it takes a lot of extra work just to do things most people take for granted, and not everyone starts at the same starting line, so maybe it's not a race, but a journey we're all on together. I just discovered your channel, and will be sticking around. I follow a lot of female vintage and historical sewists but they rarely make the kind of clothing I'm comfortable in, I'd rather be in working class clothing, and generally pants or trousers. I tend to describe my personal aesthetic as somewhere between "carpet goblin" and "plaid my mother hates" or "f-off, it's comfortable" and my hip to waist ratio makes me fit better into menswear than women's, that bulkiness you found with the pleated pants is what I get any time I wear any women's pants, so it's going to be nice going through your footage for hints and tricks to fit a body that doesn't conform to current fashion standards. I have such trouble with waistbands that anything will help. (I have all of an inch of space between my bottom rib and the top of my hip so belts are not comfortable but I've increased the size of my waist via core exercises for the spinal injury enough that now my pants fall down, and the padding around the middle that I've acquired over the years has not helped, I need like negative two inches of ease for a waistband to stay where it belongs if I want to put anything in the pockets, and I don't find suspenders comfortable around my bust. "Don't think, just do", yeah I hear that a lot in martial arts. And it just occurred to me now that it probably comes from people whose muscle memory is easy to program. Mine isn't. Peiple who learn easily don't understand that there's a big difference between needing to brain your way through till your body can do the thing versus being mentally caught up by minutia to the point where your body stops moving. I cannot watch someone do a thing I don't know how to do and then repeat the thing myself without them leading me stepwise through it while I'm trying to make my body move. I have had one instructor in the 23 years I've been doing Aikido who realized this and would instruct me accordingly, for all other instructors I have to watch them, try to note specifically what they did (or after a decade or two, categorize it as a movement that I already know and try to note if there are any differences) and then try to remember it long enough to drag my body though the motions enough times before we move on to the next thing to maybe be able to do it again if it comes up next class. It's something I try to keep in mind when I'm teaching Aikido now, I sometimes feel like the people who have the most trouble learning something make the best instructors and I try to live up to that. And I try to find accommodations for students whose bodies or minds don't work in the generally accepted ways. I've taken dance lessons too (ballroom, bellydance and ballet) and I have the same problem learning the moves. 49 and still have to think about left or right. Even learning to drive a car, it was about a year before I was solid in gas vs brake (my poor dad, who had to supervise me, had nerves of steel), and I'm really glad that I got the chance to learn how to manage a clutch pedal and shifter while not also contending with traffic (I worked a high school cooperative education placement where I got to do the day before pre-drive of vehicles being tested on a dynamometer). Some of us really need to break things down into much smaller steps than a lot of other people. I have been doing another particular kata-based sword art for over 20 years specifically because I am terrible at being choreographed and wish to improve. I guess it's worked, since when the instructor isn't there, I teach the class. I tell anyone that I'm trying to teach anything to that I'm not good, just persistent, and I've already made all the mistakes that they haven't yet made. My Aikido instructor always says to make "big glorious mistakes", and he's not wrong, I find most people learn a lot more from making a mistake and having to correct it and then avoid making it again than they do from getting it right the first time. I think the best thing I did for myself with respect to taking martial arts as an adult was to check my ego at the door and accept and embrace that I will look stupid while I'm learning. And I will always be learning, so I'm resigned to the possibility that I will look stupid at any point in time.
Powerful story and I'm grateful for you sharing it. There's nothing quite like someone opening up about their experiences in such a sincere way. Much respect to you and thanks always for your helpful videos!
Thank you for sharing, you are correct dealing with physical hurt is one thing, dealing with what's in your head is a completely different matter. What you have shared with us is the story of a brave, beautiful, talented soul xxx thank you xxx
Time makes its own story and you narrated your story very well. To live up to others exptations we tend to lie to ourselves its at the Time we accept we are who we are that we are then free.
Everyone is different. That’s so much better than everyone being the same. Many of us are judged by others regarding our physical appearance, our style, our personality, our jobs, our dreams…wow. Those judgy people have way too much time on their hands. Not sure how they do it because I’m too busy dealing with my own issues and have no time to judge their issues. Those of us who have no time (or desire) to body shame others are the fortunate ones. They’re the ones with the problem. Voice of experience here.
We all have scars! Whether internal or external. You have shown us your journey in a candid and honest and eloquent way! From what you have said -there is no bitterness! What a blessing you are to others! Thank you for your words
I didn’t notice till this video. Diff bodies are beautiful. And so are you 🖤
Thank you for your very kind words.
Same ! I was watching the lesson, like I usually do.
@@CorneliusQuiring it’s just facts 🫶🏾
Never noticed it either ❤
Dang... I love when he talked about dating. He was just vulnerable. He admitted how hypocritical and shallow he was about judging girls for what he believed were physical shortcomings despite being upset at women doing the same thing to him. Like, he just admitted that... to over a hundred thousand people, online, where nothing ever truly dies. That takes guts, I admire it, and honestly its refreshing. This guy is human. It's awesome.
Yeah, I was initially gonna cut this bit out, but then put it because I figured, if I am truly going to be vulnerable, this is the most honest bit. I am not perfect, it wasn't a healthy way of thinking and if anyone can learn from it, like I did, then it's worth it.
I'm glad you appreciated it. Thanks for watching.
One of the biggest shocks I've received in my life is when I discovered I possess some of the traits I disliked in others.
@@JustAboutAnything66 it's definitely humbling. good on you for recognizing that in yourself. For me, the hardest part after those realizations, is adjusting my expectations from others. Because once you realize how imperfect you are, then how exactly do you go about selecting traits in other people? It can be hard.
@@CorneliusQuiringIt takes years and hard work on yourself to recognise and admit such thought patterns and work past them. Thank you for sharing this.
You know what's funny? I follow your channel because I dream of being able to sew my own clothes-clothes that fit my "unconventional" body. I'm now in my early 20s, standing at 5'1" and weighing never more than 90 lbs. Well, I also don't know why, but recently I found out that my spine has scoliosis of about 38°, and maybe that's related. All this time I've felt ashamed, scared, and worried because of having a different shape from others-too thin and short, even asymmetrical, not like "how a man should be." And I've been holding it all in because I didn't know how and where to express it. After hearing your story, I couldn't help but write this to say thank you because all those feelings seem to have been represented by your story. Thank you for sharing that story and those feelings. I always enjoy your videos.
First and foremost, Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing a bit about yourself in the comments. I am happy to hear you were able to relate to my story. May you make all the clothes you desire and create your inner confidence. You got this. We got this.
I understand, @zeem12. I have two curves (an S-curve) that are 37° each. I'm lucky, my curves are relatively balanced, but also evident so no backless dresses or swimsuits. I'm (well, I was) 5' 2.5", but unlike you, I've been overweight for most of my life. Turns out there's a medical reason for part of that. Over the years there have been rude remarks about my spine (as if it was something I could control) or weight and both made me feel diminished--until I decided that I can't do anything about their rudeness and I CAN control how I feel about it and/or react to it. That makes life better.
Bernadette Banner does historical sewing, but she has scoliosis and talks about sewing for it. If you're ever interested. Lots of people with asymmetrical bodies find sewing as a way to dress themselves. Just saying, you belong in the sewing community whenever you want. 💜
I'm only 4'10"" and nearly 74years. All my live first my mom and later on I made my own clothes. I have to draft my own patterns. Cornelius you help me so much. Thank you. I'm from South Africa
4’!0” MYSELF. Clothes off the rack almost never fit!!
Very courageous in doing this video about something that is so personal, Cornelius. Not everyone overcomes hurdles but you are true encouragement and a shining example of confidence.
Thank you, I appreciate you saying that.
We appreciate the way wood develops a patina with time & the Japanese take this further with their concept of wabi sabi. This celebrates the visible traces life experiences leave in everything. Which is why when a favourite bowl or cup is broken they repair it with gold (kinsugi) to highlight the cracks. Our experiences good & bad, leave visible & invisible scars which make us unique.
I like the way you think about this and the metaphors. I am going to think of it this way, moving forward.
I was immediately drawn to you and your work because I could feel that farm boy through the screen. I saw myself, my dad, my grandpa all appreciating your work in my head. Thanks for sharing this.
How lovely, thank you and greetings to the yourself and the men in your family.
“Shine on you crazy diamond!”
Love the openness and sharing - We should all live in the "Fullness of Humanity" 💫(the good the bad and the ugly) and love each other along the way. We have NONE of these "issues" yet we all live ALL of these "issues" (we are all different stage of living them)
I've had 13 orthopedic surgeries since my 30's due to arthritis. C-spine fused from C3-C7 with a rod and various devices also nerve damage. You do go through mourning for what used to be and what could have been. I've reduced what I sew to very easy items but I still enjoy the planning and creativity. Thank you for sharing who you are and teaching your craft.
Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you've been on a real journey and have grown a lot as a person.
Cornelius, your video "How to draft a men's pant pattern... and fix fit issues!" serves as my blueprint for acquiring a new skill. The reason is that I acknowledge there's a method to learning, and your explanation rates 10 out of 10. In terms of what I've seen so far, (behaviorist method in education), I've successfully completed "Drafting the back" and plan to continue until I finish. I want to express that you are blessed with the gift of teaching, despite any shortcomings resulting from the accident which was no fault of yours. Thanking you for posting these videos and thanking you for posting this video which I personally hope will inspire others to press forward and claim their prize in life.
You are very kind with your words, thank you. Thank you as well for checking out what I post and good luck with the pant draft you're working on. I hope they turn out as you plan.
You’re a star to us Cornelius! This could have been the origin story for a Marvel supervilain, but you turned it into something positive. By the way I’m a 42yo man from Montreal and I have cystic fibrosis. Growing with this disease you cough a lot and you struggle getting all nutrients for growth, which leaves you with a big rib cage and narrow shoulders. I struggled all my life finding clothes that fit, but I recently started learning how to sew and you are a huge help in my journey. Thank you for your amazing work ❤
Thank you for willing sharing a bit about yourself. It sounds like you've managed to embrace yourself as well and hope you are able to make clothes to fit yourself as you desire. Thank you for watching. 🙏🏻
Congratulations on your longevity! You are also a star!
Oh but he is a marvel supervillain
So strong of you to talk about it openly! 💪 love how you explain the mental struggles the accident brought with it - Im sure itll help some people! Your sewing Videos are helping me atm cause I just started and you explain a lot in great detail and you SHOW stuff. Thank you!
Well thank you watching this video specifically and I'm glad to hear my sewing content is of use as well. I appreciate it.
Cornelius your rad. 44 today. You taught me how to measure and make my own pants today. I'm a contractor and as hard as a fucking coffin nail. If my buddies new I was watching your videos and loving them I would never hear the end of it. You have more courage than me bud. Keep being you.
Well thanks for letting a little bit of yours softer side show in the comments here.
You should take pride in knowing how to sew your own pants! I doubt any of your buddies would. It's a skill, and one that should be learned! Take pride in it lad!
Here's a line for your buddies if they ever tease you: "You may wear the pants in your family, but I know how to make mine!"
Most people now a days don't even know how to sew back on a button to a shirt!
I know 'traditionally' sewing is seen as more feminine now a days, but it has a deep masculine history as well, just ask the Scots that knew how to knit!
It's a skill that is an important!
Think you should find new buddies. Making things with your hands and tools is rad. I'm a contractor as well.
You may never know how many people you have touched here by sharing your truth, but know there are now, and will be many people who are so thankful you have! ❤
I'm glad to hear it. May we all learn and grow from each other. Thanks for watching. 🙏🏻
I'd send it to my younger brother, a sickle cell warrior who couldn't get past the pyschological thing no matter how hard we tried but i'm so sad, he left us early this year. This would have helped, i'm sure. I hope it inspires others ❤❤
I'm sorry to hear he's no longer with you. Sending love and warmth to you and your family.
I know from RN days how painful sickle cell disease can be during a crisis. I am so sorry that your brother had to endure it. I am sorry that you have lost that part of yourself.
I'm so glad you survived. I have a friend whose child did not. She was only 8. So much danger on a farm.
I'm really sorry to hear that.
Yes, farms are very dangerous.
My partner fell from a tractor at 7 years old which then rolled over child's head. Fortunately the ground was soft or the skull would have crushed.
There was no hospital in that very rutal area, so the MD kept the child on his kitchen table all night and slept right there in a chair.
There was a huge gash on the temple that a lot of dirt and pebbles had to removed from and a brain concussion, but no paralysis or a displaced fracture. There is still a huge scar on the temple.
All in all, a better outcome than M Quiring's, but only by sheer dumb luck.
i can definitely relate to “not looking like other men” and constantly comparing yourself to men that you see on the street, in movies, magazines. i think one of the most beautiful things about being human is the variety of shapes in which we come in, no two people are identical and being perfectly symmetrical is quite frankly, unheard of. people often preach about body positivity, but something that is equally important is body neutrality, and as you state in this video, it is the reality that your body just is
Very well said and thank you for sharing that you too have had challenges. We all seem to have some hurdles to overcome. Thanks for watching.
Yet you turned out to be a beautiful soul ❤❤❤❤
I like the way you used lighting to show how you feel/felt about yourself since your accident. I have muscular dystrophy, so I can absolutely empathize with how you relate to your body. It doesn’t always respond the way you want, and yeah. It’s frustrating as hell. But it is. And you just have to roll with it.
Thank you being vulnerable and for sharing a bit about yourself in the comments here. It sounds like you have learned to understand yourself.
Thanks for sharing your story. I love how you concluded it with "It is!" something we all could learn from. And, thanks for all the great sewing tips!
Thank you. It makes me happy to hear it resonates with you as well.
My goodness, thank you for existing, Cornelius!
Thank you for taking an interest.
So many of us makers (especially of wearable items) come from a similar background of desiring to dress our bodies in a way standard clothing hasn’t been able to. Thank you for sharing your story and like so many other makers, it really resonates.
This is what I am learning. Thank you for your support and sending positivity back your way.
You’re such a talented communicator and tailor. I really enjoy learning while being entertained. I didn’t assume any back story relating to your build, really. I like how your clothes look on you. Fit is everything, as they say, and yours always fit nicely. : )
I'm glad to hear it. You said it better than I could, indeed fit is everything.
I completely understand the craving of the touch of a partner. About a couple months ago I started talking to my psychiatrist and my therapist that I finally felt like there was space in my life for a relationship. I have a great team of health care professionals in my life, my different ilnesses have been diagnosed, are being treated and followed up, I have found the right kind of medication and dosage to help me and keep me stable, physiotherapy and activities to help physically, an official recognition of having a handicap and social and financial help, a stable housing situation. It took years to have all that, to realise I had real problems, to fight to get the right medical help, to get recognition and the right kind of help, to have put things in place to help me live my life the best way I can with my disabilities. It took years and so much energy to achieve this and now that many things are in place, I finally feel like I have the time, the will and the energy to be able to be in a relationship with someone. Now I just need to find ways to meet people 😅
Good on you for advocating for yourself and for making it all happen. I am happy to hear you are in a good place and hope you find good people :)
The mirror is our biggest critic. Your story is inspiring and humbling. We are all on this earth for a reason and your story is inspiring and I thank you for telling it. At 67 I sew my clothes and with your help they make me look great. Thanks for your story and for all you do.
Indeed the mirror reflects what we choose to see. May you make plenty more garments just as you desire!
I've wondered about your story for as long as I've watched your videos, but I never expected you to share, or to share in such a personal way. What a gift you've given. Thank you. I'm humbled.
The reason I started watching your channel is that I've always felt uncomfortable in my own body, and the way clothes fit (or mostly fail to fit) is a big contributor to those feelings. I don't have a specific reason to feel that way. I'm just tall-ish and lanky-ish enough that the retail experience of clothing myself is a mild but constant humiliation. From the first video of yours that I watched, I thought, "Now, here is a person who understands that clothes should make you feel good."
Clothes, like societies, should fit the humans that live in them, not the other way around. I hope you will keep teaching us how to make it so.
Bless you. It is community that helps us grow, but that is a chasm that our inner selves are scared to cross.
Everyone, who thinks they don't need them, ridicules support groups. You know the type to which I fefer. The personal experiences in those groups help us to connect and let go of blanket of isolation.
I hope I said this right.
@ryneches Well thank you for being vulnerable as well and for sharing a bit about yourself in the comments here. I am glad to hear you were able to get that from my videos and hope you're able to make yourself all the clothes you desire! Thanks for watching. 🙏🏻
woah that for me felt like quite a privilege for you to let us see behind the tailors curtain, takes a lot of strength to lay it out bare to all, admirable and sure it will help others going through the same thought process if not just to say "your not alone in this, i've been there too'" and there is a way through. thanks C
Indeed, it's amazing how much love and support comes back to us when we open up and allow ourselves to be vulnerable. Thanks for watching and for your support. 🙏🏻
I'm pretty new to your channel, but was immediately intrigued by your humor and calm style. I have learned much from your tutorials. with this video, I was riveted and also in a turmoil of emotions. I was born 2 months premature and as a consequence I have Cerebral Palsy. With years of blood, sweat and tears, I have learned to first, strive to overcome my physical challenges, then gradually to learn not to hate my body for its' limitations and to come to a point( when I was in my early 50's) of learning to love my body, accepting it with love. To my surprise, it surprised me by being able to do more than I had previously thought was possible. Your history resonates with mine, and I am grateful to hear of your story, I found myself nodding as you described your experiences and thoughts. It is terribly frightening to put yourself in such a vulnerable position. Kudos and much thanks for sharing, my respect for you has increased tremendously.
Well thank you for sharing a bit about yourself as well. It's great to get to hear from the folks watching my content. Thank you for also being vulnerable and sharing your story in the comments here! It makes me happy to hear you've been able to figure out a way to embracing who you are, but also doing more than you thought you could. Good on you!
Thanks for this! I think we should all strive for a... it is... view of our body!
Amen :)
I can’t begin to express how this touched me. It’s the most real and beautiful thing I have seen on TH-cam in a very long time….maybe ever. Thank you 🙏🏼
You are kind, thank you and thanks for watching.
I'm a skinny guy too and i can kinda relate, andi think you use your time and energy on productive way better than me despite the struggles. Your sewing achievements proves it. Awesome channel
Well thank you for watching and glad to hear you can relate. You got this. It starts with just 1 stitch, each time :)
Wow.
You left me speechless. And in between breathless.
I also had an anomaly for years until I had surgery at 36. This 'push his hand away' - I remember it so well!
Thank you so very much. You help a lot of people with that video.
Well thank you for watching and thank you for caring. I am happy for you that you were able to have the surgery as needed.
You are amazing and brave. Many of us experience similar. I love that you sew. Also, remember that you are a valid person. It’s ok for you to not accept absolutely anyone that happens to fancy you, just like everyone else. You are not defective, you are a survivor and a hero.
I think your (initial?) struggles with dance has as much to do with being raised Mennonite as anything else. 😅 This was a great video. Many of the struggles of permanent injury and chronic disease are nearly universal, even if the individual situations can be very different from each other.
And having grown up around three-wheeled cotton pickers and knowing how top heavy they are.. your description of the accident gave me a visceral shiver. It is lucky you survived.
Best wishes to you, and please keep making videos to entertain and educate us. They are always well done. I initially followed to catch glimpses of plautdietsch with English subtitles-since the language is pretty much dead in my community-but I enjoy the sewing videos too.
Indeed, being a Mennonite definitely did not "help" making me feel liberated in dance and it was multiplied by the accident. It sounds like you may be a fellow Mennonite or even live in a community with Mennonites? Thanks for watching and for sharing your thoughts in the comments here.
That was the best Christmas gift ever to me. A lesson on radical self acceptance. And a lesson on being authentic. Your sewing alterations have taught me so much, now your story has taught ke more. Many blessings 🌻🍄
Well I am very glad to hear it. Your support is greatly appreciated.
What a wonderful video.
I am obese. I have tried everything to fix the problem. I hide my body from my husband. I feel shame and disgust.
I used to be a healthy person with a normal weight but things change after having children and of course, the age thing.
Your video touched me and helped with a little more understanding of life and its tribulations.
Thank you.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story in the comments here. Stay strong. You are worthy.
Cornelius, thanks you so much for showing up just like you are, and also sharing your story with so much presence and acceptation. It resonates so much with me, growing up being constantly bullied and rejected at school for years, divorced parent, no "self-love model". I felt the shame to not be lovable as I am - it impacted much of my life. Today, I'm 30 and I truly feel compassion for us. I'm happy this morning that you're sharing your story. Thanks you. I love who you are! You inspired me to take sewing classes and it's so fun!! 🤙 Cheers from Quebec, Canada.
Bless you in your journey. It's always scary to put yourself out there.
It really always is the emotional/mental struggle that is the greatest challenge, isn't it?! Indeed, thank you for sharing a bit about yourself in the comments here and thank you for watching mine story as well. It is much appreciated.
It's amazing how much those very specific bodies public figures and especially celebrities usually have can get into our heads and make us obsess over features which, unless they cause pain or practical difficulty, really don't matter in day to day life. We don't need to be perfectly muscular or thin or have a certain complexion or hairstyle to be worthy of love, and your tailoring videos really help me (and probably others, too) to appreciate our bodies and their unique details.
Well said. When it comes down to it, the challenges don't hinder us, but make us who we are. I am glad to hear that my videos are of use to you.
Okay, this should be a TED talk.
Inspiring ❤
Thank you for sharing. So many things in that I can relate to. It's liberating when you reach that point when you realise you are you and that's more than enough. My motto is similar; It is what it is. Don't dwell on it just embrace it and get on with life. Thanks you for being an inspiration. 👏👏
Oh nice, it makes me happy to hear. Thank you for watching and following up to share your motto.
From Menorca (Spain), gracias por compartir tu experiència con todas tus fans.
I adore your humour and your skill. Just love how you coped with your injuries. You are a marvelous human and I just love you to bits.
You are kind, thank you and thanks for watching!
Спасибо вам за историю. Я не знаю вашего языка, но все поняла. У вас красивая душа! Вы очень талантливый человек! Здоровья вам!!!😊
Вы добры, спасибо. Спасибо и вам за просмотр.
Cornelius, the beauty of the soul is far more important than the beauty of the body. No matter how perfect our bodies may be, time is a cruel master, and none of us gets to dodge the wrinkles and other imperfections that set in over the passing years. However, the maturity gained through the passing of time will usually improve our hearts and minds, making them ever more beautiful. Never distress yourself over an imperfect body.
Very well said and thank you. Indeed, it is just the meat suit we live in after all :)
@@CorneliusQuiring You are most welcome. 🥰
Thank you for sharing yourself with all of us. Don’t we all have something that we try to hide. It is such a relief to get that burden off of our shoulders. Thanks again. The best to you.
Indeed! Well said.
I will never forget the vulnerability, strength, wisdom and inspiration you have shown in this video. I wish that everyone who feels different and therefore less worthy could see it. Oh, how I relate to the feeling of shame. Thank you.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing.
As a person that developed rheumatoid arthritis at age 33, and all the crapola that came along with it, I wholly resonate with you in this video.
When it first happened my entire world shifted 180°. My young son became resentful, my husband left me because I was too much work, and it caused me to lose my job. I hated me and my life. Fast forward to now, I'm 58. It took a couple of decades but I'm no longer angry and resentful about it and my son is now my best friend. It is what it is. We have to adapt. Even it it still sometimes pisses us off because of what was taken away from us.
Thank you for baring your soul. And please know you are not alone. Sending you a virtual hug.
It sounds like you're a resilient person. Thanks for sharing and thank you for the kind words. I'm sending good vibes back your way.
As a fellow not-quite-straight person, you have style, which is far more important. No-one's ever going to dismiss you!
Thank you and well said!
Thank you for sharing this. I had an accident too. I am a fire and burn survivor, and I sew because I hate the feel of polyester on my extensive scars, and I detest anything rubbing against the scars on my neck especially. Since there is a lot of garbage fabric sewn by the big companies, I just can't buy it, let alone wear it. Thank you for sharing your expertise here as well as your story.
Thank you for sharing your story as well and good on you for making your own clothes.
we love you, Corn! my friends and I spent a good week watching your video on drafting and making pants. it was a great moment that we all bonded over. thank you for sharing and for all you do! “It is/I am” ❤️🔥💯🙏
That's wonderful, I'm glad to hear you were all able to have a moment. Thanks for watching. 🙏🏻
CQ, your story resonates with me so deeply. Thank you for sharing your emotional journey along with the facts. For this internet stranger, it means a great deal to hear from another person that the feelings are normal and okay. Acceptance is difficult, not impossible, but boy, the road to get there can be rocky sometimes. After 20 years, I don’t feel as angry and embarrassed as I used to that my body doesn’t work the way it should. Thank you for your vulnerability and openness.
Well thank you and thanks for sharing a bit about your emotional journey as well! It's great for me to hear about others experiences of acceptance and personal growth, as well.
Hello !
Just one think : thank you ! Thanks to share with us your story, your emotional journey, your actual feeling. You say : "it is" and "I am" and it's the most important, you ARE and I'm happy too look at you share your sewing thought process with humour, calm and class.
I hope, not have a too french english 😂.
Have a good day !
Kissss !
and thank you to you as well for watching and sharing a bit in the comments here. 🤠🙏🏻
I always wondered why you were very direct about everything. Especially in your voice. I’m sorry about your childhood trauma and tragedy.
I had a childhood/teenage tragedy as well. I highly understand your feelings.
Well thank you for the support. I hope you have created you own heeling as well. Sending love back your way.
Corn man, it only makes sense in retrospect. But keep doing what you like to do, keep making your art. You eventually learn you care about these "things" more than anyone else will, and what others actually care about is who you are and what you do.
Ive been type 1 diabetic since I was 5 and have countless issues that would take to long to explain. But over time you learn to change your expectations. Not lower them but change them to things you find more important. Worry less about what you cant change and focus on doing what you can.
I personally strive to inspire others no matter how small the inspiration. And because of you I made a pair of pants and a pair of shorts. Thats pretty cool.
And I will totally make more :P
Thank you for sharing a bit about yourself. It's great to get to hear from the folks watching my content, in this case specifically, sharing your life experiences. I'm glad to hear you've been able to make yourself a few clothes from my videos!
Very emotional and authentic! I feel lucky to hear such a personal story! You are honestly very beautiful! Thank you for sharing such a deep and meaningful story! ❤
You are kind, both in your words of support and for your financial support. Thank you!
Don’t underestimate how much joy, entertainment and knowledge you have given us. You are champion! Brave for sharing. Thank you
Well thank you for letting me know that it's apprecaited.
I was 10. 1000 lbs of Sheetrock fell on me. It ripped my right foot off. It broke my leg. It crushed my left shoulder. Now I am 68. Our paths are similar. Bless your life journey always. Your teaching is a joy to me. Thanks for sharing ❤
Thank you for sharing your story as well.
Thank you for sharing your story. The physical body is only a temporary birth suit. A person's character and soul are far more valuable. I have enjoyed the content you share about sewing and your sense of humor
You are a blessing
Thank you so much for those kind words.
I enjoy your videos, I’m glad you take the time to share your expertise with us. Many people sew because their bodies do not fit easily into shop bought clothing. While yours is an extreme example I think many people fight with how they “should” look, as if there were not billions of answers to that question. I’m glad you took the time to explain your differences, but they are never the thing I see when I watch your videos. I love your humour, your sewing trials, the way you explain things, the interaction with your family. Although you are 1000 miles away I view you as a sewing friend who pops round now and again. Good luck for the future, wishing you all the best.
Well I enjoy "popping by" for a sew and thank you for returning the visit by popping in the comments here :) Indeed, many of us are coming to terms with who we are physically and emotionally. Thank you for the kind words and thanks for watching.
Thank you for sharing. You are perfect just the way you are! And we are glad you are here for us! 💓
Thank you for your kind words.
You are incredible , your story is bound to help someone. I’ve been watching your sewing videos and love how you explain everything. Honestly I never realized anything different while watching your videos. Thank you for sharing. You are incredible and amazing.
I am glad to hear that my videos have been of use to you. Thanks for watching this one as well.
Oh Cornelius, you are a beautiful human being. You are. I’m so glad I met you on TH-cam! Thank you for sharing who you are, and your talents. As a creative/sewer, you have enhanced my creative therapy by sharing your info and tips! Many blessings to you! Keep up the good work! ❤
You are kind, thank you and happy sewing. May you make plenty more!
Cornelius, you are such a talented unique individual. Surviving the farm accident like you did, is a miracle! Finding your calling as a pattern maker / designer...no small feat. Cool!
I appreciate your kind words, thank you!
Cornelius Quiring-You are Amazing! I never noticed anything but Amazing from your TH-cams! Thank You for always being Awesome You! Thank You for always inspiring us! :)
Well thank you for the support and I'm glad you like my sewing videos.
I came to your channel to learn about sewing. I’m a newbie and so confused with sewing techniques, but you make wonderful videos and take your time to explain things so that even I can understand. I just kept watching and this appeared and you gave me hope about my own struggles. I have a strong faith and know that God put you in our lives to learn to be loving and support each other.
Thank your for your kind words and I'm glad my videos are helpful.
As an occupational therapist watching your video I was curious about the posture of your right hand, trying to assess as I watched. Thank you for doing this educational video. Especially explaining both the physical and emotional aspects of the experience. Your tenacity and commitment to sharing your journey and showing your talents is exactly the example I want to share with my clients as encouragement. 🕺Go Cornelius!
Thank you for the kind words and thank you for doing the work that you do.
Didn't see this coming. Inspiring video, love it...♥
Well thank you for watching it anyways :)
My body is. My brain is. And i am. I'm catching up with you, Cornelius. I'll get there. All my "stuff" happened quickly, and repeatedly. This thing took my dad, BUT I'm still here, I'm abundantly blessed, and I cannot indulge my own self-pity. I don't have time to wait for life to be easy or it'll pass me by. Some people never get to where you are, Cornelius, especially at so young an age. I admire the hell outa you. Your skill levels are French Atelier, you are articulate, eloquent and engaging, and you have become the content creator I would most enjoy having a sewing campout with. Thank you for the youness of you.
Indeed, you are in every way. I wish you all the best in your personal journey of healing but also growth! Thank you for the kind words and I really appreciate you taking the time to watch what I put out there. Sending positive vibes.
@@CorneliusQuiring I see your positive vibes and i raise you one super squishy hug hahahha If you find yourself out on the West Coast, we should swap sewing wisdom over a cuppa. I'm in Victoria.
As a burn victim at age 5 I relate to a lot of the things you shared here. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing and for watching.
just found your channel today. Thank you for sharing this. TBH it is super rare for men to be vulnerable/truthful about body image, so thank you for that in itself. Can confirm that finding peace in being embodied is hard times when you are non-normative bodied.
I'm glad to hear you think so and indeed, we could definitely do with a bit more vulnerability amongst us men.
I came to the channel for the sewing but have been so grateful to find this glimpse into the wonderful, inspiring person that you are. Thank you so much for sharing in such an open and creative way. Loved the changes in lighting as you told your story. The videos are amazing. It was also powerful to see the emotion on your face and in your eyes. My sternum is a bit crooked. I’ve always been self conscious about that, with myself and with partners. Your story inspired me this morning. Thank you my friend. This made my day.
Well thank you for opening up a bit and tell me a bit about yourself as well. It's great to get to hear from the folks watching my content. Happy sewing.
Thank you for sharing your story. You are a strong man. Much love to you for the process you have been through. I love your channel and have learned a lot. Cheers!
thank you for watching this video and I'm glad the others are of use to you.
Thank you so much for everything ❤
Sorry about your struggles. You seem to be a very confident and capable person and it appears that God has been looking out for you. Be strong and keep the faith!
Most certainly, the experience has shapes me into who I am today.
It’s so good of you to share this, so many people out there will be going through similar experiences and this could make them feel so much less alone. My mother needed life saving surgery, but it left her facially disfigure. She lost confidence and took a long time getting it back. I wish the world was less obsessed with how we looked.
Thank you for sharing a bit about your mom and her experience. It sounds like you're a wonderful child. Thank yiu for watching as well. 🙏🏻
She had the surgery when I was a young girl, and I can’t remember what she looked like before that. As I got older and realised she was looked at so differently it almost shocked me. Something you take as normal can put fear in others. By the time I was a teenager I would take her out and about with me, I like to think that giving her an ally and a share of my quiet confidence helped.
Thank you.
I have no doubt it helped her plenty!
Thanks for sharing your story. What you said at the end, "my injury is, I am" I needed to hear that. Thank you.
Indeed you are. Sending love and support back your way and may you have a positive week.
I am really tall and thin, quite flat on both sides; what I’ve learned over the years is God loves all kinds of people tall, short, black yellow, twisted, bent, whatever it is we all are very special and unique. First time I laid eyes on you I absolutely loved you, your style (love the hat), and how you explain and teach us to be better! Don’t see anything wrong with you, you are just right. This video encourages us to work harder. Thank you so much for all your work and dedication. Hopefully the exercises will help with the pain. But check out if you can improve using magnesium, sure helps me with my knee pain.
Thank you for the very kind words and for sharing what has worked for you. I will look into it. You sounds like a wonderful person.
Friends of mine know that if I ever choose to get a tattoo it would be,
IT IS WHAT IT IS!
To this nothing can be too big to overcome and where this happens we are free to share who we truly are. I love your videos, but now I love you too. Thank you from my heart.
Well thank you and thanks for watching. It really is what it is :)
You’re awesome Cornelius! Many, many, many blessings to you and your lovely family. 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️
Thank you an many positive vibes back your way too!
You, Mr. C., are AN INSPIRATION! For sharing your truth and testament, you have helped so many people to break free and just, be. The late, great Maya Angelou said, “You are enough.” Mr. C, your best is yet to come and YOU ARE ENOUGH. I will say this much: the journey is better with community. Have LOTS OF FRIENDS!!!😊
Thank you for the very kind words! I appreciate your support and well said indeed!
This is such a lovely, vulnerable conversation with the camera, thank you for sharing. It’s incredibly strong of you. Your sewing videos are very inspiring, so it follows the man making them is too
You kind, thank you and thanks for watching.
Wow, I really appreciate your story. I guess I’m in the shame phase. I just finished a year of chemotherapy and am left dealing with the aftermath.
Losing muscle mass while gaining belly fat was the start. Adding to that the fatigue and inability to do what I used to do was demoralizing.
I’m learning to be kinder to myself and to break projects into smaller chunks. I’m sorry you had to deal with all you had to deal with and I know my story is a pale comparison, but you’ve shown that there is a possibility of peace. I haven’t given up and can tell you haven’t either. It is, what a beautiful point of view.
Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story in the comments here as well. I wish you all the best and hope you can create your inner peace. I am happy to hear you haven't give up. Stay strong.
I stumbled upon your channel for the first time yesterday as I was looking for some sewing help. I found that the first sewing video I viewed was helpful, and I enjoyed the humorous and logical way you delivered the information, so I started looking for more. Then I found this one. I wanted to applaud you for sharing your story. It takes a lot of courage to share intimate details like this, and I’m certain that this video will benefit others. 🤗
I'm glad to hear that my other videos were useful and enjoyable to watch. Thank you for the kind words on this video as well and happy sewing.
You are one brave guy. Sharing pictures of the impact of your accident will give others courage and inspiration but I bet it took courage. That’s what inspires your sewing videos - helping yourself and others to deal with the life you were given. Not all heroes wear capes! Good luck in all you do.
You are kind. It has been many years in the making until I was ready to put this video together. I appreciate you support and thanks for watching.
You are a wonderful teacher. Your shirt tutorial helped me fix a t-shirt hack. 😅 But that one lesson has propelled me so much in my sewing journey. ❤ Thank you for sharing. Thank you for teaching. Please continue....😊
oh wonderful. I am glad to hear that my videos are of use to you. Thanks for watching.
I had no idea there was anything "different " about you. All I ever saw was a really good looking bloke. To be honest, I STILL DONT see anything "different " about you. And even if I could, the beauty you radiate from within TOTALLY OVERRIDES anything else. You are awesome in every sense, looks, personality and talent.
The nxt time you don't love yourself the way you should, stretch out your right hand and pay attention to the pose it's in. In sign language, that means I LOVE YOU 🤟. Sometimes God has a msg for all of us. Maybe that's yours.
Sending love from South Africa 🇿🇦
I really like that! I did not know is was sign language but I'm going to adopt this and use it moving forward! Thank you for watching and sharing. You are kind.
@@CorneliusQuiring 💕
Great lighting. It made the point.
I am glad you have accepted yourself. It is.
Thank you for noticing the little details :)
Thank you for sharing your story, I’m really glad I found your channel.
I ❤ to sew, but being half blind is challenging, I’ve ruined so many yards of fabric, but I never give up.
Good on you for keeping at it!
Thank you Cornelius for opening up like that .. I am teaching myself sewing and I always love your lessons and atmosphere ..you’ve helped me a lot ..! Much love to you ..!
Well thank you and thanks for watching my videos. Happy sewing.
Thank you for this brilliant video. I felt similar about my body for different reasens. Im now 60. When i see Fotografs from 30, 40 years ago, i see, that most of my insecutitys where invisible. Apart from flare ups of bad excema, that are hard to take for a young woman. It never stopped me from beeing aproached by men. Amazingly. At some point, i realised, that these things cant stopp me from living a full, joyfull life. Which i started to do, most of the time. Hearing your words i can still feel the pain. Your words really touched me. Thank you
Thank you for sharing a bit about yourself as well. I'm happy to hear you were able to embrace who you are and grown as a person.
I am new to your channel, but ever since I watched your video about the little ruler gauge, I was hooked. I think I just watched about 20 of your videos and then came across this one. I've been sewing for about 65 years, but I have learned so many things from you that I never knew. I watch to learn, but also I absolutely love your sense of humor and timing. I'm so glad you survived that accident, because the sewing world would have lost a real treasure. And you know what, no one cares if one arm is different from the other. It's the person inside that matters, and from what I've seen of you, it's awesome. Plus I love the black cowboy hat. It makes you unique and stand out from all the others.
I join all the others in thanking you for sharing your story with us. That takes a lot of courage, but I can tell you that many, many people have been blessed by hearing it. 😊
You are very kind, thank you. I appreciate you taking the time to get to know me online. I'm honoured to have been able to share something new in the world of sewing.
Thank you for sharing this Cornelius. I've always admired you, you have a soothing voice and a way of communicating to your audience that is captivating. Though injuries are part of who you are, it doesn't define you as a person. Your talent, dedication and strength shine through. Much love to you.
Well thank you for your very kind words and well said. 🤠🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing your story. You are a delightful human being with so much to share. More power to you!
Thank you so much!
This is a wonderful, moving story. Thanks for sharing it. I have struggled for many years with cancers, many of which have left scars on my face, and have taken part of one ear. I struggle a little with those scars, because they are so "visible" to me. I don't know that anyone else cares, but it is still a challenge for me. I really relate to your story! Your challenges are so much greater than mine, but your strength is even greater. You are still a hero to many of us. Thanks
Thank you for sharing a bit about yourself. I can relate to feeling they're so obvious as well.
Thank you for sharing. You are a beautiful soul
I have Severe Psoriatic Arthritis have had Psoriasis since I was 2. Can't be cured. It now affects my joints. I understand this video. I feel this video. I am overweight have 4 kids. Not young anymore. I have 4 grandkids. The man who "loved" me well after 20 yrs = 10 yrs lonely. Is no longer in my life. BUT YOU HAVE A TALENT. As an adult that means something. It means A lot. I enjoyed your video. Thanks, and just know You are 1 of many. We all rebuild ourselves sometimes many times in a life time and that just means WE CHOOSE TO COME OUT THE OTHER SIDE COME WHAT MAY.
P.S. Give a big girl a chance she may surprise you.
Thank you for sharing a bit about yourself and being vulnerable in the comments. You said it very well and indeed it is up to us to move forward. And yes, these days everyone gets a chance :) Turns out it was me.
Thank you for sharing. I'm hypermobile so have had a lot of joint injuries including separated shoulders and a spinal fracture, and deal with chronic pain, and one of the things people hear me say as I'm doing something a little differently to either work around a current injury or prevent future injury is "life is all about the workarounds". Gotta figure out how to do what you want to do with what you've got. Sometimes it takes a lot of extra work just to do things most people take for granted, and not everyone starts at the same starting line, so maybe it's not a race, but a journey we're all on together.
I just discovered your channel, and will be sticking around. I follow a lot of female vintage and historical sewists but they rarely make the kind of clothing I'm comfortable in, I'd rather be in working class clothing, and generally pants or trousers. I tend to describe my personal aesthetic as somewhere between "carpet goblin" and "plaid my mother hates" or "f-off, it's comfortable" and my hip to waist ratio makes me fit better into menswear than women's, that bulkiness you found with the pleated pants is what I get any time I wear any women's pants, so it's going to be nice going through your footage for hints and tricks to fit a body that doesn't conform to current fashion standards. I have such trouble with waistbands that anything will help. (I have all of an inch of space between my bottom rib and the top of my hip so belts are not comfortable but I've increased the size of my waist via core exercises for the spinal injury enough that now my pants fall down, and the padding around the middle that I've acquired over the years has not helped, I need like negative two inches of ease for a waistband to stay where it belongs if I want to put anything in the pockets, and I don't find suspenders comfortable around my bust.
"Don't think, just do", yeah I hear that a lot in martial arts. And it just occurred to me now that it probably comes from people whose muscle memory is easy to program. Mine isn't. Peiple who learn easily don't understand that there's a big difference between needing to brain your way through till your body can do the thing versus being mentally caught up by minutia to the point where your body stops moving. I cannot watch someone do a thing I don't know how to do and then repeat the thing myself without them leading me stepwise through it while I'm trying to make my body move. I have had one instructor in the 23 years I've been doing Aikido who realized this and would instruct me accordingly, for all other instructors I have to watch them, try to note specifically what they did (or after a decade or two, categorize it as a movement that I already know and try to note if there are any differences) and then try to remember it long enough to drag my body though the motions enough times before we move on to the next thing to maybe be able to do it again if it comes up next class. It's something I try to keep in mind when I'm teaching Aikido now, I sometimes feel like the people who have the most trouble learning something make the best instructors and I try to live up to that. And I try to find accommodations for students whose bodies or minds don't work in the generally accepted ways.
I've taken dance lessons too (ballroom, bellydance and ballet) and I have the same problem learning the moves. 49 and still have to think about left or right. Even learning to drive a car, it was about a year before I was solid in gas vs brake (my poor dad, who had to supervise me, had nerves of steel), and I'm really glad that I got the chance to learn how to manage a clutch pedal and shifter while not also contending with traffic (I worked a high school cooperative education placement where I got to do the day before pre-drive of vehicles being tested on a dynamometer). Some of us really need to break things down into much smaller steps than a lot of other people.
I have been doing another particular kata-based sword art for over 20 years specifically because I am terrible at being choreographed and wish to improve. I guess it's worked, since when the instructor isn't there, I teach the class. I tell anyone that I'm trying to teach anything to that I'm not good, just persistent, and I've already made all the mistakes that they haven't yet made. My Aikido instructor always says to make "big glorious mistakes", and he's not wrong, I find most people learn a lot more from making a mistake and having to correct it and then avoid making it again than they do from getting it right the first time. I think the best thing I did for myself with respect to taking martial arts as an adult was to check my ego at the door and accept and embrace that I will look stupid while I'm learning. And I will always be learning, so I'm resigned to the possibility that I will look stupid at any point in time.
Thank you for sharing your story. I think your approach to life is wonderful.
Powerful story and I'm grateful for you sharing it. There's nothing quite like someone opening up about their experiences in such a sincere way. Much respect to you and thanks always for your helpful videos!
Thank you for watching this video. Your support is much appreciated.
Thank you for sharing, you are correct dealing with physical hurt is one thing, dealing with what's in your head is a completely different matter. What you have shared with us is the story of a brave, beautiful, talented soul xxx thank you xxx
thank you.
Time makes its own story and you narrated your story very well. To live up to others exptations we tend to lie to ourselves its at the Time we accept we are who we are that we are then free.
well said
Everyone is different. That’s so much better than everyone being the same. Many of us are judged by others regarding our physical appearance, our style, our personality, our jobs, our dreams…wow. Those judgy people have way too much time on their hands. Not sure how they do it because I’m too busy dealing with my own issues and have no time to judge their issues. Those of us who have no time (or desire) to body shame others are the fortunate ones. They’re the ones with the problem. Voice of experience here.
Well said and thanks for sharing your perspective. Enjoy and many blessings. You sounds like a wonderful human.
This came to my life in the right moment, thanks for sharing this. I will treasure your words forever.
I am glad to hear it. Sending positivity and support your way.
We all have scars! Whether internal or external. You have shown us your journey in a candid and honest and eloquent way! From what you have said -there is no bitterness! What a blessing you are to others! Thank you for your words
And thank you for your kind words as well. Many blessings back your way as well.