I'm an ENFJ with a INFP partner. It's by far the strongest and healthiest relationship I've ever been in. I'm a bit older than she is, and I had done extensive shadow work before we met. I've been honest with her from the beginning. I'm not afraid to put my foot down on certain issues and when we have any kind of argument, it's over very quickly.
My dad is an ENFJ and my mom an INFP, so this is super interesting to me. My household was never boring with these two. We have all the diplomats in my house; dad ENFJ, mom INFP, me INFJ, sister ENFP, and other sister ESTP
that sounds like HEAVEN. my household was 3 NFs ENFJ sister, ENFP dad, and INFP me. my mother was ESTJ so life was a living hell for all 3 of us since she is loudest.
I lost my ENFJ 1.5y ago... still devastated and so very sad... the immense love for him will always stay in my heart. difficult to move on and make space for somebody else.. seems impossible..
If you were my uni professor, I’d never get bored nor skip you lectures 🙇🏻♀️ you’re pretty clever and will have a brighter and more brighter future with all the work you put in Have a good one chase :’)
I am not sure if shaming an INFP is effective. I am an INFP who internalizes. It took years for me to figure out I was doing this. Whenever I would feel shamed or judged I would become what I felt I was being accused of and times it by 10. It is horrible. Perhaps this is just a me thing and not an INFP trait. I am motivated by having others speak well of me. It sounds like I definitely need more of the magical traits of the ENFJ around me; I perceive them as bright shinning stars that make the world a better place. Thank you for this video CS Joseph!
I like the energy of this guy. I’m INFP btw. I just watched ur video, I guessed that ur ENTP judging by seeing joker poster behind you. From my experience, I have good relationships in terms of friends with load of entp
This is timely! I just met my first confirmed ENFJ and the conversational chemistry is just effortless and endless. He wants me to do some work for his non for profit... Cliches are there for a reason.
@@idiotslife8508 I am an ISTP and I feel I can become an ENFJ (especially consciously - as prompted by the presence an INFP) quite easily. One of my parents is an ENFJ, so I’ve grown up around this type. I want more videos on the refinement relationship because it feels golden to me and the ESTJ ISTP relationship is actually inconceivable, to me. I can’t imagine dating an ESTJ. I’m probably just not typical enough of an ISTP for that. I much prefer talking with xNFP’s for any purpose any time than any other type.
@RaffertyMBTI Yeah definitely, I have seen this happen. I knew an istp professor. When I was in my lowest times, he was the only one that cared about me. I showed him graditude and from that point he seemed like behaving enfjish. Of course he still had that ti and se directness but he was able to be EXTREMELY caring. He also starting behaving this way around other students too, it was funny and adorable to watch.
I never did this before. Like write a comment on TH-cam. But for years I studied a vast array of different subjects in regards to my personality type. I’m an Infp and it’s really something about the Enfj. I lost my enfj years before he was in a tragic accident. We were not together at the time. But we absolutely loved each other and you described my feelings. I’m currently torn by a enfj that I met. I have no plans of anything. Nor I’m torn because I’m face with the challenges of the enfj being too much
I'm sorry for your loss, that is very sad ❤️ I am an infj with a infp bf and even tho I'm the more extroverted one in the relationship, I'm still introverted. Everything he's said here totally applies to our relationship as well and our energy is nice since we are both introverted.
This was hilarious to watch at how much disdain you have for this couple. I'm an INFP and have learned to appreciate this shaming. I've learned to have no issue telling people the hard facts.
INFP here. Although he has a point, I think our biggest fear is better explained is not being understood and having our thoughts and feelings belittled. Especially by a partner.
@@RaffertyMBTI I'd add to this, what works well for me as an INFP is if you share YOUR thoughts/feelings/opinions as an alternative. Because we're wired to want to understand your perspective, it encourages us to see how you might in fact be right.
NJs will do this with any NPs in the room. My mom is an INFJ, and I'm INTP. She forgets where things are all of the time, but then if a family member who was with her at the "time" she lost something is nearby, she'll just remember. So I always thought she was ISFJ growing up, but really, it's that she was keeping all these memories with us and was super effective with Se memory "totem." All these NJs plotting memories in me... so weird... LOL.
INFPs don't have to be conditioned in childhood to expect spoilage in a marriage. It can still become a naive idealized expectation if they felt neglected as a child. It's just more of a hope than an expectation. It largely depends on how marriage was modelled for them by their parents.
As an ISTP, this video was more useful for me than the ISTP ESTJ video because I want to date INFP’s. Your 8 rules for loving on ISTP’s was bloody useful for me, though. 50:20 TRUTH
As an ISTP, this video was more useful for me than the ISTP ESTJ video because I want to date INFP’s. Your 8 rules for loving on ISTP’s was bloody useful for me, though. 37:51 Morrissey (INFP) literally wrote “I crack the whip” in a song about sex.
@@RaffertyMBTI talking from seeing experience of 4 istp/infp you two will be each others super ego and scratch each others eyes out at some point. They want to be like you badly but hate everything that you are aswell.
@@antanowrites i am a very lovey dovey devoted istp I will be there for the infp it will be okay. Wouldnt choose a stupid infp so i wont have to deal with that bullshit.
Fellow INFP out in Australia. I needed this rocket up my arse to help me help myself out of the holding pattern I've put myself in. Can someone kindly point me in the direction of the upload discussing "the sting of death" please. I appreciate you
I’m an infj that’s why I spend half my day looking at houses on Zillow that I’ll maybe be able to buy in a year instead of actually doing the things that will buy me that house. More fun to just day dream all day, but like you say there’s a little bit of the demon in the hero
I know the psychologist who diagnosed me with autism is an ENFJ and she was great to talk to. Eventually, I did need more practical help in the form of coaching. The coach I had initially wasn't a great fit. I'm sure she's a good person but I just wasn't able to be as open around her. The coach I have now, though, is easier to be open with. I speculate he might be an INFJ. NFJs are the most common types in mental healthcare, if I'm not mistaken. I understand firsthand why that is.
Strange to hear INTJ are most likely atheist, I have in mind my very spiritual sister who see divine forces as a way to boost her willpower, she thinks there are creative and destructive forces in the universe and to pray for the first ones must manifest the best in our lives. She's so profound and poetic at times, I love her. - an atheist INFP
@@CSJoseph I am very likely. I've been watching this channel on and off for years and typed myself according to functions and had a friend type me as well according to functions and also with the type grid. I'm a background type, responding, intuitive, idealist etc. I might look into day trading actually. I know there's a way to try it out without losing money. But I also feel that maybe it doesn't actually have value? Unless you invest the money you're making into something "good". But in any case I also need to make money somehow.
It's because we are Se blind, so whoever you are and do is what we dream for ourselves. We have immense admiration for istp and they are quit intimidating to be honest. Infps are also very adventurous and down for living life and try new things (maybe depends on the enneagram) and that's something we can find in common with istps. We have a lot in common, especially passions and interests. I'm really interested in this pairing and would be down to get more knowledge if you have anything more to say about them two
@@translationmlt2128 how are istp’s intimidating? 😝 I am heavily interested in this pairing, too. I have tonnes of thoughts on it, but I don’t know where to start. Are you a man or a woman?
@@RaffertyMBTI yes, intimidating because idk, it's hard to know what you feel and you internalize what you think. As someone who wants to know how people feel to understand them it's kind of intriguing and that's what's intimidating. Also in the present moment is something I hardly do so I admire people who can do that, I think it's very courage and courageous people are intimidating to me. Okay you can start anywhere you want. I'm a woman
ISFJ Widow with INFP Widower... love our emotional connection among and I’m Widow of an ESFP Male and we had the most amazing marriage but he did not develop to emotionally connect or open up to me because of men being shamed and told they, “ aren’t allowed to have emotions.”
As an INFP I have no issues finding ENFJ's... They end up following me around like a golden retriever puppy.... I connect with them as friends but end up losing romantic interest when they come off too people pleasing.. 😅 I need someone that can stand up to me and call out my boundary crossing... ENFJ'S seem to just be like "oh it's okay if you take advantage of me, I'll be here for you to do it again!" It's an instant turn off
I get your point, but mature Enfjs do actually have boundaries, and can say NO and cut ppl off, letting others step on you, and just take advantage out of you and being a ppl pleaser in general, never been an attractive trait to have 💀 They have to respect themselves enough to not be treated in a bad way, and stop caring if they’re being loved by ppl they don’t even like at first place Best wishes to my fellow Enfj and Infps :’)
My experience was the exact opposite. The INFPs were so clingy and I had to constantly push them away. That all happened when we were teens tho. I think the problem is not the type but the development and focus. I’m UD UF and the once you interacted with sound like SD SF.
@@xnooraxxsnx4537 Being a teenager is very very difficult on some infps, it's like constant pain and rejection. We tend to be love starved. So, it's hard to realise when teenager. Then, we get used to it.
Lol. I kinda can get that. Im infp but tend to be drawn to the leader type more then the sensitive emotional ones as i need someone to offset mine. As im a feeler i tend to go for thinkers and those who are direct and are assertive. Im with an istp so it works well if not with a few bumps here and there but def grown and learned more with someone who challenges me and cuts through some of delusions i can tend to have, some needed realism to a dreamer . Balances itself out nicely 😊
@@superXfairXgirl my ENTP nephew is going through it right now. He may not have Fi but trying to satisfy Ne hero is default for all np so imagine a teenage one.
I honestly think if two people score immensely highly on openness and maybe disagreeableness, the refinement pair might be better. I am RCOEI which means I am very introverted, calm, orderly, egocentric and inquisitive. I prefer INFP’s in love (as an ISTP) because I am disagreeable, calm and curious enough to take the butting heads of the refinement. I’d probably suffer at the hands of an ESTJ and I enjoy being an ENFJ a lot of the time for ESTJ subconscious, which is the sexiest subconscious. 🥵
How to stop an enfj negging? I was making an enfj friend that told he liked me or whatever so I was curious and keep talking to him. Then he said something really rude "you don´t deserve that ..." (I feel that he was questing my worth) along those lines when I already told him my boundaries about don´t talk to me in a rude way unless you think is necessary. Honestly I just blocked him, im ok receiving constructive criticism but that comment really hurt me since i´m trying to raise my self steem.
@@coonieliabsiax3Ni types when immature can be highly suspicious people and they don't trust others unless you're an ISTJ or ISFJ who are extremely predictable. Also xNFJs have this problem where they think they are better than everyone else. The only types they cow down to and either fear or respect are high Te types.
Do all enfjs really like volunteering? It seems typical enough but I also question how likely it is for most of them to actually do it. To me they seem like they'd just spend a lot of time at work then go out to eat at restaurants with friends. Church on the otherhand seems more likely. I've been told by a few enfj workmates that they go to church on a regular basis. But I am a bit weary about trying to find my special person in church as I think I wouldn't get any appropriate opportunities to shoot my shot with them, given the setting. I also am not religious like I was in my youth so I would feel like an imposter. Also, from my experience enfjs are really shy. They'll almost never approach you first despite being evidently attracted to you (sneaking stares and smiling.) Since moving to London, I missed shooting my shot with a few enfjs at the gym. I was too scared to approach as I know many people can be unreceptive to advances from strangers and I didn't realise they were enfjs until after the opportunity passed (I realised after backward analyzing the moment like a typical infp.) Enfj women are one of the few female types I know that are open to talking with strangers. Any other advice on finding enfjs would be greatly appreciated as from my dating experience (and life experience in general) I'm convinced they're the only ones compatible enough to award me with a happy and commited relationship.
28:28 Agree here. ISTP’s are great, too, in terms of sensibility but never had to evolve the brain power to overcome their innate inefficiencies - the ones that INFP’s have. Really don’t know why you think Keanu Reeves is “the most intelligent guy out there” and Sara MBTI made a convincing case for him being ISFP.
A dilemma I’m currently dealing with is whether to subscribe to Joseph’s course or whether to pay for my first 2 years of a theology course… I love Jungian analytical psychology but I also love theology. I’m leaning towards the subscription and just reading theology (which I already do) of my own accord.
May I ask about the change in your opinions on golden pairs? I have recently watched your videos from 2 years ago where you say that golden pairs have little chance of long term survival and burn out quickly, for which reason you do not recommend them..
7.09 I did put everything on the table so early on cause I found myself being unrealistically honest as an INFP and guess what ? Mr ENFJ decided to sabotage the whole thing 🙃
As a female ENFJ, I have never been much into INFPs. We have a lot of common talk in the beginning, but nothing more. As a well-educated overachiever myself, I'm not attracted to lazy, clingy, irresponsible, chaotic men who spend too much time daydreaming, have hard time taking over responsibility and even harder time reciprocating dark humour and uncensored jokes. P.S. I'm definitely ENFJ with the typical ENFJ weaknesses - sensitivity, people-pleasing tendencies, overly caring nature, too much (unnecessary and toxic) empathy, etc (I'm definitely not an ENTJ, although I have the same drive to make things work and happen as my ENTJ friends and I have always been a nerd in academia).
Yeah right🥲i feel shame just my reading it. It is painful but i think u r right. Don't get attracted to us. I am all these things except lazy and chaotic.
1- What makes you think ENFJs can't be spoiled? The idea of being spoiled cannot be attached to one type more than the other, nothing about the functions indicates that factor. You brought up an example that means you have high Si which again makes me think you are more like an ESTJ than ENTP, and you basically measure someone's value solely based on how useful they are and how much they contribute to something, that's an indication of Te dom. 2- You keep repeating in every video about INFPs that you find it good to shame INFPs, and for what? Why do you have such a narrow view of INFPs? I don't care about how many lazy "INFPs" you have met or believe were infps for some reason, that doesn't mean laziness is attached to the INFP. If they don't like doing something or aren't passionate about it, of course, they don't do good? If you knew just a little bit about true INFPs you would see that they are the most eager and competitive about what they are passionate about and only, what they find important in our lives. So why would you cross their boundary like all INFPs are 5-year-olds who need to constantly be disciplined if they didn't listen to you? You are like the parent who would threaten to shame and humiliate their kids if they didn't do what they told them to do, that's pretty much making anyone hate your gut because why would you do that to anyone? They are not even a kid, if they wanted to do something they would and if you don't like them simply just don't hang out or be with an INFP? I don't get it, who do you think you are to encourage humiliating people for whatever reason? Don't encourage people to do what you enjoy doing to others, kindly, it doesn't make any sense and I find it very very stupid with all due respect.
He encourages to humiliate when it's necessary only (frequently because of laziness, credulity or/and lack of courage in INFPs) . Call them out about it is just the duty for anyone close to this type of INFPs who, otherwise, will happily hide and never engage to the process to change. Passion is very important but it's not an excuse to do less. If your lack of passion is that important, try to your circonstances no matter what or leave. Stand your ground, don't hide. But stop rooting and find excuse. Please. Plus, learn to overpass public shame by humility and exposing your honest view, motives and wrongdoings. Your path to grow. - An INFP
@@clarinettel574 "call them out" can be totally different from "humiliate them" and the way he describes that humiliation is he wants people to be completely destroyed with low self esteem instead of encouraging people. No one is lazy for no reason I don't WHY he thinks infps get lazy because they are spoiled? He thinks all infps are like his ex who made him do everything (if that was the case) but come on. Thats a little disrespectful. Also, every type gets lazy? why is it just infps that has to be dragged to the mud, I've seen infps be much more disciplined due to a stong internal value and drive than any type including estjs. People will not grow by being humiliated to the mud as he describes, he is just making people be even more lazy and too scared to even start anything, knowing infps AS an infp :) I say this again, NO ONE deserves to be humiliates no matter what their case is but especially for infps they need a more personal one on one respectful conversation, otherwise maybe they are just not interested in what you are encouraging them for?? like things cannot be forceful as he mentions. I personally dont think this is a good idea for infps. They will eventually find something they are good at and be the best at it, its a personal journey and its no ones business. Learn to have boundaries and respect for yourself buddy, -An INFP
@@svtcarat6386 Fear of public shaming = fear of your wrongdoings being exposed. Any mature individual must have the humility to acknowledge their wrongdoings without feeling like their whole world will crash if they do. If you feel shame, you're probably feeling guilty in most parts. And, to be the best version of yourself, you have to be able to admit you're indeed guilty, in private or publicly. "Yea, you're right. I fucked up x,y,z because I were/thought/did x,y,z and I were so wrong/naive/stupid/delulu/lazy about it. My bad, really." No lame excuse for myself, no "yea but not only me". Just take accountability. It's not a lack of self esteem. It's pure integrity. I respect myself better this way. I can handle the truth about myself in front of any body.
@@clarinettel574 it's not a fear but rather a right. Any mature person will NOT need someone to humiliate them to realize what they did wrong, they listen to individuals without being SHAMED and INSULTED by others, they realize and understand themselves before it all happens. As an infp we are too introverted to wanna be exposed in public that's just how we are, I don't hear infps say they LOVEEE getting exposed and called out in public because "Oh I'm SO confident that I can take public humiliation face on
ENFJ here. Romantically, I don't feel drawn to INFPs, to be honest. Come across as too feminine for my taste. In my relationships, I want to be the feminine one. Friendships, no problem, if they are in their evolved state. I tend to be more drawn to NTs. Then again, I did score 6% as a Feeler.
Lmao. I think i know why i ended up with an entp...😂infp childhood spoilage...life experience before entp....learnt to drive, had mental break down, got traineeship, socialised, went to friends house come across sociaphobic entp playing WoW lol...the rest is history, 😊 infps need to suffer a bit to keep it real...
Is it possible to have a "dope" bedroom things for an INFP with an ENFP? Because I think I had it with my ex. If so, what would be the explanation on the level of functions? Just curious. (If ENFJ is even better for INFP, I think I really need to go volunteering ASAP😁)
This ur explanation of enfj touching infp and infp reacting to it. It has happened with me but with an intj. He was touching me alot and he liked it. Ig intj and enfj are similar in this sense.
Bro you would have the most valuable skool community of all time, why dont you move it there!! it will 25% your business by just using the more optimized platform
@@Abdullah-vm1ho I saw that but they aren't getting to the core of the value proposition, this is the fundamental way to contextualize humans, in fact that is what the skool should be called something like "Human" and not CSJ, I think honestly branding and lack of Te structure is the thing that is keeping CSJ from being a multi multi millionaire, and for jungian psychology to spread, and not have to piece everything together over years, his teaching is at the core of how I look at human behavior - I really think he is a visionary in many ways, and im telling you the cohesive branding and lack of course structure is what's missing
Only 10 minutes in and laughing at the stereotypes. My INTJ daughter is very active at our church…and is married to a pastor. So there goes that theory!
The one ENFJ I have in my life is always criticizing me. Just forever. My biggest and most outspoken critic, and I put up with it, mostly because I know that he needs to do it. I am definitely more intelligent than he is, but I still respect him and he does have somewhat of a social intelligence that I don’t have, so I use him often as an example to follow, but I don’t often actually act on what he has to say.
Fe child thinks Fi Hero deserves it less because it feels more entitled to it. I don't really think I feel entitled to things. I want more than I deserve. So does everyone. But maybe I act as though I am entitled to things without knowing it. But how can the same function, Fi, be both entitled and grateful? If you get what you are owed, why thank anyone for it? Gratitude and entitlement should be inversely proportionate. So why aren't the least grateful types the most 'entitled'? But they aren't. Maybe every function has its object and can either act entitled to it or be grateful for it. Fi's object is care. Si's object is comfort. Ni's object is want. And so on. IDK And Se demon hates Si Child. All demon functions hate their compatible child functions. Because the child is not tortured by the demon like the inferior is and the demon thinks it should be.
@@honor9lite1337 What's wrong, exactly? The first sentence is speculation. I know that. And I should have said so. But it seems plausible to me. The two midde paragraphs are just me thinking out loud. I did not assert anything. (Except that the types with the lowest Fi are not the most entitled, as one might expect given Fi is sometimes labelled as gratitude and gratitude and entitlement are inversely proportionate. So, in that case, I said that reality does not fit what theory might lead me to expect.) I merely asked questions. The last paragraph I think is true. And it doesn't come from theory. I am always observing people.
@@JohnA.Sutton maybe because I’m an ENFJ but i don’t think INFPs are entitled. I love the dreams they have and they show me love i wouldn’t dear imagine. Sometimes all i want to do is listing to them tell me how they want their life to be. i think it’s just difficult for people to understand the mind of an NF. In addition to that, from expiries infps love satire. Even toward themself and how people view them. Not everyone gets it.
@@honor9lite1337seriously that’s what CS Joseph does. He’s always like “if you don’t fit these negative stereotypes of an infp, are you really an infp??” It irritates me so much
As ENTJ i also have a lot of INFP around me. I even am in a relationship with one for two years. The only dark side of the INFP is that they manipulate people and can be very naive. Also they can be incredibly lazy and avoident stubborn, ignorant and there for can come in big problems. Also she has a ton of health complications and doesn’t understand why but she drinks 9 cups of coffee per day and barely sleeps but that cant be it cause coffee is too good. Also she can be very not nice to people and don’t read them well often and when we are in social events it can sometimes look like she is not a nice person and she doesn’t recognise it herself. Overall we have some fire connections and we click very well.
Wait, how can someone be capable of manipulating people and be naive at the same time tho. Also if so, I guess just don’t be around them if they bother you so much.
@@svtcarat6386 how can they not? Also you go from 0 to 100 in a split second by saying just dont be around them if they bother you? Did i say they bother me? Because they do not.
@@OnlyPureSoundsHey! Just wanna see that I agree with you and also I can see why INFP's like you lmao you have this way of constructing sentences that is very logical in a very specific way and it's hysterical.
@@OnlyPureSounds you could’ve just explained how someone can be naive and manipulative at the same time but you just answered with “how can they not” alright cool, cuz i find it ridiculous.
@@svtcarat6386 people are complex they can be manipulative and naive. She is naive in doing things that are rebellious in her eyes and thinks is cool or make her look tough but they are just lame and bring herself in dangerous situations. She is also manipulative in playing games with ppls minds to get what she wants.
This "golden pair" sounds like the bottom of (INFP) women/men feeling delusionally entitled to dating the top high quality (ENFJ) men/women. ENFJ fellows, you can do much better! Don't devalue yourself in such useless toxic relationships.
Infjs are like walls, very stubborn - even though Istps are worse. They do not like exploring different spiritual paths, so it's difficult for them to grasp some truths on a spiritual level. Worst is, they would not even admit it. Ti child can play dumb. Ti can be brillant with the help of Ne, if allowed, but without it, it can look like a wall of bricks. Te + Ne tend to be the most willing to explore - both spiritually and intellectually resulting in "being smart". It's my take on it at least.
@@nalen6346 Depends. The issue with most "stupid" infps is when their truth becomes more important than THE truth. When infps get that truth is not relative, then they start searching for THE truth and become smart. There is the issue of infps wanting to be the own god of their moral compass, that has been fully constructed by societal brainwashing (school, what most people do, what most people think, etc.) When they get this, IF they get this, they can become insanely smart, but also unsuitable for society. Fi hero usually does not allows too much hypocrisy. If they believe something is quite lame and they cannot change it, why would they even bother partaking in this something ? Then the infp may become an hermit, and stay in their bedroom. Because the outside world is just too lame lol.
@@nalen6346 Depends. The issue with most infps is when their truth becomes more important than the truth. When infps get that truth is not relative, then they start searching for the truth and become smart. There is the issue of infps wanting to be the own god of their moral compass, that has been fully constructed by societal brainwashing (school, what most people do, what most people think, etc.) When they get this, and if they get this, they can become insanely smart, but also unsuitable for society. Fi hero usually does not allow too much hypocrisy. If they believe something is quite lame and they cannot change it, why would they even bother partaking in this something ? Then the infp may become an hermit, and stay in their bedroom. Because the outside world is just too lame lol.
@@nalen6346 Depends. The issue with most infps is when their truth becomes more important than the truth. When infps get that truth is not relative, then they start searching for the truth and become smart. There is the issue of infps wanting to be the own god of their moral compass, that has been fully constructed by societal brainwashing (school, what most people do, what most people think, etc.) When they get this, and if they get this, they can become insanely smart, but also unsuitable for society. Fi hero usually does not allow too much hypocrisy. If they believe something is quite lame and they cannot change it, why would they even bother partaking in this something ? Then the infp may become an hermit, and stay in their bedroom. Because the outside world is just not appealing at all.
cs joseph speaks facts but, knowledge is a curse, humanity just start all over again, all the time investment and effort is repeated T_T, not really, for cs joseph listners, it just the mbti type, their lifesstyle means job career free time, are they an english speaker, bilinguals, why is important, it this is why your not perfect or what are capability as fact as it is, why is known, youtube is like by country, so i don't know, haha, T_T, felix faust, T_T busy being felix faust, hahaha for what?, whatverr, what do mean, It's facts, haha, whatever, the lectures are facts, productive and facts but, i'm sorry, i have issue with time, as well is with my attention, i'm curious, why does cs point to this and that fuction know it, mybe a ti critic cs needs a surveyer to do It, its absurd how he does it, but it's definely a fact in his entire lectures probably, I'm sorry it's too much time for me, huh?, haha as every should live up to to change the future, infp idealist, how, why, did say that see I give the points man, that's why cs is underrrated,
Interesting point about spoiled INFP children. My parents were extra-extra-caring, extra-extra-make-us-comfy with my sister and I as children and I was ashamed of that and frustrating because that because 1) we looked like ridiculous privileged babies by others (my Te inf never stand that) 2) it tortures my Ni critic when from time to time, I wanted something, wanted to go out of the confort zone created by my xSxJ and they continuously refused to "keep us safe". What a way to keep an Si child user from growing experiences. But still love my parents very much
I'm an ENFJ with a INFP partner. It's by far the strongest and healthiest relationship I've ever been in. I'm a bit older than she is, and I had done extensive shadow work before we met. I've been honest with her from the beginning. I'm not afraid to put my foot down on certain issues and when we have any kind of argument, it's over very quickly.
My dad is an ENFJ and my mom an INFP, so this is super interesting to me. My household was never boring with these two. We have all the diplomats in my house; dad ENFJ, mom INFP, me INFJ, sister ENFP, and other sister ESTP
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You should do videos about this. Sounds so interesting.
@@lanalvr2413 Are you fucking high?
@@andreagrace1369 goals
that sounds like HEAVEN. my household was 3 NFs ENFJ sister, ENFP dad, and INFP me. my mother was ESTJ so life was a living hell for all 3 of us since she is loudest.
INFP female married to ENFJ male for 12 yrs. We have 3 kids. Great content thank you!
Omg I'm starting to date an ENFJ male too, is there something you would recommend me from your experience? Tell me more about it :') - INFP female
I lost my ENFJ 1.5y ago... still devastated and so very sad... the immense love for him will always stay in my heart. difficult to move on and make space for somebody else.. seems impossible..
As an INFP this video made me thank my traumatic experiences for preventing me from becoming a spoiled brat, so thank you for that silver-lining haha
If you were my uni professor, I’d never get bored nor skip you lectures 🙇🏻♀️ you’re pretty clever and will have a brighter and more brighter future with all the work you put in
Have a good one chase :’)
I am not sure if shaming an INFP is effective. I am an INFP who internalizes. It took years for me to figure out I was doing this. Whenever I would feel shamed or judged I would become what I felt I was being accused of and times it by 10. It is horrible. Perhaps this is just a me thing and not an INFP trait. I am motivated by having others speak well of me. It sounds like I definitely need more of the magical traits of the ENFJ around me; I perceive them as bright shinning stars that make the world a better place. Thank you for this video CS Joseph!
I go through the same thing, fellow INFP.
Infp here. Bringing the darkness to the light is the only way...our darkest parts need to be confronted otherwise we will believe our own lies 😊
your infj
You read my mind, I was looking for this yesterday.
I don’t blame you for avoiding us lol
this lecture really did something to me. all I can think about now are those descriptions of my perfect match.
I missed this type of lectures with the whiteboard and the wand. Lovee itt! 😂❤
I like the energy of this guy. I’m INFP btw. I just watched ur video, I guessed that ur ENTP judging by seeing joker poster behind you. From my experience, I have good relationships in terms of friends with load of entp
Very interesting. Once the Golden pairs are finished, will the silver pairs also be published?
Please make a series on Pedagogues relationships too
How about INFJ-INFP, INFJ-INFJ, or ENFJ-INFJ relationship? Thank you for all your hard work, Chase! As a subscriber for over 4 years, I appreciate it!
Keep watching
This is timely! I just met my first confirmed ENFJ and the conversational chemistry is just effortless and endless. He wants me to do some work for his non for profit... Cliches are there for a reason.
All the best❤, don't let them go unless you really have no option cause it will hurt forever.
Golden vs refinement is a good video idea because being raised by someone of my subconscious type, I feel I can tap into it quite easily.
What do you mean?
@@idiotslife8508 I am an ISTP and I feel I can become an ENFJ (especially consciously - as prompted by the presence an INFP) quite easily. One of my parents is an ENFJ, so I’ve grown up around this type.
I want more videos on the refinement relationship because it feels golden to me and the ESTJ ISTP relationship is actually inconceivable, to me. I can’t imagine dating an ESTJ. I’m probably just not typical enough of an ISTP for that. I much prefer talking with xNFP’s for any purpose any time than any other type.
@RaffertyMBTI
Yeah definitely, I have seen this happen. I knew an istp professor. When I was in my lowest times, he was the only one that cared about me. I showed him graditude and from that point he seemed like behaving enfjish. Of course he still had that ti and se directness but he was able to be EXTREMELY caring. He also starting behaving this way around other students too, it was funny and adorable to watch.
@@idiotslife8508 😃
I never did this before. Like write a comment on TH-cam. But for years I studied a vast array of different subjects in regards to my personality type. I’m an Infp and it’s really something about the Enfj. I lost my enfj years before he was in a tragic accident. We were not together at the time. But we absolutely loved each other and you described my feelings. I’m currently torn by a enfj that I met. I have no plans of anything. Nor I’m torn because I’m face with the challenges of the enfj being too much
I'm sorry for your loss, that is very sad ❤️ I am an infj with a infp bf and even tho I'm the more extroverted one in the relationship, I'm still introverted. Everything he's said here totally applies to our relationship as well and our energy is nice since we are both introverted.
This was hilarious to watch at how much disdain you have for this couple. I'm an INFP and have learned to appreciate this shaming. I've learned to have no issue telling people the hard facts.
Thanks for 52:46 telling me what the INFP’s biggest fear is so I can love them better.
INFP here. Although he has a point, I think our biggest fear is better explained is not being understood and having our thoughts and feelings belittled. Especially by a partner.
@@the7thousand how would you feel when a partner gently disproves you on something factual or principled?
@@RaffertyMBTI That's okay. It can make us feel a little dumb but if they say it in a gentle, loving way then it can actually be a good thing
@@RaffertyMBTI I'd add to this, what works well for me as an INFP is if you share YOUR thoughts/feelings/opinions as an alternative. Because we're wired to want to understand your perspective, it encourages us to see how you might in fact be right.
NJs will do this with any NPs in the room. My mom is an INFJ, and I'm INTP. She forgets where things are all of the time, but then if a family member who was with her at the "time" she lost something is nearby, she'll just remember.
So I always thought she was ISFJ growing up, but really, it's that she was keeping all these memories with us and was super effective with Se memory "totem."
All these NJs plotting memories in me... so weird... LOL.
Isn’t it Se trickster that forgets placing items in the right place?
@Kiyos473solitaryqueen Not really. Not as bad as Si Trickster.
@@catinthepeng2686 then why INFJ?
@Kiyos473solitaryqueen INFJs have Si demon. So their long term memory capacity is even worse.
@@Kiyos473solitaryqueen their Si is Demonic. Their memories are terrible.
Yeah true that it's hard to be with your golden pair. The vulnerability thing is so HARD. It actually kills me.
Thank you CSJ for the awesome content you keep giving us.
INFPs don't have to be conditioned in childhood to expect spoilage in a marriage. It can still become a naive idealized expectation if they felt neglected as a child. It's just more of a hope than an expectation. It largely depends on how marriage was modelled for them by their parents.
Hey Chase, can you please make a comparison between INFJ and ENFP later on please?
2:35 - Forced vulnerability/Season 12 Social Compatibility
6:40 - No matter how flawed you are...
12:34 - Spoiled INFP
37:37 - The Subconscious Mind
INTJ/ENTP vedio was full of performance 😆😆 I loved it so much
Wassup brother! Thanks alot for all that you do! 💪🏾💪🏾
Lecture starts at 25:20
As an ISTP, this video was more useful for me than the ISTP ESTJ video because I want to date INFP’s. Your 8 rules for loving on ISTP’s was bloody useful for me, though.
50:20 TRUTH
Can't wait for ENFP!
I find them to be emotionally clingy. With an exhausting need to be around other people.
As an INFP, thank you for making this video ☺️
As an ISTP, this video was more useful for me than the ISTP ESTJ video because I want to date INFP’s. Your 8 rules for loving on ISTP’s was bloody useful for me, though.
37:51 Morrissey (INFP) literally wrote “I crack the whip” in a song about sex.
@@RaffertyMBTI talking from seeing experience of 4 istp/infp you two will be each others super ego and scratch each others eyes out at some point. They want to be like you badly but hate everything that you are aswell.
Haha yeah I'm not sure infp istp works well 😅 @OnlyPureSounds
@@antanowrites i am a very lovey dovey devoted istp I will be there for the infp it will be okay. Wouldnt choose a stupid infp so i wont have to deal with that bullshit.
@@RaffertyMBTI i am a ENTJ in relationship with INFP. My gf also had a relationship with a ISTP she is completely traumatized by him.🤣
@@OnlyPureSounds oh god what caused the trauma?
12:20 I can think of a couple examples of INFP’s I know who this fits.
You are extraordinary, Chase.
Fellow INFP out in Australia. I needed this rocket up my arse to help me help myself out of the holding pattern I've put myself in. Can someone kindly point me in the direction of the upload discussing "the sting of death" please. I appreciate you
I’m an infj that’s why I spend half my day looking at houses on Zillow that I’ll maybe be able to buy in a year instead of actually doing the things that will buy me that house. More fun to just day dream all day, but like you say there’s a little bit of the demon in the hero
Ni-Hero: I love my Ni dreamland ftw
Se-Inferior: **reality has entered the chat**
Ni-Hero: goddammit
lol!
I know the psychologist who diagnosed me with autism is an ENFJ and she was great to talk to. Eventually, I did need more practical help in the form of coaching. The coach I had initially wasn't a great fit. I'm sure she's a good person but I just wasn't able to be as open around her. The coach I have now, though, is easier to be open with. I speculate he might be an INFJ. NFJs are the most common types in mental healthcare, if I'm not mistaken. I understand firsthand why that is.
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Met a EnFJ recently , he is nice but with internal intution its crazy , he also needs lot of emotion supports but also gives it
Whoa it looks like you can read my mind... So cool! Keep going ❤❤❤
49:30 - How to avoid the Demons
Me INFP female just got broken up by ENFJ male. And surprise surprise, i want him back
Strange to hear INTJ are most likely atheist, I have in mind my very spiritual sister who see divine forces as a way to boost her willpower, she thinks there are creative and destructive forces in the universe and to pray for the first ones must manifest the best in our lives. She's so profound and poetic at times, I love her.
- an atheist INFP
yeah so getting into daytrading now because c.s. joseph said I'll be good at it? lol (I'm infp)
You would if that is actually your type
@@CSJoseph I am very likely. I've been watching this channel on and off for years and typed myself according to functions and had a friend type me as well according to functions and also with the type grid. I'm a background type, responding, intuitive, idealist etc. I might look into day trading actually. I know there's a way to try it out without losing money. But I also feel that maybe it doesn't actually have value? Unless you invest the money you're making into something "good". But in any case I also need to make money somehow.
Or I might not because I don't believe it's right for me. I don't know yet lol
just watched "How Can an INFP Know What to Want After High School?" and will do what it says
I as an ISTP have met INFP’s who’ve told me they loved me “instantly” or sometimes the first day of talking.
It's because we are Se blind, so whoever you are and do is what we dream for ourselves. We have immense admiration for istp and they are quit intimidating to be honest. Infps are also very adventurous and down for living life and try new things (maybe depends on the enneagram) and that's something we can find in common with istps. We have a lot in common, especially passions and interests. I'm really interested in this pairing and would be down to get more knowledge if you have anything more to say about them two
@@translationmlt2128 how are istp’s intimidating? 😝
I am heavily interested in this pairing, too. I have tonnes of thoughts on it, but I don’t know where to start. Are you a man or a woman?
@@RaffertyMBTI yes, intimidating because idk, it's hard to know what you feel and you internalize what you think. As someone who wants to know how people feel to understand them it's kind of intriguing and that's what's intimidating. Also in the present moment is something I hardly do so I admire people who can do that, I think it's very courage and courageous people are intimidating to me. Okay you can start anywhere you want. I'm a woman
Recently watched Netflix series One Day, think this is ENFJ male and INFP female
ISFJ Widow with INFP Widower... love our emotional connection among and I’m Widow of an ESFP Male and we had the most amazing marriage but he did not develop to emotionally connect or open up to me because of men being shamed and told they, “ aren’t allowed to have emotions.”
Confused by "tolerate ENFJs being wrong"
As an INFP I have no issues finding ENFJ's... They end up following me around like a golden retriever puppy.... I connect with them as friends but end up losing romantic interest when they come off too people pleasing.. 😅 I need someone that can stand up to me and call out my boundary crossing... ENFJ'S seem to just be like "oh it's okay if you take advantage of me, I'll be here for you to do it again!" It's an instant turn off
I get your point, but mature Enfjs do actually have boundaries, and can say NO and cut ppl off, letting others step on you, and just take advantage out of you and being a ppl pleaser in general, never been an attractive trait to have 💀
They have to respect themselves enough to not be treated in a bad way, and stop caring if they’re being loved by ppl they don’t even like at first place
Best wishes to my fellow Enfj and Infps :’)
My experience was the exact opposite. The INFPs were so clingy and I had to constantly push them away. That all happened when we were teens tho. I think the problem is not the type but the development and focus. I’m UD UF and the once you interacted with sound like SD SF.
@@xnooraxxsnx4537 Being a teenager is very very difficult on some infps, it's like constant pain and rejection. We tend to be love starved. So, it's hard to realise when teenager. Then, we get used to it.
Lol. I kinda can get that. Im infp but tend to be drawn to the leader type more then the sensitive emotional ones as i need someone to offset mine. As im a feeler i tend to go for thinkers and those who are direct and are assertive. Im with an istp so it works well if not with a few bumps here and there but def grown and learned more with someone who challenges me and cuts through some of delusions i can tend to have, some needed realism to a dreamer . Balances itself out nicely 😊
@@superXfairXgirl my ENTP nephew is going through it right now. He may not have Fi but trying to satisfy Ne hero is default for all np so imagine a teenage one.
been on and off with infp, allthis video given to us is 1000% true , im afraid to criticize her
I honestly think if two people score immensely highly on openness and maybe disagreeableness, the refinement pair might be better. I am RCOEI which means I am very introverted, calm, orderly, egocentric and inquisitive.
I prefer INFP’s in love (as an ISTP) because I am disagreeable, calm and curious enough to take the butting heads of the refinement. I’d probably suffer at the hands of an ESTJ and I enjoy being an ENFJ a lot of the time for ESTJ subconscious, which is the sexiest subconscious. 🥵
How to stop an enfj negging? I was making an enfj friend that told he liked me or whatever so I was curious and keep talking to him. Then he said something really rude "you don´t deserve that ..." (I feel that he was questing my worth) along those lines when I already told him my boundaries about don´t talk to me in a rude way unless you think is necessary. Honestly I just blocked him, im ok receiving constructive criticism but that comment really hurt me since i´m trying to raise my self steem.
They loyalty check to see if you’re worth their time. They’re always trying to figure out if people are going to be loyal to them.
@@neenmc4445 well loyalty is earned i was just getting to knowing him. Interesting tho
@@coonieliabsiax3 it’s not tho. No one can do enough to earn loyalty. It’s a gift. And a risk.
@@coonieliabsiax3Ni types when immature can be highly suspicious people and they don't trust others unless you're an ISTJ or ISFJ who are extremely predictable. Also xNFJs have this problem where they think they are better than everyone else. The only types they cow down to and either fear or respect are high Te types.
Judging from Se Demon's accent, I have a feeling you were Dracula this Halloween.
Honestly, better then an erotic book right here
Do all enfjs really like volunteering? It seems typical enough but I also question how likely it is for most of them to actually do it. To me they seem like they'd just spend a lot of time at work then go out to eat at restaurants with friends.
Church on the otherhand seems more likely. I've been told by a few enfj workmates that they go to church on a regular basis. But I am a bit weary about trying to find my special person in church as I think I wouldn't get any appropriate opportunities to shoot my shot with them, given the setting. I also am not religious like I was in my youth so I would feel like an imposter.
Also, from my experience enfjs are really shy. They'll almost never approach you first despite being evidently attracted to you (sneaking stares and smiling.) Since moving to London, I missed shooting my shot with a few enfjs at the gym. I was too scared to approach as I know many people can be unreceptive to advances from strangers and I didn't realise they were enfjs until after the opportunity passed (I realised after backward analyzing the moment like a typical infp.) Enfj women are one of the few female types I know that are open to talking with strangers.
Any other advice on finding enfjs would be greatly appreciated as from my dating experience (and life experience in general) I'm convinced they're the only ones compatible enough to award me with a happy and commited relationship.
To C.S. Joseph: 🎈 thank you for this video. Do you mean in the system Socionics EII or IEI (as "INFP")?
28:28 Agree here. ISTP’s are great, too, in terms of sensibility but never had to evolve the brain power to overcome their innate inefficiencies - the ones that INFP’s have.
Really don’t know why you think Keanu Reeves is “the most intelligent guy out there” and Sara MBTI made a convincing case for him being ISFP.
Keanu is ISFP
How can you miss his Ne? Just watch his interviews and compare him to Zain Malik who is an ISFP.
I found my ENFJ man outside a club. BUT ENFJ’s also love Spartan races
Update: no longer my guy.
« Club isn’t the best place to find a lover »
Or did the types get the « perfect match » wrong ?
XOXO Gossip Girl.
Aww I love enfjs
its so fun being people being wanted
Enfp infj 🙏 please
A dilemma I’m currently dealing with is whether to subscribe to Joseph’s course or whether to pay for my first 2 years of a theology course… I love Jungian analytical psychology but I also love theology. I’m leaning towards the subscription and just reading theology (which I already do) of my own accord.
May I ask about the change in your opinions on golden pairs? I have recently watched your videos from 2 years ago where you say that golden pairs have little chance of long term survival and burn out quickly, for which reason you do not recommend them..
7.09 I did put everything on the table so early on cause I found myself being unrealistically honest as an INFP and guess what ? Mr ENFJ decided to sabotage the whole thing 🙃
ENFJs like the mystery so don't be too open with them unless you guys are the same gender.
As a female ENFJ, I have never been much into INFPs. We have a lot of common talk in the beginning, but nothing more. As a well-educated overachiever myself, I'm not attracted to lazy, clingy, irresponsible, chaotic men who spend too much time daydreaming, have hard time taking over responsibility and even harder time reciprocating dark humour and uncensored jokes.
P.S. I'm definitely ENFJ with the typical ENFJ weaknesses - sensitivity, people-pleasing tendencies, overly caring nature, too much (unnecessary and toxic) empathy, etc (I'm definitely not an ENTJ, although I have the same drive to make things work and happen as my ENTJ friends and I have always been a nerd in academia).
@@KY18-s1w you need to meet a real INFP man like me 😅
Yeah right🥲i feel shame just my reading it. It is painful but i think u r right. Don't get attracted to us. I am all these things except lazy and chaotic.
Sounds wonderful, yet odd as from an ENTP who married an ESTP. It's not that simple, right?
1- What makes you think ENFJs can't be spoiled? The idea of being spoiled cannot be attached to one type more than the other, nothing about the functions indicates that factor. You brought up an example that means you have high Si which again makes me think you are more like an ESTJ than ENTP, and you basically measure someone's value solely based on how useful they are and how much they contribute to something, that's an indication of Te dom.
2- You keep repeating in every video about INFPs that you find it good to shame INFPs, and for what? Why do you have such a narrow view of INFPs? I don't care about how many lazy "INFPs" you have met or believe were infps for some reason, that doesn't mean laziness is attached to the INFP. If they don't like doing something or aren't passionate about it, of course, they don't do good? If you knew just a little bit about true INFPs you would see that they are the most eager and competitive about what they are passionate about and only, what they find important in our lives. So why would you cross their boundary like all INFPs are 5-year-olds who need to constantly be disciplined if they didn't listen to you? You are like the parent who would threaten to shame and humiliate their kids if they didn't do what they told them to do, that's pretty much making anyone hate your gut because why would you do that to anyone? They are not even a kid, if they wanted to do something they would and if you don't like them simply just don't hang out or be with an INFP? I don't get it, who do you think you are to encourage humiliating people for whatever reason? Don't encourage people to do what you enjoy doing to others, kindly, it doesn't make any sense and I find it very very stupid with all due respect.
Glad someone dared to say it
He encourages to humiliate when it's necessary only (frequently because of laziness, credulity or/and lack of courage in INFPs) . Call them out about it is just the duty for anyone close to this type of INFPs who, otherwise, will happily hide and never engage to the process to change. Passion is very important but it's not an excuse to do less. If your lack of passion is that important, try to your circonstances no matter what or leave. Stand your ground, don't hide. But stop rooting and find excuse. Please.
Plus, learn to overpass public shame by humility and exposing your honest view, motives and wrongdoings. Your path to grow.
- An INFP
@@clarinettel574 "call them out" can be totally different from "humiliate them" and the way he describes that humiliation is he wants people to be completely destroyed with low self esteem instead of encouraging people. No one is lazy for no reason I don't WHY he thinks infps get lazy because they are spoiled? He thinks all infps are like his ex who made him do everything (if that was the case) but come on. Thats a little disrespectful. Also, every type gets lazy? why is it just infps that has to be dragged to the mud, I've seen infps be much more disciplined due to a stong internal value and drive than any type including estjs. People will not grow by being humiliated to the mud as he describes, he is just making people be even more lazy and too scared to even start anything, knowing infps AS an infp :) I say this again, NO ONE deserves to be humiliates no matter what their case is but especially for infps they need a more personal one on one respectful conversation, otherwise maybe they are just not interested in what you are encouraging them for?? like things cannot be forceful as he mentions. I personally dont think this is a good idea for infps. They will eventually find something they are good at and be the best at it, its a personal journey and its no ones business. Learn to have boundaries and respect for yourself buddy,
-An INFP
@@svtcarat6386
Fear of public shaming = fear of your wrongdoings being exposed. Any mature individual must have the humility to acknowledge their wrongdoings without feeling like their whole world will crash if they do. If you feel shame, you're probably feeling guilty in most parts. And, to be the best version of yourself, you have to be able to admit you're indeed guilty, in private or publicly. "Yea, you're right. I fucked up x,y,z because I were/thought/did x,y,z and I were so wrong/naive/stupid/delulu/lazy about it. My bad, really." No lame excuse for myself, no "yea but not only me". Just take accountability. It's not a lack of self esteem. It's pure integrity.
I respect myself better this way. I can handle the truth about myself in front of any body.
@@clarinettel574 it's not a fear but rather a right. Any mature person will NOT need someone to humiliate them to realize what they did wrong, they listen to individuals without being SHAMED and INSULTED by others, they realize and understand themselves before it all happens. As an infp we are too introverted to wanna be exposed in public that's just how we are, I don't hear infps say they LOVEEE getting exposed and called out in public because "Oh I'm SO confident that I can take public humiliation face on
ENFJ here. Romantically, I don't feel drawn to INFPs, to be honest. Come across as too feminine for my taste. In my relationships, I want to be the feminine one. Friendships, no problem, if they are in their evolved state. I tend to be more drawn to NTs. Then again, I did score 6% as a Feeler.
My girfriend is an INFP and I am not an ENFJ.
Lmao. I think i know why i ended up with an entp...😂infp childhood spoilage...life experience before entp....learnt to drive, had mental break down, got traineeship, socialised, went to friends house come across sociaphobic entp playing WoW lol...the rest is history, 😊 infps need to suffer a bit to keep it real...
48:00 - The Sting of Death
Is it possible to have a "dope" bedroom things for an INFP with an ENFP? Because I think I had it with my ex. If so, what would be the explanation on the level of functions? Just curious. (If ENFJ is even better for INFP, I think I really need to go volunteering ASAP😁)
Wait, are you saying John Wick is an INFP?
This ur explanation of enfj touching infp and infp reacting to it. It has happened with me but with an intj. He was touching me alot and he liked it. Ig intj and enfj are similar in this sense.
Of course they are Se users
What if i want to date an intj? Will it work? I like enfjs too but still i like intjs more. Enfj give me friend like vibe. And intj more like a lover.
Bro you would have the most valuable skool community of all time, why dont you move it there!! it will 25% your business by just using the more optimized platform
He does
Search skool/c.s joseph
@@Abdullah-vm1ho I saw that but they aren't getting to the core of the value proposition, this is the fundamental way to contextualize humans, in fact that is what the skool should be called something like "Human" and not CSJ, I think honestly branding and lack of Te structure is the thing that is keeping CSJ from being a multi multi millionaire, and for jungian psychology to spread, and not have to piece everything together over years, his teaching is at the core of how I look at human behavior - I really think he is a visionary in many ways, and im telling you the cohesive branding and lack of course structure is what's missing
Only 10 minutes in and laughing at the stereotypes. My INTJ daughter is very active at our church…and is married to a pastor. So there goes that theory!
🎆 Does C.S. Joseph mean the system "MBTI"?
Nooooooo he's got his own system, he just uses the same letters
Funny how ENFJs want INFPs to listen to their Ti Inferior even though the INFP is smarter 😂
Fe Hero absorbs Fi Hero and INFPs are illogical.
The one ENFJ I have in my life is always criticizing me. Just forever. My biggest and most outspoken critic, and I put up with it, mostly because I know that he needs to do it. I am definitely more intelligent than he is, but I still respect him and he does have somewhat of a social intelligence that I don’t have, so I use him often as an example to follow, but I don’t often actually act on what he has to say.
Bridgerton season 3, Collin ENFJ and Penelope INFP x
Real question: why were you avoiding INFPs?
Fe child thinks Fi Hero deserves it less because it feels more entitled to it.
I don't really think I feel entitled to things. I want more than I deserve. So does everyone. But maybe I act as though I am entitled to things without knowing it.
But how can the same function, Fi, be both entitled and grateful? If you get what you are owed, why thank anyone for it? Gratitude and entitlement should be inversely proportionate. So why aren't the least grateful types the most 'entitled'? But they aren't. Maybe every function has its object and can either act entitled to it or be grateful for it. Fi's object is care. Si's object is comfort. Ni's object is want. And so on. IDK
And Se demon hates Si Child. All demon functions hate their compatible child functions. Because the child is not tortured by the demon like the inferior is and the demon thinks it should be.
This is so wrong at many levels, this is the great example of forcing a theory to fits reality. @@JohnA.Sutton
@@honor9lite1337 What's wrong, exactly?
The first sentence is speculation. I know that. And I should have said so. But it seems plausible to me.
The two midde paragraphs are just me thinking out loud. I did not assert anything. (Except that the types with the lowest Fi are not the most entitled, as one might expect given Fi is sometimes labelled as gratitude and gratitude and entitlement are inversely proportionate. So, in that case, I said that reality does not fit what theory might lead me to expect.) I merely asked questions.
The last paragraph I think is true. And it doesn't come from theory. I am always observing people.
@@JohnA.Sutton maybe because I’m an ENFJ but i don’t think INFPs are entitled. I love the dreams they have and they show me love i wouldn’t dear imagine. Sometimes all i want to do is listing to them tell me how they want their life to be. i think it’s just difficult for people to understand the mind of an NF. In addition to that, from expiries infps love satire. Even toward themself and how people view them. Not everyone gets it.
@@honor9lite1337seriously that’s what CS Joseph does. He’s always like “if you don’t fit these negative stereotypes of an infp, are you really an infp??” It irritates me so much
Why are you so slow in this vedio, your INTJ/ENTP vedio was enjoyable
Life beats me down sometimes
@@CSJoseph Hope you are doing well
As ENTJ i also have a lot of INFP around me. I even am in a relationship with one for two years. The only dark side of the INFP is that they manipulate people and can be very naive. Also they can be incredibly lazy and avoident stubborn, ignorant and there for can come in big problems. Also she has a ton of health complications and doesn’t understand why but she drinks 9 cups of coffee per day and barely sleeps but that cant be it cause coffee is too good. Also she can be very not nice to people and don’t read them well often and when we are in social events it can sometimes look like she is not a nice person and she doesn’t recognise it herself. Overall we have some fire connections and we click very well.
Wait, how can someone be capable of manipulating people and be naive at the same time tho. Also if so, I guess just don’t be around them if they bother you so much.
@@svtcarat6386 how can they not? Also you go from 0 to 100 in a split second by saying just dont be around them if they bother you? Did i say they bother me? Because they do not.
@@OnlyPureSoundsHey! Just wanna see that I agree with you and also I can see why INFP's like you lmao
you have this way of constructing sentences that is very logical in a very specific way and it's hysterical.
@@OnlyPureSounds you could’ve just explained how someone can be naive and manipulative at the same time but you just answered with “how can they not” alright cool, cuz i find it ridiculous.
@@svtcarat6386 people are complex they can be manipulative and naive. She is naive in doing things that are rebellious in her eyes and thinks is cool or make her look tough but they are just lame and bring herself in dangerous situations. She is also manipulative in playing games with ppls minds to get what she wants.
Is that a wand😂
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Bro hates infps????????? wtfh ahahahahahah
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6:12 The Russian accent kills me 😂😂😂
My plan is to take a course at expressive-art school mowahahahahaha! >:)
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Noooooo, bruh best pairing for infp is estj!!!
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This "golden pair" sounds like the bottom of (INFP) women/men feeling delusionally entitled to dating the top high quality (ENFJ) men/women.
ENFJ fellows, you can do much better! Don't devalue yourself in such useless toxic relationships.
I don’t think infps are the smartest, I think infjs are because of te trickster same way you say isfps are the most creative because of ne trickster
Infjs are like walls, very stubborn - even though Istps are worse. They do not like exploring different spiritual paths, so it's difficult for them to grasp some truths on a spiritual level. Worst is, they would not even admit it. Ti child can play dumb. Ti can be brillant with the help of Ne, if allowed, but without it, it can look like a wall of bricks. Te + Ne tend to be the most willing to explore - both spiritually and intellectually resulting in "being smart". It's my take on it at least.
So INFP are the most realistic feeler or something like that?
@@nalen6346 Depends. The issue with most "stupid" infps is when their truth becomes more important than THE truth. When infps get that truth is not relative, then they start searching for THE truth and become smart. There is the issue of infps wanting to be the own god of their moral compass, that has been fully constructed by societal brainwashing (school, what most people do, what most people think, etc.) When they get this, IF they get this, they can become insanely smart, but also unsuitable for society. Fi hero usually does not allows too much hypocrisy. If they believe something is quite lame and they cannot change it, why would they even bother partaking in this something ? Then the infp may become an hermit, and stay in their bedroom. Because the outside world is just too lame lol.
@@nalen6346 Depends. The issue with most infps is when their truth becomes more important than the truth. When infps get that truth is not relative, then they start searching for the truth and become smart. There is the issue of infps wanting to be the own god of their moral compass, that has been fully constructed by societal brainwashing (school, what most people do, what most people think, etc.) When they get this, and if they get this, they can become insanely smart, but also unsuitable for society. Fi hero usually does not allow too much hypocrisy. If they believe something is quite lame and they cannot change it, why would they even bother partaking in this something ? Then the infp may become an hermit, and stay in their bedroom. Because the outside world is just too lame lol.
@@nalen6346 Depends. The issue with most infps is when their truth becomes more important than the truth. When infps get that truth is not relative, then they start searching for the truth and become smart. There is the issue of infps wanting to be the own god of their moral compass, that has been fully constructed by societal brainwashing (school, what most people do, what most people think, etc.) When they get this, and if they get this, they can become insanely smart, but also unsuitable for society. Fi hero usually does not allow too much hypocrisy. If they believe something is quite lame and they cannot change it, why would they even bother partaking in this something ? Then the infp may become an hermit, and stay in their bedroom. Because the outside world is just not appealing at all.
cs joseph speaks facts but, knowledge is a curse, humanity just start all over again, all the time investment and effort is repeated T_T, not really,
for cs joseph listners,
it just the mbti type, their lifesstyle means job career free time, are they an english speaker, bilinguals, why is important, it this is why your not perfect or what are capability as fact as it is, why is known, youtube is like by country, so i don't know, haha,
T_T, felix faust, T_T busy being felix faust, hahaha for what?, whatverr, what do mean, It's facts,
haha, whatever, the lectures are facts,
productive and facts but, i'm sorry,
i have issue with time, as well is with my attention, i'm curious, why does cs point to this and that fuction know it, mybe a ti critic
cs needs a surveyer to do It, its absurd how he does it, but it's definely a fact in his entire lectures probably, I'm sorry it's too much time for me, huh?,
haha
as every should live up to to change the future, infp idealist, how, why, did say that see
I give the points man, that's why cs is underrrated,
I refuse to identify as an infp, i am merely trapped with the brain of an infp, is this the sort of thing that only an infp can come up with? 😊
Interesting point about spoiled INFP children.
My parents were extra-extra-caring, extra-extra-make-us-comfy with my sister and I as children and I was ashamed of that and frustrating because that because
1) we looked like ridiculous privileged babies by others (my Te inf never stand that)
2) it tortures my Ni critic when from time to time, I wanted something, wanted to go out of the confort zone created by my xSxJ and they continuously refused to "keep us safe". What a way to keep an Si child user from growing experiences.
But still love my parents very much
Same my parents are very protective as well. That's why ig every entp i talk to hates me😢. They think i am privileged or something.