Why I Don't Care What Other People Think
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I don't think it's possible nor healthy to not ever care what others think. I care. Sometimes, a little too much. But usually, just enough. But I've worked on (and I'm still working on) trusting myself and being comfortable in the decisions that I make and the opinions that I have.
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Hi everyone. Hope you enjoyed this little video. It might be the last one filmed in my current home which feels really crazy and I can't wait to show you all the new space!! :) Anyway. Is there anything you want to do but you're too worried about what others will think?
Yes indeed ❤️
It was before, but now I just do what makes me happy. Good video Lana!
I was searching such a channel ... I think I'm lucky that I found your channel .
You help me a lot .
Thank you so much
this video was really helpful. thank you lana❤
Indira Asperen just do it ...you'll do great
the confidence and calmness of this woman, goals
Yes
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Yes, she is. Her and Vera from Simple Happy Zen...are my go-to for calmness and wisdom.
Yea
exactly my goodness
"People that judge don't matter, and people that matter don't judge"
KNOW YOU VALUE :D
Awesome quote ❤
Exactly
Kinda like “those who matter don’t mind & those who mind don’t matter”…. Dr Seuss
This powerful woman inspires like no one else does.
Yes💕
For real!
She’s unreal!
really
Values and principles. It’s crazy how each one of her videos just reflects precise convictions I’ve held dear for years. But they are reminders, much needed one. I never betrayed my values, no matter the social cost. It did cost my entire relationship with my genuinely “in love” girlfriend at the time. I stuck to my values, I refused to entertain an unreasonable ultimatum, and she couldn’t believe that I was for once stepping up my own autonomy even if it meant for us to end.
She wanted me to cut off a friend I didn’t particularly need nor care too much for in my life , but was still close enough to protest. She was much more important to me we both knew, but if I accepted her ultimatum then I’ve accepted the precedent. I would’ve not been the somewhat happier person I am now.
In the end, turned out she was a severe covert narcissist, and had hidden her problems so well for years. Her ultimatum didn’t work but the fact that I denied her that control ultimately broke what she thought was a good stranglehold on me. And it was, but then she asked me to turn against my values.
The friend she didn’t like, I cut him off not too long after i denied her options, because he actually did something to insult me and it was very serious. I tried to convey that back to her
It was my values and principles I chose over you, not him. YOU are part of those values and principles too. But you have to respect that you’re not part of deciding them for me.
Heartbreak was, as expectedly shit. But I got over it in the technically worst year of my living life, and I’m happier. And two toxic people are now out of my life. All because i kept to one simple concept: VALUES
"Not caring doesn't mean indifference, not caring means being comfortable with being different."
So true!
Quote from a book -The subtle art of not giving a fuck
@@denzei_san1071 Mark Manson yush
“Apple. Think different”. 1980’s ad campaign. Lol
Recognize what you can control, change, or let go of…
When I find myself feeling a negative emotion, I will ask myself three questions:
Is this something that I can control?
Is this something that I can change?
Is this something that I can let go of?
That is a very smart way to look at things! 👍
So cool to see Nate in the comments on this video! I have noticed that you recently have been making more videos like this and I have been trying to do the same. You and Lana are both very wise for your age! All very important topics to cover really 👌
yes yes and yes
I am in pure shock right now I didn't knew my 2 favorite TH-camr's knew each other OMG
@@jackthe15headedmonster25 Very cool right
Instead of always caring _about_ these things, we should instead focus on caring _for_ - for other people, for ourselves, for what's important to us.
Love that!
True that!
Doesn’t that mean the same thing?
Wise words!!
Caring what people think is a double edged sword; it may give you validation momentarily but it takes it away just as easily. Always be true to yourself
So the challenge is to somehow stay in the middle of the double edged sword, even though inevitably we can slip and slide between those two edges.
OR in other words, never be attached to someone else's opinions of you.
So just be yourself
The less we judge others the less we are affected by other's judgment
Great comment
THIS
Why is that so?
But i think it still doesn't work with me... :')
@@sapphire647 idk how to say this. but in my last semester i started to feel different from my friends. my friends use to do gossip around bunking class and stuff, i never bunk lectures but yeah gossips was normal that time. as my exams came near i started to get scared and focused on my studies. my friends started to call me nerd just bcos i was prioritzing my studies and was not gossiping with them. i just stopped giving them attention and stopped thinking about them. Which made my life more easier. the less i think about my friends the more I start to focus on myself.
how to stop thinking about others? for me i used to study alot and watch self-care TH-cam videos. At first it felt weird not talking with anyone but eventually i passed the phase and created my boundaries.
As I got older I realized trying to please everyone around you actually prevents you from bringing out the best in oneself. The most successful people in history never let naysayers drown their inner voice.
@Vivi Don’t worry, I know the difference 😊
Exactly
“When you do not seek or need approval, you are at your most powerful” - Caroline Myss
She's like the coolest cat in town.
Matteo Pellegrino lol....love it
You right
How did this come so timely? This is exactly what I was thinking about this morning. At some point in my life I cared so much what others think that I lost my own identity. I always thought I need to be "more this and that" to fit in in an entirely new society. Right now I'm trying to regain my own identity again which will be entirely my own, instead of pieces of opinions I've collected from other people. And it's the most difficult thing. Thank you for this reminder. 🙂
I love this :)
Yah I'm trying same and hoping to make change in my life and in this world #peace
I love how honest this comment was.
When I moved to another country I saw myself finally break some ties I had from my parents and the culture I was raised with. I felt like it helped me find who I truly wanted to be.
Definitely can relate a lot with your comment!
@@LanaBlakely what happens when your new “friends” mess with your style choices? Recently I went from brunette to redhead and this guy friend told me in a rather unkind way “why did you dye your hair?! Everyone in the group was surprised for the worst when you appeared. I liked better how you looked before”, I was clearly giving him all the hints that I was pissed by the way he was talking to me but he kept insisting me to give him like a fucking reason or something, I felt so uncomfortable and self-conscious because I love my red hair and I’ve always been told that I look great.
The thing is I was so comfortable with this new group of friends but after that comment I feel like they’ve been criticizing me behind my back and they think I’m ridiculous for my style or whatever because apparently I needed to “ask for their permission” to change my hair. What would you do? Do I need to let it slide so they don’t think I’m dramatic? Also, I don’t think I’m equally comfortable as before now that I know they hate the way my hair looks, kinda makes me want to avoid them. What would you do?
"The less I care and judge others, I less I worry about others caring and judging me". This is excellent, thank you. You just earned a sub.
This is really so very true
“Everything you've ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear.” Sharing some positivity with all of you. Keep smiling you are amazing.
I used to be hypersensitive to what people thought, I took everything people said about me to be true, until I realized some people have bad judgement or, like you noted, bad character. It doesn't have weight to me anymore because I know their perception isn't clear compared to someone with self-awareness and emotional intelligence, and they are probably so stuck in their inner wounds that it's unlikely to be about me anyway. Meanwhile, if someone is fairly reasonable, understanding, and cares about me, that gives it more weight. I absolutely acknowledge whether what anyone says is true or not but never in the sense of trying to please anyone, I do it in order to be my best self.
Seriously I am Ashamed of saying this.. But whenever I am in my room.. I feel like someone is watching me, And I really want to impress those non existent ppl,, Due to that I stopped Doing what I love and lost myself... Still suffering from it 😭... I hope I would change my mindset soon 💜
Same thing happens to me
This happens to me when I try to make an art work 😂
I believe you will overcome this. Just believe it and let it go. Life is given to us once, so why do you try to impress people? Impress YOURSELF and then you will see that this attitude impresses most people....
this comment makes me feel so good cus i thought i was the only one who did that omg, im not crazy
The same thing happens to me, I also feel like there are people who look at me through my phone camera, like people that I like and know irl
People's judgements onto you are only a reflection of themselves and also people care too much about themselves that they aren't even thinking about what you are doing.
@@AbhishekSingh-hu5ee then stop having a bald face. Problem fixed 😃
@@AbhishekSingh-hu5ee then their not good friends,, just drop them
Your demeanour, content, words, voice, cinematography: All the elements are so soothing and grounding, almost with a soporific energy (in an ever so beautiful way). Lots of love to you!
I just learnt a new word ''Soporific''. Thanks
@@chydeecrystalcovers Sweet!
thank you so much for those kind words!
I strongly agree! Too much caring about what other people think about me will lead me to nowhere as it will create a boundary between who I am not and who I really am. I will live in hypocrisy all the time and its not healthy for my mental health. Thanks for this Lana!
This is definitely a topic that I struggle with. I have friends that have helped me and taught me so much, but in the same time they are very judgemental. While I value their friendship immensely, I am afraid to show some sides of myself to them (such as TH-cam and other passions), because of fear of being judged.
Your video gave me some new perspectives, so thank you for sharing, Lana. I would love to explore this topic further!
same in my case but i live them all ,my friends are so judgmental. they judge every single thing so left them in there judgmental n gossiping world without distrubing them and set myself free n focus on myself to be a better person
@@ChasingSunshineWithMe1612 what happens when your new “friends” mess with your style choices? Recently I went from brunette to redhead and this guy friend told me in a rather unkind way “why did you dye your hair?! Everyone in the group was surprised for the worst when you appeared. I liked better how you looked before”, I was clearly giving him all the hints that I was pissed by the way he was talking to me but he kept insisting me to give him like a fucking reason or something, I felt so uncomfortable and self-conscious because I love my red hair and I’ve always been told that I look great.
The thing is I was so comfortable with this new group of friends but after that comment I feel like they’ve been criticizing me behind my back and they think I’m ridiculous for my style or whatever because apparently I needed to “ask for their permission” to change my hair. What would you do? Do I need to let it slide so they don’t think I’m dramatic? Also, I don’t think I’m equally comfortable as before now that I know they hate the way my hair looks, kinda makes me want to avoid them. What would you do?
@@_the_little_mermaid_ if you feel that they have been criticizing you behind your back. Is say distance yourself from that friend group because those aren’t real friends
@@Soso-ce4op thank you for the advice. I stopped talking to them. But now a lot of people go around calling me the names they call me. How do you make someone to stop calling you those degrading silly names? I fucking hate it but I don't know what to do to make it stop.
@@_the_little_mermaid_ honestly just ignore them and act like you don’t care and that it doesn’t bother you. It may be hard to do but don’t worry about what they have to say because people are always gonna say something good or bad. Keep continuing to be you and your authentic self because those people’s opinions won’t matter because they don’t actually know you so their assumptions are most likely false. If you want any more tips and advice I recommend you watch love your natural on TH-cam she made a video about this and she explains it really good. And idk if you believe in God but if you do try praying about it I’m very sure he can help you.
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As I am a introverted person it is really hard for me to be myself and to reveal my true-self to the outside. I always think about what other may think of my appearance and it is slowly drowning me. I cannot live up to anyone's expectations, that is something I should have learned sooner!
sameee :(((
I felt that
i really need this... doing youtube is very stressful .. especially my channel.. i will not care about them!
Your doing great dont give up!!
I wish you luck growing on TH-cam is a bit challenging but I say its just more about enjoying the journey. I see it as a hobby that will eventually grow . keep your head up :)
You have got pretty good amount of subs so chill on and keep doing your work and see me with 137 subs lol, but ik I'm gonna do this cause I want it!
You're doing awesome. You've only been uploading for 8 months and are doing a great job :)
You got this🤗 honestly i felt the same way the past few days about this platform but keep doing you 🙌🏼🤍
Ah you hit the nail on the head again with this topic! Being self-aware of your own values in order to discern whether we should care about what people say is truly a superpower. Thank you for sharing your wisdom once again
Well said. Reminds me of the serenity prayer. "Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."
People always have their own perspectives, no matter what we do they have their own opinion. I love the way Lana refuses to care of what people think. Thank you Lana, and have a great day everyone.
After going through a breakup, I truly was a mess. I lost security in myself, I was insecure, I was hurt. But your videos help me so much in rebuilding myself and I wanted to thank you for that. You are an amazing person and I can learn a lot from you.
I feel like this is the video that is going to push me to finally be back at 100%
Once again, thank you.
It's such a simple and obvious thing yet something we all forget to do. It affects every aspect of our daily life and interactions with others -- Self-love above all, and not always doing things with a mindset of what others might think. Thanks for reminding me about this. (:
Thanks for making this video.
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Agreed!
I hate that I have this problem. Recently, I've been avoiding checking to see who watched my insta story. That way I can just post without wondering if what I posted "looks dumb." I hope to better myself so I can feel free and not care what people think. Thanks for sharing this video 💜💜
Whats crazy is I wanted to start a youtube channel for 8 yrs but I kept getting held back by what others thought. Last year was when I decided to go after it and it was one of the best decisions I have ever made ! You want to do something , start NOW . Action eliminates doubt.
I really love the idea of not caring what other people think, but it's incredibly difficult to actually do
Not a day goes by without lessons we learn. Sometimes our perspective those we care about changes along with our values. You said it well, we need to value and guard our own integrity.
Well said!!
@@_maxfreedom that’s an amazing idea- love that!
when i do awareness who the most important one in my life!, who the most i spend my life time with !, so i go after what i wants !
Who’s the lucky person who gets to spend time with Lana filming her b-roll footage? I would apply for that job just to hang out with her 😂💕
"The less i care and judge the others, the less i worry about others caring and judging me" true
Agreeed
Thank you Lana for sharing this. This is so relatable. I remember the time I used to try my best to please everyone around me. Growing up, I thought that is the right thing to do. It took a long while to understand that it is impossible to do that without sacrificing my boundaries and I was really late to understand the negative impact it had in my life; how much the validation of other people affected my decision making. Now I try my best to show my boundaries to people in my life, no matter what... I do care about what people say, but now I try to filter them and check if there is something in it. And I think that practice helped me to be myself and what I should follow in life...
I really love the way you did the intro! How human minds work, we overthink too much for no apparent reasons and it’s not a great feeling
I just stumbled across Lana's channel and to be honest, am humbled and feel home right now. Besides her humbleness, her personality in her videos is incomparable.
I have fallen a victim to this comparison thing but after watching this channel, my perspective has really changed. I am no longer going to care anymore.
By the way, am I the only guy on here?!!
That’s so true, I recently realized that the reason why I’m so afraid that people will judge me is because I am a really judgemental person, even though I never express my opinion to anyone. I wish someday I can become confident enough to be as unbothered as you, the fear of not being liked or being judge has stopped me from doing so many things and meeting so many people, my insecurities have reached a point when I don’t ever express my true feelings to my loved ones about something that’s bothering me because I am afraid they are gonna think I’m being rude and leave, so I'm always feeling anxious and self conscious. Anyway, that was so inspiring to watch. Thanks. Always great life lessons :)
Great advice! Been practicing this to myself. I don't really care about what people think. If they judge me, it's ok. This is me and who I am, I will do what makes me happy. 🥰
HOW have I just found you now? Love your videos a lot! *subscribed* ☺️💕
I totally agree with you. When we focus on what others think about us and judge us, we start to judge others. And got scared to get judged by others and timid for nothing big. that is a very toxic cycle. But, when we use that energy for something productive for ourselves, I guess that is helpful for what we wanna achieve in our lives.
As an Introvert your videos are so great.
How funny. The other day I had written this exact same thing in my little pocket notepad - don’t let striving to always be liked prevent you from standing up for yourself. Many times I have not said what I thought for fear of not pleasing. This makes things worse because I resent myself but then also resent others , which then turns into a spiral of negative thoughts and emotions. 🥰
thank you for this. i've been self sabotaging for a long time after becoming a people pleaser at a very young age as a method to escape my extremely abusive household. now in my 20's and in a successful career but my mental state and caring about what the world thinks of me is ruining my life. this really helped put everything into perspective and re-ground myself. thank you
The fear of what we can’t control can overwhelm and take over our mindset if we let it! It can stunt creativity and self growth and I’m trying to adopt a better attitude at least for my own content here on YT so I can better enjoy my process :) You’re amazing as always Lana!!
Thanks so much
Being an introvert and feeling alone in a room full of people always feeling left out. I've always had this thought in my head people thinking I'm a weirdo and a loser. I was handed a book called the four agreements in rehab and I brought that book with me everywhere. For a few months this book did wonders. But those thoughts have crept up on me recently and this video has helped truly. Thank you.
my general rule is that if I don't care about a person, I'm not going to give a damn about what they think about me. basically, if you know your own morals and you know you're a good person, do whatever the hell you like.
love the last part. the less you care and judge people, the less you worry about others caring and judging you.
The last part ❤ “The less I care and judge others, the less I worry about others caring and judging me. And the more I focus that energy on myself, on trying to be as good of a person as I can be and having pure intentions with everything that i do, the more unbothered I am. “
i found that not try to explain yourself or prove anyone anything is super helpful
Bravo Ms. Blakely,
Excellent video. I’m guilty of putting too much emphasis on the opinions of others. So much so I stopped being myself for years. Trying to correct what I perceived as “flaws.” I suddenly stopped giving a shit (responsibly) and was much happier and productive.
The funny thing is that this fear of judgement is often not even “what others think”, but “what I think others think”.
When I was younger and training for the 100-metre dash, my coach gave me a feedback. He said that, “You need to focus your lane and the goal, stop peeking other lanes to see how others are doing”
This not exactly the same as “caring for what others think”, but I think the advice still applies here, which is about focusing on being your true self and achieve your goals, while not getting distracted by others.
yes! it is true that it's usually "what I think others think" :-)
@@LanaBlakely Some people project their negativity towards you through criticism, because they want to feel better by putting you down.
TH-camrs get hate comments no matter what they do and it can sometimes be quite paralysing. So, I think another part of the fear is in dealing with the negative criticisms and downright personal attacks.
This is why I like the content here. You try to help people deal with difficult things that can come up in life. Thank you :D
I needed this because for so long I wanted to please everyone. But I know that leads to a stressful, anxious life.. learning to break away from this and build boundaries:)
I love the concept of -- it makes sense they don't like me if they are the kind of person who comes online to hurt others, because I'm nothing like that. I have thought a lot about this concept before but never from that angle. That really helped me. Today I released a video that was really vulnerable and I was immediately full of anxieties about being so open. But this video has helped me see that I have control over those emotions. Perspective is everything. Thanks for the much needed message today Lana.
Something about a girl that fills you up with confidence. All the scammers of all kinds, have it all wrong. Thank you Lana!
love that you made a point of encouraging balance between caring what your loved ones think and not caring what strangers think
People, children especially, can be so cruel. Kindness is such a beautiful trait.
these things distroyed my life in the past :
caring what others people say and think and even how they see me and what they expect about me but after long healing i become a better person with bigg self awareness and high self esteem and confidence and huge self love i wish every one stop caring and start focusing just how to improve yourself every single day cuz so much care will distruct you and kill your soul. you are worthy of life and to be just as you
I honestly don’t know how you can always post a video about what I’m struggling with that week/month. It’s crazy!! Love you
Thank you for this, I am learning to say sorry less often and I said sorry even if I did a positive action or helped someone. I have anxiety(generally) makes me second and triple at the minimum all of my actions and words. It was worse when I was younger and I have issues now but getting better. Your content has shown me I wasn’t the odd ball and things in my control are what I should aim to direct.
Defining ones values are key 🔑 to how one responds to the words and actions of others 🌸
I used to spend all the time thinking about what people said or think about me. Either what I wore or how I acted and over time I learned that if you live for people you lose yourself and you simply stop living for yourself and do it for others. Thanks Lana for this video
Thank you so much for this video. I'm still young and this past year i developed a lot of self knowledge, i know much more about myself, who i wanna be and what life i wanna live. But, i still struggle very much about what others think.
You inspire me very much to be more myself!!Thank you for your videos.
I don’t care..People judge based on very superficial things like your looks,your income,your job,what you wear, how many likes you have blah blah. That’s stupid and boring and I have no interest in people that shallow…so,it’s very hard to care about their opinions and take them seriously. I care about what my loved ones think 🌹
I started to re-watch your videos again and I have completed watching them all again.. I just want to say thank you..
Thank you so much. You make me feel so good. You have become my free therapist and I feel calm and happy these days..
And yes I wanna see your new video and puppy again.. Because I have already rewatched all videos again..
ILY 😇💙
The way you talk is really adorable.
So true about self-awareness being the key. If we are sure of who we are and what we want, it wouldn't matter what others say. I am always amazed when people are able to make choices and live by them irrespective of most of the world criticizing them for it. Thanks for this pertinent video.
@@_maxfreedom so well said.
It took me decades to even recognize that pleasing everyone else is not just futile but impossible. 😏
I hope to be as calm and careless (in a good way) as you!
Yes. We can see what others think but shouldn't let that affect who we are ❤️.
Great video 👌
When i get anxious or stressed i come to you tube n see ur videos it’s so calming ♥️♥️
I’m going to be honest. I’ve lost all hope for my life. I’ve come to the end of it all in this psychological torment. I’m tired.. tired of living in eternal torment. This is not a mindset for me that can be tweaked or altered. It’s a condition and it lives with me wherever I go. Like I’m being haunted. Honestly I’ve tried everything to better myself health wise and mentally but it only tightens it’s grip around me harder and harder every day. I can’t live like this anymore. The eyes peering through my soul can’t be deflected. All I feel is shame when I’m pierced by the eyes all around me closing in on me. People will never get to know me because I’m hidden somewhere inside of my psyche. Hidden because of the fear that has taken its foothold over me. All I am is a shadow of a person. In many ways I’m already dead because I don’t know how to live.
Ur so strong, ull overcome it step by step, keep going , dear ❤😘
I'm not in that space right now but I have been many times for the past 6 years. All I can say is, sometimes we have to live and do enriching things even if we dont know what we're doing, even if we feel like it is pointless or all we can feel is pain and despair. Like, there's points where you reach the bottom and all you can really do is try to crawl from the 2nd to last floor, and then the 3rd, until you reach a level where maybe you're not happy like we want to be, but life is bearable to some extent and you have some things in this world you are invested/attached to (it can be people, goals, or simply life values that you want to carry out in your time on this earth). Ig you dont try to at least crawl or limp yo a higher level (mentally/physically/spiritually), then things truly will not get better, and we dont want that for ourselves. We want to find reasons to live and not feel pain. You want to live and not feel pain. Even if you're not sure about how much hope there is for you, you have to hold on to your desire to move on from this pit and find a more stable, more bearable life.
Are there specific areas that cause you the most anguish? If so, you can start working from there. If it is self esteem, you can go to therapy, or do self care/goal-achieving things that make you the type of person YOU want to be.
Sorry for the length of the message, but multiple internet strangers care for you, and I hope one day you care for yourself more, as well
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I've been stressed for a while and during the time I feel so insecure about what people think about me. I realized earlier that I judged people in mind so much, which led me to care about "others" so much. So now I try not to judge people, I believe things will go better
"some helpful q's to ask yourself..
- What is the nature of the relationship?
- What is the intention of the person?
- What authority do they have?
You always come up with a good message, keep going. It took me years to learn to accept myself. It's good to see you spreading good messages to other souls who are in sufferings and dilemma.
Thank you for your videos, you are very grounding and you are making my thoughts a bit organized.
I'm very grateful for you being here and making those kind of videos.
A big Hi to you from Moldova.
This really brightened up my day. What a fantastic video. Great advice, great outlook, and your voice is actually very relaxing to listen to. Thank you so much.
you make me feel ready to be myself! that's what we need
I like how it’s always good looking people who make these videos
I KNOW RIGHT
this came at such a perfect time it's scary... i just meditated and journaled about it last night!
Haha! The whole reason I knew I wanted to talk about this was because I was journaling about it :)
I'm still working on accepting myself rather than constantly trying to change it to what I think is 'better'. I really hope I reach a point in my life where I fully accept who I am and not constantly fight against it or think negatively of it because it truly is exhausting, pretending to be something you are not. Thank you for your advice, it has been really helpful ❤
You really have turned into my therapist ❤️💗✨
:')) xx
Zahra Jimenez lol true though
We often care so much about things we need can not control. Letting go of things we can't control, and focusing more on the things we can has lead me to less stress and anxiety.
Petition for Lana to release a book. Would love to read it
Had this same idea in a convo w a friend and I came to the conclusion of "choosing your battles" which kinda aligned with what you said during the first step about the nature, intention and authority of a person in relation to you :)
It’s funny how we care about what others think but everyone else is also doing the same... so it’s like other people are too busy to judge you because they are worried about what people think of them! We all do this to some degree!😬😅
Ariana Reflects honestly how true...thanks
That is exactly right! My therapists said the exact same thing to me one time. You are so worried about what others think of you, but everyone is just thinking of what other are thinking of them. Everyone is so self-focused, we don't even realize!
❤️😊take care friends ✨
I (F19) found your channel after watching some of J. Peterson's lectures when you made a video a while ago about what you learned from them and I was immediately amazed by this beautiful and intelligent woman I saw. Now you're my favourite youtuber and I really enjoy your videos and how you phrase your thoughts. It's really good to find someone who can help guide me through growing up and learning about selfcare and how to achieve a positive outlook into the world. I suffered from depression and anxiety until march but since then I'm slowly building myself up. Thank you so much for your contribution to making the world a little bit brighter.
Your channel is growing so fast, almost half a million already, you totally deserve it. I remember the days you only had a few thousand subs.
The calmest thing I've ever watched
I could listen to you for a whole day straight without getting tired 🍃
Your last comment was spot on, I do that. Just be the best you can be and let go of what people think, unless it’s constructive it won’t serve you ☺️
THAT'S EXACTLY HOW I FEEL!
Thank you, Lana, for being who you are and giving the world the wonders you give!🥰🤩
Greetings and loads of love from Portugal!❤
you have no idea how much i needed this video, thank you so much
Funny how I dont care what other people think of me, yet when they compliment me I treasure what they said.
I've thought about that too. It's quite tricky!
thank you so much for this Lana! i was just having a mini anxiety attack because i was fearful of what people thought of me. this video really helped me stabilize my perspective. and thanks so much too for the tip at the end! i do feel like the major reason why i think people are judging me is because i secretly judge others as well. i'm trying to learn to remove this mental habit. thank you! ❤️
Thank you so much for this video. The last advice really hit me to my heart, it made everything clearer to me and I really do not care about what they say now.
I totally agree with everything you said. It definitely gets easier as we get older to not only know who we are and what we value, or at least can now articulate maybe what we've always been about but took it for granted or were just doing it, but to just accept ourselves and our idiosyncrasies or quirks. You made a great point that sometimes when we are particularly sensitive to others' judgements of us, it sometimes means we are also judging others more than we realize and wish that we were - that's a tough realization. I, for one, do not fall into the "typical" category, and so all my life I've felt on the outside of the norm and wrestling in my mind how to live happily when my values conflict with most all others. Even some of my closest friends I can diverge from greatly on some issues. But I guess the sooner and more consistently we can live by our own code and be sel accepting, then the more often we can be happy and get on with doing what really matters to us, taking risks on those things, making life a worthwhile adventure that it deserves to be. Thanks for sharing your, well, authentic, perspective 😊