Give Your Inner Child Permission to Heal | Kristin Folts | TEDxOcala
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ธ.ค. 2018
- Give yourself permission to walk down memory lane as you talk with your inner child about your childhood. What was it like? How has it influenced you?
At this moment, give your inner child permission to heal as you walk down memory lane and begin to heal specific pain points from your childhood. Here are five things you can say to yourself to bring peace, empathy, and love into your healing journey.
1. I give you permission to heal
2. I give you permission to forgive yourself and others
3. I honor our journey
4. Thank you
5. I love you Parent coach and adoption advocate. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I had a dream last night that I was hugging my crying, sobbing 11 yr. old son, then when I woke up I realized that I wasn't hugging him, I was actually hugging myself.
Thanks my brother
This was profound. ❤️
Thank u @@xxdustinadamsxx
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That’s powerful
Yes healing our inner child opens up a gateway of possibilities in life
I sure hope so!
I truly believe this!
Walk through the pain (heal your inner trauma, otherwise it will keep knocking on your door) Say to your inner child I give you permission to feel, to heal I give you permission to forgive yourself and others I honor our journey together I love you Thank you
So happy she did this Ted Talk. Doing inner child work is so important. That was the biggest piece of the puzzle to my personal development and something I have found profound healing through confronting.
I did too. Inner child is the key for me.
Beautiful. X
that’s good. hope you made some nice progress. take care.
Yes!!
I'm here because I need to start this process. I appreciate the comment!
This man's laughs just made my whole year
love ur username!
Me too 🤣
He has such a contagious laugh 😂
spending time comforting my inner child and speaking with her is such a wholesome thing. and the fact is, i’m still very much a child. i have so much more to learn. i don’t need to rush anything. it’s okay to live in the present moment.
exactly.
You must Walk through the pain...
Not around it...
Not over it...
Not Under it...
You must Walk Straight Through it...
And Wait patiently and lovingly for however long it takes is healing and Wholeness...
Very well said 👌
Trying to work on inner child healing now. Rough childhood left me with a lot of anxiety, fear and trauma.
Me too. Keep going.
this saved my life today as 20 year old ... i was having nostalgic depression and this healed me ... thank you kristin maam
You are loved, even if you don’t feel like you are or know where that love is coming from. ❤
I can see the girl who was kneeling on the floor in the toilet while her parents argued. I have a full of tears in my eyes whenever I see her in the way. Baby girl you didn’t do anything wrong. You are just at the wrong place with wrong people. You are the flowers. The surrounding are just wrong
i just read a book about healing your lost inner child. it was life changing. before i was always angry and shouting to my wife and my baby. gets easily irritated and annoyed. we almost broke up good thing i read about this and found out that it was because i grow up alone and broken family. always defensive with myself. now i am starting and trying to change. feeling guilty of what i did before. acceptance to move forward
what was the book called?
@@josslynplatte3345 healing your lost inner child by robert jackman.
Don't feel guilty! 💜 pat yourself on the back for having the courage to change and grow. 😊
나는 당신을 응원합니다
To my inner child,
The child with the twinkling eyes gazed upon the world with amusement and at the carefree wonder of the world. I'm writing to you because those twinkling eyes are my eyes now. your joy is my joy now. your love is my love now. your tears are my tears now. you are me. no one else will love and adore you like me because I know the type of love you and I need. You are forever in my heart and I am in yours. I love you. I see you. I finally see you.
Beautiful ❤
would like to hear a much longer discussion from this wise lady. she knows what she talks about
to my inner child, I give you permission to feel, to heal I give you permission to forgive yourself and others I honor our journey together I AM SORRY, PLEASE FORGIVE ME, I LOVE YOU, THANK YOU! =d
1.i give you permission to heal
2. I give you permission to forgive yourself and other
3. I honor our journey together
4. Thank you
5.i love you
To my inner child
Awesome
"There is a clear cut line between before 9/11 and after 9/11"...
COVID-19: "Hold my proteins..."
I needed this. 9.11 I was in Albany getting ready to go home the next day. I watch the films every year ..I will never forget.
Thinking back now to how infelt on that day, I did feel bad for the victims but I now realize that by September 11 2001 and even before that I was already numb.
September 11th, 2001 I was in kindergarten In music class. I remember my teacher was my favorite and I enjoyed learning everything she said word for word. I remember the moment she got a call from the school and turned on the news for all of my class to see. I remember watching the first plane before my teacher turned it off and distracted us, although we all asked about it in private so many times to each other that we had to learn it each year after.
I have held onto Shame and helplessness for so long that I am letting myself let go.
Ty so much for being brave enough to give this speech
Now, this is a talk worth talking about!!
Nice.
I love how she starts off with 9/11. I don’t think I realized until just now that was the first day I acknowledged my dad couldn’t protect me from everything and really changed my life tbh. I was just in 4th grade, trying to get out the mile run when we all got drug into the schools. We didn’t understand what was happening but I do remember being on crazy lock downs because I lived in PA at the time and they didn’t know where the next attack was. Then we just went home like it was nothing to be greeted with parents who were scared shitless. Interesting start.
Indeed. Indeed. I was in the 5th grade. I'll never forget that day and the terror on the faces of defenseless adults.
You aren't the only one. I think 9/11 is a big part of my puzzle too
Sweet she talks like a child bless her.
She’s got a gentle voice and loving 🥰 voice and personality.
My inner child was a critical thinker very early on, even around age 10.
I'm very in touch with my inner child! Like the good ol' days after 9/11!
I really needed to hear this today. THank you
What an awesome Ted talk and very much needed too!!!❤ Thank you.
Helicopter parents do a great job of blocking truth, growth, and healing.
And helicopter grandparents created them.
Hmm helicopter parents... in often find that helicopter parents have their own traumas that need to be healed so that they can parent from a place of peace instead of fear. As a parent coach, I find that hurting people do they best that they can with what they have and when they know how to do better or be better, they do better and that includes being a happier, more connected and loving parent. Generations tend to repeat themselves when healing doesn't happen.
@@healinghomecoaching1030 Helicopter Parents often are trying to heal or protect their own wounded child in a vicarious manner by overprotecting their children and showering them with attention. I should know, I am one. Working on it though, and getting better!
"September 11st 2001 where were you??"
Well, I wasn't born yet-
😅THIS IS A POWERFUL INFORMATIVE HEALING DELIVERY. I'm going to heal. You helped tremendously. Thank you for the compassion
Thank you for what you do 🙏🏽
My thing is 3-4 months ago. It's still a bleeding wound. I'm sick of hurting. I just want to destroy these horrible feelings and not have them anymore.
Kids are cruel Jack, and I'm very in touch with my inner child
This was a wonderful healing message! Thank you!
Thank you so 🙏
Excellent presentation ... Thank you!
So glad you enjoyed it.
Red Sun
Red Sun over paradise
Red Sun
Red Sun over paradise
Golden rays of the glorious sunshine
Sending down such a blood-red light
Now the animals slowly retreat to the shadows
Out of sight
Arid winds blow across the mountains
Giving flight to the birds of prey
In the distance machines come to transform Eden
Day by day
Only love is with us now
Something warm and pure
Find the peace within ourselves
No need for a cure
When the wind is slow and the fire's hot
The vulture waits to see what rots
Oh how pretty, all this scenery
This is nature's sacrifice
When the echoes boom with a brisk attack
The reptile's tail ripped from its back
When the sun sets
We will not forget the Red Sun over paradise
THANK YOU.
Thank you I needrd to hear this today
This has taken a lot of work to heal my inner child...😊
This was great!! 👍
Love this 🧡
Making up for lost time in your inner child becomes your self be true to yourself just be yourself
I cried when I listened to this
I give permission to my inner child to heal
That was such a wonderful Ted talk
Is it weird I’m watching this on 09.11.20 ? 🤯
Thank you Kristin. Great topic.
Thank you Manal for the opportunity to share the TEDxOCALA stage with other great speakers. Forever thankful for what it has brought into my life because of TEDx.
September 11,2001 my mother and dad was separated and I had to play mommy role at 5 years old and being touched by two different men in the same home who I called family
🎈Happy🎈Healing🎈to ALL Thank you
God i love that reference to we’re going bear hunting
Its not such an easy movement to make, what are you forgiving and who is accepting the forgiving; who is the person that moves on? You are, but if you don't know what you are, you also don't know when you feel things AS YOURSELF. So this collapses into ignoring the trauama again and not actually dealing with it - the ambiguity of forgiving and moving on into the forgived-you, gives away to ignoring and denying as well.
Thank you for your comment. What if forgiving (yourself or someone else) is all you need, to have the clarity to know what emotions are yours that need to be healed and in giving your permission to do the work to heal, you begin to form into a more whole version of yourself? The healing process to wholeness is not always pretty, but it is worth the journey. Please reach out to me personally when you are ready to walk the journey to wholeness together.
Exactly Keith
I ask to see what I don't know, I ask for clarity and wisdom and that seems to work. I look for signs in numbers, patterns, animals, any kind of symbology really. It's the pattern of red with white dots that's opened up things for me. Was drawn to fly agaric mushroom symbology and it was off and hasn't stopped full pelt since then. Answers are too regular to even note any longer. I have more journals than a journal shop and I've given up trying to get it all down. Just leaning into trusting the journey and letting it unfold. It's pretty magical to witness.
@@ruthbrown9351 that’s awesome Ruth!
@@ruthbrown9351 I even subscribed. I need all the help I can get
Yes!!
Thank you
Your welcome. I am glad you listened. I hope it gave you permission to heal a painpoint in your life.
I love her
These are all words. Yes they make sense. BUT how do you do it. Thanks for your permission but exactly how do you start.
So insightful ❤️
September 11, 2001... I was 5 months old.
My inner child trauma steers from my eldest brother, what if I can't reach him now? How do I walk through my pain if I can't face my opponent
You can write a letter to your eldest brother that you never send; either write ✍️ it out physically or type it in an email that you NEVER actually send. You can also do the empty chair technique. Pretend your brother is in the chair and talk, say, yell whatever you want/need too as IF he was really in that chair. You can also contact a local therapist or an online therapist and have them help you walk through it. Most people who were traumatized by other people do their healing without the person who inflicted the trauma, it can be done. I’ve done it. But it is different for everyone and we’re all our own journeys. No judgement, only love and compassion to and for you and all the best for your healing journey. Thank you for asking the question. I hope you find the healing you need and deserve.
Thank you father in heaven through your son Jesus christ Amen
The ultimate healer
I was 10 and at school on 9/11. I got a terrible stomach ache out of nowhere and got picked up from school early. I saw the event playing on the news in the front office. When I got home and walked inside, my grandma was watching footage of the second plane hitting.
My school decided since just about every classroom had it playing on TV, that pulling the fire alarm would be a good idea. The school is only a few miles from the school so there were planes flying above waiting to land since the FAA closed airspace
Powerful
1:19 creeped out because I was actually 5 when 911 happened I don’t remember it but I remember my first traumatic experience happed a year or two after that!
Where were you? During 9/11? For me I was in 1st grade, it was circle time and our teacher was about to read the class a book. Then another woman came and whispered something in her ear. Then all the children were just sent back to their desk to play around.
I was born that day lol
When I “invite my inner child in,” the invitation is never acknowledged or answered. “Giving her permission to heal” has no effect: precisely nothing results.
Be patient. Meditate everyday with the intention of connecting to your Inner Child.
You got this!
It doesn’t help. Do you really think I haven’t BEEN doing that?
@@KateGladstone well, how would I know? :) you know, if you're having a real hard time succeeding in this consciously, you should definately try an ayahuasca ritual/retreat. It will show you everything you need to see.
@@KateGladstone there's this guy from the Charisma on Command youtube channel, he has a video where he shares his experience with ayahuasca. He basically had a powerful connection with his inner child, and his inner child showed him where he was neglecting himself.
Play at 1.5 speed for it to sound normal
Izzy azalea brought me here after watching her short ❤❤❤❤❤
Inner child: does it really get worst for us?
Me: you have no idea………I’m sorry
자막이 어려워서 여러분이 올려주신 댓글이 많은 도움이 되었습니다 감사합니다
7:20 skip
If I could add a 6th, "you have permission to feel"
What was I feeling on 9/11? I just remember having a strong gut feeling that our own government had something to do with it. Haha.
Fr lol
Go with your gut
Nice explanation
September 2001 - i was 4 months baby
Goal: One day to be able to laugh like the man in this video
This content is resonant. A similar book I read recently had the same impact. "A Life Unplugged: Reclaiming Reality in a Digital Age" by Theodore Blaze
Why would I need to forgive myself when others have abused me? That makes no sense. I would have liked the presentation better also if it didn't mention 9/11 because racists often use it to "justify" their racism. I also didn't like including a mental visualization of the stereotypes people have over who has ptsd. People only care about veterans having ptsd, but it's more often children and abused women who have it. But people only care about veterans.
Fallen Angel A lot of people blame their inner child or have resentment toward themselves over things they were forced to do, and they blame themselves for it. So while you may not feel the need to forgive yourself, many other people do. General prescriptions do not apply to every individual case, I don’t know if that is something she should be faulted for. Also, regardless of whether people use 9/11 as a justification for racism, that does not mean it was not a traumatic event for many people in the country. So I don’t think we should invalidate people’s trauma because some people may use the event as a vehicle for racism. Ignoring the event doesn’t solve anything and is equivalent to never mentioning someone’s ethnicity because it might inspire racism. And yes, there are many women and children who suffer from PTSD, and she did mention children. People do not pay enough attention to women and children suffering from PTSD, but that does not mean that nearly enough people pay enough attention to what many veterans suffer through. So I don’t think we should fault her for mentioning veterans. We hear about veterans not getting enough support because they really don’t. That’s like complaining about hearing about women’s rights when other minorities don’t have rights either. As long as a group is underprivileged we should continue the conversation
No judgement, sincerely. True healing is about you, not them. You do it for you. You acknowledge the hurt and pain they caused (because they did) and you choose to let it go and not rule you or your life anymore. Forgiveness isn’t forgetting or excusing. It’s simply acknowledging it happened and doing your best to move forward. Simple as that but the doing of it is hard and complex and takes time. (spoken from lived experience). Wishing you all the best.
@@g194g very well said, thank you.
For holding onto the trauma most people just want to forget but the inner child latches onto it not allowing it to be forgotten (for good reasons). 9/11 is a nationwide trauma most of us can understand, there's not much more of a communal trauma that damn near everyone in the audience would share, that expressed racism could be a side effect of the unresolved trauma of that very event. It's not that people "only care about veterans" it's that most people only know about PTSD brought about by the violence of war and being a military brat I'd say people don't even care about veterans just virtue signaling ad campaigns. 3 years later I hope you're doing well.
Now i got this fukin weed problem too except ive struggled a lot. Im sad and want to be saved
How are you doing?
How do you heal? I don't get it I just don't want to hurt
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Very important work, I did all my workshop with The Inner Council, take a look at their testimonials, it was wonderful. :)
Thanks but is there a part 2 on how?
Nope. just this pointless drivel.
Selective memory becomes the option but we become so defensive when the exact situation arises...its subliminal
7:59
thank u
@ 6:44 his laugh tho
But what if you do all this and more and you still can't heal the inner child?
im in ocala
Why does she sound like the psychic lady on poltergeist? Carol-Anne?!
Terry H lmao
Lmbo! It was so traumatic watching it! We all really wanted her to go to the light!
a bit like, but a bad version of…
I don’t know I can do this it’s too painful
Well I just found out there was a character form a show I watch long ago that i was rewatching recently I didn't realize my inner child was scared of him.. it's ok inner child me I'm really sorry. 😥i know its silly and iv seen much more terrible fictional characters but i was very young and didn't know better..so once again its ok inner child me its going to be alright 💖❤️
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Not stolen by strangers , by your own country .
September 11th 2001
I was 1 month old sleeping 😃😊
Hello. As an infant, you where still very aware of the happenings around you. Things that impacted your caregivers when you where an infant would have been influential to you as well. We begin feeling our emotions when we are in our mother's womb before we are even fully formed.
Well.., I was 1 year old🤔
I realize she uses light humor to keep engagement with the audience, but it really takes away from the serious topic for me
She never said what her trauma was
Only she was four. I grew up in a violent home and at that time law enforcement wasn’t supportive. I am offended by her taking her making the inner child a small issue by taking the child to tea. If all it takes is to stomp feet, drink tea, say thank you and say ok I’m healed and presto I’m
Healed great! But she is so wrong. How did she get on Ted Talk? Her diabetic story isn’t trauma. Her medical condition was monitored and while she was scared she was fine. All pregnant women get screened for that. I’ve been there, twice.
Don’t warch if you’re offended
She doesn’t say
This lady is so stereotypical because apparently has no experience in trauma once so ever she hasn't been to really kind of things other people has been through I'm to use 911 just start this presentation was just wrong this video doesn't make any sense
2001 mkay um soo I wasn’t born till 3 years later sorry but I’ll still listen
Thank you for listening. What did you think of the talk?