if you came across this video today, i believe it was not by happenstance. your intuition and path led you to the right place. for that, i am extremely grateful. ❤️
You just made me cry. I've been dealing with self hate and unrealistic standards for myself ever since i remember. This was sooooo good to hear. I really hope more influencers like you use their power to spread powerful messages like this.
I’ve seen this video pop up so much today in my feed and I really don’t wanna feel emotional but here I am watching this video 😅🥺🥰 I very much believe that this video popping up so much wasn’t a coincidence, universe really has something to tell me threw your words 🥰🥰🥰
I love this quote but i think in the context of family love it's not very accurate. We come to world loving unconditionally our parents and do not realise all the harm they might do, and coming to terms with it can feel like a betrayal
I sometimes feel so sorry for our parents who didnt have the resources we have nowadays to try to overcome this conditioning and who suffer so much and probably dont even know why... while we're here knowing where all this pain comes from and giving our best to transform it. it's beautiful.
yes! this is exactly how we should see it. what a beautiful positive perspective. rather to live in resentment n sorrow. we should be grateful that we know better 💕
I love how you talk about victim mentality, not a lot of people like hearing that because they think it takes away from them being a victim. But there are many things to be a victim of. But how you take it on is on you. You’re in charge of your life and living in the negative mental state is not good for anyone! I love these videos keep it up!
Kaitlin Bell omg i love how you and Amy phrased this thought! It’s so so easy for us to pass blame that I am the way I am because of someone else, and forget that we have the power to change. I think the reason villain-centered narratives in tv and movies have gotten so popular is we see how childhood and adolescent trauma can affect people and turn them into monsters, and that 1 dimensional evil villains are outdated and unrealistic. While we can understand how it happened, we must also condemn the character they continued to cultivate
I see your point! But from my viewpoint I feel that some people are born into lives that makes it difficult for them to just start being positive. A lot people don’t have resources to get help because of financial reasons or really have time to stop and reflect to start taking care of themselves sadly... our society needs a lot of fixing! However, it does start with people who do have the resources to seek out help when they are ready to get better.
torymusic97 totally agree... access to education and resources is definitely necessary to even realize if you’re in a toxic environment and to decide to undertake the unlearning of generational damage
sillydominikay I agree with the perspective of taking charge of our lives if we have the self-awareness to do so though! I just wanted to mention the other perspective.
Tomorrow I am finally standing up for the child in me, I was abused from a young age and now at 21 I am finally ready to do this. I needed this video today. Our minds work in strange ways. I am grateful for who I am today I am ready to better myself and live the life I want in 2020. Sending love to you all x
I asked the universe “show me how to heal.” Then literally hours later this was uploaded. I have always struggled with being addicted to attention and validation from others. With that being said, it totally brings down my self esteem when someone insults me. I feel like I’ve always been putting on a mask, so others can like me. Regardless of how much attention I get, I still feel empty. Self love and positive self talk has been the hardest thing for me but I am staying consistent & REFUSE to give up. May we all heal, may we love ourselves & see ourselves in the best light possible regardless if we are have been labeled “ugly” or “annoying” or “stupid”. May we have compassion for ourselves and other beings. I love you if you are reading this. Thank you soooo much Amy for spreading awareness on this topic! You are changing lives, literally. ❤️
Some of us are still unwanted and unloved. Not only I saw my parents choose their new kids and family over me, everyone came in my life is doing exactly the same.
I’ve been single for a few years now, and every holiday without someone kills me. I become overcome with jealousy of others who have a significant other to spend the holidays with, and I question why I don’t have what they have. I’ve done lots of therapy. I still find it impossible *not to feel bad about being single.
today morning i cried whispering "it will pass" to myself repeatedly. so grateful i found this video in the evening. thank you so much. a lot of people need to hear this. 💙
i have literally been struggling with my mental health for years. today i had one of the worst panic attacks at school. and i’m really just frustrated with myself and what i’ve become. this cycle is highly emotionally tiring and i really needed to see this :,). you’re such a great mental influencer! much love xoxo
This was like watching myself in a mirror. Tmr I have an appointment with a psychotherapist coz lately I've been struggling a lot. This video came at the perfect time, it was so meant to be!! Thank you so much.
I'm not gonna lie, this video brought a tear to my eye because its so true and a lot of what you said in this video is what i've been saying to myself over the past couple of weeks, but to hear you say it just hits differently. I too myself am on a journey to heal my inner child so thank you so much for this video. You're amazing Amy!! To anyone who is on the same journey I wish you the best of luck because It truly is really hard.
I had a really tough morning today and I broke down in the car. I could hear myself think that I will never be able to find love or rather someone to love me back. I had a rocky road from surviving a really hard breakup three years ago, and I believe I am still healing from that. Breakups can really stir up emotions that are rooted deep down in you like i.e. not feeling loved as a child and seeking that validation constantly from everyone around you. Thank you for making this video, it really moved me. I hope everyone knows how worthy they are even though they feel alone this holiday.
I for sure saw this for a reason. I’ve been feeling this way for months and that I am unworthy of a love or “there will always be better than me” for such a long time now. Your videos are always so comforting and help me heal past those issues. Thank you for this and what you do, love you🤎
many days n many pains amazingly i have someone who lives for better live n help others. just wanna say thank you AMY❤ for being there even we are across the country but i feel so thankful n grateful to have you in my life. for me, you are one of my closest in this world. THANK YOU 💗
as I’m struggling I definitely think that I’m taking those feelings of not being satisfied and pushing those feelings on to others rather than seeing the areas in which I need to do some internal healing. I am self aware and grateful I am self aware and here’s to putting in REAL work to get to a better place😌❤️
The family I was raised in was strong and nurturing to me. The problem is, the other side was absent. Very conspicuously absent. Like elephant in the living room conspicuous. I have always felt in two worlds at once -- loved, inspired and stable in one. Worthless and rejected in the other. Every triumph comes with gloom just behind the curtain ready to pop out. It is no longer that I feel I can't be loved. It is that I have come to see being loved is too hazardous. The rejection is always just behind that curtain. Your words and observations are helpful. The makeup portions - I can see how those make your message easier, less weighty. That's a good touch. Even though makeup to me -- well, I'm a guy. but it still is nice.
As an Asian American male, it's hard to overcome the stigma of mental health. I am emotionaly hurt almost everyday due to past trauma. Sometimes I just need a friend to love me while I just sit and cry.
This is my first ever TH-cam comment. I’m in absolute awe. Every word touched me deeply & I truly felt like you were talking to me the entire time. I can hardly remember my childhood (due to trauma) and now, at 25, I’m starting to do the work (such as shadow work, therapy, etc.) in order to heal and have a healthy adult life. Not only do I want to make the rest of my time here on earth more pleasant, but I want to make the world a better place with everyone/everything I encounter. I really enjoyed this topic and would love it if you made more videos on it. Thanks Amy! 💓
Oh man, this video is really good and explaining some things i recently just started understanding. I kept my mind busy with stuff like school, drugs, feeling anxious of others, sports and internet-addiction since Im a teen. Since I started to get to know myself more and also realize there are some ways I act sometimes and that are deeply coded in my brain. In the last months/weeks I started taking some time to think about myself. At first it resulted in me being depressed about all the bad things in my childhood/teens and also the lack of things I wish, I expirienced like love or friendship. But me realizing this gave me the ability to change myself and improve myself instead of being in a loop of my self-hatred and addictions. I want to be able to express my emotions through my body and feel them like my girlfriend who is able to be happy and sad. She really hopes I can stop being in my head all the time and let go of bad things. I know now that I have incredible capabilities of changing my ways and doing things that fulfil me. Honestly Im actually happy now and just 4 months ago, I had constant breakdowns and willingly took huge amounts of drugs that almost killed me. To me that was normal but when friends started caring about me I felt so relieved that somebody would have an emotional reaction to what I was doing. I now feel a lot better, and Im happy to be alive
I am currently visiting my relatives in Vietnam. When I see how my cousins are raised, with neglect and the absence of validation, I see the same patterns that I experienced in my childhood. I can totally see how things were passed down. It affects so many people living in the diaspora. These experiences hurt but we can heal through the process of unlearning. Thank you so much for this video. You just found the right words!
Oh my gosh you are the best. I don’t always watch every video because I feel I really have to be in the right headspace to watch them, but something about your videos is so cathartic. Please never stop making them! Also, I lit my favorite candle and right in front of that candle I keep a pic of my grandmother holding me as a baby and literally I just noticed the picture glowing as you’re talking about generational healing❤️
Just noticed the video is 15:44 mins long. 44 being an angel number meaning - “your angels are communicating with you directly in an effort to bring you peace, encouragement & inspiration” I believe that is what you are Amy! An angel that brings a lot of peace, encouragement & inspiration! This video was definitely not a coincidence
You are literally so good, I wish I found you ages ago. This is exactly what I needed to hear Thankyou for blessing me and everyone else with your beautiful knowledge. You have no idea how much you hit my heart 💜
I just wanted to say that love is *not* toxic, selfish, abusive or conditional. If these are present, love is absent. People may say things like, "I'm doing this out of love" and "tough love". They may hurt people they say they love. Love as a concept and action is misconstrued to justify harmful and abusive words, behavior, and treatment. And the sad part is that people really do believe that is what love is because that's all they know and what they were taught. Feeling a sense of lack, hurt, abandonment, trauma is evidence that love was not truly present. Yes, people like parents and guardians can give and show care, but it's okay to also acknowledge when they have hurt you. I've been reading bell hooks' "all about love" and it's a very insightful book. I recommend it.
Just starting my self healing process and hearing somebody else saying that all of my inner suffering and years of hatred I turned against myself wasn’t my own fault, makes me tear up every single time. It feels like a big relief knowing and learning to understand that I was right the way I am right from the beginning on. I was never meant to be somebody else and that I do deserve unconditional love. Absolutely eye opening video Amy 🤍
my last conversation vanished so I'll say the same thing in a different way.. "sometimes you have to keep breaking your heart, until it opens" - rumi "love will find you in the end" - daniel johnston
THE QUOTE AT THE END OMFG! I'VE ALWAYS FELT LIKE AN ALIEN AND I DON'T FIT INTO MY FAMILY AT ALL. I've always felt bad about it btw...but now this quote just hit me so hard!
I have been a faithful subscriber for so long. I go through phases with my anxiety and depression where I veer away from social media and youtube so even though I have seen this video title for so long you are so right! It was in alignement with my path to see this video exactly when I did. All of your videos are so authentic and healing and POWERFUL. I love you so much and am so very thankful for your channel and all of your videos. Your content truly makes me feel a lot more introspective and less alone💖 Thank you thank you thank you🥰 And thank you to everyone in the comments that share. We are a separated but connected community of beautiful beings all growing at our own pace❤❤❤ Thank you all for being who you are.
Cried throughout the whole video. When I was in college, I told myself I would no longer feel unworthy if I study abroad; went abroad and I still feel like I'm not enough. Then I told myself if I can get a job in the cosmetic industry, I would be happy; got a job in the company I've always dream of working in, but I still question if I am worthy of being here every day. I truly believe this video does not come to me by coincidence. Thank you, Amy. I'll continue to work on healing my inner child and wish you joy and abundance in 2020.
You express yourself in en excellent way Amy . Do not let negative emotions let you down . We all have our ups and downs in life that is just the way for everybody no matter who you are. Keep up the good work .
Who the he'll thumbs down this video???? Don't watch it if this is not for you, super super simple. Close the video...... Amy keep up the videos!!!! You are a very inspirational person, THANK YOU! !!!! ♡♡♡
I never, ever comment on videos, but I felt like I needed to today. Just to say 'thank you'. This is something I've needed to hear for a very, very long time. And now, to start the process of healing.
This is an amazing video, I just had this conversation with my mother today! We were both in tears as I listened to what she was hurting about. I told her how I was and am still currently working on healing my trama’s caused from my up bringing. Which she took part of that trama. But I let her know that I understand why she was the way she was. She was a product of generations of toxic behavior and old school beliefs! She understood what I meant. I’ve never felt so bonded to my mother more than today! Thank you for this! 💖💖💖💖
love your videos like this!! It's only a year ago or so I realized this about my parents and it made me appreciate them more and realize that they are people struggling through life too. They're trying their best. LOVE THIS!
I felt that love. It brought me to tears. Thank you SOOOO MUCH. I’m going to start working on myself with Christ and a therapist appointed by Him, God willing. You’re a light in this world and I pray that God gets His chance to fully expose the talents He’s embedded inside of you because we need you in “a whole nother way” honey ♥️ I mean, NEED. Again, THANK YOU. Psalms 23:6 may be just for you.♥️♥️♥️🙏🏽
Thank you for making a video about this. This just reminds me that I made the right decision to move out of my family home to be able to grow from the emotional abuse they’ve pushed on me
you have the most beautiful soul and im so grateful for being able to experience and learn from your videos. watching you grow and listening to your experiences and also just listening to your knowledge about the world is so inspiring and influential. with your help, all of us can grow to live fufilling lives
Your videos are soo good! Pls never stop creating such content. You help alot of people with your words! You're rlly one the people i look up to the most! Love from Germany 🤞🏻😌
Your videos are genuinely helpful and educational - almost like a free seminar. Your words and presence carry so much power, thank you for being you Amy.
I really needed this. I love my father but he is emotionally toxic to be around as he is angry and depressed at times. But he’s all I have and he just had a stroke. I needed this, thank you.
I love you, this is helping me grow so much, amazing videos never stop making them❤️ Edit: This is me a year later, having another breakdown because of how my family makes me feel unloved, and ending up searching for and watching the same video I did last year. Didn't even remember watching it before. I really want to live on my own, not easy for a girl in my country
I tooootally agree that whether or not we are loved isn't paramount when the relationship was a source of trauma for us. I think people stick with toxic people because they have this idea that that's what love IS and they need to be loyal to their loved one. The important question we need to ask ourselves is, "how is this relationship affecting my health and my light?"
Amy my path did lead me here! I so resignated with that last quote,thank you for that! Your video has reminded me of my purpose. Where are all the other like minded people like you? I wish you guys lived in my city Lol ;) You are my virtual friend!
I am currently trying to improve my life style and I want o achieve a place where I know I am good enough for this world. I want to love myself. I am working on self care and self improvement. This video just opened a whole new perspective for me. I never felt so connected with words coming from another person. I am so glad I found this channel. XOXO
Thank you for being such an inspiration! I am working on myself and my unhealthy coping mechanisms constantly trying to get rid of fear of being vulnerable and become loving & open for love person. I am on this path because of my greatest friend, who showed me way of thinking which was totally new to me and gave me unconditional love, despite my flaws & imperfections. Becoming better and better day after day gives me real happiness and I consider it my biggest life success (in progress) :)
as a 23yr old and going through numerous therapies, family's emotional baggage and my deteriorating visual impairment are always in the way of building up self-worth. many of us who are yet to rediscover our inner child blame so much on ourselves to a point even when we are loved unconditionally by somebody, we just can't take it in. love how you are talking about mental health, amy, your thoughts are really inspirational. omg i can go on and on about how much i relate but anyways, thank you so so much. you really help thru my journey of being myself :)
Hi Amy, this year, I've been doing a lot of work with my therapist on the inner child and have made more progress in one year, than I thought I would in my lifetime. It truly requires a lot of work but so worth it. I know I still have an incredibly long journey ahead of me though. Thank you for talking on this topic, it would be great if you did more videos on this ❤
I'm rewatching this after a bad breakup and honestly I needed this more than ever. I needed to feel that need for growing from this with no anger nor hate, and reminding myself I was enough.
I believe that the goal of reflecting the inner child of our parents to them is to make them aware of it. As adults they probably suppressed, denied and rejected their trauma etc. How else could the universe make them aware of this in that way?
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this. Recently ive been having a hard time finding and accepting me Its 2.am And this video found me. Your words hit me like a weakening call.. Thank you so much. I promise to change and work on myself.. for myself ❤️ Take care
I don't know why I am just discovering you, this video came up under a review for a lip product I am thinking about getting, but this video got an instant subscribe from me. You so well worded the thoughts I have had for a long time, and I have been on a similar journey of doing my shadow work (though I did not know it was called that) for over the last 8 years or so. Love this so much!
You are so incredibly helpful. Your AM videos especially, are helpful to accepting and loving myself, and figuring out what that means when figuring out my life. I know this is vague, but... thank you
this is the most relatable video i have ever seen. i cannot begin to thank you enough for such an eloquently spoken video at this dark time. i needed this more than you’ll ever know. thank you!
well it's 2am where I am from and I can tell you it made me cry :( it resonated with me. this was truly meant for me since I'm on my path of healing and I'm super glad it appeared on my recommended. your knowledge and words really touched me & I value it so much. thank you for making this video
wow i needed this so much. i struggle w these feelings all the time especially lately and i’ve been finding it difficult to pull myself out of these feelings like i’ve done in the past.
Amy! Never had seen your channel before, but so pleased I was led to this video. This message is very articulate and dives into a topic many have no idea where to begin and I'm happy you said it! I've been having this very convo w my own parents and it was so refreshing to hear you speak to that truth of knowing our parents' trauma to help identify our own so, ty!!
wow.. this is a huge gem in youtube.. thank you so much.. this whole time I've been blaming myself.. but this sort of opened my eyes.. still doesnt make me not hate myself tho lmao but thank u
Thank you for this video. I come from a very broken family and, as much as I hate to pity myself, I’m finding it really hard to get through this year. Knowing that there really are other people who have the same issues makes me feel less alone.
i cried so badly watching this - you are the most articulate and guiding youtuber i’ve known and im so inspired by you :’))) thank you so much for saying such raw, real words out
This is how I have been feeling, no matter how hard I try to improve and grow as a person, I still feel incomplete, unworthy and unloved I’ve been questioning why and this video came up thank you Amy❤️
if you came across this video today, i believe it was not by happenstance. your intuition and path led you to the right place. for that, i am extremely grateful. ❤️
all the love to you girl
You’re such a breath of fresh air! Wish I new more people like you ✨💕
You just made me cry. I've been dealing with self hate and unrealistic standards for myself ever since i remember. This was sooooo good to hear. I really hope more influencers like you use their power to spread powerful messages like this.
I am extremely grateful for you! You have been help me a lot and I wish I could do the same for you ❤️ thank you!
I’ve seen this video pop up so much today in my feed and I really don’t wanna feel emotional but here I am watching this video 😅🥺🥰 I very much believe that this video popping up so much wasn’t a coincidence, universe really has something to tell me threw your words 🥰🥰🥰
"we accept the love we think we deserve" - The Perks of Being a Wallflower
I love this quote but i think in the context of family love it's not very accurate. We come to world loving unconditionally our parents and do not realise all the harm they might do, and coming to terms with it can feel like a betrayal
@@gabrielle9963 Wow!
I saw this movie and loved it!
Wanna read that book
and this is why I couldn't stay in my relationship, because I felt like I didn't deserve his love.
I sometimes feel so sorry for our parents who didnt have the resources we have nowadays to try to overcome this conditioning and who suffer so much and probably dont even know why... while we're here knowing where all this pain comes from and giving our best to transform it. it's beautiful.
yes! this is exactly how we should see it. what a beautiful positive perspective. rather to live in resentment n sorrow. we should be grateful that we know better 💕
angelikabatwoman this makes me sad too. We have the tools and the language to address these issues and they didn’t 💔
Wow these are literally my thoughts and put them into the beautiful words.... really appreciate it
Haven't finished - only in the intro part and I'm already tearing up.
sending you a big warm hug virtually
Yes
I am too
i cried
Just noticed that you’re filming against the window as opposed to facing it aaand its working perfectly for you
Damn girl
You’re the real rebel
Nathalia Freitas 😂
I love how you talk about victim mentality, not a lot of people like hearing that because they think it takes away from them being a victim. But there are many things to be a victim of. But how you take it on is on you. You’re in charge of your life and living in the negative mental state is not good for anyone! I love these videos keep it up!
Kaitlin Bell omg i love how you and Amy phrased this thought! It’s so so easy for us to pass blame that I am the way I am because of someone else, and forget that we have the power to change. I think the reason villain-centered narratives in tv and movies have gotten so popular is we see how childhood and adolescent trauma can affect people and turn them into monsters, and that 1 dimensional evil villains are outdated and unrealistic. While we can understand how it happened, we must also condemn the character they continued to cultivate
sillydominikay thank you! And I love you’re example as well I didn’t even think about that!
I see your point! But from my viewpoint I feel that some people are born into lives that makes it difficult for them to just start being positive. A lot people don’t have resources to get help because of financial reasons or really have time to stop and reflect to start taking care of themselves sadly... our society needs a lot of fixing! However, it does start with people who do have the resources to seek out help when they are ready to get better.
torymusic97 totally agree... access to education and resources is definitely necessary to even realize if you’re in a toxic environment and to decide to undertake the unlearning of generational damage
sillydominikay I agree with the perspective of taking charge of our lives if we have the self-awareness to do so though! I just wanted to mention the other perspective.
Tomorrow I am finally standing up for the child in me, I was abused from a young age and now at 21 I am finally ready to do this. I needed this video today. Our minds work in strange ways. I am grateful for who I am today I am ready to better myself and live the life I want in 2020.
Sending love to you all x
Have you ever thought of doing a podcast???? Because I’d definitely listen to it! 😍😍😍
*everyone deserves love only by being born on planet earth*
and i'm just-
LOOK HOW HARD I CAN CRY
I swear I started crying the moment she said that. Although its definitely something that we all believe it hits so hard when its said out aloud.
I asked the universe “show me how to heal.” Then literally hours later this was uploaded. I have always struggled with being addicted to attention and validation from others. With that being said, it totally brings down my self esteem when someone insults me. I feel like I’ve always been putting on a mask, so others can like me. Regardless of how much attention I get, I still feel empty. Self love and positive self talk has been the hardest thing for me but I am staying consistent & REFUSE to give up. May we all heal, may we love ourselves & see ourselves in the best light possible regardless if we are have been labeled “ugly” or “annoying” or “stupid”. May we have compassion for ourselves and other beings. I love you if you are reading this. Thank you soooo much Amy for spreading awareness on this topic! You are changing lives, literally. ❤️
Emma Bhictoria Droll she is really helping us to change our lives 💖 u can
Emma Bhictoria Droll exactly me
Aaliyah Kay sending love sis we are in this together 💕💫
Emma Bhictoria Droll I’m dealing with the same! Have you read any books or watched any other videos that have helped you with that?
I just want to remind you how beautiful, strong, unique, valuable, special and wonderful you are ! You are perfect and you are ENOUGH ♡
Love should be like breathing, it should be a quality in you ,its not a question of being in love with someone, it's a question of being love
The most articulate, well spoken, and thoughtful "teal haired" individual on TH-cam
Isabela Aguilar 😭♥️
Some of us are still unwanted and unloved. Not only I saw my parents choose their new kids and family over me, everyone came in my life is doing exactly the same.
It’s so important to understand that your childhood is not a reflection of who you were it’s reflection of your parents childhood.
It's profound!
Makes no sense
I’ve been single for a few years now, and every holiday without someone kills me. I become overcome with jealousy of others who have a significant other to spend the holidays with, and I question why I don’t have what they have. I’ve done lots of therapy. I still find it impossible *not to feel bad about being single.
will talk about this in a future AM with Amy :-) i've got a lot to share!
AMY LEE ugh thank you babe. Love you
Do put yourself out there??
Chantel goddess constantly. I’m always dating and that never leads anywhere. I’m either ghosted, or there’s no connection
Emz Z oh I see. I can relate tho
today morning i cried whispering "it will pass" to myself repeatedly. so grateful i found this video in the evening. thank you so much. a lot of people need to hear this. 💙
i have literally been struggling with my mental health for years. today i had one of the worst panic attacks at school. and i’m really just frustrated with myself and what i’ve become. this cycle is highly emotionally tiring and i really needed to see this :,). you’re such a great mental influencer! much love xoxo
finally someone talking about this
This was like watching myself in a mirror. Tmr I have an appointment with a psychotherapist coz lately I've been struggling a lot. This video came at the perfect time, it was so meant to be!! Thank you so much.
first 30 seconds already got me tearing up 😭
I'm not gonna lie, this video brought a tear to my eye because its so true and a lot of what you said in this video is what i've been saying to myself over the past couple of weeks, but to hear you say it just hits differently. I too myself am on a journey to heal my inner child so thank you so much for this video. You're amazing Amy!! To anyone who is on the same journey I wish you the best of luck because It truly is really hard.
Amen!
I had a really tough morning today and I broke down in the car. I could hear myself think that I will never be able to find love or rather someone to love me back. I had a rocky road from surviving a really hard breakup three years ago, and I believe I am still healing from that. Breakups can really stir up emotions that are rooted deep down in you like i.e. not feeling loved as a child and seeking that validation constantly from everyone around you. Thank you for making this video, it really moved me. I hope everyone knows how worthy they are even though they feel alone this holiday.
Ugh Amy just going for my heart and soul 🤧 you're a special human
I for sure saw this for a reason. I’ve been feeling this way for months and that I am unworthy of a love or “there will always be better than me” for such a long time now. Your videos are always so comforting and help me heal past those issues. Thank you for this and what you do, love you🤎
many days n many pains amazingly i have someone who lives for better live n help others. just wanna say thank you AMY❤ for being there even we are across the country but i feel so thankful n grateful to have you in my life. for me, you are one of my closest in this world. THANK YOU 💗
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I needed this so much today. It's so uplifting and healing.
i wish the same amout of people who watched youtube rewind would watch this. amy is such a beacon of light in this dark ass world we live in.
as I’m struggling I definitely think that I’m taking those feelings of not being satisfied and pushing those feelings on to others rather than seeing the areas in which I need to do some internal healing. I am self aware and grateful I am self aware and here’s to putting in REAL work to get to a better place😌❤️
Come on over and watch a silly old fool putting in some real work, might enjoy, that's the goal.
Amy you are such a gift to this world, and anyone else reading this you are too! 💕
The family I was raised in was strong and nurturing to me. The problem is, the other side was absent. Very conspicuously absent. Like elephant in the living room conspicuous. I have always felt in two worlds at once -- loved, inspired and stable in one. Worthless and rejected in the other. Every triumph comes with gloom just behind the curtain ready to pop out. It is no longer that I feel I can't be loved. It is that I have come to see being loved is too hazardous. The rejection is always just behind that curtain. Your words and observations are helpful. The makeup portions - I can see how those make your message easier, less weighty. That's a good touch. Even though makeup to me -- well, I'm a guy. but it still is nice.
As an Asian American male, it's hard to overcome the stigma of mental health. I am emotionaly hurt almost everyday due to past trauma. Sometimes I just need a friend to love me while I just sit and cry.
This is my first ever TH-cam comment. I’m in absolute awe. Every word touched me deeply & I truly felt like you were talking to me the entire time. I can hardly remember my childhood (due to trauma) and now, at 25, I’m starting to do the work (such as shadow work, therapy, etc.) in order to heal and have a healthy adult life. Not only do I want to make the rest of my time here on earth more pleasant, but I want to make the world a better place with everyone/everything I encounter. I really enjoyed this topic and would love it if you made more videos on it. Thanks Amy! 💓
Oh man, this video is really good and explaining some things i recently just started understanding. I kept my mind busy with stuff like school, drugs, feeling anxious of others, sports and internet-addiction since Im a teen. Since I started to get to know myself more and also realize there are some ways I act sometimes and that are deeply coded in my brain. In the last months/weeks I started taking some time to think about myself. At first it resulted in me being depressed about all the bad things in my childhood/teens and also the lack of things I wish, I expirienced like love or friendship.
But me realizing this gave me the ability to change myself and improve myself instead of being in a loop of my self-hatred and addictions.
I want to be able to express my emotions through my body and feel them like my girlfriend who is able to be happy and sad. She really hopes I can stop being in my head all the time and let go of bad things.
I know now that I have incredible capabilities of changing my ways and doing things that fulfil me.
Honestly Im actually happy now and just 4 months ago, I had constant breakdowns and willingly took huge amounts of drugs that almost killed me. To me that was normal but when friends started caring about me I felt so relieved that somebody would have an emotional reaction to what I was doing. I now feel a lot better, and Im happy to be alive
I am currently visiting my relatives in Vietnam. When I see how my cousins are raised, with neglect and the absence of validation, I see the same patterns that I experienced in my childhood. I can totally see how things were passed down. It affects so many people living in the diaspora. These experiences hurt but we can heal through the process of unlearning. Thank you so much for this video. You just found the right words!
Oh my gosh you are the best. I don’t always watch every video because I feel I really have to be in the right headspace to watch them, but something about your videos is so cathartic. Please never stop making them!
Also, I lit my favorite candle and right in front of that candle I keep a pic of my grandmother holding me as a baby and literally I just noticed the picture glowing as you’re talking about generational healing❤️
Just noticed the video is 15:44 mins long.
44 being an angel number meaning - “your angels are communicating with you directly in an effort to bring you peace, encouragement & inspiration”
I believe that is what you are Amy! An angel that brings a lot of peace, encouragement & inspiration! This video was definitely not a coincidence
Rocio C. 4 is my angel number! i resonage with this and thank you ♥️
cried throughout this entire video. you spoke so well on this topic and i love your outlook🖤
sending love❤️❤️
You are literally so good, I wish I found you ages ago. This is exactly what I needed to hear Thankyou for blessing me and everyone else with your beautiful knowledge. You have no idea how much you hit my heart 💜
Positive vibes and knowledge is everything 💖
Well said sister !!! Abuse doesn't define you. Your video today made me cry great message by the way
I just wanted to say that love is *not* toxic, selfish, abusive or conditional. If these are present, love is absent. People may say things like, "I'm doing this out of love" and "tough love". They may hurt people they say they love. Love as a concept and action is misconstrued to justify harmful and abusive words, behavior, and treatment. And the sad part is that people really do believe that is what love is because that's all they know and what they were taught. Feeling a sense of lack, hurt, abandonment, trauma is evidence that love was not truly present. Yes, people like parents and guardians can give and show care, but it's okay to also acknowledge when they have hurt you. I've been reading bell hooks' "all about love" and it's a very insightful book. I recommend it.
Just starting my self healing process and hearing somebody else saying that all of my inner suffering and years of hatred I turned against myself wasn’t my own fault, makes me tear up every single time.
It feels like a big relief knowing and learning to understand that I was right the way I am right from the beginning on. I was never meant to be somebody else and that I do deserve unconditional love.
Absolutely eye opening video Amy 🤍
I found this amazing video after crying to my mom about the emotional pain I can't seem to shake. I appreciate you so much for doing this video.
my last conversation vanished so I'll say the same thing in a different way..
"sometimes you have to keep breaking your heart, until it opens" - rumi
"love will find you in the end" - daniel johnston
THE QUOTE AT THE END OMFG! I'VE ALWAYS FELT LIKE AN ALIEN AND I DON'T FIT INTO MY FAMILY AT ALL. I've always felt bad about it btw...but now this quote just hit me so hard!
I have been a faithful subscriber for so long. I go through phases with my anxiety and depression where I veer away from social media and youtube so even though I have seen this video title for so long you are so right! It was in alignement with my path to see this video exactly when I did. All of your videos are so authentic and healing and POWERFUL. I love you so much and am so very thankful for your channel and all of your videos. Your content truly makes me feel a lot more introspective and less alone💖
Thank you thank you thank you🥰
And thank you to everyone in the comments that share. We are a separated but connected community of beautiful beings all growing at our own pace❤❤❤
Thank you all for being who you are.
Cried throughout the whole video.
When I was in college, I told myself I would no longer feel unworthy if I study abroad; went abroad and I still feel like I'm not enough. Then I told myself if I can get a job in the cosmetic industry, I would be happy; got a job in the company I've always dream of working in, but I still question if I am worthy of being here every day.
I truly believe this video does not come to me by coincidence. Thank you, Amy. I'll continue to work on healing my inner child and wish you joy and abundance in 2020.
Finally i found really good video without bullshit like “you have to love yourself before somone love you” thanks for this video
You express yourself in en excellent way Amy . Do not let negative emotions let you down . We all have our ups and downs in life that is just the way for everybody no matter who you are. Keep up the good work .
Who the he'll thumbs down this video???? Don't watch it if this is not for you, super super simple. Close the video......
Amy keep up the videos!!!! You are a very inspirational person, THANK YOU! !!!! ♡♡♡
I never, ever comment on videos, but I felt like I needed to today. Just to say 'thank you'. This is something I've needed to hear for a very, very long time. And now, to start the process of healing.
This is an amazing video, I just had this conversation with my mother today! We were both in tears as I listened to what she was hurting about. I told her how I was and am still currently working on healing my trama’s caused from my up bringing. Which she took part of that trama. But I let her know that I understand why she was the way she was. She was a product of generations of toxic behavior and old school beliefs! She understood what I meant. I’ve never felt so bonded to my mother more than today! Thank you for this! 💖💖💖💖
love your videos like this!! It's only a year ago or so I realized this about my parents and it made me appreciate them more and realize that they are people struggling through life too. They're trying their best. LOVE THIS!
I felt that love. It brought me to tears. Thank you SOOOO MUCH. I’m going to start working on myself with Christ and a therapist appointed by Him, God willing. You’re a light in this world and I pray that God gets His chance to fully expose the talents He’s embedded inside of you because we need you in “a whole nother way” honey ♥️ I mean, NEED. Again, THANK YOU. Psalms 23:6 may be just for you.♥️♥️♥️🙏🏽
Thank you for making a video about this. This just reminds me that I made the right decision to move out of my family home to be able to grow from the emotional abuse they’ve pushed on me
Simply thank you
you have the most beautiful soul and im so grateful for being able to experience and learn from your videos. watching you grow and listening to your experiences and also just listening to your knowledge about the world is so inspiring and influential. with your help, all of us can grow to live fufilling lives
you are all loved and worthy
you have purpose!
don't listen to negative feelings and replace them with positive truths!
Your videos are soo good! Pls never stop creating such content. You help alot of people with your words! You're rlly one the people i look up to the most! Love from Germany 🤞🏻😌
Your videos are genuinely helpful and educational - almost like a free seminar. Your words and presence carry so much power, thank you for being you Amy.
I really needed this. I love my father but he is emotionally toxic to be around as he is angry and depressed at times. But he’s all I have and he just had a stroke.
I needed this, thank you.
my parents told me im worthless but watching your video made me understand their past.
When she said ‘it’s not your fault’ 🥺. She is SO personable, it feels like your right here with me. Sending you love Amy❤️❤️❤️
I love you, this is helping me grow so much, amazing videos never stop making them❤️
Edit: This is me a year later, having another breakdown because of how my family makes me feel unloved, and ending up searching for and watching the same video I did last year. Didn't even remember watching it before. I really want to live on my own, not easy for a girl in my country
you’re so unbelievably beautiful not only on the outside but on the inside. i admire you.
Thanks for the video ! Merry Christmas everybody!
I tooootally agree that whether or not we are loved isn't paramount when the relationship was a source of trauma for us. I think people stick with toxic people because they have this idea that that's what love IS and they need to be loyal to their loved one. The important question we need to ask ourselves is, "how is this relationship affecting my health and my light?"
Amy my path did lead me here! I so resignated with that last quote,thank you for that! Your video has reminded me of my purpose. Where are all the other like minded people like you? I wish you guys lived in my city Lol ;) You are my virtual friend!
I am currently trying to improve my life style and I want o achieve a place where I know I am good enough for this world. I want to love myself. I am working on self care and self improvement. This video just opened a whole new perspective for me. I never felt so connected with words coming from another person. I am so glad I found this channel. XOXO
Thank you for being such an inspiration! I am working on myself and my unhealthy coping mechanisms constantly trying to get rid of fear of being vulnerable and become loving & open for love person. I am on this path because of my greatest friend, who showed me way of thinking which was totally new to me and gave me unconditional love, despite my flaws & imperfections. Becoming better and better day after day gives me real happiness and I consider it my biggest life success (in progress) :)
as a 23yr old and going through numerous therapies, family's emotional baggage and my deteriorating visual impairment are always in the way of building up self-worth. many of us who are yet to rediscover our inner child blame so much on ourselves to a point even when we are loved unconditionally by somebody, we just can't take it in. love how you are talking about mental health, amy, your thoughts are really inspirational. omg i can go on and on about how much i relate but anyways, thank you so so much. you really help thru my journey of being myself :)
Hi Amy, this year, I've been doing a lot of work with my therapist on the inner child and have made more progress in one year, than I thought I would in my lifetime. It truly requires a lot of work but so worth it. I know I still have an incredibly long journey ahead of me though. Thank you for talking on this topic, it would be great if you did more videos on this ❤
I fell asleep to this video but I will actively watch again to learn 😤😤😤😤
You are such an inspiration!!
Thank you so much amy i want to cry now haha! You are also loved by all of us. Thank you.
I'm rewatching this after a bad breakup and honestly I needed this more than ever. I needed to feel that need for growing from this with no anger nor hate, and reminding myself I was enough.
I believe that the goal of reflecting the inner child of our parents to them is to make them aware of it. As adults they probably suppressed, denied and rejected their trauma etc. How else could the universe make them aware of this in that way?
im really going through it and i relate to this so much. im really crying bc of how accurate it is
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this.
Recently ive been having a hard time finding and accepting me
Its 2.am
And this video found me.
Your words hit me like a weakening call..
Thank you so much.
I promise to change and work on myself.. for myself
❤️ Take care
I don't know why I am just discovering you, this video came up under a review for a lip product I am thinking about getting, but this video got an instant subscribe from me. You so well worded the thoughts I have had for a long time, and I have been on a similar journey of doing my shadow work (though I did not know it was called that) for over the last 8 years or so. Love this so much!
I’m surprised you didn’t major in psychology or social work! I love this video! ✨
Thank you so much Amy- very insightful and a really kind post. xxx
You are so incredibly helpful. Your AM videos especially, are helpful to accepting and loving myself, and figuring out what that means when figuring out my life. I know this is vague, but... thank you
Randomly came across your vids! And I'm glad I clicked... thank you sharing your knowledge 🙏 💫
this is the most relatable video i have ever seen. i cannot begin to thank you enough for such an eloquently spoken video at this dark time. i needed this more than you’ll ever know. thank you!
well it's 2am where I am from and I can tell you it made me cry :( it resonated with me. this was truly meant for me since I'm on my path of healing and I'm super glad it appeared on my recommended. your knowledge and words really touched me & I value it so much. thank you for making this video
wow i needed this so much. i struggle w these feelings all the time especially lately and i’ve been finding it difficult to pull myself out of these feelings like i’ve done in the past.
Amy! Never had seen your channel before, but so pleased I was led to this video. This message is very articulate and dives into a topic many have no idea where to begin and I'm happy you said it! I've been having this very convo w my own parents and it was so refreshing to hear you speak to that truth of knowing our parents' trauma to help identify our own so, ty!!
Thank you so spreading so much Love
wow.. this is a huge gem in youtube.. thank you so much..
this whole time I've been blaming myself.. but this sort of opened my eyes..
still doesnt make me not hate myself tho lmao
but thank u
Thank you for this video. I come from a very broken family and, as much as I hate to pity myself, I’m finding it really hard to get through this year. Knowing that there really are other people who have the same issues makes me feel less alone.
i cried so badly watching this - you are the most articulate and guiding youtuber i’ve known and im so inspired by you :’))) thank you so much for saying such raw, real words out
As soon as she mentioned and explained what the inner child is, Taehyung's song popped into my head and suddenly had a deeper meaning to me
you talk so beautifully, thank you for making this
this is the most beautiful empowering video I have seen. you made me cry by touching my heart with this video. lots of love to you
you are amazing Amy
Thank you :'). I've been thinking about this recently-somehow the universe brought me here bc it knew this was the words i needed to hear
This is how I have been feeling, no matter how hard I try to improve and grow as a person, I still feel incomplete, unworthy and unloved
I’ve been questioning why and this video came up thank you Amy❤️
You’re one of the best messengers of the Universe! Thank you Amy! ❤️