Are You Stuck Repeating Harmful Behaviors? (Watch This)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ต.ค. 2024
- On today’s show, we hear about:
A 21-year-old who finds himself repeating the toxic relational patterns of his parents
A woman struggling with deep homesickness
A wife wondering if her marriage is over due to her husband’s habitual unfaithfulness
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John, I dont suppose you'll see this, but youve helped me tremendously during a really tough time in my life. God bless!
John did an amazing job with the first call. It was direct, stern but also really helped tie his behavior back to his childhood and gives him an avenue to stop the abusive behavior.
My ex bf used to yell at me and sometimes infront his and my kids and would break up with me every 2 months if he got mad over anything and he criticized me and my kids all the time. I lived on eggshells and I had a hard time accepting this was abuse even though my therapist told me multiple times it was.
When I was about 30 married with two young children and I would respond often with a yell. I was in therapy and the counselor worked out a plan that if my spouse was present when I started to yell he would put his hand on the back of my hand and I would remember and change the volume. My daughter verified to me that it worked by saying when she grew up I would start to yell but then I'd stop. Of course our children didn't know we were working this out. But I'm grateful Mr Dorkin.
Thanks for sharing
The first call explained so much for me. I am a ******* who no longer tells and bullies her *****. I am not a child, anymore who is being dismissed and not heard.
Thank you God, for the power to change and thank you for John Deloney who made it plain for me.🙏🏽❤️🙌🏽
Oh wow that was amazing, I also grew up in turmoil with parents that screamed and insulted each other all the time and it made me really aggressive because like the doctor said I felt so helpless my entire life.
I don't think Deloni gets it.
Appreciate the personal testimony Dr John!
1st caller - so hard for him to say because he doesn't yet trust himself.
It's hard. I don't think Deloni really understands where guys like are coming from.
The first call is great and I've struggled same as the caller. I'm still working with my therapist on this but I've made great improvements. Dr Deloney hits it on the head with "your body revs up to make you feel big because it never wants to feel small and powerless again". That's the hard part to overcome. Everything inside my body and brain says DANGER and drives me to react so I'm not in a position that feels like I'm in danger. It takes a lot of effort and work to overcome that. Kerp trying. I know I've made huge improvements.
I don't think Deloni gets it. I never found therapists helpful. Probably, because I haven't found the right one yet.
I love how John gives us things we need to hear, even when it's uncomfortable. I love listening while working out!🦋
Me too while I work. I feel like we can extract certain things he tells people that we can use and learn from
Hey! Just joining in! 20yr old male from MI
Glad you’re here
You’re in the right place!
I wish there was a John Delony when I was 20. There was no one like him. Listening to him would’ve saved a lot of time finding solutions. And less time banging my head against the wall
I am truly grateful for him & the Ramsey team, I need to get the nerves to call their radio shows, got alot to figure out still & just getting there one step at a time
Dang thanks for the kindness & welcoming me in!
With homesickness I think it is also about what was missing when you were young and at home. .. like you need to go back to complete something.. I have felt like that for 35 years of moving far from where I'm from. . which is Louisiana, a place you would miss anyway!
This is one of the best episodes so far Dr. D. Love it!
Rebecca it really is
Please don’t call him that 😂😂😂
Thank you, Dr. Deloney! My son and I have a similar relationship. I am so glad he tolerates me especially on days when I'm stressed, moody and just frustrated. He will tell me, "That's okay. I understand. You got stressed." I feel so lucky to be his mom. =)
I still miss living in New York at nine years old. I have wonderful memories from that time. I’m not foolish and know it’s not reality anymore but it’s comforting to think of my life back then. I actually went back for school and loved being there but I knew it was temporary.
Tears. Best advice ever. Thank you!!!! ❤❤❤❤
Second caller I feel it would have been a good question to ask if she was happy in her marriage....
This episode spoke wonders to me. Thank you, Dr. John.
She should leave. You should never be with a man who yells at you….vice versa.
You should leave a man as soon as they yell at you?
@@camillegodwin6398 yes
❤ Dr. John ❤
Hawaii is a beautiful beautiful place I would never ever live there because of the crime .and the crime there is no joke
Re:Hidden debt. Can’t you write off business losses on taxes?
New merch idea for a t shirt. You keep telling guys to be a ‘man who’….
Man-Hoo 🦉
How would her husband feel if they switched places? He’d be pissed and would probably yell at her!!! Why can’t women confront men without them running to someone else for validity?
Safety
I do not agree with his advise for Laura. Some places just nurture community it’s just there. She should go home and give her children the childhood she loved
What happens if the two things you actually wanna absolutely unachievable. Like I wanna home and the third child and I can’t afford anywhere in the nation and my body can’t handle a third. How do you move on from that?
Sit in grief, choose reality and then ask yourself the scary question what are you doing to do next?
@@flashthecorgi2053 there is nothing next. Envisioning new dreams when there isn’t anything is really hard
Caller 1 you are brave 👍
With the third caller what is the wife doing to help with finial struggle?
Sometimes I think a war is exactly what Americans need on their own land bc all we do is waste our time on stupid things, cheating, drinking, etc with our free time. Most of us have shelter, kids, spouses, family, FOOD TO EAT and an ENDLESS amount of choices. Basically...grow up. Look OUTSIDE yourself and love others. Don't stay in contact with jerks though. Let them all go live together on Jerk Island.
To this third caller, I have a chronic illness. It’s awful. But listen: Stop being LESS. Nothing that happened Health wise is your FAULT. It doesn’t make you less, you just think it does because of how it affects your body & life & how it’s existence affected & ruined sense of self. I have had men act like this because my being sick wasn’t “attractive”
You need to sit down & TELL your partner your real feelings, without fear on if he’ll love you less when you say things he does aren’t ok and ARE deal breakers.
Just cuz you’re sick doesn’t mean you’re not lovable and hard to date. I used to let exes get away with WAY too much because I thought I was by default hard to love, and because of sickness hard to date & the more insecure you become the less they will respect you.
Empower your life again
My last boyfriend left me after 2 years living in the same apartment together because I quote "I can't imagine having children with someone who suffers from chronic migraines because then I can't focus on work (home office) since you'll be out and I need to take then care of the children myself." It really hurt because it's like a disability and I wouldn't wish migraines even on my worst enemy. It's nothing I can change. I'm glad he communicated it though and I asked him to move out the next day.
I agree with you. Finding out you SO cheated is God’s way of telling you he’s not the one. Keep looking. Think of it as a shortcut because there’s someone out there waiting for you who is much better.
@@JaZmine147 God I’m so sorry that happened to you. I send you much love from afar, a lot suffer silently with chronic things (1 in 4) and many experience this behavior even when we don’t know them.
@@sidneybristow815 right on Sidney!
@@AshleyLebedev What the.....??? Men are just trash!
Car Ramrod. 🤣👍❤️
Caller no 3. Sounds like husband is stressed and lonely. If he has full responsibility finances then why would he share every detail. Maybe she needs to take more responsibility for finances
"READ THE SCRIPT"
Bro the first caller 😂
Maybe Laura is sick of the rat race lol, man sometimes I think simple living is where it’s at
Lynn ..please wake up .. he's passively gaslighting you. .
Laura should go home to community
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I dream of cheating on my wife😂😂
This advice was useless
Maybe to you
@@sarahgbadebo9415 listen closely he's not really giving any USEFUL advice
@@ChloeLayneXOelaborate
Agree
Caller no 3. Sounds like husband is stressed and lonely. If he has full responsibility finances then why would he share every detail. Maybe she needs to take more responsibility for finances