I hate when people compliment me because I convince myself that they are either lying or saying it out of pity. And when I say I am ugly and they say no you're not I know they're lying.
Reading this comment ... wow ... i didn't think there would be other people out there who are exactly like me in this situation. In the moment you see that picture and realize how ugly you are. I die everytime from the inside ...
One of my friends (I dont like calling or referring to her as a friend bc shes never done anything to deserve that title for me) made a whole album of pictures of me (it's the type of pics when you dont give someone your permission to take a picture of you.) I remember the day she told me about the album after school, I was crying and felt mad/annoyed at her. I remember being in such a bad mood and it bothered me so much. I told her to delete them and she didnt. I dont have the condition btw it's just I hate the fact that she has over 100 pictures of me showing my early teen stages to my older teen stages and I cringe at how chubby I am in the pics and my ugliness. It ruins my day seeing pictures of me aswell ugh :(
Yup and the worst part is when your "friends" joke about it like "Do u rlly have a mirror im ur house? Do u not see what u always look like?" and then people would laugh so i just join them... Rlly great isn't it? 😊
I’ve had guys tell me that they couldn’t date me because I looked like a naked mole rat without makeup. And I also remember genuine pretty people would say “ I’m so ugly” and people would rush to them and comfort them, but when I said “I’m ugly” they just say same
Same ppl be judging others and i told my friend idk if it makes since cause it like a skeleton judging another skeleton.. Like what skeleton look better
Yessss and acne too 😔 What ppl didn't understand when I had social anxiety is that I'm not afraid of being ugly, I'm afraid of being ridiculous bc of my ugliness
@@luciletepeeu3076 worst of all, I was used to it. When people would mistreat me, I let it happen because I thought it was normal. I was desensitized to it. I love COVID because it taught me a lot. I got to learn about myself more.
Is that you in your profile picture? If so, I think you have a beautiful smile and I love your hair. 💖 I compare myself to other girls too, it really hurts inside.
it or telling me that's u in ur pfp!? Gurl embrace that beauty becuase you are! Dont let anyone else bring u down ❤ we only live once so make the most of it 😉💕
there are a lot of super models in the world who have parents with questionable looks. So it can go both ways depending on what genes comes together, and usually it doesn't even matter.
People don't get it.....we don't want to be beautiful in our own way,we don't want to be unique and we certainly don't be to be confident....We want to be beautiful like normal people
@@iamamultimillionaire6299 what people usually call "beautiful" is based on the beauty standard that society has created. We grow with these beauty standards and we are shown that, on ly people who look a certain way are beautiful. But in reality, "beauty" is subjective, because one person may think someone is really pretty and another person may think the opposite. Wich does not mean one is right and the other is wrong. So technically no one is "beautiful" because that is not a fact, it's just an opinion.
This was so painful to watch. I literally despise looking into mirrors. I find it increasingly difficult to not be entirely appalled by my looks. I can’t accept compliments, I can’t be in videos, I walk with my head down in public, and my confidence is non existent. Some days I stare at myself in the mirror and just cry my eyes out. It sucks and it’s genuinely one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through.
Me too I just can't bare looking at myself in the mirror and when I go out in public I'm just so insecure all the time and if I'm in a busy place with a lot of people around my face starts going red and sweaty it's just so ridiculous
Ive seen i lot of comments like this, a lot of us relate, look at every comment like yours, look at their pfp if they have one of themselves, none of them are ugly neither are you, its in your head, which is funny coming from me cuz its what people say to me, i think they are lying, you may think im lying but no one is ugly, everyone looks different
I'm not even 20 seconds in and already crying. She didn't have kids because she felt she was so unattractive... my God. That hit me like a ton of bricks.
I feel like this too, like today i wanted to get pizza and i looked in the mirror or a reflection of myself waiting, and I looked so thin and frail... i thought OMG at home I looked way FATTER than this. Like throughout, the day through my perspective I see myself one moment really fat or the next too skinny.
@@missbelladonna24 ugliness is objective, just as beauty is also objective.. whether it makes someone feel bad or good doesn't change reality.. i know first hand it is painful to be ugly but im not denying reality because of how i feel
@@charismamina8461 What life have teached to me is: the label "you are ugly" is too easily given and often falsely given also. Our judgments should always be: John 7:24 KJV Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. Lets analyze the judgment "you are ugly" - 1stly it is judgment towards a being, This world sees females as sex toys not as human beings. If the real you ain+t known, then there is nobody to judge. 2ndly - it is judgment towards appearances, we all age every second, what is therefore there truly judge? and what John 7: 24 says? And have we forgotten who we are? DUST, we are dust, directly formed from it. Genesis 3:19 In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return. And to be hurt or not about others opinions = false judgment, about you, you 1st make sure you know from where they take their “judgment”. Often and by many it is taken from movies, from magazines, from hollywood. Well, lets hurt everyone a little more, Hollywood club is filled with “transgender's” who even shave off their own bone anatomy. And normal human with sober mind should not find any living soul “attractive” or we`d be paedophiles, are you? Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child. 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons. John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind. What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.” We start feeling lonely, because we are on our own, lonely comes not from BEING ALONE. We all suffer of something and as we like “diagnoses” then lets diagnose ourselves: too often in the company of people, leading us to fear ALONE TIME, which each soul needeth. The cure for all of our problems are: ALONE TIME AND BIBLE. Hollywood has teached us how to live and love, way too long, lets risk with all that we have and give chance to GOD through His word. KJV Bible says; Matthew 6:31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? Luke 12:22 And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on. Matthew 6:25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Yeah I love how all the people on the video get people to affirm them that they're not ugly..like attention seeking much..no one spends every second of everyday telling me I'm not ugly. Lol I say it and joke about it it's tumbleweeds and crickets lol
Know the feeling I hate my life because I know I'm not an attractive looking guy, never had one women fancying me, I get so jealous and depressed when I see good looking dudes with women makes me feel shitty knowing I'm missing out just so unfair and would rather be dead
I am obsessed looking at the mirror, seeing my body and have anxiety attacks on how unattractive people see me and cry because I can't love myself like other people do
I smashed my face into my eyeshadow palette while I was putting makeup on and I just started sobbing. I cried all the makeup off and I cried till my eyes were bright red and stinging. I hate myself so much for being just a horrific looking being
Aiko exactly it’s been months since I looked in the mirror my friend/cousin is pretty I hate going out with her because she’s so pretty and I’m so ugly
Oh no :((( I hope the best for you to get better!! I feel ugly often times too, I avoid looking in mirrors, taking selfies, but there are days I realize that my looks don’t matter as much as I think they do. I might be the ugliest person in the room but I’m the ugliest person who can make an positive impact and can be remembered for my personality. I always keep this in mind: when I die, most people would remember me for who I was, not what I looked like
Nina Nini “it’s what’s on the inside “ say all girls . Girls are more vain and look based then us men usually . It’s on the inside but would u date an ugly man ? Exactly
I’ve been bullied since the 3rd grade and it’s still happening (I’m 14 now) and honestly sometimes I just think if I was pretty, so many bad things could’ve been avoided in my life. If I was pretty my life would be so much better.
i don't think i have body dysmorphia, but i am genuinely disgusted at the face and body i see staring back at me in the mirror, i never go out if i don't absolutely have to because no one should be subjected to seeing my horrible face tbh
Malachite My face and body is an obsession to me. It has to look good and some of the standards I set up for myself are too high and I know that, but the other part of myself just can't help it
With humans it is only when their privileges such as health etc are taken away that they realize how good of a life they had. Don't realize it too late, embrace yourself. It is never too late to change what you don't like. Love yourself, see a counsellor or therapist and talk to them about your issues. All the best x
sometimes when i see a girl with a perfect body and is really pretty i just wanna hide underneath a rock i compare myself to girls for no reason even when im looking good even my own family makes me lose confidence. sometimes i cry because the way a outfit looks on me is ugly.
This is one of the reasons I have never been sexually active,I feel like when the next person sees me in my vulnerable(naked) state they'd just be freaking out at how disgusting and unappealing i am😔💔 its the worst feeling ever
@@bengbeng2005 bullSh₩it, there's ugly people and stop lying to people that are ugly looking. I've been called ugly by around 55 people. So why should i lie to myself and think I'm "beautiful"
Ugh it’s videos like this that make me feel so much less alone. I actively avoid mirrors just so that I don’t have to see myself. I’m glad I’m not the only one.
And this is why I walk up to random ppl on the street and compliment them. My friends are always annoyed but I love boosting ppl’s confidence. If I think you’re beautiful i always go out of my way to say it!
This generation is soooo broken. If you don't meet a person requirements when it comes to your face you are defined as ugly. My self-esteem was ruined at age 11. Being called ugly by my friends and others. Even if they are just joking. It still hurts inside. Today I have to cover my face everytime I smile or laugh. It still hurts thinking about the fact that I am ugly. The worst thing is that we are still judged just because we look different. You simply start to feel alone. And no one should feel that way. It's just so unfair. No one should be judged like this.
I hope you are healing especially during COVID (which is the best time). I can relate SO much to you and I’m 100% healed from it bc I’ve worked so much on myself. My self-esteem was ruined when I was 14. It gradually got better once I was 18.3
I would love to ask everyone "do u think im ugly?" And get an honest answer. Not what I want to hear, not what they think I wanna hear. I wanna hear the truth and only the truth. Im tired of people telling me im pretty to then find out I repell them
Same this ponders my mind. I always think if my husband actually thinks I'm attractive or is because he's too insecure to find someone better than me. Because he is a bit anxious and introverted. Although he's attractive, not just to me, but generally, he isn't Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp. I sometimes think he just settled with me because we were really good friends before we got together. And that I'm actually truly ugly. His sister is so pretty like.. why would he want ogre if he's seen attractive people in his life? His parents and family are attractive
I would like to hear the honest truth. but then at the same time I already know what my flaws are. Fluctuating weight, fine hair, wide face, pudgey nose, gappy eyebrows. Endomorph body shape where I gain fat everywhere. If I gain weight goes straight onto my face. I have small eyes and low brow line. I have perpetual lines on my neck, even when I have lost weight to a healthy size. Even when I was fitter and did kickboxing and trained hard, I have an over hanging belly, back fat, saggy but enlarged chest, hyper pigmentation, no real curves. Every wide shoulders and chest awkward hands. Basically an ogre. Don't even need to describe it. What can anyone say if I already know. What difference would it make?
those ppl you "repell" don't need to be in your life anyways if they aren't genuine with you... trust me, they did YOU a favor... beauty is skin deep, if ppl don't wanna be around you just because of how you look on the outside, then they don't need to be in your life period. this so-called "truth" you'd be getting when asking if a person thinks you're ugly, their answers would only be their OPINION... only truth that matters when it comes to how you look is how YOU feel about yourself. ask yourself, do you really wanna value the opinions of random ppl who serve no positive position in your life?
Me too. I actually had some boy ask my little sister to call me out to the playground just to call me ugly, literally just to tell me that. And now I have issues but still trying to get my self-esteem back.
Listen, I do not think you’re ugly. I think you’re normal or good looking. I think you should truly consider to have children. There is so much more to life than looks and YOU deserve to have a good life. You deserve love. Love from your children and the one you love whom will love you too. Love is the most important thing in life, not looks not money, I wish you will be love and love and get children.
@@Yourownlittlenightma not to be *that* person but you don't know anything about them, inside or out. It kinda pisses me off when people online say that to others, it get why they say it by its annoying
When you don’t even want to look at yourself in the mirror, it’s a horrible type of pain. I would have to avoid anything reflective or else I would breakdown in tears.
The main reason I think I'm ugly is because in school, others called me ugly. Then I would see other people and think they are handsome or beautiful and that I'm super ugly and that everyone was better looking. I constantly avoid social activities because of this reason. Feels nice to know that people think the same way and that I'm not alone.
It happened exactly with me. A lot of girls and some guys called me ugly. Everyday mocking by me. I cried several times and wanted to die and born again as a beautiful person. Or just sleep and wake up in the next morning as a handsome man. I'm too ugly to pick up girls and i feel so bad going out and see everyone better than me.
First of all they called you ugly at school . Well they have got ugly minds and ugly mouths to curse you. That's their opinion and it's not a very clever one. I have met people from school but they were not bullies. I often see a woman from my school days Anita . She was the best track athlete at the school . She goes around in a wheelchair now. Those people at school that bullied you, they have changed also, some of them might be disgusting in looks and in personality now . Take comfort from that.
When that woman said that she hated her face so much that she wanted to scratch her face off, that brought tears to my eyes because I think she’s absolutely beautiful. And the fact that you can hear the pain in her voice shows that she really thinks of herself as hideous. Breaks my heart.
Lying and telling unattractive people they're attractive won't solve anything If society wants to help, lookism (discriminating based on looks) and pretty privilege need to stop, as well as the halo effect and horn effect.
The only thing I can say is that I have to avoid every mirror and camera no matter what, as long as I dont see myself infront of the mirror I'm okay. I don't want to look at myself because I can see how horrible I am.
i was the same way i remember i use to go to the bathroom and dead ass not look in there mirror but since i grew my dreads out i look a lil better but still ugly
Fearing one day that, the person you love, may wake up and realize how horrible or ugly you are... Hearing that just broke me. I've never heard anyone say that before, but I have always felt that way. I try explaining it to my husband and he just doesn't understand. He's been telling me for years that I have BDD but, I just ignore him. Today this video popped on my feed and I felt so embarrassed to watch it, I went into the bathroom where I could be alone. I actually feel fucked up after watching it though...like, is this what the fuck is wrong with me? What do I do? Who do I talk to? I've never thought Ive had anything wrong with myself, other than some low self esteem But after hearing him say that..just taking thoughts out of my own head...its just a messed up feeling.
This sounds like a self esteem issue. You really are physically attractive and no it’s not a compliment. Beauty isn’t an accomplishment either. Beauty nowadays is totally associated with goodness which isn’t true at all. There are actual unattractive people out there. Like to tell them just because they were born unattractive, it’s a bad thing? Like isn’t that a fucked up thing to say? Anyways sorry I got distracted. The main point is you don’t have to be beautiful to matter. But yeah anyway you are physically beautiful so idk why I’m even saying this to you
This answer is a little late, but have you tried therapy? If you dont want to go there are helpful forums, self help groups. Or just exervise. It helps
Marie Tourniquet I felt the exact same way. It’s like he took the words straight from my mouth. I had never heard someone say that. It really just hit me like a bus; my jaw dropped when I heard him say that- Someone finally understood what I was feeling.
Kashleigh B my condition is alike to it but different in a lot of ways. I have dysphoria not dysmorphia. And who ever has body dysmorphia I feel for because I feel like the same way but gender wise. I feel for these people even though my dysphoria is way different
I have BDD since I was in my pre teens. It is hell. I am 25 and have a relationship for the first time because before I was too mentally ill to let anyone in cuz I thought I was so ugly. One time I even referred to myself as human waste during therapy and he was shocked. A lot of people have told me I am beautiful, but I thought they were lying to me because they felt sorry for me. I am much better than how I used to be, but the symptoms are still there. All thanks for extreme verbal and emotional abuse as a child.
If only parents, colleagues, teachers, mentors knew how much every word spoken without sensitivity and wisdom can hurt and trigger the worst experiences years later...Coming to get you when you were hoping to be a grown up fulfilling their dream...:( I feel you!
I'm 17 and have the same exact thing feel to ugly to date even though I get called hot but I ignore them because I feel like they are trying to be nice and also look fat to myself while others say diffrent
You are very young at 17, go get the help that you need as soon as possible. Don't underestimate your needs and don't be ashamed to ask for a specialist's help. Not even loving, caring friends can fully understand this phenomenon. And neither internet alone will help. Go see a doctor, it would be a shame not to take advantage from everything therapy has to offer. Twenty years ago they wouldn't even get the right diagnosis. Good luck and never forget you are not alone!
i've been call ugly more than beautiful in my life time.and most the time i feel ugly.i always feel a bit weird when a cute guy have crush on me and say that they admire me.
I dont look in mirrors...never did in jr high...never did in high school... I would wash my hands looking down always...as an adult...I challenge myself...I look very quickly...but the reflection I see is 👎 I change twice in the day bcuz i dont like the way clothes look on me or feel on me...im constantly thinking about my body n face... Not all mirrors are the same...10% of them ill like a lil the reflection while i pass...then ill see another n i look grotesque...😞 Id love to live on a planet ALONE...so i dont have to worry about this bullshit...
Exactly me, the reflections I like are those that warp my face in a way that makes it hard to judge actual proportion tricking myself into thinking I'm more attractive than I actually am. I can't cope, I have to delude myself in order to survive. Suffering is unbearable after I have to descend back to earth from my spaceship ISS DELUSION.
Try to make yourself better...Sports is important..go and work hard in sports im sure ull have a beautiful body then whenever u get mad or sad bcs of ur body go to gym!! And try to wear beautiful clothes and do a better hair cut
@arianna shay and @TILL THIS DAY!!! The video is about *feeling* ugly, not being ugly. You can safely express to them that you *feel* this way and need to get support.
I was called ugly for 7 years straight by my siblings. I started working out and they started saying: "You'll be ugly anyways" or "Your stupid abs won't show anyway". I go to the bathroom and cry there. I choke in silence so they won't hear me. I'm so worthless.
No you are not and I don't give a f*ck of what your siblings said neither should you. You are beautiful, you just haven't realise it yet because of the constant slenders .Don't work out to please others, do it to please yourself ,do it for your health do it because you want to.
That’s a real shitty thing to hear from a sibling. But I’m sure it says everything about them and nothing about you… if they continue to be abusive I’d just cut them off if confronting them is out of the question…
I don't have body dysmorphia I'm actually just ugly. I know this because people will look at me and jump and I will look at myself and jump(get scared/surprised), like it's just something I have to live with.
I can understand what you are saying, i am not pretty either. I have a big nose and i hate looking at me from the sides. All i can say, try doing a sport of some kind, anything, like running in the morning, if you don't like meeting people, or simple exercises at home. Trust me, it is going to help you. Exercises are a perfect way to get that anger out and you will see improvements in your body, your skin will be more clean, you hair will glow more. I can do nothing about my face, but surely i can do something about my body.
When l was 15 years l went outside by myself fo do some errands l was waiting for the bus. A group of guys stop by in thier car shouting how ugly l was. My hair was puffy curly and thick . Still is lm 51 years old now. People are so cruel but whether you are unattractive or attractive slim or overweight small or tall prople will akways criticize you. You just have to accept yourself and live your life. Well lm married and havevtwo beautiful daughters.
I really hate the way I look. But I've learned to just say even if I'm ugly it could be worse. But I still feel like hideoslly disgustingly ugly and undesirable. I generally don't go outside much anymore because I don't want people looking at me.
Donagh C if you think you're ugly then how are you capable of having yourself as your profile picture? i'm ugly as shit, and having myself as my profile pic would be a huge disservice to everyone and it would be extremely uncomfortable for me. I genuinely want to know, not judging!! I see a lot of people saying they hate their appearance but still post pictures of themselves on the net and it's like...is that not difficult? Also, you aren't ugly. I know you can't see it.
I'd just like to take a moment to thank everyone who commented and opened up. You are all strong individuals who have so much to offer the world in your own unique ways. I believe that I have BDD and it leads into depression. I feel weird going out and being seen, I feel like everyone is watching me and judging me based off of my looks. The first lady to speak in the video about not wanting kids really resonated with me, I thought that I was the only one that felt that way. I wish everyone with BDD or just self esteem issues healing and happiness. I have to work on it everyday and some days are better than others. Remember to be kind to others because you never know what they are going through. Thank you again!
Deer Heart How can you ever say something as tasteless as that?! He isn't forced to be in a relationship with that poor woman, he simply loves her and finds her beautiful. PERIOD.
a lot of people don't believe that BDD exists so I don't talk about it so of course people feel even more isolated.. but it is a very real thing and often starts in childhood, A key classic feature is a crippling shame about your appearance - like when one of the women said "I don't deserve to be among people" they really believe that in their worst moments. I remember when I was only 7 I told my friend that I didn't deserve to come to school because of how awful I looked.. of course totally irrational but at the time I really felt like I was grotesque and should be hidden away. this is a learned behavior in a lot of ways and can be unlearned.. these days I battle BDD everyday by challenging my thoughts and fears around my appearance - facing them is the only way to overcome them and to understand that no matter how you look or think you look you still have the same rights as everyone else. It is obviously a mental illness and needs to be understood and taken seriously
the feeling of isolation is sooo damn real. there's a couple of bdd support groups on facebook with 3k-5k+ people if any of y'all are ever looking for support/advice from people who fully understand.
there is help out there though, get CBT counselling, from your doctor. it really does help.. its not a cure but it gives you the tools to battle it everyday :)
I love your comment and you are very courageous to battle those nasty little thoughts in your head, I know it can become overwhelming, especially when there is so much going on around the world and then you are faced with the guilt of focusing on something so insignificant and allowing it to consume you. I have tried what your saying before, and it does help at times but it is truly a constant battle,. I just wish we can send a memo to each and every one of us that it is okay to be ugly! We are human beings, no one is perfect but we've all been lied to from a young age and have been misled to think that our worth is measured by our beauty on the OUTSIDE. This pressure used to be mainly directed to women, but Ive noticed that men are now falling victim to this BS. We just need to stand up against it, but it is challenging!
This is the reason that i never wanted to show an intrest on others or ask out anyone, cause i already know i'm gonna get rejected because how hideous i look.I don't have a single picture of me, cause i know imma look ugly on them.I don't allow anyone to take pictures with me.Even if someone took a pic of me i'm literally scared to look at it.23 years single, i don't even had a crush on anyone, cause i know that aint gonna happen.I love the pandemic situation going on, it makes everyone wear masks.And i love wearing masks and hiding half of my face .
Positive social experiences cure this , these people have suffered trauma and have been left isolated to long the thoughts in their minds have become poison.
I've always felt rejected by people and I believe it's because of how I look. It led me to just accept that I am the way I am. It was worse in my teenage years and 20s, now in my early 30s and it hurts to think I also feel I'll never be with anyone and have a family because no one finds me attractive enough. I try to look at the bright side and make myself busy with hobbies and self-improvement (mindset), it's a process and it is quite difficult.
It's even harder when you have an incredibly pretty sister… while you're nothing like her. I hate myself so much that I think I don't deserve to be alive. I have a feeling that I should give my life to someone else who loves it more than I do… I know it's wrong, but I just can't help feeling that way. Please don't judge me.
Same. She's fuckin gorgeous and many people are like uhhh you guys are sisters? You look polars apart. And I can see that. I can see what they're thinking. Fuckin shatters my confidence
I am hideous. I stay at home on my own, hiding my face as much as possible, because I am so ashamed of it. The thought of anyone seeing me and considering how ugly I am as they pass me by on the street just knocks me sick.
There’s just one mirror in my house I look at myself in and I think I’m somewhat attractive. Then I look at the other mirrors and my phone camera and I’m hideous. My friends shared a video of me and them . When I saw myself I was disturbed.
@@medusachristo8614 literally yesterday I went to the mall I looked in the bathroom mirror I looked okay then I loooked in the store mirror and I looked like the most hideous monster to ever walk this planet. I hate it soo much!! No one has ever called me beautiful except family’s and really close friends but I know the way there saying it they don’t actually mean it. I’m the most ugliest person on this earth and it’s the truth😔.
same. that's literally why I'm watching this video. My friend sent me a video of me and I saw another picture they took of me in my swimsuit and it triggered the body dysmorphia
I’ve been called ugly almost everyday for damn near 6 years from random girls to girls that was in my class even to this day I’m still called ugly😂😂😂 ik im ugly but it doesn’t really bother me as much anymore because not everyone can be attractive. Sometimes I do wonder what it would feel like to be attractive but I never will so I just have to accept that fact!!!
Beauty is subjective. Maybe you are ugly for some people. But, you are beautiful also for other people. I find beautiful people my friends don’t. We all are different, not ugly. Of course the are “beauty models” but these are few, most of us are normal humans that are subjective in all their choices.
There's 7 billion people in the world everyone has a different concept of ugly or beautiful just because some people find you ugly doesn't mean the rest of the world does too. I'm sure your absolutely stunning 💖
I'm ugly. I don't have body dysmorphia. The only reason I'm not happy with myself, is because of how people have treated me because of it. Or, hearing how people hate an ugly face. I can't help it. I don't expect people to find me attractive, but if people could stop disliking me because of it. Well, that would be a nice start.
I wish my parents had never given birth to me. I am ugly and my parents were ugly...that's why i would never have kids, so they would never be treated the way i was
TILL THIS DAY!!! I was able to overcome only the slapping part because it hurt too much , I still prefer not to look at my nose... I now found asymmetry in it 😖
@@Amelie-mk5bw hi! Looking back at what I said in my initial comment I can say I was very wrong saying that. I now accept myself a little more, though i still have some days where I can’t help but compare myself to others. I believe most of us feel like we will never be enough.
I feel exactly same as these people. Literally I always feel ugly af for years. I don't remember the last time I felt pretty or normal. I feel beauty is everything especially if you're a girl. I don't go outside, or talk to people cause i will cry if i have to walk to my mailbox being seen. If I must I wear makeup and good clothes if I have to go outside and it still gives me shitton of anxiety. And when I cook or something or do something to bring my mind off it for a few momments 5min later I will cry and run to mirror to stare at my face. I think I look at my reflection more than I look at my computer.
@@protoiboi666 ah, I lost weight and I got into modelling now. I'm now a small time model for this college. But I went anorexic not eating anything and running 2hrs a day.
The feeling of being ashamed to go in public….the disgust you suddenly feel when you catch a glimpse of yourself in the reflection of a window…right after you were feeling good…. Just….you wish you could disappear and never be seen again. How on earth do you fix something like that…
I wish i was as pretty as other girls, the ones who wake up in the morning and don’t even have to put anything on and they look beautiful, naturally beautiful. They go to school and have conversations not having to worry about people looking too closely at their face without having constant anxiety that they’re picking out every blemish and bump on their skin. I wonder what that feels like and i hope i get that privilege to be comfortable in my own skin one day.
I suffer from 4 different mental disorders (BDD,OCD,ADHD,APD,) BDD is by far the worst one. I always am having these battles in the mirror, always looking "different" everytime I look at the mirror, and it REALLY sucks, it is an obsessive behaviour that ruins any chance of me ever having a girlfriend or a stable group of friends. I also constantly compare my face to other people (Real life or online) it's a pretty sad existence if you have this condition, and it has left me depressed and tearful. Really hope any guy/girl can relate to what I said, cheers.
As a person who's suffered with self-hatred all my life, I see people who do as highly intelligent and aware. They realize how much their looks make or break their social/professional status. It's scientifically proven that we like and are drawn to people who are good looking.
I guess it’s because we tend to focus on the negative parts. Because if we ignore all the bad things, if might spiral out of control. Maybe if we ignore all the good things, we become delusional. Also from my experience, Humans don’t really see outside of themselves as much.
This is exactly how I feel!! It is like I have a record constantly playing in my head telling me that I am ugly and no one wants me all the time. So when I do 'find' someone and it doesn't work out, I take it so bad because I feel like they and the situation are validating my thoughts and that I really must be ugly worthless as they have realised that I am not 'good enough' and not 'worthy' enough to be with anyone because they rejected me.
Girl you beautiful don't think otherwise I went through being teased and bullied, but never hated myself because of the way the Creator made me. Love yourself and embrace yourself we are worth more than gold😚. Wish I could have put that old song on at the end of this video " I'm beautiful dammit" because you are. Everytime you think that thought cancel it you're not sistah😇.
I struggle with BDD too and this breaks my heart to see :( I hate when everyone else says that I’m “beautiful” but my brain just can’t see that. All I see are flaws and imperfections.
Its actually nice to see people who are suffering from the same thing as I. I thought I was the only one in the world suffering from this. We have the face we were given and it is what it is. The only thing we can do is move forward. Thats what it means to be humans. You have a life and you are obligated to make the most of it. You existed as a human in a universe absolutely devoid of life. Your existence is worth something. No matter how insignificant, it was never zero. Live life. Move forward. What better way is there to live.
I think I had that for a long time - the feeling of thinking that I was better looking than I was. I would look in the mirror and be like “oh, I look pretty darn good today” of something, and when I was younger there would be guys I’d like, and I’d think that I was pretty enough to be liked by them. But they would never like me back. I remember playing spin the bottle with my friends, and I’m surprised at how I still managed to think I was even slightly attractive when the guy it landed on practically retched at the thought of having to be kissed on the cheek by me. It was relatively recently that I suddenly realised that I wasn’t pretty. I don’t know if I’m truly ugly, as everyone is too nice to say anything, but I’m very, very plain. I think it started to hit me when I would make a passing comment about how awful I looked, and no one would correct me. Like you know how teenage girls are like “ewww I look gross today” and their friends are like “nooo you’re stunning”? That never happened to me. So now I’ve switched to “traditional” body dysmorphia. At the moment, when everyone is talking about the people they have crushes on etc or the guys they are dating, I keep quiet. I don’t tell anyone who I like, because I know their reaction will be pity. Not for me, but for the guy I might like. I know they’d feel sorry for anyone to have to know that they were liked by me, that they would be disgusted. Because who would want to be crushed on by someone as hideous looking as me? I’m not fishing for compliments. I’m not trying to get pity. I’m just saying my personal experience.
The first time I realized I'm not really as good-looking as I thought I was was during highschool. I was talking with my mom about a bunch of stuff and we brought up a friend who is a neighbour of mine who was so pretty. I asked her why people kept flocking to her even when she doesn't approach them, and my mom just stared at me for a while and then said awkwardly: "Well, your beauty is the sort where you the more you spend with the person the more you see it, your smiles don't hurt either." I was honestly shell-shocked since it came out of nowhere and just tore my self-confidence to shreds. I think now that she saw I was delusional about my looks and wanted to snap me out of it. Anyway, even if it really hurt me at that time and the following years too, I think right now I'm more grounded in reality and more confident about myself since I know what to expect and not put myself in embarrassing situations: No more daydreams about hot guys or expectations of getting tons of likes of my photos on IG etc. It's honestly liberating to be one with yourself. That's why I hate people who comment that 'eVeRY onE is BeAuTifuL' bs. They just make people more delusional OR in my case, plain angry.
Shimaa Hakim you wrote this so perfectly. People should definitely think way more like you. When people stop associating ugliness with worthlessness, things become a lot more easier. I mean it’s ridiculous how people treat each other in a shitty matter just because of something as small as looks.
i remember watching this video a few years ago, and feeling sorry for them. im watching this video again today and i completely relate to everything they are saying. how different i was a couple years ago, i miss the old me.
I relate to the second woman. I get so annoyed whenever someone tries to convince me that I’m not ugly or at least not as ugly as I perceive myself to be. It usually feels like a lie because they’re taking pity on me, which just makes things even worse. I don’t know if it’s dysmorphia, but it’s a feeling I’ve struggled with my entire life like so many other people. Hyper-fixating on every little flaw rather than taking in your whole image makes you see yourself as a caricature of what you actually are, and even while knowing that, there are so many days when you just can’t overcome it. You’re convinced that everyone who even glances at you is thinking “how disgusting/ugly/funny-looking” when in reality they don’t give two shits about what you look like. And then when you try to explain this to other people, they tell you that you’re lying for attention or you’re fishing for compliments, when that’s actually the last thing that you want. You want no comments on your appearance 9 times out of 10, and you want to just put it out of your mind completely. Occasionally the compliments do make you feel a bit better, but a lot of the times you just don’t know how to take them- if they’re genuine, if you’re being made fun of, or if you should change out of whatever they complimented you on because you don’t want to draw attention to yourself. You just want to blend in and know that you’re blending in instead of being constantly aware of yourself and anyone who passes by. I don’t post selfies anywhere, I don’t even add a profile picture of myself to anything. I’m 22 and I’ve never been in a real relationship because I isolate myself sooo much and I think I push others away as soon as they try to get close. I have 1 friend that’s been with my my entire life, but I have no others because of this. I don’t go to the gym or shopping because I’m terrified of someone looking at me in places purely meant for your body and thinking “she shouldn’t be here.” It’s caused me to miss so many amazing opportunities and even drop out of college a couple of years ago (only to basically live as a shut-in for nearly 2 years after that). I’m tired of this issue but I don’t know how to overcome it- therapy and medication didn’t work, and I haven’t been able so far to switch my thinking myself through positive thoughts, but I’m trying.
I'm just in an identical situation to yours when you made this comment. I'm also 22. Without friends. Only one and we hardly see or talk to each other. About everything else you explain, I feel exactly the same. It's like i'm living in hell. I hope you are doing better now. 🫶🏻
I struggled w BDD and an ED for years, but it’s way better now... what helped me was focusing externally on other people, the environment, and getting out from self focused thinking. Also you can train your mind like a muscle to discard negative thoughts and replace them. I used to stare in mirrors for hours and obsess over flaws but now I generally avoid excessive looking. Also perspective, think of all the people with severe deformities and physical disabilities, I feel grateful to be alive honestly and want to help others. It’s definitely not easy and I still get self conscious thoughts, but this disorder CAN get better
its easy to be cured from bdd when you are actually attractive. now try being a really ugly person like me and its a different story 😏 glad youre doing better though
I cannot thank you enough for opening up about that topic. I have BDD for 8 years now and at 17 I honestly don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. There's just...more tunnel. But it's something fascinating about hearing your thoughts and fears through someone else's mouth. This helped me a lot. If you ever want more information about the disorder PLEASE contact me. The word needs to spread.
I not all the time but feeling so alone in this world can be hard. I don't have anyone who understands me or cares about me. I struggle with dysmorphia and other mental health problems that make me hate myself and isolate myself from others. Sometimes I wonder if there's any point in living. The only thing that gives me some hope is watching BBC docs . They have shows that make me laugh, cry, and feel something. They have stories that inspire me and challenge me. They have people who are different and proud of it. BBC makes me feel like I'm not alone, like I matter, like I have faith.
I relate to this so much. People all around me comment on my looks randomly, always positive, but I can’t help but feel they are bullshitting me or it’s some prank. I remember every time I looked in the mirror - when I ever did - I would physically lurch and nearly vomit. Sometimes I’d actually punch my stomach and legs. I just don’t see what other people are apparently seeing? Anyway, I find the people in this video very attractive! But I know they won’t see it...
I have severe low self esteem. It stemmed from.when I was a young child, having things said to me by my parents, family members, friends and kids at school. I am married now to a good looking man. I have nothing good to say about my appearance and I have often wondered why my husband married me. I have a ton of great qualities but where I lack in the looks department I make up for in personality....had to...I needed something to offer and put on the table. I go unnoticed, I am not desirable and men never look at me. My husband never compliments me, only when he wants to be intimate...other then that...I never receive compliments. But I sure can cook well, make people laugh, smart and work hard.
It's absolutely heartbreaking to read the comments on here. I feel your pain, I suffer too. Please be aware, that you are not alone. There are many of us. We are not bad, or vein people, just damaged and inflicted by a terrible condition and an overactive imagination. One thing that helped me a lot, was being able to express my feelings through poetry, I had an ocean of tears, built up inside of me, I released them through my words.we may not Al. Be poets, but expression can come in other forms. Through my words, I cleared years of wrong thinking. I also through my own experience, helped so many others, because I had empathy and experience I don't want a medal for this, or appraisal. All, I'm trying to say is, my suffering for a reason I felt was to help others. Without my suffering. I may have never been in such a position. Your pain is my pain too. Love to everyone.
So I’m new with BDD, been struggling in silence for 20 years. But before I explain anything else I do want to say it’s made me so incredibly strong, nobody can bring me down because nobody hates me more then myself. I actually believed everybody went through these feelings, I’m NO where near as severe as these lovely souls but for me It’s with my weight, to be honest I’m going on week 2 of not leaving the house. Every flaw I have is Magnified, I will look in the mirror and see my body in a certain angle and think in my mind “this is how I look” but when other people take pictures of my body or I catch my refection I think oh, I’m actually way way way bigger then I was thinking in my head. It goes back and forth non stop.. And it’s throughout the day. Every single day I am confused about how I look. I don’t know what my body looks like. There’s so much more to it but I tried to simplify it, it’s amazing to find people going through what I am going through & maybe vice versa.. my goal is to leave the house tomorrow(it’s nighttime now) and stay out for as long as I can & keep my mind busy & away from negative thoughts.
I hate when people compliment me because I convince myself that they are either lying or saying it out of pity. And when I say I am ugly and they say no you're not I know they're lying.
Yea people do that so it’s hard to know, you can only trust yourself
Same. I just avoid people now
I know. I believe this thoughts are because I'm going through my teenage years and I really hope I eventually stop having these thoughts.
Same 😭
@@memshinlamed9079 don't come here and call people that word. you're a bad boy! bad!
I have this and I hate when my friends take a picture without me knowing and then I get a glimpse of it and my stomach drops and ruins my whole day 🤢
Same here I am terrified of photos
Yup. I know that feeling.
Reading this comment ... wow ... i didn't think there would be other people out there who are exactly like me in this situation. In the moment you see that picture and realize how ugly you are. I die everytime from the inside ...
One of my friends (I dont like calling or referring to her as a friend bc shes never done anything to deserve that title for me) made a whole album of pictures of me (it's the type of pics when you dont give someone your permission to take a picture of you.) I remember the day she told me about the album after school, I was crying and felt mad/annoyed at her. I remember being in such a bad mood and it bothered me so much. I told her to delete them and she didnt. I dont have the condition btw it's just I hate the fact that she has over 100 pictures of me showing my early teen stages to my older teen stages and I cringe at how chubby I am in the pics and my ugliness. It ruins my day seeing pictures of me aswell ugh :(
Same😫
when attractive people feel ugly we help them. when genuinely ugly people feel the same way they get shunned because everyone hates ugly people.
Like me haha I’m so ugly when people see me they are surprised you can see it in their eyes. It’s great.
Exactly, they just agree if you call yourself ugly
Yup and the worst part is when your "friends" joke about it like "Do u rlly have a mirror im ur house? Do u not see what u always look like?" and then people would laugh so i just join them... Rlly great isn't it? 😊
@Telive Qwenton Alot? Good grammar matters even more.
I’ve had guys tell me that they couldn’t date me because I looked like a naked mole rat without makeup. And I also remember genuine pretty people would say “ I’m so ugly” and people would rush to them and comfort them, but when I said “I’m ugly” they just say same
This is what I cry about everyday and ppl just don’t understand
I do
Same ppl be judging others and i told my friend idk if it makes since cause it like a skeleton judging another skeleton.. Like what skeleton look better
Courteney Campbell join the ride
You have to learn to ACCEPT YOURSELF and LOVE YOURSELF .You are PERFECT the way you are!
💜💜💖
If only there was a switch to turn off these thoughts and feelings.
And the worst part is comparing yourself to others
Yeah
I know I spend hours looking at beautiful girls, I wish I was one of them.
@@skylar1751 same
that is the worst😔
@@skylar1751 yeah I just stop looking at social media it really helps
Ugly+social anxiety=hell
Yessss and acne too 😔 What ppl didn't understand when I had social anxiety is that I'm not afraid of being ugly, I'm afraid of being ridiculous bc of my ugliness
@@luciletepeeu3076 worst of all, I was used to it. When people would mistreat me, I let it happen because I thought it was normal. I was desensitized to it. I love COVID because it taught me a lot. I got to learn about myself more.
I have the same as you
body dismorphia and social anxiety= Hell
Same ofcc
I can’t even imagine having a camera in my face
In your face?? Hahahaha
That camera would be deep under the sea if someone did that to me
@@Angelfem777 and the person too.
@@Ladyblue7620 HAHA YES
@@Angelfem777 same
I don't think I'm ugly. I know that im ugly...
Mr. Roshi We all are
Frozen gamer no Im not
i felt this
I'm ugly too
Mr. Roshi No,you are not. Trust me
It’s even worse whenever I start comparing myself to other girls because I know that I’ll never be as pretty as them
Is that you in your profile picture? If so, I think you have a beautiful smile and I love your hair. 💖
I compare myself to other girls too, it really hurts inside.
Chris Torres thank you so much this is literally the nicest thing someone has ever said to me
@@idontwannatalkaboutit8660 Really? Maybe people are too shy to speak up.
it or telling me that's u in ur pfp!? Gurl embrace that beauty becuase you are! Dont let anyone else bring u down ❤ we only live once so make the most of it 😉💕
Girl you are incredibly pretty
The poor woman who didn’t give birth because of it. Breaks my heart how common this is
It's TRUE. Cause it's like deases. It's big problem
Maybe they can just adopt children they feel look better than them I was honestly thinking about doing the same
Holly Fogarty I might do the same thing
there are a lot of super models in the world who have parents with questionable looks. So it can go both ways depending on what genes comes together, and usually it doesn't even matter.
I did the same. Pretty often decision.
People don't get it.....we don't want to be beautiful in our own way,we don't want to be unique and we certainly don't be to be confident....We want to be beautiful like normal people
Yes,we do
But nobody is. Not one.
@@Abr022575 not true
@@Abr022575 how is no one beautiful?
@@iamamultimillionaire6299 what people usually call "beautiful" is based on the beauty standard that society has created. We grow with these beauty standards and we are shown that, on ly people who look a certain way are beautiful. But in reality, "beauty" is subjective, because one person may think someone is really pretty and another person may think the opposite. Wich does not mean one is right and the other is wrong. So technically no one is "beautiful" because that is not a fact, it's just an opinion.
This was so painful to watch. I literally despise looking into mirrors. I find it increasingly difficult to not be entirely appalled by my looks. I can’t accept compliments, I can’t be in videos, I walk with my head down in public, and my confidence is non existent. Some days I stare at myself in the mirror and just cry my eyes out. It sucks and it’s genuinely one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through.
Me too.
join the club
Me too I just can't bare looking at myself in the mirror and when I go out in public I'm just so insecure all the time and if I'm in a busy place with a lot of people around my face starts going red and sweaty it's just so ridiculous
Ive seen i lot of comments like this, a lot of us relate, look at every comment like yours, look at their pfp if they have one of themselves, none of them are ugly neither are you, its in your head, which is funny coming from me cuz its what people say to me, i think they are lying, you may think im lying but no one is ugly, everyone looks different
Lol good humor
When I see myself I feel like I don’t deserve to be alive
Me too...💔
Me tooo
Me too 💔💔
You do
this...
I'm not even 20 seconds in and already crying. She didn't have kids because she felt she was so unattractive... my God. That hit me like a ton of bricks.
nothing to feel bad about. you arent ugly like her or me. enjoy life to your full potential and never let uglies bring you down.
I feel like this too, like today i wanted to get pizza and i looked in the mirror or a reflection of myself waiting, and I looked so thin and frail... i thought OMG at home I looked way FATTER than this. Like throughout, the day through my perspective I see myself one moment really fat or the next too skinny.
@@jub8891 not cool. Call yourself ugly if you want but dont you dare make someone with bdd feel worse.
@@missbelladonna24 ugliness is objective, just as beauty is also objective.. whether it makes someone feel bad or good doesn't change reality.. i know first hand it is painful to be ugly but im not denying reality because of how i feel
@@jub8891 you say its objective, then you say its reality...which one is it?
Everytime I look in the mirror, I wanna punch myself because of how ugly I am.
Hey
Most relatable comment so far
same but i want someone to jump me because im so ugly
@@charismamina8461 ugly plus social anxiety =hell
@@charismamina8461 What life have teached to me is: the label "you are ugly" is too easily given and often falsely given also.
Our judgments should always be:
John 7:24 KJV Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. Lets analyze the judgment "you are ugly" - 1stly it is judgment towards a being, This world sees females as sex toys not as human beings. If the real you ain+t known, then there is nobody to judge.
2ndly - it is judgment towards appearances, we all age every second, what is therefore there truly judge? and what John 7: 24 says? And have we forgotten who we are? DUST, we are dust, directly formed from it.
Genesis 3:19
In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.
And to be hurt or not about others opinions = false judgment, about you, you 1st make sure you know from where they take their “judgment”. Often and by many it is taken from movies, from magazines, from hollywood. Well, lets hurt everyone a little more, Hollywood club is filled with “transgender's” who even shave off their own bone anatomy.
And normal human with sober mind should not find any living soul “attractive” or we`d be paedophiles, are you?
Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child.
1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons.
John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind.
What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.”
We start feeling lonely, because we are on our own, lonely comes not from BEING ALONE. We all suffer of something and as we like “diagnoses” then lets diagnose ourselves: too often in the company of people, leading us to fear ALONE TIME, which each soul needeth. The cure for all of our problems are: ALONE TIME AND BIBLE. Hollywood has teached us how to live and love, way too long, lets risk with all that we have and give chance to GOD through His word.
KJV Bible says;
Matthew 6:31
Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
Luke 12:22
And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on.
Matthew 6:25
Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
Matthew 6:33
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
"Sometimes I feel my face is so ugly I just wanna scratch it off"
Sadly same
Agreed 😔
Me too
Do it
Same, I wish I can cut it open and deform myself completly knowing that i will never be beautiful by any circumstance.
Same here
It feels like I wish I was never born, ugly is not a symptom its a fact it's the hardest pill you'll have to swallow when you realize it's you.
True
Yeah I love how all the people on the video get people to affirm them that they're not ugly..like attention seeking much..no one spends every second of everyday telling me I'm not ugly. Lol I say it and joke about it it's tumbleweeds and crickets lol
True I can feel you
True
Know the feeling I hate my life because I know I'm not an attractive looking guy, never had one women fancying me, I get so jealous and depressed when I see good looking dudes with women makes me feel shitty knowing I'm missing out just so unfair and would rather be dead
I am obsessed looking at the mirror, seeing my body and have anxiety attacks on how unattractive people see me and cry because I can't love myself like other people do
My gosh your not ugly at all
People always talking about my height 😢
Same my face gives me the worst anxiety i wish i was beautiful
I smashed my face into my eyeshadow palette while I was putting makeup on and I just started sobbing. I cried all the makeup off and I cried till my eyes were bright red and stinging. I hate myself so much for being just a horrific looking being
Aiko exactly it’s been months since I looked in the mirror my friend/cousin is pretty I hate going out with her because she’s so pretty and I’m so ugly
Oh no :((( I hope the best for you to get better!! I feel ugly often times too, I avoid looking in mirrors, taking selfies, but there are days I realize that my looks don’t matter as much as I think they do. I might be the ugliest person in the room but I’m the ugliest person who can make an positive impact and can be remembered for my personality. I always keep this in mind: when I die, most people would remember me for who I was, not what I looked like
You aren’t a horrific looking being focus on positive things ;)
Ik what u mean.......
You are not ugly/horrify. I am the ugly and horrific.
Sometimes I think I have this but I’m pretty sure I’m just ugly
No you're not beauty is not just in one look it's deeper than this just give yourself time to grow and love your body and be grateful for it 💗💗💗
Nina Nini yeah you’re right. Laddy Donglegs you’re not ugly ☺️☺️
Nina Nini “it’s what’s on the inside “ say all girls . Girls are more vain and look based then us men usually . It’s on the inside but would u date an ugly man ? Exactly
@@koopakidd5382 No reply lol
Koopa Kidd lol you got rejected
I’ve been bullied since the 3rd grade and it’s still happening (I’m 14 now) and honestly sometimes I just think if I was pretty, so many bad things could’ve been avoided in my life. If I was pretty my life would be so much better.
Hey
Is that you in yr profile? You are so beautiful!
Telive Qwenton wym dark
Same.... I feel like everyone in my family would just like me more if I was good looking......
No you would just get other bad things .
i don't think i have body dysmorphia, but i am genuinely disgusted at the face and body i see staring back at me in the mirror, i never go out if i don't absolutely have to because no one should be subjected to seeing my horrible face tbh
Doesn‘t sound healthy either. I‘m sorry that you feel that way
I really thought I was the only one to do this - I don’t really leave cause I don’t want anyone to have to see my face
oasis I thought it was just me for a while.. I'm sorry you feel that way though, I know how tough it is
Malachite My face and body is an obsession to me. It has to look good and some of the standards I set up for myself are too high and I know that, but the other part of myself just can't help it
With humans it is only when their privileges such as health etc are taken away that they realize how good of a life they had. Don't realize it too late, embrace yourself. It is never too late to change what you don't like. Love yourself, see a counsellor or therapist and talk to them about your issues. All the best x
I cry when I look at my face sometimes-💀
Same💔
I cry every time I look at my body/try on new clothes. I hate it so much :(
Olivia Flores at least you can change your body
MoorsBoors you’re absolutely right, but that doesn’t mean my feelings aren’t valid/don’t matter.
Olivia Flores well of course not, but you can choose to be proactive about it
sometimes when i see a girl with a perfect body and is really pretty i just wanna hide underneath a rock i compare myself to girls for no reason even when im looking good even my own family makes me lose confidence. sometimes i cry because the way a outfit looks on me is ugly.
Same with me
never knew there was an actual name for this i just thought this was just a me problem haha
chibiyaten15 yea I always thought it was normal to hate yourself
chibiyaten15 but remember there’s a difference between thinking you’re ugly and actual body dysmorphia
Mairead Hudson Whats the different? I think Im ugly an fat...but anyone Else cant Even understand Why i feel that way! ❤️
Same
AHAGSGSHAHA SAME
This is one of the reasons I have never been sexually active,I feel like when the next person sees me in my vulnerable(naked) state they'd just be freaking out at how disgusting and unappealing i am😔💔 its the worst feeling ever
can relate
try to build up confidence and see yourself normal.
GTRRRX29 I feel that way too. That’s one of the reasons why I’m single.
Maverick easier said than done lol
Maverick omg you’re a genius
God favors people. How come everyone else in the world is so so so beautiful, then there’s me... I’m the only ugly one in my family.
That can't be true . Cause I still exist in this world
I feel the same way. The ugly duckling.
High five.btw im 20
God make you that way for a reason, and no one is ugly
@@bengbeng2005 bullSh₩it, there's ugly people and stop lying to people that are ugly looking. I've been called ugly by around 55 people. So why should i lie to myself and think I'm "beautiful"
Ugh it’s videos like this that make me feel so much less alone. I actively avoid mirrors just so that I don’t have to see myself. I’m glad I’m not the only one.
Im always looking in the mirror its like looking at a train wreck or something so grotesque you cant stop staring.
Can relate :(
@S p a n i e l T o w e l I didn't go to classes and sat in bathrooms or went out/ back home very often lol:d
Me
I don't even own a mirror..
And this is why I walk up to random ppl on the street and compliment them. My friends are always annoyed but I love boosting ppl’s confidence. If I think you’re beautiful i always go out of my way to say it!
Wow, that's so nice of you
This is so sweet thank you for doing this
💞💕💞
You probably just come off as patronizing though, that's why it pisses your friends off, and the other randoms.
you’re a great person for doing this
That doesn't help
This generation is soooo broken. If you don't meet a person requirements when it comes to your face you are defined as ugly. My self-esteem was ruined at age 11. Being called ugly by my friends and others. Even if they are just joking. It still hurts inside. Today I have to cover my face everytime I smile or laugh. It still hurts thinking about the fact that I am ugly. The worst thing is that we are still judged just because we look different. You simply start to feel alone. And no one should feel that way. It's just so unfair.
No one should be judged like this.
Hello
I hope you are healing especially during COVID (which is the best time). I can relate SO much to you and I’m 100% healed from it bc I’ve worked so much on myself.
My self-esteem was ruined when I was 14. It gradually got better once I was 18.3
Jesus sees you, knows you, and understands you, come to him he’s waiting for you with open arms. ❤️
Amen
I would love to ask everyone "do u think im ugly?" And get an honest answer. Not what I want to hear, not what they think I wanna hear. I wanna hear the truth and only the truth. Im tired of people telling me im pretty to then find out I repell them
Same this ponders my mind. I always think if my husband actually thinks I'm attractive or is because he's too insecure to find someone better than me. Because he is a bit anxious and introverted. Although he's attractive, not just to me, but generally, he isn't Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp. I sometimes think he just settled with me because we were really good friends before we got together. And that I'm actually truly ugly. His sister is so pretty like.. why would he want ogre if he's seen attractive people in his life? His parents and family are attractive
I would like to hear the honest truth. but then at the same time I already know what my flaws are. Fluctuating weight, fine hair, wide face, pudgey nose, gappy eyebrows. Endomorph body shape where I gain fat everywhere. If I gain weight goes straight onto my face. I have small eyes and low brow line. I have perpetual lines on my neck, even when I have lost weight to a healthy size. Even when I was fitter and did kickboxing and trained hard, I have an over hanging belly, back fat, saggy but enlarged chest, hyper pigmentation, no real curves. Every wide shoulders and chest awkward hands. Basically an ogre. Don't even need to describe it. What can anyone say if I already know. What difference would it make?
those ppl you "repell" don't need to be in your life anyways if they aren't genuine with you... trust me, they did YOU a favor... beauty is skin deep, if ppl don't wanna be around you just because of how you look on the outside, then they don't need to be in your life period. this so-called "truth" you'd be getting when asking if a person thinks you're ugly, their answers would only be their OPINION... only truth that matters when it comes to how you look is how YOU feel about yourself. ask yourself, do you really wanna value the opinions of random ppl who serve no positive position in your life?
I've been told I'm ugly since I was young. I don't want any relationships or children to share my genetics. I have enough
Papi Harpy I’m sorry I don’t know you but you’re beautiful
Me too. I actually had some boy ask my little sister to call me out to the playground just to call me ugly, literally just to tell me that. And now I have issues but still trying to get my self-esteem back.
Me too😢 we live in a world where people are way too judgemental
Listen, I do not think you’re ugly. I think you’re normal or good looking. I think you should truly consider to have children. There is so much more to life than looks and YOU deserve to have a good life. You deserve love. Love from your children and the one you love whom will love you too.
Love is the most important thing in life, not looks not money, I wish you will be love and love and get children.
@@Yourownlittlenightma not to be *that* person but you don't know anything about them, inside or out. It kinda pisses me off when people online say that to others, it get why they say it by its annoying
When you don’t even want to look at yourself in the mirror, it’s a horrible type of pain. I would have to avoid anything reflective or else I would breakdown in tears.
The main reason I think I'm ugly is because in school, others called me ugly. Then I would see other people and think they are handsome or beautiful and that I'm super ugly and that everyone was better looking. I constantly avoid social activities because of this reason. Feels nice to know that people think the same way and that I'm not alone.
MarioD420 even my dad said I was ugly. How can I ever be fine when that always runs through my head?
@@intense_vibration you're dad is abusive then. U deserve a better father.🧔😇💚
It happened exactly with me. A lot of girls and some guys called me ugly. Everyday mocking by me. I cried several times and wanted to die and born again as a beautiful person. Or just sleep and wake up in the next morning as a handsome man. I'm too ugly to pick up girls and i feel so bad going out and see everyone better than me.
i can relate. I’ve been called ugly by people at my school multiple times. it hurts and it’s something that sticks with you forever.
First of all they called you ugly at school . Well they have got ugly minds and ugly mouths to curse you. That's their opinion and it's not a very clever one.
I have met people from school but they were not bullies. I often see a woman from my school days Anita . She was the best track athlete at the school . She goes around in a wheelchair now.
Those people at school that bullied you, they have changed also, some of them might be disgusting in looks and in personality now . Take comfort from that.
When that woman said that she hated her face so much that she wanted to scratch her face off, that brought tears to my eyes because I think she’s absolutely beautiful. And the fact that you can hear the pain in her voice shows that she really thinks of herself as hideous. Breaks my heart.
❤️❤️❤️
Lying and telling unattractive people they're attractive won't solve anything
If society wants to help, lookism (discriminating based on looks) and pretty privilege need to stop, as well as the halo effect and horn effect.
@@sarah37452 Who said I was lying? Don’t project your wack ass opinions on to me.
The only thing I can say is that I have to avoid every mirror and camera no matter what, as long as I dont see myself infront of the mirror I'm okay. I don't want to look at myself because I can see how horrible I am.
i was the same way i remember i use to go to the bathroom and dead ass not look in there mirror but since i grew my dreads out i look a lil better but still ugly
Fearing one day that, the person you love, may wake up and realize how horrible or ugly you are... Hearing that just broke me. I've never heard anyone say that before, but I have always felt that way. I try explaining it to my husband and he just doesn't understand. He's been telling me for years that I have BDD but, I just ignore him.
Today this video popped on my feed and I felt so embarrassed to watch it, I went into the bathroom where I could be alone. I actually feel fucked up after watching it though...like, is this what the fuck is wrong with me? What do I do? Who do I talk to? I've never thought Ive had anything wrong with myself, other than some low self esteem But after hearing him say that..just taking thoughts out of my own head...its just a messed up feeling.
Wtf. Your actually really gorgeous from what i see.
This sounds like a self esteem issue. You really are physically attractive and no it’s not a compliment. Beauty isn’t an accomplishment either. Beauty nowadays is totally associated with goodness which isn’t true at all. There are actual unattractive people out there. Like to tell them just because they were born unattractive, it’s a bad thing? Like isn’t that a fucked up thing to say? Anyways sorry I got distracted. The main point is you don’t have to be beautiful to matter. But yeah anyway you are physically beautiful so idk why I’m even saying this to you
This answer is a little late, but have you tried therapy? If you dont want to go there are helpful forums, self help groups. Or just exervise. It helps
It’s a step towards loving yourself,
Marie Tourniquet I felt the exact same way. It’s like he took the words straight from my mouth. I had never heard someone say that. It really just hit me like a bus; my jaw dropped when I heard him say that- Someone finally understood what I was feeling.
The older I am the worst it gets!
*Say a girl beautiful she will believe it for sometime*
*Say a girl ugly she will believe it for lifetime* 🙂💔
Umm... because negative feedback ALWAYS sticks with you. Has nothing to do with gender or egoism or whatever you're trying to imply.
Uh no lmao tell someone with BDD that they’re ugly and it lasts a lifetime…I promise you women don’t care if a random guy insults them 😂😂
Say a girl or a boy has a beautiful mind . It's TRUE.
@@michelle2561 maybe you don’t care but lots of women care
@@neoncolored6307 funny how you tried to make it a gender thing out of nowhere, I forgot how this generation politicizes everything
I just want to get a new face I hate being so ugly it’s so hard Edit: Y’all this was a year ago I’m happy now y’all lol
Μ Z what did you get done?
@Μ Z not even surgeries are gonna help me completely
@Μ Z oh dang this was a year ago lol I’m happy now
True ...I wanna get a new face
Did the happiness stay with you?
Sat here in tears because this is all too relatable, definitely need to watch the full thing. Thanks for shining a light on this condition.🖤
Kashleigh B I agree with you on this. I definitely feel all of us as sufferers to this deserve for people to become more aware. X
Kashleigh B my condition is alike to it but different in a lot of ways. I have dysphoria not dysmorphia. And who ever has body dysmorphia I feel for because I feel like the same way but gender wise. I feel for these people even though my dysphoria is way different
Kashleigh B to me you look beautiful! Keep your head up
Holly McGrath Same
You're gorgeous though!
I feel pretty when I'm in my home after checking 4 mirrors but as soon as I leave any reflection I catch of me makes my tummy drop.
I have BDD since I was in my pre teens. It is hell. I am 25 and have a relationship for the first time because before I was too mentally ill to let anyone in cuz I thought I was so ugly. One time I even referred to myself as human waste during therapy and he was shocked. A lot of people have told me I am beautiful, but I thought they were lying to me because they felt sorry for me. I am much better than how I used to be, but the symptoms are still there. All thanks for extreme verbal and emotional abuse as a child.
LariBroo i feel exactly like you. A crappy childhood caused me to think the way I do and I dont see what others see when they look in the mirror.
LariBroo I’m so sorry about that mate. Best wishes for the future xx
If only parents, colleagues, teachers, mentors knew how much every word spoken without sensitivity and wisdom can hurt and trigger the worst experiences years later...Coming to get you when you were hoping to be a grown up fulfilling their dream...:( I feel you!
I'm 17 and have the same exact thing feel to ugly to date even though I get called hot but I ignore them because I feel like they are trying to be nice and also look fat to myself while others say diffrent
You are very young at 17, go get the help that you need as soon as possible. Don't underestimate your needs and don't be ashamed to ask for a specialist's help. Not even loving, caring friends can fully understand this phenomenon. And neither internet alone will help. Go see a doctor, it would be a shame not to take advantage from everything therapy has to offer. Twenty years ago they wouldn't even get the right diagnosis. Good luck and never forget you are not alone!
Wow this hit me hard. I always feel like the ugliest person in any given room & that everyone else is beautiful and I’m just a troll.
That's because we've never been in a room together...
Relatable
i feel like a monster with other people
Let's all stay together then :)
You must be trolling us right now cuz you're not ugly at all...
I'm tired of people taking pity on me and trying to convince me that i am not ugly
i've been call ugly more than beautiful in my life time.and most the time i feel ugly.i always feel a bit weird when a cute guy have crush on me and say that they admire me.
Sameee
it hurts me and they dont even realize it
I dont look in mirrors...never did in jr high...never did in high school...
I would wash my hands looking down always...as an adult...I challenge myself...I look very quickly...but the reflection I see is 👎
I change twice in the day bcuz i dont like the way clothes look on me or feel on me...im constantly thinking about my body n face...
Not all mirrors are the same...10% of them ill like a lil the reflection while i pass...then ill see another n i look grotesque...😞 Id love to live on a planet ALONE...so i dont have to worry about this bullshit...
rivers nature MEE ON 💯💯😫😫😫😫
Exactly me, the reflections I like are those that warp my face in a way that makes it hard to judge actual proportion tricking myself into thinking I'm more attractive than I actually am. I can't cope, I have to delude myself in order to survive. Suffering is unbearable after I have to descend back to earth from my spaceship ISS DELUSION.
Me too
i’m so sorry you guys have to go through this, i hope it gets better so you can see how wonderful each of you are 💖
Try to make yourself better...Sports is important..go and work hard in sports im sure ull have a beautiful body then whenever u get mad or sad bcs of ur body go to gym!! And try to wear beautiful clothes and do a better hair cut
How do I tell my parents that this video describes me perfectly without telling them that they’ve created an disgusting child
I feel the same way
@arianna shay and @TILL THIS DAY!!!
The video is about *feeling* ugly, not being ugly. You can safely express to them that you *feel* this way and need to get support.
Centurion Strength and Fitness what
same and i don’t wanna tell my parents that and make them feel like it’s their fault
@@brookemoran5739i did to mine, and they got offended
This is why it is important to not judge other people's personal appearance
I was called ugly for 7 years straight by my siblings. I started working out and they started saying: "You'll be ugly anyways" or "Your stupid abs won't show anyway". I go to the bathroom and cry there. I choke in silence so they won't hear me. I'm so worthless.
No you are not and I don't give a f*ck of what your siblings said neither should you. You are beautiful, you just haven't realise it yet because of the constant slenders .Don't work out to please others, do it to please yourself ,do it for your health do it because you want to.
Lol u make me laugh,i was scrolling down comments(sad relatable).tks for making me smile,this reduce my pimple by1%
That’s a real shitty thing to hear from a sibling. But I’m sure it says everything about them and nothing about you… if they continue to be abusive I’d just cut them off if confronting them is out of the question…
Wtf is wrong with your siblings. They’re a bunch of bullies, that’s so messed up
Same
I dont have horrible confidence issues, but i feel like i literally always look bad in pictures.
I don't have body dysmorphia I'm actually just ugly. I know this because people will look at me and jump and I will look at myself and jump(get scared/surprised), like it's just something I have to live with.
LikedMyOwnComment I'm with you.
LikedMyOwnComment yeah same I'm just ugly and I can't stand it.
Me too mate. Power to the ugly people ✊
I can understand what you are saying, i am not pretty either. I have a big nose and i hate looking at me from the sides. All i can say, try doing a sport of some kind, anything, like running in the morning, if you don't like meeting people, or simple exercises at home. Trust me, it is going to help you. Exercises are a perfect way to get that anger out and you will see improvements in your body, your skin will be more clean, you hair will glow more. I can do nothing about my face, but surely i can do something about my body.
well if you've been diagnosed (idk i'm saying it) you probably do have body dysmorphia
When l was 15 years l went outside by myself fo do some errands l was waiting for the bus. A group of guys stop by in thier car shouting how ugly l was. My hair was puffy curly and thick . Still is lm 51 years old now. People are so cruel but whether you are unattractive or attractive slim or overweight small or tall prople will akways criticize you. You just have to accept yourself and live your life. Well lm married and havevtwo beautiful daughters.
I get looks and have been called ugly numerous times. Its killed my self esteem and I am scared to even pursue anything in life. It sucks ☹☹
I really hate the way I look. But I've learned to just say even if I'm ugly it could be worse. But I still feel like hideoslly disgustingly ugly and undesirable. I generally don't go outside much anymore because I don't want people looking at me.
Donagh C everyone is beautiful, don’t be a afraid to show who you are 💓
quook you're part of the problem
Donagh C if you think you're ugly then how are you capable of having yourself as your profile picture? i'm ugly as shit, and having myself as my profile pic would be a huge disservice to everyone and it would be extremely uncomfortable for me. I genuinely want to know, not judging!! I see a lot of people saying they hate their appearance but still post pictures of themselves on the net and it's like...is that not difficult? Also, you aren't ugly. I know you can't see it.
If that is you in your profile picture-I do not perceive you as ugly at all. You have some pretty attractive features man. Keep your head up!
Ur clearly not ugly, and I don’t think u would have a pfp if u truly felt that way
I'd just like to take a moment to thank everyone who commented and opened up. You are all strong individuals who have so much to offer the world in your own unique ways. I believe that I have BDD and it leads into depression. I feel weird going out and being seen, I feel like everyone is watching me and judging me based off of my looks. The first lady to speak in the video about not wanting kids really resonated with me, I thought that I was the only one that felt that way. I wish everyone with BDD or just self esteem issues healing and happiness. I have to work on it everyday and some days are better than others. Remember to be kind to others because you never know what they are going through. Thank you again!
I dont know if its you on the profile but you look very handsome.
Respect.
Stay strong
So much kudos to the couple the guy must really love her
Deer Heart How can you ever say something as tasteless as that?! He isn't forced to be in a relationship with that poor woman, he simply loves her and finds her beautiful. PERIOD.
Kocisko I don’t think they meant for their comment to be offensive ... calm down
a lot of people don't believe that BDD exists so I don't talk about it so of course people feel even more isolated.. but it is a very real thing and often starts in childhood, A key classic feature is a crippling shame about your appearance - like when one of the women said "I don't deserve to be among people" they really believe that in their worst moments.
I remember when I was only 7 I told my friend that I didn't deserve to come to school because of how awful I looked.. of course totally irrational but at the time I really felt like I was grotesque and should be hidden away. this is a learned behavior in a lot of ways and can be unlearned.. these days I battle BDD everyday by challenging my thoughts and fears around my appearance - facing them is the only way to overcome them and to understand that no matter how you look or think you look you still have the same rights as everyone else. It is obviously a mental illness and needs to be understood and taken seriously
Lisa Marie
thnk you
crippling shame - so much of this
the feeling of isolation is sooo damn real. there's a couple of bdd support groups on facebook with 3k-5k+ people if any of y'all are ever looking for support/advice from people who fully understand.
there is help out there though, get CBT counselling, from your doctor. it really does help.. its not a cure but it gives you the tools to battle it everyday :)
I love your comment and you are very courageous to battle those nasty little thoughts in your head, I know it can become overwhelming, especially when there is so much going on around the world and then you are faced with the guilt of focusing on something so insignificant and allowing it to consume you. I have tried what your saying before, and it does help at times but it is truly a constant battle,. I just wish we can send a memo to each and every one of us that it is okay to be ugly! We are human beings, no one is perfect but we've all been lied to from a young age and have been misled to think that our worth is measured by our beauty on the OUTSIDE. This pressure used to be mainly directed to women, but Ive noticed that men are now falling victim to this BS. We just need to stand up against it, but it is challenging!
This is the reason that i never wanted to show an intrest on others or ask out anyone, cause i already know i'm gonna get rejected because how hideous i look.I don't have a single picture of me, cause i know imma look ugly on them.I don't allow anyone to take pictures with me.Even if someone took a pic of me i'm literally scared to look at it.23 years single, i don't even had a crush on anyone, cause i know that aint gonna happen.I love the pandemic situation going on, it makes everyone wear masks.And i love wearing masks and hiding half of my face .
Positive social experiences cure this , these people have suffered trauma and have been left isolated to long the thoughts in their minds have become poison.
I've always felt rejected by people and I believe it's because of how I look. It led me to just accept that I am the way I am. It was worse in my teenage years and 20s, now in my early 30s and it hurts to think I also feel I'll never be with anyone and have a family because no one finds me attractive enough. I try to look at the bright side and make myself busy with hobbies and self-improvement (mindset), it's a process and it is quite difficult.
Same thing I'm facing too
I believe I’m going to die alone, if I don’t kill myself first. No one would want to be with a disgusting creature like myself.
Same
@@charlest2858 hm same
All of us ugly people need to chill together
It's even harder when you have an incredibly pretty sister… while you're nothing like her.
I hate myself so much that I think I don't deserve to be alive. I have a feeling that I should give my life to someone else who loves it more than I do… I know it's wrong, but I just can't help feeling that way.
Please don't judge me.
Same. She's fuckin gorgeous and many people are like uhhh you guys are sisters? You look polars apart. And I can see that. I can see what they're thinking. Fuckin shatters my confidence
@@mamtaa_11 wanna talk?
I am hideous. I stay at home on my own, hiding my face as much as possible, because I am so ashamed of it. The thought of anyone seeing me and considering how ugly I am as they pass me by on the street just knocks me sick.
Tf these people look beyond normal there’s certainly unattractive people and not one of these people are in that group
Well Done so your saying they are all unattractive?
mad kid ARE* LOL
Well Done thank you
Duh that's why they have body dismorphia they don't see what people see
They don't look pretty or ugly, just normal people.
There’s just one mirror in my house I look at myself in and I think I’m somewhat attractive. Then I look at the other mirrors and my phone camera and I’m hideous. My friends shared a video of me and them . When I saw myself I was disturbed.
Same.. in some mirrors I think not too bad. But in others I just want to cry when I see. Mirrors give me anxiety.
me too
@@medusachristo8614 literally yesterday I went to the mall I looked in the bathroom mirror I looked okay then I loooked in the store mirror and I looked like the most hideous monster to ever walk this planet. I hate it soo much!! No one has ever called me beautiful except family’s and really close friends but I know the way there saying it they don’t actually mean it. I’m the most ugliest person on this earth and it’s the truth😔.
same. that's literally why I'm watching this video. My friend sent me a video of me and I saw another picture they took of me in my swimsuit and it triggered the body dysmorphia
I’ve been called ugly almost everyday for damn near 6 years from random girls to girls that was in my class even to this day I’m still called ugly😂😂😂 ik im ugly but it doesn’t really bother me as much anymore because not everyone can be attractive. Sometimes I do wonder what it would feel like to be attractive but I never will so I just have to accept that fact!!!
Beauty is subjective. Maybe you are ugly for some people. But, you are beautiful also for other people. I find beautiful people my friends don’t. We all are different, not ugly. Of course the are “beauty models” but these are few, most of us are normal humans that are subjective in all their choices.
There's 7 billion people in the world everyone has a different concept of ugly or beautiful just because some people find you ugly doesn't mean the rest of the world does too.
I'm sure your absolutely stunning 💖
Yeah this is me. I cannot go one day without feeling ugly
I'm ugly. I don't have body dysmorphia. The only reason I'm not happy with myself, is because of how people have treated me because of it. Or, hearing how people hate an ugly face. I can't help it. I don't expect people to find me attractive, but if people could stop disliking me because of it. Well, that would be a nice start.
Hey
I wish my parents had never given birth to me. I am ugly and my parents were ugly...that's why i would never have kids, so they would never be treated the way i was
Augford P. Doggie beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What is ugly to you, may be considered beautiful to others
Happy Horse 🙄 “bEuTY iS iN tHE EYe oF tHe bEHOLdeR”
A ViRGO 🤷🏽♀️
Brandy Nicole that is more or less what the expression “beauty is in the eye of the beholder “ means.
Augford P. Doggie oh don’t be so harsh
I remember when it was so severe , I would stare at my face until I got so angry that I would pinch my nose so hard and slap myself for being so ugly.
How were u able to overcome this?🥺
TILL THIS DAY!!! I was able to overcome only the slapping part because it hurt too much , I still prefer not to look at my nose... I now found asymmetry in it 😖
TILL THIS DAY!!! but it surely does get better 🥺💖
@@pawmean hey id love to hear how you're doing now
@@Amelie-mk5bw hi! Looking back at what I said in my initial comment I can say I was very wrong saying that. I now accept myself a little more, though i still have some days where I can’t help but compare myself to others. I believe most of us feel like we will never be enough.
1 in 50....
why did i had to be that ONE
I feel exactly same as these people. Literally I always feel ugly af for years. I don't remember the last time I felt pretty or normal. I feel beauty is everything especially if you're a girl. I don't go outside, or talk to people cause i will cry if i have to walk to my mailbox being seen. If I must I wear makeup and good clothes if I have to go outside and it still gives me shitton of anxiety.
And when I cook or something or do something to bring my mind off it for a few momments 5min later I will cry and run to mirror to stare at my face. I think I look at my reflection more than I look at my computer.
Lily Zhou I hate looking at my reflection. Almost threw my mirror on the floor
@@protoiboi666 ah, I lost weight and I got into modelling now. I'm now a small time model for this college. But I went anorexic not eating anything and running 2hrs a day.
@@xoxomangakcorxoxo man, man, man... you are right when you say you feel like beauty is everything especially if you’re a girl.
Your NOT ugly by any terms
@@Chromedome-ss6mg thank you! 2 years passed I decided to cry about school more haha
I feel ugly too. most days I feel like dying.
Same here 💔💔
The feeling of being ashamed to go in public….the disgust you suddenly feel when you catch a glimpse of yourself in the reflection of a window…right after you were feeling good…. Just….you wish you could disappear and never be seen again. How on earth do you fix something like that…
scratch it off? thats how i feel. i always say i wanna peel my face off :(
I wish i was as pretty as other girls, the ones who wake up in the morning and don’t even have to put anything on and they look beautiful, naturally beautiful. They go to school and have conversations not having to worry about people looking too closely at their face without having constant anxiety that they’re picking out every blemish and bump on their skin. I wonder what that feels like and i hope i get that privilege to be comfortable in my own skin one day.
Same!
the comment section is comforting knowing that im not alone but its scary how we all feel the same..
This makes me so sad. I hope they’re all making progress.
I suffer from 4 different mental disorders (BDD,OCD,ADHD,APD,) BDD is by far the worst one. I always am having these battles in the mirror, always looking "different" everytime I look at the mirror, and it REALLY sucks, it is an obsessive behaviour that ruins any chance of me ever having a girlfriend or a stable group of friends. I also constantly compare my face to other people (Real life or online) it's a pretty sad existence if you have this condition, and it has left me depressed and tearful. Really hope any guy/girl can relate to what I said, cheers.
I hope you’re doing well now! ^^~
As a person who's suffered with self-hatred all my life, I see people who do as highly intelligent and aware. They realize how much their looks make or break their social/professional status. It's scientifically proven that we like and are drawn to people who are good looking.
Omg these human beings are beautiful, honestly... Why don't they see what I see 😔
I guess it’s because we tend to focus on the negative parts. Because if we ignore all the bad things, if might spiral out of control. Maybe if we ignore all the good things, we become delusional.
Also from my experience, Humans don’t really see outside of themselves as much.
This is exactly how I feel!! It is like I have a record constantly playing in my head telling me that I am ugly and no one wants me all the time. So when I do 'find' someone and it doesn't work out, I take it so bad because I feel like they and the situation are validating my thoughts and that I really must be ugly worthless as they have realised that I am not 'good enough' and not 'worthy' enough to be with anyone because they rejected me.
too real
Me too
ladeerachel1 you look beautiful tho
Girl you beautiful don't think otherwise I went through being teased and bullied, but never hated myself because of the way the Creator made me. Love yourself and embrace yourself we are worth more than gold😚. Wish I could have put that old song on at the end of this video " I'm beautiful dammit" because you are. Everytime you think that thought cancel it you're not sistah😇.
I struggle with this every day. Each day is a fight to remind myself to keep living and try to push those thoughts away. So hard :-(
I struggle with BDD too and this breaks my heart to see :( I hate when everyone else says that I’m “beautiful” but my brain just can’t see that. All I see are flaws and imperfections.
Samee it get on my nerves and when ppl say im cute front of the classroom i feel like my classroom probably thinking im ugly
Its actually nice to see people who are suffering from the same thing as I. I thought I was the only one in the world suffering from this. We have the face we were given and it is what it is. The only thing we can do is move forward. Thats what it means to be humans. You have a life and you are obligated to make the most of it. You existed as a human in a universe absolutely devoid of life. Your existence is worth something. No matter how insignificant, it was never zero. Live life. Move forward. What better way is there to live.
This kills me inside literally. It pushed me to unfriending everyone. Now I’m alone and I can hear these voices more clearly.
I think I had that for a long time - the feeling of thinking that I was better looking than I was. I would look in the mirror and be like “oh, I look pretty darn good today” of something, and when I was younger there would be guys I’d like, and I’d think that I was pretty enough to be liked by them. But they would never like me back. I remember playing spin the bottle with my friends, and I’m surprised at how I still managed to think I was even slightly attractive when the guy it landed on practically retched at the thought of having to be kissed on the cheek by me.
It was relatively recently that I suddenly realised that I wasn’t pretty. I don’t know if I’m truly ugly, as everyone is too nice to say anything, but I’m very, very plain. I think it started to hit me when I would make a passing comment about how awful I looked, and no one would correct me. Like you know how teenage girls are like “ewww I look gross today” and their friends are like “nooo you’re stunning”? That never happened to me.
So now I’ve switched to “traditional” body dysmorphia. At the moment, when everyone is talking about the people they have crushes on etc or the guys they are dating, I keep quiet. I don’t tell anyone who I like, because I know their reaction will be pity. Not for me, but for the guy I might like. I know they’d feel sorry for anyone to have to know that they were liked by me, that they would be disgusted. Because who would want to be crushed on by someone as hideous looking as me?
I’m not fishing for compliments. I’m not trying to get pity. I’m just saying my personal experience.
Austenelia x story of my life
The first time I realized I'm not really as good-looking as I thought I was was during highschool.
I was talking with my mom about a bunch of stuff and we brought up a friend who is a neighbour of mine who was so pretty. I asked her why people kept flocking to her even when she doesn't approach them, and my mom just stared at me for a while and then said awkwardly: "Well, your beauty is the sort where you the more you spend with the person the more you see it, your smiles don't hurt either."
I was honestly shell-shocked since it came out of nowhere and just tore my self-confidence to shreds. I think now that she saw I was delusional about my looks and wanted to snap me out of it.
Anyway, even if it really hurt me at that time and the following years too, I think right now I'm more grounded in reality and more confident about myself since I know what to expect and not put myself in embarrassing situations: No more daydreams about hot guys or expectations of getting tons of likes of my photos on IG etc.
It's honestly liberating to be one with yourself. That's why I hate people who comment that 'eVeRY onE is BeAuTifuL' bs. They just make people more delusional OR in my case, plain angry.
Shimaa Hakim you wrote this so perfectly. People should definitely think way more like you. When people stop associating ugliness with worthlessness, things become a lot more easier. I mean it’s ridiculous how people treat each other in a shitty matter just because of something as small as looks.
This is the story of my Life .
did she just describe literally everything im feeling in this video?
yeah she did
i remember watching this video a few years ago, and feeling sorry for them. im watching this video again today and i completely relate to everything they are saying. how different i was a couple years ago, i miss the old me.
I relate to the second woman. I get so annoyed whenever someone tries to convince me that I’m not ugly or at least not as ugly as I perceive myself to be. It usually feels like a lie because they’re taking pity on me, which just makes things even worse. I don’t know if it’s dysmorphia, but it’s a feeling I’ve struggled with my entire life like so many other people. Hyper-fixating on every little flaw rather than taking in your whole image makes you see yourself as a caricature of what you actually are, and even while knowing that, there are so many days when you just can’t overcome it. You’re convinced that everyone who even glances at you is thinking “how disgusting/ugly/funny-looking” when in reality they don’t give two shits about what you look like. And then when you try to explain this to other people, they tell you that you’re lying for attention or you’re fishing for compliments, when that’s actually the last thing that you want. You want no comments on your appearance 9 times out of 10, and you want to just put it out of your mind completely. Occasionally the compliments do make you feel a bit better, but a lot of the times you just don’t know how to take them- if they’re genuine, if you’re being made fun of, or if you should change out of whatever they complimented you on because you don’t want to draw attention to yourself. You just want to blend in and know that you’re blending in instead of being constantly aware of yourself and anyone who passes by. I don’t post selfies anywhere, I don’t even add a profile picture of myself to anything. I’m 22 and I’ve never been in a real relationship because I isolate myself sooo much and I think I push others away as soon as they try to get close. I have 1 friend that’s been with my my entire life, but I have no others because of this. I don’t go to the gym or shopping because I’m terrified of someone looking at me in places purely meant for your body and thinking “she shouldn’t be here.” It’s caused me to miss so many amazing opportunities and even drop out of college a couple of years ago (only to basically live as a shut-in for nearly 2 years after that). I’m tired of this issue but I don’t know how to overcome it- therapy and medication didn’t work, and I haven’t been able so far to switch my thinking myself through positive thoughts, but I’m trying.
I'm just in an identical situation to yours when you made this comment. I'm also 22. Without friends. Only one and we hardly see or talk to each other. About everything else you explain, I feel exactly the same. It's like i'm living in hell. I hope you are doing better now. 🫶🏻
I struggled w BDD and an ED for years, but it’s way better now... what helped me was focusing externally on other people, the environment, and getting out from self focused thinking. Also you can train your mind like a muscle to discard negative thoughts and replace them. I used to stare in mirrors for hours and obsess over flaws but now I generally avoid excessive looking.
Also perspective, think of all the people with severe deformities and physical disabilities, I feel grateful to be alive honestly and want to help others.
It’s definitely not easy and I still get self conscious thoughts, but this disorder CAN get better
I love the advice you gave, and I can attest that it helps to some degree.
its easy to be cured from bdd when you are actually attractive. now try being a really ugly person like me and its a different story 😏 glad youre doing better though
I just feel like everytime I get my hopes up it comes crashing down, and I’m not really I’m not good enough for anybody you know?
I cannot thank you enough for opening up about that topic. I have BDD for 8 years now and at 17 I honestly don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. There's just...more tunnel. But it's something fascinating about hearing your thoughts and fears through someone else's mouth. This helped me a lot. If you ever want more information about the disorder PLEASE contact me. The word needs to spread.
I have this. Ohh really helpless😖what can i do, it will ruin my whole life😥
I’ve had this for the longest time and I honestly didn’t even realize it was a disorder
I’ve had it for awhile too, this needs to be talked about more often
I not all the time but feeling so alone in this world can be hard. I don't have anyone who understands me or cares about me. I struggle with dysmorphia and other mental health problems that make me hate myself and isolate myself from others. Sometimes I wonder if there's any point in living. The only thing that gives me some hope is watching BBC docs . They have shows that make me laugh, cry, and feel something. They have stories that inspire me and challenge me. They have people who are different and proud of it. BBC makes me feel like I'm not alone, like I matter, like I have faith.
I relate to this so much. People all around me comment on my looks randomly, always positive, but I can’t help but feel they are bullshitting me or it’s some prank. I remember every time I looked in the mirror - when I ever did - I would physically lurch and nearly vomit. Sometimes I’d actually punch my stomach and legs. I just don’t see what other people are apparently seeing?
Anyway, I find the people in this video very attractive! But I know they won’t see it...
BarbaricTemptress I understand how you feel. I’m terrified of compliments.
Krystle Lewis
Yeah, same. I usually ignore them, and people think I'm rude - but it's not rudeness, just weariness.
both mirror and photos are fake images of ourselves, the problem is that we'll never know what we look like
edoardo fedrighi.
Oh, I am aware. And that terrifies me.
Same. I always feel that people compliment my looks because they feel sorry for how ugly I am.
I have severe low self esteem. It stemmed from.when I was a young child, having things said to me by my parents, family members, friends and kids at school.
I am married now to a good looking man. I have nothing good to say about my appearance and I have often wondered why my husband married me. I have a ton of great qualities but where I lack in the looks department I make up for in personality....had to...I needed something to offer and put on the table. I go unnoticed, I am not desirable and men never look at me. My husband never compliments me, only when he wants to be intimate...other then that...I never receive compliments. But I sure can cook well, make people laugh, smart and work hard.
It's absolutely heartbreaking to read the comments on here. I feel your pain, I suffer too. Please be aware, that you are not alone. There are many of us. We are not bad, or vein people, just damaged and inflicted by a terrible condition and an overactive imagination. One thing that helped me a lot, was being able to express my feelings through poetry, I had an ocean of tears, built up inside of me, I released them through my words.we may not Al. Be poets, but expression can come in other forms. Through my words, I cleared years of wrong thinking. I also through my own experience, helped so many others, because I had empathy and experience I don't want a medal for this, or appraisal. All, I'm trying to say is, my suffering for a reason I felt was to help others. Without my suffering. I may have never been in such a position. Your pain is my pain too. Love to everyone.
So I’m new with BDD, been struggling in silence for 20 years. But before I explain anything else I do want to say it’s made me so incredibly strong, nobody can bring me down because nobody hates me more then myself. I actually believed everybody went through these feelings, I’m NO where near as severe as these lovely souls but for me It’s with my weight, to be honest I’m going on week 2 of not leaving the house. Every flaw I have is Magnified, I will look in the mirror and see my body in a certain angle and think in my mind “this is how I look” but when other people take pictures of my body or I catch my refection I think oh, I’m actually way way way bigger then I was thinking in my head. It goes back and forth non stop.. And it’s throughout the day. Every single day I am confused about how I look. I don’t know what my body looks like. There’s so much more to it but I tried to simplify it, it’s amazing to find people going through what I am going through & maybe vice versa.. my goal is to leave the house tomorrow(it’s nighttime now) and stay out for as long as I can & keep my mind busy & away from negative thoughts.
I can relate to this.
My life in one video
i wish that everything gets better for u😀