@@sawrunner0 I use to think about that quote and believe it myself.. but the world is so shallow. Everyone is literally trying to look the same, so it actually seems that someone's else's beauty that isn't in your standard is the absence of your beauty.. because of how the world actually thinks.
Some times I look in the mirror and stares for so long and at my self thinking : -why do I not have a boyfriend -why do I look like this -why am I not pretty enough
I get noticed by guys and I still feel extremely ugly and I’m super insecure. I hate to admit this but I do seek validation from guys unfortunately, and whenever I get it i feel even worse because it doesn’t mean shit. A guy thinking you’re pretty doesn’t mean anything, if someone tells me they like me, that I’m funny or have a cool personality, that honestly makes me so happy. It’s the best compliment you can get.
Exactly same, I don’t feel ugly tho, it’s like I feel not pretty enough and I’m afraid to go on dates bcz I’m afraid guys will think I’m ugly, no one ever told me I’m ugly before so idk why I’m acting like this.
I'm the other way around, I get told a lot I'm funny or have a cool personality but never get told I'm pretty or anything similar, my friends get a lot of guys to notice them but I don't and honestly it makes me feel bad.
I try to not view beauty solely based off of people's looks. And I started viewing and evaluating beauty based off of who they are as a person and how they treat other people. By doing this, I feel like my entire world has become more beautiful, and everyone looks prettier in my eyes :) Also... I LOVE THIS AMY.
So I heard this great quote that I often remind myself. “You’re absolutely gorgeous and that’s the LEAST interesting thing about you.” Friendly reminder that beauty stems from the inside💕 LOVE THE CONTENT GORL💕
i had a really bad breakdown last night because i felt “not pretty” at all and all i felt was hopelessness....this video couldn’t have come at a better time. thank you so much for this, you’ve truly given me a whole new perspective!
i feel like i might have had a similar experience but, honestly every time i feel like I’m about to have serious negative emotions about not being pretty i immediately get reminded of this video th-cam.com/video/TJAqwSmbKJc/w-d-xo.html. And then I laugh. It’s still good to take care of and confront that emotion so as to not let it build up and hide behind humor, though.
this is a quote I came up with: “I don’t need to hear that I’m beautiful, I need to hear that I’m worthy even if I’m not.” A lot of people say things like “everyone is beautiful,” but that statement implies that beauty is important and everyone HAS to have it or else. But the truth is, it’s okay to be ugly. It doesn’t matter if you’re pretty or ugly, if you’ve got something deeper to offer then I like you and that’s that!! To hell with your appearance!! Make people feel something real and it won’t matter what you look like. I’ve never felt connected to someone just because of how they looked.
“Ugly” doesn’t actually exist. We call people ugly because they don’t meet up society’s beauty standards. We created “ugly humans”. Everyone is beautiful in a different way.
i clicked on this video and first thing i thought was "damn shes gorgeous" and then u started talking and damn. beautiful inside out. stan a legend. iconic. queen.
For every girl who feels this way, read this. Beauty standards were invented by one person. It was not invented by the whole world. If you have flaws, please love them. It's what makes you unique and original. It's what makes you beautiful. Imagine a world where everyone had no flaws. They all looked the same. And they all happened to fit the impossible beauty standards. It would be pretty boring, right? Embrace your flaws because it's what makes you, you.
the term 'flaw' is created by the mind. flaw did not exist before there were 'ideals' set by society. So, you're statement here is off. Flaws exist only if you allow yourself to believe this framework that someone, as you have mentioned, set as an influence to dominate our minds in this world. did we even know what 'flaw' was as a 3 yr old?
Mirror mirror on the wall.. It does not matter if I'm short or tall If I have skinny legs or if my hips are wide It only matters who I am inside Blue eyes brown eyes black or green What makes me beautiful cannot be seen When you see me don't judge my parts The most beautiful thing about me is my heart!! 💙💙 *One day you will look back and see, I am perfect just as me.
i remember i was watching a video once and the girl said "being beautiful isn't an accomplishment" and that really stuck with me because it's honestly so true
Can we legit get an AM with Amy podcast? Honestly, I am here for EVERYTHING that you have to say. The things that you talk about are so relevant and they're the words that a lot of people need to hear. You break it down to be concise and easy to swallow and you keep things real af during every moment. You are the type of friend that we all need in life and I hope that you keep doing what you do because it's fabulous.
I was cyberbullied when I was young. Two girls messaged me saying I was fat and looked like a boy. They said that they would cut off my hair to make me look like a boy even more and would cut me into little pieces with a knife. Since then, I felt ugly and I hated pictures and social media. This summer, I decided to change that. I want to OWN social media, not the other way around. That's why I started a youtube channel~ Thanks amy for touching on this topic!
Not Limited To I find you gorgeous. Beauty is a subjective concept. How did you start getting confidence on your mind and in your looks even after cyber bullying. Good luck for your channel.
During my childhood and beginning of teen years I’ve always been treated as the ugly one, I was bullied into believing it and it’s been two years since I started taking care of myself and aiming to be the best version of myself ( I’m 20 now). Yes, pretty people do have it easier but now I’m actually on the other side ( I’m a model now , I can see that people treat me better in some ways and it makes me slightly uncomfortable when I see other people being treated as less worthy than me etc. ) I just wanna spread positivity and not be seen as just pretty... it’s sad that our society puts beauty on the top, we always judge from appearances even if we do not want to. I truly believe confidence is prettier than just being conventionally pretty. Anyway, great video Amy thank you for your words 🖤
Sebastian Rivera that’s okay it’s your opinion :) I’m not trying to please everyone but if you feel handsome and beautiful in your own skin I applaud you, because I do and I’m proud of where I am today. Just so you know, a lot of my ex bullies reached out to me in recent years to telle me it was out of fear that they bullied me, because I’m half asian, so I’m proud now of my heritage ! Have a great day you beautiful human 🥰
No matter how pretty you are it will be gone one day with age. So i can't care less .people need to realise not only is life temporary, suffering stems from believing in a life that's is delusional and not your real essence, wasting precious time and worry about how you look, you have no time to realise why you are here on earth and where would you be after life. You fail to accumulate good deeds and end up in the cycle of life and death and more suffering each time as you fail to realise how to be a better person but waste all your time arguing , comparing, partying, chatting crap on your TH-cam channel like this person here, let me tell you I don't really care what you got to offer apart for good deeds and most people never considered afterlife and take it as of it is a joke. But it will definitely happen. Buddhists believe people look " pretty " if they did alot of good deeds in the last life. Check out the teaching yourself, perhaps you will be amazed how it is really not a blind religion as such but a science. And it is really sad how we feel not good enough when we look in the mirror, but Buddha offers a way out of this is kind of suffering. His teaching had taught me how not to feel I need to take revenge (everyone she hurts my feelings) on a very toxic mother , and no longer engage in arguments for example, even though it really is hard to do....I tried many methods and researched different faiths, and decided this is for me as I can see progress in myself as a person seeking enlightenment,wisdom and compassion.
"I have so much more to offer then my outer appeareance." This hit me hard bc finally I found someone who thinks like me. Like I am soooo confident about the things I can offer.I am good in talking about politics,philosophy,history,classic literature,music,dramas,series like soooo many things.And these alone are enough to make me confident even tho I look decent. I hope that I never lose this confidence that isn't based on my looks
Exactly thats my kind of view too. Its not all about how I look and I feel like everyone is complaning about how they look and stuff - I actually dont really care. I dont need a boyfriend or people who tell me that I'm pretty......My personality is wayyyy more interesting than my appeareance and people who actually really want to get to know me shouldn't be judging me on my look (:
I remember when I went to study aboard and made new friends on a island and I was feeling fat and didn’t want to take off my shirt bc my costume was basically a bikini top. But when I finally had the courage to do it all my friends hyped me up so much! I loved the way they made me feel, it was such a nice gesture. They always reminded me that I was beautiful even though I felt so ugly, they starting to make me feel better about myself. I am now back at my home school and I catch myself feeling ugly now and then, but watching this video just reminds me how they treated me. So whenever I’m feeling bad about myself I can remember how great my friends were on the island.
I have SO MANY thoughts about this. This topic is such a HUGE part of my story. I grew up being the "not pretty friend/sister". It literally almost killed me. I went into a deep depression over it at a very young age. I'll try to consolidate my thoughts. 1. I 100% agree with both points about why you could be feeling that way. Especially the second. I had extremely unhealthy, controlling friendships. They wanted me to dress, look and behave a certain way and whether I did or not, they took it as an opportunity to humiliate me. When I did meet there standards in someway they were confused and mean. (I.e. Checking in my scalp to see if my hair was mine because it looked longer.) One of the healthiest and life saving things I did for myself was find new friends. It was scary. These people were my crew. My squad. If one was missing, they asked the other three where she was. I was making the conscious choice to be alone in high school before I remain apart of that click. 2. Once I got new friends who celebrated my differences instead of trying to get me to conform, I started acting like it. I went out of my way to dress and behave exactly and unapologetically me. It boosted my confidence so much and I actually got MORE affirmation from others when I did that. My BEST advice is to wear what you love. Make your external appearance reflect you authentically even if its scary. For the love of God, do not try to wear the costume ither people seem to be confident in and assume it will work for you. 3. Even after all of that, (finding a healthy affirming community that tells me I'm beautiful ALL THE TIME. My church has a very encouragement focused culture and we take time to celebrate each other constantly.) I've still found that I don't feel pretty all the time. When people tell me I'm beautiful I can't receive the compliment. Why? Because I don't agree. You could get all the verbal affirmation of beauty in the world, if you don't believe it too, all of those compliments will bounce right off of you. The cliche is true. You HAVE to believe it. And you HAVE to live your life like you believe that. Give other people compliments. Those who refresh others will also be refreshed. **steps off soap box**
12:33 “All of your insecurities can be made to empower you.” really glad i found your channel last year cuz you help me the most at times i feel the “i cant explain what i feel rn” feeling, love you amy and thenks for your content
I believe that "pretty" people are less attractive when they have a horrible attitude. I think physical traits are not the most important because I think that the way someone holds themselves says more about a person. Confidence is definitely a trait that makes a person attractive. Also I have NEVER seen an ugly person.(I have always thought this and I don't think it would change if I saw all of you tomorrow. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. work on the inside and then if after you want work on the outside go ahead(no need though) )Honestly, the only way someone looks less "pretty" or attractive is if they are extremely rude and just have this negative attitude. Thanks for this video I am definitely subscribing! Thanks for such a positive message. :)
This has been bothering me for the longest time. I’m not confident with how I look, I don’t take time to apply stuff on my face because I’m thinking that everything’s going to be the same. I’m so insecure with those beautiful people and I kept on comparing myself to them.
i’ve had body dysmorphia since high school. thank you for reminding me of the truth :) today i shall go out a confident lady ;) okay semi confident this is a work in progress
wow this video is coming at such a great time in my life right now. I painfully relate so hard to the original email & you had so many insightful things to say!💖
Ever since I was in highschool and was struggling with my monolids, you were THE UCLA STUDENT TH-camR WHO MADE ME FEEL LIKE I can be beautiful too, with my smol litto eyes, and seeing you having similar eyes as me and being SO BEAUTIFUL in my eyes gave me so much hope and I realized that it really isn‘t the world‘s standard of beauty that draws others to you. Does that make sense? It wasn‘t just your monolid makeup skills that made me love you, but also your sense of style, your wit, your mind and your constant energy to love yourself. Funny how you and Jenn Im were my go to unnies for my insecure self at age 16, and you two still continue to mentor me on the internet. Love you so much Amy and I owe so much to you❤️
"Proactive or Reactive?" This has helped me!! I didnt even realise that a lot of my down days have everything to do with the confidence in my mind. I'm going to push through it and ACT like i deserve what i desire, because I do xx :) thanks amy!
I was always a confident person and then I landed into a job that knocked me down in 3 months, I became so unhappy and unconfident... it was scary to me how a job would change me as I always enjoyed doing my job. I moved on 3 months ago and I am in my current job for 2 months. I still have a lot of self-doubts...not sure if it’s still related to the last job or just the stage of my life and experience. However, I am making progress to get my confidence back. I resonate so much when you say surround yourself with people who value you. My colleagues are those people and my friends as well, I feel good. So I think I am back to the right track!
Different situation; I was in a super toxic friendship (isolation, lots of insults thrown my way etc) and my best friend got all her self worth from the boyfriend she had at the time(she had a lot of unhealthy relationships in a few years). Because she didn't feel good enough by herself she projected that onto me. She tried setting me up with guys, played down my appearance, always tried to 'out do' me in fashion and makeup. I'm not friends with her anymore but now when I used to feel like I was the 'ugly one' I know that there's no such thing as one person being the prettiest. In terms of guys (please please don't validate yourself through relationships) there was plenty of potential boyfriends, but I turned them down because our personalities didn't match. 'Prettiness' is relative. What one person finds beautiful, someone else doesn't even notice it.
this is such an important topic im glad u discussed it this week! in college i was the “unpretty one” in my friend group not being hit on, feeling ugly and unwanted whenever my friends and i went out. then whenever i went out after college in other cities i was hit on pretty regularly. so like u said prettiness is not measured by other people it’s how u feel and it’s really not that important lol. just gotta be confident in urself both inside and out and that’s gorgeous by itself!
I grew up feeling that way and now I am 26 and still feel the same way. This video is such an eye opener for me because I really need to change my self projection. Thank you very much ❤️
I'm so happy I watched this video, you really did just help me out with all the self-hate I've been dealing with lately. One thing I couldn't stop doing was comparing myself with other conventionally pretty girls, but I'm truly tired of being constantly sad about my looks, because it's true that looks are the least thing I should be worrying about. I have noticed that confident people are more attractive, like how you said that people like people who like themselves a lot! I hope I can get there soon and be happy with myself regardless of how I physically look. Thank you so much!! :D
this is my fourth year watching your videos, amy. i remember i would watch videos abt college when i was a freshman, and one night one of your UCLA vids popped up. i remember watching the videos you made in your dorm, being so proud of you when you graduated, you getting komey, moving into your first apartment, and i remember when you started the am with amy. you are my favorite youtuber. thank you for your eloquence and wisdom. you are inspiring. (and also, i am an intj, too!)
amy is so friggin cool that i aspire to that so much more than the most beautiful person on youtube or otherwise. even though she is really attractive...
"people love people who love themselves." this is such an inspirational video, sooo many people would benefit from listening to your words and realizing that they are worth much more than their looks. love the vibes in this video, and can definitely relate to this topic. thanks for sharing. ❤️
I needed this so much right now. I related a lot to the email that girl sent. Whenever I went out to bars or clubs with my friends they always seemed to get hit on while I didn't. It felt like the only times guys hit on me was when my "prettier" friends turned them down so the guys would go to the "next best thing." That's how I thought about it, anyway. Your video helped me realize that I was probably just projecting. It still is hard for me to acknowledge that it's all in my head, but I'll try to be better at not projecting and to not think so harshly of myself.
I am 15 years old 😊 and I was called ugly for so long , and I am thankful for it cause I learned a new thing and it is so precious it become a really important thing in my life ❤ Well , to me beauty is something that everybody has , humans are made in a very beautiful way , you should never call yourself ugly , instead you should say that your look is socially unexpected or unappreciated because beauty standers are what makes you pretty or ugly in people's eyes , humans from a really young age are taught that a pretty woman has this and that, and an ugly woman is a woman that has this and that 💜so they grow up thinking that this is being beautiful this is being ugly, you don't chose to be ugly or pretty you are born that way like what the heck ? Humans made those rules ,why the frick do we have to work with these rules ? All humans are born beautiful, some of em are considered pretty because they re born looking a certain way and other peaple are not born with those certain features that humans like them made ! So you are not ugly at all , no body is ugly if somebody calls you ugly they re soul is ugly they re pathetic and blind !! There is another thing , taste and attraction ❤😊 You might love blue eyes more than brown eyes but this doesn't mean that brown eyes are ugly it is just a personal preference! You might be attracted to brown guys more than white guys and it is fine it is a personal preference it is taste !💜 So please don't ever call yourself ugly , you are soooooo beautiful please know this we re all beautiful all humans are beautiful and you know what makes you prettier your confidence your personality and your kindness ❤❤ Hope I helped , and sorry if I made typos * I type really fast so I make a lot of mistakes *
Thank you for talking about this! Not enough people do... and yet, it’s on many people’s minds(!) especially younger girls watching here who are coming of age. Critical stuff here!
Loved this! I vibe with this so much. I feel like as I’ve gotten older I haven’t changed in appearance so much as I’ve evolved confidence wise. I think that confidence and passion translates into “attractiveness.” If you love yourself in a non-egotistical way, people can be naturally drawn towards you. I did this photo comparison where I took a picture of myself in a previous year. Next to the picture I wrote down things I wanted to accomplish or overcome. I took another picture the following year after completing many of my personal goals. It’s crazy how confidence can change your appearance! I looked happier, I was standing up straight, I dressed myself better, etc. if you’re not sure where to start in building up yourself, I’d try out this exercise 😉 you’ll be amazed at what time can do.
I am so, so glad I clicked on this video. Recently I have felt the lowest I ever have in terms of looks and personality, but this video came at the perfect time. I love what you said about using insecurity as inspiration to improve, and what you said about projecting is so true. I’ve been doing that so much lately, but every time I’m tempted to, I’ll remember this video. I wish I could express how much your words mean! This is the most helpful advice I’ve heard on this topic. Thank you!
i like how you also mentioned your insecurity about not being “not smart enough” and i want to suggest that you expand on that more in another video ☺️
I really love this message and resonate with it very well. This has been my mindset for the last 7 years because I too struggle with a part of my physical appearance and started to project those insecurities onto others. I realized that I’ve never seen myself as ugly or unattractive, but I’ve been questioning as to whether certain people think I am, and that is what destroyed my self-esteem. I know INTERNALLY that I’m not, and if I am, it shouldn’t matter or be the reason to what should be the most important. I have a good heart, am kind and can offer good to this world. Sending love to all those who feel this way and resonate to what she’s speaking ❤️
Thank you Amy! As a fellow Asian female I always felt like Asians were never viewed as the 'attractive' one (in media and society) and that has always affected me in a major way. You talking about beauty the way you do really helps other female Asians growing up in this society. Thank you for the positive influence! :-)
There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty. ~ Dr. Steve Maraboli
Love this. How you present yourself has a huge impact too (and back to the thought/mind being powerful), but know so many people who do not fit the conventional attractiveness quota, but who are irresistable or enticing/ are actually attractive because of how they dress, act, think etc
To add to the people around you aspect you talked about, I think that we need to consider our social media surroundings too since sadly nowadays much of the ‘I don’t feel pretty’ mindset is fuelled by ‘I saw someone much prettier.’ I follow soooo many people on instagram who have traits that we are socially conditioned to deem ‘ugly’ or imperfect and seeing them live their lives the way that they want giving zero fucks inspires the crap out of me!!! It’s not always about finding someone who looks like you, someone you aspire to be or someone who has your ‘ideal’ body type, it’s about the sheer beauty that can be found in differences and people living their lives as who they are. Thank you as always Amy, I could listen to you talk for hours 💓
i was in a shop this morning and two men were talking about me (obviously cus they were staring at me) and one of them said "well, her face is ugly but her body is hella fine" and i felt so insecure in that moment i literally wanted to disappear, and i couldn't prevent myself from crying, luckily no one noticed . now i can't stop thinking about this incident i even spent the whole day thinking about that. i don't wish him well cus he destroyed the confidence i've been building for months
Thank you Amy! ♡ I seriously got so inspired by this! I've felt ugly all my life, but amazingly, just hearing these words really made me feel like now, for the first time, I'm going to start changing the ways I view myself. It's like by remembering these points I can finally get over my worst insecurities and concentrate on my best qualities that matter more in my life and make me who I am, while still feeling content with how I look as well. Just, thank you. I'm so happy I'm subscribed to your channel ♡
Amy, you’re so eloquent and beautiful. Thank you for this. 🙏🏻 I feel like I had a Copernican revolution in mentality shift within myself when you affirmed “people like people who like themselves”. It completely validates the people who care about what others think of them- at least for me. Because, everyone always tries to plant a particular seed in my head: “stop caring about what other people think” And I always wondered “how? How do I let go?” Now I see: that I don’t need to. That I can be proud to be someone who cares what other people think of me, so now I can be confident in who I am because I want people to like me, I want people to understand how much exactly I have to offer, but in order to do so, I must love myself as well because people like people who like themselves. Thank you for continuing your journey of own self love and enlightenment so you can share to the rest of the world. ❤️
Whenever I feel ugly about myself I would think “everyone has their own uniqueness to them, not everybody are beautiful in the same way” and that really help me to feel better. Thank you for talking about this topic, I feel like I don’t see this topic that often.
It's when I'm doing the things that I love that my looks suddenly don't matter anymore. I strive to be in that space where I"m not worrying about my makeup or outfit at all but instead projecting myself in the way that I want to, with positivity.
I really liked this video! because even though i struggle with this personally and made me rethink how i should perceive myself and how to stop projecting these emotions onto my friends, i find that this advice can apply to insecurities in general, not only physically but mentally and emotionally. thank you for this amy, this made my day 💖
this topic speaks so much to me.. i always feel like the ugly friend, everyone is skinnier, prettier, has better skin. i just accepted it and am kinda ignoring it which helps me to move on but its not me living my best life.. thanks for your encouraging words amy! you're so pretty 😻💖💖
I am loving the comments section of this video!! So many positive quotes and shared experiences. Just girls (and guys) helping girls (and guys) ❤️ Stay beautiful everyone !
this video helped me alot. im going through a very insecure point in my life (highschool) and i am constantly finding myself comparing my own appearance to that of people on social media and around me. from now on I'll try my best to work out my relationship with myself ❤
This series is honestly some of the most important, impactful content on the web right now. THANK YOU FOR DOING THIS. Watching the AM with Amy always brings value to my life and improves how I think about so many things. You're amazing and I really admire how well spoken and wise you are!
I feel so blessed to know your TH-cam channel because you're edited things that correspond to my soul : all personnal developpement video like this fashion, good eating habits. I ABSOLUTLY LOVE EVERYTHING when I watched your videos, like the background which make good vibes. I absolutly love you way of talking cause i'm french and due to you slowing way of talking I UNTERSTAND EVERYTHING. I love all really you're my pleasure of the day. YOURS VIDEOS make me believe much more in my way of thinking in life. Thank's dude ;)
This was so helpful thank you for sharing some wisdom. I got emotional watching this because I started thinking about my own life and how I negatively talk myself down. Like you just made me so hopeful to start looking at myself in a new light.
You got me healed all the time. Amd i ALWAYS watch your videos not exactly whem they come out, but whenever i feel like i will understand the vibe. Thank you for your talkings. It's like you're a good friend who's always there to make me feel better.
hi! I stumbled across this video just now, and after I watched it, I can say that this helped me so much to think positively about myself especially because I struggle with a eating disorder so I have a lot of problems with my appearance. Thanks to this video hope for development of my own self from the inside has grown a lot! Thank you so much for making this ... I have to check out your channel more! ps please keep making videos with messages like this one they really are helpful
This video stopped me from breaking down 🥺 I don’t usually seek validation but there are days when I feel so ugly and there are days where I feel pretty 😭
I love this and agree ! Looks are the least important thing about a person . I definitely agree, a person who is confident in themselves and their abilities and has amazing characteristics such as being funny, kind, etc, wow now that’s attractive! ❤️
This actually made me feel better, thank you. I was crying recently because I felt ugly, I was the confident yet a bit insecure type as a kid. Now in my teens I absolutely feel ugly and when I tell my sister or mom how I feel they brush it off or don’t reassure me. I think I started projecting it on them that now my sister says she is prettier than me (in a way I made her feel that way by complimenting her a lot and telling her how ugly I felt) and my mom just saying “the way you are inside affects how you look” when I tell her that I used to be pretty as a kid and why am I not pretty anymore . Instead of uplifting me they make me feel worse.
Amy! Thanks for making this video! I’m a monolided Korean girl born in Argentina. I deal with negative commentaries about my appearance(some of them where “friends” and members of my family). Most of the time I thought of undergoing plastic surgery, but i realized that changing my appearance wasn’t going to change the way I feel about my self. I was insecure and now I’m still insecure but trying to love the way I am. Thank you again Amy ! ♥️🙆🏻♀️
love that you talked about this topic! i just started creating content, & i noticed i started to become hyperaware of my looks in comparison to others-and becoming disappointed because of that. there is so much more to a person than their looks!!
I JUST found your channel and I love it. Subscribed 😊 Younger me definitely needed this. 💕 And honestly, conventionally attractive people who are mean, actually start to look ugly to me. Then someone I didn't take a second glance at, could totally wow me with how interesting and amazing they are. That's when I start to notice all the things that make them beautiful.
I love this! thankyou for bringing this topic up! this really helps me getting through horrible things inside my head, it really helps me to think that there is much more than what meets the eye and giving me much more motivation to improve myself! so thankyou, thankyou, thankyou!🌹
You’re so beautiful inside! (out too, but honestly your personality is just so glowing!) I feel bad for not having watched your videos in a couple months :-( exams suck! But I’m happy to be catching up. You’re doing really well!
Thank you so much for this video Amy. I've always seen myself as the ugly friend, and sometimes still do but, as a person, I know that I have a lot more to offer than others. This video helped me remind myself of that, as I'm having a hard time right now regarding this topic. Thank you so much again for your wise words.
People like people who like themselves a lot.
my mantra from now on :)
Just found your channel & so glad❤I did, good vibes✌
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Amy! You should just go by saying: come join the fami-LEE! I think that would be super awesome! :D
But defintely not as in narcissist
“Someone else’s beauty is not the absence of your own.”
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Katrina Stacie read this at the right time
@@sawrunner0 I use to think about that quote and believe it myself.. but the world is so shallow. Everyone is literally trying to look the same, so it actually seems that someone's else's beauty that isn't in your standard is the absence of your beauty.. because of how the world actually thinks.
@@tuliplee3924 Exactly
The dumbest shit anyone ever said. Yes it is
Even if no one notices your beauty, remember
*Your dog will always think you're the most beautiful human ever*
Juliette Zhang my dog hates me
@@anonymousss8114 F
I don't have a dog 🤣
Chaelle Lemati same
Juliette Zhang i don’t have a dog :,(
Nothing can kill my confidence quicker than a video or a picture of myself
That ain't no shit
Real.
Same
That's so sad, I see the beauty in you
You have a pretty vibe
yes
*YES*
And a pretty face !🥰
YEs you’ve described it
Not only vibe she is gorgeous..like a model for real
Some times I look in the mirror and stares for so long and at my self thinking :
-why do I not have a boyfriend
-why do I look like this
-why am I not pretty enough
relate to this always
Me too girl😔
i literally think about these 3 things everyday
I think of this all the time
When I thought I'm the only person that thinks of these thing
I get noticed by guys and I still feel extremely ugly and I’m super insecure. I hate to admit this but I do seek validation from guys unfortunately, and whenever I get it i feel even worse because it doesn’t mean shit. A guy thinking you’re pretty doesn’t mean anything, if someone tells me they like me, that I’m funny or have a cool personality, that honestly makes me so happy. It’s the best compliment you can get.
same
Exactly same, I don’t feel ugly tho, it’s like I feel not pretty enough and I’m afraid to go on dates bcz I’m afraid guys will think I’m ugly, no one ever told me I’m ugly before so idk why I’m acting like this.
Alyssa but if u are ugly and you never got told u are pretty u would at least want to know how it feels when somebody tells u that u are pretty
Mino H facts..... 😞😞😞😞
I'm the other way around, I get told a lot I'm funny or have a cool personality but never get told I'm pretty or anything similar, my friends get a lot of guys to notice them but I don't and honestly it makes me feel bad.
I try to not view beauty solely based off of people's looks. And I started viewing and evaluating beauty based off of who they are as a person and how they treat other people. By doing this, I feel like my entire world has become more beautiful, and everyone looks prettier in my eyes :) Also... I LOVE THIS AMY.
this is wonderful! you are wonderful!
Honestly this is it right here!!! I 100% agree with you and do the same
same i started to do the same !!
Same
I do that too. I can easily see someone else's beauty beyond their physical attributes but.. I can never do that to myself.
I feel like the feeling that I am ugly has gotten into my subconscious and its taking a toll on how I feel during situations.
Lisinin to positive Affirmations
@@Sariine436 Sure, will try doing so...thanks for suggesting. :)
So I heard this great quote that I often remind myself.
“You’re absolutely gorgeous and that’s the LEAST interesting thing about you.”
Friendly reminder that beauty stems from the inside💕 LOVE THE CONTENT GORL💕
Megan De Leon hi, I just want to say thank you for putting this out there!
Isn’t that from all the boys I’ve loved before
I love this
Megan De Leon ur gorg!! 💕😘
Hi, you’re right, that might be the least interesting thing about you, but you really are so pretty!!!!
i had a really bad breakdown last night because i felt “not pretty” at all and all i felt was hopelessness....this video couldn’t have come at a better time. thank you so much for this, you’ve truly given me a whole new perspective!
i feel like i might have had a similar experience but, honestly every time i feel like I’m about to have serious negative emotions about not being pretty i immediately get reminded of this video th-cam.com/video/TJAqwSmbKJc/w-d-xo.html.
And then I laugh. It’s still good to take care of and confront that emotion so as to not let it build up and hide behind humor, though.
I hope you feel happy now
I had a breakdown last night too!
I am having a breakdown this night actually.
Had a breakdown this morning :(
this is a quote I came up with:
“I don’t need to hear that I’m beautiful, I need to hear that I’m worthy even if I’m not.”
A lot of people say things like “everyone is beautiful,” but that statement implies that beauty is important and everyone HAS to have it or else. But the truth is, it’s okay to be ugly. It doesn’t matter if you’re pretty or ugly, if you’ve got something deeper to offer then I like you and that’s that!! To hell with your appearance!!
Make people feel something real and it won’t matter what you look like. I’ve never felt connected to someone just because of how they looked.
can u do me a motivational speech with that topic? I really love ur words
No offense but who the fuck wants to hear that they’re ugly? I’m not okay with being ugly :/ I’m tired of it
“Ugly” doesn’t actually exist. We call people ugly because they don’t meet up society’s beauty standards. We created “ugly humans”. Everyone is beautiful in a different way.
it's aliki I actually really like this perspective!! thanks for your input 🤍
i clicked on this video and first thing i thought was "damn shes gorgeous" and then u started talking and damn. beautiful inside out. stan a legend. iconic. queen.
For every girl who feels this way, read this.
Beauty standards were invented by one person. It was not invented by the whole world. If you have flaws, please love them. It's what makes you unique and original. It's what makes you beautiful. Imagine a world where everyone had no flaws. They all looked the same. And they all happened to fit the impossible beauty standards. It would be pretty boring, right? Embrace your flaws because it's what makes you, you.
the term 'flaw' is created by the mind. flaw did not exist before there were 'ideals' set by society. So, you're statement here is off. Flaws exist only if you allow yourself to believe this framework that someone, as you have mentioned, set as an influence to dominate our minds in this world. did we even know what 'flaw' was as a 3 yr old?
Mirror mirror on the wall..
It does not matter if I'm short or tall
If I have skinny legs or if my hips are wide
It only matters who I am inside
Blue eyes brown eyes black or green
What makes me beautiful cannot be seen
When you see me don't judge my parts
The most beautiful thing about me is my heart!! 💙💙
*One day you will look back and see, I am perfect just as me.
♡♡♡
Mirror mirror on the wall
I don’t need you anymore
I read this somewhere
I’m more insecure about who I am on the inside than the outside.. :(
Me too. I always feel like I'm not interesting, not smart enough and have zero personality
relateable
@nava you look pretty in your display picture 😻
Same. I'm actually an asshole ngl
Sebastian Rivera because I don’t feel pretty 🥴
i remember i was watching a video once and the girl said "being beautiful isn't an accomplishment" and that really stuck with me because it's honestly so true
Can we legit get an AM with Amy podcast? Honestly, I am here for EVERYTHING that you have to say. The things that you talk about are so relevant and they're the words that a lot of people need to hear. You break it down to be concise and easy to swallow and you keep things real af during every moment. You are the type of friend that we all need in life and I hope that you keep doing what you do because it's fabulous.
I was cyberbullied when I was young. Two girls messaged me saying I was fat and looked like a boy. They said that they would cut off my hair to make me look like a boy even more and would cut me into little pieces with a knife. Since then, I felt ugly and I hated pictures and social media. This summer, I decided to change that. I want to OWN social media, not the other way around. That's why I started a youtube channel~ Thanks amy for touching on this topic!
Not Limited To I find you gorgeous. Beauty is a subjective concept. How did you start getting confidence on your mind and in your looks even after cyber bullying. Good luck for your channel.
you'r beautiful
those are such evil things to say. I hope you are in a better place mentally and feeling good about yourself now. you’re gorgeous I’m sure. ❤️
During my childhood and beginning of teen years I’ve always been treated as the ugly one, I was bullied into believing it and it’s been two years since I started taking care of myself and aiming to be the best version of myself ( I’m 20 now). Yes, pretty people do have it easier but now I’m actually on the other side ( I’m a model now , I can see that people treat me better in some ways and it makes me slightly uncomfortable when I see other people being treated as less worthy than me etc. ) I just wanna spread positivity and not be seen as just pretty... it’s sad that our society puts beauty on the top, we always judge from appearances even if we do not want to. I truly believe confidence is prettier than just being conventionally pretty. Anyway, great video Amy thank you for your words 🖤
I relate to this so much. It's weird, my experiences were so similar to yours.
Uwimana Simon sending you good vibes 🖤
i'm so happy for you
Sebastian Rivera that’s okay it’s your opinion :) I’m not trying to please everyone but if you feel handsome and beautiful in your own skin I applaud you, because I do and I’m proud of where I am today. Just so you know, a lot of my ex bullies reached out to me in recent years to telle me it was out of fear that they bullied me, because I’m half asian, so I’m proud now of my heritage ! Have a great day you beautiful human 🥰
No matter how pretty you are it will be gone one day with age. So i can't care less .people need to realise not only is life temporary, suffering stems from believing in a life that's is delusional and not your real essence, wasting precious time and worry about how you look, you have no time to realise why you are here on earth and where would you be after life. You fail to accumulate good deeds and end up in the cycle of life and death and more suffering each time as you fail to realise how to be a better person but waste all your time arguing , comparing, partying, chatting crap on your TH-cam channel like this person here, let me tell you I don't really care what you got to offer apart for good deeds and most people never considered afterlife and take it as of it is a joke. But it will definitely happen. Buddhists believe people look " pretty " if they did alot of good deeds in the last life. Check out the teaching yourself, perhaps you will be amazed how it is really not a blind religion as such but a science. And it is really sad how we feel not good enough when we look in the mirror, but Buddha offers a way out of this is kind of suffering. His teaching had taught me how not to feel I need to take revenge (everyone she hurts my feelings) on a very toxic mother , and no longer engage in arguments for example, even though it really is hard to do....I tried many methods and researched different faiths, and decided this is for me as I can see progress in myself as a person seeking enlightenment,wisdom and compassion.
"I have so much more to offer then my outer appeareance."
This hit me hard bc finally I found someone who thinks like me. Like I am soooo confident about the things I can offer.I am good in talking about politics,philosophy,history,classic literature,music,dramas,series like soooo many things.And these alone are enough to make me confident even tho I look decent. I hope that I never lose this confidence that isn't based on my looks
Exactly thats my kind of view too. Its not all about how I look and I feel like everyone is complaning about how they look and stuff - I actually dont really care. I dont need a boyfriend or people who tell me that I'm pretty......My personality is wayyyy more interesting than my appeareance and people who actually really want to get to know me shouldn't be judging me on my look (:
Oh hab gerade gemerkt dass du deutsch sprichst haha 🙋
@@Emma-rb9sk jaa ich bin eine deutschtürkin😂😊
@@Emma-rb9sk jaa ich bin eine deutschtürkin😂😊
@@rabiaabdkhank7829 Cool haha schön Mal jemanden zu treffen der Deutsch spricht 😂🙌
I highly recommend the Korean Drama "My ID is Gangnam Beauty", it addresses a lot of aspects Amy talks about
Sophie L. Its really good
Sophie L. I was thinking that 👌
yess love that show
I remember when I went to study aboard and made new friends on a island and I was feeling fat and didn’t want to take off my shirt bc my costume was basically a bikini top. But when I finally had the courage to do it all my friends hyped me up so much! I loved the way they made me feel, it was such a nice gesture. They always reminded me that I was beautiful even though I felt so ugly, they starting to make me feel better about myself. I am now back at my home school and I catch myself feeling ugly now and then, but watching this video just reminds me how they treated me. So whenever I’m feeling bad about myself I can remember how great my friends were on the island.
why is amy a mind reader...I seriously needed this right now wowww perfect timing
I have SO MANY thoughts about this. This topic is such a HUGE part of my story. I grew up being the "not pretty friend/sister". It literally almost killed me. I went into a deep depression over it at a very young age. I'll try to consolidate my thoughts.
1. I 100% agree with both points about why you could be feeling that way. Especially the second. I had extremely unhealthy, controlling friendships. They wanted me to dress, look and behave a certain way and whether I did or not, they took it as an opportunity to humiliate me. When I did meet there standards in someway they were confused and mean. (I.e. Checking in my scalp to see if my hair was mine because it looked longer.) One of the healthiest and life saving things I did for myself was find new friends. It was scary. These people were my crew. My squad. If one was missing, they asked the other three where she was. I was making the conscious choice to be alone in high school before I remain apart of that click.
2. Once I got new friends who celebrated my differences instead of trying to get me to conform, I started acting like it. I went out of my way to dress and behave exactly and unapologetically me. It boosted my confidence so much and I actually got MORE affirmation from others when I did that. My BEST advice is to wear what you love. Make your external appearance reflect you authentically even if its scary. For the love of God, do not try to wear the costume ither people seem to be confident in and assume it will work for you.
3. Even after all of that, (finding a healthy affirming community that tells me I'm beautiful ALL THE TIME. My church has a very encouragement focused culture and we take time to celebrate each other constantly.) I've still found that I don't feel pretty all the time. When people tell me I'm beautiful I can't receive the compliment. Why? Because I don't agree. You could get all the verbal affirmation of beauty in the world, if you don't believe it too, all of those compliments will bounce right off of you. The cliche is true. You HAVE to believe it. And you HAVE to live your life like you believe that. Give other people compliments. Those who refresh others will also be refreshed.
**steps off soap box**
12:33 “All of your insecurities can be made to empower you.” really glad i found your channel last year cuz you help me the most at times i feel the “i cant explain what i feel rn” feeling, love you amy and thenks for your content
I believe that "pretty" people are less attractive when they have a horrible attitude. I think physical traits are not the most important because I think that the way someone holds themselves says more about a person. Confidence is definitely a trait that makes a person attractive. Also I have NEVER seen an ugly person.(I have always thought this and I don't think it would change if I saw all of you tomorrow. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. work on the inside and then if after you want work on the outside go ahead(no need though) )Honestly, the only way someone looks less "pretty" or attractive is if they are extremely rude and just have this negative attitude. Thanks for this video I am definitely subscribing! Thanks for such a positive message. :)
How do you know what to say?? Like everything that comes out sound so perfect
Carol, ❤when you trust your instincts you project confidence 🙌
This has been bothering me for the longest time. I’m not confident with how I look, I don’t take time to apply stuff on my face because I’m thinking that everything’s going to be the same. I’m so insecure with those beautiful people and I kept on comparing myself to them.
If that is your picture, i think you are so pretty 💓
Ness Nouss thank you ☺️
You’re very pretty hun 💕
i’ve had body dysmorphia since high school. thank you for reminding me of the truth :) today i shall go out a confident lady ;) okay semi confident this is a work in progress
wow this video is coming at such a great time in my life right now. I painfully relate so hard to the original email & you had so many insightful things to say!💖
Ever since I was in highschool and was struggling with my monolids, you were THE UCLA STUDENT TH-camR WHO MADE ME FEEL LIKE I can be beautiful too, with my smol litto eyes, and seeing you having similar eyes as me and being SO BEAUTIFUL in my eyes gave me so much hope and I realized that it really isn‘t the world‘s standard of beauty that draws others to you. Does that make sense? It wasn‘t just your monolid makeup skills that made me love you, but also your sense of style, your wit, your mind and your constant energy to love yourself. Funny how you and Jenn Im were my go to unnies for my insecure self at age 16, and you two still continue to mentor me on the internet. Love you so much Amy and I owe so much to you❤️
"Proactive or Reactive?" This has helped me!! I didnt even realise that a lot of my down days have everything to do with the confidence in my mind. I'm going to push through it and ACT like i deserve what i desire, because I do xx :) thanks amy!
I was always a confident person and then I landed into a job that knocked me down in 3 months, I became so unhappy and unconfident... it was scary to me how a job would change me as I always enjoyed doing my job. I moved on 3 months ago and I am in my current job for 2 months. I still have a lot of self-doubts...not sure if it’s still related to the last job or just the stage of my life and experience. However, I am making progress to get my confidence back. I resonate so much when you say surround yourself with people who value you. My colleagues are those people and my friends as well, I feel good. So I think I am back to the right track!
Do you mind me asking what job you were doing?
Different situation; I was in a super toxic friendship (isolation, lots of insults thrown my way etc) and my best friend got all her self worth from the boyfriend she had at the time(she had a lot of unhealthy relationships in a few years). Because she didn't feel good enough by herself she projected that onto me. She tried setting me up with guys, played down my appearance, always tried to 'out do' me in fashion and makeup.
I'm not friends with her anymore but now when I used to feel like I was the 'ugly one' I know that there's no such thing as one person being the prettiest. In terms of guys (please please don't validate yourself through relationships) there was plenty of potential boyfriends, but I turned them down because our personalities didn't match. 'Prettiness' is relative. What one person finds beautiful, someone else doesn't even notice it.
this is such an important topic im glad u discussed it this week! in college i was the “unpretty one” in my friend group not being hit on, feeling ugly and unwanted whenever my friends and i went out. then whenever i went out after college in other cities i was hit on pretty regularly. so like u said prettiness is not measured by other people it’s how u feel and it’s really not that important lol. just gotta be confident in urself both inside and out and that’s gorgeous by itself!
I grew up feeling that way and now I am 26 and still feel the same way. This video is such an eye opener for me because I really need to change my self projection. Thank you very much ❤️
I'm so happy I watched this video, you really did just help me out with all the self-hate I've been dealing with lately. One thing I couldn't stop doing was comparing myself with other conventionally pretty girls, but I'm truly tired of being constantly sad about my looks, because it's true that looks are the least thing I should be worrying about. I have noticed that confident people are more attractive, like how you said that people like people who like themselves a lot! I hope I can get there soon and be happy with myself regardless of how I physically look. Thank you so much!! :D
this is my fourth year watching your videos, amy. i remember i would watch videos abt college when i was a freshman, and one night one of your UCLA vids popped up. i remember watching the videos you made in your dorm, being so proud of you when you graduated, you getting komey, moving into your first apartment, and i remember when you started the am with amy. you are my favorite youtuber. thank you for your eloquence and wisdom. you are inspiring. (and also, i am an intj, too!)
amy is so friggin cool that i aspire to that so much more than the most beautiful person on youtube or otherwise. even though she is really attractive...
Thank you for bringing me back down to earth
"people love people who love themselves."
this is such an inspirational video, sooo many people would benefit from listening to your words and realizing that they are worth much more than their looks. love the vibes in this video, and can definitely relate to this topic. thanks for sharing. ❤️
I needed this so much right now. I related a lot to the email that girl sent. Whenever I went out to bars or clubs with my friends they always seemed to get hit on while I didn't. It felt like the only times guys hit on me was when my "prettier" friends turned them down so the guys would go to the "next best thing." That's how I thought about it, anyway. Your video helped me realize that I was probably just projecting. It still is hard for me to acknowledge that it's all in my head, but I'll try to be better at not projecting and to not think so harshly of myself.
I am 15 years old 😊 and I was called ugly for so long , and I am thankful for it cause I learned a new thing and it is so precious it become a really important thing in my life ❤
Well , to me beauty is something that everybody has , humans are made in a very beautiful way , you should never call yourself ugly , instead you should say that your look is socially unexpected or unappreciated because beauty standers are what makes you pretty or ugly in people's eyes , humans from a really young age are taught that a pretty woman has this and that, and an ugly woman is a woman that has this and that 💜so they grow up thinking that this is being beautiful this is being ugly, you don't chose to be ugly or pretty you are born that way like what the heck ? Humans made those rules ,why the frick do we have to work with these rules ?
All humans are born beautiful, some of em are considered pretty because they re born looking a certain way and other peaple are not born with those certain features that humans like them made !
So you are not ugly at all , no body is ugly if somebody calls you ugly they re soul is ugly they re pathetic and blind !!
There is another thing , taste and attraction ❤😊
You might love blue eyes more than brown eyes but this doesn't mean that brown eyes are ugly it is just a personal preference! You might be attracted to brown guys more than white guys and it is fine it is a personal preference it is taste !💜
So please don't ever call yourself ugly , you are soooooo beautiful please know this we re all beautiful all humans are beautiful and you know what makes you prettier your confidence your personality and your kindness ❤❤
Hope I helped , and sorry if I made typos * I type really fast so I make a lot of mistakes *
U r a army rgt?
Thank you for talking about this! Not enough people do... and yet, it’s on many people’s minds(!) especially younger girls watching here who are coming of age. Critical stuff here!
Loved this! I vibe with this so much. I feel like as I’ve gotten older I haven’t changed in appearance so much as I’ve evolved confidence wise. I think that confidence and passion translates into “attractiveness.” If you love yourself in a non-egotistical way, people can be naturally drawn towards you.
I did this photo comparison where I took a picture of myself in a previous year. Next to the picture I wrote down things I wanted to accomplish or overcome. I took another picture the following year after completing many of my personal goals. It’s crazy how confidence can change your appearance! I looked happier, I was standing up straight, I dressed myself better, etc. if you’re not sure where to start in building up yourself, I’d try out this exercise 😉 you’ll be amazed at what time can do.
I am so, so glad I clicked on this video. Recently I have felt the lowest I ever have in terms of looks and personality, but this video came at the perfect time. I love what you said about using insecurity as inspiration to improve, and what you said about projecting is so true. I’ve been doing that so much lately, but every time I’m tempted to, I’ll remember this video.
I wish I could express how much your words mean!
This is the most helpful advice I’ve heard on this topic. Thank you!
i like how you also mentioned your insecurity about not being “not smart enough” and i want to suggest that you expand on that more in another video ☺️
I really love this message and resonate with it very well. This has been my mindset for the last 7 years because I too struggle with a part of my physical appearance and started to project those insecurities onto others. I realized that I’ve never seen myself as ugly or unattractive, but I’ve been questioning as to whether certain people think I am, and that is what destroyed my self-esteem. I know INTERNALLY that I’m not, and if I am, it shouldn’t matter or be the reason to what should be the most important. I have a good heart, am kind and can offer good to this world. Sending love to all those who feel this way and resonate to what she’s speaking ❤️
Thank you Amy!
As a fellow Asian female I always felt like Asians were never viewed as the 'attractive' one (in media and society) and that has always affected me in a major way. You talking about beauty the way you do really helps other female Asians growing up in this society. Thank you for the positive influence! :-)
There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty. ~ Dr. Steve Maraboli
seems like each time you upload the am with amy, it’s during a time where i really need to hear what you have to say! so thankful for these videos 💜
Love this. How you present yourself has a huge impact too (and back to the thought/mind being powerful), but know so many people who do not fit the conventional attractiveness quota, but who are irresistable or enticing/ are actually attractive because of how they dress, act, think etc
To add to the people around you aspect you talked about, I think that we need to consider our social media surroundings too since sadly nowadays much of the ‘I don’t feel pretty’ mindset is fuelled by ‘I saw someone much prettier.’ I follow soooo many people on instagram who have traits that we are socially conditioned to deem ‘ugly’ or imperfect and seeing them live their lives the way that they want giving zero fucks inspires the crap out of me!!! It’s not always about finding someone who looks like you, someone you aspire to be or someone who has your ‘ideal’ body type, it’s about the sheer beauty that can be found in differences and people living their lives as who they are. Thank you as always Amy, I could listen to you talk for hours 💓
Even when we change our appearance a hundret times, we still feel ugly.
Im glad for having the right people around me🙏🏼
i really appreciate this series. I'm glad you enjoy making them, we enjoy watching them!
Love this series and I wish more people would watch this and watch you ilysm ❤️
i was in a shop this morning and two men were talking about me (obviously cus they were staring at me) and one of them said "well, her face is ugly but her body is hella fine" and i felt so insecure in that moment i literally wanted to disappear, and i couldn't prevent myself from crying, luckily no one noticed . now i can't stop thinking about this incident i even spent the whole day thinking about that. i don't wish him well cus he destroyed the confidence i've been building for months
Thank you Amy! ♡ I seriously got so inspired by this! I've felt ugly all my life, but amazingly, just hearing these words really made me feel like now, for the first time, I'm going to start changing the ways I view myself. It's like by remembering these points I can finally get over my worst insecurities and concentrate on my best qualities that matter more in my life and make me who I am, while still feeling content with how I look as well. Just, thank you. I'm so happy I'm subscribed to your channel ♡
Amy, you’re so eloquent and beautiful. Thank you for this. 🙏🏻
I feel like I had a Copernican revolution in mentality shift within myself when you affirmed “people like people who like themselves”. It completely validates the people who care about what others think of them- at least for me. Because, everyone always tries to plant a particular seed in my head: “stop caring about what other people think”
And I always wondered “how? How do I let go?” Now I see: that I don’t need to. That I can be proud to be someone who cares what other people think of me, so now I can be confident in who I am because I want people to like me, I want people to understand how much exactly I have to offer, but in order to do so, I must love myself as well because people like people who like themselves.
Thank you for continuing your journey of own self love and enlightenment so you can share to the rest of the world. ❤️
you literally spoke the truth!!! but you are so beautiful! and thank youuu for the advice🥺💗
Whenever I feel ugly about myself I would think “everyone has their own uniqueness to them, not everybody are beautiful in the same way” and that really help me to feel better. Thank you for talking about this topic, I feel like I don’t see this topic that often.
I really liked that movie "I feel pretty" I watched it with my family and we all enjoyed it.
Chelsea, your experience is something I deeply relate to. You are not alone!!! Thank you so much Amy for your wise words and support 🙆🏻🙆🏻🙆🏻
this actually made me feel better and made me understand that beauty inside is a lot more important :) so thankyou you beautiful soul.
It's when I'm doing the things that I love that my looks suddenly don't matter anymore. I strive to be in that space where I"m not worrying about my makeup or outfit at all but instead projecting myself in the way that I want to, with positivity.
I really liked this video! because even though i struggle with this personally and made me rethink how i should perceive myself and how to stop projecting these emotions onto my friends, i find that this advice can apply to insecurities in general, not only physically but mentally and emotionally. thank you for this amy, this made my day 💖
You have the best content amen.
this topic speaks so much to me.. i always feel like the ugly friend, everyone is skinnier, prettier, has better skin. i just accepted it and am kinda ignoring it which helps me to move on but its not me living my best life.. thanks for your encouraging words amy! you're so pretty 😻💖💖
I think you are one of the most beautiful people i have ever seen, i mean in every single way you radiate beauty
Thank you so much Amy for this series. It honestly changed the way I look at life.
"reactive vs proactive" so true
I am loving the comments section of this video!! So many positive quotes and shared experiences. Just girls (and guys) helping girls (and guys) ❤️ Stay beautiful everyone !
This is my version of weekly podcasts 😌 This series helps me so much!
this video helped me alot. im going through a very insecure point in my life (highschool) and i am constantly finding myself comparing my own appearance to that of people on social media and around me. from now on I'll try my best to work out my relationship with myself ❤
This series is honestly some of the most important, impactful content on the web right now. THANK YOU FOR DOING THIS. Watching the AM with Amy always brings value to my life and improves how I think about so many things. You're amazing and I really admire how well spoken and wise you are!
I feel so blessed to know your TH-cam channel because you're edited things that correspond to my soul : all personnal developpement video like this fashion, good eating habits. I ABSOLUTLY LOVE EVERYTHING when I watched your videos, like the background which make good vibes. I absolutly love you way of talking cause i'm french and due to you slowing way of talking I UNTERSTAND EVERYTHING. I love all really you're my pleasure of the day. YOURS VIDEOS make me believe much more in my way of thinking in life. Thank's dude ;)
This was so helpful thank you for sharing some wisdom. I got emotional watching this because I started thinking about my own life and how I negatively talk myself down. Like you just made me so hopeful to start looking at myself in a new light.
You got me healed all the time. Amd i ALWAYS watch your videos not exactly whem they come out, but whenever i feel like i will understand the vibe. Thank you for your talkings. It's like you're a good friend who's always there to make me feel better.
hi! I stumbled across this video just now, and after I watched it, I can say that this helped me so much to think positively about myself especially because I struggle with a eating disorder so I have a lot of problems with my appearance. Thanks to this video hope for development of my own self from the inside has grown a lot! Thank you so much for making this ... I have to check out your channel more! ps please keep making videos with messages like this one they really are helpful
This video stopped me from breaking down 🥺 I don’t usually seek validation but there are days when I feel so ugly and there are days where I feel pretty 😭
You’re a beautiful being in every aspect 💖
I love this and agree ! Looks are the least important thing about a person . I definitely agree, a person who is confident in themselves and their abilities and has amazing characteristics such as being funny, kind, etc, wow now that’s attractive! ❤️
You remind me so much of my friend who passed away over 10 years ago. 💔
i love the way you talk. you make people want to listen to you. it's very authentic-like. new subscriber here!
Your legit beautiful dude it’s just not fair ..😞🥺💙
This actually made me feel better, thank you. I was crying recently because I felt ugly, I was the confident yet a bit insecure type as a kid. Now in my teens I absolutely feel ugly and when I tell my sister or mom how I feel they brush it off or don’t reassure me. I think I started projecting it on them that now my sister says she is prettier than me (in a way I made her feel that way by complimenting her a lot and telling her how ugly I felt) and my mom just saying “the way you are inside affects how you look” when I tell her that I used to be pretty as a kid and why am I not pretty anymore . Instead of uplifting me they make me feel worse.
This channel is healing
Amy! Thanks for making this video! I’m a monolided Korean girl born in Argentina. I deal with negative commentaries about my appearance(some of them where “friends” and members of my family). Most of the time
I thought of undergoing plastic surgery, but i realized that changing my appearance wasn’t going to change the way I feel about my self. I was insecure and now I’m still insecure but trying to love the way I am. Thank you again Amy ! ♥️🙆🏻♀️
love that you talked about this topic! i just started creating content, & i noticed i started to become hyperaware of my looks in comparison to others-and becoming disappointed because of that. there is so much more to a person than their looks!!
I JUST found your channel and I love it. Subscribed 😊 Younger me definitely needed this. 💕
And honestly, conventionally attractive people who are mean, actually start to look ugly to me. Then someone I didn't take a second glance at, could totally wow me with how interesting and amazing they are. That's when I start to notice all the things that make them beautiful.
I love this! thankyou for bringing this topic up! this really helps me getting through horrible things inside my head, it really helps me to think that there is much more than what meets the eye and giving me much more motivation to improve myself! so thankyou, thankyou, thankyou!🌹
I think I'm in love
You’re so beautiful inside! (out too, but honestly your personality is just so glowing!) I feel bad for not having watched your videos in a couple months :-( exams suck! But I’m happy to be catching up. You’re doing really well!
That’s so true. It’s always the prettiest ones who don’t feel pretty.
Whit K i feel ugly this whole week n ik I’m Ugly
I don’t think I can really put into words how this video helped me like some of the stuff you said really hit me so thank you
I love listening to you, Amy. You just hit us with the truth and at the same time you manage to stay relatable. Never change :)
Thank you so much for this video Amy. I've always seen myself as the ugly friend, and sometimes still do but, as a person, I know that I have a lot more to offer than others. This video helped me remind myself of that, as I'm having a hard time right now regarding this topic. Thank you so much again for your wise words.
I jokingly typed 'how to feel pretty when you aren't' just now and this popped up first and I'm so glad. I really needed this.
I watched so many videos out there but this is the only one that helped me mentally :) thank you so much