The Nature of Respect

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  • @livinginthepines
    @livinginthepines ปีที่แล้ว +1671

    I'm a female in my late 20's and appreciate your videos. It didn't even cross my mind that you might be speaking more towards a male audience. So just keep being you. You are genuine and have morals. That's all a good leader/teacher needs, honestly. You've got this country girl listening and taking your advice. And yes, women are the same when it comes to respect. Except it's done more often behind our backs. Women friendships are very very fickle these days.

    • @michaelschneider9305
      @michaelschneider9305 ปีที่แล้ว

      Men can’t be friends with a woman

    • @akjohnny5997
      @akjohnny5997 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      that's true i see so many women stabbing each other in the back, always drama to be had lol

    • @ReklessStandard
      @ReklessStandard ปีที่แล้ว +32

      People with mutral respect will understand that yeah it is understandable that he has a noto towards male audiences. But it shouldn't matter male nor female should be bias in these videos. Advice is advice to anyone who is open to it and understand it.

    • @JamesStorey09
      @JamesStorey09 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Keep smashing the game girl ❤

    • @mistymountainangel717
      @mistymountainangel717 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I am also a female in my late 20s and find you and momma very helpful with the videos you’re posting. Such a great source of guidance✨

  • @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679
    @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679 ปีที่แล้ว +1088

    Mom taught me "respect is earned. Give everyone a teaspoon of it, and, based on how they act, see if you should give them another teaspoon."
    Thanks mom.

    • @MrBrownstone219
      @MrBrownstone219 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      ❤Your Mom sounds a lot like mine.
      Thanks, Moms!

    • @nawaofficial7233
      @nawaofficial7233 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That is an awesome thought!
      As kids we were focusing on beeing a servant (like jesus) to everyone. That's what my mom lived.
      That's not bad of itself, but the consequence was getting soft, beeing an easy target for manipulation and shutting down the own opinion. In the end theres a lot of frustration and selfdoubt.
      Giving yourself up to God, thats alright (I'm no christian myself but i ghet the concept). Giving yourself up to another human beeing, thats just wrong. For both parties, especially if its your own kids. (Moma talks about that in her channel)
      So knowing the laws of respect, knowing how to give and to recieve it, what it implies and what it excludes, is absolutely essential for beeing a complete human beeing.
      I'm really greatful for this channel to help me collect the wisdom i was missing out.
      Cheers to your Mom!
      She had that down.
      Have a good day from switzerland

    • @vKross
      @vKross ปีที่แล้ว +8

      that sound like a good way to do it, I personally had to come up with how I do it myself, I just give people the same respect I expect to get back from a new person, from there one it either decreases or increases upon how much they give back.

    • @fatasssquirrel1731
      @fatasssquirrel1731 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Respect isn't like a paycheck, by doing the work it doesn't guarantee you a paycheck at the end of the day. Sometimes giving out respect will make you look weak in the eyes of others and they will see you more as an easy target. I say have respect for yourself and only give out respect to people who deserve it. Who deserves it? People capable of self-awarness, realizing their mistakes. I've seen too many narcissists in my life and they prey off people who give out respect like candy because they know how foolish it is, how easy it is to take advantage of due to the naive nature of it.
      Give out respect at your own peril. And one other thing I hear from time to time is the misconstrued idea that respect is equal to common decency. It is not.
      "The good four. Honest with ourselves and with whatever is friend to us; courageous toward the enemy; generous toward the vanquished; polite-always. That is how the four cardinal virtues want us." Nietzsche
      Conduct yourself with politeness, hold your temper, refuse to be manipulated into acting against your will, be decent to those who deserve it. But give respect out at your own peril. If you respect everyone, you either live among paragons of humankind because they all deserve veneration, or more likely you set the bar to low and venerate the unvenerable, and it's undeserving and cheapens true greatness. When you withhold respect it makes it rare, and rarity is where true value lies. Have decency, withhold the respect.

    • @justinhubbs5716
      @justinhubbs5716 ปีที่แล้ว

      Word almost quit my dishwashing job at the ski area... Yeah I know a dish wash job....another story... So the manager was riding my ass over eating food and the proper procedures I was NOT following. So I went the fuck off of sorts.... I blew up on his manager ass.. let him know you do NOT speak to me like that...which led me into the conversation of my manager manipulating his words to get me off this piece of equipment I was sitting on by saying it's a beautiful day out why don't you sit outside and eat.... Well cuz I am an old ass motherfucker who has the ability to think for one's self. I sad no I am good right here. He proceeds to tell me the value of the piece of equipment I was sitting on and asked me to get off of it.... Well I"ll tell you what it would have been easier to say hey could you not sit on that steamer.. instead of it's a nice day outside go eat out there.... Banger headache was not sitting outside in the bright light at 10000 ft... What a cocksucker.

  • @chadelles2586
    @chadelles2586 ปีที่แล้ว +443

    “Show respect to people who don't even deserve it; not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours.” - Dave Willis

    • @airadaimagery692
      @airadaimagery692 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      So true. One of my closest friends who was just killed in an automobile accident recently, gained the respect of so many people through this platform that it was almost comical, and unbelievable. And he gained a lot of that respect because he even respected his biggest haters. I know that sounds counterintuitive, but he was a fairly popular man on TH-cam. And when you become noticed on TH-cam, you just develop haters naturally, it’s the nature of the beast. But because my friend was so kind and respectful to EVERYONE, including the haters, that set him apart from the rest, a true one of a kind man. Sometimes, it really does seem that the best are always the first to leave this earth before the bad.

    • @emanuel_soundtrack
      @emanuel_soundtrack ปีที่แล้ว

      @@miguelsilva9085probably lol

    • @MyWillBeDone
      @MyWillBeDone ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@@miguelsilva9085kind of. It's hard for me to disrespect people though, I'd rather disengage than disrespect. It feels like a curse sometimes honestly

    • @arthoriusthibault8727
      @arthoriusthibault8727 ปีที่แล้ว

      Trash advice

    • @leahllynn
      @leahllynn 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MyWillBeDone my ex would literally say that if u disrespect him he is not taking the high road… he is going to haunt you and make it even because he is the savage one🥴 he’s 28 I’m 19.. crazy

  • @natew5593
    @natew5593 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    13:40 One of the best pieces of advice I ever received was “Don’t be that guy who got divorced 5 times and goes around town saying all his ex wives are crazy.” Denial is not just a river in Egypt 😂

  • @MissMclean76
    @MissMclean76 ปีที่แล้ว +406

    I'm a 46 year old mum of three...I live in New Zealand. Last Tuesday night I prayed that God would somehow bring a mentor for my 26 year old son.
    The next day he sent me one of your videos...he said you were really having an impact on his life.
    Now I'm also listening.
    God works in mysterious ways and I just wanted to let you know what you are doing is having a profound effect. Our son's are desperate for real kind hearted men...thank you for being one of these men❤️

    • @raularmas317
      @raularmas317 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Amen sister.

    • @jademelrose8765
      @jademelrose8765 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes I’m 44 year old woman listening from New Zealand 🇳🇿 too , and I really connect with your comment
      ❤this channel

    • @eddiebazan6411
      @eddiebazan6411 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Hell,I’m a 58 yr old Texan and I enjoy his chats.! Happy new year.!

    • @aloaloings5596
      @aloaloings5596 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That wasn’t god it’s the TH-cam algorithm lmao

    • @eddiebazan6411
      @eddiebazan6411 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@aloaloings5596 he”works in mysterious ways”

  • @orionoverstreet11
    @orionoverstreet11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I am a young trans man and these feel like lessons I may never have stumbled on otherwise. Your kindness and wisdom is so appreciated sir. Thank you for sharing your hard earned truths.

  • @billb3454
    @billb3454 ปีที่แล้ว +349

    Another excellent video. My father told me, and I have told my sons, not to worry if some people disrespect you as long as you are a good person, live right and treat others with respect. As my dad told me, “Lions don’t care about the opinions of sheep.” Congrats on the channel. You earned it.

    • @chefgiovanni
      @chefgiovanni ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I agree with you. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Talk to people the way you want to be talked to. And respect is earned not given. Be a wolf among sheep.

    • @SlayerRiley
      @SlayerRiley ปีที่แล้ว

      @@chefgiovanni If that's how you see it, then it's rather clear that the point of the video does not apply to your views.

    • @TomFromYoutube
      @TomFromYoutube ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen brother.

  • @takishacade7531
    @takishacade7531 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Well I'm a 46 yrs old black woman that knows nothing about horses....... and I listen to you ALL the time 💕💕💕💕😉

  • @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679
    @carlh-thehermitwithwi-fi679 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    14:22 - DAMN! Mom said that too! "You need to respect the chair, not the person in it!"
    WOW! I do love being "old school".
    World gotta get back to that.

  • @foodbythewordmedia
    @foodbythewordmedia ปีที่แล้ว +192

    I can honestly say my 85 year father raised me to be respectful and I thank God for that. And he has a high standard for being honorable. And I raised my son the same, it must be taught and demonstrated. Great video and topic!

    • @joanofarcxxi
      @joanofarcxxi ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@fflfred He really should thank whoever he wants. You do you. Respect.

    • @foodbythewordmedia
      @foodbythewordmedia ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@fflfred Honoring God comes before any and everything! I have two driving principles in my life that guide me; 1. To Glorify God 1st and always and 2. Provide for my family! That is it, I keep it simple therefore there is never any question what my intentions are in life as the man that God created me to be!

    • @davidsonofyisrael4469
      @davidsonofyisrael4469 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@fflfred Lol yep, there is always someone that gets their panties in a twist whenever GOD is mentioned. Thank you for proving to me once again that GOD does indeed exist. Much love.

    • @itsyaboi5488
      @itsyaboi5488 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@fflfred weirdo energy, him thanking the man up above is also thanking his father in a way

  • @brodybimber864
    @brodybimber864 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    I’m 16 and going through some tough shit right now.Thank you for reminding me about who I want to be.

    • @jademelrose8765
      @jademelrose8765 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Keep going young fella , and your definitely in the right place 💯
      Times are tough but there will be well better times ahead 🙏🏼

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Your more than a conquer

    • @leelowther476
      @leelowther476 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      my life sucked at 16 dude im 17 now and things have shifted so much im a much better person just shows things can change so fast so i wouldnt worry too much my friend i reckon youll be ok just gotta be tough

    • @Raindrop199
      @Raindrop199 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same here man, I just keep doing the wrong thing. Or saying the wrong thing. I am trying to better myself these videos are helping me to do that

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Raindrop2000 life and death is in our tongues. Choose life that you may live and keep Yahs(Gods) commandments.

  • @kyleloyd1008
    @kyleloyd1008 ปีที่แล้ว +158

    I'm a 38 year old man with a wife and two children one 10 year old boy and a 3 year old girl. We live in Southern Illinois. I lost my dad a couple years back an he was my best friend. Any problem I had I could call him and he had a answer for or could fix. When it was his time it left a hole in me. We would sit in the early mornings an have discussions over the things that were happening and he always found a way to make things better. I found your channel a couple weeks ago and started watching your videos. I found myself getting up early to get coffee an go to the garage to watch your videos. It gives me a sense of how my father was an the talks we had. It's not a replacement for him but it reminds me who he was an who he made me. What your doing helps an sometimes even grow men can get lost an need a hand in life. A small talk can go a long way.....thank you

    • @genac.939
      @genac.939 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Some of the best people are from Southern Illinois, my grandparents who raised me were from there. I'm trying to get there now.

    • @goldilocks913
      @goldilocks913 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Beautifully put 👍🇬🇧🇺🇸

    • @ryang.5094
      @ryang.5094 ปีที่แล้ว

      This genuinely made me smile; I’m happy for you.

    • @raularmas317
      @raularmas317 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen. I whole-heartedly agree with your sense of gratitude for this man and the time he has taken to show his respect for us as a "younger generation".

    • @Julia29853
      @Julia29853 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What a wonderful tribute to your father!

  • @yuval2248
    @yuval2248 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    " Who is respectable? the one who respects others .Who is wise ?the one who learns from all. Who is rich ? the one who is happy with his lot .Who is the hero ? the one who conquers his desires"

    • @jademelrose8765
      @jademelrose8765 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What an amazing quote ❤

    • @yuval2248
      @yuval2248 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Miguel Silva Even an ant can teach you , if you are not an idiot.

    • @dustinschroller4884
      @dustinschroller4884 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sounds like Marcus Aurelius.

  • @romainlettuce118
    @romainlettuce118 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    To add to workplace respect and disrespect. Make sure it’s ACTUAL disrespect you’re receiving and not playful ribbing. I got “picked on” a lot at work. My boss says to me, “we mess with you cause we like you. If we didn’t say a word to you, that’s when you know there’s a problem.” Us guys are just like that. However if it’s blatant with no smiles and winks afterwords, then it’s real bullying. Or if you’re still confused, don’t be afraid to ask the person outright (peacefully of course).

    • @Ben-cz5yq
      @Ben-cz5yq ปีที่แล้ว +12

      From what I have experienced, if guys start giving you a hard time and you just laugh it off, they will usually leave you alone. But if they can tell that they have gotten to you, they won't stop

    • @lostbooks2918
      @lostbooks2918 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Agree w you and want to add that I used to take offense and seek pity or lash out in anger. Now I actually enjoy being brunt of jokes bc it keeps the attention off others who might not be able to handle it, plus it gives me chances to be witty back at them. It's all fun and games if everyone is laughing. This world is too dark to be serious all the time

    • @lostbooks2918
      @lostbooks2918 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@Ben-cz5yq but yea if bullies keep bulling it up, they turn want to be workers into disgruntled time bombs. Nothing good comes from bullying

    • @Ben-cz5yq
      @Ben-cz5yq ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@lostbooks2918 I totally agree

    • @alanbaird7740
      @alanbaird7740 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@lostbooks2918 Because the day comes when this bullied person has had too much, and takes a firearm to work, so much for the bullies, and any other innocent people that are unfortunate enough to be around ! It's reaching epidemic type proportions

  • @bryanfox2735
    @bryanfox2735 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    Funny how making a simple video turns into helping people like you never imagined! 💪🇺🇸💯. Good for you brother and momma! This country needs a lot of help remembering where it came from and who it is!!!!👀

    • @dillasoul2228
      @dillasoul2228 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mind if I ask what you meant by that?

  • @JoUsr
    @JoUsr ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I’m a female over 50 that never had a father figure.
    If I were to have had one, I feel that you would have provided amazing life lessons that may have allowed me to avoid some of the pitfalls of life; dealing with people, caring for myself and those I am responsible for.
    You provide so many life lessons that I appreciate so very much.
    So, I’m a grateful girl, sitting at your feet, listening contently - learning and filled with gratitude.
    Thank you for your thoughts and advice.

  • @Jackothy
    @Jackothy ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Wisdom like this is more valuable than gold these days

  • @boccardo62
    @boccardo62 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    This man is a National Treasure

  • @marlinyohn8982
    @marlinyohn8982 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    Well said Dwayne. I am 72 and have been a lot of places and have worked with a lot of people. One thing that I learned at a young age was that it takes time and hard work to earn someone’s respect. It is not something that you are automatically given. On the other hand, it takes almost nothing to loose that respect that you worked so hard to earn. I continue to send your words of wisdom to my kids and grandkids. Hopefully some of your advice will sink in and make them better examples and citizens in this world that we live.

  • @cameronmnelson
    @cameronmnelson ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I always had trouble with verses in the bible that call for us to be meek. However I’ve learned that meekness doesn’t mean weak or a that you’re a push over. It comes from the it comes from the Greek “Prautes” which translates to decided strength of disciplined calmness. It’s having the power to wield a sword when needed, but knowing when to keep it sheathed.

  • @WookieLove1
    @WookieLove1 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    The toughest thing to do sometimes is to hold your tongue. Great talk, great reminder to respect yourself first.

  • @vanessa9937
    @vanessa9937 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    21 year old girl here, completely agree with everything you've said. I truly love coming to your channel to seek this fatherly advise/wisdom. thank you for what you do.

  • @Viney209
    @Viney209 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    I lost my father when I was 15, i'm nearly 35 now, I wish he were around a lot longer to help me out with things, but he was a Vietnam veteran infantry tunnel rat, he lived through some crazy shit and died early at 58. He protected and loved his family till the end though, but never truly forged fatherly values to hand down, your videos help me out a lot mate, thank you.

    • @redneckgirl3326
      @redneckgirl3326 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I feel you. I lost mine when I was 12.

    • @coreygendron3766
      @coreygendron3766 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      My dad passed when I was 11. It was hard for me especially seeing other boys with their dads 😥

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mine left this world at 50 my age was 15 also. Be strong and encourage thyself. Be of good cheer. 👍 you are more than a conquer. HaleluYah

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 ปีที่แล้ว

      47 now still living prosperously

    • @Viney209
      @Viney209 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@dustychayeh4878 Thanks mate, sure he left us early but he made a huge impact on everyone that came across him. He'd be proud of what i've done with my life I know that for sure.

  • @garyhubbard2138
    @garyhubbard2138 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Dewayne, I'm 72, Been through alot in this life. From the highest of highs to the lowest of lows. Its been just a few months ago I found your channel. I've enjoyed every video I've seen. I find that your advice holds true for all human beings. I relate to everything I've heard you say. Thank you so much, it's so nice to know there's still a few that follow the old ways that we were brought up with.
    You and Deanna are very special individuals.

  • @henseltbrumbleburg3752
    @henseltbrumbleburg3752 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    12:59 I'm not sure where I heard it, but I have a similar saying:
    If one person calls you a horse, you tell them to F off
    If a second person calls you a horse, you ignore them
    If a third person calls you a horse, you best get yourself a saddle as you might be a horse.
    Love your videos man, super kind message with a great heart.

  • @StayingMindfulShaq
    @StayingMindfulShaq 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Respect is given after observing people of competence. I finnally understand why nobody used to respect me and now i know how to fix it. Thanks for this video sir.

  • @williamruley4518
    @williamruley4518 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    You and your wife make great videos for me and my wife to listen (me 26, my wife 29) thank you for your words of wisdom and life advice. Keep em coming Dwayne.❤️

  • @TheMelaniebarber1
    @TheMelaniebarber1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I hear you speaking to me in many aspects. I am 54 and female. You think the way my husband and I think. Like all people should.

  • @jamesmetzler2031
    @jamesmetzler2031 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is the attitude I try to take when dealing with disrespectful people: If I am to be insulted; I must first value your opinion.

  • @williambirch2731
    @williambirch2731 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I read an Old Testament scripture the other day that said, “stand in the presence of the aged”. (Can you imagine young people today standing up when a very old person comes into the room…?). How far we have drifted…!
    We have lost a lot of demonstrations of respect. Yet, many guys, and girls, are ready to fight saying he or she “dissed me”. It wouldn’t bother you one BIT if you respected yourself…!!!
    Great points Dwayne…! You’re the MAN…!

  • @Cornbeeftaco
    @Cornbeeftaco ปีที่แล้ว +29

    You remind me a lot of my father. From the way you speak, to your mannerisms. He passed away in January. I'm glad I found you, it's helped being able to listen to you.
    Have a wonderful Christmas

    • @ReklessStandard
      @ReklessStandard ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Man... Sorry for your loss, that must be rough. Good spirits to you.

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your more than a conquer

  • @JwsOndafly
    @JwsOndafly ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your right on the money Dwaine. The somewhat lost art of “ loving your neighbor“ Respect.

  • @Mayo_805
    @Mayo_805 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    One of my favorite break downs of any word is Responsibility... Given my ability what is my response, sounds simple but with proper understanding is not simple. It is very direct and complicated. It is truly HOW we choose to live our lives given that one word. We should embrace Responsibility and understand more of it, more of what our own responsibility is. There's great power and pride to be earned in knowing this and choosing to take it on. Society today is always encouraging us to take on less and less responsibility, but I'll tell y'all, go take on more of it and challenge yourselves, you'll surely grow stonger when you do.

  • @HopeUSMC
    @HopeUSMC ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Rite on sir I support you. I'm 37 been threw alot, and I wish ppl would respect my privacy and respect my choice of being alone cause I found true happiness from being by myself and sober for 8 years off alcohol. But I have teens and ppl my age act like children and being disrespectful around me everyday. And I just want to be left alone, and I want ppl to mind there own business and worry about themselves and not what I'm doing. But I try to keep my mouth shut the best I can but sometimes the disrespect is soo constant I have to open my mouth and disrespectf them right back just the way I am. May not be right but I'm not gonna let someone keep disrespecting me and get away with it. And I respect all my elders and I try to always show respect to ppl that don't deserve it, maybe that's wrong but I like to see ppl change for the good and to help themselves. And with today's youth they think everything's a dam joke and take nothing seriously and laugh at tragedys and make fun of disabilities make fun of religious ppl. And I think all of us would be better off if those kinds of ppl just kept there mouth shut and mind there own business. And I know why they keep disrespecting me everyday, there "trying" to make me depress soo I go back to drugs and alcohol but that ain't gonna happen been clean for soo long not gonna happen. When I was 25 I quit pain pills and I haven't went back to that 12 years off that. That was the worst drug I got hooked too, if I couldn't get it off the street I had dentist pull out good teeth just soo I can get some. 12 years ago it was easy to get it that way. I did that like 7 times. Cause I didn't plan to live past 25 but I got clean and found a reason to live. I was 90 pounds back then, taking 16 vicodines in one hour. I even lived threw 5 oxy 80s and a half of a half gallon of vodka in me. Only reason I survived that was my tolerance was soo high I could handle it. I quit drinking when I was 29 now I'm 37 been working out alot for the last 5 years cause I found that was my passion and I made that my obsession. Cause that help me kept sober, and all my friends I use to have they all stop talking to me cause I got sober I think but I really don't care cause they still drink everyday and I guess they were never friends in the first place. 8 years I had no one to really vent too I spent 8 holidays 8 birthdays alone and the first couple years being sober and alone was hard but I got use to it and I found a way to still be happy and poor at the same time. Now that was hard to learn. I just started watching your videos and I like your knowledge I always love to learn things I don't know. I'm gonna keep watching sir keep up the good work cause I can tell you like to help ppl too and it's a great feeling when you know you helped someone out of darkness.

  • @TheWolvirine25
    @TheWolvirine25 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    As a 25 year old dude, I really appreciate this type of content. I recently found you and I look forward to your future wisdom.

  • @JCulbreath1
    @JCulbreath1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    What a breath of fresh air. Thank you, sir, please keep it up. Your messages land because they're true, but especially because you care.

  • @tinycatkin
    @tinycatkin ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Just want to say that I am a woman in my early 40s and have been watching your videos for about a year now and have never ever felt “excluded” by your manner of speaking. I have gained so much valuable insight from your videos about horses and videos about life. Thank you for making this channel and don’t change a thing!! You are giving people so much help and hope!

  • @Eons000
    @Eons000 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    "Respect is not easily come by"
    Adequate reminder 🙏🏿

  • @myfavoritethings8093
    @myfavoritethings8093 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I'm a single woman who recently discovered your wife's channel and through hers, I found yours. I gotta tell you, I've never heard such a great definition and presentation (explanation) of respect. I appreciate you and your wife and all you're sharing. God bless you!

    • @dustychayeh4878
      @dustychayeh4878 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so! Your poem is beautiful. Minister Kevin L.A Ewing is strong in the word of Elohiym and taught me to pray the scriptures something I didn't know but yes! How bout psalm 103 v20?

  • @HegoDamask114D
    @HegoDamask114D หลายเดือนก่อน

    “Not all due respect is earned.” This is a huge help to me. This notion brings me closer to peace. Thank you D

  • @michaelsiengo1
    @michaelsiengo1 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Sir, I was raised back in a day. When if your neighbors addressed you, you started your sentence with ma’am, and finished it with ma’am you held doors open for folks, and you just had a lot more common courtesy. I appreciate your videos, your calm, rational thoughts, and your pleasurable eloquent presentation of words is quite refreshing to say the least. I enjoy your videos my friend. Have a nice day. Thanks for sharing.

  • @RKar2009
    @RKar2009 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    SO WISE.

  • @Dice_weiss
    @Dice_weiss ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Something I had forgotten about that Dwayne touched on was regarding how respect is earned and not given. Generally, you should have a baseline level of respect for those around you, you could call that manners. Now, too many people forget that when you don’t give someone that baseline respect/ have manners, you will get what you give. Too many times I’ve seen someone not give that respect and be totally upset when they are disrespected and it was a direct reflection on how they treated someone else. Now, you will never earn respect if you don’t give a little. Earned respect is a two way street that takes effort and time to build. Give a little respect to people in yo ur daily interactions and you’ll be blown away by how much people are willing to go out of their way for you that are complete strangers. A little goes a long way and I’m glad my father taught me that.

  • @xlecriss1
    @xlecriss1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing you'r opignion.

  • @JustaGuy316
    @JustaGuy316 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    I just went through this yesterday... someone being very disrespectful to me at work, despite my only intentions to help them.
    Thank you for putting it into perspective. God sent the message, and it was received!

    • @idancemyassintothepaint7571
      @idancemyassintothepaint7571 ปีที่แล้ว

      I struggle with this, having served time in a particularly violent ohio prison at the age of 20.. it became normal to fight at the slightest sign of disrespect. Recently lost a job due to an interaction with my manager.. this ugly hog was unbelievably rude to me because I asked for another waiters apron due to a coworker swiping mine. She told me that I had to pay for it if it happened again, and that's fine with me.. but her tone was just horrible, beyond rude, and derisive.. needless to say, I told her to get fucked if she felt like she could speak to me like that over an apron. I'm absolutely certain that most corporations hire the most miserable people for management, the trend is unmistakable.

  • @russizmaylov4875
    @russizmaylov4875 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Greetings, Dwaine (sorry for the spelling) and the team! I saw your video in my recommended feed after a breakup and I started watching them one at a time and I got hooked. Thanks so much for your time invested in sharing these important topics. I live in the opposite side of the globe, a small country of Kyrgyzstan. We have a great deal of horses here and I'll be paying more attention to this whole culture and might even take a lesson or two on riding, but more than everything I'm thankful for your warmth, calmness and encouragement to us, who really need to clean up our corner of the planet. Peace, Russ.

  • @aaronrussell9484
    @aaronrussell9484 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Good one! Im from MS living in Colorado for 8 years and sometimes I think people take our niceness and respect for weakness. You are the man! Im almost 36 and I tell my wife I want to be just like you when I grow up. She says I sure hope so. Hahaha

  • @yelena3583
    @yelena3583 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a woman who has been therally enjoying every singles video of yours that I've watched so far. Thank you.

  • @TH_WLD_RVR
    @TH_WLD_RVR ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I found this guy a few days back, and wow….I run to every new video now. He’s like Arthur Morgan in real life, and he really speaks the truth about being a good man. Appreciate the words of wisdom.

  • @NikoJones94
    @NikoJones94 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for speaking with us sir

  • @axuriffgaming
    @axuriffgaming ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Glad to see ya. Y’all be safe on your trip. Always appreciate you and your wisdom of life and the synergy with it. I need all the help I can get. Your definition of respect hits home with me and now I can look at respect in another way now. Thank you

  • @Shatamx
    @Shatamx ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Its terrifying how much respect we lost for ourselves over the decades. I try and teach my boys that you have to love and respect yourself first before anything. It seems simple. It isn't. It starts young. And parents are having children without any respect for themselves. And we all see the results.

  • @pattichristensen9814
    @pattichristensen9814 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I hope your trip goes good. I pray they have eyes to see and ears to hear. You offer good "common sense" advice and it is truly appreciated. God bless!

  • @bryceferguson8409
    @bryceferguson8409 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    18:31 this was what it was for me it hurt me inside not to respect myself and my own actions I had to change for me to realize once I had self respect I didn’t much need the respect and others and actually if you focus on respecting yourself the respect of others will follow!!!

  • @jacbryan1500
    @jacbryan1500 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    this man is truly amazing. I dont even comment on youtube videos. I've learned more from this guy than my own father

  • @srivaishnaviy3905
    @srivaishnaviy3905 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Jane Austen is my favourite authoress, her work dates back to 200 years ago. Often, there is a mention of "what is due to others". Not because they're good people or have 'earned' enough brownie points, but because a good education taught us to treat everyone with basic courtesy, some more so by virtue of their age/position. You've summed it up perfectly.

  • @dillweed501
    @dillweed501 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks Dwayne! love your wisdom

  • @nicolek.1839
    @nicolek.1839 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    No worries Sir.
    Us ladies are listening just the same and we appreciate your voice.

  • @jakecastillo6731
    @jakecastillo6731 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thats such a great story to hear. When people disrespect me like that old man did you, most times I sit there quiet until they’re done and go on my way. Sometimes though I would look back and think perhaps I should’ve done something back, but you put it eloquently “let him disrespect himself” This gives me more confidence in taking the high road and not always retaliating when ppl come at me. Of course if ppl disrespect my fiance the gloves come off

  • @zion367
    @zion367 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was the video I needed to see today. Thank you.

  • @Cycleordie0879
    @Cycleordie0879 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Sending love and respect from Ingram Tx! You know the area sir!!

  • @dominickfindley4363
    @dominickfindley4363 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Loved this one thank you for sharing your power with the world.

  • @daniellacampos6000
    @daniellacampos6000 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    As a 20 year old young woman these videos always resonate. Consider making a podcast!

    • @DryCreekWranglerSchool
      @DryCreekWranglerSchool  ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Dry Creek Wrangler Podcast is up and running. Subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts 👍

  • @KevinCook-tr9yq
    @KevinCook-tr9yq ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Respect something that is earned. I have seen to many too adults that act let children.

  • @maxcorder2211
    @maxcorder2211 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I am very glad for your current success, Dwayne. The Lord has immensely blessed you with a wonderful wife, seven children and several grandchildren. You have lead a life that has been true to your beliefs and you have respected yourself, your employers with an honest days work, and your fellow man. In turn, you are respected by your peers for your knowledge in your chosen work.
    $12 per hour isn’t really a wage that allows a man to take care of what he is responsible for. A year ago you couldn’t likely imagine what has happened in your and mama’s life. I know that you have a great faith in God. God has shown you that He has a great faith in you and He is working out His plan for your life now. God Bless you and continue with this work that is blessing many people.

  • @jamestregler1584
    @jamestregler1584 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yep ; GOD bless youall from old New Orleans 😇

  • @saveusall6915
    @saveusall6915 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My father is a split image of the 70 year old you described. Its REALLY DIFFICULT a lot of the time to deal with, but restraint is key! Thanks for the advice!!

  • @Peck_Bull
    @Peck_Bull ปีที่แล้ว

    OMG, Dwayne... man... you're a good man... thanks from the bottom of my heart, ONE MORE TIME, man... Thanks from Amsterdam. 🤝

  • @Eidenbites
    @Eidenbites ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I respect you for how you dealt with that 70 year old man.. me I prey on the weak .. specially if you crossed that line .. it’s not something I’m proud of and I want to change but if I have the upper hand I go for it .. I respect you for sharing that and I hope this helps me change my mindset

  • @howie15
    @howie15 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Fascinating breakdown/analysis. Looking again and not assuming the worst in people. I love it, speaking nothing but facts as usual! Keep up the great work!

  • @happydaze4934
    @happydaze4934 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much Dwayne, I really appreciate your wisdom and effort to make our lives better.

  • @FindingDurham
    @FindingDurham ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love your words..god bless!

  • @belal5276
    @belal5276 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing. Respect to you sir

  • @washburnbilly
    @washburnbilly ปีที่แล้ว +4

    When someone that you trust says that they are going to do something and then doesn't do it even after saying 3 time's that they were good for their word. That's disrespect! Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. Great talk brother! I learned a hard lesson from one who I thought that was a good friend but turned out to be dishonest. Hold your friends close so long as they are a real friend!

  • @thomaswatts2560
    @thomaswatts2560 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I worked in Law Enforcement for 22 years. I listened to you're story about the man that said he was going to kick your horse. This behavior sounds like Sociopathic behavior. Three to five percent of our society are sociopathic. Studies can't get a perfect percentage on this behavior. Your reaction was the best you could have done. If you had stepped down he would have rode off before you could get to him. He would have most likely started screaming and yelling over his shoulder as he scurried off. Then, if you had gone after him, he would have changed into the victim and pouted about your aggressive behavior. People should study sociopathic and narcissistic behavior. Not just read the definition but read studies by Doctor's. It will suprise you as to how many you have encountered through life. It will also help you protect yourself. You're family and your property.
    Keep up the great videos.

  • @Thankful305
    @Thankful305 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So good!!
    If you respect yourself, your character/attitude/actions create connection ~ it’s what Our Creator intended.
    We are a sinful bunch and won’t get it perfectly but self respect is self love 💞 and will make this world a far better place ✨🌎🕊

  • @Gingerblaze
    @Gingerblaze ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Masterfully expressed and valuable wisdom here!
    Much respect sir.

  • @SammyFender
    @SammyFender ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was taught to respect my elders and people of certain positions automatically, before I would actually know them or their deeds. I would give them a certain level of respect and it was basically up to them to maintain or lose my respect. Today, so, so many people think they deserve respect just for being alive no matter their behavior. For me, respect is earned, and either maintained or lost. They way a person conducts themselves and their actions to others is what I look at.

  • @henrykraft5914
    @henrykraft5914 ปีที่แล้ว

    I Agree with everything you just said... Dwayne...thank you for that chat...

  • @judsonmccarthy4308
    @judsonmccarthy4308 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Keep creating content! Love your vibe and wisdom. These videos are beyond important. Older more mature guys usually don’t talk, they just do. It’s good to hear you kicking knowledge that can really change someone a generation of lives ❤

  • @hermannyambu8565
    @hermannyambu8565 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    a video on managing a broken heart, troubled mind. Thanks a lot for your videos

  • @DontDoDaylight
    @DontDoDaylight ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you, sir.

  • @summittspawn
    @summittspawn ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ethically and temperamentally speaking, you remind me of my father. He passed away many years ago and I am happy to add you to my list of great men who can help mentor and guide me like my father did. Thank you 🙏

  • @ject4252
    @ject4252 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Dewayne, thank you for this video. I 34m, have been being tested at work, in regards to respect lately. Something came up between myself and another gentleman (much older than myself), yesterday, on the job. I thought of you and how you would handle it, and I think I did the right thing. You've spoken on respect in other videos, and I've been contemplating what you've said. This is a very timely video for me, considering how things at work went this week. Thanks again. Glad to have found you and Mama, you're good people. You help to remind me of the values that my parents taught me growing up.

  • @raymondbradley6788
    @raymondbradley6788 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks Duane amazing video👍👍👍

  • @vincetravis70
    @vincetravis70 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hell my daddy died when I was 13 and I've been living with respect for myself and ur exactly right. Innately many of us know it.. momma did great on her videos lol I'm excited for u guys

  • @markinator8826
    @markinator8826 ปีที่แล้ว

    Justified- by the Great Elmore Leonard...loved that show!!

  • @zack2920
    @zack2920 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Dewayne! Great to hear you’re going to be out in my neck of the woods in the Northwest. I highly recommend the Thunderbird Trading Post while you’re in town. Awesome little native-owned facility east of Tacoma with a great cigar shop, lounge, and bar. If I happen to see you there, I’ll buy you a stick.
    Thanks as always for the awesome content!

  • @MachoPeludo5000
    @MachoPeludo5000 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for this digestible thought and lesson on RESPECT

  • @moesversicherungsbet
    @moesversicherungsbet ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think the point you made about how disrespecting your Wife being the same as disrespecting yourself works very well for the broader aspect of respecting fellow Man.
    While the unity between you and your partner are stronger than between you and any old stranger, it is worth noting that you are also bound to this stranger in your humanity. We cannot exist without our environment, we are part of it. If we choose to help a stranger we choose to help ourselves for you both make up the bigger picture of which we all consist. Same thing applies for respect.
    Thanks for making these Videos, your perspective is much appreciated!

  • @zair_salahuddin
    @zair_salahuddin ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Well if anyone's gonna ramble on, it oughta be our favourite cowboy. Great video yet again DeWayne!

  • @epimax
    @epimax ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Agree completely - all aspects of this conversation! I'm 58- been married 34 years next week- new subscriber to your channel and joined Mama's channel today too!

    • @daniel.holbrook
      @daniel.holbrook ปีที่แล้ว

      34 years - early congratulations, that's impressive

  • @kp8825
    @kp8825 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Sir. Much appreciated as always.

  • @robertsouthers1172
    @robertsouthers1172 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hey Sir. Just wanted to thank you for the time you spend on these videos and all the help you give both on horsemanship and humanity. You are very much appreciated. God bless you and your family for all you do.

  • @SafetyMentalst
    @SafetyMentalst 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    In retrospect were is the respect
    Respect is a subject to inspect
    What is respect it's your project
    Determine the cause and affect
    For a lack of respect we reflect

  • @marylynn259
    @marylynn259 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Yes! I'm still young and in my twenties but I've noticed the problem with definitions, definitely! I love the definition of respect you gave us, people today just don't have the respect. They don't know the shame either. I learned to respect myself and others but people usually only learn to expect the respect, not to give it.

  • @themodernschoolofancientth1316
    @themodernschoolofancientth1316 ปีที่แล้ว

    Outstanding. Much love, life and Light to you and yours

  • @harrywernsman9045
    @harrywernsman9045 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great presentation. Your insight into, and understanding of, human nature is deep and vast. Your ability to communicate that understanding you have to others in such a way as to enlighten them and make their life a little better is nothing short of profound. You remind me a great deal of Mark Twain. I mean that. People used to go to theaters to hear Mr. Twain give presentations very similar to your youtube videos. You are on the right path, doing the right thing, keep going.

  • @robertmuhlenkamp3025
    @robertmuhlenkamp3025 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really liked the example from the cattle drive in Colorado. Great example of giving respect that is due, but not earned. Great example of acting respectable and holding yourself to a standard of self-respect. Great reminder to respect our elders.
    Thanks!

  • @goldilocks3593
    @goldilocks3593 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Well I know these videos are mostly directed towards the dudes, but what an incredibly refreshing voice of sanity you are 🙃