Funny how that works out isnt it, we are home for others yet perpetual orphans in this world. It does make me happy though to be able to give others what I never had :) I see their happiness and feel it as well, it feels warm and comforting, Im happy that my life meant something good to someone, made a positive difference in some way.
I have been thinking about this problem for a long time ( because INFJs gotta INFJ). An awareness I reached during meditation went like this: I asked into my inner universe, "where is my place in the world?" after a few months of asking the response came: "Your place is in the world you're about to create." INFJs are world-builders. We need to recognize ourselves as the seed of our home. We need to give ourselves permission to grow in that way. Reach out to others in order to find the ones who 'get it'. Grow to tolerate the discomfort of seeing your perfect vision enter the world imperfectly. Have the imperfect conversations. Build the imperfect relationships. See your dream world with your waking eyes.
"INFJ's don't really speak unless they know that what they're going to say will land, and sometimes that can leave them silent if there is nobody around that they trust their ideas will land with." ... Wow. That is me 100%. Thanks again.
"talking with an INFJ is like coming home" made me tear up.. as an INFJ I don't think I've ever felt that with someone else but I think I've seen the look in many peoples eyes. That was impactful.
I thought I was the only one ❤ God bless you and everyone else here. Everyone, will be okay. Just trust God during the process. We're okay through Christ, just keep listening to him.😘
I'm gonna be honest, as an INFJ, I zoned out for about a quarter of this video. But only because I was thinking about the stuff you were saying and forgot to keep paying attention
I do that too even when reading it takes a while because Im analysing and processing constantly. Glad Im not the only one. Its like blah blah blah..( zoning out begins....*press pause* processing download, analysis complete *rewind*) :p
I am an INFJ & when you said “You are more than what you do for other people, you are valuable just the way you are”. 🤯. Thank you for saying this because we/I feel a lot of times we have nothing to offer others than what we do for them & think aside from that we have nothing to offer in what seems to be an extroverted world.
Exactly. I have family members and friends that enjoy the things I "do" for them but they really don't want to "hear" from me. They really don't want a heart-to-heart relationship with me and as an infj and I feel devalued by that. I feel like they expect me to always be on the bleachers watching their show and cheering for them.
I am an INFJ and I've decided to become a motivational speaker pray for me guys😅 and I hope that one day we all find the courage to speak our minds and use our hearts to find the right words to help others. Also thank you so much for this video it really does express the love that I feel many of us deny ourselves.
Emily Love that’s the tricky part there isn’t really a degree or a straight clear path to becoming a motivational speaker so most of it is just gaining experience and looking for opportunities. In a more realistic lighting it kinda works like advertising except you advertise yourself, you find your “pitch” or what you want to say to get people to listen to you. I just don’t want to get so caught up in the advertising that I forget why I want to do this , but I want to do it to help people who have struggled like I have so I don’t think that will happen.
I don't really ever see the quality of being an INFJ. Literally I can't stand loneliness and yet I'm "the loner." Most my life is spent within the inner walls of my mental palace, and the rest of the world... Feels less real than the secret gardens in my head. "Nobody cares about my perspective" is indeed how I feel in most of my interactions, and I don't mean it in "oh poor me, look at me I'm sad, bla bla bla..." But rather the root values are so different that nobody understands or cares about my chain of thoughts. The truth is I need harmony around me, but if my absence or me remaining in the shadow for harmony to happen makes sense, then it is a reasonable approach in my book...
I feel you. It is brutal. But I'd really recommend taking deliberate steps to connect. Get the Fe magic happening. The worlds current culture makes this a difficult undertaking but it is the most worthwhile undertaking. The potential joy is stronger than the pain and that means it's heavy, heavy duty.
After really looking into INFJ traits and understanding myself better, it’s like people are just on a lower, more surface level of thinking than us. It’s like our thoughts are too high for most people, so they just don’t get it. I always feel like people don’t listen to me or care for what I have to say, even though I believe what I have to say is extremely insightful. Like a wizard that no one listens to. I’ve always desired knowledge and wisdom, and now it makes sense as to why. When I’m old, I want to know “everything”. And when you feel different, you feel alone. When you don’t get the reply you want, you feel alone. Always feel like the black sheep.
I love the way you describe your rich inner life .......as an INFJ I also love escaping into my very rich inner world of imagination, thoughts, images etc etc! Also my INFJ dreams are also rich and magical.
I'm overwhelmed. I had no idea there were so many INFJ's out there. I've never met one like me. Would you please consider an INFJ blog just for us, addressing our comments? All my life I thought I was dropped off on the wrong planet and my real home was somewhere else. I had no idea that I had family here. Just knowing that I have family here makes it so much easier to ignore everything else that doesn't interest me anyway, which is pretty much everything. I can now create a life without being perpetually annoyed. I'd love to meet each and everyone of you. Perhaps we should hold an INFJ reunion. It would be the first holiday in my 60 year old life in which I would actually not be bored out of my mind. I'd love it.
@@aitreya5862 You are just adorable little one. I wish you a good life. My best advice for you is to find a subject that interests you very much and then continue to focus each week for many hours until you have completely mastered the subject. Mastery level is the most thrilling experience for an introvert. I, myself have mastered three subjects and am focusing on my fourth.
oh my GOD a bunch of INFJ's came out to play YAEEEEEE I've NEVER MET another INFJ it's soooooo hard being the only one in my life, no one to talk to .... no one who makes any sense anyway lol
and then out of the wild blue wonderful appeared... no one, also an infj... how does this make sense to happen that you call my name twice and two days later i appear for your conversational understanding? say my name, i always say... lolol... the irony... omg... say something please... this is too much for me to be talking to myself all the time... no one talks to me too lmao... th-cam.com/video/2JtvJZDGJt8/w-d-xo.html
@Jason López it's REALLY REALLY hard but I'm understanding (by not having anyone to lean on) that the strength gained as an endresult of this lonely battle is absolutely Irreplaceable I'm seeing how much stronger I am in places that most people aren't and it's because of being forced to deal with this on my own
So sorry you haven’t got an INFJ friend, I am one and my best friend for all my adult life is an INFJ, we met when we were teenagers......we are always there for each other even though I have left my home country and now live in London we talk to each other every fortnight, please find an INFJ friend!
I am an INFJ and people have always told me I am different but also said they felt comfortable and safe with me and like I always gave great advice. I'm a very quiet person until I'm very comfortable with someone and even depending on comfort levels, if I feel my advice or anything else will not be appreciated or attempted to be understood, I won't even speak. My last relationship, she always asked me if i was this quiet with everyone. Looking back now, i know i was so quiet with her because i always felt put down with her and like she would never try to have patience or understanding with me and wanted me to be her version/idea of what she wanted me to be rather than myself. You are very correct with all your infj information every video.
same here.....I tired to speak more with ex.....but just got more misunderstanding....so.....it might just not the right person for us if they can't understand us.
@@ZOEYYU unfortunately, i think you are right. And when its set in your head on the rare occasion that you find someone you fall deeply for, the reality that they can't understand you is hard to grasp.
That happened similarly with me, at least when I actually met the person. From a distance, I seemed to have been okay with it which was incredibly odd. He even said I was different and didn't understand why I had little or no friends, among other things.
As an INFJ, I can tell you that I did not come here into this current lifetime neither to change the world, right all the wrongs nor save the unsaved. I am an Old Soul now here to observe and learn for my own Soul Growth. During this time, others may notice how I demonstrate my empathy and say a great deal with just a few words either in writing or conversation. You may ask me a question. I can give you a short but stunning answer without knowing how I knew that. People ask me how I know things. I just tell them that I am 76 and just know things. I am so hopeful that I have observed, learned and performed all the tasks expected of me. Life has not been easy for me. However, I am so privileged to be an INFJ.
Well I hope you don’t lose hope in the younger generations. There are some of us worth saving. I hope you keep passing your knowledge down to leave the world a better place than it would have been if you had not been here. God knows if there’s one thing we need it’s selfless role models willing to do the right thing
Wow, a month ago, I've never communicated with INFJ female. You're the first INFJ I'm communicating with that's older than me by more than 2 years. Would be nice to chat with one. You must be like a Yoda! (I'm a 38yr INFJ).
"In many ways the world doesn't know what to do with infj's" It feels so good to be understood for once! If I said it myself I'd feel like I'm feeling sorry for myself. Your Insight and understanding combined with your articulation is nothing short of amazing.💯
I didn't realize what I was getting into. That was quite intense. I've never experienced this exact feeling before, but I like it. Thank you for being such a beautiful human being. It's hard to explain how I feel and I need to go to sleep, but this has already left a lasting impression on me. You have a remarkable understanding of the INFJ mind.
This is why as an INFJ I love ENFJs. Because you guys are not afraid of our ability and need to pierce through bullshit and just get to the most authentic core of things as possible. I feel like that's the most common perspective for us, and it's so liberating.
Thank you. Many of us INFJ's really needs to hear this. One of the hardest things for me has always been how easily we can see the truth in the world around us. I can't tell you how many times I've felt like the people around me are walking around with blindfolds...
After over 40 years on this planet and wondering what was “wrong” with me I learned I was an INFJ, HSP, empath. I also identify as being an indigo child. Not that it’s related I also have B negative blood type and an extremely rare clotting disorder that no hematologist I’ve seen has encountered. An early memory is starting school and riding the bus in kindergarten and feeling alien and disoriented like where am I? The other kids seemed content, I felt like I was in a foreign land. I could not (still don’t) understand war, weapons, why we all “can’t get along”, talk things out rationally. Love has been my ruling drive through life and it’s been devastating. I wish I had known earlier to protect myself. I love to be alone to recharge but not “alone”. I like being around people who understand that I need to be alone in my room but like living with other people. I have ALWAYS questioned why am I here, what’s the meaning of life. My mind runs like a freight train. Always thinking. Music has helped immensely. I wear headphones A LOT. I have been told people feel at home in my presence and I think it’s because I’m always concerned about the comfort of the other person even before myself. It’s nice to be able to know what I am now and to know it’s not a “flaw” like I thought for over 40 years.💫✨💜💙
INFJ's are in the minority, as in only make up something like 25% of population. I can't deal with being too accepted, that would just feel phony, cause I'm in need of my time alone. I regenerate being on my own..
At 42 yrs old, I finally had so many of my questions answered. Why doesn't anyone understand me or even try when all I do is try to understand everyone around me? Why at the end of most conversations do I get the same purplexed look? I feel uncomfortable in my own skin at times. why can't I lie, when that seems like that's all people do to me? Always thinking and overthinking everything, especially conversations I had where people looked purplexed, to figure out what made them look at me that Way. There are so many things that just being an empath, couldn't be answered.finding out I was an INFJ saved my sanity!! I'm not the only one who questions, either I'm completely insane or everyone else is.. there is truth in both..at least I know I'm not alone in this.. that is comforting.
When you said talking to an infj is like coming home I'm reminded of my college days my roommate told me that she wants to come back soon from her class so that we could chat and just talk I guess she is comfortable around me she is a very emotional and shy person
One of my best friends is INFJ, and I feel the same way like he already knows when I'm upset or sick...he too is a genius with his creativity. I value his views and thoughts on things....he feels almost like he fustrates people cause of how his mind/personality works....but I think it's beautiful.
I think we definitely frustrate people. My ex partner never valued my INFJ traits. They were in fact an annoyance to her. She always hated how I "sat on the fence". I think she only really valued what I could "do" for her 🤷🏻♂️ but more fool me for going along with it for so long. We didn't have a healthy relationship. It's hard to find anyone at all, let alone a romantic partner who values us. This is why we must value and love ourselves. Seek to understand ourselves. Know thyself, in fact.
Luke 14 V. 12 Then Jesus said to his host, “When you give a luncheon or dinner, do not invite your friends, your brothers or sisters, your relatives, or your rich neighbors; if you do, they may invite you back and so you will be repaid. 13 But when you give a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, 14 and you will be blessed. Although they cannot repay you, you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous.”
INFJ's understand you and can read you. Once they understand your personality they put themselves in your shoes and realize what you need. We are problem solvers and we are really good at it. We are careful with our words, which makes all of our words meaningful.
Jesus, I can't imagine having a partner as supportive and who SEES me as well as you: your girlfriend is so lucky...this video made me cry lol nice job!
I’m literally tearing up right now 🥺 Thank you so much for valuing me even though you don’t know me or where I am in the world. Ive been feeling down lately with the thought of working with people who don’t value my impact/input or presence and on top of that getting annoyed at myself for even caring. Thank you, I really needed this 💕
I'm right there with you, 😭😭 Its sooo healing hearing how you are valued, FOR THE TRAITS MAKE YOU YOU AT YOUR CORE!! It's so beautiful. Thank you Megan, you've giving me hope, love and encourage me to be and show my true self.
I almost teared up when you were speaking about us INFJs 😢 Alot of times I feel no one I've interacted with wants to understand me and I yearn for that. Thank you for this 💌
I don't know what I did to deserve to hear this from a stranger on the internet but I really appreciate it, sadly I have no idea how to payback for it...
I don't comment a lot on many mbti channels, but your letter pushed me to do so. It's crazy how I tend to overthink and feel bad and doubt my decisions sometimes about my career path because it's not directly helping to solve these issues that are eating away society and the world. It's frustrating because my vision is so idealistic that when you're reminded of the reality and cruelty you really start to think is it even possible that i'll be able to realize what i planned up for in my career and will i be good enough and healthy enough to be my best self for those moments and those people? It feels like we infjs carry the weight and see what's wrong and see the limits of life and how much we need to do as a race to be human and loving of the world and each other so we can see less of these issues that are destroying other species to extinction and perhaps our leading to our human extinction by losing our human track. I felt seen and understood by your letter, for those everyday existential moments that you mentioned that we never share and let them pass while other people might grab their pen and paper and write their a-ha's. For me and idk about other infj's it's like we know what's wrong but my mouth and heart won't speak and open too much on that and people think we're bitter and frustrated and arrogant or careless for not engaging, but it's because we're just tired of seeing the same negativity. As you said, nitpicky. We're nitpicky about what deserves our energy and attention and we beat ourselves up for it. One of my resolutions i'll try this year is to share my opinion and be confident about what comes out and live the moment. I hope i'll be able to push myself to be that, at least a little if it's what it will take to say i tried. Thank you so much for this beautiful video and message. I appreciate your content and your message of growth and love to humanity and your viewers. Here's to 2020 full of joy, love, health, and encouragement!
Wow, I'm in the same position as you actually. It's kinda sad, yes. If majority of humans, like, 90% of it choose to be evil or something, then what are we to decide? That inferior, hopeless & powerless complex is just eating INFJs away overtime.
@@astavas8341 Ah i hope things are going well for you in this moment of crisis. It's comforting to know you feel familiarity in another INFJ comment. Glad to know and i wish you the best in your life! You're strong and capable of finding a place in life and balancing the extreme nature of our type. Yes, it's sad that many NF's are getting hit hard because of our societal climate and oh that would be horrible to imagine haha! Personally, I am not giving up and working on valuing my own desires and reasons because another thing is we have to seek happiness as human beings in order to have a beautiful life experience. We have to take care of ourselves in order to care of ourselves in the future and others. Even if we might feel like outsiders and hidden, we know we carry a unique perspective that says this is worth the effort of living it out and trying. Maybe it's what someone needs, maybe it's what the world wanted to see. A glimmer of hope to set fires in an increasingly cold world. I wish and hope the best for you!
@@djaziko457 Thanks man, it's just that I can't help myself but get worn out instead. I'm doing things related to criminals & laws. You know it take tolls on me. But I think it's important to keep seeing the world in absolute truth also, I won't be optimist who only look on the good side. But hey, I do value my goals also, just like you! Cheers & have a nice day!
Thank you for this-it's really spot on. Learning more about being an INFJ is so validating because I have often felt like an outsider and that I just don't fit in, but now I know it's not because there is something wrong with me, it's just my type and there are others out there just the same! Thanks for the love:)!!
I’m an INFJ and at work I am ostracized for it. I see the problems and when I bring them up I am beaten down for it. I am seen as a trouble maker and just trying to stir up issues. Months later when things blow up they act so surprised by everything and completely forget that I had mentioned it months previously. They also treat me like an outsider. My Supervisor feels very uncomfortable around me. I think that it is because he knows that he cannot lie to me. Thank you for showing the other side of the coin.
In all honesty, I feel like we are constantly thinking on how to solves problems but try to word it and not come across mean, manipulative, “a know it all”, snowflake, or an alien speaking another language. I hate when someone takes my words the wrong way. I’m trying to work on this cause I don’t ever want someone to feel like they can’t trust or talk to me. I care about their feelings, perspective, ideas and where their hearts truly lie. I care about their free will because all of us being the same is boring but I want harmony for everyone. We don’t have to treat people like they don’t matter. We are all human and we all feel for something or someone. Not a single person can say they hate everything and everyone in this world. And that’s my goal to find what you love and try to relate that with you so I can get closer to your world to see what makes you tick. It’s so beautiful everyone is completely different. It’s like looking at art. Theres never going to be an exact copy and there’s a reason for that. The indifference is what separates us from each other, it’s not always bad. It’s can help people focus on other things. A Lawyer is going to focus more on law to became better at his craft, same with mechanics or writers. Our drives and ambitions can define who we really are inside. Whether your working 40+ hours a week to feed your kids or working in a homeless shelter for those less fortunate in need.
How did you get inside my brain?? This is exactly the core of who I am. If someone asks me what I'm all about, I'm just going to say these exact words. I'm so glad to have found someone else who is striving to understand everyone and help them become the best they can be and just try to spread some positivity in this world. Thank you for existing my friend. The world is better off because of you!
Zach Thurow Same to you! The world can use more light to guide others to better path of understanding and respecting each other’s way. Everyone has boundaries and morals. It brings my soul at peace knowing you understand how I feel. Thank you 😊. I hope you find a happy future and know that I support you!
Oh my goodness! 😭 I just dissolved into tears watching this... because I felt understood, which is so, so, so painfully rare. Thank you so much. ❤️ Thank you, especially, for articulating why we so often stay silent. You nailed that. So helpful, my ENFJ friend! I need to find a local ENFJ. 😂. You are a treasure. All my closest friends are ESFJs or ESTPs, so I know them, but as you can imagine, they don’t actually know me. 💔. I have accepted that and I am used to that, but your video was extremely meaningful and refreshing. Thank you for seeing us as we truly are. 😘
You're right about the perfectionism. I have every intention of sharing my poetry with the world, working on numerous collections as I write. But I also want to help other creatives somehow as well, especially because of my need for connection.
Brene Brown said something like behind perfectionism is a feeling of shame. Perfectionism also leads to procrastination. Work on resolving your inner shame, the other stuff will follow.
I needed every word of this today. Thank you. I struggle to see what I offer in this world everyday. I’ve been very oppressed and burdened through my life and many see what I offer as help is a threat which made them try to change me. So I’ve stayed quiet. I want to been seen but not to be admired if it makes sense. I just want to help ppl, create art, and be happy in my own skin. Thank you for understanding us! So much love 💕 Sincerely, INFJ
I am an INFJ, and I have been awake since I was three, when I fell in a liminal threshold in the Russian River in Northern California. I woke up to another level of awareness when I was ten, and another higher level when I was eleven. Now that I am 66 years of age I can tell you boldly, that yes I have unprecedented answers, but no one will listen, read, or can comprehend what I am telling them. The chances of me being wrong are so infinitesimal small that it is a joke, but what I have uncovered is too hard to accept for even supposedly intelligent people. What is the point, there is none, and therefore I am cutting back, and cutting ties, in essence I am shutting it all down. I know with absolute certainty it is going to get very dark, very soon, and all I can do at this point is sit back and watch people suffer unimaginable horrors. I am sorry to tell you that we do live in a matrix that controls and decides everything, The Matrix movies were far more accurate than a lot of people could ever accept. Thanks, you did a wonderful video that was extremely insightful.
@@rhondawatts2578 Seriously, thank you, I have to tell you it gets lonely out here being an INFJ. But I should be used to that by age 66, but I am not.
Genius is dancing naked and full of madness in a field of flowers made out of Razorblades. I didn't stop my tongue from speaking to average people because I doubted my ability to influence them, I stopped speaking to humans for over three years because I could no longer stand watching people bend their minds to my point of view. Sometimes the greatest gift you can give the world as a perfectionist is silence. Ideals as pleasant as they may be offer become the center point of a storm of madness. When you become an idol to another human because you can see their problems and fix them you enable people to rely on you instead of searching for their own personal truths. And most idiots are idiots because they either fear asking questions out of social embarrassment, or because they have never hit rock bottom hard enough to be introspective of their own life. I never sought to show people the way out of a tight spot or rough situation so they would look up to me, I did so in the hopes that they would learn to think things through before acting on their own irrational stupidity. I am not your savior nor do I ever want to be such to anyone, the best I used to offer to most was a temporary jarring of ones senses to give you a moment of self reflection before I moved on to the next person in need. But after nearly 3 decades of trying to help people and watching them struggle to figure it out because they are too embarrassed to look themselves in the mirror I can honestly say I no longer care as an INFJ to help any of them fix anything in their personal life. As my grandfather used to say to us "If you fish in extremely shallow waters you'll never catch large fish". As for Perfection, there is nothing wrong with aiming for it. Deluding yourself in to thinking the whole world is capable of achieving it and becoming some utopian paradise on the other hand is a one way ticket to a padded room. Perfection after all is but a fleeting moment that tricks the senses into driving one forward.
Infj here. I feel your emotion while you speak in this video. Almost as if your withholding a stress or a pain. The shake in your voice, twisting your hair, looking around the room.. Maybe im wrong. But maybe im right.
Im touched. Thank you so much. I always feel like I can understand everyone and no one can understand me. Im learning about how infj appears to others, and hearing your thoughts, your advice to many thing we (infj) are blinded about is so great.
I'm INFJ and I've had a lot of wonderful people tell me that I should be a Life Coach or Therapist. It's in our blood to have that wisdom and perspective. A knowing. INFJ's understand that knowing. Too cool! Thank you for sharing this video. You shared so many valid points that really touched that special place within my soul. It's a magical feeling when you feel understood. We don't feel understood often ❤ Blessed be are we! Hugs
Meghan, this video - - - - - > Moved to a flood of tears. Your Honesty, Your Passion, Your Sincerity, Your Love exudes from your face,, your body language, your choice of words. Thank You for this moment of understanding, Thank you for this moment of Hope.
INFJ here. We do think in a universal mind. I think that's why I always liked that Jim Morrison lyric. However, if I try to share my perspective with others, mostly non-Fj's, they act like my view is completely insane and not worth a second of their time.
thank you so much Meghan, it's like you were talking directly to me, I have trouble sharing things with people because I'm afraid it won't be valued or I'll be easily misunderstood. I hope I can meet more people like you who would take the time to dig into me a little bit and appreciate what I'm saying, and this encourages me to keep putting myself out there with my art and writing
Thank you. Really nice to hear this after beating myself up for having the most messed up personality type, obsessing over improving all my weak cognitive functions, shadow functions, blind spots, trigger/pressure points, hypocrisy, critical stuff and all things that make INFJs suck.
This INFJ loves you too Yes always trying to solve the world largest blinders throughout this timeline in my personal lifetime. Helping solve climate change, clearer oceans, happier people, more sustainably for local people throughout this planet, clean water is a must for all life. Yes, insomnia is often 4 or 5 nights a week. Yet, this personal journey I am on this lifetime, I do see things I have noticed and never knew I was a INFJ until I took the 16 personalities test, if one answers honestly, it is spot on. Almost like I amaze myself 🤣😁 My position in this lifetime was shown to me by others as strangely that may sound. I heeded the advice, what a beautiful, mysterious, blessed, honorable life it has been so far. I know this month with me being capricorn also and just my birthday, wow. My life is really going to change this month into the most gracious and humbling experience in my lifetime as of yet. I can feel it, I guess all INFJ are like this. All so new trying to understand myself and why I feel compelled to help save this beautiful vile marble we call planet Earth. INFJ, PSYCHIC? One may say yes, I have been told God like experiences, blessed, lucky, gifted, yet, I am just me. A bit harsh at times to those whom do not do their jobs 1000% As I do expect the best in everyone that including myself most of all and foremost for that matter. I am most grateful for you taking the time out to make a video like this, as it does help me understand myself, which is a blessing most if all. Much love and aloha 👑 HRH PRINCESS TIFFANY KINGDOM OF MAUI, HAWAI'I, OCEANIA
As an INFJ, with an impossible goal... that I can't look away from, is brutally painful as it is critically important... A message like this is so meaningful, it gives fuel to keep trying. Thank you, and clearly, I need more ENFPs in my friend group. 🙂 I am 49 and only met one other person like me that I am aware of. Based on the messaged below, there should be a place for INFJs to get to know other INFJs.
I think what the INFJ misses out is that they are the home that they are looking for. The answer they seek is not outward but within. INFJ, you are what you seek. You belong within yourself and whence you find out who you are, You will be in-tuned with yourself and with the world. You will learn to make boundaries, you will learn that all battles can be fought without you involved, you will learn always to listen and when to talk. You will learn that everything will fall into place. You will learn everything, because the answer you seek has always been YOU. You belong to yourself and remember, you are not alone in your struggle we are here. You are not the only INFJ, WE are one. Lots of love to you INFJ ♥️
I seee yooou 👀 Haha. Sharing my thoughts feels like that REM song looosing my religionnnn. Oh no i saaid too much! But i havent said enough... 😂🤷♂️ Thanks for expressing your love to the INFJs and showing you understand us. I do tend to poke around at peoples minds and most of the time im like yeah, they wont get what I really want to say. I guess we can talk about what u been through. Or the burnt stuff on bbq ribs... yummy stuff right there. Later on in life I realise I should just plant little seeds near the walls people put up and let them grow. They may realise its a flower and like it! They may even ask where they can get some more flowers like that. Success... Anyway thanks again ❤️🤗 Peace.
I need an INFJ in my life. I'm struggling from lack of self esteem. I've noticed that in my life I haven't seen too many empathetic people. A lot of carelessness though. Love to all who enter here. Yuma,AZ.
Infj dissapears like the hermit wizard that comes from isolation from time to time. So probably you've met someone like that, very wise people they care about others gives very good advice, but then dissapears for a while.. think of Gandalf kind of energy. Look around your people infj people are probably there but you didn't notice yet. Look for that person who embodies the energy of a wise old man or woman, very sociable, but loners.
people who cheer other people up and encourage them to be the best version of themselves are precious, and I think that if you've watched that video, either you are one of them, either you're becoming one of them. INFJ or not. I love that kind of vibes. keep going guys, the world needs people like us.
The best part about an infj is that you can say anything to them no matter how weird or stupid it is and they’re not going to judge you at all as long as you’re being honest about what you’re saying and not trying to manipulate them or something. If you’re just being genuine, they’ll accept the hell out of you
"You're more than what you can do for other people." Just having that need acknowledged and then saying that, that meant the world to me. Thank you. I live for my usefulness and when I cant be useful I feel like a waste of space.
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I need to turn you into a teddy bear to carry around in my tote. Yes, I don't put myself out there enough because I'm too much of a perfectionist. Thanks for the encouragement. Lots of hugs to you Meghan.
It must be a blessing to even meet another INFJ and you found one who loves you, I'm happy for you 🥰. While I get a lot of these videos on my feed I have not yet met a real INFJ. Other personality types are intimidated by me even when I'd dimm my light. In the end I stopped making myself smaller to make people comfortable. It's better to walk this world alone and authentic than surrounded by people and pretending.
Thank you Ma'am. I don't know why I searched for INFJ and why I wanted to hear something about myself as described by some scale (which i happen to associate with ). But please take care, you brought tears to my eyes. More so for how deeply you have felt it and how honestly you are sharing it. It's very kind of you to be so concerned, to invest and to reach out. 🙏 Thank you again
Fascinating you have so many INFJs in your life considering they make up the 1%, you must be a magnet to the INFJ. Also love your videos and insight of the INFJ, I have discovered recently that I am one, the way you break down the personality type and traits is quite revealing
As an INFJ I wanted to comment on your statement about peering into someone's soul. I'm kind of new to the MBTI. I just learned of it a few days go and haven't been able to stop studying since, its fascinating. Back to the soul peering. I have always felt like when I look at strangers I see too much. Some of which I know they would not share willingly. So it feels like I'm violating them when I look people in the eye. Almost an aggressive act with strangers. With people I know its not like that because I know they know I can 'see them' and not whatever actor they are wearing. This can also be dangerous with sociopaths and psychopaths if they notice you 'see them' through their mask.
My gurdness. You tugged at my heart strings a little there. It is a very lonely world for us. I can say that I have only two true friends in my life, literally. One is my wife and one is the only other person I trust. My wife still struggles with understanding me but we work somehow. Hearing you say the things you did, made me feel a little more validated. I rarely put my ideas forward since they are normally “out of the box”. Out of the box ideas clash with status quo way to often. So I keep to my self knowing these ideas could be life altering. I’ll be showing your video to my wife when the time is right. Thank you for your understanding and for bringing it into the light.
I am an INFJ And Only thing I wanted to say is that tears are gushing in my eyes while watching this video. At least someone in this understands us and wants us to be improving.... Thanks
Thank you Meghan,especially for validating me...it brought me to tears. You know me without ever having met me and you gave me chicken soup for my soul, especially with what is happening in the USA at this moment. One thing that I personally have difficulty overcoming is the frustration that I fell when I try to do those things you said. It’s like I’m speaking a different language that from time to time I have to find refuge in nature or my pets. It also makes me feel that I’m so misunderstood and that I don’t belong in this time. So thank you again for your kind words, I’ve also realized that I can listen to ENFJs talk for hours, I love you guys!
Thank you for this Meghan! As a maturing INFJ I am becoming ok with things not all being ok. How I stopped having to fix everything was realizing that there will always be another thing that is not ideal, and if I wait to be happy until the whole world is at peace, then I can never be happy. I choose happy now- just as I am and just as things are. This helps me to enjoy being me.
"Even if you forget to eat ..." This past Saturday, people were telling me that I was "the guest of honor" at a party. What I remember was being too ambitious (two side dishes, plus a dessert I had never attempted to make prior to the party), and how there was still pasta to boil that morning (plus fresh basil that had wilted). By the time I got in the car and was driving to the destination, I thought to myself, "Oh, crap! Did I even eat breakfast today?" There were about eight pasta dishes at the party and plenty of leftovers. Even once I got there, I knew a friend was coming, and I put myself in his place (seeming to call and text because he was lost), and how I barely knew how to find this remote location in a state park, because the intersection/turn for the parking lot is virtually unmarked. So I walked away from a whole party of chatting people to put myself in a place where that friend could notice me and figure out where to turn (plus I finally got a decent cellular signal to text or receive incoming calls). Thank you for this video (maybe I should have led with that?). I'm just starting to seek out more information about my MBTI "type," and this video must have been recommended by the algorithm.
Thank you for understanding. Thank you for valuing the difficulties we have. We love you too. "Believing that what we want to say has already been said...INFJ don't speak unless they. know their ideas will land..."
I appreciate your thoughts. Thank you for sharing. As an INFJ I try to spare others some of the hard experiences I have had to help them on their way, but like they say there is no better teacher than experience. Hard earned experience has its value, but I am always looking for a better, simpler, easier way to relate to others. Thank you 🙏 for your encouragement.
As an infj I believe infjs can't really numb themselves because they don't see the point in numbing the problem when it's still there. I also believe after meeting people over many years that infjs see things in a way that is almost beyond comprehension (not bragging). Thank you for this very touching video.
We see the bigger picture. In that way, we need to be calm, given reflective time, but when I need to share writing, typing on social media.can give a platform. Perfectionism is a block, but when the creation is realized, even we are beautifully surprised. Thank you for building an encouragement to keep going forward, aiming at, and hitting the target. It's lonely sometimes, but we are treasured . Your compassion for us is deep, and deeply appreciated. Without freedom to rebel we would be impossible. Apologies are necessary if there is too much desire for perfection. Motivating people is not my best side, but it is nice to have someone recognize the goal. Compartmentalizations help to keep focused, but we must not get arrogant with our ideals. Thanks again, watch out for predators, and God bless.
My God. I've never felt that understood in my entire life. Because of you, I'm going to write that book I day dreamed about for years. Thank you sooooooooooo much. Oh and also, where do I find a women like you??
Thank you. Beautifully said and explained. Can't say I would view myself this way though. I always feel incomplete and lacking. I have been struggling with who I am all of my life. I often hate myself for the way my mind works and the way I perceive and understand things. And for which I have been heavily criticised over the years. Only recently I have found out that I am an INFJ which was an extremely cathartic and emotional experience. I never thought there were others folks out there like me. Wish people would let me be instead of always trying to tear me for what I stand for or believe in. Being an INFJ is not easy or pleasant for sure.
I really enjoyed this video as an infj myself. You hit the nail on the head with this one. I noticed how I can play “devils advocate” easily because I can see all sides of an argument or an idea. One of my best friends used to take me clothes shopping with her because she knew I would give my honest opinion about how she looked in the clothes. She even told me I made her feel like crap when something didn’t look right but when something looks good I made her feel like a million bucks. New sub here! 👍
in real life i am a quiet infj yet i can open myself up and be social but i spend most of my time on art and music projects. i scored infj in college on the mbti had no idea what the test was about until the test results. i am a vegan and have always cared dearly for animals. i will be using my art music and entertainment to contribute to the world
Within my personal experience, I have found that the biggest barrier for me has been how others react to my insights. Most seem to consistently dismiss my insights as accurate, exaggerated, or "not something that needs to be addressed." I have repeatedly had the experience of "I cite a problem (which at the time is small), and how it can be resolved, and others 'don't see it' or 'don't want to be inconvenienced by doing anything about it," and over a period of months or years, others start to recognize "the problem," but none of them remember that I said something, or listen to my insights still. I find that many seem to "need to be the one to solve it" and "be the one who comes up with a solution." So the very idea that "I might have the solution" is a point of conflict, and only after I "give up" and "let them do whatever they want" do they (sometimes) adopt some aspects of my idea, but even then there's a lack of validation of my contributions. In my mind, most "don't want to know the solution" because in many cases it's a lot of work and "once they know, they feel obligated to use that knowledge." So yeah, I would say my personal barrier against "offering my insights" is how consistently my insights are met with negative/confrontational responses (unless I literally let them choose when they receive my insights, and what/how much insight they receive, and I find that emphasis on "their choice" and "their convenience" with no room for 'my choice' is very frustrating, particularly when I'm trying to resolve something that also affects me, and in some cases "not addressing the issue" leads to something falling apart, something that could have been saved and preserved, but others didn't want to recognize there was a problem until it was too late. So (for many years) I have tried to "keep myself from becoming overly invested" in things that involve other people, and are likely to lead to "I care, but others will not listen, and will become hostile if I try to offer my perspective."
I resonated so much with a lot of things you said. It does feel like such a struggle to hold my own truth, core values, and beliefs because I want to have that idealized reality. It pushes me to want to see the greater good in the world and projecting it out through my own self-improvement. But, that does mean I neglect my needs. Thank you for putting this out into the world. I have always wished to share my thoughts but feared the judgment of others. You are an amazing individual and I'm glad you have INFJs as friends as well as your partner because we need you.
You were going through so many emotions. And, I could feel them as an INFJ. So, I had to pause the video every 2 minutes. Otherwise, believe me I would have cried. Especially when you said talking to us feels like "coming home".
I’m a INFJ empath. What you said was true and correct. Your right. Biggest deal for mature INFJ’s are the boundaries we have to put up in order to maintain sanity and self control, people should just be patient and wait for the doors to be opened,love and trust abide inside.(Just don’t betray it.)ℹ️💯✅❤️✝️🙏🏿📖🗡👊🏿👌🏿👍🏿🥷☯️😎
Heyyyyy i just wanted to say that the infj that you are dating is sooooo lucky to have you, a person who listens appreciates and really sees the infj. I wanted to cry several times while listening to you. Thank you a million times for this heartly love letter
I had your video saved for when I have bad days and today was one of those days . Your video always helps me feel better and helps me feel validated , loved and appreciated when the weight of the world feels like it’s on my shoulders , when I feel I’m there for others but no one knows how to be there in the way I wish they could . I hope the love you give out in these videos comes back to you ten fold . 💜✨✨
Talking to INFJ feels like home. Trust me INFJs are longing for a home in their heart
I so relate to that. The longing feeling....
Home to everyone. Homeless.
Funny how that works out isnt it, we are home for others yet perpetual orphans in this world. It does make me happy though to be able to give others what I never had :) I see their happiness and feel it as well, it feels warm and comforting, Im happy that my life meant something good to someone, made a positive difference in some way.
@@redefinedliving5974 So true. Longing yet no port for our storms while we can offer it to others. It's a very lonely existence.
I have been thinking about this problem for a long time ( because INFJs gotta INFJ). An awareness I reached during meditation went like this: I asked into my inner universe, "where is my place in the world?"
after a few months of asking the response came: "Your place is in the world you're about to create."
INFJs are world-builders. We need to recognize ourselves as the seed of our home. We need to give ourselves permission to grow in that way. Reach out to others in order to find the ones who 'get it'. Grow to tolerate the discomfort of seeing your perfect vision enter the world imperfectly. Have the imperfect conversations. Build the imperfect relationships. See your dream world with your waking eyes.
"You are fiercely independent but you aim to get along with everyone" YES
#thestruggle
yeah that was very accurate 😍
Very true 💯👍
The struggle is real!!
"INFJ's don't really speak unless they know that what they're going to say will land, and sometimes that can leave them silent if there is nobody around that they trust their ideas will land with." ... Wow. That is me 100%. Thanks again.
All INFJs need a INFJ as a friend to feel accepted.
Infj dating infj for 3 years + now, just because we are deep dosent mean another infj can understand your perspective. There are levels.
I think so.
Yes, only the way to feel and make calm ourselves
Need a infj friend :(
Im the infj in the group of friends. I love Infps, Intjs, enfjs and enfps.
"talking with an INFJ is like coming home" made me tear up.. as an INFJ I don't think I've ever felt that with someone else but I think I've seen the look in many peoples eyes. That was impactful.
Me too!
Same. So touched to have a small part of me be seen with such loving words
I am an ENTP in love with an INFJ. When we started dating I told him this exact same words... (hope I am correct...sorry for my english)
I thought I was the only one ❤
God bless you and everyone else here.
Everyone, will be okay. Just trust God during the process. We're okay through Christ, just keep listening to him.😘
Same here
I'm gonna be honest, as an INFJ, I zoned out for about a quarter of this video. But only because I was thinking about the stuff you were saying and forgot to keep paying attention
Me too 😂 so I’m watching it again and zooming out again 😩
This is the most relatable thing I’ve ever heard
I do that constantly 😂
Omg! This is so relatable, i zoned out once she said that "Talking to an INFJ feels like coming home"
I do that too even when reading it takes a while because Im analysing and processing constantly. Glad Im not the only one. Its like blah blah blah..( zoning out begins....*press pause* processing download, analysis complete *rewind*) :p
I am an INFJ & when you said “You are more than what you do for other people, you are valuable just the way you are”. 🤯. Thank you for saying this because we/I feel a lot of times we have nothing to offer others than what we do for them & think aside from that we have nothing to offer in what seems to be an extroverted world.
Exactly. I have family members and friends that enjoy the things I "do" for them but they really don't want to "hear" from me. They really don't want a heart-to-heart relationship with me and as an infj and I feel devalued by that.
I feel like they expect me to always be on the bleachers watching their show and cheering for them.
Lo Miller exactly! It’s like they expect it from us because it’s all they ever been used to...
@@uca1748 Yes! I have determined from now on it will be a fair relationship or not at all.
Big yup. My whole adult life has revolved around doing things for other people. Thank you!
Right. I give too much and get very little to nothing in return.
I am an INFJ and I've decided to become a motivational speaker pray for me guys😅 and I hope that one day we all find the courage to speak our minds and use our hearts to find the right words to help others.
Also thank you so much for this video it really does express the love that I feel many of us deny ourselves.
Eliza Simpson Good luck! You'll do great! I know it.
@@redefinedliving5974 aw thanks I appreciate your support 😊
I hope you succeed and take the world by storm. I’m rooting for you, go for it.
I believe in you!! 🙏🏻💝
I've never looked into it extensively, but how does one get into the realm of being a motivational speaker?
Emily Love that’s the tricky part there isn’t really a degree or a straight clear path to becoming a motivational speaker so most of it is just gaining experience and looking for opportunities. In a more realistic lighting it kinda works like advertising except you advertise yourself, you find your “pitch” or what you want to say to get people to listen to you. I just don’t want to get so caught up in the advertising that I forget why I want to do this , but I want to do it to help people who have struggled like I have so I don’t think that will happen.
I'm an INFJ and this meant a lot to me right now. I'm so discouraged and dissapointed with people at the moment. Thank you.
Same as hell. Dissapointed with ppl as a whole but also ppl quite close to me.
As a fellow INFJ Im sending love your way hun!
People disappoint but sometimes it just take one!
Every time i read "I'm an "INFJ" in the comments I feel like writing on the bottom "OH honey I'm SO SO sorry I know your pain"
I would say the opposite, dealing with disappointments with myself.
Im disappointed that I couldn't deal with people because they ignore me as I try to help them.
I don't really ever see the quality of being an INFJ.
Literally I can't stand loneliness and yet I'm "the loner."
Most my life is spent within the inner walls of my mental palace, and the rest of the world... Feels less real than the secret gardens in my head.
"Nobody cares about my perspective" is indeed how I feel in most of my interactions, and I don't mean it in "oh poor me, look at me I'm sad, bla bla bla..."
But rather the root values are so different that nobody understands or cares about my chain of thoughts.
The truth is I need harmony around me, but if my absence or me remaining in the shadow for harmony to happen makes sense, then it is a reasonable approach in my book...
I feel you. It is brutal. But I'd really recommend taking deliberate steps to connect. Get the Fe magic happening. The worlds current culture makes this a difficult undertaking but it is the most worthwhile undertaking. The potential joy is stronger than the pain and that means it's heavy, heavy duty.
It's crazy to me how i can read my intire life from a comment on TH-cam. Thank you!
After really looking into INFJ traits and understanding myself better, it’s like people are just on a lower, more surface level of thinking than us. It’s like our thoughts are too high for most people, so they just don’t get it. I always feel like people don’t listen to me or care for what I have to say, even though I believe what I have to say is extremely insightful. Like a wizard that no one listens to. I’ve always desired knowledge and wisdom, and now it makes sense as to why. When I’m old, I want to know “everything”.
And when you feel different, you feel alone. When you don’t get the reply you want, you feel alone. Always feel like the black sheep.
@@TaxEvasi0n Yes!! My feelings exactly.
I love the way you describe your rich inner life .......as an INFJ I also love escaping into my very rich inner world of imagination, thoughts, images etc etc! Also my INFJ dreams are also rich and magical.
I'm overwhelmed. I had no idea there were so many INFJ's out there. I've never met one like me. Would you please consider an INFJ blog just for us, addressing our comments? All my life I thought I was dropped off on the wrong planet and my real home was somewhere else. I had no idea that I had family here. Just knowing that I have family here makes it so much easier to ignore everything else that doesn't interest me anyway, which is pretty much everything. I can now create a life without being perpetually annoyed.
I'd love to meet each and everyone of you. Perhaps we should hold an INFJ reunion. It would be the first holiday in my 60 year old life in which I would actually not be bored out of my mind. I'd love it.
You are INFJ-T, aren't you
@@aitreya5862 Perhaps. I'm not aware of such a thing.
@@momolee5054 lol I didn't expect you to reply
Ohh you are 60, sorry if I sounded rude, I'm 16 yrs old INFJ
@@aitreya5862 You are just adorable little one. I wish you a good life. My best advice for you is to find a subject that interests you very much and then continue to focus each week for many hours until you have completely mastered the subject. Mastery level is the most thrilling experience for an introvert. I, myself have mastered three subjects and am focusing on my fourth.
Hey Baby Girl. I'm an INFJ. I absolutely see you. I like you because you're authentic. That's so important to us loving people.
oh my GOD a bunch of INFJ's came out to play YAEEEEEE I've NEVER MET another INFJ it's soooooo hard being the only one in my life, no one to talk to .... no one who makes any sense anyway lol
and then out of the wild blue wonderful appeared... no one, also an infj... how does this make sense to happen that you call my name twice and two days later i appear for your conversational understanding?
say my name, i always say... lolol... the irony... omg... say something please... this is too much for me to be talking to myself all the time... no one talks to me too lmao... th-cam.com/video/2JtvJZDGJt8/w-d-xo.html
Totally! I've never met another INFJ either.
@Jason López it's REALLY REALLY hard but I'm understanding (by not having anyone to lean on) that the strength gained as an endresult of this lonely battle is absolutely Irreplaceable I'm seeing how much stronger I am in places that most people aren't and it's because of being forced to deal with this on my own
@@noone-op6yg you've been summoned
So sorry you haven’t got an INFJ friend, I am one and my best friend for all my adult life is an INFJ, we met when we were teenagers......we are always there for each other even though I have left my home country and now live in London we talk to each other every fortnight, please find an INFJ friend!
I am an INFJ and people have always told me I am different but also said they felt comfortable and safe with me and like I always gave great advice. I'm a very quiet person until I'm very comfortable with someone and even depending on comfort levels, if I feel my advice or anything else will not be appreciated or attempted to be understood, I won't even speak. My last relationship, she always asked me if i was this quiet with everyone. Looking back now, i know i was so quiet with her because i always felt put down with her and like she would never try to have patience or understanding with me and wanted me to be her version/idea of what she wanted me to be rather than myself. You are very correct with all your infj information every video.
same here.....I tired to speak more with ex.....but just got more misunderstanding....so.....it might just not the right person for us if they can't understand us.
@@ZOEYYU unfortunately, i think you are right. And when its set in your head on the rare occasion that you find someone you fall deeply for, the reality that they can't understand you is hard to grasp.
That happened similarly with me, at least when I actually met the person. From a distance, I seemed to have been okay with it which was incredibly odd. He even said I was different and didn't understand why I had little or no friends, among other things.
@@waverlyshegoes Was this an online relationship that transitioned into meeting in real life? Because that is what happened with me
@@OceanMetTheSky yes, it was. We were able to video chat every few days. I could even say part of the issue dealt with customs since he is Norwegian.
“They know the problem. They see the problem. It keeps them up at night.” I’m watching this at 5:02AM in the morning.
As an INFJ, I can tell you that I did not come here into this current lifetime neither to change the world, right all the wrongs nor save the unsaved.
I am an Old Soul now here to observe and learn for my own Soul Growth. During this time, others may notice how I demonstrate my empathy and say a great deal with just a few words either in writing or conversation. You may ask me a question. I can give you a short but stunning answer without knowing how I knew that. People ask me how I know things. I just tell them that I am 76 and just know things. I am so hopeful that I have observed, learned and performed all the tasks expected of me. Life has not been easy for me. However, I am so privileged to be an INFJ.
Awe that's so touching
Well I hope you don’t lose hope in the younger generations. There are some of us worth saving. I hope you keep passing your knowledge down to leave the world a better place than it would have been if you had not been here. God knows if there’s one thing we need it’s selfless role models willing to do the right thing
Wow, a month ago, I've never communicated with INFJ female. You're the first INFJ I'm communicating with that's older than me by more than 2 years. Would be nice to chat with one. You must be like a Yoda! (I'm a 38yr INFJ).
Absolutey!
"In many ways the world doesn't know what to do with infj's" It feels so good to be understood for once! If I said it myself I'd feel like I'm feeling sorry for myself. Your Insight and understanding combined with your articulation is nothing short of amazing.💯
Lo Miller yes !
I’m an INFJ and I strongly needed this message. Thanks for your love. ❤️
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I didn't realize what I was getting into. That was quite intense. I've never experienced this exact feeling before, but I like it. Thank you for being such a beautiful human being. It's hard to explain how I feel and I need to go to sleep, but this has already left a lasting impression on me. You have a remarkable understanding of the INFJ mind.
Thank you!!!
All I have to say is.. thank you. Genuinely.
Andy Gerdesmeier agreed
I concur.
This is why as an INFJ I love ENFJs. Because you guys are not afraid of our ability and need to pierce through bullshit and just get to the most authentic core of things as possible. I feel like that's the most common perspective for us, and it's so liberating.
As infj our biggest battle is making peace with the fact you will be misunderstood no way around it.. we don't need to be coddled
Thank you. Many of us INFJ's really needs to hear this. One of the hardest things for me has always been how easily we can see the truth in the world around us. I can't tell you how many times I've felt like the people around me are walking around with blindfolds...
After over 40 years on this planet and wondering what was “wrong” with me I learned I was an INFJ, HSP, empath. I also identify as being an indigo child. Not that it’s related I also have B negative blood type and an extremely rare clotting disorder that no hematologist I’ve seen has encountered. An early memory is starting school and riding the bus in kindergarten and feeling alien and disoriented like where am I? The other kids seemed content, I felt like I was in a foreign land. I could not (still don’t) understand war, weapons, why we all “can’t get along”, talk things out rationally. Love has been my ruling drive through life and it’s been devastating. I wish I had known earlier to protect myself. I love to be alone to recharge but not “alone”. I like being around people who understand that I need to be alone in my room but like living with other people. I have ALWAYS questioned why am I here, what’s the meaning of life. My mind runs like a freight train. Always thinking. Music has helped immensely. I wear headphones A LOT. I have been told people feel at home in my presence and I think it’s because I’m always concerned about the comfort of the other person even before myself. It’s nice to be able to know what I am now and to know it’s not a “flaw” like I thought for over 40 years.💫✨💜💙
INFJ's are in the minority, as in only make up something like 25% of population. I can't deal with being too accepted, that would just feel phony, cause I'm in need of my time alone. I regenerate being on my own..
Same . I'm the same.
I am also an empath, hsp and infj and 19 years old, I'm happy I discovered it yet..
People feel at home because of your authenticity :)
Ever taken the enneagram test?
At 42 yrs old, I finally had so many of my questions answered. Why doesn't anyone understand me or even try when all I do is try to understand everyone around me? Why at the end of most conversations do I get the same purplexed look? I feel uncomfortable in my own skin at times. why can't I lie, when that seems like that's all people do to me? Always thinking and overthinking everything, especially conversations I had where people looked purplexed, to figure out what made them look at me that Way. There are so many things that just being an empath, couldn't be answered.finding out I was an INFJ saved my sanity!! I'm not the only one who questions, either I'm completely insane or everyone else is.. there is truth in both..at least I know I'm not alone in this.. that is comforting.
When you said talking to an infj is like coming home I'm reminded of my college days my roommate told me that she wants to come back soon from her class so that we could chat and just talk I guess she is comfortable around me she is a very emotional and shy person
One of my best friends is INFJ, and I feel the same way like he already knows when I'm upset or sick...he too is a genius with his creativity. I value his views and thoughts on things....he feels almost like he fustrates people cause of how his mind/personality works....but I think it's beautiful.
Feels like you are writing about me, crazy!
@@JonasAnandaKristiansson uhhhh k
I think we definitely frustrate people. My ex partner never valued my INFJ traits. They were in fact an annoyance to her. She always hated how I "sat on the fence". I think she only really valued what I could "do" for her 🤷🏻♂️ but more fool me for going along with it for so long. We didn't have a healthy relationship. It's hard to find anyone at all, let alone a romantic partner who values us. This is why we must value and love ourselves. Seek to understand ourselves. Know thyself, in fact.
Luke 14
V. 12 Then Jesus said to his host, “When you give a luncheon or dinner, do not invite your friends, your brothers or sisters, your relatives, or your rich neighbors; if you do, they may invite you back and so you will be repaid. 13 But when you give a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, 14 and you will be blessed. Although they cannot repay you, you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous.”
INFJ's understand you and can read you. Once they understand your personality they put themselves in your shoes and realize what you need. We are problem solvers and we are really good at it. We are careful with our words, which makes all of our words meaningful.
Jesus, I can't imagine having a partner as supportive and who SEES me as well as you: your girlfriend is so lucky...this video made me cry lol nice job!
I’m literally tearing up right now 🥺 Thank you so much for valuing me even though you don’t know me or where I am in the world. Ive been feeling down lately with the thought of working with people who don’t value my impact/input or presence and on top of that getting annoyed at myself for even caring. Thank you, I really needed this 💕
@Snow yung: same here
I'm right there with you, 😭😭 Its sooo healing hearing how you are valued, FOR THE TRAITS MAKE YOU YOU AT YOUR CORE!! It's so beautiful. Thank you Megan, you've giving me hope, love and encourage me to be and show my true self.
Bless you for your positivity. It is a refreshing change from the typical reaction.
You deserve it!
I almost teared up when you were speaking about us INFJs 😢
Alot of times I feel no one I've interacted with wants to understand me and I yearn for that. Thank you for this 💌
I don't know what I did to deserve to hear this from a stranger on the internet but I really appreciate it, sadly I have no idea how to payback for it...
I don't comment a lot on many mbti channels, but your letter pushed me to do so.
It's crazy how I tend to overthink and feel bad and doubt my decisions sometimes about my career path because it's not directly helping to solve these issues that are eating away society and the world. It's frustrating because my vision is so idealistic that when you're reminded of the reality and cruelty you really start to think is it even possible that i'll be able to realize what i planned up for in my career and will i be good enough and healthy enough to be my best self for those moments and those people? It feels like we infjs carry the weight and see what's wrong and see the limits of life and how much we need to do as a race to be human and loving of the world and each other so we can see less of these issues that are destroying other species to extinction and perhaps our leading to our human extinction by losing our human track. I felt seen and understood by your letter, for those everyday existential moments that you mentioned that we never share and let them pass while other people might grab their pen and paper and write their a-ha's. For me and idk about other infj's it's like we know what's wrong but my mouth and heart won't speak and open too much on that and people think we're bitter and frustrated and arrogant or careless for not engaging, but it's because we're just tired of seeing the same negativity. As you said, nitpicky. We're nitpicky about what deserves our energy and attention and we beat ourselves up for it. One of my resolutions i'll try this year is to share my opinion and be confident about what comes out and live the moment. I hope i'll be able to push myself to be that, at least a little if it's what it will take to say i tried.
Thank you so much for this beautiful video and message. I appreciate your content and your message of growth and love to humanity and your viewers. Here's to 2020 full of joy, love, health, and encouragement!
Wow, I'm in the same position as you actually. It's kinda sad, yes. If majority of humans, like, 90% of it choose to be evil or something, then what are we to decide? That inferior, hopeless & powerless complex is just eating INFJs away overtime.
@@astavas8341 Ah i hope things are going well for you in this moment of crisis. It's comforting to know you feel familiarity in another INFJ comment. Glad to know and i wish you the best in your life! You're strong and capable of finding a place in life and balancing the extreme nature of our type.
Yes, it's sad that many NF's are getting hit hard because of our societal climate and oh that would be horrible to imagine haha! Personally, I am not giving up and working on valuing my own desires and reasons because another thing is we have to seek happiness as human beings in order to have a beautiful life experience. We have to take care of ourselves in order to care of ourselves in the future and others. Even if we might feel like outsiders and hidden, we know we carry a unique perspective that says this is worth the effort of living it out and trying. Maybe it's what someone needs, maybe it's what the world wanted to see. A glimmer of hope to set fires in an increasingly cold world.
I wish and hope the best for you!
@@djaziko457 Thanks man, it's just that I can't help myself but get worn out instead. I'm doing things related to criminals & laws. You know it take tolls on me. But I think it's important to keep seeing the world in absolute truth also, I won't be optimist who only look on the good side. But hey, I do value my goals also, just like you! Cheers & have a nice day!
Thank you for this-it's really spot on. Learning more about being an INFJ is so validating because I have often felt like an outsider and that I just don't fit in, but now I know it's not because there is something wrong with me, it's just my type and there are others out there just the same! Thanks for the love:)!!
Aw! ❤️ I want to show this video to my INFJ sister. I feel like she would appreciate hearing this, especially the last half, at this time in her life.
She'd love it!!
“The power of your own perspective”. Wow. Thank you. That is what I needed to hear. ☺️🙏🏻
made me smile when you said that our perspectives are to be treasured and that we should share em more often. thank you so much 💙
These love letters are really nice. You make me like ENFJs.
I’m an INFJ and at work I am ostracized for it. I see the problems and when I bring them up I am beaten down for it. I am seen as a trouble maker and just trying to stir up issues. Months later when things blow up they act so surprised by everything and completely forget that I had mentioned it months previously. They also treat me like an outsider. My Supervisor feels very uncomfortable around me. I think that it is because he knows that he cannot lie to me.
Thank you for showing the other side of the coin.
Yes, INFJs appreciate ENFjs...we don't need that many of your words. 💓
In all honesty, I feel like we are constantly thinking on how to solves problems but try to word it and not come across mean, manipulative, “a know it all”, snowflake, or an alien speaking another language. I hate when someone takes my words the wrong way. I’m trying to work on this cause I don’t ever want someone to feel like they can’t trust or talk to me. I care about their feelings, perspective, ideas and where their hearts truly lie. I care about their free will because all of us being the same is boring but I want harmony for everyone. We don’t have to treat people like they don’t matter. We are all human and we all feel for something or someone. Not a single person can say they hate everything and everyone in this world. And that’s my goal to find what you love and try to relate that with you so I can get closer to your world to see what makes you tick. It’s so beautiful everyone is completely different. It’s like looking at art. Theres never going to be an exact copy and there’s a reason for that. The indifference is what separates us from each other, it’s not always bad. It’s can help people focus on other things. A Lawyer is going to focus more on law to became better at his craft, same with mechanics or writers. Our drives and ambitions can define who we really are inside. Whether your working 40+ hours a week to feed your kids or working in a homeless shelter for those less fortunate in need.
How did you get inside my brain?? This is exactly the core of who I am. If someone asks me what I'm all about, I'm just going to say these exact words. I'm so glad to have found someone else who is striving to understand everyone and help them become the best they can be and just try to spread some positivity in this world. Thank you for existing my friend. The world is better off because of you!
Zach Thurow Same to you! The world can use more light to guide others to better path of understanding and respecting each other’s way. Everyone has boundaries and morals. It brings my soul at peace knowing you understand how I feel. Thank you 😊. I hope you find a happy future and know that I support you!
As I finished the rest of this video, I was stunned how it's like you know me and we've never met. MBTI's is so freaky like that.
Oh my goodness! 😭 I just dissolved into tears watching this... because I felt understood, which is so, so, so painfully rare. Thank you so much. ❤️ Thank you, especially, for articulating why we so often stay silent. You nailed that. So helpful, my ENFJ friend! I need to find a local ENFJ. 😂. You are a treasure. All my closest friends are ESFJs or ESTPs, so I know them, but as you can imagine, they don’t actually know me. 💔. I have accepted that and I am used to that, but your video was extremely meaningful and refreshing. Thank you for seeing us as we truly are. 😘
You're right about the perfectionism. I have every intention of sharing my poetry with the world, working on numerous collections as I write. But I also want to help other creatives somehow as well, especially because of my need for connection.
Brene Brown said something like behind perfectionism is a feeling of shame. Perfectionism also leads to procrastination. Work on resolving your inner shame, the other stuff will follow.
I needed every word of this today. Thank you. I struggle to see what I offer in this world everyday. I’ve been very oppressed and burdened through my life and many see what I offer as help is a threat which made them try to change me. So I’ve stayed quiet. I want to been seen but not to be admired if it makes sense. I just want to help ppl, create art, and be happy in my own skin. Thank you for understanding us! So much love 💕
Sincerely,
INFJ
I am an INFJ, and I have been awake since I was three, when I fell in a liminal threshold in the Russian River in Northern California. I woke up to another level of awareness when I was ten, and another higher level when I was eleven. Now that I am 66 years of age I can tell you boldly, that yes I have unprecedented answers, but no one will listen, read, or can comprehend what I am telling them. The chances of me being wrong are so infinitesimal small that it is a joke, but what I have uncovered is too hard to accept for even supposedly intelligent people. What is the point, there is none, and therefore I am cutting back, and cutting ties, in essence I am shutting it all down. I know with absolute certainty it is going to get very dark, very soon, and all I can do at this point is sit back and watch people suffer unimaginable horrors. I am sorry to tell you that we do live in a matrix that controls and decides everything, The Matrix movies were far more accurate than a lot of people could ever accept. Thanks, you did a wonderful video that was extremely insightful.
I'm an older INFJ also, never was sleep, just different levels of wakefulness. Yes there will be horrors unimaginable in this matrix
@@rhondawatts2578 Seriously, thank you, I have to tell you it gets lonely out here being an INFJ. But I should be used to that by age 66, but I am not.
Wow, thank you so much. I’ve never heard anybody speak about my type in such a positive realistic way before.
Genius is dancing naked and full of madness in a field of flowers made out of Razorblades.
I didn't stop my tongue from speaking to average people because I doubted my ability to influence them, I stopped speaking to humans for over three years because I could no longer stand watching people bend their minds to my point of view. Sometimes the greatest gift you can give the world as a perfectionist is silence. Ideals as pleasant as they may be offer become the center point of a storm of madness.
When you become an idol to another human because you can see their problems and fix them you enable people to rely on you instead of searching for their own personal truths. And most idiots are idiots because they either fear asking questions out of social embarrassment, or because they have never hit rock bottom hard enough to be introspective of their own life.
I never sought to show people the way out of a tight spot or rough situation so they would look up to me, I did so in the hopes that they would learn to think things through before acting on their own irrational stupidity. I am not your savior nor do I ever want to be such to anyone, the best I used to offer to most was a temporary jarring of ones senses to give you a moment of self reflection before I moved on to the next person in need.
But after nearly 3 decades of trying to help people and watching them struggle to figure it out because they are too embarrassed to look themselves in the mirror I can honestly say I no longer care as an INFJ to help any of them fix anything in their personal life. As my grandfather used to say to us "If you fish in extremely shallow waters you'll never catch large fish".
As for Perfection, there is nothing wrong with aiming for it. Deluding yourself in to thinking the whole world is capable of achieving it and becoming some utopian paradise on the other hand is a one way ticket to a padded room. Perfection after all is but a fleeting moment that tricks the senses into driving one forward.
Infj here. I feel your emotion while you speak in this video. Almost as if your withholding a stress or a pain. The shake in your voice, twisting your hair, looking around the room.. Maybe im wrong. But maybe im right.
You just listed all my flaws.. 😬
Thanks for understanding us💗
Im touched. Thank you so much. I always feel like I can understand everyone and no one can understand me. Im learning about how infj appears to others, and hearing your thoughts, your advice to many thing we (infj) are blinded about is so great.
I'm INFJ and I've had a lot of wonderful people tell me that I should be a Life Coach or Therapist. It's in our blood to have that wisdom and perspective. A knowing. INFJ's understand that knowing. Too cool!
Thank you for sharing this video. You shared so many valid points that really touched that special place within my soul. It's a magical feeling when you feel understood. We don't feel understood often ❤
Blessed be are we! Hugs
Meghan, this video - - - - - > Moved to a flood of tears.
Your Honesty, Your Passion, Your Sincerity, Your Love exudes from your face,, your body language, your choice of words.
Thank You for this moment of understanding, Thank you for this moment of Hope.
INFJ here. We do think in a universal mind. I think that's why I always liked that Jim Morrison lyric. However, if I try to share my perspective with others, mostly non-Fj's, they act like my view is completely insane and not worth a second of their time.
thank you so much Meghan, it's like you were talking directly to me, I have trouble sharing things with people because I'm afraid it won't be valued or I'll be easily misunderstood. I hope I can meet more people like you who would take the time to dig into me a little bit and appreciate what I'm saying, and this encourages me to keep putting myself out there with my art and writing
Thank you. Really nice to hear this after beating myself up for having the most messed up personality type, obsessing over improving all my weak cognitive functions, shadow functions, blind spots, trigger/pressure points, hypocrisy, critical stuff and all things that make INFJs suck.
This INFJ loves you too
Yes always trying to solve the world largest blinders throughout this timeline in my personal lifetime.
Helping solve climate change, clearer oceans, happier people, more sustainably for local people throughout this planet, clean water is a must for all life.
Yes, insomnia is often 4 or 5 nights a week.
Yet, this personal journey I am on this lifetime, I do see things I have noticed and never knew I was a INFJ until I took the 16 personalities test, if one answers honestly, it is spot on.
Almost like I amaze myself 🤣😁
My position in this lifetime was shown to me by others as strangely that may sound. I heeded the advice, what a beautiful, mysterious, blessed, honorable life it has been so far.
I know this month with me being capricorn also and just my birthday, wow.
My life is really going to change this month into the most gracious and humbling experience in my lifetime as of yet.
I can feel it, I guess all INFJ are like this. All so new trying to understand myself and why I feel compelled to help save this beautiful vile marble we call planet Earth.
INFJ, PSYCHIC?
One may say yes,
I have been told God like experiences, blessed, lucky, gifted, yet, I am just me.
A bit harsh at times to those whom do not do their jobs 1000%
As I do expect the best in everyone that including myself most of all and foremost for that matter.
I am most grateful for you taking the time out to make a video like this, as it does help me understand myself, which is a blessing most if all.
Much love and aloha
👑
HRH PRINCESS TIFFANY
KINGDOM OF MAUI, HAWAI'I, OCEANIA
As an INFJ, with an impossible goal... that I can't look away from, is brutally painful as it is critically important... A message like this is so meaningful, it gives fuel to keep trying. Thank you, and clearly, I need more ENFPs in my friend group. 🙂 I am 49 and only met one other person like me that I am aware of. Based on the messaged below, there should be a place for INFJs to get to know other INFJs.
I think what the INFJ misses out is that they are the home that they are looking for. The answer they seek is not outward but within. INFJ, you are what you seek. You belong within yourself and whence you find out who you are, You will be in-tuned with yourself and with the world. You will learn to make boundaries, you will learn that all battles can be fought without you involved, you will learn always to listen and when to talk. You will learn that everything will fall into place. You will learn everything, because the answer you seek has always been YOU. You belong to yourself and remember, you are not alone in your struggle we are here. You are not the only INFJ, WE are one. Lots of love to you INFJ ♥️
I seee yooou 👀
Haha. Sharing my thoughts feels like that REM song looosing my religionnnn. Oh no i saaid too much! But i havent said enough... 😂🤷♂️
Thanks for expressing your love to the INFJs and showing you understand us. I do tend to poke around at peoples minds and most of the time im like yeah, they wont get what I really want to say. I guess we can talk about what u been through. Or the burnt stuff on bbq ribs... yummy stuff right there. Later on in life I realise I should just plant little seeds near the walls people put up and let them grow. They may realise its a flower and like it! They may even ask where they can get some more flowers like that.
Success...
Anyway thanks again ❤️🤗 Peace.
I need an INFJ in my life. I'm struggling from lack of self esteem. I've noticed that in my life I haven't seen too many empathetic people. A lot of carelessness though. Love to all who enter here. Yuma,AZ.
Infj dissapears like the hermit wizard that comes from isolation from time to time. So probably you've met someone like that, very wise people they care about others gives very good advice, but then dissapears for a while.. think of Gandalf kind of energy. Look around your people infj people are probably there but you didn't notice yet. Look for that person who embodies the energy of a wise old man or woman, very sociable, but loners.
people who cheer other people up and encourage them to be the best version of themselves are precious, and I think that if you've watched that video, either you are one of them, either you're becoming one of them. INFJ or not. I love that kind of vibes. keep going guys, the world needs people like us.
The best part about an infj is that you can say anything to them no matter how weird or stupid it is and they’re not going to judge you at all as long as you’re being honest about what you’re saying and not trying to manipulate them or something. If you’re just being genuine, they’ll accept the hell out of you
"You're more than what you can do for other people." Just having that need acknowledged and then saying that, that meant the world to me. Thank you. I live for my usefulness and when I cant be useful I feel like a waste of space.
“You have such high standards for yourself and I love that” - 😵😳🤯
Amen 🙏🏼🦋🙌🏼❣️ She Is Absolutely One Magnificent Glorious Devine Spirit Who’s Holy Light Of Stunning Mercy .. Grace ... Love .... For The Greatest Gift Above All .... . Is The Ability To Seek Wisdom .. Knowledge .. As Well As .. Discernment .. Therefore Gaining Clarity Throughout Our Journey’s Thus Side Of Heaven 🌈 🙌🏼🙏🏼🦋🙏🏼🦋🙌🏼❣️ For Unto Our Sister .. “A Mighty Warrior” .. Covered By The Almighty “Impenetrable” Hedge Of Protection By The One True Alpha & Omega .... .. Whom Is Source Of “All” .... .. . TRINITY 🙏🏼🦋🙌🏼❣️ 3 In One Person .... .. . You Can See The True Source Of This Beautifully Created Vessel .. Again In My Own Personal Opinion .. Sorry To The Point .. FORGIVE ME .. This Holy Ninja Warrior Of Sincerely Holy Devine Love (Example This Side Of Heaven .. Is EXTREMELY BLESSED & HIGHLY FAVORED WITH A ALMIGHTY PURPOSE 💛 REVIVAL OF LOVE 🙏🏼🌈🙌🏼💜❣️ Shared In The Upmost Humbly Bold Way Humanly Possible 💛 VERY MUCH NEEDED AT THIS VERY MOMENT WITHIN MY OWN PERSONAL JOURNEY THOS SIDE OF GLORY ❣️🙌🏼🦋🙌🏼❣️ Refreshing Tears of HOPE FOR ALL HUMILITY WAS INDEED RESTORED FALLING VICTORIOUSLY POWERFUL FROM MY VERY SOUL OVERWHELMINGLY FULLING MY SPIRIT WITH RENEWED “ MAD RESPECT “ BELIEVING THAT I AM INDEED NOT A MISTAKE “ .... FURNITURE MORE MY OWN TESTIMONY OF BEING AN INFJ ~ EMPATHIC 38yr WOMAN WHO HAS INDEED BEEN THROUGH SOME HORRIFICALLY TOXIC VALLEYS 😶🙏🏼💭🙌🏼❣️LETS JUST SAY .. SERVE C~PTSD 🤪 .. YET AN OVERCOMER 😌👘😁 .. BY THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL ☺️ HER REFRESHING ENERGY OF HUMBLE YET BOLD LOVE .. WAS THE BEST GIFT OF ANY 38yr OLD INFJ EMPATHIC SPIRIT THIS SIDE OF GLORY COULD HAVE EVER IN ALL OF ETERNITY RECEIVING THIS OF THE “10yr” ANNIVERSARY OF MY 2nd Chance and a New Awakening .. LIKE LITERALLY .. however we won’t get into that it took me this long just to get this out of me so could you imagine “ My Forkin’ “ 😁🙏🏼🤪🙌🏼🙄❣️🤣 38yr Testimony .. LORD JESUS 🤣 THIS VIDEO IS PLUM REVIVAL TO MY SOUL
I need to turn you into a teddy bear to carry around in my tote. Yes, I don't put myself out there enough because I'm too much of a perfectionist. Thanks for the encouragement. Lots of hugs to you Meghan.
It must be a blessing to even meet another INFJ and you found one who loves you, I'm happy for you 🥰. While I get a lot of these videos on my feed I have not yet met a real INFJ. Other personality types are intimidated by me even when I'd dimm my light. In the end I stopped making myself smaller to make people comfortable. It's better to walk this world alone and authentic than surrounded by people and pretending.
Thank you Ma'am. I don't know why I searched for INFJ and why I wanted to hear something about myself as described by some scale (which i happen to associate with ).
But please take care, you brought tears to my eyes. More so for how deeply you have felt it and how honestly you are sharing it.
It's very kind of you to be so concerned, to invest and to reach out. 🙏 Thank you again
Fascinating you have so many INFJs in your life considering they make up the 1%, you must be a magnet to the INFJ. Also love your videos and insight of the INFJ, I have discovered recently that I am one, the way you break down the personality type and traits is quite revealing
dcel8 ENFJ ‘s will often gravitate to infj and vice versus. I’m an ENFJ and my favorite people are infj. We trad each other’s minds.
As an INFJ I wanted to comment on your statement about peering into someone's soul. I'm kind of new to the MBTI. I just learned of it a few days go and haven't been able to stop studying since, its fascinating. Back to the soul peering. I have always felt like when I look at strangers I see too much. Some of which I know they would not share willingly. So it feels like I'm violating them when I look people in the eye. Almost an aggressive act with strangers. With people I know its not like that because I know they know I can 'see them' and not whatever actor they are wearing. This can also be dangerous with sociopaths and psychopaths if they notice you 'see them' through their mask.
Wow, this hit me hard. Tearing up quite a bit. Thank you.
One thing I want to say to people
"Trust an Infj. Trust what they know and don't underestimate us"
My gurdness. You tugged at my heart strings a little there. It is a very lonely world for us. I can say that I have only two true friends in my life, literally. One is my wife and one is the only other person I trust. My wife still struggles with understanding me but we work somehow. Hearing you say the things you did, made me feel a little more validated. I rarely put my ideas forward since they are normally “out of the box”. Out of the box ideas clash with status quo way to often. So I keep to my self knowing these ideas could be life altering. I’ll be showing your video to my wife when the time is right. Thank you for your understanding and for bringing it into the light.
I am an INFJ
And
Only thing I wanted to say is that tears are gushing in my eyes while watching this video.
At least someone in this understands us and wants us to be improving....
Thanks
Thank you Meghan,especially for validating me...it brought me to tears. You know me without ever having met me and you gave me chicken soup for my soul, especially with what is happening in the USA at this moment. One thing that I personally have difficulty overcoming is the frustration that I fell when I try to do those things you said. It’s like I’m speaking a different language that from time to time I have to find refuge in nature or my pets. It also makes me feel that I’m so misunderstood and that I don’t belong in this time. So thank you again for your kind words, I’ve also realized that I can listen to ENFJs talk for hours, I love you guys!
Thank you for this Meghan! As a maturing INFJ I am becoming ok with things not all being ok. How I stopped having to fix everything was realizing that there will always be another thing that is not ideal, and if I wait to be happy until the whole world is at peace, then I can never be happy. I choose happy now- just as I am and just as things are. This helps me to enjoy being me.
"Even if you forget to eat ..." This past Saturday, people were telling me that I was "the guest of honor" at a party. What I remember was being too ambitious (two side dishes, plus a dessert I had never attempted to make prior to the party), and how there was still pasta to boil that morning (plus fresh basil that had wilted).
By the time I got in the car and was driving to the destination, I thought to myself, "Oh, crap! Did I even eat breakfast today?" There were about eight pasta dishes at the party and plenty of leftovers.
Even once I got there, I knew a friend was coming, and I put myself in his place (seeming to call and text because he was lost), and how I barely knew how to find this remote location in a state park, because the intersection/turn for the parking lot is virtually unmarked. So I walked away from a whole party of chatting people to put myself in a place where that friend could notice me and figure out where to turn (plus I finally got a decent cellular signal to text or receive incoming calls).
Thank you for this video (maybe I should have led with that?). I'm just starting to seek out more information about my MBTI "type," and this video must have been recommended by the algorithm.
Thank you for understanding. Thank you for valuing the difficulties we have. We love you too. "Believing that what we want to say has already been said...INFJ don't speak unless they. know their ideas will land..."
I appreciate your thoughts. Thank you for sharing. As an INFJ I try to spare others some of the hard experiences I have had to help them on their way, but like they say there is no better teacher than experience. Hard earned experience has its value, but I am always looking for a better, simpler, easier way to relate to others. Thank you 🙏 for your encouragement.
I love a love letter, especially when the love letter is to my personality trait!
I need an ENFJ in my life. This video was very nourishing. Thank you.
As an infj I believe infjs can't really numb themselves because they don't see the point in numbing the problem when it's still there. I also believe after meeting people over many years that infjs see things in a way that is almost beyond comprehension (not bragging). Thank you for this very touching video.
We see the bigger picture.
In that way, we need to be calm, given reflective time, but when I need to share writing, typing on social media.can give a platform.
Perfectionism is a block, but when the creation is realized, even we are beautifully surprised.
Thank you for building an encouragement to keep going forward, aiming at, and hitting the target. It's lonely sometimes, but we are treasured .
Your compassion for us is deep, and deeply appreciated.
Without freedom to rebel we would be impossible.
Apologies are necessary if there is too much desire for perfection.
Motivating people is not my best side, but it is nice to have someone recognize the goal.
Compartmentalizations help to keep focused, but we must not get arrogant with our ideals.
Thanks again, watch out for predators, and God bless.
My God. I've never felt that understood in my entire life. Because of you, I'm going to write that book I day dreamed about for years. Thank you sooooooooooo much. Oh and also, where do I find a women like you??
Thank you. Beautifully said and explained. Can't say I would view myself this way though. I always feel incomplete and lacking. I have been struggling with who I am all of my life. I often hate myself for the way my mind works and the way I perceive and understand things. And for which I have been heavily criticised over the years. Only recently I have found out that I am an INFJ which was an extremely cathartic and emotional experience. I never thought there were others folks out there like me. Wish people would let me be instead of always trying to tear me for what I stand for or believe in. Being an INFJ is not easy or pleasant for sure.
I really enjoyed this video as an infj myself. You hit the nail on the head with this one. I noticed how I can play “devils advocate” easily because I can see all sides of an argument or an idea. One of my best friends used to take me clothes shopping with her because she knew I would give my honest opinion about how she looked in the clothes. She even told me I made her feel like crap when something didn’t look right but when something looks good I made her feel like a million bucks. New sub here! 👍
in real life i am a quiet infj yet i can open myself up and be social but i spend most of my time on art and music projects. i scored infj in college on the mbti had no idea what the test was about until the test results. i am a vegan and have always cared dearly for animals. i will be using my art music and entertainment to contribute to the world
Within my personal experience, I have found that the biggest barrier for me has been how others react to my insights. Most seem to consistently dismiss my insights as accurate, exaggerated, or "not something that needs to be addressed."
I have repeatedly had the experience of "I cite a problem (which at the time is small), and how it can be resolved, and others 'don't see it' or 'don't want to be inconvenienced by doing anything about it," and over a period of months or years, others start to recognize "the problem," but none of them remember that I said something, or listen to my insights still.
I find that many seem to "need to be the one to solve it" and "be the one who comes up with a solution."
So the very idea that "I might have the solution" is a point of conflict, and only after I "give up" and "let them do whatever they want" do they (sometimes) adopt some aspects of my idea, but even then there's a lack of validation of my contributions.
In my mind, most "don't want to know the solution" because in many cases it's a lot of work and "once they know, they feel obligated to use that knowledge."
So yeah, I would say my personal barrier against "offering my insights" is how consistently my insights are met with negative/confrontational responses (unless I literally let them choose when they receive my insights, and what/how much insight they receive, and I find that emphasis on "their choice" and "their convenience" with no room for 'my choice' is very frustrating, particularly when I'm trying to resolve something that also affects me, and in some cases "not addressing the issue" leads to something falling apart, something that could have been saved and preserved, but others didn't want to recognize there was a problem until it was too late.
So (for many years) I have tried to "keep myself from becoming overly invested" in things that involve other people, and are likely to lead to "I care, but others will not listen, and will become hostile if I try to offer my perspective."
I resonated so much with a lot of things you said. It does feel like such a struggle to hold my own truth, core values, and beliefs because I want to have that idealized reality. It pushes me to want to see the greater good in the world and projecting it out through my own self-improvement. But, that does mean I neglect my needs. Thank you for putting this out into the world. I have always wished to share my thoughts but feared the judgment of others. You are an amazing individual and I'm glad you have INFJs as friends as well as your partner because we need you.
People always find me too challenging because I am more intelligent and think outside of the box and spot every minute mistake and challenge it 🤔
I hate having the desire to be self dependent but feel so alone and isolated when I’m not with people
You were going through so many emotions. And, I could feel them as an INFJ. So, I had to pause the video every 2 minutes. Otherwise, believe me I would have cried. Especially when you said talking to us feels like "coming home".
Well said! Thank you for the kind words 😊
- an INFJ in Indonesia
You have me in tears. Thank you dear. We will be good in time.
I’m a INFJ empath. What you said was true and correct. Your right. Biggest deal for mature INFJ’s are the boundaries we have to put up in order to maintain sanity and self control, people should just be patient and wait for the doors to be opened,love and trust abide inside.(Just don’t betray it.)ℹ️💯✅❤️✝️🙏🏿📖🗡👊🏿👌🏿👍🏿🥷☯️😎
INFJ; my best friend is an ENFJ and this was so touching because this felt like it described so much of our friendship. Thank you 🧡✨
That was beautifully spoken. Thank you from an infj who tends to draw in mostly those who want to destroy me rather than love me.
Heyyyyy i just wanted to say that the infj that you are dating is sooooo lucky to have you, a person who listens appreciates and really sees the infj. I wanted to cry several times while listening to you. Thank you a million times for this heartly love letter
I had your video saved for when I have bad days and today was one of those days . Your video always helps me feel better and helps me feel validated , loved and appreciated when the weight of the world feels like it’s on my shoulders , when I feel I’m there for others but no one knows how to be there in the way I wish they could . I hope the love you give out in these videos comes back to you ten fold . 💜✨✨