Understanding Childhood Behavior with Real Families
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- Breaking The Cycle looks at families struggling with children who cause serious trouble and how their parents deal with managing this behavior.
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The look on that one boy's face when they took his cup when he refused to say, "Thank you." PRICELESS.
I was HORRIFIED -he did NOT look wilful. I'm sure he didn't understand quite WHY he was being punished -children forget the simplest instructions almost immediately.
@@KuiWagacha I WAS NOT HORRIFIED**
Kui Wagacha
Children are not fragile glass that will break if they learn consequences for their actions.
These parents give up too quickly and don’t follow through.
@@sarcasticallyrearranged thank you! Finally someone that doesn't cave with a sad face , if he didn't understand why he was being punished , then he DEFINITELY needs to learn!!!!
Simply put, It's important to give kids encouragement and praise when they exhibit good behaviors. It's great to hear this sort of thing. I don't want to be an angry adult with kids. I've found at times I fall into the trap with my nephews.
I don't want to be an angry adult either.
oh no nephew’s neices are fun
Absolutely not. There have been many studies on this and the whole Montessori movement has been proven to produce balance adults who are SELF MOTIVATED AND INDEPENDENT.
So good to see Dad there.
Shy children are SO heartbreaking, especially as people simply tend to forget about them and leave them on their own... I managed when I was a child, somehow, because I was very self-sufficient, and a bookworm -but more importantly my shyness wasn't as crippling as it became later on. Strange but True. I'm always automatically looking for the wallflower when I go to a gathering of any sort, to seek them out and let them know they have someone to talk to.
These are the same kids that have to grow up and work with your kids. When the teachers started playing with them and evolving them in the activities, the kids got happy and well behaved. Parents aren't engaging these kids at home. That lady who's boy had the tumor in his mouth, her husband keeps her pregnant!
Work?
Likely end up in and out of prison.
As a mother with my 13 year old that screaming and crying is when I walked away. Ignored him straight up. Thank God it worked and those tantrums didn't last long. That's just my tactic I employed and the way I was able to help fix it. I dont want to be a parent in the comments acting as if I have the answers it just so happens that worked for me. I have a 15 month old daughter and twins on the way and it can be a completely different case with them. But I do believe not giving into that behavior can curb it. To me it seems like they repeat it because it gets them the attention they are demanding good or bad.
The key is not to give in to the behaviour
This is a classic example of behaviour modification. Children love praise and love to work towards a goal or positive outcome. You take positive reinforcement away - what's the point of working well with others? If there's no bonds being made, or progress being shown, why bother? Poor kids, it's the lack of organized consistency in their environment.
C Swank WHAT IF THERE IS CHILD WHO HAS TROUBLE WITH THEIR SIGHT THEY DEPEND ON THEIR HANDS AS AN EXTENSION OF THE EYE OR EYES HANDS IN THE LAP IS NOT A GOOD IDEA
@@lindathrall5133 I think it's a good idea though that they learn to get themselves into a settled position at the table and then use their hands to do the sensory work. There is a big things at the start about hands in lap but once they have learned to settle themselves at the table that will fade away - hands in lap is a physical action to signal the wanted behaviour i.e. settling.
More excellent points.
That "physical prompt" stuff. I.e. holding the uncooperative child in place has pretty much universally been deemed a bad idea. Not expressing an opinion on it myself. I don't know. But I do know its not done anymore.
I was wondering about that---
Sometimes you need to show children what is expected of them. When no one has ever taught them to sit in a chair and listen for a short time, they have to be taught because this is how they must function in school.
Good thing I never had kids. I would be in prison without the possibility of parole. At the very least I think they should have sound proofed the classroom, that screaming must be absolutely deafening.
I have to say: Thank you for recognizing that you don't want to raise children. So many "parents" have kids because they want to have a baby, not taking into account that the "cute and fun" phase lasts such a short time and all of a sudden you have a little person you don't know how to raise. Too many people don't think about what kind of parent they would be. Anyway, I appreciate your decision, not that it's any of my business and I sure did not mean to offend anyone. Parenting isn't for everyone as we see in the news ( and Supernanny lol) all too often.
Rachel is cruel. Very much a bully. It's maddening.
See the thing is, If you put a bunch of well behaved kids in there and do the activitys their doing then that would be a blast for me! I would wanna stay
We don't hit. We don't yell. And we don't say "Shut up".
I'm just not sold on the practice of physically restraining a child. It seems that yes, in some cases it might be just what is needed but much more often, it seems like it would just escalate the child's frustration. Why would a time out chair not be preferable? Or a "spot" on the floor, whatever?
100%. I CRINGED.
This is old and now it’s gone the complete opposite and teachers can’t touch or even verbally reprimand the destructive children, and everyone else has to leave the room. You think that the US is having a massive teacher shortage for no reason?
Why is she giving him a token for acting like that? I understand ignoring him but really come on praising him while acting like that makes me sick. How is that teaching him to stop acting like that. He thinks it's ok to do! and
Honestly just take your children outside it's easy and they use their energy productively.
Matt in a box. Wow Sherlock. Why didn't they think of that? They probably would have neighbors calling DHS with kids who scream like that.
Why does that Dean kid have an earring? Already being taught which class he'll be stuck in?
I think he's too young to have an earring.
That's what I thought. "I'm the bad kid."
Dean is doing my absolute SWEDE in!!!
I see they hushed up real quick after a pop lol . But on a real note a child screaming that much at every single thing has to have something not quite right with them. You can't be happy to scream that much . But when children are misbehaving these days ( 2018) it seems most are quick to say it's a disorder when the child prob just needs morals and discipline like things taken away etc. But back in the day they were pretty firm on discipline .So for a child to continue to act this way even with stern discipline then there is something wrong.
kelseys reborns , doesn't that say somethibg though? That the minuted he got popped they stopped? And you are right, nowadays misbehavior is quickly labelled some sort of disorder rather than just simply a behavioral problem. I think we live in a time where society wants to let children run things when they have no busy doing so!
kelseys reborns, what have noticed is that a lot of the boys with behavioral issues are missing fathers or strong male role models.
yes i have noticed that as well. more and more single mothers
These children are completely able to behave. The parents, however, have no clue.
Oh these poor children.
ikr they look like they are so overwhelmed with their situation and they don't know what to do other than have a breakdown. this is so sad. i'm sure the parents are sad and frustrated very much too.
I don't believe in demons but these kids here.... WTF? I think it would be beneficial to study the how. How does this happen. I think more preventative measures with the parents would be more beneficial than trying to fix the problem after it happens. There should be more parent support groups aimed at preventing this from happening in the first place.
callalilly1988 I AGREE
How can children be absolutley so negative and miserable , it makes no sense, they should be having fun .
Is there a follow up to this?
Neglected child taking her anger out on neighbors:stealing,blocking their doors,etc!Told her this:I LOVE kids,not neg behavior-didn't work-Said:Ask God to help you take away your anger!-helped a little!Your Anger/fear comes from not knowing you're Good,Forgiveness comes from LOVE from knowing you're Good^Talking to her respectful friends about her helped the Most.
🥲 The responsibility OBVIOUSLY lies with the Parents❗ They do NOT read the child properly ❗ They do NOT set borders ❗They do NOT execute continous discipline ❗ And they do NOT shower their children with love and affection and praise ❗🥲 Deans mom acts and talks like a man ... and can't hide her coldness ....wich absolutey crushes Deans spirit and fills him with hurt and grief every day 🥲 He DESPERATELY wants hugs and kisses and being held and cuddled ... but his mom CONSTANTLY pushes him away, shouts at him, argues with him or is agressive towards him 🥲💔 After spending hours with the other kids, and understanding, present adults, he runs towards his mom with a big smile and joyful eyes, and stretches his arms towards her .... but she never bends down and hugs him or picks him up or speaks softly and tenderly to him 🥲💔 What a tragic destiny for a child 🥲💔
All those who are talking about birth control and so on: why you are watching this if you are so disgusted of having kids? You should not watch this if you are not brave enough to have kids-this program and other similar ones are for parents, not for all of you!
Tip for parents: Ear plugs. Ignore distraction. Get brutal.
Rip Headphone Users
I felt that in my ruptured eardrums 🙉
Why no car seats for the children? Are they not required?
That is not okay 👌 behaviour slashing water from the basing
No don't shut up 🤐 to your son Rachel and you ✋ bugging your mum boy
That Not Autism at all Please stop Blaming AUTISM pleases Bad Behavior and No Rules
Thank you, as an adult who was healed of autism!
Thank you I have autism.
When the show started my thought was, "Get these kids medication!!!" But OhEmGeee, what a turn around for many of the kids! Probably a few fall on the autism spectrum and/or have ADHD and do need meds.
What do they mean here by "excluded"? Excluded from what?
Exclusion means you are not allowed to go to school/nursery
@@chantellem6457 I recently learned of this- exclusion in the UK...What provisions/resources do these children get? Are they simply sent home with no further intruction?
@@donnadee1966 if you are temporarily excluded you basically stay home for a few days and get on with homework. If you are permanently excluded from school you need to find another school that will take you, if no where will take you then your parents are kind of forced to home school you or get you into a special school if you have diagnosed learning difficulties or mental problems
Little Dean looked like he was in pain for awhile there. Especially while fighting with his mommy.
Tachel needs a visit grom CPS. Shebis a bully.
I’m a Tauren… Paladin Holy. “.”
Don't worry, eventually in prison, you won't be expelled 🤷🏻♀️
Seriously,? A documentary on how to deal with behavioural issues with children that is outdated from the early 90’s? 😂🤣
@Alice and Rachel’s Angel Forever I agree there
I really believe that a place should be provided for parents to bring their screaming, hitting, kicking, biting, nose picking, finger sucking miserable little animals that are semi disquised as human children and leave them. Sort of like the program that is set up for new borns to be given over. These parents are clearly overwhelmed by their children, who knows why, but they are incapable of turning things around. Why should both parents and children have to remain together just because the parents gave birth to the child.
This program is amazing.
When they stick their tongue out and spit at you, pop them under the chin so they can bite their tongue. They will stop that immediately.
Amanda Witherspoon-Davis No, that’s not the right thing to do the tongue can be damaged along with the teeth
Since when does hurting a child result in improved behavior? Oh, right! Never. 🙄
These pregnancy videos are always great to watch, but I hate to see a very bad wig on a 70 or 80 years old. Disgusting how someone
This looks about the 90s by the hair styles probably all adults now hope there all doing well.
These people are re-arranging the deck chairs on the Titanic.
Why are those boys not in seatbelts?
I believe this was filmed in the 90's, possibly wasn't law yet. In USA belts became law just in early 90's if I remember correctly.
This was filmed in the UK, seatbelts were made mandatory in 1983.
This video is disgusting. They can't have water because they have to keep their hands in their lap?!
Very poor volume.
Parenting is part of LIFE & parents in this day & age need to know that PERIOD. There are a few things that people need to understand when themselves & their partners agree on bringing a child / children in their lives & in this world: 1) Love them, 2) Protect them from any harm & illnesses like COVID, 3) Give them so much attention, 4) Support them & their future dreams, 5) Be Role Models for them & the other thing that not all parents but Most parents need to fix so bad that they are failing to do so in the Public Eye : PARENTING THEM. Hopefully you don't pull a YOUR DESTROYING MY RIGHTS CARD because I heard those exact words WAY TOO MANY TIMES on the news in this Pandemic & other problems alone. This is the truth these people need to understand. If parents can't control their own child / children properly like in the Public Eye, then What's The Point of you people having kids in the 1st Place when you parents have WAY MORE important things to do than NOT putting your 🦶 FOOT DOWN properly on your child / children's actions & their safety NO MATTER HOW YOUNG THEY ARE. What your kids do at home is completely none of anyone else's business except your own, but when you take them to any place in the Public Eye that is not like a playground or also like a day care center, Parents need to take their parenting extremely seriously NO EXCUSES EVER, just so you parents would not make a scene or totally embarrass yourselves because of your LACK OF PARENTING & LACK OF SAFETY for them. Child safety is THE #1 priority when you bring young children in this world & the way I see & hear, parents in this day & age sometimes don't give a rat's behind about parenting their own children & wouldn't figure what's gonna happen too these kids when they grow up & become the people that we keep seeing on the news every single day & night SUSPECTS / CRIMINALS. By the time these kids & their young days go by, when they go out on the streets & if they get into trouble, their gonna have to answer to the Police. I Swear to you (✋) parents DO NOT wanna see their child / children get in trouble with the law in anyway so they would not have a Jail / Prison cell with their names on them & the only way to prevent that from happening in their future is parents to actually PARENT their own children at these early stages of their lives. Parents are 100% RESPONSIBLE for their out of control or NOT out of control actions & their safety.
I feel sorry for David that he’s being bullied . But that’s the real world . If he acts stupid the kids will treat him like he’s stupid . He either has to learn that he can’t act that way or he’ll have no friends .
spare the rod and spoil the child!
instead of judgement i wish the parents could all receive some loving positive input. i wish they could have days off that they could look forward to when they would be pampered and desensitized. children are wonderful gifts and some people just need a little knowledge and guidance with methods to help them be successful at child rearing.
That intro was unnecessarily stupid.
Every kids different this wouldn't work for all
please give the child an haircut, he cant see nothing
Can’t see anything, not nothing.
How many adults to how many children?
*Zooms in on Rusted metal door children's screams are heard behind the door *That's where the bad kids go!
😢Lnl😢
Looks like ABA therapy to me
No dean you need to share the ball 🏀 with other kids you can not just be selfish with the 🏀 dean
Stop ✋ kicking boys but you don't smack them Rachel or say shut up 🤐 but put on the naughty step and if they get up put them back quitely and they will soon see your not giving in Rachel but Rebecca is a good girl poor Rebecca has 2 naughty big brothers Rachel has 2 naughty sons
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Scemzy I agrew
Now days these children would be diagnosed with autism.
Kree Moore lol stop blaming everything on autism, most of these kids are just entitled brats
kids in Ohio:
Mom of year award. Not
Wish anyone help me in here 🇩🇪
they need empathy not to be 'taught consequences.'
'consequences' are just a euphemism for punishments and punishing is undesirable for a number of reasons. firstly, you are not teaching the child because they are too busy being angry with you. they are learning not to hit because their parents are going to hurt them not because hitting hurts other people. remember when you were punished as a kid. did you really go and 'think about what you did' or did you sit there thinking about how unfair this was for you? secondly, you are not addressing the root of the hitting which is hurt or fear. kids have an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex. they are unable to control their emotions without our help. if you felt the intensity of emotion that they were feeling in that moment you would have acted in the same way. I'm not saying you should let your child hit people, but hurting them back is not helping. you can use empathic limits. if your child hits someone, you can restrain them as gently as possible while making sure everyone is safe, then kindly say 'I know you're really angry but I won't let you hit. hitting hurts.' then you can comfort them through the inevitable meltdown this causes. there is always time later to teach your child what he could have done instead of hitting. if your child feels connected to you through getting enough love and affection, they will want to please you with good behaviour, and every time you punish (aka hurt) your child it erodes your relationship making good behaviour less likely in the future. and what about when your child becomes a teenager and you are no longer bigger and stronger than them? how can you influence them now?
You say consequences=punishment=hitting children, but that is not true. A consequence is a punishment for bad behaviour, that part is right, but a consequence is usually not hitting the child. An example of a consequence is stopping them, telling them what behaviour is not allowed (and why) and depending on the situation and the child's response either restraining them or giving them a minute (or more) to calm down. Once they have calmed down you can comfort them, but if you just give them cuddles and kisses straight away everytime they misbehave they will not learn that the behaviour was wrong and just continue to do it for that positive attention. When kids are older a consequence could be to take away a privilege that they could earn through good behaviour, and you could talk about what they think happened and what they and others should do differently next time. Consequences can be just about anything that happens after a child misbehaves. There a good and bad consequences, a good consequence teaches a child that their behaviour was wrong /and/ that their parents or guardians love them.
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I agree that consequences for behaviour can be a great learning tool for children, as long as they are actually natural consequences for the behaviour, for example, if they forget their jacket they will be cold. however, if it is an artificial consequence from the parent, such as a timeout, they are not learning because they get stuck in anger. also, i agree that a timeout is infinitely better than hitting but you are still hurting your child. in the wild, if children did not stay close to their parent, they would die. Kids feel this. when we put them into timeout, we are actually tapping into their strongest primal fear of abandonment from their parent (meaning death for them). this fear is what is controlling their behaviour, so you percieve good results: they wont be doing that again! at least not while youre watching anyway. so you are still hurting your child psychologically, just as you are if you take away a video game or toy. You are also teaching them that your love is conditional. this means that some kids will internalise the fact that parts of themselves are unloveable, even to the person who is supposed to love them most. So i agree that they need a minute (or twenty) to calm down, but it depends how you go about this. if you shut them out from your love when they are experiencing big emotions which they do not yet have the resources to control, they do not work through the feelings that were driving the behaviour and they will never learn self control. however, if you give them a minute to calm down in your loving presence where you 'witness' their feelings and love them through it, it is a wonderful gift to your child. you are also modelling that the way to influence someone to do what you want is to use your superior strength, or intellect, or to hurt them physically or mentally. you are modelling bullying. Kids know hitting is wrong but in that moment they couldnt help themselves. Instead of using punishment to teach them, you could support them once they have calmed down to find healthy ways to express their anger or frustration. but before they can be receptive to teaching they need help with the hurt or fear that is driving their behaviour right now. I see where you are coming from about giving them attention for bad behaviour. if the only time you give them any attention is when they misbehave, yes they will do this to get your attention. this behaviour is a red flag that they are not getting enough attention at other times, for their good behaviour.
Shen I am not only talking about hurting them physically. other punishments such as timeouts and taking away privelidges, although they are a lot better than hitting, hurt them emotionally and psychologically. it also erodes your relationship. When kids act out, they are 'acting out' emotions that they cannot express yet through words. it is a sign that they are hurting emotionally and need our help to work through their feelings. or alternatively, they just want something. if this is the case it is a red flag that you need to strengthen your relationship as whatever they wanted was more important to them than their relationship with you. Also, you talk about knowing that if you got caught you would be punished. so the solution to that was to not get caught wasnt it? if you punish in order to control behaviour, kids will just get sneakier and do it when youre not looking. is that really effective discipline?
Also, I dont think that you need to worry about having a brat on your hands as long as you are not a permissive parent and you give them age appropriate limits which show them that they cannot always get what they want, but set those limits with empathy letting them know that their feelings are valid and that you are on their side and care about their happiness. If kids feel connected to you they will want to please you. Kids hit when they feel threatened and like they have no other option. Once you have helped them through the emotions that caused them to hit, they will probably feel bad about themselves because they know what they did was wrong. talking with them about what they could have done instead of hitting will give them confidence that next time they can avoid hitting and do the right thing. you are acting under the assumption that kids just enjoy inflicting pain on those around them which is just not true.
Firstly, you seem to be very easily offended. My aim was not to offend you. I would like to remind you that you were the one who responded to my comment in the first place, which is fine by the way, and all I am doing is arguing back. Its not like im attacking you. and also, I have been perfectly respectful in all my comments to you. I have not used any offensive language or attacked your character, I was just engaging in the debate which you initiated. In the first example of you getting offended, it was a misunderstanding on your part when you assumed i only meant hurt physically. as for this time, I made no judgement about your character, my point was that you claimed that 'If they know all that's going to happen if they hit someone is a little 3 minute talk from mommy, you're gonna have a little brat like Dean on your hands.' This is acting under the assumption that they fundamentally enjoy hitting. the reality is that they hit because in the moment they could not see a better way to handle their emotions so they lashed out physically out of fear. It is enough of a consequence that they will feel bad about hitting and that their relationship with the other person will suffer. What they need from us is the limit: "No hitting!" to be restated, to know that we still love them even when they misbehave, to help them through the hurt or fear driving them to hit, to problem solve about how to put the situation right and what to do next time, and to give them the confidence that next time they will be able to stop themselves from hitting.
You are right about me not having kids, however i have done extensive research about child psychology and I happen to have first hand experience of being a kid who was disciplined punitively and i can tell you that i was never sorry about my behaviour, i only pretended to be sorry to get out of timeout. I also became an excellent liar. and although i love my parents dearly and truly believe that they did the best they could with what they knew at the time, i now suffer from depression and anxiety due to traumatic friendships throughout my early teens which came about, I believe, from me not being able to recognise respectful, healthy relationships as the relationship i had with my parents was unhealthy and disrespectful, despite their best efforts, due to their punitive discipline.
Oh my, I fell in love with Dean. I have taught many behaviour-disordered students, just like him, who everyone else will label as "incorrigible" "unteachable". Some years I will have several of these students in my class (breaking contract rules) simply because other teachers refuse to take them. I can't imagine any child being so disruptive they are expelled from school by grade 3 (although I've taught a few who have come very close because they are a danger to other children). No child wants/chooses to be 'extremely naughty'; it's simply the behaviour that has worked for them in their day to day survival. Kids will rise to whatever expectations you set for them. If you set extremely low expectations, they will easily oblige.
Dean's was a success story and it didn't hurt that he was so dang cute! But I'm wondering if I missed if they tried anything similar for Dean's brother?
that is so true. i keep telling my son, i expect you to do well, because you are a good kid, smart and because you are my son. he loves it when i tell him that, now he is constantly achieving.
Kudos to you for your efforts with the children others found difficult... Every child deserves to have their needs met and sometimes, I think it may just be that one teacher who looks past the label and tries to connect. Dean was adorable- my heart went out to him and I was really rooting for him! Just curious- what are your thoughts about physically forcing the child with the art smock (not my field- but very curious) ?
Excellent points made, C Swank.
I think most of the problems can be fixed with structure, consistency and discipline!!! Yes, really bad disorders isn't what I mean!
Is the child screaming at 16:46 because he doesn't want to go home because he's had a good day? Or is he screaming because he's the last one left in the room and he's unaware why/how everyone's disappeared? Perhaps he despises his home life and simply doesn't want to go home so he rages at his mother? It is so hard to communicate with or understand a non-verbal child's needs.
I was the same way due to having apraxia of speech at ages 1 to 4. It was difficult after learning to talk to go to daycare. Because I was bounced around from place to place. Then showing and being diagnosed with high functioning autism. Not aspergers. So yes it can be difficult but my mom said early intervention is the only way to get nonverbal and special needs in check or to act functional without the labels.
It's probably all of the above, depending on the level of the scream. Google translate?
Exactly. He's scared to go home.
I have raised 3 kids, and misbehaving was NEVER allowed, my kids never cried for a toy or sweet in the shop...I made it clear to them, before we went anywhere, you bring any trouble, there will never be a next time, either in the shop or a friends party...I never spanked them, but lecture and keeping my words, worked magic, I used to give them just a look and they knew its time to cut it...they are now all grown ups , great educated young citizens and my best friends.........
Babra Domenic Thank you for knowing how to be a mother. You're kids will turn out amazing by the sounds of it!! Am sick of people letting their children behave how they want to.
Babra Domenic same
Your an excellent mother.
You had a "look" huh? My mom had a look that could freeze stampeding buffalo. It was like disgust, anger, dissapointment, sadness, a guilt trip, and a threat of punishment to come, all in one. Very effective, lol. I never actually ever really got punished per say, the look was enough. I'm 31 and I still get it every once in a great while. Except now I think she's removed the punishment to come aspect, and a bit of the disgust and anger and doubled down on sadness, dissapointment, and especially the guilt trip parts. It still works.
And like you and your children, my mom is also one of my best friends. I enjoy her company very much. I still fear the look though.
This is a good contraceptive.
For children rolling around the back seat of the car, kicking & fighting, maybe putting on their seatbelt would help keep them on their own side of the car.
I agree, I saw that, and was wondering why the boys and their mother were not using seatbelts.
That's how it was in the 80s. And they did have their lap belts on! Doesn't help keep a kid from sliding all over.
Best PSA announcement for birth control ever.
Lol
I think the results are really good with most of these children. However, they are in a foreign place to their own homes. I also think Supernanny's approach is more concise, quicker, and implements compliance much quicker in the child's normal surroundings. Kudos to these women!
He's got her pretty well trained at 22:48 "I know it's wrong [to take big brother's ball away from him and give it to little brother] but anything to shut him up." He has her trained to give him what he wants or he'll scream till she does.
It’s obvious that is a perfect example for her lazy parenting which all of the parents on here practice.
But she isn't willing to use any new techniques.
Good documentary! Proud of the teachers and the children! Now they should teach the parents how to educate and listen with respect to their child’s needs
My opinion, Dean is the way he is solely because of his mother. Sad. She needs classes more than her son...how to be a good parent.
Enough with the mother blame. It doesn't solve the problem. He screams too much and she loses her patience. So what? She's working on it. I wish you a child just like Dean one day.
Jessica R~I've worked with children for nearly 30 years + raised 3 of my own & therefore have much experience to draw upon. In my opinion, this mother is absolutely the root cause of the problem. Your retort demonstrates an inability or unwillingness to acknowledge it, & that is certainly your choice, but to "wish a child just like Dean" on me is a rather childish response. I will say this.... I hope, for the child's sake, YOU NEVER have one like him if you approve of her parenting. JMHO
SweetDreams706 , why cause she spanked them? Not everyone feels badly about corporal punishment. And, she didnt hit them in anyway that actually physically hurt them. So I dont agree
Lola Lopez Without getting into too many details abt this particular show, I'd just like to respond to your question with 2 facts about CP in general.
You are the role model for your children. CP teaches children that if they are not happy with something another person does, or says, or whatever...it is okay to strike that person. I can't tell you how many times I've witnessed this behavior at the kindergarten/grade school level where I worked. I'm talking child to parent + child to child, mainly on the playground, the latter being quite dangerous at times i.e. scratched eyes, painful cuts & a concussion.
Secondly, I've seen firsthand, parents get carried away with their CP when tired & frustrated...& the child left with ugly bruises & some even requiring medical care. IMO CP is the easy way out for parents who don't want to make the extra effort to properly teach their children right from wrong....& crave a quick physical release for their own anger.
Believe me, I've seen it entirely too often. The physically abusive kids at school, including bullies, ALWAYS came from households where CP was implemented. JMHO
SweetDreams706 spare the rod, spoil the child.
You dont know better than the bible,
you arent God.
If childhood is so disappointing and painful wait until they get to experience adulthood.
Rachel is a slow learner. Her poor boys and yes, we know you like your little girl best!
Poor, birthday, poor, boy,, abuse, boy😭😢😞😟🎂.😢.
I think this special school has done wonders with these children and helped teach the parents how to deal with their behavior.
LaDonna Briggs They need to be placed in a residential school
the poor child at 10.10 was so confused he had said thank you but obviously teacher didnt hear him and then he was wondering what he had done wrong, poor kid, then his behavior escalated.I also agree that some of these children are on the spectrum xx
I could NOT agree more, I was HORRIFIED. He looked utterly puzzled!!! And then of course he reacted because the grown-up was being "totally unfair"... and also putting her hands on him, for which I would certainly teach MY children to bite to the bone.
Kui Wagacha
Parenting like yours, is the #1 reason why teachers are quitting in droves!
Teach your brat to bite?
Don’t be surprised when no one wants to be around either one of you.
No wonder so many children are disgustingly entitled and feral nowadays and it’s all thanks to idiots like you.
He said "juice please" she praised him then poured the juice, but he didn't say thank you after she poured it. She had said thank you waiting for him to say it. He said "I put my hands in my lap" she promoted "thank you" again for the drink but he wasn't catching on. Obviously he was confused but he didn't say thank you
@@robbinsnest6163 exactly I was confused as that as well and your comment clarified what I was thinking. He’s a good boy but he didn’t say thank you ♥️💔🙏
There is an awkwardness in how this program is run. There is a certain amount of force being used by the workers that is causing resentment in the children instead of winning their cooperation.
I feel sorry for the siblings. The attention gets focused on the loudest ones.
Those naughty children 👶 need discipline
I agree!
I definitely agree
Not naughth, they all have a reason for their behaviour. What is happening at home to make a child unhappy, anxious, scared etc. That is what you need to find out before labelling children. I am the eldest of 4, i years older than the next, and somehow we ended up labelled:Tessa the eldest, Richard the boy, Katharine the pretty one and Jane the sick one. It is awful and still at 68 I feel how bad it was.
I like the general IDEA... but the military tactics used here are a little heartbreaking. Poor kids can't even stretch without having foreign hands (grrrrr- GET your hands OFF my child) replace them on their sweaty laps immediately.
Someone other than you obviously has to teach your “precious, crotch demon” how to keep their hands to themselves!
Have fun visiting your brat in prison and don’t forget to start saving now for a good attorney, you’ll need it!
Your child is going to be in jail later in life.
So she already had 2 difficult children and decided to have more!!!!!
Gina Cable agree. Sorry but the moment I was pregnant with my second (and my first wasn’t “difficult”) I said that was it bc I knew what I could handle. It’s madness and not fair to the kids especially if one or more needs extra attention and care.
Looks like Dwayne and Dean needs supernanny
My very first thought!
@@joeymarie72 yeah , i think Dwayne and Dean do need supernanny
Mom REALLY needs Jo to teach them how to behave!
Listen, we as parents have to stop excusing our kids bad behavior. Little Timmy is 5, so no, having a rough birth, or (not being used to thus or that) doesn't excuse bad behavior at 3!!!!!!!!!
OK I honestly cannot understand these types of situation. I don't judge them because that's not my place, but I honestly can't understand it. If I tried this with my mother I...I would have never have tried this with my mother. My father was the "pushover" and I wouldn't not have done this either. I can understand if it is mental issue, but how does it get this far if it is just a "normal" (for lack of a better word) child. Once again not judging but it this a gradual thing or is this something that just crops up over night?
Katrina LeeBaldwin I hope you never have children.
TOTALLY with you, as in I have NO idea where the idea CAME from that you can so much as talk back to your mum (at least, at this age) but I think it has something to do with modern parents becoming more and more afraid (for WHATEVER reason) that Discipline is NO form of love, and will probably beget hatred. That's COMPLETELY ridiculous, of course: children love their parents (good or bad or even HORRENDOUS) almost more blindly than good parents love their children -perhaps because they are totally dependent on them. Or maybe there's also the GUILT of spending so much time away from them at work, and instinctively spoiling them as a way to "prove" their love and sort of "buy back" that time...
I comepltley judge these parents . They let their kids become this despicable
“Right, Dean shut up now because you’re getting on my nerves” 😂😂😂
Rebecca Mace I think the mother favours the baby instead of working with Dean
Such a mean behemoth of a woman.
The Dad is the best.
@@lindathrall5133 completely. Poor boy. It’s so sad 😢
I can see how this could be used on a corporate level for employee behaviour control.
If only companies believed in feeding there golden gooses.
Hysterical! I worked in HR for 20+yrs and I was thinking the same!!!
When was this video made? Why aren't the first two little boys loose in the back of a moving car? It is against the law for the 4 year-old not to be in a car seat.
Probably wouldn’t be allowed to guide their hands (or carry them by their arms!) these days.
how old is this? The women all have 80's hairdos and I don't see any cell phones.
Why are the children crying all of a sudden in the school
17:45 I mean my kids get on my nerves at times and I feel the urge yell shut up but I don't....I get it mum you're frustrated but yelling "shut up".....smh
And then she wonders where her kid gets such a crappy attitude…
These “learning or behavior enhancing” educators/teachers need SUPERNANNY
😭♥️ they need just a little more training I feel 😔 not saying that to sound rude, honestly.
This programme was filmed well before Supernanny debuted on TV
I wish adults wouldn't pull children along by their arms it can cause injury. I have worked in a behaviour modification school and I know how well it works but not by pulling their arms up. To me it is abusive and disrespectful to the child.
There is something else wrong with Joe than just being defiant.
This looks early 90s or so. The cars tell me that lol and that the kids are not in seat belts in the Swindon family. Wonder exactly how long ago this was?
Kids are what we allowe them to be. If we don't allow bad behaviour for kids, just like we don't allow it for adults, and for dogs, then they don't start with it in the first place. But if we keep our heads in books about how to raise good kids and if we forget to use common sence, then we get brats. In kindergartens the children learn quickly wich adults they must behave with, and wich adults they can behave badly with. Sometimes I need to remind the kids "hey, it's me, it's not your mom or your dad or Marie or Ally or whoever, it's ME, so stop that right now!" And they stop 99% of the time because they know I don't change my mind or give in to their tantrums and tears and screamings.