Brother no need to apologize. Keep your head up. I have mental autopilot days as well. When I feel that way I know it means I need to go get some social interaction. Blessings
It is interesting that I thought someone with your following (not only quantity but quality wise) and in the United States (already) would be flooded with other people in the spectrum to socialize. We're usually labeled as defectives but I am starting to think otherwise, because we should be the norm, since we usually mean what we way and say what we mean, while neurotypicals keep guessing their own riddles and they make fun of us for not understanding them. I think we may be a minority but we're not few. We need to figure out a way to build a network of like minded people.
The days, weeks, months, even years just waste away and blend together into a blurry meaningless haze when we live this routine chronically solitary existence.
Trust me....I didn't find a good fit either until I was in my mid forties. Never married prior, no children & we've been together for 22 years. Thank goodness he went on vacation for 10 days 😂 The break will do us good Love will find its way....keep on doing what your doing.
It depends everybody’s different. Yes, there is still some hope, but there’s no guarantee that he or anyone else will find love in this life at least. Too many people have promised me and others most of our lives that will meet somebody and some people eventually do it some people don’t. and when things don’t go the way, we hoped things start to get frustrating because we were promised something that never came true. Because of this, I don’t promise anybody anything, and if things go whatever ways I’m able to except it more because I understand nothing is guaranteed anymore.
Isolative behavior leads to serious depression. Driving gives you so much time to think, kinda like being in the shower. I found one of the best things to do is listen to your favorite music and just sing. Doesn't matter if you can or can't. Gutta make sure they are the happy songs.
@@aaronsjournal139 I hope things get better. Depression is such a roller coaster. It gets to the point where being able to tell the good days from the bad days is near impossible. You have support from all of us, keep up the great work, we all appreciate it.
You know, that does feel good sometimes. But I inevitably end up imagining sharing those silly carefree moments singing or dancing with another person. Which basically ends up just being a reminder that nobody is here with me, nobody has been here with me in forever, and nobody probably will be here with me again.
@@aaronsjournal139people try to make depression something it doesn’t have to be . You can think of it this way. It’s the bodies “smart alert system” telling you something is not right. That can be spiritual, physical or many and any other plethora of things. I look at depression like a friend, the truest most honest friend one could have. And yes this friend has its dark sides … but this friend is also the greatest life guide .
You're so charasmatic & likeable! 😊 We ALL go through crappy moments. Going through "the motions's" is something we all experience from time to time. You're perfect with your perfect imperfections ....as we all are ❤ Continue sharing....
Yes, its chronic illness and headpain for me... Means I can only concentrate on whats in front of me.. and with limited capacity... just trying to reach the end of the week..
Great to hear from you. Glad you're doing mostly ok. You're an interesting dude. We always look forward to what you have to say. Yes, all what you mention here is relatable to me. Safe travels, man. Take care. 🙏😊 Later ✌😎
I have been disassociated most of my adult life. After a while one adapts to it. If uploads are exhausting, I would do more lives and just talk it out.
i think our aspie anxiety disorder causes that lack of timekeeping as a sort of emotional safeguard. just yesterday i thought it was tuesday for the whole day until i logged into my laptop before bed (my anxiety has been particularly bad lately)
We love you no matter what dude. I've been watching your channel for a while but god diagnosed myself recently. I feel dissociated OFTEN. Solitude is a huge part of my life... it's been important for my spiritual progression. If you can take some of those spiritual ideas into consideration, maybe it could help you how it helped me.
I see auto pilot as the nice part of my day. It’s when I start thinking about how I don’t add up to others that really gets me bothered. AND so far I haven’t met an adult who knows how to live this life well yet so we got that too! ❤ Hope your doing well man and wishing you well! Btw the truck is sooooo cool!
I went in my first date at 24 years old after being on tinder for 8 years The date was extremely awkward and she came across as cold Never doing that shit again I have high functioning autism,
When was the last time you had a holiday? Sounds like you need one right now. Might help you to unwind and clear your thoughts. Thailand, Hawaii, Bali, Mexico, etc would have heaps of singles holidaying right now.
I feel like that especially the older I get. We’re about the same age and I’ve noticed that I feel like that with work and home life. You’re right though having more social interaction does break the monotony.
Although I’m only in my mid 30s, I’ve been starting to feel that way just as much the older I’ve been getting. Work and home other than that I don’t have much to look forward to. I know many people will tell me to join clubs and organizations to meet women, but that has never worked in my case. If they are women in any of those groups, most of the time they are already taken or I’m not into them, or the other way around. I’ve tried online dating websites and apps and although I’ve gotten nothing from that or meeting people in person, I’ve had better luck with the apps than girls I know in real life and I’ll so I don’t have to waste that much time to go somewhere and talk to mostly women who are most likely already taken.
I live on autopilot too pretty much I eat the same thing every day because that's what keeps me from going down a spiral I'm tired of having to just exist but idk how else to do things.
Hi Aaron hang in there kid! I feel you heavy, i think alot of us go thru the mental ups and downs to varying degrees. These days my mood swings have been very tuff to deal with. Ive been trying to manage stress better. I always relate to your videos and their comments. Really glad i found you, your content and the community on here. Have a great weekend 😊
Completely Understand. I've also been solitary for a long time and I've started to not like weekends anymore because they disrupt the autopilot I'm used to during the week. Ugh. But I randomly purchased a subscription to my local opera (which I'm not that into) just to force myself to do something on a weekend night and it was a really good idea. Finding something to do that's so different from my normal routine forces the autopilot off for a while. Definitely recommend.
I have been in a similar position to you for five years. It was not just autism but a curse because just when something like a job or relationship was seeming like it would happen it fell apart at the last minute. I got ghosted after things seemed to go really well for example. So Jesus is supposed to break curses, but only under certain circumstances. I figured out which circumstances these are so I'm doing much better now.
I've been there. This is a sign that something needs to change. Spend your time around friends and people who love and care about you. Hang on, man. Stay healthy and keep up with the workouts. Your viewers want to see you smile and thrive!
Glad to see you're doing well. Routine really helps me kind of helps me stay on a path/goal, but sometimes the monotony can make me sick. For me, there are little personal signs that I've learned are usually indicative of a depressive episode. PS love the salt and pepper scruff. You look great.
Yeh you're not the only one mate, you pretty much described my life right now, gym, work, home, repeat. Nothing to look forward to at the weekend really, same shit. Just trying to make best use of my time.
I was isolated before the pandemic; I ended up with a dose of agoraphobia. I had a choice to make; get on the plane to be with my soon to be wife or talk to her long distance from my room in California. I'm glad i chose to bite the bullet. It's hard to change; I think most won't but some of us do cause things become too difficult not to. I appreciate your authenticity.
I relate to everything you said . My life is also work and gym. Been training since I was 14. The gym is how I keep my sanity. It is something l have to do. How has your gym training been going lately?
Thank you for sharing how you feel. Like many people, I am right there with you. We like to think that we are in control of our lives, but with the pressures of society, we do what we feel we have to do, rather than what we want to do. So then when we do this, we start feeling resentful and start self deprecating At least you have been able to identify how you are feeling which is the first and most important step. Set yourself small attainable goals that you know you can achieve but with a little effort. We all need reassurance that we are relevant to the world and other, it helps boost self-esteem and just feels good. Positive affirmations can be another useful skill. Check your vitamin B levels get out in that sun and love yourself. Sometimes life is a major struggle, believe it or not, you are kicking ass.. Much love for you brother..
What you just said, is some thing that I’ve been thinking a lot to myself in the past year as I’ve noticed it more and more, the older I get. Too often these pressures of society influence a lot of us to do what we feel like we should do according to them. we seem to go in that direction, rather than what we actually want to do because we fear that shame and guilt that will linger if we don’t proceed with what they want. have kind of reached a tipping point not too long ago were I said that I’m not gonna do that anymore because I’ve also noticed that nothing is never enough. but I also think this is the reason why a lot of us who are alone with no partner especially feel down sure there’s gonna be some people who want to have somebody they can share their life with, but there’s also dealing with the negative stigma that is associated with people in our situation on top of the stress of being lonely, which only hurts us more.
@@JonasMatthewBahta The feeling of being alone can really sting, especially when you are going through tough times. One thing to remember is this. Before you begin to entertain the idea that adding someone to your life will make it better, you need to be complete. Not being able to make oneself happy only becomes harder when trying to make someone else happy. There are too many people out there that are able to see others weakness and do a damn good job at exploiting it (sociopaths). So while you are trying your hardest to make them happy, they see that you are actually broken and continue to damage you. When you can look in the mirror and actually like what you see, that is a sign that things are improving. You can do it. Remember we are our own worst critics and being able to forgive yourself while also setting your own personal boundaries with yourself can help build self esteem and confidence.
@@DropDMurphy , trust me being alone in this situation, me and many others do the very best they can because it motivates us to find something to occupy in our lives. Sure having a partner does not guarantee happiness, but since I haven’t had a partner and a lot of people have not had one as well it’s very hard to understand that concept. Though I’d still like and want to have a partner in my life, I think those things you mention are just minor things, and almost everybody else is going through problems of different kinds in life just like me, but I think the very small problems that you think I have or may be struggling with does not mean I’m not ready or I’m unqualified to have somebody in my life.
@@JonasMatthewBahta My comment was a generalized comment. It was not made as to be judgement on your life or the significance to what you may have or may not have going on. I apologize if that is how it came off.
routine is just how life is. what else are you expecting, adventure and excitement non-stop? that is not how life works! but if you are not doing other things, that is up to you to change. take a class aaron. even one night a week will add dimension and depth to your life.
Can I ask you this... Is the Autopilot more noticed now that you have been getting out into other things recently. Last video I had seen you were heading out with some people you recently began to go for outings with? Now what I would like to say is this. EVERYONE experiences this is some form and some out right cannot handle it. The isolation you feel is a passing thing. Its the whole mountains and valleys life talk. Frankly I enjoy it at times. It is often the winter for me in New York State. I spend more time gaming and doing other hobbies. My hobbies change with the seasons. When you live in a area that only experiences a single season it can weight on you. A friend from Cali explained how LA was nice but it was always the same.
You sound like me with living here in England, I cut off from things because I don’t particularly like doing some things here in England. I don’t go to bars/ pubs here,omg most bore the socks off me, America has loads more things to go see and do. For example I love to go sit in a restaurant in America because I love chatting with Americans, and it’s not just because I like chatting with the waitresses ……lol I wish I was travelling in America in a truck, so Cool. I wonder if you have videos on TH-cam of where you drive to 🤔 You should get a dash cam holder if ya don’t have one and film where you are going, you could also chat away if you wanted to. What state are you from buddy, I used to live in West Virginia for 8 years, separated in 2015 …… buttt life goes on! 👍
Random question on a hot day like this… When you were in school, did you ever get volunteered to sit in the dunking machine at a school carnival? I just wondered if you had, how you dealt with it.
You're an overthinker! Maybe channel it more your outer chatter into music, vlogs, journalling? Your life may feel routine now but changes do come. We go through spells in life of consistency or mediocre or familiarity but then stuff happens. Thanks for sharing. Wishing you all the best 🕊️
You trip me out because your speech -and even tone of your voice- is so clear and organized, almost positive, yet your focus is on unfortunate things about your life. Anyway, good day 🙌
hey mate i was where youre at - i found telling myself again and again how lonely i was didnt help. what did help was volunteering - getting my mind off myself. i dated heaps for YEARS til i found my mate -= but i'll tell you, being sad all those years was a big mistake. imo find something to do to focus on helping others - youll meet people, not keep ruminatiing on yourself/your loneliness.....wish id done that earlier anyway cheers mate
Your videos should benefit you as much as they benefit us viewers. If you find you don't personally benefit anymore from making your videos, then you should not make them. You need never apologize for using your time in the way that is optimal to you.
You are good man. You live in one of the most richest countries in the world. Millions of people are dreaming to live in your country. I live in UK, and I wish I could move to USA,but It's not simple. I would need to get green card some how. Maybe you gonna merry me and I can get one? ( I am not a gay btw) I just want visa :) Also, I have advice what might help you a lot. Try to travel to other countries, see different cultures... it's very mind changing. Trust me. But remember to take safety precaution's when traveling, as there are many dogy places in the world.
Hey Aaron, I was wondering where you were 🥰… there must be something in the atmosphere lately; I’m typically a super happy and peppy person but lately I’ve been, blah😞… I love talking to people out on the street and in stores but this week I’m avoiding everyone… I’m hoping to get out of my rut soon because I don’t want to ruin my summer☀️. Keep your head up, Aaron, life is beautiful❤… Rooting for you, my friend and looking forward to future content and beats🎧💓.
Ever thought about training in martial arts? You're in good shape could give BJJ or Judo a try. Both very good for regular socialising. Either that or just a general sport / activity that includes others.
No one ever seems to mention it but going downwards from whatever social class you came from seems significant. You have a blue collar job, but I'd be willing to bet you came from a middle class or upper middle class background. It almost seems snooty to mention this, but finding yourself out of place amongst cackling, cigarette smoking ruffians has got to be at least a little bit of a stumbling block for someone who wasn't brought up around that.
@@aaronsjournal139 No one wants to mention it and seem like a snob. I think I do vaguely recall Jordan Peterson saying something about it in some roundabout indirect way in a lecture.
Get thee around people. Shake up the routine. Join and Volunteer at the local food co-op. Get out of your comfort zone locally. Go see a therapist. Get a massage. Women your age are playing pickleball now to meet guys. Good luck sir!
He works a lot of long hours so he probably doesn’t have time to volunteer, therapy or get a massage. The only time he leaves his confront zone is when he goes to work. I’m sure he be around with his co workers.
You can fix your teeth for looksmaxxing and some self steem boost. That is OK and perfectly affordable for most people. Glad you are OK, but I don't see you being happy anytime soon without a higher purpose. Nihilism is an ideological desert, not intended to live there but transitional.
@@aaronsjournal139we couldn’t afford braces when I was a kid. I got them when I was 32 because I had always wanted them. Do it for yourself if it’s something you’ve always wanted to do
A man your age, looking like John Hamm in this video, I don't understand why you aren't having more luck with the ladies, social awkwardness or not. Makes me worried for myself.
THE TIME IS NOW. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWW. Don't wait anymore, sell everything and MOVE, MOVE to DUBAI or some Asian country. You are wasting your life, you got one go at this, stop wasting it. Start living life it's not too late but ACT NOW.
The problem with advice like this (and I get variations of this all the time) is that not only is it overly simplistic, it fails to take into account the fact that I'd be leaving family and the few friends I've managed to make behind, the question of how I would support myself, how I'd fund such a move, and the language and cultural differences. I had a hard enough time moving to another state, let alone moving abroad. If you've successfully done this yourself (and I presume you have, if you're going to advise people to do this), more power to you. But for me, this is unrealistic.
@@aaronsjournal139 there's a show called 30 day fiance. I think it's 30.. Anyways, it's about these ugly men finding women from abroad. You look better than all these guys and the language barrier would actually play to your advantage, because then some akwardness is to be expected anyways. So saying something wrong, or not saying something in time would not be a big issue, as the woman doesnt speak English all that well herself. Also american women want way too much, they're spoilt. Abroad is where it's at for you, I give you 100 percent guarantee that if you want a sexy woman you will find it abroad. You just need to take action. If you don't make changes, changes won't happen
Imagine... being 45 & being a millionaire. Having a 6 pack. Your dating pool would be huge. And you'd find a 25-30 year old easily. Money is freedom. Money... nothing else.
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Aaron, you're a legend. You speak to my soul. You're doing everything right. We live in weird times.
Brother no need to apologize. Keep your head up. I have mental autopilot days as well. When I feel that way I know it means I need to go get some social interaction. Blessings
It is interesting that I thought someone with your following (not only quantity but quality wise) and in the United States (already) would be flooded with other people in the spectrum to socialize.
We're usually labeled as defectives but I am starting to think otherwise, because we should be the norm, since we usually mean what we way and say what we mean, while neurotypicals keep guessing their own riddles and they make fun of us for not understanding them.
I think we may be a minority but we're not few. We need to figure out a way to build a network of like minded people.
The days, weeks, months, even years just waste away and blend together into a blurry meaningless haze when we live this routine chronically solitary existence.
That feeling when you realise it's July but it felt like April was yesterday
I start to disassociate to keep from getting depressed. Focusing on increasingly small things... sometimes reading
Yeah, that's why I do it. If I think too much, I get depressed.
Trust me....I didn't find a good fit either until I was in my mid forties.
Never married prior, no children
& we've been together for 22 years.
Thank goodness he went on vacation for 10 days 😂
The break will do us good
Love will find its way....keep on doing what your doing.
It depends everybody’s different. Yes, there is still some hope, but there’s no guarantee that he or anyone else will find love in this life at least. Too many people have promised me and others most of our lives that will meet somebody and some people eventually do it some people don’t. and when things don’t go the way, we hoped things start to get frustrating because we were promised something that never came true. Because of this, I don’t promise anybody anything, and if things go whatever ways I’m able to except it more because I understand nothing is guaranteed anymore.
Isolative behavior leads to serious depression. Driving gives you so much time to think, kinda like being in the shower. I found one of the best things to do is listen to your favorite music and just sing. Doesn't matter if you can or can't. Gutta make sure they are the happy songs.
Yeah, I've been battling depression since I was 13.
@@aaronsjournal139 I hope things get better. Depression is such a roller coaster. It gets to the point where being able to tell the good days from the bad days is near impossible. You have support from all of us, keep up the great work, we all appreciate it.
You know, that does feel good sometimes. But I inevitably end up imagining sharing those silly carefree moments singing or dancing with another person. Which basically ends up just being a reminder that nobody is here with me, nobody has been here with me in forever, and nobody probably will be here with me again.
Lonlinesss is the problem. Not listening to the right shiit When alone. Moron
@@aaronsjournal139people try to make depression something it doesn’t have to be . You can think of it this way. It’s the bodies “smart alert system” telling you something is not right. That can be spiritual, physical or many and any other plethora of things. I look at depression like a friend, the truest most honest friend one could have. And yes this friend has its dark sides … but this friend is also the greatest life guide .
You're so charasmatic & likeable! 😊
We ALL go through crappy moments.
Going through "the motions's" is something we all experience from time to time.
You're perfect with your perfect imperfections ....as we all are ❤
Continue sharing....
He only gets fat girls matching Him
Yes, its chronic illness and headpain for me... Means I can only concentrate on whats in front of me.. and with limited capacity... just trying to reach the end of the week..
Great to hear from you. Glad you're doing mostly ok.
You're an interesting dude. We always look forward to what you have to say.
Yes, all what you mention here is relatable to me.
Safe travels, man. Take care. 🙏😊
Later ✌😎
I have been disassociated most of my adult life. After a while one adapts to it. If uploads are exhausting, I would do more lives and just talk it out.
i think our aspie anxiety disorder causes that lack of timekeeping as a sort of emotional safeguard. just yesterday i thought it was tuesday for the whole day until i logged into my laptop before bed (my anxiety has been particularly bad lately)
The bad thing is it's difficult to snap out of it once you fall into just going through the motions.
This made me think about that one song.
"Going thru motions, muddy emotions, going thru motions, muddy emotions.
Looking good man! I definitely know what you’re talking about sleepwalking through your day.
Sleepwalking through my day...that's exactly it. Perfect description.
We love you no matter what dude. I've been watching your channel for a while but god diagnosed myself recently. I feel dissociated OFTEN. Solitude is a huge part of my life... it's been important for my spiritual progression. If you can take some of those spiritual ideas into consideration, maybe it could help you how it helped me.
I see auto pilot as the nice part of my day. It’s when I start thinking about how I don’t add up to others that really gets me bothered.
AND so far I haven’t met an adult who knows how to live this life well yet so we got that too! ❤
Hope your doing well man and wishing you well! Btw the truck is sooooo cool!
I was like that when I had my job at Amazon. It’s not awful, but often it leaves feeling dead inside.
I went in my first date at 24 years old after being on tinder for 8 years
The date was extremely awkward and she came across as cold
Never doing that shit again
I have high functioning autism,
Yeah, dating with autism spectrum sucks.
I never been on dates before despite the fact that I had 2 girlfriends.
Dating fat chicks only?
@@jcransome5616 Fat chicks want normies, Not autists
When was the last time you had a holiday? Sounds like you need one right now. Might help you to unwind and clear your thoughts. Thailand, Hawaii, Bali, Mexico, etc would have heaps of singles holidaying right now.
I feel that way all the time, people just wear me down to the point where it takes too much energy to care so I usually don’t.
I feel like that especially the older I get. We’re about the same age and I’ve noticed that I feel like that with work and home life. You’re right though having more social interaction does break the monotony.
Although I’m only in my mid 30s, I’ve been starting to feel that way just as much the older I’ve been getting. Work and home other than that I don’t have much to look forward to. I know many people will tell me to join clubs and organizations to meet women, but that has never worked in my case. If they are women in any of those groups, most of the time they are already taken or I’m not into them, or the other way around. I’ve tried online dating websites and apps and although I’ve gotten nothing from that or meeting people in person, I’ve had better luck with the apps than girls I know in real life and I’ll so I don’t have to waste that much time to go somewhere and talk to mostly women who are most likely already taken.
You're awakening spiritually. It's a good thing.x
I live on autopilot too pretty much I eat the same thing every day because that's what keeps me from going down a spiral I'm tired of having to just exist but idk how else to do things.
Hi Aaron hang in there kid! I feel you heavy, i think alot of us go thru the mental ups and downs to varying degrees. These days my mood swings have been very tuff to deal with. Ive been trying to manage stress better. I always relate to your videos and their comments. Really glad i found you, your content and the community on here. Have a great weekend 😊
lol kid? Isn't he in his late 30s or even early 40s?
Awww, sending you lots of hugs, boyfriend! I always love seeing your handsome face.
Completely Understand. I've also been solitary for a long time and I've started to not like weekends anymore because they disrupt the autopilot I'm used to during the week. Ugh. But I randomly purchased a subscription to my local opera (which I'm not that into) just to force myself to do something on a weekend night and it was a really good idea. Finding something to do that's so different from my normal routine forces the autopilot off for a while. Definitely recommend.
Relatable content. It can feel like a burden or a curse sometimes to do the disassociation stroll but it’s ok. Our feet know the way. ✌️
I have been in a similar position to you for five years.
It was not just autism but a curse because just when something like a job or relationship was seeming like it would happen it fell apart at the last minute.
I got ghosted after things seemed to go really well for example.
So Jesus is supposed to break curses, but only under certain circumstances.
I figured out which circumstances these are so I'm doing much better now.
I've been there. This is a sign that something needs to change. Spend your time around friends and people who love and care about you. Hang on, man. Stay healthy and keep up with the workouts. Your viewers want to see you smile and thrive!
Thanks for the update!
just enjoy the ride brother, we dont need to be behind the wheel to get things done. its a gift neurotypical people dont have.
Glad to see you're doing well. Routine really helps me kind of helps me stay on a path/goal, but sometimes the monotony can make me sick. For me, there are little personal signs that I've learned are usually indicative of a depressive episode. PS love the salt and pepper scruff. You look great.
Looking forward to the video update
Its all good, post when you can. Still glad for the update, though. Hugs and Prayers.
Motivation is not enough. Be disciplined. Good luck!
Yeh you're not the only one mate, you pretty much described my life right now, gym, work, home, repeat. Nothing to look forward to at the weekend really, same shit. Just trying to make best use of my time.
Sounds good to me
Autopilot is exactly how it feels these days
I was isolated before the pandemic; I ended up with a dose of agoraphobia. I had a choice to make; get on the plane to be with my soon to be wife or talk to her long distance from my room in California. I'm glad i chose to bite the bullet. It's hard to change; I think most won't but some of us do cause things become too difficult not to. I appreciate your authenticity.
I relate to everything you said . My life is also work and gym. Been training since I was 14. The gym is how I keep my sanity. It is something l have to do. How has your gym training been going lately?
I look forward to you doing the live stream, hope life is treating you well.
I get into auto pilot sometimes when I'm burnt out. Sometimes it lasts for months...
Thank you for sharing how you feel. Like many people, I am right there with you. We like to think that we are in control of our lives, but with the pressures of society, we do what we feel we have to do, rather than what we want to do. So then when we do this, we start feeling resentful and start self deprecating At least you have been able to identify how you are feeling which is the first and most important step. Set yourself small attainable goals that you know you can achieve but with a little effort. We all need reassurance that we are relevant to the world and other, it helps boost self-esteem and just feels good. Positive affirmations can be another useful skill. Check your vitamin B levels get out in that sun and love yourself. Sometimes life is a major struggle, believe it or not, you are kicking ass.. Much love for you brother..
What you just said, is some thing that I’ve been thinking a lot to myself in the past year as I’ve noticed it more and more, the older I get. Too often these pressures of society influence a lot of us to do what we feel like we should do according to them. we seem to go in that direction, rather than what we actually want to do because we fear that shame and guilt that will linger if we don’t proceed with what they want. have kind of reached a tipping point not too long ago were I said that I’m not gonna do that anymore because I’ve also noticed that nothing is never enough. but I also think this is the reason why a lot of us who are alone with no partner especially feel down sure there’s gonna be some people who want to have somebody they can share their life with, but there’s also dealing with the negative stigma that is associated with people in our situation on top of the stress of being lonely, which only hurts us more.
@@JonasMatthewBahta The feeling of being alone can really sting, especially when you are going through tough times. One thing to remember is this. Before you begin to entertain the idea that adding someone to your life will make it better, you need to be complete. Not being able to make oneself happy only becomes harder when trying to make someone else happy. There are too many people out there that are able to see others weakness and do a damn good job at exploiting it (sociopaths). So while you are trying your hardest to make them happy, they see that you are actually broken and continue to damage you. When you can look in the mirror and actually like what you see, that is a sign that things are improving. You can do it. Remember we are our own worst critics and being able to forgive yourself while also setting your own personal boundaries with yourself can help build self esteem and confidence.
@@DropDMurphy , trust me being alone in this situation, me and many others do the very best they can because it motivates us to find something to occupy in our lives. Sure having a partner does not guarantee happiness, but since I haven’t had a partner and a lot of people have not had one as well it’s very hard to understand that concept. Though I’d still like and want to have a partner in my life, I think those things you mention are just minor things, and almost everybody else is going through problems of different kinds in life just like me, but I think the very small problems that you think I have or may be struggling with does not mean I’m not ready or I’m unqualified to have somebody in my life.
@@JonasMatthewBahta My comment was a generalized comment. It was not made as to be judgement on your life or the significance to what you may have or may not have going on. I apologize if that is how it came off.
routine is just how life is. what else are you expecting, adventure and excitement non-stop?
that is not how life works!
but if you are not doing other things, that is up to you to change.
take a class aaron. even one night a week will add dimension and depth to your life.
Can I ask you this... Is the Autopilot more noticed now that you have been getting out into other things recently. Last video I had seen you were heading out with some people you recently began to go for outings with?
Now what I would like to say is this. EVERYONE experiences this is some form and some out right cannot handle it. The isolation you feel is a passing thing. Its the whole mountains and valleys life talk. Frankly I enjoy it at times. It is often the winter for me in New York State. I spend more time gaming and doing other hobbies. My hobbies change with the seasons. When you live in a area that only experiences a single season it can weight on you. A friend from Cali explained how LA was nice but it was always the same.
Bro.. I’ve been on autopilot since 2017 lol..I understand.
Totally normal Aaron. Keep going dude.
You sound like me with living here in England, I cut off from things because I don’t particularly like doing some things here in England.
I don’t go to bars/ pubs here,omg most bore the socks off me, America has loads more things to go see and do.
For example I love to go sit in a restaurant in America because I love chatting with Americans, and it’s not just because I like chatting with the waitresses ……lol
I wish I was travelling in America in a truck, so Cool.
I wonder if you have videos on TH-cam of where you drive to 🤔
You should get a dash cam holder if ya don’t have one and film where you are going, you could also chat away if you wanted to.
What state are you from buddy, I used to live in West Virginia for 8 years, separated in 2015 …… buttt life goes on! 👍
Random question on a hot day like this… When you were in school, did you ever get volunteered to sit in the dunking machine at a school carnival? I just wondered if you had, how you dealt with it.
Good to hear from you.
I know what you're talking about.
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Are there any social groups you can meet up with irl Aaron?
You're an overthinker! Maybe channel it more your outer chatter into music, vlogs, journalling? Your life may feel routine now but changes do come. We go through spells in life of consistency or mediocre or familiarity but then stuff happens. Thanks for sharing. Wishing you all the best 🕊️
You trip me out because your speech -and even tone of your voice- is so clear and organized, almost positive, yet your focus is on unfortunate things about your life.
Anyway, good day 🙌
hey mate i was where youre at - i found telling myself again and again how lonely i was didnt help. what did help was volunteering - getting my mind off myself. i dated heaps for YEARS til i found my mate -= but i'll tell you, being sad all those years was a big mistake. imo find something to do to focus on helping others - youll meet people, not keep ruminatiing on yourself/your loneliness.....wish id done that earlier anyway cheers mate
Very true my lifes like the needle is stuck on a record
I hear you Aaron😢 I get it❤
Your videos should benefit you as much as they benefit us viewers. If you find you don't personally benefit anymore from making your videos, then you should not make them. You need never apologize for using your time in the way that is optimal to you.
You are good man. You live in one of the most richest countries in the world. Millions of people are dreaming to live in your country. I live in UK, and I wish I could move to USA,but It's not simple. I would need to get green card some how. Maybe you gonna merry me and I can get one? ( I am not a gay btw) I just want visa :)
Also, I have advice what might help you a lot. Try to travel to other countries, see different cultures... it's very mind changing. Trust me. But remember to take safety precaution's when traveling, as there are many dogy places in the world.
Hey Aaron, I was wondering where you were 🥰… there must be something in the atmosphere lately; I’m typically a super happy and peppy person but lately I’ve been, blah😞… I love talking to people out on the street and in stores but this week I’m avoiding everyone… I’m hoping to get out of my rut soon because I don’t want to ruin my summer☀️. Keep your head up, Aaron, life is beautiful❤… Rooting for you, my friend and looking forward to future content and beats🎧💓.
Well said
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Hey bro. Where do you live?
Ever thought about training in martial arts? You're in good shape could give BJJ or Judo a try. Both very good for regular socialising. Either that or just a general sport / activity that includes others.
No one ever seems to mention it but going downwards from whatever social class you came from seems significant. You have a blue collar job, but I'd be willing to bet you came from a middle class or upper middle class background. It almost seems snooty to mention this, but finding yourself out of place amongst cackling, cigarette smoking ruffians has got to be at least a little bit of a stumbling block for someone who wasn't brought up around that.
This is true, and that is very insightful.
@@aaronsjournal139 No one wants to mention it and seem like a snob. I think I do vaguely recall Jordan Peterson saying something about it in some roundabout indirect way in a lecture.
I know what you mean. Sounds like my life. Minus the job. Which would give you a little interaction I assume. It sucks 😢
Get thee around people. Shake up the routine. Join and Volunteer at the local food co-op. Get out of your comfort zone locally. Go see a therapist. Get a massage. Women your age are playing pickleball now to meet guys. Good luck sir!
He works a lot of long hours so he probably doesn’t have time to volunteer, therapy or get a massage. The only time he leaves his confront zone is when he goes to work. I’m sure he be around with his co workers.
I do auto pilot also :(
We need some music!!
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Work, eat, shower, and sleep. It sucks everyday.
That’s my daily routine as well. Except for work because I don’t have a job anymore.
sounds like depression
You can fix your teeth for looksmaxxing and some self steem boost. That is OK and perfectly affordable for most people.
Glad you are OK, but I don't see you being happy anytime soon without a higher purpose. Nihilism is an ideological desert, not intended to live there but transitional.
Yeah, that's on my list of things to do. Considering Invisalign. Wish my parents had gotten me braces when I was younger.
I find his teeth rather attractive, actually. Something a little animalistic that I'm drawn to... To each their own
His teeth looks just fine to me.
@@aaronsjournal139 your teeth are fine, don't get the same smile as everyone else. Just keep them clean and white.
@@aaronsjournal139we couldn’t afford braces when I was a kid. I got them when I was 32 because I had always wanted them. Do it for yourself if it’s something you’ve always wanted to do
95 % of the population is.
A man your age, looking like John Hamm in this video, I don't understand why you aren't having more luck with the ladies, social awkwardness or not. Makes me worried for myself.
Human interaction is way overrated... my experience is it ends in disappointment 80% of the time... just sayin
THE TIME IS NOW. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWW. Don't wait anymore, sell everything and MOVE, MOVE to DUBAI or some Asian country. You are wasting your life, you got one go at this, stop wasting it. Start living life it's not too late but ACT NOW.
The problem with advice like this (and I get variations of this all the time) is that not only is it overly simplistic, it fails to take into account the fact that I'd be leaving family and the few friends I've managed to make behind, the question of how I would support myself, how I'd fund such a move, and the language and cultural differences. I had a hard enough time moving to another state, let alone moving abroad.
If you've successfully done this yourself (and I presume you have, if you're going to advise people to do this), more power to you. But for me, this is unrealistic.
@@aaronsjournal139 there's a show called 30 day fiance. I think it's 30.. Anyways, it's about these ugly men finding women from abroad. You look better than all these guys and the language barrier would actually play to your advantage, because then some akwardness is to be expected anyways. So saying something wrong, or not saying something in time would not be a big issue, as the woman doesnt speak English all that well herself. Also american women want way too much, they're spoilt. Abroad is where it's at for you, I give you 100 percent guarantee that if you want a sexy woman you will find it abroad. You just need to take action. If you don't make changes, changes won't happen
Imagine... being 45 & being a millionaire. Having a 6 pack. Your dating pool would be huge. And you'd find a 25-30 year old easily. Money is freedom. Money... nothing else.