How to Think On Purpose to Be Happier
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ต.ค. 2024
- Most of us think our happiness lies in things outside of us - but the truth is, our happiness starts and ends in our thoughts. What and how we think will determine how we feel at any given moment and the more we think on purpose the thoughts that are helpful and serving, the more we don't have to wait to be happy and can be happier and start feeling good now. This skill will teach you how to be happier now.
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What was one of your biggest takeaways from this talk on Intentional Thinking?
That my thoughts aren't necessarily "my" thoughts! They're thoughts I've learned, been told, observed(from limited perspective), other's beliefs that I've taken on. I can (and should) question them! Like my knee-jerk negative thoughts about myself. Where did they come from? Do I truly believe them? No, I don't!! So now it's time to redecorate my outdated tacky 1970's house!! Lol
"I was born a house". That was quite a sentence. Thank you 😊
Intentional thinking?…more like intentional sinking.
The entire basis of your video is built on sand.
Truth is:
ALL your thoughts are not your own.
You CANNOT control thoughts.
Happiness is fake perfect peace.
Feelings and emotions control YOU to overreact.
Overcome emotions to truly be free.
7:07...yes, I've worked on this a lot. It's very helpful to be reminded of it. 👍
@@kirstenvzumba9246 ha! Yes! get that shag carpet out of there ;-)
The “decorating your house” analogy was brilliant! 🙌 thank you for this video!
I was just coming to say that! It was so accurate
You're welcome - I'm really glad it hit the right spots ;-)
This is the hardest things trying to get these thoughts out of your mind .in my case I was raised by not so nice of a person so the thoughts started so early in life along with the negative thoughts that I added. You explained it so well (these thoughts were never mine to begin with-it’s a struggle but I am trying to rebuild my thoughts of the person that I truly am. I absolutely look forward to watching your videos every Thursday. Thank you so much for sharing these amazing videos they help so much they give us a different perspective.
Often we dwell on thoughts that are not serving us, particularly those out of our control. This is a great reminder to tap in our acceptance of the things we cannot change.
Nice! Thanks!
I love this whole concept of choosing our thoughts. It's very empowering if for most of your life you didn't feel too much in control of your own thoughts. The idea of creating space in the mind between thoughts is great, too.
My first time here. I am glad to find your little corner of the net, Lol! I do suffer with depression and have for 20 years....I'm so ready to be over it! The antidepressants don't seem to be working and I don't want to depend on them to be happy!
I understand, having lived with depression for most of my life (40+ years). After 10+ years of no diagnosis or treatment, Prozac was a godsend! But you're right, it doesn't "solve" the problem! To me, medications are like a life jacket that keeps me from going under and drowning in my sadness...but working on my thoughts, as Julia teaches, that's learning to swim!!
Thank you!!
I believe that perfection is in the eye of the beholder and exists as a relative term. In other words, something will seem perfect when you compare it to something incredibly imperfect. Years ago I came up with a word for something that gets better even when it doesn't seem like it could be possible. "Perfecter." Sometimes things get perfecter when they already came off as perfect to begin with.
Been watching your videos here and there, and it has really been helping a lot, and surely you've helped a lot of other people too. Thank you for your hard work in giving support and guidance to those who are lost and in need, always. Wishing everyone all the best in these times of the worst.
You are so welcome. It is my joy.
This is a really good concept,Julia. The house illustration made a definite impression on me. Like going into your Grandmothers house and it still looks like 1960. Redecorating would take alot of work. Maybe just the effort and the possibility of it looking nicer should be enough. But if the electrics bad and the plumbing bad, I don't know, maybe the old wallpaper is keeping everything together.
Hey Chris!!!
@@kirstenvzumba9246 Hi Kirsten V!
Thank you so much!! I was just “thinking” this way this morning actually and got distracted by my thoughts…but I don’t have to..Your house analogy is just awesome! I love that, and we do believe often that this is “just the way it is” or “how it’s always going to be”. But not true, you say! Thank you, Thank you Julia 💕🤗
Absolutely Cheryl - really glad you got a lot out of this one.
We are not our thoughts and it takes real time and conscious effort to learn how to start telling ourselves good, loving, positive thoughts and consistently changing the negative programming we had been subjected to in our youth. Thank you Julia.
Just started watching you when my son recommended me to watch your video on emotional abuse. It opened me up to heal from a marriage of 45 years. Husband passed away 3 years ago.
So glad that you're finding healing! I'm in Julia's Shift Society and highly recommend it. I wish you all the best!
I'm so happy you found me. Sending you love and strength on your healing journey Pamela .
Thank you Julie I've been listening to you for years during work and you have been very helpful
Julia
Thank you Julia Kristina
Hey Julia! From Bay Shore, L.I. NY...you are great help to so many people! God bless you & your life!
This was Wonderful today!
Food for thought. 😉
One thing that helps me from time to time, it develops separation of one's self from your own head, ok,
So it has been denoted in previous studies and experiences, highly intelligent people tend to talk to themselves.
Start thinking out loud, so you can notice what it's sounds like and how it's said about the things going on internally. Pay attention to what's being said and how it's being laid out.
In the beginning it might be kinda self-defeating and representing low self esteem and worth, just listen, once you hear what your saying about yourself out loud those words can change to more productive and insightful conversations vs just a beating match.
Once self talk starts to improve you may notice more "room" for healing and healthy spaces inside.
Don't know if this is anything good. But.
What a special human and doctor are you Julia Masha Allah😻, your little corner in the internet such a bid, deep place in our hearts, I mean your audience obviously, BTW you keep telling me things that I have been thinking about it but you just confirming that gently , with such a fresh, friendly smile,.. wish you all the best ♥,..
Thankfully for You, My life is changing toward starting to focus on the heathty ways of being happier
Love these tips
Thoughts are optional that could replace with positive ones. They are not engraved on your mind.
This is so true I’ve been watching your videos for about two weeks now I’m enjoying it 🙏🏾🙌🏿
Really glad you're here and that you're enjoying them. Welcome!
Thank you... I’ll been trying to better myself that’s all ?
Hi I am sonalika, pediatrician by profession
Your videos are amazing
Mis, thank you very much for very very valuable ideas
How do you stop and kind of separate yourself from your thoughts and feelings?
Get ready for a rummage sale or donations to charity. Get the unnecessary clutter (unhelpful thoughts) out of your house and take it to the curb.
I've been studying Wayne Dyer, Albert, Ellis, Louise Hay, and Dr. David Burns. They all talk about our thoughts create our reality. A challenge is to be able to be objective to what our thoughts are. This is not so easy to do. We need the ability to be objective about what it is that we are actually thinking.
Great information! I love the empty house analogy!
You’re my number one teacher in my life since a year now.... I grow and grow and learn and learn, learn, learn so much with every video you make. So ready to ‘rebuild’ my house...what a fabulous thought to live by! With love from Belgium. Thank you só much, Julia!
Thank you very much for the information it is easy to get lost in your thoughts and Believe in them this helps a lot.
💠 “Fall in love with the process, and the results will come.”
Love from Level Up Your Life Channel 💖
You can only know Love not fall into it.
When you think you are falling into love it’s actually hate. Because it’s fake love.
Also, there is no process.
How long is the waitlist to Shift society? I registered over a month ago.
That we can change our thinking. The question I have is how do we know what thought to change it to???
I’ve learned to rethink my thinking
How often does it open up? I’ve been waiting patiently :)
I love your material I listen all day at work thank u
Hello Julia!!! 😁😁One of your happily shifting Shifters here! Your teachings have been SO helpful to me!
Hey Shifter! Love seeing you here too Kirsten. See you in The Shift!
This is a fantastic video. Im 64 yrs. old. I feel if i follow your advice...my life will start properly. ..i havent been really living...only in my head for as long as i can remember...may you be continually inspired and God bless you.
I think you're great.I am actually learning a lot .and look forward to watching your videos. my name is John and I've been stuck thinking very negativity about myself for about 35 years..you bring hope in my life.God bless you.i have a lot of work to do.but listening to you .maybe I can learn to think differently about myself
Your videos have helped me out lots, I'm so glad that im not alone with my thoughts, and i thought that I was the crazy one. Hope everyone is having a wonderful day and night!! I always feel safe, understood and vulnerable here!
I'm so glad you're here. And you're right, none of us are ever as alone as we think we are. That's the beauty of Common Humanity.
My thoughts Julia is you are the GREATEST, I usually watch one of your videos early in the start of the my day! Thank You 🙏 for all that you do. May our LORD bless you and your family! 🙏❤️🙏
Hi, Julia. Introducing myself… My name is Tatiana, I live in Brazil and I‘m a psychologist. Just here loving your videos! Thank you!
Sounds hard but make sense
What's going through my head constantly is "Justin you are completely psychotic and you are probably going to hurt someone one day". Followed by "Don't let the demons win, hold on to what is good, hold on with everything you have".
It's funny you mentioned self-awareness as my friend constantly tells me about that. I do think when you've been hurt a lot you can become a very hostile person. It doesn't give someone the right to hurt others because they've been hurt but I do think that happens a lot. So I think for some people like myself it takes a conscious effort sometimes to be a kind person and that does start with how we examine ourselves. Life can be incredibly cruel and incredibly frustrating but I think one of the biggest travesties of life is for it to make us that way too. Lately I've been a lot more aware of the way I treat people. Life is hard for everybody we don't need to make it any harder on others than it needs to be. My mom always tells me you can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar.
Great. Thank you.
Like others, I really appreciate the analogy that our thoughts are not our own and that they are more like paintings on our walls that were hung by our mentors. The part that really was a mind shift was for me was that I have the choice to remove the paintings I don't agree with.
I love these videos!! They help me a lot. I can't wait to join the shift society.
same :)
Thanks coach! Going back to the basics with this video. I love the house metaphor!
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Thanks ,Julia!
This is really good! Thanks, it is your best video Julia...
Awesome. I'm glad it connected with you in such an important way.
I want to stay tuned.
You’re awesome!
So good, thank you
Thank you
I love your videos. They have helped so much. Thank you for your channel.
Sometimes my thoughts about my thoughts help me to change those thoughts to more helpful ones :)
I feel lucky to be back here Julia thank you so much for your videos
Thank you
HI Love your Videos Thank You
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This was a good session
Good advice
I have to speak up on this: TH-cam videos are not enough. The main reason why I disagree with web associates are because I feel advice cannot be fit into all categories. There is no cure all for these things. Advice cannot be taught to the masses. It has to be fine-tuned to fit the individual.
My advice is to speak to a therapist so that you can get personalised advice, and take the relevant personalised steps. Rationalise your thoughts with your therapist, so that you get to know the reasoning behind certain things.