To anyone who feel even worse after the video: - You may just not realise the signs, even if you are sure they don't exist. - No video can show your value and attrectiveness. - I guarantee, if you are warm-hearted, individual thinking and not shallow, I am attracted to you.
To anyone who doesn't get these signs, It doesn't mean you're unattractive. I don't do any of these when I'm attracted to someone. I try my best to hide it
Same here, everyone! I also don't do any of these when I'm attracted to other people( which I am very often). I rather try to get over this attraction and tend to focus on other stuff than the one I'm attracted to, when I'm around them. And just remember to be yourself cuz you're enough as you are! "No one ever made a difference by being like everyone else" ~ PT Barnum (even when those everyone else are the ones people are attracted to!)
Usually when someone tries to hide it, it's more obvious. Maybe it depends on the person but some people can tell I'm into them if they are super observant. I hate that.
I had a friend who acted like this towards me sometimes and so I thought she liked me because I definitely liked her! Turns out she's just a REALLY nice person and she treats everyone she likes and cares about the same. So even though I was sad she didn't like me romantically, I was still happy to be friends with someone so caring and nice!
@Killer KeemStar Aww, I'm sorry to hear that!! If it helps though and you're still willing, try flirting a bit to see how they react. The way I found out my crush wasn't really into me was by flirting. I'm no expert in flirting, but I tried my best to make it a bit more obvious I liked her. Sadly, her reactions made it obvious to me that she wasn't liking it. So that sucked but hey, now I have a good friend with a funny story lol. So who knows? Maybe your crush will like the flirting and respond positively or reciprocate. Either way, I wish you the best fren 🙌🧡
I was constantly told by my crush at work, things like, " you look poor, you don't look smart, you know you have a spare tire, you're slow at your job, you're an old woman...etc." supposedly, all in good fun! Ahhh, that means he wants to marry me, I see now! lol
@@hallooos7585 Yeah, if it were a relationship! I just think he's a cute little 18 year-old, at twice his age, I don't take him seriously anyway. Funny how he's always looking for a reason to touch me and will stare into my eyes while talking. I don't take that seriously either.
1.)they like to look at you-0:51 2.)they enter your personal bubble-1:27 3.)they seem flustered by you-2:10 4.)they often come up to talk to you-2:52 5.)they rarely compliment you-3:21 6.)they’re surprised by your insecurities-3:59 7.)they act extremely towards you-4:32
As someone who has been depressed for years, I can promise, these are true. It is 'us' who choose not to see them because they are blocked by how we see ourselves. Stay strong fam.
For when I experienced this it was true, made me hate myself more that I didn't try harder, life always seems to hand me love when I'm actually about to give up on it and focus on myself. Life has some pretty good moments but my mind overshadows them with the negative, like how I could have avoided losing my mind buried my feelings and could have salvaged something by blocking the one person I was falling out with, trying to minimize seeing her as much as possible until I got over her and shared with others what was going on with me...but didn't do that instead I chose to try burning every bridge and by that point I had sobered up I had done too much and became worse and worse, when all I needed to do was walk away, ignore her, mute them do what ever I had to in a shared environment with them
I rarely compliment a person I find attractive because I am pretty sure I would overdo and make them uncomfortable. It's rather difficult wanting to give a meaningful compliment without making it too obvious you're fascinated by them. Also, I'm sure the way of telling them (like tone and facial expressions etc.) would give it all away in my case.
I do the opposite, when I like someone or feel close to a friend I compliment ✨️ them a lot 🫶🩵. If it doesn't make them uncomfortable, of course. Maybe it's weird😅😂
I have an important one: You make them laugh a lot. And I don’t mean the awkward or pity laughs. The natural laughs that make you feel like they enjoy what you say and presence all the time. It’s proven that making someone laugh a lot makes you a lot more attractive to them. Moreover, they also may subconsciously laugh a lot with you to try to appeal to you without even knowing. Have you ever laughed at what your crush says even if it’s not that funny but simply because you want them to like you? It may be hard distinguishing but most of the time laughter is in your favor
You’re a life saver! I have this boy that has been giving me signs of attraction but I don’t know what to do, plus I don’t know if I’m attractive in general to others! Thanks :))
I had a friend who used to be a really rude and childish person and I was completely oblivious to it for a few months, and then I realized how toxic she was, so I told her I was done being friends. Two years later, we talk a little bit and we became friends again. She's so much better of a person and she even admits her mistakes, as do I. Shes hilarious and pretty and I'm starting to realize I probably like her. A lot of people find her annoying, but she just has an eccentric personality and I can tell she really is a cool person now instead of someone trying to act like a 'cool kid' or something. Her development is amazing and I'm glad to have her as a friend, although a lot of people think she's strange, I know she really is an awesome person, and I've seen her prove herself multiple times. If you're reading this, (no name will be shared ofc) love ya girl, even though I know you don't back. Still surprised you want to be friends with me despite how much of a buzzkill I can be, and also our history. Friendships are beautiful, and me and hers relationship does show that you should give people second chances. Anybody can change, so don't push yourself to ignore someone just because of who they were in the past. The present is the most important moment of your life, because it's what is happening right now, and will always happen right now. Anyways I'm getting sidetracked. Just wanted to share a story and give some advice. Love you all, have a good day!!
I'm glad you gave your friendship another chance. Personally, I find "strange" and "eccentric" individuals more attractive and interesting. Much love. ✌️
This stuff happens to me a lot. Even though it's been going on for some time I never get used to it. It actually makes me really anxious on top of having social anxiety . Especially when random strangers are come up to me and get directly in my personal space or if I have to figure out if my uber driver is just really nice or trying to kidnap me 🙃
If you suffer from social anxiety, I did as well. I don’t have social anxiety anymore because of Jesus. He has completely healed me from it. If you want to be free from social anxiety, Jesus can save you from it if you believe in him as I did. Just wanted to share that!
The gazing thing is so true. Staring at your love interest rarely registers as attraction, it only makes him/her feel intimidated. Its like pointing out at someone with the finger.
For some reason I have trouble pinpointing strong emotions while they’re happening, and this leads to weird thoughts. Today my crush was talking to me and it was a pretty good experience! My thoughts afterwards came to how I was feeling. All I could describe it as was good terror, and feeling giddy. Later I realized that it was thrill, but good terror was such an oxymoron. It felt fizzy.
The only thing I experience in this list is I'm hardly ever complimented, but I don't think it's for the reason the video says. I was severely bullied for my appearance growing up and it damaged me beyond repair.
If that’s you in your profile pic then you’re beautiful! I think sometimes being insecure can come off as being stuck up and then even if you are beautiful people will be uncomfortable around you because they think you’re judging them. Once you gain more confidence this hinderance will fade away and you might notice more people gravitating towards you.
1. They like to look at you. 2. They enter your personal bubble. 3. They seem flustered by you. 4. They often come up to talk to you. 5. They rarely compliment you. 6. They are surprised by your insecurities. 7. They act extremely towards you.
Thank you, I’ve been talking to this girl who isn’t in any of my classes for a month or two and I really couldn’t tell if she liked me until I realized she does half of these especially look at me and sometimes we just kinda gaze into each other’s eyes when we are having conversations and her eyes are so pretty I think I’m gonna tell her how I feel soon 😶 Edit: so I told her and oh my she likes me back and now we’re dating and we’re going to see a Christmas tree lighting tonight 🥰
Coming from a guy, if you don’t notice any of these signs, it doesn’t mean we don’t like you. I try hard not to seem creepy or desperate, and it comes off as I don’t like you. In fact, one of my past crushes thought I hated them I didn’t show my feelings that much. Some, like me, try not to show our feelings, especially if they’re more introverted. The one thing I do consistently is eye contact, I will catch myself staring at her, and then oh shoot she looks over at me lol. One time she was looking at me, and I literally thought about it all day. So, I would say, if you catch them looking at you on a consistent basis, then there’s a good chance they like you.
To be honest, I see these signs around me more than I thought I would, especially after I started realizing my worth (and that I'm kinda the package lowkey). Thanks Psych2go for making these videos!
When you love someone and you love them with your heart, it never disappears when you’re apart, and when you love someone more and you’ ve done all you can do, you set them free. and is that love was true, when you love someone, it will alll come back to you.💗💗💗
In a perfect world, with perfect people, this would be 100% true. It's touching and sounds beautiful! Your writing is spot on. 👌. What a beautiful world we would have if there was no such thing as mental illness. If all people realized Love that we are given is precious and we should cherish it more than anything physical or instantly gratifying. If everyone loved others like they want to be loved. If everyone realized that when we cause pain to others, it's really ours to bear eventually. Love is the most powerful thing in the world. It can create life. It can save life. It can be the 1 thing that makes a person's life happy. If people would simply surrender to the fact that your heart is always smarter than your mind when it comes to a happy life. Love lives in the heart, and indifference, fear, shame, hopelessness, defeat...those all live in the Ego, and it's home is in our heads. So...to add to your comment: If someone wants to leave and let them go, make sure you tell them you love them first, and don't let your pride keep you from reminding them. Often, our egos cause us to spend our whole lives longing for the only person who ever filled our heart...because we are waiting to hear from THEM and our pride and egos get in the way. Nothing is more tragic than to have lived a life wondering you COULD HAVE been happy.
You know, I think you're right. I've been wondering why most of these rarely apply to me. I guess I forgot my helpful nature wanted to help people 24/7 (apparently that includes TH-cam videos now too).
Number 7, the last one, I actually feel bad for this one because someone who just wants to be treated normally get ridiculous reactions from others that make them feel uncomfortable. From extreme cat calling, to being bothered by your employer (and then not reciprocating this and being treated badly because you won’t flirt back) sucks.
There were times when I feel absolutely worthless and ashamed of how I look. But, in the past 5-6 years until now, there are still some people I know (colleagues, lecturers even strangers online) told me I'm attractive. I guess it would be biased to rate my own given how everyone has their own idea of attractiveness. So, I used that confidence to build image for myself. Not for others. They are welcomed to have their own say in how I look. We do not live to please others or an eye candy or a subject of criticism. JUST BE YOURSELF. as long as you're comfortable and happy in your own skin.
As someone who is ugly i love to see a video about the perks of being unattractive hear me out in my 23 years of life these 5 perks are something I noticed 1 you blend into the background which is great for work and school projects are a life saver your rarely assigned major roles and just skate by without anyone really caring 2 People love you for you whats a rare thing if you're ugly like me and people still wanna date you or be friends just because they like you as a person I find Attractive people are always surrounded by friends but can never tell who likes them not just wanting to sleep with them 3 im gay so dunno if it counts with other sexual identitys you are more likely to be picked on dating/hookup websites because people are curious about you or feel more secure around you as you are not as attractive as them 4 You can always work out and buy form fitting clothes which will distract from ugly face 5 confidence is key i know people will say im being harsh on myself but where I grew up im seen as very unattractive from friends family romantic interests but you can turn it into a strength looking different is currently celebrated in today's modern day culture its more mainstream then it was 10 years ago hopeful this advice helps people like me as its been a lifesaver for me hope everyone has a great day
I feel your resolve and I want to tell you that no matter how unattractive you think you are someone will always think differently. Even of you buy a ton of good clothes if you don't feel comfortable enough in your own skin it won't feel right. I still have low confidence myself as well from being bullied but trust me one day you'll find someone and even if you don't you should learn to love yourself. Self love is most important. I love you. Have a nice day. Don't let your family discourage you from feeling valid. You are valid and you are beautiful and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. A little confidence can go a long way. Wake up every morning and tell yourself you look nice today.
Careful there, attractive people also sweeten the ears of unattractive people like us to have easy casual sex based on lies. I didn't know this before...
Ok but why did this comment make me feel better than even the original video. Like who really cares if I am ugly? Ugly ppl get married, get promotions, and do the things they love. I also feel like ppl like me more for me than just for looks. I would add on for me, I get hit on less in clubs & bars than my friends. Which I used to think was bad but now I realize how many of those guys just aren’t that great. If I want to be ignored at a bar, I just mind my business & can enjoy myself in peace. If I want to make friends/connect I start talking & I have a decent personality/humor so ppl talk to me! And bc I haven’t been able to rely on my looks to get dates, compared to the majority of my friends I feel like I’ve done better on online dating.It’s not bc I’m inherently better but bc I’ve had to form better social skills out of necessity. I also am used to being rejected so it’s not nothing new to me.
One of my crushes was like this towards me and I was in denial . I liked him every since I was little then I moved away sadly he passed away .without knowing my actual feelings . ohhhh the last one yah people put me down to an extreme level and many back handed compliments. It did get to me . But slowly I realized they were insecure . Plus I had to re learn to love myself which was a hard process
One thing I like about this channel is that you always do the animations. This will take a long time to release a video. I love the care you put into your product❤️
Okay, you need to do a video on how to tell whether people are repelled by you because you’re hot and intimidating and hard to relate to vs. because you’re at the bottom of the social hierarchy. I’m so sick and tired of not being able to tell whether people are distant from me because I’m ominous and sexy like Dracula or because I’m creepy and pathetic like a bug. Bonus points if you relate it to romantic/sexual attraction like in this video.
I think another sign is, if they are really insecure they won't come up to you and start a normal conversation right away, but rather linger around whereever you are and throw in random sentences (egg. "I'm so thirsty", "wow this is so crazy") just to catch your attention and make you respond to them. In combination with the starring at you and always being close to you this is a really obvious one, and it can get quite annoying if you are focused on something else at the same time.
Haha this one is correct xD . I used to do this except the staring part .but i always kept it at safe distance. xD i use my hidden 6th sens instead of staring😂
I have a guy friend at work that does all of these toward me. Some of my female coworkers have noticed it, too. What's even more confusing is that he is in a long term, committed relationship. He's a good guy that would never cheat, so I know that's not what he's looking to do. I like him, too, but I keep my distance because he's taken.
You don''t have to actually BE attractive to feel attractive. I have met many ugly looking people that truly believe they are really good looking. I don't know. Maybe their parents told them that when they were little and they just believed it. Feeling attractive is in the mind.
@@kathyk5589 luckily my parents taught me well in that topic, I’ve recently just stopped caring what I looked like cuz it doesn’t matter, I’m more focused on my insides I feel good but when I said I wish I was attractive I only say cuz these days pretty privilege gets u places and it makes me feel bad cuz I don’t look like those people but it’s important to know that’s okay ur heart and mind should be beautiful cuz looks aren’t already everything and I’m glad I was taught that 😌 so no worries there thanks for ur words ;)
@@rimshakhalid787 I'm glad your parents taught you of the truly unimportance of being physically pretty is. It is SO unimportant. As a matter of fact, the prettier you are on the outside, the more likely there is rotten fruit on the inside. Also, the one that counts the most, God and what he sees when he looks at you, physical appearance has absolutely no meaning to him. I can also say that I have had very, very few people in my life that i have dearly loved and cared about and none of those relationships had anything to do with how the person looked on the outside, but how they made me feel on the inside when I was around them. The true value of each person really does abide in their heart. And it seems the prettier a person is on the outside, the less likely they are to work on themselves on the inside.
(disclaimer this is not a joke and i copy and pasted this from the last vid) Hey uhh psych to go i know you have seen me replying to your vids in the past cause you replied to me i dont know what video it was but i know you did anyway things have changed so much and alot have happened and btw i am in a new account for reasons anyways lets just go straight to the point ok listen i need some help fast i am on the verge of suiciding leaving my loved ones and my family and just do nothing i need some advice what do i do if i have really really severe depression with my mother manipulated me for years cheated on my father countless of times stealing money from my father and i am far away from my original home with my aunt and my sister and my sister bullys me does not believe i have severe depression a mental illness and thinks i am annoying and having online class stressing me to the point i want to kill myself in the bathroom have an addiction with youtube i watch youtube to forget my problems and rest my mind i am having low grades my grades were high in the past now its in the lowest point we are short on money currently are in a case where we will put our mother to jail where i am in a new enviroment i have bad attitude because of my mother not teaching me anything i am now laying on the couch typing this does not know what to do i want to be alone on an island and just relax and just take a break from my fricking miserable awful life. What do i do. Btw getting set up for therapy will maybe happen in 2022 i am already seeking help but not much has changed my father is working for his job somewhere far away like 2000 miles from here i need some advice
i have really low self-esteem -- like, it's in the negative digits, I hate myself. But every time I watch these videos about people's behaviors towards a person they like or think is attractive I relate to every single point. it's really confusing for me, because I'm always waiting for psychology to affirm my being a bad person or unattractive since that's how I see myself, however it never happens? at this point, I've come to accept it because so many people mention it fleetingly as if it's common knowledge that I'm attractive or likeable, but i can't help but really question why and everytime it shocks me. this was a short rant, but thanks for reading anyways. if you relate, please comment, i'd love to know if there are many people who might feel the same. also, I'm working on my mental health, and i have a crush who is really great to me so i think I'll be okay (though i know i shouldn't depend on them to gain confidence, I'm just saying the love they demonstrate makes me happier). good luck to anyone who is struggling with anything! this is a safe space so please come talk to me or make your own individual comment! i love all of you, everyone deserves to be cherished! (
Hey Coco, please give yourself more credit! The human mind is wired to focus on negative thoughts. Hopefully, these psychology videos and talking to others will help improve your self-esteem!
7 months have passed, do you feel better? Has your confidence grown? I think sometimes people can be blinded by their own light, trust others when they tell you they like you. They wouldn't bother saying it unless it was true
@@Psych2go Thank you so much. And yes, there's a reason I follow you! I'm trying to become more self-aware and conscious of my own mental health, which you helped a lot with. :)
@@TirianOfNarnia I'm not religious, however my sibling and I both promised ourselves from a very early age never to kill ourselves. So, even though I sometimes have suicidal thoughts, it's comforting to know that however strong the urge is to end my life, I physically can't bring myself to thanks to that promise. Obviously, it's not great and probably a bit unhealthy to depend your life on one sole thing like a person or God, but if their existence, presence and love is powerful, mutual and stable enough, I think we'll be fine. Good luck with life handsome, lol.
@@kiwifit620 I appreciate the inquiry! It's making me realize how much I indeed have grown. I've developed mentally, as well as my personal style which is definitely helpful to feel more confident since I can project my personality onto fashion. Thank you so much for asking!! As Mari said, "If everyone says so, I guess I have no choice but to believe it a little bit".
There was this girl who used to tease me in school. She was mean to me, and really invested her time and energy to provoke me. I remember I caught her looking at me through a small mirror once, and one time she asked me if I would ever date anyone and why. Does anyone think that by her behavior she could habe been attracted to me?
After a while I realized I didn't hate her, I loved her. But I couldn't tell if she felt the same way at the time... Guess we were too young to know these things...
@@Shonade_Malik why would they do that? it's so misleading hahah Wish I could go back in time... I haven't felt the same way I felt about her for anyone, and it's been over ten years...
decided to help y'all 1. they like to look at you 2. they enter your personal bubble 3. they seem flustered by you 4.they often to come up to talk to you 5. they rarely compliment you 6. they're surprised by your insecurities 7. they act extremely towards you
I noticed my crush would often sneak glances at me or look away quickly when I looked at him. We're no longer in contact but I think he found me attractive looking back at it.
This guy in my 4th and 5th period has been making a lot of eye contact with me. I recently realized he has a really beautiful smile and I realized I might have a bit of a crush so I started paying attention to him more. I’ve caught him staring at me a lot in 5th period and on my way out of 4th period last week he was completely staring at me the whole time he was walking to the door I even looked away and looked back to see if he was still staring. I also feel like we are always passing by eachother in the halls
wow... so I am attractive. Interesting. My friends always tell me I look so pretty and my response is always "I wish I could see that" and watching this, I can relate to everything!
It normally feels like people I'm attracted to put in a lot of effort to not pay any attention to me. Like they ignore me when I try to get their attention as they walk by. Or they add you on social media just so they can unfollow you. Or they greet all your friends as you walk into a restaurant but they ignore you specifically.
All signs except the one about personal space fits in on my crush. The sign that’s the most noticeable is the fifth one because he rarely compliments and gives me advice. But to others he does it a lot and acts more bold for some reason. I’m gonna confess to my crush soon and by watching this video it makes me feel more convinced that he likes me back. However, there are some obstacles like I’m always the one asking him questions and so on.
What about just not having any huge reaction when you see your crush? I don't get butterflies or embarrassed around mine, but I'm not sure if that means I'm just comfortable or I don't ACTUALLY like them.
Don't worry I'm the same way infact I actually get more nervous before or after I see them but when I actually see them I'm pretty chill unless someone brings something up that makes me flustered about it
Sounds like a messy situation, if i or someone else were to determine weather or not they do, we need a lot of context and a detailed story explaining he situation. Then again you can never know what someone is thinking.
Phenomenal person reading this, surround yourself with people who are better and wealthier! Keeps you humble, teachable, and hungry. You become those with whom you surround yourself with! Birds of a feather flock together! You got this! 🌟 I believe in you! Love - Nat ❤️
Theres a girl I kinda like(not in a romantic way) and we always have interesting conversations that can go on for hours. But the thing is, she doubts her own abilities and for no good reason, so I compliment her alot because I find her attractive but she doesn't believe me. And if she ever finds this video and see that attractive people don't get complimented she wont feel to good because I compliment her alot. So yeah, not sure if im helping or not.. 😂😂
00:30-no...I can't know by looking at myself. I can judge by how people react to things like pictures of me. Or comments that I make. Oh...and watching videos like this and recognizing that I don't experience any of these things.
One thing that kinda makes me feel like people find me attractive kinda is that when I ask something of people they do it and also people are just very welcoming of me and let me get away with some things. Also when I talk people smile and give me their full attention. I’ve also noticed after talking to a boy for a little bit, they always end up seeming like they like me but at the same time what if it’s all in my head. When I tell people my insecurities they seemed surprised but I also am friends with a lot of people who have a ton of insecurities that they’re very open about where I don’t normally share my insecurities
It's common for us to unconsciously take action to hide our insecurities; that's a natural defense mechanism! That's why people are surprised when you share your insecurities. The key is to share with those you trust most. They will understand your feelings and your relationship will strengthen in the process of sharing and communicating!
Just so everyone knows, every person shows love differently. Someone could like you but never even look at you. Don't let a video make you feel unattractive. Your looks are from your ancestors and that means someone feel in love with your features, you are attractive to someone in this world with 8billion people.
I just love all your videos. There is so much empathy kindness sweetness in your voice. I am 51 and still have many complexes. I also have CPTSD. Listening to you is a treat
i can't really relate to the signs in the video lol, but i do know that i've become more confident lately! i used to be insecure of my looks, as a dark skinned kid with a huge flat nose and glasses. but now, i couldn't care less. all i do is smile more and walk with confidence, life's been cool ever since!
When I see some stranger that is super attractive I cannot stop staring at them from a distance but as soon as they get close my systems shut down and I become super nervous (probably insecurities), wouldent hug them or get close and I tend to look down and wishing for them to move away from me, it is like their very presence threatens me even if it is someone of the opposit sex. Idk I feel like pretty peoples just have a hoard of peoples staring at them from a distance but noone really goes close to them like they are some divine god/godess.
I've never had a girl display those signs to me, I think I look handsome but sometimes I think I'm boring and get sad over the thought I never had a girlfriend and don't want to face the fact that I will never get one. Having a dislike for using social media, can't call or text with my phone (thanks a lot dad), being a wimp, being geeky and also feel like I'm still a little child because I have three older siblings that all work, I have no money, no car, still follow my mom's rules, I don't swear at home but I sometimes do at school but most people are very vulgar, and no God dang facial hair. There are some girls I talk to but there friends and I highly doubt they're interested in me. The first one is Bisexual and I've kinda said some mean stuff about her interests but we still talk sometimes and joke around. Another girl is a junior we had an interest for heavy metal music and listen to the same sub genres like thrash, speed, death, early metal, and a lot of bands my brothers and I listen to until I learned she already has a boyfriend (never talked to him but I've seen him before and despite me being taller than him it looks he's capable of kicking my ass) and a Senior who I see her in a class and lunch but if we do become boyfriend and girlfriend it will be tricky since she is three years older than me and has a car and a job, but I don't know if she's in to me and we share similar interests , she laughs at my low effort jokes and I'm nice towards her and her brother. Everytime I see a person with their lover in their arms or kissing I ask my myself, can I get that? Why can't I have that? When? This felt like a long rant but it felt good typing this, and at one point I was tearing up. I'm thankful that you've read all of this and I appreciate that.
I'd say I'm good looking but I'm a very quiet person. I don't make myself approachable and usually reject interactions with others. I like it this way. That's why I always hate myself whenever I find interest in a girl, because at the end of the day, I'm better off alone.
To me, I care much about what I don’t like about myself, but my friends are very relaxed about shortcomings or weakness. The criterion for making friends, they believe, is that if they can tolerate the shortcomings of others, they can become friends. This may be the difference between us. Therefore, when I open up something I feel unsatisfied about myself, they are stunned, but help me overcome my insecurities.
I don't give compliments very much mainly because I'm shy, but I would definitely give compliments to my future significant other because of their beauty. In any case, I'd rather someone compliment me, though I don't get complimented very often anyway and I'm an introvert and quite shy. :)
There’s someone that I like, she’s so beautiful, I respect her as a friend but I can’t help but notice her wide-eyed smile whenever we see each other in the same places, the prolonged very close hugs, etc… I said to her last night “I LOVE your hugs!” She said to me “I love you” looking me in the eye with a wide-eyed smile, I said “… I love you too” in a ‘trying to play it cool’ kind of manner. I feel like she’s out of my league because of my own insecurities (and because she’s just so stunning, she could be a model!) but I don’t think I’m in a mental/ emotional place to be with anyone (and she’s a fucking fantastic friend!). A few weeks ago I was sitting in the pub minding my own business and she comes up to me (completely disregarding my personal space but she’s always welcome into my bubble anyway) and she really kind of nestles herself into me, REALLY invested in conversation. We hold hands in a caressing way… quite a bit… regularly. At times she’s played with my hair to get my attention. On New Year’s Eve I was getting stoned in the pub with my mates (the smoking area was filled with weed fumes from our corner haha), I turned round to see who was nearby, she was with her other mates in their corner but she was staring right at me even before I even saw her (when you can feel someone staring… but it was her… surrounded by her mates but her attention was on me), she came over to me (again with the nestling and invested conversation) and we held hands. I have a lot of female mates but there’s just something about her that I’m drawn to on another level but with absolute respect for the friendship at the same time.
I used to have a friend that would call out all my insecurities when we got around boys or someone I liked she would sit there and laugh at me about them with all the boys eventually I called her out about it and later on she told me that she was jealous of me because of the way I looked and that she wish she look like me so she broke me down every time we were around people to make herself feel better😭
There was this boy in my class, he looked at me a lot and when he talked to me he got closer than he needed to. We never talked or anything like that, just greetings and school stuff, but I was suspicious of the tendency he had to look at me and ask me for something when he had friends much closer in class for that. On the last day of school, he gave me a drawing he had made of me because everyone knew that I love to draw. It was sudden but I thought it was cute and I was happy that he took the time to do it and I wondered if he really liked me. I felt much more beautiful with that drawing than with any compliment. Anyway, unfortunately I will never know about his feelings because I finished high school and will hardly ever see him again. But I'll treasure the drawing.
When you have literally no idea, since people don't interact with your asocial ash, so the only relatable point is not receiving compliments (well, let's take a guess why 🤡)
After watching this video I realized that I'm the one who shows these signs to my crush and not the other way around, I literally have no hope, but they make me smile, that's more than enuf for me
When literally none of this relates to you but you decide to watch the full video because the narrator’s voice sounds so pretty--
Big fat MOOD
I watch this channel mostly for the narrator
FR THO
Lol
It is a peaceful background noise
To anyone who feel even worse after the video:
- You may just not realise the signs, even if you are sure they don't exist.
- No video can show your value and attrectiveness.
- I guarantee, if you are warm-hearted, individual thinking and not shallow, I am attracted to you.
period
Cap 🧢
But I don't want anyone to be attracted to me 😀
I know I'm attractive though so it's very contradicting
@@patchworkat why wouldn’t you want people to be attracted to you?
I needed to hear this thank you 😭❤️
These videos make me confident that nobody finds me attractive. I don't have to worry about disappointing anyone. Thank you.
Yeah
we always have to look on the bright side of things :')
That is a really good perspective 👏🙌
same here 😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣
Ahaha same💔 here
To anyone who doesn't get these signs,
It doesn't mean you're unattractive. I don't do any of these when I'm attracted to someone. I try my best to hide it
Same here, everyone! I also don't do any of these when I'm attracted to other people( which I am very often). I rather try to get over this attraction and tend to focus on other stuff than the one I'm attracted to, when I'm around them.
And just remember to be yourself cuz you're enough as you are!
"No one ever made a difference by being like everyone else" ~ PT Barnum
(even when those everyone else are the ones people are attracted to!)
Same. I'm a mastermind at playing love/crush poker :D
Usually when someone tries to hide it, it's more obvious. Maybe it depends on the person but some people can tell I'm into them if they are super observant. I hate that.
Sameee! If im attracted to someone I'd be covering my manners in front of them like so tight 😂
Yess some people are really just good at hiding
I had a friend who acted like this towards me sometimes and so I thought she liked me because I definitely liked her! Turns out she's just a REALLY nice person and she treats everyone she likes and cares about the same. So even though I was sad she didn't like me romantically, I was still happy to be friends with someone so caring and nice!
I was going to admit I like my crush but hearing your story probably pushed it back another year lol
@Killer KeemStar Aww, I'm sorry to hear that!! If it helps though and you're still willing, try flirting a bit to see how they react. The way I found out my crush wasn't really into me was by flirting. I'm no expert in flirting, but I tried my best to make it a bit more obvious I liked her. Sadly, her reactions made it obvious to me that she wasn't liking it. So that sucked but hey, now I have a good friend with a funny story lol. So who knows? Maybe your crush will like the flirting and respond positively or reciprocate. Either way, I wish you the best fren 🙌🧡
@@killerkeemstar893u can do this
Narrator:"They rarely compliment you"
*me who never got a compliment ever*
"Guess I'm the most attractive person in the world"
I was constantly told by my crush at work, things like, " you look poor, you don't look smart, you know you have a spare tire, you're slow at your job, you're an old woman...etc." supposedly, all in good fun! Ahhh, that means he wants to marry me, I see now! lol
Me getting compliments by strangers: guess I’m actually kinda ugly
@@buttarain27 Sounds like a toxic and abusive relationship…
I think you’re neat, Jonas!
@@hallooos7585 Yeah, if it were a relationship! I just think he's a cute little 18 year-old, at twice his age, I don't take him seriously anyway. Funny how he's always looking for a reason to touch me and will stare into my eyes while talking. I don't take that seriously either.
1.)they like to look at you-0:51
2.)they enter your personal bubble-1:27
3.)they seem flustered by you-2:10
4.)they often come up to talk to you-2:52
5.)they rarely compliment you-3:21
6.)they’re surprised by your insecurities-3:59
7.)they act extremely towards you-4:32
Thxx
early access be liek
@@ihaveanewchannelnow.9880 True
How tf did u do that in like 30 seconds lmao
My Boy Bestfriend Does All Of That-
As someone who has been depressed for years, I can promise, these are true. It is 'us' who choose not to see them because they are blocked by how we see ourselves. Stay strong fam.
Faxx
What if none of that doesn't happen to me at all?
For when I experienced this it was true, made me hate myself more that I didn't try harder, life always seems to hand me love when I'm actually about to give up on it and focus on myself. Life has some pretty good moments but my mind overshadows them with the negative, like how I could have avoided losing my mind buried my feelings and could have salvaged something by blocking the one person I was falling out with, trying to minimize seeing her as much as possible until I got over her and shared with others what was going on with me...but didn't do that instead I chose to try burning every bridge and by that point I had sobered up I had done too much and became worse and worse, when all I needed to do was walk away, ignore her, mute them do what ever I had to in a shared environment with them
I rarely compliment a person I find attractive because I am pretty sure I would overdo and make them uncomfortable. It's rather difficult wanting to give a meaningful compliment without making it too obvious you're fascinated by them. Also, I'm sure the way of telling them (like tone and facial expressions etc.) would give it all away in my case.
same but I do it anyways because life is short and we are all gonna die and we all have insecurities
@@nicoleonlysometimes824 you are my hero - I'll try to remember that
@@nicoleonlysometimes824 Same, I always try to compliment people so they dont feel insecure and not loved just like I do.
I am the same way. I feel like complimenting someone you find attractive just makes it so obvious and I don’t want to scare them away😭
I do the opposite, when I like someone or feel close to a friend I compliment ✨️ them a lot 🫶🩵. If it doesn't make them uncomfortable, of course. Maybe it's weird😅😂
I have an important one: You make them laugh a lot. And I don’t mean the awkward or pity laughs. The natural laughs that make you feel like they enjoy what you say and presence all the time. It’s proven that making someone laugh a lot makes you a lot more attractive to them. Moreover, they also may subconsciously laugh a lot with you to try to appeal to you without even knowing. Have you ever laughed at what your crush says even if it’s not that funny but simply because you want them to like you? It may be hard distinguishing but most of the time laughter is in your favor
Nan...
aaah the pity laugh.
@@dodgemastersama nah you can tell difference between a pity laugh and a “I’m trynna smash” laugh just look at Zendaya with Tom for example
I do that to everyone tbh
I can relate too because even if I see my crush smile, it makes me smile as well.
You’re a life saver! I have this boy that has been giving me signs of attraction but I don’t know what to do, plus I don’t know if I’m attractive in general to others! Thanks :))
Woah 😳
I'm sure this relationship will be great 👍
If you like him... Go for it!! 👍
Yes and if it doesn't go well, eat a child :]
Godspeed
@@cUm_mnster that escalated quickly
I had a friend who used to be a really rude and childish person and I was completely oblivious to it for a few months, and then I realized how toxic she was, so I told her I was done being friends.
Two years later, we talk a little bit and we became friends again. She's so much better of a person and she even admits her mistakes, as do I. Shes hilarious and pretty and I'm starting to realize I probably like her. A lot of people find her annoying, but she just has an eccentric personality and I can tell she really is a cool person now instead of someone trying to act like a 'cool kid' or something. Her development is amazing and I'm glad to have her as a friend, although a lot of people think she's strange, I know she really is an awesome person, and I've seen her prove herself multiple times.
If you're reading this, (no name will be shared ofc) love ya girl, even though I know you don't back. Still surprised you want to be friends with me despite how much of a buzzkill I can be, and also our history.
Friendships are beautiful, and me and hers relationship does show that you should give people second chances. Anybody can change, so don't push yourself to ignore someone just because of who they were in the past. The present is the most important moment of your life, because it's what is happening right now, and will always happen right now.
Anyways I'm getting sidetracked. Just wanted to share a story and give some advice. Love you all, have a good day!!
Thank you for sharing. :)
thats a sweet story :')
Brooohhh always sidetracked too :>
My best friend was also like this, and now we can't live without each other 😁 god bless you too 😁
I'm glad you gave your friendship another chance. Personally, I find "strange" and "eccentric" individuals more attractive and interesting. Much love. ✌️
This stuff happens to me a lot. Even though it's been going on for some time I never get used to it. It actually makes me really anxious on top of having social anxiety . Especially when random strangers are come up to me and get directly in my personal space or if I have to figure out if my uber driver is just really nice or trying to kidnap me 🙃
If you suffer from social anxiety, I did as well. I don’t have social anxiety anymore because of Jesus. He has completely healed me from it. If you want to be free from social anxiety, Jesus can save you from it if you believe in him as I did. Just wanted to share that!
@@alexandria3307 Huh? Jesus can save you from social anxiety 💀
@@ponyio Yes
I totally get where you're coming from 😆
@@alexandria3307 girl then what’s taking him so long
The gazing thing is so true. Staring at your love interest rarely registers as attraction, it only makes him/her feel intimidated. Its like pointing out at someone with the finger.
kinda I get it’s attraction if I know they’re not trying to intimidate me (or they’re the opposite sex lol)
@@nicoleonlysometimes824 nah either way staring at someone multiple times is weird and rude
Staring at someone is literally a dead give away😭
@@lilsquzisquirt making eye contact is not rude, if you fail to register a negative reaction that is rude
Don't do that
Don't give me hope
LOL
Same-
Same
Too late
😂😂
For some reason I have trouble pinpointing strong emotions while they’re happening, and this leads to weird thoughts. Today my crush was talking to me and it was a pretty good experience! My thoughts afterwards came to how I was feeling. All I could describe it as was good terror, and feeling giddy. Later I realized that it was thrill, but good terror was such an oxymoron. It felt fizzy.
butterflies?
The only thing I experience in this list is I'm hardly ever complimented, but I don't think it's for the reason the video says. I was severely bullied for my appearance growing up and it damaged me beyond repair.
If that’s you in your profile pic then you’re beautiful! I think sometimes being insecure can come off as being stuck up and then even if you are beautiful people will be uncomfortable around you because they think you’re judging them. Once you gain more confidence this hinderance will fade away and you might notice more people gravitating towards you.
You're right, I would bully the shit out of you if you were in my class.
@@nood1le Literally why would you ever say something and insensitive and stupid as this
@@lvely4126 Because I'm a fucking scum amd get enjoyment out of putting others down.
@@nood1le atleast your aware of your negative actions
“Signs people _secretly_ find you attractive!”
Number one : *They stare into your soul*
Number two : *They attach themselves to you like a tumour*
love, am i right?
XD bruuuuh
Xd
Hopefully it's non-cancerous
@@acash93 sadly it’s contagious 😷
1. They like to look at you.
2. They enter your personal bubble.
3. They seem flustered by you.
4. They often come up to talk to you.
5. They rarely compliment you.
6. They are surprised by your insecurities.
7. They act extremely towards you.
My dog stares at me lovingly.
Mine too!
Aww same, at least he’s there for me
Same here, my doggos are also sweet
Same. 😂
Same with me but our street dogs😂
Praying that everyone falls asleep quickly and has a peaceful sleep. Hope you all wake up happy and well rested 😆😆😆😆
thank you!
Thank you, I’ve been talking to this girl who isn’t in any of my classes for a month or two and I really couldn’t tell if she liked me until I realized she does half of these especially look at me and sometimes we just kinda gaze into each other’s eyes when we are having conversations and her eyes are so pretty I think I’m gonna tell her how I feel soon 😶
Edit: so I told her and oh my she likes me back and now we’re dating and we’re going to see a Christmas tree lighting tonight 🥰
TELL HER
OMG good luck
Good luck my dude/dudette
update us pls
@@userm180 there
Coming from a guy, if you don’t notice any of these signs, it doesn’t mean we don’t like you. I try hard not to seem creepy or desperate, and it comes off as I don’t like you. In fact, one of my past crushes thought I hated them I didn’t show my feelings that much. Some, like me, try not to show our feelings, especially if they’re more introverted. The one thing I do consistently is eye contact, I will catch myself staring at her, and then oh shoot she looks over at me lol. One time she was looking at me, and I literally thought about it all day. So, I would say, if you catch them looking at you on a consistent basis, then there’s a good chance they like you.
To be honest, I see these signs around me more than I thought I would, especially after I started realizing my worth (and that I'm kinda the package lowkey). Thanks Psych2go for making these videos!
Yes girl get that self confidence! 🔥
Me too especially by men honestly.
When you love someone and you love them with your heart, it never disappears when you’re apart, and when you love someone more and you’ ve done all you can do, you set them free. and is that love was true, when you love someone, it will alll come back to you.💗💗💗
Those really sound like song lyrics
In a perfect world, with perfect people, this would be 100% true. It's touching and sounds beautiful! Your writing is spot on. 👌. What a beautiful world we would have if there was no such thing as mental illness. If all people realized Love that we are given is precious and we should cherish it more than anything physical or instantly gratifying. If everyone loved others like they want to be loved. If everyone realized that when we cause pain to others, it's really ours to bear eventually. Love is the most powerful thing in the world. It can create life. It can save life. It can be the 1 thing that makes a person's life happy. If people would simply surrender to the fact that your heart is always smarter than your mind when it comes to a happy life. Love lives in the heart, and indifference, fear, shame, hopelessness, defeat...those all live in the Ego, and it's home is in our heads.
So...to add to your comment: If someone wants to leave and let them go, make sure you tell them you love them first, and don't let your pride keep you from reminding them. Often, our egos cause us to spend our whole lives longing for the only person who ever filled our heart...because we are waiting to hear from THEM and our pride and egos get in the way. Nothing is more tragic than to have lived a life wondering you COULD HAVE been happy.
Most of the time when I watch these videos they aren't for me, but I watch them so I can help other people
that's really kind 🙇♂️
You know, I think you're right. I've been wondering why most of these rarely apply to me. I guess I forgot my helpful nature wanted to help people 24/7 (apparently that includes TH-cam videos now too).
How am I supposed to think that others like me when they don’t even look my direction?!? Lol 😂
Yeah I agree I am the person that dosnt look at my crush because if I have a crush I don’t look at them so they don’t think I like them
Maybe open up and make more friends (it's a huge ask I know but YOLO amirite?)
God looks your direction every day th-cam.com/video/MGqCrbjH0pA/w-d-xo.html
God always will be there for you, i know and I've felt it. Yeah
Well you're just too pretty people can't take it looking towards you
Number 7, the last one, I actually feel bad for this one because someone who just wants to be treated normally get ridiculous reactions from others that make them feel uncomfortable. From extreme cat calling, to being bothered by your employer (and then not reciprocating this and being treated badly because you won’t flirt back) sucks.
Omg, been there. I've had to quit a job because of that.
There were times when I feel absolutely worthless and ashamed of how I look. But, in the past 5-6 years until now, there are still some people I know (colleagues, lecturers even strangers online) told me I'm attractive.
I guess it would be biased to rate my own given how everyone has their own idea of attractiveness. So, I used that confidence to build image for myself. Not for others. They are welcomed to have their own say in how I look. We do not live to please others or an eye candy or a subject of criticism.
JUST BE YOURSELF. as long as you're comfortable and happy in your own skin.
As someone who is ugly i love to see a video about the perks of being unattractive hear me out in my 23 years of life these 5 perks are something I noticed 1 you blend into the background which is great for work and school projects are a life saver your rarely assigned major roles and just skate by without anyone really caring 2 People love you for you whats a rare thing if you're ugly like me and people still wanna date you or be friends just because they like you as a person I find Attractive people are always surrounded by friends but can never tell who likes them not just wanting to sleep with them 3 im gay so dunno if it counts with other sexual identitys you are more likely to be picked on dating/hookup websites because people are curious about you or feel more secure around you as you are not as attractive as them 4 You can always work out and buy form fitting clothes which will distract from ugly face 5 confidence is key i know people will say im being harsh on myself but where I grew up im seen as very unattractive from friends family romantic interests but you can turn it into a strength looking different is currently celebrated in today's modern day culture its more mainstream then it was 10 years ago hopeful this advice helps people like me as its been a lifesaver for me hope everyone has a great day
I feel your resolve and I want to tell you that no matter how unattractive you think you are someone will always think differently. Even of you buy a ton of good clothes if you don't feel comfortable enough in your own skin it won't feel right. I still have low confidence myself as well from being bullied but trust me one day you'll find someone and even if you don't you should learn to love yourself. Self love is most important.
I love you. Have a nice day. Don't let your family discourage you from feeling valid. You are valid and you are beautiful and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. A little confidence can go a long way.
Wake up every morning and tell yourself you look nice today.
So sure you aren't ugly but very very pretty
Careful there, attractive people also sweeten the ears of unattractive people like us to have easy casual sex based on lies. I didn't know this before...
Ok but why did this comment make me feel better than even the original video. Like who really cares if I am ugly? Ugly ppl get married, get promotions, and do the things they love. I also feel like ppl like me more for me than just for looks. I would add on for me, I get hit on less in clubs & bars than my friends. Which I used to think was bad but now I realize how many of those guys just aren’t that great. If I want to be ignored at a bar, I just mind my business & can enjoy myself in peace. If I want to make friends/connect I start talking & I have a decent personality/humor so ppl talk to me! And bc I haven’t been able to rely on my looks to get dates, compared to the majority of my friends I feel like I’ve done better on online dating.It’s not bc I’m inherently better but bc I’ve had to form better social skills out of necessity. I also am used to being rejected so it’s not nothing new to me.
One of my crushes was like this towards me and I was in denial . I liked him every since I was little then I moved away sadly he passed away .without knowing my actual feelings . ohhhh the last one yah people put me down to an extreme level and many back handed compliments. It did get to me . But slowly I realized they were insecure . Plus I had to re learn to love myself which was a hard process
❤️
im so sorry that happened
One thing I like about this channel is that you always do the animations. This will take a long time to release a video. I love the care you put into your product❤️
Glad you enjoy it! :) Would you like to see more of this animation?
Agreed!!
Okay, you need to do a video on how to tell whether people are repelled by you because you’re hot and intimidating and hard to relate to vs. because you’re at the bottom of the social hierarchy.
I’m so sick and tired of not being able to tell whether people are distant from me because I’m ominous and sexy like Dracula or because I’m creepy and pathetic like a bug.
Bonus points if you relate it to romantic/sexual attraction like in this video.
I think another sign is, if they are really insecure they won't come up to you and start a normal conversation right away, but rather linger around whereever you are and throw in random sentences (egg. "I'm so thirsty", "wow this is so crazy") just to catch your attention and make you respond to them. In combination with the starring at you and always being close to you this is a really obvious one, and it can get quite annoying if you are focused on something else at the same time.
Haha this one is correct xD . I used to do this except the staring part .but i always kept it at safe distance. xD i use my hidden 6th sens instead of staring😂
I have a guy friend at work that does all of these toward me. Some of my female coworkers have noticed it, too. What's even more confusing is that he is in a long term, committed relationship. He's a good guy that would never cheat, so I know that's not what he's looking to do. I like him, too, but I keep my distance because he's taken.
I used to do this trying to figure out how to start a conversation.
So, why hasn't he moved on to the next level? Could it be, he's just complacent....
To be honest, I'm not the kind of person that other people would find me attractive, it's the opposite for me, I find people attractive.
Same lol
SAMEE Like I get attached to ppl in less than a minute-
SAME i get crushes SOOO easily!
yes i wanted to see if im doing it correctly
Your not alone lol
This was fun to watch and helpful!
Thank you Psych2Go.
I do hope people out here keep it clean and respectful with their comments.
Thank you for your positive attitude toward self. We all need to see ourselves in a more positive light.
I love this channel. It boosts my confidence and self-esteem during those few minutes. Thank you!
1:25 or they are looking at someone else, that’s happened to me a few times.
MAN I wish I was ATTRACTIVE to the point where It makes me feel good about myself agh my dream 😩😭🥺💀
You don''t have to actually BE attractive to feel attractive. I have met many ugly looking people that truly believe they are really good looking. I don't know. Maybe their parents told them that when they were little and they just believed it. Feeling attractive is in the mind.
@@kathyk5589 luckily my parents taught me well in that topic, I’ve recently just stopped caring what I looked like cuz it doesn’t matter, I’m more focused on my insides I feel good but when I said I wish I was attractive I only say cuz these days pretty privilege gets u places and it makes me feel bad cuz I don’t look like those people but it’s important to know that’s okay ur heart and mind should be beautiful cuz looks aren’t already everything and I’m glad I was taught that 😌 so no worries there thanks for ur words ;)
@@rimshakhalid787 I'm glad your parents taught you of the truly unimportance of being physically pretty is. It is SO unimportant. As a matter of fact, the prettier you are on the outside, the more likely there is rotten fruit on the inside. Also, the one that counts the most, God and what he sees when he looks at you, physical appearance has absolutely no meaning to him. I can also say that I have had very, very few people in my life that i have dearly loved and cared about and none of those relationships had anything to do with how the person looked on the outside, but how they made me feel on the inside when I was around them. The true value of each person really does abide in their heart. And it seems the prettier a person is on the outside, the less likely they are to work on themselves on the inside.
@@kathyk5589 I 100% agree so PERFECTLY said thank you for ur words 👏🏼😌
@@rimshakhalid787 your welcome
The time machine worked
It’s September 2021 for me
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Bruh how are yall doing this
He did the thing
Wait I wanna know how!
@@walrusonion9yearsago777 “he did the thing” that’s not a answer
Comment below one trait you like about your crush (if you have one)? If you're brave, comment their first initial.
Kind M
I have anime crushes 👉👈
They are smart, and will not encourage the kids who act up. Their first initial is R
(disclaimer this is not a joke and i copy and pasted this from the last vid) Hey uhh psych to go i know you have seen me replying to your vids in the past cause you replied to me i dont know what video it was but i know you did anyway things have changed so much and alot have happened and btw i am in a new account for reasons anyways lets just go straight to the point ok listen i need some help fast i am on the verge of suiciding leaving my loved ones and my family and just do nothing i need some advice what do i do if i have really really severe depression with my mother manipulated me for years cheated on my father countless of times stealing money from my father and i am far away from my original home with my aunt and my sister and my sister bullys me does not believe i have severe depression a mental illness and thinks i am annoying and having online class stressing me to the point i want to kill myself in the bathroom have an addiction with youtube i watch youtube to forget my problems and rest my mind i am having low grades my grades were high in the past now its in the lowest point we are short on money currently are in a case where we will put our mother to jail where i am in a new enviroment i have bad attitude because of my mother not teaching me anything i am now laying on the couch typing this does not know what to do i want to be alone on an island and just relax and just take a break from my fricking miserable awful life. What do i do. Btw getting set up for therapy will maybe happen in 2022 i am already seeking help but not much has changed my father is working for his job somewhere far away like 2000 miles from here i need some advice
Responsible😊👍
i have really low self-esteem -- like, it's in the negative digits, I hate myself. But every time I watch these videos about people's behaviors towards a person they like or think is attractive I relate to every single point. it's really confusing for me, because I'm always waiting for psychology to affirm my being a bad person or unattractive since that's how I see myself, however it never happens? at this point, I've come to accept it because so many people mention it fleetingly as if it's common knowledge that I'm attractive or likeable, but i can't help but really question why and everytime it shocks me. this was a short rant, but thanks for reading anyways. if you relate, please comment, i'd love to know if there are many people who might feel the same. also, I'm working on my mental health, and i have a crush who is really great to me so i think I'll be okay (though i know i shouldn't depend on them to gain confidence, I'm just saying the love they demonstrate makes me happier). good luck to anyone who is struggling with anything! this is a safe space so please come talk to me or make your own individual comment! i love all of you, everyone deserves to be cherished! (
Hey Coco, please give yourself more credit! The human mind is wired to focus on negative thoughts. Hopefully, these psychology videos and talking to others will help improve your self-esteem!
7 months have passed, do you feel better? Has your confidence grown? I think sometimes people can be blinded by their own light, trust others when they tell you they like you. They wouldn't bother saying it unless it was true
@@Psych2go Thank you so much. And yes, there's a reason I follow you! I'm trying to become more self-aware and conscious of my own mental health, which you helped a lot with. :)
@@TirianOfNarnia I'm not religious, however my sibling and I both promised ourselves from a very early age never to kill ourselves. So, even though I sometimes have suicidal thoughts, it's comforting to know that however strong the urge is to end my life, I physically can't bring myself to thanks to that promise. Obviously, it's not great and probably a bit unhealthy to depend your life on one sole thing like a person or God, but if their existence, presence and love is powerful, mutual and stable enough, I think we'll be fine. Good luck with life handsome, lol.
@@kiwifit620 I appreciate the inquiry! It's making me realize how much I indeed have grown. I've developed mentally, as well as my personal style which is definitely helpful to feel more confident since I can project my personality onto fashion. Thank you so much for asking!! As Mari said, "If everyone says so, I guess I have no choice but to believe it a little bit".
There was this girl who used to tease me in school. She was mean to me, and really invested her time and energy to provoke me. I remember I caught her looking at me through a small mirror once, and one time she asked me if I would ever date anyone and why. Does anyone think that by her behavior she could habe been attracted to me?
Yes she is attracted
After a while I realized I didn't hate her, I loved her. But I couldn't tell if she felt the same way at the time... Guess we were too young to know these things...
I heard girls tend to do that kind of stuff when they're attracted. Especially when she teased you that means she liked you.
@@Shonade_Malik why would they do that? it's so misleading hahah Wish I could go back in time... I haven't felt the same way I felt about her for anyone, and it's been over ten years...
Thank you for this. I needed to keep hope alive. My coworkers told me I am "extremely attractive" but I am so goddamn self conscious these days.
decided to help y'all
1. they like to look at you
2. they enter your personal bubble
3. they seem flustered by you
4.they often to come up to talk to you
5. they rarely compliment you
6. they're surprised by your insecurities
7. they act extremely towards you
I noticed my crush would often sneak glances at me or look away quickly when I looked at him. We're no longer in contact but I think he found me attractive looking back at it.
the last point is soooo true. some people appreciate me and value me a bit too much while some try to discourage me and gossip about me.
Just learned it in class awhile back.🤗🔥
Good Stress: Eustress
Bad Stress: Distress
What a great, truly inspiring stories you have ❤️🙌 I wish there were more TH-camrs like you. All the best 😇
This guy in my 4th and 5th period has been making a lot of eye contact with me. I recently realized he has a really beautiful smile and I realized I might have a bit of a crush so I started paying attention to him more. I’ve caught him staring at me a lot in 5th period and on my way out of 4th period last week he was completely staring at me the whole time he was walking to the door I even looked away and looked back to see if he was still staring. I also feel like we are always passing by eachother in the halls
"They are surprised by your insecurities" this is the best one, the surest way to tell
IDC IF PEOPLE LIKE ME OR NOT BUT UR VOICE IS SO PRETTY-
I LIKE LISTENING TO UR VOICE WHEN I STUDY AND DRAW SO TYSM FOR ALWAYS CALMING ME DOWN!!
I'm currently in the "do they like me or are they just really really nice" stage, this video could not have come up in a better time 😭
wow... so I am attractive. Interesting. My friends always tell me I look so pretty and my response is always "I wish I could see that" and watching this, I can relate to everything!
I had a guy do almost everything in this list and when I asked him does he like me or something? He said he never liked me…what
awwww 😂
It normally feels like people I'm attracted to put in a lot of effort to not pay any attention to me. Like they ignore me when I try to get their attention as they walk by. Or they add you on social media just so they can unfollow you. Or they greet all your friends as you walk into a restaurant but they ignore you specifically.
Gotta say. This one made me laugh lol Can def relate to some of these. You guys always bring up such eye openers. Good one!
All signs except the one about personal space fits in on my crush. The sign that’s the most noticeable is the fifth one because he rarely compliments and gives me advice. But to others he does it a lot and acts more bold for some reason. I’m gonna confess to my crush soon and by watching this video it makes me feel more convinced that he likes me back. However, there are some obstacles like I’m always the one asking him questions and so on.
What about just not having any huge reaction when you see your crush? I don't get butterflies or embarrassed around mine, but I'm not sure if that means I'm just comfortable or I don't ACTUALLY like them.
SAME! Like do I just not like them? I’m pretty confident around them
Don't worry I'm the same way infact I actually get more nervous before or after I see them but when I actually see them I'm pretty chill unless someone brings something up that makes me flustered about it
@@Thebrokenhopeseries347 couldn't have said it better myself~
Being attractive is overwhelming sometimes, specially when they are mean to you when you didn't even did anything wrong.
I think someone thinks I’m attractive because they always tell others that I am BUT, they’re always bullying me so I’m not sure
Probably out of jealousy? Or it’s a joke thing? Keep being you I’m sure you’re an awesome person :)
Sounds like a messy situation, if i or someone else were to determine weather or not they do, we need a lot of context and a detailed story explaining he situation. Then again you can never know what someone is thinking.
Question: have they, by chance, called you a “Baka”?
That sounds like a crush but I don't have enough context
I love the backround beat while Amanda is speaking!
This video really helped me to combat/challenge my negative self-talking habits and low self-esteem c: thank you!
Phenomenal person reading this, surround yourself with people who are better and wealthier! Keeps you humble, teachable, and hungry. You become those with whom you surround yourself with! Birds of a feather flock together! You got this! 🌟
I believe in you! Love - Nat ❤️
Theres a girl I kinda like(not in a romantic way) and we always have interesting conversations that can go on for hours. But the thing is, she doubts her own abilities and for no good reason, so I compliment her alot because I find her attractive but she doesn't believe me. And if she ever finds this video and see that attractive people don't get complimented she wont feel to good because I compliment her alot. So yeah, not sure if im helping or not.. 😂😂
You are helping man, just keep supporting her and she will feel very supported
@@Pac_Appl21 yeah, she starts giving me the feels
I know no one is attracted to me, but this video is important to the people who I am attracted to. 😌
00:30-no...I can't know by looking at myself. I can judge by how people react to things like pictures of me. Or comments that I make. Oh...and watching videos like this and recognizing that I don't experience any of these things.
One thing that kinda makes me feel like people find me attractive kinda is that when I ask something of people they do it and also people are just very welcoming of me and let me get away with some things. Also when I talk people smile and give me their full attention. I’ve also noticed after talking to a boy for a little bit, they always end up seeming like they like me but at the same time what if it’s all in my head. When I tell people my insecurities they seemed surprised but I also am friends with a lot of people who have a ton of insecurities that they’re very open about where I don’t normally share my insecurities
It's common for us to unconsciously take action to hide our insecurities; that's a natural defense mechanism! That's why people are surprised when you share your insecurities. The key is to share with those you trust most. They will understand your feelings and your relationship will strengthen in the process of sharing and communicating!
Just so everyone knows, every person shows love differently. Someone could like you but never even look at you. Don't let a video make you feel unattractive. Your looks are from your ancestors and that means someone feel in love with your features, you are attractive to someone in this world with 8billion people.
You HAVE peaked in life when she asks about the attractive person you know and your mind automatically says it’s you!
I just love all your videos. There is so much empathy kindness sweetness in your voice. I am 51 and still have many complexes. I also have CPTSD. Listening to you is a treat
i can't really relate to the signs in the video lol, but i do know that i've become more confident lately! i used to be insecure of my looks, as a dark skinned kid with a huge flat nose and glasses. but now, i couldn't care less. all i do is smile more and walk with confidence, life's been cool ever since!
When I see some stranger that is super attractive I cannot stop staring at them from a distance but as soon as they get close my systems shut down and I become super nervous (probably insecurities), wouldent hug them or get close and I tend to look down and wishing for them to move away from me, it is like their very presence threatens me even if it is someone of the opposit sex. Idk I feel like pretty peoples just have a hoard of peoples staring at them from a distance but noone really goes close to them like they are some divine god/godess.
This was so helpful. With boosting my self confidence. Thank You!!!
yes, i think so too!!!
It didn't for me 😞🇦🇺🇳🇴 Try again
I've never had a girl display those signs to me, I think I look handsome but sometimes I think I'm boring and get sad over the thought I never had a girlfriend and don't want to face the fact that I will never get one. Having a dislike for using social media, can't call or text with my phone (thanks a lot dad), being a wimp, being geeky and also feel like I'm still a little child because I have three older siblings that all work, I have no money, no car, still follow my mom's rules, I don't swear at home but I sometimes do at school but most people are very vulgar, and no God dang facial hair. There are some girls I talk to but there friends and I highly doubt they're interested in me. The first one is Bisexual and I've kinda said some mean stuff about her interests but we still talk sometimes and joke around. Another girl is a junior we had an interest for heavy metal music and listen to the same sub genres like thrash, speed, death, early metal, and a lot of bands my brothers and I listen to until I learned she already has a boyfriend (never talked to him but I've seen him before and despite me being taller than him it looks he's capable of kicking my ass) and a Senior who I see her in a class and lunch but if we do become boyfriend and girlfriend it will be tricky since she is three years older than me and has a car and a job, but I don't know if she's in to me and we share similar interests , she laughs at my low effort jokes and I'm nice towards her and her brother. Everytime I see a person with their lover in their arms or kissing I ask my myself, can I get that? Why can't I have that? When? This felt like a long rant but it felt good typing this, and at one point I was tearing up. I'm thankful that you've read all of this and I appreciate that.
I'd say I'm good looking but I'm a very quiet person. I don't make myself approachable and usually reject interactions with others. I like it this way. That's why I always hate myself whenever I find interest in a girl, because at the end of the day, I'm better off alone.
To me, I care much about what I don’t like about myself, but my friends are very relaxed about shortcomings or weakness. The criterion for making friends, they believe, is that if they can tolerate the shortcomings of others, they can become friends. This may be the difference between us. Therefore, when I open up something I feel unsatisfied about myself, they are stunned, but help me overcome my insecurities.
3:22 I NEVER compliment people because I'm afraid of being accused of being creepy or even of harassing.
I love literally everything abt this channel it helps me relax with my love-related situations
If my crush watches Psych2Go I’m screwed
This is literally me
"They rarelycompliment you"
Me:omg I must be so attractive
I don't give compliments very much mainly because I'm shy, but I would definitely give compliments to my future significant other because of their beauty. In any case, I'd rather someone compliment me, though I don't get complimented very often anyway and I'm an introvert and quite shy. :)
seriously your voice makes this video thousand times sweeter!
2:33 Jokes on you I'm always walking weirdly
LOL
same I walk like I'm old 😭👍
So *that’s* why the rum’s always gone.
When the only sign you match with is "They rarely compliment you"...
I came here for knowledge, not for hope. 😁
Anyway, thank you Ma'am for yet another great video! 🙂
Thank you! 😃 We hope this video helped
I know no one is attracted to me, but this video is important to the people who I am attracted to.
There’s someone that I like, she’s so beautiful, I respect her as a friend but I can’t help but notice her wide-eyed smile whenever we see each other in the same places, the prolonged very close hugs, etc… I said to her last night “I LOVE your hugs!” She said to me “I love you” looking me in the eye with a wide-eyed smile, I said “… I love you too” in a ‘trying to play it cool’ kind of manner. I feel like she’s out of my league because of my own insecurities (and because she’s just so stunning, she could be a model!) but I don’t think I’m in a mental/ emotional place to be with anyone (and she’s a fucking fantastic friend!). A few weeks ago I was sitting in the pub minding my own business and she comes up to me (completely disregarding my personal space but she’s always welcome into my bubble anyway) and she really kind of nestles herself into me, REALLY invested in conversation. We hold hands in a caressing way… quite a bit… regularly. At times she’s played with my hair to get my attention. On New Year’s Eve I was getting stoned in the pub with my mates (the smoking area was filled with weed fumes from our corner haha), I turned round to see who was nearby, she was with her other mates in their corner but she was staring right at me even before I even saw her (when you can feel someone staring… but it was her… surrounded by her mates but her attention was on me), she came over to me (again with the nestling and invested conversation) and we held hands. I have a lot of female mates but there’s just something about her that I’m drawn to on another level but with absolute respect for the friendship at the same time.
Yep, it's official. I'm not attractive
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I used to have a friend that would call out all my insecurities when we got around boys or someone I liked she would sit there and laugh at me about them with all the boys eventually I called her out about it and later on she told me that she was jealous of me because of the way I looked and that she wish she look like me so she broke me down every time we were around people to make herself feel better😭
I can confidently say that none of this has ever happens to me
I can relate to all of these. But on the giving part 😭 this didn't help with my insecurities but thanks for trying
There was this boy in my class, he looked at me a lot and when he talked to me he got closer than he needed to. We never talked or anything like that, just greetings and school stuff, but I was suspicious of the tendency he had to look at me and ask me for something when he had friends much closer in class for that. On the last day of school, he gave me a drawing he had made of me because everyone knew that I love to draw. It was sudden but I thought it was cute and I was happy that he took the time to do it and I wondered if he really liked me. I felt much more beautiful with that drawing than with any compliment. Anyway, unfortunately I will never know about his feelings because I finished high school and will hardly ever see him again. But I'll treasure the drawing.
When you have literally no idea, since people don't interact with your asocial ash, so the only relatable point is not receiving compliments (well, let's take a guess why 🤡)
im sure ure pretty
Yeayy new video!
High five! Do you enjoy!
@@Psych2go very cool video, to bad no one does this to me, I don't get complicated at all
@@Psych2go wow two months ago, nice
TIME TRAVELER!!!
No because everytime someone stares at me I instantly think their judging the hell out of me
After watching this video I realized that I'm the one who shows these signs to my crush and not the other way around, I literally have no hope, but they make me smile, that's more than enuf for me
I really appreciate whomever voices these videos. Your voice is wonderful
someone looks at me:
me: “why are you staring”
them:👁👄👁