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Speaking of the pond, back in the 80's when San Francisco had a nice club scene you could clean up being a straight white guy that could dance descent. Not much competition. Find an area where you are desirable. SF would not be that place now. Boston...Denver...
That´s also exactly what happens when you get jacked in the gym. The more jacked you get, the more attention you get from other guys that want to achieve the same goal.
Why don't you just buy a woman amd trust her well. Or if you don't mind black women come here to Africa and I'll hook you up with a really young wife. Or if you prefer Asians you can try Thailand. Any ways women are every where my bro no reason why a cool bro such as yourself should be in such a situation.
Remember Jared the Subway guy? The whole reason he was bonking teenage professionals was because he spent his whole life being completely invisible to women. Then Subway got him some money and was moderately in-shape, and bam--women are suddenly interested in him. I think that realizing this was what made him go rogue; if they're gonna use him, he's gonna use them.
1 - Confidence: fake it until you make it 2 - Ability to engage women's emotions: playful, dangerous, cocky, etc 3 - Contextual alpha: biggest fish in a smaller pond instead of a bigger pond
1 You can't fake confidence if you are not a self destructive fool 2 It is not about emotion but about being lewd and portraying yourself like a right kind of man if you show yourself as boyfriend husband material you wont get sex like if you present yourself as F-boy 3 even in small pond everyone can't be biggest fish
I don't think 1. is solving the issue though... you would just be.. well.. faking it and burring the issue. 2. shouldn't matter to begin with if marriage is the goal. 3. is simply implying that most men will fail anyway.
A close friend I know since childhood.... He spent his entire early to mid 20s always broke, switching jobs every few months, no goals, no purpose, sleeping in his car most of the time, and using every cent he earned to party and drink. He dated nothing but highly educated women, making a good income, and with their own apartment/home. These girls knew that he worked construction and didn't make much money, but they didn't care. Several offered him to move in with him. He played so many of these girls it was crazy. They were heavily attracted to his charisma and his game. Since then.. my view on women has been a bit distorted, knowing that nearly every girl you talk to (doesn't matter how smart, mature, or sweet she might be), has been ran through by dudes like that... while at the same time expecting YOU to have all your shit together. Insanity
IF you attract wimmen with your money and power, you´ll GET wimmen who are attracted to money and power. Wanna marry her???? Think about it for a while.. Rgr
My experience: 1. Non-chalance do wonders to certain women. 2. Direct approach through casual talk is the best filter to weed out women who are interested or not in you. 3. Having options lined up while approaching women is not wicked but practical approach to the game. 4. Do something that catches their attention. Anything can be a charm.Talent, sports, etc.
As a lifelong actor/tv news guy, I can confirm the contextual alpha thing. I saw it first in high school theatre. Very few guys wanted to sing and act, but all sorts of girls did. I liked singing and acting and I couldn’t believe how easy it was to get girls simply because I had big (stage) parts. I was later a big fish in a small pond (a minor celebrity in a place with a celebrity shortage) and it worked much the same way. Now none of that led to a stable long term relationship. That takes something different.
Are the allegations true that news anchors eat each other's s*** and cheat on each other? Play, our propagandist who work for the CIA? Your silence = you agree.
That's where I'm at now. It's incredibly easy to meet women for sex. Women who want relationships are insanely picky. It's like they'd rather be alone unless you're a doctor or a lawyer.
@@renaissance17its not that women would rather be alone, They have higher standards for a devotional LTR. For a fun time, those standards (criteria) do not apply.
The most important thing for arousing a women is to be good looking, the most important thing for attracting a women is to be confident, and the most important thing for keeping a women is to be wealthy. If a man possesses all three of these things he's essentially Thanos of modern dating.
There is a paradox of having it all. Once your woman have them, she will start looking for something that you don't have. In human psyche, we want what we can't have. The itch won't stop.
Going out isn’t cheap. Paying for two every time you do is even worse. If they’re conventionally hot it’ll cost even more. You try to go out at least once a weekend you’re looking at another car note. There is no downplaying the need for money when it comes to women
Waiting to see if this is an april fool's. So, it wasn't but I'd definitely recommend his video "All men pay : the more she likes you the bigger the discount" instead of this one.
No chick wants some boring finance bro who can buy a Tesla and watches the big game on the weekends. In my experience, it helps to be chasing something other than women or money.
That only apply for the patriarchal part of the world.. In the developed part of the world - women could not care less about your money.. :D Actually even the fact that you could THINK of paying anything for them would disqualify you completely..
You’re overcomplicating this. All of those guys who smash with no money have LOOKS. Looks comes before money. Always has, always will. It isn’t “confidence”. Confidence is downstream to looks so I get how it’s confusing to you, but you have the causality backwards. It’s the looks that women want, not the confidence that is a consequence of it.
That's why I always say when the confidence line is brought up that if you look like Shrek and are confident, you'll just be perceived as creepy or cocky. If it was not mostly about looks, the men who are seen as the most desirable wouldn't be all good looking guys like celebrity dudes.
not what i've seen, i'm attractive but attraction is like an amusement ride: it's enough to get them to want to look closer but not necessesarily enough to make them want to ride. i constantly see far less attractive people getting play because they do exactly what he is describing. this gives me hope because i get exactly 0 on a yearly basis even though plenty of women have been "attracted" to me at first to only discover that it isn't as advertised. getting better now, depression for years is no joke.
@@raphaeljones8190 if you’re attractive and you can’t get women you are a shame to all men. Just smile and nod as she talks, and when she says “should we go back to your place?” smile and nod like a puppy dog and you’re in. How do you mess that up? Looks is almost everything.
I agree with you. Women go for looks because it’s an instinctive genetics thing… they wanna be turned on and they also want cute kids. The guys saying oh I look good and don’t get any women is because they don’t look as good as they think lol Most women I know, good or bad material go for looks first. They only go for money if they have been raised that way or they do that after they have been hurt a few times.
Easy, when you're at home slow dancing to the music and getting excited just WHIP IT OUT, see her scream, but the cops wouldn't like that, oh well. haha
You should go to a friend that gets A LOT women and read their text messages. Literally can copy their game for in person speech AND text speech cuz I swear they both matter INDEPENDENTLY. ALSO, ask someone that’s OK looking. Not someone that girls lay eyes on and they’re in him. He’s not gonna have the need to speak a certain way like an average looking guy.
Be hot and then cold and distant but at the same time indifferent and funny and make her feel safe. Be dog and a cat and everything in-between. And no matter what you do do no show any weakness. Be playful but don't show investment in her or that you need her. It's both complicated and tiresome imo.
I got two handsome guy friends. One makes 6 figures and the other is unemployed. The unemployed one is the one who always gets women but he's very extroverted. My high earning friend is both very shy and not interested in hooking up with the low quality women that make moves on him.
Yeah, this is something I’m finding. I can get laid if I lower my standards. As an established guy with a high income, I keep my standards higher because there’s a lot to lose if I don’t. I think the reality is men who have a lot of women have a lot of time to spend on it. Either they aren’t focused on growing a bigger nest egg for their future selves or they have a nest egg large enough they no longer need to spend a lot of time on it. That’s my theory. The rich men getting women easily are filthy rich and have tons of spare time.
These are the reasons why meeting women in real life is the ultimate dating hack for average-looking men who struggle on dating apps where it's all looks based. In-person, looks don't matter nearly that much, it's all about how you make her feel.
Yeah, every relationship starts with the idea that we as men are REQUIRED to make them feel safe or happy ... Go on, I need a good laugh before bedtime :D
The day men stop the hype of beauty of women in them and in their minds women will start to face he'll lot optionality problem. Also the modern dating is providing he'll lot optionality, validation, compliments and attention to women in almost negligible effort Even women collectively women and their dating coaches try best so that men keel being simp, sweet and agreeable and women always have optionality Men..... Never listen to females and female dating coaches only ask experienced men and keep Learning.
Disagree wholeheartedly. Get but not keep. Sure anyone can get a date & screw around, but if you want an actual relationship & looking to find a mate, there is a point where a little bit of logic & reason comes into her head. Wheter its early on or later in the dating phase. "Can he provide for me in the long term, I really don't want to work forever, & want to have & take care of my kid at home". Hypergamy kicks in, "is this the best I can get at this point in my life?" Is he competent? Can he physically protect me?"... Playboy's aside this is the inevitable epiphany of her psyche.
Interesting video! However, I believe the dynamics can vary significantly depending on the demographic and economic context. In regions experiencing resource scarcity, where poverty is prevalent, women might naturally gravitate towards men who are financially stable and resourceful. In such circumstances, other attributes like physical attractiveness, personality, or intelligence might become secondary considerations. On the other hand, in more affluent societies with a robust economy and greater individual economic freedom, women might have the luxury to seek a more balanced mix of qualities in a partner. They might place higher value on attributes like good looks, athleticism, talent, and other non-materialistic traits. So, while the three things mentioned in the video might work universally to some extent, the weightage of these factors can shift dramatically based on the socio-economic context. Just my two cents!
All research across cultures on human mating reveal that women in general value socio-economic status the most. This is become more true the older the more mature/older the women gets. That social status is what he's referring to hear as being a big fish, even if that means in a small pond. The economic bit, is also highly regarded by women and is often intertwined with high social status. Confidence is a proxy for competence, and the latter is a proxy for high socio-economic status. But women don't know (at least are not conscious of that fact) that confidence is only a proxy. Younger women are more likely to fall for confident men that are actually incompetent.
He's right about getting laid more when you're broke. Know why? It's waste of time. I used to spend all of my time at the gym, buying hip apparel & socializing out & about in a big city like NYC. Was always broke at the end of the month, but was often juggling a half dozen ladies that I gamed at bars, clubs, cafes, on the street, in stores, etc I even used to pick up women in traffic LOL Once I started working hard & focusing on my future, women just weren't a priority, anymore
And when you’re focusing on your life/career what follows is the reduction of the drama and entertaining of women at least to piggyback on your comment.
@@DonaldJewTrump the 2nd can add so much more dimension and depth to your spiritual self provided you do align yourself to those substrates of life.I’ve been there with the fun and juggling multiple women while excelling in my career for years,after a while the hedonism of it began wearing off when I had more questions in life and began probing.Right now I appreciate a more deeper emotional bond with a focus on the soul , philosophy and future of mine and the other persons life
The male brain is always trying to rationalise everything. It's looking for patterns and methods that can be repeated to get the same results. Women, or the act of wooing women, and to some extent men, cannot be rationalised into a repeatable formula. Your confidence, connectability and alpha/leadership is just for starters. That emotional engagement involves being interested in this person and their life experiences, but not too interested.
The PUA folks and others have actually very successfully broken down seduction/courtship/wooing. It is very well understood, but it takes a certain amount of wisdom to apply it properly.
Back in High School I was not the guy women just threw themselves at and I learned how to be much more charismatic for it. After school I got a really good job that had me move out of my home town. A few years ago I went back to my high school reunion. I was easily out earning any of my other classmates and I also grew to be 6' 200lbs and all of a sudden the girls from my school now who never paid any attention to me or hardly any now wanted to spend the entire night talking to me. That whole big fish in a small pond does a lot of heavy lifting, that's for dang sure.
Give an average guy a yacht and a private jet and see if he won't significantly improve his dating options. Even about being confident and being a contextual alpha aka being a biggest fish in a small pound, a healthy bank account makes that very easy to pull, you don't need to psych yourself up to be confident if you're Elon Musk, your success speaks for itself. Some women you won't even be on the same space and time with them if you're broke. Money isn't the only thing, but I have to disagree that isn't significant in dating. Normally if you're broke, you need to make dating your job to get some success.
Agreed. You don’t NEED money but in our climate today… it’s very difficult to attract or keep a woman without it. Not impossible but difficult. Depending on the woman
1. Confidence. 2. Ability to engage her emotions. 3. Be the biggest fish in your pond. That truth is eventually getting laid is less important than having someone committed to you. Who made the famous quote, I don’t pay women for sex; I pay them to leave afterwards. If you find someone that you want to have around you full-time, you found a keeper .
#2 is redundant in my opinion. If you are the AMOG in any pond, a large portion of the women will gravitate to you. They will engage on their own. The concept of a man (logical creatures) trying to play a woman's game (emotional creatures) is a self defeating concept. Might work to get you laid, won't work in the long run.
@@ws-ss8ks I learned the hard way trough experience but there are also women that do not play emotional games, I prefer those. and recently found one I also found attractive. The other ones are just for fun, if thats what you mean by game. If you ask me a good relationship is about working together in the end, not games.
All 3 hard to achieve. 1. Confidence is the easiest one. 2. Ability to engage in emotions: I am personally funny, make some girls laugh but relationships never develop into something meaningful and I feel like many women act as if you are invisible before getting to know you. And if I am not engaged in emotions, I don’t engage in emotions as well. 3. Well, I work a dull 9-5 corporate job due to fu**ed up labour market, have to commute from work and have low energy for extrawork activities, so good luck being biggest fish in small pond. Right now I am a tiny cog in a huge machine. I really need to get my life together and create an work in a field I like and on my own, that would make me feel more motivated and would also help finding a girl.
My advice especially for men who are handsome is, use it to your advantage. Too often I see other goodlooking guys acting lame and having low confidence. Your looks will get you through the door, after that it’s all a matter of having swag and a solid mouth piece. Learn how to make women FEEL, this should be a combination of both positive and negative emotions, that’s what keeps women locked in.
It is important to make the distinction between short term, medium term and long term (marriage). The importance of money increases the further you extend the timeline of the relationship. In marriage, 80% to 90% of women are practically for sale to highest bidder. Yes, women prostitute themselves, deal with it.
As someone who is well into six figs, I think personality and people skills matter more than anything else. Looks and money help, but they’re not what gets you the girl.
this is so true, the money muscles game frame will help you however you can get just as far with a take it or leave it attitude and being your own mental point of origin. when i was strung out and homeless i was running thru women, when i got my life straight and got clean is when the problems with women started. its because i had expectations
Dr I believe your spot on. I've learned over the years that women tend to be single minded they concentrate on one thing at a time. When they first glance at you they've all ready sized you up. So guys I strongly recommend take care of your health and hit the jym you don't have to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger just be fit.
Good "game" for sure is gonna get you laid. I agree with what Orion is saying here. But it's really only in the short term. Long term relationships you don't have to be rich, but you do need to make the money that she expects you to be making or it's over.
It depends on the women you're after. In today's world, a woman with options will more likely date a guy with a car and a house than an unemployed one, everything else being equal. Money is not the most relevant factor, but the lifestyle it facilitates does matter. Sure, if you're extraordinary in game or looks you can bypass it; but lifestyle is increasingly important to modern women for a relationship.
Still they will change their mind on a whim and ghost you/disengage, doesn't matter if you played your cards right up to that moment. Just yesterday I had a girl confessing this very thing. Surprise surprise! Today she said she no longer wants to continue communication. Maybe she revealed the secret too soon? I'll never know.
Here's the 3 things that will get you laid even if you're broke: 1. 3:33 Psychotic Confidence: Consistent felt experience of success. You never consider that you might not succeed. 2. 4:32 The ability to engage a woman's emotions: Being physically attractive or humorous and playful or mysterious and unpredictable or dangerous and edgy or cocky and bold (capture attention through emotional engagement) 3. 5:36 Contextual Alpha: Better to be the biggest fish in a smaller pond than a bigger fish in a bigger pond who's not the biggest fish in that pond.
ok...you don't need money to get woman only if you are Chad, Tyrone , Bad boy, or other thugs...but if you are nice guy, poor, or ugly, Game is definitively over...
You don't necessarily need money to get women but you better have something to compensate, e.g. confidence, humour, intelligence, chaRIZZma, looks, potential, ambition, pipe game, status, etc. And if you don't live up to your potential or ambition she will punish you for it in divorce and child custody court.
You definitely don't need money to get women but the process of building your wealth will make you more attractive to women. Building your own wealth is hard and you'll need to think intelligently through problems, overcome challenges, and develop resilience along the way b/c nothing will work out perfectly. These qualities will make you battle hardened by life and women will definitely pick up on this and the panties will disintegrate instantly...
Both are possible. As long as you don't lead her with money, lavish lifestyle and you still take full control of financial without revealing our net worth and not giving her your debit/credit card. Treat her like like you run your business. Put her within amount of budget and do not break even point. If she wants more she is gotta earn it and you can judge her by her efforts
Money is a negotiation tool and you cannot negotiate genuine desire. Rollo has been giving us a version of this for years. I got laid plenty when I was broke doing illegal shit.
Unattractive guys think that being wealthy is what gets you women. I know because I've told this to myself. It certainly doesn't hurt but it's not gonna attract women who wouldn't be otherwise. Those that do are sugar babies and gold-diggers and they want the wealth, not the man.
What was the quality of the women? I’m at this place where I’m picky about women I’m willing to engage. I’m finding most are simply low quality and if I wanna get laid, I can, but only if I’m good with not caring about her red flags and chaos. Or simply engaging an obese one
There is a slippery slope with this. I agree that you don't need money to attract or have sex with women. However, women are attracted to and commit to lifestyles. So yea a woman in her 20s who is looking to have sex isn't concerned that much about money. But a woman who is looking for a LTR and possible marriage is looking for a lifestyle. Unfortunately, lifestyles are often based on income.
It isn't just a lifestyle thing. Men are providers, no matter how badly many feminists try to convince themselves otherwise. If a man cannot provide for a family, then they wont get a decent woman to commit to them (assuming the man is honest and not manipulative). This is for good reason and it is what it is. Way too many men in western cultures now think they can have a wife working at the same time as mothering children, and the divorce rates are at record highs with birth rates at record lows across the globe.
@@janeentumbao8690 I live in Texas. Not a chance you get a date on a bike in 105 degree weather and have to ride 5 miles to the restaurant with maybe a sidewalk if you're lucky.
Videos like this are anachronistic. Women advertise on Insta and TikTok what they want, there's no secret. They have stated that if you make less than $50K, don't date. If you're under a certain height, don't bother. If you have a normal profession, there's no point. On top of that, wall-to-wall media coverage for years has told men not to approach, or chase after women. The very thought that "they're only referring to a small subset of men" flies in its own face, because millions of men are paying for the behavior of only a few thousand men. Kings, find your own peace. Go your own way. Because it ain't gonna be anywhere near a woman.
all you need is good looks, (bullsht about having charisma) I've got a friend who's good looking but he has a personalty and charisma of a plank of wood and he has beautiful women DESPERATELY cueing up to go with him, ON THE OTHER HAND... I have a another friend and he's average looking but has so much charisma it's unbelievable and he has problems getting women....he gets the odd one f-ugly woman once in a blue moon (I been there with both of them and studying them both closely (because I'm interested in dating dynamics)
I prefer being a Sigma. From my experience, most alphas are douches. Also, I have confidence, I can be emotionally engaging and I can be contextual. Eh, I'm content. I don't chase women. Most women I am surrounded by, lack confidence to ask me out. I have had a few great women directly ask me out. Mind you, I also have preferences and standards. I won't just say "Yes", because a woman asks me out, either. Also, I can handle rejection too, I might add. No problems. Attempting to grab or seek my attention through frustration, annoyance, aggression or aggravation is a definite red flag and NO from me! I need to have an interest: like Aang for Katara, Or Meng for Aang 😂 Some women have a secret beauty that is under appreciated or undervalued, that they never know of. Others NOT so much. In any event, I don't need a woman in my life to complete me. I am on my own great journey, and, a woman needs to complement my life ☺️ And I need to be physically, mentally and emotionally attracted to her, and I hope she is the same or it just won't work.
Correct. There's a whole different ball game between picking women up in a bar for a ONS and meeting women for a casual fling, and meeting women with the intention to date to find a LTR or wife and to have children with. Women look for different qualities in men depending what she's looking to get - ONS, fling, or marriage with children. Men the same with what women they look for and how they go about it and what they present. But he didn't cover that.
You can use money to catch them or you can use other devices to catch women but to keep them money is essential because women's hypergamy instincts will be a itch she needs to scratch eventually.
Not all believe me then again we were young and in love rather I was she was obsessed it did not work out because of culture and so many other factors.
You can be broke and pull. You just have to provide a woman with enough drama and titillation to keep her emotionally engaged. Y'know those addict losers with well-defined abs and/or big shoulders who women keep coming back to despite everyone knowing it's a bad idea? Yeah, both the abs and the chemical dependence combined are what do it. Drama = "Ohhowcouldhethisistearingmeapart -> Tee-heehe'sgettingbetterLAVIEENROSE~" Titillation = Abs/shoulders. Yes, it really is that simple.
@@YungJay216 You don't have to be literally broke or an addict for it to work, it just so happens that that's the easiest possible way to do it. You don't even have to think about it. Your natural addict patterns of behavior will keep her on tenterhooks by default.
I couldn't find a girlfriend when I was poor. I couldn't find a girlfriend when I became rich. However, the problem was never related to hypergamy, not even was it because of lack of attraction. I simply never ran into attractive women who were single and on the dating market. No wealth in the world can change this.
You have to date married women or single baby moms. Sad but true. Good luck in meeting the woman of your dreams. I met the woman of my dreams in a strip club. I was young and foolish and if I had to do it over again I would have said "hell no!" The woman of my dreams turned out to be the nightmare of my dreams. Please don't make my mistake of falling in love with a stripper. They'll break your heart every time.
It has never been easier for a faithful, sincere woman to nail down a great husband. Quite literally any woman sincerely interested in marriage and family can go out and take her pick of the litter. If you are a man in his 40's or 50's, it is accurate to say, 'all the good ones are taken'. You are reduced to dating for for fun (rare with modern women, lol) or waiting for a widow to pop up. No one ever mentions the fact that quality women who are widows don't stay single very long. Sadly, this is all due to lack of supply. Modern society doesn't encourage or support sincere family oriented women.
@@garykeith1048 I'm not into strippers, I like cute, educated and kind women with lots of feminine energy. Never found one on the dating market though.
@@ws-ss8ks In addition, even the good women lose massively on attractiveness. Often it's not their own fault, it's biology, unfortunately. I have difficulty getting attracted to older women, even though I would love to find them attractive.
@@ws-ss8ks Older women say the same thing. All the good ones are taken, when a good one comes on the market he gets his pick of women and doesn,t stay single long. They are both right. The emotionally healthy people find each other and get married early and live happily ever after. Those with issues stay on the market or can't hold onto a mate for long. The only hope is for those with emotional issues to realize they have issues, work on those issues, and find someone else who realizes they have issues and is wiling to work on their issues together. Even harder to find.
Men who are insecure for us women are like those women for you men who are putting pressure on you to have a serious relationship or those who threaten to break up if they are not asked to marry you. Nobody likes it, everyone runs away and wants distance. LOL. In other words, we run away from men who are insecure, send us 200 messages a day, non-stop and don't let us breathe. Or that other type of man who loves to mention ALL THE TIME how much money he makes a year or how big his penis is, when no one asked. Confidence, quite important for both sides. Great video, Orion. Cheers.
Darling, don't wanna break your dreams but adding the evolution to the equation I will ask one RHETORICAL question: Will you have confidence if flat-chested/ugly face/poor?
@@GbpsGbps-vn3jy You're right, I don't know what it's like to be very ugly or stupid, much less, what it's like to be with someone who actually has these characteristics, since my boyfriend is the opposite of your description. So, I can feel empathy and put myself in other people's shoes. You're absolutely right! 🙃
@@meliciaoliveira9895 It was a rhetorical question and in fact it's not about your boyfriend (asking about your mental stability, ie emotions != intelligence), but we can construct a simple answer: Ask the members of your social circle(s) if they think you are. But don't ask politely, make some good fun aka do some shitty behavior for a couple of weeks and wait till their true faces show. Definitely you'll be amazed how many truths will be revealed in no time. Three requirements: listen them carefully to not miss anything and be ready to feel the right time to shoot the questions. Third one is NEVER tell them why you did it BEFORE and the last one from the circle pops out too
In high school, I was a skinny, goofy, average looking nerd. My step-brother was tall, handsome, cool, and smoked and drank beer. He ALWAYS could get a cute girl but the girls ignored me. So, in my first year of college, I sold my ham radio station and bought a car. WOW--I had unlimited double dates because none of the guys on the floor had cars. I went to parties every week and just talked to hundreds of girls. From that I went on dozens of dates and by my junior year I was having sex with 2 girlfriends. By age 22 I had a running list of 8 to 10 girls at all times. I became a pharmaceutical sales rep and for 11 years I was paid good money to simply talk to women all day. I am now 71 years old and single. I have absolutely no fear of women. I know almost immediately when I am getting traction with a woman and when I am wasting my time. I don't even think about my age--I think of myself as HER AGE. It's like the camera being completely invisible to an actor. And it's all just a numbers game.
@@KevvoLightswift Loving many women sounds like fun. Getting to understand women sounds like wisdom. A life of fun and wisdom sounds good. What is more meaningful than love and wisdom?
I'm in the Philippines (American expat) and in my fifties. I need your confidence! Lol I am at least tall and mildly above average in looks. Last night I bumped into an amazing woman in the rain, had a connection, and let her walk away. I got home and suddenly what I had done hit me like a ton of bricks! I will admit that she was much younger than me.
@@KevvoLightswift It's actually not a meaningless life. Over half of all males in their 20s today have absolutely zero contact with women. They hide in their childhood bedrooms playing video games and watching porn. The skills I learned in meeting women have given me the confidence to develop many friendships with my male friends and taught me when any person wants to be a friend with me and when someone is toxic or untrustworthy. These skills helped me have a very successful lawn mowing/landscaping business for 33 years and raise my 5 sons in an environment of success.
No, you don't need to play mental gymnastics, instead just stop caring about outcomes. Confidence comes in the beginning by taking risks and not giving a shit what happens.
Lived in a sharehouse some years ago. One was a musician, making money playing in the street. By far the poorest of us and by far the one that attract chicks the most😅😅
@@Magicallstore "music come with feeling and girls like all about feelings, you just need work with feelings, feel strong, feel romantic, feel......" lol not at all, play the guitar and be a dick and you get a load of women. There is no equivalent to get the same level of success without music instrument by being "feely, feely"
@@arofhoof If that truly is the case, then most of those chicks, sound like a chore at best… I personally feel, that one of the biggest problems that men deal with is; chasing after the illusion of chicks easily impressed by the stereotypical fascinations, instead of waiting for a woman who actually has the capability and self-respect to think for her damn self, without bowing to the whims of riches and possessions..
Your the maker of your own prison, but you also hold the keys. If THIS is your belief and you refuse to see it otherwise, that it IS your reality. You only have yourself to blame then for your lack of success
So you can go jack off to premium porn and play 10 hours of video games a day on a high end rig. Money for personal fun only goes so far, unfortunately. All things come at a cost, and that includes having no family to raise. Yes, there are also pros to that life.. for a time. It does not last long though.
My BF has limited money . I don't care . I got money . He's got good game , we laugh our butts off and we share expenses. So far so good , knock on wood . He's a little different and I dig that . I love his swagger and his deep voice is oh so sexy . Enjoying the time together . I hope he is too . And he's kind and generous in other ways . I call it Winning
Like when I was a club security making $20/hr. The women all knew I'm not balling in there or blowing money like the dudes at bottle service. But cause I was "the boss" in there, they'd throw themselves at me.
I believe from my experience that ambition is only attractive in men under the age of 30. It took me a few relationships in my 20's to realize that women will put you on the shot clock and if you're not making enough money in time then it's over for you.
If she's attractive, agreeable, and low body count, you're probably not going to want to leave before she figures out you're faking it. Then before you know it your time is up and you get dumped for the guy that's just like you in every way except he has real money.
I fully agree with this. I am a 50s male with currently no car, catching public transport to work. Yet have dated two women in their 20s and two in their 30s in the past few months. Mainly with confidence and emotional engagement.
@@hellboy0189 I don't sleep with them all, no matter how either young or pretty they might be. If I don't have a good emotional click with them, I stop dating them it just doesn't feel right to me otherwise. That in turn usually comes back to having sufficient different zodiac signs across our astrological birth chart. If not enough different zodiac signs, that usually translates into a boring emotional connection, it is like dating your twin sister. Viva le difference.
Ok, but getting a woman to go out with you, and getting her to stick around are two different things. If all you are after is random sex, then yea... go figure, women are easy to manipulate. Not sure I'd say being able to play a woman so easily is a good thing though, and it is not what guys should be worried about, especially if we are looking at this from a societal point of view. Too many people have lost a sense of value of family and raising one as is.
I think out of these three qualities the most important one is to be able to engage a woman's emotions make her feel "you get her". Otherwise being confident and alpha are not gonna help you, you are just an asshole in her eyes lol.
Orion.... I am 63 and would like to hear your pointers for men of this age that want to form relationships to finish the rest of their life... most of what you talk about is for young persons that are forming their first stable relation to have a family etc..etc...but for a lot of us we are at a different stage and need a different point of view as to what we should look for in a relation ..thanks
To the doctor's point, even if you are not all that attractive, you can become attractive in their eyes over time. You won't get that immediate attraction the top percent of guys get, but you will draw them in over time if you follow today's lesson.
If I'm being honest, I can get a woman any time I want to. The thing is though, is she just something to poke and feels the same about me? If we hook up 3 or 4 times, and I decide she's someone I want to become more serious with, what am I getting? I'm getting a girl who's primary concern is just a hook up and nothing more. Sex is the single most intimate and vulnerable thing two people can do so why cheapen it? I'm not saying she can't arrive at the same thought I have but she's still someone who just wanted a hook up. I can do better and that's why I gave up on this shit long ago. I don't want to end up being some girl's regret and I don't want her to be mine. Be careful what you wish for.
It's ultimately about checking off as many boxes as you can. That would be fitness, wealth, some status, charm, and a dozen other markers of success. And that takes time and practice.
The main factors which will attract women in ascending order - 1) Fame 2) 6 + feet height, fit body & symmetrical face 3) I Don't give a F#$% Personality 4) Money & Lifestyle
One factor i would like to add here is your ability to get women emotionally invested in you. If you are like Brad Pitt, who is perfect in every respect, but you don't know how to chat women up and get them to invest in you emotionally, you won't have any women around. You need to be cool when talking a girl. You need to have charism instead of being a good-looking, rich nerdy dude who can only provide and basically being categorized as provider type of guy.
Incredible, essential insights. “Attraction proxies” helps me understand the problem with “pick me” guy or girl strategies: it’s the indirectness. It would have been positively life-altering for me to have encountered these ideas in a book or curriculum of some sort around ages 12 to 13.
1. Looks 2.Aura/presence about self 3. Charm 4. Money The less of the top 2 -looks/Aura/ -the more you will have to have the bottom 2-Charm/Money/ -the less of the bottom 2 the more of the top 2 you will have to have
I generally break it down into 3 things necessary to get a woman. You can get away with only 1 of these but you'll be limited. 2 of them will net you a much large range. If you have all 3 characteristics then you can get any woman. 1) Wealth and status - Women will see what you can do for them. The more wealth you have the more likely they'll be attracted as wealth can lead to status. And status is like oxygen to many women (besides drama). You can be a multi-millionaire master plumber, but women will still bypass you to get with a famous person whether celebrity or company officer. This is also what he mentions about being an actor and still getting girls. As the lead you have status. 2) Game - aka personality. Sweet talk, fast talk, big talk, this is where the ability to listen and interact come into play. This is more of a long term characteristic. 3) Looks - Yes, a six pack can take you far. But not as far as you think. Many out there are willing to smash a hot guy. However, that's as far as it will go. Women admit to this regularly and will often compete for a hot guy. Now do the combinations. 2 of the 3 will generally give you great results. Looks and status? Money and looks?
1) Status, yes, but not all women appreciate that. It's meaningless to a lot of them, but not all. The women for whom status does mean something show it's an aphrodisiac to them. I've done a lot of public speaking, and afterwards they're swarmed around me. Even being a magician's audience volunteer on stage for his show brings out the chicks. Being an organiser of a group, or group leader also brings them out.
I thoroughly enjoyed this episode as my life of failure with women basically had me believing that because I’m average height with a middle class income, that I’m doomed to be alone. I’ve been told I’m not bad looking when I smile but that alone got me laid maybe once every 5 years or so; right now I’m working on a decade! First I love the confidence advice: forget your history! I’ve been plagued by my past for what seems to be eternity. Just be like the hockey goalie and forget the bad goals! I’m actually good at engaging women in conversation and can make them laugh but the man who worries too much about failure will eventually bring it upon himself. I know this as I’ve seen something I’ve said dramatically change a woman’s attitude, snatching failure from the hands of victory. Finally my ability to make people laugh could lead me to the appropriate stage: stand-up comedy. I know some clubs with open mike nights. Next step, “Cast my fate to the wind!”
Marilyn Monroe in her autobiography talked about how she would rather be with a poor boy she loved than a rich man she liked. Women who only want your money are not women that love you. Find the girl that loves you and stick with her.
@@James_36 she was rich I'm aware of that. But she didn't fuck with broke or poor guys most likely. And if she did. It was probably a night stand behind the scene without drawing attention.
Are you competent? Are you fully employed? Do you work out and have a good physique? Do you groom yourself well? Can you make a woman laugh? Are you weird? Bald and height mean nothing if you can take care of those.
Tall soles, superglue, cool wig. Wear tall sole shoes so you can gain a few inches and superglue that wig to your chrome dome. You're welcome, now go get laid
I'm short and bald too. No issues here. I do have money, and I work out. No 6 pack but I'm at 16% body fat. I'm not swatting away women, but I get mines when I want it. One thing I will say that is very important is your sex game. You HAVE to lay it down good. Very few women are actually size queens, those you can let go because there's nothing you can do unless you're "gifted." But if you're inexperienced, get experienced or else you're never keeping a woman. Secondly, learn how to pull a woman's emotions. Nothing gives you more ROI than knowing what flavor carrot she loves. Once you know that, you're a king amongst men. If you're not testing her, she'll be testing you. Most successful men have no time or energy for this. This is why the losers always get play and you don't. Then last is simple. Your looks. Find a look and stick with it. Make sure it works. You're never going to get every girl. Find a look that attracts the girl you want. Girls are very vain. They want to look good. Help them out with your presence.
Be a smart passport bro. There are actually many popular male celebrities in Japan who are just an inch or two taller than you, and many Japanese girls care more about your face than height when it comes to looks. Here is the non-PC pro secret: Most Asian girls cannot judge a non-Asian face properly. it all looks the same to them in a good way if you are a white dude. As long as you facial structure is generally well-proportioned, you are Tom cruise in their eyes. It's like a dating hack. I live in Taiwan and many average white dudes, some are clearly under 5'7'' working as English teachers are being treated like kings by 8s and 9s here.
Appreciate the channel but this was disappointing. I was hoping to hear I could keep a women with little money but it sounds like that is not how it works which is what I assumed 😕
The Pareto principle is inescapable. All these videos are doing are making Orion exponentially more attractive, reducing the already depleted pool of women for us normies
Yep. Women who have grown up being approached by all sorts of guys are looking to see who you are--like say you're the next one approaching. Having "attraction proxys" thrown at us sends the message you think we can easily be bought. Unless shes a heartless golddigger, thats not gonna work & is actually a turn off. In general women are looking for connection/emotional engagement, personality/intelligence & character to activate attraction & interest in you as a person, & yes i also mean sexual attraction. We are built differently than men in this regard where looks drive attraction in a much stronger way for y'all. I like your shirt, by the way. - April
That proves why men are the problem in dating. So often they reduce a woman to just her looks, then try to pretend “looks don’t matter if you’re a man”. They could not be further from the truth
John 11:25-26 Bible “I am the resurrection and the life. (Jesus) Whoever believes in me, though he dies, yet shall he live, and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?”
Money obsession is far more prevalent in America where there is a greater wealth disparity. People form a lot of their values in the context of their culture, and America is a culture that values status symbols and wealth above all. I'm lucky to live in a region where women are more likely to select for qualities that can't be bought. While money offers a desirable degree of security, it does not guarantee a good life. Many of the wealthy people I've met are miserable and have dismal interpersonal lives.
@@zacklewis342 When you read a sentence in a paragraph, do you immediately disregard every sentence that came before it? Or do you only read the last sentence in a paragraph? Because the sentence before the one you fixated on stated that wealth does not guarantee a good life. I didn't say anywhere that wealth causes a bad life.
@@ALForb No, he just tried to point that money offers far less chance to have miserable life, but both of you missed the basics of human psychology - we are mainly hedonistic in nature and usually our last words at deathbed prove that
@@GbpsGbps-vn3jy And what last words do you mean? I can genuinely tell you, despite your reductive, simplistic idea of human nature, that I could die right now and feel as though I've lived a full life. This is because I've found love, I'm part of a community, and I've accomplished a number of my goals and found meaning in doing so. None of this has to do with money or hedonism, which is evidenced by my not being wealthy at all. I've found that when someone tries to characterize human nature, (again, SO simplistically), as "hedonistic", they're in truth trying justify to themselves how empty their own life is in their pursuit of pleasure.
@@ALForb Feeling lived a full life? For real? Hedonistic idea includes also that feeling of having a full life. In the old and modern books it's called egoistic pursuit for short-term gratification mainly at the expense of others and while doing this it changes to long-term. Experience during this is ALWAYS transferred to the offspring(s) which is the main goal for making your bloodline to survive. And like the other 8 bil people on the planet lol :D But don't bother, you'll be forgotten as person who really existed, usually maximum in the next 2 to 3 generations of your bloodline
You need money to get the most beautiful women who have the most options, not women in general. Being the most popular man in a particular place will do more than money. That’s the “contextual alpha”. Most guys could get laid at any point, they just don’t because they blow off the “unattractive” women who approach them.
My perspective confidence even borderline psychotic. The sports analogy was good. I use to play indoor soccer league A grade everytime I stepped out to the game I knew I could score. I thought I was top 3 player in the league. Confidence humor engage in their emotions and look as attractive as possible will help. Dont be a puppy dog and bow down to them either. They all crave masculine men its part of biology.
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20yo men are more attractive than 30yo men…
Trying to be unattractive to women is enlightening- a real eye opener.
@@michaelgarrow3239 As a woman I can say you're wrong. A man's facial features don't fully develop into manhood until he's older.
To be fair, my parent’s basement is really nice
Speaking of the pond, back in the 80's when San Francisco had a nice club scene you could clean up being a straight white guy that could dance descent. Not much competition. Find an area where you are desirable. SF would not be that place now. Boston...Denver...
As a dude with several dope cars, I can confirm that I attract mostly other men who share my passion for cars rather than women who think I'm rich.😂
This is exactly how it works in the motorcycle community as well
That´s also exactly what happens when you get jacked in the gym. The more jacked you get, the more attention you get from other guys that want to achieve the same goal.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
My friend owns a ferrari and I own a Superbike (Yamaha r1m) I usually get more chicks than him.
Why don't you just buy a woman amd trust her well. Or if you don't mind black women come here to Africa and I'll hook you up with a really young wife. Or if you prefer Asians you can try Thailand. Any ways women are every where my bro no reason why a cool bro such as yourself should be in such a situation.
If you do not have enough problems of your own get a woman.
I’d rather have a boat
A good woman will want to make your life easier & add positive things. But, yes, unfortunately some are more trouble than they are worth, so to speak.
Remember Jared the Subway guy? The whole reason he was bonking teenage professionals was because he spent his whole life being completely invisible to women. Then Subway got him some money and was moderately in-shape, and bam--women are suddenly interested in him. I think that realizing this was what made him go rogue; if they're gonna use him, he's gonna use them.
Don’t need a 6-pack but a bottle of wine’ll do it!
😂😂😂😅😅😅
1 - Confidence: fake it until you make it
2 - Ability to engage women's emotions: playful, dangerous, cocky, etc
3 - Contextual alpha: biggest fish in a smaller pond instead of a bigger pond
1 You can't fake confidence if you are not a self destructive fool
2 It is not about emotion but about being lewd and portraying yourself like a right kind of man if you show yourself as boyfriend husband material you wont get sex like if you present yourself as F-boy
3 even in small pond everyone can't be biggest fish
“Faking it till you make wont get you anywhere”-nowhere in the video does it state that!
@@deltaxcdlol wow. you sound bitter and mad abiut something
@@PolishBehemoth I don't think so. I just find this stupid and also people who say things like that stupid because it contradicts basic logic
I don't think 1. is solving the issue though... you would just be.. well.. faking it and burring the issue. 2. shouldn't matter to begin with if marriage is the goal. 3. is simply implying that most men will fail anyway.
A close friend I know since childhood.... He spent his entire early to mid 20s always broke, switching jobs every few months, no goals, no purpose, sleeping in his car most of the time, and using every cent he earned to party and drink. He dated nothing but highly educated women, making a good income, and with their own apartment/home. These girls knew that he worked construction and didn't make much money, but they didn't care. Several offered him to move in with him. He played so many of these girls it was crazy. They were heavily attracted to his charisma and his game. Since then.. my view on women has been a bit distorted, knowing that nearly every girl you talk to (doesn't matter how smart, mature, or sweet she might be), has been ran through by dudes like that... while at the same time expecting YOU to have all your shit together. Insanity
"First you get the money, then you get the power then you get the women."
-Tony Montana
And then you get blown away by a hired assassin...
Epic line
That line doesn't make sense because we have literal 19yo broccoli head tik toc eboys getting JBs simping over them!
IF you attract wimmen with your money and power, you´ll GET wimmen who are attracted to money and power. Wanna marry her???? Think about it for a while.. Rgr
@roharatube-- And by then you know longer care about women.
My experience:
1. Non-chalance do wonders to certain women.
2. Direct approach through casual talk is the best filter to weed out women who are interested or not in you.
3. Having options lined up while approaching women is not wicked but practical approach to the game.
4. Do something that catches their attention. Anything can be a charm.Talent, sports, etc.
#3
Very time consuming too
@@Npc1488-wc1kf And expensive. It's like a 2nd job but you pay for it.
I don't even bother.
Can you expand #2?
As a lifelong actor/tv news guy, I can confirm the contextual alpha thing. I saw it first in high school theatre. Very few guys wanted to sing and act, but all sorts of girls did. I liked singing and acting and I couldn’t believe how easy it was to get girls simply because I had big (stage) parts. I was later a big fish in a small pond (a minor celebrity in a place with a celebrity shortage) and it worked much the same way.
Now none of that led to a stable long term relationship. That takes something different.
So, Champ, when you were in the pond did you do the BREAST STROKE ???? haha
Are the allegations true that news anchors eat each other's s*** and cheat on each other? Play, our propagandist who work for the CIA? Your silence = you agree.
@@douglasrobertson1330(Chuckling to death)
That's where I'm at now. It's incredibly easy to meet women for sex. Women who want relationships are insanely picky. It's like they'd rather be alone unless you're a doctor or a lawyer.
@@renaissance17its not that women would rather be alone,
They have higher standards for a devotional LTR.
For a fun time, those standards (criteria) do not apply.
The most important thing for arousing a women is to be good looking, the most important thing for attracting a women is to be confident, and the most important thing for keeping a women is to be wealthy. If a man possesses all three of these things he's essentially Thanos of modern dating.
Donald Trump! Who is thanos?
@@inconnu4961Whoa.. *Not* a Marvel / Avengers fan, eh??
All three pills combined 😎
Until she gets the infinity stones of divorce court and makes half his wealth disappear.
There is a paradox of having it all. Once your woman have them, she will start looking for something that you don't have. In human psyche, we want what we can't have. The itch won't stop.
Going out isn’t cheap. Paying for two every time you do is even worse. If they’re conventionally hot it’ll cost even more. You try to go out at least once a weekend you’re looking at another car note. There is no downplaying the need for money when it comes to women
I was broke when I was chasing women. I lost women when I started chasing money.
I highly doubt you lost women over chasing money. And chasing women is a bigger problem than being broke. Stop chasing women
@@marcusmcgraw3519if he was chasing money he probably didn't have time to find women desirable women and then maintain relationships with them.
Lost women??. Don't worry, they will start chasing you... They have a sense of picking men with money
@@Jy-xq2ew yeah they have a sense of meeting sub 8 men at the financial finish line, while they stick with the +8 for free.🤣🤣
Preach.
Waiting to see if this is an april fool's.
So, it wasn't but I'd definitely recommend his video "All men pay : the more she likes you the bigger the discount" instead of this one.
😂😂😂😂😂
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Actually top tier comment
Mic drop!
Cope harder
New video title:
You don’t NEED money to get women: but it really fking helps
It will hurt more than helps (depending on the guy).
No chick wants some boring finance bro who can buy a Tesla and watches the big game on the weekends.
In my experience, it helps to be chasing something other than women or money.
@@MrFoofarew facts... younger me has helped plenty of chicks cheat on that guy while my turbo Honda Civic hatchback leaked oil on the driveway. 🤣
@@musicmaestro88 daaaamn I got a old ass hatchback too lmao
@@MrFoofarew pahahaha 🚗💨
To get access you don't , but when long term they change their mind and then you need to.
That only apply for the patriarchal part of the world.. In the developed part of the world - women could not care less about your money.. :D Actually even the fact that you could THINK of paying anything for them would disqualify you completely..
Well that's the trick. Don't try to get long term with woman who gives 'access' to anyone.
Patriarchal only idiot think like that being played by government or law firm as a money making machine.
You’re overcomplicating this. All of those guys who smash with no money have LOOKS. Looks comes before money. Always has, always will. It isn’t “confidence”. Confidence is downstream to looks so I get how it’s confusing to you, but you have the causality backwards. It’s the looks that women want, not the confidence that is a consequence of it.
That's why I always say when the confidence line is brought up that if you look like Shrek and are confident, you'll just be perceived as creepy or cocky. If it was not mostly about looks, the men who are seen as the most desirable wouldn't be all good looking guys like celebrity dudes.
not what i've seen, i'm attractive but attraction is like an amusement ride: it's enough to get them to want to look closer but not necessesarily enough to make them want to ride. i constantly see far less attractive people getting play because they do exactly what he is describing. this gives me hope because i get exactly 0 on a yearly basis even though plenty of women have been "attracted" to me at first to only discover that it isn't as advertised. getting better now, depression for years is no joke.
@@secretagent4610 i've seen my share of shreks get play, attraction may draw more women to you but that doesn't make them do much else.
@@raphaeljones8190 if you’re attractive and you can’t get women you are a shame to all men. Just smile and nod as she talks, and when she says “should we go back to your place?” smile and nod like a puppy dog and you’re in. How do you mess that up? Looks is almost everything.
I agree with you. Women go for looks because it’s an instinctive genetics thing… they wanna be turned on and they also want cute kids. The guys saying oh I look good and don’t get any women is because they don’t look as good as they think lol Most women I know, good or bad material go for looks first. They only go for money if they have been raised that way or they do that after they have been hurt a few times.
“How to emotionally engage a woman “ - title of your next video I hope
I agree! I was looking for a comment that mentions this.
Easy, when you're at home slow dancing to the music and getting excited just WHIP IT OUT, see her scream, but the cops wouldn't like that, oh well. haha
Please
You should go to a friend that gets A LOT women and read their text messages. Literally can copy their game for in person speech AND text speech cuz I swear they both matter INDEPENDENTLY. ALSO, ask someone that’s OK looking. Not someone that girls lay eyes on and they’re in him. He’s not gonna have the need to speak a certain way like an average looking guy.
Be hot and then cold and distant but at the same time indifferent and funny and make her feel safe. Be dog and a cat and everything in-between. And no matter what you do do no show any weakness. Be playful but don't show investment in her or that you need her. It's both complicated and tiresome imo.
I got two handsome guy friends. One makes 6 figures and the other is unemployed. The unemployed one is the one who always gets women but he's very extroverted. My high earning friend is both very shy and not interested in hooking up with the low quality women that make moves on him.
Yeah, this is something I’m finding. I can get laid if I lower my standards. As an established guy with a high income, I keep my standards higher because there’s a lot to lose if I don’t. I think the reality is men who have a lot of women have a lot of time to spend on it. Either they aren’t focused on growing a bigger nest egg for their future selves or they have a nest egg large enough they no longer need to spend a lot of time on it. That’s my theory. The rich men getting women easily are filthy rich and have tons of spare time.
Of course, if someone managed to be unemployed and no worry about money, he is psychologically another level above employed ones
Lots of gross bishes tho
Does the unemployed one pull attractive chicks?
@@balu.92 no, it’s the “not give a fuck” attitude attracts chicks.
These are the reasons why meeting women in real life is the ultimate dating hack for average-looking men who struggle on dating apps where it's all looks based. In-person, looks don't matter nearly that much, it's all about how you make her feel.
“In-person, looks don’t matter nearly that much”. 😂😂😂😂😂 Bluepill simp.
Yeah, every relationship starts with the idea that we as men are REQUIRED to make them feel safe or happy ... Go on, I need a good laugh before bedtime :D
The day men stop the hype of beauty of women in them and in their minds women will start to face he'll lot optionality problem.
Also the modern dating is providing he'll lot optionality, validation, compliments and attention to women in almost negligible effort
Even women collectively women and their dating coaches try best so that men keel being simp, sweet and agreeable and women always have optionality
Men..... Never listen to females and female dating coaches only ask experienced men and keep Learning.
@@GbpsGbps-vn3jy Things are required of both parties in a relationship
It's not lost on us that this was released on April Fool's Day
Disagree wholeheartedly. Get but not keep. Sure anyone can get a date & screw around, but if you want an actual relationship & looking to find a mate, there is a point where a little bit of logic & reason comes into her head. Wheter its early on or later in the dating phase. "Can he provide for me in the long term, I really don't want to work forever, & want to have & take care of my kid at home". Hypergamy kicks in, "is this the best I can get at this point in my life?" Is he competent? Can he physically protect me?"... Playboy's aside this is the inevitable epiphany of her psyche.
Very true
Interesting video! However, I believe the dynamics can vary significantly depending on the demographic and economic context. In regions experiencing resource scarcity, where poverty is prevalent, women might naturally gravitate towards men who are financially stable and resourceful. In such circumstances, other attributes like physical attractiveness, personality, or intelligence might become secondary considerations.
On the other hand, in more affluent societies with a robust economy and greater individual economic freedom, women might have the luxury to seek a more balanced mix of qualities in a partner. They might place higher value on attributes like good looks, athleticism, talent, and other non-materialistic traits.
So, while the three things mentioned in the video might work universally to some extent, the weightage of these factors can shift dramatically based on the socio-economic context. Just my two cents!
All research across cultures on human mating reveal that women in general value socio-economic status the most. This is become more true the older the more mature/older the women gets. That social status is what he's referring to hear as being a big fish, even if that means in a small pond. The economic bit, is also highly regarded by women and is often intertwined with high social status. Confidence is a proxy for competence, and the latter is a proxy for high socio-economic status. But women don't know (at least are not conscious of that fact) that confidence is only a proxy. Younger women are more likely to fall for confident men that are actually incompetent.
He's right about getting laid more when you're broke.
Know why?
It's waste of time.
I used to spend all of my time at the gym, buying hip apparel & socializing out & about in a big city like NYC. Was always broke at the end of the month, but was often juggling a half dozen ladies that I gamed at bars, clubs, cafes, on the street, in stores, etc
I even used to pick up women in traffic LOL
Once I started working hard & focusing on my future, women just weren't a priority, anymore
And when you’re focusing on your life/career what follows is the reduction of the drama and entertaining of women at least to piggyback on your comment.
✊🏾. If you're broke, you need to make dating you job to get women.
Same here. It’s best to work for things that last.
The first part sounds like a fun life, second not so much
@@DonaldJewTrump the 2nd can add so much more dimension and depth to your spiritual self provided you do align yourself to those substrates of life.I’ve been there with the fun and juggling multiple women while excelling in my career for years,after a while the hedonism of it began wearing off when I had more questions in life and began probing.Right now I appreciate a more deeper emotional bond with a focus on the soul , philosophy and future of mine and the other persons life
The male brain is always trying to rationalise everything. It's looking for patterns and methods that can be repeated to get the same results. Women, or the act of wooing women, and to some extent men, cannot be rationalised into a repeatable formula. Your confidence, connectability and alpha/leadership is just for starters. That emotional engagement involves being interested in this person and their life experiences, but not too interested.
The PUA folks and others have actually very successfully broken down seduction/courtship/wooing. It is very well understood, but it takes a certain amount of wisdom to apply it properly.
The #1 killer to getting women is being married.
Back in High School I was not the guy women just threw themselves at and I learned how to be much more charismatic for it. After school I got a really good job that had me move out of my home town. A few years ago I went back to my high school reunion. I was easily out earning any of my other classmates and I also grew to be 6' 200lbs and all of a sudden the girls from my school now who never paid any attention to me or hardly any now wanted to spend the entire night talking to me.
That whole big fish in a small pond does a lot of heavy lifting, that's for dang sure.
Give an average guy a yacht and a private jet and see if he won't significantly improve his dating options. Even about being confident and being a contextual alpha aka being a biggest fish in a small pound, a healthy bank account makes that very easy to pull, you don't need to psych yourself up to be confident if you're Elon Musk, your success speaks for itself. Some women you won't even be on the same space and time with them if you're broke. Money isn't the only thing, but I have to disagree that isn't significant in dating. Normally if you're broke, you need to make dating your job to get some success.
You need Money to Keep women.
(money helps in getting women)
Yea, there is no avoiding the harsh reality of the financial situation. Men HAVE to be providers. There is no getting around this.
yea its almost like you need money to take care of a woman and potential children and their extracurricular activities... no shit
Agreed. You don’t NEED money but in our climate today… it’s very difficult to attract or keep a woman without it. Not impossible but difficult. Depending on the woman
@@hoc1992 ....depending on the man.
@@hoc1992 ...indeed!
When you’re poor you need more game and stress to get women. When you’re rich and well established, women make the game for you. Hypergamy satisfied.
1. Confidence.
2. Ability to engage her emotions.
3. Be the biggest fish in your pond.
That truth is eventually getting laid is less important than having someone committed to you. Who made the famous quote, I don’t pay women for sex; I pay them to leave afterwards. If you find someone that you want to have around you full-time, you found a keeper .
Not really, many women wanted to have me around all time, does not mean they keepers lol.
#2 is redundant in my opinion. If you are the AMOG in any pond, a large portion of the women will gravitate to you. They will engage on their own. The concept of a man (logical creatures) trying to play a woman's game (emotional creatures) is a self defeating concept. Might work to get you laid, won't work in the long run.
@@ws-ss8ks I learned the hard way trough experience but there are also women that do not play emotional games, I prefer those. and recently found one I also found attractive.
The other ones are just for fun, if thats what you mean by game. If you ask me a good relationship is about working together in the end, not games.
@@53strat55 I’d have loved to have found a rational woman but at 58, I see no point to it anymore.
All 3 hard to achieve.
1. Confidence is the easiest one.
2. Ability to engage in emotions: I am personally funny, make some girls laugh but relationships never develop into something meaningful and I feel like many women act as if you are invisible before getting to know you. And if I am not engaged in emotions, I don’t engage in emotions as well.
3. Well, I work a dull 9-5 corporate job due to fu**ed up labour market, have to commute from work and have low energy for extrawork activities, so good luck being biggest fish in small pond. Right now I am a tiny cog in a huge machine.
I really need to get my life together and create an work in a field I like and on my own, that would make me feel more motivated and would also help finding a girl.
My advice especially for men who are handsome is, use it to your advantage. Too often I see other goodlooking guys acting lame and having low confidence. Your looks will get you through the door, after that it’s all a matter of having swag and a solid mouth piece. Learn how to make women FEEL, this should be a combination of both positive and negative emotions, that’s what keeps women locked in.
Solid advice. I like this.
How lol 😂 I just can't seem to get the women I like but there are a lot of women who likes me (I already rejected 4...)
What type of negative emotions?
So you want to be a good looking handbag to women? She will be in control, have fun with that bro!
or a resident visa. but how do you tell the difference?
It is important to make the distinction between short term, medium term and long term (marriage).
The importance of money increases the further you extend the timeline of the relationship.
In marriage, 80% to 90% of women are practically for sale to highest bidder. Yes, women prostitute themselves, deal with it.
We have a correct answer, gentlemen
As someone who is well into six figs, I think personality and people skills matter more than anything else. Looks and money help, but they’re not what gets you the girl.
Greetings, Mr Glitzos. Could you provide an email to exchange information? Thanks in advance.
Agreed. Whether it’s social success or business success, personality and people skills are most essential.
dman thia is harsh. This speaks alot to me.
100%
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this is so true, the money muscles game frame will help you however you can get just as far with a take it or leave it attitude and being your own mental point of origin.
when i was strung out and homeless i was running thru women, when i got my life straight and got clean is when the problems with women started.
its because i had expectations
Dr I believe your spot on. I've learned over the years that women tend to be single minded they concentrate on one thing at a time. When they first glance at you they've all ready sized you up. So guys I strongly recommend take care of your health and hit the jym you don't have to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger just be fit.
Good "game" for sure is gonna get you laid. I agree with what Orion is saying here. But it's really only in the short term. Long term relationships you don't have to be rich, but you do need to make the money that she expects you to be making or it's over.
It depends on the women you're after. In today's world, a woman with options will more likely date a guy with a car and a house than an unemployed one, everything else being equal. Money is not the most relevant factor, but the lifestyle it facilitates does matter. Sure, if you're extraordinary in game or looks you can bypass it; but lifestyle is increasingly important to modern women for a relationship.
IF YOU ARE Tall, decent looking, speak well, make her feel good about herself, and laugh. You are more than halfway there.
Still they will change their mind on a whim and ghost you/disengage, doesn't matter if you played your cards right up to that moment. Just yesterday I had a girl confessing this very thing. Surprise surprise! Today she said she no longer wants to continue communication. Maybe she revealed the secret too soon? I'll never know.
And if you are not tall and decent looking?
@@hellboy0189 Then you better be Wealthy.
Here's the 3 things that will get you laid even if you're broke:
1. 3:33 Psychotic Confidence: Consistent felt experience of success. You never consider that you might not succeed.
2. 4:32 The ability to engage a woman's emotions: Being physically attractive or humorous and playful or mysterious and unpredictable or dangerous and edgy or cocky and bold (capture attention through emotional engagement)
3. 5:36 Contextual Alpha: Better to be the biggest fish in a smaller pond than a bigger fish in a bigger pond who's not the biggest fish in that pond.
Thanks
ok...you don't need money to get woman only if you are Chad, Tyrone , Bad boy, or other thugs...but if you are nice guy, poor, or ugly, Game is definitively over...
You don't necessarily need money to get women but you better have something to compensate, e.g. confidence, humour, intelligence, chaRIZZma, looks, potential, ambition, pipe game, status, etc. And if you don't live up to your potential or ambition she will punish you for it in divorce and child custody court.
The final part is essential.
Pipe game ... yes sir it helps
Status if you have status simple you market her to other men with more money. Status doesn't equal money unless you are tradesmen
@@pwilliams4073 you have to settle her mind, body and soul. Otherwise, you will lose her to someone else.
Wait, what? Lmfao. That escalated extremely quickly. For her to "punish you," wouldn't you have to get married first?
You definitely don't need money to get women but the process of building your wealth will make you more attractive to women. Building your own wealth is hard and you'll need to think intelligently through problems, overcome challenges, and develop resilience along the way b/c nothing will work out perfectly. These qualities will make you battle hardened by life and women will definitely pick up on this and the panties will disintegrate instantly...
Actually no... Successful businessmen attract only golddiggers.
Both are possible. As long as you don't lead her with money, lavish lifestyle and you still take full control of financial without revealing our net worth and not giving her your debit/credit card. Treat her like like you run your business. Put her within amount of budget and do not break even point. If she wants more she is gotta earn it and you can judge her by her efforts
Money is a negotiation tool and you cannot negotiate genuine desire. Rollo has been giving us a version of this for years. I got laid plenty when I was broke doing illegal shit.
Unattractive guys think that being wealthy is what gets you women. I know because I've told this to myself. It certainly doesn't hurt but it's not gonna attract women who wouldn't be otherwise. Those that do are sugar babies and gold-diggers and they want the wealth, not the man.
What was the quality of the women? I’m at this place where I’m picky about women I’m willing to engage. I’m finding most are simply low quality and if I wanna get laid, I can, but only if I’m good with not caring about her red flags and chaos. Or simply engaging an obese one
Where would you go to find all these women?
Having money just puts you around different types of women. Who you are decides if you get them or not, tho.
There is a slippery slope with this. I agree that you don't need money to attract or have sex with women. However, women are attracted to and commit to lifestyles. So yea a woman in her 20s who is looking to have sex isn't concerned that much about money. But a woman who is looking for a LTR and possible marriage is looking for a lifestyle. Unfortunately, lifestyles are often based on income.
It isn't just a lifestyle thing. Men are providers, no matter how badly many feminists try to convince themselves otherwise.
If a man cannot provide for a family, then they wont get a decent woman to commit to them (assuming the man is honest and not manipulative). This is for good reason and it is what it is. Way too many men in western cultures now think they can have a wife working at the same time as mothering children, and the divorce rates are at record highs with birth rates at record lows across the globe.
I gonna test this out when I pull up to pick up a date on a bicycle. Let see how fast she jumps on the handle bars in the middle of winter😂😂
Maybe in Florida or Texas or California that would work. In NYC or Chicago, nah bruh! Not even an e-bike!😂
@@janeentumbao8690 I live in Texas. Not a chance you get a date on a bike in 105 degree weather and have to ride 5 miles to the restaurant with maybe a sidewalk if you're lucky.
I knew it! I had to stop at my 250k km mark and start dating ... Damn :(
I'd love a specific episode on how to engage their emotions
Tease them, make strong eye contact, and keep your big mouth shut. Works like a charm.
Wipe your winky on their curtains...
A classic technique is explaining your traumas to her. Or speaking about some social cause that is very sad. I'd love to watch a specific episode too.
@@mtsdivine No need to hop in the comments fellow keyboard warriors, the man asked Orion for advice.
Be good looking.
Videos like this are anachronistic. Women advertise on Insta and TikTok what they want, there's no secret. They have stated that if you make less than $50K, don't date. If you're under a certain height, don't bother. If you have a normal profession, there's no point. On top of that, wall-to-wall media coverage for years has told men not to approach, or chase after women. The very thought that "they're only referring to a small subset of men" flies in its own face, because millions of men are paying for the behavior of only a few thousand men.
Kings, find your own peace. Go your own way. Because it ain't gonna be anywhere near a woman.
You don’t you only need to have the potential to make money, you need to have charisma.
If you have charisma you have the potential to make money though
@@saintoflastresorts2272 not always.
@@saintoflastresorts2272 but you could have the potential to make money but no charisma
Read lots of fun books, especially those written before the TV when people were actually reading for entertainment.
all you need is good looks, (bullsht about having charisma)
I've got a friend who's good looking but he has a personalty and charisma of a plank of wood and he has beautiful women DESPERATELY cueing up to go with him, ON THE OTHER HAND... I have a another friend and he's average looking but has so much charisma it's unbelievable and he has problems getting women....he gets the odd one f-ugly woman once in a blue moon (I been there with both of them and studying them both closely (because I'm interested in dating dynamics)
April fools, in reality women chase men.
I prefer being a Sigma. From my experience, most alphas are douches. Also, I have confidence, I can be emotionally engaging and I can be contextual. Eh, I'm content. I don't chase women. Most women I am surrounded by, lack confidence to ask me out. I have had a few great women directly ask me out. Mind you, I also have preferences and standards. I won't just say "Yes", because a woman asks me out, either. Also, I can handle rejection too, I might add. No problems.
Attempting to grab or seek my attention through frustration, annoyance, aggression or aggravation is a definite red flag and NO from me!
I need to have an interest: like Aang for Katara, Or Meng for Aang 😂
Some women have a secret beauty that is under appreciated or undervalued, that they never know of. Others NOT so much.
In any event, I don't need a woman in my life to complete me. I am on my own great journey, and, a woman needs to complement my life ☺️
And I need to be physically, mentally and emotionally attracted to her, and I hope she is the same or it just won't work.
this is called emotional manipulation and will lead to toxic relationships. Go on like that, if you can live with that outcome.
You're talking about pickups, one night stands. If you're going to be a provider and I start a family yes you do need money.
Correct. There's a whole different ball game between picking women up in a bar for a ONS and meeting women for a casual fling, and meeting women with the intention to date to find a LTR or wife and to have children with. Women look for different qualities in men depending what she's looking to get - ONS, fling, or marriage with children. Men the same with what women they look for and how they go about it and what they present. But he didn't cover that.
You can use money to catch them or you can use other devices to catch women but to keep them money is essential because women's hypergamy instincts will be a itch she needs to scratch eventually.
Not all believe me then again we were young and in love rather I was she was obsessed it did not work out because of culture and so many other factors.
You can be broke and pull. You just have to provide a woman with enough drama and titillation to keep her emotionally engaged.
Y'know those addict losers with well-defined abs and/or big shoulders who women keep coming back to despite everyone knowing it's a bad idea? Yeah, both the abs and the chemical dependence combined are what do it.
Drama = "Ohhowcouldhethisistearingmeapart -> Tee-heehe'sgettingbetterLAVIEENROSE~"
Titillation = Abs/shoulders.
Yes, it really is that simple.
Y'know how I know? I'm a product of the above interactions.
@@ephraimwinslow You're a coked out meathead?
The most box I've gotten when I was broke making 12 a hour as a dishwasher.
@@YungJay216
You don't have to be literally broke or an addict for it to work, it just so happens that that's the easiest possible way to do it. You don't even have to think about it. Your natural addict patterns of behavior will keep her on tenterhooks by default.
You described precisely one of my friend life, addict loser with abs in a toxic loop relationship
I couldn't find a girlfriend when I was poor. I couldn't find a girlfriend when I became rich. However, the problem was never related to hypergamy, not even was it because of lack of attraction. I simply never ran into attractive women who were single and on the dating market. No wealth in the world can change this.
You have to date married women or single baby moms. Sad but true. Good luck in meeting the woman of your dreams. I met the woman of my dreams in a strip club. I was young and foolish and if I had to do it over again I would have said "hell no!" The woman of my dreams turned out to be the nightmare of my dreams. Please don't make my mistake of falling in love with a stripper. They'll break your heart every time.
It has never been easier for a faithful, sincere woman to nail down a great husband. Quite literally any woman sincerely interested in marriage and family can go out and take her pick of the litter. If you are a man in his 40's or 50's, it is accurate to say, 'all the good ones are taken'. You are reduced to dating for for fun (rare with modern women, lol) or waiting for a widow to pop up. No one ever mentions the fact that quality women who are widows don't stay single very long.
Sadly, this is all due to lack of supply. Modern society doesn't encourage or support sincere family oriented women.
@@garykeith1048 I'm not into strippers, I like cute, educated and kind women with lots of feminine energy. Never found one on the dating market though.
@@ws-ss8ks In addition, even the good women lose massively on attractiveness. Often it's not their own fault, it's biology, unfortunately. I have difficulty getting attracted to older women, even though I would love to find them attractive.
@@ws-ss8ks Older women say the same thing. All the good ones are taken, when a good one comes on the market he gets his pick of women and doesn,t stay single long.
They are both right.
The emotionally healthy people find each other and get married early and live happily ever after.
Those with issues stay on the market or can't hold onto a mate for long.
The only hope is for those with emotional issues to realize they have issues, work on those issues, and find someone else who realizes they have issues and is wiling to work on their issues together.
Even harder to find.
Thank Goodness I saw you on SWU - You are helping me so much , A grateful older chick , back on the dating scene . Have a Great Day Doc..
Men who are insecure for us women are like those women for you men who are putting pressure on you to have a serious relationship or those who threaten to break up if they are not asked to marry you. Nobody likes it, everyone runs away and wants distance. LOL.
In other words, we run away from men who are insecure, send us 200 messages a day, non-stop and don't let us breathe. Or that other type of man who loves to mention ALL THE TIME how much money he makes a year or how big his penis is, when no one asked. Confidence, quite important for both sides.
Great video, Orion.
Cheers.
Ding ding ding....you win the 'insecure' word bingo.
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Darling, don't wanna break your dreams but adding the evolution to the equation I will ask one RHETORICAL question:
Will you have confidence if flat-chested/ugly face/poor?
@@GbpsGbps-vn3jy You're right, I don't know what it's like to be very ugly or stupid, much less, what it's like to be with someone who actually has these characteristics, since my boyfriend is the opposite of your description. So, I can feel empathy and put myself in other people's shoes. You're absolutely right! 🙃
@@meliciaoliveira9895 It was a rhetorical question and in fact it's not about your boyfriend (asking about your mental stability, ie emotions != intelligence), but we can construct a simple answer: Ask the members of your social circle(s) if they think you are. But don't ask politely, make some good fun aka do some shitty behavior for a couple of weeks and wait till their true faces show. Definitely you'll be amazed how many truths will be revealed in no time. Three requirements: listen them carefully to not miss anything and be ready to feel the right time to shoot the questions. Third one is NEVER tell them why you did it BEFORE and the last one from the circle pops out too
In high school i took girls on dates on the back of a moped. My big expenditure was a 4 pack of wine coolers to get them loosened up. Easy peasy
In high school, I was a skinny, goofy, average looking nerd. My step-brother was tall, handsome, cool, and smoked and drank beer. He ALWAYS could get a cute girl but the girls ignored me. So, in my first year of college, I sold my ham radio station and bought a car. WOW--I had unlimited double dates because none of the guys on the floor had cars. I went to parties every week and just talked to hundreds of girls. From that I went on dozens of dates and by my junior year I was having sex with 2 girlfriends. By age 22 I had a running list of 8 to 10 girls at all times. I became a pharmaceutical sales rep and for 11 years I was paid good money to simply talk to women all day. I am now 71 years old and single. I have absolutely no fear of women. I know almost immediately when I am getting traction with a woman and when I am wasting my time. I don't even think about my age--I think of myself as HER AGE. It's like the camera being completely invisible to an actor. And it's all just a numbers game.
Good tips. Her age - not yours. Numbers game. Don't waste time if there is no traction.
That's actually very sad. What a meaningless life.
@@KevvoLightswift Loving many women sounds like fun. Getting to understand women sounds like wisdom. A life of fun and wisdom sounds good. What is more meaningful than love and wisdom?
I'm in the Philippines (American expat) and in my fifties. I need your confidence! Lol I am at least tall and mildly above average in looks. Last night I bumped into an amazing woman in the rain, had a connection, and let her walk away. I got home and suddenly what I had done hit me like a ton of bricks! I will admit that she was much younger than me.
@@KevvoLightswift It's actually not a meaningless life. Over half of all males in their 20s today have absolutely zero contact with women. They hide in their childhood bedrooms playing video games and watching porn. The skills I learned in meeting women have given me the confidence to develop many friendships with my male friends and taught me when any person wants to be a friend with me and when someone is toxic or untrustworthy. These skills helped me have a very successful lawn mowing/landscaping business for 33 years and raise my 5 sons in an environment of success.
No, you don't need to play mental gymnastics, instead just stop caring about outcomes. Confidence comes in the beginning by taking risks and not giving a shit what happens.
Lived in a sharehouse some years ago. One was a musician, making money playing in the street.
By far the poorest of us and by far the one that attract chicks the most😅😅
Because he lived for something bigger than himself
@@RavenYeah-7 "Because he lived for something bigger than himself"
No, because he was a musician.
music come with feeling and girls like all about feelings, you just need work with feelings, feel strong, feel romantic, feel......
@@Magicallstore "music come with feeling and girls like all about feelings, you just need work with feelings, feel strong, feel romantic, feel......"
lol not at all, play the guitar and be a dick and you get a load of women.
There is no equivalent to get the same level of success without music instrument by being "feely, feely"
@@arofhoof If that truly is the case, then most of those chicks, sound like a chore at best…
I personally feel, that one of the biggest problems that men deal with is; chasing after the illusion of chicks easily impressed by the stereotypical fascinations, instead of waiting for a woman who actually has the capability and self-respect to think for her damn self, without bowing to the whims of riches and possessions..
Lies !! Before confidence comes LOOKS. That is what matters to ATTRACT women.... everything else is secondary
Your the maker of your own prison, but you also hold the keys. If THIS is your belief and you refuse to see it otherwise, that it IS your reality. You only have yourself to blame then for your lack of success
@@lavieenrose7925 still - looks #1 then…. Everything else
@@estebanrivera7068 Defend your excuses and you ge to keep them. Enjoy the unecessary frustration
@@lavieenrose7925 exactamente!! Looks rule
@@lavieenrose7925 exactly!! Looks rule
id rather have money than women
So you can go jack off to premium porn and play 10 hours of video games a day on a high end rig. Money for personal fun only goes so far, unfortunately. All things come at a cost, and that includes having no family to raise. Yes, there are also pros to that life.. for a time. It does not last long though.
2:40 this is going to be you lol
Wah wah
This may be different if you live in a 3rd world country
My BF has limited money . I don't care . I got money . He's got good game , we laugh our butts off and we share expenses. So far so good , knock on wood . He's a little different and I dig that . I love his swagger and his deep voice is oh so sexy . Enjoying the time together . I hope he is too . And he's kind and generous in other ways . I call it Winning
What’s up with the spaces in front of your punctuation?
Keep calling it winning. 25% of women make more than men now.
Know what actually makes your relationship good. What makes life worth it.
@@RodrigoTechador good call
Good for you I am happy to see that good news.
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Like when I was a club security making $20/hr. The women all knew I'm not balling in there or blowing money like the dudes at bottle service. But cause I was "the boss" in there, they'd throw themselves at me.
I believe from my experience that ambition is only attractive in men under the age of 30. It took me a few relationships in my 20's to realize that women will put you on the shot clock and if you're not making enough money in time then it's over for you.
Totally agree 💯 that's why if you don't have $ but want to smash and leave - you need to fake it😅
If she's attractive, agreeable, and low body count, you're probably not going to want to leave before she figures out you're faking it. Then before you know it your time is up and you get dumped for the guy that's just like you in every way except he has real money.
Can you go in depth about engaging emotions and how we can do it?
Dr David Buss has found that a man having resources is the number 1 common attraction trigger in females worldwide
proof, he had a baby at his age. It's not because of his confidence and dashing good looks
I fully agree with this. I am a 50s male with currently no car, catching public transport to work. Yet have dated two women in their 20s and two in their 30s in the past few months. Mainly with confidence and emotional engagement.
Thats why you dont have car
@@harrisawan5360😂😂
If you are getting laid with women 20-30 years younger than you, you don’t need a car.
@@hellboy0189 I don't sleep with them all, no matter how either young or pretty they might be. If I don't have a good emotional click with them, I stop dating them it just doesn't feel right to me otherwise. That in turn usually comes back to having sufficient different zodiac signs across our astrological birth chart. If not enough different zodiac signs, that usually translates into a boring emotional connection, it is like dating your twin sister. Viva le difference.
Ok, but getting a woman to go out with you, and getting her to stick around are two different things. If all you are after is random sex, then yea... go figure, women are easy to manipulate. Not sure I'd say being able to play a woman so easily is a good thing though, and it is not what guys should be worried about, especially if we are looking at this from a societal point of view. Too many people have lost a sense of value of family and raising one as is.
He's right
I think out of these three qualities the most important one is to be able to engage a woman's emotions make her feel "you get her". Otherwise being confident and alpha are not gonna help you, you are just an asshole in her eyes lol.
Money is for relationship market value and improving logistics, not building attraction.
Stop talking rubbish man... the easiest thing in the World is to fall in love with a rich man
@@dinsel9691 is it easy to fall in love with his money and what it buys her or the actual man himself?🤔
Orion.... I am 63 and would like to hear your pointers for men of this age that want to form relationships to finish the rest of their life... most of what you talk about is for young persons that are forming their first stable relation to have a family etc..etc...but for a lot of us we are at a different stage and need a different point of view as to what we should look for in a relation ..thanks
To the doctor's point, even if you are not all that attractive, you can become attractive in their eyes over time. You won't get that immediate attraction the top percent of guys get, but you will draw them in over time if you follow today's lesson.
If I'm being honest, I can get a woman any time I want to. The thing is though, is she just something to poke and feels the same about me? If we hook up 3 or 4 times, and I decide she's someone I want to become more serious with, what am I getting? I'm getting a girl who's primary concern is just a hook up and nothing more. Sex is the single most intimate and vulnerable thing two people can do so why cheapen it? I'm not saying she can't arrive at the same thought I have but she's still someone who just wanted a hook up. I can do better and that's why I gave up on this shit long ago. I don't want to end up being some girl's regret and I don't want her to be mine. Be careful what you wish for.
It's ultimately about checking off as many boxes as you can. That would be fitness, wealth, some status, charm, and a dozen other markers of success. And that takes time and practice.
Sounds dumb. Why do all this work?
The main factors which will attract women in ascending order -
1) Fame
2) 6 + feet height, fit body & symmetrical face
3) I Don't give a F#$% Personality
4) Money & Lifestyle
Whenever I see comments like this I know for a fact you know nothing about how to turn a woman on.
Wrong
@@marguskiis7711 Whats your list? Any other points to add or is just the order wrong?
If you are tall, fit & at the same time who has an attractive face, then all other factors are secondary.
One factor i would like to add here is your ability to get women emotionally invested in you. If you are like Brad Pitt, who is perfect in every respect, but you don't know how to chat women up and get them to invest in you emotionally, you won't have any women around. You need to be cool when talking a girl. You need to have charism instead of being a good-looking, rich nerdy dude who can only provide and basically being categorized as provider type of guy.
sound advice but i'm just a looser when it comes to women and at 60 it feels late to start learning these tricks
Incredible, essential insights. “Attraction proxies” helps me understand the problem with “pick me” guy or girl strategies: it’s the indirectness.
It would have been positively life-altering for me to have encountered these ideas in a book or curriculum of some sort around ages 12 to 13.
1. Looks
2.Aura/presence about self
3. Charm
4. Money
The less of the top 2 -looks/Aura/ -the more you will have to have the bottom 2-Charm/Money/ -the less of the bottom 2 the more of the top 2 you will have to have
I generally break it down into 3 things necessary to get a woman. You can get away with only 1 of these but you'll be limited. 2 of them will net you a much large range. If you have all 3 characteristics then you can get any woman.
1) Wealth and status - Women will see what you can do for them. The more wealth you have the more likely they'll be attracted as wealth can lead to status. And status is like oxygen to many women (besides drama). You can be a multi-millionaire master plumber, but women will still bypass you to get with a famous person whether celebrity or company officer. This is also what he mentions about being an actor and still getting girls. As the lead you have status.
2) Game - aka personality. Sweet talk, fast talk, big talk, this is where the ability to listen and interact come into play. This is more of a long term characteristic.
3) Looks - Yes, a six pack can take you far. But not as far as you think. Many out there are willing to smash a hot guy. However, that's as far as it will go. Women admit to this regularly and will often compete for a hot guy.
Now do the combinations. 2 of the 3 will generally give you great results. Looks and status? Money and looks?
1) Status, yes, but not all women appreciate that. It's meaningless to a lot of them, but not all. The women for whom status does mean something show it's an aphrodisiac to them. I've done a lot of public speaking, and afterwards they're swarmed around me. Even being a magician's audience volunteer on stage for his show brings out the chicks. Being an organiser of a group, or group leader also brings them out.
Doctor , try Singapore young girls . 3 points not enough at all , they expect octagon fighters aka at least 8 perfect points just to consider you.
This explanation is how and why Simps are born, we see it all over guys with just money and no confidence
They need to also develop their fitness/looks and game/personality. And I would even add spirtuality/religiousity.
I thoroughly enjoyed this episode as my life of failure with women basically had me believing that because I’m average height with a middle class income, that I’m doomed to be alone. I’ve been told I’m not bad looking when I smile but that alone got me laid maybe once every 5 years or so; right now I’m working on a decade! First I love the confidence advice: forget your history! I’ve been plagued by my past for what seems to be eternity. Just be like the hockey goalie and forget the bad goals! I’m actually good at engaging women in conversation and can make them laugh but the man who worries too much about failure will eventually bring it upon himself. I know this as I’ve seen something I’ve said dramatically change a woman’s attitude, snatching failure from the hands of victory. Finally my ability to make people laugh could lead me to the appropriate stage: stand-up comedy. I know some clubs with open mike nights. Next step, “Cast my fate to the wind!”
Now we need a 3 hour long session on how to emotionally Engadge like a pro
I will easily choose a trustworthy loving man making fractional amount of a millionaire who’s emotionally unavailable
Marilyn Monroe in her autobiography talked about how she would rather be with a poor boy she loved than a rich man she liked. Women who only want your money are not women that love you. Find the girl that loves you and stick with her.
Yet she only dated rich men, lmaoo
So why did she leave her first husband then
@@alonzoperez2470 she was rich herself
@@James_36 she was rich I'm aware of that. But she didn't fuck with broke or poor guys most likely. And if she did. It was probably a night stand behind the scene without drawing attention.
@@alonzoperez2470 that goes for any celebrity male also, they date their own
20 years ducking and dodging trash women now I got trucks cars houses machines Rentals equipment businesses I'm a big daddy
Yeah, at 5’4ft and bald, literally nothing I can do.
Are you competent? Are you fully employed? Do you work out and have a good physique? Do you groom yourself well? Can you make a woman laugh? Are you weird? Bald and height mean nothing if you can take care of those.
Tall soles, superglue, cool wig.
Wear tall sole shoes so you can gain a few inches and superglue that wig to your chrome dome.
You're welcome, now go get laid
His advise may be more relevant for the average guy.
As a 5"4 man you are in the 0.1% lower percentile in terms of height.
I'm short and bald too. No issues here. I do have money, and I work out. No 6 pack but I'm at 16% body fat. I'm not swatting away women, but I get mines when I want it. One thing I will say that is very important is your sex game. You HAVE to lay it down good. Very few women are actually size queens, those you can let go because there's nothing you can do unless you're "gifted." But if you're inexperienced, get experienced or else you're never keeping a woman.
Secondly, learn how to pull a woman's emotions. Nothing gives you more ROI than knowing what flavor carrot she loves. Once you know that, you're a king amongst men. If you're not testing her, she'll be testing you. Most successful men have no time or energy for this. This is why the losers always get play and you don't.
Then last is simple. Your looks. Find a look and stick with it. Make sure it works. You're never going to get every girl. Find a look that attracts the girl you want. Girls are very vain. They want to look good. Help them out with your presence.
Be a smart passport bro. There are actually many popular male celebrities in Japan who are just an inch or two taller than you, and many Japanese girls care more about your face than height when it comes to looks. Here is the non-PC pro secret: Most Asian girls cannot judge a non-Asian face properly. it all looks the same to them in a good way if you are a white dude. As long as you facial structure is generally well-proportioned, you are Tom cruise in their eyes. It's like a dating hack. I live in Taiwan and many average white dudes, some are clearly under 5'7'' working as English teachers are being treated like kings by 8s and 9s here.
Appreciate the channel but this was disappointing. I was hoping to hear I could keep a women with little money but it sounds like that is not how it works which is what I assumed 😕
When you are as ugly as I am, money is the only redeeming quality.
If you have money, confidence and a good personality you will be fine ❤
The Pareto principle is inescapable. All these videos are doing are making Orion exponentially more attractive, reducing the already depleted pool of women for us normies
Yep. Women who have grown up being approached by all sorts of guys are looking to see who you are--like say you're the next one approaching. Having "attraction proxys" thrown at us sends the message you think we can easily be bought. Unless shes a heartless golddigger, thats not gonna work & is actually a turn off. In general women are looking for connection/emotional engagement, personality/intelligence & character to activate attraction & interest in you as a person, & yes i also mean sexual attraction. We are built differently than men in this regard where looks drive attraction in a much stronger way for y'all. I like your shirt, by the way. - April
That proves why men are the problem in dating. So often they reduce a woman to just her looks, then try to pretend “looks don’t matter if you’re a man”. They could not be further from the truth
sounds boring. i’ll just pay her to sleep with me. then we can both move on with our lives.
@@mattiaslp9645 Sliding a credit card through a wh*res Vulva sounds boring to me, but to each their own.
Blah blah blah.
What are you trying to say in your first sentence?
John 11:25-26 Bible
“I am the resurrection and the life. (Jesus) Whoever believes in me, though he dies, yet shall he live, and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?”
Money obsession is far more prevalent in America where there is a greater wealth disparity. People form a lot of their values in the context of their culture, and America is a culture that values status symbols and wealth above all. I'm lucky to live in a region where women are more likely to select for qualities that can't be bought. While money offers a desirable degree of security, it does not guarantee a good life. Many of the wealthy people I've met are miserable and have dismal interpersonal lives.
Many of the poor people I've met are miserable and have dismal interpersonal lives. The two things aren't related.
@@zacklewis342 When you read a sentence in a paragraph, do you immediately disregard every sentence that came before it? Or do you only read the last sentence in a paragraph? Because the sentence before the one you fixated on stated that wealth does not guarantee a good life. I didn't say anywhere that wealth causes a bad life.
@@ALForb No, he just tried to point that money offers far less chance to have miserable life, but both of you missed the basics of human psychology - we are mainly hedonistic in nature and usually our last words at deathbed prove that
@@GbpsGbps-vn3jy And what last words do you mean?
I can genuinely tell you, despite your reductive, simplistic idea of human nature, that I could die right now and feel as though I've lived a full life. This is because I've found love, I'm part of a community, and I've accomplished a number of my goals and found meaning in doing so. None of this has to do with money or hedonism, which is evidenced by my not being wealthy at all.
I've found that when someone tries to characterize human nature, (again, SO simplistically), as "hedonistic", they're in truth trying justify to themselves how empty their own life is in their pursuit of pleasure.
@@ALForb Feeling lived a full life? For real? Hedonistic idea includes also that feeling of having a full life. In the old and modern books it's called egoistic pursuit for short-term gratification mainly at the expense of others and while doing this it changes to long-term. Experience during this is ALWAYS transferred to the offspring(s) which is the main goal for making your bloodline to survive. And like the other 8 bil people on the planet lol :D
But don't bother, you'll be forgotten as person who really existed, usually maximum in the next 2 to 3 generations of your bloodline
You need money to get the most beautiful women who have the most options, not women in general. Being the most popular man in a particular place will do more than money. That’s the “contextual alpha”. Most guys could get laid at any point, they just don’t because they blow off the “unattractive” women who approach them.
My perspective confidence even borderline psychotic. The sports analogy was good. I use to play indoor soccer league A grade everytime I stepped out to the game I knew I could score. I thought I was top 3 player in the league. Confidence humor engage in their emotions and look as attractive as possible will help. Dont be a puppy dog and bow down to them either. They all crave masculine men its part of biology.