I'm depressed, no-one's to blame - suddenly I persuaded myself that nothing in my life makes sense. I love the night because it's time when I have the right to be useless.
I remember, years ago, in my mid twenties, I've had this long stretch of disrupted sleep cycle, paired with continued unemployment. I won't say it was driving me suicidal, but it was certainly a gloomy time I don't enjoy remembering. At that point, I only recently moved out from my parents' apartment, and the initial thrill of living on my own and making my own decisions has worn off. The thing with night vigils was that, whenever I'd look out the window, I'd see empty streets, and I also knew I couldn't just spontaneously call or message anyone, as everyone was likely asleep. It created this semi-conscious feeling of disconnection and isolation, and a background thought that, whatever my struggles may be - I'll have to face them by myself, since no one else is ever around. Constant rumination saddled me with feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy - like, if my misfortune has gone on for so long, then there must be something wrong with me, therefore, even when an opportunity will present itself, I won't have what it takes to capitalize on it. I knew sleep was a big factor, but there were two things going against me in that. The first hurdle to going to bed on time was that I'd be doing it just for my own benefit, and I already disliked myself enough not to care about that. The other was that the overall goal was to turn things around, and, come evening time, going to bed without making some kind of breakthrough felt like admitting defeat. Even lying in bed for hours, I'd stay awake out of sheer spite for myself. The first bump out of the rut was through making friends abroad. While it didn't solve the broken sleeping cycle, at least, I could always rely on someone talking to me from the other side of the planet, where it was daytime. Another one was consistently reminding myself that long-term change doesn't come from heel turns. I had to have faith in long-spanning plans, and stop looking at things as if I was living on borrowed time. Finally finding employment was a very big step - both, through feeling of contributing something valuable to others and necessitating bedtime discipline. A light physical workout routine (and I mean VERY light - just to keep the muscles from turning into jelly) helped with self-image, as I didn't have to stew in thoughts of getting schlubby through stagnation. Hope this perspective proves helpful in some way!
This was really nice and easy to read. And super helpful. I’ve been experiencing that “living in borrowed time” feeling but didn’t have the word for it. Thanks for relating dude
"the overall goal was to turn things around, and, come evening time, going to bed without making some kind of breakthrough felt like admitting defeat." -- Wow WHAT IN THE ACTUAL HELL. That was so insanely insightful to read! You're a wise man. I've had the same issues with sleep for years now, and I could never understand why I just can't go on time, despite me not even liking nighttime in the first place (because of everything discussed in the video). While I'm also very introspective and like to get to the root cause of things, this thought has never occurred to me. It was indeed greatly helpful! May you have a blessed day, and as for me I will finally go to sleep, as it is not too late yet 😅
With physical exercise, any is better than none. A walk around the block or ten jumping jacks can be enough to stave off the worst of anxiety and depression. And from there, you usually find yourself able to do more challenging workouts.
Similar experience to what I'm going through now (except I'm in my thirties after graduating college, and live with my family since I can't afford to move out while unemployed). It sucks trying to find a job and feeling like I'm spinning my wheels due to the poor sleep schedule (some of my issue is that I have electronic/device addiction, so having more of an online presence wouldn't help me when it could enable me further into staying up late). For me, I just take each day/night as it comes, and hope to land a job soon. Signing up with my local Department of Rehab has helped a bit, but it's still an extremely slow-going process finding a job... 0_0
What about the theory that you're just too tired to fight it at night? I feel so sorry for people with sleep disruptions. Falling asleep is the most reliable reset button I have
I'm depressed but i do like night time especially when everyone already asleep. When everything is quite it actually make me calm, day time is the one that i usually hate. Recently i take anti depressan so my sleep improves but still there's nothing beat the feeling of nothingness of quite, calm night.
This described my teenagehood, and still, some nights as an adult. I finally got diagnosed with depression at the age of 24, and finally got support. Have had anti-depressions, am finally off and consistant therapy and an increase in my exercise, im on my journey. Thank you for all your content, it's so helpful, and you truely are a role model, with your own personal journey with TH-cam and in a way, your career!
This came at the right time, for the past years I've been feeling more depressed or sad after 7pm, when I started my ADHD medication it got worse because of the crash although it's manageable, it's an uncomfortable feeling. I'll try to implement these tips, thank u!
i agree whole heartedly aderall was messing me up really bad. Concerata's alot more nuanced for me and the crash is more manageable. It's definetly manageable though with the right bed time and medication time. and making sure your winding down in the evening! MOST IMPORTANT! you can't be up on tiiktok for hours or binging the walking dead again. Brown noise will save your life it saved mine. anxiety RELIEF.
My goodness Doctor, I can't imagine a Child facing these days we're living through, and I thought growing up during the Cuban Missile Crisis was traumatic, Now I worry about my Grandchildren, thank you, Dr. Marks, God bless stay safe
When I was 21 9/11 happened. I justtttt figured out that I was always filled with anxiety in those days. I was mean to people, snappy and just on edge 24/7. And then, my now ex husband’s national guard unit was activated to Iraq. I was sooo neurotic back then….and never knew it! I’m so glad that people are putting their mental health 1st now.
I was so happy in childhood...mdd started in 2011 , remission till 2014 in 2015 it returned am untreated since 8 years ..brain wants me to suicide, overthink, regret, procastinste, ruminate, ...head feels too heavy ..anxiety too ...life seems worthless ..I hope I recover from it completely...I'll try my best ❤️
I hope you get well. Just try to keep in mind that the moment that is the most important is right now, what you are doing right at the moment (and i dont talk about thinking about suicide), i talk about little things, like brushing your teeth, eating watermelon or breakfast, taking a shower and washing your hair. Very little things you do, that ARE important (eating is important right). You'll recognize that you do alot for yourself at the end of the day! I know it is hard.... but the best thing to think about is not the past, not the future, its the present, your present. ❤🤕
I knew someone in college that was somewhat between an acquaintance and a friend. He lived in my dorm and we talked a handful of times. I would see him on the bus outside campus often since we lived close to each other and we’d always wave to each other. I didn’t know him too well, but when he committed suicide it had a devastating effect on me. I wish I had been closer friends with him. I didn’t know he was struggling. Seeing the effect it had on so many people who knew him, not just his friends and family has always prevented me from killing myself. I’ve struggled with severe depression over the years and have been suicidal at times. But in the darkest moments, it’s the thought of the effect it will have on anyone who knows me that keeps me alive. I’m thankful that I’m still alive since life always gets better and it’s my mind playing tricks on me. I wish someone didn’t have to die for me to know this.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
As a woman in her early 40s with depression, anxiety and ptsd, nighttime is refreshing; a time when 'the system' of banks, creditors, landlords, work, bossess and colleagues can't bother me. Daytime is so much more depressing...... I'm wondering if other older people feel this way...... and if people my age have more suicidal thoughts during the daytime hours. The freedom I feel at night is what keeps me from going to bed early.
During the day, I make sure I open the curtains to get more natural light. As the sun sets, I close the curtains and turn on a few lamps that have yellow light, while the overhead lamps have a brighter, cooler light. We have three-stage lamps, and two of our overhead lights have dimmers! It's been helpful and not expensive to do.
I wish depression patients could get Vitamin D levels checked for FREE. *SAD* (seasonal affective disorder) is a very real thing that happens up north here in Wisconsin where the sun sets around 3pm by Winter Solstice, and it doesn't rise again until after 7am. My husband's cousin died of a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the chest right before Christmas several years ago. Most local suicides this time of year happen mainly after dark. I don't even know if anyone knew he was depressed, but this is the land of guns, snowmobile riding, deer hunting, and a culture in which there's plenty of beer and booze to stay warm. Maybe it's just me, but sometimes in the darkest winters it feels like a seasonal suicide culture.
Another important thing to remember about us teenagers is many of us have work and school at the same time, and it's even more difficult to have a healthy sleep schedule when we have to wake up at 6 am for school and after having an 8-12 hour work day ahead of us. After all that there just simply isn't enough time within 24 hours to get a healthy 8 hours of sleep, let alone take care of ourselves and keep other routines going.
There is sundown syndrome in seniors homes. It’s very cute around 4-6 pm everyone gets grumpy. I’m starting to get it in late 40’s. have been severely depressed from narc abuse and PMDD. You helped a lot throughout the years dear dr. Tracy. Thank you. 🙏🏻
Wow, you just described my whole childhood. I know this is gonna sound crazy but drugs saved me. like my drug addiction saved me. I found something that made me feel better. until it made me feel worse of course. still I’m in recovery and I’m grateful that I had something that worked when I needed it.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU DOCTOR TRACY MARKS!!! In a world filled with scams, lies, greed, and brainwashing, YOU are the one person who has me convinced that there is hope for humanity. While you're busy taking care of us, please take care of you. I firmly believe that you are saving lives! We need you. Thanks again!
i can think of a few other reasons suicide and non-suicide self harming behaviors are more common at night. if someone is planning on committing suicide, nighttime might seem more convenient because most other people people are asleep and out of the way for a few hours, so interruptions/distractions are less likely. this coupled with the fact that being isolated and having a disrupted circadian rhythm can worsen all sorts of symptoms, from rumination and negative thoughts to dissociation and even delusions, it's no surprise that nighttime can be so dangerous for people with struggling mental health. it's counterintuitive and heartbreaking that people with poor mental health, at least from what i've seen, are also more likely to find comfort in the quiet and solitude that nighttime provides. it's a shame that this relief often comes coupled with all these risks. suddenly your sanctuary from external pressure becomes dangerous because of an internal struggle. it's great to see conversation about how we can prevent these tragedies and reduce harm. with a more informed and educated public, suicide can be prevented and people suffering from suicidal ideation can be helped.
Sometimes having a small supply of sleeping tablets helps for when techniques like these don't work. I later found out early perimenopause was the source of my attempts and it did help in emergencies before I started HRT. For me the evenings are worse as I have autism and I ran out of daily spoons (spoon theory). I am currently in burnout but no self harm thoughts anymore. The lack of sleep with perimenopause also lead to my struggles and nothing the doctors and therapists did help that much as my hormones were the main cause. Now am glad I was not successful at ending my life but I was close many times, my night time attempts were mostly because I could run away and not get caught. To anyone who feels like this, please get help and never give up as it WILL eventually pass and life is so precious to do that xxx
the blue light issue: I keep several night lights around the house wth orange incandescent Christmas light bulbs in them, and an orange-ish dimmable LED bulb in my bedside lamp. May look weird during the day, but quite pleasant at night. I'm not weird, I'm practical 🤪💡🧡
I set up my room with LEDS which I set to red light setting in the hours before I go to bed and gradually reduce the brightness as night happens and my phone has a black and white mode and my laptop is set to night mode to reduce blue light production it has helped a lot with my sleep. Also I set up an air filter as well as it happens where I live is pretty bad for my lungs which lead me to difficulties breathing and being unable to fall asleep especailly due to childhood Asthma so air filtering has manged to help alot to reesolve that issue too.
1:03 Things that definitely happened to me after. I don't really feel like doing anything in the evenings and even I can tell that I'm depressed, I say to myself, you're depressed right now. I use sertraline 100 mg in the morning and 100 mg in the evening, a total of 200 mg per day, and I experience these.
I have suicidal thoughts since my mom passed, but mostly during morning time, I hate waking up... night time is when I know I can dream and there I tend to not have phisical or emotional problems. I sleep with prescription pills for no way to sleep but what to do when confronting the very long day time is the problem and not wanting to wake up or get out of bed???
Your comment is exactly what I’ve been going through for 8 months since my mom passed and I’m the only child without children of my own…. I’m sorry for your loss ❤but it gets harder to hang on…I work in healthcare doing 12 hour shifts so that’s how I get through most days now knowing someone needs my help. I hope you can find something you enjoy doing at least throughout the day….
You are at the beginning, I am so sorry for your loss😮💨I am also an only child and have no kids, etc. So I suggest, you surround yourself with as many loved ones as possible. I just flew to the other side of the worlds... and not a great idea. And you are so right, finding what to live for is very hard, and not being afraid of death is worst, but it does get better, just takes time, thanks for your kind words and I wish you the best too!!@@looper5070
The energy you spent typing that could’ve been directed in researching how to better your sleep, learning about sleep hygiene, diet, exercise and other ways to fix your problem, instead of whining about it Your comment was in English and it was posted on TH-cam so I’m assuming you’re probably not from an area of the world that isn’t doing well
I don't always see the point to living. I wonder if these doctors realize that EMERGENCY ROOMS ARE NOT FREE! Sure they might help you in a mental health crisis but then you're stuck with a big bill to pay. It's cheaper to just follow through, or try to sleep and hope that the suicidal thoughts go away. That's what I do. I'll never go to an emergency room in the United States. Never.
Wow you even have to pay for those in US too, even on extreme cases? 😮😢 You try to unlive yourself, someone gets in the way then charge you for it?😮 Even emergency situations have to be payed? Wtf That make no sense. It's about life and keeping you alive, then F U and however you'll be left, as long as you don't die, it's your problem, your concern alone, you can suffer about it, but not try to quit 😂
My depression is worse in the morning than at night. From around 5am-1pm my depression is on full throttle and it starts to fade later in the day, it's a daily hellish cycle I can't escape from. I don't know what to do, ive been trap in this cycle for what feels like an eternity. Sometimes I wish I'd just collapse and go unconscious to just escape it. I've become a homebody, I just want family and friends to stay away from me. I have nothing to talk about, my mind is blank. I hate when my wifes family is over on the weekends I retreat to the opposite room with my earbuds in. I just wish I could afford to stay home everyday so I can avoid everyone, when someone approachs me I don't get anxiety, I get irritated like gtfo and go talk to someone else other than me. I'm just an empty shell anymore like life is not enjoyable anymore and I can't find any reason to keep pushing through other than my wife and kids would probably be hurt if I did something drastic to myself.
I've been through the worst phase of sleepless night during my depression, I can't sleep, as soon as I lie down, my thoughts, perpetual intrusive thoughts haunted me and won't stop, I felt very anxious, scared, sad, hopeless, I wander around in my house dragging myself into secluded spot crying and crying, it's torturing only a few times of this terrifying experience are enough to make me scared of night, I'm scared of having to go through it again, since then after dusk I started to worry, my mood deflated even more, I'm scared it's coming I can feel it the haunting thoughts... I felt so tired... It's hell.... How depression really changed me😔I used to be a night owl night used to be the best time for me, it felt magical before, because I'm alone nobody gonna distract me and it's the best time for me to read, I love reading so so much, it takes me to a whole new world, it's an adventure, it made me feel hopeful, I may be a loner, anti social since I was little but it didn't affect me at all, because books and nights are my escape, my haven, but now although not as worse as before I no longer enjoy night time, I force myself to read, it didn't entice me like before, the curiosity inside me has been replaced with unstoppable bad intrusive thought that distract me from fully enjoy the reading, everything that used to be my hobbies, I do it now because I'm scared if I didn't I'm gonna be paralysed and taken over by my thoughts and end up experiencing rose awful nights again. I'm forcing myself to not let myself engulfed by those thoughts, I'm living but with no passion and hopeful as before. I've become very pessimist, I'm not a very very optimist person but at least before I still believe in myself I still have hope in things that I love doing now everything feel far away. I still feel hopeless.
It seems impossible for me. I have improved my circadian rhythm quite a bit but still have problems. DBT helped me the most for improving it. But I have 4 disorders that make sleep hard.
Love my nights to relax and unwind. No pressure to do a chore, errand, work, etc. After 5pm or 7 or 9 whatever time I'm done working it's playtime! Lol.
A fast-acting antidepressant like Auvelity should probably accompany every firearm just like ear protection. “In case of homicidal or suicidal thoughts, take this!”
@@mnmlst1i hope Auvelity lands in my country... we only have Zoloft Sertraline and Escitalopram here...we are in the stone age of sntidepressants here...
I love you and appreciate Your presence in the virtual Sphere! My question is totally random however. We have a similar coil pattern and I’m wondering if you were a bonnet at night, loose brains or twists, or something else?
I’m ready. I’m the only one in any of my “””””””friendships””””””” that tries to keep it alive. I feel so alone. With Asperger’s autism and adhd I’m just done. I’m ready to end it.
@Dannydolan88 thank you for your reply. I just edited my message. I did not realize that I left out the word 'you'. The message was a term of endearment for the Dr. I should have come to you sooner implies that the knowledge that I have now received came late, I could have used it sooner. Regarding my circumstances I am now a solid week sober. I studied the scriptures well. We are living in the last times. The end times (the end of evil times ?). I am now sixty years old. When I was 13 years old we were studying The book of Revelation. I was only 13 years old but was given foreknowledge of these times. We did not understand how this was going to come about but I truly believe it really came . The FALSE PROPHET , is active today. Idol worshiping, like those devices they stare at in their hands everywhere they go. Are they using it as needed ? No. They are worshiping it Non-Stop. Whenever we needed a phone we could find a phone in those old days. When we did not need a phone we did not have one. We had substance, we were not using symbolic satanic devices that operate with just the touch of finger. Google ? Internet ? The world wide web ? What does a spider spin to capture prey ?
Dr. Marks, for some reason your audio has been very different lately in the last videos, as if the microphone have some malfunction, with a slight trembling effect. You should check it out, or maybe it's in the final audio rendering.
I appreciate videos that tackle important issues like youth mental health and firearm safety. It's vital to spread awareness and explore solutions. I also discuss mental health topics on my channel. Let's keep the conversation going for a healthier future!
HONEST QUESTION: Do you have any experience with suicidal attemp billing situation? Because if you go to ER, they will bill you thousand of dollars forsuicidal thoughts. I have read many similar stories... Maybe they should go to specific hospitals, and not just any hospital. That would be usefull information to have.
I am 9 months pregnant. In fact, I may give birth within the next 7 days. I have been depressed often having suicidal thoughts since the time I conceived because of the circumstances surrounding the pregnancy and the situation I have found myself in. Some people I have talked to often dismiss my thoughts as part of the pregnancy - hormonal imbalance. Others haven't taken it seriously including my doctor who feels I am just being controlled by emotions. I have taken taken an overdose of some tablets I found because I am afraid of facing the future with this child. I haven't told anyone, hopefully someone will find this here and learn the reason why I am gone. I just hope there will be enough time for them to remove the baby before we die together. I made a huge mistake and I can't live with it and seeing the child will just be a constant reminder of how stupid I was. I really don't see myself enjoying life again after the child. It's just hard to even imagine. The entire 9 months has been hell. I don't want to continue living that way. My guilt conscience has taken a grip on me and I don't know if I will ever be at peace with myself. Seeing my kids go through it because of me will keep hurting me every day of my life. It may be too late. It's night time. I have not left any note. They will refer to the one I wrote back then.
Thank you as always for your helpful vids with info i cant find anywhere else. To make me fall asleep earlier i am going to get some 1mg melatonin (altho ideally i think it wud be 0.3 - 0.8 mg but cant find supplier) as you said in a live answering questions vid. (i hv bipolar and fall asleep too late resulting in me lying in bed 12 hours in total, at least i think thats the problem). Thank you so much 🙏❤️
The entire circadian rhythm has to support you at night. Not just bedtime. What you do when you wake up is at least as important. If you are depressed you will need to get out of bed. Get active. Eat food even if you don't want it. Not eat food before you go to sleep. The tips here on bedtime routine depend on you having enough energy and motivation just at the time when you are depleted. THIS IS DOOMED TO FAIL. Why she didn't hear about this at the Sleep conference is beyond me. It is part of every sleep therapy training course out there!!
Bécause évil has more power at evening alter 4 or 5h and night...exacly after thé time of a prayer we have in islamis .You can notice That after this time symptoms become worse
Listening to some talk-filled, nonsense youtube vid helps me fall asleep. Turn off auto-play, close phone case to block light, and let it play beside pillow. Tougher to focus on my anxieties when some guy's complaining about how dumb flat-earth conspiracy theories are.
I love the night because it's peaceful. I think if you're in a bad place, the night is only dangerous because you're likely to be alone, with less stimuli to distract you from those thoughts and feelings that take you to a dark place. Also, that Johns Hopkins study is purely political fodder. It's like determining that suicidal teens that live in high rise buildings are more likely to commit suicide by jumping off of them. The presence of firearms doesn't increase your chances of harming yourself, nor does it facilitate self-harm. If you are already intent on doing it, you're going to do it regardless of the means. The rest of your tips are extremely useful for emotional de-escalation to prevent the thoughts and behaviors that can lead to self-harm, however.
But when I’m depressed and don’t care, I don’t want to do better and improve my life I want to get so far down and convince myself there’s no coming back from this. Hard to articulate without raising algorithmic red flags.
Please remember with firearms, home safety from outside threats is the priority, not politics. There needs to be responsible gun ownership instead of open access for everyone in the house
Suicide by firearm is probably the least talked about category under gun violence. I've seen a lot of research suggesting that gun control would help this horrible problem.
I am not defending guns at all, but honestly, for this matter in particular? Wow people are killing themselves with guns, let's reduce the access to guns, and they might live to stay miserable for another day. Whats been done to make poeple want to live? Like that's the main issue, poeple are not wanting to live, staying alive isn't a win if that doesn't comes with the desire to live Eventually they'll find other ways, then we take away everything and keep them in a room with drugs. What heros we are, keeping this person, for sake of who? Them? What good is that to anyone?
I broadly agree with the anti-gun view expressed here. BUT, if you are someone who owns guns for whatever reason, hunting, self defense, hobby shooting -- suicide is often if not usually an impulsive a spontaneous act during a low period. Gunsafes will help. I'm bipolar, as is my Mom. I have had thoughts, but never attempted. My Mom attempted, but not with firearms. My father owns long arms (rifles and shotguns); but he keeps them in a gun safe, and has the ammunition in a different safe, in a different room. If you have a family member with mental health issues, this is a good way to keep them safe. Just having that bit of safety is likely to help. Especially if it's a good quality lock. Biometrics are good. This obviously makes uses firearms for home defense difficult. I can't speak to that use case. My Dad is a hunter. He's a proud Republican, but he uses a bat for home defense -- his reason being that most bumps in the night were myself, my brother, or my mother. He'd rather accidentally hit someone with a bat and go to the hospital than shoot one of us and go to the morgue.
If the intruder has a gun though, you're bringing a bat to a gunfight. Also, a bat could easily kill someone or break an arm. If you're not sure, you don't swing, exactly the same as if you're not sure, you don't fire. Guns are self defense. Dozens of countries have disarmed, then massacred their own citizens.
Bring depressed it’s live in pain and darkness there are no day and night shift n he dark it’s more visible , it’s it better to live with it ti to die from it ? Fighting it makes drs richer happy it
I haven't watched this yet, so I am judging a book by its cover, but that's the point in this case: Is it okay to antagonize night hours like this? I'm thinking about the parents who will read that title and overreact, thinking delayed-phase sleep disorders are the problem and not, well, any number of factors: Bullies, peer pressure, academic pressure, social rejection, chronic pain, major life events/transitions, trauma, etc. I understand that suicide is an urgent and serious matter, it's just that people freaking out is exactly what discourages those who struggle with it to reach out - for fear of being a burden, throwing everyone into a frenzy over it, being seen as a ticking time bomb, losing their sense of agency. Combine that with people urgently attacking the wrong problem. Again, I realize this is just first impressions and that the contents may very well correct said impressions. I'm just laying these down now because if someone is dealing with a night owl who's shown signs, I'm not so sure they'd be listen fully to the content before taking action, not while their alarm bells are blaring.
I've had suicidal thoughts, some even recently. Having suicidal thoughts with nothing to pinpoint why is a sign of a demonic attack. I prayed through it, realizing what I was dealing with. You're right, Dr. Marks, not everyone shows signs of suicidal tendencies. A few years back, a friend of mine was talking to someone he knew and asked him if he would like to go sometime soon to eat lunch at a Mexican restaurant. The man cheerfully accepted the invitation. About a week later, my friend John got word the man he was talking to went to walmart, purchased a shotgun, and went home and blew his head off. No signs of depression, suicidal thoughts, nothing. 😥😔 ~ Suicide is of the Devil/Satan. It's a spirit of self-destruction. Jesus said, "The thief, Satan, came to steal, kill, and destroy, but I have come that you may have life and that more abundantly." - John 10:10 📖 🙏🕊✝️❤
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Does anyone know any good source to get them? I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels, would love to give shrooms a try.
I'm depressed, no-one's to blame - suddenly I persuaded myself that nothing in my life makes sense. I love the night because it's time when I have the right to be useless.
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@@rachna0367 Thanks, I'm still fighting, wish you all the best🥹
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@@Tarotcooks Thank you, let us all survive🙏
@@EsterLovejoy The night is lovely especially when you have tea candles 😀🙏🙏🙏
My brother took his life in the night 20 years ago. This information can save others that live in his shoes.
Sorry to hear it.
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I remember, years ago, in my mid twenties, I've had this long stretch of disrupted sleep cycle, paired with continued unemployment. I won't say it was driving me suicidal, but it was certainly a gloomy time I don't enjoy remembering. At that point, I only recently moved out from my parents' apartment, and the initial thrill of living on my own and making my own decisions has worn off. The thing with night vigils was that, whenever I'd look out the window, I'd see empty streets, and I also knew I couldn't just spontaneously call or message anyone, as everyone was likely asleep. It created this semi-conscious feeling of disconnection and isolation, and a background thought that, whatever my struggles may be - I'll have to face them by myself, since no one else is ever around. Constant rumination saddled me with feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy - like, if my misfortune has gone on for so long, then there must be something wrong with me, therefore, even when an opportunity will present itself, I won't have what it takes to capitalize on it. I knew sleep was a big factor, but there were two things going against me in that. The first hurdle to going to bed on time was that I'd be doing it just for my own benefit, and I already disliked myself enough not to care about that. The other was that the overall goal was to turn things around, and, come evening time, going to bed without making some kind of breakthrough felt like admitting defeat. Even lying in bed for hours, I'd stay awake out of sheer spite for myself.
The first bump out of the rut was through making friends abroad. While it didn't solve the broken sleeping cycle, at least, I could always rely on someone talking to me from the other side of the planet, where it was daytime. Another one was consistently reminding myself that long-term change doesn't come from heel turns. I had to have faith in long-spanning plans, and stop looking at things as if I was living on borrowed time. Finally finding employment was a very big step - both, through feeling of contributing something valuable to others and necessitating bedtime discipline. A light physical workout routine (and I mean VERY light - just to keep the muscles from turning into jelly) helped with self-image, as I didn't have to stew in thoughts of getting schlubby through stagnation. Hope this perspective proves helpful in some way!
This was really nice and easy to read. And super helpful. I’ve been experiencing that “living in borrowed time” feeling but didn’t have the word for it. Thanks for relating dude
"the overall goal was to turn things around, and, come evening time, going to bed without making some kind of breakthrough felt like admitting defeat." -- Wow WHAT IN THE ACTUAL HELL. That was so insanely insightful to read! You're a wise man. I've had the same issues with sleep for years now, and I could never understand why I just can't go on time, despite me not even liking nighttime in the first place (because of everything discussed in the video). While I'm also very introspective and like to get to the root cause of things, this thought has never occurred to me. It was indeed greatly helpful! May you have a blessed day, and as for me I will finally go to sleep, as it is not too late yet 😅
With physical exercise, any is better than none. A walk around the block or ten jumping jacks can be enough to stave off the worst of anxiety and depression. And from there, you usually find yourself able to do more challenging workouts.
Similar experience to what I'm going through now (except I'm in my thirties after graduating college, and live with my family since I can't afford to move out while unemployed).
It sucks trying to find a job and feeling like I'm spinning my wheels due to the poor sleep schedule (some of my issue is that I have electronic/device addiction, so having more of an online presence wouldn't help me when it could enable me further into staying up late). For me, I just take each day/night as it comes, and hope to land a job soon. Signing up with my local Department of Rehab has helped a bit, but it's still an extremely slow-going process finding a job... 0_0
@@Li_ToblerI agree so much. I try to 'rescue' unproductive days late at night, then end up making the next day unproductive
What about the theory that you're just too tired to fight it at night? I feel so sorry for people with sleep disruptions. Falling asleep is the most reliable reset button I have
I'm depressed but i do like night time especially when everyone already asleep. When everything is quite it actually make me calm, day time is the one that i usually hate. Recently i take anti depressan so my sleep improves but still there's nothing beat the feeling of nothingness of quite, calm night.
This described my teenagehood, and still, some nights as an adult. I finally got diagnosed with depression at the age of 24, and finally got support. Have had anti-depressions, am finally off and consistant therapy and an increase in my exercise, im on my journey. Thank you for all your content, it's so helpful, and you truely are a role model, with your own personal journey with TH-cam and in a way, your career!
This came at the right time, for the past years I've been feeling more depressed or sad after 7pm, when I started my ADHD medication it got worse because of the crash although it's manageable, it's an uncomfortable feeling. I'll try to implement these tips, thank u!
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i agree whole heartedly aderall was messing me up really bad. Concerata's alot more nuanced for me and the crash is more manageable. It's definetly manageable though with the right bed time and medication time. and making sure your winding down in the evening! MOST IMPORTANT! you can't be up on tiiktok for hours or binging the walking dead again. Brown noise will save your life it saved mine. anxiety RELIEF.
My goodness Doctor, I can't imagine a Child facing these days we're living through, and I thought growing up during the Cuban Missile Crisis was traumatic, Now I worry about my Grandchildren, thank you, Dr. Marks, God bless stay safe
When I was 21 9/11 happened. I justtttt figured out that I was always filled with anxiety in those days. I was mean to people, snappy and just on edge 24/7. And then, my now ex husband’s national guard unit was activated to Iraq. I was sooo neurotic back then….and never knew it! I’m so glad that people are putting their mental health 1st now.
I was so happy in childhood...mdd started in 2011 , remission till 2014 in 2015 it returned am untreated since 8 years ..brain wants me to suicide, overthink, regret, procastinste, ruminate, ...head feels too heavy ..anxiety too ...life seems worthless ..I hope I recover from it completely...I'll try my best ❤️
I hope you get well. Just try to keep in mind that the moment that is the most important is right now, what you are doing right at the moment (and i dont talk about thinking about suicide), i talk about little things, like brushing your teeth, eating watermelon or breakfast, taking a shower and washing your hair. Very little things you do, that ARE important (eating is important right). You'll recognize that you do alot for yourself at the end of the day! I know it is hard.... but the best thing to think about is not the past, not the future, its the present, your present. ❤🤕
thanks 🙏👍 I agree
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One day at a time ❤ sending love and kindness
I knew someone in college that was somewhat between an acquaintance and a friend. He lived in my dorm and we talked a handful of times. I would see him on the bus outside campus often since we lived close to each other and we’d always wave to each other. I didn’t know him too well, but when he committed suicide it had a devastating effect on me. I wish I had been closer friends with him. I didn’t know he was struggling. Seeing the effect it had on so many people who knew him, not just his friends and family has always prevented me from killing myself. I’ve struggled with severe depression over the years and have been suicidal at times. But in the darkest moments, it’s the thought of the effect it will have on anyone who knows me that keeps me alive. I’m thankful that I’m still alive since life always gets better and it’s my mind playing tricks on me. I wish someone didn’t have to die for me to know this.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
wow it's like you can read my mind. i dread night time. it's so isolating, painful.
As a woman in her early 40s with depression, anxiety and ptsd, nighttime is refreshing; a time when 'the system' of banks, creditors, landlords, work, bossess and colleagues can't bother me. Daytime is so much more depressing...... I'm wondering if other older people feel this way...... and if people my age have more suicidal thoughts during the daytime hours. The freedom I feel at night is what keeps me from going to bed early.
During the day, I make sure I open the curtains to get more natural light. As the sun sets, I close the curtains and turn on a few lamps that have yellow light, while the overhead lamps have a brighter, cooler light. We have three-stage lamps, and two of our overhead lights have dimmers! It's been helpful and not expensive to do.
I wish depression patients could get Vitamin D levels checked for FREE. *SAD* (seasonal affective disorder) is a very real thing that happens up north here in Wisconsin where the sun sets around 3pm by Winter Solstice, and it doesn't rise again until after 7am. My husband's cousin died of a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the chest right before Christmas several years ago. Most local suicides this time of year happen mainly after dark. I don't even know if anyone knew he was depressed, but this is the land of guns, snowmobile riding, deer hunting, and a culture in which there's plenty of beer and booze to stay warm. Maybe it's just me, but sometimes in the darkest winters it feels like a seasonal suicide culture.
Another important thing to remember about us teenagers is many of us have work and school at the same time, and it's even more difficult to have a healthy sleep schedule when we have to wake up at 6 am for school and after having an 8-12 hour work day ahead of us. After all that there just simply isn't enough time within 24 hours to get a healthy 8 hours of sleep, let alone take care of ourselves and keep other routines going.
There is sundown syndrome in seniors homes. It’s very cute around 4-6 pm everyone gets grumpy. I’m starting to get it in late 40’s. have been severely depressed from narc abuse and PMDD. You helped a lot throughout the years dear dr. Tracy. Thank you. 🙏🏻
That’s very sad. Hopefully they can make a very understanding friendship.
Wow, you just described my whole childhood.
I know this is gonna sound crazy but drugs saved me. like my drug addiction saved me. I found something that made me feel better. until it made me feel worse of course. still I’m in recovery and I’m grateful that I had something that worked when I needed it.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU DOCTOR TRACY MARKS!!! In a world filled with scams, lies, greed, and brainwashing, YOU are the one person who has me convinced that there is hope for humanity. While you're busy taking care of us, please take care of you. I firmly believe that you are saving lives! We need you. Thanks again!
Meditation works for me now. Could not meditate at first, because I had too many thoughts.
Best line ever: start with these strategies ________. This is what it’s all about. Ty so much, Tracey!
i can think of a few other reasons suicide and non-suicide self harming behaviors are more common at night. if someone is planning on committing suicide, nighttime might seem more convenient because most other people people are asleep and out of the way for a few hours, so interruptions/distractions are less likely. this coupled with the fact that being isolated and having a disrupted circadian rhythm can worsen all sorts of symptoms, from rumination and negative thoughts to dissociation and even delusions, it's no surprise that nighttime can be so dangerous for people with struggling mental health. it's counterintuitive and heartbreaking that people with poor mental health, at least from what i've seen, are also more likely to find comfort in the quiet and solitude that nighttime provides. it's a shame that this relief often comes coupled with all these risks. suddenly your sanctuary from external pressure becomes dangerous because of an internal struggle. it's great to see conversation about how we can prevent these tragedies and reduce harm. with a more informed and educated public, suicide can be prevented and people suffering from suicidal ideation can be helped.
Sometimes having a small supply of sleeping tablets helps for when techniques like these don't work. I later found out early perimenopause was the source of my attempts and it did help in emergencies before I started HRT. For me the evenings are worse as I have autism and I ran out of daily spoons (spoon theory). I am currently in burnout but no self harm thoughts anymore. The lack of sleep with perimenopause also lead to my struggles and nothing the doctors and therapists did help that much as my hormones were the main cause. Now am glad I was not successful at ending my life but I was close many times, my night time attempts were mostly because I could run away and not get caught. To anyone who feels like this, please get help and never give up as it WILL eventually pass and life is so precious to do that xxx
I absolutely appreciate your content as a single mom of a teenager on the spectrum. This is very much an issue
the blue light issue: I keep several night lights around the house wth orange incandescent Christmas light bulbs in them, and an orange-ish dimmable LED bulb in my bedside lamp. May look weird during the day, but quite pleasant at night.
I'm not weird, I'm practical 🤪💡🧡
I do the same! I think it looks quite nice and cozy and definetely helps me🙂
I tried red at first, but those looked a bit "ominous" LOL
Thank you for titling this one appropriately so we would know before we watched it. Seriously appreciate that.
I set up my room with LEDS which I set to red light setting in the hours before I go to bed and gradually reduce the brightness as night happens and my phone has a black and white mode and my laptop is set to night mode to reduce blue light production it has helped a lot with my sleep. Also I set up an air filter as well as it happens where I live is pretty bad for my lungs which lead me to difficulties breathing and being unable to fall asleep especailly due to childhood Asthma so air filtering has manged to help alot to reesolve that issue too.
1:03 Things that definitely happened to me after. I don't really feel like doing anything in the evenings and even I can tell that I'm depressed, I say to myself, you're depressed right now. I use sertraline 100 mg in the morning and 100 mg in the evening, a total of 200 mg per day, and I experience these.
Red light can help you sleep, it really does. I always used a red bulb or a colour changing LED, although I was always losing the remote
I have suicidal thoughts since my mom passed, but mostly during morning time, I hate waking up... night time is when I know I can dream and there I tend to not have phisical or emotional problems. I sleep with prescription pills for no way to sleep but what to do when confronting the very long day time is the problem and not wanting to wake up or get out of bed???
Your comment is exactly what I’ve been going through for 8 months since my mom passed and I’m the only child without children of my own…. I’m sorry for your loss ❤but it gets harder to hang on…I work in healthcare doing 12 hour shifts so that’s how I get through most days now knowing someone needs my help. I hope you can find something you enjoy doing at least throughout the day….
You are at the beginning, I am so sorry for your loss😮💨I am also an only child and have no kids, etc. So I suggest, you surround yourself with as many loved ones as possible. I just flew to the other side of the worlds... and not a great idea. And you are so right, finding what to live for is very hard, and not being afraid of death is worst, but it does get better, just takes time, thanks for your kind words and I wish you the best too!!@@looper5070
The worst for me is when the sun is just rising and you realize yet another night of zero sleep.
That sounds really awful. 😔 I'm sorry that happens.
And you curse the day an hope to die in a peacfull dream and somehow get traped in it forever, on a world better than this, a world of our own.
@@DrTraceyMarksTell them the truth. The truth of light vs dark, good vs evil. The sinning must stop.
Omg this is too rellatable to be true. I am watching Utube videos nonstop and suddenly i see the sun rising and I have class at 9
The energy you spent typing that could’ve been directed in researching how to better your sleep, learning about sleep hygiene, diet, exercise and other ways to fix your problem, instead of whining about it
Your comment was in English and it was posted on TH-cam so I’m assuming you’re probably not from an area of the world that isn’t doing well
I don't always see the point to living. I wonder if these doctors realize that EMERGENCY ROOMS ARE NOT FREE! Sure they might help you in a mental health crisis but then you're stuck with a big bill to pay. It's cheaper to just follow through, or try to sleep and hope that the suicidal thoughts go away. That's what I do. I'll never go to an emergency room in the United States. Never.
Wow you even have to pay for those in US too, even on extreme cases? 😮😢
You try to unlive yourself, someone gets in the way then charge you for it?😮
Even emergency situations have to be payed?
Wtf
That make no sense.
It's about life and keeping you alive, then F U and however you'll be left, as long as you don't die, it's your problem, your concern alone, you can suffer about it, but not try to quit 😂
Are you American?
Sometimes it is worth saving your life anyways. But yeah, you could get a huge bill depending on your insurance or lack there of.
Thank you, Dr. Tracy.
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My depression is worse in the morning than at night. From around 5am-1pm my depression is on full throttle and it starts to fade later in the day, it's a daily hellish cycle I can't escape from. I don't know what to do, ive been trap in this cycle for what feels like an eternity. Sometimes I wish I'd just collapse and go unconscious to just escape it. I've become a homebody, I just want family and friends to stay away from me. I have nothing to talk about, my mind is blank. I hate when my wifes family is over on the weekends I retreat to the opposite room with my earbuds in. I just wish I could afford to stay home everyday so I can avoid everyone, when someone approachs me I don't get anxiety, I get irritated like gtfo and go talk to someone else other than me. I'm just an empty shell anymore like life is not enjoyable anymore and I can't find any reason to keep pushing through other than my wife and kids would probably be hurt if I did something drastic to myself.
I've been through the worst phase of sleepless night during my depression, I can't sleep, as soon as I lie down, my thoughts, perpetual intrusive thoughts haunted me and won't stop, I felt very anxious, scared, sad, hopeless, I wander around in my house dragging myself into secluded spot crying and crying, it's torturing only a few times of this terrifying experience are enough to make me scared of night, I'm scared of having to go through it again, since then after dusk I started to worry, my mood deflated even more, I'm scared it's coming I can feel it the haunting thoughts... I felt so tired... It's hell.... How depression really changed me😔I used to be a night owl night used to be the best time for me, it felt magical before, because I'm alone nobody gonna distract me and it's the best time for me to read, I love reading so so much, it takes me to a whole new world, it's an adventure, it made me feel hopeful, I may be a loner, anti social since I was little but it didn't affect me at all, because books and nights are my escape, my haven, but now although not as worse as before I no longer enjoy night time, I force myself to read, it didn't entice me like before, the curiosity inside me has been replaced with unstoppable bad intrusive thought that distract me from fully enjoy the reading, everything that used to be my hobbies, I do it now because I'm scared if I didn't I'm gonna be paralysed and taken over by my thoughts and end up experiencing rose awful nights again. I'm forcing myself to not let myself engulfed by those thoughts, I'm living but with no passion and hopeful as before. I've become very pessimist, I'm not a very very optimist person but at least before I still believe in myself I still have hope in things that I love doing now everything feel far away. I still feel hopeless.
@Dannydolan88 thank you 😊
I can really relate...can we get to know eachother...I would love some more insights
It’s very important to have a good circadian rhythm
It seems impossible for me. I have improved my circadian rhythm quite a bit but still have problems. DBT helped me the most for improving it. But I have 4 disorders that make sleep hard.
@@Catlily5 what disorders do u have?
Very interesting Dr Marks, thank you.
thanks for another educational video! 👏👏
Dr. Tracey…. THANK YOU 🙏🏽
Twenty One Pilots wrote a song about this. “You think twice about your life. It probably happens at night, right!? Fight it!” - Guns for Hands
Love my nights to relax and unwind. No pressure to do a chore, errand, work, etc. After 5pm or 7 or 9 whatever time I'm done working it's playtime! Lol.
Actually prefer night time. Day time reminds me of the dark cloud surrounding my head.
Take vitamin C and D. Exercise, cardio
Listening to sleep apps such as running water, thunderstorms, crickets, etc. can help. Listening to Psalms or audio Bible helps too. 🤗
That's great to know. Thanks for sharing this. 👍🏽
@DrTraceyMarks You're Welcome, Dr. Marks. Thank you for your educational videos. They are very helpful. 🙂
I can confirm that. Listening to someone talk always helps fall asleep. Radio is great. Or podcasts.
A fast-acting antidepressant like Auvelity should probably accompany every firearm just like ear protection. “In case of homicidal or suicidal thoughts, take this!”
more like Spravato
Had no idea this medication existed and looked it up. Hope this gets to my country soon, it could be life changing.
@@mnmlst1where you from???
@@mnmlst1i hope Auvelity lands here in the Philippines... we only have Zoloft Sertraline and Escitalopram here...😅😅
@@mnmlst1i hope Auvelity lands in my country... we only have Zoloft Sertraline and Escitalopram here...we are in the stone age of sntidepressants here...
Even with my worst thoughts begin more alive at night, it is the day that precedes it what I fear.
I have several mental illnesses and things do tend to be worse at night. There are fewer people to talk to at night. Just the suicide prevention line.
I love you and appreciate Your presence in the virtual
Sphere! My question is totally random however. We have a similar coil pattern and I’m wondering if you were a bonnet at night, loose brains or twists, or something else?
am impressed as always.
The video title describes my home city of Rochester, NY so well. Even by American standards, this place is violent.
I’m ready. I’m the only one in any of my “””””””friendships””””””” that tries to keep it alive. I feel so alone. With Asperger’s autism and adhd I’m just done. I’m ready to end it.
OMG 😮 !!! This is so true !!!
I should have come to you sooner. Rob , in Miami.
@Dannydolan88 thank you for your reply. I just edited my message. I did not realize that I left out the word 'you'. The message was a term of endearment for the Dr. I should have come to you sooner implies that the knowledge that I have now received came late, I could have used it sooner. Regarding my circumstances I am now a solid week sober. I studied the scriptures well. We are living in the last times. The end times (the end of evil times ?). I am now sixty years old. When I was 13 years old we were studying The book of Revelation. I was only 13 years old but was given foreknowledge of these times. We did not understand how this was going to come about but I truly believe it really came . The FALSE PROPHET , is active today. Idol worshiping, like those devices they stare at in their hands everywhere they go. Are they using it as needed ? No. They are worshiping it Non-Stop. Whenever we needed a phone we could find a phone in those old days. When we did not need a phone we did not have one. We had substance, we were not using symbolic satanic devices that operate with just the touch of finger. Google ? Internet ? The world wide web ? What does a spider spin to capture prey ?
Dr. Marks, for some reason your audio has been very different lately in the last videos, as if the microphone have some malfunction, with a slight trembling effect. You should check it out, or maybe it's in the final audio rendering.
Hmmm...thanks for letting me know. It may be in the editing. But I'll check when I record the next batch.
That Ephemeral Rift clip during the explanation at the start caught me... off guard, lol.
What an intelligent, educated, and pretty psychiatrist.
I appreciate videos that tackle important issues like youth mental health and firearm safety. It's vital to spread awareness and explore solutions. I also discuss mental health topics on my channel. Let's keep the conversation going for a healthier future!
Well thank you sweetheart, sometimes i wish i was in the states to come and meet youu
Thanks you - I wish so too! 😊
"Do what you love before a bed"
Also me who loves sitting in a phone without blue light blocking glasses
HONEST QUESTION: Do you have any experience with suicidal attemp billing situation? Because if you go to ER, they will bill you thousand of dollars forsuicidal thoughts. I have read many similar stories... Maybe they should go to specific hospitals, and not just any hospital. That would be usefull information to have.
Please explain mcdd because my 24 yr old suffers from this and this pattern that you describe is a path she seems to be on , help 😢
I am 9 months pregnant. In fact, I may give birth within the next 7 days.
I have been depressed often having suicidal thoughts since the time I conceived because of the circumstances surrounding the pregnancy and the situation I have found myself in.
Some people I have talked to often dismiss my thoughts as part of the pregnancy - hormonal imbalance. Others haven't taken it seriously including my doctor who feels I am just being controlled by emotions.
I have taken taken an overdose of some tablets I found because I am afraid of facing the future with this child. I haven't told anyone, hopefully someone will find this here and learn the reason why I am gone.
I just hope there will be enough time for them to remove the baby before we die together.
I made a huge mistake and I can't live with it and seeing the child will just be a constant reminder of how stupid I was.
I really don't see myself enjoying life again after the child. It's just hard to even imagine. The entire 9 months has been hell. I don't want to continue living that way.
My guilt conscience has taken a grip on me and I don't know if I will ever be at peace with myself. Seeing my kids go through it because of me will keep hurting me every day of my life.
It may be too late. It's night time. I have not left any note. They will refer to the one I wrote back then.
Oh gosh I hope you're okay. 😟
So true, during depression episodes I think more about suicide as the sun goes down
I'm a night owl. I ❤❤❤ to write all night & go to bed as the sun is coming up. 😊😊
Thank you as always for your helpful vids with info i cant find anywhere else. To make me fall asleep earlier i am going to get some 1mg melatonin (altho ideally i think it wud be 0.3 - 0.8 mg but cant find supplier) as you said in a live answering questions vid. (i hv bipolar and fall asleep too late resulting in me lying in bed 12 hours in total, at least i think thats the problem). Thank you so much 🙏❤️
woah this is making me realize I AM NOT OKAY
never thought i'd see ephemeral rift footage on a video of dr marks
The entire circadian rhythm has to support you at night. Not just bedtime. What you do when you wake up is at least as important. If you are depressed you will need to get out of bed. Get active. Eat food even if you don't want it. Not eat food before you go to sleep. The tips here on bedtime routine depend on you having enough energy and motivation just at the time when you are depleted. THIS IS DOOMED TO FAIL. Why she didn't hear about this at the Sleep conference is beyond me. It is part of every sleep therapy training course out there!!
Bécause évil has more power at evening alter 4 or 5h and night...exacly after thé time of a prayer we have in islamis .You can notice That after this time symptoms become worse
Listening to some talk-filled, nonsense youtube vid helps me fall asleep. Turn off auto-play, close phone case to block light, and let it play beside pillow. Tougher to focus on my anxieties when some guy's complaining about how dumb flat-earth conspiracy theories are.
TIPP (30 min)
Temperature change
Intense exercise
Paced breathing
Progressive muscles relaxation
ACCEPTS
Activities
Contributive
Comparisons
Emotions
Pushing away
Thoughts
Sensations
Can boredom kill you?
I think under extreme sensory deprivation lasting weeks and weeks possibly.
Impossible, I would be dead by now :)
If not on ssri antidepressants consider Methylene 💙 Blue. "Sound mind"
how should those who live in a small apartment and are on the verge of poverty relax?
I have warm lights in my home, I have blue light blocking glasses.
The only thing keeping my awake at night is loneliness.
if you read the wrong version of the book before going to bed, it can make the situation even worse
I love the night because it's peaceful. I think if you're in a bad place, the night is only dangerous because you're likely to be alone, with less stimuli to distract you from those thoughts and feelings that take you to a dark place. Also, that Johns Hopkins study is purely political fodder. It's like determining that suicidal teens that live in high rise buildings are more likely to commit suicide by jumping off of them. The presence of firearms doesn't increase your chances of harming yourself, nor does it facilitate self-harm. If you are already intent on doing it, you're going to do it regardless of the means. The rest of your tips are extremely useful for emotional de-escalation to prevent the thoughts and behaviors that can lead to self-harm, however.
But when I’m depressed and don’t care, I don’t want to do better and improve my life I want to get so far down and convince myself there’s no coming back from this. Hard to articulate without raising algorithmic red flags.
Oh that frightening back ground, please fix it Dr Tracy
Blame the jinn. Pray to God to keep away the suicidal thoughts
Hello Dr. Marks! Do you see clients by any chance?
I still have my current patients (some of whom I've been seeing for 20 years) but I've stopped taking new patients.
@@DrTraceyMarksI could only wish you were my pshyciatrist 😢😊
Oh good. Not just me.
Please remember with firearms, home safety from outside threats is the priority, not politics.
There needs to be responsible gun ownership instead of open access for everyone in the house
It is more likely that someone who lives in your house will die by your guns than an intruder. Take care.
Suicide by firearm is probably the least talked about category under gun violence. I've seen a lot of research suggesting that gun control would help this horrible problem.
I am not defending guns at all, but honestly, for this matter in particular? Wow people are killing themselves with guns, let's reduce the access to guns, and they might live to stay miserable for another day.
Whats been done to make poeple want to live? Like that's the main issue, poeple are not wanting to live, staying alive isn't a win if that doesn't comes with the desire to live
Eventually they'll find other ways, then we take away everything and keep them in a room with drugs. What heros we are, keeping this person, for sake of who? Them? What good is that to anyone?
Modernisation and industrialisation and digitalisation is destroying humanity.
if you're missing a community and an outlet, become a metalhead hehe
I broadly agree with the anti-gun view expressed here. BUT, if you are someone who owns guns for whatever reason, hunting, self defense, hobby shooting -- suicide is often if not usually an impulsive a spontaneous act during a low period.
Gunsafes will help.
I'm bipolar, as is my Mom.
I have had thoughts, but never attempted. My Mom attempted, but not with firearms.
My father owns long arms (rifles and shotguns); but he keeps them in a gun safe, and has the ammunition in a different safe, in a different room. If you have a family member with mental health issues, this is a good way to keep them safe. Just having that bit of safety is likely to help. Especially if it's a good quality lock. Biometrics are good.
This obviously makes uses firearms for home defense difficult. I can't speak to that use case. My Dad is a hunter. He's a proud Republican, but he uses a bat for home defense -- his reason being that most bumps in the night were myself, my brother, or my mother. He'd rather accidentally hit someone with a bat and go to the hospital than shoot one of us and go to the morgue.
If the intruder has a gun though, you're bringing a bat to a gunfight.
Also, a bat could easily kill someone or break an arm. If you're not sure, you don't swing, exactly the same as if you're not sure, you don't fire.
Guns are self defense. Dozens of countries have disarmed, then massacred their own citizens.
Bring depressed it’s live in pain and darkness there are no day and night shift n he dark it’s more visible , it’s it better to live with it ti to die from it ? Fighting it makes drs richer happy it
You can fight it without going to any doctors. It is just harder.
I thought we moved away from saying "commit suicide". Let's not use language meant to criminalize behavior when talking about suicide.
Okay, call me out 7:29 💀
I haven't watched this yet, so I am judging a book by its cover, but that's the point in this case: Is it okay to antagonize night hours like this? I'm thinking about the parents who will read that title and overreact, thinking delayed-phase sleep disorders are the problem and not, well, any number of factors: Bullies, peer pressure, academic pressure, social rejection, chronic pain, major life events/transitions, trauma, etc. I understand that suicide is an urgent and serious matter, it's just that people freaking out is exactly what discourages those who struggle with it to reach out - for fear of being a burden, throwing everyone into a frenzy over it, being seen as a ticking time bomb, losing their sense of agency. Combine that with people urgently attacking the wrong problem.
Again, I realize this is just first impressions and that the contents may very well correct said impressions. I'm just laying these down now because if someone is dealing with a night owl who's shown signs, I'm not so sure they'd be listen fully to the content before taking action, not while their alarm bells are blaring.
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I've had suicidal thoughts, some even recently. Having suicidal thoughts with nothing to pinpoint why is a sign of a demonic attack. I prayed through it, realizing what I was dealing with. You're right, Dr. Marks, not everyone shows signs of suicidal tendencies. A few years back, a friend of mine was talking to someone he knew and asked him if he would like to go sometime soon to eat lunch at a Mexican restaurant. The man cheerfully accepted the invitation. About a week later, my friend John got word the man he was talking to went to walmart, purchased a shotgun, and went home and blew his head off. No signs of depression, suicidal thoughts, nothing. 😥😔 ~ Suicide is of the Devil/Satan. It's a spirit of self-destruction. Jesus said, "The thief, Satan, came to steal, kill, and destroy, but I have come that you may have life and that more abundantly." - John 10:10 📖 🙏🕊✝️❤
I disagree.
Bécause after 4 or 5 pm evil become more powerful
You are incredible. I love your videos and I always watch and share them.
Greetings from Brazil. 💚🫶🇧🇷🙏🏽
Wow, thank you! ❤️ I'm so glad they have value for you.
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Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Does anyone know any good source to get them? I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels, would love to give shrooms a try.
Yes, dr.sporesss
Yes he is. dr.sporesss
DMT was definitely the best trip I ever had. It was amazing!
Bécause after 4 or 5 pm evil become more powerful