Especially if they find out OP has a bf and they would say something like since the brother is a man he should take over like OPs business partner while she focuses on getting married to her boyfriend. If they found out about the bf, holy crap, if the mom was in hysterics she would be all up in OPs business (pun intended) to harass not only her but her bf and probably interfere with any wedding planning. Since her entire family was on the hate train OP shouldn't invite ANY of them because that is a straight ticket to her parents finding out and ruining stuff or getting harassed by the family again. Honestly, OP needs to tell friends NOT to post about her and her bf on socials/don't tag them, especially in regards to the wedding/planning, if she hasn't told them already and she needs to private her accounts not just block them because obviously they will find ways around it with the brother getting another # to call her from. The bf, since they don't know about him, may not need to private his accounts however if he doesn't there is a risk. Also 10/10 recommend security for the wedding even if its small because her entire family, especially mom, dad and bro, are sneaky lil turds who may turn up to disturb the wedding last minute just like they how they pulled out of the business deal last minute. (also lowkey wonder if they are harassing the son about getting married/having kids since he is getting older too and is the golden child so they would want golden grandbabies or maybe they secretly feel he is too hopeless to get a girlfriend and thats why they are riding on OP having kids, which if she and her bf does need to keep tf away from her family especially if the kids are girls)
I think OP already knows what's going to happen. Here's my guess for Update 4: After the acquisition was completed, the new ownership either laid off or outright fired golden brother because he was completely useless. Mommy and daddy came back to OPs place, not to ask, but to order her to give brother the job she "owes" him, "because family". And it won't be just any job, they will demand she makes him CEO or president, and that she give up on this silly idea of a woman running her own business, so she can get down to the important work of having babies with the "acceptable" new husband that they have picked out for her. Hopefully this will be met with laughter and restraining orders.
They wanted a piece of your business because Mom knows Bro will be without a job and they wanted to ensure he had another job where he could eventually become the boss and ace you out of your own business. Mom's behind it all, her goal is to protect her Golden Boy at all costs, Dad is her obedient drone.
Once the brother and/or dad loses their job they'll come back for money. When they find about the marriage, they'll come back for "the grandkids". OP needs to keep her guard up.
Stand your ground on this re: not apologizing. They were not leaving when you indicated you wanted them to. OP, like a lot of people in these situations, you want the family that they COULD be. You want the potential. You will be able to have peace when you accept that it isn't going to happen. Keep going, and don't waste your time 'gloating' if your brother loses his job. This is where 'being the bigger person' comes into play.
Let me make a prediction: 1. Bro loses job 2. Parents demand OP gives the bussines to bro 3. OP refuses 4. Parents and brother attack OP 5. Police + restraining order 6. OP gets married and lives happily ever after
I guarantee that the parents wanted to invest in OP's business so that they could obtain majority ownership and give the business to the younger brother. They know that once the new company does performance reviews that baby brother will be the first on the chopping block and what better way to screw over their daughter than to steal the company she fought hard to build right out from under her for their golden boy. This probably won't be the only attempt to become investors or shame OP into willingly giving up her company in the future. OP it's time to throw those garbage people in the bin once and for all! You're better off without them anywhere near your life, business, future hubby and children.
Thought the same thing, they trying to come back hard and fast so they can bully her into giving the brother a job, but a leadership role in her company. And to her parents and the rest of the family, it becomes the brothers business that he started all by himself and OP is just a secretary.
It doesn't matter what the parents or the brother want she doesn't have to give them anything especially since they don't have any claim to her business because she didn't let them invest after backing out the first time. Smart girl with a good head on her shoulders.
Never apologize to narcissists. They just use it as a weapon against you. And apologies can be used as admission of guilt in court so they could have used it to sue her which is probably likely considering they were already threatening it.
I somewhat disagree. 3rd parties may think about you as a jerk. I accidentally stepped on a narc's foot, said sorry, he went into a fit, and everybody looked at him like crazy. Had I not said sorry, I would have looked like a jerk
Link this story on social media, putting EVERYONE on blast... Should they choose to try to start with you again, have your lawyer give them a few letters, detailing EXACTLY what will happen to you hem
Yeah, they wanted OP's company, not OP's love. They wanted her "mind, body and soul" to belong to them because they are under the belief that is what it means to be a woman. But they forgot one thing: They're not in their native country anymore. The best decision they made for her, and the worst for them, was to have be born in another culture, away from the culture where they were so powerful. They surrounded themselves with people from this culture and had to follow their rules in order to "look good" so they HAD to give her an education and a job. They themselves gave her the tools to escape and the attitude to keep her away. This is and always will be their fault that they're miserable
Yes, I always wonder why parent's from these 'repressive' cultures come to a different country, to get a better 'life' for themselves and the children, then carry the culture practice they left on in the new country! They then get a shocked picachu face when one or more of the children 'escape' the control they exerted over them. Multiculturism is fine in theory, but when you look at in real life it doesn't work! (The troubles in England to name one country, where the police say if your not a member of one religion keep away from ×× areas. That is just one example of the 'multicultural' probs. in England)
@@SCP01986 Years ago Enoch Powell said 'There would be blood on streets' over this type of thing. He was lambasted, called a racist etc. He was right wasn't he. Unfortunately many 'politician's' are still caught up in the 'fantasy' of M.C. or too gutless to speak up about it.
@@SCP01986 We see the same things when Englishmen go abroad. Look at Rhodesia and South Africa, where repressive pre-war Anglitude continued into the late 20th century while the world changed around them. Much earlier, the worst of English puritanism and intolerance took root across the Atlantic and led to witch-burning, slavery and genocide. The home country continued to evolve, but the expatriates were fossilized despite being transplanted to a new world.
So the family is celebrating that yhe father's company got bought out? Wait til they realize that they surrendered all control of the company and the layoffs and firings that are coming.
What is with people threatening with the cops when it comes to booting people out of their homes.. like... Quit threatening and just fkn do it. And let their arrival shock them 😂
Cutting the family off is one of the hardest choices and I fully understand the hesitance of OP doing it. But once she realizes how much better life is without that family there's no reason to get back into trouble. It's easy to tell from the outside but I'd assume this breakup is permanent and OP should seal it with a restraining order against all 3 of them and enjoy her life with successful business and partner.
I half expected that once the parents didn't have the business any more, brother would get fired and they would demand that OP give him a high paying/high ranking job in her company.
What you have to do is write the full description of your parents' behaviour towards you in relation to how they treated your brother - and the is why you arere living your own life. Delineate the difference between your life and the life of your brother as indulged by your parents.
Basic law gives a person the right to use “reasonable force” to eject trespassers. They became trespassers when they refused to leave, Go NC with both parents and your brother. give them Notice in writing to cease all contact and advise if they don’t you will obtain Restraining Orders.
@@snidecommenter7117 snide, I think that all Common Law jurisdictions allow an owner to eject trespassers using reasonable force, I can’t think of one that doesn’t. If you know one, please advise, I can acquire a lot of property at no risk!
@@anthonyburke5656 I have seen articles where someone has a problem with squatters and they are not allowed to use force to remove them. According to a few articles some people have gone so far as to chop down their own front door and have had help physically removing them, and then gotten in a lot of legal trouble. Legal means are expensive, difficult, and time consuming. Some of the articles have said some have waited until the squatters have gone out and not left anyone behind. They break into their own house, remove all the squatter's personal property, change the locks, and retake physical possession of their own property. I should have paid more attention to where and when these events have happened since I haven't provided any supporting information.
@@snidecommenter7117 squatters and Trespassers are 2 different situations. A Trespasser isn’t trying to assert a Common Law Right as Superior to a Legal Right, a squatter is doing that (btw, easiest way to get rid of a squatter is for the legal owner to grant a Lease to a 3rd party, the Law will come to the aid of a Lessee a lot faster than to the aid of an owner AND the Police won’t stop a Lessee ejecting people from their leased premises. Back to Trespassers, I don’t know a single Common Law jurisdiction that denies a property owner the power to use reasonable force to eject trespassers. In Texas that reasonable force may be very different from the reasonable force in New York, or maybe not, after all, every man’s home is his Castle has its roots in law.
The brother knew that his sister had better business acumen and was scared to be embarrassed when her business became successful. He knew that it would be a bad look if he was still working at the family business, while OP started her own
(Seriously!? Another deleted post!? Eat a d*, TH-cam!). Story 1: OP needs to stop talking to that family, let them know as to why. They have no right to come back into her life after breaking that promise and pulling the rug out from under her like that.
I am truly shocked that this OP felt that her misogynistic, estranged parents would be the “safest bet” if their business plan was actually good. Also can’t believe that (knowing her parents) she didn’t bother to get anything in writing! This sounds unbelievable. And we are supposed to believe that she and her business partner both quit their jobs on her dad’s word that he would be willing to sign paperwork?! Ridiculous! She and her partner couldn’t wait a week or two to quit their jobs?! BS! Again, ridiculous!
@@thatjeff7550 She never mentions having gone to therapy and doesn't seem to have much insight into how she acts in relation to them. Therapy would help.
I can because it's your parents but you have to know when you're bringing a significant other like she had a partner and she's lucky the partner didn't leave .
"We listened to your Brother about a Business decision. He is fully capable, even though he barely passed and I had to hire him, and he has done nothing since then." I'd question how he got rich if I didn't know he was just playing favorites.
Your parents wanted to make your company to your brother because if you got married, you would stop working right? And itd be perfect for your brother lol
I can bet they would have tired to take the company away from op and give it to brother because he would get fired or they wanted to marry op off for something. This sounds like a Asian family. With how strick they are and praising the son for everything. When he hasn't done anything. Also the reason brother didn't advance in the father's company is probably more control. Brother probably put up with it thinking everything would be hus someday. I bet they did try to sue but it went nowhere. Plus if they made a big stink now then it might ruin their standing after the company was acquired. Which is most likely the real reason they left op alone. I'm Isreal drama will start again. When they hear op is getting married.
That would include families from India and Pakistan. Those cultures are also misogynistic and as tied up in making the son the golden child no matter how horrible he is.
@allisonshaw9341 true but feels more Asian with how it talked about school. Unless they live in a western country and are from one of those others. Were op is able to be more free vs family which is more traditional.
Absolutely NTA OP. Had your father wanted to sue claiming you had injured your parents physically when you escorted them out of your home, he would have had to show evidence of that injury which, obviously, he has not as you were quite gentle with them. A subsequent update might be when they come back to you for money as they have given all theirs to golden boy for his business venture, which has failed. Might be a good idea to install cameras in your home for any subsequent home invasion. Also, this is another annoying example of where parents from a less developed culture choose to raise their children in a western culture which has very different approaches to opportunities for women and then expect their daughter to conform to the culture of the parents' home country just because they say so. This is a very ignorant attitude to have imo.
Be aware OP that your parents will not give up. They will keep trying to get you under control, move to a different appartment or, at least, ensure you have a door chain and camera at the door. If you and your boyfriend get married ensure everything is password protected and you have security at the venue in the day.
I really want to read the follow-up when Bro and Dad get fired and they try to get money off OP. She needs to move, now, to a place with good security and make it clear that none of that poisonous trio are allowed in.
20:50 At this point of the story, I think the involvement of a lawyer is necessary. The family is actively engaged in a slander campaign that could harm your budding business. Even if it's been growing for 3 years, it is still in it's infancy. It's time to document everything, screenshot everything, and give it to an attorney so they can draft the first cease and desist letter to them. Also, make certain any visits, conversations, are done with said lawyer present. Or through the lawyer.
Yeah cuz ignoring bullies make them go away sure listen to your principal they told that lie so they didn't have to be responsible for anybody for years and here you are you know the definition of insanity young lady it would be your life I'm thinking it's going to change with those people in it
You can be traditional and have different mindset/world view and still be nice and supportive and guide your child respectfully. Those people are just low end people, I hope OP gets to be happy how ever she chooses to live her life 🐲
Its not about peace or even about being right. For a narcissist its about control. If a narc cannot control or even influence you its the ultimate blow to their ego. So they destroy you. At least i did when i was one. And the most evil narc is not the brother in this story. Its the mother. Its much harder to convince youself that you are in the right if someone is crying and calling you a bad person for doing what YOU want WITH YOUR TIME AND POSSESIONS.
Keep copies or screenshots of their posts or lies and if they try too trash you or the business sue them one by one and as a group, for slander and any other thing any attorney can. No more Ms. Nice Girl.
Story one I would never do what they want they don't accept you are not from the old country and the way they look at life is old fashioned you are not something to marry off or the future carer The reason they want in now is because they need something for your brother to be involved in they would push you out of your own business for him the answer is absolutely not keep away from my business and keep your golden child far far away from any future investment I am not employing him he not smart and we don't want to give a free ride to your son
Now where can we remember well-known golden children with a business degree who repeatedly "failed upwards" when they went into business with help from daddy and/or his friends? Oh yes, Dubya and Donald.
I just think OP needs therapy. She needs to get over her parents favoritism and find peace. I don’t think she realized how having family invest in your business would have been worse. She also came to them as a business woman and there is tons of rejection in that space. She was able to do it on her own. She should have just said to her parents that it was a blessing in disguise they didn’t invest and it’s never a good idea to mix business and family. She needs a therapist to move on because she sounds stuck. She cares too much about pitting herself against her brother when she needs to know she is enough.
I can understand people longing for family, however, if they are treating you poorly at every turn, showing you continuously how little they respect you, or they only useful when it suits their agenda, stop entertaining them and move on. If you keep going back, I feel you deserve what you get. Sympathy goes out the window, when stupidity is already ahead in the game.
Why still in touch? She just need to cut all contact like 3 years ago when they don't want to invest and move from the place and change number without telling to any in the family, but no She is the AH to herself just for not cut years ago 🤦
They paid for her college, and she didn't want to owe them anything with how they treated her. So she paid back all the money they paid for her education with so they couldn't use that as leverage against her.
If OP really wanted to give them a heart attack, while they were going on about getting married and having kids, she told them she was gay. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to disrespect any of the LGBTQ+ community because I do understand how difficult issues can get with parents. Even though I’m straight, I had my share of a controlling parent I had to endure until I was in my 50’s. But I have to admit I’d have loved to see the parents faces if she came out with that. It would certainly get them off her back.
You're NTA for standing up for yourself against your narcissistic DNA donors, OP, so don't apologize to them. They and your golden child brother weren't there for you when you started your company and needed investors to help you and your partner get solvent. Don't invite that terrible trio to be part of your life now because they don't deserve to enjoy your sucesses. And keep that cannon at the ready against their flying monkeys, aka unwanted and unwelcome messengers.
Makes ZERO sense to go to the parents for money. Pure stupidity. Can only blame themselves. Almost unbelievable that they would do that given the family dynamic. Invite the people that have been working against you your whole life to be major investors in your startup.... pure stupidity.
1- “My partner consoled me and said that we can rescind our resignations if the company would still have us.” Bold of OP’s partner to assume that her brother didn’t already go straight to her old company to make sure they wouldn’t let her take back her resignation and get her job back. 2 - “My parents now want to invest in my business now that it’s successful.” Bold of OP to assume that that’s all that her family wants and they weren’t planning on stealing her company from under her and give it to her brother, once they got their foot in the door.
4:52 What was the point of wasting money on college if they expected you to do nothing more then get married and have children ?! 8:02 I don't know that after they paid for college which they didn't want to do that It was a good idea to ask for more money.
Why would you ever promise to pay back parents for paying for your schooling especially very wealthy parents? OP is messed up well past what she thinks she knows about her abusive upbringing. She’s broken. Utterly broken. No other way to explain this sick need to pay them back. And then she stays in touch and even counts on them to fund her future. I just can’t find a ton of sympathy considering how she has screwed herself over more than anyone else has. It’s very sad but it’s all on her. Don’t give evil people any power over you, ever, duh.
@@yvonneburns2786Maybe, but her advantage is that she is American and not whatever country her parents are from, so the filial piety is not much of a thing here. The one thing she didn't mention is therapy, and that is what she needs. I worked with a psychiatrist, originally from an East Asian country, whose specialization was in children of immigrants, whether they were minor children or adults. She decided to do this after witnessing how her husband, also an immigrant, clashed hard with their middle child. I sent my kids to her because my ex is also an immigrant, though English-speaking, and THEY LOVED HER! She really helped them with the irrationality of your immigrant parents wanting you to be all old school why they, the parents, are taking advantage of all the things in America they couldn't do in their home country.
Hey youtube poster, @"rGirl Relationships" thanks for not using AI to read for your stories. Its a growing trend appearing lately and it's nice to have real story tellers. 🥰
Op needs to find a new place! They will get crazier especially when the brother finally gets fired when they realize he gets paid to do nothing! They’ll come to try & pressure op again, maybe they think op can put him in some position like the dad did.
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Calling it now: The brother will lose his job and the parents will demand OP give her business to him
Ye think?
Yep
this is probably why they wanted a large investment, so they could push op out and put her brother in charge
Especially if they find out OP has a bf and they would say something like since the brother is a man he should take over like OPs business partner while she focuses on getting married to her boyfriend.
If they found out about the bf, holy crap, if the mom was in hysterics she would be all up in OPs business (pun intended) to harass not only her but her bf and probably interfere with any wedding planning. Since her entire family was on the hate train OP shouldn't invite ANY of them because that is a straight ticket to her parents finding out and ruining stuff or getting harassed by the family again.
Honestly, OP needs to tell friends NOT to post about her and her bf on socials/don't tag them, especially in regards to the wedding/planning, if she hasn't told them already and she needs to private her accounts not just block them because obviously they will find ways around it with the brother getting another # to call her from. The bf, since they don't know about him, may not need to private his accounts however if he doesn't there is a risk.
Also 10/10 recommend security for the wedding even if its small because her entire family, especially mom, dad and bro, are sneaky lil turds who may turn up to disturb the wedding last minute just like they how they pulled out of the business deal last minute.
(also lowkey wonder if they are harassing the son about getting married/having kids since he is getting older too and is the golden child so they would want golden grandbabies or maybe they secretly feel he is too hopeless to get a girlfriend and thats why they are riding on OP having kids, which if she and her bf does need to keep tf away from her family especially if the kids are girls)
That's never going to happen.
The OP will never let that terrible trio share in what she and her partner have worked so long and hard for.
I think OP already knows what's going to happen. Here's my guess for Update 4: After the acquisition was completed, the new ownership either laid off or outright fired golden brother because he was completely useless. Mommy and daddy came back to OPs place, not to ask, but to order her to give brother the job she "owes" him, "because family". And it won't be just any job, they will demand she makes him CEO or president, and that she give up on this silly idea of a woman running her own business, so she can get down to the important work of having babies with the "acceptable" new husband that they have picked out for her. Hopefully this will be met with laughter and restraining orders.
She needs to move. Preferably someplace with security.
I think your kristal ball is working flawless
They wanted a piece of your business because Mom knows Bro will be without a job and they wanted to ensure he had another job where he could eventually become the boss and ace you out of your own business. Mom's behind it all, her goal is to protect her Golden Boy at all costs, Dad is her obedient drone.
Once the brother and/or dad loses their job they'll come back for money. When they find about the marriage, they'll come back for "the grandkids". OP needs to keep her guard up.
Parents wanted brother to take over OP's company
For sure.
Guaranteed.
Stand your ground on this re: not apologizing. They were not leaving when you indicated you wanted them to. OP, like a lot of people in these situations, you want the family that they COULD be. You want the potential. You will be able to have peace when you accept that it isn't going to happen. Keep going, and don't waste your time 'gloating' if your brother loses his job. This is where 'being the bigger person' comes into play.
I hope we get an update where OP lets us know what happens with her brother.
Let me make a prediction:
1. Bro loses job
2. Parents demand OP gives the bussines to bro
3. OP refuses
4. Parents and brother attack OP
5. Police + restraining order
6. OP gets married and lives happily ever after
I guarantee that the parents wanted to invest in OP's business so that they could obtain majority ownership and give the business to the younger brother. They know that once the new company does performance reviews that baby brother will be the first on the chopping block and what better way to screw over their daughter than to steal the company she fought hard to build right out from under her for their golden boy. This probably won't be the only attempt to become investors or shame OP into willingly giving up her company in the future. OP it's time to throw those garbage people in the bin once and for all! You're better off without them anywhere near your life, business, future hubby and children.
Thought the same thing, they trying to come back hard and fast so they can bully her into giving the brother a job, but a leadership role in her company. And to her parents and the rest of the family, it becomes the brothers business that he started all by himself and OP is just a secretary.
It doesn't matter what the parents or the brother want she doesn't have to give them anything especially since they don't have any claim to her business because she didn't let them invest after backing out the first time. Smart girl with a good head on her shoulders.
Never apologize to narcissists. They just use it as a weapon against you. And apologies can be used as admission of guilt in court so they could have used it to sue her which is probably likely considering they were already threatening it.
I somewhat disagree. 3rd parties may think about you as a jerk. I accidentally stepped on a narc's foot, said sorry, he went into a fit, and everybody looked at him like crazy. Had I not said sorry, I would have looked like a jerk
I think you're both right, You and the comment above yours in different ways.@@liordagan9342
Link this story on social media, putting EVERYONE on blast... Should they choose to try to start with you again, have your lawyer give them a few letters, detailing EXACTLY what will happen to you hem
Yeah, they wanted OP's company, not OP's love.
They wanted her "mind, body and soul" to belong to them because they are under the belief that is what it means to be a woman. But they forgot one thing:
They're not in their native country anymore.
The best decision they made for her, and the worst for them, was to have be born in another culture, away from the culture where they were so powerful. They surrounded themselves with people from this culture and had to follow their rules in order to "look good" so they HAD to give her an education and a job. They themselves gave her the tools to escape and the attitude to keep her away.
This is and always will be their fault that they're miserable
Yes, I always wonder why parent's from these 'repressive' cultures come to a different country, to get a better 'life' for themselves and the children, then carry the culture practice they left on in the new country! They then get a shocked picachu face when one or more of the children 'escape' the control they exerted over them.
Multiculturism is fine in theory, but when you look at in real life it doesn't work! (The troubles in England to name one country, where the police say if your not a member of one religion keep away from ×× areas. That is just one example of the 'multicultural' probs. in England)
@@neil999ish Well said. Multiculturalism is regarded with great regret here in England and everybody I know wish it never happened, it is miserable.
@@SCP01986 Years ago Enoch Powell said 'There would be blood on streets' over this type of thing. He was lambasted, called a racist etc. He was right wasn't he.
Unfortunately many 'politician's' are still caught up in the 'fantasy' of M.C. or too gutless to speak up about it.
@@SCP01986 We see the same things when Englishmen go abroad. Look at Rhodesia and South Africa, where repressive pre-war Anglitude continued into the late 20th century while the world changed around them. Much earlier, the worst of English puritanism and intolerance took root across the Atlantic and led to witch-burning, slavery and genocide. The home country continued to evolve, but the expatriates were fossilized despite being transplanted to a new world.
@@faithlesshound5621love the history burn. 😊
So the family is celebrating that yhe father's company got bought out? Wait til they realize that they surrendered all control of the company and the layoffs and firings that are coming.
"At first you didn't want me. Now you all up on meh!"
What is with people threatening with the cops when it comes to booting people out of their homes.. like... Quit threatening and just fkn do it. And let their arrival shock them 😂
Cutting the family off is one of the hardest choices and I fully understand the hesitance of OP doing it. But once she realizes how much better life is without that family there's no reason to get back into trouble. It's easy to tell from the outside but I'd assume this breakup is permanent and OP should seal it with a restraining order against all 3 of them and enjoy her life with successful business and partner.
OP seems weak continuing efforts with that family. She needs to ghost her toxic family if anything happens to her.
It was a blessing that your parents didnt invest.
Op may the honeymoon never end for you and your honey!😊
You should have sued for defamation.
I half expected that once the parents didn't have the business any more, brother would get fired and they would demand that OP give him a high paying/high ranking job in her company.
What you have to do is write the full description of your parents' behaviour towards you in relation to how they treated your brother - and the is why you arere living your own life. Delineate the difference between your life and the life of your brother as indulged by your parents.
She should have told the parents that she couidn't do business with them because they had proved themselves to be untrustworthy.
At first, I thought dad pulled out because he took the business plan and gave it to OP’s brother, and invested in HIM.
Parents: We're immigrants and traditional...
Her: I'm neither of those things, get the eff out of my apartment.
They aren't that traditional. They left their home country, didn't they?
Her: “I reject your misogyny”. Good luck!
I would not involve parents who I have a strained relationship with in my business.
Your fathers business isn't doing that well and he needs your business to bolster the one your brother is driving into the ground
Basic law gives a person the right to use “reasonable force” to eject trespassers. They became trespassers when they refused to leave, Go NC with both parents and your brother. give them Notice in writing to cease all contact and advise if they don’t you will obtain Restraining Orders.
Might depend on the jurisdiction.
@@snidecommenter7117 snide, I think that all Common Law jurisdictions allow an owner to eject trespassers using reasonable force, I can’t think of one that doesn’t. If you know one, please advise, I can acquire a lot of property at no risk!
@@anthonyburke5656 I have seen articles where someone has a problem with squatters and they are not allowed to use force to remove them.
According to a few articles some people have gone so far as to chop down their own front door and have had help physically removing them, and then gotten in a lot of legal trouble.
Legal means are expensive, difficult, and time consuming. Some of the articles have said some have waited until the squatters have gone out and not left anyone behind. They break into their own house, remove all the squatter's personal property, change the locks, and retake physical possession of their own property.
I should have paid more attention to where and when these events have happened since I haven't provided any supporting information.
@@snidecommenter7117 squatters and Trespassers are 2 different situations. A Trespasser isn’t trying to assert a Common Law Right as Superior to a Legal Right, a squatter is doing that (btw, easiest way to get rid of a squatter is for the legal owner to grant a Lease to a 3rd party, the Law will come to the aid of a Lessee a lot faster than to the aid of an owner AND the Police won’t stop a Lessee ejecting people from their leased premises. Back to Trespassers, I don’t know a single Common Law jurisdiction that denies a property owner the power to use reasonable force to eject trespassers. In Texas that reasonable force may be very different from the reasonable force in New York, or maybe not, after all, every man’s home is his Castle has its roots in law.
The brother knew that his sister had better business acumen and was scared to be embarrassed when her business became successful. He knew that it would be a bad look if he was still working at the family business, while OP started her own
(Seriously!? Another deleted post!? Eat a d*, TH-cam!). Story 1: OP needs to stop talking to that family, let them know as to why. They have no right to come back into her life after breaking that promise and pulling the rug out from under her like that.
I am truly shocked that this OP felt that her misogynistic, estranged parents would be the “safest bet” if their business plan was actually good. Also can’t believe that (knowing her parents) she didn’t bother to get anything in writing! This sounds unbelievable.
And we are supposed to believe that she and her business partner both quit their jobs on her dad’s word that he would be willing to sign paperwork?! Ridiculous! She and her partner couldn’t wait a week or two to quit their jobs?! BS! Again, ridiculous!
OP going to her parents for an investment was the first misstep she made. I can't even fathom why she would do that.
You can't fathom why someone would go to their parents and ask for help?
@@Allmightyimortalnot if she hates them as much as she does. She should have known it was doomed from the start.
@@thatjeff7550 She never mentions having gone to therapy and doesn't seem to have much insight into how she acts in relation to them. Therapy would help.
@thatjeff7550 rationally yes, but when are emotional bonds rational
I can because it's your parents but you have to know when you're bringing a significant other like she had a partner and she's lucky the partner didn't leave .
"We listened to your Brother about a Business decision. He is fully capable, even though he barely passed and I had to hire him, and he has done nothing since then." I'd question how he got rich if I didn't know he was just playing favorites.
Your parents wanted to make your company to your brother because if you got married, you would stop working right? And itd be perfect for your brother lol
I can bet they would have tired to take the company away from op and give it to brother because he would get fired or they wanted to marry op off for something.
This sounds like a Asian family. With how strick they are and praising the son for everything. When he hasn't done anything.
Also the reason brother didn't advance in the father's company is probably more control. Brother probably put up with it thinking everything would be hus someday.
I bet they did try to sue but it went nowhere. Plus if they made a big stink now then it might ruin their standing after the company was acquired. Which is most likely the real reason they left op alone. I'm Isreal drama will start again. When they hear op is getting married.
That would include families from India and Pakistan. Those cultures are also misogynistic and as tied up in making the son the golden child no matter how horrible he is.
@allisonshaw9341 true but feels more Asian with how it talked about school. Unless they live in a western country and are from one of those others. Were op is able to be more free vs family which is more traditional.
I'm Asian but also thinking OP is middle-eastern in America. Doesn't matter though, they're still a bag of digs
The parents probably wanted something to fall back on.
Love your accent! It’s very pleasant to listen to you.
Thank you so much 🙂
Absolutely NTA OP. Had your father wanted to sue claiming you had injured your parents physically when you escorted them out of your home, he would have had to show evidence of that injury which, obviously, he has not as you were quite gentle with them. A subsequent update might be when they come back to you for money as they have given all theirs to golden boy for his business venture, which has failed. Might be a good idea to install cameras in your home for any subsequent home invasion. Also, this is another annoying example of where parents from a less developed culture choose to raise their children in a western culture which has very different approaches to opportunities for women and then expect their daughter to conform to the culture of the parents' home country just because they say so. This is a very ignorant attitude to have imo.
Be aware OP that your parents will not give up. They will keep trying to get you under control, move to a different appartment or, at least, ensure you have a door chain and camera at the door. If you and your boyfriend get married ensure everything is password protected and you have security at the venue in the day.
Never let anyone take over your life.
You did the right thing by getting your own investors.
Keep the toxic people out of your life.
I really want to read the follow-up when Bro and Dad get fired and they try to get money off OP. She needs to move, now, to a place with good security and make it clear that none of that poisonous trio are allowed in.
20:50 At this point of the story, I think the involvement of a lawyer is necessary. The family is actively engaged in a slander campaign that could harm your budding business. Even if it's been growing for 3 years, it is still in it's infancy. It's time to document everything, screenshot everything, and give it to an attorney so they can draft the first cease and desist letter to them. Also, make certain any visits, conversations, are done with said lawyer present. Or through the lawyer.
Yeah cuz ignoring bullies make them go away sure listen to your principal they told that lie so they didn't have to be responsible for anybody for years and here you are you know the definition of insanity young lady it would be your life I'm thinking it's going to change with those people in it
You can be traditional and have different mindset/world view and still be nice and supportive and guide your child respectfully. Those people are just low end people, I hope OP gets to be happy how ever she chooses to live her life 🐲
Get a lawyer, cease and desist or they'll be sue for harassment
Some part of me really thinks this is either a Chinese family or and Indian family🤣
Its not about peace or even about being right.
For a narcissist its about control.
If a narc cannot control or even influence you its the ultimate blow to their ego. So they destroy you.
At least i did when i was one.
And the most evil narc is not the brother in this story.
Its the mother.
Its much harder to convince youself that you are in the right if someone is crying and calling you a bad person for doing what YOU want WITH YOUR TIME AND POSSESIONS.
your voice is so much better than all those ai voices😘
your father is a clever businessman, and on his own thinks your proposal is good. then the layabout slacker says its a bad idea and he agrees?
I would of have had cameras 📷 at the house in case. With that she could post video showing she didn't manhandled her parents
Parents bet on the wrong horse. That's what happens when they look at superficial bs like gender over what's right from wrong
Keep copies or screenshots of their posts or lies and if they try too trash you or the business sue them one by one and as a group, for slander and any other thing any attorney can. No more Ms. Nice Girl.
Story one
I would never do what they want they don't accept you are not from the old country and the way they look at life is old fashioned you are not something to marry off or the future carer
The reason they want in now is because they need something for your brother to be involved in they would push you out of your own business for him the answer is absolutely not keep away from my business and keep your golden child far far away from any future investment I am not employing him he not smart and we don't want to give a free ride to your son
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Thank you!
I love this channel and I love her voice. But I have to listen at 1.25x or ADHD takes me away 😂
NOW you want to invest? Investment time is over.
What are they going to sue for?
It was more important to be independent than having a family 😂
When I was 14 years old someone fat potato. I went hunger strike. With in a year I was skin and bones. Well I realize no one is better than me,.
Now where can we remember well-known golden children with a business degree who repeatedly "failed upwards" when they went into business with help from daddy and/or his friends? Oh yes, Dubya and Donald.
You r better off away from the family
I just think OP needs therapy. She needs to get over her parents favoritism and find peace.
I don’t think she realized how having family invest in your business would have been worse. She also came to them as a business woman and there is tons of rejection in that space. She was able to do it on her own. She should have just said to her parents that it was a blessing in disguise they didn’t invest and it’s never a good idea to mix business and family. She needs a therapist to move on because she sounds stuck. She cares too much about pitting herself against her brother when she needs to know she is enough.
I can understand people longing for family, however, if they are treating you poorly at every turn, showing you continuously how little they respect you, or they only useful when it suits their agenda, stop entertaining them and move on. If you keep going back, I feel you deserve what you get. Sympathy goes out the window, when stupidity is already ahead in the game.
Stupid to put your hands on them. That IS what police are for.
Why still in touch? She just need to cut all contact like 3 years ago when they don't want to invest and move from the place and change number without telling to any in the family, but no She is the AH to herself just for not cut years ago 🤦
Why did OP owe her parents money if they were rich? These stories don't make sense.
They paid for her college, and she didn't want to owe them anything with how they treated her. So she paid back all the money they paid for her education with so they couldn't use that as leverage against her.
@@theALMIGHTYchrischan exactly 💯 right.
Get a lawyer
If OP really wanted to give them a heart attack, while they were going on about getting married and having kids, she told them she was gay. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to disrespect any of the LGBTQ+ community because I do understand how difficult issues can get with parents. Even though I’m straight, I had my share of a controlling parent I had to endure until I was in my 50’s. But I have to admit I’d have loved to see the parents faces if she came out with that. It would certainly get them off her back.
1:00 what’s the name of this kingly culture
Could be muslim country or another third world country where that stuff is still being used
This is my story mostly
OP is definitely Indian
Why can't OP be Pakistani or Bangladeshi or Sri Lankan
Really? I though Chinese, Taiwanese, Korean, Japanese. But really, any country or culture where the higher education of women is frowned upon.
or Latin Americans !!!
You're NTA for standing up for yourself against your narcissistic DNA donors, OP, so don't apologize to them.
They and your golden child brother weren't there for you when you started your company and needed investors to help you and your partner get solvent. Don't invite that terrible trio to be part of your life now because they don't deserve to enjoy your sucesses.
And keep that cannon at the ready against their flying monkeys, aka unwanted and unwelcome messengers.
this is what OP gets for letting the parents in. fv
Makes ZERO sense to go to the parents for money. Pure stupidity. Can only blame themselves. Almost unbelievable that they would do that given the family dynamic.
Invite the people that have been working against you your whole life to be major investors in your startup.... pure stupidity.
Call immigration on all of them
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“My partner consoled me and said that we can rescind our resignations if the company would still have us.”
Bold of OP’s partner to assume that her brother didn’t already go straight to her old company to make sure they wouldn’t let her take back her resignation and get her job back.
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“My parents now want to invest in my business now that it’s successful.”
Bold of OP to assume that that’s all that her family wants and they weren’t planning on stealing her company from under her and give it to her brother, once they got their foot in the door.
4:52 What was the point of wasting money on college if they expected you to do nothing more then get married and have children ?! 8:02 I don't know that after they paid for college which they didn't want to do that It was a good idea to ask for more money.
Why would you ever promise to pay back parents for paying for your schooling especially very wealthy parents?
OP is messed up well past what she thinks she knows about her abusive upbringing. She’s broken. Utterly broken.
No other way to explain this sick need to pay them back.
And then she stays in touch and even counts on them to fund her future.
I just can’t find a ton of sympathy considering how she has screwed herself over more than anyone else has.
It’s very sad but it’s all on her.
Don’t give evil people any power over you, ever, duh.
If she didn't pay them back they'd use that against her " you owe us we paid for your schooling you will obey us" etc.....
@@yvonneburns2786Maybe, but her advantage is that she is American and not whatever country her parents are from, so the filial piety is not much of a thing here. The one thing she didn't mention is therapy, and that is what she needs. I worked with a psychiatrist, originally from an East Asian country, whose specialization was in children of immigrants, whether they were minor children or adults. She decided to do this after witnessing how her husband, also an immigrant, clashed hard with their middle child.
I sent my kids to her because my ex is also an immigrant, though English-speaking, and THEY LOVED HER! She really helped them with the irrationality of your immigrant parents wanting you to be all old school why they, the parents, are taking advantage of all the things in America they couldn't do in their home country.
Who actually types out your stories? Their punctuation leaves a lot to be desired!
She is the problem!
Her speaking voice is far too unschooled.
Yet another toxic feminist point of view . Awww
This was written by someone who doesn't have a clue about business.
So you were interested in their money? And you complain about your brother when you are wanting your parents money. Stop being such a complainer.
Hey youtube poster, @"rGirl Relationships" thanks for not using AI to read for your stories. Its a growing trend appearing lately and it's nice to have real story tellers. 🥰
Thank you for listening!!
@@rGirlRelationships Your welcome. I love good stories. And your easy to follow and listen to. 😃
Always from the Asian culture
You probably should them for defamation of character. Screenshot all the posts. That will make them back off.
Op needs to find a new place! They will get crazier especially when the brother finally gets fired when they realize he gets paid to do nothing! They’ll come to try & pressure op again, maybe they think op can put him in some position like the dad did.
I spent my entire life, 70 years trying to get my mother to like me I failed🥲