Why Women Are Slow To Reply, Ignore Your Texts & Leave You On Read
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ม.ค. 2024
- What it means when women you are dating are slow to reply, ignore your texts & leave you on read.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has a girlfriend, but he clearly has given his power away and she doesn’t really value or respect him. She will often take 12 hours or more to reply to his messages. Other than that, he says his relationship is great and she really cares for him. However, from her actions he clearly cares more about her than she does about him. He is overrating her romantic interest in him and not realizing what is really going on because he is so focused on seeking her attention and validation.
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They’re not into you. Nothing more to it. Find someone that’s into you. Don’t settle for less.
Pretty much
I said the same thing brother.
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No need to watch a 20 minute video when you sum it up so well. But I am going to watch anyway, because reasons. Haha
You make yourself better otherwise youre just saying im a walking talking living turd
Typical Bumble conversation:
Her: "Hi!"
Me: "Hi."
Conversation ends.
Yeah, they are so sh*t at starting conversations. Becausee usually, they dont have to.
yup.
Yeah they get paid to chat with lonely strangers
Whenever this happens to me, I just permanently ghost them
Same.
Next!!
Female coaches are teaching women to do the same lol
@@user-eu6wp6ws7cThen it will be masculine vs masculine...i think whatever we learn from Corey are all masculine traits but i don't know if this same traits are taught to women will they be in their feminine core?..but I guess these are all the traits of secure attachment style which when followed by both the genders it can lead to a successful relationship.
@@user-eu6wp6ws7cfemale coaches are teaching woman to be man. i bet you all this females coaches don't have 3%man. they all date betas that go along with what they say.
All that shows is that you’re butt hurt about it. Simple answer is Reciprocate the persons actions that’s all.
If she doing this to you is because you’ve trained her to be this way. She’s clearly not in love with you, you’re definitely making subtle mistakes. Or she’s just a fruit loop lol
Women are being told to do this , everyone is ignoring each other lol
😂😂
So true! 🤣
This comment is right on the money. Everyone tells both men and women just ignore each other. Make them call you first, but then nobody calls anyone. 😅
@@wizofozzieit’s population control
To be honest with you, that's why men who study Corey's book like me, need to research what women are being taught. For instance I read, "Why men love B*tch3s" by Sherry Argov. She basically teaches women to be less desperate and gain the power in the relationship, so she's the inverse of 3% man. If a woman is holding back s3x as the book I mentioned teaches women to do, you'll be able to understand what a woman might be trying to do. You can be able to probe her to see if she's really just being structured. Corey usually says in these videos that if women are structured, just move on. But if you can understand that a woman is purposefully making you wait and match each other's enthusiasm for each other, I believe the potential for a relationship can be really special so long as you are leading her. Personally, I don't respect a woman that gives it up after on the second date. Just think, how many guys is she letting do that to her if she gives it up so easy?! This is just my opinion.
I always picture my grandparents reaction to all of this stuff. The world we live in today is actually hilarious 😂
Your grandparents didn’t have cell phones and text messaging. That’s a huge factor.
Same shit was going on!🤣
Your Grandpa was getting cucked by The Milkman
@zacharywallace2243 yeah there has always been female hypergamy and male polygamy.
It’s hilarious how y’all think everything was sweet back in those days… Remember, it was easier to cheat and get away with it back then..
Texting has fucked up the dynamic in the early going of relationships.
Yes sir it has
I tried the online dating apps after my divorce...lasted up until my very first interaction 3 days in. She was of course making all the right answers until she asked if I wanted a cam show for $50. 😂Deleted apps never looked back, never been happier.
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I 10@% agree
Nobody talks about that though you are spot on.
The man is speaking facts. Don’t give into your emotions. Think logically. If this happens, keep on moving and move to the next.
I’ve mastered this but it took me until I’m 40 lol. Also took me until 40 to stop giving an f in general. Wish I learned this at 20
They. Don't. Like. You. Move. On.
Hard concept for men to understand.
I can vouch. Back in 2019 I was dating this latina I really liked and thought we had chemistry when out of the blue she called me to say things weren't working out and she didn't want to see me anymore. I was very shocked and hurt because I really thought we were a great match. But as much as I wanted to call her I listened to Coach Corey's advice of no contact whatsoever. Within 6 days she called me asking me why didn't I call her. I told her "you broke things off so I moved on". She invited me over that same night and f***ed my brains out. And here we are still together 5 years later. Thank you coach!
Uuhh… so… she fked you, or did you mean to say you fked the shit outta her. Cause if she were fking you something would be sticking into one of your holes
I guess tongue action could count as her fucking your mouth w her tongue
But really I’m glad to hear it worked out for y’all
I’ll be implementing this myself if there’s a next time 😂
did you ever find out why she called things off?
good question. and why she suddenly done a 360 and decided to go back and usually its becuase the guy she really wanted didn't want her back @@TheCurtisdavies
Madness
"What makes music great is the space between the notes. " That was great
You like music?
Miles Davis quote
I like music, too. Ironic.
100%
Corey really hit the nail on the when he said we need to pay attention to her attraction to us. Too many times we are focused on how we feel about them. Life is much more pleasant when we choose and pursue women that have a high attraction to us. They’ll respond in quality manner when they are
What do they say.......don't marry the woman you love ....be with the woman that loves you🤣🤣🤣I understand that
Most fat girls respond favourably 🤣🤣
Its absolutely ridiculous that the dating world is like this. Why do people have to play games? Just find that person and love each other deeply, it shouldnt be a set of rules to keep each other interested. I hate it
Me too.
Unfortunately, that's how its always been. The main take away is that Corey is saying to focus on you and your mission in life and that you are the prize. Otherwise, men will get dopey and feminine
They're not "hungry." Simple. They're not into you and have no sense of urgency. They are only interested in perfection, even if they are a 4.
If she's given you any interaction, yet you're always at arm's length, you're just a source of validation, but she's not interested in more. It's either that or she's talking to another guy and wants to keep you on the back burner. Either situation, I would stop interacting with her. It's just going to drive you crazy. A woman that's interested isn't going to take a chance of losing you by playing games. As long as you're initiating, she's going to make herself available.
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Absolutely agree. Not interested or a player no other possibility in my opinion
Absolutely agree. Not interested or a player no other possibility in my opinion
Absolutely agree. Not interested or a player no other possibility in my opinion
Absolutely agree. Not interested or a player no other possibility in my opinion
if she likes you ,she will respond with plenti ...if she is not interesred , she eventually will respond with a word or two maximum .
I like this......one of the most truthful comments I've heard............hurt a lil....so gotta be true
I had a friend that I want to be more close with her, but after I realize her interest was very low, I stop wasting my time with her. She bring some shit like she was busy or maybe she was not available at 7 oclock and stuff like that. No making efford to get together. Girls with low interest will come with some stupid crap like: I am sorry, I been busy doing this or that. Really interest will find time (ALL THE TIME) dont believe in that crap of busy people.
Some girls will act and play hard to get, but are really interested in you.
If they are flirting, sending sexy pics, but still saying they are busy or won’t reply after some time…. They just want you to chase and initiate meet up.
If a girl is not flirting, and not sending sexy pics, and they are saying they are busy or won’t reply… then you should ignore those women.
But there’s a difference between. Girl who is interested and wants you to chase, versus a girl who is just not attracted to you.
Once you actually have the women, than it is good to provide space so you don’t burn it out.
@@Ratclanwhat if she initiates, but takes long to respond, says she's busy and all?
“You gotta read it 10-15 times” -coach Corey Wayne
Just recently this week I had to start backing off. Their hot/cold behavior is a no for me. After 2 days of them not replying they text me out of the blue with a random pic as if nothing happened. I’m not settling for less. My mental health is way more important.
This is the single thing (thanks to Coach and his book) that I changed over the years and I understood pretty quick. You start the process and the ball going in the beginning but if nothing changes after 2-3 weeks, out! Lots of women don't know themselves what they want or just simply not interested. They'll never tell you, that's the thing we need to understand. Tell her what you think by leaving.
2-3 weeks is too long to wait. One week tops. If they really like you, they don’t play these games with you
Simple answer. They're useless and offer no value to your life. Never talk to them again and focus on yourself.
Every time I start to freak out she texts me out of the blue. The illusion of action is brutal but it works.
What’s the illusion of action?
@@LaLaBlahBlahhIt’s in his book
@@LaLaBlahBlahhthinking you need to do more when in reality you need to do less.
Ignore her, there are services that take care of your needs. Let her keep waiting.
No need to put in all this effort for all that drama!
Bingo!!!! You nailed it right!
Or she could be testing u, but if it’s too long move on
@ALPHABAyadmit - Yes, it is called a shit test, and if you pass it - you are now her simp.
Exactly right, if she's doing that then you're not that important to her. She is holding power over you, and if you keep pursuing her, it's over...she doesn't have respect for you.
After 24 hours absolute max i block em and move on.
Because she’s busy texting 25 other dudes.
Coach, I never get tired of watching your videos. You're always spot on!
Don't let them move in..
Why the world and people are like this now is because the crazy amount of convenience in communication that exists these days. 100 years ago people were more exclusive and "loyal" because it wasn't easy to just communicate with someone else. Now we have so many options that we treat people like they are just blips of interest in our attention span
Spot on coach, thanks again for sharing your wisdom
Perfect timing thank God I found your channel! You’re a genius
Mine did that one time too many so I walked away today. Deleted her from my phone contact list and blocked her on the only messaging platform we shared. I did give a classy farewell (even though she didn't deserve it) My 3 hot buttons.....1 Cheating on me 2 ignoring me 3 manipulating me. No going back.
It only took her 3 weeks to open and reply. Of course she gave me the typical “ sorry I didn’t respond sooner” line. Followed by “I appreciate your message but I’m already dating someone and am busy with personal things” but at least she finished strong with a solid “but you seem really nice and hope your week goes well”. In other words she doesn’t like me and I need to move on. Alrighty then. I’ll give her credit at least she replied in the first place. A lot of people simply wouldn’t have bothered.
Just got you're book on Audible! Looking forward to it🙌
Because they're not that interested and so you're not high on the priority list. When that happens, move on. A woman that is interested will text you non-stop.
Good recap video of the fundamentals. I've probably written this before, but what makes Corey's channel so compelling is his "case study" method in his videos with real-life examples. I had the same experience in business school and always got way more out of case studies, tearing companies apart and why they succeed or don't succeed. Same here.
Good points. Also, Never say you’re sorry especially to a woman. That goes for In person, text, anywhere. Your busy you got sh*t going on and make them know that. don’t say “sorry” you didn’t get back to them right away. Sorry should only be used empathetically like “sorry to hear that” or “sorry for your loss etc.
Most guys try to get a girl to like them, wrong, get her to respect you. Fawning over her, texting too much, following her like a puppy, mate guarding, these make her lose respect for you. If she isn't responding to you, move on, you have to be outcome independent with women. Also realize her sex drive is 1/10th of yours, and women really don't respect or need men.
Exactly, your comment is awesome.
I would say women do need men, but men don’t need women.
If her sex drive is 1/10th of yours, you're not compatible. In my opinion she should have a close to equal sex-drive, which makes for a compatible relationship. That's just my opinion though. Also, to say "women don't respect or need men" is quite an outrageous generalisation. There's lots of wonderful, healthy and high-quality women who do love, respect, appreciate (and need) men.
What country are you in? How many women have you dated?@@calmwaves111
The sex drive comment is wrong. They make it seem.like their sex drive is low. All related to attraction.
Coach always coming through when I need him. Thank you for the info coach. Much appreciated
Absolutely what he said. When she’s taking so much time to say anything….literally…the first time she does it. Do not respond. Disappear. You’re in charge of you. Trust me I’ve learned this the hard way. The guys that have problems Are the guys that don’t listen. Absolutely. If they don’t act interested….later.
I needed this! Thank you 🙏
It only took 15 days for her to open and read my text. Guess its gonna take 30 days for me to read her text then.
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If it took her 15 days to read and open your text I honestly wouldn't even waste my time with her.
@@calmwaves111exactly 😂
Great video coach
This is very informative... Ya have the leverage, ya have to take control, she has to initiate the conversation and then like Coach said mirror the relationship, otherwise ya are chasing her when it has to be the other way around....Ya the prize, ya have more to offer! Remember that! Believe that!
Awesome video, bought the 3% book. Excited to read.
Reading is good for you
Being on your grind and on your purpose requires like 70 hours a week, and talking to other women takes like another 30 hours. The dating game sucks
Totally rude and disrespectful !
Incredibly true and accurate !!!!
Guys text way too much especially when you are at work, in meetings etc. Texting is not communicating as far as I experienced.
What is it then?
It can be done through text but it's nowhere near as good as actually having a one on one interaction in real time (in person, videochat or phonecall)
We'll just stop texting you then and just pack your inbox full of dick pics
Thank you for telling the truth Corey.
First and I needed this.
The music analogy is great
Miles Davis quote
Sounds like they lack common courtesy. Next.
Here we go again with some more knowledge from the king 👑 Corey 😎
I can definitely relate to this, Has happened to me so many times
Its like us guys always feel stronger that what the woman feels towards us
Very strange
Its quite rare that a woman will have the same level of enthusiasm
It’s disgusting they do psychological warfare against the man they try to build a monogamous relationship with (yes date one 2 & 3 are to see if he fits this but it don’t require no psychological mind games).
So mind games are a default basically. You can’t avoid them, they do them on purpose as coach and the ladies commenting on these comments agree
May as well play by their style. That’s what imma start doing to girls now 😊
I love the way Corey mocks us men.
I don’t 100% agree with the text thing. Its one of the few things I don’t agree with him on when you’re in a relationship. Me and my gf text and call all the time for more than just dates.
But I 100% agree with the mindset. If she has you stressing because she hasn’t called or texted there’s already a problem, and trying to tell her anything or do anything will only hurt the situation more. If you’re afraid to lose her, you already lost the game too. It sucks but all he’s saying in that regard is 100% true. Training yourself to be stoic and strong in those situations are hard, but once you get there it’s so amazing I swear.
This recently just happened to me. Told her id love to get together and asked when she was free but she completely brushed the question aside and changed the subject. Needless to say the conversation didnt go much farther. I dont deal with girls that show very little interest anymore. Coach opened my eyes a long time ago. Thank you sir.
Can only ignore reality for so long. Then you'll face the music
Which music did you face?
Playing games. Emotional abuse !
Before I watch the entire video, me thinking, after being rejected numerous and countless times, if she doesn't respond to your messages instantly. The factors are that.
1) She maybe (or may be) be busy
2) She's getting a 2nd opinion from her friends whether if she should text you back
3) She's possibly in a relationship already, engaged or married (some if not all do this to where they don't wear their wedding band or engagement ring that often for whatever reason (whether its too delicate to show off, it's not the right ring size, they're at work at so that they don't get the ring damaged or lose it or (for safety policies, if in the food service industry or working at the bar), its probably cutting circulation on her finger, or even using it as a defensive measure to have you stay away from her or just a hint that she is "taken"
4) She thinks you are either a creepy guy or weird
5) She doesn't want to come off as needy and responds seconds or minutes later
6) Her friends just give advice to her, and advise, that you're probably not what she's looking for and advised her to stay away from you
7) She recently got out of (e.g. Break-up, Divorce, Is Recovering Due To Loss Of Someone Dearly To Her)
8) At the very most, she could be already seeing someone else
9) she needs time to consider your message and wants to provide a thoughtful response
10) she’s had a terrible day, it’s too early in the dating phase to express that to you, so she responds the next day when things are better and she’s in a more positive headspace because she likes you
It's because she doesn't like you. You won't be able to get rid of a woman who's truly into you. These are the same women who will text and check their phone on the date. Stop over thinking it. We've all been there. Just move on.
@@Champ1988 also with relationships and marriage can be too much for people, where (if those who married and or in a relationship) may get 2nd thoughts on if its the right thing for them. By all means stay single, focus on success, well-being and health. It's way better than being on the receiving of a breakup and or divorce (which I've seen my friends and others go through it a lot)
@@SirenaSpades
That's the point-they aren't responding because they're trying to AVOID meeting the guy in person. You're aware of this. Women are often attached to their phones. Let's give them the benefit of the doubt; they're either rude or have poor communication skills. Perhaps both. Either way, it's not ideal. Nobody would ignore a text from Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, or Jason Momoa.
@@Champ1988I think this debate boils down to a fundamental misunderstanding about how women develop attraction. Women crave mystery in the early phases. Read any romance novel aimed at women and you’ll see.
Corey gets it but you don’t seem to, as a lot of men don’t. When guys message repeatedly or too much they’re digging themselves further down a hole. No amount of messaging will change her mind - she will not be convinced by you - on the contrary if you pull back and chill out she might have a chance to miss you.
Sometimes there are other legit reasons why people don’t get back to someone quickly. often it’s her wanting to slow the momentum to try and build some anticipation and excitement about the guy… guys often totally wreck this by checking in wayyyyyy too much and bringing up deep convos over text which should be for in person only. She very well may be trying to space it out because she actually likes you and you’re ruining the pace. Other reasons are those I listed above - and in those cases double texting from the guy is frustrating. Just take a step back and chill out… let her think you’re busy and let her daydream about you wondering what you’re up to.
From the late, great Oscar Wilde: "Everything in life is about sex. Except sex. That's about power."
This is true im going through this right now and i just happened to bump into this video n advice just in time for me to learn to fall back a lil don't reply right away mirror her behavior without telling her
Slow and steady, wins the race.
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I love this guy advices. Everytime i’m losing my mind for some women i come here😂. Great book and videos!
i mastered Corey Wayne’s book and teachings and i promise you guys it is NOT always your fault as the man.
many times it is the woman’s fault and the only thing you did wrong is ignoring red flags.
leave her man. you will find better.
Ignoring the Red flags is what makes it your fault.
If you have truly mastered the teachings, then you would not have ignored the Red flags and then had all the sh*t blow up in your face.
There's no point in this relationship. No amount of ghosting, ignoring, backing off, etc. can create genuine and enduring interest towards you in another person. Unless you are needy and seek validation from her (cause you didn't have enough love from mom as a child...), no girl who actually likes you would loose interest if you pursue them.
I actually don’t agree with this. I’ve personally experienced at least 3 occasions where I’ve had a strong interest in a guy who has bombarded me with walls of texts and too many questions, and in the end it caused me to lose interest completely. It demonstrates a lack of social awareness. It’s the same with any relationship - friends/ colleagues etc… if someone is spamming you all the time when you’re signalling and communicating that you aren’t much of a texter or prefer to chat in person.. it’s very unappealing.
@@LaLaBlahBlahh Well, that actually is being needy/seeking validation, for me. Plus, it is bad manners.
@@LaLaBlahBlahhyea so that is on the extreme like op agreed with you on. I agree too.
But imho simply tell him you’d prefer not to talk until the next date and that you’re really excited about it or something.
That’d help set him at ease(I’d think). I mean it seems to me like the issue is disconnect. Because one party (the female…) is not willing to be open, communicate & be honest.
Sadly that appears to be the primary basis of all this.
Say this is after… date 1…. Or even date 2/3/4/etc. Lol…. You clearly have had multiple opportunities to inform and communicate (not hints like short replies or ghosting for periods of time- that’s not proper communications and hinting is not communicating).
But you instead chose not to. I mean that’s how I’m seeing all this.
I feel like the better way, or better test, would be for the female to be open and honest about her boundary/requirement here.
What benefits can this honest communication result in:
1. It’s communicated kindly and smiling laughs shared talking during convo or whatever. This helps put the male at ease because IF you were to tell him that instead (which you really haven’t…) by ghosting for periods and not responding/giving short answers to demonstrate a “hint”(😅) of how you don’t prefer to txt much, etc.
I mean do you see? It’s creating a psychological mind game and honestly it’s really lame… it just is… that’s my take. It’s one that may be enjoyable, but one that’s going to harm the male involved in the game you’re choosing to play without his consent or knowledge of the game taking place.
2. We’ll #1 summed up most of it, but; this also directly puts it to him so he ISN’T unaware, and CAN have the chance to KNOW the game rules and (hopefully…) adhere to them. If he wants to do what it will take to make you his, he’ll certainly do what he can to do that. Maybe light txting like short couple sentences or just sending you some goofy meme and laugh face idk. But yea no walls of txt if there’s no fkin legitimate reason to be doing that, that’s ridiculous and in most all cases it’s completely unacceptable if there’s no like urgent reason they’re sending those walls 😂😂😂
3. Hmm idk but I’m sure there’s more positive benefits of actually communicating this, in person, while in early dating, preferably on 1st because then he can try to play by the game rules.
But expecting him not to know? What if his last few dates in his life (mind you, these could be years or decades ago) the girl was totally into lengthy text convos or whatevs. I’m just saying, it would really benefit everyone to not play mind games like this. I find it really saddening tbh.
I get it though, and do thank you for the info. Honestly I’ll be putting it all to use myself heheh 😈🤘🏻 I’ll feel bad for playing mind games, but then again I won’t feel bad cause I know this is how it all works in most all cases 😂🎉😂
While I don’t agree with it, I appreciate your info none the less, and will be making use of it 👍🏻
Truth coach. ❤
The music analogy was brilliant! I’ve had this situation and it ended after 1 small slip-up on my end. If she does this stuff then walk away!
I solved this problem by avoiding women altogether.
It's a strange game, The only winning move is not to play.
The winning move isn't to avoid women altogether, it's to avoid playing their games.
Love you brother God bless you
You wanna know why?
Because one or several of these :
You didnt look well tidy up( looks)
You didnt show off enough ( money)
You made yourself look weak(feelings)
You looked desperate for a relationship
You smiled too much/ all the time like a kid
You let her lead all the time
And after 1st date you texted back imediately. Thats worse than all of the above
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So many guys love to text way too much in between dates. I’ve tried messaging things like “I’d love to talk about this when we catch up next” (when we have a planned date coming up) but they just don’t get it. It would be hot to see a guy actually say that to me for once 😂 So many guys literally talk their way out of being attractive. We want to be wooed by you… we actually want to be excited by you. I wish every guy understood these principles!
Interesting word "wooed". It seems I have heard that recently more than once. It has come from the same person who has managed to emasculate me over the last 20+ years. I am well aware of what wooing means, but other than the typical/boring sending flowers, what are some examples a man can do that you consider wooing/being wooed?
@@askaveragejayto me (and perhaps wooed isn’t the right word choice for this) but it’s the feeling that a guy is able to demonstrate his interest in you without being needy. He’s clear in his intentions but it doesn’t feel like he needs you to be interested back for him to be ok. It demonstrates high value and builds anticipation. As Corey says, use texting to arrange a date and that’s pretty much all. We want to be pursued but not persuaded or spammed between interactions. Keep a bit of distance because if she likes you, that will only build anticipation. I can’t explain it, I just know it’s true (for me and for every woman I’ve spoken with about dating).
Being ‘wooed’ looks very different at different stages of the relationship. An example of what it might look like slightly later is this: my ex and I had a joke about how I didn’t like pizza and he did (and was working at a pizza place). On Valentine’s Day (about 3 months in) he said he had a surprise for me and picked me up in his car which had a pizza box on the passenger seat (I obviously assumed it was pizza and was a bit taken aback because he knew I didn’t like pizza)… he said “open it” and I did and inside were a stack of records from my favourite artists that I had mentioned in passing and a really sweet note. We then went out for dinner and drinks at my favourite places which he’d booked. It was perfect. The best thing was that he’d noticed small details about me and planned a special thoughtful present and evening to show how much he cared.
Later in the relationship (I can’t speak to a 20+ year relationship as I’m still in my 20s and have only had a 4 year relationship haha) but I think it’s the same principle of being thoughtful and showing your love in a way that she will appreciate. It’ll be different for every woman probably - maybe learn her love language and communicate with her about what she really needs from you and then make a genuine effort to actually do those things. Make her feel appreciated, seen, celebrated and make her feel beautiful. The book talks about how to maintain a connection in long term relationships too which will probably be more practical than my vague advice haha
@@askaveragejayI’m also really sorry that your partner has emasculated you. I hope you are able to work it out or find someone special who treats you with respect. We all deserve that in our lives!
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But, despite this thoughtful effort and investment from your ex... you still ended up dumping him?
Are you in your 20s, 30s, 40s? I sometimes question Corey's opinion on texting game among younger people. It's heavily integrated into socializing these days, and I've had plenty of girls continue getting more invested in me despite a decent amount of texting.
My fiancee makes me wait 2 weeks at a time to respond to me. She says she is busy with art school and painting. She showed me everytime.
I like how the guy knows it's wrong to be bothered about the girl not texting him like she should but he still saying it bothers him lol
They call it “SASSY” nowadays when u match energy🤣🤣🤣
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Skip the text and just call, or facetime them to meetup. Texting too much tells her you dont got the balls to speak with her to set something up.
If you aren't in the top 20% of men, this will be your general experience. Unless you are a somebody, have a strong social media following, or exceptionally good looking, women will not chase you.
I have experimented this has proven to be true. Match the same energy ⚡
I can't quote it exactly but I recall when Corey said some of these rules can either be relaxed or thrown out when you meet someone who makes it EASY for you to communicate to them. I met someone like that recently and, quite honestly, we'll go long stretches (up to 2 days) without texting and we get along just fine. Then we'll have bursts of flirty/funny texts as well.
When I do ask her out over text, she's very excited. She's a damn amazing communicator.
I want to find that, where did you meet her?
It depends on the culture. Spanish women love, absolutely love, playing mind games, and "hard to get."
Toronto women are worse, they go ghost and act nice in person as if nothing happened..
15:10 funny analogy it’s actually the length of notes that makes it sound beautiful not the space so the opposite of the point being made hehe
I be so caught up In my own shit sometimes I'll leave a woman's text on "read" and reply hours later. Not to play games but more that the older I get the less a priority women become.
Critical to delete their number if they don't cooperate. Not block. Don't do that. Just delete and move on. Easy peasy. Then, if they ever do reply, you can say, "Who is this, please?"
Block and delete
14:45 Such a good analogy
When you've been exclusive for a couple of months, and then she starts backing away like this, it's a sign that her interest has dropped, because if she was in love or even had high interest she'd be coming to you most days, if not everyday. So what you do is just go back to dating behaviours. You take a little longer to reply. You get busy doing other things and seem less available. When she reaches out, assume she wants to see you and make a definite date. Hang out, have fun, hook up. If you haven't heard from her for a week, reach out and try to set a date, etc. Just go with the ebb and flow of her interest.
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ive followed you on and off for 12 years and have read your book 75% . maybe that is why im failing so hard.
One potential reason is they're cheating. But another is that they like you and don't want to appear too easy but that is playing games.
"ah ahh ahhhhh! .. You shouldn't do it!" Made me laugh pretty hard hahaha
Then they think you'll cheating, because when you do the same thing to them that they do to you, they don't get it, women think they can do what they want to us,but we have to walk a straight line, BS
Thank you for your advice from India.
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I agree with 95% except the part of is more like 65% more on the woman side to look for you and 35% on the guy side. I think a good 50/50 is good, i been thru like dozens of woman, dates, and had been in 4 serious relationships, i learned, you are right in 95%, but sometimes we do gotta also look for the ones that actually are good woman, in America is hard to find good woman, most are like you say are like way too guy acting like. By the way your books are awesome.. ❤
It's not important what country. If you are good with women it will work in any nation. If you are bad with women, a passport won't change that...
1st step, have your own place.
Most women that are slow to your texts has nothing goin on in there lifes thats why there not that much in to you because they know you live a better life than they do your job is like corey sas is to keep bizzy and keep your life interesting
Yep they are more intimidated or afraid to pursue
Pretty self explanatory at a very early point. Simply walk away. Retain your dignity, chasing is for simps and chumps. Fun fact: Online dating is a grift and has made today's dating scene completely disposable and wildly superficial. A complete waste of time.
Teaching how to play games …. And personally as a woman … I don’t want a man hounding me with texts but I also want to be courted and the guy should reach out as much as I reach out. Or kicking him to the curb !
Thank you
That's really true, when you start inviting girls to your place, sooner or later you Will have another partner, Its like formalizing AND compromising to a long term relationship, for that reason I prefer just to know the Girl really well and slowly but steady, increase the interaction to see if she Is the same person AND if she has Green flags by dating her for a really long Time then Its when i decide to let her be in my place, that to be honest, I dont , I love my privacy AND I get distracted really Easy, I prefer to practice my djeing AND my production skills
If somebody was actually spending half my week with me, the text messages wouldn't matter for fuckall. I want to talk to you, not be your pen pal; the pen pal shit becomes unnecessary when you're _actually dating_
I stopped doing the "call and text more" shit because, during covid, a handful of ladies in my age range wanted to text and text for months and then when we finally met up for the first date, she could barely hold a conversation and the second never happened because I was so bored. Matter of fact, I'd rather call, than text, and even then, as you stated, the purpose of the call should end with setting up a date.