I heard many amazing things today: "They know how to create miracles." "I want you INFPs listening to know that, even if you have not explicitly given advice... your existence is inspiring." "INFPs know how to go within, spend time alone, and alchemize themselves by processing their emotions... and it's magical." "You're not lazy for being wired differently than other people. It's ok to live a slower life, it's ok to live a life where beauty and art are the number one things." "Your ability to listen to what you desire and take it seriously, *is* what it allows you to manifest miracles in your life and create the life you want." "You have a heightened thermometer in your heart when it comes to what you desire and what you don't desire. And you are like a baby, in the sense that it is fresh, it is raw, it is hypersensitive. And that is *interesting information*. Your heart is giving you interesting information that you can use. And I hope that you don't feel shame for that." Thank you
We need to learn to appreciate ourselves first because when ppl show us, love, we may question it. Also, some of us aren't good at receiving it.. giving yes...
I won't say we don't actually get much love, just that not the kinds of love that we're looking for (we're VERY picky when it comes to that). to make matters worse, we could easily tell of the conditions that those love would come with, & most of the time, those conditions just ain't sitting well with us.
Paul Thompson Lol! It does feel strange, some people are even rude to me for being different and confident about it... We just live in a Capitalist society where individuality and confidence are seen as a threat or scary to most people, since most people hide themselves to fit into the mold... Sorry we INFPs can not do that or else we'll explode! Hahaha
I can relate! I constantly feel like others are intimidated by me and they don't try to get closer. I feel like we are free spirited people and the fact that we don't care about judgement only makes people scared of us. We're different and different can be terrifying
People love my individualality and weirdness, you just haven't found the right people...maybe your attracted attracted people who aren't your tribe...or aren't seeing you for you
I just tested mine a couple days ago...im completely new into this personality type stuff...i tested as an INFP -T as well...so I'm trying to study up on it and learn...any advice or knowledge on this type? what does the turbulent part really mean?
@@iamthenothing6458 I'm pretty new at this too but from what I understand turbulent infps are more prone to be less confident, perfectionists, are prone to stress based on the comparisons between assertive and turbulent I've found that assertive is more Optimistic than turbulent, but I wouldn't know a whole lot more, but I would say to handle that I would try and be confident and self-assured in yourself, realize it's ok if you fail sometimes because you are human, have faith in your abilities, at least knowing that is what helps me. I hope this helps
@Chris Coleman Assertive INFPs are composed, kinder to themselves, do not stress themselves over their work and are generally more laid back. Kind of like the ENFP I guess. They also do not let their emotions dictate their decisions and can view things more logically. Turbulent INFPs aren’t as composed, extreme perfectionists, will never be truly happy with the quality of their work, are extremely critical of themselves and tend to fit the stereotypical INFP type descriptions.
I'm an INFP-T as well and from the beginning of the video I was like "graceful? Psshh yea right" then 5 s later i be like "I guess I havent been a good infp, probably shud do better, try harder.. ugh why am I so lazy?!" So yeah...
I sort of feel like it's inevitable though, that us turbulent infps are destined to reach this particular point in life where we'll somehow be forced to begin being kind to ourselves, even in small ways, for the sake of our survival. It's something that requires consistent practice over the years, the ability of doing that is hardly innate and it's quite a difficult process for us in particular, but we can only ever handle so much hurt before we completely break down from it all... and in the end, unless we fall and spiral down indefinitely into the engulfing darkness where we might not ever see light again, I think we usually find a way. We will find it in us to view ourselves as human beings worthy of compassion, even our own, and begin permitting ourselves that otherworldly feeling of love, kindness, and boundless light. We're all worthy of it, we must tell ourselves that first. I wish you all a wonderful day and week.
Hearing the first time in my life "it's ok to live a slower life" made me break down. Instead of hearing so many times people laughing at you since you can think that you even eat slower, that you are walking slower, just because you don't want to speed up through the whole life, just because you want to get the whole pure joy of this delicious food, you get everyday, even when it's "not the best" you could have.. Thank you so much for making such a video. I'm gonna get a box of tissues now to end this video.
@@MeghaMuse thank you so much for answering with such nice words! It actually felt like a very good friend was talking the whole time :) thank you for sharing and for caring, a big hug to you! you're a nice human being :)
Oh my gosh.... My family makes fun of me for eating slow and called me a baby. It actually made me feel so sad and hurt. I thought I was stupid for locking myself in my room after that.... Especially during covid its so hard because I'm stuck at home and I have to live with all the people that makes me feel hurt. I know they don't really mean anything bad... but I still get hurt.
Omg iam also so slow at eating 😅 my mother always scolds me for that she always says me to spped up n not waste time 🙄 but I just don't. Wanna pressurize myself at any cost and do things without rushing myself 🙂
“You’re not lazy for being wired differently than other people” That is such an important thing for infp’s to remember and something I definitely needed to hear today, thank you ❤️
I’m an shy, socially awkward INFP-T and honestly it’s so hard, I just want to fit into the the world. I tend to feel so distant from friends and not know how to talk to people and maintain relationships because I’m in my own world and head most of the time. I don’t really fit in with people around me and no one gets it. I feel like people think I’m so lazy (I probs am) but I get so many ideas but I struggle to put it out there and everyone seems so driven in pursuing their careers I’m just like I like writing and singing. It gets me down so much I feel I’ve become so much more turbulent and debilitating in my own mind I just wish I could disappear and just live life on an island in my own world without the worlds noise and rules :( **UPDATE** WOW it’s amazing that so many people resonated with this, I’m in such a different mind space now, I think what the problem was, was that I wasn’t raised in an environment that encouraged growth being able to maintain friends, social awkwardness etc I was very restricted but I’m very confident, open and sure of myself now! I do like my space and I’d consider myself 60% introverted but I’ve made and can maintain friendships. I’m so much happier now, I’m not sure if that is too relatable now but if you’re in a bad space you can come out the other end okay! ❤️
So am i, understand you so much.When my friend jocking,i don't get jokes and they talking line(like i am not in the boat,but swimming beside,can talk with persoon one to one best and to fast get tired of information what i resieve, often when i fall in my toughts when my bf tells me something,he is mad on me when i am asking to repeat,he is entj-a.But i never do it specialy) When i shared your comment with my bf,he said that it's absolutely like me and we could be friends maybe(lol,maybe if you interesting in) Infp-t Insta: diana_obezyanka
This paraphrased quote from Dostoevsky describes the INFP sentiment, "The greatest miracles are not supernatural, but rather the greatest miracle is the smile of a stranger, the small kindness we show to another person, the small acts of love we show every day."
There are other miracles he is a strictly logical man that did not really believe in spirituality per my understanding, so I have difficulties going with the quote but I do agree with the sentiment
@@sabrinaszabo9355 Dostoevsky was very spiritually oriented, if not outright spiritual. He was a Russian Orthodox Christian. This is the man who is famous for saying "beauty will save the world." If you read his novels, you'll see that actually he was far from strictly logical. He understood the strictly logical types of people, he portrays this type of person in his character Ivan in The Brothers Karamazov. Ivan was your standard atheist who is hung up on rationality. But he also very much understood the limitations of such a viewpoint, and he portrayed this in the other characters. Alyosha for example could be said to be the protagonist of the novel, and Alyosha was very much a christ-like figure. The protagonist in The Idiot was also another figure modeled after a christ-likeness. In Crime and Punishment, the protagonist, raskolnakov, is the same kind of rationalist as Ivan described above, and the whole thesis of that novel is showing the failures of such rationalism. Dostoevsky undersood spirituality far better than 99% of the Christian church today. His insights into human nature, motivations, and needs are nothing short of profound in my opinion. I'm saying this as someone who tends to really dislike people who are blinded by their own "rationality".
All the time. Suddenly a month has passed without me saying hi to them. Then I feel guilty. Then I say hi, and feel reassured since they know it's how I am.
Yeah my friend said it's like I'm Anti social but you know it's not exactly anti social, just away. I felt bad. But. I'm happy they know I don't dislike them.
I kind of forget that often. I often do plan to text them, but simply postpone it. And again. And further. And then I haven’t texted my friends for a month and my ENFP friend gets really worried. And I feel really damn guilty the whole time and yet I don’t text them earlier.
This was very beautyfully put, we infps often get portrayed as those weak, lazy, under-achieving daydreamers cause we´re not as "gritty" as society would prefer but you understand that it´s not always a weakness to actually listen to your feelings. I think many people are so good at ignoring their feelings it will bite them in the ass one day. I mean in the end of the day, how many will regret that they didn´t work more overtime or didn´t get that promotion? Those things may seem important right now but they are empty calories, not satisfying in the long run. Big digital hug to you meghan.
Well i listened too much the other instead of me, i did the mbti test during mid school and i was typed as INFP, i stayed nearly only with the same person from the start of middle school to the end of high school, the thing is that as i was in a small school, there was a very few INFP/INFJ and they were too different from me so i didn't tried to interact with them. Instead i was with a bunch of friends who were very Ti/e oriented like INTPs, an ISTP, an ENTP, INTJs and an ENTJ. I was attracted to them at first because they gave me room to express my intuition and that we have the same observers, we all wanted to understand the world in detail but they were only attracted by logical insight, i rapidly repressed my Fi to the point that i'm not sure i'm an INFP and i forced myself to follow them into the science high school but aside of that i attended drawing lesson and i knew i would be an artist later, i could had choose the art high school earlier but it was too late so i forced myself and i got the science diploma last year. This year i'm studying in the local art preschool with only 7 person and a retired artist that became a teacher which also do the drawing lesson where i was before. As a minor sensing it was hard to deal with the skill part, i'm a bit clumsy, what i only want is to inspire people but it must come with the aesthetic skill so i worked hard. Then i participated a one-month contest to attend the 5th best 3D animation school worldwide (in terms of percentage of students becoming professional animators) and i succeeded. So i will start a new life at the beginning of the next school year and I'm sure it will be an enriching experience. So i think the additional work isn't empty calories, often time i have nightmares in which I act too late because i didn't realised how meaningful things like work or people are, the 2 are connected, i think that INFP need to learn skill even the hard way, INFP doctor is a good example but it is even more true for INFP artist since they can be heard only trough skill, they need to be the best at it to be selected which implies hard work, there isn't more frustrating than having the most deep and meaningful ideas and that in the end people take our place simply because their less good ideas were better presented, with more skill.
@@slash6686 You are absolutely right, i never meant that hard work is bad or anything. Everybody needs skills and it takes time to get any good at anything. However, i do think that many people are a little obsessed with the thought of hard work for hard works own sake or like they connect their self esteem and identity to their achivements only wich i don´t think is good in the long run. That may be part of the reason why especially men often feel so lost when they retire or loose their job so they start drinking or doing drugs and stuff. To put it short i believe it´s better to work to live than live to work. From my experience i know i can work hard but i need to have at least some kind of interest in what i´m doing in order to find proper motivation. Any way, thanks for an intelligent reply and have a good day.
Hey fellow INFPs, Right now, my room is totally messy, there are dishes everywhere and you can hardly discover the floor underneath all the clothes and papers. So I`m telling you guys that I will start now to clean up because life is much better like that. I`d realy like to encourage you doing the same. Even if your room is just a bit less chaotic in the end of the day then the day before, it`s an improvement. Let`s do this, INFPs, our willpower is on fire, when we realy decide to improve. Sometimes there will be taff times but you will make it, believe in yourselve, your awesome! Listening to "fight song" by Rachel Platten is a good way to get into mood for cleaning up by the way :)
It was terrifying at first but minimalism was the best for that. Can't get as messy if you have less stuff. 2 loads of laundry a week and run the dishwasher 2 times a week. And I found having less and being neater-ish help with the anxiety and getting distracted 37 times a day!
INFP to me are the most poetic kinds. They make you watch the world's beauty, its truth and they actually are very insightful about emotions and feelings. As a ENFP, I'm touched by this type... and dive easly into their world ^-^
One of my close friends is ENFP. The others weren’t typed but I think they might be INTP and ISTP. So we’d all be perceivers, I think. My ENFP friend I do have quite a lot in common. We both care about pursuing our respective passions (writing for me, music for him). We were both diagnosed with autism so we share a bit of common ground in that respect too. I value all my closest friends a lot. And I value that they are quality over quantity. But I think he is the one who seems most in touch with his feelings. And most eager to have such personal conversations about our feelings.
this video made me feel fuzzy. Im a masculine fully bearded tough-guy looking dude, and have never felt so touched by being called dainty before. idk how to finish this thought
I’m INFP man, I don’t mind having dainty heart. I lead my life through it. I loved hearing about healing from within, I’m 38 and I just went through healing of trauma from childhood. I felt the pain taken. Great video thank you
I love men who are like this... I'm not a fan of the cold and heartless type... I love men who are kind, sweet and nice.. Maybe that's because I'm also an INFP. 😊 Just stay true to yourself always, other people will catch up
Meghan: I empathize with you * Inside my infp brain* Person 1: Really? Can you really do it? I don't believe you Person 2: Dude she made you cry for like 25 mins. Person 1: Yeaaaaa... I really love you ❤️ I wish all of the world was like you tbh😭
Same here... Being a perfectionist (which is fear) means never getting things done. Go for it, you have what it takes because you have the desire. A desire cannot be placed on your hear without the ability to fulfill it. Just make the decision and stubbornly take small steps toward it. We can support each other!
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As a male INFP it has taken me a long time to make peace with my emotional experience and learn to love and embrace that part of myself. As a guy you grow up being told your a "baby" or "like a girl". Now I value this part of myself so much. It's the best of me. I've actually been randomly told by people in my life, that were not people I felt particularly connected to, that I'm inspiring or inspire others. That always catches me off guard and feels like such a privilege.
Growing up, I was called a sissy, told that I was too fragile, and lots of people thought I was gay. I even tried that path. Nope. Not gay. Fun, but not for me. Women told me that I was in touch with my feelings and that my intensity was amazing and frightening. So here I am, finding myself among a great many trans people who are also NFs. I still love women, so I guess I am gay. lol But as a woman, I am _allowed_ to be who I am without question. Was I always trans? I was certain enough to transition. Was a large part of that dictated by my personality type? Food for thought. It cost me the wife I'm still in love with and we're best friends. (She's INFJ). She has remarked that my taking deep dives into things to explore it fully is a welcome characteristic, if a bit tiring for her-until the next thing finds my love and attention. Then she's interested right along with me again. That doesn't apply to people, though.. When finding someone who can be trusted, having them in my life is a priority because being myself is *permissible*. Multiply that by a hundred when they are people with whom I can create things. Also - everyone I know has mentioned that "exploring my food" is a thing I do. Xb I love to cook to please others and myself! When ladies see it as a sexual thing, I don't disabuse them of that notion. Massage therapist, cook, writer, editor, union steward (which is burning me out), and prototype fabricator. You sometimes don't realize the hats you wore well were the ones actually suited to you until after the fact. What do I wish I were ensconced in, like a fuzzy warm blanket? Scifi/lesfic author. It's next. I just have to find a way to let 200 people down first.
You were right when you mentioned to narrow down the perspective of finding love but I think it's today's society fault. We have an amazing ability to see through someone's BS and intentions that's where we immediately turn off. We seem to be picky but we just want pure and honest connection, nothing more. Our biggest gift is compassion and empathy, will to forgive again and again, our biggest flaw: not exposing ourselves to the world. At one point in our lives we are going to hit the big wall, and going over that wall is gonna require leaving our comfort zone behind. Thanks for the video, sendin' you love
@@Userykp yep..already did, she sucked the life out of me and never said or did anything bad to her. You have to take a look from the other side. I can only thank her she thought me most valuable lessons and the most important "awareness". There are no coincidences. If you are goin' to make an orange juice you must squeeze the oranges..get it? ;)
It’s disappointing that the world generally doesn’t share that view. Especially as a man, who is expected to be pretty cold and efficient. And not dainty as all, as Meghan would put it.
"Once you're in their hearts, you're never going to leave" I believe this is so true. There are people that I haven't talked to practically the rest of my life, but I remember them and how they impacted me and my growth. My strive to be a better person in all walks of life. I have made some awful mistakes, but being able to look back on my past and have either someone impacting me or I them in a positive life is what I live for.
So many INFPs in this comment section. So many virtual hugs. Everyone is so kind and loving. My INFJ self loves this. Thank you for sharing this! I have been watching your love letters to my family amd friend's types. I have an INFP friend, and although we don't talk much, I can still tell that this video is very accurate. I am not an INFP of course, and like you said, they are all so different, so I can't speak for them, but I think that most would agree. Thank you for posting this 💛 xxx
Why do they not get you? I only ask because my family and friends did not get me either until I explained how I felt which is foreign to me. Don't act on assumption. Many do not get us because we do not communicate our feelings articulately. We are masters of disguise. I did not realize this until I met an ENFJ back in 2007 and although nine years my junior, she and I are now like sisters. She saw right through my charade and insisted on friendship.
I am a black sheep and basically completely alone in this world I don’t have one close friend, or confident. I feel your pain. I had to be here for myself because I had no choice. But we are together alone. I love you
So. Many. Tears. It’s hard for me to listen to things about my true self that are beautiful and kind because I tend to focus on helping others and run from the spotlight. Amazing video. THANK YOU!
@@Userykp sure they do. But sometimes being the centre of attention is inevitable, your birthday party for instance or anything of that sort. Especially if it's a surprise. INFPS in general are not comfortable with unpredictability, that's why we prefer to keep our distance.
I hope you find happiness love. Everyone’s worth it, look up at the sky and enjoy the clouds and the bright sun gleaming on your face, the stars in the darkness. Nobody is that harsh on you, and you would never be that harsh in someone else, don’t do it to yourself love. You’re the most important person in your life. ✨🧚🏻🌱💖
I was like that... my tribulation was terrifying and it's still crazy to think about how different I am now. I promise you it is important to go through what you're currently dealing with...this is how you'll master your peace. Amen
I always get frustrated because I feel like "everyone thinks my heart is dainty", but then I'm like why doesn't anyone understand that I'm sensitiiive hahaha always a battle P.S. this is what I needed today. The confidence in myself to help make the change. ✨💛
I can’t be the only infp crying while listening to this . She is so sweet for saying thoughtful kind words. Thank you for this . We love to learn about ourselves so we can learn about others . ❤️
The more I watch these videos on INFP, the more I realize how different my current and past selves are. I’m not as emotional anymore, I’m better dealing with criticism, I have an easier time having productive hard conversations with loved ones. I’m still INFP, but I’m not as raw anymore, and I think that’s because I’m not as turbulent.
I have learned so much from my ENTP best friend. She will reflect on every possible way to look at a problem/communication issue and is incredibly open minded. She is not afraid to admit that she is wrong. I (INFP) have relied heavily on my ability to read into behaviour patterns and must admit that sometimes I will overinterpret small things that people say or do. There are narcissistic and co-dependent issues in my family so while growing up, I learned to be hypervigilant about the tone of voice, wording and facial expressions of other people. Most of the time this seems to be giving me access to accurate information about people's emotional states, but sometimes I will be blowing things out of proportion. It feels good to consider that I might actually be wrong - often it means that my anxiety isn't based on reality, only on my rigid thought processes 😊😊 P.s. If someone out there is looking for support after growing up in a narcissistic family environment I highly recommend listening to Jerry Wise, Patrick Teahan, Ruth Ann Harpur, Anna Runkle (The Crappy Childhood Fairy) and Alan Robarge 💛
Newly acknowledged INFP here. I struggle to work through my emotions and the core root of what that emotion is and that's extremely distressing to me. I think for so long I've suppressed my emotions because I am so overemotional about evvvvverything and have been shamed for it or told I was overly sensitive. Finding happiness again in acknowledging I'm an emotional person and working through those emotions and I'm so much happier for it. Hoping this will help me feel like my true authentic self again. Thanks for the video
Omg that's what I do too, I always try to find the roots of my emotions.. I was also shamed for my emotions, like getting upset over someone taking advantage of my kindness and being rude to me, my parents telling me I was being sensitive... I always have to think that not everyone is worthy of kindness if they haven't earned it, and that concept was so difficult for me... Us INFPs have to go through the pain to figure out what works with us, we are such deep and sensitive souls while most people are not.. Trust and Authenticity is big for us... It's why we only allow trustable people in our circle, if we don't it throws us off balance...
I think being overly sensitive is a complement it makes us uniquely beautiful. Sensitivity is a gift, the world is the curse. We bring the light. If everything is dark, look around because you may be the light Rumi
You had me weeping around the ten minutes mark... I've never had someone so succinctly put in to words the pain, the frustration, the struggle, the emotion that I've been dealing with my entire life. Thank you. Thank you...
This made me cry. I forgot my power to be intuitive and spontaneous and to heal on the spot, after a relationship where someone stole my energy, sorta. I’m trying to heal this weird low self-worth perception so I can be the person I recognize in here (in my past) again. Thank you for seeing so accurately and reminding me of what I lost (forgot), but can now remember 💗🙏💗
I'm experiencing the same thing after a 4 year toxic relationship. I am desperately chasing the person I was in the past. She truly was magical. I miss her, and it hurts so much. :') I hope we both heal well and relearn how to be intuitive and spontaneous and to heal on the spot. Good luck to you, and much love to you! ^^
I've been isolating for so long, literally nothing about my life changed due to the quarantine. It was actually better when i went food shopping and there was no one else around.
I’m a man and you made me cry I appreciate this so much ,I’ve never felt so heard , my wife is a infj and she thinks I am trying to tell her she’s wrong a lot but it’s so misunderstood because there isn’t a right or wrong ,but it’s ok I know she and I have a lot to work on we’re a lot of the same but so different it’s perfect!😊
Sometimes it means more to me to hear compliments and good things from a complete stranger than it is to hear one from the ones I love most. Not that they're completely true, sometimes
Hi 🙋♀️ I am an INFP I am also a mathematician and I used to be a financial advisor but got bored with it in my fourties and changed to beeing a hair stylist 💇♀️ and now I am much happier with what I do . I also am a poet and learned four languages I used to sing 🎤 when I was in my teens and very gifted at it and I usd to paint 🎨 to . I am very grateful for being a INFP my individualism defines me and I am unique. Have been misunderstood most of my life by even my own family had three divorces keep attracting narcisists or manipulators so I have decided to just stick to myself and me and what I can do or give back to the world through my way to express myself through poetry and hairstyle don’t want to fit in to the norm that would mean the death of me .
I am an ENTJ and doing "research" foe lack of a better term on the INFP because I have just started talking to an INFP potential mate. I love reading the comments from everyone because that really helps me to get a feel for your personality type. I've seen so much honesty and encouragement in the comments. Thanks to all of you for sharing.
I find myself gravitating to have those types in my circle as well. Close enough I can connect but different enough to help accommodate what my personality lacks.
The pandemic, tho horrible for many many people, was a really wonderful experience in some ways for this INFP-T. It was quiet, the world slowed down, I had an excuse to stay home and cocoon, many were more thoughtful and empathetic toward others, we all learned to focus on what we really wanted from life and we stopped thinking it was necessary to just go thru the motions with others because it was demanded of us.
I swear this was one of the most beautiful videos I've ever seen, and I'm only 12 minutes in! God BLESS you for this. Great channel in general by the way :) Love from Italy ♥ An INFP
if people understood us the way you do, we might be taken more seriously but like you said people have difficulty going within. stay calm in this pandemic there are bigger things at work. we are dominant feelers but fi is predominantly a thinker function so we can be very uprooted by logic and multiple perceptions. i loved that line about miracles i never realised how easily we manifest things at times and yes we are alchemical and mercurial. i related to that thing about not being able to think for ourselves at times, i see others manifesting desires then it feels like we arent doing enough. unrealisitic expectations
As an INFP, I feel negative emotions more intensively than the ‘average person’ (ew but you know what I mean), so whenever somebody is expresses pain around me, I can relate so deeply that I could tear right up as if I’ve experienced it myself. Same thing could happen with movie characters, a line of poem, a particular song,, I find myself being able to be affected by the feeling for days even weeks. I’m now 27, when I was younger I used to think of it as a curse, I’d be constantly asking myself: why are you so grim all the god damn time, why won’t you just have fun. Over the years I’ve been the tough my highest highs, and my lowest-lowest lows, as cheesy as it sounds: what doesn’t kill you simply makes you stronger. I’ve grown to appreciate pain, I see every challenge in life as an opportunity for growth. I want to inspire others; without being the spotlight, I want to be understood; without being too exposed, I treasure happiness; as much as I treasure suffering, (I have no idea what I’m trying to say at this point, help me out fellow INFPs, I mean you get me right ?) (Okay I’ll just slowly fade)
I’m in graduate school and it’s hard to exude hope, faith, and wonder in that skeptical environment but I shine on please don’t let anyone dim your light infps we are the inspiration they need to pave a better path
My heart used to be like that.. During the years i have toughened myself up.. I still cry at pretty much any movie. But, when i experience something horrible (like a death, or something) i find myself better coping with that then most other people. Even if it's my own parents we are talking about. Had this theory when i was younger (i didn't INFP and the likes.. this i just learned in the beginning of this year) Cool guys, who are cool at school.. never had issue's to deal with. They were cool, had the girls and etc. Not so cool guys like me.. we were constantly confronted with fears, insecurity and etc.. therefore, years has passed, i have hardened and they softened.. Not sure if it's true, but i like the idea. Nowadays i enjoy hardcore topics.. stuff that ain't normal or just extreme. I've seen everything else already.. i know it by heart.
i really needed this. i’ve been down in the dumps quite a bit lately and as an infp, scorpio, and an empath, it’s been getting to be sooooooooooo so much to handle. hearing somebody understand and describe in such a perfect way makes me feel so happy. i’ve always felt misunderstood but after watching this, i feel encouraged to be the person i am.
Corrina Adams I am also an INFP, Scorpio, and empath (which I guess is kind of rare) but I definitely feel you. This video was honestly really healing and special because of how well she explained my life and understood the INFP personality type. Sometimes the world drains all of my energy because of what is going on. Anyway, just wanted to say hi. Sending love and light to you 💙(:
I’m a Scorpio, INFP and empath too and I can definitely understand where you’re coming from. This video helped me in so many ways that I didn’t even know was possible and I felt somewhat understood. I’m happy with who I am and the comment about going slower in life really hit hard because as a school student I’ve got my main exams this year and I feel like compared to other I’m not working as hard but I don’t like pushing myself to do something that doesn’t mean anything to me i.e school and it takes so much motivation and effort from external sources for me to actually do some work and even then I don’t enjoy process. But from this video I guess I’ve kinda learnt that this is who I am
hi sister INFP. INFP and Scorpio also, dude here. Expanding a little more on Astrology, I also have Cancer rising and moon conjunct neptune in Libra. Put those placements and my INFP in a big black cauldron, stir the mixture several times and let set for 10 mins. This is the recipe for creating a demure, kind, considerate with a deference to others, female type personality. The female gender blueprint this dumbass society has handcuffed women to. I have struggled with having this personality antedote to the deeply entrenched toxic masculinity culture that prevails. During my early youth I was so fortunate to be surrounded by people who took it upon themselves as if it were their personal duty to point out and correct my effeminate inclinations through applying harsh criticism and ridicule of my peculiar nature. Therefore as I entered my late teens/early twenties i managed to master mimicking the guys around me. I became good at pretending I had masculine interest in things such as sports. Internally there wasn't even a fraction of feeling or passion for competetive sports. I wasn't a couch potato though, i enjoyed activities such as hiking, skiing, swimming, gymnastics. I just wasn't interested in sports that makes and defines America as great and men as real men.; baseball, football, basketball. Privately I held a sense of shame that i was plagiarizing my gender role, and having a high value on authenticity yet at the same suppressing it. But hold up now, don't be pulling out that empathy card for me just yet. Because at the same time, in my outer world, while attending collage, i had finally achieved what I had always craved which was approval and acceptance by the famaliar people i encountered daily and also strangers aka the public at large. This isn't a claim that i became Mr. Popularity. i simply arrived at a level of being liked just enough that I was no longer harrassed and bullied. I'm not greedy, that was quite enough for me just to have a comfortable sense of safety and tranquility. Any one who has taken the time to rtead this entire wordy expose of myself, Thank You and power to all your needs and desires that will bring light and love into your life.
Thank you. That was beautiful. I want to meet other INFPs... Where are you, fam? Edit after reading comments: To all of the INFPs under 40: Keep experiencing life in your most authentic way, and stretch yourself. Because we grow best through experience. Learn to put up boundaries and keep journaling. Try talking to yourself the same way yiu talk to animals and children. Sending you all an energetic hug! ❤️
Just wanted to share my story as an infp and my sports teacher who I think he is an enfj. The first time when I met him, he told me to lose my weight because I was overweight. I think he coached me every time I met him and talked about my progress. I like him, he is very patient and I want to lose my weight too. But I don't know why he only 'cares' for me when I have friends who are also overweight but he doesn't tell them like he did to me but on the other hand he is someone who cares. My classmate loves him very much like a father. Very warm :)
I appreciated your gentle and kind approach and tone. I feel your kindness. And it felt nurturing. I’m new to all this personality stuff but I have been doing a deep dive into self care and personal growth in the last two years. Doing a lot of work and digging deep on my personal awareness so I can love myself. I feel like I am finally coming alive in the world. I have noticed it makes me well up with tears to hear someone tell me they understand me. I have asked that of partners in intimate relationships before and have felt so alone or isolated when I didn’t feel it. I also can feel tears when someone says that they are there for me. Trust and safety are very important to me. I want to feel someone’s kindness and acceptance so I feel safe. I have felt like I haven’t known who I am for so long and I have struggled with this. However I am super aware of all I have gone through in my life and I know there is a reason for all this to unfold at some point, to take off. And now i am starting to accept myself for who I am and who I have been to make me who I am today in this and these moments. As I move forward I am aware I need to be gentle with myself. I am working so much with gratitude and it is shifting so much energy Thank you again for your kind nurturing words, thoughts and direction. It truelly felt like the perfect love letter. Many blessings, much love D
Hearing this level of understanding of INFPs from another personality's POV makes me feel accepted and understood. Not everyone I meet and encounter are willing to go through much to understand me or even try to talk to me and listen to what I really have going on in my mind. Oftentimes, I'm judged first by how quiet and unamused I look at the exterior, people assume I don't care (though I don't really have strong opinions on most things to feel the need to speak out). I am grateful for the few friends I have and for sure the INFPs in your life sure are lucky to have someone who understands them as you do. That's a dream
Hi Meghan, INFP here 🤗 thank you for this! There was so much that I needed to hear in this video, it honestly felt made for my life right now 🙈 In particular, I've been struggling for so long now with this feeling of guilt that I must be full of nonsense and lazy because I can't seem to "fall in line" with what the people around me can, and are prepared to, deal with, particularly at work. I'm currently working in the field that I trained in (genetics), but each year that goes by, it feels like another chunk of my soul whithers and dies. It's not at all that I dislike science, it just isn't what I am deeply passionate about (ahh, hindsight). Nobody else seems to feel this pain though, so I could only conclude that I'M the problem, not my job. Truthfully, it's felt like I needed some kind of "permission" to stop pursuing a career in science, change direction, and start tangibly moving towards where I feel my purpose, and therefore happiness, truly lies. I've still got a ways to go though before I make a decision, but thank you for sharing your wisdom and encouragement, every bit helps! 🤗💜
I am an INFP too. I can relate with your comment. I am currently working as an Software Engineer, I don’t hate science but isn’t my passion. 🥺 I’m also still constantly looking my purpose in this world too. I want to pursue arts like music and theatre. I want to inspire and touch people’s heart through arts. Right now, I don’t know where I’m going to start. 🥺
Infp here. I feel as if we are the seeking students of life, constantly adapting and adjusting our selfs from an empowered place. Introspection is such a key thing for me specifically. Through introspection, I have found that everyone is on their own journey and no feeling or reaction is invalid. Sometimes I feel like an observer, an older being watching the evolution of the human race from afar. People always visit me in this place, almost like a rehab center for the many toxic things that we may deal with in a world like ours.
You nailed the INFP personality I am a INFP-A and just figured that out this personality trait a few weeks ago. People are very surprised on how assertive I am because I am so introverted. I really catch people off guard. Your assessment of INFP was very emotional to me. Thank you!
It feels like you are being very careful at wording it right so we are receptive of your message. And while I cant say I fit the mold perfectly, i really like the care you give to this personality type. Feels validating, especially because you took such a care on knowing INFP even if they work so differently from you. I am happily impressed.
Thank you Megan, you brought me to tears with your words. INFP ‘s, we embrace our pain, we smile at darkness. We except the suffering to a point. It can be a whole lot though sometimes. Thank you for your beautiful words.
Guess im realy Infp, despite I'd say I'm socialy extroverted. But I think that's the main point, to not get limitated by these stereotypes. As you said, there's no Infp like another one. Thanks a lot for inspiring so many people including me. I watched a bunch of your Videos and they made me think a lot about myself. I moved out from home recently and started studying so Im kind of getting to know myself all over again in this new social circle. You realy helped me to get over some insecurities. Go on like this, your work is most important for this world
Confusion is the story of my life. And if I've been a light for even just one person in this partly insensitive world I can die totally content and happy. :) thank you, that's all I needed to hear
I went the emotional numbing/drug route for years b/c I never heard anything growing up but: "you're too sensitive!" Hearing someone express the VALUE in being sensitive to both my own and other peoples feelings is just... yeah.. a lot. In a very good way. So thank YOU, Meghan, for making this video - as an INFP there was a lot in it that I didn't even know I needed to hear.
Have been thinking about this video all day and am replying to myself to be more expressive lol... think I'm the odd INFP who DID go with drugs as an escape for a time b/c I spent so long trying to NOT be myself, and couldn't figure out any other way to be less me. And I always did wonder how I spent years using narcotics and never became a full on "addict" despite that, and even that makes more sense now. So yeah - thanks SO much, again, for this video. It definitely did help. Now I'm going to stop obsessing on it hehe.
I'm and INFP and a HSP. A strong combination but hard to learn and understand making it hard for me to understand myself in a world that promotes a fast life style. Why must it be so hard to simply enjoy life with the people you love, and why do I always feel like I'm someone's therapist; and when they're "fixed", they leave me for no good reason. I've had many friends and many of them simply left making me feel alone, but I have hope and faith in the person I've met recently and I really hope things turn out well between us which could set the base for a strong relationship. I found this video trying to figure out why I do things the way I do them, and you've answered a fair amount of questions, alas I feel there is yet so much to uncover about INFP and HSP that it sometimes feels overwhelming, making it hard for me to decide how to go about improving.. Thank you so much for this video, you had me tear up pretty quickly and you made me feel like you know me better than I do. *Gives internet hug* May you always keep hope, and take things at your own pace!
As a guy is hard to accept because many of these traits are not considered madculine. But some of them are in their own ways. I just need to create an ideal environment for myself
INFP man here, just want to thank you for that beautiful love letter, and I wasn't offended whatsoever by being described as having a dainty heart. In fact quite the opposite, I am humbled by your kind words :) #hugs2myENFJfriends
You are one well-spoken cookie! I am 66 and the big buzzword in my younger years was CAREER. So I kept looking for that path that was going to bring me to the grand station of a career. The Big C would take care of all my needs and give me credentials and validation in the world. It never happened. But I will say I've had fun jobs, miserable jobs, and a rich and varied education. No career, but no regrets either!❤
I felt loved, seen, and understood yet I don’t even know you! Thank you so much! I’m going to listen to this as motivation in the future! I’m a female engineer, I’ve been trained to use my Te and in the workplace, it’s like I transform into an ENFJ. Then I jumped out of my career because it was too fast paced and mean. Yet I aspire to lead and start a company. I wondered if I was naturally lazy because I like freedom in my day, I don’t like to be inundated with tasks. We do need more INFP and ENFJ leaders today, we honestly want the best for the world. I also learned I’m prone to depression, so understanding myself helps me move towards things that keep my self esteem up.
i tend to use laughter as a way to keep things and light and hide my real feelings especially with people i don’t know- i feel like i’ve done it for so long that now if i want to be serious everyone thinks i’m joking or just kidding i feel like doing this for so long is so tiring but i just cannot let people in
I am a Libran, my temperament is phlegmatic-melancholic, and I am an INFP. It's wonderful and agononizing, feeling the joy and pain of living and loving. 2020 my long time partner broke up with me then this year my mother died, then just 2 months ago, my sister died. It had been tough and feeling battred yet here I am still alive and carrying on. At this point, however, whether it's gratefulness or sorrow, both move me to tears. Things do change though and different things will eventually unforld.
Thankyou so much. It is so accurate sometimes i don't realize the impact i make on someone else's life. Or how much i have. So the feeling of someone telling me how i did brings me the inner most joy and happiness.
Wow, what a sweet video. As an INFP guy, thank you. There can’t be many of us out there as a percentage of the population. I agree the world would be better with a little more empathy in the world. Unfortunately, we don’t crave power, so you probably don’t see many of us in politics. Myself, I was always the reluctant leader. I will do it if no one else will. Haha. But, there are times when I think I should be the leader just because I don’t want to lead. The best leader is the reluctant leader and that is an INFP. I really appreciated this video. Thank you.
Can I just say thank you? I've lost..... the voice that used to be there to appreciate and love me. I'm a shadow of who I once was, and your videos are like.... the cup of life. I need to remember that once I was valuable to someone. You echo her. And it's like a healing touch from the past. I know you can't, but I wish you made more videos like this.
Faith in the universe that there is a reason why everything happens. Life is both and either, a lesson and/or a blessing. I do find now, as I get older that I'm not prepared to be sucked dry by anyone who is insistent on continuing their drama without trying to do something about it. I have the 3 strike rule now...and I can manage that and not feel bad about letting people go.🎉
This made me feel good. I have always compared myself to other INFP’s and not feeling like a ”real” INFP cus they have all been so different, but now i know why :) thanks!
"Your existence is inspiring." We lead by example. People pick up on our warm, calm vibe. We don't need to say much. We feel compelled to because our Fi gets too idealistic thinking we need to do something epic, but that's not reality. Thank you, Meghan for all your videos on INFPs. Very inspiring. -Older INFP dude ☺️👍
Thank you for the sincere words, it helps a lot to be told the stuff about comparing with others. Its always been a dilemma for me because my parents and other people have this definition of success which i find daunting, in my idea success means i do something i enjoy, bring value and am free to be myself in doing it. Hence looking at what others do i realize i dont resonate with those things so i am reluctant to do them. At the same time i would hate to dissapoint my TJ parents who want the best for me.
I heard many amazing things today:
"They know how to create miracles."
"I want you INFPs listening to know that, even if you have not explicitly given advice... your existence is inspiring."
"INFPs know how to go within, spend time alone, and alchemize themselves by processing their emotions... and it's magical."
"You're not lazy for being wired differently than other people. It's ok to live a slower life, it's ok to live a life where beauty and art are the number one things."
"Your ability to listen to what you desire and take it seriously, *is* what it allows you to manifest miracles in your life and create the life you want."
"You have a heightened thermometer in your heart when it comes to what you desire and what you don't desire. And you are like a baby, in the sense that it is fresh, it is raw, it is hypersensitive. And that is *interesting information*. Your heart is giving you interesting information that you can use. And I hope that you don't feel shame for that."
Thank you
Ashen thanks! 🌷
Thank you so much, you have no idea how helpful this comment was
i can't help my tears :< thanks for all of you
Thank you ❤
This made me cry 😥 Thank you 💓
"INFPs talk to themselves kindly."
sigh. im working on it. infp-t here
Also an INFP-T and I struggle with speaking kindly to myself, but I'm working on it
@@kipo7639 Thank you!! I'm going to try that out. :)
infp-t too
I'm infp and I literally have conversations with myself.... Is that wierd?
I'm also Infp-t
Meghan: Nobody understands INFPs.
Also Meghan: Understand INFPs.
lollllll
YEYYYY ❤ Love youuu Meghan :***
@@MeghaMuse I love you Meghan
thank you so muchh!!
We INFP's don't get much love in real life. Thanks❤.
We need to learn to appreciate ourselves first because when ppl show us, love, we may question it. Also, some of us aren't good at receiving it.. giving yes...
I won't say we don't actually get much love, just that not the kinds of love that we're looking for (we're VERY picky when it comes to that). to make matters worse, we could easily tell of the conditions that those love would come with, & most of the time, those conditions just ain't sitting well with us.
Wow... You're right and I didn't notice that until now
I'm an infp. And this was the best video on INFP's ever. Thank you for your sincerity and heart you put into the video.
You get what you give. Forgive me, I'm an INTJ that has been crushed by, lied to, manipulated and callously ignored by an INFP.
It's rough, man. People just think I'm weird as hell and then even weirder for not being ashamed of my individuality.
Paul Thompson Lol! It does feel strange, some people are even rude to me for being different and confident about it... We just live in a Capitalist society where individuality and confidence are seen as a threat or scary to most people, since most people hide themselves to fit into the mold... Sorry we INFPs can not do that or else we'll explode! Hahaha
@@nikkinorman4254 for real!!!
I can relate! I constantly feel like others are intimidated by me and they don't try to get closer. I feel like we are free spirited people and the fact that we don't care about judgement only makes people scared of us. We're different and different can be terrifying
People love my individualality and weirdness, you just haven't found the right people...maybe your attracted attracted people who aren't your tribe...or aren't seeing you for you
just know we understand you, there are peolple like you. but i really feel you, its not easy to find someone who gets you
"Infps talk to themselves kindly"
Me being a turbulent infp: umm hehe... I don't think so...
I just tested mine a couple days ago...im completely new into this personality type stuff...i tested as an INFP -T as well...so I'm trying to study up on it and learn...any advice or knowledge on this type? what does the turbulent part really mean?
@@iamthenothing6458 I'm pretty new at this too but from what I understand turbulent infps are more prone to be less confident, perfectionists, are prone to stress based on the comparisons between assertive and turbulent I've found that assertive is more Optimistic than turbulent, but I wouldn't know a whole lot more, but I would say to handle that I would try and be confident and self-assured in yourself, realize it's ok if you fail sometimes because you are human, have faith in your abilities, at least knowing that is what helps me. I hope this helps
@Chris Coleman Assertive INFPs are composed, kinder to themselves, do not stress themselves over their work and are generally more laid back. Kind of like the ENFP I guess. They also do not let their emotions dictate their decisions and can view things more logically. Turbulent INFPs aren’t as composed, extreme perfectionists, will never be truly happy with the quality of their work, are extremely critical of themselves and tend to fit the stereotypical INFP type descriptions.
I'm an INFP-T as well and from the beginning of the video I was like "graceful? Psshh yea right" then 5 s later i be like "I guess I havent been a good infp, probably shud do better, try harder.. ugh why am I so lazy?!" So yeah...
I sort of feel like it's inevitable though, that us turbulent infps are destined to reach this particular point in life where we'll somehow be forced to begin being kind to ourselves, even in small ways, for the sake of our survival. It's something that requires consistent practice over the years, the ability of doing that is hardly innate and it's quite a difficult process for us in particular, but we can only ever handle so much hurt before we completely break down from it all... and in the end, unless we fall and spiral down indefinitely into the engulfing darkness where we might not ever see light again, I think we usually find a way. We will find it in us to view ourselves as human beings worthy of compassion, even our own, and begin permitting ourselves that otherworldly feeling of love, kindness, and boundless light. We're all worthy of it, we must tell ourselves that first. I wish you all a wonderful day and week.
Hearing the first time in my life "it's ok to live a slower life" made me break down.
Instead of hearing so many times people laughing at you since you can think that you even eat slower, that you are walking slower, just because you don't want to speed up through the whole life, just because you want to get the whole pure joy of this delicious food, you get everyday, even when it's "not the best" you could have.. Thank you so much for making such a video.
I'm gonna get a box of tissues now to end this video.
Awww you deserve to realize that!! You are perfectly made just as you are
@@MeghaMuse thank you so much for answering with such nice words! It actually felt like a very good friend was talking the whole time :) thank you for sharing and for caring, a big hug to you!
you're a nice human being :)
Oh my gosh.... My family makes fun of me for eating slow and called me a baby. It actually made me feel so sad and hurt. I thought I was stupid for locking myself in my room after that.... Especially during covid its so hard because I'm stuck at home and I have to live with all the people that makes me feel hurt. I know they don't really mean anything bad... but I still get hurt.
Omg iam also so slow at eating 😅 my mother always scolds me for that she always says me to spped up n not waste time 🙄 but I just don't. Wanna pressurize myself at any cost and do things without rushing myself 🙂
Who are those "people" ? I am over 50 now and had never "people" or "society" tell me what to do and how to be.
“You’re not lazy for being wired differently than other people”
That is such an important thing for infp’s to remember and something I definitely needed to hear today, thank you ❤️
I’m an shy, socially awkward INFP-T and honestly it’s so hard, I just want to fit into the the world. I tend to feel so distant from friends and not know how to talk to people and maintain relationships because I’m in my own world and head most of the time. I don’t really fit in with people around me and no one gets it. I feel like people think I’m so lazy (I probs am) but I get so many ideas but I struggle to put it out there and everyone seems so driven in pursuing their careers I’m just like I like writing and singing. It gets me down so much I feel I’ve become so much more turbulent and debilitating in my own mind I just wish I could disappear and just live life on an island in my own world without the worlds noise and rules :(
**UPDATE**
WOW it’s amazing that so many people resonated with this, I’m in such a different mind space now, I think what the problem was, was that I wasn’t raised in an environment that encouraged growth being able to maintain friends, social awkwardness etc I was very restricted but I’m very confident, open and sure of myself now! I do like my space and I’d consider myself 60% introverted but I’ve made and can maintain friendships. I’m so much happier now, I’m not sure if that is too relatable now but if you’re in a bad space you can come out the other end okay! ❤️
So am i, understand you so much.When my friend jocking,i don't get jokes and they talking line(like i am not in the boat,but swimming beside,can talk with persoon one to one best and to fast get tired of information what i resieve, often when i fall in my toughts when my bf tells me something,he is mad on me when i am asking to repeat,he is entj-a.But i never do it specialy) When i shared your comment with my bf,he said that it's absolutely like me and we could be friends maybe(lol,maybe if you interesting in)
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Saaaaame here!!!!! ❤️ I need to talk to God/Jesus daily to help me get through!
I feel like you just described me…. Your not alone ❤️
You're not alone
@@renstarburst4472 send you a request but you didn’t accept lol 😆
"The world would be a better place if there were a lot of INFPs". That statement is the headline of INFP's narrative. Thanks, Meghan.
Yup we are the healers and the mediators. The world needs us right now.
@@realJimMarshall The Thing That's Bothering Me Now Is I Can't Be Everyone's Genie Even Though The World Needs Me 💀
This paraphrased quote from Dostoevsky describes the INFP sentiment, "The greatest miracles are not supernatural, but rather the greatest miracle is the smile of a stranger, the small kindness we show to another person, the small acts of love we show every day."
There are other miracles he is a strictly logical man that did not really believe in spirituality per my understanding, so I have difficulties going with the quote but I do agree with the sentiment
@@sabrinaszabo9355 Dostoevsky was very spiritually oriented, if not outright spiritual. He was a Russian Orthodox Christian. This is the man who is famous for saying "beauty will save the world."
If you read his novels, you'll see that actually he was far from strictly logical. He understood the strictly logical types of people, he portrays this type of person in his character Ivan in The Brothers Karamazov. Ivan was your standard atheist who is hung up on rationality. But he also very much understood the limitations of such a viewpoint, and he portrayed this in the other characters. Alyosha for example could be said to be the protagonist of the novel, and Alyosha was very much a christ-like figure. The protagonist in The Idiot was also another figure modeled after a christ-likeness. In Crime and Punishment, the protagonist, raskolnakov, is the same kind of rationalist as Ivan described above, and the whole thesis of that novel is showing the failures of such rationalism.
Dostoevsky undersood spirituality far better than 99% of the Christian church today. His insights into human nature, motivations, and needs are nothing short of profound in my opinion.
I'm saying this as someone who tends to really dislike people who are blinded by their own "rationality".
I must’ve read the wrong article, I took a peek at it and I think that was my assumption, thank you for informing me.
Anybody just forget about their friends/acquaintances sometimes? Like you just get so lost in your own bubble and forget other people exist.
All the time. Suddenly a month has passed without me saying hi to them. Then I feel guilty. Then I say hi, and feel reassured since they know it's how I am.
Yeah my friend said it's like I'm Anti social but you know it's not exactly anti social, just away. I felt bad. But. I'm happy they know I don't dislike them.
I kind of forget that often. I often do plan to text them, but simply postpone it. And again. And further. And then I haven’t texted my friends for a month and my ENFP friend gets really worried. And I feel really damn guilty the whole time and yet I don’t text them earlier.
This was very beautyfully put, we infps often get portrayed as those weak, lazy, under-achieving daydreamers cause we´re not as "gritty" as society would prefer but you understand that it´s not always a weakness to actually listen to your feelings. I think many people are so good at ignoring their feelings it will bite them in the ass one day. I mean in the end of the day, how many will regret that they didn´t work more overtime or didn´t get that promotion? Those things may seem important right now but they are empty calories, not satisfying in the long run. Big digital hug to you meghan.
I completely agree!!! Thanks for the comment
Well i listened too much the other instead of me, i did the mbti test during mid school and i was typed as INFP, i stayed nearly only with the same person from the start of middle school to the end of high school, the thing is that as i was in a small school, there was a very few INFP/INFJ and they were too different from me so i didn't tried to interact with them. Instead i was with a bunch of friends who were very Ti/e oriented like INTPs, an ISTP, an ENTP, INTJs and an ENTJ. I was attracted to them at first because they gave me room to express my intuition and that we have the same observers, we all wanted to understand the world in detail but they were only attracted by logical insight, i rapidly repressed my Fi to the point that i'm not sure i'm an INFP and i forced myself to follow them into the science high school but aside of that i attended drawing lesson and i knew i would be an artist later, i could had choose the art high school earlier but it was too late so i forced myself and i got the science diploma last year. This year i'm studying in the local art preschool with only 7 person and a retired artist that became a teacher which also do the drawing lesson where i was before. As a minor sensing it was hard to deal with the skill part, i'm a bit clumsy, what i only want is to inspire people but it must come with the aesthetic skill so i worked hard. Then i participated a one-month contest to attend the 5th best 3D animation school worldwide (in terms of percentage of students becoming professional animators) and i succeeded. So i will start a new life at the beginning of the next school year and I'm sure it will be an enriching experience. So i think the additional work isn't empty calories, often time i have nightmares in which I act too late because i didn't realised how meaningful things like work or people are, the 2 are connected, i think that INFP need to learn skill even the hard way, INFP doctor is a good example but it is even more true for INFP artist since they can be heard only trough skill, they need to be the best at it to be selected which implies hard work, there isn't more frustrating than having the most deep and meaningful ideas and that in the end people take our place simply because their less good ideas were better presented, with more skill.
@@slash6686 You are absolutely right, i never meant that hard work is bad or anything. Everybody needs skills and it takes time to get any good at anything. However, i do think that many people are a little obsessed with the thought of hard work for hard works own sake or like they connect their self esteem and identity to their achivements only wich i don´t think is good in the long run. That may be part of the reason why especially men often feel so lost when they retire or loose their job so they start drinking or doing drugs and stuff. To put it short i believe it´s better to work to live than live to work. From my experience i know i can work hard but i need to have at least some kind of interest in what i´m doing in order to find proper motivation. Any way, thanks for an intelligent reply and have a good day.
Thank you for this comment!!
Hard work is the greatest when it's coming what we want in life, then the hard work feels much more worthwhile.
Me:*has just gotton out of the shower and eating a baloney sandwich*
Megan:" you create miracles"
Hahahaha
MMmmm sandwich.
Hahahaha
Us INFP's are magnets for narcissists and that sucks for us!
yes it does! researching how to recognize Narcissists and avoid them, led me to researching my own personality type. It all makes sense now
Yes that is soo true !!
I wonder why.
True
Isn't that the truth?!!
this is therapy.
Very much so.
It is. Therapy for my broken heart.
Hey fellow INFPs, Right now, my room is totally messy, there are dishes everywhere and you can hardly discover the floor underneath all the clothes and papers. So I`m telling you guys that I will start now to clean up because life is much better like that. I`d realy like to encourage you doing the same. Even if your room is just a bit less chaotic in the end of the day then the day before, it`s an improvement. Let`s do this, INFPs, our willpower is on fire, when we realy decide to improve. Sometimes there will be taff times but you will make it, believe in yourselve, your awesome! Listening to "fight song" by Rachel Platten is a good way to get into mood for cleaning up by the way :)
I definitely need to do the dishes and clean.
I love your enthusiasm and being more organised and neat is a brilliant start to improving the quality of our lives.
I finally cleaned my car today lol
It was terrifying at first but minimalism was the best for that. Can't get as messy if you have less stuff. 2 loads of laundry a week and run the dishwasher 2 times a week. And I found having less and being neater-ish help with the anxiety and getting distracted 37 times a day!
You Know What?? Thank You
INFP to me are the most poetic kinds. They make you watch the world's beauty, its truth and they actually are very insightful about emotions and feelings. As a ENFP, I'm touched by this type... and dive easly into their world ^-^
I'm a INFP and my best friend is also an ENFP ❤️ You guy's are awesome! Thank you for hanging out with us and taking us serious ☺️
I'm an INFP and my brother's an ENFP. I appreciate how are two too functions are switched. His top Ne helps me not dwell too much.
One of my close friends is ENFP. The others weren’t typed but I think they might be INTP and ISTP. So we’d all be perceivers, I think. My ENFP friend I do have quite a lot in common. We both care about pursuing our respective passions (writing for me, music for him). We were both diagnosed with autism so we share a bit of common ground in that respect too. I value all my closest friends a lot. And I value that they are quality over quantity. But I think he is the one who seems most in touch with his feelings. And most eager to have such personal conversations about our feelings.
this video made me feel fuzzy. Im a masculine fully bearded tough-guy looking dude, and have never felt so touched by being called dainty before. idk how to finish this thought
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I’m INFP man, I don’t mind having dainty heart. I lead my life through it. I loved hearing about healing from within, I’m 38 and I just went through healing of trauma from childhood. I felt the pain taken. Great video thank you
I love men who are like this... I'm not a fan of the cold and heartless type... I love men who are kind, sweet and nice.. Maybe that's because I'm also an INFP. 😊 Just stay true to yourself always, other people will catch up
Amen, brother. Same here on all accounts :)
Me too, brother. I'm 48. -INFP
Hope you see the healthy life ahead...
Me: INFP
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Meghan: I empathize with you
* Inside my infp brain*
Person 1: Really? Can you really do it? I don't believe you
Person 2: Dude she made you cry for like 25 mins.
Person 1: Yeaaaaa...
I really love you ❤️ I wish all of the world was like you tbh😭
I am so scared of pursuing writing for my career as I am scared I am not enough to pursue it as my career... thank you for this video!!!
Same here... Being a perfectionist (which is fear) means never getting things done. Go for it, you have what it takes because you have the desire. A desire cannot be placed on your hear without the ability to fulfill it. Just make the decision and stubbornly take small steps toward it. We can support each other!
I want to be a writer too. Problem is careers are bs
I’m a theater student and I totally feel you! My heart is there and my work ethic is so! But I’m so scared, but I just can’t stray!!
I feel you ! ..
But decided to share it on social platforms finally ...
www.pixipoetry.in
Do check out if you are interested and do give your suggestions so that I can improve . .....
You got this!!! If you never try you’ll never know love.✨🌱😌
As a male INFP it has taken me a long time to make peace with my emotional experience and learn to love and embrace that part of myself. As a guy you grow up being told your a "baby" or "like a girl". Now I value this part of myself so much. It's the best of me. I've actually been randomly told by people in my life, that were not people I felt particularly connected to, that I'm inspiring or inspire others. That always catches me off guard and feels like such a privilege.
Growing up, I was called a sissy, told that I was too fragile, and lots of people thought I was gay. I even tried that path. Nope. Not gay. Fun, but not for me.
Women told me that I was in touch with my feelings and that my intensity was amazing and frightening. So here I am, finding myself among a great many trans people who are also NFs. I still love women, so I guess I am gay. lol But as a woman, I am _allowed_ to be who I am without question. Was I always trans? I was certain enough to transition. Was a large part of that dictated by my personality type? Food for thought.
It cost me the wife I'm still in love with and we're best friends. (She's INFJ). She has remarked that my taking deep dives into things to explore it fully is a welcome characteristic, if a bit tiring for her-until the next thing finds my love and attention. Then she's interested right along with me again. That doesn't apply to people, though.. When finding someone who can be trusted, having them in my life is a priority because being myself is *permissible*. Multiply that by a hundred when they are people with whom I can create things.
Also - everyone I know has mentioned that "exploring my food" is a thing I do. Xb I love to cook to please others and myself! When ladies see it as a sexual thing, I don't disabuse them of that notion.
Massage therapist, cook, writer, editor, union steward (which is burning me out), and prototype fabricator. You sometimes don't realize the hats you wore well were the ones actually suited to you until after the fact. What do I wish I were ensconced in, like a fuzzy warm blanket? Scifi/lesfic author. It's next. I just have to find a way to let 200 people down first.
You were right when you mentioned to narrow down the perspective of finding love but I think it's today's society fault. We have an amazing ability to see through someone's BS and intentions that's where we immediately turn off. We seem to be picky but we just want pure and honest connection, nothing more. Our biggest gift is compassion and empathy, will to forgive again and again, our biggest flaw: not exposing ourselves to the world. At one point in our lives we are going to hit the big wall, and going over that wall is gonna require leaving our comfort zone behind. Thanks for the video, sendin' you love
@suzuki_ace
Bruh.
Keep it down...
Yer giving all the secrets away!
Suzuki yet y we fall for narcissists n energy vampires idk ..🤔
@@Userykp yep..already did, she sucked the life out of me and never said or did anything bad to her. You have to take a look from the other side. I can only thank her she thought me most valuable lessons and the most important "awareness". There are no coincidences. If you are goin' to make an orange juice you must squeeze the oranges..get it? ;)
@@Pipun081 yep they teach us valuable lessons .... Love thyself 🤟
Yes! 👍
me crying as she says "I don't want you to be ashamed of your emotions"
It’s disappointing that the world generally doesn’t share that view. Especially as a man, who is expected to be pretty cold and efficient. And not dainty as all, as Meghan would put it.
depression has been kicking my ass recently, and this made me feel so understood. i cried twice. thank you so much, this absolutely touched my heart
"Once you're in their hearts, you're never going to leave" I believe this is so true. There are people that I haven't talked to practically the rest of my life, but I remember them and how they impacted me and my growth. My strive to be a better person in all walks of life. I have made some awful mistakes, but being able to look back on my past and have either someone impacting me or I them in a positive life is what I live for.
So many INFPs in this comment section.
So many virtual hugs.
Everyone is so kind and loving.
My INFJ self loves this.
Thank you for sharing this! I have been watching your love letters to my family amd friend's types.
I have an INFP friend, and although we don't talk much, I can still tell that this video is very accurate.
I am not an INFP of course, and like you said, they are all so different, so I can't speak for them, but I think that most would agree.
Thank you for posting this 💛
xxx
Thank you❤️hugs back🤗
As an INFP, I love you INFJs. My oldest and closest friend is an INFJ.
*Virtual hug*
>:)
INFP male and as I get older I realize just how little my family and my friends get me. Thank you for this.
Why do they not get you? I only ask because my family and friends did not get me either until I explained how I felt which is foreign to me. Don't act on assumption. Many do not get us because we do not communicate our feelings articulately. We are masters of disguise. I did not realize this until I met an ENFJ back in 2007 and although nine years my junior, she and I are now like sisters. She saw right through my charade and insisted on friendship.
I am a black sheep and basically completely alone in this world I don’t have one close friend, or confident. I feel your pain. I had to be here for myself because I had no choice. But we are together alone. I love you
So. Many. Tears. It’s hard for me to listen to things about my true self that are beautiful and kind because I tend to focus on helping others and run from the spotlight. Amazing video.
THANK YOU!
have you heard of " the spotlight effect" ? i think it's something exclusive to us INFPS.
MystiCult No, I haven’t! looking it up now:) Thanks for sharing!
@@cactusflowercreations5450 you should. It's very enlightening. Helped me change the way I see things :)
@@coolamericano I think infps want privacy more than publicity.. ✌️
@@Userykp sure they do. But sometimes being the centre of attention is inevitable, your birthday party for instance or anything of that sort. Especially if it's a surprise. INFPS in general are not comfortable with unpredictability, that's why we prefer to keep our distance.
i think im the negative, dark INFP.
I tear myself to pieces, and i come back to do it again for seconds.
I hope you find happiness love. Everyone’s worth it, look up at the sky and enjoy the clouds and the bright sun gleaming on your face, the stars in the darkness. Nobody is that harsh on you, and you would never be that harsh in someone else, don’t do it to yourself love. You’re the most important person in your life. ✨🧚🏻🌱💖
@@watermel0n210 Yea! I found Jesus (not joking). It's been great.
I was like that... my tribulation was terrifying and it's still crazy to think about how different I am now. I promise you it is important to go through what you're currently dealing with...this is how you'll master your peace. Amen
Meghan. Your understanding is breathtaking. Sending you a virtual hug!
Same here 😊 I got to know about myself from you Meghan levota ... 🤗
Seriously. Like, your description of how our inferior Te manifests... I don't know how you got that so right
I always get frustrated because I feel like "everyone thinks my heart is dainty", but then I'm like why doesn't anyone understand that I'm sensitiiive hahaha always a battle
P.S. this is what I needed today. The confidence in myself to help make the change. ✨💛
The best compliment I think I've ever gotten was "I love the way you think, I love your mind"
I can’t be the only infp crying while listening to this . She is so sweet for saying thoughtful kind words.
Thank you for this . We love to learn about ourselves so we can learn about others . ❤️
The more I watch these videos on INFP, the more I realize how different my current and past selves are. I’m not as emotional anymore, I’m better dealing with criticism, I have an easier time having productive hard conversations with loved ones. I’m still INFP, but I’m not as raw anymore, and I think that’s because I’m not as turbulent.
I have learned so much from my ENTP best friend. She will reflect on every possible way to look at a problem/communication issue and is incredibly open minded. She is not afraid to admit that she is wrong.
I (INFP) have relied heavily on my ability to read into behaviour patterns and must admit that sometimes I will overinterpret small things that people say or do.
There are narcissistic and co-dependent issues in my family so while growing up, I learned to be hypervigilant about the tone of voice, wording and facial expressions of other people. Most of the time this seems to be giving me access to accurate information about people's emotional states, but sometimes I will be blowing things out of proportion. It feels good to consider that I might actually be wrong - often it means that my anxiety isn't based on reality, only on my rigid thought processes 😊😊
P.s. If someone out there is looking for support after growing up in a narcissistic family environment I highly recommend listening to Jerry Wise, Patrick Teahan, Ruth Ann Harpur, Anna Runkle (The Crappy Childhood Fairy) and Alan Robarge 💛
Newly acknowledged INFP here. I struggle to work through my emotions and the core root of what that emotion is and that's extremely distressing to me. I think for so long I've suppressed my emotions because I am so overemotional about evvvvverything and have been shamed for it or told I was overly sensitive. Finding happiness again in acknowledging I'm an emotional person and working through those emotions and I'm so much happier for it. Hoping this will help me feel like my true authentic self again. Thanks for the video
Omg that's what I do too, I always try to find the roots of my emotions.. I was also shamed for my emotions, like getting upset over someone taking advantage of my kindness and being rude to me, my parents telling me I was being sensitive... I always have to think that not everyone is worthy of kindness if they haven't earned it, and that concept was so difficult for me... Us INFPs have to go through the pain to figure out what works with us, we are such deep and sensitive souls while most people are not.. Trust and Authenticity is big for us... It's why we only allow trustable people in our circle, if we don't it throws us off balance...
I think being overly sensitive is a complement it makes us uniquely beautiful. Sensitivity is a gift, the world is the curse. We bring the light.
If everything is dark, look around because you may be the light
Rumi
INFPs are intelligent and attractive to me. I've been in a solid relationship with one for 20 years, now. -- An INTP
You had me weeping around the ten minutes mark... I've never had someone so succinctly put in to words the pain, the frustration, the struggle, the emotion that I've been dealing with my entire life. Thank you. Thank you...
This made me cry. I forgot my power to be intuitive and spontaneous and to heal on the spot, after a relationship where someone stole my energy, sorta. I’m trying to heal this weird low self-worth perception so I can be the person I recognize in here (in my past) again. Thank you for seeing so accurately and reminding me of what I lost (forgot), but can now remember 💗🙏💗
I'm experiencing the same thing after a 4 year toxic relationship. I am desperately chasing the person I was in the past. She truly was magical. I miss her, and it hurts so much. :') I hope we both heal well and relearn how to be intuitive and spontaneous and to heal on the spot. Good luck to you, and much love to you! ^^
I've been isolating for so long, literally nothing about my life changed due to the quarantine. It was actually better when i went food shopping and there was no one else around.
Agreed! 2020 has been a very good year for me. Very happy whereas 2017-2019 were emotionally tough years
I go shopping late in the day so I can dance down the aisles with no one watching. :)
Same lol
I’m a man and you made me cry I appreciate this so much ,I’ve never felt so heard , my wife is a infj and she thinks I am trying to tell her she’s wrong a lot but it’s so misunderstood because there isn’t a right or wrong ,but it’s ok I know she and I have a lot to work on we’re a lot of the same but so different it’s perfect!😊
Sometimes it means more to me to hear compliments and good things from a complete stranger than it is to hear one from the ones I love most. Not that they're completely true, sometimes
Hi 🙋♀️ I am an INFP I am also a mathematician and I used to be a financial advisor but got bored with it in my fourties and changed to beeing a hair stylist 💇♀️ and now I am much happier with what I do . I also am a poet and learned four languages I used to sing 🎤 when I was in my teens and very gifted at it and I usd to paint 🎨 to . I am very grateful for being a INFP my individualism defines me and I am unique. Have been misunderstood most of my life by even my own family had three divorces keep attracting narcisists or manipulators so I have decided to just stick to myself and me and what I can do or give back to the world through my way to express myself through poetry and hairstyle don’t want to fit in to the norm that would mean the death of me .
the fact that this is probably the only time i'll hear kind or remotely understanding words
I am an ENTJ and doing "research" foe lack of a better term on the INFP because I have just started talking to an INFP potential mate. I love reading the comments from everyone because that really helps me to get a feel for your personality type. I've seen so much honesty and encouragement in the comments. Thanks to all of you for sharing.
Thank you for caring enough about your partner to get a better grip and awareness on the personality. You seem very loving and I wish you success
I’m an INFP who also has an ENFJ lifelong friend! Many of the most important people in my life are ENFJ. I just adore them
I find myself gravitating to have those types in my circle as well. Close enough I can connect but different enough to help accommodate what my personality lacks.
"Trusting in miracles" - so spot on....
The pandemic, tho horrible for many many people, was a really wonderful experience in some ways for this INFP-T.
It was quiet, the world slowed down, I had an excuse to stay home and cocoon, many were more thoughtful and empathetic toward others, we all learned to focus on what we really wanted from life and we stopped thinking it was necessary to just go thru the motions with others because it was demanded of us.
Finally someone who says we aren't cute.
I swear this was one of the most beautiful videos I've ever seen, and I'm only 12 minutes in!
God BLESS you for this.
Great channel in general by the way :)
Love from Italy
♥
An INFP
People always call me child like and think I m super young. They act like they have to protect me but also dismiss me.
if people understood us the way you do, we might be taken more seriously but like you said people have difficulty going within. stay calm in this pandemic there are bigger things at work. we are dominant feelers but fi is predominantly a thinker function so we can be very uprooted by logic and multiple perceptions. i loved that line about miracles i never realised how easily we manifest things at times and yes we are alchemical and mercurial. i related to that thing about not being able to think for ourselves at times, i see others manifesting desires then it feels like we arent doing enough. unrealisitic expectations
As an INFP, I feel negative emotions more intensively than the ‘average person’ (ew but you know what I mean), so whenever somebody is expresses pain around me, I can relate so deeply that I could tear right up as if I’ve experienced it myself. Same thing could happen with movie characters, a line of poem, a particular song,, I find myself being able to be affected by the feeling for days even weeks.
I’m now 27, when I was younger I used to think of it as a curse, I’d be constantly asking myself: why are you so grim all the god damn time, why won’t you just have fun. Over the years I’ve been the tough my highest highs, and my lowest-lowest lows, as cheesy as it sounds: what doesn’t kill you simply makes you stronger. I’ve grown to appreciate pain, I see every challenge in life as an opportunity for growth.
I want to inspire others; without being the spotlight,
I want to be understood; without being too exposed,
I treasure happiness; as much as I treasure suffering,
(I have no idea what I’m trying to say at this point, help me out fellow INFPs, I mean you get me right ?)
(Okay I’ll just slowly fade)
I am an INFP woman, a mental health therapist, and I have to say I really appreciate your video here.
I’m in graduate school and it’s hard to exude hope, faith, and wonder in that skeptical environment but I shine on please don’t let anyone dim your light infps we are the inspiration they need to pave a better path
My heart used to be like that..
During the years i have toughened myself up.. I still cry at pretty much any movie. But, when i experience something horrible (like a death, or something) i find myself better coping with that then most other people. Even if it's my own parents we are talking about.
Had this theory when i was younger (i didn't INFP and the likes.. this i just learned in the beginning of this year)
Cool guys, who are cool at school.. never had issue's to deal with. They were cool, had the girls and etc.
Not so cool guys like me.. we were constantly confronted with fears, insecurity and etc.. therefore, years has passed, i have hardened and they softened..
Not sure if it's true, but i like the idea.
Nowadays i enjoy hardcore topics.. stuff that ain't normal or just extreme. I've seen everything else already.. i know it by heart.
Faith, Hope & love are eternal and love is the greatest of the three. INFP
You made a mess out of me there. You're a beautiful soul.
i really needed this. i’ve been down in the dumps quite a bit lately and as an infp, scorpio, and an empath, it’s been getting to be sooooooooooo so much to handle. hearing somebody understand and describe in such a perfect way makes me feel so happy. i’ve always felt misunderstood but after watching this, i feel encouraged to be the person i am.
Yay!! I'm an empath too. I am glad you feel encouraged!
Corrina Adams I am also an INFP, Scorpio, and empath (which I guess is kind of rare) but I definitely feel you. This video was honestly really healing and special because of how well she explained my life and understood the INFP personality type. Sometimes the world drains all of my energy because of what is going on. Anyway, just wanted to say hi. Sending love and light to you 💙(:
I wish I could meet u guys in real life. I'm a Scorpio, infp and an empath. It can get really rough sometimes. I'm like a walking contradiction
I’m a Scorpio, INFP and empath too and I can definitely understand where you’re coming from. This video helped me in so many ways that I didn’t even know was possible and I felt somewhat understood. I’m happy with who I am and the comment about going slower in life really hit hard because as a school student I’ve got my main exams this year and I feel like compared to other I’m not working as hard but I don’t like pushing myself to do something that doesn’t mean anything to me i.e school and it takes so much motivation and effort from external sources for me to actually do some work and even then I don’t enjoy process. But from this video I guess I’ve kinda learnt that this is who I am
hi sister INFP. INFP and Scorpio also, dude here. Expanding a little more on Astrology, I also have Cancer rising and moon conjunct neptune in Libra. Put those placements and my INFP in a big black cauldron, stir the mixture several times and let set for 10 mins. This is the recipe for creating a demure, kind, considerate with a deference to others, female type personality. The female gender blueprint this dumbass society has handcuffed women to. I have struggled with having this personality antedote to the deeply entrenched toxic masculinity culture that prevails. During my early youth I was so fortunate to be surrounded by people who took it upon themselves as if it were their personal duty to point out and correct my effeminate inclinations through applying harsh criticism and ridicule of my peculiar nature. Therefore as I entered my late teens/early twenties i managed to master mimicking the guys around me. I became good at pretending I had masculine interest in things such as sports. Internally there wasn't even a fraction of feeling or passion for competetive sports. I wasn't a couch potato though, i enjoyed activities such as hiking, skiing, swimming, gymnastics. I just wasn't interested in sports that makes and defines America as great and men as real men.; baseball, football, basketball. Privately I held a sense of shame that i was plagiarizing my gender role, and having a high value on authenticity yet at the same suppressing it. But hold up now, don't be pulling out that empathy card for me just yet. Because at the same time, in my outer world, while attending collage, i had finally achieved what I had always craved which was approval and acceptance by the famaliar people i encountered daily and also strangers aka the public at large. This isn't a claim that i became Mr. Popularity. i simply arrived at a level of being liked just enough that I was no longer harrassed and bullied. I'm not greedy, that was quite enough for me just to have a comfortable sense of safety and tranquility. Any one who has taken the time to rtead this entire wordy expose
of myself, Thank You and power to all your needs and desires that will bring light and love into your life.
Thank you.
That was beautiful.
I want to meet other INFPs...
Where are you, fam?
Edit after reading comments:
To all of the INFPs under 40: Keep experiencing life in your most authentic way, and stretch yourself. Because we grow best through experience.
Learn to put up boundaries and keep journaling.
Try talking to yourself the same way yiu talk to animals and children.
Sending you all an energetic hug! ❤️
Just wanted to share my story as an infp and my sports teacher who I think he is an enfj. The first time when I met him, he told me to lose my weight because I was overweight. I think he coached me every time I met him and talked about my progress. I like him, he is very patient and I want to lose my weight too. But I don't know why he only 'cares' for me when I have friends who are also overweight but he doesn't tell them like he did to me but on the other hand he is someone who cares. My classmate loves him very much like a father. Very warm :)
I appreciated your gentle and kind approach and tone. I feel your kindness. And it felt nurturing. I’m new to all this personality stuff but I have been doing a deep dive into self care and personal growth in the last two years. Doing a lot of work and digging deep on my personal awareness so I can love myself. I feel like I am finally coming alive in the world. I have noticed it makes me well up with tears to hear someone tell me they understand me. I have asked that of partners in intimate relationships before and have felt so alone or isolated when I didn’t feel it. I also can feel tears when someone says that they are there for me. Trust and safety are very important to me. I want to feel someone’s kindness and acceptance so I feel safe.
I have felt like I haven’t known who I am for so long and I have struggled with this. However I am super aware of all I have gone through in my life and I know there is a reason for all this to unfold at some point, to take off.
And now i am starting to accept myself for who I am and who I have been to make me who I am today in this and these moments. As I move forward I am aware I need to be gentle with myself. I am working so much with gratitude and it is shifting so much energy
Thank you again for your kind nurturing words, thoughts and direction. It truelly felt like the perfect love letter. Many blessings, much love
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This was the perfect balance of insightful commentary, thoughtfulness, compassion, and care. Thank you for sharing YOUR gifts with us!
Hearing this level of understanding of INFPs from another personality's POV makes me feel accepted and understood. Not everyone I meet and encounter are willing to go through much to understand me or even try to talk to me and listen to what I really have going on in my mind. Oftentimes, I'm judged first by how quiet and unamused I look at the exterior, people assume I don't care (though I don't really have strong opinions on most things to feel the need to speak out). I am grateful for the few friends I have and for sure the INFPs in your life sure are lucky to have someone who understands them as you do. That's a dream
Love it!! You do understand INFPs.
I can see how much emotion you have behind this topic....maybe because of your best friend being an INFP? Hugs
Hi Meghan, INFP here 🤗 thank you for this! There was so much that I needed to hear in this video, it honestly felt made for my life right now 🙈 In particular, I've been struggling for so long now with this feeling of guilt that I must be full of nonsense and lazy because I can't seem to "fall in line" with what the people around me can, and are prepared to, deal with, particularly at work. I'm currently working in the field that I trained in (genetics), but each year that goes by, it feels like another chunk of my soul whithers and dies. It's not at all that I dislike science, it just isn't what I am deeply passionate about (ahh, hindsight). Nobody else seems to feel this pain though, so I could only conclude that I'M the problem, not my job. Truthfully, it's felt like I needed some kind of "permission" to stop pursuing a career in science, change direction, and start tangibly moving towards where I feel my purpose, and therefore happiness, truly lies. I've still got a ways to go though before I make a decision, but thank you for sharing your wisdom and encouragement, every bit helps! 🤗💜
I am an INFP too. I can relate with your comment. I am currently working as an Software Engineer, I don’t hate science but isn’t my passion. 🥺
I’m also still constantly looking my purpose in this world too. I want to pursue arts like music and theatre.
I want to inspire and touch people’s heart through arts. Right now, I don’t know where I’m going to start. 🥺
Infp here. I feel as if we are the seeking students of life, constantly adapting and adjusting our selfs from an empowered place. Introspection is such a key thing for me specifically. Through introspection, I have found that everyone is on their own journey and no feeling or reaction is invalid. Sometimes I feel like an observer, an older being watching the evolution of the human race from afar. People always visit me in this place, almost like a rehab center for the many toxic things that we may deal with in a world like ours.
You nailed the INFP personality I am a INFP-A and just figured that out this personality trait a few weeks ago. People are very surprised on how assertive I am because I am so introverted. I really catch people off guard. Your assessment of INFP was very emotional to me. Thank you!
Very interesting! ENFJ here but I am glad to see some love to the INFP, there seems to be a lot of hate towards them, I don't get it.
"Know how to talk to themselves kindly" becoming more and more true for me
same for me ❣️ sending loving and healing energy your way
It feels like you are being very careful at wording it right so we are receptive of your message. And while I cant say I fit the mold perfectly, i really like the care you give to this personality type. Feels validating, especially because you took such a care on knowing INFP even if they work so differently from you. I am happily impressed.
Thank you Megan, you brought me to tears with your words. INFP ‘s, we embrace our pain, we smile at darkness. We except the suffering to a point. It can be a whole lot though sometimes. Thank you for your beautiful words.
Guess im realy Infp, despite I'd say I'm socialy extroverted. But I think that's the main point, to not get limitated by these stereotypes. As you said, there's no Infp like another one.
Thanks a lot for inspiring so many people including me. I watched a bunch of your Videos and they made me think a lot about myself.
I moved out from home recently and started studying so Im kind of getting to know myself all over again in this new social circle.
You realy helped me to get over some insecurities. Go on like this, your work is most important for this world
Oh and the shame thing was right on! I was surprised you had notice that. That would also be a good topic for a video. How to overcome shame.
Confusion is the story of my life. And if I've been a light for even just one person in this partly insensitive world I can die totally content and happy. :) thank you, that's all I needed to hear
I went the emotional numbing/drug route for years b/c I never heard anything growing up but: "you're too sensitive!" Hearing someone express the VALUE in being sensitive to both my own and other peoples feelings is just... yeah.. a lot. In a very good way. So thank YOU, Meghan, for making this video - as an INFP there was a lot in it that I didn't even know I needed to hear.
Have been thinking about this video all day and am replying to myself to be more expressive lol... think I'm the odd INFP who DID go with drugs as an escape for a time b/c I spent so long trying to NOT be myself, and couldn't figure out any other way to be less me. And I always did wonder how I spent years using narcotics and never became a full on "addict" despite that, and even that makes more sense now. So yeah - thanks SO much, again, for this video. It definitely did help. Now I'm going to stop obsessing on it hehe.
I'm and INFP and a HSP. A strong combination but hard to learn and understand making it hard for me to understand myself in a world that promotes a fast life style. Why must it be so hard to simply enjoy life with the people you love, and why do I always feel like I'm someone's therapist; and when they're "fixed", they leave me for no good reason. I've had many friends and many of them simply left making me feel alone, but I have hope and faith in the person I've met recently and I really hope things turn out well between us which could set the base for a strong relationship.
I found this video trying to figure out why I do things the way I do them, and you've answered a fair amount of questions, alas I feel there is yet so much to uncover about INFP and HSP that it sometimes feels overwhelming, making it hard for me to decide how to go about improving..
Thank you so much for this video, you had me tear up pretty quickly and you made me feel like you know me better than I do.
*Gives internet hug*
May you always keep hope, and take things at your own pace!
As a guy is hard to accept because many of these traits are not considered madculine. But some of them are in their own ways. I just need to create an ideal environment for myself
Thank you❤ best compliment ever "your existence is inspiring.... you know how to handle place for other feelings and darkness " 🥺💜💜💜
INFP man here, just want to thank you for that beautiful love letter, and I wasn't offended whatsoever by being described as having a dainty heart. In fact quite the opposite, I am humbled by your kind words :) #hugs2myENFJfriends
It’s more important to do the right things than things “right”
You are one well-spoken cookie!
I am 66 and the big buzzword in my younger years was CAREER. So I kept looking for that path that was going to bring me to the grand station of a career. The Big C would take care of all my needs and give me credentials and validation in the world. It never happened. But I will say I've had fun jobs, miserable jobs, and a rich and varied education. No career, but no regrets either!❤
I felt loved, seen, and understood yet I don’t even know you! Thank you so much! I’m going to listen to this as motivation in the future!
I’m a female engineer, I’ve been trained to use my Te and in the workplace, it’s like I transform into an ENFJ. Then I jumped out of my career because it was too fast paced and mean. Yet I aspire to lead and start a company. I wondered if I was naturally lazy because I like freedom in my day, I don’t like to be inundated with tasks. We do need more INFP and ENFJ leaders today, we honestly want the best for the world. I also learned I’m prone to depression, so understanding myself helps me move towards things that keep my self esteem up.
i tend to use laughter as a way to keep things and light and hide my real feelings especially with people i don’t know- i feel like i’ve done it for so long that now if i want to be serious everyone thinks i’m joking or just kidding
i feel like doing this for so long is so tiring but i just cannot let people in
Infp here, lonely, victimized and isolated. Lol
Quarantine doesnt help either...
Good vibes
I am a Libran, my temperament is phlegmatic-melancholic, and I am an INFP. It's wonderful and agononizing, feeling the joy and pain of living and loving. 2020 my long time partner broke up with me then this year my mother died, then just 2 months ago, my sister died. It had been tough and feeling battred yet here I am still alive and carrying on. At this point, however, whether it's gratefulness or sorrow, both move me to tears. Things do change though and different things will eventually unforld.
I'm an INFP also known as the healer, just like one of my favorite actors, Johnny Depp
Thankyou so much. It is so accurate sometimes i don't realize the impact i make on someone else's life. Or how much i have. So the feeling of someone telling me how i did brings me the inner most joy and happiness.
Wow, what a sweet video. As an INFP guy, thank you. There can’t be many of us out there as a percentage of the population. I agree the world would be better with a little more empathy in the world. Unfortunately, we don’t crave power, so you probably don’t see many of us in politics. Myself, I was always the reluctant leader. I will do it if no one else will. Haha. But, there are times when I think I should be the leader just because I don’t want to lead. The best leader is the reluctant leader and that is an INFP. I really appreciated this video. Thank you.
Can I just say thank you? I've lost..... the voice that used to be there to appreciate and love me. I'm a shadow of who I once was, and your videos are like.... the cup of life. I need to remember that once I was valuable to someone. You echo her. And it's like a healing touch from the past. I know you can't, but I wish you made more videos like this.
I can't even believe how acknowledged and understood and valued and seen this video makes me feel. I am so thankful to you!!
Thank you!!!
would it be totally hilarious if I said I was about to cry haha.
I don't actually know you but I love you 💓
thank you for this and all of your other videos because they allow me to see things with new perspectives^^
I always love the feeling of being understood... even if it’s just words from a stranger, I appreciate the sentiments that come from within 🥰
Faith in the universe that there is a reason why everything happens. Life is both and either, a lesson and/or a blessing. I do find now, as I get older that I'm not prepared to be sucked dry by anyone who is insistent on continuing their drama without trying to do something about it. I have the 3 strike rule now...and I can manage that and not feel bad about letting people go.🎉
This made me feel good. I have always compared myself to other INFP’s and not feeling like a ”real” INFP cus they have all been so different, but now i know why :) thanks!
"Your existence is inspiring." We lead by example. People pick up on our warm, calm vibe. We don't need to say much. We feel compelled to because our Fi gets too idealistic thinking we need to do something epic, but that's not reality. Thank you, Meghan for all your videos on INFPs. Very inspiring. -Older INFP dude ☺️👍
Thank you for the sincere words, it helps a lot to be told the stuff about comparing with others. Its always been a dilemma for me because my parents and other people have this definition of success which i find daunting, in my idea success means i do something i enjoy, bring value and am free to be myself in doing it. Hence looking at what others do i realize i dont resonate with those things so i am reluctant to do them. At the same time i would hate to dissapoint my TJ parents who want the best for me.