But body language is a better indicator. Some people come off as cold or uninterested when they're really actually hella nervous or don't know what to say to you. They can lie about something too or be a little mean (for some reason some people are mean to hide their feelings. It's no excuse for treating you wrong though.) Some people are scared so they don't even look at you when you're looking at them. People are complicated, follow your intuition and watch their body.
@@theQueen. yes that is true to. But we're talking about what they do when you're not around, how eager they are to see you. In person body language sure does the talking
@@lolyoutubeistrash I think it's because in my head there is 0 chance that the feeling will be reciprocated. Low self esteem plays a huge part I must say.
8 things that make me feel better after a long day 1. the narrator's voice 2. the narrator's voice 3. the narrator's voice 4. the narrator's voice 5. the narrator's voice 6. the narrator's voice 7. the narrator's voice 8. the narrator's voice
Her voice is so soothing, it’s like a much needed cuddle after a long day. Or drinking a cup of tea that’s at just the right temperature while listening to soft jazz. Or your cat purring on your lap. Or looking at pictures of -Jake Gyllenhaal- Danny DeVito
Side note: friendliness ≠ flirting. Mirroring behaviour and distraction can be signs of ADHD or spectrum behaviour, and open/enthusiastic body language can be caused by masking or excitement about a conversation topic or relief at fitting into a social interaction. The best way to know if someone is flirting with you is to ask if they're interested
If you don't want to ask then all you can do is guess and that's your choice 🤷♀️ Just don't be presumptuous because what you may consider flirting might not be flirting at all and if you don't get an outcome you want then don't feel lead on
We went to a movie some months back and we just kept repeating each other somewhat. Right now we’re still just friends and I’m okay with that but I’m glad to have made a friend with him
Things I do when I like someone 1. Laugh a LOT 2. Say wack things 3. Text excessively but only when they text first 4. Stop texting and talking bc I think you hate me and I’m making them uncomfortable 5. Avoid touch and apologize when I reactively touch them
It's sad when that person is no longer attracted to you and already moved on because you kept on ignoring and avoiding them even though you like them back.
I used to get so excited whenever I saw these signs in a crush. Then I learned attraction is just phase one. A person might be attracted to you, but that doesn't mean they have feelings. Feelings might grow with time, if you're both willing to spend time together. If you both want something beyond the physical. If you both share and keep an emotional connection. However, a lot of people leave at phase one... I think we all deserve so much more than those physical language signs. We deserve our significant other's presence in our lives, their concrete gestures, their love. Attraction is amazing, but it is just a piece of a greater thing.
In case you don't relate to all of these signs it's okay dude You're lovable , you're worthy and you're great and enough , it doesn't matter if the people we love aren't attracted to us or even normal people what matters is the way you see yourself not others . Have a great day ❤️❤️❤️ Omg i didn't expect all these likes
True but men gotta make the first approach usually and work on themselves to be desirable. It's ok to love yourself but if you don't have any luck with women It's best to improve yourself while still being u at the core. I think sometimes saying you're good enough is masking complacency.
@@esthervip Like if you are using a Kraken gaming headphone. Then she suddenly used the very same brand of gaming headset and model product the next day. And she may also imitate your laugh and your body language a lot. 🙂
I've got quite poor social skills and part of that is I'm very oblivious to flirtation. Unless someone outright tells me that they find me attractive, I always assume they're just being friendly. Just recently my mom and I went to buy stuff for my apartment and afterwards my mom said that the guy who helped us in the store was flirting with me and I just??? What???? I thought that was a regular conversation wtf 😅
Just a reminder to not be too hard on yourself. Life is hard, it’s more than ok to relax and give yourself a break. If you are going through a tough time I wish you the best. Things will get better. And your stronger and more powerful than you’ll ever know😁
I'm a grown man and I've only just recently begun to pay attention to body language as I've been pretty much oblivious all my life. I missed some opportunities either because of that, or because I rationalized my way out of it. "I must be imagining things," or "Nah, it would never work out." The mind is really good at that it seems, haha. It's true that paying attention to body language matters and whereas people lie, the body rarely if ever does. There are a bunch of books on the topic. But, if you're a fellow over-analyzer, it's best to let it filter into your subconscious and not to obsess over it.
I agree with you on the 'not obsessing over analysing body language' part. But i think that non verbal communication can be faked. Humans have always used deception at some point in their lives to establish better relationships. It may sound morally corrupt but we all have done it consciously or unconsciously.
Yes. It’s good to pick up on signs to give clues, but they are not good to obsess over like you said! I used to be obsessed with body language to the point where I would read into things incorrectly. It’s a good guide if you want to pick up on peoples’ moods, but you can’t know exactly what is causing the person to be in such a mood and they could just have a unique baseline for expressing those moods!
I tend to distance myself when I'm crushing on someone, and brush off a conversation when it starts to go outside of just work stuff. It's not about them - I just hate the feeling when people notice that I like someone (especially if they're his friends), which is something that I know I should not mind but I do.
@@userm180 I don’t like the attention it brings when other people notice, and that’s the problem cos then I miss out on getting to know the person more 🤷🏻♂️
@@userm180 I don’t, because of this habit which I do to myself. I am aware that it’s restricting me to develop a relationship and it’s something I need to work on
Personnally ive seen myself do the exact opposite whenever im attracted to someone i try to never meet their eyes or to stare the less possible at them because of the fear of getting them to feel uncomfortable. I also respond to them rly coldly to not let them see any of my emotion... and i always realize it after it happens its so frustrating i guess im scared that i might be seen as weird or that i dont like being vulnerable, 😔
yea, i think more introverted and/or socially anxious people tend to double-think this kind of thing and do the opposite in order to not show their feelings
I never understand why showing interest in someone is embarrassing for most people, like why can’t we just be flattered someone finds us attractive and capable enough to possibly envision a future (wether long or short term) with us.
Ya but if you don' t take a chance and/ or say how you feel you' ll never know! And what' s the worst thing that could happen?.....Laughing in your face? If a person did that they are pond scum and they don' t deserve you anyway!
I agree with you, my husband let me know right away when I first met him that he was interested in me. It avoided unnecessary hassle of waiting and wondering if he is into me. I told him that I liked him too. It’s better to try than just wait and see what happens.
Agreed although I understand why sometimes it is embarrassing I feel like women more than men have this fear. And they like to act like making a move should be a gender specific role when it shouldn’t be at all. I think it’s super cool when a women That’s into me shows it or at least makes effort to talk to me rather than act like they hate me or reserved.. The truth is if flirting/making the first move had. 100% success rate women would find the idea of making the first move being a men’s job as barbaric and so old fashion.. but because it can be embarrassing and at times hard they don’t want anything to do with it and say it’s a man’s job
my favourite one is the eyebrow lift micro expression. whenever my boyfriend sees me when he’s not explicitly expecting it, he does it and his face lights up and rushes over to hug me it’s really cute.
As a man who came looking for subtle signs women dk when they’re attracted to someone I have to say the eyebrow one is real at least for me .. some girl I work that is so fine my eyebrows just raise when I see her especially if she catches me by surprise it’s kinda embarrassing
Here are 8 signs: 1.Mirroring behaviour. 2.Physical flirtation. 3.Belly button alignment. 4.Open body language. 5.Eyebrow flash. 6.Voice changes. 7.Inward leaning. 8.Distracted behaviour. Hope this helps😊 Have a good day💙
I always just assume everyone is purely friendly to me because who could possibly be attracted to me? and then when I like someone, I suppress my attraction to the person and try to act purely friendly to them because rejection is terrifying.
I have had people "mirror" me most of my life. Only started to see and understand it in my early 30's. I also discovered I do it too. Usually when I catch myself doing it it's while having a conversation that is interesting. When I lose myself in a topic I like with someone.
Don't know why this is in my feeds. But for everyone out there, just remember that you are good enough. If the person you're attracted to doesn't see that, it's their loss. At the end of the day, love yourself and forget about those who don't deserve you. Attraction is one thing, but it means nothing if the heart is trash.
I think when someone is always looking at you and then when you notice it, they will look away, you can somehow tell that they are feeling something about you
In most cases but not always..I can give you an example..I always catch gaze of one of my coworkers and look away,because I feel so awkward,I'm not interested in him and somehow I often catch him looking at me but I don't want him to think that I like him or something,also I'm embarassed
@@theQueen. It's when you really want to be close to someone but not romantically. The best examples would be when you want to be really close friends with someone (Because they are cool, fun to be around, you look up to them, etc.) or if you have a long lost relative and want to regain that close bond with them. Even trying your best to be acknowledged by someone you deeply respect would count.
Not everyone is attractive and still found a partner. Im a normal looking female human being. Just be yourself. Find hobbies or do stuff you like. Someday you will find someone who likes the same things and you can bond over these. Look around yourself. Most girls date whoever meets their standart. They dont have to be attractive. Someones standart could be: can cook for me, is romantic and likes cats. So look for someone who you think meets your standarts and hopefully you meet theirs. Good luck 👌 (My grandma found herself a new bf after a horrible marriage with her abusive husand. Its never too late ❤)
What I do when I like a guy: 1. Talk to him 2. Laugh at his jokes 3. Tell him what I am currently struggling with 4. Protect him in fights 5. Try to get to know him better 6. Try to find really subtile if he has a gf Okayy so I wrote this 10 months ago when I had a crush on my bsf but now I have a crush on another guy and we're not really friends so I don't do any of the things above, buttt he likes me back yay
@nataliaaa18 u probably meant defending him...like if ppl are talking shit abt him ,u normally defend him and say that he doesn't act the way that they say he does
Everyone is so kind and beautiful in their on way so if someone dose not like you back you still know deep down in your heart ♥️ your awesome and beautiful!
A little reminder: Love will come to you no matter what, even if you think you're unlovable. Stop actively looking for love and it will come to you when it has to and when you least expect it. We all deserve a little love in our lives. ❤
@@bbysootsprite I used to think the same way you do. I thought i was unlovable and that i'd never reach happiness outside the academic field - which didn't even fulfill me that much. It took me years and lots of therapy to reunite the strength to get out of bed and do any basic chore. My perception of myself was also hideous. I would look at myself in the mirror and cry nonstop because i thought i'd never feel beautiful or liked. It took lots of strength and determination to get out of such a bad mental state. I know this sounds cheesy, but loving myself was the way. Of course, i was very privileged to get the help i needed and i have always had supportive parents by my side, so this was easier thanks to them. I'm so, so sorry you feel that way. You deserve to be happy and loved and anyone who told you or made you feel like you didn't is wrong. I'm sure you will find happiness and love in your life.
30 years old and I’ve found no one. My window to try has closed and it only gets harder from here on out. You’re full of lies and false hopes. Just stop
@@bbysootspriteVictim mindset, from the Drama Triangle. Affirming this will keep you in a cycle where you believe you're unlovable and others are as well. It's not just how it is, it's how you've made it to be.
I finally met someone I had hopes for, and these videos are finally interesting to me and I don't skip them like I used to with the thought of "Oh, I have neither a relationship nor have I had"
One person in my dating history had an unusual habit of fake yawning whenever someone he was attracted to was around, or when he was having to deal with a discussion about anything emotional (such a his crush talking about their love life or walking by with their partner, or even just seeing his crush), or any time he felt tempted to blurt out an admission of his attraction. He would also get fidgety hands, whereas he is normally not a fidgety person. If someone is constantly yawning or clearing their throat when you're around, and you aren't talking (so you know they aren't yawning because you're boring them), it might be a sign of interest.
How would you interpret someone who admitted in the past being strongly attracted to you and has been avoiding you for years because of that reason, fidgeting with a beer bottle in your presence when not talking to you -and when I say fidgeting I mean FINGERING the bottle opening with his thumb or other fingers? Because I asked somewhere and they mocked me for being delusional, but never in my life never seen a guy (not this one either) dig his whole fingers in a half full beer bottle while watching a show. Actually noticed because I found it slightly gross 😆 It needn't be he wants to finger me but sounds at least like a bit of a strong pacifying behaviour lol
This video hits home to me because I have liked this girl for over 2 years now and she is rlly pretty and my best friend. She would copy and mimic my mannerisms and I myself wouldn't even notice until my friends told me. I had a feeling she liked me but I was too scared to ask her out. So instead I asked her out to prom as a friend and she said yes and she even called me her prom king lol. Idk how I didn't get the hint. Then instead of going to prom I went travelling to the US and basically left her prom less (tbf this was during covid so I just assumed prom wasn't happening). Anyways 6 months later, I'm at a different school and I'm still thinking about her and with the help of my friends I call her and do it. I asked her out. She said no. I was pretty heartbroken but I stayed friends with her and understood. 4 months later, I've still kept in contact with her I've pretty much lost my romantic interest with her and then I meet this other girl who was toxic to me. So i rant about this toxic gal to my best friend. She gives me pretty good advice and then she texts me saying... 'yk when you called me, I was going through some hard shit in my life but if it was another time I would've said something else on that phone I'm not even joking'. That gave me happiness but extreme sadness at the same time. Because I played it so safe I never got a chance with her and when I asked her why she said its a '4 am type convo'. I never realised asked her if she liked me still and here I am 4 months later, Im still friends with her, she admitted to liking me in the past but I don't have a damn clue if she likes me now but screw it. When I feel better I'm gonna have a talk with her and ask her again because I rlly do like her. Pray for me fellas 🙏
@@ivymellemoscoso2141 Just found this thread again lol. Basically this girl is kind of a prick and I hate her now. I moved on from her cus she said she liked me a year ago and that I was too late. And she didn't want any relationship and then 2 months later she's dating my best friend which I was mad at for like a month but now I dont really care. The whole situation taught me just shoot your shot and don't hold onto the past cus I wasted my time thinking about her when she basically used me and never really cared about me. Anyways now I'm just focusing on myself some women have shown interest in me the past few months but I fumbled lmao. I do have hope for this new year that I can find someone good for me as I graduate from high school in 5 months. There is this girl I like she's really hot but very quiet like me I spoke to her once like 6 months ago lol and she found me funny but ever since then haven't said much. I just know she really likes music and she's in a band and all that. So I'm debating whether I should make a move or just leave it.
Emotions are difficult to gauge and are always subject to change. As someone who doesn’t always recognize when someone is showing me interest, the easiest way I’ve found to break the ice with someone I feel may be interested is to simply say “I have a hard time recognizing affection appropriately, are you interested in me? Or simply just being kind?” Both are rooted in positive intent and often your honesty will be appreciated. If you’re wrong on your assessment then that’s okay too. It doesn’t devalue you as a person or mitigate your self-worth. Honesty has a higher success rate in forming strong emotional bonds than simply trying to be something you are not at your core to please others. I will find love as will you. We deserve it.
Okay now I know some people think they can’t tell if someone is attracted to them because maybe they don’t feel good looking enough or pretty enough. But people who are oblivious AND attractive, we have it just as bad actually. I can never tell if someone is attracted to me and I have to rely on a third party intel, or a best friend in order to catch on with these things. I couldn’t believe how air-headed I can be when someone does find me attractive I just never assume it will happen or I look at it as whatever. But than a friend of mines told me “You have a very calculating way of showing ‘interest’ in someone.” Now I’m just very self aware with these things ever since I’ve been told. I always just assume someone is just being extremely nice to me and than I slowly realize before it’s too late that . . . You get the point I’m trying to make.
I was thinking about my crush while watching this video (to remember if she did any of these) and then I realized I literally did all of these when she was around. Although it’s hard for me to retain eye contact (inward leaning) with her because I always think it would be obvious I liked her if she could see my face.
Things I do when I like someone (i'm a girl): When it's a person i don't know: I try to be in the same room as them. I stare at them and look away when caught. I laugh really loud to catch their attention. When it's someone i'm friends with: Hug them a lot Give compliments Bully (in a friendly way ofc) and following them around. This is just sum stuff i do lol also stalk their profiles on social media heheheheh >:)
Ahaha so funny this video just came out and I've been daydreaming a bit. I started working at a new job and I've developed a small crush on a coworker. Growing up crushes were always shameful and embarrassing but I think this is the first time in my life I've just felt comfortable having a crush, even as an adult (but I think 'crush' is defined differently now, more just general attraction). I've had a long road of coping with bad social anxiety and I'm in a really good place. I think I act relatively normal, but boundaries such as relationships and crushes and signals are just so hard for me still. I thought I was fine just enjoying myself until the person I'm interested in started showing some interesting signs.... The first thing I noticed was how much they offered to help me at my new job... even if it was a bit futile because our roles did not overlap at all. The second thing as I started seeing them more in person, I noticed their voice DID change but especially when we said goodbye at the end of the day, but its hard to compare to others but its significant. They have a very high social IQ so they are a great communicator with everyone, and of course getting to know someone takes a bit. I don't know if I do any of these, but I think it might be fun to TRY and do these as well as keeping an eye out. SO interesting. Have fun everyone.
Things I do when I have a crush: 1. Do nothing 2. Don't notice it 3. I'm aroace How I react when Somebody else has an crush on me: 1. Pity them 2. Feel bad for them 3. Ignore them
@@angelam.e.richardson3501 I rarely get secret admirers, and I never even liked them. Plus I'm aroflux or aroace, making me overall not interested in a relationship. And I also feel weird whenever somebody has a crush on me, because I don't like it when people catch that kind of feelings for me.
Here are signs how i express my crush: I run away from them I avert eye contact as soon as they look back I tend to hate them to try and get over it I bully them So yea, it's not healthy but i never display these signs when i like someone because of my attachment disorder. I'mso aware of myself i do the opposite. So not everyone that likes you can be so open and inviting. Some are horrendously mean, but that shows they can't cope with those feelings usually
how i express i have a crush: tell them i have budding romantic feelings for them and then immediately either run away and actively avoid them, or block them if i'm not around my crush much. 🙃
yes exactly! there is this man who i know likes me and is very attracted to me. he did a 180 of being super friendly to now totally avoiding me and being way more standoffish when he sees me....
Number 8 feels v true for me. My bestie and I can never get anywhere and have to turn around pretty much every time we drive somewhere because were both always so attracted to each other’s energy and the conversation. Hard to focus on directions when the convos just so engaging haha. Oddly before this video i felt funny about that, but this made me just feel very happy to have her as a friend. Thanks :)
Woah. I tested some of the advices many times and it really helps to at least having a sense whether someones attracted to us or not. Physical touch i think is one of the most useful guidance to see genuine/reflex responds
@@maudyyulia1089 there is a someone who I have a crush on. She greeted me on social media and said "happy birthday, mate". Im so confused. I saw some of these signs when we have deep talks.
There's a moment when i'm breaking down infront of my crush, and she looked at me while pulling my hand to a more comfortable place to hear what I was going through, even though at that time she was busy, but she was there and listened to me, also comforting me. As long as I conveyed what I felt at that time, she looked at me intently, while holding my hand with the intention of comfort, I couldn't help but be embarrassed while being with her at that time. After I feel better, we talk for a while. At that time, it suddenly rained and made the conversation even longer. I chuckle and tell her I'm grateful that she's the person I like. She was silent, I was blunt and she said she was actually shy but chose to be silent, I became embarrassed and fell silent hearing it. Our hands were still holding each other at that time. And at the end, she had to go, I asked for a hug, then she hugged me, and said this.. "Thank you for living and fighting until now my friend," "Yeah.. thank you too" "I love you" And I was shocked- it's the first time I've heard those words spoken from her.. "I-i l-love you too" And then she smiled, then saying goodbye, and go.. She means a lot to me, I'm lucky to meet her. Never felt like this before, I've known her for 3 years, and I only realized this feeling a year ago- dang.
Some people are earth angels, they are rare and very independent, they have to recharge their energy a lot while being selfless, you are very lucky, i believe if you want this person in your life for the long run, gently ask them what they would think about you being more than just friends.
@@tracynewton3083 She can indeed be described as an earth angel ahahha, and yesss she's very independent, very smart, cool, open-minded, gentle, funny and sometimes sarcastic but cute-- somehow ahahha, she got those eyes that can enchanted me, and she's the first person that can makes me blush- like actually turning my face like a crab :' She has difficulty in expressing her feelings, "INTP person" actually can describe her. I've been confess to her about my feeling, not directly tho.. with a letter, because we used to send a letter even though we are in the same neighborhood, but it is very difficult to meet her or talk to her, and she is also very busy :') I still don't have her answer, but i'll wait, 'cus yeah.. ofc i wanna be in a long relationship with her.. but i haven't asked her about me being more than just a friend to her.. maybe i will, your suggest makes me want to ask her, thanks m8
@@Wortwort-Spooderbat yeah.. she's often saying that i'm her friend, but sometimes she doing some stuff that she only do when with me, give me a weird feeling- she also say happy whenever with me, but there's something weird around that feeling, makes me more questioning her feeling at me..
I'm so sorry to hear that :( hope you heal from that trauma and find your new lovely person who can give you that unconditional, real, pure, and genuine love🥰 you better prepared when it comes! Sending you love and hugssss❤❤
3:54 did anyone else think that that totally looked like mirabel and her sister from encanto???! Like when her sister was singing that song ab pressure and she pretended to be fine...
Well... I show love and care through touch, I touch everyone I care for (not inappropriately). Even though I show love through touch, I never touch anyone I have a romantic interest in. It's not because I don't want to give them a pat on the back or a hug, it's more that I don't want the affection to be one-sided or make them uncomfortable. I don't know why, but I tend to avoid my crushes...
bro i really like this girl, and she asked to hang out because i told her i’m trying out for a sport she’s really good at. she told me she would help me praxtice. she’s realy sweet but idk if she just wants to be friends. today she came up to me specifically and told me i should go stand with her and her friends
... Life is too short for these games... If you're attracted to someone, just tell them... Take the risk even if you get rejected... You only live once... Go for it!
Don't say that :( I bet there is at least one person who adores and likes you so much but they still have no courage to tell you yet or even to let you know about that ^^❤
Just last night, my wife was telling me a story about when she first introduced me to one of her childhood friends. That entire time, she noticed her friend's voice was higher pitched than normal whenever she was talking to me. We never met that friend again after that, lol. But it's interesting how some people's behavior literally changes like that.
I'm totally aware that this is more of a flaw within myself but I feel like it's worth mentioning when I pick up on signs that someone is into me, act upon them and then shortly afterwards the person becomes disinterested in me. While in aware of how theoretically complex this question is, I feel it isn't unfounded: how much of this scenario is down to my own self as opposed the the general psyche of my typical romantic/sexual partner? Again I'm very aware of how deep a question this is and don't expect anything in the way of a straightforward answer, just felt like it was worth putting forward
ngl the human race will never cease to fascinate and astound me in many ways, such as our own ingrained little or less subtle ways to communicate to our peers how we feel about them, verbally or through body language, which always be a surefire way to throw us under the train at times, that really poke genuine interest in me. We're kinda cute endearing creatures when we really likes someone and are drawn to them, regardless how we usually react and respond to attraction ourselves! my neighbor who moved in right next to me last June eventually sniffed me out out of the bushes no sweat after we grew closer the night I hit a dead end in the conversation around that subject and lwokey admitted to have feelings for her and goddang yall... i be buzzing and humming quietly with love for her it was probably etched on my stupid face with glowing letters like a Taco Bell sign 😂 she merely had to point out "Its in your eyes when you look at me” very sweetly to bust my ass out so I couldnt backpaddle on my words ever. which I do not regret being gently pushed to that. eh guess i'm pretty awful at hiding my feelings/attraction when one special bright star catch my orbit 😂😂 this channel is so educative and insightful, brings one to mull things over curiously you guys keep up the amazing work!!
I have a crush on someone and she displays a lot of these signs but she’s a pretty open person in general. What is making me guess she might possibly like me back is that she’s very invested in what I talk about and always laughs at my jokes. Considering I’m a very awkward and odd person, she makes me feel noticed and important and she doesn’t give other people that same level of attention. Could just be a friend thing idk
Love all your content keep the good work. If it's possible do a video where you do a comparison with liking someone and being attracted. If you guys could break it down for me to know the difference that would be great!
but mirroring someone can also just mean that you are comfortable with a person! I personally catch myself mirroring all of my friends and familiy members all the time
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Things I do, when I'm attracted to someone: try to avoid them
Why is this? 🤔
Same 😭
@@MissTiffthegreat cuz I'm always attracted to straight, taken women and also I'm awkward
Meee
SAME IM JUST SCARED TO BE IN THEIR PRESENCE AND BE NEXT TO THEM
Things I do when I like someone
1: look at them
2: look away
3: don’t talk to them
4: walk away
5: avoid them at all costs
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Hahahaha sooo trueee
There's only one thing to pay attention to. Their effort in talking to you, and seeing you. A person's effort shows their interest in you
Yes!
damn
Totally. If someone wants to see u, they will
But body language is a better indicator. Some people come off as cold or uninterested when they're really actually hella nervous or don't know what to say to you. They can lie about something too or be a little mean (for some reason some people are mean to hide their feelings. It's no excuse for treating you wrong though.) Some people are scared so they don't even look at you when you're looking at them. People are complicated, follow your intuition and watch their body.
@@theQueen. yes that is true to. But we're talking about what they do when you're not around, how eager they are to see you. In person body language sure does the talking
2 signs I am attracted to someone :
- Avoid them
- Do everything in my power not to show it to the point where they might think I hate them 💀
why?
@@lolyoutubeistrash I think it's because in my head there is 0 chance that the feeling will be reciprocated. Low self esteem plays a huge part I must say.
Meee toooo!!!
my crush does this to me, is it really true?
@@vagabonde9254 same except I don't want my crush to be reciprocated
8 things that make me feel better after a long day
1. the narrator's voice
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Same though
Same lol
Her voice is so soothing, it’s like a much needed cuddle after a long day. Or drinking a cup of tea that’s at just the right temperature while listening to soft jazz. Or your cat purring on your lap. Or looking at pictures of -Jake Gyllenhaal- Danny DeVito
@@udontevenwannaknowbruv lmfao
Facts. Here she is giving us advice for the girl we're simping for meanwhile the girl I'm simping for is her
Side note: friendliness ≠ flirting. Mirroring behaviour and distraction can be signs of ADHD or spectrum behaviour, and open/enthusiastic body language can be caused by masking or excitement about a conversation topic or relief at fitting into a social interaction. The best way to know if someone is flirting with you is to ask if they're interested
Hahaha… N o .
Of course im gonna do that!! NOT!
If you don't want to ask then all you can do is guess and that's your choice 🤷♀️ Just don't be presumptuous because what you may consider flirting might not be flirting at all and if you don't get an outcome you want then don't feel lead on
Tfw both you and your crush are on the spectrum:
We went to a movie some months back and we just kept repeating each other somewhat. Right now we’re still just friends and I’m okay with that but I’m glad to have made a friend with him
*8 Signs Someone Is Highly Attracted To You*
0:49 1) Mirroring Behavior
1:28 2) Physical Flirtation
2:06 3) Belly Button Alignment
2:44 4) Open Body Language
3:32 5) Eyebrow Flash
4:27 6) Voice Changes
5:22 7) Inward Leaning
6:10 8) Distracted Behavior
:)
Very useful, thanks.
7 out of 8 for me and 6 out of 8 for her
These list are convenient but discourage ppl from actually watching the video.
@@goddessrick8734 yeah but if Psych2Go didn’t like it they would say something
Not me behaving like this front of my crush-
Things I do when I like someone
1. Laugh a LOT
2. Say wack things
3. Text excessively but only when they text first
4. Stop texting and talking bc I think you hate me and I’m making them uncomfortable
5. Avoid touch and apologize when I reactively touch them
Same :D
nice
The first 4 can be looked past. The last 1 cannot
Well, none of what you mentioned or got mentioned in the video happened to me, not even avoiding types 😅
It's sad when that person is no longer attracted to you and already moved on because you kept on ignoring and avoiding them even though you like them back.
Thos sounds like female problems cant relate with that luckely
Obviously? Being avoided like that hurts, people won't chase after you forever
I didn’t think about that for some reason, I need to start being more obvious about it
Felt this🥲 it’s basically self sabotage but working on not doing that shi. Cuz it ruins a lot of chances
returning and being humble while contacting back is always a welcome move in such matters
The inclusion of the “Hi, stranger” guy at 5:45 caught me so off guard that I screamed a laugh. 😂
Thank u for saying that. Hahaha! I had a great laugh too!
i was like "wait. what was that?" 😂
@@marielucieschindler My thoughts exactly 😂😂I’m a child in a grown persons body. Why do I find this so funny😆Glad I’m not the only one 🤣🤣🤣
Same I missed that guy
😂😂😂😂😂
3:48 I love how you included Luisa and Mirabel from Encanto in the video! So adorable! ☺️
Omg I just noticed too! I was like wait a minuteeeee
I know right! so cool!
Yeahh that’s cool ^^
Yesss, omg I just saw "Luisa's eye twiching"!
I was just about to comment that the characters looked like them!
I used to get so excited whenever I saw these signs in a crush. Then I learned attraction is just phase one. A person might be attracted to you, but that doesn't mean they have feelings. Feelings might grow with time, if you're both willing to spend time together. If you both want something beyond the physical. If you both share and keep an emotional connection. However, a lot of people leave at phase one... I think we all deserve so much more than those physical language signs. We deserve our significant other's presence in our lives, their concrete gestures, their love. Attraction is amazing, but it is just a piece of a greater thing.
I'm still trying to get to phase one lol
In case you don't relate to all of these signs it's okay dude
You're lovable , you're worthy and you're great and enough , it doesn't matter if the people we love aren't attracted to us or even normal people what matters is the way you see yourself not others . Have a great day ❤️❤️❤️
Omg i didn't expect all these likes
Thanks. Won't stop me from making fun of myself though. I have fun with my life either way
@@JAMESLORDTHE7TH saaaame!! XDDD
@@JAMESLORDTHE7TH have to agree with you on that one man I don't know if I'm good enough for her tho
@@tom-is-grinding okay let's suppose you're not good enough for her, that doesn't mean that u ain't enough in general idk what am i saying XDDDDDDD
True but men gotta make the first approach usually and work on themselves to be desirable. It's ok to love yourself but if you don't have any luck with women It's best to improve yourself while still being u at the core. I think sometimes saying you're good enough is masking complacency.
The mirroring is 100% a sign that someone is so attracted to you. I noticed this a lot.
(your) example?
@@esthervip Like if you are using a Kraken gaming headphone. Then she suddenly used the very same brand of gaming headset and model product the next day. And she may also imitate your laugh and your body language a lot. 🙂
Ya, and funny bc when people start doing that too much, i stop being attracted to them
I find it easier to just assume no one is attracted to me in any situation. It's a safe bet that prevents a lot potentially awkward interaction lol.
exactly!
I've got quite poor social skills and part of that is I'm very oblivious to flirtation. Unless someone outright tells me that they find me attractive, I always assume they're just being friendly. Just recently my mom and I went to buy stuff for my apartment and afterwards my mom said that the guy who helped us in the store was flirting with me and I just??? What???? I thought that was a regular conversation wtf 😅
@@KreeZafi same. I never understand when someone is flirting. That's why when I have a crush on someone, I always assume that he doesn't like me back
@@sofycolt27 "Luckily" (?) I'm never interested in anyone myself so at least I don't miss out on what could have been reciprocal feelings lol
Just a reminder to not be too hard on yourself. Life is hard, it’s more than ok to relax and give yourself a break. If you are going through a tough time I wish you the best. Things will get better. And your stronger and more powerful than you’ll ever know😁
youre right! same to you, thank you ☺️
yes!
Thanks you too
Thank you.💜
Oh, thank you stranger❤ that truly made feel better and I truly hope the same for you ❤
I love the animations as much as the information 💜
Thank you!
It's hard to pretend that you don't love someone when the truth is you are so in love with that person🥰
It's hard to tell if the person you love, loves you back.
@@SquidCena if they really love you, they're gonna show it to ya!!…🤔🙆🏻♀️
It sounds interesting. Could you please relate your thoughts for more understanding?
@@SquidCena Because if you act avoidant how can they know how you feel, so how can they feel safe to show that they like you?
I'm a grown man and I've only just recently begun to pay attention to body language as I've been pretty much oblivious all my life. I missed some opportunities either because of that, or because I rationalized my way out of it. "I must be imagining things," or "Nah, it would never work out." The mind is really good at that it seems, haha.
It's true that paying attention to body language matters and whereas people lie, the body rarely if ever does. There are a bunch of books on the topic. But, if you're a fellow over-analyzer, it's best to let it filter into your subconscious and not to obsess over it.
Oh yes, you describes me to a T.
I agree with you on the 'not obsessing over analysing body language' part. But i think that non verbal communication can be faked. Humans have always used deception at some point in their lives to establish better relationships. It may sound morally corrupt but we all have done it consciously or unconsciously.
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Yes. It’s good to pick up on signs to give clues, but they are not good to obsess over like you said! I used to be obsessed with body language to the point where I would read into things incorrectly. It’s a good guide if you want to pick up on peoples’ moods, but you can’t know exactly what is causing the person to be in such a mood and they could just have a unique baseline for expressing those moods!
Thank you for sharing!
I tend to distance myself when I'm crushing on someone, and brush off a conversation when it starts to go outside of just work stuff. It's not about them - I just hate the feeling when people notice that I like someone (especially if they're his friends), which is something that I know I should not mind but I do.
is there a reason for that or is it irrational?
@@userm180 I don’t like the attention it brings when other people notice, and that’s the problem cos then I miss out on getting to know the person more 🤷🏻♂️
@@NumberFiveYT but how do u know they even notice u like them?
@@userm180 I don’t, because of this habit which I do to myself. I am aware that it’s restricting me to develop a relationship and it’s something I need to work on
@@NumberFiveYT have you tried continuously telling urself that no one notices? "brainwashing" yourself works most of the time
watching this so I don't make it obvious that I like my crush
Same here 😂
Oh gosh, I’m doing that too! But, I have a feeling my crush may know already…👀
I want her to know
watching this so i do (and so i can tell if i see these)
*Monke*
I'm ugly on the inside!
@@joepemberton9031 how do you mean exactly?
Are you still w that girl?
@@yyxmi nah bro she changed school and moved to another city :/
Edit: big L for me Ig
Hey I read your story and it was wholesome💜
Thank you so much for all the things you help all of us with!
Thank you for your extra support for our channel, Matthias! You're very welcome. We're so happy to share message around!
Personnally ive seen myself do the exact opposite whenever im attracted to someone i try to never meet their eyes or to stare the less possible at them because of the fear of getting them to feel uncomfortable. I also respond to them rly coldly to not let them see any of my emotion... and i always realize it after it happens its so frustrating i guess im scared that i might be seen as weird or that i dont like being vulnerable, 😔
This is so relatable 😩
same, i cant even look at him
yea, i think more introverted and/or socially anxious people tend to double-think this kind of thing and do the opposite in order to not show their feelings
Same with me,, and its freaking hard to show off
There's this one guy who's hard to look at in the eyes because his eyes are super blue, it feels uncomfortable
As an Introvert I realized I'm highly attracted to everyone I Talk.
SUS
Even 9 year old girls?
@@freshlybakedb Especially 9 year olds
same 😬
Same bruh
I never understand why showing interest in someone is embarrassing for most people, like why can’t we just be flattered someone finds us attractive and capable enough to possibly envision a future (wether long or short term) with us.
It's the awkwardness of rejection
Ya but if you don' t take a chance and/ or say how you feel you' ll never know! And what' s the worst thing that could happen?.....Laughing in your face? If a person did that they are pond scum and they don' t deserve you anyway!
I agree with you, my husband let me know right away when I first met him that he was interested in me. It avoided unnecessary hassle of waiting and wondering if he is into me. I told him that I liked him too. It’s better to try than just wait and see what happens.
It's ego related...
Agreed although I understand why sometimes it is embarrassing I feel like women more than men have this fear. And they like to act like making a move should be a gender specific role when it shouldn’t be at all. I think it’s super cool when a women That’s into me shows it or at least makes effort to talk to me rather than act like they hate me or reserved..
The truth is if flirting/making the first move had. 100% success rate women would find the idea of making the first move being a men’s job as barbaric and so old fashion.. but because it can be embarrassing and at times hard they don’t want anything to do with it and say it’s a man’s job
my favourite one is the eyebrow lift micro expression. whenever my boyfriend sees me when he’s not explicitly expecting it, he does it and his face lights up and rushes over to hug me it’s really cute.
THATS SO CUTE!!
As a man who came looking for subtle signs women dk when they’re attracted to someone I have to say the eyebrow one is real at least for me .. some girl I work that is so fine my eyebrows just raise when I see her especially if she catches me by surprise it’s kinda embarrassing
@@andrewbees5705 lolll maybe you should confess haha 😮💨😉😏😏
Here are 8 signs:
1.Mirroring behaviour.
2.Physical flirtation.
3.Belly button alignment.
4.Open body language.
5.Eyebrow flash.
6.Voice changes.
7.Inward leaning.
8.Distracted behaviour.
Hope this helps😊
Have a good day💙
Thx!
Straight to the damn point, THANK YOU
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@@StaccatoRedFox Happy to help:)
@@creeperYT9824 where does It go?
I always just assume everyone is purely friendly to me because who could possibly be attracted to me? and then when I like someone, I suppress my attraction to the person and try to act purely friendly to them because rejection is terrifying.
Took the words straight out of my brain, good to know it’s not just me lol
So what if someone is really attracted to you and never would reject you? Would you just crush them out of fear?
Same. Glad to see that I am not the only one
When I am attracted to someone - I show them, but never tell/admit it unless they confront me.
Food For Thought: Just be yourself, someone will eventually find your uniqueness attractive.
I have had to find out who I want to be over time though
I hope so. It's been 22 years and I've yet to find someone who thinks my "uniqueness is attractive".
@@dannysiragusa2000 you will find someone, trust me. I did even when I was depressed and weird af, so don't worry about it.
And I thought no one would love me being a serial killer 😔
@@alexandraghita7239 that's just lucky.
the fact that this video has been recommended to me at the right time. this is a sign.
I have had people "mirror" me most of my life. Only started to see and understand it in my early 30's. I also discovered I do it too. Usually when I catch myself doing it it's while having a conversation that is interesting. When I lose myself in a topic I like with someone.
Don't know why this is in my feeds.
But for everyone out there, just remember that you are good enough. If the person you're attracted to doesn't see that, it's their loss.
At the end of the day, love yourself and forget about those who don't deserve you. Attraction is one thing, but it means nothing if the heart is trash.
I think when someone is always looking at you and then when you notice it, they will look away, you can somehow tell that they are feeling something about you
In most cases but not always..I can give you an example..I always catch gaze of one of my coworkers and look away,because I feel so awkward,I'm not interested in him and somehow I often catch him looking at me but I don't want him to think that I like him or something,also I'm embarassed
The number of videos you've made is astonishing, in a good way
Thank you for acknowledging that platonic attraction exists! :)
they're gay
Yes!!
that would no longer be platonic at that point
What does that exactly mean?
@@theQueen. It's when you really want to be close to someone but not romantically. The best examples would be when you want to be really close friends with someone (Because they are cool, fun to be around, you look up to them, etc.) or if you have a long lost relative and want to regain that close bond with them. Even trying your best to be acknowledged by someone you deeply respect would count.
9. Her ankles are next to her ears.
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The only sure sign
how does that work?
Wtfip
I don't even suspect that someone is attracted to me. I'm only watching this so that I can somehow convince myself that I'm not as ugly as I think
God's got a special someone for u!! You are beautiful or handsome just the way u are!
I'm certain you're great the way you are. Don't be so hard on yourself. You have great traits others don't, I guarantee you.
Not everyone is attractive and still found a partner.
Im a normal looking female human being. Just be yourself. Find hobbies or do stuff you like. Someday you will find someone who likes the same things and you can bond over these.
Look around yourself. Most girls date whoever meets their standart. They dont have to be attractive.
Someones standart could be: can cook for me, is romantic and likes cats.
So look for someone who you think meets your standarts and hopefully you meet theirs.
Good luck 👌
(My grandma found herself a new bf after a horrible marriage with her abusive husand. Its never too late ❤)
same
😂
It’s like you read my mind on what I wanted to know about someone rn
Me too man, me too.
What I do when I like a guy:
1. Talk to him
2. Laugh at his jokes
3. Tell him what I am currently struggling with
4. Protect him in fights
5. Try to get to know him better
6. Try to find really subtile if he has a gf
Okayy so I wrote this 10 months ago when I had a crush on my bsf but now I have a crush on another guy and we're not really friends so I don't do any of the things above, buttt he likes me back yay
Same with me
"4. Protect him in fights"...what? 😂
@@Nitu_S.C. tbh I have no idea what I meant with that 5 months ago 🥲
@nataliaaa18 u probably meant defending him...like if ppl are talking shit abt him ,u normally defend him and say that he doesn't act the way that they say he does
@@lively2242 yeah
dont do that, dont give me hope
Everyone is so kind and beautiful in their on way so if someone dose not like you back you still know deep down in your heart ♥️ your awesome and beautiful!
A little reminder: Love will come to you no matter what, even if you think you're unlovable. Stop actively looking for love and it will come to you when it has to and when you least expect it. We all deserve a little love in our lives. ❤
@@bbysootsprite I used to think the same way you do. I thought i was unlovable and that i'd never reach happiness outside the academic field - which didn't even fulfill me that much. It took me years and lots of therapy to reunite the strength to get out of bed and do any basic chore. My perception of myself was also hideous. I would look at myself in the mirror and cry nonstop because i thought i'd never feel beautiful or liked.
It took lots of strength and determination to get out of such a bad mental state. I know this sounds cheesy, but loving myself was the way. Of course, i was very privileged to get the help i needed and i have always had supportive parents by my side, so this was easier thanks to them.
I'm so, so sorry you feel that way. You deserve to be happy and loved and anyone who told you or made you feel like you didn't is wrong. I'm sure you will find happiness and love in your life.
30 years old and I’ve found no one. My window to try has closed and it only gets harder from here on out. You’re full of lies and false hopes. Just stop
@@bbysootspriteVictim mindset, from the Drama Triangle. Affirming this will keep you in a cycle where you believe you're unlovable and others are as well. It's not just how it is, it's how you've made it to be.
I've heard this advice for over 10 years now and since I stopped even attempting, it has gotten worse.
@@danieltalebi1040 !!! This
I love how the animation is different every video
most dude even myself know that it's been years since we felt the touch of an other human being
So what we get hella high I’m like so what
especially as a queer person it's hard to tell whether someone is just being friendly or flirting
lol love your user name
That is so true!.
I’ve been talking about this recently. Lots of grey area.
Story of my life!
I finally met someone I had hopes for, and these videos are finally interesting to me and I don't skip them like I used to with the thought of "Oh, I have neither a relationship nor have I had"
Fun fact: if u feel ugly and feel like nobody likes you… well that’s a lie because there is ALWAYS someone in ur life that has a crush on you ALWAYS
Maybe for women
I would say no but its always when i least expect it i get asked out
No, it's not true. At least for me 😔
@@hamster2213 for men too.. trust me there is atleast 1 girl that likes you TRUST ME
@@tablelegz see know what I say
One person in my dating history had an unusual habit of fake yawning whenever someone he was attracted to was around, or when he was having to deal with a discussion about anything emotional (such a his crush talking about their love life or walking by with their partner, or even just seeing his crush), or any time he felt tempted to blurt out an admission of his attraction. He would also get fidgety hands, whereas he is normally not a fidgety person.
If someone is constantly yawning or clearing their throat when you're around, and you aren't talking (so you know they aren't yawning because you're boring them), it might be a sign of interest.
I yawn when I’m lying 😂
How would you interpret someone who admitted in the past being strongly attracted to you and has been avoiding you for years because of that reason, fidgeting with a beer bottle in your presence when not talking to you -and when I say fidgeting I mean FINGERING the bottle opening with his thumb or other fingers? Because I asked somewhere and they mocked me for being delusional, but never in my life never seen a guy (not this one either) dig his whole fingers in a half full beer bottle while watching a show. Actually noticed because I found it slightly gross 😆 It needn't be he wants to finger me but sounds at least like a bit of a strong pacifying behaviour lol
My voice definitely softens up when I like somebody and I smile more. I tend to be shy.
Why am I watching this when I don’t even have any friends
This video hits home to me because I have liked this girl for over 2 years now and she is rlly pretty and my best friend. She would copy and mimic my mannerisms and I myself wouldn't even notice until my friends told me. I had a feeling she liked me but I was too scared to ask her out. So instead I asked her out to prom as a friend and she said yes and she even called me her prom king lol. Idk how I didn't get the hint. Then instead of going to prom I went travelling to the US and basically left her prom less (tbf this was during covid so I just assumed prom wasn't happening). Anyways 6 months later, I'm at a different school and I'm still thinking about her and with the help of my friends I call her and do it. I asked her out. She said no. I was pretty heartbroken but I stayed friends with her and understood. 4 months later, I've still kept in contact with her I've pretty much lost my romantic interest with her and then I meet this other girl who was toxic to me. So i rant about this toxic gal to my best friend. She gives me pretty good advice and then she texts me saying... 'yk when you called me, I was going through some hard shit in my life but if it was another time I would've said something else on that phone I'm not even joking'. That gave me happiness but extreme sadness at the same time. Because I played it so safe I never got a chance with her and when I asked her why she said its a '4 am type convo'. I never realised asked her if she liked me still and here I am 4 months later, Im still friends with her, she admitted to liking me in the past but I don't have a damn clue if she likes me now but screw it. When I feel better I'm gonna have a talk with her and ask her again because I rlly do like her. Pray for me fellas 🙏
You sound like a catch, I wish you luck!
How has things been?
Please, update us!
@@ivymellemoscoso2141 Just found this thread again lol. Basically this girl is kind of a prick and I hate her now. I moved on from her cus she said she liked me a year ago and that I was too late. And she didn't want any relationship and then 2 months later she's dating my best friend which I was mad at for like a month but now I dont really care. The whole situation taught me just shoot your shot and don't hold onto the past cus I wasted my time thinking about her when she basically used me and never really cared about me. Anyways now I'm just focusing on myself some women have shown interest in me the past few months but I fumbled lmao. I do have hope for this new year that I can find someone good for me as I graduate from high school in 5 months. There is this girl I like she's really hot but very quiet like me I spoke to her once like 6 months ago lol and she found me funny but ever since then haven't said much. I just know she really likes music and she's in a band and all that. So I'm debating whether I should make a move or just leave it.
How are y'all doing now?
I'm definitely an eyebrow flasher when I see someone attractive, I can't help it 😯 that one had me cheesin like "damn they're onto me!" 😂
You know this actually helped a lot and it boosted my confidence a little
Emotions are difficult to gauge and are always subject to change. As someone who doesn’t always recognize when someone is showing me interest, the easiest way I’ve found to break the ice with someone I feel may be interested is to simply say “I have a hard time recognizing affection appropriately, are you interested in me? Or simply just being kind?” Both are rooted in positive intent and often your honesty will be appreciated. If you’re wrong on your assessment then that’s okay too. It doesn’t devalue you as a person or mitigate your self-worth. Honesty has a higher success rate in forming strong emotional bonds than simply trying to be something you are not at your core to please others. I will find love as will you. We deserve it.
I'm interested in you lol 😁
Hey there... so how did it go?
who let bro cook🔥
That was a solid way to bring up that question to someone, and also shows maturity.
Always remember that you're worthy.
Some of us just aren't. By definition, not everyone is special.
@@pablozamalvide5196 But you can be special in your own way. We may not know, but there are people who see your worth more than you do.
Can we just take a moment and look at this beautiful art style
this channel’s videos are so comforting
Okay now I know some people think they can’t tell if someone is attracted to them because maybe they don’t feel good looking enough or pretty enough.
But people who are oblivious AND attractive, we have it just as bad actually. I can never tell if someone is attracted to me and I have to rely on a third party intel, or a best friend in order to catch on with these things. I couldn’t believe how air-headed I can be when someone does find me attractive I just never assume it will happen or I look at it as whatever. But than a friend of mines told me “You have a very calculating way of showing ‘interest’ in someone.” Now I’m just very self aware with these things ever since I’ve been told.
I always just assume someone is just being extremely nice to me and than I slowly realize before it’s too late that . . . You get the point I’m trying to make.
I feel the exact same way as you .
I was thinking about my crush while watching this video (to remember if she did any of these) and then I realized I literally did all of these when she was around. Although it’s hard for me to retain eye contact (inward leaning) with her because I always think it would be obvious I liked her if she could see my face.
You can start by being friends and building confidence around them
I love the narrators voice, it’s is so pleasant and calming
Gotta love your content. Thanks for making this year a little bit better. ❤️
YES FR
Glad you're enjoying!
You guys are so aware of your undertones. Thank you. I love your videos! 💞
Things I do when I like someone (i'm a girl):
When it's a person i don't know:
I try to be in the same room as them.
I stare at them and look away when caught.
I laugh really loud to catch their attention.
When it's someone i'm friends with:
Hug them a lot
Give compliments
Bully (in a friendly way ofc)
and following them around.
This is just sum stuff i do lol
also stalk their profiles on social media heheheheh >:)
Ahaha so funny this video just came out and I've been daydreaming a bit. I started working at a new job and I've developed a small crush on a coworker. Growing up crushes were always shameful and embarrassing but I think this is the first time in my life I've just felt comfortable having a crush, even as an adult (but I think 'crush' is defined differently now, more just general attraction). I've had a long road of coping with bad social anxiety and I'm in a really good place. I think I act relatively normal, but boundaries such as relationships and crushes and signals are just so hard for me still.
I thought I was fine just enjoying myself until the person I'm interested in started showing some interesting signs....
The first thing I noticed was how much they offered to help me at my new job... even if it was a bit futile because our roles did not overlap at all. The second thing as I started seeing them more in person, I noticed their voice DID change but especially when we said goodbye at the end of the day, but its hard to compare to others but its significant. They have a very high social IQ so they are a great communicator with everyone, and of course getting to know someone takes a bit.
I don't know if I do any of these, but I think it might be fun to TRY and do these as well as keeping an eye out.
SO interesting. Have fun everyone.
"Open body language"
Me, who has a split second panic attack around an attractive man and crosses my arms to feel secure: "Oop"
Things I do when I have a crush:
1. Do nothing
2. Don't notice it
3. I'm aroace
How I react when Somebody else has an crush on me:
1. Pity them
2. Feel bad for them
3. Ignore them
How unpleasant. So if someone likes you you despise them? You don't deserve them then.
@@angelam.e.richardson3501 I rarely get secret admirers, and I never even liked them. Plus I'm aroflux or aroace, making me overall not interested in a relationship. And I also feel weird whenever somebody has a crush on me, because I don't like it when people catch that kind of feelings for me.
Here are signs how i express my crush:
I run away from them
I avert eye contact as soon as they look back
I tend to hate them to try and get over it
I bully them
So yea, it's not healthy but i never display these signs when i like someone because of my attachment disorder. I'mso aware of myself i do the opposite. So not everyone that likes you can be so open and inviting. Some are horrendously mean, but that shows they can't cope with those feelings usually
how i express i have a crush: tell them i have budding romantic feelings for them and then immediately either run away and actively avoid them, or block them if i'm not around my crush much. 🙃
How I express I have a crush:
I dont have a crush
It's good that you've noticed this. First step to improvement.
yes exactly! there is this man who i know likes me and is very attracted to me. he did a 180 of being super friendly to now totally avoiding me and being way more standoffish when he sees me....
hmm have you tried therapy?
Number 8 feels v true for me. My bestie and I can never get anywhere and have to turn around pretty much every time we drive somewhere because were both always so attracted to each other’s energy and the conversation. Hard to focus on directions when the convos just so engaging haha. Oddly before this video i felt funny about that, but this made me just feel very happy to have her as a friend. Thanks :)
Woah. I tested some of the advices many times and it really helps to at least having a sense whether someones attracted to us or not. Physical touch i think is one of the most useful guidance to see genuine/reflex responds
And do you ask the person if he/she really is attracted to you?
@@shanegonzales1178 Sometimes, when i feel sure about it. I tend not to ask when i feel like receiving mixed signals. So yeah very intuitive😅
@@maudyyulia1089 there is a someone who I have a crush on. She greeted me on social media and said "happy birthday, mate". Im so confused. I saw some of these signs when we have deep talks.
There's a moment when i'm breaking down infront of my crush, and she looked at me while pulling my hand to a more comfortable place to hear what I was going through, even though at that time she was busy, but she was there and listened to me, also comforting me.
As long as I conveyed what I felt at that time, she looked at me intently, while holding my hand with the intention of comfort, I couldn't help but be embarrassed while being with her at that time.
After I feel better, we talk for a while. At that time, it suddenly rained and made the conversation even longer. I chuckle and tell her I'm grateful that she's the person I like. She was silent, I was blunt and she said she was actually shy but chose to be silent, I became embarrassed and fell silent hearing it. Our hands were still holding each other at that time.
And at the end, she had to go, I asked for a hug, then she hugged me, and said this..
"Thank you for living and fighting until now my friend,"
"Yeah.. thank you too"
"I love you"
And I was shocked- it's the first time I've heard those words spoken from her..
"I-i l-love you too"
And then she smiled, then saying goodbye, and go..
She means a lot to me, I'm lucky to meet her. Never felt like this before, I've known her for 3 years, and I only realized this feeling a year ago- dang.
Some people are earth angels, they are rare and very independent, they have to recharge their energy a lot while being selfless, you are very lucky, i believe if you want this person in your life for the long run, gently ask them what they would think about you being more than just friends.
@@tracynewton3083 She can indeed be described as an earth angel ahahha, and yesss she's very independent, very smart, cool, open-minded, gentle, funny and sometimes sarcastic but cute-- somehow ahahha, she got those eyes that can enchanted me, and she's the first person that can makes me blush- like actually turning my face like a crab :'
She has difficulty in expressing her feelings, "INTP person" actually can describe her.
I've been confess to her about my feeling, not directly tho.. with a letter, because we used to send a letter even though we are in the same neighborhood, but it is very difficult to meet her or talk to her, and she is also very busy :')
I still don't have her answer, but i'll wait, 'cus yeah.. ofc i wanna be in a long relationship with her.. but i haven't asked her about me being more than just a friend to her.. maybe i will, your suggest makes me want to ask her, thanks m8
Mate ya got sidelined. She loves you as a brother/friend. not a boyfriend. Ffs she called you friend
@@Wortwort-Spooderbat yeah.. she's often saying that i'm her friend, but sometimes she doing some stuff that she only do when with me, give me a weird feeling- she also say happy whenever with me, but there's something weird around that feeling, makes me more questioning her feeling at me..
@heyshivang yeahh i will, and thank you ! Same with you m8 :D !
I've caught a few of these signs but between my ex and the person he was attracted to. That's why seeing those signs again is low-key like a "trauma"
I'm so sorry to hear that :( hope you heal from that trauma and find your new lovely person who can give you that unconditional, real, pure, and genuine love🥰 you better prepared when it comes! Sending you love and hugssss❤❤
3:54 did anyone else think that that totally looked like mirabel and her sister from encanto???! Like when her sister was singing that song ab pressure and she pretended to be fine...
that’s because It is them😂
Well... I show love and care through touch, I touch everyone I care for (not inappropriately). Even though I show love through touch, I never touch anyone I have a romantic interest in. It's not because I don't want to give them a pat on the back or a hug, it's more that I don't want the affection to be one-sided or make them uncomfortable. I don't know why, but I tend to avoid my crushes...
bro i really like this girl, and she asked to hang out because i told her i’m trying out for a sport she’s really good at. she told me she would help me praxtice. she’s realy sweet but idk if she just wants to be friends. today she came up to me specifically and told me i should go stand with her and her friends
Me: *experiences the opposite of all these signs*
I'll make fun of myself till the day I die. Thanks for the video. Good night
So that’s why my friend who is now my lover does everything I do
... Life is too short for these games... If you're attracted to someone, just tell them... Take the risk even if you get rejected... You only live once... Go for it!
Couldn't have said it better
@@tasyfan.314 .. Yay🎊
I saw some of these signs from my crush so I told him how I felt. Unfortunately he didn't feel the same. But at least now I know.
It's okay, girl. At least he knows that you are a cool girl🥰❤
Kudos to you, you are brave and honest!
"Mirroring behavior"
No wonder my grandparents act like each other ☠️ they fight so much
She offered me a biscuit as a thank you for taking her home.
Why did I turn it down!
What I learned from this video: No one finds me attractive and apparently I find everyone attractive.
Don't say that :( I bet there is at least one person who adores and likes you so much but they still have no courage to tell you yet or even to let you know about that ^^❤
Me trying to figure out if my crush likes me in the same way i like her by watching these videos.
I've done the eyebrow flash before. I try to keep myself, but it is too strong to fight.
Just last night, my wife was telling me a story about when she first introduced me to one of her childhood friends. That entire time, she noticed her friend's voice was higher pitched than normal whenever she was talking to me. We never met that friend again after that, lol. But it's interesting how some people's behavior literally changes like that.
I'm totally aware that this is more of a flaw within myself but I feel like it's worth mentioning when I pick up on signs that someone is into me, act upon them and then shortly afterwards the person becomes disinterested in me. While in aware of how theoretically complex this question is, I feel it isn't unfounded: how much of this scenario is down to my own self as opposed the the general psyche of my typical romantic/sexual partner?
Again I'm very aware of how deep a question this is and don't expect anything in the way of a straightforward answer, just felt like it was worth putting forward
it really depends on the situation and how you act upon those signs
Not sure I understand the question.. But maybe u get partners that just like the chase...
things i do when i like someone: talk to them
look at them
think about them
dream abt them
Two girls in the thumbnail. Good for you!
Every time I try and align my belly button with my crush, all I hear is “put on your shirt”, and “that’s not a belly button”.....Love is hard
ngl the human race will never cease to fascinate and astound me in many ways, such as our own ingrained little or less subtle ways to communicate to our peers how we feel about them, verbally or through body language, which always be a surefire way to throw us under the train at times, that really poke genuine interest in me. We're kinda cute endearing creatures when we really likes someone and are drawn to them, regardless how we usually react and respond to attraction ourselves! my neighbor who moved in right next to me last June eventually sniffed me out out of the bushes no sweat after we grew closer the night I hit a dead end in the conversation around that subject and lwokey admitted to have feelings for her and goddang yall... i be buzzing and humming quietly with love for her it was probably etched on my stupid face with glowing letters like a Taco Bell sign 😂 she merely had to point out "Its in your eyes when you look at me” very sweetly to bust my ass out so I couldnt backpaddle on my words ever. which I do not regret being gently pushed to that. eh guess i'm pretty awful at hiding my feelings/attraction when one special bright star catch my orbit 😂😂 this channel is so educative and insightful, brings one to mull things over curiously you guys keep up the amazing work!!
We should all appreicate the information they give us :))
I have a crush on someone and she displays a lot of these signs but she’s a pretty open person in general. What is making me guess she might possibly like me back is that she’s very invested in what I talk about and always laughs at my jokes. Considering I’m a very awkward and odd person, she makes me feel noticed and important and she doesn’t give other people that same level of attention. Could just be a friend thing idk
The eyebrow flash is so me. Whenever I see my crush, my eyebrows subconsciously raise for a second
Love all your content keep the good work. If it's possible do a video where you do a comparison with liking someone and being attracted. If you guys could break it down for me to know the difference that would be great!
That “Hi, stranger” part will forever be engraved in my mind. (5:46)
I’m tired of mixed signals, if he wanted me he’d speak out. I’m done.
The animations are so cute~ I can't💔
but mirroring someone can also just mean that you are comfortable with a person! I personally catch myself mirroring all of my friends and familiy members all the time