Thank you for having the guts to post the truth about adoptive parents who adopt children for selfish, self-aggrandizing and abusive reasons. I've seen this sickening behavior so much throughout my life.
My childhood best friend was adopted at an early age by an almost impressively dysfunctional couple in my neighborhood. I remember (being three years younger than my friend) watching my friend's adoptive mother verbally (mental and emotional) berate her, as well as often being bold enough to get into physical altercations with her while I was staying the night over. She never put her hands on me, mind you, but the things I witnessed this woman do to her adopted daughter had a direct psychological impact on me myself growing up. I would tell my mother about how this woman behaved behind closed doors, while she put on this elaborate demonstration of a loving, doting mother in public. I often wonder to this day what sort of childhood she herself must have had to have felt so entitled to doling out the pain she inflicted on my friend for all of those years.
Very wise words as usual, my man. Having come from a highly dysfunctional family myself, I think that any form of adoption - official or unofficial - by conscious and loving parents can only be beneficial for the orphan who is looking for a safe haven however he finds it. The problem is that many who adopt have unresolved issues themselves. But I do know several people who were adopted who grew up to be fairly well adjusted adults and they are deeply grateful to their adoptive parents.
Most people are deeply traumatized and hardly ever capable of raising their own children. My son is 18. I hope I didn't hurt him as much as my parents did hurt me (we speak a lot, he says 'you're ok mom' 🙂) but LORD, IT WAS HARD! If he were not my blood I don't think I would still be a mother and that's a sad truth. It is much more difficult to raise an emotionally healthy child than a childless person can ever imagine. My good friend, traumatized by her psychopathic mother and immature, decided she wanted to have a child of her own at 40. She gave birth at 41. The boy is nearly 5 now and has already activated all her trauma and lack of emotional stability. She is a wreck and deep inside hates and despises her son for "doing it to her". I warned her, she wanted a child as bad as a child wants a candy. I knew it would destroy her. I didn't even want to tell her what it means to have a 12-17 year old son and that it will be a big challenge for her. She doesn't tolerare any misbehaviour on her child's part, she perceives it as an attack/threat so I'm affraid she's going to be in shock when this little boy who is very bright outspoken and extremely stubborn becomes a teenager.
Hi Daniel ❤️Word for word my conclusions and experience, too, since 2009, when I became aware (studied Psychology at uni, joined a Facebook support group for daughters of narcissistic mothers, and got married) of my own trauma and wounded inner child. What a ride I had ever since! And I'm not done learning, crying, putting myself back together. 🙂❤️
To "save" someone only to hold it over their head, is so wrong. My parents (not adopted) often compared my life to a theoretical worse one to make me grateful. I'd rather have my feelings, even if they were "wrong" or the feelings of a spoiled person, fidelity to my own sense of life is more important. Otherwise it's all these forced, psuedo-feelings. No thanks
Yeah, they’d always bring up that we are fed and clothed and housed everyday. That we don’t live under the bridge. But imagine if the child flipped the role. Talked about kids who don’t get shouted at, or spanked, or parents who actually love each other/ emotionally available. That the PARENT is the one being ungrateful and not appreciating them. 😂🥲
He thinks it can be dangerous. It’s essentially a medicine, and you’re not really being monitored by a doctor. There are cases of ppl who used it and died.
Thank you for having the guts to post the truth about adoptive parents who adopt children for selfish, self-aggrandizing and abusive reasons. I've seen this sickening behavior so much throughout my life.
Its what happend to me ! A LOT OF ABUSE from all directions
My childhood best friend was adopted at an early age by an almost impressively dysfunctional couple in my neighborhood. I remember (being three years younger than my friend) watching my friend's adoptive mother verbally (mental and emotional) berate her, as well as often being bold enough to get into physical altercations with her while I was staying the night over. She never put her hands on me, mind you, but the things I witnessed this woman do to her adopted daughter had a direct psychological impact on me myself growing up.
I would tell my mother about how this woman behaved behind closed doors, while she put on this elaborate demonstration of a loving, doting mother in public. I often wonder to this day what sort of childhood she herself must have had to have felt so entitled to doling out the pain she inflicted on my friend for all of those years.
Thanks again Daniel ❤
Very wise words as usual, my man. Having come from a highly dysfunctional family myself, I think that any form of adoption - official or unofficial - by conscious and loving parents can only be beneficial for the orphan who is looking for a safe haven however he finds it. The problem is that many who adopt have unresolved issues themselves. But I do know several people who were adopted who grew up to be fairly well adjusted adults and they are deeply grateful to their adoptive parents.
@7:30 I’ve seen this so much and it’s sickening.
Most people are deeply traumatized and hardly ever capable of raising their own children. My son is 18. I hope I didn't hurt him as much as my parents did hurt me (we speak a lot, he says 'you're ok mom' 🙂) but LORD, IT WAS HARD! If he were not my blood I don't think I would still be a mother and that's a sad truth. It is much more difficult to raise an emotionally healthy child than a childless person can ever imagine. My good friend, traumatized by her psychopathic mother and immature, decided she wanted to have a child of her own at 40. She gave birth at 41. The boy is nearly 5 now and has already activated all her trauma and lack of emotional stability. She is a wreck and deep inside hates and despises her son for "doing it to her". I warned her, she wanted a child as bad as a child wants a candy. I knew it would destroy her. I didn't even want to tell her what it means to have a 12-17 year old son and that it will be a big challenge for her. She doesn't tolerare any misbehaviour on her child's part, she perceives it as an attack/threat so I'm affraid she's going to be in shock when this little boy who is very bright outspoken and extremely stubborn becomes a teenager.
Hi Daniel ❤️Word for word my conclusions and experience, too, since 2009, when I became aware (studied Psychology at uni, joined a Facebook support group for daughters of narcissistic mothers, and got married) of my own trauma and wounded inner child. What a ride I had ever since! And I'm not done learning, crying, putting myself back together. 🙂❤️
To "save" someone only to hold it over their head, is so wrong. My parents (not adopted) often compared my life to a theoretical worse one to make me grateful. I'd rather have my feelings, even if they were "wrong" or the feelings of a spoiled person, fidelity to my own sense of life is more important. Otherwise it's all these forced, psuedo-feelings. No thanks
Same
Yeah, they’d always bring up that we are fed and clothed and housed everyday. That we don’t live under the bridge.
But imagine if the child flipped the role. Talked about kids who don’t get shouted at, or spanked, or parents who actually love each other/ emotionally available. That the PARENT is the one being ungrateful and not appreciating them.
😂🥲
Adoption - the ultimate, "After everything I've done for you. How dare you?"
Excellent video 👍🏻
daniel what you think of ayahusca ?
Don't do drugs
He thinks it can be dangerous. It’s essentially a medicine, and you’re not really being monitored by a doctor. There are cases of ppl who used it and died.
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2nd!