I'm 39 and married with no kids, but I'm an introvert. I'm a bit envious that you can go to a wedding and have a good time. Any time I'm dragged to a wedding or family gathering, I'm always looking for a way to escape and be alone. Glad you had a good time despite the difficulties. 👍
Glad you went to celebrate this special occasion with your loved one. Aaron, Please don't let your mind be your own worst enemy. don't be so hard on yourself. You are following the path that was created for you so just enjoy the adventure while you can and things will fall into place as they are intended too. you are a wonderful person.
I applaud you for being able to attend. I have allowed my life situation to affect my relationship with family because I am so heartbroken being alone. i rarely attend family functions and if I do, I leave early. Once upon a time people would ask about marriage etc but it has long stopped. At this point their own children are getting ready to get married and I'm still alone.
I feel somewhat the same way, I’m at a point in life where I’m definitely starting to feel miserable despite how many others keep on suggesting to us that we should not focus on having a partner, but rather focus on being happy by our own selves. That might sound true but I’ve tried being happy by myself and it’s not working and most importantly, I’m too used to it.
@@dearestbrotherfrank of course not. We are all in this together. Even people who were married and people who are married will end up in the same spot. Its a never ending cycle and the way society works isn’t healthy for humans. Thats why depression, sc“ and social anxiety has skyrocketed. But most of the people look away because they’re in their bubble like my parents
Same here. I’ll be 45 next month. I’m just fed up with trying to find someone but I’m also tired of being alone. Sadly I don’t really care if I drop dead tomorrow. I was filling out a leasing application recently. It asked for emergency contact. I thought once my mom passes I’ll have to leave it blank. Sadly
Yeah, I can relate, as a fellow autistic male. I'm almost 34 and a single date is the extent of my experience. Most of my peers are married/in long-term relationships and/or have children. I do my best to be optimistic about finding a partner, hard as that can be. When I see couples outdoors, I'm genuinely happy for them, but there sometimes is this twinge of jealousy.
I turned 36 this summer and relate to nearly all of what you said. This year I’ve just gotten to a point where I am no longer optimistic about finding a partner because it seems like everything else in my life that I’ve wanted I’ve been able to at least get except for that. I getting dates is not so much of an issue for me, but I really feel like it’s rather getting him interested to see me again beyond that. I’ve tried being patient. I’ve tried doing different things overtime and my results haven’t really changed. Now I don’t expect all my first dates to lead to another date for sure but when I’m constantly seeing a pattern for over a decade that has not changed despite the effort, desire and patience, I’ve had then it really makes me start fear that I’m going to be permanently single no matter what.
@@JonasMatthewBahtadamn what’s the farthest or longest you’ve went with any of those women you dated? Are they all ghosting you after 1-2 dates? Are you Only dating attractive women? I can’t imagine dating for a decade and not seeing results . Are you autistic or have anxiety problems?
Trevor - it’s natural to feel like the grass is greener on The other dude if the tracks though. I guarantee you that many of those couples you see occasionally envy the single guy or woman that can do anything they want etc etc
"Most of my peers are married/in long-term relationships and/or have children" - great point👍 Aaron has said the alike and I've seen and heard many comments like these from other commenters on other channels or content producers. TFL/FA proponents will have you believe that this issue affects 99.99% of men, but I'm just not seeing that in my day to day life. That being said I'm TFL myself.
I can relate. I'm 35 and been a third wheel my entire life, now that all my friends are married and having children, I'm like the 5th wheel. Some weddings can be great fun but it gets embarrassing and uncomfortable continually going to weddings being the single guy, the worst is attending your friends kids birthdays, I've made that mistake a few times, from now I politely decline. A lot of people that have a partner or family simply don't understand how awkward or uncomfortable some events can be.
I’m around your age and let me tell you I haven’t been to a wedding for anybody in 15 years mostly because I’ve not been invited, but of course the few invited to I just refuse to go because for me going to stuff like that is a huge reminder of where I’m at when it comes to romantic life. Despite learning new skills and going on dates with different types of women, I’m still single today no matter how much I do in life or how kind I am and to be honest, I can’t relate to people my age as a result. Although a good chunk of people who are partnered are decent and great people, they are many people with not very good morals people too with extensive criminal records and many others who shouldn’t be partnered up that are lucky to married and even have kids. The future seems to look significantly bleak for people like you and me when it comes to relationships based on our experiences.
At least you have friends. Although sometimes I think it's not good to watch something you don't have and there's a good chance you'll never have it. So not having friends is good in that sense.
The thing is you really have to own the single role. If you go into these social situations(as a man) and are a little ashamed or embarrassed from it then that makes it so much worse. Most men and women can tell Pretty easily if you are remotely ashamed or uncomfortable and that changes the way they talk to and view you. I went to a few friends kids birthdays over the years and they just aren’t fun at all. In fact I rarely enjoy social gatherings like that - too much small talk and sitting around
@@JonasMatthewBahta “how kind I am” Honestly that may be your problem. Women want good guys yes but they also want a little “edge” to a man. If you are too Predictable and nice then that tends to bore them . Being single is not that bad though and it’s mostly what you make it. Sure you Might get looked at strangely occasionally but so what ? If you are dating often and still have no luck then you need to change something up - that something is most likely your personality or way you present or hold yourself. Are you insecure? If so that’s something women can sense from miles away and they don’t like insecure men
@@brianmeen2158, well, that’s how I have grown up to be and what I was inspired if I want people to appreciate me, however, I have noticed it hasn’t made the difference they taught me and I had expected. Another thing that inspired me to be kind is I don’t want to make these women feel intimidated. They’re at least taking the courage to get to know a stranger and my goal is to make them feel comfortable. I didn’t necessarily say being single is bad. At least I’ll give you credit for not assuming things, for the most part like most people tend to do when I explain to them this.
I've had so many boyfriends and so many relationships but none of them have really worked out. At 45, I have the best life I could ask for. I've struggled through cancer for three years, and I just reached three years in remission But I have a little dog and cat and I garden almost every day . I feed the birds and the squirrels and I go for walks and I work as a painter and I study spirituality and healing herbs. I live very close to the Gulf of Mexico, just 10 minutes away, so I'm at the beach almost every single day for a walk or a swim. I have a few good friends and I just returned from visiting one out in the Rocky Mountains. I've been alone now for five years, and I'm understanding that not every life path includes a partner. There are other lives that we have lived where we had those things, and I very much believe that when we're on the other side, in between lives, we set out a path for ourselves in the next life , so that there are lessons we learn, and that maybe by pushing ourselves to have whatever it is we don't, maybe we're just ignoring that little voice inside of us that says, don't forget, this isn't what you were here for this time around. I don't know, I could be completely wrong. But, I don't think I am. Yes, I would love a hug and somebody to eat dinner with and a partner for Christmas morning to open presents and drink coffee and eat cinnamon buns with. I'd love to have somebody to sit on the beach and walk at sunset with, but I truly could not ask for anything more than what I have. Maybe a little more money, may be a little bit more health, but at the end of the day, I love these little animal spirits that depend on me. I love that I've gotten through so much grief in my life and that I've healed from it. The grief of losing my mother and my brother, the grief of losing my health to a disease I couldn't control. Perhaps in grieving what we don't have or what we no longer have, we're unable longer able to embrace what we do have . Just a few thoughts ... I hope that whatever happiness is meant to be yours, finds you . May the creator and all of the spirits that walk with you, hold you and bless you always
Hey Aaron I’m really happy you had a nice time being with your family and doing the “Funkel Duties” lol a few drinks a few laughs, it’s a lot better than it being that family trip where it can be a hot mess😜….Your hair looks nice don’t worry or try not thinking about the negative try thinking about you took one step in a positive direction 👍🏻 ❤
I feel you. I am still trying to wrap my brain around the idea the it just didn't happen for me either. It sucks, it's not enjoyable but it is the one constant I'm not happy with.
I am thinking.... being quite physically normal/attractive is even worse for us. We are expected to be normal, sometimes some normal people are attracted to us initially (so we have higher standards) but they lose the attraction once they see something is off socially. It would probably be easier if you looked more autistic and never thought you had a chance with more normal people, and could just be content with finding another autist to be with.
Glad to see your handsome face man! I hate being in big social gatherings so the fact you went and found some enjoyment is commendable. Btw I am not missing toddlers 😂 tiny dictators I call them. Hope your doing well!
dude what ur super cute !!! you’ll find someone for sure :3 honestly maybe it seems like the current “market” for dating is a bit tricky as im 21 and feel kinda similar
I've only really ever been to two weddings in my life and the first one was when I was 13 and the reception was actually pretty fun but last year's wedding I went to really sucked because there was no drinks because my cousin that got married last year was LDS so it was very boring and it made me feel like a total failure because I know deep down that I will never have that.
Thanks for dropping the video on dead sunday, we have the same views on events. By the way, you seem like a very calm guy, I wonder if it has something to do with the spectrum.
Im almost 34, Ill be at my cousin's wedding in about a month. Im bracing for the typical grilling from every extended family member asking why I dont have a girlfriend yet or why I didnt bring a plus one. Sometimes I think it bothers other people more than it bothers me.
I've already been to the weddings of two of my little brothers (a third just married but I couldn't attend, and the last of my 4 younger brothers is engaged), and no one asks me anymore or brings up my lack of a +1.
Im not necessarily thriving right now lol but I have faith our luck will change! Never lose the faith. We’re good people and it’s true we might be in the wrong set of mind. We must Live in the life we want in our minds first. Being around the right people that want the best for us is key. Pushing through .. we got this!!!!
I want normal adult things and to have the body of my dreams but I really don't feel capable of approaching people or even working a normal job where I have to interact with people same with driving it's too dangerous.
@@sadieadler4383 .I can relate. I didn't drive at all from 2014 - 2019. Fear was keeping me as a hermit in my cave for so long and all alone. I wouldn't even answer the phone. Hope you'll begin to feel more at ease
@@acgillespie I just don't see the point in getting a job and making my own money because my family will just take control of my money and have POA over me anyways because I'm too handicap in their opinion.
I recently started watching Alexander Grace, I think he has some great insights into what women are looking for in a man, and how to optimise your chances of meeting someone right for you.
🎹 Hey Aaron, it has been almost 2 weeks since we heard from you, missing your lovely face and looking forward to your next upload! Hope you are doing well. 😊
Have you tried deep daily meditation? it has been changing my life. I am 44, single, unemployed and my only long term relationship was when i was in college. i live alone and recently moved from my close friend group in NYC back to my hometown thinking that i wanted to be closer to family (but now that Im back I hardly see them as they are all busy with kids). I have been super depressed for the past couple years because of this change that i imposed on myself, but I started meditating and when I get super still, I realized that the truest deepest part of me loves my alone time and that the reality is is that I love being alone and I get annoyed when family friends want to hang out! essentially what Im saying is that maybe you like being alone more than you think you do? BTW you are super attractive just saying!
Life isn't so complicated as it comes down to choices for us. We choose our perspective, and then we live by the choices we make. I have been on this planet long enough to see so many people argue for their limitations because they cannot see their future in a crystal clear way, and that shit frightens them. Just because someone cannot see themselves getting married does not mean that it is not for them, it can mean that they are letting their fear of the unknown take over as well. Same goes for kids, or getting a pet, or changing jobs. It's all a matter of whether you choose to take a step forward through the fear and see what happens. I say that it is often better to stop judging others if it means that you find yourself reinforcing your own fears. Go for love man. Find the one. Commit to her. Have some children. Move to another place. Don't stop trying for your best life, and it starts by letting go of the need for comparison.
@@aaronsjournal139 I really like your channel, and I think you have nothing but great potential. I can see you building a fulfilling life for yourself and I hope you keep posting as you do.
Well it's good that you went but I wouldn't worry too much about not being married most marriages end in divorce anyways so I would just embrace the bachelor life at this point.
A friend of mine remarried 4 years ago, and now is going thru a divorce, and devastated. It just isn't worth it, the idea/dream is just too risky and best forgotten. But i wish the best for the those that enter that contract. ..... and lets not forget, there is a rewards clause for breach of contract.
a high school friend invited me to her wedding a few years back and i didn't end up going. i have no social skills, i wasn't confident in my driving, and i knew that going would have just made me depressed and bitter more than anything. besides, i'm an adult now, i don't have to attend a boring wedding if i don't want to. :)
God, how I hate weddings. They are so inconvenient to the guests, it costs you money, and the divorce rate is 50%! Someone wisely told me recently that relationships are just two people constantly triggering each other because of attachment styles and past trauma, and that was a pretty profound thought. Remember that people showcase their highlight reels, not their 24/7 reality.
@@isacharjonesforreal man. If i genuinely viewed the world the way this guy does, i wouldnt even get out of bed. Just sounds like a bunch of excuses to me, as mean as that sounds.
Your post is very negative - I know plenty of relationships where both people are content and happy. I gotta be honest - on Aaron’s channel and a few others - they draw the most negative, miserable and neurotic people on earth. Many of you would benefit by getting offline more often and not binge watching doomer content
Your the same age as me. I am 44 years old also. I lost my virginity October 13 1997. I have slept with 21 women . From experience draughts do happen its part of life don't give up. I don't have anyone also but i am always in the hunt. It starts with the attitude. If your walking in to a date with this defeated mindset you will not attract the woman you desire. Keep tryjng and dont give up. You're only 44 your still young
@@aaronsjournal139You have a chance to find somebody at least you have a job and aren't living at your parents house and you're in good shape unlike me.
21 women, wow, unless they are an escort, I wonder what you are doing here. 45 years is not young bro, let's not fool ourselves even though Aaron honestly looks ten years younger.
I'm 48 years old never had a relationship either most of these women are not relationship material and their toxic is hell. It's not like the kind of women that were growing up and my dad's era totally day and night.
I'm not going to say all women but the ones that I have come in contact with are mentally ill. Mental illness can come in many forms. The movie the NeverEnding Story 2 and this is a quote from one of the scenes in the movie. The Giants are Hollow and empty. I know what threatens Fantasia it's the emptiness..
do you hate your cousin? 1:22 - let me explain : the wedding is his moment don't make it about you. Stay there and be there for your cousin.... Why is your mom taking the decisions/initiative? The better question have you ever took a big decision like this? If not you should ask yourself why are u just fallowing....
Have you ever thought of traveling outside of the US to find a woman? There's a big movement called "passport bros" that are tired of westernized narcissistic women. Men are looking for more traditional raised ladies over seas.
He has talked about this a bunch of times. That is just not realistic for most guys. He would need to pick up his whole life and move to a foreign country in hopes of finding a woman desperate enough to marry him for his money. I’m sure some people have success doing it, but it is probably not worth the trouble.
That "handful" that those screaming crying kids are man, that's what your old flower girl friend and all your siblings ar egoing through in their "happily married with children life". 8)
Aaron, there are women on here who are ready to date you ~read your comments😂😂 Seems to me you're alone because you choose to be alone, there are plenty of lonely women just as there are men I would say be open to dating older women, I think some men lack appreciation for what older women bring to the table, a lot of men think they need a 25 year old arm candy that's going to leave them for the next best thing🫤
@@aaronsjournal139 why would you let that stop you? I don't understand people, they really want some thing but they don't want to be inconvenienced or compromise if people love each other they'll make it work ~I know that for a fact! Distance is only an obstacle that can be overcome:)
@girlnextdoor7012 it's hard for me to invest myself in a relationship that requires travel expenses and vacation time to see each other, especially knowing that to really make it work, one of us would have to uproot our lives and relocate.
31, single, never been in a relationship. You aren’t alone as you know. We’re all just human so don’t fret it and just control what you can. ✌️
By choice?
Sounds a little sad until I realize I'm about to turn 31 as well and be in the exact same situation
I'm 39 and married with no kids, but I'm an introvert. I'm a bit envious that you can go to a wedding and have a good time. Any time I'm dragged to a wedding or family gathering, I'm always looking for a way to escape and be alone. Glad you had a good time despite the difficulties. 👍
Well, the alcohol definitely helped, lol
@@aaronsjournal139good man
Glad you went to celebrate this special occasion with your loved one. Aaron, Please don't let your mind be your own worst enemy. don't be so hard on yourself. You are following the path that was created for you so just enjoy the adventure while you can and things will fall into place as they are intended too. you are a wonderful person.
I applaud you for being able to attend. I have allowed my life situation to affect my relationship with family because I am so heartbroken being alone. i rarely attend family functions and if I do, I leave early. Once upon a time people would ask about marriage etc but it has long stopped. At this point their own children are getting ready to get married and I'm still alone.
I feel somewhat the same way, I’m at a point in life where I’m definitely starting to feel miserable despite how many others keep on suggesting to us that we should not focus on having a partner, but rather focus on being happy by our own selves. That might sound true but I’ve tried being happy by myself and it’s not working and most importantly, I’m too used to it.
I thought I was the only one who felt that way.
@@dearestbrotherfrank of course not. We are all in this together. Even people who were married and people who are married will end up in the same spot. Its a never ending cycle and the way society works isn’t healthy for humans. Thats why depression, sc“ and social anxiety has skyrocketed. But most of the people look away because they’re in their bubble like my parents
Same here. I’ll be 45 next month. I’m just fed up with trying to find someone but I’m also tired of being alone. Sadly I don’t really care if I drop dead tomorrow. I was filling out a leasing application recently. It asked for emergency contact. I thought once my mom passes I’ll have to leave it blank. Sadly
@@BrianWaller-qe7gr brutal.
Weddings make me feel depressed... More than how I usually feel.
@@amoguxxi1 😁
Yeah, I can relate, as a fellow autistic male. I'm almost 34 and a single date is the extent of my experience. Most of my peers are married/in long-term relationships and/or have children. I do my best to be optimistic about finding a partner, hard as that can be. When I see couples outdoors, I'm genuinely happy for them, but there sometimes is this twinge of jealousy.
I turned 36 this summer and relate to nearly all of what you said. This year I’ve just gotten to a point where I am no longer optimistic about finding a partner because it seems like everything else in my life that I’ve wanted I’ve been able to at least get except for that. I getting dates is not so much of an issue for me, but I really feel like it’s rather getting him interested to see me again beyond that. I’ve tried being patient. I’ve tried doing different things overtime and my results haven’t really changed.
Now I don’t expect all my first dates to lead to another date for sure but when I’m constantly seeing a pattern for over a decade that has not changed despite the effort, desire and patience, I’ve had then it really makes me start fear that I’m going to be permanently single no matter what.
@@JonasMatthewBahtadamn what’s the farthest or longest you’ve went with any of those women you dated? Are they all ghosting you after 1-2 dates? Are you
Only dating attractive women? I can’t imagine dating for a decade and not seeing results . Are you autistic or have anxiety problems?
Trevor - it’s natural to feel like the grass is greener on
The other dude if the tracks though. I guarantee you that many of those couples you see occasionally envy the single guy or woman that can do anything they want etc etc
"Most of my peers are married/in long-term relationships and/or have children" - great point👍 Aaron has said the alike and I've seen and heard many comments like these from other commenters on other channels or content producers.
TFL/FA proponents will have you believe that this issue affects 99.99% of men, but I'm just not seeing that in my day to day life.
That being said I'm TFL myself.
I can relate. I'm 35 and been a third wheel my entire life, now that all my friends are married and having children, I'm like the 5th wheel. Some weddings can be great fun but it gets embarrassing and uncomfortable continually going to weddings being the single guy, the worst is attending your friends kids birthdays, I've made that mistake a few times, from now I politely decline. A lot of people that have a partner or family simply don't understand how awkward or uncomfortable some events can be.
I’m around your age and let me tell you I haven’t been to a wedding for anybody in 15 years mostly because I’ve not been invited, but of course the few invited to I just refuse to go because for me going to stuff like that is a huge reminder of where I’m at when it comes to romantic life. Despite learning new skills and going on dates with different types of women, I’m still single today no matter how much I do in life or how kind I am and to be honest, I can’t relate to people my age as a result. Although a good chunk of people who are partnered are decent and great people, they are many people with not very good morals people too with extensive criminal records and many others who shouldn’t be partnered up that are lucky to married and even have kids. The future seems to look significantly bleak for people like you and me when it comes to relationships based on our experiences.
At least you have friends. Although sometimes I think it's not good to watch something you don't have and there's a good chance you'll never have it. So not having friends is good in that sense.
The thing is you really have to own the single role. If you go into these social situations(as a man) and are a little ashamed or embarrassed from it then that makes it so much worse. Most men and women can tell
Pretty easily if you are remotely ashamed or uncomfortable and that changes the way they talk to and view you.
I went to a few friends kids birthdays over the years and they just aren’t fun at all. In fact I rarely enjoy social gatherings like that - too much small talk and sitting around
@@JonasMatthewBahta “how kind I am”
Honestly that may be your problem. Women want good guys yes but they also want a little “edge” to a man. If you are too
Predictable and nice then that tends to bore them .
Being single is not that bad though and it’s mostly what you make it. Sure you
Might get looked at strangely occasionally but so what ?
If you are dating often and still have no luck then you need to change something up - that something is most likely your personality or way you present or hold yourself. Are you insecure? If so that’s something women can sense from miles away and they don’t like insecure men
@@brianmeen2158, well, that’s how I have grown up to be and what I was inspired if I want people to appreciate me, however, I have noticed it hasn’t made the difference they taught me and I had expected. Another thing that inspired me to be kind is I don’t want to make these women feel intimidated. They’re at least taking the courage to get to know a stranger and my goal is to make them feel comfortable. I didn’t necessarily say being single is bad. At least I’ll give you credit for not assuming things, for the most part like most people tend to do when I explain to them this.
Was glad to see you smiling in the thumbnail, Aaron
I've had so many boyfriends and so many relationships but none of them have really worked out. At 45, I have the best life I could ask for.
I've struggled through cancer for three years, and I just reached three years in remission
But I have a little dog and cat and I garden almost every day . I feed the birds and the squirrels and I go for walks and I work as a painter and I study spirituality and healing herbs. I live very close to the Gulf of Mexico, just 10 minutes away, so I'm at the beach almost every single day for a walk or a swim. I have a few good friends and I just returned from visiting one out in the Rocky Mountains.
I've been alone now for five years, and I'm understanding that not every life path includes a partner. There are other lives that we have lived where we had those things, and I very much believe that when we're on the other side, in between lives, we set out a path for ourselves in the next life , so that there are lessons we learn, and that maybe by pushing ourselves to have whatever it is we don't, maybe we're just ignoring that little voice inside of us that says, don't forget, this isn't what you were here for this time around.
I don't know, I could be completely wrong. But, I don't think I am. Yes, I would love a hug and somebody to eat dinner with and a partner for Christmas morning to open presents and drink coffee and eat cinnamon buns with. I'd love to have somebody to sit on the beach and walk at sunset with, but I truly could not ask for anything more than what I have. Maybe a little more money, may be a little bit more health, but at the end of the day, I love these little animal spirits that depend on me. I love that I've gotten through so much grief in my life and that I've healed from it. The grief of losing my mother and my brother, the grief of losing my health to a disease I couldn't control.
Perhaps in grieving what we don't have or what we no longer have, we're unable longer able to embrace what we do have .
Just a few thoughts ...
I hope that whatever happiness is meant to be yours, finds you .
May the creator and all of the spirits that walk with you, hold you and bless you always
Keep the hairstyle, it works for you.
Thanks, I plan on it!
Hey Aaron I’m really happy you had a nice time being with your family and doing the “Funkel Duties” lol a few drinks a few laughs, it’s a lot better than it being that family trip where it can be a hot mess😜….Your hair looks nice don’t worry or try not thinking about the negative try thinking about you took one step in a positive direction 👍🏻 ❤
I feel you. I am still trying to wrap my brain around the idea the it just didn't happen for me either. It sucks, it's not enjoyable but it is the one constant I'm not happy with.
Keep in mind that had it happened for you you might have been twice divorced by this time . There’s always a yin to the yang
I am thinking.... being quite physically normal/attractive is even worse for us. We are expected to be normal, sometimes some normal people are attracted to us initially (so we have higher standards) but they lose the attraction once they see something is off socially.
It would probably be easier if you looked more autistic and never thought you had a chance with more normal people, and could just be content with finding another autist to be with.
Glad to see your handsome face man! I hate being in big social gatherings so the fact you went and found some enjoyment is commendable. Btw I am not missing toddlers 😂 tiny dictators I call them.
Hope your doing well!
You look fantastic, ik confidence is hard to gain in a world where everything's inadequate. You are not
well... a good time was had! FUNCLE!
dude what ur super cute !!! you’ll find someone for sure :3 honestly maybe it seems like the current “market” for dating is a bit tricky as im 21 and feel kinda similar
Was this wedding near Roseburg by any chance? The way you described it sounded like where I used to live around there…. Miss my Oregon home so much!
I think so - I'd have to see if I can find the invite to be sure.
Weddings are very unfun for me, I can't help but feel jealous and bitter.
I never was invited to one
I've only really ever been to two weddings in my life and the first one was when I was 13 and the reception was actually pretty fun but last year's wedding I went to really sucked because there was no drinks because my cousin that got married last year was LDS so it was very boring and it made me feel like a total failure because I know deep down that I will never have that.
Same here, deep down I seethe with hatred.
looking good Aaron, 👍
Thanks for dropping the video on dead sunday, we have the same views on events. By the way, you seem like a very calm guy, I wonder if it has something to do with the spectrum.
Hope you doing well man!
Im almost 34, Ill be at my cousin's wedding in about a month. Im bracing for the typical grilling from every extended family member asking why I dont have a girlfriend yet or why I didnt bring a plus one. Sometimes I think it bothers other people more than it bothers me.
I've already been to the weddings of two of my little brothers (a third just married but I couldn't attend, and the last of my 4 younger brothers is engaged), and no one asks me anymore or brings up my lack of a +1.
@@aaronsjournal139 Hopes it remains that way.. You as an individual is enough
Thats nice Aaron.
Wow. Interesting. Sounds like you had a couple epiphanies. How about a song called, Epiphany?
Im not necessarily thriving right now lol but I have faith our luck will change! Never lose the faith. We’re good people and it’s true we might be in the wrong set of mind. We must Live in the life we want in our minds first. Being around the right people that want the best for us is key. Pushing through .. we got this!!!!
Absolutely we do
I want normal adult things and to have the body of my dreams but I really don't feel capable of approaching people or even working a normal job where I have to interact with people same with driving it's too dangerous.
@@sadieadler4383 .I can relate. I didn't drive at all from 2014 - 2019. Fear was keeping me as a hermit in my cave for so long and all alone. I wouldn't even answer the phone. Hope you'll begin to feel more at ease
@@acgillespie I just don't see the point in getting a job and making my own money because my family will just take control of my money and have POA over me anyways because I'm too handicap in their opinion.
Have you considered dating Aaron?
I recently started watching Alexander Grace, I think he has some great insights into what women are looking for in a man, and how to optimise your chances of meeting someone right for you.
🎹 Hey Aaron, it has been almost 2 weeks since we heard from you, missing your lovely face and looking forward to your next upload! Hope you are doing well. 😊
Have you tried deep daily meditation? it has been changing my life. I am 44, single, unemployed and my only long term relationship was when i was in college. i live alone and recently moved from my close friend group in NYC back to my hometown thinking that i wanted to be closer to family (but now that Im back I hardly see them as they are all busy with kids). I have been super depressed for the past couple years because of this change that i imposed on myself, but I started meditating and when I get super still, I realized that the truest deepest part of me loves my alone time and that the reality is is that I love being alone and I get annoyed when family friends want to hang out! essentially what Im saying is that maybe you like being alone more than you think you do? BTW you are super attractive just saying!
You are so fkn handsome, dude. Sorry for the thirst comment. I’m positive you’ll find the right girl dude.
i don't really have any advice im in the same boat it helps to just watch your videos
Life isn't so complicated as it comes down to choices for us.
We choose our perspective, and then we live by the choices we make.
I have been on this planet long enough to see so many people argue for their limitations because they cannot see their future in a crystal clear way, and that shit frightens them.
Just because someone cannot see themselves getting married does not mean that it is not for them, it can mean that they are letting their fear of the unknown take over as well.
Same goes for kids, or getting a pet, or changing jobs. It's all a matter of whether you choose to take a step forward through the fear and see what happens.
I say that it is often better to stop judging others if it means that you find yourself reinforcing your own fears.
Go for love man.
Find the one.
Commit to her.
Have some children.
Move to another place.
Don't stop trying for your best life, and it starts by letting go of the need for comparison.
Quality comment. Thanks for that perspective.
@@aaronsjournal139 I really like your channel, and I think you have nothing but great potential. I can see you building a fulfilling life for yourself and I hope you keep posting as you do.
Well it's good that you went but I wouldn't worry too much about not being married most marriages end in divorce anyways so I would just embrace the bachelor life at this point.
A friend of mine remarried 4 years ago, and now is going thru a divorce, and devastated. It just isn't worth it, the idea/dream is just too risky and best forgotten. But i wish the best for the those that enter that contract. ..... and lets not forget, there is a rewards clause for breach of contract.
a high school friend invited me to her wedding a few years back and i didn't end up going. i have no social skills, i wasn't confident in my driving, and i knew that going would have just made me depressed and bitter more than anything. besides, i'm an adult now, i don't have to attend a boring wedding if i don't want to. :)
first time you've seen your brother's wife and kids? Feel sad you're not more connected even if they do live in another state
The wedding you just went to has a 3/5 chance of ending in divorce. Don’t be envious.
God, how I hate weddings. They are so inconvenient to the guests, it costs you money, and the divorce rate is 50%! Someone wisely told me recently that relationships are just two people constantly triggering each other because of attachment styles and past trauma, and that was a pretty profound thought. Remember that people showcase their highlight reels, not their 24/7 reality.
Holy negative 😳 Terrible takes
@@isacharjonesforreal man. If i genuinely viewed the world the way this guy does, i wouldnt even get out of bed. Just sounds like a bunch of excuses to me, as mean as that sounds.
@@isacharjones LOL
@@mikeyswift2010 LOL
Your post is very negative - I know plenty of relationships where both people are content and happy. I gotta be honest - on Aaron’s channel and a few others - they draw the most negative, miserable and neurotic people on earth. Many of you would benefit by getting offline more often and not binge watching doomer content
Your the same age as me. I am 44 years old also. I lost my virginity October 13 1997. I have slept with 21 women . From experience draughts do happen its part of life don't give up. I don't have anyone also but i am always in the hunt. It starts with the attitude. If your walking in to a date with this defeated mindset you will not attract the woman you desire. Keep tryjng and dont give up. You're only 44 your still young
7 for me, I think. It's been 5 years since the last one.
@@aaronsjournal139 .Might be blessings in disguise . many many males sitting in a prison cell would agree?
@@aaronsjournal139You have a chance to find somebody at least you have a job and aren't living at your parents house and you're in good shape unlike me.
21 women, wow, unless they are an escort, I wonder what you are doing here. 45 years is not young bro, let's not fool ourselves even though Aaron honestly looks ten years younger.
@@LOUNGELIQ Wait until you are 75 - 45 will then seem like Teenagers to you. Trust me they do
I'm 48 years old never had a relationship either most of these women are not relationship material and their toxic is hell. It's not like the kind of women that were growing up and my dad's era totally day and night.
What is toxic about these women?
I'm not going to say all women but the ones that I have come in contact with are mentally ill. Mental illness can come in many forms. The movie the NeverEnding Story 2 and this is a quote from one of the scenes in the movie. The Giants are Hollow and empty. I know what threatens Fantasia it's the emptiness..
Numbered rooms?? Yikes....run out
time to get rid of the word "like" in your stories.
do you hate your cousin? 1:22 - let me explain : the wedding is his moment don't make it about you. Stay there and be there for your cousin.... Why is your mom taking the decisions/initiative? The better question have you ever took a big decision like this? If not you should ask yourself why are u just fallowing....
Have you ever thought of traveling outside of the US to find a woman? There's a big movement called "passport bros" that are tired of westernized narcissistic women. Men are looking for more traditional raised ladies over seas.
He has talked about this a bunch of times. That is just not realistic for most guys. He would need to pick up his whole life and move to a foreign country in hopes of finding a woman desperate enough to marry him for his money. I’m sure some people have success doing it, but it is probably not worth the trouble.
That "handful" that those screaming crying kids are man, that's what your old flower girl friend and all your siblings ar egoing through in their "happily married with children life". 8)
Yeah screw having children they take away all your free time and could potentially grow up to be horrible people I don't wanna take my chances.
Aaron, there are women on here who are ready to date you ~read your comments😂😂
Seems to me you're alone because you choose to be alone, there are plenty of lonely women just as there are men
I would say be open to dating older women, I think some men lack appreciation for what older women bring to the table, a lot of men think they need a 25 year old arm candy that's going to leave them for the next best thing🫤
While there may be women here wanting to date me, I suspect most or all of them are states or continents away.
@@aaronsjournal139 why would you let that stop you? I don't understand people, they really want some thing but they don't want to be inconvenienced or compromise if people love each other they'll make it work ~I know that for a fact! Distance is only an obstacle that can be overcome:)
@girlnextdoor7012 it's hard for me to invest myself in a relationship that requires travel expenses and vacation time to see each other, especially knowing that to really make it work, one of us would have to uproot our lives and relocate.
Dumbest entitled comment ever "you chose to be alone". I never hear this type of ignorant comment from anybody but Americans