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Boundaries like this are a good thing when done with self-love and self respect. You just said it .. you can’t expect others to treat you with respect and as a high value person if you aren’t treating yourself as such. It definitely gets their attention- and they can change their ways to level up with you. Choose you! 😘
When you finally can choose yourself and walk away from a toxic situation or a mistreatment ladies you have topped the game. You dont need anyone to be happy and loved. Dont need anyone to be there for you. You dont loose anyone. They loose you for not treating you right. Walk away so they will realise what they lost. Love yourself and be who you are. Enjoy life. When you free space from toxicity love fills that space.
Excuse me. I dont need that $#!£. I am not trying to manifest anyone. And who wants an ex ever. Ex is expired. Whoever aligns with my values will be with me and i decide that. Fold back your trash. Stop conning people. I know those are online thieves.
FINALLY! This is the truth no one else teaches. I get so sick of other manifesting teachers saying to ignore it when you get treated like sh*t. In all honesty it screwed me up because I put up with crap and kept smiling through it thinking that my happy positive attitude would get me the result I wanted. Long story short, it didn't. I would ring my LOA coach and he would say to ignore it and not to question my man and not to stand up for myself. I stopped all Neville teachings for over a year because I realised I cost myself time and heartbreak imagining a better situation instead of saying "hey, this is unacceptable treatment." I decided Neville teachings had done me more harm than good because I got brainwashed into thinking I couldn't tell a man that the way he treated me wasn't good enough and be prepared to walk away until I got the treatment I deserve. I still have some healing to do because I need to undo those old mistakes and the hurt that I experienced
I completely feel this comment! Esp as someone who has worried or wondered if she is being gaslit and controlled by her SP when he is mad and we fight. I do however think we are able to both say I won't put up this treatment WHILE going inside our self and creating the reality we do want. Which to me is exactly what Shelly says in this video. You can decide to stay, set a boundary and recreate your reality while you stay or set the boundary, cut them out and recreate your reality and them and let them come back in as the new version that you deserve.
Wow…finally someone who understands me! Remember take everyone’s teachings with a grain of salt because at the end of the day YOU are the GOD of your reality and you set the tone and rules for your desires. If you believe by you setting boundaries you’ll get desired results like pruning a tree to direct its healthy growth then so be it. If it doesn’t resonate with you don’t do it. You are the operating power.
You CAN'T stopped Neville's teaching. You're doing it all the time, it's a way how life's working. Neville don't have anything with your fails. Actually, you imagined them, so, it was a win. And Neville sure, never, ever said to ignore anything. He is talking about identity and changing states. So, no, you can't stop Neville. You're doing it from the day of your birth.
This complete resonates with me. Earlier I had a breakdown as I react to my 3D and I keep on hating myself for feeling negative emotion. I feel like this teaching of law of attraction robed me the right to feel emotions aside from being happy and positive. I was crying earlier because I can’t make myself think of positive thoughts only. I feel like I am being delusional and just creating more harm to myself by thinking and hoping for the best then will going to get slapped by the opposite. I am blaming myself for all this and can’t feels like it is my fault that I cannot get this right..
I think you misunderstanding how to ignore 3d. It's not pretending you are okay and think positive 24/7. You ignore that version of him that you don't want. And willing to walk away as a queen from that version. because that is not what you want. You don't f*cking care about that version of him anymore!! That version has to go cuz you won't accept it. But you don't really need to talk to the person in 3d. if you want to talk you can, but i don't think it's neccessary. My reaction of walking away if things not right is enough. In the mean time; you set intention in your mind; what you want, what you deserve to be treated and that's the only thing you will accept. If not, then you go. Focusing on only the best treatment you would ever get as a aueen! You'll see the real movement from 3d
Exactly. That's why people don't do it. However, if you flip it around, what would your most confident self do? Stay around or have boundaries when you're aren't been treated well?
I love that you did that! I should of done that with mine months ago. He told me to maybe find a guy that wants commitment. I haven't done fwb with him but get these random hot and cold texts from him that lead nowhere. I keep being told to forget the old story and be in my end but a part of me feels like have lowered my standards and just waiting for him to conform. I have gone quiet on him currently, not sure if he just wants to be friends in my current reality but you know could just message him that and then go within!
WOW! "This doesn't work for me anymore" sums up how I feel in a tactful way. Right now, I'm fading out a friendship, but if questioned, I'll explain that I wont be the "best friend" you call because everyone else is busy.
OMG Shelly. Perfect video at perfect timing. Just reconnected with my SP after 6 months of NC. I reached out to him, yet again, in my old self concept. But somehow after this reconnection, I am kinda getting turned off by him in his still old version. He has not conformed yet to what I desire and somehow I feel like I no longer want him cause I deserve wayyy better than whatever this is. My work on my self concept is finally on point. I feel superb and its such a relief! ❤️
Thank you for sharing Myrez, I always have that dilemma of being the one to start reconnecting, make the first move though I am like dying missing him...
Use someone not treating you well as an opportunity to explore why you are in a relationship to begin with. Are you happy/complete/whole/happy without a relationship or do you need another person to "complete you" ie, to be happy? Are you attaching instead of just connecting? As stated, work on the inside first so the outside then reflects. Eventually you will attract the right people and the wrong people will fade away. The transition may not be easy, the wrong people with push your buttons looking for any reaction they can get from you...don't give it any energy! No fuel to the fire...let it burn out or pour water on it...now if I could only follow my own advice LOL
At last! A LOA coach who took responsibility and advised us with complete sense! Become someone who wouldn't put up with the crap and the rest will follow. I'm so sick of other coaches telling us to recreate the other person, or lay emphasis on how its our assumptions about the other person that caused the bad behaviour in the first place. No! YOU change! YOU become the change! Your thoughts about yourself will change and you'll realise you deserve better! You'll hold yourself in high esteem and others will see that and mirror it back! Love yourself. Change self. Well done Shelly 👏 🥰
approaching your sp unguarded , without having high standards or good self worth , will always 100% of the time leave you rejected and make you feel bad about yourself 24/7 . You have to realize that not everybody is gonna like you just the way you are ( and it sure is not your sp that you already put on a pedestal lol ) so if you keep thinking about the way he hurt you shut off your ego that thinks that everyone should like you or else it won’t survive ( key is : you have to like you 1st even if no one else likes you)
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I wouldnt be able to do option 2, I would feel like a doormat, I have always done what you say in option 1, not only with boyfriends, but with family and everyone. Love this vídeo Shelly ❤
I’m just now seeing this video but I actually did what Shelly is talking about a month ago with my SP! I literally told them that I don’t do casual sexual activities but I did it in a kind, non accusing way. It was wholeheartedly something I did for myself. It is the BEST decision I ever made! Sp was understanding and even apologized. I wasn’t afraid to set that boundary bc I know in my heart that me and my SP are already in a healthy relationship. So there is no need to entertain any behavior that doesn’t feel good
That’s what I had to do to give myself some peace. I wished him a happy holiday and decided to wipe the slate clean. It’s over. But now I can start to manifest him back with a blank page.
Yes, Ms. Shelly I choose myself and this comes a long way for me with my sp! I see her as my girlfriend now! She's just shocked at how much she loves me, (living her wounds) so I just give her some time, and she has to conform!
This gave me the courage to set a healthy boundary. In a mature way, where I was kind- but clear. And it’s freakin scary! But felt so good. I am continuing to work on my self concept❤️ and I truly believe that by detaching- I am also opening up to the billions of ways things can unfold. I’ve seen a lot of angel numbers lately, I trust the path❤️
If you are married or in a committed relationship, where you own a home together and your finances are interwoven, the first option would be difficult, from my perspective. Either way set good boundaries and work on yourself.
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I expect him to return with a committed attitude. This is my creation, not his. I accept that he showed up in a way I allowed him to, and in fact manifested him to. Turns out I wasn’t as ready for commitment as I thought. Lol! The power lies with me, and I decided he’s my next husband. If I’ve married him, he’s entirely devoted to me. 😄 Yeah….I tend to be relentlessly focused, too Shelly. 🥰 Once I make a commitment to a man, I don’t run away because the going got rough. My first husband loved me passionately and unconditionally, to his dying breath. We shared a love for the ages. That history makes it easier to know what I’m manifesting when I say, “intimate, joy-filled partnership.” I’m fearless and focused, and fully into living as that wife I know I am. Thanks for all your help. The inner child work……girl, you deserve an award for this dedication. 💕
If he cant value my presence, my love, my genuinity then its better to be silent, value myself and let him decide what he want Love or Just a time pass.... So after 2.5 yrs of toxic relationship NOW I WANT TO BREATH AND LIVE FOR MYSELF
Yes, I told him it couldn't go on without the mutual respect. I respect the man who is emotional mature enough and treat his woman with respect. Thank you.
For me I have to jet. Any advise is seen as trying to fix or control. The patterns become obvious. It's AMAZING to me how little is understood about IBS, inflammation, trapped emotions and trauma are mentioned in relationships and their impact, because it's huge. Most people are precious and are superimposing their dysbiosis and trauma on to you. But those same people can drown you. Somewhere, they have to get a clue and ask for help or you can do nothing.
Omg, again this has come at the right time, my beautiful little lady has changed this last week with me, she’s very distant and on Saturday she tells me that she will be bringing my Christmas presents around on Christmas Eve, I said so I won’t be seeing you Christmas Day. She told me No because she will be spending it with her family even tho she knows I have my children who are 18 and 16 Christmas Eve until they go to their mums on Christmas Day at 5pm so Christmas Day night I shall be alone, when I really want to be with my beautiful little lady on Christmas Day. What can I do as I’ve got a few weeks to try to change things around 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Will def keep this in mind! I'm still working on self concept and self love. I manifested him in months ago but zero contact. Sure I was upset but got over it the more I worked on myself. There have been signs - seeing his pics on social media, seeing his name randomly, seeing #s like 111/1111 - so the universe is telling me I'm on the right path. Just still have work to do. I have faith that he will reach out someday but in the meantime I'm top priority! 🥰🥰
Could you make another video about this especially for those who are experiencing abuse? I noticed that you only have very few videos about this. I think it's time for a new, updated video. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for posting this one. I have been having a hard time determining and differentiating between boundaries and reacting. And this helped me so much.
I love you.. you are helping me so much.. it is greatly appreciated.. it’s been years of trying.. I finally do get it.. but I’m struggling with my mind I really need a breakthrough.. but I know I have to keep trying
Thank you for this Shelly. Learning to choose myself more and more every day. I come from a past of severe self abuse, self harm, many attempts on my life, abusive relationships, believing I’m worth nothing & developing a severe chronic illness, working on witchcraft & learning about Neville. Your videos truly do help & you are making a difference to so many peoples lives. I have never ever said kind things to myself in my entire life. Like ever. I’m working on self love and self concept. Even saying “I’m lovable” wouldn’t be fathomable to come out of my lips or mind. Just couldn’t say it. But, through my spiritual journey & this health situation I am finally allowing myself to say kind things to myself, it is highly spiritual & like I am rewriting my entire being; and I can do it and I am. I even hold myself in bed now & am choosing to work hard on myself because it is the only way. I deserve a happy healthy life & to be treated well & my brain and subconscious is catching up. ☺️💕🤗
@@manifestationqueen717 I had manifested my sp back multiple times, we would have waves of hot and cold. I felt him getting distant because we were having arguments. One day after we had an amazing day the previous day he asked me if I was texting one of his friends…it was a lie. I don’t know his friends like that. He said we were done. I reacted and I went to his job during his break to talk about allegations and I wanted to see who was saying that. So I snatched his phone because I felt he was lying and he went offfffff calling me names etc, horrible names. I pushed him and he went off more so I slapped him because he embarrassed me in front of people and he went harder so I slapped him again and he spat on my face and I hit him and he punched me over and over and over and over. 😭 we got arrested. Now my family hates him. I care for him but wtffff can be done now. He’s acting so indifferent like it’s all my fault. HELP. Now I see I was afraid to loose him but when I would sit back he would come towards me always.
Just AMAZED by seeing again what I keep saying to myself about Shelly's channel: The right video always shows up. And I'm saying that this time I was just saying to myself: "Maybe it's time to step out of this situation (is not even a relationship because we are not together) and go find somebody else!" You have no Idea of how many times I felt tempted to do the first option! One more AWESOME video! By the way, option 2 is also great!
Hello Shelly, many thanks for such a detailed video. It's basically all about self love. This is really incredible, and I so much resonate with whatever you say. I took your one of self love courses and I must say its really amazing For this video, just wanted to know if under option 1, one can just do that without communicating to the SP. Basically just communicating to my inner world that I am not supposed to be treated like this. Many thanks again for being such a wonderful life coach. Ps: I opted for the first option and within 12 hours, my SP started looking for excuse to contact me. I can understand the dynamics now. Thanks Shelly, this is my go to video whenever I sway!
I was not being treated well by my SP (who is also my ex) and I was being ignored. It’s been the same thing for 4 years. He comes back and talks to me and gets my hopes up until he finds someone else. When he is back, he says that he doesn’t want anything to do with me romantically but his actions are showing otherwise. When he started getting distant a couple weeks ago, I decided to cut contact with him on social media completly. I was tired to be treated like a second choice. It is the first time I left before he’d find someone else. I didn’t say anything and left. I am wondering if i did the right thing because he hasn’t reached out yet. I am a worried but I am trying to be strong.
I set the boundaries in the 3d many times… but it didn’t change the way my sp treats me. Not at all. I chose myself but it didn’t make them treat me right or apologize for their actions…
3:47 Yes, I am! I know I'm meant for love! Shelly, thank you so much! This was healing for me. I had addressed a boundary with me, but this ended up with the end / a guy I liked ghosting me. And I had been thinking over how I did something wrong, but I realized that I had communicated a need, and the fact that he had done something to hurt me (I specifically asked him to talk to me if he wanted to end things and not ghost me) is something I no longer accept. I deserve communication and love. I choose myself. I am chosen. I am loved! I am worthy of being respected and valued. I know that sort of love is on the way to me. Thank you! 11:22 I choose myself, yes! 12:51
When I choose the first way, my SP would say: ok bye 👋. He wouldn’t treat me with this confidence I would send out. He would just say: ok, it’s your choice, I wish you a beautiful life. I don’t think my inner world would reflect back. So what can I do in this situation. Use the other way and stay and focus on my selflove?
You choose yourself either way. He'll feel the shift of the energy when you put yourself first, when you do it for you and leave him out of the equation. Mine was so arrogant that when I told him I am leaving, he wouldn't bother himself because he didn't believe I would because he knew I love him, but I did put myself first and actually walked away. When he realized I meant what I said he started chasing.
@@portiachili382 thank you for your answer. My heart tells me to do this but it also tells me that I don’t want to lose him. He has a very proud character and I really don’t think he would ever chase me. But I don’t know. The time with him was so wonderful and now he is still with me, but very distant. And it’s not enough for me. He says he needs time to come back to the old feelings, but I think he is comfortable with the situation now. I’m there when he needs me, he says some nice words to me but there is no real commitment. It’s easy for him. I don’t feel he is missing the old times. And they were very much closer than now. I do my best to be happy and cool when he is with me, but it only hurts me and he is happy with this situation. It’s so hard to figure out what to do 😢
@@sandrameyer6310 focus on yourself. Self love is very important and always be prepared to loose anything that doesn't make you feel good. You're the most important person and if it doesn't feel good for you make a change. Do self love affirmations, change the focus to you, you, you and also change your story. I would do my affirmation on the mirror. Tell myself I am beautiful, I am sexy and attractive. I incredibly irresistible and I cannot be ignored. I am first best and always the best choice. And so on. Before that he used to ignore me but now he's always initiating conversations. That helped me put him off the pedestal. Now I don't really care much because I am able to love myself the way I deserve and believe me, he wants to be part of that.
@@portiachili382 I will try this. My only fear is that I will loose my last chance if I go. Because the time with him was so good and I miss it so much. When I go I loose it all. But maybe you are right and he will see my value first when I step up for me and go. I have to focus on me and the future. But it is so hard to forget the good times, because he was fully committed and absolutely wonderful and had sooo much love for me. I can’t understand why he don’t want to go back to this feelings. He was happy in this time and it was much better than now. I don’t understand why he can be ok with so little. But perhaps because I’m ok with so little. It’s a reflection
Shelly my friend I just wanted to say thank you so much for all of you're fabulous videos of truth and ease. This video has helped be tremendously tranform my relationship with self as well as other .
Thank you so much for this video!! ♥️ It’s been so confusing as LOA SP videos stress ignoring your 3D and affirming what you would want instead, but it doesn’t address your boundaries being crossed in the 3D 😪
I appreciate this video. Thank you for explaining this so well. Until now I struggled with speaking out vs living in the wish fulfilled. You brought lots of clarity for me. ❤
@ Shelly Bullard.. thank you so much for explaining. I love myself but at the same time cannot walk away from the relationship because of family. Is it possible that I change the face of the relationship just with my affirmations, confidence and belief that it will change? Once my husband used to love me unconditionally, but it changed 180 degree in the last year, he suddenly fell out of love and yes I am desperate to fix it, to get that beautiful relationship back.
Hi, get anyone to love or (SP) attracted to you. And Alo get your Ex back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Wilson,he helped me restore my 5 years relationship. Also Dr Wilson Always keep with his words, I will advise you to seek his help thanks
Honestly, I think the whole LOA business is complete bs when it comes to this SP stuff, look into any online community or youtube comments you can see the overwhelming ammount of failure, success rate is so low and even when they happen it's hard to attribute it to manifestation for certain. I myself tried this for over a year with nothing to show for it and just ended up suicidal. I sitll watch those vids from time to time because I'm an idiot. Regardless of all that, I have to say I like this video.
Shelly, would you do a video on how to get over your SP? I feel it in my core that they aren’t a right person for me and yet im really struggling to let them go
But if the guy is suicidal because he has some serious illness and his morher is possesed by demons. He is in a bad mood because he also got possesed by his morhers demons so he will not get better or get rid of her demons within him without some one praying for him. Demon possession is real, demons jump from mother to son when they are always together, plus he is constantly negative and suicidal from his illness. We can not deny spiritual world and people acting out of character because they got possesed by other persons demons and they need a prayer to be released from demons.
I’m pregnant of my SP… and yes He treats me like a friend with benefits even though he’s so happy about our pregnacy! He persist comunicating for our baby. I dont know how to manage this situation.
Without even having this video, your other videos allowed for a natural getting to that place of .. Wait.. I'm worth more than this... Better than this... Thank you Shelly. 🤍🤍🤍
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What does everyone think? I am ready to do this and right now I am debating if after 16 mos of being together if I should do it in person. I feel like it will be easier for both of us over the phone.
Wow this is very great thank you Shelly for this video, but are you actually telling you sp that I'm not available for the treatment when your in that situation or is it that it's telling yourself about that your not available and know that your self worth. Thanks 😊
Yes thank you, I’m currently new at starting to manifest my SP into my life, but I feel as if I’m in this situation now that she is treating me like a friend despite making huge mistakes that lead my manifestation to a halt and it hurt me which is my current situation right now.
I am trying to forgive myself after allowing crappy treatment. I pretended everything was ok and suffered in silence. I can feel my self concept getting better, but just feeling terrible I allowed it. 🤦🏻♀️ I’m not even upset at him anymore I’m embarrassed of myself. Any suggestions how to deal with these emotions?
I feel the exact same way but really all we can do is forgive ourselves for allowing them to give us such treatment and not setting boundaries. Just remember that that was the old version of you and now you’re progressing into the better version of yourself everyday, & when these emotions come up allow yourself to feel them and hold yourself and tell yourself/inner child that you got yourself and you love her so much and you’ll always be there for her!We experienced it, learned from it, and are now working on it, let’s continue to live our lives and do us (:
Thanks a lottt. Amazing. I have a question. When I do more self love, i end up in loneliness and isolation because I want to protect myself from harms since i love myself 😅 how can i make it in a way that you say self love makes others love us more. I'm confused, i think. Maybe i love myself in a toxic way 😅 preventing myself from being open or ...
Hi, get anyone to love or (SP) attracted to you. And Alo get your Ex back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Wilson,he helped me restore my 5 years relationship. Also Dr Wilson Always keep with his words, I will advise you to seek his help thanks
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I did something similar but not quite. He reached out to my after months, when i finally focused on myself. I was in a good place, and to be honest, i was Ok with him never reaching out to me again. Then that’s exactly what he does. I decline seeing him The first time he asks. But The second time i say yes to meet up. Feelings took The better of me, so we were intimate. I felt aweful afterwards so i sent him a text, telling him i regret it. Not him, but The situation and that this was not working for me anymore. He called me and we talked. I told him i wanted to be commited to that i wanted to be the one for a man. I guess that was fine to say right?
What if even after a year he doesn't take you out on one date.. like he's really never planned a date and taken me out even though we were in a relationship.. I deserve better coz I know im a lovely person n deserve better
Hi Shelly, is there something to help an individual change their negative thinking/thoughts turn into positive? I mean for example myself, I see or read something about my sp & because of it I start thinking negative about myself? I hope it make sense, please help.
Hey Shelly, i build up so much confidence (SC) when i were in no contact with my SP. I reached out tohim and we even meet two times, i started to feel the same insecurities i had inside of the relationship. Now i backed of a little. What would you think about that?
Dear Shelly I have always beleived in you and I can understand you when you speak I feel at my ease with you but it seems I am not really able to manifest my sp when in my mind I was convincing no more 3 party I have seen a girl uploading a pic of him and her living together in their apartment hugging sensually. He lives very far from me. He seems just to have used me treating me poorely and doing everything to get rid of me also on the internet signalling me for stupidities he wants me to be banned from the internet as he knows he has cheated on me and i have behaved honestly and kindly. I do not know why I still feel for him is there still something I can do to have him back to treat me well not to invent fake things on me to get rid of me on the internet and we live far and he is living with another could you create a video on this topic with all these elements? Thanks much really I am too depressed.
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Well if everyone is us pushed out I'm not an abusive person I'm not a person who ignores others I'm not a person who blocks people why is that being reflected
What does the person who has miss treated you but loves you and wants you back is there a way for them to re-attractive person and with this person lives in another city and they haven’t been in contact with them on social media for a while like Facebook or they been blocked is there a way they can fix it
Can someone please help me. I can not stop focusing or obsessing on my Specific Person and them just disappearing on me. I can't stop thinking about them not being in contact with me anymore. We were casually dating and then he has disappeared and it has been over 6 months. Why can't I stop obsessing over him and just be in the end knowing he is going to contact me / be with me? I am anxious and sad and upset he did this................ But I can't seem to shift my thinking to live in the now or the end....
So we have to walk away then from other people but it is also against our human nature we are pack animals humans so the whole manifesting thing is not that easy when it comes to relationships with people
I kindly left it alone. He is so fine and funny. But whatever. It’s sad sometimes but I refuse. He keeps trying to have sex. It’s like no way. I wish I could but no way. I don’t reach out or anything. 😢. I feel really powerful at times sad at others.
Is it ok to be the first one to reach out after a no contact? There was no fight, he just said fear over came his love that he felt for me... 😔 miss him so much
I have a question - my situation is that person keeps pushing my boundary despite me saying no. How can we manage this situation if you say no and the person keeps persisting? For example , I told the person that the relationship does not feel right for me and the person keeps pushing. I know everyone is me pushed out however i find this situation challenging and I am having difficulty managing it. Thank you so much. ( Note: I am doing your free yourself course - however still working through ).
If I do the first option, can that improve my relationship with my sp? I mean, I definitely don't want to go on as FWB, and I recently told him so. I just want to know if that can change and become a real relationship
YOUR SELF RESPECT DOES NOT DEPEND ON ANYONE ELSE AND HOW THEY CHOOSE TO TREAT YOU. Shelly what you said is a fallacy! Your self respect love confidence etc is not dependent on what others do or don’t do and there’s no manual to dictate what Behaviour is self respecting and what is not! You do what you want nobody sets the rules
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Boundaries like this are a good thing when done with self-love and self respect. You just said it .. you can’t expect others to treat you with respect and as a high value person if you aren’t treating yourself as such. It definitely gets their attention- and they can change their ways to level up with you. Choose you! 😘
Yessss. Exactly this!
I am chosen
I am always chosen first best
It feels amazing to be chosen
I am worthy and deserving to be chosen
I CHOOSE ME👑
When you finally can choose yourself and walk away from a toxic situation or a mistreatment ladies you have topped the game. You dont need anyone to be happy and loved. Dont need anyone to be there for you. You dont loose anyone. They loose you for not treating you right. Walk away so they will realise what they lost. Love yourself and be who you are. Enjoy life. When you free space from toxicity love fills that space.
Excuse me. I dont need that $#!£. I am not trying to manifest anyone. And who wants an ex ever. Ex is expired. Whoever aligns with my values will be with me and i decide that. Fold back your trash. Stop conning people. I know those are online thieves.
Sometimes an ex can be a good thing but only if they’ve changed
FINALLY! This is the truth no one else teaches. I get so sick of other manifesting teachers saying to ignore it when you get treated like sh*t. In all honesty it screwed me up because I put up with crap and kept smiling through it thinking that my happy positive attitude would get me the result I wanted. Long story short, it didn't. I would ring my LOA coach and he would say to ignore it and not to question my man and not to stand up for myself. I stopped all Neville teachings for over a year because I realised I cost myself time and heartbreak imagining a better situation instead of saying "hey, this is unacceptable treatment." I decided Neville teachings had done me more harm than good because I got brainwashed into thinking I couldn't tell a man that the way he treated me wasn't good enough and be prepared to walk away until I got the treatment I deserve. I still have some healing to do because I need to undo those old mistakes and the hurt that I experienced
I completely feel this comment! Esp as someone who has worried or wondered if she is being gaslit and controlled by her SP when he is mad and we fight. I do however think we are able to both say I won't put up this treatment WHILE going inside our self and creating the reality we do want. Which to me is exactly what Shelly says in this video. You can decide to stay, set a boundary and recreate your reality while you stay or set the boundary, cut them out and recreate your reality and them and let them come back in as the new version that you deserve.
Wow…finally someone who understands me! Remember take everyone’s teachings with a grain of salt because at the end of the day YOU are the GOD of your reality and you set the tone and rules for your desires. If you believe by you setting boundaries you’ll get desired results like pruning a tree to direct its healthy growth then so be it. If it doesn’t resonate with you don’t do it. You are the operating power.
You CAN'T stopped Neville's teaching. You're doing it all the time, it's a way how life's working. Neville don't have anything with your fails. Actually, you imagined them, so, it was a win. And Neville sure, never, ever said to ignore anything. He is talking about identity and changing states. So, no, you can't stop Neville. You're doing it from the day of your birth.
This complete resonates with me. Earlier I had a breakdown as I react to my 3D and I keep on hating myself for feeling negative emotion. I feel like this teaching of law of attraction robed me the right to feel emotions aside from being happy and positive. I was crying earlier because I can’t make myself think of positive thoughts only. I feel like I am being delusional and just creating more harm to myself by thinking and hoping for the best then will going to get slapped by the opposite. I am blaming myself for all this and can’t feels like it is my fault that I cannot get this right..
I think you misunderstanding how to ignore 3d.
It's not pretending you are okay and think positive 24/7.
You ignore that version of him that you don't want. And willing to walk away as a queen from that version. because that is not what you want. You don't f*cking care about that version of him anymore!! That version has to go cuz you won't accept it.
But you don't really need to talk to the person in 3d. if you want to talk you can, but i don't think it's neccessary. My reaction of walking away if things not right is enough.
In the mean time; you set intention in your mind; what you want, what you deserve to be treated and that's the only thing you will accept. If not, then you go.
Focusing on only the best treatment you would ever get as a aueen!
You'll see the real movement from 3d
I think also we fear setting boundaries because we think it will push the other person away. I’m trying to change that belief currently.
Exactly. That's why people don't do it. However, if you flip it around, what would your most confident self do? Stay around or have boundaries when you're aren't been treated well?
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I had to do this a few months ago, I simply texted "contact me when you are ready for a healthy committed relationship" and walked away.
I love that you did that! I should of done that with mine months ago. He told me to maybe find a guy that wants commitment. I haven't done fwb with him but get these random hot and cold texts from him that lead nowhere. I keep being told to forget the old story and be in my end but a part of me feels like have lowered my standards and just waiting for him to conform. I have gone quiet on him currently, not sure if he just wants to be friends in my current reality but you know could just message him that and then go within!
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WOW! "This doesn't work for me anymore" sums up how I feel in a tactful way. Right now, I'm fading out a friendship, but if questioned, I'll explain that I wont be the "best friend" you call because everyone else is busy.
OMG Shelly. Perfect video at perfect timing. Just reconnected with my SP after 6 months of NC. I reached out to him, yet again, in my old self concept. But somehow after this reconnection, I am kinda getting turned off by him in his still old version. He has not conformed yet to what I desire and somehow I feel like I no longer want him cause I deserve wayyy better than whatever this is. My work on my self concept is finally on point. I feel superb and its such a relief! ❤️
This makes me really happy that you’re choosing yourself no matter what.
Thank you for sharing Myrez, I always have that dilemma of being the one to start reconnecting, make the first move though I am like dying missing him...
Use someone not treating you well as an opportunity to explore why you are in a relationship to begin with. Are you happy/complete/whole/happy without a relationship or do you need another person to "complete you" ie, to be happy? Are you attaching instead of just connecting? As stated, work on the inside first so the outside then reflects. Eventually you will attract the right people and the wrong people will fade away. The transition may not be easy, the wrong people with push your buttons looking for any reaction they can get from you...don't give it any energy! No fuel to the fire...let it burn out or pour water on it...now if I could only follow my own advice LOL
At last! A LOA coach who took responsibility and advised us with complete sense! Become someone who wouldn't put up with the crap and the rest will follow. I'm so sick of other coaches telling us to recreate the other person, or lay emphasis on how its our assumptions about the other person that caused the bad behaviour in the first place.
No!
YOU change! YOU become the change! Your thoughts about yourself will change and you'll realise you deserve better! You'll hold yourself in high esteem and others will see that and mirror it back! Love yourself. Change self. Well done Shelly 👏 🥰
approaching your sp unguarded , without having high standards or good self worth , will always 100% of the time leave you rejected and make you feel bad about yourself 24/7 . You have to realize that not everybody is gonna like you just the way you are ( and it sure is not your sp that you already put on a pedestal lol ) so if you keep thinking about the way he hurt you shut off your ego that thinks that everyone should like you or else it won’t survive ( key is : you have to like you 1st even if no one else likes you)
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So true, I walked away as the SP was toxic as I have such high self worth and continuing living my best life.
I blocked them so I could move on in peace and not care. One day I will unblock him but not until I feel inspired to do so .
I wouldnt be able to do option 2, I would feel like a doormat, I have always done what you say in option 1, not only with boyfriends, but with family and everyone.
Love this vídeo Shelly ❤
This shows you have self respect... it's how to receive respect from others. :)
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I’m just now seeing this video but I actually did what Shelly is talking about a month ago with my SP! I literally told them that I don’t do casual sexual activities but I did it in a kind, non accusing way. It was wholeheartedly something I did for myself. It is the BEST decision I ever made! Sp was understanding and even apologized. I wasn’t afraid to set that boundary bc I know in my heart that me and my SP are already in a healthy relationship. So there is no need to entertain any behavior that doesn’t feel good
Hey! I hope I’m not being intrusive but did setting that boundary help in your journey with your SP? ☺️☺️
That’s what I had to do to give myself some peace. I wished him a happy holiday and decided to wipe the slate clean. It’s over. But now I can start to manifest him back with a blank page.
Yes, Ms. Shelly I choose myself and this comes a long way for me with my sp! I see her as my girlfriend now! She's just shocked at how much she loves me, (living her wounds) so I just give her some time, and she has to conform!
This gave me the courage to set a healthy boundary. In a mature way, where I was kind- but clear. And it’s freakin scary! But felt so good. I am continuing to work on my self concept❤️ and I truly believe that by detaching- I am also opening up to the billions of ways things can unfold. I’ve seen a lot of angel numbers lately, I trust the path❤️
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If you are married or in a committed relationship, where you own a home together and your finances are interwoven, the first option would be difficult, from my perspective.
Either way set good boundaries and work on yourself.
There are ways to do it in any circumstance. Plus it’s about your energy, first and foremost. Not the action.
i love the term ‘elegant boundaries’. wonderful video and great content. thank you shelly ❤️
My SP always treats me, exactly the way I want her to.
Yes Queen show them how to be treated with elegance ‼️☺️
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I expect him to return with a committed attitude. This is my creation, not his. I accept that he showed up in a way I allowed him to, and in fact manifested him to. Turns out I wasn’t as ready for commitment as I thought. Lol! The power lies with me, and I decided he’s my next husband. If I’ve married him, he’s entirely devoted to me. 😄
Yeah….I tend to be relentlessly focused, too Shelly. 🥰 Once I make a commitment to a man, I don’t run away because the going got rough. My first husband loved me passionately and unconditionally, to his dying breath. We shared a love for the ages. That history makes it easier to know what I’m manifesting when I say, “intimate, joy-filled partnership.” I’m fearless and focused, and fully into living as that wife I know I am. Thanks for all your help. The inner child work……girl, you deserve an award for this dedication. 💕
If he cant value my presence, my love, my genuinity then its better to be silent, value myself and let him decide what he want Love or Just a time pass....
So after 2.5 yrs of toxic relationship NOW I WANT TO BREATH AND LIVE FOR MYSELF
Yes, I told him it couldn't go on without the mutual respect. I respect the man who is emotional mature enough and treat his woman with respect. Thank you.
Thx. No excuses...exactly
For me I have to jet. Any advise is seen as trying to fix or control. The patterns become obvious. It's AMAZING to me how little is understood about IBS, inflammation, trapped emotions and trauma are mentioned in relationships and their impact, because it's huge. Most people are precious and are superimposing their dysbiosis and trauma on to you. But those same people can drown you. Somewhere, they have to get a clue and ask for help or you can do nothing.
Omg, again this has come at the right time, my beautiful little lady has changed this last week with me, she’s very distant and on Saturday she tells me that she will be bringing my Christmas presents around on Christmas Eve, I said so I won’t be seeing you Christmas Day. She told me No because she will be spending it with her family even tho she knows I have my children who are 18 and 16 Christmas Eve until they go to their mums on Christmas Day at 5pm so Christmas Day night I shall be alone, when I really want to be with my beautiful little lady on Christmas Day. What can I do as I’ve got a few weeks to try to change things around 🙏🙏🙏🙏
This was right on time today. Thank you.
Will def keep this in mind! I'm still working on self concept and self love. I manifested him in months ago but zero contact. Sure I was upset but got over it the more I worked on myself. There have been signs - seeing his pics on social media, seeing his name randomly, seeing #s like 111/1111 - so the universe is telling me I'm on the right path. Just still have work to do. I have faith that he will reach out someday but in the meantime I'm top priority! 🥰🥰
Could you make another video about this especially for those who are experiencing abuse? I noticed that you only have very few videos about this. I think it's time for a new, updated video. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for posting this one. I have been having a hard time determining and differentiating between boundaries and reacting. And this helped me so much.
Glad it was helpful! 🤩
I really needed this video . My 3D reality is been going so bad with my ex and I don’t know y am I being treated so bad .
Glad the video helped
I love you.. you are helping me so much.. it is greatly appreciated.. it’s been years of trying.. I finally do get it.. but I’m struggling with my mind I really need a breakthrough.. but I know I have to keep trying
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Thank you for this Shelly. Learning to choose myself more and more every day. I come from a past of severe self abuse, self harm, many attempts on my life, abusive relationships, believing I’m worth nothing & developing a severe chronic illness, working on witchcraft & learning about Neville. Your videos truly do help & you are making a difference to so many peoples lives. I have never ever said kind things to myself in my entire life. Like ever. I’m working on self love and self concept. Even saying “I’m lovable” wouldn’t be fathomable to come out of my lips or mind. Just couldn’t say it. But, through my spiritual journey & this health situation I am finally allowing myself to say kind things to myself, it is highly spiritual & like I am rewriting my entire being; and I can do it and I am. I even hold myself in bed now & am choosing to work hard on myself because it is the only way. I deserve a happy healthy life & to be treated well & my brain and subconscious is catching up. ☺️💕🤗
Your videos are amazing! Thank you!
I feel this is life changing
It definitely can be ❤️
What a wonderful topic! Important
I did the second option and I think that’s what pushed me to the edge because I normally would do the first. I choose the second out of fear. Eeeek
It doesn't matter. You can't mess this up.
@@manifestationqueen717 I had manifested my sp back multiple times, we would have waves of hot and cold. I felt him getting distant because we were having arguments. One day after we had an amazing day the previous day he asked me if I was texting one of his friends…it was a lie. I don’t know his friends like that. He said we were done. I reacted and I went to his job during his break to talk about allegations and I wanted to see who was saying that. So I snatched his phone because I felt he was lying and he went offfffff calling me names etc, horrible names. I pushed him and he went off more so I slapped him because he embarrassed me in front of people and he went harder so I slapped him again and he spat on my face and I hit him and he punched me over and over and over and over. 😭 we got arrested. Now my family hates him. I care for him but wtffff can be done now. He’s acting so indifferent like it’s all my fault.
HELP. Now I see I was afraid to loose him but when I would sit back he would come towards me always.
@@mariadelaherran6535 They'll forgive you when you've forgiven yourself.
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They will forgive him as well.
Just AMAZED by seeing again what I keep saying to myself about Shelly's channel: The right video always shows up.
And I'm saying that this time I was just saying to myself: "Maybe it's time to step out of this situation (is not even a relationship because we are not together) and go find somebody else!" You have no Idea of how many times I felt tempted to do the first option! One more AWESOME video! By the way, option 2 is also great!
It's funny I just asked a question on a past video before finding this video. This video pretty much answered my question. Thanks Shelly!
I do not agree that friends with benefits is harmless.
Hello Shelly, many thanks for such a detailed video. It's basically all about self love. This is really incredible, and I so much resonate with whatever you say. I took your one of self love courses and I must say its really amazing For this video, just wanted to know if under option 1, one can just do that without communicating to the SP. Basically just communicating to my inner world that I am not supposed to be treated like this. Many thanks again for being such a wonderful life coach.
Ps: I opted for the first option and within 12 hours, my SP started looking for excuse to contact me. I can understand the dynamics now. Thanks Shelly, this is my go to video whenever I sway!
I was not being treated well by my SP (who is also my ex) and I was being ignored. It’s been the same thing for 4 years. He comes back and talks to me and gets my hopes up until he finds someone else. When he is back, he says that he doesn’t want anything to do with me romantically but his actions are showing otherwise. When he started getting distant a couple weeks ago, I decided to cut contact with him on social media completly. I was tired to be treated like a second choice. It is the first time I left before he’d find someone else. I didn’t say anything and left. I am wondering if i did the right thing because he hasn’t reached out yet. I am a worried but I am trying to be strong.
Thank You Shelly ❤
I set the boundaries in the 3d many times… but it didn’t change the way my sp treats me. Not at all. I chose myself but it didn’t make them treat me right or apologize for their actions…
Setting boundaries is only part of the equation. You have to change your self concept into KNOWING you will NOT receive treatment like this anymore.
3:47 Yes, I am! I know I'm meant for love!
Shelly, thank you so much! This was healing for me. I had addressed a boundary with me, but this ended up with the end / a guy I liked ghosting me. And I had been thinking over how I did something wrong, but I realized that I had communicated a need, and the fact that he had done something to hurt me (I specifically asked him to talk to me if he wanted to end things and not ghost me) is something I no longer accept. I deserve communication and love. I choose myself. I am chosen. I am loved! I am worthy of being respected and valued. I know that sort of love is on the way to me. Thank you!
11:22 I choose myself, yes! 12:51
Thanks!
When I choose the first way, my SP would say: ok bye 👋. He wouldn’t treat me with this confidence I would send out. He would just say: ok, it’s your choice, I wish you a beautiful life. I don’t think my inner world would reflect back.
So what can I do in this situation. Use the other way and stay and focus on my selflove?
You choose yourself either way. He'll feel the shift of the energy when you put yourself first, when you do it for you and leave him out of the equation.
Mine was so arrogant that when I told him I am leaving, he wouldn't bother himself because he didn't believe I would because he knew I love him, but I did put myself first and actually walked away. When he realized I meant what I said he started chasing.
@@portiachili382 YEP. It happens like this all the time! Happy for you & proud of you for choosing yourself!
@@portiachili382 thank you for your answer. My heart tells me to do this but it also tells me that I don’t want to lose him. He has a very proud character and I really don’t think he would ever chase me. But I don’t know. The time with him was so wonderful and now he is still with me, but very distant. And it’s not enough for me. He says he needs time to come back to the old feelings, but I think he is comfortable with the situation now. I’m there when he needs me, he says some nice words to me but there is no real commitment. It’s easy for him. I don’t feel he is missing the old times. And they were very much closer than now. I do my best to be happy and cool when he is with me, but it only hurts me and he is happy with this situation. It’s so hard to figure out what to do 😢
@@sandrameyer6310 focus on yourself. Self love is very important and always be prepared to loose anything that doesn't make you feel good. You're the most important person and if it doesn't feel good for you make a change. Do self love affirmations, change the focus to you, you, you and also change your story.
I would do my affirmation on the mirror. Tell myself I am beautiful, I am sexy and attractive. I incredibly irresistible and I cannot be ignored. I am first best and always the best choice. And so on.
Before that he used to ignore me but now he's always initiating conversations. That helped me put him off the pedestal. Now I don't really care much because I am able to love myself the way I deserve and believe me, he wants to be part of that.
@@portiachili382 I will try this. My only fear is that I will loose my last chance if I go. Because the time with him was so good and I miss it so much. When I go I loose it all. But maybe you are right and he will see my value first when I step up for me and go. I have to focus on me and the future. But it is so hard to forget the good times, because he was fully committed and absolutely wonderful and had sooo much love for me. I can’t understand why he don’t want to go back to this feelings. He was happy in this time and it was much better than now. I don’t understand why he can be ok with so little. But perhaps because I’m ok with so little. It’s a reflection
Shelly my friend I just wanted to say thank you so much for all of you're fabulous videos of truth and ease. This video has helped be tremendously tranform my relationship with self as well as other .
I think you can have both of these options at the same time. Boundaries within the relationship and commitment to what you want for the future
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Thank you so much for this video!! ♥️ It’s been so confusing as LOA SP videos stress ignoring your 3D and affirming what you would want instead, but it doesn’t address your boundaries being crossed in the 3D 😪
I appreciate this video. Thank you for explaining this so well. Until now I struggled with speaking out vs living in the wish fulfilled. You brought lots of clarity for me. ❤
@ Shelly Bullard.. thank you so much for explaining. I love myself but at the same time cannot walk away from the relationship because of family. Is it possible that I change the face of the relationship just with my affirmations, confidence and belief that it will change?
Once my husband used to love me unconditionally, but it changed 180 degree in the last year, he suddenly fell out of love and yes I am desperate to fix it, to get that beautiful relationship back.
Thank you, this is true and very helpful, I’m glad I’m in a place vibrationally where I can hear this
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Spot on timing - also I just knew what you were going to say :) ;D
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I love u Shelly,I so damn confident after watching this soon I'll tell u a good news soon☺
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Honestly, I think the whole LOA business is complete bs when it comes to this SP stuff, look into any online community or youtube comments you can see the overwhelming ammount of failure, success rate is so low and even when they happen it's hard to attribute it to manifestation for certain. I myself tried this for over a year with nothing to show for it and just ended up suicidal. I sitll watch those vids from time to time because I'm an idiot. Regardless of all that, I have to say I like this video.
Thank you so very much!!!! I've been doing some inner work, and what you are saying is on point and what I needed to hear, thank you so very much.
You're so so welcome.
Shelly, would you do a video on how to get over your SP? I feel it in my core that they aren’t a right person for me and yet im really struggling to let them go
Loved it! So true
But if the guy is suicidal because he has some serious illness and his morher is possesed by demons. He is in a bad mood because he also got possesed by his morhers demons so he will not get better or get rid of her demons within him without some one praying for him. Demon possession is real, demons jump from mother to son when they are always together, plus he is constantly negative and suicidal from his illness. We can not deny spiritual world and people acting out of character because they got possesed by other persons demons and they need a prayer to be released from demons.
I’m pregnant of my SP… and yes He treats me like a friend with benefits even though he’s so happy about our pregnacy! He persist comunicating for our baby. I dont know how to manage this situation.
Without even having this video, your other videos allowed for a natural getting to that place of .. Wait.. I'm worth more than this... Better than this... Thank you Shelly. 🤍🤍🤍
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So true thank you 🙏
Thank you Shelly! This is very relevant for me!!
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What does everyone think? I am ready to do this and right now I am debating if after 16 mos of being together if I should do it in person. I feel like it will be easier for both of us over the phone.
Wow this is very great thank you Shelly for this video, but are you actually telling you sp that I'm not available for the treatment when your in that situation or is it that it's telling yourself about that your not available and know that your self worth. Thanks 😊
Your choice. Most importantly you’re setting the boundary for yourself.
Yes thank you, I’m currently new at starting to manifest my SP into my life, but I feel as if I’m in this situation now that she is treating me like a friend despite making huge mistakes that lead my manifestation to a halt and it hurt me which is my current situation right now.
Hi Shelly mind if I ask you a question
I am trying to forgive myself after allowing crappy treatment. I pretended everything was ok and suffered in silence. I can feel my self concept getting better, but just feeling terrible I allowed it. 🤦🏻♀️ I’m not even upset at him anymore I’m embarrassed of myself. Any suggestions how to deal with these emotions?
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I feel the exact same way but really all we can do is forgive ourselves for allowing them to give us such treatment and not setting boundaries. Just remember that that was the old version of you and now you’re progressing into the better version of yourself everyday, & when these emotions come up allow yourself to feel them and hold yourself and tell yourself/inner child that you got yourself and you love her so much and you’ll always be there for her!We experienced it, learned from it, and are now working on it, let’s continue to live our lives and do us (:
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Thanks a lottt. Amazing. I have a question. When I do more self love, i end up in loneliness and isolation because I want to protect myself from harms since i love myself 😅 how can i make it in a way that you say self love makes others love us more. I'm confused, i think. Maybe i love myself in a toxic way 😅 preventing myself from being open or ...
You're welcome!
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Powerful message.
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What do you do if you feel like hes cheating and your scared to lose him because your in love with him ?
How do I manifest the government to become less tyrannical? That's actually the only thing on my mind these days, I couldn't care less about SP.
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I did something similar but not quite. He reached out to my after months, when i finally focused on myself. I was in a good place, and to be honest, i was Ok with him never reaching out to me again. Then that’s exactly what he does. I decline seeing him The first time he asks. But The second time i say yes to meet up. Feelings took The better of me, so we were intimate. I felt aweful afterwards so i sent him a text, telling him i regret it. Not him, but The situation and that this was not working for me anymore. He called me and we talked. I told him i wanted to be commited to that i wanted to be the one for a man. I guess that was fine to say right?
Shelly, what do you do if your sp drinks and becomes verbally nasty when they drink?
What if even after a year he doesn't take you out on one date.. like he's really never planned a date and taken me out even though we were in a relationship.. I deserve better coz I know im a lovely person n deserve better
Can you make a video on perfect marriage manifestation??😇
I love your videos.
Do you have a cheaper version of the free yourself course ?
No. It's quite inexpensive as it is given the value (it'll transform your patterns in relationship for good)
Hi Shelly, is there something to help an individual change their negative thinking/thoughts turn into positive? I mean for example myself, I see or read something about my sp & because of it I start thinking negative about myself? I hope it make sense, please help.
Hey Shelly, i build up so much confidence (SC) when i were in no contact with my SP. I reached out tohim and we even meet two times, i started to feel the same insecurities i had inside of the relationship. Now i backed of a little. What would you think about that?
Dear Shelly I have always beleived in you and I can understand you when you speak I feel at my ease with you but it seems I am not really able to manifest my sp when in my mind I was convincing no more 3 party I have seen a girl uploading a pic of him and her living together in their apartment hugging sensually. He lives very far from me. He seems just to have used me treating me poorely and doing everything to get rid of me also on the internet signalling me for stupidities he wants me to be banned from the internet as he knows he has cheated on me and i have behaved honestly and kindly. I do not know why I still feel for him is there still something I can do to have him back to treat me well not to invent fake things on me to get rid of me on the internet and we live far and he is living with another could you create a video on this topic with all these elements? Thanks much really I am too depressed.
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Well if everyone is us pushed out I'm not an abusive person I'm not a person who ignores others I'm not a person who blocks people why is that being reflected
Because you subconsciously believe & allow yourself to be treated that way.
What does the person who has miss treated you but loves you and wants you back is there a way for them to re-attractive person and with this person lives in another city and they haven’t been in contact with them on social media for a while like Facebook or they been blocked is there a way they can fix it
Hi, I have a question. Can I date other people,if I manifest my specific person and I am focusing on the end result ?
Can someone please help me. I can not stop focusing or obsessing on my Specific Person and them just disappearing on me. I can't stop thinking about them not being in contact with me anymore. We were casually dating and then he has disappeared and it has been over 6 months. Why can't I stop obsessing over him and just be in the end knowing he is going to contact me / be with me? I am anxious and sad and upset he did this................ But I can't seem to shift my thinking to live in the now or the end....
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So we have to walk away then from other people but it is also against our human nature we are pack animals humans so the whole manifesting thing is not that easy when it comes to relationships with people
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I kindly left it alone. He is so fine and funny. But whatever. It’s sad sometimes but I refuse. He keeps trying to have sex. It’s like no way. I wish I could but no way. I don’t reach out or anything. 😢. I feel really powerful at times sad at others.
Is it ok to be the first one to reach out after a no contact? There was no fight, he just said fear over came his love that he felt for me... 😔 miss him so much
You can, or you can manifest him to do it. I would do the latter cause contacting them is usually out of fear and thats never a good place to start :)
I have a question - my situation is that person keeps pushing my boundary despite me saying no. How can we manage this situation if you say no and the person keeps persisting? For example , I told the person that the relationship does not feel right for me and the person keeps pushing. I know everyone is me pushed out however i find this situation challenging and I am having difficulty managing it. Thank you so much. ( Note: I am doing your free yourself course - however still working through ).
If I do the first option, can that improve my relationship with my sp? I mean, I definitely don't want to go on as FWB, and I recently told him so. I just want to know if that can change and become a real relationship
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I always write waiting for Shelly to answer me, and the only i get is spam xD
YOUR SELF RESPECT DOES NOT DEPEND ON ANYONE ELSE AND HOW THEY CHOOSE TO TREAT YOU. Shelly what you said is a fallacy! Your self respect love confidence etc is not dependent on what others do or don’t do and there’s no manual to dictate what Behaviour is self respecting and what is not! You do what you want nobody sets the rules
If they've ghosted you then neither of those 2 options work
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