4 KEY STRATEGIES for moving on from a narcissistic relationship
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The narcissist having a new partner is like recasting actors in a long running series with the same toxic plot and new victims, like a bad remake.
I always put single never married. I was married to a bum narc for three years. I was the only one working. He i heard played the exact game he played on me. Got a business going and it died fast. His new supply he married they stayed together 30 years till his death. She completely supported him. Needless to say she was head bookkeeper of a doctor office. Buying new trucks for him. Spending way more money than a bookkeeper would make. I believe it’s called embezzlement! The story of two narcissists in love.
My daughters father and I still live together because I'm not financially capable of moving out quite yet. He's already on dating apps. I don't feed his emotional and narcissistic needs, so he looks elsewhere. What people need to tell themselves repeatedly is that those behaviors reflect how afraid they are to be alone. That is a reflection of him not me. My focus will continue to be my daughter and bettering myself. I know I will get married somewhere down the line and it will be beautiful. That will come to me when it is time. But to get to that point, I need to focus on myself and my children. I will not let his narcissism dictate the rest of my life. I will make a good life for myself and my daughters.
Great analogy 👏
I saw he is meeting his new supply the same place he met me...
@@roseanngood2834 I went homeless and houseless to escape. States provide a one-way "domestic violence run." (Some states will actually pay to send you with a uhaul crate!) Use it! I did. It was hard, but I never regretted it.
Since you have children, you can take them with you to a shelter. You might never have the money to move out.
Think about your children. Defend them. They are the only thing that truly matters to you!
1/ Implementing Strict No Contact!!
2/ Seeking professional Therapy
3/ Building A Strong Support System
4/ Focusing On Self Care!!!And Acknowledging The Abuse
5. Develop an interest in something; get a hobby. That may sound trivial. But, you’ve probably been kept very busy, maybe for years or decades, by the neediness and soul sapping nature, of being with a narcissist. You may have been interested in something before the narcissist arrived in your life, but their arrival obliterated it. Try to reconnect with that or find something new. I always think of the mind, as a bookshelf, where you put new books on one end and it knocks old books off the other end. You won’t be ruminating about that narcissist so much, if you start concentrating on something new.
I’m in a fifty year marriage and still in it. Money is the reason I can’t leave! I pray to God for a miracle. I always knew he didn’t love me just didn’t know WHY. Thank you for giving me the WHY!
Trust me you are not alone.
Fifty! That's a whole life.
Keeping you in prayer. Maybe a friend or another family member could help.
I am at the 36 year mark
See a family law attorney to see what your rights are if you decide to divorce. 50 years means you are entitled to almost 50% of his pension, 401k and Social Security if you leave. You’re entitled to 50% of any property you co-own. Some jurisdictions will force your stbx to pay for your divorce lawyer. It’s confidential and you don’t have to go through with it if it’s not for you.
Take the time to reflect and process what happened. But then put the focus back on yourself. Set boundaries, practice self love. Start doing the things you loved to do again.
Dr. Ramani, I just wanted to say thank you. I stumbled on one of your videos a while back and it made me realize that it was never going to get better. I endured horrible physical abuse but the fog and confusion that was every day of my life for 16 years was even worse and I didn't understand what it was until I found you. I'm free now and you are continuing to help me heal. Thank you so much ❤
It is my story too. I saw the videos in 2019 am now healed. I went to counselling and also trained as a counsellor.
Self discovery. long term no contact provides the opportunity to examine the whys of how you ended up in an abusive relationship. For me, the deep connection of choosing an abuser is directly related to being treated the same as a child. Denial. years of denying reality. Who wants to deal with a painful past? Yet, necessary to get to the heart of healing. The abuser no longer seems powerful. They merely appear as an crafty, creepy opportunist. Elevate yourself for you.
Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
Man I wish I'd had someone like Dr.Ramani when I was young. I think in hindsight I was looking in the right directions. It's the wasted time that still hurts. And I do have substantial talents that weren't used. I can only hope that we all move forward and do better. So much suffering, manipulation and waste in our world. I don't even trust my own perspective these days.
It will take time, but trust me it is possible to go back to who you once was. Just give yourself time . Some counselling can help too.
We can't fix them. It's waste of time to keep trying.
They don’t want fixing
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I can't live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
It's always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You won't regret it
Cutting all ties have been hard but must be done, has been done. Why I miss the relationship is beyond me. I ask myself, what is it you miss? Being abused, cheated on, lied to, treated like s***, etc....Nope don't miss that at all. I guess I'm sad over what could have been.
Its normal to be sad but dont worry in the long run you will be fully restored.
The abandonment wound is fierce, though.
@@littlelf7290 would you like additional support through counseling?
@@littlelf7290 Indeed it is.
Sometimes it hurts my heart to hear the truth in everything you say. But in a good way, a growing and healing way.
Screw social media...
Go for a walk instead...
Outside is better...
And yep, a year off is a good place to start building you again..
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Wow that's nice She makes you that much!! please is there a way to reach her services, I work 3 jobs and trying to pay off my debts for a while now!! Please help me.
My ex was a narsisist. When I went NC he had hidden bills from when we were together and got them sent to my house only for me to be terrified if I could pay my rent, break NC and reaching out. When I did he would tell me he had a heart problem and would make up fake dates he was going to pay the bill.. I finally got a lawyer, he discarded me in May and at least I live far away from him.. But I'm exhausted!
Sending you love Sea. Please dont re-establish contact
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Dear Dr. Ramani,
First of all, I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the help you offer to victims of narcissists. Your knowledge, experience and wisdom is so incredibly valuable. Thank you for being here.
Unfortunately, there is no one of your caliber in my home country of Germany and unfortunately, many people don't read your book because the language barrier puts them off. I have read your book, my English is good enough to understand, but many Germans find it too challenging. I am convinced that many more Germans would read your book if there was a German edition. Is there a plan to publish the book in German? Kind regards, you have helped me a lot. Thank you so much! ❤
I’m a scapegoat that comes from a narcissistic family system. I’m breaking away slowly but surely, and I’m going no contact once I do. I love your channel giving advice on how to deal with narcissistic behavior. If it weren’t for these videos I don’t know where I’d be - certainly not as positive as I am now.
I was that parent who felt guilty about the times when I was so consumed with the crazy narcissist, that I felt like my kids suffered for that.
I left my 9 month old & on in my mommy dearests care while I completed higher education.
She was an abuser to me, I just hadn’t realized that just yet. I thought I was just a bad child. Very bad.
@@chilloften My grand-mum made me feel that way
I had to get off social media altogether. I have local friends and decided to simplify. I let a bit left out at first, but don’t think about it much anymore.
You do you. You will be okay
Thank God I got off Social Media well before the end. Made no contact soooo much easier and healthier
Why the hell would you want to jump into another relationship?
If you're looking for a hero then be your own hero!!
Be loving to yourself and be kind to yourself. And positive social networks helps you to feel less lonely and helps us to feel validated and valued. Be mindful of your vulnerability though.
I know a narcissistic lady who married a narcissist man. Right after their divorce he put his wedding on FB. She had no idea until someone asked her about his new wife. I consider narcissists getting in new relationships are Blessings to the rest of us normal ppl! We're free to be happy!!!
Im going through this RIGHT NOW. The narcissist, since i stone-walled him and asked him to leave my life and never come back again, has been going around the town, looking for any and everyone i know (friends, family, colleagues, ex colleagues, neighbours...etc), and bad mouthing about me. It has been going on for the past few months. It's so intense, busy, and non-stop. I wonder how much time and energy that must take, and why would anyone be so desperate?
However, this channel helped me. I knew it would be coming my way once i called out the narcissist and threw him out of my life. So i was prepared and has already had conversations wtih those who matter that this person would possibility reach out to them to talk bad behind my back. And this is exactly how it happened. Thanks Dr Ramani.
To add - I also learned that "information " is so important for the narcissit and they know how to manipulate once they have it. Not letting them be informed about you, makes them powerless.
You were wise to prepare people of the inevitable smear campaign. I discovered my ex went around twisting the information he had on me to make me look like a crazy and sick person even during the entire relationship. If only the people he told things to knew the real story. 😢
@@dk5755 - Narcissists don't have partners or friends. They have hostages.
Wonderful video My partnership of five years ended a month ago. When my true love decided to part ways with me, it truly is the only thing on my mind. I can't fathom my life with anyone else, and even though I've tried everything to get him back, it's all in vain. Despite my best efforts to put him out of my thoughts, I can't help but miss him and think about him all the time. I could not really tell you why I am saying this.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
True, finding a group of strong educated people can help understand what a healthy relationship looks like. Thank you Dr. Ramani. 🙏♥♥♥♥♥♥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😎
I so appreciate this video, good sister! I lost my family to narcissism three decades ago, and sometimes still find myself blaming . . . yep, myself. Thank you for reminding me again to be even more compassionate to the woman I was then, who could not have known about covert narcissists. 🌷🙏🕊
I have a restraining order and I have so much gratitude for it. I was hoovered twice, and this time around I’m absolutely done. I’ve set my social media to private, blocked him and some of his family/friends. I’ve looked at his social media but it’s only served to solidify my decision to end this relationship. It’s definitely as you described, using it as a tool for supply, spreading a narrative that he’s “growing” “healing” and “doing so much better” now 😂
Thank you so much DrRamini for those excellent & eloquent blended videos giving us survivors so much grace & dignity as we muddled our way through narcissistic relationships and forgiving ourselves for the many "ick" things we did while trying to survive in toxic entanglements and rearing children and "keeping the trains running on time"
Through therapy I have learned to forgive myself and to accept that I did cope as best as I could under the circumstances.
It's been a year and a half and the thought of even dating makes me ill ..
Thats the thing. To them its like on to the next one.
I am making new friends but my family is not happy or supportive at all. I am spending too much time alone. Apparently, a woman who demands respect is a monster.
The narcissist moving on too fast hits so real right now 😂😂😂
Yes I've experienced all the methods of hoovering from social media. It's insane.
20 years, and im finally done. It's scary
15 years, same, and it is scary, good luck.
This is such a powerful video! Thankyou ❤️
Thanks to you Dr. Romney if it wasn’t for you, I was with him for 2 1/2 years before I found out and when I did, I should’ve just kept my mouth shut and let it go, but I didn’t know anything. I know a whole lot.
Heard you on CBC yesterday! As a subscriber, can I ask you go into more detail about the clusters? I’m a C cluster and I wish my daughters could learn more about them. My one daughter is a classic Narcissist and she slams me all the time about being BPD without understanding there are clusters. How can I lead her to understand the differences?
My ex is doing this to me now. He’s posting about how he is the victim of abuse and I’ve blocked him. I just got out of a five year abusive relationship.
My hardest thing is being trauma bonded so looking is a way for me to stay in. No matter what acct im in. Not that im trying to stalk. Its just like im feeling stuck. I want out so bad. You should make more posts on this subject. Its a big deal on healing.
My narc broke up with me 2 weeks ago and I’m heartbroken. I’m a fearful avoidant and my abandonment trauma is triggered intensely. He blocked me on his phone but our social medias are private and we didn’t follow each other because we aren’t big on social media (I’m 58, he’s 64). I even became suicidal yesterday and I had to call the suicide hotline. I’m suffering from severe anxiety right now and I would cut off a limb for him to reach out again. I would accept all the crap he put me through to get him back and feel regulated again. 😔
So painful, I feel for you.
You’re possibly in limerance. It’s connected to childhood trauma.
Take good care of you and your inner child. ❤
I so sympathize with you, but don't do it! Stay away! Your life is precious and wasting it would be a sin. Stay strong, this too shall pass, just give it time. Keep listening to Dr. Ramani, she is a God send..
I feel for you. But he did the best thing for you. I am the person who left him, of course he twisted the narrative. None of this makes it hurt any less. Your life is so so valuable and so are you. Please try to remember who you were before he came along. Please turn to God for the answers. He will help. ❤❤❤❤
Suzanne, You were heard. I’ve been there. Please find a trusted person to reach out to when you feel like you can’t do this. Make a plan to lean on someone when you just can’t. The passage of time will return to normal. The pain will incrementally ease. Find new ways to take care of yourself. Take care and be well.
I remember that feeling....just like "really, over me???she now, oh and just forgot about me, just like that...
But even when i was very young, i didn't give in to this. I'd rather cry me a river over him, and than start a new chapter....
After several similar episodes with different persons and ways, i kind of knew the drill better, still cried to forget , but every time less though
Than forgetting and moving on became more easy every time.
Yes, meanwhile i also practiced a lot of self care...
If i could give advice to the young
I would tell them to come out stro ng
Know u're not wrong
And rather work hatd on moving on
Decision making paralysis is what I’m struggling with
You are spot on , my X doesn’t have social media, but uses my kids
You know what my biggest struggle is… I have bpd she has npd .. now it’s been two years .. yet I understand their issues stem from trauma .. yet it’s been two years .. I now am homeless, family less, and have 3 friends … yet I miss this person to the core everyday.
It's been 2 years. I don't know if I'll ever try again for a romantic relationship. I'm better off alone than with the people I'm attracted to. Even when I think I found a good guy, it turns out I'm wrong and just another gamer. Maybe better off on my own.
Whenever they know that you are looking at them it gives them supply & power.
The best revenge is also the healthiest for you, do not give them any attention or supply. Cut them out & ignore them if you can, & never look them in the eye.
In court & in lawyers offices & in waiting rooms I always turn my back on the Monster Narc. No cordial behavior from me, just ignore & no way in for any sort of connection.
It is so empowering that I have the power to shut out the Monster that hurt me & deceived me & stole from me & cheated on me for more than a decade.
It also protects me from being triggered.
It was difficult at first, & it is getting easier & easier & I feel stronger & stronger every time I protect myself by not giving the Monster any of my precious self.
Not even after, to cause disturbance and yes blocked.
Dr. Hits speaks 💯 I met her (my ex) today & my trauma bonded mind urged me to make up & forgive. My rational bed said, "get your keys and leave".
I got my keys & I hate that I still think about her.
The segment on being isolated by the damage done by shitty childhoods struck home so hard. I KNOW i need better social systems. I still don't know how to actually make that happen. I keep trying and failing.
My narc ex hated mustard so I had to hide it in the fridge 😅😢🌭 💛
Wow!
Actually, we should be glad the narcissist has moved on, so we dont have to be included in their drama
This is true! The narcs drama is so depressing ugh, a gift to be out of it even though the odd day is hard.
My covert narcissist is private on social media. He never posts and in our 25 year marriage hated when I did. Now I know, it was hard to sell a broken marriage to new supply if they could see him with his family on social media! He’s been nothing but vengeful in the divorce. No hoovering for me! He knew I saw him unmasked!!
Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🤲🇯🇲🙏
I loved this vid. it’s so freeing & refreshing Ty.
I remember my daughter saying “you should know why I’m angry! “
Easy enough to say but if you got toxic people just around you your on your own
Only took 3 months to figure out he was a Narcissist. Got tired of the LIES and never had access to his SM which he kept secret unless I let him move in with me. I got rid of him! After he decided I had no access to SM while we were together, I blocked ALL SM evem while we were together so now that he's gone, 🎉🎉 I don't see anything, he was so secretive while I was with him, another reason he's not in my life
Dr Ramini, I saw you in the series Betrayal, fabulous insights, as ever.
i was discarded 20 years ago, didnt know it was Narc then.. the pain was brutal for 1-2 years, rominating of the charts, couldnt sleep.. 3 weeks ago i ghosted a Narc went no contact.. 2 weeks ago i found out these where Narc people. Im in a good spot in my healing.. most of the pain is dealt 20 years ago.. i have the power in my corner and will not pass the ball if the Narc start to hoover... sure i rominate because its fresh but interlect is faster, feelings will catch up.. I have used Chat GPT everyday for analyze, coaching and help me explain all words and all....
Discarded 20 years ago 2023 I met Dr. Ramani, but before her I Persevered in The Bible Psalms 1-150🙏🇯🇲🤲
My cousin never made me doubt myself. I've laughed at his accusations. He knows he can't damage my self worth and that's why he's been coming so hard these last several years. I typically dismantle his claims. It's more so simple aggravation of his efforts to destroy me that's lead me to cut him, aside from this knowledge. Sucks he comes at me like this but I've had two other friends who were the same, cut them too, familiar with it. I've been leveling up for the past 10 years and it drives him crazy. So sad. I miss the relationship and we had incredible times in our friends group, but he's blown it all up. His bf is all that's left out of 5 of us. The bf is prob next.
I recently heard you talk about post break up abuse and how it's better to be discarded by a narcissist as that reduces chances of that. Well in my case all you described with Lewis Howes happened even after a narcissistic discard.
Someone posted a photo of a container for ashes after death. It was manipulation. Not just for me. They had not died. This was a future plan but posted in a way as if they’d already died. It was effective. I fell for it. And he tried to hoover me. I removed as much as I could from social media. Except this one. It was awful.
As usual, you give awesome guidance and sharing it for free here is very helpful I'm sure for so many sufferers.
I'd like to add what I consider to be a powerful exercise for them, and that is, to practice loving themselves which can be very difficult because the lack of self love is the reason they became victims to a narcissist in the first place. Self-hate. Would you do some sessions teaching people how to practice learning to love themselves, love their "being" not ego love. It cannot be simple at all, is most hard to do, but is necessary for cure. Maybe it can be done during a period of isolation with deep meditation within, Thank you. Namaste.
I had to leave everything behind and leave my homestate to get away from my ex. The stalking was awful.
Not after break-up ...(am still in the relationship... trying to figure out a way .)...
While still in the relationship...when i didn't know a condition called " narcissism existed.
On facebook... Almost 15 yrs back ...He would keep checking my posts ... What i like ...etc ...then would say ... Ohh ... You want to be independent... Ohh ... You like this ... Or that ... OMG... I got sooo conscious and terrified ...that i stopped liking or commenting .... Eventually stopped using social media... Deleted my account ... Still not on it .
A few days after the friendship ended, they posted on social media about a night we had out that was just the two of us and super fun. I knew it was to try to hurt me 😢
Its hard not to check when you are so trauma bonded. I would love to hear more on the topic of alternatives. Isolation is definitley a thing even 9 months later for me. I feel i havent opened up my social network or had the urge to.
Well dr ramni i dont havevteo horses in a stabke and oricate colleges. My father was a factory worker ...vefy intelligent . Very knowledgable. Thrh kued tgats on them
The opposite in my case . He removed ME from his social media and he doesn’t post anything. I feel it’s because he doesn’t want me to find out the truth of his infidelity and moving on. Or he might be afraid that I send DM’s to his new fling. Who knows but he doesn’t have me on his social media.
Its normal. Killing is is my mother and her follwers love language. Im good told my story
Sending you love
My ex started dating me the same day he ended it with his previous gf. He did that this year, to me. I'm dying. I was sick the first time he ended it with me, too.
Flaunting their new love in front of the ex is a source of extra supply.
I’ve deleted my social media Apps. I kept TH-cam for my benefit to improve my quality of life. If I do keep Facebook related to Family. I will block him. I don’t support Facebook to give supply to people. I certainly don’t need fake validation. I did realize that Facebook is a trigger for sneaking up and effecting my mood. I agree stay away and apply it’s a choice.
Although I’ve often ruminated about a man who once chased me and although I had suspicions he was a narcissist, this is years later and he’s with someone new. I do actually miss him, shame on me. Quite handsome, a total 10 l, had everything going for him 👉🏽but those narcissistic qualities, if they can even be called that. But, sometimes, when I wish I were her in his life, I do wonder just why she is puttin’ up with. I don’t know that I’d have the tolerance, if he is who he was back then. So, other than the probable fact, that it was possibly the greatest sex I might ever have, I don’t miss him so much, with those other thoughts in mind.
This all happened to my son and destroyed him.
I’m pretty sure I’ve married to one. But she doesn’t know it. She has the emotionally neglected childhood, had a mother with severe ppd, and repeated trauma from childhood school racism. She is signed up to start therapy and desperately wants to do anything and everything to keep me from leaving. So the pity and guilt are online for me. It just doesn’t feel right to resent her when she is trying, but just doesn’t have the emotional development needed for me. She really feels like another child in the house, in an adults body. Can I help her?
Refer her to me for counselling
Dr Ramani did you do a teaching or video on why narcissist don't try to sleep?
Mam please talk about Narcissistic sexiopath ,covert type ,thank you for your service ❤
Dr. Ramani. What are actions that need to be taken for the person leaving this relationship? Therapy for sure. Spending a year or more not dating or getting involved in any “relationship” with the opposite sex. My situation with leaving: I’m ready. It hurts. I’m left spiritually and financially in ruins. Can you offer advice?
Hey Barbara through Ramani's videos, I was able to get out of my narc relationship. It was really difficult after being abused continuously for seven years and not knowing what was going on. Firstly, time apart is a healer coupled with counselling and self awareness. Then healthy love, which will come will be the last step of healing. In case you need counselling yiou can reach out to me. I not only attended counselling sessions but trained to be a counsellor to help victims who can only be understood by fellow victims. Sending you light and good vibes
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I Don't use social media other than I started a you tube channel to help others recover from narcissistic abuse. Dr Ramani what do you think about this? About me starting a channel like this one.
He does not like to post too many things because he knows it could be used against it. He’s used him against me. He’s taking him down to the police and the police has come up here.
Dr. Ramani is great. Learn more on youtube at The Little Shaman: On Narcissists
How do you feel narcissism differs from borderline personality disorder in regard to social media?
I Have not had any contact with anyone in 4 years. I was very sexual. Now I am afraid to do it with a stranger. or anyone.
And when you cry, you cry like a river I’ve never felt this pain sentence pain through your whole body mainly your stomach your stomach so tight just hope that nobody comes around to visit or sell something or whatever and you just don’t want to deal with anybody my mind is not working properly. I miss my appointments, I can’t stay focused two months ago and now to come back and I just don’t know what to do. I’m so scared because I just don’t the articles that I’ve read. Say they come back in really just finish off. You know he’s already screwed up my mind this last summer I was out side of my own body, talk about scary shit how can they do this? I think he’s the dark triad because they are master manipulating and they’re smart and all the articles that I read say that you know very insecure is insecure I know and sensitive. Oh my God he is extremely sensitive, and when he leaves, he punishes me by silent treatment.
When i broke up with the narcist man i was for three and a half years and of course the next girlfriend was already in his life he said he doesnt want to be in touch again with me. He said you move on with your life and i move on with mine. He was so croul with me i was shocked. One week he was saying he loves me and next week deleted from his life. Is that normal behaviour?
The only thing that comes after a real narc is a chore list..... May the narcs and flying monkeys be delivered to their father the devil.
Being trapped is different.
He could be really helpful and good, but on the other hand when his manipulative he could make me feel so many things he can make me feel ugly he can make me feel unwanted. He wants to move on and go to a higher ground. He thinks he’s better than the next person For sure there’s times to wear it makes you feel comfortable and there’s times more bad times definitely come back now. I’ll call the cops if he touches me is not right. He spent a lot of money on lawyers a lot all that once come back lack evidence like evidence like evidence so he was never he never owned up to what he did And I was talking to him and I had my phone on record and I said why don’t you own up to it? It goes what do you want me to do? I said, tell the goddamn truth he said to who I said to the judge, he said if I do, they throw me in jail.
I blocked him he just kept going into the back door through others so I had to dump my Facebook
Sometimes you have the reverse situation where your ex is the social media attention seeker and just almost seems to make everything public on person. It seems like thats a topic for debate.
25 years. Having a hard time
I will never love again
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Why look at their social media?
Try having to give up music
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I am so confused
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