A guy who I thought we were a couple, never introduced me to his family and it was almost a year since I knew him. I asked him if he was married and he said no. The reason I asked him if he was married is that he would be a no-show most of the time for different holidays and other different events we had planned together. After my mom passed, he didn't say sorry for your loss or anything. That was the end for me and him after he showed a no-care attitude. I deleted and blocked his number.
You can't say that. I don't look up to another's couple relationship because one just never know what goes on behind close doors. I will say they look good together 😊❤️
Unfortunately it's men and women. And we are dealing with a unique situation where the side piece could be another male and for the wife she could be cheating with another female.☹️ Amen . Woman 👠 🌹 walking❤️🥰
For one year and a half I was told that he was a private person that he didn’t like to have people in his business. I brought up the difference between privacy and secrecy. he was keeping me a secret from his family and social media. I was very open and honest with him he met all of my family he knew all of my friends but I could not say the same. I just wish I had the knowledge I have now back then so I could have asked Myself “what is so broken inside of me that I’m allowing myself to be a secret”. Thank you for this word 🙏🏾
@@Yesikno thank you so much. Your kind words really do help my healing even more. Just reaffirming I didn’t deserve all of the pain he caused, and all the pain I allowed myself to stay in
@@finnisha Just know you lived & you learned, sometimes & most times, we have to go through things so we will know what not to do again, now because of that pain, it actually is going to turn into strength, give it time. I say that because, you're going to have higher standards and your more conscious of a Man wanting to try to keep you as a secret. Because, you went through that, you aren't going for it anymore. Just know all things work out for the good of those that love the Lord. At the end of the day, you will say thank you Jesus, sometimes He reveal things in the beginning but we didn't pay attention... God bless
Or just don't want you, everyone isn't married. That is why it's important to know your worth, and not settle for anything less. All types of people may try to approach you and minimize you, so to speak. It doesn't mean you have to subject yourself to that nonsense. Women tend to settle, and that is an issue in and of itself.
If you allow a person to keep you hidden there's know respect! To them you don't matter they will play with you if you allow it! Never let know one play with your emotions! You matter ♥
One of things that I respect about my pastor is after service, he hugs his wife and holds her hand and walk out TOGETHER to greet the members instead of hugging and kissing other female members before he even hug his own wife!!!
Very good point and example to other Pastors. I see my Pastor once after service hugging ladies and I am usually not comfortable with it. Oh well may be I am jay old school but ...
Getting a background check is always good especially after a few months. Also, check the sex offender registry too. Hiring a private investigator if you decide to get engaged is another good idea to avoid any surprises.
Ask for account statements and consent to run credit report, too. Because once you’re married, you will be dealing with any and all debts, obligations, and problems.
This is exactly what I needed to hear, I have been allowing myself to be kept a secret for nearly 3 years, far tooooo long and never again will I allow this to happen to me again. Thank you Lisa and RC, I appreciate you. Amen!
My ex ( of 3 years ) was " secretive " about everything! Turns out , he was a player and a narcissist! He hid his phone , lurked around the house everytime he got a text so I couldn't see what he was doing and was just plain strange! Yep , he was messing around with his ex ( but that won't the only one )! And it's true , I didn't find out any of this until pretty well into the relationship. When I would question him about sneaking around or just strange behaviors in general , I was hit with " you have issues " and " you really need help "! So finally , I did help myself! Right out the door and never looked back! Later , his own brother told me he was a " narcissistic sociopath " ! Of course when Googled , he ticked EVERY box of that personality type! So glad I am away from him! That's just plain scary!
oh God my ex did this too..he would cheat and everytime I brang it up he said "omg here we go again, you're crazy and insecure" in his dominican accent
You hit me right in between the eyes as you would say. This was so hard to watch because the truth hurts. I started becoming comfortable being a secret. No longer!
I had a married guy tell me,he was waiting for his wife to get situated, because he wanted to make sure she would be good, I told him he was the type of man that would run back and forth,he still with her years later,she probably is a good woman,he the player.
After listening to these videos it has helped me to break from a seven years relationship. He hid me from everyone and made promises of lies while being married but separated from his wife for years. Please keep me in your prayers. I need encouragement and guidance
Being a secret can get you run up and done up and you will wake up dead! Seriously. You didn't know this person was married and the spouse finds out. Some of these spouses are not playing about their's and they got nothing to lose.
Thank you for saying that. These girls are so pressed in calling a wife to tell her they are the man's girlfriend. As if it's a bigger title. Worst part is if he can do it to his wife what would make you different
I was in a relationship for 6 years I was not a secret because I know his families and friends but the problem was he never post me on his social media and I always post him so I say to him i figured the only reason you are so afraid to post me is because your entertaining other woman and when I bring up marriage he's never ready so I said its 6years and your not ready I told him not a next year and i ended it and when i leave he had a next woman less than a week I just laugh and if I could just beat myself I would because I sit 6years playing a fool but I just i just thank the lord and i focusing on me now
Do not beat yourself please, we have all made mistakes. I have seen ladies here in Nigeria do 9/10 years relationship and still not get the ring. Sister, imagine if you married your glorious self to that loser. He lost not you, the new girl is not lucky. I feel pity for her too getting played. The Lord Jesus is got you Sis, just be humble enough to forgive yourself.
Nissan Clarke don't beat yourself up. It's a good thing a God thing that he allowed you the experience to bring you out!! Imagined if you move forward and married this person? Would be a whole other situation to get out of. A blessing to just walk away. Our hearts will heal. Time takes care of that and repenting to the Lord for giving our hearts away. The heart must be kept under the loving care of God our first love! He's jealous over you. His word say he'll have no god before him; idols. That's what we make these confused, nutty, men or women!! The distract our focus, attention from the Lord God! That's not to be. The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy. Pray without ceasing and please wait on the Lord. He knows you and he knows who's best and when the time is right 😉💎🦋⚓. Be encouraged. Study and always pray for an understanding before beginning!!
Don’t beat yourself love. But be a vessel to help other young ladies who are in such a trap so they can work away. I always believe our parents didn’t do your job properly by letting us know marriage is not really an accomplishment/achievement for a woman so we don’t settle for anything just in the bid to be married and think it’s our achievement . Marriage will always come when we love ourselves, respect, pursue God and our interest, be focused and just generally be positive about life but to always knowing your self worth and not settle for anything less.
I was married, he didn't keep me a secret because some women didnt even care he was married or believed we were just "roomates raising kids". But i did feel dishonored 247 of our marriage.
Sounds like my situation....I've been with him 2 years and I've met his friends and family but he never posts me on his social media. I found out he was talking to 3 girls behind my back, one of them his ex-girlfriend. Smh
I know guys that hide their women on social media. You know they are dating someone and they do not show the person. One guy just got engage and finally but her picture up after 2 years and she was always responding and tagging him, he never did the same for her. He still doesn't show her off. She is a beautiful woman. These dudes are a trip.
Yes i know a guy like this too- he just got engaged over the summer and it took him 3 weeks to put up a cover page on FB but his profile picture is still just him by himself- disturbing - i think she is more in love with him than he is with her - he’s just locked in the relationship and doesn’t want to lose her- i think that’s the only reason he proposed- she has more pictures up of them than he does - major red flag- she was a secret for a long time- he never talked about her before the engagement and was never on his FB before either
It’s nice to hear a man and women of god talk about this subject. It seems like these type of men prey on the vulnerable. Thank you for assisting me with my own spiritual growth and ascension.
I’m so thankful that I have never ever been a “side-piece”, or “side-chick”! But I have been a “girlfriend, a fiancé, and bride/wife. To GOD be the Glory!!!❤🙏🏽 Grace and Mercy follows me all the days of my life. ❤❤❤
You're a secret when they won't answer calls if they are around people, if they never take you out in public, their very stagnant about everything. But you find out that you were a secret because you were not the only one but just one of the ones.
If I could give a thumbs up 👍🏽 10xs I would!! I’ve been a secret to a guy for 7 YEARS!! Never met his family “whom he speaks so highly of”, “wasn’t allowed to build a relationship with his daughter”, and he was NEVER present for any special events… like holidays or even birthdays. I always knew this guys was filled with lies but I continued to go along with this foolishness although I was crushed inside. I FINALLY woke up after constantly being emotionally drained, disappointed and manipulated. I’m sad and even embarrassed that it took me this long to be clear about what’s been dragging me down. But I’m WOKE! And excited about moving forward with the help and enlightenment of Mr. And Mrs. Blakes transparent teachings and blessings. Pastor Blakes have been such a father figure to me that I’ll never be the same. 💞 At 34 I’m single and waiting for our Heavenly Father to raise up a man that’s meant to be with me. All glory be to God! 🙏🏽
Narcissist keep you a secret cause of supply. You are right take your time to get to know people. Truly love yourself. Yes compound your trauma. Thank God for your ministry.
My ex-husband did this while we were married. His profile looked like he was single when we were married and he had the freedom to do it because I did not have social media. When I checked I could not believe it. Not one picture of me in there. It was a sign that he was checked out but told me "there's no problem here. It is all in your mind."
@@elizabethbirdallgreer2773 Yeah, I had to because he started to spend more time in Facebook than with me. I became less important than a webpage so I had to check it out. I trusted him too much. He was the wrong person for me for sure.
Very inspiring story. My husband is doing the same thing to me. He travelled 3 years ago to work in a different country and he has never invited me to visit him. We have been apart for almost 3 years and i just have a strong feeling that something is wrong. He takes care of me financially but he's never there emotionally. I want to leave but I am worried of how it will affect our daughter.
Thank you for coming on tonight Lisa. I wished I had a Mom and Dad like you two and I’m thankful you are here for me to listen to and learn from. Blessings to you both! ☺️🙏🏻
Thank you both for this message. To those reading this and watching the video allow GOD to: increase your faith and help you understand your worth and know that you deserve more!
How sweet u both are together. So complimentary toward each other's views, i love it!! THIS is what marriage is supposed to look like. I hope you both do more segments together People need to see strong couples interacting together. I love what you all do. God-bless. ❤
See you later. You are a stellar human! Thank you many times over for all your help. The world needs men like you in multitudes Pastor. Loving wishes to you and your lovely wife. Stay safe. 🙏🏽💫💫💫
“Pray about it, think about it, ….With the voice of wisdom speaking in your heart…Go back with your eyes open.” Sound advice. “The voice of wisdom speaking in your spirit and that you are more than enough.” “When you honor/esteem and value yourself, honor and respect yourself, you don’t let the world choose.” AMEN… thank you RC and Lisa❤️
Ring or no ring, a lot of women do not care. A man with a ring on is a magnet for some women as well. Some women just want what they can get. A piece of man will do.
@@n.b.0212 this is true. It is a game to them to see if they can take some other woman’s man. The place where I work does not allow jewelry (machine shop) it is a safety hazard here.
@@n.b.0212 If it's piece two halves that make a piece. The other half is obviously participating ( freely giving and freely receiving ) to the detriment of the spouse or significant other🥺😒☹️. You CAN'T have a leash on a man. If he go he never was yours, or is and was very immature in his choices. To marry someone or even try to hook someone that is involved or mentally involved is immature and irresponsible on the the person's part ,and can involve witchcraft in some cases. Unfortunately people will go to extreme measures in order to get a person, which includes sleeping with them and taking advantage of their weeknesses of any sort .🤔😒😕☹️🤨😐
I have so enjoyed this timely discussion between Pastor Blake's and his amazing wife. The gentle tone they use with one another and the way they look at one another is due to deep love and respect. I honor that.
Pastor Blake's! I believe I speak for Everyone!!! While teaching GO AHEAD & Adjust the lights or get you some water!! We will gladly wait for you! You bless & care for our comfort, so we wish for you to be in comfort, too!
This is my first time hearing Mrs lisa Blakes speak i see why they have an amazing Blessed union 😍 he is an uncle in my head now i also have an aunt this video Blessed me with more informatiom. Wisdom and realness 🙏❤
This was difficult but true to watch. This was me the last year of a 4 1/2 year relationship. I ended it in March because l couldn't deal with it anymore.
Hi dear Pamela. Thank God you worked away. Now pursue God and your interest. Love yourself, develop yourself and grow especially spiritually. Don’t go chasing marriage it will come. The right person will come when you Keats expect it and it won’t take time. There is really no need why any good woman will be any man’s secret why???
You and Lisa are a Beautiful couple. Your Personal TH-cam channel is efficient, genuine and authentic. Thank you, Thank you so much for all you do. God Bless You, Karen Elizabeth Palmer.
I was dating someone for a while years ago. He was moving so fast and I wasn't ready, however, we kept seeing each other. He introduced me to his daughter immediately, his mother some time down the line, his cousin. His orher cousin knew about me. He wanted to be with me and was ready. So, when I finally came around and said I am ready, the A SWITCH TOOK PLACE! What in the world happened? It was so strange. He wasn't hiding nothing at all at first. As soon as I was ready to move forward, EVERYTHING changed. The daughter couldn't be around me, seeing me every now and then. He begin to distance himself from me. We talked about building a family together, getting married. Until this day, I am still baffled. Things did end horribly. Mind blowing how things changed and ended. I did find out he had another child. I did have a dream other children was in the house besides his daughter. That was before the breakup. That was God's way letting me know something else was going on. I didn't think much of it until after things ended. When I found about the other child, I was like WOW! Mind blowing...SMH
A man can introduce you to his family and I seen many dudes introduce their side pieces too. It just depends on the person. Lord knows some folks is just nasty and the family don't care half the time.
@@jdashlovela Yes, it's almost like when it comes to these men the moms are accepting of their behavior being out there. They don't care what their sons are doing or daughters so disgraceful
This is usually true but an exception. Most times it is the men hiding you or only introducing you to same behavior friends. Those other men and their moms who support them will always get the reward because it always ends up bad news with whoever they settle with. And sometimes the eventual wife will be nasty to the mom.
@@estherobiekwe6969 I agree! almost like reaping what they sowing. You can't expect good things to happen when you are doing dirty things. I'm glad I never went too far with certain men.
I totally agree. I've seen guys introduce you (side piece and/or girlfriend)the entire family and friends but refuse to share you on their social media and the family support the disfunction You can ne the official and still be a secret when is convenient is so many ways. Some guys introduce every girl to the family and friends, so to me that does not mean anything either, for some is just what they do because is just what they do.
The person that wants the secret is just as broken as the person accepting the secret. Heal the brokenness ladies and roster date w/o being sexual. Take your time as Rev Blakes insists. You got this!🙏😚 Hello beautiful Mrs. Blakes!😘🌹
I have dated too many with this dynamic. I noticed we didn’t even have freedom of where we went on dates. His excuses were the local spots were too crowded. He preferred to take me a couple cities away for movies …. I did end up feeling my self esteem take a hit … he was 15 years older/ very involved at my church-so I thought he was over playing games lol.. he pursued me for 8 months… I was sick for a couple months. He visited me almost daily.Knew my family and parents. Convinced everyone that he was a good guy. And then ghosted me on Valentine’s Day
Also, a predator will seek out someone who won't mind being kept secret. And a person won't mind being a secret bc otherwise their dysfunctional family will make things difficult for them.
Awesome Lesson, Thank You Lady Lisa & Bishop Blakes. Anything that is Honorable is not a secret. PROFOUND!!,❤❤ Thank You, Thank You. Love you Both. Blessings 🙏🏾💜🙏🏾
This was so relatable to me. While I took him to meet all my family and parents and friends, I never met any of his other than the mutual friends we shared from school. I later learned after he got married in a very early morning wedding that he was in a relationship and I had no idea. Thanks for this teaching.
I was married to him and never met his family for years and when I finally did was just briefly and his harem of women where always present at occasions.so yes women we have to be very careful.after 26 years I just found these things out.i thank you and pastor with your videos and help I am healing and on my way to be a happier woman.
Sometimes people can publicly show you or introduce you but still doing dirt. I guess you just have to figure out whether that person is genuine. I don't know you never know with people 🤷♀️ awesome video. 😊
You are seeing it at the right time dear. May be it would not have even sank years back if you did. God prunes us in our work with Him and we gradually become the light that He us called us to be.
Ty Lisa and Pastor for your words of wisdom. I pray that ladies take heed. Call it a clue..?🤔. If you have to wait for a man to divorce his wife... He is a married man. Physical, emotional and financial separations does not make a man divorce. You deserve to be honored and respected. Don’t even get involved and if you do and you find out, run🙏🏽
So good to see mrs Blake Loyalty, respect faithfulness I extended then It dawned on me 💡 I was a Secret for a reason , that feeling left me with some serious hurt , and validation as a person like I had no worth but god said I am worthy , yep I am worth so much more than that behaviour 💎
Can’t wait 🙌 thank you Pastor RC Blake’s , wow if this isn’t a word from the lord. I’m going through this right now. Thank you for all you do! Just an amazing man of God.
Praise God you are so right on I been going through this with a man that only text mostly in the late hours of the night but says he loves me thank God for the Holy spirit
Thank you, First Lady, Lisa, for your message. I dealt with a so-called bishop who told me he was not with his wife, but wanted me to enter into a committed relationship with him. I did not fall for that lie, so I cut him off immediately. Come to find out later, he was only recently separated from his wife; yet, he was telling me God said I was his wife! The devil is liar! SMH! Thank God I was led by the Lord to cut this lying wonder off!
I am so grateful for you bringing that to the forefront first lady and Pastor RC Blakes because a lot of people will try to run game and say that they are private WHEN all along they are trying to live a secret life👀💯🤦🏽♀️
To Pastor Blakes and to Lady Lisa Blakes you two are an inspiration as Husband and Wife in speaking this together for Married couples and Single Men and Women thank you for being transparent enough to Be an example spiritually and just Real life love this I have SHARED this to everyone I know!!!
Praise the Lord 🙏 1st Thank you Mr💕 Mrs R .C. Blake's JR. it's a blessing to have you 👥 2 apart of my life . And, many blessings 🙌 to you 👥Mr 💕 Mrs Blake's JR.
Very good. Just a few days ago, my wife and I was talking about the difference between secret and private. I was searching "Your sin will find you out" that led me to this video. Thank you.
Thank you Pastor RC Blakes & your beautiful wife, you are such a wonderful blessed Union Thank you so much for this video, God always sends the right spiritual food, at the right time, thank 💞 you 🙏
Who is in the dark comes out the light eventually that’s why marriages break up it comes to ahead when after your divorce that you find out all these things
To the person reading this. You deserve a safe, healthy & happy relationship.
Amen.
Thank you 😊
Amen 🙏
So do you!
Amen to that!
"I can't honor you and hide you at the same" Yes God!
That is true
Absolutely 🔥🙏🏽❤️💎
That Part Right There!🤗
"I can't hide you and honor you at the same time." Those are powerful words right there!!!
Yep, I felt it!
A guy who I thought we were a couple, never introduced me to his family and it was almost a year since I knew him. I asked him if he was married and he said no. The reason I asked him if he was married is that he would be a no-show most of the time for different holidays and other different events we had planned together. After my mom passed, he didn't say sorry for your loss or anything. That was the end for me and him after he showed a no-care attitude. I deleted and blocked his number.
Yessss he sounds like he never cared
I applaud you on your very fine decision. It would have been worse to stand by that CLOWN wth a CROWN for even just 1 more minute. Again I applaud U💞
🥰🥰🙌🏾🙌🏾I’m glad u realize it and moved on👍🏾👍🏾
Good For you Beautiful
I’m so proud of you, beautiful!
This couple is the modern day model for marriage and relationships. Blessings to you Pastor and Lady Blakes...
They talk in sync
You can't say that. I don't look up to another's couple relationship because one just never know what goes on behind close doors. I will say they look good together 😊❤️
Dating a married man is like drinking soup with a fork all you are getting is the exercise ,girl please
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That is a good comparison: "Drinking soup with a fork" is when one is getting no substance.
Wow I like that comparison drinking soup and all your getting is the exercise ! Lol
If you can't post him and he can't post you then ya'll ain't post to be together!😂😂😂😂
😂😂. That’s funny. Good one.
Period!👏👏
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Some men will try to talk you into being their secret. The devil IS a liar!!
Straight up sis
No lie I heard those words couple months ago. Telling me I will help you financially but you can't tell anyone about the relationship 🙄🤦♀️
@@queensheenz8400 smh
Yes. He asked me what I wanted, and I knew then what it was he was offering me.. I walked away, broken 😞
Unfortunately it's men and women. And we are dealing with a unique situation where the side piece could be another male and for the wife she could be cheating with another female.☹️ Amen . Woman 👠 🌹 walking❤️🥰
For one year and a half I was told that he was a private person that he didn’t like to have people in his business. I brought up the difference between privacy and secrecy. he was keeping me a secret from his family and social media. I was very open and honest with him he met all of my family he knew all of my friends but I could not say the same. I just wish I had the knowledge I have now back then so I could have asked Myself “what is so broken inside of me that I’m allowing myself to be a secret”. Thank you for this word 🙏🏾
He also sounds like a narcissist
@@fairburngordonstephanie5398 I would agree !
You didnt deserve that treatment at all. I am glad you are healing!
@@Yesikno thank you so much. Your kind words really do help my healing even more. Just reaffirming I didn’t deserve all of the pain he caused, and all the pain I allowed myself to stay in
@@finnisha Just know you lived & you learned, sometimes & most times, we have to go through things so we will know what not to do again, now because of that pain, it actually is going to turn into strength, give it time. I say that because, you're going to have higher standards and your more conscious of a Man wanting to try to keep you as a secret. Because, you went through that, you aren't going for it anymore. Just know all things work out for the good of those that love the Lord. At the end of the day, you will say thank you Jesus, sometimes He reveal things in the beginning but we didn't pay attention... God bless
AMEN TO THAT, if you can't be acknowledged in a relationship with whoever you dating, then you shouldn't be in that relationship.
Everything in the dark will always come too the light.
Another saying if it don't come out in the wash it will Sho'nuff come out in Rinse'True that 💯
Most of the time, the person being secretative is married and can't introduce his side piece to nobody but to a friend who is doing the same thing.
May be living with another woman or down-low.
Game. Just plain game either way single or married. Red flag for the players 🚩
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Sharon Lundy, You’re EXACTLY right!!! 💯
Or just don't want you, everyone isn't married. That is why it's important to know your worth, and not settle for anything less. All types of people may try to approach you and minimize you, so to speak. It doesn't mean you have to subject yourself to that nonsense. Women tend to settle, and that is an issue in and of itself.
If you allow a person to keep you hidden there's know respect! To them you don't matter they will play with you if you allow it! Never let know one play with your emotions! You matter ♥
I wish i wouldve read this in 2018. Wouldve saved many tears
Yes no one not even that demonic narcissist
One of things that I respect about my pastor is after service, he hugs his wife and holds her hand and walk out TOGETHER to greet the members instead of hugging and kissing other female members before he even hug his own wife!!!
Very good point and example to other Pastors. I see my Pastor once after service hugging ladies and I am usually not comfortable with it. Oh well may be I am jay old school but ...
I agree I don’t believe a pastor should be hugging women other than his wife,.
Getting a background check is always good especially after a few months. Also, check the sex offender registry too. Hiring a private investigator if you decide to get engaged is another good idea to avoid any surprises.
Not engaged bc 2 many feelings r invested. Hire a P.I as soon as he asks 4 exclusivity.
that's extreme if your going to marry him you should be able to trust him then why say yes
@@jdashlovela no its not!Better sooner then later!
Ask for account statements and consent to run credit report, too. Because once you’re married, you will be dealing with any and all debts, obligations, and problems.
This is exactly what I needed to hear, I have been allowing myself to be kept a secret for nearly 3 years, far tooooo long and never again will I allow this to happen to me again. Thank you Lisa and RC, I appreciate you. Amen!
My ex ( of 3 years ) was " secretive " about everything! Turns out , he was a player and a narcissist! He hid his phone , lurked around the house everytime he got a text so I couldn't see what he was doing and was just plain strange! Yep , he was messing around with his ex ( but that won't the only one )!
And it's true , I didn't find out any of this until pretty well into the relationship.
When I would question him about sneaking around or just strange behaviors in general , I was hit with " you have issues " and " you really need help "! So finally , I did help myself! Right out the door and never looked back! Later , his own brother told me he was a " narcissistic sociopath " ! Of course when Googled , he ticked EVERY box of that personality type! So glad I am away from him! That's just plain scary!
You so lucky Sis, thank God.
They enjoy destroying people
oh God my ex did this too..he would cheat and everytime I brang it up he said "omg here we go again, you're crazy and insecure" in his dominican accent
I divorced a 'real one too. The betrayal...
You hit me right in between the eyes as you would say. This was so hard to watch because the truth hurts. I started becoming comfortable being a secret. No longer!
We love Lady Lisa Blakes!!❤Praise God, Bishop!
That's why I am by myself and not in any relationship at this time in my life. I am to old for the games and the crazy stuff. Be blessed you two.
"I am worth more than being kept a secret" Praise God. Thank you Bishop R. C. Blakes and Lisa Blakes. Great message.
I had a married guy tell me,he was waiting for his wife to get situated, because he wanted to make sure she would be good, I told him he was the type of man that would run back and forth,he still with her years later,she probably is a good woman,he the player.
Yes, Ms. Lisa there is a BIG DIFFERENCE between PRIVACY and SECRECY!
After listening to these videos it has helped me to break from a seven years relationship. He hid me from everyone and made promises of lies while being married but separated from his wife for years. Please keep me in your prayers. I need encouragement and guidance
Being a secret can get you run up and done up and you will wake up dead! Seriously. You didn't know this person was married and the spouse finds out. Some of these spouses are not playing about their's and they got nothing to lose.
Thank you for saying that. These girls are so pressed in calling a wife to tell her they are the man's girlfriend. As if it's a bigger title. Worst part is if he can do it to his wife what would make you different
If you have to hide, run away from, lie, sneak, cheat, keep in secrecy, flip the phone over, then you know you shouldn’t be doing what you are doing.
I was in a relationship for 6 years I was not a secret because I know his families and friends but the problem was he never post me on his social media and I always post him so I say to him i figured the only reason you are so afraid to post me is because your entertaining other woman and when I bring up marriage he's never ready so I said its 6years and your not ready I told him not a next year and i ended it and when i leave he had a next woman less than a week I just laugh and if I could just beat myself I would because I sit 6years playing a fool but I just i just thank the lord and i focusing on me now
Do not beat yourself please, we have all made mistakes.
I have seen ladies here in Nigeria do 9/10 years relationship and still not get the ring.
Sister, imagine if you married your glorious self to that loser.
He lost not you, the new girl is not lucky. I feel pity for her too getting played.
The Lord Jesus is got you Sis, just be humble enough to forgive yourself.
Nissan Clarke don't beat yourself up. It's a good thing a God thing that he allowed you the experience to bring you out!! Imagined if you move forward and married this person? Would be a whole other situation to get out of. A blessing to just walk away. Our hearts will heal. Time takes care of that and repenting to the Lord for giving our hearts away. The heart must be kept under the loving care of God our first love! He's jealous over you. His word say he'll have no god before him; idols. That's what we make these confused, nutty, men or women!! The distract our focus, attention from the Lord God! That's not to be. The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy. Pray without ceasing and please wait on the Lord. He knows you and he knows who's best and when the time is right 😉💎🦋⚓. Be encouraged. Study and always pray for an understanding before beginning!!
Don’t beat yourself love. But be a vessel to help other young ladies who are in such a trap so they can work away. I always believe our parents didn’t do your job properly by letting us know marriage is not really an accomplishment/achievement for a woman so we don’t settle for anything just in the bid to be married and think it’s our achievement . Marriage will always come when we love ourselves, respect, pursue God and our interest, be focused and just generally be positive about life but to always knowing your self worth and not settle for anything less.
I was married, he didn't keep me a secret because some women didnt even care he was married or believed we were just "roomates raising kids". But i did feel dishonored 247 of our marriage.
Sounds like my situation....I've been with him 2 years and I've met his friends and family but he never posts me on his social media. I found out he was talking to 3 girls behind my back, one of them his ex-girlfriend. Smh
I know guys that hide their women on social media. You know they are dating someone and they do not show the person. One guy just got engage and finally but her picture up after 2 years and she was always responding and tagging him, he never did the same for her. He still doesn't show her off. She is a beautiful woman. These dudes are a trip.
Yeah. Wouldn't want to spoil their "image". They should be so lucky. The woman should be embarrassed by them. Often they are hardly a prize.
...selfish
Yes i know a guy like this too- he just got engaged over the summer and it took him 3 weeks to put up a cover page on FB but his profile picture is still just him by himself- disturbing - i think she is more in love with him than he is with her - he’s just locked in the relationship and doesn’t want to lose her- i think that’s the only reason he proposed- she has more pictures up of them than he does - major red flag- she was a secret for a long time- he never talked about her before the engagement and was never on his FB before either
I always say the only secrets you keep are engagement proposals or birthday or anniversary surprises and or confidential health information.
It’s nice to hear a man and women of god talk about this subject.
It seems like these type of men prey on the vulnerable.
Thank you for assisting me with my own spiritual growth and ascension.
Yes they prey on the vulnerable.
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY QUEEN LISA⚘🌹💞🌺💞⚘🌺💞🌹🌺💞💞💞💞⚘💞🌹
I’m so thankful that I have never ever been a “side-piece”, or “side-chick”! But I have been a “girlfriend, a fiancé, and bride/wife. To GOD be the Glory!!!❤🙏🏽
Grace and Mercy follows me all the days of my life. ❤❤❤
You're a secret when they won't answer calls if they are around people, if they never take you out in public, their very stagnant about everything. But you find out that you were a secret because you were not the only one but just one of the ones.
wow I was a secret only some of our friends knew we were a couple and all his friends he would pick and chose who he was single too
If I could give a thumbs up 👍🏽 10xs I would!! I’ve been a secret to a guy for 7 YEARS!! Never met his family “whom he speaks so highly of”, “wasn’t allowed to build a relationship with his daughter”, and he was NEVER present for any special events… like holidays or even birthdays.
I always knew this guys was filled with lies but I continued to go along with this foolishness although I was crushed inside.
I FINALLY woke up after constantly being emotionally drained, disappointed and manipulated. I’m sad and even embarrassed that it took me this long to be clear about what’s been dragging me down.
But I’m WOKE! And excited about moving forward with the help and enlightenment of Mr. And Mrs. Blakes transparent teachings and blessings. Pastor Blakes have been such a father figure to me that I’ll never be the same. 💞
At 34 I’m single and waiting for our Heavenly Father to raise up a man that’s meant to be with me. All glory be to God! 🙏🏽
Narcissist keep you a secret cause of supply. You are right take your time to get to know people. Truly love yourself. Yes compound your trauma. Thank God for your ministry.
Exactly right never took any pictures together or anything
Sometimes he would take pictures with you and not post you 🤦🤦
My ex-husband did this while we were married. His profile looked like he was single when we were married and he had the freedom to do it because I did not have social media. When I checked I could not believe it. Not one picture of me in there. It was a sign that he was checked out but told me "there's no problem here. It is all in your mind."
Glad you checked him and got out!
WOW
@@elizabethbirdallgreer2773 Yeah, I had to because he started to spend more time in Facebook than with me. I became less important than a webpage so I had to check it out. I trusted him too much. He was the wrong person for me for sure.
Very inspiring story. My husband is doing the same thing to me. He travelled 3 years ago to work in a different country and he has never invited me to visit him. We have been apart for almost 3 years and i just have a strong feeling that something is wrong. He takes care of me financially but he's never there emotionally. I want to leave but I am worried of how it will affect our daughter.
@@amkblessed9120 Do you want her to end up with a man, like the one you're married to? You are her main example, remember that.
It's always three sides to a story with a married lover,his side her side and the truth
No man or no woman should ever be a serect in a relationship. If you love them share it with the world and your family.
I'm not dating now, but if I was It would be someone that would honor me.
Thank you for coming on tonight Lisa. I wished I had a Mom and Dad like you two and I’m thankful you are here for me to listen to and learn from. Blessings to you both! ☺️🙏🏻
They are your ‘Godparents. Speaking the Lord’s word. 🤲
This hits so close to home.... 7 years later, heartbroken and feeling foolish. Wish I had been aware of Pastor years ago.
Hello... I finally get to see Mrs. Lisa Blakes. Yay!💕💕💕💕 Beautiful
Thank you both for this message. To those reading this and watching the video allow GOD to: increase your faith and help you understand your worth and know that you deserve more!
How sweet u both are together. So complimentary toward each other's views, i love it!! THIS is what marriage is supposed to look like. I hope you both do more segments together People need to see strong couples interacting together. I love what you all do. God-bless. ❤
See you later. You are a stellar human! Thank you many times over for all your help. The world needs men like you in multitudes Pastor. Loving wishes to you and your lovely wife. Stay safe. 🙏🏽💫💫💫
“Pray about it, think about it, ….With the voice of wisdom speaking in your heart…Go back with your eyes open.” Sound advice.
“The voice of wisdom speaking in your spirit and that you are more than enough.”
“When you honor/esteem and value yourself, honor and respect yourself, you don’t let the world choose.”
AMEN… thank you RC and Lisa❤️
Married men are not wearing rings ,you never know who's married or not.
EXACTLY
Ring or no ring, a lot of women do not care. A man with a ring on is a magnet for some women as well. Some women just want what they can get. A piece of man will do.
@@n.b.0212 this is true. It is a game to them to see if they can take some other woman’s man.
The place where I work does not allow jewelry (machine shop) it is a safety hazard here.
@@n.b.0212 If it's piece two halves that make a piece. The other half is obviously participating ( freely giving and freely receiving ) to the detriment of the spouse or significant other🥺😒☹️. You CAN'T have a leash on a man. If he go he never was yours, or is and was very immature in his choices. To marry someone or even try to hook someone that is involved or mentally involved is immature and irresponsible on the the person's part ,and can involve witchcraft in some cases. Unfortunately people will go to extreme measures in order to get a person, which includes sleeping with them and taking advantage of their weeknesses of any sort .🤔😒😕☹️🤨😐
@@Wakka144 This is a excuse that men or women may use (It's a true statement though ). Unfortunately it works.😕☹️
I have so enjoyed this timely discussion between Pastor Blake's and his amazing wife. The gentle tone they use with one another and the way they look at one another is due to deep love and respect. I honor that.
Yes indeed!
Pastor Blake's! I believe I speak for Everyone!!! While teaching GO AHEAD & Adjust the lights or get you some water!! We will gladly wait for you! You bless & care for our comfort, so we wish for you to be in comfort, too!
This is my first time hearing Mrs lisa Blakes speak i see why they have an amazing Blessed union 😍 he is an uncle in my head now i also have an aunt this video Blessed me with more informatiom. Wisdom and realness 🙏❤
This is so true. I was in a situation and kept as a secret. Thank you for speaking on this.
I love how easily and beautifully she prayed. You an tell she truly has a relationship with the Father.
This was difficult but true to watch. This was me the last year of a 4 1/2 year relationship. I ended it in March because l couldn't deal with it anymore.
Hi dear Pamela. Thank God you worked away. Now pursue God and your interest. Love yourself, develop yourself and grow especially spiritually. Don’t go chasing marriage it will come. The right person will come when you Keats expect it and it won’t take time. There is really no need why any good woman will be any man’s secret why???
It's been 2 years since your comment.
You ok, sweetie?🙏❤️
Christi
@@chrissemenko628 l am good now without the toxic energy in my life.
You and Lisa are a Beautiful couple. Your Personal TH-cam channel is efficient, genuine and authentic. Thank you, Thank you so much for all you do. God Bless You, Karen Elizabeth Palmer.
You guys are so precious. We love you. Thank you so much for for your faithfulness. ❤
I was dating someone for a while years ago. He was moving so fast and I wasn't ready, however, we kept seeing each other. He introduced me to his daughter immediately, his mother some time down the line, his cousin. His orher cousin knew about me. He wanted to be with me and was ready. So, when I finally came around and said I am ready, the A SWITCH TOOK PLACE! What in the world happened? It was so strange. He wasn't hiding nothing at all at first. As soon as I was ready to move forward, EVERYTHING changed. The daughter couldn't be around me, seeing me every now and then. He begin to distance himself from me. We talked about building a family together, getting married. Until this day, I am still baffled. Things did end horribly. Mind blowing how things changed and ended. I did find out he had another child. I did have a dream other children was in the house besides his daughter. That was before the breakup. That was God's way letting me know something else was going on. I didn't think much of it until after things ended. When I found about the other child, I was like WOW! Mind blowing...SMH
A man can introduce you to his family and I seen many dudes introduce their side pieces too. It just depends on the person. Lord knows some folks is just nasty and the family don't care half the time.
that's true. I dated a guy met his mom and I didn't mean anything to him
@@jdashlovela Yes, it's almost like when it comes to these men the moms are accepting of their behavior being out there. They don't care what their sons are doing or daughters so disgraceful
This is usually true but an exception. Most times it is the men hiding you or only introducing you to same behavior friends.
Those other men and their moms who support them will always get the reward because it always ends up bad news with whoever they settle with. And sometimes the eventual wife will be nasty to the mom.
@@estherobiekwe6969 I agree!
almost like reaping what they sowing. You can't expect good things to happen when you are doing dirty things. I'm glad I never went too far with certain men.
I totally agree. I've seen guys introduce you (side piece and/or girlfriend)the entire family and friends but refuse to share you on their social media and the family support the disfunction
You can ne the official and still be a secret when is convenient is so many ways. Some guys introduce every girl to the family and friends, so to me that does not mean anything either, for some is just what they do because is just what they do.
The person that wants the secret is just as broken as the person accepting the secret. Heal the brokenness ladies and roster date w/o being sexual. Take your time as Rev Blakes insists. You got this!🙏😚 Hello beautiful Mrs. Blakes!😘🌹
I must say you two are a beautiful couple. Compliment each other and nice to hear from the both of you. Just beautiful!
This hits home. Everyone, I dated I come to learn that I was the secret 😑 sometimes I feel that all I can attract
I have dated too many with this dynamic. I noticed we didn’t even have freedom of where we went on dates. His excuses were the local spots were too crowded. He preferred to take me a couple cities away for movies …. I did end up feeling my self esteem take a hit … he was 15 years older/ very involved at my church-so I thought he was over playing games lol.. he pursued me for 8 months… I was sick for a couple months. He visited me almost daily.Knew my family and parents. Convinced everyone that he was a good guy. And then ghosted me on Valentine’s Day
Also, a predator will seek out someone who won't mind being kept secret. And a person won't mind being a secret bc otherwise their dysfunctional family will make things difficult for them.
Awesome Lesson, Thank You Lady Lisa & Bishop Blakes. Anything that is Honorable is not a secret. PROFOUND!!,❤❤ Thank You, Thank You. Love you Both. Blessings 🙏🏾💜🙏🏾
To myself “you called the situation correctly, understood you worth and what God has in stored for you which was not the relationship you were in”
This was so relatable to me. While I took him to meet all my family and parents and friends, I never met any of his other than the mutual friends we shared from school.
I later learned after he got married in a very early morning wedding that he was in a relationship and I had no idea. Thanks for this teaching.
Thank You, Beautiful People.
Thank you for this message. It's saddening but necessary. Being someone's secret is never a good place to be in a relationship. 😥
Y’all are such a blessing to us!
I felt a great peace when Lisa prayed for us. Thank you to Both of you. 💗 God bless you.
Love this Pastor and First Lady...🙏🏽❤🙏🏽❤🙏🏽
Yes 🙏🙏🙏
“A secret is rarely something righteous.” Blakes
Secret = Self love deficit (sld), lack of self value and low self esteem.
"Beautiful confirmation and answer prayers 🙏 Amen"
I was married to him for 13 years and everything was always private never met any of his friends so that was a red flag they never took me nowhere
Wow. How did that change/end?
Me too sis. I divorced him. Better for it.
Been there 2 now divorced.
Mrs. Blakes, enjoyed your wisdom from a wife's perspective
I was married to him and never met his family for years and when I finally did was just briefly and his harem of women where always present at occasions.so yes women we have to be very careful.after 26 years I just found these things out.i thank you and pastor with your videos and help I am healing and on my way to be a happier woman.
Sometimes people can publicly show you or introduce you but still doing dirt. I guess you just have to figure out whether that person is genuine. I don't know you never know with people 🤷♀️ awesome video. 😊
I'm so sorry I didn't see this video years back... but hey, it's better late than never
You are seeing it at the right time dear. May be it would not have even sank years back if you did. God prunes us in our work with Him and we gradually become the light that He us called us to be.
I haven't listened yet but read the title and said "AMEN"! Continue to let the Lord use you/wife!
Ty Lisa and Pastor for your words of wisdom. I pray that ladies take heed. Call it a clue..?🤔. If you have to wait for a man to divorce his wife... He is a married man. Physical, emotional and financial separations does not make a man divorce. You deserve to be honored and respected. Don’t even get involved and if you do and you find out, run🙏🏽
So good to see mrs Blake
Loyalty, respect faithfulness I extended then It dawned on me 💡 I was a Secret for a reason , that feeling left me with some serious hurt , and validation as a person like I had no worth but god said I am worthy , yep I am worth so much more than that behaviour 💎
Can’t wait 🙌 thank you Pastor RC Blake’s , wow if this isn’t a word from the lord. I’m going through this right now. Thank you for all you do!
Just an amazing man of God.
Praise God you are so right on I been going through this with a man that only text mostly in the late hours of the night but says he loves me thank God for the Holy spirit
Be friends first, for a while before you really get serious. You will know what you need to know about him.
YOU both reminds me of Tammy Faye and her husband, you know who he is.
I’m so happy to hear from the Queen Mrs. Lisa along with her King dropping knowledge.. how wonderful🙏🏽
God bless you both. What a beautiful marriage. So much love and respect I see in you.
Thank you, First Lady, Lisa, for your message. I dealt with a so-called bishop who told me he was not with his wife, but wanted me to enter into a committed relationship with him. I did not fall for that lie, so I cut him off immediately. Come to find out later, he was only recently separated from his wife; yet, he was telling me God said I was his wife! The devil is liar! SMH! Thank God I was led by the Lord to cut this lying wonder off!
Yes i felt that...'its rarely you would have something secret thats ordained by God' Amennnnnnn.
I am so grateful for you bringing that to the forefront first lady and Pastor RC Blakes because a lot of people will try to run game and say that they are private WHEN all along they are trying to live a secret life👀💯🤦🏽♀️
I wish I had this knowledge 4 years ago before I entangled myself only to be a secret for that long. I forgive the broken part in me and we move on🙏🏾
NEVER ALLOW yourself to become anyone's secret. Usually if something is a secret something is wrong.
What a lovely couple you two are. She is a beautiful lady and a very calming spirit.
I listened to this twice. Thank you for sharing, such a great reminder.
To Pastor Blakes and to Lady Lisa Blakes you two are an inspiration as Husband and Wife in speaking this together for Married couples and Single Men and Women thank you for being transparent enough to Be an example spiritually and just Real life love this I have SHARED this to everyone I know!!!
Praise the Lord 🙏 1st
Thank you
Mr💕 Mrs R .C. Blake's JR.
it's a blessing to have you
👥 2 apart of my life .
And, many blessings 🙌 to you
👥Mr 💕 Mrs Blake's JR.
Very good. Just a few days ago, my wife and I was talking about the difference between secret and private. I was searching "Your sin will find you out" that led me to this video. Thank you.
Thank you Pastor RC Blakes & your beautiful wife, you are such a wonderful blessed Union
Thank you so much for this video, God always sends the right spiritual food, at the right time, thank 💞 you 🙏
Thank you Pastor and Lisa Blakes for sharing your wisdom on this topic. May God continue to bless you and your ministry.
Who is in the dark comes out the light eventually that’s why marriages break up it comes to ahead when after your divorce that you find out all these things
Wow the way they interact to each other with honesty, respect and love ,Lisa is free and lovely.Such a powerful couple 🎉
This is the 4th time I am watching this video. So much gems 💎