Yes indeed. I use to be shallow in my 20s. I was always taught to have the best of the best. Then I turned 27 and realized that living a shallow life made me miserable. I dropped my friends and family and went into seclusion to become more self aware. Everywhere we go people who are deemed good looking are put on a pedestal. When in all reality they project the worst insecurities, doubts, and fear. Wake up people.
Not just the Shallow people, any kind of evil/toxic person can transform oneself into a better being, if one admits one's flaws and works on rectifying them. I believe, people aren't bad, their habits could be, which eventually can be worked upon, with sincere resolve to improve.
10 signs you're dealing with a (covert) narcissist... They're judgmental about others because they lack love for themselves, usually a respond to trauma they have experienced. Sending love and light to everyone. 💛🌞
You have described the vast majority of people. It's just that we call "shallow" those who voice and show these traits in a exaggerated or noticeable way
When you have been ugly your whole childhood it feels amazing to feel beautiful so yes I do focus on my appearance. I love having confidence for once .
Lmao never have I ever experienced that in my life until now with a mold infection I got 2 years ago but you gotta fight through that shiz. Better to havea Nice personality than ugly
I grew up in Los Angeles surrounded by people in the film and music biz. I can count on one hand the people who I met that weren't 'shallow' - one was my father. I ran away from that world to escape not only the shallowness, but also the narcissism, pretentiousness, fakeness and materialistic values of the majority of people. Now that I am much older, I see how (sadly), shallow, superficial, and narcissistic the world has become - its magnified and increased 1000 fold. Apart from my father, I 'divorced' my immediate family for the same reasons - their shallowness, superficiality and lack of intellectual curiosity.
Those attitudes long ago seeped into society. In fact, the attitudes determine the messages. Then they find their way (perhaps subconsciously) into film and tv scripts plus popular music lyrics. Even worse, those attitudes betray a very arrogant attitude toward those who are not part of the "life of the party, attention-getting, glory-pursuing, cheer-of-your-peers" types of people. I wonder how different American society would be if we did not have that kind of narcissistic and image-conscious attitudes permeating our society.
7 out of ten have narcissistic traits man most people are actually narcissists I don’t know why they diagnose it tbh. I think being a narcisist is like being a control freak of your image
This describes my sister exactly! She's always so vain and I can rarely have a deep conversation with her. We keep things surface level. Also, she can never give me her opinion on something, but she always expects me to give her my opinion and when I don't, she gets upset. She has a ton of friends supposedly, but she doesn't even care about her own family. She's very materialistic and would spend so much money on facials and facial products. Also, she doesn't apologize when she did something wrong. She doesn't own up to things.
You're describing my once' Local Rockstar' guitarist brother' only now he's starting to realize in his mid 50's his friends are users and fakes. I was always the unpopular one and so be it.
I watched this video because a girl (my exs roommate) called me shallow after i unfollowed her after the breakup. I had been called superficial in the past so i got curious and researched what it means. It's sad to say that i did see some of these qualities in my past relationship when i would say things i didn't mean just because it felt like the right thing to do (like writing in his bday card i can't wait to meet your fmily) and then breaking up with him a few days later when the relationship no longer felt right. We can all change, the first step is recognition and treating others like you'd like to be treated yourself. If someone called you superficial and those words cut you and hurt you it probably means that you are. Instead of getting angry take some time to reflect on ways that you may not have been present for someone in the past. This is easy to do with social media all of our attention goes to impressing a whole bunch of people behind screens who don't truly care. Hope you are all well x
Shallow people have lost the meaning of life!! because of their lack of empathy , this creates them a constant misery!! instead of suffering, it's better for them to awaken if they want to grow and flow together with life!! otherwise they have lost the "train"!!
It's more about being obsessed with looks. "Working" on your looks can be a healthy thing, but someone who worries about their looks being perfect, but disregards their friends feelings might just be a shallow person.
@@lisao1965 it’s more so catering to their insecurities and are most of the time looking for validation from others. I was like this before, until i got hit hard by life. Now i wish everyone the best always
Yeah it’s actually scary how obsessed with the outer appearance people are getting. Love isn’t always about seduction! It’s about understanding and respect! Stop over hyping up peoples looks! It’s not all about how you look!
To some, shallow means not putting forth much intellectual effort, usually not using or understanding multi-syllabic words. But they can have deep emotional intelligence, and deep hearts.
Nice job...well through your video of course I realize that some people I have been dealing with are shallow and one of those persons might be myself. Thanks for the enlightenment!
I absolutely appreciate listening to this video and it makes me reflect on how I am impacting my circle. I sometimes think on the same list while I am trying to form a new connection and the individual is shallow and sometimes I would second guess myself to say I am this or that because I am just not able to connect based on reasons highlighted in this video. Thanks so much for sharing and as a promise to self, as I am becoming more self aware its important for me to continue on my path of becoming a better person by developing myself in the areas of my shortcomings. Thanks for all the help through these videos 🥂❤️👍
I belive that humans beings as a race have an inate selfishness, but growing up we learn its not all about us. This is why we usually find that an only child is either narsassistic or have a massive sence of entitlement.
I’ll be shallow if I exercise and keep in shape and I won’t respect a fat person who is making passive remarks about me and my appearance or even if they are projecting their insecurities onto me in some other way such as how they carry themselves or have an attitude. I got no sympathy for them 💯
Most people are superficial, simply because people only care about looks or money. A woman can not have value in society without beauty, this is the way we are programmed to think, people who are good and honest are almost never valued 😢😢😢😢😢😢
Sounds like my ex and his friends. I am acquired some of those traits hanging out with them. I might need to surround myself with better company. This video really helped.
I find a huge difference between shallow and someone who have superficial love. Bcz I assume everybody would like to look nice but shallow are judgemental when it comes to see the appearance of others and then they tends to make rude comments like judging their clothing then judging their skin and all the things related to superficial things and I don't consider myself a shallow even though I love nice things and fashion. I find the meaning of shallow on someone who discriminate people based on their looks and appearance and that's very bad, tough, shameful and sinful.
I've found not all superficial or shallow people buy expensive things but they do care how others perceive them physically so while they cannot buy expensive items they make themselves look good, cute, sexy or desirable by finding expensive things second hand or cheap things that if well put together give the appearance of wealth. My roommates girlfriend wears wigs, has false eye lashes and nails and wears lots of make-up. She wears inappropriately nice, or sexy or uncomfortable looking clothes (to show off her great "shape") to sporting events he takes her to. Also overly sexy things too & brags to him how great she'll be for him in bed...gosh, they do just about everything else...kinda makes ya wonder what she hiding down there. I think she's just trying to keep him wanting. She's stringing him along til she gets that ring on her finger which will never happen...he's already told me that. She is very jealous of me but is too shallow to even see me for who I really am and treats me like crap in my own home (though my roommate owns the place I have lived here over 6yrs, he's know her for a few months). She constantly puts on this dripping with honey (Karo Syrup...hahahaha) sweet façade that I KNOW is SO SO SO fake. I am an Intuitive/Empath and it drives me insane to be around these types of people. I watch her try to do or say to him little things to sow discourse between me and my roomie (and since he's known her we've had 2 huge and horrible arguments that left me crying and small ones that just tick me off because I've done nothing to be blamed for...TRULY), who is frankly like my little brother which he's tried to explain to her but she won't even TRY to get to know me because like you say, they don't care how others feel or who they are or what they need. She has no close, deep friendships and smothers my roommate. He loves the attention but.....one day....Sayonara chicky. Anyway, she wants to spend every second of every minute with him. We cannot even watch a movie together because if she knows that she texts him throughout the entire movie. Last night she was so rude to me in front of him, she spoke to me as if I was a child...little does she know I see right through her but for my roommates sake, I play along and have to ACT like I'm not bothered a bit, or that I'm sorry for something I'm not guilty of. I do resent the fact I have to play these games and that HE does not stick up for me...he makes excuses for her like last night but there WAS NO EXCUSE for the way she spoke to me AT ALL! She could have had a best friend in me had she chose to be genuine. I don't even think she really loves my roommate either. He's just a challenge, a prize to be won and someone she needs so she's not alone...she NEEDS his attention (and I think his money), she NEEDS to be the center of his world and nothing or no one can interfere. I just wish I could tell my roommate these things but he is socially, romantically, relationshiply ( I know, not a real word) immature. He immediately gets defensive and I don't want to cause anymore harm to our friendship. As i said, he's like a little bro to me, bestie guy friend and I love him very much that way and care for his happiness. I'm pretty knowledgeable, experienced and have loved and lived with or near, people from all over the world and been very very poor and very rich...and again I am a strong empath but it is hard to be forgiving of disingenuous people like her. Hard to believe but SHE is his 1st girlfriend since he was in high school and now he's 40 and it's not because he's not good looking, he is, ESPECIALLY if he's let his hair grow out a some and stop cutting it like a Mormon child. Boy she sure had something to do and say about that when I begged him not to cut it, he looked SO good!!! I was a very hot, sexy woman when I was younger and had very good taste in men and what they looked like but it was more their hearts and minds for me, looks were just a plus. I know she doesn't want him to be desirable to other women, I've been witness to that dynamic before...had men do that same thing to me...or rather tried too. I just kept being myself and could wear fishing gear and still look hot. I guess he'll learn. I know this GF is damaged but she's never worked through it and doesn't seem to want to try. I sense such desperation in her. She's 10yrs older than him...good GRIEF she should know better! She stayed in a very bad marriage for 25yrs, has 5 kids, her own house, her own dance studio/school...she can't just be happy with that? He's already told her their relationship is not permanent yet she's latched on even tighter! I'd have said; Later Gator and moved on!!! Yikes...boy this was a looooong comment! I like to write so bless you for reading it all!!!
Never knew what gaslighting was now that I know... I am my own best friend, not needing the friendship and support of the women I work with// they ALL want to be my friend when no one else is watching? Wow it’s a real eye opener. I am the oldest person there // funny when I was young we all had respect for those who told stories about the industry/ now it’s disdain, disrespect, and “Aren’t you ever gonna retire?” To that I respond only married women retire/what is the point of retiring if you stay home & can’t afford a six pack once a week? That’s not seen as golden years to me/ at least if I work I have a sweet life...
Hey there.. There is nothing wrong being swallow. I have many swallow friends. Only things they apoear is less in character. But in person all are same. Swallow people are amazing and great to be with when you have 💰.
It's reminder that you dont have enough self-worth, self-respect and self-esteem. These shallow people prey on that. That's why you also have an utterly ridiculous response above here that no surprise, excuses the indefensible. Why? Shallow, is why.
Definitely dealing with a shallow person. My upstairs neighbor basically told me how shallow he was. I really don’t know if I’m gonna be friends with him anymore. I deserve better.❤
Give shallow people their due, anyone who does have potential to grow will certainly wanna become divine holy and better and are much more thankful they have the ability to do so, I've realized I'm infj the rarest personality type a shallow person discarded me like a packet of peanuts , so their is depth authenticity they inspire in others❤️🙏😇
In summary: Shallow people like to further their cause which is in truth only their own well being and status by choosing to be doing on purpose impractical ways to apply their 'morality' in a way that allows them to continue saving face for not having any morals. Which is why in our selfie world in public it is rare to see a shallow person acting without the most impeccable manner on the outside leaving everyone who comes into contact with them later left with uncomfortable feelings about there having been something not quite right while not knowing exact the reasons for that feeling. Shallow people like to further their cause [which in truth is their own well being and status] on purpose in ways which will not be applying their 'morality' in any practical way. For example, they love baiting and provoking people behind every set of closed doors around while giving frequent public announcements about how good they are when it comes to working for peace.
Most people are at least benignly shallow until they have to think about heavier things. Life twists up your path and all the sudden, getting that new car, or being cute, or going to the highly exclusive club with a VIP lounge and a dress code stops being important. You may still enjoy those things, but they become like having a snack vs a big, balanced meal. Most people would prefer the latter, but still won’t pass up a donut sometimes. Some shallow people aren’t toxic with it. There is a scale to it. Those who are just shallow of center can be harmless. I don’t really avoid or correct them but I’ve had many come to me when things get hard for them and they start having questions that extend beyond celebrity gossip and designer shoes. I like being there to help them before they get sucked into the worse levels of shallowness. I try and frame things gently because shallow people tend to assume any critique or hard truth is an attack, which gets on my nerves, but like I said, most people have been like this at some point in time. You get over it when you have to adapt. I don’t tolerate anyone like the examples in this video though. If you have excluded people from your friend circle because of looks, materialism, status, popularity, etc, then you really don’t get to turn around when things get heavy and ask the same people who were ‘too weird’ or ‘not cool enough’ before.
Just got out of a relationship with a partner who checks everything off of this list holy shit. Now that I’m not with him, I feel so free. Disconnected from garbage.
I have a friend like this. She always says rude things about people and when she does something bad she pretends to feel bad but then blames other people. She used to insult and bully people in school and now she's blaming her old friend group for why she did that just because they kicked her out. And it's making me feel annoyed. She says she learned her lesson but she still does this and I don't like how she treats people and it annoys me. But I'm afraid if I tell her she'll tell her parents I'm mean to her and make me look bad. I don't trust her. She's messed up
Omg this reminds me of my boyfriend’s sister and mother. They always talk about money and how much money they make. The sister judges my sister for shopping at cheap clothing stores and eating at cheap restaurants and she longs to marry someone rich. And the mom didn’t like the fact that I didn’t get paid enough and was trying to find me a job that paid high but wasn’t qualified. She shows off how much money she got and yells in front of strangers “I get paid $30 an hour now”. It’s so embarrassing! I try to distance myself from them. It’s funny that they act like that because they were dirt poor, you would think they would understand.
I just met a unknown half brother. No kids, not married.Some corporate bigwig, 2 country club memberships, drives a 50k+ car, At least my 1000 sq ft house is paid off and I get good gas mileage? And my son would give up his seat for someone older on the bus. At our first meeting that he readily offered to have me meet him at his country club (we share a birth mother who I never knew, I was adopted) He looked at his phone the whole time ,asked me questions then cut me off when I answered. Asked me "what I wanted from this" I didn't even know how to have answered that, I didn't know what to say I don't want your money??? as I was and am still processing all this ,as I've only known for a few days before I reached out to him. Not sure how this is going to proceed, I don't feel like I am fancy enough for him although that it my own personal demon to deal with, no?
Everyone saying about that shallow people are fake and stuff, meanwhile me who is shallow because my parents were and I cant remove this behaviour from me and I am angry at myself because Im being shallow...
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I'm obsessed with physical attraction. You can have the best personality/swag/character in the world. But If you are not physically attractive to me? I don't want anything to do with you. On the other hand, I've met physically attractive women who were horrible people. But because of their level of physical beauty, I would put up with it. Now that's shallow.
I guess the shoe fits in and out. You ask the universe to show you what you need to see and boom here it is thank you much . Sometimes the mirror has to be held up. Now I'm aware I can do something about it.
Am I considered shallow for thinking that it's weird and wrong for a person to graduate high school at 20, no matter the context or reason? Or that it's weird fora person to still live at home with their parents in their late twenties, again, no matter the context or reason?
I used to be a shallow person till I met people more shallow than me and then I stopped being shallow. Universe showed me the mirror. Thank God.
Honestly
Very funny because I’ve dealt with the exact same thing
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I always say that's always the best way to learn from the error of your ways...... is by dealing with people that are worse than you.
I used to swim in shallow waters and then met shallow people so i dont swim shallow anymore
Never waste your feelings on people who don't value you.....
Thank you, your words make me realize something.
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Yeahhhh
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@Curtistine Miller Right on!🙌🏾❤️😊
In my Society, I see these type of persons everywhere, that's why I spend the majority of my time alone.
Ahmed I feel your pain!
@Ankit Kumar Jha Yeah sure bro I enjoy my time alone I always have something to do
Welcome to capitalism!!
Where u from?
@@LitReese_ Tunisia Bro hh but sometimes I find great people that I wanna spend time with
Yes indeed. I use to be shallow in my 20s. I was always taught to have the best of the best. Then I turned 27 and realized that living a shallow life made me miserable. I dropped my friends and family and went into seclusion to become more self aware. Everywhere we go people who are deemed good looking are put on a pedestal. When in all reality they project the worst insecurities, doubts, and fear. Wake up people.
Not just the Shallow people, any kind of evil/toxic person can transform oneself into a better being, if one admits one's flaws and works on rectifying them. I believe, people aren't bad, their habits could be, which eventually can be worked upon, with sincere resolve to improve.
So a serial killer isn't really bad hey? LOL! If you say so LOL!
Are you serious?
As we grow older I hope we can learn from all of our mistakes in life and become a better person
Those that dislike this video are likely to be shallow, they don't want to hear the truth about themselves.
Yea thats very true,.they would never like to admit , they live in total Denial.
So boring to be with one of those; all about me, me, me...after 15 minutes with them you could scream....get me out of here....
Facts !!!!
The fact that you were able to make that connection means something....
This also describes narcissism.
I've worked with so many ppl like that over the yrs.
They're a, waste of time and energy.
They're sometimes very insecure
10 signs you're dealing with a (covert) narcissist... They're judgmental about others because they lack love for themselves, usually a respond to trauma they have experienced. Sending love and light to everyone. 💛🌞
Exactly love and peace to you
I bet there’s 100 hundred different shallow types ?????😤😤😤
Bullshit. Most people who are judgmental and can act on it just think they’re better than you. They’re not the ones sitting around crying.
Quite often they have TOO much love for themselves, lets be honest!
And whose to judge? Judge not, lest you be judged.
This is an easy road to unhappiness and depression
Well said. SoCal has a bunch of them and they are dying by the day
Dealing with them can be depressing too.
The easiest ❗️
No offense most attractive people are shallow
You have described the vast majority of people. It's just that we call "shallow" those who voice and show these traits in a exaggerated or noticeable way
When you have been ugly your whole childhood it feels amazing to feel beautiful so yes I do focus on my appearance. I love having confidence for once .
Hell yeah brother
Shallow
You need to find other things to value then how you look looks will fade
Nothing wrong with wanting to look your best and being confident. But if you treat everyone like crap and insult them people aren't going to like you
Lmao never have I ever experienced that in my life until now with a mold infection I got 2 years ago but you gotta fight through that shiz. Better to havea Nice personality than ugly
These type of people have only one word RUN. 🏃
Yep
I grew up in Los Angeles surrounded by people in the film and music biz. I can count on one hand the people who I met that weren't 'shallow' - one was my father. I ran away from that world to escape not only the shallowness, but also the narcissism, pretentiousness, fakeness and materialistic values of the majority of people. Now that I am much older, I see how (sadly), shallow, superficial, and narcissistic the world has become - its magnified and increased 1000 fold. Apart from my father, I 'divorced' my immediate family for the same reasons - their shallowness, superficiality and lack of intellectual curiosity.
i am that father to my kids. They think their mum is shallow.
Those attitudes long ago seeped into society. In fact, the attitudes determine the messages. Then they find their way (perhaps subconsciously) into film and tv scripts plus popular music lyrics. Even worse, those attitudes betray a very arrogant attitude toward those who are not part of the "life of the party, attention-getting, glory-pursuing, cheer-of-your-peers" types of people. I wonder how different American society would be if we did not have that kind of narcissistic and image-conscious attitudes permeating our society.
Sounds like a common problem.See it everyday.
You just described a typical narcissist..the ideal shallow person.
I feel like narcissists are a LOT scarier than a run if the mill shallow person. They are in fact quite emotionally heavy and draining.
I've always felt my cheating ex-wife was a narcissist. Apparently, she's shallow as well....this video describes her perfectly.
She is probably a gang banger as well as many are and feel no shame, my ex's were just like that, I never even knew until we broke up.
Sorry to hear mate. Hope your doing better now
Mostly their narcs,
Yup 👍 true
7 out of 10 are signs of narcissistic personality disorders...
7 out of ten have narcissistic traits man most people are actually narcissists I don’t know why they diagnose it tbh. I think being a narcisist is like being a control freak of your image
You never know what they really believe. They say one thing and their actions do another.
I think you just described a person who has narcissist personality disorder.
Ah no. It's different.
I agree...they described covert NPD?
Exactly. Should have been titled 10 signs you're dealing with a narcissist.
😂😂😂😂that’s my ex
This describes my sister exactly! She's always so vain and I can rarely have a deep conversation with her. We keep things surface level. Also, she can never give me her opinion on something, but she always expects me to give her my opinion and when I don't, she gets upset. She has a ton of friends supposedly, but she doesn't even care about her own family. She's very materialistic and would spend so much money on facials and facial products. Also, she doesn't apologize when she did something wrong. She doesn't own up to things.
I sincerely feel your pain. It gets lonely sometimes too.
Did she born on October and she is a libra ♎.
my sisters compliments are always always on appearance ahhaha
You're describing my once' Local Rockstar' guitarist brother' only now he's starting to realize in his mid 50's his friends are users and fakes. I was always the unpopular one and so be it.
I find shallowness as so sad!
But when they hate you for any reason at all, they'll think you are shallow minded.
Let them go!
That's right they are all toxic people and often get judged the libra ♎ people and when they got hit with all the truth are just awful.
I watched this video because a girl (my exs roommate) called me shallow after i unfollowed her after the breakup. I had been called superficial in the past so i got curious and researched what it means. It's sad to say that i did see some of these qualities in my past relationship when i would say things i didn't mean just because it felt like the right thing to do (like writing in his bday card i can't wait to meet your fmily) and then breaking up with him a few days later when the relationship no longer felt right. We can all change, the first step is recognition and treating others like you'd like to be treated yourself. If someone called you superficial and those words cut you and hurt you it probably means that you are. Instead of getting angry take some time to reflect on ways that you may not have been present for someone in the past. This is easy to do with social media all of our attention goes to impressing a whole bunch of people behind screens who don't truly care. Hope you are all well x
Shallow people have lost the meaning of life!! because of their lack of empathy , this creates them a constant misery!! instead of suffering, it's better for them to awaken if they want to grow and flow together with life!! otherwise they have lost the "train"!!
Idk even people who aren't like what you said tend to shallow. Anyone can be shallow
These people are Scarey. Evil.
About your 1st point - - Weather u accept it or not -- "Looks matter". Don't call someone shallow if he/she works on their looks
It's more about being obsessed with looks. "Working" on your looks can be a healthy thing, but someone who worries about their looks being perfect, but disregards their friends feelings might just be a shallow person.
@@lisao1965 it’s more so catering to their insecurities and are most of the time looking for validation from others. I was like this before, until i got hit hard by life. Now i wish everyone the best always
@@lisao1965 you never know they could of been called ugly before hence why they feel that way
I may have a shallow attraction with partners and friends but only half the time. Gorgeous people are generally troubled and insecure.
Me too.
these types are becoming the new, modern "role model"...ie; instagram, reality shows, other social media.....scary
There is no hope for me meeting a beautiful person. It's all based on what you got and what you look like.
Being shallow is more about a person being more concerned with what other people think.
Yeah it’s actually scary how obsessed with the outer appearance people are getting. Love isn’t always about seduction! It’s about understanding and respect! Stop over hyping up peoples looks! It’s not all about how you look!
To some, shallow means not putting forth much intellectual effort, usually not using or understanding multi-syllabic words. But they can have deep emotional intelligence, and deep hearts.
Nice job...well through your video of course I realize that some people I have been dealing with are shallow and one of those persons might be myself. Thanks for the enlightenment!
I just realised how SHALLOW I AM although I always categorise myself to be a “deep” person. I guess I should reflect on myself.
I absolutely appreciate listening to this video and it makes me reflect on how I am impacting my circle.
I sometimes think on the same list while I am trying to form a new connection and the individual is shallow and sometimes I would second guess myself to say I am this or that because I am just not able to connect based on reasons highlighted in this video.
Thanks so much for sharing and as a promise to self, as I am becoming more self aware its important for me to continue on my path of becoming a better person by developing myself in the areas of my shortcomings.
Thanks for all the help through these videos 🥂❤️👍
I belive that humans beings as a race have an inate selfishness, but growing up we learn its not all about us. This is why we usually find that an only child is either narsassistic or have a massive sence of entitlement.
I’ll be shallow if I exercise and keep in shape and I won’t respect a fat person who is making passive remarks about me and my appearance or even if they are projecting their insecurities onto me in some other way such as how they carry themselves or have an attitude. I got no sympathy for them 💯
Most people are superficial, simply because people only care about looks or money. A woman can not have value in society without beauty, this is the way we are programmed to think, people who are good and honest are almost never valued 😢😢😢😢😢😢
Sounds like my ex and his friends. I am acquired some of those traits hanging out with them. I might need to surround myself with better company. This video really helped.
I find a huge difference between shallow and someone who have superficial love. Bcz I assume everybody would like to look nice but shallow are judgemental when it comes to see the appearance of others and then they tends to make rude comments like judging their clothing then judging their skin and all the things related to superficial things and I don't consider myself a shallow even though I love nice things and fashion. I find the meaning of shallow on someone who discriminate people based on their looks and appearance and that's very bad, tough, shameful and sinful.
Spot on, excellent description!! 👍🏻
You cannot shut me up when I feel comfortable around someone, it just ain't shallow empty vessels that label me boring and dull ❤️🙏😇
Yes so negative and envious they put everyone down, including ur family.
Dang
This is a narcissist
I've found not all superficial or shallow people buy expensive things but they do care how others perceive them physically so while they cannot buy expensive items they make themselves look good, cute, sexy or desirable by finding expensive things second hand or cheap things that if well put together give the appearance of wealth.
My roommates girlfriend wears wigs, has false eye lashes and nails and wears lots of make-up.
She wears inappropriately nice, or sexy or uncomfortable looking clothes (to show off her great "shape") to sporting events he takes her to.
Also overly sexy things too & brags to him how great she'll be for him in bed...gosh, they do just about everything else...kinda makes ya wonder what she hiding down there.
I think she's just trying to keep him wanting.
She's stringing him along til she gets that ring on her finger which will never happen...he's already told me that.
She is very jealous of me but is too shallow to even see me for who I really am and treats me like crap in my own home (though my roommate owns the place I have lived here over 6yrs, he's know her for a few months).
She constantly puts on this dripping with honey (Karo Syrup...hahahaha) sweet façade that I KNOW is SO SO SO fake.
I am an Intuitive/Empath and it drives me insane to be around these types of people.
I watch her try to do or say to him little things to sow discourse between me and my roomie (and since he's known her we've had 2 huge and horrible arguments that left me crying and small ones that just tick me off because I've done nothing to be blamed for...TRULY), who is frankly like my little brother which he's tried to explain to her but she won't even TRY to get to know me because like you say, they don't care how others feel or who they are or what they need.
She has no close, deep friendships and smothers my roommate.
He loves the attention but.....one day....Sayonara chicky.
Anyway, she wants to spend every second of every minute with him.
We cannot even watch a movie together because if she knows that she texts him throughout the entire movie.
Last night she was so rude to me in front of him, she spoke to me as if I was a child...little does she know I see right through her but for my roommates sake, I play along and have to ACT like I'm not bothered a bit, or that I'm sorry for something I'm not guilty of.
I do resent the fact I have to play these games and that HE does not stick up for me...he makes excuses for her like last night but there WAS NO EXCUSE for the way she spoke to me AT ALL!
She could have had a best friend in me had she chose to be genuine.
I don't even think she really loves my roommate either.
He's just a challenge, a prize to be won and someone she needs so she's not alone...she NEEDS his attention (and I think his money), she NEEDS to be the center of his world and nothing or no one can interfere.
I just wish I could tell my roommate these things but he is socially, romantically, relationshiply ( I know, not a real word) immature.
He immediately gets defensive and I don't want to cause anymore harm to our friendship.
As i said, he's like a little bro to me, bestie guy friend and I love him very much that way and care for his happiness.
I'm pretty knowledgeable, experienced and have loved and lived with or near, people from all over the world and been very very poor and very rich...and again I am a strong empath but it is hard to be forgiving of disingenuous people like her.
Hard to believe but SHE is his 1st girlfriend since he was in high school and now he's 40 and it's not because he's not good looking, he is, ESPECIALLY if he's let his hair grow out a some and stop cutting it like a Mormon child.
Boy she sure had something to do and say about that when I begged him not to cut it, he looked SO good!!!
I was a very hot, sexy woman when I was younger and had very good taste in men and what they looked like but it was more their hearts and minds for me, looks were just a plus.
I know she doesn't want him to be desirable to other women, I've been witness to that dynamic before...had men do that same thing to me...or rather tried too. I just kept being myself and could wear fishing gear and still look hot.
I guess he'll learn.
I know this GF is damaged but she's never worked through it and doesn't seem to want to try. I sense such desperation in her. She's 10yrs older than him...good GRIEF she should know better! She stayed in a very bad marriage for 25yrs, has 5 kids, her own house, her own dance studio/school...she can't just be happy with that?
He's already told her their relationship is not permanent yet she's latched on even tighter!
I'd have said; Later Gator and moved on!!!
Yikes...boy this was a looooong comment! I like to write so bless you for reading it all!!!
Never knew what gaslighting was now that I know... I am my own best friend, not needing the friendship and support of the women I work with// they ALL want to be my friend when no one else is watching? Wow it’s a real eye opener. I am the oldest person there // funny when I was young we all had respect for those who told stories about the industry/ now it’s disdain, disrespect, and “Aren’t you ever gonna retire?” To that I respond only married women retire/what is the point of retiring if you stay home & can’t afford a six pack once a week? That’s not seen as golden years to me/ at least if I work I have a sweet life...
Does anyone feel like they attract shallow people? How do you deal with it?
Hey there..
There is nothing wrong being swallow. I have many swallow friends. Only things they apoear is less in character. But in person all are same. Swallow people are amazing and great to be with when you have 💰.
It's reminder that you dont have enough self-worth, self-respect and self-esteem.
These shallow people prey on that. That's why you also have an utterly ridiculous response above here that no surprise, excuses the indefensible. Why?
Shallow, is why.
Why are some people this way? Like what causes them to turn out this way?
Definitely dealing with a shallow person. My upstairs neighbor basically told me how shallow he was. I really don’t know if I’m gonna be friends with him anymore. I deserve better.❤
Give shallow people their due, anyone who does have potential to grow will certainly wanna become divine holy and better and are much more thankful they have the ability to do so, I've realized I'm infj the rarest personality type a shallow person discarded me like a packet of peanuts , so their is depth authenticity they inspire in others❤️🙏😇
In summary: Shallow people like to further their cause which is in truth only their own well being and status by choosing to be doing on purpose impractical ways to apply their 'morality' in a way that allows them to continue saving face for not having any morals. Which is why in our selfie world in public it is rare to see a shallow person acting without the most impeccable manner on the outside leaving everyone who comes into contact with them later left with uncomfortable feelings about there having been something not quite right while not knowing exact the reasons for that feeling. Shallow people like to further their cause [which in truth is their own well being and status] on purpose in ways which will not be applying their 'morality' in any practical way. For example, they love baiting and provoking people behind every set of closed doors around while giving frequent public announcements about how good they are when it comes to working for peace.
I am dealing with one
Their is something else you for got they won’t take responsibility for their actions they will put it on you and some how make it your fault.
Do u think instagram perpetrates shallowness?
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Most people are at least benignly shallow until they have to think about heavier things. Life twists up your path and all the sudden, getting that new car, or being cute, or going to the highly exclusive club with a VIP lounge and a dress code stops being important. You may still enjoy those things, but they become like having a snack vs a big, balanced meal. Most people would prefer the latter, but still won’t pass up a donut sometimes. Some shallow people aren’t toxic with it. There is a scale to it. Those who are just shallow of center can be harmless. I don’t really avoid or correct them but I’ve had many come to me when things get hard for them and they start having questions that extend beyond celebrity gossip and designer shoes. I like being there to help them before they get sucked into the worse levels of shallowness. I try and frame things gently because shallow people tend to assume any critique or hard truth is an attack, which gets on my nerves, but like I said, most people have been like this at some point in time. You get over it when you have to adapt. I don’t tolerate anyone like the examples in this video though. If you have excluded people from your friend circle because of looks, materialism, status, popularity, etc, then you really don’t get to turn around when things get heavy and ask the same people who were ‘too weird’ or ‘not cool enough’ before.
Thank you so much for this video! You've no idea what this video means to me, thank you so much!
Yea personal growth ur right
Just got out of a relationship with a partner who checks everything off of this list holy shit. Now that I’m not with him, I feel so free. Disconnected from garbage.
no I'm not like that thanks great video
I broke up with my girl when she started stressing I hit the gym. Then I hit the gym with half the stress gone. 😚
Problem solved.
Pray for them always.
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I have all of these traits but do not care I am still the best at everything and care for people in general and am extremely humble. Thx for reading.
I have a friend like this. She always says rude things about people and when she does something bad she pretends to feel bad but then blames other people. She used to insult and bully people in school and now she's blaming her old friend group for why she did that just because they kicked her out. And it's making me feel annoyed. She says she learned her lesson but she still does this and I don't like how she treats people and it annoys me. But I'm afraid if I tell her she'll tell her parents I'm mean to her and make me look bad. I don't trust her. She's messed up
I am not superficial.
I'm shallow about things but I feel I have a legit reason.
Every internet troll.
I find shallow people so irritating.
I used to be but then gained weight and better appreciated everyone else. Now im working back into health but still value others
I didn’t know I was shallow till now🙂
We I live , is so much people like thise description, many others aren't
I just discovered I am a shallow person so tell me how can I change from this attitude?
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Great video and great to know thanks for posting this!
Omg this reminds me of my boyfriend’s sister and mother. They always talk about money and how much money they make. The sister judges my sister for shopping at cheap clothing stores and eating at cheap restaurants and she longs to marry someone rich. And the mom didn’t like the fact that I didn’t get paid enough and was trying to find me a job that paid high but wasn’t qualified. She shows off how much money she got and yells in front of strangers “I get paid $30 an hour now”. It’s so embarrassing! I try to distance myself from them. It’s funny that they act like that because they were dirt poor, you would think they would understand.
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I just met a unknown half brother. No kids, not married.Some corporate bigwig, 2 country club memberships, drives a 50k+ car, At least my 1000 sq ft house is paid off and I get good gas mileage? And my son would give up his seat for someone older on the bus. At our first meeting that he readily offered to have me meet him at his country club (we share a birth mother who I never knew, I was adopted) He looked at his phone the whole time ,asked me questions then cut me off when I answered. Asked me "what I wanted from this" I didn't even know how to have answered that, I didn't know what to say I don't want your money??? as I was and am still processing all this ,as I've only known for a few days before I reached out to him. Not sure how this is going to proceed, I don't feel like I am fancy enough for him although that it my own personal demon to deal with, no?
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Everyone saying about that shallow people are fake and stuff, meanwhile me who is shallow because my parents were and I cant remove this behaviour from me and I am angry at myself because Im being shallow...
Anyone else liked before even watching ?! Just me ?!.....ok 😂😂
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Great video.
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I'm obsessed with physical attraction. You can have the best personality/swag/character in the world. But If you are not physically attractive to me? I don't want anything to do with you. On the other hand, I've met physically attractive women who were horrible people. But because of their level of physical beauty, I would put up with it. Now that's shallow.
Yeah that’s me, and I’m happy with it
I guess the shoe fits in and out. You ask the universe to show you what you need to see and boom here it is thank you much . Sometimes the mirror has to be held up. Now I'm aware I can do something about it.
I agree and I feel this way sometimes. Rarely, but sometimes.
Yes I do have at least 2
I was surrounded by shallow people growing up. That's why I became a misanthrope.
This video perfectly described narcissists.
Am I considered shallow for thinking that it's weird and wrong for a person to graduate high school at 20, no matter the context or reason? Or that it's weird fora person to still live at home with their parents in their late twenties, again, no matter the context or reason?
It's hard to believe that she is only 19.
Sure I have come across them and no room to change bcs their self evaluation is very poorly
What can I do if my dad is shallower or superficial? Did he transmit that behavior a bit in me ????
I despise shallow superficial women. All they care about is looks and not love.
So what is the healthiest way of dealing with shallow and narcissistic people without stooping down to their level?
Literally everyone is shallow and they don't even realize it