When the narcissist misses what you two "had"

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  • @mbrowne5105
    @mbrowne5105 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

    He used to say that he had to help me mow the lawn, bring me a present, or help me w anything I needed to get done bc he was wired that way. Meanwhile, I was pouring vast amounts into that leaky bucket. It was quid pro quo for him and soothed his conscience. What a waste of time. Relieved he’s out of my life.

    • @joebhouse
      @joebhouse  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      While they try to make you believe they are giving, they only take.
      Thanks for your comment 🙏

    • @mbrowne5105
      @mbrowne5105 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@caligirl9403 I’m sorry. I hope you are recovering. I probably had it too. It took a long time, lots of introspection and time alone, w authentic friends and most importantly GOD. He healed me.

    • @viewerwatching5712
      @viewerwatching5712 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Why were you doing the lawn at all? A lil boy pretending to be a man.

  • @cajuncrackerranch7990
    @cajuncrackerranch7990 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    They take and take and take until their fake breaks. They know, they knew from day one.

  • @jjones4314
    @jjones4314 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    My ex used to tell me "I'm always at peace when I'm here with you." Whether it was true or not doesn't matter anymore. In Dec it will be 4 yrs since we broke up & he STILL tries to reach out occasionally even though he has a child now with the person he got with after me! I pity her - she's stuck with him forever now bcuz of the child! I thank God every day that I'm free & loving life again!

    • @fundacelik8947
      @fundacelik8947 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      My ex said the same.

    • @darylgreen3881
      @darylgreen3881 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Birds of a Feather.. FLOCK 2gether!

    • @milkyjoe6917
      @milkyjoe6917 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      My covert ex used to say the same thing, “I always feel relaxed and peaceful “…….full of shit, the lot of them.

    • @toyalove9746
      @toyalove9746 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have a child by him 😢😢😢😢

  • @danovangrinnell4479
    @danovangrinnell4479 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    They will look at "hope" n shit in it's face.😊😅😂

  • @christinedavis9977
    @christinedavis9977 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Your videos are excellent. You get into how our brains work both narcissist and the victim with depth.

  • @cherylg.3465
    @cherylg.3465 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    11 years out 11 years no contact. He tries hoovering - i think not!!

  • @user-wl1ru3tg4h
    @user-wl1ru3tg4h 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Loving yourself is the key it's such a small thing to say but with such big significance

  • @Ladyjojo695
    @Ladyjojo695 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    Mine sending me emails on how much he regrets everything 4 years later 😂😂 and how much I mean. Yeah ok bs. No ty
    They are users, abusers, losers.

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

    • @humbleugoo8306
      @humbleugoo8306 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      The more you give them chance, the worse their behavior gets

    • @Ladyjojo695
      @Ladyjojo695 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@humbleugoo8306 💯 don’t give these ppl any chance they just take more advantage of your kindness

    • @lanamorelli6480
      @lanamorelli6480 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      They want to come back to finish their evil job.

    • @Ladyjojo695
      @Ladyjojo695 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@lanamorelli6480 totally agree. They are sick.

  • @louiseelliott6404
    @louiseelliott6404 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I’m sitting listening to this nodding my head. We soothe. They destroy. Enough said.

  • @Turin_Turumba
    @Turin_Turumba 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    My Nex used to frequently tell me she didn't need me, lol I feel terrible for her new emotional punching bag, rejecting her Hoover felt sweet

  • @tonyramljak241
    @tonyramljak241 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Only soothe to destroy...
    That's them...
    What a gr8 memorable line...
    They leave you wondering....why???

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Well they suit themselves with drinking lots of alcohol to knack themselves out and porn, when they have no woman to suit them, but there will be always a new unsuspecting victim, just like we were once. Thank you Joe, beautiful video ! 🤗❤

    • @bonnielee316
      @bonnielee316 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      And they still won’t teach about it in schools and even if they did, say, sex-ed and partner abuse, they still won’t give it the medical name so that people can look it up and understand that they can’t change. One of the biggest cons is: I’m just moody or, I have anxiety, I didn’t mean that, it’ll never happen again. They put on a mask of sanity. They gaslight and the world gaslights too, protecting them.

    • @lioubovgrant1935
      @lioubovgrant1935 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@bonnielee316 🤗

  • @carolineaitchison838
    @carolineaitchison838 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    That ageing narc knows i dont open the door to the Dead Thanks for this lv ya💙

  • @dodibenabba525
    @dodibenabba525 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    What a mess they are.

  • @pamaylward
    @pamaylward 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    We gave them an incredible gift, especially if hoovers ever worked. They are just too delusional and entitled to realize it, until we have nothing left for them.
    Excellent video Joe. Thank you

  • @DRUMofTRUTH
    @DRUMofTRUTH 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This is like narcissist ghost stories!!!!!!!

  • @bradmcewen
    @bradmcewen 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I doubt my nemesis even thinks about it. The quickest new supply or using up a current one is at the forefront always. She probably does miss all the previous targets cognitive dissonance and supply. With this multimorbid cluster b I bet they all figured it out and are ecstatic they're out. Bit there's always the kindred of affliction mutually using each other. But that doesn't last as the competition for dominance dissipates that union made in psycho land. Hoovers are only a manipulation.

  • @yowhatupmain
    @yowhatupmain 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    God damn Joe you really do get it bro

  • @lotuswarrior8843
    @lotuswarrior8843 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Good stuff champ. Keep it rölin

  • @timc2493
    @timc2493 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It’s not my obligation for her regulation.

  • @6886a
    @6886a 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you Joe, very spot on, as usual 👏🏻🌹✨

  • @metonicycle6294
    @metonicycle6294 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    She will never get my address.

  • @suzi9411
    @suzi9411 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you so much for your videos. I really appreciate them. They are so clear.

  • @klyn9619
    @klyn9619 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Soothe to Destroy!
    Ty 🕊️✨🙏🪽🫶🤯

  • @anitaramchandani7838
    @anitaramchandani7838 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much Joe

  • @andrewlerdard-dickson5201
    @andrewlerdard-dickson5201 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You have just described 99.9% of the Human Species.... Therefore I should act as if everyone is either a Narcassit or Normal ?

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I wish I can snap my fingers n be over the memory

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    That’s me low low needy self esteem after he took advantage of my sons death n my health issues my anger has nowhere to go but to myself n I hit n cut myself for relief n punishment

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I’m not an evil person n it’s made me turn into the worst parts of myself which is death

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I only want sadly that he is going to hurt more than me

  • @alexalex-mr8zn
    @alexalex-mr8zn 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    thamks

  • @darlene9726
    @darlene9726 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Can you make a video on narcs and substance abuse?

  • @DRUMofTRUTH
    @DRUMofTRUTH 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The last 2 mins … dinger

  • @ainahaga
    @ainahaga 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    They will knock on our doors????

  • @cherrieguitar
    @cherrieguitar 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    New people yes

  • @faustinalewis9384
    @faustinalewis9384 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @nicoleschmidt6226
    @nicoleschmidt6226 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🎯

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I’d weak gullible self I feel pathetic every day sick n angry sad n distraught n pointless knowing he kicked my arse because he felt I was better than him puke 😊

  • @JEB111
    @JEB111 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Joe a real question here..... At one point we're you a narcissist? And does everybody have narcissistic tendencies? I battle back-and-forth with my old relationship and how we treated each other and how it ended.
    My initials are JB as well.. 😉 ☮️🕊️🙏

    • @joebhouse
      @joebhouse  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I think everyone has some narcissistic traits.
      Love your initials 💖

    • @markelliott4969
      @markelliott4969 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Joe is extremely well versed in this subject. He shares his wisdom regardless of how he attained it with us for knowledge and power. It’s an amazing ability he has to really zero in on the reality of our pain and suffering. We should all adhere to his prospective and embrace it. He changed my life, for the better.

    • @user-ts5qw6tr9b
      @user-ts5qw6tr9b 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Watch enough videos and then really watch people u meet you'll start to do the same. Joe is eloquent is his words.

    • @timc2493
      @timc2493 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Chiming in here
      If you were or are attracted to a toxic person you possess a control issue too. You just acknowledge it and want to be better. You are are positive force/vibe. The toxic is the opposite.
      Dark and empty. One must look at our broken selves. Painful.
      The family of origin is generally where it started. Not our fault.
      I have been blaming my relationship failures on others.
      My codependency tendencies are definitely a reason for why things end up how they do.
      I am trying to heal at 59 years.
      I wished I possessed this information 40 years ago.

  • @dodibenabba525
    @dodibenabba525 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Misses abusing the f out of you more like!

  • @darylgreen3881
    @darylgreen3881 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🙏🧐🙄🤕💯🙏🤠

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s not a Hoover it’s bloody dirt devil way stronger as a vacuum

  • @lanadst6745
    @lanadst6745 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Why does my ex photoshops his pictures really bad he even put other teeth in his mouth. He bought the same shoes as me. I know this because I grey rock him we share a child and he changes his profile pic on WhatsApp