How to be a lot more likeable
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- Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction
01:58 - What I'm pondering
02:09 - How to be likeable
02:46 - My personal experience
03:00 - I. Like yourself
03:42 - II. Not everyone will like you
04:42 - III. Recognize your own unlikability
06:09 - IV. Don't sacrifice yourself to be liked
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Good hygiene. Don't be needy. Don't be cruel out of pettiness. Be authentic. Works for me.
Or look pretty
@@memechannel3345 that helps, but you dont HAVE to be pretty to be likeable
@@memechannel3345 or at least be average looking
@@memechannel3345 that doesn’t help with everything. there’s pretty unlikable people that are pretty.
Being greatfull, self care, heath care
No exceptions from people, cutting toxic people out of my life, being minimalist, being around positive peoples and living simply help me so much to just to live peacefully
unlikable traits about me that i will admit.
- i am a people pleaser.
- i keep overthinking things to the point where it brings out the worst in me and can cause me to stress when there's really nothing.
- i don't know how to set boundaries sometimes
- i'm insecure
lol are we the same person!!
THE SECOND ONE IS LITERALLY ME.
same
are you a libra? hahah
being insecure is not an unlineable trait, literally everyone is. A unlikeable trait to replace that would. be "insecure people who only talk about how their insecure" sometimes it can be awkward especially when you don't know how to comfort them (like most people, or at least me)
Being yourself no matter if others like you or not. Everyone have different perspective about you so you liking yourself is greater than being liked by everyone. ❤️
Just by your response and the way you wrote that, you seem like a kind and gentle person.
That is so true.
No, that doesnt work in real life.
@@Kryogh again, it's a matter of perspective, just as she said. Your perspective is that being true to oneself is not practical. And does not work in real life. My experience and perspective is that it totally does work.
Also, if that is your perspective it would have been helpful to provide us with a practical alternative. Disagreeing with a statement is ok. Offering a practical alternative with your remark would offer something to this discussion.
😍
“At your absolute best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person. At your worst, you'll still be worth it to the right person.”
Karen Salmansohn
Be honest, authentic, straightforward and stop being a people pleaser. These are my tips, some might find speaking the honest truth harsh, but it actually makes people respect you more, for being unapologetically you. 🙌🏼🙂
I would love to agree but the honest part really depend on the kind of people you are surrounded by.
Some people can be too aggressive to take your honest opinion. I mean I've come across some narcissist people and it was a pretty bad experience:(
@@makizenin1840 Peoples reactions are a reflection of how they view themselves. Aggression, and other negative emotions are reflecting their own weakness. So view them as someone lacking soul power and move on. Make acceptance, compassion and peace your dominant emotions and you will become a powerful soul. 😊
As a German, this is so true here! People pleasers don't really make friends, we like a little "kontra" ^^
So if you dislike shallow agreement, move to Germany
explain being unapologetically you.
saw at 444 likes & 4 comments
one unlikable traits of me would be the lack of social interest. often i just don't feel like i want to know and speak with someone so i'm closed off and look unapproachable (i have a rbf too), but i'm working on it because more than often is all caused by me not feeling worthy enough. Also I'm an introvert and i don't have the 'skills' for smalltalk but i would die to become good at it. it really stresses me out when the convo doesn't go smooth
same
couldn't relate more
Samee
you took the words right out of my mouth. i can just be myself with really close friends and be comfortable but (especially at school) i can become introverted and i make no effort to socialize, mostly cuz i'm tired and because i'm discouraged by the fact that i think that people already don't like me. most conversations i have are dry with other people, i don't know how other people do it. they know exactly what to say to encourage or make others laugh and then they just become friends. i'm also insecure and am constantly seeking for the approval of others. so yeah thats my mini vent lol
I struggle with social anxiety, when I'm around people it creates awkward moments, people start to think I'm weird, I'm working on stepping out of my social anxiety bubble, lately I been recording myself on TH-cam making travel vlogs, recording in public, talking to strangers, etc... Since my channel represents my self improvement journey, I'm showing myself stepping out of my comfort zone and growing to inspire others
im so proud of you for pushing yourself!!! it’s hard to get outside of that bubble, trust me (i have social anxiety too) but im so happy for your growth!!! much love and good luck
@@mindre1d aw thank you so much, it's extremely hard, but I can't let it defeat me forever, eventually we have to take power over ourselves to grow and feel happy
proud of you!! keep going!!
IM SO PROUD OF UU
i hope your journey goes well, I’ve had social anxiety and i think I’ve came over it, good luck and I’ve subbed!!!
unlikable traits about me that i will admit.
-i tend to talk over people accidently because i get to excited about the topic.
-my mood changes so fast like i will talk a lot then suddenly go silent
-i never set boundaries then feel drained
-i am bad at comforting people when there emotional
-i dont know how to respond to compliments because im insecure
-i want to be cared for and loved but i dont show it
-i get attached to people which ends up hurting me emotionally
-i overthink alot
Wallah sameee
Same 😊
I get lile this too much that people don't like me and I can't do anything because I get bullied and they won't understand
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I've been dealing with a lot of self esteem issues lately. This video really came at the right time. Thanks a lot Lana!
Glad to hear it!! Good luck on your journey x
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@@LanaBlakely are you single
@@jaydenpizza10 yes she is
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Unlikable traits I’ve noticed about myself:
- I assume/ overthink a lot and I’ve realised that I may/can hurt people when I do those things.
- Sometimes I don’t know how to make a conversation flow.
- I shy away a lot due to my insecurities.
My unlikeable traits:
- I feel like i always have to be special around everyone, I have to stand out from the crowd because otherwise they won’t like me
- I think i need to please people in order for them to like me
- I feel bad when I don’t have to say anything in a discussion
- I’m scared I hurt anyone’s feelings when I say no
As a socially awkward person it was a truly useful video, as always ✨
I’m glad!!
I think my most unlikeable habit is expecting too much from some people. It’s something I need to work on for sure.
I think one of my unlikeable traits is that I am not funny. I can't make a joke, and if I were to make a joke, it will be awkward and the response was not like the response to my other friends. But I think I have accepted that fact. As long as I still have a sense of humor, I can feel that my friends joke are funny, I think it's fine to not be able to make some joke. It's not like I take live very seriously, I do make a joke sometimes, but the only person who will laugh at it, is me :)
God this is so me. I literally can’t think of a joke on the spot where as my friends are just naturally funny and can think of anything funny at any given moment. I can’t even think of anything to say….
@@ihavenoname2626 when it comes to humor, i legit make everyone roll on the floor laughing without trying but an unlikeable trait that i really struggle with is loss of words. when i speak to someone i dont usually talk to, for some reason i just cant speak anymore, i swear, and idk i just cant talk to them and its so BLOODY awkward. i can talk to my friends, since i feel much more safe and comfortable around them, but if someone like a boy who's quite 🤭 comes up to me i CANT TALK. i try so hard but i just cant get the words out my mouth and im just staring and its just so awkward..
That’s true new people new intricacies
don't try too hard
smile
ask genuine questions
validate their feelings
be welcoming
listen
be curious
make eye contact
cooperate
contribute
show genuine interest
relax!
be easy to be around
have a sense of humor
don't get easily offended
recognize your unlikeability
this is just for so i can personally use :)))
Thanks i was looking for it.
@@alzdsz Love you so babe
"If u are known for being happy and cheerful all the time you might be pressured to be that way even when you don't feel like it because that is what people will be expecting from you" That hit me.
I’m the friend who is known for being the happy and cheerful person which is really draining sometimes. When I’m not in the best mood suddenly people start asking me questions like “why are you so quiet??” And “why are you so mad??” It’s really tiring and I’m often feeling the pressure to be the happy person they know me for:(
Unlikable trait about me:
I can be extremely cold towards people who are close to me for no specific reason. Trying to work on it but I feel like it is an issue that needs to be dug deeper. Good video!
let me know if you out why i have the same problem lol
One unlikeable trait of mine would be no confidence. I always go into things thinking “Can I do this? Will I be able to do this?” I’m always second guessing myself.
Me too
agree! and sometimes it could then manifest into the thing not working out or how we expected it too
Yuppp and I feel like people get sick of reassuring me.
I’ve been trying to become a better person, lately, and I have to say… Your videos are SO helpful and I learn so many things (or get reminded of so many things) through them ! Plus your voice is so soothing, for some reason I remember what you say better than when I listen to someone else 😭 Thank you so much for those videos, they do actually change my life 🤍
This made me smile. Thank you so much xx
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Worst traits about myself:
- not very funny when others joke around about sensitive topics
- always uptight when I'm not with a close friends
- oftentimes overthinking about the most common and trivial things that don't really matter because I'm afraid that the person I'm speaking to may not like me and I know now that that's okay and I'm actively trying to get rid of it :)
One of my unlikeable traits is that when a person and I are very close and they start having other close friends i tend to get jealous and feel insecure and be over dramatic
My unlikeable traits:
- I just want to be appreciated at everything I do.
- I couldn't stay confident around others, the way I am when I am alone.
- I overthink! Like a lot!
- I am insecure!
And I am trying everything to get better at each one of them :)
The way your hair color matches perfectly with your eye color is so mesmerizing
my unlikable traits
- im selfish
-i talk badly of others
- i try so hard to please everyone
- i care too much of what people think of me
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I think sometimes I am very charismatic and can get almost anyone to like me, while other times I feel like a bug. I think it’s about finding what makes you feel like a bug and stopping it. For me it’s complaining and not listening enough. I know probably no one will read this, but it feels good to write it out.
What I loved the most discussed in this video was when she said the more she likes herself and approves herself, the more relaxed she feels because she doesn’t seeek approval from others. I resonated with that so much but still struggle to stop worrying if everyone likes me or lot. I also love how she said the right people will attract as long as she loves herself because she is deserving of the right respect and love. From my personal experience, I realize that I kind of “find others” to talk to intimately when I don’t like myself at that time in my life…because “seeking approval” intimately makes me feel better. No wonder why my relationships haven’t worked because I haven’t learned to demand the most respect and love…as I haven’t learned to respect and love myself quite yet. 🥺
the most unlikable trait of myself that I am a very quiet person don't talk too much and I get awkward talking to new people
but now I am working on it , I try my best to change this trait
I think my unlikable quality would probably be when I kinda go overboard with sharing my opinion, and end up debating with someone who doesn’t want to debate
that's so funny. & probably true for me too lol
One bad trait about me is that i really really used to take stuff personally and seriously, but i also really hate when people are like that. Though now i have devolved from that i still can have my moments. Amazing video btw :D
If you start listening to the body, listening to nature, listening to your inner being, you will be more and happier.”
I tend to interrupt people when I get excited about the conversation. I know this, yet I cannot help myself. Its something that annoys me a lot, I will make it a thing to work on asap!
As an introvert, I've been trying to figure out an intro for my videos, but it always feels awkward. And when I watched your videos, I noticed you never do an intro and just get straight to the point 😂. Epic. Thanks Lana 💯
I used to overthink the intro too. Now I just jump right into it. Good luck with your channel!!
@@LanaBlakely Thank you Lana! ❤️🥲
An unlikeable trait of mine is that I often interrupt people and ask them question but not to know what they answer but in hope that they would ask me the same and I can talk about something I’m interested in
One unlikeable trait about myself is that I point out flaws in everyone, not their physical features but their personality, traits and habits, I constantly talk about those flaws to my friends and bitch about those people, and it's like I do that to everyone, so I am trying to accept people for who they are and not trying to find someone perfect
We often dislike others who exhibit behaviors that show us negative traits of ourselves we don't like and actively repress. It's an aspect of the reticular activating system. When we examine ourselves, we then examine others to the same standard. The same is true in reverse. When we want to cultivate positive traits, we'll admire those people who already exhibit them.
I tend to end in similar situations like the one that you described in 6:33. I'm also a very patient listener and a lot of people used me as an emotional dumpster. The funny thing is that I don't even do it to be liked, I just sit and listen hoping for the person to not take such a long time, and a lot of people end liking me very much as a byproduct of my patience. Instead of straight out saying "I'm not doing this, here's a number of a good therapist" I just cut the conversation short by saying "I gotta go, I need to do X" or "I have to end the call because I'm late for Y". Maybe I should be more direct so I don't have to constantly make excuses to not sacrifice myself.
I love when people talk about themselves and I love asking them questions especially if it's the first few times we are hanging out. But I feel like everyone around me is obsessed with themselves. Like now i know you stop talking about your self too much. I don't know if it is just me that feels that way or it's their fault. I love talking about random stuff especially if we meet often.
Oh, the therapist thing is so relatable! I have been told many times that I should have studied it. I belive I do this because I feel inferior, and want to compensate my feeling of worthlessness
im a really nice genuine person so theres nothing i actually need to change about myself or how i act other than my rbf.. i look either so mean and unapproachable or i just look so sad that ppl think my parents just died.. its so frustrating bc i wouldnt ever want anyone to think im judging them, being mean, or just have to be uncomfortable around me bc they think im sad
I don’t like when I complain sometimes I do it just to start conversation, but I’m definitely going to stop that. I also really don’t like when I overthink so much but I love how I am forgiving and I love that I can listen to people
When I'm with my friends or relatives in a store or buying something I forgot to ask they want something or just say to not take too much when they buy things they like.
When I look deeply into it, according to behaviour psychology, it rolls down to my childhood that my father used say that things to me not because he don't love me but it was things that I wanted not what I needed and we didn't have lots of money growing up but I'm grateful from where I grew I had a loving family.
Sorry for writing too long, it just came with the flow.
Thank you for reading this and giving you time.❤️🤗
My most unlikable trait
-I don’t know how to be grateful for something. Like I really am grateful on the inside but I don’t know how to show it. Im not used to saying thank you that often which I really HATE about myself.
That’s why I think people don’t really like giving me stuff or complimenting me too much. Which I completely understand. I just wish I can work on that❤
a unlikeable trait abt me is that i tend to overthink tiny actions that usually mean nothing. also, i subconciously exclude myself from others (going on my phone, sitting on the edge of the lunch table) and then thinking that people AROUND me don't like me because of me excluding MYSELF. it's not that people don't like me, it's that i don't like me, i think.
Over the time I have learnt that Im really really emotionally dependent on people around me and that outs them in a very bad place to always resonate with my energy, I would always want them to be there for me
Im trying to overcome this and im working on it
I guess I grew up in an environment where I was disapproved by a lot of people, especially my own family which hurt the most so I’ve saught validation from others and have relied on that to make me happy but am trying to realize everyday that it is I who can really make myself feel better on my worst days…nobody else.
So sorry 😞
I can relate so much to this
I don’t have time to really wonder who likes me or who doesn’t, I live to the beat of my own drum and if others are jealous or whatever, take a hike are usually my thoughts. Life is too short to care.
The last point reminds of when I realised that a lot of my friends only liked me or were interested in me because I used to clown around and act funny all the time. I myself didn't really know how to socialize, so the best way I found to make friends was to make people laugh.
When tough shit happens though, and I need to be serious or if I'm not goofing around like usual, they'll hardly listen or care about anything I have to say. Some seem visibly surprised that I could be serious like any other person.
They avoid me till I start being all goofy again, and then suddenly they want to hang out all the time.
3 years I've wasted, crying silently on multiple nights wishing I had someone to genuinely talk to. Trying to slowly open myself up to "friends". They just don't care. And I've wasted the past 3 years of energy and time trying make real friendships for what? I could've bettered myself and worked on projects and read books that would stay with me a lifetime. I even have some friends who derive some sadistic pleasure in ruining my mood by making snide remarks and being passive aggressive when the rest of them are not around, and then switching to an absolute sweet face once multiple people are present. The stress and sleepless nights I could've easily avoided by reciprocating their lack of caring would have made everything so much easier and better.
about the free therapist! i relate to it so much and it still is quite difficult for me to set boundaries. maybe it is my way of getting everyone to like me. i feel like if i listen to them and their problems and give them advice then they will think of me as a kind person or maybe like their comfort person. i guess i just want the emotional validation you get when someone labels you as their comfort person. i dont really know why i crave that but it does tend to take a toll on my own mental health a times. i feel like i hv noone to share my own problems with and i dont even feel comfortable doing so because i know what it is like to be on the receiving end of someone's trauma dump. i started journaling for the same reason and ngl it does help a bit. anyways idk what i was talking about but yes im so grateful to have found this channel. thanks lana!
okay I just saw the title and WHY WAS THIS RECOMMENDED TO ME
My most unlikable trait: I really don’t care about much. I’m indifferent to most people politics, social issues.
Side note: I’m happy.
I would definitely like to see a part 2!!🧚♀️
1 unlikable trait or a criticism by my friends about my personality is that they do not know anything about my personal life. I loved your hair in this vid BTW 🔥🔥
My unlikeable trait is i always lack things to say in conversation, cause ill be thinking and overthinking it and i end up saying nothing at all or something dry and then it becomes awkward.
My unlikeable trait to me is when I get upset, I just have so much pride or ego that I don’t wanna communicate or even understand why I feel like this, which leaves me and other people around me confused , and it can last for so long sometimes
a video of lana blakely on my recommended feed is like a breath of fresh pleasant air
It really is💗
Very nice 😊. Also, I think it's a real "art" to pull away from an uncomfortably long conversation where we are on just the listening side, but so necessary to learn, less we suffer. And so freeing, and we get on with our day and not waste our precious time
Unlikable traits about me
-if someone is not the kind of ppl I want around me I become toxic and rude to them
-i don't have a lot of tact which means i can talk and be with someone for hours is something I try to notice so I won't become as needy as I can.
I have much more or at least I used to have but I feel I've changed for the better
One unlikeable trait about me is that im always late wherever i go and ive been trying to fix it but i just always end up late
Two traits I have that I really feel bad for having are lack of spontaneity and of irony. I tend to be so conditioned by my social anxiety that I am way too insecure to put myself out like that. Neverthless, it is important to recognize one's own shortcomings, and try to fix them, especially if it is something that bothers you. I am in fact working of it xxx
Me too! I’ve noticed that with certain people I’m able to easily say something ironic or funny, while with others I tend to lack in that area while conversing with them. Not sure why I’m like this 🤷♀️ maybe it just shows my comfortability around people.
I saw what you did there with Amy Schumer and Keanu Reeves🤣.
Asking someone close to you to pinpoint an unlikeable trait about you is definitely a ballsy move! I don't think I've reached that level of self-confidence yet, but I have to try it because I can't think of an unlikeable trait about myself, but there are a couple of things I'd like to change about myself that are only known to myself, such as overthinking. As to how I appear to a lot of people, I don't really know, but I am very much aware that I am not everyone's cup of tea just like not every single person that exists is my cup of tea.
Just like you, Lana, I have also felt like I have been liked for what I could do for others. At times, I felt like they were using me because they would not seek contact with me after they no longer needed me for anything. That's why I decided to start prioritizing myself above anything or anyone else and it was the best decision ever because I found out who actually liked me for me. You feel me?
Make that part 2!
A big yes to the later points. I’m looked at as the always cheerful one at work, so when I’m not consistently overly upbeat, it’s perceived that I’m being distant or whatever. Pretty toxic and makes me feel resentful.
My unlikable trait that I am trying to curb is relating every story back to something I have experienced or know about, usually when someone hasn't finished their story. Most times it just takes away from the experience and now that I've been more cognizant about it, if I catch myself relating but not adding substance, I'll turn the conversation back to the other person with a question about their original story and let them complete their thought. It's getting easier to minimize the side bars by being aware of them when they happen.
Sameee I do this and I feel bad when they stop their story
I'm so grateful I've found this channel!!!! I love your personality.
We need a part 2!!!
I was learned to help the others but never learned to help myself. That's why I constantly listening and dig into someone's problem and sometimes I don't know if a dig too deep and start to be irritating. People rarely tells you a clear "fuck of". But when I see it I feel bad about myself.
Learning to appreciate oneself can be a wonderful yet challenging journey. But it's totally worth it! Thanks for sharing, Lana!
What you mentioned abt filling the silence with complaining abt trivial things , that's sooo me!! I keep doing it everytime even though i am totally aware that people hate it and me as well but i just don't know how to get rid of this bad habit , that silence just freaks me out to the point where i automatically start complaining abt stupid things :/
Lovely video Lana! This really resonated with me and helped me understand the importance of liking yourself! Keep up the great work and looking forward for more!
The two things I learned liking yourself and also making others feel good about themselves in a genuine way
You seriously deserve more, lana. Your videos are really worth watching.
I was having a bad day, but your video really helped me feel better. I'm struggling to find friends in university because I'm socially awkward, and I'm in my 2nd year of uni already. I would say that my unlikeable traits are:
-I always feel insecure
-I always blame myself for anything bad that happens
-I complain about how things are not going my way a lot without trying to fix them
-I'm scared to start a conversation, and I don't know how to engage in a group conversation.
-I feel so drained after being around a lot of people.
-I think people judge me for anything I do.
That's a long list. However, I just want to say that this video helps me to reflect on myself and appreciate my worth. You're truly inspiring!
Loved this video Lana, I think the most important thing here is liking yourself from a humble point of view as you said, almost everything in your live it revolves around that ❤
Hi! I just want to say you and your youtube channel are amazing!! I've only watched 3 of your videos so far and I am already hooked! You make things seem so much easier to understand and actually doable thank you so much for all you do! God bless you 🤗
Our school year started back in August, and I noticed myself coming out of my shell. You know, like being talkative, trying to make friends, engaging everyone in small talk, but I noticed that no matter how I try to be nice to them or approach them, I am not their main friend. My friends are more likable than I am, even though they don't talk a lot. They befriended our classmates with ease, and I don't know if it's because they're pretty or that people just like someone who is ladylike, quiet, and calm. I don't know what's with them that I don't have. Therefore, I've been searching, reading, and watching self-help videos to figure out if I am the problem or not. I am aware that I do have traits that are unlikeable, so I am trying to change that. Some days, I just feel insecure about myself because of that. I often think that maybe people are not my cup of tea. However, don't get me wrong about how I view my friends. I love them all equally, and I do not resent them. I just hope that at the end of the year, I will learn how to love myself and try to care less about what people think about me.
I hope someone who knows me doesn't see this HSHSHAHA.
I can share a tip or two, I'm not too socially adept myself either but if you ask about the other person and their interests while they will talk about themselves, then you might share something in common with someone and you guys are able to talk about that later on!
@@oro8656 Oh, thank you for the advice!
@@secret5567 No worries! Let me know if it works! :D
I can SO RELATE to being a 'FREE THERAPIST'! Omg ,it's so exhausting and I too question if people like me for my personality or judge being a good emotional punchbag? 😑 A great video once again Lana
my BIGGEST unlikeable trait is talking about myself A LOT. i feel like i do it cuz its easy and it helps me keep the conversation going but honestly i do it too much. well, too much when the other person is quiet. i do try to ask the other side a bunch of questions but i feel like i do too much of that too
2 months after, i've gotten better at socialising and keeping a convo going :)
Idk but u always have such a calm energy and it makes me feel so comforted, also the whole video i was looking at your hair like it's so pretty! Ur so pretty!
you are my comfort person thank you
I really appreciate your videos! Super helpful. An unlikable trait of mine is I tend to hold people to high standards vs accepting them for who and where they are. I’m working on doing that for myself so I can do that for others!
You know when at the end you told about being other people's therapist, that resonated with me so much. I've struggled so much to not become people's emotional dumpster (in fact, I still do at times) and it's hard to draw the line because I both enjoy hearing other people out but detest being drained. And I guess the reason you're liked by so many people is that you've just worked towards becoming a more honest and authentic version of yourself. Ig that's what I need to do as well. Thank you for being you, Lana. Thank you again.🥺♥️
Number 1 is such great advice I’ve learnt this ages ago yet sometimes I have to remind myself of it.
Just started watching your videos. I love them all. Love the knowledge that you have and give it out to all of us🤍plus your voice so relaxing girl. Definitely helps me feel good and make better choices about my self!! Thanks
THANK YOU. You're the big sister I needed.
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Sometimes I can be "overly narcissistic" in a conversation with multiple people. Instead of listening to what other people have to say, I have trouble handing over the mic. I also have a bad habit of interrupting people. Currently, working on it!
always wanted someone to talk about this stuff. And it is lovely that someone else is both thinking the same way and also shares her thoughts with the whole world. Thank you :)
btw my most noticeable social flaw is probably talking too much and venting too hard even when the person on the other side is probably not in the mood to listen to me.
I've struggle with coming off as rude often by people and Its something I've always disliked in others. With this acknowledging it and becoming better than it is a good lesson to learn and I found this video to be super helpful, thank you!!
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finallyyyy iwas waiting for an upload!! I was rewatching old vids cause you make me calm
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I heard emotional dumpster for the first time , and my fatigue makes sense now , thankyou for just that one word , I thought I was being warm , but they were being over into them and cribbing and I would think they're the victim and if I stop I will be hurting an already wounded person , so I would keep my problems always to me , and deal theirs , so many of them
I genuinely feel like crying from happiness, I have always tried to outgrow myself but having anxiety is pretty difficult to find "scape words" to make u come back to the present, and I think this entire video will be on my studies from now on because it really helped me. thank u so much❤ it calmed me right away omg
Thank you Lana! I’m in the same boat as being the listener for others, but also needing time for myself and to handle my own situations. Love your videos! Keep at it! :)
Thank you!! :)
Thank you Lana for these valuable insights, your videos are always so inspiring. Would love to see a follow up 😃
this video is game changer, it made me realise i was chaning myself to be more likable which i hate dng
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Love it ❤️I can relate to this! Thanks 🙏🏻 Well, they told me yesterday (with no tact at all) that I need to be more flexible in life and need to relax more about small things that don’t really matter. I know I’m an exigent person, and I wish to be more flexible, to be more in peace. I’ve been told that I am judgy too… which made me sad, because I sure don’t want that for the people I love. It hurt me, but I’m glad I’ve been told so I can work on it. Anyway, I am still in a digest process, but I know I’ll come out stronger! And maybe more likeable 😉 God! I thought I was perfect! 😜
Excellent video as always Lana :)
your eyebrows are so gorgeous!! I couldn’t stop staring at them!!
Lana is my fav TH-camr .
I feel very relaxed when I listen to you Lana! Thank you!
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I relate & resonate SOOO MUCCHH to this video! Thank you 4 making it.❤
out of topic, you're so beautiful. i really like your brown eyes with your hair. 🥺