'Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner' - De Niro (from Heat). This applies to women like a charm. If they ever give you bullshit, drama, ignore you, play games, etc. walkaway unattached like a man. She is not the last woman on the planet.
+nocode36 the sad thing about that is you will never form bonds with anything. ANYTHING. doesnt have to apply to people. I have a dog, there is no way I could walk out on him. It is a bit extreme though, because it is from a movie! lol! But I do agree not to stand for the bullshit, drama, games, etc as you mentioned. that is just nonsense to me. I dont have time for that.
Bro, going by the quote, it is clear that you are not willing to walk out in 30 seconds flat from your dog. And so, it is okay to get attached to it ! ;-)
But we live in the 21st century. There is no way around. Women nowadays don't talk on the phone anymore. Women don't even send voice messages anymore. They don't even know how to talk on the phone anymore because it is not necessary to talk with anyone on the phone (besdies their parents) and they never do it.
Women don't disappear to test you, they quit responding simply because she's not interested. If a woman is interested she will be in touch daily and want to see you and spend time with you, not disappear. same goes for men. just move on. If she says she's busy, that bs too, people in general will make time for people they are into no matter how busy they are.
@@juzzblaze9116 - dude, never listen to girls when they give advice about girls. It's like an umbrella shit test. The girl who wrote this comment is essentially doing a global shit test on any dumb enough to listen to her "advice". The truth is, people get busy. But, coach Corey is also correct in pointing out that girls want to chase. It's how they're built, whether they admit it or not A girl who isn't text bombing a guy may be actually busy and distracted with the rest of the the stuff in her life. This is especially true if you've just recently met. She isn't going to drop everything to engage a guy. She may also already be talking to or texting with several other guys. In the case described in the video, the guy just needed to chill out and let her come to him. And then do as coach Corey insists: don't be her chat buddy, make a date. Texting back and forth often is actually a bad sign. Well, it's a sign that the guy is friend zoning himself, which is bad for the guy (and if he's a decent guy, bad for the girl too because she'll never see him as a sex partner, just a friend). Didn't hear from the girl today? Don't panic. Go on about your life. If she had any interest, she'll eventually text you. Make a date when she does. If she doesn't text you, asking stupid self qualifying questions like the guy in the story did is a surefire way to make sure she never does text you again. But, the bottom line is girls do play games and do shit test to see if you will act needy (ie, ask "why haven't you txt me?).
Bingo, Bingo, Bingo! If a girl likes you, she will put herself in your universe, and make a way for you to ask her out, she will go out with you, she will show interest and she won't act cold, distant, with mixed signals and these silly-girl mind-game-type weirdness. Screw all of that. I have come to the point where I could care less how beautiful a woman is--if she isn't interested, or wants to play games, then I'm walking away. I could care less if she looked like Kate Upton or the most beautiful woman on the planet--why waste your time, and drive yourself insane and get caught up in someone that you might like, or are infatuated with, and even enjoy their company and find them to be a lovely individual, with a lot in common, if they aren't interested in reciprocating? The thing is, there are tons of women that will WANT you, that will actually put themselves in your orbit, and will want to know you, will want to hang out, have fun, and eventually fall in love with you--but people, especially men and we men do this more often than not, we put these women on a pedestal and we get too caught up in them. If they aren't interested, you will know it. Like Corey always says, "Pay attention to what a woman DOES, not what she SAYS" at the beginning of a connection, because if she is interested, she'll make a way to see you, she won't come up with BS excuses to 'get out of it', and she will be happy to see you again. Women do things VERY SLOWLY sometimes, because they want to take it easy, they do not want to rush into anything (and rightfully-so!), and the mystery is what keeps it all going sometimes; the mystery is an attractive foundation. Like Corey says, "Women fall in slowly OVER TIME." If a man is doing all of the right things at the beginning (especially NOT being clingy and needy, etc., over-pursuing and whatnot), then she will want to see you if her interest level is high enough. 51% or above, as is taught. I have even been around women that I can tell are attracted to me, that like me, because they go out with me, but they do not ask many personal questions about me as much as I do with them (letting them talk 70-80% of the time), and often times it is because they LIKE THE MYSTERY. I am speaking about when I first get together--this has happened to me before--they will ask a question here and there, but not like I do, even though they are obviously attracted to me and go out with me! I mean, even inviting me out to special events with guest passes, etc. If a woman goes out of her way to invite you out to a special event with a guest pass, that is usually a good sign that she wants to see you, EVEN IF SHE DOESN'T ADMIT IT, and comes up with another reason why ("I just felt like you'd enjoy it" or "There will be a lot of great people there, and this will give you an opportunity to network with creative people" etc. etc. etc.) when the REALITY is, she wouldn't have thought to invite you out had she not wanted to see you, had she not shown interest, had she just felt like you weren't a catch. These are just examples I have seen and learned. Fascinating how all of this works, but it does!
@@fargeeks You've got to be careful with some of these women that have a wandering eye when they're 'taken' and such. Leave those women alone and find women that are single. You'll save yourself a lot of future headaches and pain. There are many women out there that will want to go out with you that are single.
@@DerrickthePinecone big time And it also suck big time for unfortunately This cute girl and i that i met at work We were chatting for a few months regarding telling each other about ourselves and such. But yeah she seemed to had a thing for me as she was the one who initiated the conversation via Facebook, text. I saw that she had a boyfriend but thought nothing of it Anyway one time when she told me that she recently got a new place together, ( in the midst of talking to each other and flirting), that told me that even if i were to tell her its either him or me she would always stay together whenever they got home from work. She even sent me pictures of her and cute pictures of her daughter who was still a baby but is old enough to walk on her own. She a impressive job on leading me on and entertaining me. Yet she claims that she had "genuine" feelings for me but now they are gone. Im not sure if they were genuine because i didn't actually set a date nor did i pick up on her hints when she told me where she was at. At work at time she would walk by and touch my shoulder giving me that smile. Basically if she was single then i would know that theres was a perfect appropriate opportunity. Anyway now she doesn't want to talk to me anymore, one of her last words she said to me was "now leave me alone" and afterwards im also surprised that she unblocked me but i didnt say anything anymore. What also sucks is the fact i was not supposed to be talking to her nor was she supposed to be talking to me either. I guess you cannot be daily chatting with anyone unless its your lover. Oh well And was one person that was actually interested in communicating like adults. Every one else i talk to either gives me one word or few word responses to reading my messages and not reply
Coach Corey Wayne it's my crush we been texting for 3 weeks and she said to me she really likes me she said to ring her but she block my number I don't know why what does this mean does she still really like me should I give her space and don't text her, what does this sound like is she testing me?
Sometimes they take forever and you just get completely turned off by them. They don’t make time for you at the beginning but at the end they wanna give it shot.
Wow thanks Corey, glad I came across this sometimes we loose sight of what’s important and get caught up in constant texting. Digital interaction is inferior to physical interaction
I stopped texting because he told me he just wanted to be friends. so I'm doing just that. I don't text my friends daily. now he is texting me daily saying hey, good morning, etc. I won't respond. I'm not a backup plan.
Daimonon well, I've officially cut him off. He's tried texting me a few times, I just responded with one word each time. Then I told him I had another offer for New Year's and I wasn't going to try to see him anymore. He hasn't tried talking to me since then, about 3 days ago, so I think he got the message.
April R That's good! Only thing you shouldn't have told you would try to not see him anymore. That have him thinking he still have some power. So he buying his time right now by not contacting you so you will miss him.
This is how it works. Treat women how you would want to be treated. If she starts treating you like crap, CALL HER OUT ON IT!!! don't just sit there and take her selfish behavior.
In many of his videos coach says if you don't call her out on her bs then she will not respect you because you look like a weak guy that cant stand up to her. If she just isn't texting you at all and you're not in a relationship with her then yeah just let it go and move on like the other comments said.
Sebastian Lang Both of you are obviously not paying attention or watching the whole video. I’m the beginning, a guy should only use the phone to set up a date. As the woman gets more comfortable she’ll reach out to talk between dates. As the relationship progresses (6-8 weeks), they will ideally communicate more over the phone. In the beginning, why would you want to talk about everything over the phone? So you don’t have to meet in person? So you have nothing to speak about in person? Wonder how your date will go when you just repeat the same questions during the date because you have nothing left to talk about. You probably haven’t been laid since you posted this 4 years ago. GTFOH, you’ll never get a woman with your thinking.
From a strictly carnal perspective, yes. For finding a good catch, I find I've recently been more picky as I've been the one to say no to future dates.
When you text or message either by phone or social media and she responds try not to respond back so quickly. That way she might wonder where you're at and what you're doing. If she like you put your arm around her, why not?
Thank you Corey for improving my life. Love your videos, bought your audio book. You change my life and the way I deal with women! If women don't know what they want, how the men supposed to? Thanks again!!
Corey funny but great advice for the guys! Men get some balls and ask her out!! As a woman can I say I HATE TEXT!! This happened to me recently with a guy and totally ruined what started off with great potential! We met at the dog park and quickly connected, despite how shy he was. He showed great interest in me, chasing me and arranging to meet up. For 5 days straight we spent over 2 hrs a night talking alone and getting to know one another personally like 5 mini dates! Each night he asked more and even about great restaurants in the area to try, etc. The last night he finally asked if I was single and gave me his #, asking me to hit him up when I wanted to link up. I felt this should've been the other way around as he's the guy but chalked it up to his shyness. So I text him the next day and he responded and it quickly turned into a text only relationship, not even meeting up again at the park as he is busy starting up a major business venture. He texted every day for 2 weeks, never arranging a date or even seeing each other at the park! We had a few phone conversations lasting hours and the chemistry was there, but he'd always resort to text despite me saying I hate it! I even casually mentioned meeting up once or twice, and either he'd say "yes sounds great", then I wouldn't hear from him on that day, or dead silence. It's like he started off chasing and heavily pursuing me, then once he got my #, the whole idea of arranging a date flew out the window and he expected me to set a date or chase him. I finally gave up and withdrew and bam he shows up at the dog park and starts chatting in person again! So we start having a great connection again and he gets back into text only in between! I'm sorry I don't have time for these games! This is a 42 year old, very successful man who can't or won't set a date or pick up the phone, but expects me to text all day when he wanted attention. I'm done. I do see him at the park once in a while but it's become awkward, as I think I hurt his ego as I completely stopped texting him. Men need to pick up the phone and talk, or set up a date! Trust me if a woman meets you in person and likes you enough to give her #, she wants to be asked out, not texted forever! It's silly and a waste of time! Facebook is dumb too. I personally like in person contact first always, followed by a phone call. Text should be a last resort! Plus there is no way to read a person's emotions through text, and many things get taken wrong. Why ruin something that could be good because you want to be lazy or shy and text? Don't do it guys!!! Unless you're OK with losing her! Just my opinion from experience!
Thanks for sharing. I wish every woman thought like you. I hate texting (most of the time), but unfortunately most young women today hate talking on the phone and insist on texting as the way to communicate. Personally I hate arranging dates through text because it usually turns into a drawn-out back-and-forth of when and where. I'd rather just spend 5 minutes on the phone and be done with it! But no, (some) women don't think of it like that.
rovan26 this actually happened to me... as far as the misunderstandings go. everything was great until there was a huge misunderstanding on a sketchy topic. also it interferes your daily life as far as family and work goes....huge east of time texting!!!
David U Couldn't agree more! When I start getting texts all day from one person, I have to resist throwing my phone against a wall lol! I actually dated a guy for 3 months who only text. I can't count how many times something was taken the wrong way. He would text whole conversations, and I was too busy to respond immediately to each text. He'd complain he never met anyone who took so long to reply to texts as me. I told him I'm not a texter & don't like being glued to my phone. I would then call him in the middle of texting, and he wouldn't answer the phone!!! 2 seconds later, he'd send another text though, ugh!! I like to joke around with people too, and it's hard to convey something said in a light-hearted manner via text, even by adding "lol". I wish there were options to eliminate texts on phones lol!!
Lol...I feel your pain. Had a minor disagreement with a girl I was talking to for a month or a little longer recently, thought she was basically threatening to stop talking to me so I basically told her I didn't want to talk any longer...by the time I/we figured it out it was too late in my opinion, damage was already done...things thrown all out of wack for sure...just a bad way to go. A message here and there is ok if you just aren't able to talk but as far as a "texting relationship " goes, is really a BAD idea! Gotta have some emotional and expressing PHYSICAL contact for the most part.
I'm a female and I'm not speaking for all females but if I stop texting a guy I like it's usually because he becomes distant and doesn't put in much work so I sit and think about it a minute, slow down and see his reaction and if he doesn't care then I know where I stand and where it's going. Then day by day I stop texting because he stopped texting first.
I've been meeting several women over the last few months, and I swear the conversations get shorter and shorter. 1st when we meet we would have good long conversations, which they are impressed with at 1st then, I get the number. Then the next few days when I contact them usually through text, we have a good conversation for a while a couple of days or a day or two. Then all of a sudden they stop texting or don't answer my calls, and I don't know why. We would not have any disputes or anything. They simply stop texting. And the problem is it's not one girl, it's all of them doing this. I move on and leave them alone after they don't respond. And probably hit them up a month later she still doesn't respond. But my thing is what am I doing wrong or is it bad luck. Cause all of them like over 10 girls is doing this to me. I met over 10-15 girls this past year and I have not been successful with one. What's going on here ???
Same happens to me bro. Theres this chic i had a crush on for a while, we recently reconnected after years. Anyway had a good first date. Now i tried setting up another date and she totally ignores me now, it sucks.
i would but i don't have the money to set date like i would like, but i'm good on dates and face to face interactions so i'll might have better chances going on dates.
Plus i'm black so i don't know if the dating field or dating approach should be different with black people or black girls in general. cause their different.
Got a strange situation now, talked to a girl on tinder, gave me her Snapchat to set up a date, set up a flakey date a week away (only time we could). Texted all week, mainly silly stuff like memes but she instigated almost every time and most were very sexual. Even qualified herself when I sent best girlfriends do this kinda things. Even sent me loads of valentines messages. I said we still need to get that drink, she said yes we do and then when I tried to do logistics she just ghosted
Gotta be playful but not silly, even when they're goofing off, don't let them pull you into it, gotta be a serious man she would consider a lover. Once you start mirroring her silliness you can literally see her attraction dropping by the second.
Well I messed up with my girl, and she didn't want me talking about her at work, cause people were saying stuff about us. So she said let's take it at its pase and chill out on the calling and texting but she still wants to be with me.
None if this makes sense. This is why the divorce rate rises and most relationships dont work out. Kindness truly is a sign of intelligence, but being open honest n real is the way of the wise
I will just continue to do me and care for my daughter the best i can. My baby mama i guess got bored with me and i gives a shit at this point. Cuz you know what a Blessing is coming to me. Amen
Im a woman. After spending weeks of chatting, calling, he finally visited me (he lives 1 hr flight from me). We had a wonderful weekend, but in the end he only wanted to stay friends. I was dissapointed but still had hopes to change his mind. Texts n calls continued after his visit, at least one hour everyday. Then he admitted after i asked him that he chatted with another woman. It broke my heart, told him that. We still continued texting n calling, After a while, i stopped contacting him as i cannot stop thinking about him n the other woman. but it has not been easy from my side, i wonder what he’s thinking now??
my problem is she used to call or text me, now she doesn't do that at all. I've texted her like twice a week the last few weeks, i have initiated each time. And she responds with a generic answer like she is doing fine, or she has been busy with work. I think she is purposely ignoring me to test me. Anyone been through this? I know she talks to her girlfriends, and I think they maybe responsible for this. It drives me crazy that she is purposely ignoring me. Any advice?
Purposely ignoring you? If you're sure about that then you need to stop contacting her walk away and don't look back! Unless of course you like being treated that way
why does it always have to be about sex...guess it depends all on what you are looking for. most women today think that if a man isn't "pushing" for sex then he's not interested, boring, or possibly gay. I've been there too many times after sex and not having a good emotional foundation, the relationships end up being confusing and regretful, going this route seems to always communicate the wrong thing and end up with the wrong kind of women who will cheat, lie, and manipulate if things get difficult at anytime. I'm sure it really boiled down to the individual that that was attracted. I've been in bad relationships as long as I can remember and finally found my center in God and focussing on bettering myself in every way possible, with confidence and really never 2nd guess myself. I push through the hard times and every challenge overcome is an accomplishment. I started my own business and the people I know...some may not like me but they do respect me and my name means something to me. it seemed like everything started to fall in place...the last three years my income has increased every year as well as the quality of the jobs I/we do, until I violated my morals in a women who seemed to be on the same page with me but I had my reservations in her past marriage and how that ended with her cheating but she was very honest and remorseful so I looked past it or tried to. she was successful, had her masters in accounting and really seemed to have all of stuff together as well believed in God. She completely through herself at me from the beginning and we talked about a month (3 weeks before meeting). a lot of texting and some phone conversations, which now I know was a little of a mistake because when work picked back up she seemed to get upset that I really had to stay busy and focus on the jobs. she invited me to her place and what happened, happened. it did feel good/great but at the same time I felt conflicted a little but things still seemed to go great after that as well for a week or two. she was really talking about "the future" and how she is (maybe insecurities a little) and seemed all of a sudden a little out of touch so to speak after we got on the stupid subject of my past and my X (I don't know how still) she then asks me how I feel about "guy friends" to which I say seems ok and normal, and as she kept talking I ask well... what kind of friend because she says they've talked for over a year every day basically and didn't know if she would be ok with it if roles were reversed. this did bother me to which I said I think something like this could cause problems and didn't know if I was ok with it but let it be her decision and drop it. I respected it seemed she just wanted to be honest with me which was great but then her response to my feelings about it was "😔that sucks". afterwards it carried on way longer then it should have to becoming a kind of argument were she snapped at me. I really just wanted to leave it and even said to her that I respected that she was being honest but just felt lime why bring it up unless it were a problem for her , so now was stuck in my mind...why did she feel as if she needed that if we were so great. I then misread some of text messages to the effect of seeming as if she was trying to deflect and turn things around on me as well not being respectful as I was to her which all are things I use to deal with in bad relationships and just dis not want a part of. I told her I really didn't see us making it in the future (big mistake) and broke "us" off that night. when I realized that I completely misunderstood her text messages because she was very shocked and surprised I reread them and realized I made a mistake I felt and felt I owed it at least to myself to apologize and explain which was very difficult and things just seemed off afterwards with her and I although she did accept my apology, I think she was still hurt by what happened...not to mention the fact that I still wandered how it all even began from being in such a great place prior to the issue. everything was just a little uneasy afterwards bit we still tried and had set a date for the next Friday at her place again and she wanted me to meet her father because she was also moving into a bigger place and I wanted to help her I've or be there with her through it to help as well as enjoy her company and hopefully things just feel better again between us like it was before or even better just keep moving forward whatever that would be. I allowed the conflict to interfere with my work and my home/family life (daughter) and just got completely off centered. just seemed like everything was off... everything! before the date she seemed to get very distant and short but still wanted to keep our date and was one of the main things she would only talk about but I just was not feeling it 100% also on top of being behind on my jobs...I expected to have a day off before Friday to rest a little as well as get some other things in order. come Friday that did not happen, and ended up not finishing the job until late afternoon (around 6'ish) as well my daughter got so sick that she had to be picked up from school. she was running a temp around 103-104. when I told her that I really needed to stay home to take care of my daughter she acted as if she understood yet says afterwards "bad news, my mom is sick and I have to help her, I'll be staying over there again tonight"...it really didn't make a lot of since besides it hurt her feelings I couldn't come and felt the need to feel in control of the situation...maybe she didn't believe me to am extent, idk. after a day or two things gs seemed to get a little worse and I knew things we're in bad shape or place, then it got even worse to were she basically stopped texting and calling throughout the day and just acted a little cold towards me. I did finally say something to her, and it came out that she was angry with me and it DID matter that I didn't come on Friday...she then basically didn't want to try and work things out any longer to which I kind of knew that's where we were because of all the conflicts or if anything needed to really just back off which is difficult in that position without coming off the wrong way... I know now that it should have just been me who backed off and allowed things to be what they are because at that point I started trying to force things which really conflicted me because it was and had not been like that ever between us but more just effortless and very easy going. I finally got to the point of getting my center back and decided to do just that...there is nothing else to be done anyways. I feel like now looking back that there are definitely some things that bothered me in her feelings and actions as I am sure may be some on her side as well...but on my side they were only misunderstandings which I tried to explain without coming off any other way but natural because it was the truth. there were some definite lessons learned here and I really couldn't completely put my finger on them until watching some of these videos which seemed like things I already knew naturally but definitely couldn't put into words or pure though...more of just a feeling. I think Corey has so many things right as far as human (man and women) nature goes but at the same time there are things that I do not agree with/on as far as morals go...which is fine , I do not expect that with most people. his information has been a huge eye opener and has given a lot of clarity in where I was/am in my life as far as being a man....pretty awesome... and this has got to be the longest post I've ever made...Wow! good luck guys and just be who you really are... if you have some kind of insecurities, work on yourself before you date again. Godbless.
interesting..i recently dated a girl that probably thought the same thing of me cause our second date was a movie (horrible idea). There wasn't much interaction, it was late, as a result I was deemed a dud, even though our first date went near perfect. Went from a peak communication to basically her ignoring me after that or friendzoning if you will, once the idea of actually losing this girl settled in I lost myself and came across as weak as ive ever fking been, it was pathetic (continued)
So funny because I have a girl ive been talking to for a little while and we had a nice first date but the texts were dwindling so im like im just gonna ask her to go somewhere awesome and specfic with a specific time and offer to get her and drive her. Well worked like a charm...she lit up big time! Women position themselves but its up to you to take the shot.
yo, dude, I asked my girlfriend out about a week ago, and ever since that day, she's been more distant from me on Twitter, I'm only 13, and I'm just not sure what to do, we haven't spoken in 3 days, and we used to be talking 24/7 pretty much, I'm just confused on what to do now. I have fallen in to a little depression. I need help.
Welp, the phone is useless during this quarantine lol. In this situation currently, but I've watched this video a while ago in a past relationship. When she slowly backed up on the texting, i Immediately went no contact and didnt say anything. Havent messaged her in 2 days. She sent me a snap, but I opened it and since it was insignificant, I didnt respond. Mind you, I dumped this girl in February and she was begging to come back in March. We texted all the time.during this quarantine. That's where I fucked up. Luckily, I went no contact right away and after one day, she contacted me. I'm just going to let her go. I really dont care for game lol
So I’ve been dating this girl for ab 9 months... and she’s really amazing but she has a lot of male friends and Ik she’s talking to them a lot! And I mean it’s to the point where she’ll say she’s busy but talking to them.. she doesn’t respect me I put all the effort into this relationship I do everything right I always start the conversation but she just stops it real fast.. idk if it’s me or something I’m doing but she just doesn’t want me it seems like I get there will be many obstacles in a relationship but we’ve gotten around them but it’s like she isnt interested in me anymore.. Idk what to do.. help
I went to see a movie with a girl i like , i didn't make a move on her at all , now she seems to not be interested at all.what happened? I told her we can go out again... She never responded , did i make a mistake by not making a move on her? Or is it she just dont like me the way i thought she did ?what happened??
Hey coach, been dating this girl for over a month now, (along with others) and our connection is great. For most of it she's reached out to me. We are both real busy and schedules are conflicted so I said how's a late night date sound this Thursday when you get off work? She responded with you're so perfect. I texted back asking if she wants me to pick her up from her work. Never heard anything back 3 days later. My instincts are to keep it cool and wait but in certain situations where a text might not had gone through how do you handle it? I feel she's testing me but obviously technicalities do happen. Thanks
Corey, I'm wasting a lot of time and money driving into cities and finding out that my date is not going to show up. These girls are from the internet and it's pretty annoying! You said I shouldn't contact her until I meet her at the spot, but it looks like I'm going to have to start confirming dates. Yesterday I drove an hour into the city and at 7 pm, I texted her "Hey I'm here." and it showed that she read the message, but she didn't reply. and I called her at 7:15 but she didn't pick up and she didn't show up. I left at 7:30 and drove back home. Wasted my saturday. This is my third time getting stood up. It seems like 30% of the time these girls just don't show up and it's wasting a lot of my time and energy. What are my options??
Have them drive to within 15 minutes of where you live and to call you when they are ten minutes away. You sound and act desperate. Sounds like you're not properly setting up definite dates either. You're out of your fucking mind to drive an hour for an internet date. Desperate scarcity behavior.
You're right. Thanks for the new advice. I guess it's a good subtle way to confirm the date. I will try that next time and try to meet them in a location that's closer to me. I'm setting up definite dates and having good success with a lot of girls, but I was just annoyed about the ones not showing up. I guess it can seem desperate to drive an hour but I live in Korea and everyone, and I mean every fucking person lives in Seoul. Pretty annoying to live elsewhere. And nobody drives here esp girls. Subway culture. If they can't take the subway to someplace, they won't come.
Coach Corey Wayne so I have been giving some space for about a month and a half now.. theres some big news that happened that might be a good convo starter.. now its been a month because my last fun flirty txt she didn't take that way so she stopped txting... do you think shes mad or should I keep giving space or should I be talking to her? like for sample txt with a big news this happened thing something that we both would like to hear?
+Beautiful Music 4 All seriously!?? he obviously lives out of town, as he said he was driving into a city. if a person says there going to be somewhere then they should be there. you shouldn't make assumptions
brickclimber thanks for understanding my situation. it's like people don't read what i write before replying. It's alright though because I've moved into the city now, and living super close to the nearest major spots.
Ok so look bro we been talking for like 4 months and know she don’t even text me back,I feel like she talking to someone else... And we still kiss. I don’t know if it’s me or what and when we’re in class together we don’t say a word to each other anymore. but we still walk and talk with each other to class pls give advice I really love this girl🤦
What if we have been dating months and you wait 1 week after last date to get text from her or snap and then you wait until 3-4 weeks went by? Last date she asked what are we? I joked about it. Should I call her? Tell me what is happening.
Hey Corey(BTW ur videos are super helpful) Im having a problem with a girl. The girl and I met thru a mutual friend and started texting a bunch. We met in person once in November. Now, she stopped texting me and went ghost. She claims that she's going thru some problems at home(but I can see her on my news feed on Facebook) so really my question is.. Is she using the “problems at home" excuse to tell me she's not interested anymore??
Im going through the same shit. Called this chic im talking to and she never called me back. Its weird she has never done that before. she usually calls me back within a day. Good thing is that ive fought the urge to call back or text her.
I'm a girl and I'm having the same problem with a guy. We talked every single day until the beginning of this month. Now he is becoming distant and says he has stuff on his mind and something is going on with his brother so his brother is staying with him so he is hardly talking to me but I see him on social media talking to other people. Then at random times he will act normal with me but go back to being distant.
I should wait until 2 days for my gf to text me or something or wait till she texts. She makes the dates up the for us i dont have a car her dad drives her to see me and takes us to our dates.
3) do you really firmly believe that he may be entitled or awaiting a sexual invitation or experience? There is a chance that he may feel he hast earned your heart yet to achieve love. I for one cant bring it to myself to even remotely think of a sexual experience on a 2nd date with someone who I really like, there plenty of time for lovensex but I don't want to convey the fact that this is my main priority, and of course my attempt at genuinity produces an opposite effect of what I wanted.
I have a question. We use to always have sex and she would be the one to tell me like lets do it. Now these past like year she says she dont want to do it cuz i dont ask or show Interest that i want to do it. But ive always been the one to just go with the flow type of person. Now we hardly do anything not even kiss. Idknw now she ignores my text and says that she isnt ignoring.
I just got what you’re saying Corey. When a guy understands women and how attraction works then he doesn’t have to ask a woman what’s up, where are we, or what’s going on. Because when he knows how to read a woman then he will already know what’s up from her actions. Duh!
Maybe its me she work and she goes to school but when she was at school we text here and there i understand but she open the message but dont reply why would that be i made plans with her this friday hanging out with here sis
So If Me And This Girl Was Texting Everyday And All Of A sudden she stopped texting back to me for 3days now.. now what? Should I send her a text or if she happens to text back do I wait as long as she did or reply that same day. Or should just move on to the next? This girl is from another country, a friend I work with recommended me her cousin.
I met a girl and slept with her in the first night ..3 days later we meet up again ..thn for 3 weeks she would always come to my house ..she would text me everyday single day .. Both me and the girl was excited coz she told me that she will be on a 3 week holiday and that we can see each other more...but the night before her holiday started she got a message saying she must come work and they need her desperately..so she told me she wont be able to see me maybe for the week ..i was upset and she also sounded upset on the phone...i thn told her that she can go work but shes going to be mine (MY GIRLFRIEND) ... i mean since that day i told her shes going to be mine she was shocked and she never texted me the same and always like she used to..she text me less now..please help me i love her and want to be with her ..what can i do ???
Hey Corey i have a question I've been talking to this girl since October i met her through a friend which there relatives then around the 2nd month she claims to tell me that she had a crush on me when we 1st met and she says that she still does but since last week she's been a bit distance with me ever since we went on a 1st mini date what could be the reason why she's distant through text messages?😕
That's not true I've tried to get to the point and schedule meet ups and dates they say I'm jumping the gun to early and asking them to early She barley knows me that's what they say. Then their is others that say I'm taking to long to ask them. Which is in consistent and confusing to me.
In the old days, there was no texting. you see each other and plan with the male taking the lead. now there's constant communication so the guy wants to talk to his girl. dates can happen sporadically but if you're only looking for escalation, the guy isn't being pleased since he's supposed to play a little mind game and constantly escalate? that can happen on dates, just talk with the guy.
So would this be similar to my situation? So there was this girl in my class in spring semester of college and we were just friends at the time. We both were in relationships at the time too so obviously we didn't exchange numbers. Summer came around and me and my girl broke up and I just hangin out goin through tinder and I see that she had one too. We matched and talked briefly and exchanged numbers and added each other on social media. She fell off the radar after awhile and I saw her at the bars with another guy. She told me they've been on a couple dates so I played it cool and moved on. Then a week later she messages me, we talk and I ask how she and the guy are and she goes she isn't talking to him anymore cause he was a jerk. I was at my 2 week military drill so I asked if she wanted to do something when I got back and she said yeah. We keep textin the next few days then she fell off the radar again and she's still posting on social media and stuff which means I can almost bet she's read my messages. I think I did fall in for her too fast because based on what I know about her we have a lot in common. I just wanna know what to do next.
I'm so glad I found this video! I went out with this girl for the first date and it went great. But the next 2 days she's a little slow in respond to text and sometimes just stopped texting back. I'll give her some room and the next text will be asking her out for the second date.
Hey Corey., I would love your help sometime. I have been talking to a new girl from match.com. we text off and on and had a date scheduled but she canceled because her daughter was sick. she also told me she has to back off for a little bit but I shouldn't go to far. what should I do ?
I'm a woman and you are giving excellent advice to these men. Ive have always felt that way and I am like the woman in this scenario! I'm open and willing to spend time with a man but I'm not going to do his part for him lol. He needs to take initiative and set up a date. Also spot on with the cat comparison haha
i think its working corey we got in contact today but the length of her texts have been very short still i think i should just arrange a date rather then dis whole sitting around and chit-chat
Coach in the future can u please make videos also with what to do and maybe a new kind of set up so it is fun to watch your videos. You teach great stuff but i only listen and almost never watch your videos
'Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner' - De Niro (from Heat). This applies to women like a charm. If they ever give you bullshit, drama, ignore you, play games, etc. walkaway unattached like a man. She is not the last woman on the planet.
+nocode36 the sad thing about that is you will never form bonds with anything. ANYTHING. doesnt have to apply to people. I have a dog, there is no way I could walk out on him. It is a bit extreme though, because it is from a movie! lol! But I do agree not to stand for the bullshit, drama, games, etc as you mentioned. that is just nonsense to me. I dont have time for that.
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Bro, going by the quote, it is clear that you are not willing to walk out in 30 seconds flat from your dog. And so, it is okay to get attached to it ! ;-)
Thank you.
But what if she has a GREAT ASS?
If you want to know if a girl likes you, you can tell by her feet...if they are behind her ears..she likes you ALOT
lol that was somehow ironically hilarious
Charles Ballard 😆
Charles Ballard no
Charles Ballard stop it lol lol lol
I have a hard time tryna figure Wht u mean by tht lmao can anyone explain
Texting is exhausting. It's not really a true connection.
But we live in the 21st century. There is no way around. Women nowadays don't talk on the phone anymore. Women don't even send voice messages anymore. They don't even know how to talk on the phone anymore because it is not necessary to talk with anyone on the phone (besdies their parents) and they never do it.
@@michaelenns8872 true man...
I feel the same way
Women don't disappear to test you, they quit responding simply because she's not interested. If a woman is interested she will be in touch daily and want to see you and spend time with you, not disappear. same goes for men. just move on. If she says she's busy, that bs too, people in general will make time for people they are into no matter how busy they are.
Guess you are right
@@juzzblaze9116 - dude, never listen to girls when they give advice about girls. It's like an umbrella shit test. The girl who wrote this comment is essentially doing a global shit test on any dumb enough to listen to her "advice".
The truth is, people get busy. But, coach Corey is also correct in pointing out that girls want to chase. It's how they're built, whether they admit it or not
A girl who isn't text bombing a guy may be actually busy and distracted with the rest of the the stuff in her life. This is especially true if you've just recently met. She isn't going to drop everything to engage a guy. She may also already be talking to or texting with several other guys.
In the case described in the video, the guy just needed to chill out and let her come to him. And then do as coach Corey insists: don't be her chat buddy, make a date.
Texting back and forth often is actually a bad sign. Well, it's a sign that the guy is friend zoning himself, which is bad for the guy (and if he's a decent guy, bad for the girl too because she'll never see him as a sex partner, just a friend).
Didn't hear from the girl today? Don't panic. Go on about your life. If she had any interest, she'll eventually text you. Make a date when she does. If she doesn't text you, asking stupid self qualifying questions like the guy in the story did is a surefire way to make sure she never does text you again.
But, the bottom line is girls do play games and do shit test to see if you will act needy (ie, ask "why haven't you txt me?).
Well my girl is still in high school and she's just thinking about that, so that's not bad and she wants to go to college
kimburly burnz you’re right about that
if there is no question, that is not a problem. And even friends do that... But if you text many times and it happens than yes
If a girl likes you - doors start opening! If the doors starts closing - you simply walk away!
Bingo, Bingo, Bingo! If a girl likes you, she will put herself in your universe, and make a way for you to ask her out, she will go out with you, she will show interest and she won't act cold, distant, with mixed signals and these silly-girl mind-game-type weirdness. Screw all of that. I have come to the point where I could care less how beautiful a woman is--if she isn't interested, or wants to play games, then I'm walking away. I could care less if she looked like Kate Upton or the most beautiful woman on the planet--why waste your time, and drive yourself insane and get caught up in someone that you might like, or are infatuated with, and even enjoy their company and find them to be a lovely individual, with a lot in common, if they aren't interested in reciprocating? The thing is, there are tons of women that will WANT you, that will actually put themselves in your orbit, and will want to know you, will want to hang out, have fun, and eventually fall in love with you--but people, especially men and we men do this more often than not, we put these women on a pedestal and we get too caught up in them. If they aren't interested, you will know it. Like Corey always says, "Pay attention to what a woman DOES, not what she SAYS" at the beginning of a connection, because if she is interested, she'll make a way to see you, she won't come up with BS excuses to 'get out of it', and she will be happy to see you again.
Women do things VERY SLOWLY sometimes, because they want to take it easy, they do not want to rush into anything (and rightfully-so!), and the mystery is what keeps it all going sometimes; the mystery is an attractive foundation. Like Corey says, "Women fall in slowly OVER TIME." If a man is doing all of the right things at the beginning (especially NOT being clingy and needy, etc., over-pursuing and whatnot), then she will want to see you if her interest level is high enough. 51% or above, as is taught.
I have even been around women that I can tell are attracted to me, that like me, because they go out with me, but they do not ask many personal questions about me as much as I do with them (letting them talk 70-80% of the time), and often times it is because they LIKE THE MYSTERY. I am speaking about when I first get together--this has happened to me before--they will ask a question here and there, but not like I do, even though they are obviously attracted to me and go out with me! I mean, even inviting me out to special events with guest passes, etc. If a woman goes out of her way to invite you out to a special event with a guest pass, that is usually a good sign that she wants to see you, EVEN IF SHE DOESN'T ADMIT IT, and comes up with another reason why ("I just felt like you'd enjoy it" or "There will be a lot of great people there, and this will give you an opportunity to network with creative people" etc. etc. etc.) when the REALITY is, she wouldn't have thought to invite you out had she not wanted to see you, had she not shown interest, had she just felt like you weren't a catch.
These are just examples I have seen and learned. Fascinating how all of this works, but it does!
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@@DerrickthePinecone i had a girl who liked me but unfortunately she was also taken
@@fargeeks You've got to be careful with some of these women that have a wandering eye when they're 'taken' and such. Leave those women alone and find women that are single. You'll save yourself a lot of future headaches and pain. There are many women out there that will want to go out with you that are single.
@@DerrickthePinecone big time
And it also suck big time for unfortunately
This cute girl and i that i met at work
We were chatting for a few months regarding telling each other about ourselves and such.
But yeah she seemed to had a thing for me as she was the one who initiated the conversation via Facebook, text.
I saw that she had a boyfriend but thought nothing of it
Anyway one time when she told me that she recently got a new place together, ( in the midst of talking to each other and flirting), that told me that even if i were to tell her its either him or me she would always stay together whenever they got home from work.
She even sent me pictures of her and cute pictures of her daughter who was still a baby but is old enough to walk on her own.
She a impressive job on leading me on and entertaining me.
Yet she claims that she had "genuine" feelings for me but now they are gone.
Im not sure if they were genuine because i didn't actually set a date nor did i pick up on her hints when she told me where she was at.
At work at time she would walk by and touch my shoulder giving me that smile.
Basically if she was single then i would know that theres was a perfect appropriate opportunity.
Anyway now she doesn't want to talk to me anymore, one of her last words she said to me was "now leave me alone" and afterwards im also surprised that she unblocked me but i didnt say anything anymore.
What also sucks is the fact i was not supposed to be talking to her nor was she supposed to be talking to me either.
I guess you cannot be daily chatting with anyone unless its your lover.
Oh well
And was one person that was actually interested in communicating like adults.
Every one else i talk to either gives me one word or few word responses to reading my messages and not reply
9 years later and this video is still helping. Thank you coach corey!
I was the person who wrote this email.. haha. I had no clue.
11 not 9
Wisdom speaks for itself
Coach Corey Wayne it's my crush we been texting for 3 weeks and she said to me she really likes me she said to ring her but she block my number I don't know why what does this mean does she still really like me should I give her space and don't text her, what does this sound like is she testing me?
Basically, there is no solution. You shouldn't have to force love on anyone. The right one will care and make time. If not.........👋🏽
This guy's son is gonna be the biggest ladies man..! lucky kid
Yeah, if he has son's they'll be getting all the chicks. If he has daughters they'll be friend zoning even the guy's who read his book 15 times.
+Arthur Jackson =)))))
@Anonymous Guy how would this be a lie when it's just a statement. He ain't even got kids...lol
It's a what if
I don't think he wants kids.
That cat metaphor was quite accurate
Sometimes they take forever and you just get completely turned off by them. They don’t make time for you at the beginning but at the end they wanna give it shot.
When they start to take a day to reply I just ditch the mofos if they are interested they will reply no matter what!
It's not a test, when he starts acting up and distant I back off. Simple
Wow thanks Corey, glad I came across this sometimes we loose sight of what’s important and get caught up in constant texting. Digital interaction is inferior to physical interaction
i tried to make a date and was told "sorry but i cant"
that was a "oh well... i tried" to me.
I stopped texting because he told me he just wanted to be friends. so I'm doing just that. I don't text my friends daily. now he is texting me daily saying hey, good morning, etc. I won't respond. I'm not a backup plan.
Bravo!
I broke it last night and asked how his Labor Day was going.
*idiot*
Daimonon well, I've officially cut him off. He's tried texting me a few times, I just responded with one word each time. Then I told him I had another offer for New Year's and I wasn't going to try to see him anymore. He hasn't tried talking to me since then, about 3 days ago, so I think he got the message.
April R That's good! Only thing you shouldn't have told you would try to not see him anymore. That have him thinking he still have some power. So he buying his time right now by not contacting you so you will miss him.
Honestly I don't think he is smart enough to be that calculating
This is how it works. Treat women how you would want to be treated. If she starts treating you like crap, CALL HER OUT ON IT!!! don't just sit there and take her selfish behavior.
I agree
Can’t do that. That’s feminine behavior gotta just fall back & get another girl
Calling her out just make you look weak. Just move on. It's not like the world is gonna end if she doesn't text back.
In many of his videos coach says if you don't call her out on her bs then she will not respect you because you look like a weak guy that cant stand up to her. If she just isn't texting you at all and you're not in a relationship with her then yeah just let it go and move on like the other comments said.
Headline and description of video are more important than tags for search.
If a girl doesn’t respond I block them. I know how it feels now when a girl really likes you. She will be waiting to hear from you.
Until she tells you "leave me alone"
8 year later still helping. My G
Love this video! Saying it as it is! Women are here to receive... :)
Lol.. Happened with me multiple times.... Truth is brothers us better be moving... They got someone else to talk to...
I even had other buddies started ignoring my messages
I quit at 2:11 ...
That seems to be all people want these days ...
Sebastian Lang Both of you are obviously not paying attention or watching the whole video. I’m the beginning, a guy should only use the phone to set up a date. As the woman gets more comfortable she’ll reach out to talk between dates. As the relationship progresses (6-8 weeks), they will ideally communicate more over the phone. In the beginning, why would you want to talk about everything over the phone? So you don’t have to meet in person? So you have nothing to speak about in person? Wonder how your date will go when you just repeat the same questions during the date because you have nothing left to talk about. You probably haven’t been laid since you posted this 4 years ago. GTFOH, you’ll never get a woman with your thinking.
Your videos are PURE GOLD
This has honestly helped me out a lot. Thank you Corey!
Women are even more picky than guys imo.
From a strictly carnal perspective, yes. For finding a good catch, I find I've recently been more picky as I've been the one to say no to future dates.
When you text or message either by phone or social media and she responds try not to respond back so quickly. That way she might wonder where you're at and what you're doing.
If she like you put your arm around her, why not?
Dell Jr yea I do that, I always wait a while before I get back to them especially since I’m a teen and Snapchat is huge for our generation right now
Thank you Corey for improving my life. Love your videos, bought your audio book. You change my life and the way I deal with women! If women don't know what they want, how the men supposed to? Thanks again!!
Corey funny but great advice for the guys! Men get some balls and ask her out!! As a woman can I say I HATE TEXT!! This happened to me recently with a guy and totally ruined what started off with great potential! We met at the dog park and quickly connected, despite how shy he was. He showed great interest in me, chasing me and arranging to meet up. For 5 days straight we spent over 2 hrs a night talking alone and getting to know one another personally like 5 mini dates! Each night he asked more and even about great restaurants in the area to try, etc. The last night he finally asked if I was single and gave me his #, asking me to hit him up when I wanted to link up. I felt this should've been the other way around as he's the guy but chalked it up to his shyness. So I text him the next day and he responded and it quickly turned into a text only relationship, not even meeting up again at the park as he is busy starting up a major business venture. He texted every day for 2 weeks, never arranging a date or even seeing each other at the park! We had a few phone conversations lasting hours and the chemistry was there, but he'd always resort to text despite me saying I hate it! I even casually mentioned meeting up once or twice, and either he'd say "yes sounds great", then I wouldn't hear from him on that day, or dead silence. It's like he started off chasing and heavily pursuing me, then once he got my #, the whole idea of arranging a date flew out the window and he expected me to set a date or chase him. I finally gave up and withdrew and bam he shows up at the dog park and starts chatting in person again! So we start having a great connection again and he gets back into text only in between! I'm sorry I don't have time for these games! This is a 42 year old, very successful man who can't or won't set a date or pick up the phone, but expects me to text all day when he wanted attention. I'm done. I do see him at the park once in a while but it's become awkward, as I think I hurt his ego as I completely stopped texting him. Men need to pick up the phone and talk, or set up a date! Trust me if a woman meets you in person and likes you enough to give her #, she wants to be asked out, not texted forever! It's silly and a waste of time! Facebook is dumb too. I personally like in person contact first always, followed by a phone call. Text should be a last resort! Plus there is no way to read a person's emotions through text, and many things get taken wrong. Why ruin something that could be good because you want to be lazy or shy and text? Don't do it guys!!! Unless you're OK with losing her! Just my opinion from experience!
Thanks for sharing. I wish every woman thought like you. I hate texting (most of the time), but unfortunately most young women today hate talking on the phone and insist on texting as the way to communicate. Personally I hate arranging dates through text because it usually turns into a drawn-out back-and-forth of when and where. I'd rather just spend 5 minutes on the phone and be done with it! But no, (some) women don't think of it like that.
rovan26 this actually happened to me... as far as the misunderstandings go. everything was great until there was a huge misunderstanding on a sketchy topic. also it interferes your daily life as far as family and work goes....huge east of time texting!!!
David U Couldn't agree more! When I start getting texts all day from one person, I have to resist throwing my phone against a wall lol! I actually dated a guy for 3 months who only text. I can't count how many times something was taken the wrong way. He would text whole conversations, and I was too busy to respond immediately to each text. He'd complain he never met anyone who took so long to reply to texts as me. I told him I'm not a texter & don't like being glued to my phone. I would then call him in the middle of texting, and he wouldn't answer the phone!!! 2 seconds later, he'd send another text though, ugh!! I like to joke around with people too, and it's hard to convey something said in a light-hearted manner via text, even by adding "lol". I wish there were options to eliminate texts on phones lol!!
Lol...I feel your pain. Had a minor disagreement with a girl I was talking to for a month or a little longer recently, thought she was basically threatening to stop talking to me so I basically told her I didn't want to talk any longer...by the time I/we figured it out it was too late in my opinion, damage was already done...things thrown all out of wack for sure...just a bad way to go. A message here and there is ok if you just aren't able to talk but as far as a "texting relationship " goes, is really a BAD idea! Gotta have some emotional and expressing PHYSICAL contact for the most part.
Lol...I think there was a couple times I wanted to break my phone as well...
Corey, you give the best advice to men! Thank you!!
As a woman, I think you give great advice.
I read that as you calling Corey a woman
I'm a female and I'm not speaking for all females but if I stop texting a guy I like it's usually because he becomes distant and doesn't put in much work so I sit and think about it a minute, slow down and see his reaction and if he doesn't care then I know where I stand and where it's going. Then day by day I stop texting because he stopped texting first.
But what if the guy do text the girl but the girl who may be interested stopped responding? Why?
@@leealex24 the she doesn't like you. If they wanted to try would. Remember that
@@SnowWhite-tc5vrNo way I’d take dating advice from a damn woman. Just delete this.
@@_WOR Exactly. You can't ask a fish how to catch fish.
@@pkyt2458 Precisely. Words to live by.
I've been meeting several women over the last few months, and I swear the conversations get shorter and shorter. 1st when we meet we would have good long conversations, which they are impressed with at 1st then, I get the number. Then the next few days when I contact them usually through text, we have a good conversation for a while a couple of days or a day or two. Then all of a sudden they stop texting or don't answer my calls, and I don't know why. We would not have any disputes or anything. They simply stop texting. And the problem is it's not one girl, it's all of them doing this. I move on and leave them alone after they don't respond. And probably hit them up a month later she still doesn't respond. But my thing is what am I doing wrong or is it bad luck. Cause all of them like over 10 girls is doing this to me. I met over 10-15 girls this past year and I have not been successful with one. What's going on here ???
Same happens to me bro. Theres this chic i had a crush on for a while, we recently reconnected after years. Anyway had a good first date. Now i tried setting up another date and she totally ignores me now, it sucks.
Also you need to set dates, a maximum of 3 text messages back and forth.
i would but i don't have the money to set date like i would like, but i'm good on dates and face to face interactions so i'll might have better chances going on dates.
Plus i'm black so i don't know if the dating field or dating approach should be different with black people or black girls in general. cause their different.
***** you right you right good logic good logic
Got a strange situation now, talked to a girl on tinder, gave me her Snapchat to set up a date, set up a flakey date a week away (only time we could). Texted all week, mainly silly stuff like memes but she instigated almost every time and most were very sexual. Even qualified herself when I sent best girlfriends do this kinda things. Even sent me loads of valentines messages. I said we still need to get that drink, she said yes we do and then when I tried to do logistics she just ghosted
Gotta be playful but not silly, even when they're goofing off, don't let them pull you into it, gotta be a serious man she would consider a lover. Once you start mirroring her silliness you can literally see her attraction dropping by the second.
Perfect Corey! You are the man. That's the best video I've seen. Hard truth is the best
Well I messed up with my girl, and she didn't want me talking about her at work, cause people were saying stuff about us. So she said let's take it at its pase and chill out on the calling and texting but she still wants to be with me.
None if this makes sense. This is why the divorce rate rises and most relationships dont work out. Kindness truly is a sign of intelligence, but being open honest n real is the way of the wise
She's like; You're texting my patience dude!
Excellent advice, I hate it when I get a text from a guy saying "Whats up?
There's a new reason why we stop texting Corey, Elliot Scott tells us not to!
I will just continue to do me and care for my daughter the best i can.
My baby mama i guess got bored with me and i gives a shit at this point.
Cuz you know what a Blessing is coming to me.
Amen
“Hey I wanna know when you’re free to get together” that’s the money line
Sometimes it's his own fault for not valuing her and ignoring her first. In some cases he wanted her to stop and go away. So she did.
nobody is letting anyone walk away unless they are already replaced-- unless you are a legit mental health case and safety threat
If she's not texting she's probably testing.
Im a woman. After spending weeks of chatting, calling, he finally visited me (he lives 1 hr flight from me). We had a wonderful weekend, but in the end he only wanted to stay friends. I was dissapointed but still had hopes to change his mind. Texts n calls continued after his visit, at least one hour everyday. Then he admitted after i asked him that he chatted with another woman. It broke my heart, told him that. We still continued texting n calling, After a while, i stopped contacting him as i cannot stop thinking about him n the other woman. but it has not been easy from my side, i wonder what he’s thinking now??
Why do women always have to do this play hard to get shit? Isn't it about bloody time they did some of the initiative taking?
my problem is she used to call or text me, now she doesn't do that at all. I've texted her like twice a week the last few weeks, i have initiated each time. And she responds with a generic answer like she is doing fine, or she has been busy with work. I think she is purposely ignoring me to test me. Anyone been through this? I know she talks to her girlfriends, and I think they maybe responsible for this. It drives me crazy that she is purposely ignoring me. Any advice?
Purposely ignoring you? If you're sure about that then you need to stop contacting her walk away and don't look back! Unless of course you like being treated that way
DalipSinghsmom yea i am going through the exact same shit you went through .
Move the fuck on
Corey know what he's talking about! Great info & video👌🏾
why does it always have to be about sex...guess it depends all on what you are looking for. most women today think that if a man isn't "pushing" for sex then he's not interested, boring, or possibly gay. I've been there too many times after sex and not having a good emotional foundation, the relationships end up being confusing and regretful, going this route seems to always communicate the wrong thing and end up with the wrong kind of women who will cheat, lie, and manipulate if things get difficult at anytime. I'm sure it really boiled down to the individual that that was attracted. I've been in bad relationships as long as I can remember and finally found my center in God and focussing on bettering myself in every way possible, with confidence and really never 2nd guess myself. I push through the hard times and every challenge overcome is an accomplishment. I started my own business and the people I know...some may not like me but they do respect me and my name means something to me. it seemed like everything started to fall in place...the last three years my income has increased every year as well as the quality of the jobs I/we do, until I violated my morals in a women who seemed to be on the same page with me but I had my reservations in her past marriage and how that ended with her cheating but she was very honest and remorseful so I looked past it or tried to. she was successful, had her masters in accounting and really seemed to have all of stuff together as well believed in God. She completely through herself at me from the beginning and we talked about a month (3 weeks before meeting). a lot of texting and some phone conversations, which now I know was a little of a mistake because when work picked back up she seemed to get upset that I really had to stay busy and focus on the jobs. she invited me to her place and what happened, happened. it did feel good/great but at the same time I felt conflicted a little but things still seemed to go great after that as well for a week or two. she was really talking about "the future" and how she is (maybe insecurities a little) and seemed all of a sudden a little out of touch so to speak after we got on the stupid subject of my past and my X (I don't know how still) she then asks me how I feel about "guy friends" to which I say seems ok and normal, and as she kept talking I ask well... what kind of friend because she says they've talked for over a year every day basically and didn't know if she would be ok with it if roles were reversed. this did bother me to which I said I think something like this could cause problems and didn't know if I was ok with it but let it be her decision and drop it. I respected it seemed she just wanted to be honest with me which was great but then her response to my feelings about it was "😔that sucks". afterwards it carried on way longer then it should have to becoming a kind of argument were she snapped at me. I really just wanted to leave it and even said to her that I respected that she was being honest but just felt lime why bring it up unless it were a problem for her , so now was stuck in my mind...why did she feel as if she needed that if we were so great. I then misread some of text messages to the effect of seeming as if she was trying to deflect and turn things around on me as well not being respectful as I was to her which all are things I use to deal with in bad relationships and just dis not want a part of. I told her I really didn't see us making it in the future (big mistake) and broke "us" off that night. when I realized that I completely misunderstood her text messages because she was very shocked and surprised I reread them and realized I made a mistake I felt and felt I owed it at least to myself to apologize and explain which was very difficult and things just seemed off afterwards with her and I although she did accept my apology, I think she was still hurt by what happened...not to mention the fact that I still wandered how it all even began from being in such a great place prior to the issue. everything was just a little uneasy afterwards bit we still tried and had set a date for the next Friday at her place again and she wanted me to meet her father because she was also moving into a bigger place and I wanted to help her I've or be there with her through it to help as well as enjoy her company and hopefully things just feel better again between us like it was before or even better just keep moving forward whatever that would be. I allowed the conflict to interfere with my work and my home/family life (daughter) and just got completely off centered. just seemed like everything was off... everything! before the date she seemed to get very distant and short but still wanted to keep our date and was one of the main things she would only talk about but I just was not feeling it 100% also on top of being behind on my jobs...I expected to have a day off before Friday to rest a little as well as get some other things in order. come Friday that did not happen, and ended up not finishing the job until late afternoon (around 6'ish) as well my daughter got so sick that she had to be picked up from school. she was running a temp around 103-104. when I told her that I really needed to stay home to take care of my daughter she acted as if she understood yet says afterwards "bad news, my mom is sick and I have to help her, I'll be staying over there again tonight"...it really didn't make a lot of since besides it hurt her feelings I couldn't come and felt the need to feel in control of the situation...maybe she didn't believe me to am extent, idk. after a day or two things gs seemed to get a little worse and I knew things we're in bad shape or place, then it got even worse to were she basically stopped texting and calling throughout the day and just acted a little cold towards me. I did finally say something to her, and it came out that she was angry with me and it DID matter that I didn't come on Friday...she then basically didn't want to try and work things out any longer to which I kind of knew that's where we were because of all the conflicts or if anything needed to really just back off which is difficult in that position without coming off the wrong way... I know now that it should have just been me who backed off and allowed things to be what they are because at that point I started trying to force things which really conflicted me because it was and had not been like that ever between us but more just effortless and very easy going. I finally got to the point of getting my center back and decided to do just that...there is nothing else to be done anyways. I feel like now looking back that there are definitely some things that bothered me in her feelings and actions as I am sure may be some on her side as well...but on my side they were only misunderstandings which I tried to explain without coming off any other way but natural because it was the truth. there were some definite lessons learned here and I really couldn't completely put my finger on them until watching some of these videos which seemed like things I already knew naturally but definitely couldn't put into words or pure though...more of just a feeling. I think Corey has so many things right as far as human (man and women) nature goes but at the same time there are things that I do not agree with/on as far as morals go...which is fine , I do not expect that with most people. his information has been a huge eye opener and has given a lot of clarity in where I was/am in my life as far as being a man....pretty awesome... and this has got to be the longest post I've ever made...Wow! good luck guys and just be who you really are... if you have some kind of insecurities, work on yourself before you date again. Godbless.
interesting..i recently dated a girl that probably thought the same thing of me cause our second date was a movie (horrible idea). There wasn't much interaction, it was late, as a result I was deemed a dud, even though our first date went near perfect. Went from a peak communication to basically her ignoring me after that or friendzoning if you will, once the idea of actually losing this girl settled in I lost myself and came across as weak as ive ever fking been, it was pathetic (continued)
So funny because I have a girl ive been talking to for a little while and we had a nice first date but the texts were dwindling so im like im just gonna ask her to go somewhere awesome and specfic with a specific time and offer to get her and drive her. Well worked like a charm...she lit up big time! Women position themselves but its up to you to take the shot.
I love this guy what a savage
yo, dude, I asked my girlfriend out about a week ago, and ever since that day, she's been more distant from me on Twitter, I'm only 13, and I'm just not sure what to do, we haven't spoken in 3 days, and we used to be talking 24/7 pretty much, I'm just confused on what to do now. I have fallen in to a little depression. I need help.
lol, your comment came a bit late XDD
Oh...
Yep ... feminine energy is about opening up and receiving .... GIFTS!
It’s been about three weeks sense I heard from her
Is it still going well?
That should tell you he's clueless.
Lmfaooo
Welp, the phone is useless during this quarantine lol. In this situation currently, but I've watched this video a while ago in a past relationship. When she slowly backed up on the texting, i Immediately went no contact and didnt say anything. Havent messaged her in 2 days. She sent me a snap, but I opened it and since it was insignificant, I didnt respond. Mind you, I dumped this girl in February and she was begging to come back in March. We texted all the time.during this quarantine. That's where I fucked up.
Luckily, I went no contact right away and after one day, she contacted me. I'm just going to let her go. I really dont care for game lol
Great advice. Pickin' up is an artform.
Excellent advice. Personalize it individually
So I’ve been dating this girl for ab 9 months... and she’s really amazing but she has a lot of male friends and Ik she’s talking to them a lot! And I mean it’s to the point where she’ll say she’s busy but talking to them.. she doesn’t respect me I put all the effort into this relationship I do everything right I always start the conversation but she just stops it real fast.. idk if it’s me or something I’m doing but she just doesn’t want me it seems like I get there will be many obstacles in a relationship but we’ve gotten around them but it’s like she isnt interested in me anymore.. Idk what to do.. help
This guy is a savage Lmaooo! Subscribed!
Women who like you will make it easy for you simple and plain...
I went to see a movie with a girl i like , i didn't make a move on her at all , now she seems to not be interested at all.what happened? I told her we can go out again... She never responded , did i make a mistake by not making a move on her? Or is it she just dont like me the way i thought she did ?what happened??
Hey Corey I got this girls number yesterday and we were talking and around 11:00pm she disappeared and she won't respond. What should I do?
its been a week
her bf made it from swing shift
her bf made it from swing shift
whats that
+Juan Perez ok
Hey coach, been dating this girl for over a month now, (along with others) and our connection is great. For most of it she's reached out to me. We are both real busy and schedules are conflicted so I said how's a late night date sound this Thursday when you get off work? She responded with you're so perfect. I texted back asking if she wants me to pick her up from her work. Never heard anything back 3 days later. My instincts are to keep it cool and wait but in certain situations where a text might not had gone through how do you handle it? I feel she's testing me but obviously technicalities do happen. Thanks
Did she ever get back? What happened
@@brandongentile8577 honestly I don't even remember who this was about 🤪 in a relationship with a great girl for two years now tho
Dry conversations, poor consistency, and no plans around connecting are an instant turn off for me.
Corey, I'm wasting a lot of time and money driving into cities and finding out that my date is not going to show up. These girls are from the internet and it's pretty annoying! You said I shouldn't contact her until I meet her at the spot, but it looks like I'm going to have to start confirming dates. Yesterday I drove an hour into the city and at 7 pm, I texted her "Hey I'm here." and it showed that she read the message, but she didn't reply. and I called her at 7:15 but she didn't pick up and she didn't show up. I left at 7:30 and drove back home. Wasted my saturday. This is my third time getting stood up. It seems like 30% of the time these girls just don't show up and it's wasting a lot of my time and energy. What are my options??
Have them drive to within 15 minutes of where you live and to call you when they are ten minutes away. You sound and act desperate. Sounds like you're not properly setting up definite dates either. You're out of your fucking mind to drive an hour for an internet date. Desperate scarcity behavior.
You're right. Thanks for the new advice. I guess it's a good subtle way to confirm the date. I will try that next time and try to meet them in a location that's closer to me. I'm setting up definite dates and having good success with a lot of girls, but I was just annoyed about the ones not showing up. I guess it can seem desperate to drive an hour but I live in Korea and everyone, and I mean every fucking person lives in Seoul. Pretty annoying to live elsewhere. And nobody drives here esp girls. Subway culture. If they can't take the subway to someplace, they won't come.
Coach Corey Wayne so I have been giving some space for about a month and a half now.. theres some big news that happened that might be a good convo starter.. now its been a month because my last fun flirty txt she didn't take that way so she stopped txting... do you think shes mad or should I keep giving space or should I be talking to her? like for sample txt with a big news this happened thing something that we both would like to hear?
+Beautiful Music 4 All seriously!?? he obviously lives out of town, as he said he was driving into a city. if a person says there going to be somewhere then they should be there. you shouldn't make assumptions
brickclimber thanks for understanding my situation. it's like people don't read what i write before replying. It's alright though because I've moved into the city now, and living super close to the nearest major spots.
Ok so look bro we been talking for like 4 months and know she don’t even text me back,I feel like she talking to someone else... And we still kiss. I don’t know if it’s me or what and when we’re in class together we don’t say a word to each other anymore. but we still walk and talk with each other to class pls give advice I really love this girl🤦
What if we have been dating months and you wait 1 week after last date to get text from her or snap and then you wait until 3-4 weeks went by? Last date she asked what are we? I joked about it. Should I call her? Tell me what is happening.
Bro that’s over
Hey Corey(BTW ur videos are super helpful) Im having a problem with a girl. The girl and I met thru a mutual friend and started texting a bunch. We met in person once in November. Now, she stopped texting me and went ghost. She claims that she's going thru some problems at home(but I can see her on my news feed on Facebook) so really my question is.. Is she using the “problems at home" excuse to tell me she's not interested anymore??
Im going through the same shit. Called this chic im talking to and she never called me back. Its weird she has never done that before. she usually calls me back within a day. Good thing is that ive fought the urge to call back or text her.
I'm a girl and I'm having the same problem with a guy. We talked every single day until the beginning of this month. Now he is becoming distant and says he has stuff on his mind and something is going on with his brother so his brother is staying with him so he is hardly talking to me but I see him on social media talking to other people. Then at random times he will act normal with me but go back to being distant.
What if she constantly blocks your number because you didn't jump to do a favor or something when she asks
Could it be possible that my girlfriend doesn't like to read or is just lazy or should I just say hey let's get together for a movie tonight
I should wait until 2 days for my gf to text me or something or wait till she texts. She makes the dates up the for us i dont have a car her dad drives her to see me and takes us to our dates.
It’s ok and not needy to ask if something’s up and if everything is ok. Communication.
3) do you really firmly believe that he may be entitled or awaiting a sexual invitation or experience? There is a chance that he may feel he hast earned your heart yet to achieve love. I for one cant bring it to myself to even remotely think of a sexual experience on a 2nd date with someone who I really like, there plenty of time for lovensex but I don't want to convey the fact that this is my main priority, and of course my attempt at genuinity produces an opposite effect of what I wanted.
So we need to set up a date
6:00 wise words
I have a question.
We use to always have sex and she would be the one to tell me like lets do it.
Now these past like year she says she dont want to do it cuz i dont ask or show Interest that i want to do it.
But ive always been the one to just go with the flow type of person.
Now we hardly do anything not even kiss.
Idknw now she ignores my text and says that she isnt ignoring.
What does `hooked up` really mean ?
some kitty cat
I just realize that i have f@ck up with a awsome girl that i meet a few days ago...
Thanks for the insight Corey.
what about when a girl you like says she doesnt like sex she'd rather be doing other things
Run
you're my hereo. Can't wait for the book I ordered
Why … ???? Because you’re not much of a priority anymore . I’ve definitely been on the receiving end of that !!!!
I just got what you’re saying Corey. When a guy understands women and how attraction works then he doesn’t have to ask a woman what’s up, where are we, or what’s going on. Because when he knows how to read a woman then he will already know what’s up from her actions. Duh!
Maybe its me she work and she goes to school but when she was at school we text here and there i understand but she open the message but dont reply why would that be i made plans with her this friday hanging out with here sis
So If Me And This Girl Was Texting Everyday And All Of A sudden she stopped texting back to me for 3days now.. now what? Should I send her a text or if she happens to text back do I wait as long as she did or reply that same day. Or should just move on to the next? This girl is from another country, a friend I work with recommended me her cousin.
So should i just call her? I been txting her and we was supposed to meet up but we didn't? Help me i didn't call her at all
I met a girl and slept with her in the first night ..3 days later we meet up again ..thn for 3 weeks she would always come to my house ..she would text me everyday single day ..
Both me and the girl was excited coz she told me that she will be on a 3 week holiday and that we can see each other more...but the night before her holiday started she got a message saying she must come work and they need her desperately..so she told me she wont be able to see me maybe for the week ..i was upset and she also sounded upset on the phone...i thn told her that she can go work but shes going to be mine (MY GIRLFRIEND) ... i mean since that day i told her shes going to be mine she was shocked and she never texted me the same and always like she used to..she text me less now..please help me i love her and want to be with her ..what can i do ???
Hey Corey i have a question I've been talking to this girl since October i met her through a friend which there relatives then around the 2nd month she claims to tell me that she had a crush on me when we 1st met and she says that she still does but since last week she's been a bit distance with me ever since we went on a 1st mini date what could be the reason why she's distant through text messages?😕
what if its a long distance relationship
This it what frustrates me so much about guys! They stop initiating conversation, scheduling dates, and just leave me hanging.
That's not true I've tried to get to the point and schedule meet ups and dates they say I'm jumping the gun to early and asking them to early She barley knows me that's what they say. Then their is others that say I'm taking to long to ask them. Which is in consistent and confusing to me.
Leslie Yancey
Have you thought it might be because they're lost interest?
In the old days, there was no texting. you see each other and plan with the male taking the lead. now there's constant communication so the guy wants to talk to his girl. dates can happen sporadically but if you're only looking for escalation, the guy isn't being pleased since he's supposed to play a little mind game and constantly escalate? that can happen on dates, just talk with the guy.
can we go out on a date now
So would this be similar to my situation? So there was this girl in my class in spring semester of college and we were just friends at the time. We both were in relationships at the time too so obviously we didn't exchange numbers. Summer came around and me and my girl broke up and I just hangin out goin through tinder and I see that she had one too. We matched and talked briefly and exchanged numbers and added each other on social media. She fell off the radar after awhile and I saw her at the bars with another guy. She told me they've been on a couple dates so I played it cool and moved on. Then a week later she messages me, we talk and I ask how she and the guy are and she goes she isn't talking to him anymore cause he was a jerk. I was at my 2 week military drill so I asked if she wanted to do something when I got back and she said yeah. We keep textin the next few days then she fell off the radar again and she's still posting on social media and stuff which means I can almost bet she's read my messages. I think I did fall in for her too fast because based on what I know about her we have a lot in common. I just wanna know what to do next.
Let her call you back or text you and if she didn't, don't initiate contact with her but search for another girl.
Damn Corey you know what your talking about and its sexy.... keep up the good work! :)
Thanks honey
Did you wait a while before responding? lol.
Corey blew it. When a woman reaches out to you, you have to arrange a definite date. Hang out have fun hook up Corey, come on maaaaan.
Captain Obvious lol
TheHappynot lol lmao
I'm so glad I found this video! I went out with this girl for the first date and it went great. But the next 2 days she's a little slow in respond to text and sometimes just stopped texting back. I'll give her some room and the next text will be asking her out for the second date.
Any updates?
😂😂
Wow this is the first dating video for men that was accurate
Hey Corey., I would love your help sometime. I have been talking to a new girl from match.com. we text off and on and had a date scheduled but she canceled because her daughter was sick. she also told me she has to back off for a little bit but I shouldn't go to far. what should I do ?
Well I'd like to take this girl called Lucy out but I honestly can't really see it ever happening. Maybe I'm just a bachelor who knows 🙁🙁🙁
I'm a woman and you are giving excellent advice to these men. Ive have always felt that way and I am like the woman in this scenario! I'm open and willing to spend time with a man but I'm not going to do his part for him lol. He needs to take initiative and set up a date. Also spot on with the cat comparison haha
i think its working corey we got in contact today but the length of her texts have been very short still i think i should just arrange a date rather then dis whole sitting around and chit-chat
Coach in the future can u please make videos also with what to do and maybe a new kind of set up so it is fun to watch your videos.
You teach great stuff but i only listen and almost never watch your videos