Gurl if my guy took me to fancy dinners and sent me desserts I wouldve been gucci. Really makes me realize how extra low-standards and connection that person was ;.; You were right it a deep necessary lesson to open up to your weak spots. That shit hurt beyond anything I thought.
I was so thankful for the dinners! I felt so lucky! but after a while I didn't even care about the fancy dinners. we could have ate Mcdonalds...I just wanted to see him and hear about his day. but he was already pulling away. Also I think its always important to have standards, needs, and desires. if going to nice dinners is important to you, take yourself out to nice dinners. start there. treat yourself. take care of you. then you will naturally expect someone else to do the same and meet you at your new level. hope this helps and thanks for watching :)
Thanks Girl. ❤ That’s just my story you described. Patterns.. These avoidants are so damaging, horrible experience. Heal for us, and be avoidant of avoidants. 😂 I am done with this bs.
Right! Dating an avoidant attacher can be incredible painful!! but it did teach me to look inward and realize I was a huge part of the problem. I just hope everyone can heal and become secure! (or at least be aware of their patterning) sometimes all you can do is work on you. anyways thanks for watching ❤❤
Great video! There's lots of content out there but not specifically for avoidant types, so it's kinda useless becuase the typical rules do not apply (e.g., they don't typically feel bad during no contact, on the contrary, they feel relief, etc). So...this is a godsend :) Also I really like how you explain things. Suscribed btw
I think i saw you in sun life organics at point dume and i was there, in the first place, because of your recommendation. great smoothies, you were right !
I am fearful avoidant and the girl I dated was dismissive avoidant. The reason I want to be together with her is because I feel like we could become secure together. The last thing I want is to hurt a secure person so I generally dont date as much.
no one is rushing you to date. I always encourage my 1-on-1 clients to embrace your own journey, enjoy your time alone, learn who you are/what you want, and build that firm foundation in yourself first. then when you feel like you are ready, open your heart again...but this time from a totally new angle. xoxo
I doubt mine will come back. I unfriended her (not blocked her) and told her, “I had to do it to make it easier for me to move on, I didn’t do it because I hate her” my mom and sister unfriended her too. Her friends are still friends with me and still comment on my posts.
She blocked me a month afterwards after a period off ig. Then a few weeks later unblocked me. Then blocked again a few weeks after even though the profile is private and so is mind.
Gurl if my guy took me to fancy dinners and sent me desserts I wouldve been gucci. Really makes me realize how extra low-standards and connection that person was ;.; You were right it a deep necessary lesson to open up to your weak spots. That shit hurt beyond anything I thought.
I was so thankful for the dinners! I felt so lucky! but after a while I didn't even care about the fancy dinners. we could have ate Mcdonalds...I just wanted to see him and hear about his day. but he was already pulling away. Also I think its always important to have standards, needs, and desires. if going to nice dinners is important to you, take yourself out to nice dinners. start there. treat yourself. take care of you. then you will naturally expect someone else to do the same and meet you at your new level. hope this helps and thanks for watching :)
00:00 story time
20:00 stages of the avoidant
Great summary
Thanks Girl. ❤ That’s just my story you described.
Patterns.. These avoidants are so damaging, horrible experience. Heal for us, and be avoidant of avoidants. 😂 I am done with this bs.
Right! Dating an avoidant attacher can be incredible painful!! but it did teach me to look inward and realize I was a huge part of the problem. I just hope everyone can heal and become secure! (or at least be aware of their patterning) sometimes all you can do is work on you. anyways thanks for watching ❤❤
Great video! There's lots of content out there but not specifically for avoidant types, so it's kinda useless becuase the typical rules do not apply (e.g., they don't typically feel bad during no contact, on the contrary, they feel relief, etc). So...this is a godsend :)
Also I really like how you explain things. Suscribed btw
Thanks for your comment :)
Yes let go focus on yourself and they usually return
I think i saw you in sun life organics at point dume and i was there, in the first place, because of your recommendation. great smoothies, you were right !
Probably was me :) I am a sucker for that place. Glad you enjoyed it too!! next time say hiiiiii
My ex avoidant cut all the connections after our last talk, so did I. A year passed. It was incredibly tuff. I survived.
Did he get in touch or reach out after a year?
Nope, however spying my social media constantly.
proud of you. hoping you found peace now. xoxo
My avoidant called me today teying to have a regular conversation. He called on Friday too. Im like wtf do you want Sir, cause it sure aint me!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I am fearful avoidant and the girl I dated was dismissive avoidant. The reason I want to be together with her is because I feel like we could become secure together. The last thing I want is to hurt a secure person so I generally dont date as much.
no one is rushing you to date. I always encourage my 1-on-1 clients to embrace your own journey, enjoy your time alone, learn who you are/what you want, and build that firm foundation in yourself first. then when you feel like you are ready, open your heart again...but this time from a totally new angle. xoxo
I doubt mine will come back. I unfriended her (not blocked her) and told her, “I had to do it to make it easier for me to move on, I didn’t do it because I hate her” my mom and sister unfriended her too. Her friends are still friends with me and still comment on my posts.
She blocked me a month afterwards after a period off ig. Then a few weeks later unblocked me. Then blocked again a few weeks after even though the profile is private and so is mind.
Female DAs count themselves as victims and they act immoral ways.
Im here for the second reason you mentioned 😂😂😂😈
Im done with her. Outta sight outta mind