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I'd say self love is the key. Everything we desire stems from self love. I noticed a drastic change in my life when I started fully believing in what I deserved. We tend to cater to other persons needs in relationships and forget ourselves but once that script is flipped it's a total game changer. Never sell yourself short guys. You deserve the the kind of love/ relationship that not even for a second question if you are worthy. Coz you are absolutely worthy of all that you desire💕 Happy manifesting everyone!
I'm a Infj so I tend to to neglect my self ,but not anymore starting from this moment, I'm so worthy and full of love that I deserve the same love and I'm going to shine so bright that many people are going to line up to see what is happening to me and wanting to share that love in a complete way !!! Indeed 😀❤
One of the great blessings I've received from this quarantine is having the time for working on self-love. My body has changed: I look more beautiful and younger than I have in years! And the way people show up for me is changing too. I was actually almost caught off guard by this SP showing up for me in full masculine presence during a time when men in my past would have ran. It was amazing! However, the very next day, he distanced himself emotionally from me, I fell back into my wounded abandonment issues, and the whole thing became a mess! But I've been watching your videos and following other Spiritual teachings, and have come to the conclusion that this is also a gift. I have the opportunity to dive even deeper into self-love, hold my inner child, heal her and set up fierce self-love boundaries around how I now expect to be treated. Work in progress. I will report back what manifests from this all soon! Much love to you all.
@@suzannemayo1632 For me, personally, visualization tends to be more difficult. What I like to do is think about the affirmation and feel the truth of it repeatedly! So for this video topic, Id feel the truth of my SP showing up more and more and amplifying it, but if visualization works for you, go for it! I think the most important thing is to feel the truth of what you are saying
@@ruthcarlisle2663 aww ruth thank you! Im just tired of the constant in/out behavior going on from my inner reality and convos, so Im trying to work on fixing that
Honestly since watching you I'm learning to change the story. If you want your SP change the story, If you want more money, change the story, if you want to love yourself, change the story. Another great video, thank you! 💕
What to do when your specific person is emotionally unavailable.? Or What to If you tend to attract people who or emotionally unavailable. Or what to If you are having this pattern ocurring - emotionally unavailable . * First and last place to look when it comes to our reality is ourselves. * Cause we are the ultimate creators of everything. * We create with own beliefs, exceptation, assumptions and self concept. ::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::: If you have a pattern of someone showing up in your reality who is emotional unavailable * Emotional unvailable means + they are distant. + not present with you. + they can't hang out When you have emotions. * When we take respomsibilty when these things then it means you tend have these thoughts that + People wont show up for you. + they wont hang out with you. + That gonna have space with you. * we deveolp these expectations we develop from old patterns or from childhood. * Somewhere along the way we tend to develop that person who is important is not gonna be there * We dont have to know how we became.what we are. Instead all we need to change it is to change who you are at this moment. * Take respomsibilty of what is showing up in your reality. ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 2 things important to change the pattern. 1.) You have to change the expectations of other people. * You have to start to expect people are gonna be there present for you, be there for you. * with fierce self love you set boundaries of how you will be treated. * when you chnage what you expect they will change as well. * Go into your inner world create a immaginal act Where people show up for you. You feel another person's presence with you. * As you practice you impress your subconsious you will create a new reality and this what gonna show up for you. 2.) You have to become available to yourself. * This is very important. * People will treat you how you treat yourself. * This is not eniterly true but still you feel.lot easier and better if you be there for yourself. * this is experience of self love and naturally shift your reality. What does becoming emotionally available to yourself means.? * It means is showing up yourself when you dont feel good. - sad - upset - hurt. * Cause this time we chase people to treat you in certain way. * This is way you want others to show up for you. * Ask yourself if people would show up for you what would do they do list it down example. + When i am hurt they stay with me + They consistently are present with me. + When they text they respond. * once you make this list look into yourself if you treat same way to yourself while in situation. * when you are hurt are you showing love to yourself saying i am there for you. * This is the easiest way to create your reality . * Then you start expecting people to start the same way the way you treat yourself. """""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" * Start creating imaginal act of people being with you. * Start shifting your self love practices. * you will create a beautiful reality of the same. Thank You Shelly❤
"This is not the way I'm gng to be treated by them anymore" This needs to be practiced all the time. We have to be confident to ourselves and always self love. We have to be emotionally available to ourselves at first before we expect something frm others.For everything ultimately self love is the key. Right Shelly??😊😊
I need this! My SP is currently being so distant, and it’s great that I run into this video. Thank you so much for making the video and sharing the information! 😊🙏💖
Oh, woooooow... This is crazy! Yesterday, after your video, I (again) manifested a text.. But wondered, why do it feels like fishing with him? I want him to open up to me about his feelings, for once, in more than just two words... All else is well. I love my new life thanks to you, dear Shelly. I opened up to myself, finally. And I am aware that I do this, I make my own reality but... Whenever I think of him, I think of closeness, intimacy... Yet he is a hard shell.. Can't wait for today's video. Here I am, all about fishing, shells and open seas 🎣😀😀🤔
I'm curious how you manifested the text (will you tell us more below in another comment👇)? And also, what are you going to do to manifest a new version of him... a version that's more present and available?
@@ShellyBullard Sure! Well, first of all, our relationship is a rather complicated one(I am aware that I am manifesting by confirming this) so texts come right after I listen to your video. I relax, get confident and I feel this deep deep love, the emotion is physical almost as I get this warm sensation over my shoulders and chest. I love him so much. Yet, I believe that (as you suggested to someone recently) I need to work on self love and than see what happens from that place. Because I know I want love but I want a normal relationship, easy going, affectionate, true love. I hope to get him to open up to me from that place too. I'll meditate and just see my life as filled with ease, love and satisfaction. I want clarity in the path of love but I guess as long as I see it as complicated, that is what I'll get. So... Self love and inner child work first, than we'll see what happens from there. Thank you for a reply, it means so much to me. 💙
I have been applying these principles of self love, telling myself I am beautiful and my partner feels I’m the most beautiful woman and is consistently coming toward me and claiming me and my relationship has completely reached a new amazing level. Just purchased your “free yourself” course and I’m so excited for more growth and happiness. I can’t thank you enough Shelly 💚💚
LOVED this video! I'm currently manifesting an "emotionally unavailable" sp (or that's how he existed in my old story). And I've been struggling to find guidance on how to approach because most coaches just say "that's the old story. rewrite a new one." and while I agree with that, I feel like that isn't addressing some of my limiting beliefs. A note, I'm definitely in the *thick* of this right now, and I think one of the hardest things for me is putting new beliefs into practice. I know that one of my limiting beliefs is that "people don't show up for me / men are emotionally unavailable and don't want to commit to me." I affirm the opposite, but I kind of think my limiting belief is so engrained in me that I don't even know when certain behaviors are unacceptable sometimes. But Shelly's comments, especially at the end, where you suggested an exercise to ask myself, "how would this person act if they WERE emotionally available to me" reallllly helped me visualize and understand good/positive/loving behavior. THANK YOU!
I started looking at myself in the mirror and telling myself you are amazing, loved, priorty, respected and always number 1, I am always here for you ❤
This makes me see how lucky I am. He was always there for me, he went out of his way to be there for me. He would literally drop everything just so he could be there for me. But um still going to focus on it, for myself. Thank you Shelly ❤❤❤❤❤
@Ruth Carlisle Reading your comment reminded me of how my sp was while we were dating ♥️while we are on talking terms now, he's there for me...but not as much as earlier.. And I know what to do now..focus more on the his earlier adorable version 😉 I am already doing that💖 We were and we are couple goals❤️ (This last line was for both of us Ruth!)
I spent a lot of time this weekend doing inner child work, and I was feeling a bit overwhelmed. I was feeling like I had to regress to every instance of my childhood where I was wounded, that I had to locate and isolate the source of each trauma. I have always hit this wall with manifesting, where it feels like too much time- and energy-consuming “work” to identify and dissolve all the myriad blocks. So, your point about not having to know how we became what we are in order to change really hit home. However, I now know that the ultimate thing is that my inner child simply needs to feel SAFE, to know she is safe. The reasons why she doesn’t feel safe do not have to be excavated one by one to be overcome. This is such a big relief to me. Thank you! PS.
Yes, this is true. What's more important than excavating is being with her in the moments (now) that she needs you to be. We heal our patterns by changing them step by step, moment by moment.
Last night I felt a little bit down and sad, I showed up for myself and I cried, it was so needed. I feel so much relieved now, I’m learning to show for myself first always and changing my inner dialogue just like yesterday’s video, thank you for this🌟
I’ve been following your advice about soothing the inner child, and it’s been therapeutic. Beyond that I decided to tell myself a better story. Tell myself a better story, one in which he thinks I’m such a total package that he can’t live with the idea that I might be with someone else. A story where he calls, just because he had a minute and wanted to hear me answer the phone with that happy, “Baby….there you are.” 💕 One in which he lights up every time I walk into the room, and smiles when another man thinks I’m available and makes some smooth move. 😄 One in which he leans over at that lame gathering and whispers in his sexiest, gravely voice that makes my knees nearly buckle, “I can’t wait to get you home.” A story about the stuffed flounder he surprised me with on my birthday, and all the laughing we did while he showed me how to prepare the dish the way his mother taught him. A story about how he almost never forgets the important days, and makes it a point to let me know he cares, just by being present. Just by being him. Strong, dependable, honorable, and caring, a man who demonstrates his affection for me through his actions. Yep, write a better story and let myself play in that happy world every time I think of him. Sounds like a plan. I’ll let you know when magic happens right before my bewildered eyes. It was magical meeting him. It’s been transformative being with him. This changing the vibration of my obviously fearful cells to something that will let love through has been a great adventure so far. Your perspective has been most helpful. Thanks. 🤗
Very interesting the aspect to check if we are emotional available for ourselves! Thank you Shelly so much! 🌷After that i recognised that the moment i started taking distance from my version that manifested in my life my sp, that exactly moment my relationship started to have obstacles and coldness. That was because i left the best vesion of myself who lived in pure love, calmness, optimism and was alligned with my inner self and i became another version who lives in a reality with fear, doubts, that needs to try all the time. I understand what happened, i want the first version of myself and i am finding my way back. Such videos help me to see that everything starts with me!🦄💜
This is exactly what I needed to heare today...right to the core. Just as the Fierce Self Love video which matched the contemplations I had at the time you posted it - just like magic. ✨ Thank you so so much for your work, you are greatly appreciated! 🙏🙏💖
This is the video I wanted to watch as my sp is emotionally unavailable as of now and want to know what to do to attract her back and whether its truly worth it to attract her back as I am in love with her with a deep connection between us and want to know how to go about it and how to go further in attracting her, Shelly.
Yes this is good. I just recently started manifesting my SP opening his heart and mind to me. But then I realized I need to allow myself to open myself up to. I feel so close Shelly. All these things I'm dealing with now will just make us stronger, make me stronger. I'm not sure why we aren't together already...my only thought is I haven't fully let go?? But im not sure. Every time I feel like I need to just fully let go of this, like I did with all my other manifestations, I find another reason to focus on him. But I have to say just about all of my new story about him has come to be....other then us actually being together. So I am so grateful for all of that.
I love you so much Shelly...seeing you is so peaceful...you have changed me and my reality has begun to change....you are a special gift Universe has given me..❤️🙏🙏🙏❤️
I am completely changed person Shelly. I do expect that my SP should be available for me in every emotions of mine with consistency and with feeling of as it is his responsibility to be available. And yes I am emotionally available for myself. I don't text him when I am sad or low as I don't stay in that phase for longer. Thanks to you and to my SP too..😊💗
Wow....I never realized how much I actually expect no one to be there for me and that I am the one who will be there for myself....I'm thinking about it and I see it as a pattern in ALL my relationships....
I love watching your videos. I can tell you are a good person. You are very down to earth which I like a lot. I Like your way of teaching compared to some other people on here
Shelly, thank you so very much for your videos! They are so direct and to the point and no fluff or BS when you are sharing your knowledge with us. Thank you again!
Hi Shelley, What i am getting from this video is is we have to shift are reality to becoming Emotionally Available, with our own Reality. Then others will treat us the way they want to.
I’ve watched probably 100 of your videos but just when i thought i was doing great this video opens up something else i need to work on. But i love it 🥰 I’m fixing everything to be my absolute best self. Thank you Shelly
I'll be honest i think it might be time to give up, been at this a few months now and no result...but your vids did help bring me out of the "ive been ghosted" funk :-D
@Ryan Coe please don't give up. You are here because your sp is important/special/ and everything else sps are 😉 I can probably speak for most people who are watching Shellys videos that we have all felt like giving up at some point. I can't even explain it properly, but it gets easier, and just knowing/feeling that your sp is coming back is an amazing feeling. You have got this 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌👌
This message came to me at the perfect time! That is the power of the law of attraction! Yesterday I was going through emotional reactions to the cold manner of an emotionally unavailable person in my life. But, it makes total sense to me that I haven’t been unconditionally available to myself, and there in lies the beauty, the strength, and the personal power in creating the life I want, desire, and deserve!
Thank you Shelly for all the messages you shared with us...I am practicing self-love and working on myself..setting boundaries..etc..I will continue following your channel and thank you again for being this elegant, powerful, full of wisdom, gentle and comforting presence...💜💜💜❤️🩹
Be emotionally available for yourself! I have been showing up for myself as much as I can in this period and I love this♥️ self love is so uplifting! Whilst manifesting my sp, There are times when my he is emotionally distant..I tend to live in the end and imagine myself in his arms💕 also, since I am showing up for myself, I feel less 'left out'❤️ and it soothes me from the inside Also, these days I feel so loved myself, I have an inner feeling that he's Soo close to me!💖 What do you think Shelly?😉
@Samhita Parab you are doing amazing. Showing up for yourself is so important. I didn't realise until learning how much this is really about us and not about them. We are sharing our sp stories. 🙌🙌🙌❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
It is like doing the inner child work, setting boundaries for self love....and making ownself feel good n better....😊 lovely . In that way we can build a strong foundation of emotions with ownself n within the relationship with the dear ones.
It’s funny because I feel like I love myself but I know that I don’t set boundaries like I should. I put up with behavior that doesn’t make me feel good or really doesn’t align with what I know deep down what I want.
I've actually started being emotionally available to myself a few years ago and it is a work in progress but the way people show up has drastically shifted!! Love this concept and I love the way you're wording things. The chasing part is so real.
That's right girl! When we start fully showing up for ourselves, then we start to expect others to, as well. And is shifts the whole paradigm. Nice work!
My SP did a huge turn around on me after promising me a relationship once he's single again. He kept his word. Broke up and moved her out. Now he's saying he is not in the mood to love. And he's only needed physical relationship with me. We are doing this on and off thing since 2 years. A lot has changed. This is a shock to me. And I'm suffering. I'm frustrated and I feel low.... To turn things around I must change my core beliefs. Which is super difficult because I am deeply hurt and sad.
Look at THE WORK by Byron Katie, here on TH-cam. It's easier than you think. I've had 9 limiting beliefs that I've had for 2 years, and did her work on just ONE, and got rid of it in about 2 hours. It's hard at first, because you have to be REALLY honest with yourself, and part of you won't like that. Oh and, prepare to blubber like a big baby. All your doing is releasing that belief when this happens. When you feel a sense of relief and like a heaviness has been lifted from your very being, the old belief is gone, and because of the questions you have to answer, new ones will be installed almost instantly.
watch her video on fierce self love! It will open your eyes a lot. we all deserve the love we want and should love ourselves enough to know “hey this is what i want and this is what i’m going to get.” it’s important to put boundaries! remember what happened is a past manifestation that is just playing out. Show up for yourself and expect the best.
That’s what I thought she would say , love yourself is the answer for everything, he left you ? Love yourself , he breadcrumbs you? Love yourself , he is hot and cold ? Love yourself, anything he does you don’t like? Love yourself!!!!!! So that’s the answer ladies love yourself.
Everything truly does begin with the self!! This is an awesome video Shelly! I have to say the last three days or so have been pretty amazing for me! I started watching you videos a few nights ago and I've been using your information to affect my money flow and social circle. I noticed in the past 2 days, I had a lot of appreciation from people in my social circle, I had one person who I felt was not on #teamme expose their true intentions by slandering my name in a very clumsy way so I was able to cut them out immediately, and a couple very good-looking men I know who are really nice have been speaking with me on a deeper level. The only thing left now is working on my money flow but I'm working through the layers so thank youuu!!
Shelly, do you have any video on how to manifest a SP who doesn't know you? I want to manifest a guy who is kinda famous on instagram. He is not super famous and there's been 10 days since I decided manifest him and he already replied to my comments three times. He also shared a quote from a book and the guy is from my city and friend of a friend (and this guy and his books isn't famous). I think I might be on the right way, but he has tons of women trying to get his attention and I wonder how I can make him see that I'm different
Shelly love your videos ...pls make a video when one feels insecure about another person without any reason, doesn’t feel 1st best and doubting thoughts cloud the mind asking if there is someone else ... would really appreciate it
Finally found the missing piece of the puzzle! I have to be emotionally be available for myself. This is such an eye opener for me. Thank you so much Shelly! 🥰
Hi Shelly okay so your Inner being & knowing already Is In a state of loving yourself consistently & being there for you constantly with or without that sp loving & enjoying my life without feeling there is nothing missing because I already have all & everything I need & want so what we expect & want Is more a reflection on how we feel deep within about ourselves we need to show up for us I am loved always beautiful In & out my heart Is filled with abundant joy & love this takes me back to your Inner child meditation I was doing almost everyday now only whenever I am feeling I really need It I get back to my Inner child meditations & It helped me so much thanks for sharing that video sending out lots of blessing & love your way.......🙏💕🌼💕 #Loveyourself #Youarebeautiful #Youarearadiantbutterfly...…☕🕯🕯🦄🦋🌈✨🌠💫😘
Thank for another great subject 🙏😍 I have been thinking about this myself for awhile, so I guess LOA gave me this 😘 I was thinking about the part that you didn't need to find out where this attachment comes from, but if there is people whom still surround themselves with the people that "brought" this on you, isn't it good in that case to know that theses people still affect the negative attachment. For example: still hanging with your parents?
It is clearly about my own emotionally detached pattern. With North node in Leo, I need to move in the direction of more emotional investment and creativity in life-pathing!
What does it actually mean to be emotionally available to myself?? I AM always there for myself. I spend most of my day alone everyday. Of course I'm with myself everyday. But I still do attract emotionally broken people.
Exactly how I am now & it feels great they show up.I be like YESSSSSSS Thank u universe thank u (It happens outta nowhere) I love myself to much to let someone treat me any type of way #Love
What do you do if your sp stays committed and treats you better but is still mostly emotionally unavailable? Yet you have other people applying for the role of emotionally available but you still love and desire and are loyal to your sp? Is this the universe redirecting us to others because interested emotionally available people are trying to win my affection and attention?
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Shelly I want to win 💫🌟❤️xx
Trying to give my self
Atleast 3 days of just feeling and knowing he is mine
I wish to win this wk.. win over my fears.. and win the books too❤
Loved this video Shelly!!!
I'd say self love is the key. Everything we desire stems from self love. I noticed a drastic change in my life when I started fully believing in what I deserved. We tend to cater to other persons needs in relationships and forget ourselves but once that script is flipped it's a total game changer. Never sell yourself short guys. You deserve the the kind of love/ relationship that not even for a second question if you are worthy. Coz you are absolutely worthy of all that you desire💕 Happy manifesting everyone!
Love this!
Wow! Love this❤️
Thanks *sending blessings your way*☕🙏💕💕🌈🦋
I'm a Infj so I tend to to neglect my self ,but not anymore starting from this moment, I'm so worthy and full of love that I deserve the same love and I'm going to shine so bright that many people are going to line up to see what is happening to me and wanting to share that love in a complete way !!! Indeed 😀❤
Right.... As a man, your logic doesn't work.
"Creating your own reality inside will reflect the exact reality outside" is the most important thing I have learnt from Shelly and I know it's true 💕
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One of the great blessings I've received from this quarantine is having the time for working on self-love. My body has changed: I look more beautiful and younger than I have in years! And the way people show up for me is changing too. I was actually almost caught off guard by this SP showing up for me in full masculine presence during a time when men in my past would have ran. It was amazing! However, the very next day, he distanced himself emotionally from me, I fell back into my wounded abandonment issues, and the whole thing became a mess! But I've been watching your videos and following other Spiritual teachings, and have come to the conclusion that this is also a gift. I have the opportunity to dive even deeper into self-love, hold my inner child, heal her and set up fierce self-love boundaries around how I now expect to be treated. Work in progress. I will report back what manifests from this all soon! Much love to you all.
Start creating the inner reality of them becoming emotionally/generally attentive and saturate your inner world with this new concept ;)
Yesss
Meaning visualize them being supportive or you???
@@suzannemayo1632 For me, personally, visualization tends to be more difficult. What I like to do is think about the affirmation and feel the truth of it repeatedly! So for this video topic, Id feel the truth of my SP showing up more and more and amplifying it, but if visualization works for you, go for it! I think the most important thing is to feel the truth of what you are saying
@@sarter4737 you've really got this. Its all about our inner reality/conversations.
Everything you have been saying recently sounds so good.
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@@ruthcarlisle2663 aww ruth thank you! Im just tired of the constant in/out behavior going on from my inner reality and convos, so Im trying to work on fixing that
Honestly since watching you I'm learning to change the story. If you want your SP change the story, If you want more money, change the story, if you want to love yourself, change the story. Another great video, thank you! 💕
Yes!
What to do when your specific person is emotionally unavailable.?
Or
What to If you tend to attract people who or emotionally unavailable.
Or
what to If you are having this pattern ocurring - emotionally unavailable .
* First and last place to look when it comes to our reality is ourselves.
* Cause we are the ultimate creators of everything.
* We create with own beliefs, exceptation, assumptions and self concept.
:::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::
If you have a pattern of someone showing up in your reality who is emotional unavailable
* Emotional unvailable means
+ they are distant.
+ not present with you.
+ they can't hang out When you have emotions.
* When we take respomsibilty when these things then it means you tend have these thoughts that
+ People wont show up for you.
+ they wont hang out with you.
+ That gonna have space with you.
* we deveolp these expectations we develop from old patterns or from childhood.
* Somewhere along the way we tend to develop that person who is important is not gonna be there
* We dont have to know how we became.what we are.
Instead all we need to change it is to change who you are at this moment.
* Take respomsibilty of what is showing up in your reality.
)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
2 things important to change the pattern.
1.) You have to change the expectations of other people.
* You have to start to expect people are gonna be there present for you, be there for you.
* with fierce self love you set boundaries of how you will be treated.
* when you chnage what you expect they will change as well.
* Go into your inner world create a immaginal act
Where people show up for you. You feel another person's presence with you.
* As you practice you impress your subconsious you will create a new reality and this what gonna show up for you.
2.) You have to become available to yourself.
* This is very important.
* People will treat you how you treat yourself.
* This is not eniterly true but still you feel.lot easier and better if you be there for yourself.
* this is experience of self love and naturally shift your reality.
What does becoming emotionally available to yourself means.?
* It means is showing up yourself when you dont feel good.
- sad
- upset
- hurt.
* Cause this time we chase people to treat you in certain way.
* This is way you want others to show up for you.
* Ask yourself if people would show up for you what would do they do list it down example.
+ When i am hurt they stay with me
+ They consistently are present with me.
+ When they text they respond.
* once you make this list look into yourself if you treat same way to yourself while in situation.
* when you are hurt are you showing love to yourself saying i am there for you.
* This is the easiest way to create your reality .
* Then you start expecting people to start the same way the way you treat yourself.
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* Start creating imaginal act of people being with you.
* Start shifting your self love practices.
* you will create a beautiful reality of the same.
Thank You Shelly❤
Thankyou for all the wonderful notes you always write! So helpful and thorough.
Sonya Vincent you’re welcome 😇
Thank you! Also you have a similar first and last name to my SP, same exact initials too
Loved the idea of being emotionally available for yourself, being loving towards yourself 🌈
Glad you liked it💙
Wow! This is such an important topic.
I’m going to watch it again!
Everything you teach is so valuable!!!
So glad you liked it!
"This is not the way I'm gng to be treated by them anymore" This needs to be practiced all the time. We have to be confident to ourselves and always self love. We have to be emotionally available to ourselves at first before we expect something frm others.For everything ultimately self love is the key. Right Shelly??😊😊
Yes, clear boundaries and fierce self love. And then, most importantly, landing in. theState of how you WILL be treated. Not wavering from that.
@@ShellyBullard yes..we have to stick to our boundaries no matter what.👍
I need this! My SP is currently being so distant, and it’s great that I run into this video. Thank you so much for making the video and sharing the information! 😊🙏💖
You’re welcome 💙
Oh, woooooow... This is crazy! Yesterday, after your video, I (again) manifested a text.. But wondered, why do it feels like fishing with him? I want him to open up to me about his feelings, for once, in more than just two words... All else is well. I love my new life thanks to you, dear Shelly. I opened up to myself, finally. And I am aware that I do this, I make my own reality but... Whenever I think of him, I think of closeness, intimacy... Yet he is a hard shell.. Can't wait for today's video.
Here I am, all about fishing, shells and open seas 🎣😀😀🤔
I'm curious how you manifested the text (will you tell us more below in another comment👇)? And also, what are you going to do to manifest a new version of him... a version that's more present and available?
@@ShellyBullard Sure! Well, first of all, our relationship is a rather complicated one(I am aware that I am manifesting by confirming this) so texts come right after I listen to your video. I relax, get confident and I feel this deep deep love, the emotion is physical almost as I get this warm sensation over my shoulders and chest. I love him so much. Yet, I believe that (as you suggested to someone recently) I need to work on self love and than see what happens from that place. Because I know I want love but I want a normal relationship, easy going, affectionate, true love. I hope to get him to open up to me from that place too. I'll meditate and just see my life as filled with ease, love and satisfaction. I want clarity in the path of love but I guess as long as I see it as complicated, that is what I'll get. So... Self love and inner child work first, than we'll see what happens from there. Thank you for a reply, it means so much to me. 💙
I have been applying these principles of self love, telling myself I am beautiful and my partner feels I’m the most beautiful woman and is consistently coming toward me and claiming me and my relationship has completely reached a new amazing level. Just purchased your “free yourself” course and I’m so excited for more growth and happiness. I can’t thank you enough Shelly 💚💚
So excited for you!!💙🙏✨
Hi Shelly! Yes, next time he asked for your self just say you are busy with your self.see what the answer.💞
LOVED this video! I'm currently manifesting an "emotionally unavailable" sp (or that's how he existed in my old story). And I've been struggling to find guidance on how to approach because most coaches just say "that's the old story. rewrite a new one." and while I agree with that, I feel like that isn't addressing some of my limiting beliefs. A note, I'm definitely in the *thick* of this right now, and I think one of the hardest things for me is putting new beliefs into practice. I know that one of my limiting beliefs is that "people don't show up for me / men are emotionally unavailable and don't want to commit to me." I affirm the opposite, but I kind of think my limiting belief is so engrained in me that I don't even know when certain behaviors are unacceptable sometimes. But Shelly's comments, especially at the end, where you suggested an exercise to ask myself, "how would this person act if they WERE emotionally available to me" reallllly helped me visualize and understand good/positive/loving behavior. THANK YOU!
Showing up for yourself is crazy brilliant for preferred relationships, fo sho. Awesome stuff.
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I started looking at myself in the mirror and telling myself you are amazing, loved, priorty, respected and always number 1, I am always here for you ❤
Love this💙
This makes me see how lucky I am.
He was always there for me, he went out of his way to be there for me. He would literally drop everything just so he could be there for me. But um still going to focus on it, for myself.
Thank you Shelly
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You’re welcome 💙
@Ruth Carlisle Reading your comment reminded me of how my sp was while we were dating ♥️while we are on talking terms now, he's there for me...but not as much as earlier..
And I know what to do now..focus more on the his earlier adorable version 😉 I am already doing that💖
We were and we are couple goals❤️
(This last line was for both of us Ruth!)
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I spent a lot of time this weekend doing inner child work, and I was feeling a bit overwhelmed. I was feeling like I had to regress to every instance of my childhood where I was wounded, that I had to locate and isolate the source of each trauma. I have always hit this wall with manifesting, where it feels like too much time- and energy-consuming “work” to identify and dissolve all the myriad blocks. So, your point about not having to know how we became what we are in order to change really hit home. However, I now know that the ultimate thing is that my inner child simply needs to feel SAFE, to know she is safe. The reasons why she doesn’t feel safe do not have to be excavated one by one to be overcome. This is such a big relief to me. Thank you! PS.
Yes, this is true. What's more important than excavating is being with her in the moments (now) that she needs you to be. We heal our patterns by changing them step by step, moment by moment.
Last night I felt a little bit down and sad, I showed up for myself and I cried, it was so needed. I feel so much relieved now, I’m learning to show for myself first always and changing my inner dialogue just like yesterday’s video, thank you for this🌟
You’re welcome 💙💙
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I’ve been following your advice about soothing the inner child, and it’s been therapeutic. Beyond that I decided to tell myself a better story.
Tell myself a better story, one in which he thinks I’m such a total package that he can’t live with the idea that I might be with someone else. A story where he calls, just because he had a minute and wanted to hear me answer the phone with that happy, “Baby….there you are.” 💕 One in which he lights up every time I walk into the room, and smiles when another man thinks I’m available and makes some smooth move. 😄 One in which he leans over at that lame gathering and whispers in his sexiest, gravely voice that makes my knees nearly buckle, “I can’t wait to get you home.” A story about the stuffed flounder he surprised me with on my birthday, and all the laughing we did while he showed me how to prepare the dish the way his mother taught him. A story about how he almost never forgets the important days, and makes it a point to let me know he cares, just by being present. Just by being him. Strong, dependable, honorable, and caring, a man who demonstrates his affection for me through his actions.
Yep, write a better story and let myself play in that happy world every time I think of him. Sounds like a plan. I’ll let you know when magic happens right before my bewildered eyes. It was magical meeting him. It’s been transformative being with him. This changing the vibration of my obviously fearful cells to something that will let love through has been a great adventure so far. Your perspective has been most helpful. Thanks. 🤗
Very interesting the aspect to check if we are emotional available for ourselves! Thank you Shelly so much! 🌷After that i recognised that the moment i started taking distance from my version that manifested in my life my sp, that exactly moment my relationship started to have obstacles and coldness. That was because i left the best vesion of myself who lived in pure love, calmness, optimism and was alligned with my inner self and i became another version who lives in a reality with fear, doubts, that needs to try all the time. I understand what happened, i want the first version of myself and i am finding my way back. Such videos help me to see that everything starts with me!🦄💜
Yes!
This video definitely brought me to tears... Thanks for your help, Shelly. 🌸
You’re welcome 💜
🙈🙈🙈 I took a paper a wrote down a list of my self expectations. They were surprisingly negative . Working now on changing this around
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This is exactly what I needed to heare today...right to the core. Just as the Fierce Self Love video which matched the contemplations I had at the time you posted it - just like magic. ✨ Thank you so so much for your work, you are greatly appreciated! 🙏🙏💖
You’re welcome 💜
It is really helpful to know I don't have to go back and find out what my triggers from my past were and I can just focus being there for myself now
Yes!
Divine timing that I found you. Hoping to read your Ebooks too. ❤️
This is the video I wanted to watch as my sp is emotionally unavailable as of now and want to know what to do to attract her back and whether its truly worth it to attract her back as I am in love with her with a deep connection between us and want to know how to go about it and how to go further in attracting her, Shelly.
Focus on yourself ;)
My goodness the timing of this video is impeccable 🥺
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Been focusing on me past 3 days and havent felt this good in 6 months when my sp broke up with me. Thank you shelly
You’re welcome 💙
You keep pumping out good content lady! You keep new topics coming out and I’m always looking forward to it ❤️
Thank you 🥰
Thank u so much, this was an eye opener.. I do attract the ppl who are emotionally unavailable and now I get the reason..
Thank u , thank u , thank u
You’re welcome 💜
I think you are such an amazing person. I have watched a few videos and this really works.
Thank you!
Yes this is good. I just recently started manifesting my SP opening his heart and mind to me. But then I realized I need to allow myself to open myself up to. I feel so close Shelly. All these things I'm dealing with now will just make us stronger, make me stronger. I'm not sure why we aren't together already...my only thought is I haven't fully let go?? But im not sure. Every time I feel like I need to just fully let go of this, like I did with all my other manifestations, I find another reason to focus on him. But I have to say just about all of my new story about him has come to be....other then us actually being together. So I am so grateful for all of that.
Needed this today!!!
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This is GOLD Shelly 🥳🥰
Thank you!
Shelly Bullard You’re welcome ♥️
I love you so much Shelly...seeing you is so peaceful...you have changed me and my reality has begun to change....you are a special gift Universe has given me..❤️🙏🙏🙏❤️
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I am completely changed person Shelly. I do expect that my SP should be available for me in every emotions of mine with consistency and with feeling of as it is his responsibility to be available. And yes I am emotionally available for myself. I don't text him when I am sad or low as I don't stay in that phase for longer. Thanks to you and to my SP too..😊💗
This is BEAUTIFUL. It makes. me so happy.
@@ShellyBullard yayy🌹
As always wonderful knowledge Shelly!
Thank you!
I'm emotionally available for myself, love ya Shelly 💚😽
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Thank You Shelly, I look forward to watching your Video 🌹❤
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Wow....I never realized how much I actually expect no one to be there for me and that I am the one who will be there for myself....I'm thinking about it and I see it as a pattern in ALL my relationships....
Thank you so much for this video ❤️❤️💗💗♥️♥️ this is my birthday gift which is tomorrow on the 21st
Happy early birthday!!💙
I can’t stop listening to your videos wow 🤩
My boyfriend would never fall into this category. So to me, you have to find an emotionally available person. Yes, it's that simple.
Could you pls do a video on how you forgive, forget and let go of someone who has hurt you emotionally and u can’t get over it for a while ? Thanks 🙏
I am worthy of presence ☺️☀️❤️
Yes!
I love watching your videos. I can tell you are a good person. You are very down to earth which I like a lot. I Like your way of teaching compared to some other people on here
Aww thank you!
Congratulations Shelly for 31K family ❤️🤗
Thank you!!🙏
This is such a strong video! The first point is what really got me, amazing! Thank you very much. Going to watch this again ^_^
Thanks Shelly... listening to you always make me feel so good 💕💕💕
You’re welcome 💙
Shelly, thank you so very much for your videos! They are so direct and to the point and no fluff or BS when you are sharing your knowledge with us. Thank you again!
You’re welcome!
I am genuinely so grateful to have found your channel. Since that day I have been able to create such a positive mindset. Thank you so much!
So glad you’re here!!
Hi Shelley, What i am getting from this video is is we have to shift are reality to becoming Emotionally Available, with our own Reality. Then others will treat us the way they want to.
I’ve watched probably 100 of your videos but just when i thought i was doing great this video opens up something else i need to work on. But i love it 🥰 I’m fixing everything to be my absolute best self. Thank you Shelly
You’re welcome 💙
It's a very interesting topic, thanks Shelly 😉
You’re welcome!
This is so good Shelly!!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
I'll be honest i think it might be time to give up, been at this a few months now and no result...but your vids did help bring me out of the "ive been ghosted" funk :-D
Bro, you got this! You don’t give up! You just need coaches who motivate/inspire u 👍
@Ryan Coe please don't give up. You are here because your sp is important/special/ and everything else sps are 😉
I can probably speak for most people who are watching Shellys videos that we have all felt like giving up at some point.
I can't even explain it properly, but it gets easier, and just knowing/feeling that your sp is coming back is an amazing feeling.
You have got this
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This message came to me at the perfect time! That is the power of the law of attraction! Yesterday I was going through emotional reactions to the cold manner of an emotionally unavailable person in my life. But, it makes total sense to me that I haven’t been unconditionally available to myself, and there in lies the beauty, the strength, and the personal power in creating the life I want, desire, and deserve!
Thank you Shelly for all the messages you shared with us...I am practicing self-love and working on myself..setting boundaries..etc..I will continue following your channel and thank you again for being this elegant, powerful, full of wisdom, gentle and comforting presence...💜💜💜❤️🩹
Be emotionally available for yourself!
I have been showing up for myself as much as I can in this period and I love this♥️ self love is so uplifting!
Whilst manifesting my sp, There are times when my he is emotionally distant..I tend to live in the end and imagine myself in his arms💕 also, since I am showing up for myself, I feel less 'left out'❤️ and it soothes me from the inside
Also, these days I feel so loved myself, I have an inner feeling that he's Soo close to me!💖
What do you think Shelly?😉
@Samhita Parab you are doing amazing.
Showing up for yourself is so important.
I didn't realise until learning how much this is really about us and not about them.
We are sharing our sp stories.
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I think it's AMAZING. :)
@@ruthcarlisle2663 ikr! I also didn't know how important and relieving it can be!
And yes.. cheers to us! Sharing our success soon!♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🎉🎉🎉
@@ShellyBullard thank you Shelly!💕💕
It is like doing the inner child work, setting boundaries for self love....and making ownself feel good n better....😊 lovely . In that way we can build a strong foundation of emotions with ownself n within the relationship with the dear ones.
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Hi, Shelly 💖 Thank you for this video!
You’re welcome!
Have a blessed day!
You as well!
It’s funny because I feel like I love myself but I know that I don’t set boundaries like I should. I put up with behavior that doesn’t make me feel good or really doesn’t align with what I know deep down what I want.
This is me 100%
Really looking forward to this one!
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I watched it twice love it
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So true. I’m present with myself consistently. ❤️🌟🙏
I am showing up for myself 🙏🏻✨
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I've actually started being emotionally available to myself a few years ago and it is a work in progress but the way people show up has drastically shifted!! Love this concept and I love the way you're wording things. The chasing part is so real.
That's right girl! When we start fully showing up for ourselves, then we start to expect others to, as well. And is shifts the whole paradigm. Nice work!
Thank you!! This is really helpful to me right now.💕
You’re welcome 💙
My SP did a huge turn around on me after promising me a relationship once he's single again. He kept his word. Broke up and moved her out. Now he's saying he is not in the mood to love. And he's only needed physical relationship with me.
We are doing this on and off thing since 2 years. A lot has changed. This is a shock to me. And I'm suffering. I'm frustrated and I feel low.... To turn things around I must change my core beliefs. Which is super difficult because I am deeply hurt and sad.
Look at THE WORK by Byron Katie, here on TH-cam. It's easier than you think. I've had 9 limiting beliefs that I've had for 2 years, and did her work on just ONE, and got rid of it in about 2 hours. It's hard at first, because you have to be REALLY honest with yourself, and part of you won't like that. Oh and, prepare to blubber like a big baby. All your doing is releasing that belief when this happens. When you feel a sense of relief and like a heaviness has been lifted from your very being, the old belief is gone, and because of the questions you have to answer, new ones will be installed almost instantly.
watch her video on fierce self love! It will open your eyes a lot. we all deserve the love we want and should love ourselves enough to know “hey this is what i want and this is what i’m going to get.” it’s important to put boundaries! remember what happened is a past manifestation that is just playing out. Show up for yourself and expect the best.
I love all your videos 💚💚💚💚
Thank you 💜
Thank you Thank you Thank you😊❤️
You’re welcome!
That’s what I thought she would say , love yourself is the answer for everything, he left you ? Love yourself , he breadcrumbs you? Love yourself , he is hot and cold ? Love yourself, anything he does you don’t like? Love yourself!!!!!! So that’s the answer ladies love yourself.
Lack of self love and abandonment for me. Working on it
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Everything truly does begin with the self!! This is an awesome video Shelly! I have to say the last three days or so have been pretty amazing for me! I started watching you videos a few nights ago and I've been using your information to affect my money flow and social circle. I noticed in the past 2 days, I had a lot of appreciation from people in my social circle, I had one person who I felt was not on #teamme expose their true intentions by slandering my name in a very clumsy way so I was able to cut them out immediately, and a couple very good-looking men I know who are really nice have been speaking with me on a deeper level.
The only thing left now is working on my money flow but I'm working through the layers so thank youuu!!
Aww you look super pretty today 🌹
Aww thank you!
When I say I should stop thinking about him ... He pops up I my head n says .. please don't leave me .... I am here ... Look plz .. it's amazing
What about physically unavailable.. like Unhappily married to someone else ?
Circumstances don't matter. Ignore any 3rd party. Whatever/ whoever has to move for you to receive your manifestation will move.
Rare Jewel thank you 🙏🏼 💗
Shelly, do you have any video on how to manifest a SP who doesn't know you? I want to manifest a guy who is kinda famous on instagram. He is not super famous and there's been 10 days since I decided manifest him and he already replied to my comments three times. He also shared a quote from a book and the guy is from my city and friend of a friend (and this guy and his books isn't famous). I think I might be on the right way, but he has tons of women trying to get his attention and I wonder how I can make him see that I'm different
Roxy did a video on this.
@@npjm.99 Thank you
You read my mind Shelly,this is the situation am in right now,how did you know ?????
Shelly love your videos ...pls make a video when one feels insecure about another person without any reason, doesn’t feel 1st best and doubting thoughts cloud the mind asking if there is someone else ... would really appreciate it
Finally found the missing piece of the puzzle! I have to be emotionally be available for myself. This is such an eye opener for me. Thank you so much Shelly! 🥰
You’re welcome 💙🙏
Hi Shelly okay so your Inner being & knowing already Is In a state of loving yourself consistently & being there for you constantly with or without that sp loving & enjoying my life without feeling there is nothing missing because I already have all & everything I need & want so what we expect & want Is more a reflection on how we feel deep within about ourselves we need to show up for us I am loved always beautiful In & out my heart Is filled with abundant joy & love this takes me back to your Inner child meditation I was doing almost everyday now only whenever I am feeling I really need It I get back to my Inner child meditations & It helped me so much thanks for sharing that video sending out lots of blessing & love your way.......🙏💕🌼💕 #Loveyourself #Youarebeautiful #Youarearadiantbutterfly...…☕🕯🕯🦄🦋🌈✨🌠💫😘
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Short and sweet ♥️
I am gonna work on this now 😍🤗
Wonderful!
Thank for another great subject 🙏😍 I have been thinking about this myself for awhile, so I guess LOA gave me this 😘
I was thinking about the part that you didn't need to find out where this attachment comes from, but if there is people whom still surround themselves with the people that "brought" this on you, isn't it good in that case to know that theses people still affect the negative attachment. For example: still hanging with your parents?
this makes so much sense, thank you!! :)
It is clearly about my own emotionally detached pattern. With North node in Leo, I need to move in the direction of more emotional investment and creativity in life-pathing!
Love this!
I wonder does shelly recognize my name I comment on every single video!
Yes, I recognize you and many people. ;) Thank you for being here always.
This was really good Shelly .
Do you have a meditation for this in the course ? Could you do one for us please 🙏💕
My inner reality is reflection of outer world nd i love myself completely
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What does it actually mean to be emotionally available to myself?? I AM always there for myself. I spend most of my day alone everyday. Of course I'm with myself everyday. But I still do attract emotionally broken people.
Looks like it’s gunna be another great video, like always lol 🤪💛
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Exactly how I am now & it feels great they show up.I be like YESSSSSSS Thank u universe thank u (It happens outta nowhere) I love myself to much to let someone treat me any type of way #Love
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loved this!!!! I had a similar download yesterday! thanks for reconfirming what came to my mind!!
You’re welcome!
❤️if we could only love ourselves the way we love others
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You can!!
What do you do if your sp stays committed and treats you better but is still mostly emotionally unavailable?
Yet you have other people applying for the role of emotionally available but you still love and desire and are loyal to your sp?
Is this the universe redirecting us to others because interested emotionally available people are trying to win my affection and attention?