Why am I not surprised that they were both White? I’m half-White myself and I cannot STAND this behavior. I cannot STAND the not taking any responsibility when it they are SO OBVIOUSLY caught red-handed being passive-aggressive, or just plain aggressive, or overtly racist and then try to make themselves into the victim when they are called out for you. Good for you, sir! I am glad you stuck up for yourself. Stay safe out there!
This^^^ Compassionately avoid taking crap, passsive aggressive or otherwise from people. If they are going out of thier way to bother you, it's a them problem more than a you problem. The only way they will fix it for themselves is if they get clear feed back that thier behavior is not acceptable or tolerable. Learn to descalate and hold firm boundaries at the same time. Hope you continue to have great days🎉
To be honest, I’m not good at this. I always let it slide, and I always let it get to me later. I feel like you either don’t let go, and confront, or let go and don’t let it get to you. Seems like the only two winning moves.
Now I have to wonder if the the guy you had a confrontation with at Costco would have acted the same way towards you if you were white. I'd like to think race has nothing to do with it, but who knows?
"When people are passive aggressive call them out, they will back down, be ready for conflict in case they don't, but they will back down every time once they see you are ready for it" Beautiful
i never want to try and paint a false picture in my head of what happened, but can i ask why you didn’t try and understand where the dude was coming from? the events were basically 1. this dude cut you off so you decided to stay calm and thought nothing of it 2. he cut you off again and you confronted him about it by grabbing his cart 3. you called him stupid 5 times and ignored everything he said before saying you were just gonna continue shopping 4. you turned around and went back to the argument, this time with an employee who was clearly just trying to make sure there was no commotion in her store and had zero skin in the game. again this is just what happened based on what you said in my mind, i feel like if you listened to the guys explanation instead of ignoring him you might have been able to de-escalate? or maybe it was just abundantly clear that he was being an idiot and trying to start something with no ground to stand on
Why is it his responsibility to baby sit a grown man who went out of his way to cause a problem? If that guy didn’t want to have an issue then why did he start one? When someone does something to make you angry on purpose they are wanting to rile you up and are simultaneously hoping you are too weak to defend yourself. Don’t give them exactly what they want. If the guy is too fragile to handle conflict then he shouldn’t be pissing people off on purpose.
I feel like the people who always says "quit acting tough" are always the ones trying the hardest. They never fail to describe themselves
Why am I not surprised that they were both White? I’m half-White myself and I cannot STAND this behavior. I cannot STAND the not taking any responsibility when it they are SO OBVIOUSLY caught red-handed being passive-aggressive, or just plain aggressive, or overtly racist and then try to make themselves into the victim when they are called out for you. Good for you, sir! I am glad you stuck up for yourself. Stay safe out there!
Man your vibe is compleatly something else. Gday to you
This^^^ Compassionately avoid taking crap, passsive aggressive or otherwise from people. If they are going out of thier way to bother you, it's a them problem more than a you problem. The only way they will fix it for themselves is if they get clear feed back that thier behavior is not acceptable or tolerable. Learn to descalate and hold firm boundaries at the same time. Hope you continue to have great days🎉
3:08 if you hear this run
Hunny, cause it is a WHOLE mood.
To be honest, I’m not good at this. I always let it slide, and I always let it get to me later.
I feel like you either don’t let go, and confront, or let go and don’t let it get to you. Seems like the only two winning moves.
I might have ended a persons career right before watching this video over passive aggressive bs they did with evidence
Good. I hope I succeed at it too. Including against competetive gamers, ones I already know.
Now I have to wonder if the the guy you had a confrontation with at Costco would have acted the same way towards you if you were white. I'd like to think race has nothing to do with it, but who knows?
Yeah nah it was almost definitely connected
"Get out of your head little brother" So true. Was he clearly younger than you?
"When people are passive aggressive call them out, they will back down, be ready for conflict in case they don't, but they will back down every time once they see you are ready for it" Beautiful
i like this lol
i never want to try and paint a false picture in my head of what happened, but can i ask why you didn’t try and understand where the dude was coming from? the events were basically 1. this dude cut you off so you decided to stay calm and thought nothing of it 2. he cut you off again and you confronted him about it by grabbing his cart 3. you called him stupid 5 times and ignored everything he said before saying you were just gonna continue shopping 4. you turned around and went back to the argument, this time with an employee who was clearly just trying to make sure there was no commotion in her store and had zero skin in the game.
again this is just what happened based on what you said in my mind, i feel like if you listened to the guys explanation instead of ignoring him you might have been able to de-escalate? or maybe it was just abundantly clear that he was being an idiot and trying to start something with no ground to stand on
Why is it his responsibility to baby sit a grown man who went out of his way to cause a problem? If that guy didn’t want to have an issue then why did he start one? When someone does something to make you angry on purpose they are wanting to rile you up and are simultaneously hoping you are too weak to defend yourself. Don’t give them exactly what they want. If the guy is too fragile to handle conflict then he shouldn’t be pissing people off on purpose.