Dude, first of all I'm sorry that the last two weeks have been hard on you. I was the one trans guy among many not on T for a lonnng time, and it is a tough tough spot to be in. One of the hardest things to get through for me for sure. I can really relate to the feeling of not being man enough, not feeling like one of the boys, etc. I know this doesn't fix the hurt you felt, but I didn't even think about the fact that you weren't on hormones the entire time. to me you just felt like one of the guys 100%. Anyway, I am super stoked about you starting :) I think it's going to be great and do amazing things for your body that you've been working hard toward achieving.
i'm happy that all you saw me as "one of the boys" or that i wasn't on hormones .. i know it's all in my head. thanks alex. you really are beyond awesome
Great video and good explanations. Timing and decisions around T are so personal. I'm glad you've taken the time you needed and now feel ready to set out on this journey to see where it leads (short- vs long-term use). I also wasn't 100% sure either, but am glad that the effects are pretty gradual, which makes getting used to it natural (at least that was my experience). I totally relate to your feelings of being overwhelmed. That's understandable. You've got a lot on your plate, esp with family. And you're right, you're going to get through it. One thing at a time with lots of time to breathe and vent with people who "get it." All the best as you live into your being.
yaaa! some guys have told me that changes are gradual which totally makes it seem less scary! i'm excited to share my changes with y'all!!! asian teen stache should be interesting lol
Also I agree with Alex, never crossed my mind ONCE all weekend. I was for sure in the same boat for a while. When you told me you got your prescription all i could think about was how excited I am for you cause I remember being in your shoes and I just can't wait for your journey to begin!
Oh man Ting, I miss you so much. I'm so excited for you to start T! (you starting T for some reason also helps with my anxieties with starting it as well). I hope things start getting a bit smoother for you, and you should show off your muscles more! I also had a similar experience, where I hung out with a bunch of the australian trans dudes and was the only guy that was pre-t and felt soooooooo out of place. Best of luck with your family and work in terms of breaking the new to them.
Ting. Omg. First of all, congratulations on getting your T script man! It's such a great feeling to know you have doctors who care about you and are willing to grow beyond their current knowledge. Super excited and happy that you've taken your time and made this decision with care. It's a big one, that's for sure. Secondly, on the not feeling "man enough" stuff: it's hard for me to sympathize with that (obviously lol), but I feel like the most manly qualities I can think of are charisma and security with one's own self, and to me you had those out the butt on our trip. Seriously, the fact that you weren't on testosterone didn't cross my mind for one second; you were very much one of the boys. =) Anyways I know things are going to be pretty tumultuous for the next little while with work, family, and starting this big physiological change. But I just want you to know we're all here for you, we love you, and I'm so friggin happy I got to meet you last weekend. Hope everything holds up.
One of the main things you have to keep in mind, especially with the work stuff, is that you don't necessarily have to tell them to be expecting certain changes from T. I personally didn't really come out at work because I felt like there wasn't a point of telling anyone until they could see the changes from T. And the thing is, T changes come relatively slow. I mean some changes are faster than others but for the most part, it takes time. That first shot is fantastic. But then comes the waiting! Ha, that's the worst part but it gets better over time.
ya i totally know what you mean. but at my job i have to come out to them because it's very gender specific. women on women. men on men. so i gotta let them know about my transition so i can be man on man. instead of man on woman. .. does this make sense? lol
cameoutscreaming Oh! man that does make things a heck of a lot more complicated! And yes it makes perfect sense lol I work retail unfortunately but that seems like it does make things a lot more difficult for you. But on the bright side, you do pass, you look great and people who don't like where you are coming from don't matter. Best of luck man
Sorry you're so anxious about starting T :(. I'm here for anything if you need me or just want to talk. Do you need a buddy to come to the clinic with you for the first shot? I'd be more than happy to tag along. I totally understand the feeling of not being 'one of the boys'. For so long I felt the same way around other trans guys because I either was the only one not on hormones, or later, the only one that hadn't had surgery. It's really tough...and unfortunately I never found a way around it.
do you still feel like you're not "one of the boys" now?? and yesssss... i'll let u know when my shot will be. hopefully you can be there to witness my pale ass get poked!
is it just me or do all ftm videos seem to get a lot of positivity. Not a bad thing just surprising given the society we live in. All Yay for america. Today is the day of a new beginning for all LGBTQ people.
Dude, first of all I'm sorry that the last two weeks have been hard on you. I was the one trans guy among many not on T for a lonnng time, and it is a tough tough spot to be in. One of the hardest things to get through for me for sure. I can really relate to the feeling of not being man enough, not feeling like one of the boys, etc. I know this doesn't fix the hurt you felt, but I didn't even think about the fact that you weren't on hormones the entire time. to me you just felt like one of the guys 100%.
Anyway, I am super stoked about you starting :) I think it's going to be great and do amazing things for your body that you've been working hard toward achieving.
i'm happy that all you saw me as "one of the boys" or that i wasn't on hormones .. i know it's all in my head. thanks alex. you really are beyond awesome
Great video and good explanations. Timing and decisions around T are so personal. I'm glad you've taken the time you needed and now feel ready to set out on this journey to see where it leads (short- vs long-term use). I also wasn't 100% sure either, but am glad that the effects are pretty gradual, which makes getting used to it natural (at least that was my experience). I totally relate to your feelings of being overwhelmed. That's understandable. You've got a lot on your plate, esp with family. And you're right, you're going to get through it. One thing at a time with lots of time to breathe and vent with people who "get it." All the best as you live into your being.
yaaa! some guys have told me that changes are gradual which totally makes it seem less scary! i'm excited to share my changes with y'all!!! asian teen stache should be interesting lol
Also I agree with Alex, never crossed my mind ONCE all weekend. I was for sure in the same boat for a while. When you told me you got your prescription all i could think about was how excited I am for you cause I remember being in your shoes and I just can't wait for your journey to begin!
Oh man Ting, I miss you so much. I'm so excited for you to start T! (you starting T for some reason also helps with my anxieties with starting it as well). I hope things start getting a bit smoother for you, and you should show off your muscles more! I also had a similar experience, where I hung out with a bunch of the australian trans dudes and was the only guy that was pre-t and felt soooooooo out of place. Best of luck with your family and work in terms of breaking the new to them.
Ting. Omg.
First of all, congratulations on getting your T script man! It's such a great feeling to know you have doctors who care about you and are willing to grow beyond their current knowledge. Super excited and happy that you've taken your time and made this decision with care. It's a big one, that's for sure.
Secondly, on the not feeling "man enough" stuff: it's hard for me to sympathize with that (obviously lol), but I feel like the most manly qualities I can think of are charisma and security with one's own self, and to me you had those out the butt on our trip. Seriously, the fact that you weren't on testosterone didn't cross my mind for one second; you were very much one of the boys. =)
Anyways I know things are going to be pretty tumultuous for the next little while with work, family, and starting this big physiological change. But I just want you to know we're all here for you, we love you, and I'm so friggin happy I got to meet you last weekend. Hope everything holds up.
aw cailin. you're too sweet.
One of the main things you have to keep in mind, especially with the work stuff, is that you don't necessarily have to tell them to be expecting certain changes from T. I personally didn't really come out at work because I felt like there wasn't a point of telling anyone until they could see the changes from T. And the thing is, T changes come relatively slow. I mean some changes are faster than others but for the most part, it takes time. That first shot is fantastic. But then comes the waiting! Ha, that's the worst part but it gets better over time.
ya i totally know what you mean. but at my job i have to come out to them because it's very gender specific. women on women. men on men. so i gotta let them know about my transition so i can be man on man. instead of man on woman. .. does this make sense? lol
cameoutscreaming Oh! man that does make things a heck of a lot more complicated! And yes it makes perfect sense lol I work retail unfortunately but that seems like it does make things a lot more difficult for you. But on the bright side, you do pass, you look great and people who don't like where you are coming from don't matter. Best of luck man
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Sorry you're so anxious about starting T :(. I'm here for anything if you need me or just want to talk. Do you need a buddy to come to the clinic with you for the first shot? I'd be more than happy to tag along.
I totally understand the feeling of not being 'one of the boys'. For so long I felt the same way around other trans guys because I either was the only one not on hormones, or later, the only one that hadn't had surgery. It's really tough...and unfortunately I never found a way around it.
do you still feel like you're not "one of the boys" now??
and yesssss... i'll let u know when my shot will be. hopefully you can be there to witness my pale ass get poked!
is it just me or do all ftm videos seem to get a lot of positivity. Not a bad thing just surprising given the society we live in. All Yay for america. Today is the day of a new beginning for all LGBTQ people.