Who I thought cared about me as a friend turned around and said something that was terrible I was lost for words. I couldn’t believe it. Well all can say is Karma will get you eventually
@@lostandfound3026 If the person who you thought cared about you, said something terrible, then a single incident does not make that person fake. Sometimes even the nicest people say terrible things that they don't mean, when they are going through storms. That rarely happens though. If someone ever made you feel good/happy, then don't be too quick to judge them. Fake people, on the others hand, can never care for anyone other than themselves even once. You can sense their low vibrations.
Sometimes a fake friend can be just as bad; they tend to know more about you than the average person would. Fake friends will exploit your weakness in a way that can blindside you in the future.
@@samuelblomquist7827 it’s fine because the way they treat people around them people will treat them back the same way so they are doing a double edge sword on themselves
Fake people/friends I find get very angry and defensive if they get told no to/for something that they expect to be told yes to/for. All these 9 signs in the video were all traits of a fake a friend I cut loose 2 years back; a fake friend I kept for too long. Thanks for making this video. Its a good refresher of people we should all not socialize with.
Yes had a few it disgust me I always say you see what you get if you don’t like me too bad. I dependable and loyal. I like to enjoy my friends have fun if they have a problem in their life they know they can come to me and talk. I have their back.
I think they’ve heard something in their life and they are protective of themselves and they don’t want anybody to hurt them so they post on this persona and they’re fake so what are you do and you don’t find that out until some good friends and that’s hurtful they don’t apologize for hurting you nothing too bad for them I don’t have time for crap
Everything said in this video is "how I learned" during my life and still continue to do so when dealing with everyday people in general...especially neighbors who have been "caught on their own lies". They keep distance from me because I am "honest and call people out" as needed. That's why I like staying by myself. THERE ARE LESS GENUINE PEOPLE TODAY
Not today since the ancient period .....we are evolving from the animal.. That's that's instinct is still is in with us ... Though civilization socialization whatever it's just a trap to make us especially men weak ...
Is it wor th it, to call em out? I did. They became vengeful, bashed my on and off internet, and focused a lot of their lunacy on me. What I keep up front today"" The world is round " for evil ppl.
5 important rules in life When u are alone mid ur thoughts When u are with ur freinds mind ur tongue When u are angery mind ur temper When u are in trouble mind ur emotion
@@ramonaschaefer1966 Takes practice but I know you have the strength dig deep inside you and you will prevail. . If you believe in Jesus Christ relying on Him ask Him to help you He knows your heart ❤️
@@lenebrantley221 yes 🙌🏼 indeed those are wonderful words of wisdom. I’m in the same predicament. I am a nurturing person a good friend and they always come to me for advice except the narcissistic behavior because they know it all and you can’t help them they don’t see themselves and would never admit it. In their eyes they can’t see that they are hurting the people who surround them. All I can do is. ask Jesus to help them.
The first one, bragging about yourself and telling true stories should only be done in interviews - but strategically so. In addition, trust your instincts, we have them for a reason. So don't ignore it and have regrets later.
So true. How unfortunate. Recognize working with th someone 40 hr aweek, doesn't make them sincere , only make em a cousin. Tho my father's sister kids are older, doesn't make them genuine , or want to see you move up&forward. Fact, just the opposite.
I've noticed that fake people are boisterous, like they're trying to get noticed by others in the crowd & make them wonder what's so funny or exciting. I can pretty much tell a person by how they laugh in different settings. It's like the phony wants to make sure they butter up the influential person by laughing so hard & loud at their conversation.
There's fake and then there's insecure . Have met some selfish fake types, but mainly sadly insecure types, takes one to know one. 😊 If you wanna be a really kind friend you can give the borderline personality type the reassure that they can relax and enjoy your friendship and disagree with you and that's ok. If you remind them from time to time they'll get the hang of it. Some are beyond help, meaner characters, but a lot are kind hearted and don't realise what they're doing or why. Being authentic is tricky for insecure types. A little love and understanding can go a long way. They aren't (all) evil, just got their wiring in a pickle. Said my piece. Am a self confessed people pleaser myself, but I'm learning to love myself in the good way and be more authentic. I'd never knowingly be inconsiderate to anyone though, just to say, I'm a giver more than a taker. These psychology tips are so useful. Wish we learned about this type of thing at school. Thanks 👍 Take care !
I dumped a " so called friend* of mine because she was a fake phony person exactly as described here because i also have no patience to let myself get my heart hurt by someone like this ever again I have a loving family and now have a couple of real friends who value my friendship . This video was great and so helpful to me .Thank you so much amd God bless you always.🌹💖💖🎉 .
I somewhat disagree. People lie, we lie almost everyday to hide our feelings (regardless if positive or negative) some pathological liars are doing it as their defense mechanism to hide vulnerability. Fake people are type of personality, not behaviours. They fake things with malicious intent to take advantage of other people. Politicians in general, sales people, financial gurus, MLM and the list continues. That's my only thought about the subject matter. Peace✌️
From what you described here, many of the people I have met were unfortunately fake. Yet, I always try to remember God still has a purpose why you meet whom you meet. Some are meant to be in your life for a short time, while others are meant to be there for a lifetime.
These people are very toxic and bring nothing to the table in a conversation. I want to point out a situation I was in, I went to a wedding and did not know anyone, and I would strike up a conversation just to congratulate the bride and groom. I guess I'm guilty of this myself at times and did not realize this. Brainy Dose brings the unique perspective that we can all learn.
It took me a long time to recognize someone like this. I'm naïve and gullible before and they used that against me. It was very stupid of me to believe in every person's words right away.
Wow the one where people try to one up everything you say is the most common I constantly encounter people like this and what gets me is that they know what their doing they even get a kick out of it.
I think fake people in the workplace have fear; fear that others may realize that they are not who they portray themselves to be, fear that others may get a promotion and not them, and fear that others are smarter than they are. If you are humble, you will admit to others that you can benefit from their knowledge and learn from them. For example, how did you get your promotion? Can you help me with how I can improve my skills to get a promotion? What skills do you think I should improve? When you are honest with people, if they are genuine, they will help you. Competition is good, but people need to understand that you can always learn something from others in a workplace environment and life. Furthermore, people need to know which people will see you are willing to learn and help and which workplace people are fake.
Phone relationships are not healthy .I like face to face the people pleaser is interesting we can always s better ourselves.yes I have known people like this . Awesome video 😊
And in the end, they will eventually backstab you. Me speaking from experience. It's killing me inside too. I don't agree with the title of this video, it's never "instantly". You will know them by their actions.
Yes I have a colleague at work who always seeks validation. She comes in an hour before she starts work and does her rounds of speaking to her audience that are gullible enough to held their attention to her. She boasts constantly how she cares for her sick father in law. She totally ignores me for some reason. Maybe she sees me as a threat or she is jealous of me. Not sure. That is fine though because I have absolutely no time for toxic people and neither would I be entertained by them.
This makes ppl that have suffered from trauma look bad... think it needs more explanation around trauma and why. Some of those people may not even be aware that they have that so called fake behaviour... still some good insight tho..
A simple test brings truth to clarity. Example? I told my son this because people borrow money. Let them prove their intentions with giving up $20 and you'll see who would truly be your friend. And who puts you off. Promises kept says that they care.
I had a friend that would get his feelings hurt so easy. If someone in the parking lot at the apartment complex didn't say hello he was totally bummed out he needed validation so much. I remember feeling more like that when I was younger but in my sixties not so much if they say hi they say hi if they don't they don't. But he seemed really hypersensitive to what people thought of him. He had to chat up everybody he met
Very helpful video. As I was watching it,I started remembering all the fake people I have come across and it made it clear to me,they were really fake. One person kept saying,"oh I'm always there to help,I would really like to help you out" but every time there was a real need ,I would get the reply,"Okay so how do I know its worth helping you? how do I know if it will make a difference to the world? I'm here just to learn to be successful, and I wonder if I'm just wasting my time,listening to a story with no sense, are you even in need,what are you even doing? That is like gaslighting along with contradicting their own statement and yet still going on to say," you still have not told me what help you need". At first I really thought it was miscommunication,and kept explaining but when it kept happening I realised the person really does not care. I could relate this to so many fake friends, colleagues,I met. You can add this,fake people often "Gaslight" us so it takes time to understand that they are really being fake. Thanks again for an eye opening and saviour video. 🙏😊
I just met a fake person that had all of these signs..He does most of the talking about his job, goals, and past. Never asked me anything besides what kind of work I do..This is a typical person in Chicago.
I met someone online, and first she was acting as if I’m her good friend, and then after a while if I said something that is not even offensive, like for example. She had some sort of problem, and I said to her: you can tell me if you want. I don’t mind. But she took it as if I said I don’t care don’t tell me that. And she got offended and she understood me wrong. The other thing that happened, she was acting all nice to me, but when I was telling her about a situation that I was in and it was hard for me, she wouldn’t listen and she would take the other peoples site. So in the end, I den just got this person out of my life instantly. And as well it sounds like one of the points that you have pointed, that people would seek attention. That’s the way this person was like as well. She said: you act like I’m your regular friend and you don’t act as close to me
Yeah I met a girl in a sports camp in America she was only pretending to be friendly with me and she turned on me and blocked me on everything for somebody elses behavior
She was acting overexcited all the time and was always asking me to get peoples numbers for her and one time she thew a temper tantrum because she wasnt allowed get another girls number she would also fake apologies to people and then talk badly about them the final straw was when she posted an Instagram story where she compared completely defenseless and innocent women and children to nazis
Writing to someone online is difficult because the writing has too explain every side to a story that you would like someone too understand your situation. Not everyone has the time the patience too read or write long stories too someone you barely know. Your hope is that you don't offend anyone.
Great video! There were a couple things I don’t necessarily agree with but overall very good points made. I’ve had one sided convos with a girl before, I was the only one talking but it was because she never said anything. She was terrible at keeping convos going and come to find out she probably had no interest in a long term relationship and was just using me for the attention etc. so that’s why she wasn’t very engaging. Always had to be right, I was always to blame for everything. She was like a light switch, her emotions would turn off so easily. Never understand people like that, I just don’t relate to that stuff. If I feel a certain way I wanna go talk about it face to face and work through the issue. If I’m wrong I will say I’m wrong and try to improve on it if I deem it to be a flaw of mine. Some people are just young and immature but at the same time, once you turn 20 you know better. You may still be immature but you know better than to lie and take advantage of others. You know that is wrong to do definitely by the time you hit 20 lol
I feel like my old middle school friend was like this. At first she seemed like a cool friend. But later on she got worse and sometimes told lies about me to people and started to hangout with other kids. I was terrible at making friends so she was the only one I had...
The people around you are a mirror of who you are! If you don't want fake people around you, then be real! And it will be easy to spot fake people around you.
True- but this makes it hard to connect with people. Now, you have to worry about someone interpreting you sharing your truth as bragging or trying to one-up. If you happened to have done something "better" then don't mention it. Just nod and smile....
It's better to ask someone about themsleves and let them do the same to be a genuine person. No one cares about your past ect unless they ask. This video said nothing about being private is being fake.
@SatinDoll Exactly. I've learned over the years that people's perception of me has nothing to do with me. I spent my 20s jumping through these social hoops only to find that opinions of me never changed. So, I'll be me and people can think whatever they wish
* I agree on number 1-7 points * I disagree on number 8 onward * Because those points are too personal opinion without checking * We are human being, not a perfect flawless AI machine * We cannot point the human flaw as Fake spots / human weakness * Those personal opinion is elaborated too much
Mental health standpoint there are usually more than 1 side to a case; and underlined reasons for their actions which doesn't have to be negative mindset. On the contrary some Introverts, Extraverts, Empath carry some of the trates mentioned & Victims of Abuse parentsles children, case's may have a couple also Cases very per individual situation.
I’ve been betrayed by my own fake friends like Alex Martin, Mary Smith and my best friend Aidan Smith who’ve I’ve known since kindergarten who I’ve been there for years is forced into it because of them. Which left me a bigger target on my back because of what they’ve become. I’ve been targeted and harassed for being around or interacting with them.
I don't like the idea that people who have already been through so much that they've had to develop a fake personality just to try and get through life should be judged like this. Can you imagine the social anxiety those people must be suffering? Also, how do you know there's not their real self, desperate to get out but simply can't because they're trapped inside this fake personality with no idea how to communicate with the outside world in an authentic way. Useful to be able to know when someone isn't being authentic, but what to do next? Instead of ostracising them and making things even worse, how about take a bit of time and patience to gain their confidence and create a little window of understanding, a bit of genuine nourishment and acknowledgement? You might help someone beyond measure and gain a real friend in the process...and if they simply can't? Well, if your own sense of self doesn't have to be invested in someone else to survive, then nothing's lost. I believe all humans are real.
Easy way to spot a fake friend is to ask them for a favor or for help. Seeing how they respond will tell you what you need to know pretty quickly. Make it something that does not cost them anything but their time.
some of this is me but im also very emotional and moody and i love helping and listening. i just dont want to fake. i dont let people push me over and i spend most my time alone even in parties. i dont worship anyone. diagnosed bpd/bipolar and i just dont want to be fake or a narcassist. idk what i am somtimes
Hello everyone If i talk about my self, sadly I have no genuine friend ,but that doesn't mean there is no honest people in the world ,hopefully that means the right people aren't come yet Omsalama from sudan
Fake people are often people pleasers? Wtf? What if you're genuinely just trying to make friends at work by showing them you're trying to be thoughtful and care? Or it could stem from being socially awkward and having trouble making friends at work, so the only thing you know how to do is try to be there for others, and do nice things cause you are not the best at socializing...
A people pleaser is far from a fake person. Where is the proof? If anything they go above and beyond because they never want another person to feel lonely, sad, or depressed. They are extremely loyal and are always available to others even if it is at the sacrifice of themselves. So please don't try and make something out of nothing.
I'm on to them now. Thanks. Too bad I didn't know it earlier. If I catch them not listening as I am speaking I make fun of them. Example: I would tell him or her that they act like they have one ear and two mouths. I know someone who always talks about themselves and hardly ever listen to me. Get them to heel" is a famous/infamous person words I heard and remembered. I guess that would mean to let them know immediately that their social skills are inadequate.
I try to please people, but I don’t hide that which I am. So you are over generalizing. Very few people hit all of these points, and if they have trouble connecting, leave them alone. I’ve found everyone is fake on one level or another.
The best thing to do is to completely ignore them, like they don't even exist. At first, they'll think you're an asshole but eventually they will know the true reason you're ignore them (they will act as if they don't know, but they do) If you think about it, it's not logical for them to assume you're ignoring them for no reason, they will know the reason. It just takes a while for them to admit to themselves that they are fake.
Just puting a few points and concluding that fake persons react like this is being pessimistic...There are lot of people who are genuinely concerned but they r misunderstood ..The WORST character i find in a person is having a PRE CONCEIVED NOTION and being JUDGEMENTAL and forever BLAMING others for things thy hve not even done😣.very sad.....Such people whoever thy meet in life would always keep on judging them according to their PSYCHE and their judgements and those judgements are always fixed ones...Whatever u do ..u wld be termed as the one the other person conceives u as..whether FAKE or GENUINE..My only advice never stay in a relationship where u r constantly being JUDGED ..Move away😇
Have you ever met someone who seemed nice, only to find out that they were not the person you thought they were?
Oh that’s happened to me a few times and I don’t want to give them the time of day
Who I thought cared about me as a friend turned around and said something that was terrible I was lost for words. I couldn’t believe it. Well all can say is Karma will get you eventually
Soooo true it’s definitely disgusting 🤢
Yea I have fake people
@@lostandfound3026 If the person who you thought cared about you, said something terrible, then a single incident does not make that person fake.
Sometimes even the nicest people say terrible things that they don't mean, when they are going through storms. That rarely happens though.
If someone ever made you feel good/happy, then don't be too quick to judge them.
Fake people, on the others hand, can never care for anyone other than themselves even once.
You can sense their low vibrations.
An open enemy is better than a fake friend......
Ur right
@@manlethc Thanks..
Sometimes a fake friend can be just as bad; they tend to know more about you than the average person would. Fake friends will exploit your weakness in a way that can blindside you in the future.
@@oliviao2238 Yeah,you made a good point..
Absolutely right
Fake people tend to expose themselves with their actions.
Right
They are cowards not genuine people who will gossip when your not around
fake people constantly thinking other people are fake
@@Anydeeznutsthat’s happened to me
@@samuelblomquist7827 it’s fine because the way they treat people around them people will treat them back the same way so they are doing a double edge sword on themselves
Oh man fake people are the worst, their only goal sometimes is to drain your positive energy!
Cheers from Improvement Today 🌟
Cheers 🥂 oh yes 🙌🏼
Yes, they will suck the life out of you if you let them!
Yep!!
Totally correct.. Only thing we can do is to be emotionally detached from them
Yeah exactly …
Fake people/friends I find get very angry and defensive if they get told no to/for something that they expect to be told yes to/for. All these 9 signs in the video were all traits of a fake a friend I cut loose 2 years back; a fake friend I kept for too long. Thanks for making this video. Its a good refresher of people we should all not socialize with.
Yes had a few it disgust me I always say you see what you get if you don’t like me too bad. I dependable and loyal. I like to enjoy my friends have fun if they have a problem in their life they know they can come to me and talk. I have their back.
I think they’ve heard something in their life and they are protective of themselves and they don’t want anybody to hurt them so they post on this persona and they’re fake so what are you do and you don’t find that out until some good friends and that’s hurtful they don’t apologize for hurting you nothing too bad for them I don’t have time for crap
Hurt not heard
Stupid phone I’m using my microphoneThat should say put not post
Everything said in this video is "how I learned" during my life and still continue to do so when dealing with everyday people in general...especially neighbors who have been "caught on their own lies". They keep distance from me because I am "honest and call people out" as needed. That's why I like staying by myself. THERE ARE LESS GENUINE PEOPLE TODAY
Not today since the ancient period .....we are evolving from the animal..
That's that's instinct is still is in with us ...
Though civilization socialization whatever it's just a trap to make us especially men weak ...
Is it wor th it, to call em out?
I did. They became vengeful, bashed my on and off internet, and focused a lot of their lunacy on me.
What I keep up front today""
The world is round " for evil ppl.
“The truth eventually actually comes out” Never rely on anybody nor impresse anyone. Be you!
facts
AMEN!!📢😂
Well said
wow! say that again!
AMEN!!!❤❤❤🔥🔥🔥😁😁😁
Narcissists, for example, are amazing at being fake nice.
5 important rules in life
When u are alone mid ur thoughts
When u are with ur freinds mind ur tongue
When u are angery mind ur temper
When u are in trouble mind ur emotion
Wow! Absolutely the best rules to live by. I screenshot this. Thanks for sharing ❤😁
Not always easy to keep those rules
@@ramonaschaefer1966 Takes practice but I know you have the strength dig deep inside you and you will prevail. . If you believe in Jesus Christ relying on Him ask Him to help you He knows your heart ❤️
@@lenebrantley221 yes 🙌🏼 indeed those are wonderful words of wisdom. I’m in the same predicament. I am a nurturing person a good friend and they always come to me for advice except the narcissistic behavior because they know it all and you can’t help them they don’t see themselves and would never admit it. In their eyes they can’t see that they are hurting the people who surround them. All I can do is. ask Jesus to help them.
re: "angry / temper" = Willy Smith ought to have heeded such advice at Oscars!! Will never see another of HIS movies !!
2 things my mom tought me
Never take adventage of someones kind
Never let peaple take advantage of u
"Peaple"
The first one, bragging about yourself and telling true stories should only be done in interviews - but strategically so.
In addition, trust your instincts, we have them for a reason. So don't ignore it and have regrets later.
Your fake
This all sounds very familiar. It's part of why I never use the term friend too loosely. Fake people and users seen to outnumber genuine people.
For sure!
Definitely!
So true. How unfortunate.
Recognize working with th someone 40 hr aweek, doesn't make them sincere , only make em a cousin.
Tho my father's sister kids are older, doesn't make them genuine , or want to see you move up&forward. Fact, just the opposite.
I've noticed that fake people are boisterous, like they're trying to get noticed by others in the crowd & make them wonder what's so funny or exciting. I can pretty much tell a person by how they laugh in different settings. It's like the phony wants to make sure they butter up the influential person by laughing so hard & loud at their conversation.
There's fake and then there's insecure . Have met some selfish fake types, but mainly sadly insecure types, takes one to know one. 😊
If you wanna be a really kind friend you can give the borderline personality type the reassure that they can relax and enjoy your friendship and disagree with you and that's ok. If you remind them from time to time they'll get the hang of it. Some are beyond help, meaner characters, but a lot are kind hearted and don't realise what they're doing or why.
Being authentic is tricky for insecure types. A little love and understanding can go a long way. They aren't (all) evil, just got their wiring in a pickle. Said my piece. Am a self confessed people pleaser myself, but I'm learning to love myself in the good way and be more authentic. I'd never knowingly be inconsiderate to anyone though, just to say, I'm a giver more than a taker.
These psychology tips are so useful. Wish we learned about this type of thing at school.
Thanks 👍
Take care !
Beautifully written and articulated.
Thank you 🫶🏾
Great comment - very insightful and helpful. I’m a recovering fixer and people pleaser.
I dumped a " so called friend* of mine because she was a fake phony person exactly as described here because i also have no patience to let myself get my heart hurt by someone like this ever again I have a loving family and now have a couple of real friends who value my friendship . This video was great and so helpful to me .Thank you so much amd God bless you always.🌹💖💖🎉
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That's why I love this channel; it's like a blueprint in common sense as well as a lesson in every environment we put ourselves in.
@@oliviao2238 Amen to that honey my feelings are the same . I couldnt have said it any better myself. Giod bless you always.🌹💖💖🎉
It is very much like spotting liars in general =) The same tricks apply
Amen to that.
I somewhat disagree. People lie, we lie almost everyday to hide our feelings (regardless if positive or negative) some pathological liars are doing it as their defense mechanism to hide vulnerability.
Fake people are type of personality, not behaviours. They fake things with malicious intent to take advantage of other people. Politicians in general, sales people, financial gurus, MLM and the list continues.
That's my only thought about the subject matter. Peace✌️
From what you described here, many of the people I have met were unfortunately fake. Yet, I always try to remember God still has a purpose why you meet whom you meet. Some are meant to be in your life for a short time, while others are meant to be there for a lifetime.
These people are very toxic and bring nothing to the table in a conversation. I want to point out a situation I was in, I went to a wedding and did not know anyone, and I would strike up a conversation just to congratulate the bride and groom. I guess I'm guilty of this myself at times and did not realize this. Brainy Dose brings the unique perspective that we can all learn.
Just pray for this kind of people.
Nope!!! I AVOID THEM!!!
Exactly
Yeah, no. They can pray for themselves.
It took me a long time to recognize someone like this. I'm naïve and gullible before and they used that against me. It was very stupid of me to believe in every person's words right away.
Me too
Don't blame yourself. It's good you're self aware now.
I've known too many people like this. I have actively deleted many. Feels so good. Cleansing. I have a few more to go.
Wow the one where people try to one up everything you say is the most common I constantly encounter people like this and what gets me is that they know what their doing they even get a kick out of it.
I have met lots of these types in my life. I don’t bother with them anymore.
Yes those signs truly remind me of my friend of 14 years. Prayer is much needed for people like this. Amen👌
I think fake people in the workplace have fear; fear that others may realize that they are not who they portray themselves to be, fear that others may get a promotion and not them, and fear that others are smarter than they are. If you are humble, you will admit to others that you can benefit from their knowledge and learn from them. For example, how did you get your promotion? Can you help me with how I can improve my skills to get a promotion? What skills do you think I should improve? When you are honest with people, if they are genuine, they will help you. Competition is good, but people need to understand that you can always learn something from others in a workplace environment and life. Furthermore, people need to know which people will see you are willing to learn and help and which workplace people are fake.
for me it’s the exaggerated facial expressions and their stare down for your next reaction
I definitely agree with you on every single word you said.
I know people like that
This describes every person right now.
Phone relationships are not healthy .I like face to face the people pleaser is interesting we can always s better ourselves.yes I have known people like this . Awesome video 😊
Stay positive everyone do not let bad people drag y'all down keep praying god will answer y'alls prayers pretty quick keep on praying
Everyone
And in the end, they will eventually backstab you. Me speaking from experience. It's killing me inside too. I don't agree with the title of this video, it's never "instantly". You will know them by their actions.
This was really needed... Thank you brainy dose ❤️🙏💕
These types are narcissists.
Talking about Narcissistic personalities😉
Yes I have a colleague at work who always seeks validation. She comes in an hour before she starts work and does her rounds of speaking to her audience that are gullible enough to held their attention to her. She boasts constantly how she cares for her sick father in law. She totally ignores me for some reason. Maybe she sees me as a threat or she is jealous of me. Not sure. That is fine though because I have absolutely no time for toxic people and neither would I be entertained by them.
That’s because she knows that you have her number! 👌🏻
@@jennytaylor6476 I agree with you. Got her number and she knows it. Gonna stay away from her!
She knows you can see thru her bs. lol
This makes ppl that have suffered from trauma look bad... think it needs more explanation around trauma and why. Some of those people may not even be aware that they have that so called fake behaviour... still some good insight tho..
Agree
Mr. Brainy Dose. A fake person isn't true to his words and actions.
That is very true!
They are fair weather friend at best, hypocrites come to mind. They are careless with money and time.
You got that right 🗣
I. Mormon. Missionaries. Like. That.. Its. All. About. Themselves..
A simple test brings truth to clarity. Example? I told my son this because people borrow money. Let them prove their intentions with giving up $20 and you'll see who would truly be your friend. And who puts you off. Promises kept says that they care.
I had a friend that would get his feelings hurt so easy. If someone in the parking lot at the apartment complex didn't say hello he was totally bummed out he needed validation so much. I remember feeling more like that when I was younger but in my sixties not so much if they say hi they say hi if they don't they don't. But he seemed really hypersensitive to what people thought of him. He had to chat up everybody he met
Very helpful video.
As I was watching it,I started remembering all the fake people I have come across and it made it clear to me,they were really fake.
One person kept saying,"oh I'm always there to help,I would really like to help you out" but every time there was a real need
,I would get the reply,"Okay so how do I know its worth helping you?
how do I know if it will make a difference to the world?
I'm here just to learn to be successful, and I wonder if I'm just wasting my time,listening to a story with no sense,
are you even in need,what are you even doing?
That is like gaslighting along with contradicting their own statement and yet still going on to say," you still have not told me what help you need".
At first I really thought it was miscommunication,and kept explaining but when it kept happening I realised the person really does not care.
I could relate this to so many fake friends, colleagues,I met.
You can add this,fake people often "Gaslight" us so it takes time to understand that they are really being fake.
Thanks again for an eye opening and saviour video. 🙏😊
This episode just described everyone I know in Los Angeles.
I just met a fake person that had all of these signs..He does most of the talking about his job, goals, and past. Never asked me anything besides what kind of work I do..This is a typical person in Chicago.
I met someone online, and first she was acting as if I’m her good friend, and then after a while if I said something that is not even offensive, like for example. She had some sort of problem, and I said to her: you can tell me if you want. I don’t mind. But she took it as if I said I don’t care don’t tell me that. And she got offended and she understood me wrong. The other thing that happened, she was acting all nice to me, but when I was telling her about a situation that I was in and it was hard for me, she wouldn’t listen and she would take the other peoples site. So in the end, I den just got this person out of my life instantly. And as well it sounds like one of the points that you have pointed, that people would seek attention. That’s the way this person was like as well. She said: you act like I’m your regular friend and you don’t act as close to me
Yeah I met a girl in a sports camp in America she was only pretending to be friendly with me and she turned on me and blocked me on everything for somebody elses behavior
She was acting overexcited all the time and was always asking me to get peoples numbers for her and one time she thew a temper tantrum because she wasnt allowed get another girls number she would also fake apologies to people and then talk badly about them the final straw was when she posted an Instagram story where she compared completely defenseless and innocent women and children to nazis
@@ChrisSealy1997 oh my.
Writing to someone online is difficult because the writing has too explain every side to a story that you would like someone too understand your situation. Not everyone has the time the patience too read or write long stories too someone you barely know. Your hope is that you don't offend anyone.
Thumbs up !
I have quite a bit of experiences !
Thanks for sharing !
Great video! There were a couple things I don’t necessarily agree with but overall very good points made. I’ve had one sided convos with a girl before, I was the only one talking but it was because she never said anything. She was terrible at keeping convos going and come to find out she probably had no interest in a long term relationship and was just using me for the attention etc. so that’s why she wasn’t very engaging. Always had to be right, I was always to blame for everything. She was like a light switch, her emotions would turn off so easily. Never understand people like that, I just don’t relate to that stuff. If I feel a certain way I wanna go talk about it face to face and work through the issue. If I’m wrong I will say I’m wrong and try to improve on it if I deem it to be a flaw of mine. Some people are just young and immature but at the same time, once you turn 20 you know better. You may still be immature but you know better than to lie and take advantage of others. You know that is wrong to do definitely by the time you hit 20 lol
They are called narcissists.
Oh yes, I have met a few of these people. Thankfully they are no longer in my life.
Me too!
I want to care for myself only lol but can't resist of helping others too :D
I feel like my old middle school friend was like this. At first she seemed like a cool friend. But later on she got worse and sometimes told lies about me to people and started to hangout with other kids. I was terrible at making friends so she was the only one I had...
Yes, they are in every place waiting for their sole benefits. Thank you for such clear explanation......we can sure avoid these kind of people..
Isn’t more about jealousy,but Fake will do just fine and I’m sure that almost everyone has at least one person like that in their life
It’s even more interesting to watch 2 fake people get together.
Yes! This is exactly her and several other people I know. I’m glad I don’t hang around her anymore.
That's everyone I've ever known with rare exception. Tell them no just once and never see them again.
I have had a lot of fake people in the past and it did a lot of damage in my life.
I agree with this 100%
This is exactly like the people I know...time to change self to change the people around me
The people around you are a mirror of who you are! If you don't want fake people around you, then be real! And it will be easy to spot fake people around you.
Step one: spot the eyes. That’s how you know which one is a replicant.
You may be right, my friend 😂
Too right. The eyes are the windows to the soul. A lot can be said down to eye movement.
@@tonyharrison1726 dang, unfortunately I have RBF
Yes..I have known such a person.
Very helpful! ☺️ thank you 🙏
True- but this makes it hard to connect with people. Now, you have to worry about someone interpreting you sharing your truth as bragging or trying to one-up. If you happened to have done something "better" then don't mention it. Just nod and smile....
It's better to ask someone about themsleves and let them do the same to be a genuine person. No one cares about your past ect unless they ask. This video said nothing about being private is being fake.
@SatinDoll Exactly. I've learned over the years that people's perception of me has nothing to do with me. I spent my 20s jumping through these social hoops only to find that opinions of me never changed. So, I'll be me and people can think whatever they wish
* I agree on number 1-7 points
* I disagree on number 8 onward
* Because those points are too personal opinion without checking
* We are human being, not a perfect flawless AI machine
* We cannot point the human flaw as Fake spots / human weakness
* Those personal opinion is elaborated too much
Mental health standpoint there are usually more than 1 side to a case; and underlined reasons for their actions which doesn't have to be negative mindset. On the contrary some Introverts, Extraverts, Empath carry some of the trates mentioned
& Victims of Abuse parentsles children, case's may have a couple also Cases very per individual situation.
Definitely
Thanks so much for educating.... I know someone like that
I’ve learnt a lot of my own flaws watching this, damn lmao
This just described every comedian on earth...
Yes I know a few people like that and this is very informative thank you for sharing
Sounds like narcissists
I’ve been betrayed by my own fake friends like Alex Martin, Mary Smith and my best friend Aidan Smith who’ve I’ve known since kindergarten who I’ve been there for years is forced into it because of them. Which left me a bigger target on my back because of what they’ve become. I’ve been targeted and harassed for being around or interacting with them.
That's why i have a radar that spot's them out!!😎😌🥀I have many in law's like that...
I don't like the idea that people who have already been through so much that they've had to develop a fake personality just to try and get through life should be judged like this. Can you imagine the social anxiety those people must be suffering? Also, how do you know there's not their real self, desperate to get out but simply can't because they're trapped inside this fake personality with no idea how to communicate with the outside world in an authentic way.
Useful to be able to know when someone isn't being authentic, but what to do next? Instead of ostracising them and making things even worse, how about take a bit of time and patience to gain their confidence and create a little window of understanding, a bit of genuine nourishment and acknowledgement? You might help someone beyond measure and gain a real friend in the process...and if they simply can't? Well, if your own sense of self doesn't have to be invested in someone else to survive, then nothing's lost. I believe all humans are real.
A new co worker of mine was nice to me then switched it up now doesnt talk to me I see these habits in her smh
I had find some of this behavior in me unknowingly it's wrong. Hope I will come over this in this Life.
Easy way to spot a fake friend is to ask them for a favor or for help. Seeing how they respond will tell you what you need to know pretty quickly. Make it something that does not cost them anything but their time.
some of this is me but im also very emotional and moody and i love helping and listening. i just dont want to fake. i dont let people push me over and i spend most my time alone even in parties. i dont worship anyone. diagnosed bpd/bipolar and i just dont want to be fake or a narcassist. idk what i am somtimes
Coworkers, family, neighbors, and friends. I'm there for them, but they have never been there for me. Unless it benefited them.
Many of my family are fake so I know exactly what these people are like.
Hello everyone
If i talk about my self, sadly I have no genuine friend ,but that doesn't mean there is no honest people in the world ,hopefully that means the right people aren't come yet
Omsalama from sudan
You must add that they have tons of friends at every single corner of the World, they've seen the every movie, they know every place and so on..
I am people pleasure and I sure do complement a lot I try not to brag about me but sometimes I do I guess but others I think I don't have them
Yes l met a fake person. He appeared so good initially. He pretended to be my friend and well wisher. But I never felt that way. He was very selfish
Fake people are often people pleasers? Wtf? What if you're genuinely just trying to make friends at work by showing them you're trying to be thoughtful and care? Or it could stem from being socially awkward and having trouble making friends at work, so the only thing you know how to do is try to be there for others, and do nice things cause you are not the best at socializing...
Intention creates the whole difference.Fake people are malevolent,malicious.
A foe is better than a fake friend
A people pleaser is far from a fake person. Where is the proof? If anything they go above and beyond because they never want another person to feel lonely, sad, or depressed. They are extremely loyal and are always available to others even if it is at the sacrifice of themselves. So please don't try and make something out of nothing.
Yes that's meee not fake far from it
Here's how you spot a fake person.
They text you on social media and say you can win a $200,000 package if you give us $4,000.
There scammers.
💯 true happens! I don’t fall for it!
I'm on to them now. Thanks. Too bad I didn't know it earlier. If I catch them not listening as I am speaking I make fun of them. Example: I would tell him or her that they act like they have one ear and two mouths. I know someone who always talks about themselves and hardly ever listen to me.
Get them to heel" is a famous/infamous person words I heard and remembered. I guess that would mean to let them know immediately that their social skills are inadequate.
Yeah just like people who say they don't care about what people think they keep trying to please for money etc
Wow bingo u ain’t lyin👍🏽
They say they love you but don't give a crap about you.
Really good video I’ve seen a lot of these
Narcissism.
What to do if you recognize yourself as a fake person?
You work on yourself.
@@jenniferhcsmith-5586 how dude
@therighttruth8702 5:56 you work on yourself by staying to yourself
That describes my husband to a tee :( But he was abused when he was a child. He gets real mad when I tell him no but I still do then he cools off.
you might be in an abusive marriage...
I'm as real as they get, I just don't give a fuck about others I work with! I do my job, they do theirs.... I'm there to make money, not friends.
I try to please people, but I don’t hide that which I am. So you are over generalizing. Very few people hit all of these points, and if they have trouble connecting, leave them alone. I’ve found everyone is fake on one level or another.
I’m watching this video to analyze myself
Yes!!! I know 😏 a couple of people that fit this description.. 🙏
The best thing to do is to completely ignore them, like they don't even exist. At first, they'll think you're an asshole but eventually they will know the true reason you're ignore them (they will act as if they don't know, but they do) If you think about it, it's not logical for them to assume you're ignoring them for no reason, they will know the reason. It just takes a while for them to admit to themselves that they are fake.
Just puting a few points and concluding that fake persons react like this is being pessimistic...There are lot of people who are genuinely concerned but they r misunderstood ..The WORST character i find in a person is having a PRE CONCEIVED NOTION and being JUDGEMENTAL and forever BLAMING others for things thy hve not even done😣.very sad.....Such people whoever thy meet in life would always keep on judging them according to their PSYCHE and their judgements and those judgements are always fixed ones...Whatever u do ..u wld be termed as the one the other person conceives u as..whether FAKE or GENUINE..My only advice never stay in a relationship where u r constantly being JUDGED ..Move away😇