When the narcissist feels your loss

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  • @brianacaldwell5607
    @brianacaldwell5607 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    “God will piece you back together in front of those who broke you”
    Now, take those words and kick ass! 🥊

  • @kathymartin1321
    @kathymartin1321 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    No contact and superpower silence and stoic = WINNING.
    THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.❤

    • @paddyh6530
      @paddyh6530 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      100% agree. silence is our kryptonite, never, ever go back to these erse oles. They never change, its impossible.

  • @schwiftycats
    @schwiftycats ปีที่แล้ว +211

    Pray to God to break these soul ties. They know when you do it. The demons tell them and you suddenly stop caring, let go and see them for who they are without the love spell of the soul tie. You're carrying their pain and torment and they have your soul in bondage. This is how they have a "6th sense of you." The pain you're feeling is not yours. It's theirs. They're still siphoning your energy. Breaking the soul tie erases the cognitive dissonance and dissolves any empathy or care you have. They don't deserve it. It works, loves. Be strong and heal.

    • @Coolgirl1309
      @Coolgirl1309 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Breaking the soul ties is very difficult at this point to me. I’ve prayed to God every day, and will continue until I can be healed 🙏

    • @Ehuff
      @Ehuff ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Amazing comment 🙌🏼

    • @schwiftycats
      @schwiftycats ปีที่แล้ว +14

      It's a process...it sorta dissipates. It took the tie I had about 2 weeks to completely dissolve. It was a rough 2 weeks though. Like I said, they know. I started getting indirect hoovers and seeing the narc in public for the first time in 14 months.

    • @schwiftycats
      @schwiftycats ปีที่แล้ว +10

      ​@Coolgirl1309 , Shaneen Megji is a TH-camr with a biblical understanding. She has a video called "How to break the unique ungodly soul tie with a narcissist " There is a wonderful prayer she leads in the video.

    • @YoungSage313
      @YoungSage313 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Soul ties aren’t biblical whatsoever, it’s just you being in love and having your heart broke. No need to make it more complicated than it needs to be, just put it in the lords hands and and it will heal in time

  • @jasminecampbell9105
    @jasminecampbell9105 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Once his behavior changed, mine changed. I ignored, blocked and discarded that loser. 😊

  • @debbiegalica2992
    @debbiegalica2992 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    He tried to hoover me but it didn't work out for him. No thanks. I'm not ever going down that rabbit hole again.

  • @emmamonroe3311
    @emmamonroe3311 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    Once you realize who they really are who the hell would want to be with someone like that?? That’s on them then. It makes zero sense to me why someone would take someone back like this once they know who they are. That’s absolutely NUTS👈🏻

    • @CitiesOfAsh
      @CitiesOfAsh ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Its easier said than done. These people are addicting like a drug.

    • @emmamonroe3311
      @emmamonroe3311 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@CitiesOfAsh I don’t understand that. I have read about the endorphins and shit but I never done drugs. It’s so super sad that people stay. It’s like they agree to destroy themselves along with these demons. It’s super!!!!!!! messed up.🤯👈🏻

    • @bonnielee316
      @bonnielee316 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      One of the covert narcissist’s tactics are to break you down. They very craftily break down your self esteem. You know that it is disrespect. Here’s how it’s possible: one, you were raised in it. You have an identical twin so you are being trained that this is a special bond type of relationship. The mother is anti-social personality disordered so when you complain about the bullying it gets worked on for a second then abandoned due to frustration. The adults in the scene say that it is sibling rivalry and bullying and that the bully will grow out of it. With this lie, the bully is allowed to be a bully. Then the parents have this disorder as well. My dad was mostly overt but evil as well. The cruel ones are not just narcissists; they are psychopaths too. So the family dynamic causes you to learn how to put up with too much abuse. You go through life with low self esteem. No confidence. So you don’t pick and choose your friends. They pick and choose you. Your, “ friends “ were rejected by normal people so they find you, and push their way through. So now you have to learn to put up with more. Anyway, as you can see, you are being conditioned to slowly put up with stuff till you get broken down so much that they tap into your fear and really can manipulate you. This is why they tell victims not to blab to the abuser their plan of leaving them. Because they will tap into your fear and say, who’s going to be there for you when you fall? How will you have money to afford it? And on and on.
      Having disabilities will make it harder for you to leave.
      Having religious or customs beliefs will make it harder for you to leave.
      Covert narcissism is, covert, “ under the radar “ of detection. Even if you do detect it, they’ll say, oh, I was just kidding, or. I didn’t mean it like that. Then they watch themselves and are more careful the next time, more sly. They do the, “ Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde routine of nice/mean which throws you off and so if you do get fed up with them and leave, the family member calls you back, after two weeks, claims, “ I need help with a project in the house “ ( belief systems like, “ blood is thicker than water “ family loyalty ) you go there intending to do the job and leave but they act nice again and try and become friends again. Things like this is how it happens.
      Now, in a romantic relationship, sex can cause real live brain chemistry changes which can become addicting, therefore this could be a reason why someone stays.
      These are just some examples.
      Most likely the victim also has narcissism or mental illness themselves especially since it’s genetic. It may not be full-blown narcissism but their egos are messed up too whether it be genetic or environment. There are Borderlines. They’re a type of narcissist so are empaths. The original meaning of empath ( really it’s from science fiction, a novel called: “ the empath “, written around 1950 ) was a door mat, a push-over, a co-dependent. Somebody who had a hard time saying, no. A people pleaser. It wasn’t a good thing to be an empath as they suffered so much. But they’re a narcissist too, just not full-blown NPD. See Sam Vaknin’s videos on the empath to see why.
      Let’s not forget some people get taken by a used car salesman. So it is possible to be, “ so dumb “ or get conned. It’s just another con game only it’s your emotions that are being hijacked. Sometimes we want and choose to ignore the red flags out of our own deluding of ourselves. We hope, maybe I can change them and on and on; we play ourselves till we can’t take it anymore.
      Stuff like that. So yes, sometimes we are stupid enough, like you said. But fortunately good information is getting out there for people to absorb, process and move on from it. So that’s good. It’s just another path, in life, another journey that some of us take or that circumstances put us in. And we must go through it.

    • @emmamonroe3311
      @emmamonroe3311 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bonnielee316 I hated csr sales man that’s why I never wanted for him to get back into it after the accident. How do you know all of this? Are you a covert narcissist or do you have someone in your family that was or is one of them? My mother was very co dependent on me I had guardianship from 18-25 until I had stage 4 cancer at 23 due to her being allowed to marry a paranoid schizophrenic off his meds. I told Ohio it took me 2 years to get her on her meds now you are just gonna allow this fuck you! So I espoused it 6 months after chemo. My grandfather basically raised me. That’s why I am who I am. I tell him that a lot when I speak with him. He’s 83 and I never want him to die. I love him so so much. He’s a good person.❤️🙏🏻❤️

    • @bonnielee316
      @bonnielee316 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @ emmamonroe3311,
      I know about all of this because I was explaining my life. Hold on, let me re-read my comment. I might have been trying to not let it be my life and just a general example. I sometimes get paranoid that one of my family members will find my writings. And twin sister stands out…

  • @Thespiritleads777
    @Thespiritleads777 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    He would be wasting his time severely if he tried to bring up the “good times” with me because I’m fully aware they did not exist!

    • @Confessions089
      @Confessions089 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      The illusion of a good time is my thoughts and totally agree.

    • @scottoz7891
      @scottoz7891 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ISN'T that the hardest thing to Accept. It still is AND I've been out for months...

    • @Thespiritleads777
      @Thespiritleads777 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@scottoz7891 it is, yes, but once you do it is incredibly freeing, and then the avalanche of epiphanies start showing up which allows you to stay away. Once you see them as non existent, there’s no turning back. It helps to think about the relationship in completely rational terms. May you be able to break free from the chains of illusion soon.

    • @Thespiritleads777
      @Thespiritleads777 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Confessions089 🙏🏼

    • @marihunt4314
      @marihunt4314 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There is no such thing as good times with a Narcissist. Just times when you weren’t being abused by him/her!

  • @kp153
    @kp153 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I discarded him 😊 I won’t ever let them come back.

  • @KR-pp7wp
    @KR-pp7wp 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    If they owe you money they will run away and hide. Cowards that can't face their demons. They lie continually and then go silent. They won't come back, they are terrified.

  • @shirlspark_stardust
    @shirlspark_stardust ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Gm Joe I discarded the malignant narcissist it came out of nowhere after I caught him cheating, I threw him out of my place I pray and ask God everyday to break the demonic soul tie and trauma bond and to heal me from this fake marriage it was never real all lies I don’t want anything to do with the foot soldier of darkness ever again thank God I’m out and I’m staying out forever 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾.

  • @markelliott4969
    @markelliott4969 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    They have a 6th sense. This is something that is controversial but nonetheless I think it’s real. They can feel your feelings. Regardless, heal and overcome. No Contact.

    • @bikinibaetay6803
      @bikinibaetay6803 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yes! He reaches out every time I have mentally resolved to let go.
      It's almost frightening how accurate it is.

    • @SalvadorHernandez-to2gq
      @SalvadorHernandez-to2gq ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah they can feel your feelings because these are demonic spirits, demons inside these people, and yes they do have the capability of having more senses then we mere humans do! Remember satan was cast down with all his powers as well as his demons which get power from satan.👿

    • @jasmineb-cr1bm
      @jasmineb-cr1bm 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@bikinibaetay6803it’s the most eerie thing. One night I prayed to God and really felt the Divine intensely, I told God that I was ready to release the narc and to severe the tie. I kid you not, the narc invaded my dream and was begging me not to leave. The next morning, he messages me after months of no contact. They definitely sense when you’re cutting the cord.

    • @miraclesforus
      @miraclesforus 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The root is spiritual..simply evil... energetically demonic at its core

  • @jarednovel
    @jarednovel ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Every person is unique ....It is impossible for the narc to replace the one that has left them for good no matter how hard they will try.

  • @JoseeRobitaille-id9zy
    @JoseeRobitaille-id9zy ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I've totally have moved on and what a feeling of heaven. In my healing journey was very emotional but the trauma bond was the worst but now I'm out of the fog, No Contact is a must, I don't think I would of survived the trauma bond but no contact in anyway at all, I moved three hours away and changed my phone number and no social media Nothing and you will heal and become strong mentally. It may take sometime but you will. No contact is a must

  • @socalfriend6985
    @socalfriend6985 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I'm too scared to go back. I'm moving on with my luxurious life! 🌴

  • @Missybella92227
    @Missybella92227 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Doubt it in my circumstance. Ex covert fiancé brutally discarded me for his new supply. We both been silent for a month. He recently blocked me everywhere. Blessing in disguise. Will let God provide justice.

    • @candace435
      @candace435 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Good thing you didn't marry them. I can't get a divorce because he won't sign the papers. I am soooo embarrassed that I was even with him.

    • @TurinTurumba
      @TurinTurumba ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They always come back, especially when you're healing, and no longer dependant on them, keep your guard up

    • @directionfinderformen
      @directionfinderformen ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same. Divorce after 19 yrs. I hope she reaps what she's sown.

    • @Missybella92227
      @Missybella92227 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@candace435
      Right!
      After his mediocre Vegas proposal; he wanted to get married that same night. I declined it.
      Thank God I did🙏

  • @Sarah_sunshine14
    @Sarah_sunshine14 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Joe, you are amazing. I’m so glad I found you. You are helping me so much in my recovery. I’m 4 months of no contact & getting better by the day thanks to you. You speak with such clarity. You are an angel 😇🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️

    • @dashdiane
      @dashdiane ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Four months too and I have never been this happy and free

  • @bonnielee7134
    @bonnielee7134 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    They use people. They also want to avoid the pain of a breakup. So say their new supply breaks up with them, well they’re gonna try and get ahold of you or somebody new to make themselves avoid pain, feel good, show the world that they are fine without them and wait it out and then Hoover that supply again and again till they get their way. It’s just a game. ( They’re punishing that supply, that’s all that they’re doing. They’re bending that supply to their will. They’re training that supply to put up with them or else ). They don’t learn. They just repeat cycles. They don’t inner-reflect because there’s nothing to feel sorry about. Their mentality is: it’s my way or the highway. Or, so what, you’re a dime a dozen. Users.

  • @Meemo44
    @Meemo44 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    My ex Narc doesn’t even care, 22 years of marriage thrown away because of his emotional affair tramp.
    He doesn’t even care about our children, he’s such a loser!!
    I hope she ruins him, especially as he’s covert and she’s clearly overt.

    • @ladyvirgo013
      @ladyvirgo013 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Sounds just like my situation, my husband of 12 years brutally discarded me after 12 years and immediately shacked up with the secretary from his work back in May, I do believe he got himself a Narcissist 😈

    • @cajuncrackerranch7990
      @cajuncrackerranch7990 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      As difficult and excruciatingly painful as the current conditions may seem… give moment to pause and find a fragment of peace in knowing that there is a reason a light provided clarity into the shadow of darkness and that is a blessing the person has been removed from your life for a reason. 20 years for me and 4 children. Thankfully they are grown adults and where very aware of the character, words, and actions of you as well as the other. Heal, rebuild, and move forward towards your peace.

    • @steadypace1262
      @steadypace1262 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@ladyvirgo013 I don't know what it is about secretary's but coverts absolutely love them. Narc's are predatory and opportunistic they are also lazy. I've just answered my own question lol.😄

    • @directionfinderformen
      @directionfinderformen ปีที่แล้ว +2

      19 yrs for me. Gone. She's a tramp who sleeps with her son inlaw all while she moved her daughter and he in the day she had me removed. Planned? Yep!

    • @steadypace1262
      @steadypace1262 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@directionfinderformen What does her daughter think about that, just curious.😮

  • @AnaM.F
    @AnaM.F ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I don agreed . Most them no return because I hey know that you know them ! The mask flipped and you truly see them! My personal experience after I left a malignant / narcisisti/ psicopat . After 16 years of complete blindeness, cognitive dissonance, etc etc etc. Tuff times, surviving every day with spst,financial issues , almost homeless. But: Much more Stronger than Never! Mo resilient.Building the best version of my self as person who want grow and grow and grow every day. That’s Ola focus right now. 💪🏼

  • @Daniel-pm7np
    @Daniel-pm7np 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thanks Joe!. i was "hoovered" after 23 years. Your videos give strength and clarity. I really appreciate them!

  • @cajuncrackerranch7990
    @cajuncrackerranch7990 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    SHIFT HAPPENS!

    • @paddyh6530
      @paddyh6530 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      LOL, love it! and you're so right

  • @kellyandaaron2005
    @kellyandaaron2005 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    In his last letter before I went no contact, he said he hoped we could be friends one day. That we can find respect & forgiveness between each other. Completely delusional. There is nothing he could ever do or say that will change my mind. He literally tried to destroy me. No thanks.

  • @sagerobinson6340
    @sagerobinson6340 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Gosh, I see the narc as trash.....how the tables have turned....😊

  • @scottoz7891
    @scottoz7891 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I love the pauses in your voice AND the beautiful scenery on your VIDEO..Very calming AND relaxing. ❤❤ .

  • @danasmith8390
    @danasmith8390 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is true even for people who aren't narcissists absence creates value

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    To watch Joe's videos on full screen of laptop is simply magic, it feels like you are right there in that image of the video, its so beauuuuuutiul ! 😍 Thank you for magic of Joe B. House ! 🤗❤ 13.7K !!! 👏👏👏

  • @smartsurvival2605
    @smartsurvival2605 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I drove my car out of the garage and welded the door.

  • @ezdeezytube
    @ezdeezytube ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Id love to hear more about the topic on where you left off - the significant "shift" they go through after they finally accept you are gone for good, and how they now treat you and others

    • @bonnielee7134
      @bonnielee7134 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I thought about that. My guess would be that they come face to face with the realization that they’re not all that, that they think themselves to be. So they have to face an ego deflation; a, burst of their bubble.

  • @ceyciemateo9411
    @ceyciemateo9411 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He been knew my value he just assumed he manipulated and groomed me so well that I wouldn’t ever leave or move on from him

  • @ashnoel38
    @ashnoel38 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Wow! I needed to come across your videos today. Thank you for explaining the trauma bond and why that is feeding them. I’ve been so strong but this is the last piece that I need to let go of in order to be fully healed from him. 💗

  • @kathymartin1321
    @kathymartin1321 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    No contact and superpower silence and stoic = WINNING.
    THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.❤ 🎉

  • @ladyvirgo013
    @ladyvirgo013 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My soon ex husband could care less if im breathing, he ghosted my adult daughter as well. Cowards

    • @cv6176
      @cv6176 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your adult daughter? If not his child you are just moaning

    • @ladyvirgo013
      @ladyvirgo013 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cv6176 shut your ignorance

  • @MattCool007
    @MattCool007 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Ugh, she robbed a year from me, but that's it.

    • @come_on_barbie_123
      @come_on_barbie_123 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same for me too. Luckily, no kids and huge investments

    • @adamslosar5574
      @adamslosar5574 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      23 years destroyed

    • @MaureenMalik-n8r
      @MaureenMalik-n8r 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      2o years for me..I look back now and realize I didn’t know him at all..I feel like I was so fooled

  • @msilvaoregon
    @msilvaoregon 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This connection will last longer than Joes videos. Being no contact now is just a beginning of the story. The internet gives too much connection.

  • @Dazz3881
    @Dazz3881 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    🙏Thank you Joe, Once again.. Isn't Hindsight a wonderfully Painful thing! Ohhhh..... 2 b a Fly on the Wall to see the Karma Return to them! 🙏, I Burnt the Bridge, a Huge Fire also.. Joe, Bro.. can you talk to us about the ... Flashbacks please.. I so irritated by them.. perhaps we all are? I do not know! 🤠

  • @karenangel8922
    @karenangel8922 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    How would they know you are missing them if there is no contact with them?

    • @bonnielee7134
      @bonnielee7134 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      They don’t. If they are with new supply, you are out of sight, out of mind. But they are bullies. This isn’t the first time that they have hurt somebody so they know what’s happening due to past experience so they know that they dumped you to hurt you. They know that you are hurting and they are getting off on that thought that you are. Then if they see that you look better then they might try and come back and mess with you again. They are bullies. Your pain is their pleasure, your pleasure is their pain.

    • @reneegardner2286
      @reneegardner2286 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@bonnielee7134exactly, I was three weeks no contact with my narcissist this summer. he happened to see me walking down the street with a complete stranger (another male) and right away started calling from new numbers. he couldn't handle seeing me genuinely happy

  • @amymalina5073
    @amymalina5073 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is very well done. Great job

  • @michaelminor77
    @michaelminor77 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My favorite narcissist and I've known a few, did manage to get invited back into my home however now I have a girlfriend. We we entertained by her for more than an hour with pizza and wine and a clown show that resulted in the narc finally being invited to leave. I drove her to her new apartment and nothing of any substance was spoken. She asked if I wanted to come up. I said I don't think so. So no happy recollection from our years in proximity. No promises, No mention of the messy way I evicted her. Nothing.
    Months after we announced our engagement the former gf narc called me to break up.

  • @shawnpullen9517
    @shawnpullen9517 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Joe what is the shift you are talking about

  • @Djepetto13
    @Djepetto13 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yep, very true.

  • @paperplane00
    @paperplane00 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    bpd/npd are different degrees of narcissism, but narcissism just the same as all cluster B's are intertwined.

  • @CtrlOptDel
    @CtrlOptDel ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is extremely apt on my ex's 30th birthday...

  • @romansepiol
    @romansepiol 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Best channel ❤

  • @mamzaralta4012
    @mamzaralta4012 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Joe’ Can you still supply the Narc if you have moved on from them and healed?

  • @Alexandriaofchicago
    @Alexandriaofchicago 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Insta subscribe ✨️ youre helping with my recovery thank god 🙏 praise him 😊

  • @Notagain-j52
    @Notagain-j52 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lol.😅

  • @kathymartin1321
    @kathymartin1321 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    No contact and superpower silence and stoic = WINNING.
    THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.❤

  • @kathymartin1321
    @kathymartin1321 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    No contact and superpower silence and stoic = WINNING.
    THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.❤ 🎉

  • @kathymartin1321
    @kathymartin1321 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    No contact and superpower silence and stoic = WINNING.
    THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.❤ 🎉

  • @kathymartin1321
    @kathymartin1321 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    No contact and superpower silence and stoic = WINNING.
    THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.❤ 🎉

  • @kathymartin1321
    @kathymartin1321 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    No contact and superpower silence and stoic = WINNING.
    THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.❤ 🎉

  • @kathymartin1321
    @kathymartin1321 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    No contact and superpower silence and stoic = WINNING.
    THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.❤ 🎉

  • @kathymartin1321
    @kathymartin1321 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    No contact and superpower silence and stoic = WINNING.
    THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.❤ 🎉