Avoiding the delulu spiral: know when it's for real every time

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 ต.ค. 2024

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  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Alot of girls will say some guy 'ghosted' them & they weren't in a relationship. They weren't even dating! I hear this alot. Its definitely a victim/ poor me mindset. I'd like to get your advice. Do you have a contact? There's a dear brother who seemed very interested in me. The Lord is telling me its marriage season but to be patient & not chase this man in any way. My desire is to establish a friendship FIRST. To build on our mutual love for Christ. Not interested in romantic dinners & gogo eyes. He's definitely not a player or hasty type of man. He's abstinent too.

  • @charlescastle4533
    @charlescastle4533 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just want a wife who I can love exclusively. A woman who is loyal and actually loves me. I want our souls bound, and I only want her. I want to provide for her, and protect her.
    Where are the women who want to get married? Where are the women who won't lead me on? I'm so sick of it all.

    • @sleepylilbecca
      @sleepylilbecca 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      They’re around! A lot of us still exist. Unfortunately both sides are just running into the ones that just want the casual side/dating without intention.

    • @the7thousand
      @the7thousand  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I understand your perspective and like the other response says, there still are women like that still around! As to where - you'll find them in places where people looking for traditional love are. In non-progressive Christian churches is where you'll find women looking for marriage and loyalty. My advice is to get close to God and to get plugged into a biblically-accurate church.

  • @sliverscreen
    @sliverscreen 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great talk. Thank you so much.

  • @youtubevideoseoexpert0
    @youtubevideoseoexpert0 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amazing video. Thank for sharing💕💕

  • @meg_khaaan2743
    @meg_khaaan2743 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You have some good advice but I think it can be a little unrealistic. You never talked about if you already have feelings for a guy from the beginning and then he starts giving signs that he’s interested. Yes, I would like to be married. But that’s not simply what girls check off to feel fulfilled. We want to exclusively love someone and because we love someone, we want to be with them for life. The reason we have a goal of marriage is because it means that we fell in love and are loved in return. That is what we desire. I think your way of thinking is healthy, but it’s not always possible to choose not to have feelings for someone, regardless of if they have done anything to encourage those feelings or not. And if they do start giving you special attention, then as much as you try not to hope for something, it’s just going to happen. I am not mad at a man for “letting me down” so I can’t reach my goal. I am hurt and heartbroken because I genuinely felt like I was falling in love with him and it turns out his feelings were just not as strong as mine. I know that’s just life. I understand it just happens sometimes. I am most likely extra sensitive, but it hurts a lot. I do not demonize men who lead a girl on, but I disagree with you when it comes to what that means. Giving anyone of the opposite sex, male or female, significant special attention and then acting like you were just like any other friend and it never meant anything more is cruel and selfish. I should know, I have done that in my stupid, messed up youth and it has haunted me for years. I would never do that to anyone now. There is no reason why a guy could not follow the same rules and exercise caution and wisdom. He should take into consideration the potential feelings of any of his sisters in Christ and show some restraint until he knows what actions he wants to take. It is not that hard to get to know someone as a friend first without doing or saying obvious things that, honestly, most Christian communities already caution against. That’s something I have always loved and found unique about churches. They practice wisdom and consideration for others well. They take little things seriously from the beginning so that they don’t even have the potential to escalate to something that will damage any part of the body. Obviously things will still happen but the intentionality is so loving and effective.

    • @the7thousand
      @the7thousand  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I agree with you, it's disappointing when someone leads you on, and yes people should be careful not to do that without intentions. My point in this video was more so to say, if a man genuinely has intentions he'll act on it and ask you out. Should more guys ask girls out if they're interested, yes! But the reality is there are so many guys out there flirting just for fun, so we as women would be wise to hold the standard of a guy is either going to ask me out or he's wasting my time with these little "signs".
      Hope that clarifies!

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      ​My question to you is why are you heartbroken? You felt let down but why so hurt? I would venture to say that you have spirit of rejection? I'll tell you this much..if there was any physical stuff going on. Even making out, you will be hurt & legitimately so. Hey, I'm not even going to kiss my man till we are at engaged. For REAL. I actually aspire to not kiss till I'm at the altar!

  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Your going to make a phenomenal wife. Your very very wise. Pretty too.

  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Don't have great expectations. I think its mostly rejection issues. Daddy issues. We must heal these things in Jesus's name.

  • @livmartin3055
    @livmartin3055 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wowww

  • @jesseray4522
    @jesseray4522 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What should a guy do if he’s been going on dates but none of the women end up wanting anything more

    • @the7thousand
      @the7thousand  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That's tough and I'm sorry :/ I would say a few things a guy in this position could do is reevaluate his dating choices, ask for clarity to see if there's a repeating reason women are choosing to walk away, and work on just being a man that has the qualities women are most looking for in a man: protection, provision, integrity and spiritual leadership.

    • @jdkskwkwjdjxjfen
      @jdkskwkwjdjxjfen 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      If you're getting dates you're probably attractive and have a good enough personality. Assuming you're a devout christain guy going for devout christain women my guess is there's a good chance that there's somthing you're doing or some vibe you're giving off that's turning them off once you actually go on the date. I'd try either honest self reflection or if it's truly a blind spot go to a friend or mentor. Especially one that's good with people. Another thing you could try is asking the girl why. But you have to be really careful with that one in how you do it. Might be better to try that one with a girl you're not gonna see again anyways

    • @meg_khaaan2743
      @meg_khaaan2743 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jdkskwkwjdjxjfen Very healthy advice and some meaningful things to consider. I think another great way to look at it is that you just haven’t met the one who sees how special and amazing you are. Self improvement can be good but I think it’s also inevitable. There will always be things we will naturally improve on as we change and grow. I wouldn’t get too anxious or obsessive about continuously looking for things you need to change about your self so someone will love you. I’m not saying that’s what you’re doing but it can be a slippery slope. I know it’s not easy to just wait and endure this feeling though. It is hard to accept that maybe I or my future spouse need to still go through a few more things before we are ready to meet. Actually, the only reason I am able to accept this reasoning is because when I look back to the person I was even just a year ago (let alone five or ten years ago), I feel I have so much more understanding now of myself, of others, of just life. I am so grateful for this and while not everyone is the same as me, I think I probably would not have married someone then that I would marry today.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      I think Satan really messes with the sisters' minds. I know a plethora of women stuck for years on a particular man. They are convinced he's their spouse. In my case, my ex was talking about us marrying so it was hard to see the truth. Again, the devil is planting delusions & vain imaginations in women's minds. I'm not getting excited till I have the engagement ring on my finger and a date is set. I met a phenomenal Christian man. The real deal. I know he likes me but I'm not 'claiming ' him. We shall see. If he found a girlfriend or wife, I'd be HAPPY for him!! I know he's single & abstinent till marriage. We shall see!