Man, I hope you will read this: you are not alone. I am in a similar situation, I struggle with anxiety and depression, and I feel like I lost the last 10 years of my life. Thank you for sharing your struggles and making me feel less alone.
How much do you actually know about depression & anxiety?? The reason I ask is because I just explained a few things to a young American woman. Hi from England 👍
There is no intrinsic meaning to life, only the meaning we give to it. Do what makes you happy. Enjoy nature and the beauty of life, food, music. Just cause you are alone doesnt mean you will suffer a life unfulfilled. Here for you. -a fellow single middle aged trucker
Hi from South Africa, Aaron, may I suggest the following: If you keep saying and believing that there is no-one for you and nothing left for you, that is exactly what you will receive… no-one and nothing. Start changing your words by saying the opposite everyday, repeat what you want as if you already have it, in present tense. In days and months your life will change. You will attract the life you want. Stop comparing yourself with other people. You are on your own journey of life. Good luck Aaron!
@@TheJok3rMan Thats not really what I meant, I'm not a commie. What I meant was that you need to remind yourself to not let your source of happiness and contentment get hijacked by the expectations of other people or by society. Or even worse, what you think those expectations of others might be.
@@eyepodwalkman6247 No worries, I’m not a commie (I’m from Eastern Europe, those people literally destroyed my country lol) but I have to admit that neomarxists still have some good observations about capitalism, I mean capitalism did have a very strong effect on culture in the west.. all those expectations of other people and society are heavily influenced by capitalism in my opinion.
@@snotrohmitabc123 For a society that hates men? No thanks. Everyone I know turned their backs on me for not taking the jab(s), I haven't been back to the workforce since and have zero interest in ever returning. I've done hundreds of gals in asia & sth america but western gals are just too toxic & hateful towards men. So hard pass. Quite happy to watch the west burn and then retire in asia. The rest of u compliant sheep made your beds, u can lay in it
I hate this new gender stuff. Why do we have to hyper focus on identity groups? Besides, It’s not only guys that are lost - I know plenty of women that are just as confused .
@@brianmeen2158 Best thing u can do is focus on yourself and just enjoy life. Lot of men are withdrawing their labor and walking away, it's been the best thing for my health and mental well being that I've ever done.
Don't go back to school if you have no plan. You're setting yourself up to fail. Learn how money works and follow the money. If you're not cut out to study, enter a trade. I hear it makes good money. There is potential for you to make enough to eventually afford a home within 5 years. As a man, the best you can do is not to chase women, but chase your mission. Do that, and you will attract the right woman. Your mission, above all else, is YOU. Never stop improving. Life is about growth and learning from your mistakes. The more painful the mistake, the more meaningful the lesson. If you hate your life now, do everything you can to change yourself. Build mental toughness and solve your problems proactively. Love yourself.
Just world fallacy, if everyone works hard they can accomplish their goals; this is not true in the real world. The only women he can attract that he would be attracted to back are found in South East Asia.
Hey Aaron, I know the deep pain of being alone, feeling empty and alienated. Just my two cents on this: As hard as it sounds, but don't focus too much on your loneliness and desperation. Focus on what you're in power of. 1. You don't feel like living life and the best cure for that is a real rush of adrenaline. It sounds silly but it works. Our forefathers fought mammoths and had to push themselves to the edges of life and we have lost that in our modern world. Go sky diving, bungee jumping or get a ride on a wild rollercoaster. The adrenaline will give you instant relief and momentum to take action. 2. Try out different spots like martial arts, climbing, paragliding, dancing - focus on shorts that people usually get into when they're older). Don't be afraid of being the newbie and get into it not with the goal to become an expert, but just to enrich your life with experiences and the feeling of being in power. 3. Travel abroad! Honestly: It's the easiest way to get the feeling of filling life with meaningful experiences and become interesting on the dating market. Traveling alone is great and doesn't make you look like a loner as long as you travel in a way that opens up your chances of getting to know other people. So stay in hostels not in hotels, check in in three to six bed rooms - then it'll be very easy to meet other people and ask them out if they wanna check out the place together or having a drink together. It's very easy to find company in those places. A country that is very easy to travel to is Japan. It's very save, interesting, unique and the people love westerners. Places where you can find very interesting mates are countries that are a little bit unusual to travel to like Eastern Europe (like Poland, Serbia, the Baltic states or Albania), Morocco, or Sri Lanka. In general don't focus on what you lack (a significant other) but on what you can aquire right now. Don't go to school if you don't have an exact plan and a very, very specific goal. Back in school you'd most likely feel just more depressed as most of the people there are younger and you won't feel like fitting in. If you wanna learn something new, try out some online courses to see if it really fits you. Hope that helps. I'm cheering for you. You're stronger than you think. My best wishes from Germany.
Hang in there Aaron, I suffer from social anxiety and a speech impediment which also hinders me in life but I try to keep a positive attitude for the most part. I deeply appreciate your content. Thank you James from Toronto 🇨🇦
Many of us feel the same way, that's why we watch your channel for emotional support. Being in a relationship means more to me than just liking someone; it's about having that connection, which I've struggled with. I'd say focus on getting new employment first so you can pay your bills and then consider school again, as there's many options out there, but I'd say trade school would suit you quite well. Australia has a shortage of bus drivers with 6 figure range, so look at all transport related jobs, including courier work too.
I've also had the thought, I can't be ageing when my life hasn't started yet... I also ignored my talents and am now in a job I hate...the key is to just make the decision and FORGE down that path. Let the pain of the past motivate you.
Hey Aaron we all feel your pain . I am sorry it is so hard. A long term relationship is not something that comes naturally to most other people. If you look at society collectively, most of us are unmarried or divorced. Transportation is a necessity everywhere. Are you sure you cannot find work in the area your potential love intetest lives? I know that means an interruption to your current social circle. Please know you are not alone in the pain that you feel.
I agree, about his work prospects. In fact, I don’t think Aaron keeps in mind how specialized truck driving can get and how additional training can make him more money. Hazmat haulers and vacuum truck operators can make decent money with overtime plus good benefits.
Wow! What a beautiful place to take a long walk! I’m envious! Anyway.. if you also feel like this woman 3000 miles away is your type and you click please pursue it! Don’t let distance stand in the way of possible love. ❤
exactly. You gotta do it, see how desperate you sound in your video but then you also talk about not going to meet women.. Yea she's far, but this time you go to her, maybe next time she will travel to you. Also you're at a point thinking of changing your career, so maybe even move to her. You need to start taking chances
@@SOak145 females don't understand the male struggle, it's actually disrespectful for a woman to come on this channel and leave a comment like that because it comes off as gloating and insincere.
Worried about you near the end of the video .. feel your pain of being alone .. is tough isn’t it … but when u are really looking for love it doesn’t come .
@Yvonne123 Younger men that have never been there though believe that is the one thing that would complete and make them happy. I was there once myself. Sometimes the things we think we want and need will be the thing making us the most miserable. guess it's just human nature maybe.I'm sure you understand what they believe they are missing out on the most and I can feel empathy for that but we both know it's not gonna fix anything or complete anyone. I used to believe having several thousand dollars would fix all my problems until I actually saved that much and found not much changed really. I still wanted what others had because i thought it must be the answer LOL
If you weren't single, And had kids, You couldn't make too many chages to your lifes path if you wanted to. Always a positive side. Freedom is an awesome thing, n not just relationship freedom. Hang in there Aaron. Dont beat yourself up about stuff you cant control. Ask me how i know 😀
That’s the problem I see with Aaron - he views things in a very black-white way. Sure, being autistic and single at 45 has its problems but it’s better to be that way as opposed to being a 45 year old guy recently divorced with a ex wife that hates him and kids that he needs to support . Then he would have no freedom to move around
Telling people how it could be worse is not helpful, because realistically it could always be worse. Obviously it is not his goal to be married/divorced from a terrible person. And, there are significant positives to even the bad situation of divorced with kids, because usually being a father enriches a man's life and gives him purpose. I'm not saying to have kids just for that purpose, but in comparison to a meaningless loveless life... I mean let's just say I know divorced people who live for and love their kids more than anything. A perpetually empty and isolated life is not better than this, no matter how much perceived freedom one has to do whatever they want. He wants love and purpose in his life, something to live for other than himself.
@@davec3651I completely get your point but I’m just trying to get Aaron to step back and see the bigger picture - in that had he made different choices he’d have a different set of problems. In place of his loneliness would be stress or sone other issue that comes with relationships. Besides, this is really one of the only things that helps me feel a bit better in my position. I’m very similar to Aaron and when it gets bad I try to recognize that maybe had I made other choices - my life could be worse. Is it rational? I’m not sure but it helps me a bit
I changed my career last year for the 2nd time and it was really worth it! Feeling fulfilled and happy in your job is important I believe, you spend a lot of time doing your job. I also met many new people there including a nice man, after being single for 7 years at age 42. I have felt similar to you for a long time and I thought it would never happen for me anymore. We ended things for other reasons but it's a good experience for both of us and we are friends now. So I would say yes do it, enroll in the new classes and expand your horizon.
Aaron, listen to this man. When you are feeling bad about your life MAKE CHANGES, everything seems more difficult before you start. Like ohh, but I will need to do this and that, and it's so much work.. But once you start you will see it's easier than it first seemed. Definitely make changes, take action, good things happen to those who try.
Fucking hell i'm 23 and i feel so shit being lonely. I am literally scrambling like a maniac trying to save myself. I've been doing it for years but i'm really ramping it up now. I'm risking it all for that sweet sweet biscuit, even if the cookie crumbles i want to stick my hand in that jar at least one time. It's been out of reach for so long. And now it's tantalizingly close, yet so motherf*cking far away. A glimmer of hope grants me desperate strength, i must keep going, whatever the cost.
I've mentioned this in another post of Aaron's and I have a similar story. I will give you the advice I'd give my younger self. Try to get into some form of volunteering(pet rescue, community clean up, and etc.). This will give you a sense of helping out and community working with others. I'd highly suggest working on your social skills(improv lessons, Toastmasters, and etc.). I did this and it really helped me out with my social anxiety and communication skills. I would tell this to any single person(autistic or not) to just try to focus on living an enjoyable life. There comes a point where the dating options won't be that great and it isn't worth the headaches to pursue one.
@@brettdavis4 I understand what you are saying. I did theatre and I even volunteered at soup kitchens for the destitute and ecological stuff for a short time. I also did sports. I am not very anxious anymore. I used to be angry and resentful not too long ago. Now I'm just tired. I'm really hoping for a breakthrough. I am autistic, and personally, I Know that the yearning for affection that I have been experiencing for the last 8 years won't be quelled so easily. I just can't ignore that desire for a physical, emotional and intellectual connection. I am still trying to achieve that. I honestly have no regrets about my past decisions. I did everything I could. I'm hoping it's still q work in progress.
What’s 3000 miles away these days? 1/2 a days flight? Take a chance Aaron, better than wallowing! Beautiful walk, kinda reminds me of where I grew up in North Dakota.
EXACTLY. He needs to start taking chances. Life is all about taking chances. Everyone wants a hot young woman next door who finds us appealing, but that's almost never the case. Aaron said he lives in some place where there's very few women and people in general as I remember so obviously he needs to travel
@@terrorsquadlith I have a bad feeling in 5-10 years Aaron is going to have very deep regrets most specifically when it comes to not trying harder to meet women. I mean, he already has regrets at his current age so that will only get worse I think. I’m not trying to minimize his autism though as that plays a huge negative impact on all of this - I just feel that Aaron lets it keep him from trying to approach women
@@brianmeen2158 exactly.. I think his main problem is just not trying hard enough. His autism doesnt even seem too noticable I think he makes it wors by thinking how much of an obstacle it is
@@terrorsquadlith “his autism doesn’t seem too noticeable” It’s a big Mistake to think you can see someone’s autism in videos like this. In all likelihood he is masking to some degree .. I’m On the spectrum and it plays a huge role in hurting my dating/relationship chances. I can attract women fairly easily but everything after that is just frustrating and exhausting. That said, Aarons autism doesn’t seem To be extreme so I definitely agree with you in that he could try to talk to more women locally. I just think his past depression and isolation has led to him feeling extremely strange around women. Tbh most women are going to raise an eyebrow when they run into a good looking guy that is 45 years old that’s never been in a serious relationship! It’s a big red flag .
Sorry to hear your pain man, I am in a similar long season. Man needs purpose and meaning. Relationships and work can provide something to build on and orient from. These are good pursuits, they are good things from God. That said- God, being Life itself, all meaning being within Him and from which everything finds its place and purpose. In Him we move and have our being. St. Augustine says “You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in you.” Others find distractions in good things, but are still not at true rest. He is not far, call out and ask Him to show Himself to you. Praying for you man, that you would find peace with and in God, and that He would bless you with a fulfilling job and wife. 🙏 much love man, keep seeking, don't lose hope
We all live in the same goldfish bowl. I am 34 years old. You're not the only one going through this, and I'm in the UK. My finances and career are probably a bit better off, but you're more attractive than I am, and fitter, and possibly taller I don't know. I'm comfortable with what I am, but if I were going on a first date I'd rather wear your costume. I think the advice about not being hermit-like is good, I bought my house at 25 and have lived alone the past 8 1/2 years, working and saving and doing the "right thing". I thought it was what I had to do, and I stuck to it, but in retrospect it was effectively my choice. I should have been out and about more. I chose to be alone, in a weird way that I didn't realise at the time. It felt like it was forced on me. I could have taken that "take a cooking class" advice but it seemed like a poor, waste of time. I was most probably right, but I could still have tried and known for sure. I realised after COVID I needed to find a social hobby, if something happens it happens, if not I have experience and skills and a hobby I enjoy (Sailing). Don't take the "go out to bars alone" advice. Very few people in those bars seem happy to be there, it's usually the old fellas who go to talk. I go out occasionally with work friends and always end up at a club surrounded by teens, students and old men and women and think "what the fuck are we doing here, I'd rather be somewhere warm and quiet, having a conversation. I can't even hear myself think". You can smell the tension, the angst, old men browsing, old women trying to prove they still have it, young men prowling, young women pretending not to care. Why go somewhere you know you'd rather be somewhere else, if only you had the option or knew where to be? I might be wrong but behind the flashing lights and loud music, I smell a lot of "anywhere but here, but here I am". Try to remain positive, easier said than done, I think we tend to dwell on the dangers, negatives in life. We seek safety, peace and stability, but at some point you can have too much. That keeps us grounded, secure, dependable, not complacent and self-reliant. I'm like a bird, constantly scanning the sky for the hawks, not out of fear but vigilance. If shit happens, so be it, but I don't like the idea of it coming out of nowhere. Some people just see the sparkles and rainbows, rush in and end up creating a big mess that they might not necessarily be able to extricate themselves from. Look at it this way, the way we are, maybe we don't make many friends and don't take many girls/boys home on a Friday night and puke up in the taxi. Maybe we miss more opportunities than we take. But because we are this way, we also don't tend to end up in chaotic, bullshit relationships and situations that we can't get out of, stay out of trouble, never end up on the streets, don't fall off the wagon and don't end up in prison "because that guy looked at me funny!". We see the problem coming down the road, so we dread it longer, but we're not swept away and shocked by it when it comes. When things get loud, we can stay quiet. When things get busy, we can remain calm. They call it a "coping mechanism" but I would say we deal with stress better than most. We cope during the freeze and we flourish during the melt, knowing the freeze will come again. It reminds me of the squirrel and his nuts metaphor. Sometimes people (and ourselves) think we don't have much considering there's so much out there, on the ground, then Winter comes and we remember why we held back. "Dark times trouble me no more". Imagine you had a mess of a life up to this point, a horrible girlfriend, a kid you shouldn't have had, and this career problem had happened. You'd be in an even worse situation. You seem calm about it but I bet this problem is way worse than you're letting on, and I bet you have stores in the bank at least to try to ride a situation like this out. A lot of people don't have enough to get through a parking ticket, let alone a life-changing course of events. Remember, it could always be worse, and it might even get worse before it gets better. Good luck, take care.
Well I despise bars at this point in my life but they are a great place to meet people. Many go there with the intention of meeting someone and are eager to signal they are interested. What other places are good for a guy like Aaron? I would recommend dog parks but he doesn’t have a dog.
Aaron, YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID. People relate to what you are saying in your videos, you are not alone in feeling this way. You are a very strong person for sharing your true thoughts to an audience on the internet, and because of sharing your vulnerability you have connected with many people. You have a built a mostly positive community online which is not so common, this is a very beautiful thing, this is something to be PROUD of. When you were getting upset in the video all I could think of is how badly this country needs to include mental healthcare as a part of primary healthcare. We are living in a mental health crisis, many (including children and teens) have all kinds of anxiety, trauma, and illness they are going through without anyone to talk to about it with. This is a weak spot of this countries healthcare system and is too expensive for people to access. I personally do NOT think 45 is too old to date at all people go through breakups at that age (and my mom dates in her 60's), I believe you can find deep connection with people at any age you are. And I think 45 is actually young (my grandma is in her 90's and still talks to her friends on the phone). Anyways, one thing I know is that if you are not around other people you will not have as many opportunities to get to know someone. With that being said I would try to join activities with other people for example, taking a cycling class a couple times a month or going to church (they're always all about community and you will meet people even if you're not religious), or volunteering at an animal shelter/soup kitchen (should be busier during the holiday season)/school/ whatever is in your area. This would help get you out there and exposed to more people, giving you more potential for connections with people. I know you mentioned your hours have been cut at work, I would try to take this time to find some activities in your area where you can talk to others. I feel like church is an easy place to start, even if you just meet a grandparent at the church one day they may introduce you to their family when they visit for the holidays, people typically try to be open and neighborly there. Seems like a place you'd be able to build relationships over a little bit of time. Sending hope and positive energy your way ✨
I agree with all of that but Aaron’s case is a bit different. Sure, people can find love at any age but an autistic man at 45 years of age that also does not have any relationship experience - this will throw many women off. They will(rightfully so) see this as a big red flag. Now I’m still not sure how much autism affects Aaron but I think it’s to a significant degree especially when it comes to reading signals and cues and socializing .A autistic persons social battery can be shockingly low and trying to navigate around this is very difficult . Plus I’m not sure if Aaron wants kids and this is another layer that brings its own issues
Same. I relate too much to the likes of schaupenhaur, neichtze, cioran, Bukowski to the point where im aware cannot become a normal person, just an actor, an unwilling participant, a sacrifice to other ppl, a sacrifice to my job, my boss, to society. I have to play a long or death, nothing in return but enough to get by only to serve.
A lot of people pretend to be happy in their relationships when in fact they are miserable. On social media people only post the good stuff, who would post all the arguments and bad things that happen? They have to maintain their facade of pure happiness when in reality most relationships are tough. Hence most marriages end in divorce. Something to think about.
Agree and I know a few of those people. They are stuck in unhappy marriages and are petrified of the fallout of divorce and the unknown of starting over so they stay in these shitty relationships.
@@brianmeen2158 yup. People are so worried about what others may think of them, as well as literally being trapped by a kid and/or money. It’s scary out there. Relationships are quite difficult. And as you stated, the the people in the relationship don’t even want to be. Stay strong y’all.
you guys are weird.. Yea, there are families like that, but there are also plenty of good relationships, happy families. So why are you instantly just talking cr..p and presenting the bad examples. There are even more people who are lonely and feel so miserable they end it all because of loneliness. Aaron has siblings and as I understand they have great, loving relationships so stop with your nonsense. You're cowards telling him not to do anything, while the man is clearly unhappy about his current situation, trying to make him ok with being alone and miserable because OH NOOO SOME FAMILIES ARE BAD..
be supportive by painting everything black ???He screams out how depressing it is to be single and you say 'oh being in a relationship is horrible''. Nice support weirdo@@Nicky_Dore
I can be fun, a professional, have resources, fairly attractive, and I'm walking the same path brother. All I can say is hobbies and communities if possible to keep you moving forward.... and maybe something will happen, but don't count on it. ... enjoy your content.
I'm half your age and I know exactly how you feel I'm forced to work a job with a sibling I can't stand and gets easily annoyed with me because of my developmental differences and when I ask for other jobs to do at my job all they tell to do is sweep the floors and clean the bathrooms like I have no brain cells or something it's insulting to say the least and I have no access to any of my money no debit card nothing I have zero life skills and can't live on my own or do anything because my family doesn't trust me to do these things and I can't trust myself either so I'm very lonely and lazy nothing makes me happy except my dog.
You have little time in your own head and you don’t want to settle. You’re so hard on yourself Aaron. Looks is a small part of it. It’s your vibe and your confidence. Look at a honey badger it’s so small yet intimidating to larger predators. Confidence is all a facade. You have the right intentions for love but feel like you’re in quick sand. I know the saying work on yourself is over used and not what you want to hear. You just need to let go of the rope. Surround yourself with good friends and don’t be so stuck on being single. Look at Theo von. He’s about your age and hasn’t found anyone yet. He’s a good looking guy and famous yet still can’t seem to find a mate. Do this for you Aaron. You’re very helpful and inspiring to all of us. You deserve love but love won’t come to you if you are so hyper focused on it and comparing your lives to others. I know I don’t know you in anyway and hope I’m not stepping over any boundaries I’m just attempting to help you get out of your own head. Been a fan since the beginning. Forget what I say and the rest of us say, be true to yourself and don’t give up. “The road to success is littered with loss and struggle, expect to lose, but at the same time; KNOW you will win, not right away but eventually! Failure and success are partners; you cannot have one without the other.”
“It’s your vibe and your confidence” Bingo! I’ve said it multiple times on his videos - to attract decent women a man has to be more upbeat, confident and engaging. I’m pretty sure women are easily picking up on Aaron’s low energy and somewhat pessimistic vibe and getting turned off . So while I totally understand why Aaron feels bad in his current predicament he has to understand that it is only going to repel women even more the longer he is in this negative headspace
Why don’t you have a pet ( dog or cat, parrot, lizard) They are great friends and company… in many cases much better company that a partner As for finding a partner, I think you should really consider a foreign women
you should go into a relationship with someone who might not be 100percent your type. Over time feelings could develop, it happens very often. As you said no tattoos, preferably no kids.. If those are your non negotiable requrements you're eliminating a huge amount of women especially women over 30. Well lets say a woman you find attractive has a kid and a tattoo or two.. Just try talking more, go on a date and see how it goes, dont write them off instantly. Ok, quick google search and 37 percent of women in the USA have tattoos, so if we take out the old women the percentage for younger women is even higher..Then we add that a woman should not have kids.. Damn, then there's really a struggle to find someone
Aaron, I have watched all your videos and I think your anger is justified. unfortunately I do not have a solution. I can only offer you two things: Friendship & Hope. I will offer you my ears, absorb your feelings, and sometimes comment. As for hope, my 43 year old friend just got married and had a daughter. So don't lose hope my friend. Will you be doing more live streams in the future?
Ahh yes Aaron, as a childless(and don’t want kids) 39 year old guy I can identify with trying to date women in our age range and find one that is somewhat attractive, sane and doesn’t have at least 1 kid. It’s extremely difficult if not impossible and I really don’t know a way around this . Add in my autism and very low social battery(I’m usually always on empty in the social energy department) and it’s that much harder. I did meet a cute woman that works locally and she is 33 but then she told Me she had 5 kids and I was like 😳. Another issue is the women in our age range tend to be very hyper critical and on the lookout for any flaws or red flags and I get that to a point but you can’t enter a relationship with that type of mindset and expect it to wrk. Basically they are very jaded and I can sense that from miles away at this point . So yeah it’s definitely a tough situation all around That said I still think the best answer or option is to be more pro active. Try to go out more socially and be around people - smile at women and start up conversations .will it be awkward at times and very draining? Most likely, but relying on dating apps or friends to find someone for you just isn’t wise at this stage of the game ..
What keeps me motivated? I like to support myself and keep my dogs fed - I like to buy nice toys occasionally too. I’ve honestly never wanted kids - that urge was never there for me
@@terrorsquadlith yes that’s the purpose of all living things, to reproduce? I don’t find that weird, maybe you’re just spreading your insecurities, which is ok we all have insecurities at one point or another
Aaron, you calling yourself relatively good looking is an understatment to put it lightly.. You're a chad, you're a very handsome man, VERY. So I get it, you might be struggling in a sense that you want some specific woman type, but please don't tell me you don't have a choice. I see comments on your videos, even your instagram of women wanting to be with you. I am 5'6, struggling and would love to be in your shoes. I would just lower my standards a bit
By your logic, a guy shorter than you for example, and among other struggles, would say there is no excuse and your feelings are invalid and you have a better chance than him. Sometimes looks aren’t gonna be enough to cut it, as Aaron says.
@@purplepride94 well yea, but as I said if Aaron can't how am I supposed to ? Aaron might have too high standards. Woman without kids and no tattoos while he's 45.. He's making things dificult, but I guess you want what you want.
@@purplepride94true but looks are important. I mean, the dates Aaron has been on in the recent years most likely were due to how Aaron looked - if he were average or below average in looks the women most likely would not have even given him a chance. His autism and lingering depression is what is most likely repelling women. I mean, a good test would be to have a below average looking guy make a similar video to Aaron’s and see how many women are interested in dating him. I bet there’s very few if any .. so looks are definitely important but obviously not everything .
@@terrorsquadlith well it’s nuanced . For instance, there’s a guy I grew up with - he’s a local Cop. He’s 5’7, average looking and balding since his 20s yet he is very good with women. He’s been married and divorced twice and has multiple kids and has slept with many of the women in town. He has upbeat personality and good game .. guys can make up for lack of looks(with personality or status) whereas women cannot
I would highly recommend going to a school where you can get a certification for electrician, or a comparable job. Within two years you are looking at $86,000 to $100,000 and can find work anywhere on the planet. There are many jobs for 6 months of School as well
Loved taking a walk with you Aaron. I think acceptance is really important. I've spent the past year recovering from a bad relationship and accepting that I probably won't be finding a new partner for a while. I suspect from what you've said about yourself and your upbringing that you may also be an INFJ. We're pretty rare, it takes a lot for us to click with people and it's difficult (near on impossible) to find other INFJs nearby
I’ve never had the thought you were an incel ever. Man the internet is mean and I’m not sure how you do it. I’m way too sensitive and always want to just hide away lately. Your brave. I hope you know that. I have no answers though. I’m just trying to get through every day myself. I’m wishing you well.
@@terrorsquadlith involuntarily celibate. No sex and not on purpose. Those guys hate women and blame them for their situation. That is NOT what he does at all.
@@daabee236 well the first part is correct, the second one is not. So yes, men who want to have sex but cant are incels, angry or not it depends, they are different. So it's not an insult to call someone who wants sex but cant get it an incel.
Have you considered van life or RV life? I'm a nomad and while technically a wage slave I don't have to pay for housing and can invest and do stuff like that instead.
Hi Aaron, Maybe you can get a certificate on becoming a personal trainer? That’s something related to your hobby of working out. But I also think focusing on producing music would be a good route too. Maybe if that woman who is 3000 miles away is open to you pursuing another career/further education she may be worth it. Too bad though about time and distance, I think I know one or two women who might be good for you. They are not in the Nevada area.
Would you consider dating an older woman? I see lots of women commenting to you on here (including myself) who think you’re awesome but you don’t respond to their comments. Maybe give up on the idea of having kids (to be honest bringing kids into the world right now doesn’t seem like the best idea anyway) in exchange for having true unconditional love and acceptance from a good woman might be something to consider? Also, if you want to just broaden your horizons and try something crazy, come to Australia! I’m autistic, reclusive and struggling but I’m a great listener and could be a good friend for you if just wanna hang out, chat, practice some connection communication stuff. If you don’t mind that I’m in my 50s so not your dream woman but I’m a good human and I would listen and be your friend.
Going to college at your age is a waste of time. Not only is working and managing school insanely difficult. You’re too old to build social circles in college with 18-25 year olds. If your career change is not something stem related or nursing you will just end up in debt
Ageism in the work force is real for men .. do not go to college in your mid 40s for a damn job ... that might have worked in the 1950s .. but not in today's world
Aaron, dont be sorry about letting it out. But honestly.. Could it be that you have your standards too high, or maybe just need to try a bit harder ? Maybe travel even if she's far away, meet and see if there's something mutual..Then just work things out. DUM is willing to travel to Australia to meet a woman, that's the determination you gotta have in life, Aaron.. Yea, it came naturally for some people, but for you if you need to try harder you gotta do it. You're a chad compared to me and to most men in general, so I dont know.. It's hard to give advice to someone who mogs me lol, but defintely don't give up, try college, try going to meet the women, try online dating with your best photos.
It’s obvious Aaron doesn’t try hard enough when it comes to going out socially and approaching women .. he seems to depend solely on dating apps or friends to introduce him to their girlfriends etc etc. he wants women to come to him and this is a big mistake . Is it strange and awkward as a 45 year old guy(with autism) to approach and talk to women? Of course it is but it’s a much more efficient way than just waiting for women to seek him out on dating apps I’m not trying to diminish the social difficulties of autism as I have it and am very hampered by my low social battery. It’s just I realize I have to make things happen and be willing to put in the effort and go through the discomfort. I have a feeling if Aaron doesn’t recognize this then 5 years down the road he will be making another video just like this .
Hey mate, have you ever actually questioned why you need a gf or wife. Or even kids for that matter, because from what I realised is that when people get those things, it’s usually because their lives aren’t exciting/ they don’t have enough problems and they get bored with their lives. Life is like an open world game where you can pick what quests you pick up and complete, intrinsically it has no real meaning and people that start families typically do so out of peer pressure and just to have something to do so their boredom goes away, but this isn’t the only way you can cope with your time on this planet, try picking up as many hobbies as you can and just commit to them and see if it keeps your mind off things mate. Good luck k and I’m rooting for you
@@aaronsjournal139 that’s true Aaron, but humans have consciousness, we can choose if we follow our biological drive or we can go against it, we have the ability of creating our own happiness. Think about how many couples get divorced, or how many parents have a shit family life that started out good, but as they got kids and started making life decisions together they realised they now have to compromise on everything they do and the lack of time they have to do what they want. If your willing to take that chance then go for it mate but keep in mind we all die in the end, you can life 40 years more in a miserable relationship, or you can be stuck with kids who make your life hell for 18 years. Or you can choose to do what brings you joy, maybe even travel the world and meet people from every country. Maybe go skydiving every month, you have a lot more freedom being single!
@@aaronsjournal139 additionally I do agree and see you point in the biological drive thing, but keep in mind when you go down the family route it’s just an endless cycle of reproduction to raise a family for then to raise their family and so on, there is still no real “pourpose”
Do you know how many years that would take man? You would be finished with school by around 50-51. No way you can balance school and work in 4 years and you will be in debt. Also you would be competing with 20-30 year olds in the work force. Their is age discrimination especially for a man entering his 50s
A good question Aaron brought up is if long term isolation has harmed in some way…? I wonder the same thing as i live quite a solitary life(outside of work) and I’ve noticed the older I get the less I like to socialize. Basic small talk can almost be painful at times. I honestly can’t remember the last time I truly wanted to go out and socialize - the times I force myself out socializing feels forced and is always draining. I honestly don’t know if this is due to my autism mixed with a strong dose of introversion or if my brain has shaped itself in this manner due to a more solitary life..? Chicken or egg scenario Can anyone identify with this ? Thoughts?
For me, I have been conditioned my entire life to feel that I am not acceptable. There is something about my brain that makes me move and communicate in a way that almost everyone does not like. It is exhausting and it feels better to not have to deal with the negative treatment I get from people.
Also about the people accusing you of being a fakecel, remember that some people are just blatant trolls. Others are unhinged psychopaths who throw the label incel to tantamount it to misogyny.
I never accused him, but here's my take on it.. I am 5'6, look worse than him and struggle with women. So when I watch someone like Aaron say how he struggles it's like DANG IT.. If he can't find women how am I supposed to do it, he's a gigachad compared to me. So it just feels hopeless then.. But I also watch another called DUM, who is not as good looking as Aaron (DUM is a normie by looks), doesnt have as many subs, but he talks to women all the time, goes to meet them etc and he gives me hope.
@@terrorsquadlith Never conflate a woman seeking 15minutes of fame, or cash for actual charisma. Maybe I'm extremely "black pilled" but that's my take.
To me it feels a lot more like depression. I'm 39, single, but living my best life. A partner would be nice, but in the end you always will be alone. Try and find a purpose, a hobby, go travel, read, exercise, meditate. The grass surely isn't greener at the other side. Imagine 20 yrs of your life being occupied with kids/family just for the sake of being "normal", that is sad.
Aaron!! DUDE!! I’m 59 and I’ve been in this body every single day, no drugs ever, not even pot, living this life and thank God I was granted a fully functional top 5% brain to accompany my life journey. Trust these facts because you don’t know me to trust. PLEASE listen because your crisis are painful and, unnecessary. Alright so, you’re probably a Libra. Even if not directly on the sign, you’re highly influenced by it. Hi. I’m Scorpius. When I was 18, I was in college and cruising the Battery in Charleston when a man in his 40s came up to me at 3am. Yuck. I didn’t do older . So, I wasn’t inclined to listen to his bullshit HOWEVER, what he began to say forever changed my life. When I answered his question: Do you know what date, time and place you were born? (I did) he proceded for an hour to tell me everything I ever thought, felt, believed and wanted in my life. Every fear, doubt, hope I ever knew, because it had been written on paper before I was born. The same is true with you, everyone. There are some complications because the lines between are blurs. However, INDECISION and OVERTHINKING are Libra. They can become your power. The only difference between power and chaos is its ability to be captured and capacitated. If you don’t know what you don’t know, that’s chaos.
You can definitely find fullfillment in a career, and I say go for it! Sure, it might be challenging to start anew, but all the possibilities and new chances you'll get will be worth it. I believe in you! And you've come so far, so I say the risk is worth it. A old friend of mine is too scared to take risks and never really did anything with his life. I hope I'm wrong (I want to be) but he'll probably live at home with his parents until they pass at this rate, and not even then I'm sure he'll understand that staying in the same routines he did as a teenager (spending all your money on video games and junk food) will get him anywhere in life, living off other's expenses. We'll be 30 next year.
*if Loneliness and despair don't drive us over the edge women just out to play with our hearts and emotions can. sometimes we are being protected from such evil happening to us but we just can't see or understand that* ~ A.C. 2023
I haven't watched anything for a few months. Last time I was here you were super excited to get into data analytics. What happened with that? You do sound really, really down now. I understand being disappointed with life, but I think you have a lot to be thankful for. You're not as old as you think, you seem fit and healthy. You live in a country where you have options. Other people's lives aren't simply happening to them, those people are actively building their lives. The alternative is to be a passenger and let things happen, and maybe they will but most likely they won't. You need to build your life and be content with what you have achieved. If that seems too much to handle then I hope you get some therapy or meds to help you along the way. Constantly focusing on what we don't have is a certain path to unhappiness.
I had something called a late teen crisis where I was about to become a senior in high school and graduating soon afterwards and I realized that I didn’t do much compared to many other kids my age who are also making good grades such as extracurricular activities like little league, being part of Boy Scouts, being class president, a good athlete, and a homecoming king. It got so bad that the resource officer got involved. I’ll talk about it in one of the videos I’ll post when I’m ready to share.
Imagine if you could become a DJ.. Dream job, many hot women around, impossible not to find someone.. Also a job that is a lot of fun and your true passion.
@@aaronsjournal139 well I think not. Because you got the looks and also it's not like you're starting from scratch. You got the equipment and know how to use it. Could try doing it part time, maybe add some listings and see how it goes. Even if it stays as a side job would still be absolutely awesome
Yes! I second this! Younger EDM kids love older peeps in the scene… and there’s a huge revival of older EDMers like me reminiscing… check out Ministry of Sound Classical gigs that sell out everywhere! I went to one recently danced my head off, had an absolute blast and 90% of the audience were over 30. I go busking with my saxophone in my 50s. I always think I’m too old but people walking down the street love it and put money in my tin. Always surprises me! I think you’d be a great DJ or offer to produce tracks for other musos and start going to some EDM parties and DANCE!!! th-cam.com/video/iNea1TZqLpc/w-d-xo.htmlsi=5x4Ifeu-ZGOeA31e
It’s a terrible idea at his age. Not only is it hard to work and go to school. At his age going to college for a passion will just end up with him in debt
@@fayelis DID YOU WATCH THE VIDEO ??? He feels miserable, he MUST make changes, whatever it takes. People like you are the worst, you give all the things that could go wrong even though plenty of people make drastic changes in their lives and it works out ESPECIALLY when it's as bad as it is for Aaron now.
@@terrorsquadlith No people like you are the worst. You will just agree with any plan even if its idiotic and will just cause more problems. He is better off just going into trade. He is also too old to have this silly idea that you need to be passionate about your work. Most people are not passionate about their work you can build hobbies around your life.
@@fayelis he lives it, he knows how he feels better than you. He feels miserable, he doesnt like his job at all, did you even watch the video ?? You're giving him advice to be afraid of any real change ffs, the man feels MISERABLE and doesnt need advice from miserable cowards who tell him to be afraid of change
Dawn my gym personal trainer loves what she does and i would not be were i am without her. Becoming a cert. personal trainer is a great way to build a community onto yourself with clients. You establish a real relastionship with people but with the added bonus of the social boundaries established throguh client trainer professionalism. Something i can tell you would enjoy.
@@aaronsjournal139 im curious Aaron if you have desire to have kids? If not your own would you be willing to date a woman with kids? I ask because I’m childless and don’t want kids - this makes trying to find a somewhat attractive and compatible woman in my age range(im 39) extremely difficult. Plus I have looked at the social demands of looking after a child and that’s just not possible. I’m drained almost constantly being single so the idea of having a gf and kids just would put me in the grave lol
Dude, don't go back to school. I think it feels good to TALK about doing things but once you get there it's a different ballgame. You're 45, that ship has sailed, especially if you're not 100% committed and not certain about it. I think you'll end up regretting it and you'll be distracted by the fact you'll be 50 by the time you graduate and won't have free time to cultivate a relationship.
@@aaronsjournal139 he's wrong. You definitely need to make changes your current job has kept you single for long enough. Truckers are infamous for being loners.
@@terrorsquadlith@aaronsjournal139 You're gonna regret wasting the last bit of your 40s chasing a degree that won't make you happy. You're gonna go blind on homework and pile up tuition payments and then you're gonna turn 50. It's for not. Focus on your music and your channel.
Aaron, please eat a doughnut, relax. Enjoy life. It's not the end of the world just because you're perpetually single. These days, many people are single. No one wants to commit anymore. There are so many other things to live for, and women can be a pain in the ass. My dad actually told me to never get married when I was a kid.
My dad told me as a kid he had to leave my mother because if he stayed he would’ve killed her, no joke he said, he would have strangled her. He worked all day long and when he came home to his wife and 2 kids she made terror and went nuclear for whatever reason, she complained about having to stay at home all day and raise children. In the end she cheated on my father and he caught her in the early morning hours when he went to work she was in the car with a cook so they partied all night and dropped her off at the house so my dad saw them making out. He told me this when i was 17 i never knew it before. He also said imagine the feeling going to work like that. My mom was always having issues but she straight up destroyed our whole family and never even apologized. Sick of all that sht
@@There.Is.Only.Now. no sh..t. Well maybe he should've found time for her and the family ? Obviously if all you do is work work work the relationship wont last
Personally I think some people are here to suffer. Maybe its copium but when I suffer I think of the verse in the bible "Behold, I have refined you, but not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction".
This sounds cliche and please pardon the pun, but you are not alone. The problem you have also affects a very large portion of the male population, regardless of any neuro divergency. It's just how the world is right now. Women just aren't into average or even above average guys anymore. We're on our own. So what do you with a buggy whip in a car world? You can put it on the mantle and reminisce about a time gone by, I guess. Or repurpose it into a fishing pole? What else is there for us to do?
Take a year or two off go travel the world. Many countries its cheaper to travel through per month than your bills. Theres a lot of adventure out there...
I don’t know you from Adam buddy, just landed on ya channel but what really scares me about you is you mayyy fall head over heels for some woman, kinda any women that comes along your way. And IF she was to take advantage of you, or cheat on you Etc, it would probably break your heart. I’m 58 and I’ve had a few relationships over the years, Not loads but a few and been married twice so I have some experience, and have been dumped …… as you Americans say ……S**t happens. I’m guessing here, but I guess you have little confidence in yourself, maybe a low self esteem, or lack a bit of a sense of humour that women love ……. But those are things you can learn, and build up …… don’t worry buddy, this Brit will teach it all to you 😁 Just don’t blame me when woman are all over you like a Rash ……and they will be. I remember about 20 years ago or so, this guy I started working with taught me some basic Confidence building techniques, OMG …… wasn’t long before I had 4 or 5 female friends. What do Females Love, Sense of Humour obviously, or And Money Obviously, if a guy doesn’t have money is that the be haul and end of it, of course Not! Loadssssss of different things come into play, you should see females around be when I’m in the states, Why because they Love my accent, because I’m English. Buttttt bear in mind, I’m not interested in having 9 females on the go, I just wanna date one. I don’t know if you’ve ever been to England, but you would probably experience a totally different reaction from females in the U.K. because you have things that are different, your an American, you have an accent, just like I do when I’m in America. I’m single here right now, for a few different reasons, no British women wants to hear me talking about America a lot like I do. That said, I don’t go to bars here in the U.K., or some other place’s cinema Etc, so if ya don’t put ya self out there in places where your likely to meet a female, chances are ya not going to meet one. People will say, you could meet a female in a grocery store, yes of course you could but what we gonna do, go hang out in Kroger 24/7 ……lmao
If you REALLY believe that looks aren't everything, then you should stay far away from dating apps. You aren't going to attract the women that you want and the women that you want will see you for a millisecond before swiping left. Don't believe what people/women SAY, just watch what they DO. You gotta be real with yourself. You're a 44 year old truck driver on the spectrum. Temper your expectations with both your professional and dating life. Maybe it's not OVER, but you're not in your prime either. Neither am I. That's just life.
I feel like you're in those typical cycles of thoughts people who have depression or addicts have too. I think it's called rumination. I know many people who are perpetually single Aaron. You are not alone or even special because of that. I think a big part of why you feel bad about it is related to ego i.e because single people often feel worthless because nobody "chose" them, but then you have to ask yourself if you really made the effort or even make the effort and you have realistic goals to meet someone. As a guy you have to work a lot lot more for a relationship than women. I mean some guys get lucky and just happen to be at the right place and the right time but remember that the good girls are often taken. You're right at the good age to meet divorced normal women like around 35 to 40. Not to mention the many single women in that category. To me you don't really sound like your personality is the problem. Based on these videos if you did not say it I wouldn't even have guessed you're on the spectrum. And you're also quite good looking, so I assume it's simply a lack of effort or at least not doing enough to actually up your chances. Living with a woman is also not magic, it's not something you cannot learn at any age. It's literally like living with any other person like roomates or flatmates etc. I think you built these mental blocks that since you have never done it you cannot do it now or something. I have lived with 3 long term girlfriends then I was single for 5 years and now living with a girl again and had to re-learn a lot of stuff because after being single for long you will have to adjust, but she had to too. There is nothing complicated or special there, it's normal, even if you lived with someone before it's now a new relationship with a new person. What I'm saying is that in every relationship we start from zero, your previous "experience" hardly matters. Same for sex btw because every person is different and you need time to learn each other. I'd say leave the dating apps and go talk to people in real life. Since this video is about a hike I'd recommend hiking groups and even just when solo hiking you can talk to a lot of people, many of them similarly are single and not on dating apps. Many many women are not on dating apps btw and so really the only way to meet them is in real life.
I think a part of it has to do with acceptance. If you want women to accept you for who you are you should do the same for them. You are probably turning away women because they are overweight (which weight can be lost) and they might have the most loving heart in the world. I'm not saying you should settle if you feel that's what you would be doing but give a chance to someone you would normally write off. If you want a chance then they are probably looking for one as well.
Can tell you that your life is not the worst. Atleast you have your own place Not putting up with looser reject flatmates at 45 🤔 Lonelyness sucks However you could also be in a relationship where you argue all the time. Look up people who secretly wish they never had children
WHY DO YOU PRESENT THE BAD RELATIONSHIPS THOUGH ? Why does this channel attract all these weird people who only see negative stuff ? He could also be in a great LOVING relationship, why dont you say that ?? He could find a loving woman who will change his life, make him find a new meaning, new motivation, travels togetther, hikes, evenings watching movies it's ALL BETTER WITH A LOVING WOMAN. Why you only present the negatives, the man is desperate alone and you weirdos put him down saying that even if he finds someone it would still be bad.. WHY ??? WHY SHOULD IT BE BAD, WHY SO NEGATIVE ?
@@terrorsquadlith Bad is a subjective term Highest Probability is always what one should aim for You interpreted my response as bad However I do not believe in toxic positivity. It is less about bad and more about valuing what you have now by comparison. Ideal is what everyone craves Ideal is not what everyone gets Also for calling people weird who don't agree with you... Seams to be more a reflection on yourself.
nice trail but ... i think you need protection from animals around that area. men you a bit older than me but dont get depress and stress about it. im dealing the same battle as you ... shitty job, no gf, 5-5 tall i guess denied almost everytime and sometimes they get you with the ohh you broke, you dont make enough money. i think i mentioned in one of the comments acouple months ago.. check out to go to ASIA... thailand, phillipines etc ... come up with a plan. i see a 23 yr old guy youtubers with the same subscribers as you .. and he mentioned in one of his videos that he pays rent with it in thailand or something like that ... so is not only you.. there even younger men fed up with western lifestyle in here. im 34 yrs old and i dont think i will stay in this country in my olders years.
make something with your channel, i dont know, show your music, create content about it, i make music since 2012 and i have 17 subs, you have 15000, you have an audience, use it
Maybe try going to a bar by yourself for a few drinks? Worst case scenario people wonder who's that strange guy sitting by himself best case scenario you meet your life partner or have casual fun.
Bad advice. The bar is not a place where you will meet strong successful men who will help him become the best version of himself. The bar is also not the place where a man should look for a future wife. Right now, he should be focused on how to get his life in order: get a better paying job, maintaining his fitness, learning game with women. He needs to grow right now. Not drink away his problems.
Last thing he needs is casual fun(I'm assuming you're talking about sex) which would greatly increase his chance of getting a std or other sexually transmitted disease. He's trying to improve his life, not destroy it. I agree with snotro, VERY bad advise, say no to bars and strip clubs.
@@snotrohmitabc123 he didn’t mean Aaron should go get drunk at the bar - he simply meant that Aaron should go to a bar and smile and talk to women. I agree that this is a good option although that’s usually aren’t a fun place for people with autism .
@@aaronsjournal139 Well the Fantastic news is, those things can be changed! We are Not born with a High Self Esteem, and we are Not born with High Confidence. Those things are Developed over time. Do you use Self Help Tools?? And No buddy I’m not going to try sell you any Honest ……lol
Dont end up like George Alfred Sodini. I was watching Dr Todd Grandes last video and I couldnt help but think of you. Also the fact that you delete comments sonds like you have a bad temper so maybe you should look into that.
@@aaronsjournal139 that's okay then, and I liked your little outburst of anger and frustration towards the end, anger is good sometimes. But what I know, that's just my opinion.
My Uncle Andy was an atheist all his life, and then he was dying of cancer and that's when he accepted Jesus Christ as his Lord and savior. But I'm glad my uncle accepted Christ before he died.
I'm just going to give you some of Matthew 24 scripture in the Bible. At that time many will turn away from the faith and will betray and hate each other and many false prophets will appear deceive many people because in the increase in wickedness the love of most will wax cold but whoever survives to the end will be saved. That means it's going to be very rough times ahead.. Bible prophecy is key to understanding the day and age that we live. I have never seen such a time to there's just so much wickedness. I hope you find what you're looking for in terms of a woman to share your life with. And from my experience with women they're just nothing but a bunch of gold digging hoes. I'm a realist' I look at things realistically and logically...
I am absolutely done with women I'm 48 years old work a full-time job have my own place and I realize I'm going to die alone but you know I really don't give a damn. You need to man up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. The world is not the way it used to be in my parents' generation. I accepted the fact that I will never have what my father had so let it be written so let it be done.
hey you were preaching in your other comments and now you sound angry.. You can't do that, Aaron doesnt need to accept lonely life, he's getting chances to meet someone all the time
You think your psyche is wrecked now? Try inviting a woman to live with you, who will only pretend to love you, so you can not only provide her shelter but money as well. Only to have her cheat on you and even bring men to your apartment when you're gone. Then when she'll find a new sponsor she'll drop you like a hot potato without a milligram of remorse. That's the average woman. You're dodging a bullet so be happy.
Aaron, you are sexy, you are hot, but I get the feeling that you need to try harder. Not just wait for women to reach out to you. You are like a Chad, it's simply not possible for you to not find a woman if you put in the effort. But man maybe you have some very specific requirements ? Do they have to be young, like up to 30 years old ? Not saying that it's you, but.. There are some people, mostly women who look good and want that 10/10 hottest guy and when they dont get him they complain how lonely they feel, how no one wants them even though they have hundreds of men simping for them all over.. All they would need to do is just lower their standards a litte bit. You say you want a woman with no kids .. Ok, fair, probably we all want that, but you're 45 so that is really difficult to get now. If she's single no kids and in her 30ies or 40ies then she most likely wont be good looking.. Or just something definitely off about her.. Good women get married, have kids at that age so yea.. And honestly, it's probably possible for you to find a sexy young girl, but if you see it's too difficult definitely lower standards and see how it goes.
Yep I just turned 45 and I had a hard look at myself. I realized having kids was no longer a possibility. Although men can still biologically produce offspring but finding a fertile woman is the biggest issue. I then accepted that I’ll most likely have to date a single mom. So I joined a church and finding the best option. Well I had my first date last night then went to church today with her. So we spent at least half the weekend together.
he can find a hot single mom, but yea definitely needs to change his standards. Not saying it's impossible to find a single young girl, but much harder for sure
@@bambooforrests of course. He's a chad, why would he date overweight, unattractive women. No one actually wants to date them, just that some guys have no choice
Aaron If this is too personal feel free to tell me off, I am just curious. You have no kids, no divorce to pay for. Your 40 and living in a small apartment which I assume means its cheap. Have you been trucking the whole time? I had heard truckers make decent money. I feel like your finances with your cost of living should actually be pretty good. Wondering if it might be worth looking into some budgeting and investing advice like Caleb Hammer on youtube.
Man, I hope you will read this: you are not alone. I am in a similar situation, I struggle with anxiety and depression, and I feel like I lost the last 10 years of my life. Thank you for sharing your struggles and making me feel less alone.
How much do you actually know about depression & anxiety??
The reason I ask is because I just explained a few things to a young American woman.
Hi from England 👍
There is no intrinsic meaning to life, only the meaning we give to it.
Do what makes you happy.
Enjoy nature and the beauty of life, food, music.
Just cause you are alone doesnt mean you will suffer a life unfulfilled.
Here for you.
-a fellow single middle aged trucker
Hi from South Africa,
Aaron, may I suggest the following:
If you keep saying and believing that there is no-one for you and nothing left for you, that is exactly what you will receive… no-one and nothing.
Start changing your words by saying the opposite everyday, repeat what you want as if you already have it, in present tense. In days and months your life will change. You will attract the life you want.
Stop comparing yourself with other people. You are on your own journey of life. Good luck Aaron!
Dude, none of this job, money or ambition stuff was ever even our idea in the first place. It was someone else's. Never forget that.
💯
Those damn capitalists
@@TheJok3rMan Thats not really what I meant, I'm not a commie. What I meant was that you need to remind yourself to not let your source of happiness and contentment get hijacked by the expectations of other people or by society. Or even worse, what you think those expectations of others might be.
@@eyepodwalkman6247 No worries, I’m not a commie (I’m from Eastern Europe, those people literally destroyed my country lol) but I have to admit that neomarxists still have some good observations about capitalism, I mean capitalism did have a very strong effect on culture in the west.. all those expectations of other people and society are heavily influenced by capitalism in my opinion.
I feel ya man, guys of all ages are going through the exact same thing. It's a pity that people can't hear us
We do hear you. Time for you guys to rebuild yourselves into strong , capable men. Get your sht together.
@@snotrohmitabc123just get your shit together bro.
@@snotrohmitabc123 For a society that hates men? No thanks. Everyone I know turned their backs on me for not taking the jab(s), I haven't been back to the workforce since and have zero interest in ever returning. I've done hundreds of gals in asia & sth america but western gals are just too toxic & hateful towards men. So hard pass. Quite happy to watch the west burn and then retire in asia. The rest of u compliant sheep made your beds, u can lay in it
I hate this new gender stuff. Why do we have to hyper focus on identity groups? Besides, It’s not only guys that are lost - I know plenty of women that are just as confused .
@@brianmeen2158 Best thing u can do is focus on yourself and just enjoy life. Lot of men are withdrawing their labor and walking away, it's been the best thing for my health and mental well being that I've ever done.
This walk and talk should be a video series
Don't go back to school if you have no plan. You're setting yourself up to fail. Learn how money works and follow the money. If you're not cut out to study, enter a trade. I hear it makes good money. There is potential for you to make enough to eventually afford a home within 5 years. As a man, the best you can do is not to chase women, but chase your mission. Do that, and you will attract the right woman. Your mission, above all else, is YOU. Never stop improving. Life is about growth and learning from your mistakes. The more painful the mistake, the more meaningful the lesson. If you hate your life now, do everything you can to change yourself. Build mental toughness and solve your problems proactively. Love yourself.
Going back to school and working is hard
Just world fallacy, if everyone works hard they can accomplish their goals; this is not true in the real world. The only women he can attract that he would be attracted to back are found in South East Asia.
Finally someone who is a realist. Well said.
I think every man should have a goals they are going for or already have a good career,job
If guy is just floating women are not attracted to that
@@lenajazuk4231 sir he is 45 years old he is well beyond that
Hey Aaron, I know the deep pain of being alone, feeling empty and alienated.
Just my two cents on this:
As hard as it sounds, but don't focus too much on your loneliness and desperation. Focus on what you're in power of.
1. You don't feel like living life and the best cure for that is a real rush of adrenaline. It sounds silly but it works. Our forefathers fought mammoths and had to push themselves to the edges of life and we have lost that in our modern world. Go sky diving, bungee jumping or get a ride on a wild rollercoaster. The adrenaline will give you instant relief and momentum to take action.
2. Try out different spots like martial arts, climbing, paragliding, dancing - focus on shorts that people usually get into when they're older). Don't be afraid of being the newbie and get into it not with the goal to become an expert, but just to enrich your life with experiences and the feeling of being in power.
3. Travel abroad! Honestly: It's the easiest way to get the feeling of filling life with meaningful experiences and become interesting on the dating market. Traveling alone is great and doesn't make you look like a loner as long as you travel in a way that opens up your chances of getting to know other people. So stay in hostels not in hotels, check in in three to six bed rooms - then it'll be very easy to meet other people and ask them out if they wanna check out the place together or having a drink together. It's very easy to find company in those places. A country that is very easy to travel to is Japan. It's very save, interesting, unique and the people love westerners. Places where you can find very interesting mates are countries that are a little bit unusual to travel to like Eastern Europe (like Poland, Serbia, the Baltic states or Albania), Morocco, or Sri Lanka.
In general don't focus on what you lack (a significant other) but on what you can aquire right now.
Don't go to school if you don't have an exact plan and a very, very specific goal. Back in school you'd most likely feel just more depressed as most of the people there are younger and you won't feel like fitting in. If you wanna learn something new, try out some online courses to see if it really fits you.
Hope that helps. I'm cheering for you. You're stronger than you think. My best wishes from Germany.
I’m 50. Your story and mine are freakishly the same. You’re not alone xo.
YESSSSS.. YES HE IS!! IDiotic comments like this don't help
Hang in there Aaron, I suffer from social anxiety and a speech impediment which also hinders me in life but I try to keep a positive attitude for the most part. I deeply appreciate your content. Thank you
James from Toronto 🇨🇦
Many of us feel the same way, that's why we watch your channel for emotional support. Being in a relationship means more to me than just liking someone; it's about having that connection, which I've struggled with. I'd say focus on getting new employment first so you can pay your bills and then consider school again, as there's many options out there, but I'd say trade school would suit you quite well. Australia has a shortage of bus drivers with 6 figure range, so look at all transport related jobs, including courier work too.
I've also had the thought, I can't be ageing when my life hasn't started yet...
I also ignored my talents and am now in a job I hate...the key is to just make the decision and FORGE down that path. Let the pain of the past motivate you.
Hey Aaron we all feel your pain . I am sorry it is so hard. A long term relationship is not something that comes naturally to most other people. If you look at society collectively, most of us are unmarried or divorced. Transportation is a necessity everywhere. Are you sure you cannot find work in the area your potential love intetest lives? I know that means an interruption to your current social circle. Please know you are not alone in the pain that you feel.
I agree, about his work prospects. In fact, I don’t think Aaron keeps in mind how specialized truck driving can get and how additional training can make him more money. Hazmat haulers and vacuum truck operators can make decent money with overtime plus good benefits.
Wow! What a beautiful place to take a long walk! I’m envious! Anyway.. if you also feel like this woman 3000 miles away is your type and you click please pursue it! Don’t let distance stand in the way of possible love. ❤
exactly. You gotta do it, see how desperate you sound in your video but then you also talk about not going to meet women.. Yea she's far, but this time you go to her, maybe next time she will travel to you. Also you're at a point thinking of changing your career, so maybe even move to her. You need to start taking chances
Really enjoyed this walk and talk, but sorry to hear you are struggling at the moment. Sending you lots of positive vibes ❤
Yaaaaa. That’ll help sooooo much
@@jcransome5616 Comments like this could lighten someone's mood even just a fraction. That's definitionally better than nothing.
@@SOak145 females don't understand the male struggle, it's actually disrespectful for a woman to come on this channel and leave a comment like that because it comes off as gloating and insincere.
oh shut, up, she was just trying to lighten his mood@@raoulmoat6762
Worried about you near the end of the video .. feel your pain of being alone .. is tough isn’t it … but when u are really looking for love it doesn’t come .
Sometimes Woman is loving us by protecting us. Animal Instinct
@Yvonne123 It's a perfectly good reason it's not happening naturally right? he's blessed and don't get it
@Yvonne123 Younger men that have never been there though believe that is the one thing that would complete and make them happy. I was there once myself. Sometimes the things we think we want and need will be the thing making us the most miserable. guess it's just human nature maybe.I'm sure you understand what they believe they are missing out on the most and I can feel empathy for that but we both know it's not gonna fix anything or complete anyone. I used to believe having several thousand dollars would fix all my problems until I actually saved that much and found not much changed really. I still wanted what others had because i thought it must be the answer LOL
If you weren't single,
And had kids,
You couldn't make too many chages to your lifes path if you wanted to.
Always a positive side.
Freedom is an awesome thing, n not just relationship freedom.
Hang in there Aaron. Dont beat yourself up about stuff you cant control. Ask me how i know 😀
That’s the problem I see with Aaron - he views things in a very black-white way. Sure, being autistic and single at 45 has its problems but it’s better to be that way as opposed to being a 45 year old guy recently divorced with a ex wife that hates him and kids that he needs to support . Then he would have no freedom to move around
Telling people how it could be worse is not helpful, because realistically it could always be worse. Obviously it is not his goal to be married/divorced from a terrible person. And, there are significant positives to even the bad situation of divorced with kids, because usually being a father enriches a man's life and gives him purpose. I'm not saying to have kids just for that purpose, but in comparison to a meaningless loveless life... I mean let's just say I know divorced people who live for and love their kids more than anything. A perpetually empty and isolated life is not better than this, no matter how much perceived freedom one has to do whatever they want. He wants love and purpose in his life, something to live for other than himself.
@@davec3651I completely get your point but I’m just trying to get Aaron to step back and see the bigger picture - in that had he made different choices he’d have a different set of problems. In place of his loneliness would be stress or sone other issue that comes with relationships. Besides, this is really one of the only things that helps me feel a bit better in my position. I’m very similar to Aaron and when it gets bad I try to recognize that maybe had I made other choices - my life could be worse. Is it rational? I’m not sure but it helps me a bit
I changed my career last year for the 2nd time and it was really worth it! Feeling fulfilled and happy in your job is important I believe, you spend a lot of time doing your job.
I also met many new people there including a nice man, after being single for 7 years at age 42. I have felt similar to you for a long time and I thought it would never happen for me anymore. We ended things for other reasons but it's a good experience for both of us and we are friends now.
So I would say yes do it, enroll in the new classes and expand your horizon.
Aaron, listen to this man. When you are feeling bad about your life MAKE CHANGES, everything seems more difficult before you start. Like ohh, but I will need to do this and that, and it's so much work.. But once you start you will see it's easier than it first seemed.
Definitely make changes, take action, good things happen to those who try.
The UPS in downtown LA say they are hiring and they just signed a good labor contract.
Fucking hell i'm 23 and i feel so shit being lonely. I am literally scrambling like a maniac trying to save myself. I've been doing it for years but i'm really ramping it up now. I'm risking it all for that sweet sweet biscuit, even if the cookie crumbles i want to stick my hand in that jar at least one time. It's been out of reach for so long. And now it's tantalizingly close, yet so motherf*cking far away.
A glimmer of hope grants me desperate strength, i must keep going, whatever the cost.
I've mentioned this in another post of Aaron's and I have a similar story. I will give you the advice I'd give my younger self. Try to get into some form of volunteering(pet rescue, community clean up, and etc.). This will give you a sense of helping out and community working with others. I'd highly suggest working on your social skills(improv lessons, Toastmasters, and etc.). I did this and it really helped me out with my social anxiety and communication skills. I would tell this to any single person(autistic or not) to just try to focus on living an enjoyable life. There comes a point where the dating options won't be that great and it isn't worth the headaches to pursue one.
@@brettdavis4 I understand what you are saying. I did theatre and I even volunteered at soup kitchens for the destitute and ecological stuff for a short time. I also did sports.
I am not very anxious anymore. I used to be angry and resentful not too long ago. Now I'm just tired. I'm really hoping for a breakthrough.
I am autistic, and personally, I Know that the yearning for affection that I have been experiencing for the last 8 years won't be quelled so easily. I just can't ignore that desire for a physical, emotional and intellectual connection.
I am still trying to achieve that. I honestly have no regrets about my past decisions. I did everything I could. I'm hoping it's still q work in progress.
What’s 3000 miles away these days? 1/2 a days flight? Take a chance Aaron, better than wallowing! Beautiful walk, kinda reminds me of where I grew up in North Dakota.
EXACTLY. He needs to start taking chances. Life is all about taking chances. Everyone wants a hot young woman next door who finds us appealing, but that's almost never the case. Aaron said he lives in some place where there's very few women and people in general as I remember so obviously he needs to travel
@@terrorsquadlith I have a bad feeling in 5-10 years Aaron is going to have very deep regrets most specifically when it comes to not trying harder to meet women. I mean, he already has regrets at his current age so that will only get worse I think. I’m not trying to minimize his autism though as that plays a huge negative impact on all of this - I just feel that Aaron lets it keep him from trying to approach women
@@brianmeen2158 exactly.. I think his main problem is just not trying hard enough. His autism doesnt even seem too noticable I think he makes it wors by thinking how much of an obstacle it is
@@terrorsquadlith “his autism doesn’t seem too noticeable”
It’s a big
Mistake to think you can see someone’s autism in videos like this. In all likelihood he is masking to some degree .. I’m
On the spectrum and it plays a huge role in hurting my dating/relationship chances. I can attract women fairly easily but everything after that is just frustrating and exhausting. That said, Aarons autism doesn’t seem
To be extreme so I definitely agree with you in that he could try to talk to more women locally. I just think his past depression and isolation has led to him feeling extremely strange around women. Tbh most women are going to raise an eyebrow when they run into a good looking guy that is 45 years old that’s never been in a serious relationship! It’s a big red flag .
Sorry to hear your pain man, I am in a similar long season. Man needs purpose and meaning. Relationships and work can provide something to build on and orient from. These are good pursuits, they are good things from God. That said- God, being Life itself, all meaning being within Him and from which everything finds its place and purpose. In Him we move and have our being. St. Augustine says “You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in you.” Others find distractions in good things, but are still not at true rest. He is not far, call out and ask Him to show Himself to you. Praying for you man, that you would find peace with and in God, and that He would bless you with a fulfilling job and wife. 🙏 much love man, keep seeking, don't lose hope
Best comment but I'd add find JESUS not any little g god but the only God of the Holy Bible
We all live in the same goldfish bowl. I am 34 years old. You're not the only one going through this, and I'm in the UK. My finances and career are probably a bit better off, but you're more attractive than I am, and fitter, and possibly taller I don't know. I'm comfortable with what I am, but if I were going on a first date I'd rather wear your costume. I think the advice about not being hermit-like is good, I bought my house at 25 and have lived alone the past 8 1/2 years, working and saving and doing the "right thing". I thought it was what I had to do, and I stuck to it, but in retrospect it was effectively my choice. I should have been out and about more. I chose to be alone, in a weird way that I didn't realise at the time. It felt like it was forced on me. I could have taken that "take a cooking class" advice but it seemed like a poor, waste of time. I was most probably right, but I could still have tried and known for sure. I realised after COVID I needed to find a social hobby, if something happens it happens, if not I have experience and skills and a hobby I enjoy (Sailing).
Don't take the "go out to bars alone" advice. Very few people in those bars seem happy to be there, it's usually the old fellas who go to talk. I go out occasionally with work friends and always end up at a club surrounded by teens, students and old men and women and think "what the fuck are we doing here, I'd rather be somewhere warm and quiet, having a conversation. I can't even hear myself think". You can smell the tension, the angst, old men browsing, old women trying to prove they still have it, young men prowling, young women pretending not to care. Why go somewhere you know you'd rather be somewhere else, if only you had the option or knew where to be? I might be wrong but behind the flashing lights and loud music, I smell a lot of "anywhere but here, but here I am".
Try to remain positive, easier said than done, I think we tend to dwell on the dangers, negatives in life. We seek safety, peace and stability, but at some point you can have too much. That keeps us grounded, secure, dependable, not complacent and self-reliant. I'm like a bird, constantly scanning the sky for the hawks, not out of fear but vigilance. If shit happens, so be it, but I don't like the idea of it coming out of nowhere. Some people just see the sparkles and rainbows, rush in and end up creating a big mess that they might not necessarily be able to extricate themselves from. Look at it this way, the way we are, maybe we don't make many friends and don't take many girls/boys home on a Friday night and puke up in the taxi. Maybe we miss more opportunities than we take. But because we are this way, we also don't tend to end up in chaotic, bullshit relationships and situations that we can't get out of, stay out of trouble, never end up on the streets, don't fall off the wagon and don't end up in prison "because that guy looked at me funny!". We see the problem coming down the road, so we dread it longer, but we're not swept away and shocked by it when it comes. When things get loud, we can stay quiet. When things get busy, we can remain calm. They call it a "coping mechanism" but I would say we deal with stress better than most. We cope during the freeze and we flourish during the melt, knowing the freeze will come again. It reminds me of the squirrel and his nuts metaphor. Sometimes people (and ourselves) think we don't have much considering there's so much out there, on the ground, then Winter comes and we remember why we held back. "Dark times trouble me no more".
Imagine you had a mess of a life up to this point, a horrible girlfriend, a kid you shouldn't have had, and this career problem had happened. You'd be in an even worse situation. You seem calm about it but I bet this problem is way worse than you're letting on, and I bet you have stores in the bank at least to try to ride a situation like this out. A lot of people don't have enough to get through a parking ticket, let alone a life-changing course of events. Remember, it could always be worse, and it might even get worse before it gets better.
Good luck, take care.
that's why we gotta live NOW, take the chances, travel, meet new people, change work if needed.
@@terrorsquadlith Memento mori.
Well I despise bars at this point in my life but they are a great place to meet people. Many go there with the intention of meeting someone and are eager to signal they are interested. What other places are good for a guy like Aaron? I would recommend dog parks but he doesn’t have a dog.
Appreciated your comment, its a nice perspective on it.
Aaron,
YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID.
People relate to what you are saying in your videos, you are not alone in feeling this way. You are a very strong person for sharing your true thoughts to an audience on the internet, and because of sharing your vulnerability you have connected with many people. You have a built a mostly positive community online which is not so common, this is a very beautiful thing, this is something to be PROUD of.
When you were getting upset in the video all I could think of is how badly this country needs to include mental healthcare as a part of primary healthcare. We are living in a mental health crisis, many (including children and teens) have all kinds of anxiety, trauma, and illness they are going through without anyone to talk to about it with. This is a weak spot of this countries healthcare system and is too expensive for people to access.
I personally do NOT think 45 is too old to date at all people go through breakups at that age (and my mom dates in her 60's), I believe you can find deep connection with people at any age you are. And I think 45 is actually young (my grandma is in her 90's and still talks to her friends on the phone).
Anyways, one thing I know is that if you are not around other people you will not have as many opportunities to get to know someone. With that being said I would try to join activities with other people for example, taking a cycling class a couple times a month or going to church (they're always all about community and you will meet people even if you're not religious), or volunteering at an animal shelter/soup kitchen (should be busier during the holiday season)/school/ whatever is in your area. This would help get you out there and exposed to more people, giving you more potential for connections with people.
I know you mentioned your hours have been cut at work, I would try to take this time to find some activities in your area where you can talk to others. I feel like church is an easy place to start, even if you just meet a grandparent at the church one day they may introduce you to their family when they visit for the holidays, people typically try to be open and neighborly there. Seems like a place you'd be able to build relationships over a little bit of time.
Sending hope and positive energy your way ✨
I agree with all of that but Aaron’s case is a bit different. Sure, people can find love at any age but an autistic man at 45 years of age that also does not have any relationship experience - this will throw many women off. They will(rightfully so) see this as a big red flag. Now I’m still not sure how much autism affects Aaron but I think it’s to a significant degree especially when it comes to reading signals and cues and socializing .A autistic persons social battery can be shockingly low and trying to navigate around this is very difficult . Plus I’m not sure if Aaron wants kids and this is another layer that brings its own issues
your opinion is worthless.. YOU DON"T RELATE!!
@@brianmeen2158 I do believe that he talked about wanting kids but due to his age, the window for that is closing more and more.
Aaron, sincerely, you are such a beautiful and genuine guy. I'm sure that women are secretly much more attracted to you than you believe.
secretly ? There's no secret about it. They're begging him to come to them.
Stop virtue signaling, you all know if you met him you would leave him due to his autistic personality, it’s just facts
Cathartic rant, thanks heaps.
Same. I relate too much to the likes of schaupenhaur, neichtze, cioran, Bukowski to the point where im aware cannot become a normal person, just an actor, an unwilling participant, a sacrifice to other ppl, a sacrifice to my job, my boss, to society. I have to play a long or death, nothing in return but enough to get by only to serve.
A lot of people pretend to be happy in their relationships when in fact they are miserable. On social media people only post the good stuff, who would post all the arguments and bad things that happen? They have to maintain their facade of pure happiness when in reality most relationships are tough. Hence most marriages end in divorce. Something to think about.
Agree and I know a few of those people. They are stuck in unhappy marriages and are petrified of the fallout of divorce and the unknown of starting over so they stay in these shitty relationships.
@@brianmeen2158 yup. People are so worried about what others may think of them, as well as literally being trapped by a kid and/or money. It’s scary out there. Relationships are quite difficult. And as you stated, the the people in the relationship don’t even want to be. Stay strong y’all.
you guys are weird.. Yea, there are families like that, but there are also plenty of good relationships, happy families. So why are you instantly just talking cr..p and presenting the bad examples. There are even more people who are lonely and feel so miserable they end it all because of loneliness. Aaron has siblings and as I understand they have great, loving relationships so stop with your nonsense.
You're cowards telling him not to do anything, while the man is clearly unhappy about his current situation, trying to make him ok with being alone and miserable because OH NOOO SOME FAMILIES ARE BAD..
@@terrorsquadlith get a life. I’m just trying to be supportive. There are two sides to every coin.
be supportive by painting everything black ???He screams out how depressing it is to be single and you say 'oh being in a relationship is horrible''. Nice support weirdo@@Nicky_Dore
I can be fun, a professional, have resources, fairly attractive, and I'm walking the same path brother. All I can say is hobbies and communities if possible to keep you moving forward.... and maybe something will happen, but don't count on it. ... enjoy your content.
I'm half your age and I know exactly how you feel I'm forced to work a job with a sibling I can't stand and gets easily annoyed with me because of my developmental differences and when I ask for other jobs to do at my job all they tell to do is sweep the floors and clean the bathrooms like I have no brain cells or something it's insulting to say the least and I have no access to any of my money no debit card nothing I have zero life skills and can't live on my own or do anything because my family doesn't trust me to do these things and I can't trust myself either so I'm very lonely and lazy nothing makes me happy except my dog.
You have little time in your own head and you don’t want to settle. You’re so hard on yourself Aaron. Looks is a small part of it. It’s your vibe and your confidence. Look at a honey badger it’s so small yet intimidating to larger predators. Confidence is all a facade. You have the right intentions for love but feel like you’re in quick sand. I know the saying work on yourself is over used and not what you want to hear. You just need to let go of the rope. Surround yourself with good friends and don’t be so stuck on being single. Look at Theo von. He’s about your age and hasn’t found anyone yet. He’s a good looking guy and famous yet still can’t seem to find a mate. Do this for you Aaron. You’re very helpful and inspiring to all of us. You deserve love but love won’t come to you if you are so hyper focused on it and comparing your lives to others. I know I don’t know you in anyway and hope I’m not stepping over any boundaries I’m just attempting to help you get out of your own head. Been a fan since the beginning. Forget what I say and the rest of us say, be true to yourself and don’t give up. “The road to success is littered with loss and struggle, expect to lose, but at the same time; KNOW you will win, not right away but eventually! Failure and success are partners; you cannot have one without the other.”
“It’s your vibe and your confidence”
Bingo! I’ve said it multiple times on his videos - to attract decent women a man has to be more upbeat, confident and engaging. I’m pretty sure women are easily picking up on Aaron’s low energy and somewhat pessimistic vibe and getting turned off . So while I totally understand why Aaron feels bad in his current predicament he has to understand that it is only going to repel women even more the longer he is in this negative headspace
You're a lot tougher than I would be in your shoes. Just know many of us share your struggle, society is broken, it's not us .
Why don’t you have a pet ( dog or cat, parrot, lizard)
They are great friends and company… in many cases much better company that a partner
As for finding a partner, I think you should really consider a foreign women
you should go into a relationship with someone who might not be 100percent your type. Over time feelings could develop, it happens very often. As you said no tattoos, preferably no kids.. If those are your non negotiable requrements you're eliminating a huge amount of women especially women over 30. Well lets say a woman you find attractive has a kid and a tattoo or two.. Just try talking more, go on a date and see how it goes, dont write them off instantly.
Ok, quick google search and 37 percent of women in the USA have tattoos, so if we take out the old women the percentage for younger women is even higher..Then we add that a woman should not have kids.. Damn, then there's really a struggle to find someone
27:59 onwards I feel like applies to me directly. I'm tired of living like how I'm living at the moment. But I don't what to do.
Aaron, I have watched all your videos and I think your anger is justified. unfortunately I do not have a solution. I can only offer you two things: Friendship & Hope. I will offer you my ears, absorb your feelings, and sometimes comment. As for hope, my 43 year old friend just got married and had a daughter. So don't lose hope my friend. Will you be doing more live streams in the future?
I'm 23 and i feel the same. Any advice to change?
Ahh yes Aaron, as a childless(and don’t want kids) 39 year old guy I can identify with trying to date women in our age range and find one that is somewhat attractive, sane and doesn’t have at least 1 kid. It’s extremely difficult if not impossible and I really don’t know a way around this . Add in my autism and very low social battery(I’m usually always on empty in the social energy department) and it’s that much harder. I did meet a cute woman that works locally and she is 33 but then she told
Me she had 5 kids and I was like 😳. Another issue is the women in our age range tend to be very hyper critical and on the lookout for any flaws or red flags and I get that to a point but you can’t enter a relationship with that type of mindset and expect it to wrk. Basically they are very jaded and I can sense that from miles away at this point . So yeah it’s definitely a tough situation all around
That said I still think the best answer or option is to be more pro active. Try to go out more socially and be around people - smile at women and start up conversations .will it be awkward at times and very draining? Most likely, but relying on dating apps or friends to find someone for you just isn’t wise at this stage of the game ..
You don’t want kids? May I ask, what keeps you motivated to keep pushing for more if you do not want kids? Thanks in advanced
What keeps me motivated? I like to support myself and keep my dogs fed - I like to buy nice toys occasionally too. I’ve honestly never wanted kids - that urge was never there for me
Yeah you don’t need kids to be motivated at all
what a weird thing to say lol.. What is that even supposed to mean, kids the only thing that could motivate you ? You're weird@@PeezyC
@@terrorsquadlith yes that’s the purpose of all living things, to reproduce? I don’t find that weird, maybe you’re just spreading your insecurities, which is ok we all have insecurities at one point or another
If I were you Aaron I would seriously consider pursuing that woman who lives 3000 miles away, at this point you have nothing left to lose.
Nothing to lose except money.
He needs to get himself a south east Asian girl.
@@petrosaguilar8916 okay Scrooge McDuck.
@@Gabe4D he should try the American one first.
Yeah he needs to pursue more . That is obvious
Aaron, you calling yourself relatively good looking is an understatment to put it lightly.. You're a chad, you're a very handsome man, VERY. So I get it, you might be struggling in a sense that you want some specific woman type, but please don't tell me you don't have a choice. I see comments on your videos, even your instagram of women wanting to be with you. I am 5'6, struggling and would love to be in your shoes. I would just lower my standards a bit
By your logic, a guy shorter than you for example, and among other struggles, would say there is no excuse and your feelings are invalid and you have a better chance than him.
Sometimes looks aren’t gonna be enough to cut it, as Aaron says.
@@purplepride94 well yea, but as I said if Aaron can't how am I supposed to ? Aaron might have too high standards. Woman without kids and no tattoos while he's 45.. He's making things dificult, but I guess you want what you want.
@@terrorsquadlithI agree, I'm similar to Aaron in a lot of ways but realise you have to compromise.
@@purplepride94true but looks are important. I mean, the dates Aaron has been on in the recent years most likely were due to how Aaron looked - if he were average or below average in looks the women most likely would not have even given him a chance. His autism and lingering depression is what is most likely repelling women.
I mean, a good test would be to have a below average looking guy make a similar video to Aaron’s and see how many women are interested in dating him. I bet there’s very few if any .. so looks are definitely important but obviously not everything .
@@terrorsquadlith well it’s nuanced . For instance, there’s a guy I grew up with - he’s a local
Cop. He’s 5’7, average looking and balding since his 20s yet he is very good with women. He’s been married and divorced twice and has multiple kids and has slept with many of the women in town. He has upbeat personality and good game .. guys can make up for lack of looks(with personality or status) whereas women cannot
you could have a pretty lucrative career as a trucker-streamer
a lot of people would watch your journeys
no, truckers are very lonely usually. It's a profession for someone who's ok with being a loner, an outcast, who doesnt need family, warmth, woman
That's me. The road is my home, the truck my wife.
@@petrosaguilar8916oh hell naw
Gotta learn how to work, son.
ok, so where do you stick it ? Exhaust pipe ?@@petrosaguilar8916
I would highly recommend going to a school where you can get a certification for electrician, or a comparable job. Within two years you are looking at $86,000 to $100,000 and can find work anywhere on the planet. There are many jobs for 6 months of
School as well
Loved taking a walk with you Aaron. I think acceptance is really important. I've spent the past year recovering from a bad relationship and accepting that I probably won't be finding a new partner for a while. I suspect from what you've said about yourself and your upbringing that you may also be an INFJ. We're pretty rare, it takes a lot for us to click with people and it's difficult (near on impossible) to find other INFJs nearby
beyond useless comment
@@lisawanderess meanwhile as you leave 99 messages on read
99+ matches
Yahhh. You’re so relatable
I’ve never had the thought you were an incel ever. Man the internet is mean and I’m not sure how you do it.
I’m way too sensitive and always want to just hide away lately. Your brave. I hope you know that.
I have no answers though. I’m just trying to get through every day myself. I’m wishing you well.
do you know what an incel is ?
@@terrorsquadlith involuntarily celibate. No sex and not on purpose.
Those guys hate women and blame them for their situation. That is NOT what he does at all.
@@daabee236 well the first part is correct, the second one is not. So yes, men who want to have sex but cant are incels, angry or not it depends, they are different. So it's not an insult to call someone who wants sex but cant get it an incel.
@@terrorsquadlith but he can have sex if he wants. He just wants a relationship.
HE IS THO! 45 dateless.. no matches on apps..NOTHING. how is that a choice?
Have you considered van life or RV life? I'm a nomad and while technically a wage slave I don't have to pay for housing and can invest and do stuff like that instead.
Would it be possible if you could show us one of your past dating profiles, or the pics you used? I want to see how brutal tinder is these days.
Hi Aaron,
Maybe you can get a certificate on becoming a personal trainer? That’s something related to your hobby of working out. But I also think focusing on producing music would be a good route too.
Maybe if that woman who is 3000 miles away is open to you pursuing another career/further education she may be worth it. Too bad though about time and distance, I think I know one or two women who might be good for you. They are not in the Nevada area.
Would you consider dating an older woman? I see lots of women commenting to you on here (including myself) who think you’re awesome but you don’t respond to their comments. Maybe give up on the idea of having kids (to be honest bringing kids into the world right now doesn’t seem like the best idea anyway) in exchange for having true unconditional love and acceptance from a good woman might be something to consider?
Also, if you want to just broaden your horizons and try something crazy, come to Australia! I’m autistic, reclusive and struggling but I’m a great listener and could be a good friend for you if just wanna hang out, chat, practice some connection communication stuff. If you don’t mind that I’m in my 50s so not your dream woman but I’m a good human and I would listen and be your friend.
Hi Aaron, I hope your ok and make a new video some day for an update.
Going to college at your age is a waste of time. Not only is working and managing school insanely difficult. You’re too old to build social circles in college with 18-25 year olds. If your career change is not something stem related or nursing you will just end up in debt
not true. Plenty of people do it. I'd be friends with AARON I am twenty five
@@terrorsquadlith your not realistic whatsoever
how can he be better off when he hates his life @@KristaldeauCityLights
Ageism in the work force is real for men .. do not go to college in your mid 40s for a damn job ... that might have worked in the 1950s .. but not in today's world
Aaron, dont be sorry about letting it out. But honestly.. Could it be that you have your standards too high, or maybe just need to try a bit harder ? Maybe travel even if she's far away, meet and see if there's something mutual..Then just work things out. DUM is willing to travel to Australia to meet a woman, that's the determination you gotta have in life, Aaron.. Yea, it came naturally for some people, but for you if you need to try harder you gotta do it.
You're a chad compared to me and to most men in general, so I dont know.. It's hard to give advice to someone who mogs me lol, but defintely don't give up, try college, try going to meet the women, try online dating with your best photos.
It’s obvious Aaron doesn’t try hard enough when it comes to going out socially and approaching women .. he seems to depend solely on dating apps or friends to introduce him to their girlfriends etc etc. he wants women to come to him and this is a big mistake . Is it strange and awkward as a 45 year old guy(with autism) to approach and talk to women? Of course it is but it’s a much more efficient way than just waiting for women to seek him out on dating apps
I’m not trying to diminish the social difficulties of autism as I have it and am very hampered by my low social battery. It’s just I realize I have to make things happen and be willing to put in the effort and go through the discomfort. I have a feeling if Aaron doesn’t recognize this then 5 years down the road he will be making another video just like this .
Hey mate, have you ever actually questioned why you need a gf or wife. Or even kids for that matter, because from what I realised is that when people get those things, it’s usually because their lives aren’t exciting/ they don’t have enough problems and they get bored with their lives. Life is like an open world game where you can pick what quests you pick up and complete, intrinsically it has no real meaning and people that start families typically do so out of peer pressure and just to have something to do so their boredom goes away, but this isn’t the only way you can cope with your time on this planet, try picking up as many hobbies as you can and just commit to them and see if it keeps your mind off things mate. Good luck k and I’m rooting for you
Well, there's the biological drive, the life purpose they provide, and the desire to not grow old alone.
@@aaronsjournal139 that’s true Aaron, but humans have consciousness, we can choose if we follow our biological drive or we can go against it, we have the ability of creating our own happiness. Think about how many couples get divorced, or how many parents have a shit family life that started out good, but as they got kids and started making life decisions together they realised they now have to compromise on everything they do and the lack of time they have to do what they want. If your willing to take that chance then go for it mate but keep in mind we all die in the end, you can life 40 years more in a miserable relationship, or you can be stuck with kids who make your life hell for 18 years. Or you can choose to do what brings you joy, maybe even travel the world and meet people from every country. Maybe go skydiving every month, you have a lot more freedom being single!
@@aaronsjournal139 additionally I do agree and see you point in the biological drive thing, but keep in mind when you go down the family route it’s just an endless cycle of reproduction to raise a family for then to raise their family and so on, there is still no real “pourpose”
How do you balance work and school life? Is it simply a matter of evening classes and some extra caffeine?
Something like working M-W-F and classes Tues and Thurs, probably
Do you know how many years that would take man? You would be finished with school by around 50-51. No way you can balance school and work in 4 years and you will be in debt. Also you would be competing with 20-30 year olds in the work force. Their is age discrimination especially for a man entering his 50s
@@fayelis oh I wouldn't be seeking a 4 year degree
A good question Aaron brought up is if long term isolation has harmed in some way…? I wonder the same thing as i live quite a solitary life(outside of work) and I’ve noticed the older I get the less I like to socialize. Basic small talk can almost be painful at times. I honestly can’t remember the last time I truly wanted to go out and socialize - the times I force myself out socializing feels forced and is always draining. I honestly don’t know if this is due to my autism mixed with a strong dose of introversion or if my brain has shaped itself in this manner due to a more solitary life..? Chicken or egg scenario
Can anyone identify with this ? Thoughts?
For me, I have been conditioned my entire life to feel that I am not acceptable. There is something about my brain that makes me move and communicate in a way that almost everyone does not like. It is exhausting and it feels better to not have to deal with the negative treatment I get from people.
Yes! The solitude starts out feeling safe, but eventually feels like a prison!
Also about the people accusing you of being a fakecel, remember that some people are just blatant trolls. Others are unhinged psychopaths who throw the label incel to tantamount it to misogyny.
I never accused him, but here's my take on it.. I am 5'6, look worse than him and struggle with women. So when I watch someone like Aaron say how he struggles it's like DANG IT.. If he can't find women how am I supposed to do it, he's a gigachad compared to me. So it just feels hopeless then.. But I also watch another called DUM, who is not as good looking as Aaron (DUM is a normie by looks), doesnt have as many subs, but he talks to women all the time, goes to meet them etc and he gives me hope.
@@terrorsquadlith
Never conflate a woman seeking 15minutes of fame, or cash for actual charisma. Maybe I'm extremely "black pilled" but that's my take.
If life is eternal, then that means there are eternal possibilities
To me it feels a lot more like depression. I'm 39, single, but living my best life. A partner would be nice, but in the end you always will be alone. Try and find a purpose, a hobby, go travel, read, exercise, meditate. The grass surely isn't greener at the other side. Imagine 20 yrs of your life being occupied with kids/family just for the sake of being "normal", that is sad.
Aaron!! DUDE!! I’m 59 and I’ve been in this body every single day, no drugs ever, not even pot, living this life and thank God I was granted a fully functional top 5% brain to accompany my life journey. Trust these facts because you don’t know me to trust. PLEASE listen because your crisis are painful and, unnecessary. Alright so, you’re probably a Libra. Even if not directly on the sign, you’re highly influenced by it. Hi. I’m Scorpius. When I was 18, I was in college and cruising the Battery in Charleston when a man in his 40s came up to me at 3am. Yuck. I didn’t do older . So, I wasn’t inclined to listen to his bullshit HOWEVER, what he began to say forever changed my life. When I answered his question: Do you know what date, time and place you were born? (I did) he proceded for an hour to tell me everything I ever thought, felt, believed and wanted in my life. Every fear, doubt, hope I ever knew, because it had been written on paper before I was born. The same is true with you, everyone. There are some complications because the lines between are blurs. However, INDECISION and OVERTHINKING are Libra. They can become your power. The only difference between power and chaos is its ability to be captured and capacitated. If you don’t know what you don’t know, that’s chaos.
Have you ever read Les Browns, Live Your Dreams??
You can definitely find fullfillment in a career, and I say go for it! Sure, it might be challenging to start anew, but all the possibilities and new chances you'll get will be worth it. I believe in you! And you've come so far, so I say the risk is worth it.
A old friend of mine is too scared to take risks and never really did anything with his life. I hope I'm wrong (I want to be) but he'll probably live at home with his parents until they pass at this rate, and not even then I'm sure he'll understand that staying in the same routines he did as a teenager (spending all your money on video games and junk food) will get him anywhere in life, living off other's expenses. We'll be 30 next year.
*if Loneliness and despair don't drive us over the edge women just out to play with our hearts and emotions can. sometimes we are being protected from such evil happening to us but we just can't see or understand that* ~ A.C. 2023
pathetic mindset
I haven't watched anything for a few months. Last time I was here you were super excited to get into data analytics. What happened with that?
You do sound really, really down now. I understand being disappointed with life, but I think you have a lot to be thankful for. You're not as old as you think, you seem fit and healthy. You live in a country where you have options. Other people's lives aren't simply happening to them, those people are actively building their lives. The alternative is to be a passenger and let things happen, and maybe they will but most likely they won't. You need to build your life and be content with what you have achieved. If that seems too much to handle then I hope you get some therapy or meds to help you along the way. Constantly focusing on what we don't have is a certain path to unhappiness.
I had something called a late teen crisis where I was about to become a senior in high school and graduating soon afterwards and I realized that I didn’t do much compared to many other kids my age who are also making good grades such as extracurricular activities like little league, being part of Boy Scouts, being class president, a good athlete, and a homecoming king. It got so bad that the resource officer got involved. I’ll talk about it in one of the videos I’ll post when I’m ready to share.
Imagine if you could become a DJ.. Dream job, many hot women around, impossible not to find someone.. Also a job that is a lot of fun and your true passion.
At my age, though? I think that ship sailed, tbh.
@@aaronsjournal139 well I think not. Because you got the looks and also it's not like you're starting from scratch. You got the equipment and know how to use it. Could try doing it part time, maybe add some listings and see how it goes. Even if it stays as a side job would still be absolutely awesome
Yes! I second this! Younger EDM kids love older peeps in the scene… and there’s a huge revival of older EDMers like me reminiscing… check out Ministry of Sound Classical gigs that sell out everywhere! I went to one recently danced my head off, had an absolute blast and 90% of the audience were over 30.
I go busking with my saxophone in my 50s. I always think I’m too old but people walking down the street love it and put money in my tin. Always surprises me! I think you’d be a great DJ or offer to produce tracks for other musos and start going to some EDM parties and DANCE!!!
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Looks like you are on the set of breaking bad
Work on yourself first.
School is a great idea 💡 Work while you go to classes.
Just have a plan.
Can't wait to see you move forward 😉
It’s a terrible idea at his age. Not only is it hard to work and go to school. At his age going to college for a passion will just end up with him in debt
@@fayelis DID YOU WATCH THE VIDEO ??? He feels miserable, he MUST make changes, whatever it takes. People like you are the worst, you give all the things that could go wrong even though plenty of people make drastic changes in their lives and it works out ESPECIALLY when it's as bad as it is for Aaron now.
@@terrorsquadlith No people like you are the worst. You will just agree with any plan even if its idiotic and will just cause more problems. He is better off just going into trade. He is also too old to have this silly idea that you need to be passionate about your work. Most people are not passionate about their work you can build hobbies around your life.
@@fayelis he lives it, he knows how he feels better than you. He feels miserable, he doesnt like his job at all, did you even watch the video ?? You're giving him advice to be afraid of any real change ffs, the man feels MISERABLE and doesnt need advice from miserable cowards who tell him to be afraid of change
Where is this trail?
Unfortunately, identifying it would give away my locale, and I'd prefer not to do that.
@@aaronsjournal139 I understand that. I was mostly looking for the state.
@@ananimity7332 NV
Dawn my gym personal trainer loves what she does and i would not be were i am without her. Becoming a cert. personal trainer is a great way to build a community onto yourself with clients. You establish a real relastionship with people but with the added bonus of the social boundaries established throguh client trainer professionalism. Something i can tell you would enjoy.
How's it going Aaron, you good dude?
Mostly, yeah.
@@aaronsjournal139 im curious Aaron if you have desire to have kids? If not your own would you be willing to date a woman with kids? I ask because I’m childless and don’t want kids - this makes trying to find a somewhat attractive and compatible woman in my age range(im 39) extremely difficult. Plus I have looked at the social demands of looking after a child and that’s just not possible. I’m drained almost constantly being single so the idea of having a gf and kids just would put me in the grave lol
Dude, don't go back to school. I think it feels good to TALK about doing things but once you get there it's a different ballgame. You're 45, that ship has sailed, especially if you're not 100% committed and not certain about it. I think you'll end up regretting it and you'll be distracted by the fact you'll be 50 by the time you graduate and won't have free time to cultivate a relationship.
Yeah, good point
@@aaronsjournal139 he's wrong. You definitely need to make changes your current job has kept you single for long enough. Truckers are infamous for being loners.
@@terrorsquadlith@aaronsjournal139 You're gonna regret wasting the last bit of your 40s chasing a degree that won't make you happy. You're gonna go blind on homework and pile up tuition payments and then you're gonna turn 50. It's for not. Focus on your music and your channel.
That's a good observation, just like Donnelly Miller, his master's degree didn't help him.
Aaron, please eat a doughnut, relax. Enjoy life. It's not the end of the world just because you're perpetually single. These days, many people are single. No one wants to commit anymore. There are so many other things to live for, and women can be a pain in the ass. My dad actually told me to never get married when I was a kid.
My dad told me as a kid he had to leave my mother because if he stayed he would’ve killed her, no joke he said, he would have strangled her. He worked all day long and when he came home to his wife and 2 kids she made terror and went nuclear for whatever reason, she complained about having to stay at home all day and raise children. In the end she cheated on my father and he caught her in the early morning hours when he went to work she was in the car with a cook so they partied all night and dropped her off at the house so my dad saw them making out. He told me this when i was 17 i never knew it before. He also said imagine the feeling going to work like that. My mom was always having issues but she straight up destroyed our whole family and never even apologized. Sick of all that sht
@@There.Is.Only.Now. no sh..t. Well maybe he should've found time for her and the family ? Obviously if all you do is work work work the relationship wont last
Personally I think some people are here to suffer. Maybe its copium but when I suffer I think of the verse in the bible "Behold, I have refined you, but not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction".
This sounds cliche and please pardon the pun, but you are not alone. The problem you have also affects a very large portion of the male population, regardless of any neuro divergency. It's just how the world is right now. Women just aren't into average or even above average guys anymore. We're on our own. So what do you with a buggy whip in a car world? You can put it on the mantle and reminisce about a time gone by, I guess. Or repurpose it into a fishing pole? What else is there for us to do?
Take a year or two off go travel the world. Many countries its cheaper to travel through per month than your bills. Theres a lot of adventure out there...
Yes, you have a right to complain, but “never complain, never explain” would sure get you further in life.
Look into Bitcoin.
It will change you
im thinking about going back to school myself at 40 almost 41 but social phobia has me in a chokehold
I don’t know you from Adam buddy, just landed on ya channel but what really scares me about you is you mayyy fall head over heels for some woman, kinda any women that comes along your way.
And IF she was to take advantage of you, or cheat on you Etc, it would probably break your heart.
I’m 58 and I’ve had a few relationships over the years, Not loads but a few and been married twice so I have some experience, and have been dumped …… as you Americans say ……S**t happens.
I’m guessing here, but I guess you have little confidence in yourself, maybe a low self esteem, or lack a bit of a sense of humour that women love ……. But those are things you can learn, and build up …… don’t worry buddy, this Brit will teach it all to you 😁
Just don’t blame me when woman are all over you like a Rash ……and they will be.
I remember about 20 years ago or so, this guy I started working with taught me some basic Confidence building techniques, OMG …… wasn’t long before I had 4 or 5 female friends.
What do Females Love, Sense of Humour obviously, or And Money Obviously, if a guy doesn’t have money is that the be haul and end of it, of course Not!
Loadssssss of different things come into play, you should see females around be when I’m in the states, Why because they Love my accent, because I’m English.
Buttttt bear in mind, I’m not interested in having 9 females on the go, I just wanna date one.
I don’t know if you’ve ever been to England, but you would probably experience a totally different reaction from females in the U.K. because you have things that are different, your an American, you have an accent, just like I do when I’m in America.
I’m single here right now, for a few different reasons, no British women wants to hear me talking about America a lot like I do.
That said, I don’t go to bars here in the U.K., or some other place’s cinema Etc, so if ya don’t put ya self out there in places where your likely to meet a female, chances are ya not going to meet one.
People will say, you could meet a female in a grocery store, yes of course you could but what we gonna do, go hang out in Kroger 24/7 ……lmao
"Looks aren't everything."
*Jeremy Meeks has entered the chat*
One can always find an example to support one's claim.
Those were portly MW who watch reality tv
If you REALLY believe that looks aren't everything, then you should stay far away from dating apps. You aren't going to attract the women that you want and the women that you want will see you for a millisecond before swiping left. Don't believe what people/women SAY, just watch what they DO. You gotta be real with yourself. You're a 44 year old truck driver on the spectrum. Temper your expectations with both your professional and dating life. Maybe it's not OVER, but you're not in your prime either. Neither am I. That's just life.
@@Grand_Rizzard104 just keep barking
@@Xilladan093am I scaring you bro 😂
I feel like you're in those typical cycles of thoughts people who have depression or addicts have too. I think it's called rumination. I know many people who are perpetually single Aaron. You are not alone or even special because of that. I think a big part of why you feel bad about it is related to ego i.e because single people often feel worthless because nobody "chose" them, but then you have to ask yourself if you really made the effort or even make the effort and you have realistic goals to meet someone. As a guy you have to work a lot lot more for a relationship than women. I mean some guys get lucky and just happen to be at the right place and the right time but remember that the good girls are often taken. You're right at the good age to meet divorced normal women like around 35 to 40. Not to mention the many single women in that category. To me you don't really sound like your personality is the problem. Based on these videos if you did not say it I wouldn't even have guessed you're on the spectrum. And you're also quite good looking, so I assume it's simply a lack of effort or at least not doing enough to actually up your chances.
Living with a woman is also not magic, it's not something you cannot learn at any age. It's literally like living with any other person like roomates or flatmates etc. I think you built these mental blocks that since you have never done it you cannot do it now or something. I have lived with 3 long term girlfriends then I was single for 5 years and now living with a girl again and had to re-learn a lot of stuff because after being single for long you will have to adjust, but she had to too. There is nothing complicated or special there, it's normal, even if you lived with someone before it's now a new relationship with a new person. What I'm saying is that in every relationship we start from zero, your previous "experience" hardly matters. Same for sex btw because every person is different and you need time to learn each other.
I'd say leave the dating apps and go talk to people in real life. Since this video is about a hike I'd recommend hiking groups and even just when solo hiking you can talk to a lot of people, many of them similarly are single and not on dating apps. Many many women are not on dating apps btw and so really the only way to meet them is in real life.
I think a part of it has to do with acceptance. If you want women to accept you for who you are you should do the same for them. You are probably turning away women because they are overweight (which weight can be lost) and they might have the most loving heart in the world. I'm not saying you should settle if you feel that's what you would be doing but give a chance to someone you would normally write off. If you want a chance then they are probably looking for one as well.
Horrible advice.
Can tell you that your life is not the worst.
Atleast you have your own place
Not putting up with looser reject flatmates at 45 🤔
Lonelyness sucks
However you could also be in a relationship where you argue all the time.
Look up people who secretly wish they never had children
WHY DO YOU PRESENT THE BAD RELATIONSHIPS THOUGH ? Why does this channel attract all these weird people who only see negative stuff ? He could also be in a great LOVING relationship, why dont you say that ?? He could find a loving woman who will change his life, make him find a new meaning, new motivation, travels togetther, hikes, evenings watching movies it's ALL BETTER WITH A LOVING WOMAN.
Why you only present the negatives, the man is desperate alone and you weirdos put him down saying that even if he finds someone it would still be bad.. WHY ??? WHY SHOULD IT BE BAD, WHY SO NEGATIVE ?
@@terrorsquadlith
Bad is a subjective term
Highest Probability is always what one should aim for
You interpreted my response as bad
However I do not believe in toxic positivity.
It is less about bad and more about valuing what you have now by comparison.
Ideal is what everyone craves
Ideal is not what everyone gets
Also for calling people weird who don't agree with you...
Seams to be more a reflection on yourself.
nice trail but ... i think you need protection from animals around that area. men you a bit older than me but dont get depress and stress about it. im dealing the same battle as you ... shitty job, no gf, 5-5 tall i guess denied almost everytime and sometimes they get you with the ohh you broke, you dont make enough money. i think i mentioned in one of the comments acouple months ago.. check out to go to ASIA... thailand, phillipines etc ... come up with a plan. i see a 23 yr old guy youtubers with the same subscribers as you .. and he mentioned in one of his videos that he pays rent with it in thailand or something like that ... so is not only you.. there even younger men fed up with western lifestyle in here. im 34 yrs old and i dont think i will stay in this country in my olders years.
Aaron, would you consider dating an older woman, who might not be exactly your type, but has big boochachas ?
make something with your channel, i dont know, show your music, create content about it, i make music since 2012 and i have 17 subs, you have 15000, you have an audience, use it
If i lived close to all that land id be a guntuber. 100%
Maybe try going to a bar by yourself for a few drinks? Worst case scenario people wonder who's that strange guy sitting by himself best case scenario you meet your life partner or have casual fun.
Bad advice. The bar is not a place where you will meet strong successful men who will help him become the best version of himself. The bar is also not the place where a man should look for a future wife. Right now, he should be focused on how to get his life in order: get a better paying job, maintaining his fitness, learning game with women. He needs to grow right now. Not drink away his problems.
Last thing he needs is casual fun(I'm assuming you're talking about sex) which would greatly increase his chance of getting a std or other sexually transmitted disease. He's trying to improve his life, not destroy it. I agree with snotro, VERY bad advise, say no to bars and strip clubs.
@@snotrohmitabc123 he didn’t mean Aaron should go get drunk at the bar - he simply meant that Aaron should go to a bar and smile and talk to women. I agree that this is a good option although that’s usually aren’t a fun place for people with autism .
Learning game at 45 is not an option
@@fayelis if i learnt it at 19 he can at 45... plus sometimes you don't need much game and can just be direct especially in bars/pubs
That female friend of yours did what is known as monkey branching.
have you even thought about trying speed dating?
Do you have a low self esteem??
Do you use Tools, as in Self Help tools, audiobooks, motivation Etc??
Yes, I've had low self esteem and depression for most of my life.
@@aaronsjournal139
Well the Fantastic news is, those things can be changed!
We are Not born with a High Self Esteem, and we are Not born with High Confidence.
Those things are Developed over time.
Do you use Self Help Tools??
And No buddy I’m not going to try sell you any Honest ……lol
@@aaronsjournal139
Have you used self help tools in the past, or are you currently using them?
Dont end up like George Alfred Sodini. I was watching Dr Todd Grandes last video and I couldnt help but think of you. Also the fact that you delete comments sonds like you have a bad temper so maybe you should look into that.
Yeah, astute observation regarding deleting comments. I dunno who those ppl are though.
Why didn't this new boyfriend help her move out? Because her ex-boyfriend lives there?
Oh, he did help.
@@aaronsjournal139 that's okay then, and I liked your little outburst of anger and frustration towards the end, anger is good sometimes. But what I know, that's just my opinion.
Aaron have you ever read the Bible and what Bible prophecy has to say and the times that we live?
I have years ago, but I am an atheist now.
My Uncle Andy was an atheist all his life, and then he was dying of cancer and that's when he accepted Jesus Christ as his Lord and savior. But I'm glad my uncle accepted Christ before he died.
I'm just going to give you some of Matthew 24 scripture in the Bible. At that time many will turn away from the faith and will betray and hate each other and many false prophets will appear deceive many people because in the increase in wickedness the love of most will wax cold but whoever survives to the end will be saved. That means it's going to be very rough times ahead.. Bible prophecy is key to understanding the day and age that we live. I have never seen such a time to there's just so much wickedness. I hope you find what you're looking for in terms of a woman to share your life with. And from my experience with women they're just nothing but a bunch of gold digging hoes. I'm a realist' I look at things realistically and logically...
Please don't proselytize on this channel, no offense.
I'm not trying to convert you in any way, however I will tell you the truth.
I am absolutely done with women I'm 48 years old work a full-time job have my own place and I realize I'm going to die alone but you know I really don't give a damn. You need to man up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. The world is not the way it used to be in my parents' generation. I accepted the fact that I will never have what my father had so let it be written so let it be done.
hey you were preaching in your other comments and now you sound angry.. You can't do that, Aaron doesnt need to accept lonely life, he's getting chances to meet someone all the time
You think your psyche is wrecked now? Try inviting a woman to live with you, who will only pretend to love you, so you can not only provide her shelter but money as well. Only to have her cheat on you and even bring men to your apartment when you're gone. Then when she'll find a new sponsor she'll drop you like a hot potato without a milligram of remorse. That's the average woman. You're dodging a bullet so be happy.
Cope.
@@dearestbrotherfrank cope with what? Women can't get this
I don’t think women are so evil 😂
You'll learn.
@@petrosaguilar8916 I’m a woman
Aaron, you are sexy, you are hot, but I get the feeling that you need to try harder. Not just wait for women to reach out to you. You are like a Chad, it's simply not possible for you to not find a woman if you put in the effort. But man maybe you have some very specific requirements ? Do they have to be young, like up to 30 years old ?
Not saying that it's you, but.. There are some people, mostly women who look good and want that 10/10 hottest guy and when they dont get him they complain how lonely they feel, how no one wants them even though they have hundreds of men simping for them all over.. All they would need to do is just lower their standards a litte bit. You say you want a woman with no kids .. Ok, fair, probably we all want that, but you're 45 so that is really difficult to get now. If she's single no kids and in her 30ies or 40ies then she most likely wont be good looking.. Or just something definitely off about her..
Good women get married, have kids at that age so yea.. And honestly, it's probably possible for you to find a sexy young girl, but if you see it's too difficult definitely lower standards and see how it goes.
Accept it man, you can’t get em hot babes;) time to lower the bar or stay happily single
Yep I just turned 45 and I had a hard look at myself. I realized having kids was no longer a possibility. Although men can still biologically produce offspring but finding a fertile woman is the biggest issue. I then accepted that I’ll most likely have to date a single mom. So I joined a church and finding the best option. Well I had my first date last night then went to church today with her. So we spent at least half the weekend together.
he can find a hot single mom, but yea definitely needs to change his standards. Not saying it's impossible to find a single young girl, but much harder for sure
At this point he should just bang hookers, won't cure loneliness but at least he will get his sexual needs met
Aaron refuses to date overweight, unattractive women?
@@bambooforrests of course. He's a chad, why would he date overweight, unattractive women. No one actually wants to date them, just that some guys have no choice
I'm unsubbing. You don't put out any content anymore.
Ok, bye.
Aaron If this is too personal feel free to tell me off, I am just curious. You have no kids, no divorce to pay for. Your 40 and living in a small apartment which I assume means its cheap. Have you been trucking the whole time? I had heard truckers make decent money. I feel like your finances with your cost of living should actually be pretty good. Wondering if it might be worth looking into some budgeting and investing advice like Caleb Hammer on youtube.