14 easy things that made me a confident person
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Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction
01:44 - Your answers via IGI.
02:02 - Defining confidence
02:28 - Leaving self-labeling in the past
00:00 - (sponsor) Learning new things
04:12 - Shifting my focus outwards
05:30 - Body language
06:37 - Smelling good
07:13 - The spotlight effect
07:26 - Getting better att small talk
08:14 - Embracing my femininity
08:24 - Happiness over comfort
08:30 - Doing my homework
09:10 - Being useful to others
09:54 - Getting a haircut
10:02 - Wearing what makes me feel good
10:18 - Trying to adopt social optimism
10:30 - Trying to cultivate resilience
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@@khalilahd. yes!! so good.
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Capitol of US is New York? Lol, I thought it was Washington D.C.
New York isn't actually the capital of the US xx
I think 'experience' is far more important than confidence. A lot of insecurities are born out of avoiding people as much as possible unfortunately.
Without effort, activate your brain from time to time. In less than a minute, you can solve one or more math problems and thus activate your brain.
thank you
Im with you. Recently I have been “disecting” my behavior and why I am like that. And it just came to me that my insecurities rooted from “I dont know this and that” . And so I decided to finally try things that I really wanted to do. I will start from taking a driving test 😁 wish me luck guys!
@@iwannabetheverybestlikenoo381 good luck!! 🍀
I agree. I had never had any serious experience with romance until I'm 22, and my first experience was a situationship, in which I was extremely emotionally invested. Needless to say, it left me devastated and I went through the worst 3 months of my life.
Though I cannot say I "treasure" the experience - because it indeed wounded me deeply and left me with so many unresolved issues, I still have to admit I have grown and learned a lot in terms of romance. Until now I still haven't had my first boyfriend, but what I went through was both destructive and enriching.
@@LamHoang-ek4je that sounds exactly like something I went through at 20. same, it left me devastated and I’m still not totally over it almost a year later. But yeah, if I could go back in time I would still let it happen because it was an important experience.
"I know it's New York, it's just an example." Girl, I'm laughing on the floor, your humor is priceless. 😂
That's the first comment that I read about this joke ! I'm stunned it was so good !
was it really a joke?
@@inesnunes9750 of course it was. It was like a sarcasm
omg I totally fell into the joke. you got me Lana😂
I guess it wasn't a joke... but okay. At least I hope it was 🙄
My insecurities come from not knowing and being a perfectionist. I'm scared of looking stupid, I'm afraid of embarrassing myself, I don't like making mistakes, I don't like not knowing everything that might happen. I'm trying to be okay with not knowing everything and accepting that embarrassing moments can happen and it's okay.
We must accept those weak things inside us in order to change for the better. There is no point in fearing that it is a waste of time
i hope you recognize that you too are a human being, who is capable of making mistakes. it’s totally okay for you to not know stuff, because that is how we learn new things. not knowing stuff is what drives us to learn, omniscience is not meant for humans. i’m all about aiming for the sky but trying to be perfect is like setting yourself up for dissatisfaction. i think you should try treating yourself like you would treat someone you love, meaning you would never view their mistakes as embarrassments, failures or imperfections. i hope you recognize that you not knowing something is the most human thing a human can do. i hope this message finds you in peace and happiness. i wish you well on this journey!
@@fatimarehmannn Wow! Thank you very much for your kind words. I don't really know why I'm like this. I think part of it is because every time I made mistakes I was always concerned about what my loved ones would say about me and every time I failed at something it was always criticism that I received from them to the point that I'd rather hide what I'm doing to them and tells them if I already succeed on it.
The opposite of your pfp character lol
True, same here
“Don’t choose comfort over happiness” , powerful and exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!
damn really? that's crazy.. how flipped this world can be
@@wise_fool elaborate why.
what if comfort is happiness
@@adish24 Nah, I wouldnt go out there and suffer. I'm 'happy' when I'm in my comfort zone. Besides I'm dealing with mental issues, I'm just trying to be kind to myself
How can there be happiness is you're not comfortable 🤦♀️
“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because it’s trust it’s not on the branch but on its own wings” love this quote mentioned by Lana ❤ thank you 🥺
love it too!
"I know it's New York" hahahaha loved it!
I’m glad someone got the joke lol
I know that answer is wrong, but what did you say New York? Is it a reference to something? I’m not understanding the joke.
I started to write a comment like „hm no Washington D.C….“ thought about it, got it, and laughed about myself 😅
@@sunflowersyndrome i guess because NY is such a famous city and one could think that's the capital, when in reality it isn't
I searched for this comment to make sure I wasn’t the only one who got it
I think one of the things I became aware of that helped boost my confidence was the spotlight effect.
We see ourselves as on a stage and the world is our personal audience.
The fact is that we really don’t matter that much. People aren’t spending all of their time assessing us and judging us. Most people don’t really notice us.
Realising this made me trust the choices I was making for myself.
Try being a 5’11 girl 😅 I wish I could go unnoticed
@@sarahalkubissi I’m the short one in my family at 5’8” so my sister would definitely agree with you!
Without effort, activate your brain from time to time. In less than a minute, you can solve one or more math problems and thus activate your brain.
thank you
@@sarahalkubissi and I am chinese living in Spain (I was adopted since I was 2 months). When I was younger I feel insecure about my aspect. I also suffered racism, and that hurts my self-esteem... However, I learnt to love myself.
@@outlinehappiness you’re the perfect height ❤️
I think everyone struggles with confidence from time to time so I’m glad you’re talking about it 💛
if you dont struggle confidence your not a real person
I see you everywhere
Hey girl, how are you? I See you everywhere, hope you are having a lovely day.
Without effort, activate your brain from time to time. In less than a minute, you can solve one or more math problems and thus activate your brain.
thank you
girllll are you an agent??😂🤍
There are a lot of good tips here, but from my personal experience, the one thing that truly leveled up my confidence is deliberately practicing making eye contact. GAME CHANGER.
So true, that really has a huge impact
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@@user-th3ez5sj9y "frrrrr" ?
@@yohaizilber “for real” that means what u said is true
@@user-th3ez5sj9y #feelingold
14 easy things that made me a confident person.
Leaving self-labeling in the past.
Learning new things. Anything.
Shift your focus outwards.
Body language.
Smelling good.
The spotlight effect.
Getting better at Smalltalk.
Embrace femininity.
Don’t choose comfort or happiness.
Do your homework and be prepared as best as you can.
Being useful to others.
Getting a haircut.
Wear the clothes that make you feel good.
Adopt social optimism.
H.E.R.O
Thank you
u will go to heaven
As a 14 year old who just started highschool this year, i've been feeling so insecure lately and struggling with confidence. After watching this video I feel a little better, you literally talked about the things which have been bothering me for a while, I just want to say thank you for being this amazing and spreading positivity 💕
Hey I’m in the same year as you, Let’s do our best to be the best version of ourselves!! 💪💪✨
@@Cara.s1place YESSS GIRLY!!!
Same here am 15 and I entered high school and I felt so uncomfortable and insecure my social anxiety and lack of confidence and so many things made it even hard for me as an introvert
@@Naerii_777 I feel you girl, let's just work on ourselves and become the best version of us!!
Same boat girlfriend. We are in this together
"don't go out to the world prepared to hide" bruh....this hit me really hard😢😢😢
Dress well
Smell good
Shift your focus outwards
The more you do it , easier it gets.
09:07 lana’s humor is so underrated. I’m not lying when i say that she always cracks me up
You are speaking my language, being an introvert and socially anxious person with ADD, I just can't explain myself and sometimes it takes me long time to realize what I like/don't like and say my feelings but after watching you whatever I wanted to say, helping me to be little more expressive
"Don't go out in the world, prepared to hide". That's some facts, that's some facts, my dudes, that this lady is stating in this video.
it's really the little everyday things that boosts confidence. any act with the purpose of getting confidence at the back of your mind probably would give it to you. all it needs is being honest with yourself and ask for it, just like that all the ways you can do it will pop up.
thank you for great content.
Thanks for this amazing video, Lana! The lack of confidence is a real problem for me, and your tips here I'm sure will help me on my way to self-confidence. Thanks so much dear!!!
I’m just so grateful that such powerful content exists to shift my mind to the positive.
I was thinking about how much more confident you look this last year compared to the previous one and I really like it, it suits you, and it really inspired me as well.
Good video; still working on being confident at 37, it's nerve-wracking, and I am in awe with how you have grown.
You didn't just tell me 11 ways to look attractive but also enjoy my own company,don't gossip and don't be like oh,im so tired today and negativity.
Thank you so much lana❤❤❤❤❤
I never comment on youtube videos ever but I was in a pretty dark place and had to start going on walks. I listen to your videos everytime I go for my everyday stroll and it’s honestly so calming and it’s my me time. Well plus you! Thanks Lana, keep doing you :)
Hi
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What an incredibly good video again. Thank you so much for your effort to create these video's for us 🌸 And that last quote came litteraly at the moment that I needed it
from my life experience and who i become till this moment, the most important key is challenging every fear you have in the present moment and had in your past and what you think will have in future. and I'm talking here about the real confident not the one titled by the thing you own or have. respect from a small TH-camr ✨
A Bird sitting on the Tree is not afraid of the branch breaking because its trust is not in the Branch but its wings....Loved this❤️
And LOVE YOU LANA😊❤️
I love listening to ur videos like they’re podcasts. I do my normal daily things, workout, eating, cleaning, etc. i enjoy it thank you
Its such a blessing to see you smile your smile is angelic in some way keep smiling and stay confident ❤❤
Awesome tips as usual, Lana! I always learn something from you! Love your confidence! Got to be you! Keep up the excellent work!
I agree!
Happy Sunday Lana!! Your confidence helps us too, we appreciate everything you do!!
I really admire you, because watching every of your life learning stories just makes me realize what I'm doing wrong. I will follow this video to be more confident and trustworthy of myself
That posture difference demo is so helpful because it is visually clear, hence, is another inspirational point of your video!
Agreeed
Thank you for this❤️.. coming out the pandemic it feels so overwhelming to be working 8 hours with people you barely know everyday, feels good to know your the only one, and that is not me going crazy 🤣 hope we all get rid of compulsive thinking.
i really like how you filmed this video and your overall editing style, how you speak, go straight to the point and etc. looking forward to the video about femininity!!!
Whatching your videos motivates me to try and be the best version of myself. I'm still pretty young so I live with my parents which means I don't have a full control over my life. Knowing that just makes me so pround because I'm giving my best despite my age and my solcial status. I am truly thankfull. I thank you
Lana not only that you are a really pretty girl with a really pretty name with a soothing voice but you are also so comforting to watch, I came across your channel recently and I'd say it's the best thing I ever came across accidentally, I watch your videos to lift my spirit up and it works every time.
Your videos are helping me so much. I've been in an awful place for the past few months now and these videos are exactly what I needed to comfort myself. It feels weird if I don't watch at least one video of yours daily. Tysm. Fr :)
Lana you are made to make my life better. I am an infj with social anxiety 🤡 not the best combo and you somehow make videos on thr exact thing that i search for. I have so much in common with you and I love your vibe, your editing, your content, even your haircut and blowdry. AND THE SMALL TALK YESS i think ive finally learnt it and it comes really naturally to me now and its not that bad yk? To talk to other people.
I just... thankyou for existing, especially on youtube.
was shocked because i’m also infj with social anxiety hahaha
Thank you! Especially the last quote! Finally a video where I feel like the advice was meant for me🌸
I've been watching some of your videos for a while now, just wanted to say thanks for your amazing content! Really refreshing and uplifting :)
Girl you are GLOWING. You're inspiring me to curl my hair because your hair is BEAUTIFUL!
This is the only video on confidence that has ever helped me and given GOOD advice. THANK YOU!
Loved this video so much Lana
I really like your content and the way you articulate yourself, very concise, clear and useful! Thank you for being.
"Confident comes from within" and it couldn't be more true. It all starts with the self and that internal feeling is what really makes you feel confident and what will show to the outside world.
Hi Lana 👋,
I love the quote that you shared at the end of the video! I can imagine it opening people’s eyes into learning to be even more confident in themselves because it definitely opened mine!
I think, it is from Victor Hugo.
You go girl! Other people do not matter. They will drag you down and wad you up and throw you away. Worry only about yourself and your family to remain strong. Self confidence is the key to survival in this world!
Thank you Lana, I can really see a difference between now and 1-2 years ago - although I always liked your vibe, now you definitely seem veery self confident in a very cool way. Thank you for sharing this💕
Lana, I love your videos!❤ You have such a calm, feminine and soft presence. Thankyou for helping me connect with my inner calmness and femininity🙏
"A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because its trust is not in the branch but in its own wings"
this is so timely lana! ive been feeling really down because my self esteem is so low
Lana, this is so timely. Been struggling with confidence recently. Thanks girl 😘!
hope this helps xx
Hope this helps xxx
It does
@@LanaBlakely you are very cute😻
I follow you on TH-cam and instagram and I can say that you really helped me to be more confident and be productive. THANK YOU
Thank you! I deal with social anxiety but I'm learning to be more confident in myself. Also, the shooting bubbles part cracked me up
I love your videos A LOT. pls never stop making them
I definitely need to work on my confidence and trying not to overthink things. Those are two of my many major fatal flaws.
great timing lana!!! i really needed this. thank you so much 💞
Smelling good and wearing a scent that I like does so much for me. Love your tips :) Can you do a video about your perfume collection?
You look amazing with that haircut. I love your videos, keep being the way you are even when it feels like it wouldn't matter if you stopped putting the effort to be better everyday, just because people don't realize about little things you do for them and how you treat them overall.
Good tips! and the most important people need to understand that confidence is a skill everyone can build from scratch.
Being confident for me is knowing what you are doing and having things in control and not control by other people or the outer world.
Gosh, the quality of your videos keeps getting better and better!
Your eyes and hair are so pretty and complement each other so well
Iam struggling with confident so much as a teen, its so lucky for me to find out this, it helps alot! Thanks Lana❤️
Being different should be embraced, not ashamed. Follow that mindset and you'll go far in life.
This video was coming on to my yt wall from i don't know like it's from somewhere.. since i never watch a kind of video like this.. but omg you're so beautiful.. i just love watching you speak on the screen for no reason.. i will already subscribe for sure.. i like you .. huhu awesome.
love these tips Lana! thanks a lot
I really like the quote! It sums up what I struggle with really well. Heh.
This reminds where I am currently, a sort of precipice that'll affect how I go about being. Thanks ever so much for the insight! 💜💜
I love your videos so much ! I’ve been watching Ted talks and I found your videos!! The one abt relationships amazing
Beautiful video. So on point with everything.
Regarding the posture, I watched this video by Diana Devitt-Dawson, and she teaches the Alexander technique. It's basically about posture also, but its specifically about avoiding the compression of our spine. I've done my best to apply it, and I feel like it makes a difference in the health of my body and it helps me be aware of my posture. The video is rather relaxing also.
Watching you vlog in paris alone gives me confidence 🧡 love you channel!
makes me happy!!
This is so helpful and so useful! Another thing is, you know you have found true confidence and inner peace when even if you don’t necessarily like how you look that day and it isn’t your go to “confident” appearance, you still accept yourself and feel the same love for life and yourself as you would if you were doing what normally made u confident. I think confidence is also about, no matter how you happen to look, being okay and secure with yourself and accepting. Acceptance is as beautiful as confidence and forms itself into confidence.
Of course that doesn’t mean don’t take pride in the things that make you feel confident (hair,clothes,the food you eat, working out ect.) But even when all that isn’t working for you one day, truly accepting that you are still just as worthy is beautiful.
But of course we only have one life (depending on beliefs) so embrace what you love and make the most of the things that bring you confidence!
And love yourself you were made for yourself and no one else enjoy it!🤍
Thanku so much I feel much better watching your video as a teenager I was always insecure about what others think of me will they like me does my friends like me but by watching your video thoughts like that have become much less blessed to watch your video ♥️
You have a beautiful content!
I wonder how happy and contented you are within yourself...
You made my morning ma'am!
Lana, you just earned a follower and a subscriber. I love this content. I needed it now, thank you. 💕 from Nigeria.
I seriously LOVE your videos! And thanks!❤
Babe you look so good in this video. The lighting is perfect. You are beautiful x
Thanks Lana. It’s so helpful
I really like the quote, it speaks for itself and i felt it deep inside
Beautiful video! Thanks a ton for sharing😍
Great video , It help me a lot ,particulary the part about body posture 👍💪 Thanks Lana 🙂👋
I admire this girl in the short time that I have known her, (five hours), because from what little I have seen it is like going to the psychologist or how to talk to a wise person while you get wiser and try to use that wisdom in your life daily
Oh! Something that boosted my confidence was getting a buzzcut! As a girl, I never thought I'd be able to cut my hair that short and so many people told me the downsides of buzzed hair as a girl (e.g. boys won't find you attractive, it'll look weird when it grows out etc.) but stepping out of my comfort zone really helped me to feel more confident. When I first stepped out of the house I felt so self-conscious and like everyone was staring at me but now I love the look and feel of it and I realise that no one actually cares :)
your video showed me once again that no one cares how you look unless you show that you don't like it or vice versa :) most people have the same opinion of you as you have of yourself.
I really admire your personality and aura ❤️
This video is literally changing my life xoxo
Lana's videos feel like cool summer breeze in a hot day!
The final quote is so beautiful 🥰❤️❤️
How I look like in others’ eyes -> What impression is this person leaving on me. Love that!
Am a hardcore pessimist trying heart out to look on bright side, so glad to have found this channel :)
thank u so much, lana! you're so smart and good, and I love how your videos can help everyone. I look forward to be even a little bit like you
such a calming voice
Humility gives me the most confidence.
Hello 🌷💞 this video felt really good and inspiring to watch
Even though i try to practice them all i need to remind myself more often of my goals
Ugh Lana, I love you and your videos so much x
thank you!! x
it was amazing, thank you!!
You're a queen
I'M so proud of your efforts nd the special content that you give
your videos are free theraphy i love you :*