I am so thankful God is using you to reach women like me that want to serve God and I will do it alone if I have too. I will not be used anymore... thank you Bishop for doing what God says
I married a man that divorced me after I retired, was expecting me to support the household for the rest of my life. He was in love with my money more than he loved me. He actually did me a favor by filling for the divorce. God is with me He will never leave me. AMEN
A grown man who relies on a woman for support is not a man. The Bible says, " if a man doesn't work, that man doesn't eat." The divorce was a blessing in digustied
Yes, this describes my husband! My husband asked me 3 days after dating do I mind being a minister’s wife, then we were together EVERY single day and married exactly one year later. It’s been a BEAUTIFUL 26 years of marriage and we had never spent one married night apart until he was hospitalized for cancer treatment. He is in recovery now and we still love, value and honor each other. Our daughter is getting married in two weeks and I pray that her fiancé feels this way for her. It seems like he does! ❤️
A buddy of mine who is now in his late 60s told me stories about his parents who were married for quite a long time until they passed away. He told me that his dad was NEVER the type to say I love you or get mushy around her. However, he showed affection thru his actions. For example, Every morning while mom is getting ready for work as a school teacher, dad would make sure to get up earlier to clean the car from the morning dew, start the engine and turn the heater on so she doesn’t feel the early morning cold. He’s done that every day until she retired. It’s a Small gesture but leaves a lifetime memory filled with love & affection.
Please be careful ladies and gents because in the love bombing stage narcissist will want to be around you 24/7 as well. You must learn to decipher between healthy and narcissistic 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@wonderfullyrenee I learned that we "attract" narcissists because we self reject and not self partner. If we look introspectively we are treating ourselves like they treated us. I had abandonment issues.
Yes perfectly said. My nan never Value me he wants to find someone else not me for 15 years we know each other. He said he likes my company but no intention to marry me because he already married and had one daughter 25 years old but divorce 12 years. He got money house business his own. He makes good money . But when we go out he is so stingy. But because he help me going shopping drive to the supermarket and he lawn mower my front lawn. But he never he hide me to his mom and sister. I’m older with him 6years I’m 64. His 58. He wants to find a wife to gave a family to have children because his daughter to his ex wife he give it to his wife.. so he wants a woman to have a kids his 58 years old. His mother longing grandkids because her first granddaughter is in the ex wife of his son. And my ex boyfriend he said if he will get old no one will look after him because he got money. But I said to him I’m here to look after buoy he said I’m older with him 😢😢😢
I loveeeeee this!!! "When a man honors a woman properly, submission comes naturally"!!! It"s men out here thinking women just supposed to submit to them without any effort!
Reasons I’m so disobeying! Lol. I keep them in the bay and friend area! I need to really know them and will NOT kiss any guy until I know it’s a good possibility!!!! I’m super old fashioned in that respect! I might look another way but I’m super picky!
Amazing! Self reflection is so key but it's painful and not everyone has the spine to do it. May God Bless you n give you the wife you want and make you the husband she wants. Amen
When a man is serious: 1. He will respect her In every environment. 2: He'll be truthfull 3: He'll be a true man of God and will express his love like Jesus loves the church
Oh my God you described my husband to the tee. When we were dating, I walked to the car and he said baby don't touch that door. He never had to say that to me again. He opened the door for me each and every time. I know my baby loved me with his whole heart. I'm about to cry right now, just talking and thinking about him.
My husband did too. He opened every door, and when he didn't feel well, he send my son to do it. Yesterday marked his 8th year of passing. He set a new standard for my life going forward. I thank God for him.
“Too stupid to learn or doesn’t care enough to change”….wow, exactly my experience with my ex. After a year and a half of healing, I just started a dating an incredible man that really honors and values me…night and day from my previous relationship. Taking the time to heal and value myself was so worth it!!!
I love a man that constantly tells me he loves me and he wants me to be with him forever . How do I handle this on a daily basis , he says he loves me and has never touched me ❤😊. I do love him and values him too . How do I feel when he says he wants me to be his wife and he loves me forever . Am I wrong for not wanting to hear him daily when he says he wants to love me forever !
Use caution, ❤️🔥 🔥, to avoid mistakes that will cause mental or physical pain and suffering. 💔🙏🏽😇 There is apprehension; subconsciously, there is an awareness that nothing is confirmed or denied. Yet “ FEAR” causes an unpleasant emotion of uncertainty of (someone or something ) danger and is likely to cause pain or threats. Are you “FEARFUL” of the unknown❓ How well do you know the person, how often do the two of you communicate, and who is calling or texting who❓🫢😢🙏🏽🙏🏽 Step back, take some time for yourself by yourself; until you determine what's going on. Take care! 🥰 🙌🏽
This message is truly amazing. I’ve spent the last decade alone, because I refused to settle. I even cried out to God asking if he forgot about me. Fast forward to today, I met someone who loves, values and honors me. We talk about marriage all the time and we have made the decision to abstain from sex before marriage. I feel so blessed. It’s all about patience.
Yep, it's all about patience . God will reveal, open up other doors of life other than just the life of being married. I'm 60 and like you, have been thru multiple yrs of not being in a relationship. God the Father, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit is the ultimate relationship you need. They won't flip on ya or threaten to leave when it doesn't go her way. It's not for everyone anyway. If everyone were married, the world of people would be a boring place.
Currently on my season of singleness, preparing for who God has for me in due time. The man that will love me, value me, and honor me. ❤️ peace, love, and blessings for everyone watching.
WOW!!. 👀 😲🤷🏽♀️ Thank you. I enjoyed this. Now I see and know what to look for in a man as my future husband. He will be my 3rd husband. Lol Thx you. Listening from Houston,Texas. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 GOD Bless.
This was awesome teaching! God is so good! He brought this kind of man in my life! 1. He loves me 2. He values me 3. He honors me I never thought I would meet such a man. But I remained faithful to God in my season of singleness. I'm living an absintence life for over 5 years and now it's reward time! Thank you God for what you have done. Glory to God 🙌🏽
Same here just haven't managed to cross that finish line yet to the divorce. Narcissistic Sex Addicts are a different breed and I'm still navigating leaving him. Trying to save up some money so I can take care of myself for the first time ever. Congrats to u for getting out 😊
My cousin told me the cutest thing he did for his wife today. He said his wife had just got her teeth fixed. He said that he was making corn 🌽 He said he cut the corn off the cob and gave it to her. He said she teared up. Now that’s 🥰 Love ❤️
@@RCBlakesJr. They have 30 years in and they still act like “they still”. That’s a Tamia song 🎶 I have two male cousins that love ❤️ their wives for real, for real. My other cousin wife and him are high school sweet hearts. When his wife had cancer he stayed right there. We could not even cry around her. He did not want any negative energy around her. At all……These two cousins and having had a very good dad that Loved me makes/ made a difference. You may have had some frogs 🐸 but you know what a king 👑 looks like💯
I have to ask him to not leave me, and the moment I did, I devalued myself. I lost a piece of me, and I promised myself never to bow down to another man, but God. So stay true to that, and teach your daughter, niece, little cousin, any woman around this.
I cried once I really knew in my heart and in my mind that my ex of 4 years did not love me... the one that followed him didn't love me either. It's time to put down the man and pick up my self-respect honor , value and love me FIRST !
Thank you for this teaching. As a man, divorced, and now finally seeing God giving me a second chance at love and marriage, I used this as self-assessment. Highly appreciated.
Your videos helped me breakup with my ex boyfriend. A relationship that gave me so much anxiety and I knew I could do so much better. Your videos confirmed what I already knew in my gut and heart but kept stuffing down, which was making me sick. Thank-you so much 🇦🇺
OMG.......I am in tears...........I haven't cried this much in my entire life........... GOD BLESS YOU AND THANK YOU for opening my eyes that I am actually a good man
I’m so happy for you Sir! The world needs a ton of good men putting out valuable content like this about how to properly treat a woman if you aren’t doing it already on social media God bless you
'How does he make your spirit feel.. A man that is serious and a man that is healthy.. How does he make your spirit feel.. A man that is genuine.. A man that is sincere.. A man that is faithful' 🙏🏽 I receive
At this generation I think no Man now who is faithful and Value a woman this year of 2008.! Even he is a man of God or a RELIGIOUS MAN BECAUSE THEY CAN EASILY CHANGE THEIR MIND AND EASILY FOR TEMPTATION. MY EX IS A RELIGIOUS PERSON BUT HIS A LIAR AND CANNOT TRUSTED. His very secretive person Quite but there is a plan to leave me that’s why even you are a very woman kind honest they still not content with their partner because some man get bored they SAME FOOD THEY EAT THEY WANT DIFFERENT RECIPE. Different kind of food to taste
IT IS VERY IMPORTANT THAT MEN ARE TAUGHT BY THEIR OWN FATHER'S HOW TO TREAT THEIR FUTURE WIFE THE FATHER'S ARE TRULY MISSING FROM THE HOMES TODAY !😭🙏🏾❤
I want to say thank you for sharing the words and value of a man. It really taught me something never settle for less know your value. You are also right sometimes we pushes a person away who really trying to show the principal of love and we misses out on our blessings.
God led me to this message and I am so glad. I have been divorced for 30 years after being married for 12. I now know why. I have always respected our Black Nubian Queens but Pastor Blakes has shown what I haven't always done. I realize it is ONLY when a man understands he must: 1. Love 2. Value 3. Honor his Queen, then he can proceed to the next level. It's not about the sheets, it's about finding a wife for life!💖💯
Well I sure stumbled upon this message by divine providence. Not only was it needed but also encouraging. Never too late to get that Queen thing going on....for myself.
This message opened my eyes to see why my relationships didn't work out. I didn't see the signs and didn't realize I wasn't being taken seriously. I so appreciate this teaching. Thank you
This is good to hear and keep in our minds.I was in a relationship of 3 months but I can’t see the love in it .because all what the guy wants is sex and move on with his life
This was a awesome Vedio very serious message it was very important I will share it with my daughters may the Lord continue to bless u and your family and all the New Home churches
Pastor Blake's says..."Not sheets, for the night, but a wife for LIFE!" Yes, LORD! This is some real conversation. I wish this taught to me in my 20s/30s, I would have not made some of the choices that I did.
@@mzjriley2012 ...In some ways yes, but many times, I continued to repeat the same sin. One day, I was so disgusted with myself it made me sickened to my stomach. I feel flat on my face and cried out to Jesus. I am thankful to say that I have not slept with a man out of marriage since 2017. It's not a very long time, and temptation is always presented, but God! He is a mighty deliverer and my soul sure does feel better.
Agreed sis! At least we’re in the mental and spiritual space now where we’re choosing to learn these things on our own and make better decisions moving forward. Honestly, after all the crap you, I and plenty of other women experienced in the past, we learned what NOT to tolerate. Still valuable lessons. Good luck and blessings to all of us💕
@@BrittaniMeShay ....Absolutely Sis! I can't even allow myself to go through the emotional stress anymore. I asked GOD one night to please help me keep my legs closed (just being transparent) because I was so tired and drained spiritually, physically and mentally, looking for love from ALL the wrong men. Now, I am so thankful that I am not in that space anymore and it has become so much easier to say "No, I'm good!" And mean, it too.
I miss my husband so bad. He passed away May 2020. He was just best husband ever. I don't think I will be able to date again, because I would be comparing him to every man.
I was raised by both parents. My parents have been happily married for 52 years. I was taught these principles. So many men I have encountered were not. The world would lead you to believe that you are crazy for having these beliefs. Thank you for reinforcing the truth. I need this today.
The one about anger touched me the most. My dad was abusive and walked out growing up. Then I would choose men who were the same way for so many years. Now that is the biggest turn off. I want to see somebody who is kind and genuine and treats everybody around him with kindness. Somebody who never acts when angry. Once you see them angry you see the true person.
I was referred to you by a gracious woman at work. This video let's me know my abstinence has not been in vain and that I am on the right track and also that my husband is searching for me as hard as I am patiently waiting for him. God bless you Man of God. You and I'm sure your lovely wife❤
Interestingly enough, this teaching was uploaded on my birthday. After being married 45 years, during your instruction, I evaluated my relationship with my husband and remembered our beginning. I can truly say that Michael loved me, valued, and honored me. It is the Lord's doing, and it is marvelous in our eyes because my husband has constant in his care for me. I pray that those who are considering a relationship or in one, will receive this valuable information.
Mrs. Davis, I am soooo elated to hear that u had a wonderful marriage....it is 😀👃💖👌 truly a blessing from God....sometimes, it is the little things that makes all the difference n a relationship....I truly hope 🤞 that u two have 45 plus blissful yrs to come..🙏💕💖😄🙏💯🌹😇🤗💙🖐️
I like how pastor Blake's is focusing on energy. I once dated a man that was very charming, he portrayed like he cared and supported me but only if I gave him my peace in return. I found myself not even breathing at times while in his company. His energy was bad! I had to pick myself up and get out of there.
Oooohhhh myyyy God! HOW?!? I promise I never said this aloud because I knew no one would get it. But YES. I was so tired ...it's hard work holding your breath Chile. So glad to have done a Toni Braxton - breathe again.
Thank you to both RCBlakes and to Lisa. I pray that all the women here will truly find God Ordained husband's who truly love each of us. Thank you again Bishop RCBlakes Jr. All women need to hear this. Amen
I'm hearing your message loud and clear. It is painful because I have never experienced this either in my marriage or in my 18 year relationship with the father of my two children (we were not married). Through your videos and your anointing, the HS helped me to finally cut this soul-tie. But it is hard to see that I have lived this long (I'm 54 with 14 and 12 year old sons) and have never yet known firsthand what you are telling us here. Thank you for being so strong and loving and pouring this Father Energy/Love into all of us out here listening to you. You have made all the difference for many of us.❤
So true! I had to value myself before i knew how a Man is supposed to value me. I know the difference from running game and a man that really honor and value me. I am single but i know waiting on my husband from God is worth the wait. Thank you and your wife. Your book Queenology helped me out a lot.
I just have to say thank you so much for acknowledging that manipulating a woman into bed under the pretense that the relationship is going somewhere is in fact abuse.
God, I thank you. I was married for 39 years my Husband transitioned a few years ago. I spent 39 years wondering if he loved ME (I was broken in my childhood in multiple ways) or did he settle because I could give him children. He came from a large loving family. This video truly blessed and clarified his love for me. He truly valued and loved me. One of the last things he told our sons hours before he transitioned was “take care of your Momma” Conversations he had with our children as they begin to entered adulthood and search for their companions let me know also that not only did he value me but also honored me by using me as an example for qualities their future mates should have. This video gave me so much joy and peace🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼. Thank you so much
Janis Im sorry for your loss. I'm curious because I went to high school (I believe) with someone with the same last name as yours. Its a unique name. I was raised in Los Angeles but lived other places too. I wanna say the first name we called him Lonnie?
This is so powerful but made me sad at the same time. I am going through a divorce and resonate with what I always thought would happen during the marriage - but it didn't. A healthy relationship is so nice. Those of you who are looking for a lifetime partner, please listen to the Bishop. God is using him for this season.
Pastor, thank you so much for your ministry! You have made this brother become a LOT more aware of his KINGLY duties as a Black man this turbulent world we live in.
Thank you, Pastor Blakes! You are reaching and touching more “kinds” of women than you realize. I am 62, widowed twice and have recently become engaged to the man who will be my 3rd husband. This talk reassured me that he is a quality man and that I am not wasting my time.Here’s to a beautiful future!!
Let me guess: You own your own home, planning to Retire in about 3 years or so, or you have a LOT of Insurance $$ from being widowed twice. The 3rd man may have hit the Jackpot!!! 🤔
I am standing in agreement with you sis. Pastor Blakes is a Godsend indeed and he has great teaching about relationships, especially for us queens Amen!!!!
With tears in my eyes I say in truth BISHOP & wife you have become father & mother to some who were without your teaching. You are touching so many lives.
You are so true. Most of these men behave like they were not taught how to respect and honor a woman . The thing about men is that they invest their time in different women . So they don’t know which one to marry , so they end up hurting one or several women that they were telling the same thing. May advice to women is ask God to direct you.🙏
*Understanding the signs of a man's seriousness is vital for building a solid relationship. Let's encourage open communication and create an environment of trust.*
I said I would never get married again , but I met someone after being single for the past few years that made me change my whole outlook. He is something I never expected! I was so hurt from my first marriage and it turned me into a monster until I met him.
@@claudettejackson9676 the man should always have great pride in providing for the others; the woman should always harbor great pride in recognizing the efforts of the man; Should there be children, they should always honor with immeasurable pride the Center of the Family, the Mother; And, with very acute affection and recognition, harbor great pride in the Dad. This is the strongest, invincible Pair, And the Unified, invincible Family. Even in the face of the worst challenges. Even as they lose each other through time and old age.
@@sharirichards4689 Yes,✓ yet never be downtrodden by the woes that exist. Strive for it. No matter the outcomes of unpredictable Life. It must be done. You are the One.
I love how he explained to honor first then submission comes naturally!!!!! That’s the best!!!!! Way I ever heard the Bible explained!!!!! With real life!!!
If he truly love, value and honor you, then he would work and provide for his family. He will be more concerned about your needs rather than his own. Unfortunately, many boys were never taught how to be a good man by example. Maturity doesn't automatically come with age. Most boys are raised by females in single parent households in the black community. A boy needs a good man, in most cases, to teach him how to be a man. I'm not putting down sisters trying to raise their sons alone, I applaud them. However God's order is the best: love, marriage, sex and babies. We got it twisted.
I was in this situation and felt the man was weak, but something deep inside told me he was the one. I was just coming out of a 5 year very unhealthy relationship and was broken from that. Nevertheless, I’m Glad I listened to that something.
This was just the cherry on top of CONFIRMATION about my relationship!! I felt he was God sent because he is so different then any other ive experienced BUT this checked off all of the things he consists of.. SO patient, he covers me, prays with me, desires purity until marriage etc etc. I have never in my life met such a calm, kind, Christ like, vessel of God. Thank you for this list!!!
I definitely know I haven’t met him yet. I’m waiting on God to send him. I can’t believe the things I have taken over the years and I’m not doing it anymore. I’m tired of being hurt. I know God has a man with these qualities for me and more.🙏🏼😭❤️
Gurrrrl....me too movement. I'm introducing the new me to an old boo Right now. Lol This new me feels good. They can keep thier empty dreams. I have no more tears to shed. When God sends my earhly King he is going to be one of the most blessed, happy, joyful men in the world!!!! Gurrrl won't He do it PRAISE GOD!!!
I two was married for 28 years. I realized that he gave me what he was capable of giving, lying and cheating. I emerged from that married with my self esteem in tact. I'll always love him but I just couldn't give that man all of my life. It was one skeezer after another. I ended up taking two blood pressure meds, stomach medications, and meds for nervousness. I met my current husband and didn't look back. My ex cries a lot about how he misses me and I believe him. I always change the subject. I'm free praise the Lord I'm free, no longer bound, I've got no chains holding me.
32 yrs for me. Used and taken advantage of direspected, liar, fake, always trying to impress the public, a Mr think that he walks on water. Not faithful, womanizer in church, on job etc. Not a real man.
This message made me sad 😞 because I recognized that I had a man that was doing all that a man in love do, like you described him. And I made him pull back because I sabotaged the relationship with my insecurities and fear of rejection. I learned the lesson and I'm learning so much with your preaching, thank you for doing this for all of us God bless you!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
❤ LOVE brings VALUE THAT EQUALS HONOR FOR A LIFETIME. GOD BLESS YOU R.C. BLAKES! SO MANY LEVELS OF MARRIAGE COUNSELING EXPOUNDED IN 3 SIGNS. . .WHAT A MESSAGE FOR THE 21ST CENTURY GENERATION. ❤ 😍✌ LVH FROM BOTH INDIVIDUALS.
OMG! This has happened to me in the past few days. A man who I just started seeing made it very clear that he wanted me to be his lady. He was very clear about that. It was strangest thing I’ve ever experienced in my life because it didn’t seem real. How could he be so sure?? I made the decision to begin a relationship with him. So many thing that you have mentioned in this video have occurred when I’m with him. This video was “clarification” for me that this real and his intention is good. Thank you so much.
This was on point. Thank you Pastor. I think the guy I’m seeing is displaying these characteristics. I don’t think he loves me yet, but values, respects & honors me. He opens doors, we talk on the phone for hours about everything. We’ve been dating for 3 months & haven’t had sex yet. He’s not pushy & we seem to both want the same thing which is marriage. I’ve never connected with someone on all levels the way I do him. Physically, emotionally, mentally & spiritually. I don’t wanna loose him or mess things up. Thank you for this video.
I really understand, first hand experience- he’s my husband. That’s how we started building a genuine friendship first - didn’t really see the relationship becoming more . I married my best friendship and we developed a companionship.
Thank you Bishop🙏 I am older than most of your Queens but the lessons I have learned from you have changed my life ! I will never ever settle again thanks to God & your teachings! Don’t know if I will ever marry again after 2 useless marriages. I give myself a pass , sort of for the first one that lasted 30 years . But I should have known better with the recent one that lasted 7 years but I ignored all the red flags 🚩 yes I divorced them but so many wasted years! Except for my 4 grown children! The rest was a sad disaster but I know better now! God Bless you for all that you do! It is well 🙏🙏❤️
Dating a wonderful man right now. He is displaying all the things Pastor Blakes is saying. I’m very pleased and inspired. I listen to Pastor’s messages with my teenage daughter, so she will be able to discern properly and have the ability to choose a mate properly. Thank you for this message 🙏🏾
Agreed! Men love beautiful woman. God made us the way he did because he made man the way he did. Woman also want to be with a man who is attractive. Does he have to be a perfect 10? Absolutely not but you shouldn't want to throw up in your mouth a little bit when thinking about being intimate with him. I dated a man who treated me like a true Queen but I was repulsed by him physically. Men ain't doing that...getting involved with a woman that he's not attracted to.
This philosophy of marriage is something I wish I had heard before getting married. It also makes me ask "How do I treat my partner?" I think RC Blakes should title this lesson "Treat Each Other with Honor and Value, Accept No Less in a Relationship." I am sharing these lessons with all the young adults in my family because they can't learn this from anywhere else. Thank you, RC Blakes and thank you Lisa for your part in this.
Thank you so much! This Is exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve been sent a husband but because I haven’t had someone like this in 10 plus years it was odd to me. Now I know it’s me that needs to accept my blessing. ♥️
Thank you for having a real man talk I want a young guy that myself I've been through hell and back and tonight has another listen to you he wants to call the police to do more damage in my life God no I don't need this I need somebody to kiss the understanding that I could talk to I will keep up for it one day God Will supply my knee amen
i met such men several times but and rejected because i married another who i thought is good was just attracted to me sexually nothing serious beyond that cause he is not cooperative but again he doesnt allow me to quit either so am stuck
Sir... I want to personally "Thank You." After hearing this message, after 2 marriages, and break-ups here and there, I truly realize that I have never been loved, valued, and honored. I pray that at 61 years old, one day God will put that real man in my Life. 🙏🏽😭💯🙆🏽♀️
At 62 I met my husband. I married him at 63. I too was married three times before him. Once at 19, and twice in my thirties. One lasted 10 months, another 3 years and last 28 years. My 9th anniversary was August 31. He is 12 years younger than me. He is a good man, he is not a perfect man, and I know he loves me. He pays most of the bills, does all of the driving, is always home although he doesn't check all of my boxes, but he does the best he can. I appreciate all that he does. I didn't come on to him he found me and not in a club. I do believe what the Minister said about honoring me. God will send you your Boez.
At 65 years old I have never married (lots of the wrong ones), and I am praying that before I take my last breath, the Lord will lead me to HIS choice for both of us.
Thank you so much!! I knew I met my husband when he came to me. He is everything you describe in a man. This confirmed everything for me. I appreciate this message.
Pastor Blake's thank you God bless you for this word of enlighten: When a man is serious about a woman , he devotes his time, energy , honours, value,and loves you
I know a friend, Radcliffe. He travels far to help people with things like painting, and other DIY tasks. Most of these people are women. He has mostly women as friends and many. He gives his time and energy where necessary and especially when asked. However he is not seeking to love, value and honour these women. In fact he is kinda dating a lawyer on one of the islands right now but is still in love with the female friend (L) that he was dating in the UK before. The lawyer asked him out. He didn't tell the lawyer about L, he didn't break off with L, and on his return to the UK he is having very close relations with L. He has been married twice before and he is looking for wife #3. He tells L about the lawyer, rings her everyday and most times on video. Does he honour, value and love either of these women? He stated that he's prepared to dabble.
This is confirmation of exactly what I'm seeing now, is not God's desire for my life. My destiny is too great to fool around with a man, not sent by God. That you RC Blakes for breaking it down!
After watching this I’m proud of the decision I made to part ways with my ex husband all the above things that has been said he used to do it and I came at the point where I felt comfortable to accommodate them later on I realized I was tolerating a narcissist,trust me running away from toxic marriage takes courage and determination,I’m now healing and embracing my purpose whether I get another one or not all I know my life never deserves to suffer
I’m not a Christian but I listen to you. You teach in a very calm way other teachers aren’t doing. They yell, harangue and teach in a very condescending way. Continue doing what you’re doing. More power for high value evolved black men. I wasn’t raised by one, didn’t see many around me when growing up but I know they exist and they are in plenty.
Totally agree. All the other so called teachers are so angry and condescending. Men and women. Found myself taking that in spirit. I didn’t like it. I like how he is saying similar things but it is in such a calm manner and it soothes my spirit.💕
Thank you for sharing this knowledge as some of us don't have a foundation of what we should be looking for in a great spouse... I think my husband just found me a few days ago! He's actively showing these signs. I'm excited & prayerful of what's to come! 🙏🏾🥰💕
Bishop you gave me a word of confirmation this morning. I receive it. I once met a man that you're speaking of in so many words. Once I relocated and was on his turf, everything changed. He flipped the script. He was deceitful. I called him out...a long story short...the relationship ended. I try to be encouraged to wait on the man you described. I am losing faith that there is that man for me. Asking prayer for me in Jesus name.
Geretha, Im 65 years young and never married. Im still waiting on that special someone. Nevertherless I continue to pray that i remain the healthy lifestyle i have. Amen to ur comment above
Was with a man who displayed all those qualities but was verbally abusive and on few occasions it got physical. As I waited and professed my faith and total trust in GOD, he got more disrespectful and verbally abusive attempting to demean and bring me down as I kept the faith and spoke love, life, and health he got more abusive to the point where GOD intervened and rescued me. It is possible for a man to show those attributes you spoke of but if you wait patiently on GOD the real man or beast will manifest. So please ladies wait and trust GOD in the process before falling for the counterfeit Love of the enemy. Thank you pastor for sharing with us ladies, what to look for. GOD BLESS YOU 🙌 🙏 ❤
Thank you for this message. By listening to this message made me a stronger real woman and I ended my relationship. It’s the value part that got me focused. I really needed to hear this and I’m taking all this information in. When God blesses me with a Godly man he will love, value, and honor me. Command respect instead of demanding it, big difference.
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I am so thankful God is using you to reach women like me that want to serve God and I will do it alone if I have too. I will not be used anymore... thank you Bishop for doing what God says
Thank you so much for being such an amazing spiritual father to us all. What does it mean when I constantly see the time 9:11 in the am and pm?
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When a man is serious about a woman:
1. He Loves You
2. He Values You and,
3. He Honors You
Thanks for this summary girl!👍🏾
Beautiful
Appreciate this! 🙏🏾
Thanks u saved our time 😊😊😊
Awww!!!
"When a man values a woman, he will not keep doing stupid things that will sabotage the relationship" you said a word there
I've never had all 3 of these attributes in a man. I have not been interested in a man in years. I'm I broken ?
am I broken
@@vickiedorsett1502 you are healing
Yes. He definitely Preached.
Facts
I married a man that divorced me after I retired, was expecting me to support the household for the rest of my life. He was in love with my money more than he loved me. He actually did me a favor by filling for the divorce. God is with me He will never leave me. AMEN
Amen
Amen sister 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Good riddance 👋🏾
A grown man who relies on
A grown man who relies on a woman for support is not a man. The Bible says, " if a man doesn't work, that man doesn't eat." The divorce was a blessing in digustied
Yes, this describes my husband! My husband asked me 3 days after dating do I mind being a minister’s wife, then we were together EVERY single day and married exactly one year later. It’s been a BEAUTIFUL 26 years of marriage and we had never spent one married night apart until he was hospitalized for cancer treatment. He is in recovery now and we still love, value and honor each other. Our daughter is getting married in two weeks and I pray that her fiancé feels this way for her. It seems like he does! ❤️
Awesome
Praise God. Your comments made me smile 😃. I am trusting God for a man who honors God and me. Of course I will give the same honor 🎖 back to them.
That’s beautiful
Amen and amen
Beautiful 💜
A buddy of mine who is now in his late 60s told me stories about his parents who were married for quite a long time until they passed away.
He told me that his dad was NEVER the type to say I love you or get mushy around her.
However, he showed affection thru his actions.
For example, Every morning while mom is getting ready for work as a school teacher, dad would make sure to get up earlier to clean the car from the morning dew, start the engine and turn the heater on so she doesn’t feel the early morning cold.
He’s done that every day until she retired.
It’s a Small gesture but leaves a lifetime memory filled with love & affection.
Wow. What a special love.❤️
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Mine is exactly like that..Actions speak louder
@Sheila Sweeney 🤣🤣🤣 no chill
That is so sweet!!
When a man honors you he has a heart to provide financially.This is ever so true!
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Please be careful ladies and gents because in the love bombing stage narcissist will want to be around you 24/7 as well. You must learn to decipher between healthy and narcissistic 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@ Brittany B. You definitely made a great statement. Such people are dangerous. They can pretend better than Hollywood actors.
@@wonderfullyrenee Sounds like my story ☹
100% sis❤
@@wonderfullyrenee I learned that we "attract" narcissists because we self reject and not self partner. If we look introspectively we are treating ourselves like they treated us. I had abandonment issues.
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A man takes time to find out what makes his woman happy. 💎💎💎
YES
No a man knows to keep what is already happy happy and he adds to that account
Amen
Very true, valuable,great messages ty
Yes sis
When a man values you it's EXCLUSIVE and PUBLIC💥
Yes perfectly said. My nan never Value me he wants to find someone else not me for 15 years we know each other. He said he likes my company but no intention to marry me because he already married and had one daughter 25 years old but divorce 12 years. He got money house business his own. He makes good money . But when we go out he is so stingy. But because he help me going shopping drive to the supermarket and he lawn mower my front lawn. But he never he hide me to his mom and sister. I’m older with him 6years I’m 64. His 58. He wants to find a wife to gave a family to have children because his daughter to his ex wife he give it to his wife.. so he wants a woman to have a kids his 58 years old. His mother longing grandkids because her first granddaughter is in the ex wife of his son. And my ex boyfriend he said if he will get old no one will look after him because he got money. But I said to him I’m here to look after buoy he said I’m older with him 😢😢😢
@@BernadethBautista-pj3hlll
@@BernadethBautista-pj3hlRUN.
“When a man values a woman, he wants to make it exclusive and PUBLIC”
He"d Wearing, both hearts, on his, sleeves.....!
He is
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This will PREACH!!
You got that right-make it Public!
I loveeeeee this!!! "When a man honors a woman properly, submission comes naturally"!!! It"s men out here thinking women just supposed to submit to them without any effort!
Hahaha Seriously!
Reasons I’m so disobeying! Lol. I keep them in the bay and friend area! I need to really know them and will NOT kiss any guy until I know it’s a good possibility!!!! I’m super old fashioned in that respect! I might look another way but I’m super picky!
@@Portia620 As you should be! My sentiments exactly!
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AMENNNNNNNNNN!!! AUTHENTIC!!!! YES!!!!!
I watched this video as a man to see where I lacked in my relationship and I see that I still need time to grow up and what et takes to be a real man
Amazing! Self reflection is so key but it's painful and not everyone has the spine to do it. May God Bless you n give you the wife you want and make you the husband she wants. Amen
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At least you see it and not blind to your short comings
Awesome job. You're taking the first steps to improve yourself. Reflection is key 🗝️
So much respect for this!
When a man is serious: 1. He will respect her In every environment. 2: He'll be truthfull 3: He'll be a true man of God and will express his love like Jesus loves the church
Oh my God you described my husband to the tee. When we were dating, I walked to the car and he said baby don't touch that door. He never had to say that to me again. He opened the door for me each and every time. I know my baby loved me with his whole heart. I'm about to cry right now, just talking and thinking about him.
Lots of luvv, hugg and prayers.. God give you strength ❤🤗🙏
Deepest Condolences. God bless you. 😥😇
Awesome
My husband did too. He opened every door, and when he didn't feel well, he send my son to do it. Yesterday marked his 8th year of passing. He set a new standard for my life going forward. I thank God for him.
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“Too stupid to learn or doesn’t care enough to change”….wow, exactly my experience with my ex. After a year and a half of healing, I just started a dating an incredible man that really honors and values me…night and day from my previous relationship. Taking the time to heal and value myself was so worth it!!!
❤love this I am waiting for my purpose partner
Congratulations on your healing. 🎊 healing a year so far the best place to be , you learn to weed out the foolishness
I love a man that constantly tells me he loves me and he wants me to be with him forever . How do I handle this on a daily basis , he says he loves me and has never touched me ❤😊. I do love him and values him too .
How do I feel when he says he wants me to be his wife and he loves me forever . Am I wrong for not wanting to hear him daily when he says he wants to love me forever !
@@sharonmathis-washington3455he is gaming you
Use caution, ❤️🔥 🔥, to avoid mistakes that will cause mental or physical pain and suffering. 💔🙏🏽😇 There is apprehension; subconsciously, there is an awareness that nothing is confirmed or denied. Yet “ FEAR” causes an unpleasant emotion of uncertainty of (someone or something ) danger and is likely to cause pain or threats. Are you “FEARFUL” of the unknown❓ How well do you know the person, how often do the two of you communicate, and who is calling or texting who❓🫢😢🙏🏽🙏🏽 Step back, take some time for yourself by yourself; until you determine what's going on. Take care! 🥰 🙌🏽
When my brotha said just wanting sex from a woman is abuse!! I felt that!
Definitely a word that I needed to hear
This message is truly amazing. I’ve spent the last decade alone, because I refused to settle. I even cried out to God asking if he forgot about me. Fast forward to today, I met someone who loves, values and honors me. We talk about marriage all the time and we have made the decision to abstain from sex before marriage. I feel so blessed. It’s all about patience.
Amen that's beautiful testimony God bless you both I know probably married by now Congratulations God is on time God
Congrats 👏🏽🎉🙌🏽 and Blessings! 🧡
Yep, it's all about patience .
God will reveal, open up other doors of life other than just the life of being married.
I'm 60 and like you, have been thru multiple yrs of not being in a relationship.
God the Father, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit is the ultimate relationship you need. They won't flip on ya or threaten to leave when it doesn't go her way.
It's not for everyone anyway. If everyone were married, the world of people would be a boring place.
Amen 🙏🏽
Amen!
Amen....a good man doesn't let a woman make all the sacrifices...😍
Omg yesss!
In that order 🙏💙💯
Currently on my season of singleness, preparing for who God has for me in due time. The man that will love me, value me, and honor me. ❤️ peace, love, and blessings for everyone watching.
Yes I await this man as well if it is Gods will only :) ❤️🙏
WOW!!. 👀 😲🤷🏽♀️ Thank you. I enjoyed this. Now I see and know what to look for in a man as my future husband. He will be my 3rd husband. Lol Thx you. Listening from Houston,Texas. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 GOD Bless.
Im right there with u sis❤
Likewise ⚘
Same. You are beautiful, I’m sure he is on his way.
This was awesome teaching!
God is so good! He brought this kind of man in my life!
1. He loves me
2. He values me
3. He honors me
I never thought I would meet such a man.
But I remained faithful to God in my season of singleness. I'm living an absintence life for over 5 years and now it's reward time! Thank you God for what you have done. Glory to God 🙌🏽
Make sure he puts a ring on your finger & meets you at the end of the aisle. Don't bend, don't compromise. Congrats!
This is AWESOME!
Congratulations... I'm in my waiting today🙇🏽♀️
Sounds like a match made in heaven!
Am happy for you,may it be the same for me and others!!..
‘there is a gentleness even in his anger’
Oh God. This is the key
Truthfully true! ❤️
❤❤❤❤Amen
Well this was him but he still sucked and was manipulative
@@sofftpeachy4955😮😢
Thank you Pastor Blakes. I listened from a man's point of view to make sure I'm on point and intentional with the woman I'm pursuing.
Bless you for wanting to learn what women need.
I sooooo respect your comment. I hope it work for you guys. I also hope she’s as equally beautiful as you are handsome.
@@ms.gracefullybroken8724 Thank you for your kind words. 🙏
@@quietstorm1176 my pleasure 😘
Wonderful. God bless you my bro.
I was neither loved, honored, valued, or respected and sacrificing was all my responsibility married to an abusive ex I finally divorced.
I'm happy for you Nancy ❤️
Good for you ! Stay strong .
Same here just haven't managed to cross that finish line yet to the divorce. Narcissistic Sex Addicts are a different breed and I'm still navigating leaving him. Trying to save up some money so I can take care of myself for the first time ever. Congrats to u for getting out 😊
I'm happy for you
Congratulations. Be excited for your new journey 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I also believe a man that is truly interested will ask about my parents, my childhood and how I was raised.
My cousin told me the cutest thing he did for his wife today. He said his wife had just got her teeth fixed. He said that he was making corn 🌽 He said he cut the corn off the cob and gave it to her. He said she teared up. Now that’s 🥰 Love ❤️
And her response to that act of love will make him go to the end of the world for her.
This is little conscience acts of love, we women loves to the end of the world...this is AWESOME!
Wow this is so true thank you pastor for this Word! Amen
@@RCBlakesJr. They have 30 years in and they still act like “they still”. That’s a Tamia song 🎶 I have two male cousins that love ❤️ their wives for real, for real. My other cousin wife and him are high school sweet hearts. When his wife had cancer he stayed right there. We could not even cry around her. He did not want any negative energy around her. At all……These two cousins and having had a very good dad that Loved me makes/ made a difference. You may have had some frogs 🐸 but you know what a king 👑 looks like💯
@@RCBlakesJr.
Indeed Sir ! Yes, yes Indeed!
I’ve done lots of dumb things In my life with horrible men, but never in life would I ever get on my knee and ask a man FOR ANYTHING!
Agreed!... 😁Thanks for the laughter😂
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I have to ask him to not leave me, and the moment I did, I devalued myself. I lost a piece of me, and I promised myself never to bow down to another man, but God.
So stay true to that, and teach your daughter, niece, little cousin, any woman around this.
FACTS
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I cried for days, when I realized my ex didn't respect me just by his actions.
You must respect yourself first. Remember. You teach people how to treat you!!
I cried once I really knew in my heart and in my mind that my ex of 4 years did not love me... the one that followed him didn't love me either. It's time to put down the man and pick up my self-respect honor , value and love me FIRST !
He never lets you do all of the sacrificing. 💎💎💎
That’s powerful. That’s something I needed to know because it’s relative to what I’m going through & how I’m feeling more & more.
He never lets you do ANY SACRIFICING cause then he would pay a big big price and he doesn't want that
👏 wow
That's good Thank u
So good. This allows women to confirm what we already felt.
Thank you for this teaching. As a man, divorced, and now finally seeing God giving me a second chance at love and marriage, I used this as self-assessment. Highly appreciated.
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Good to hear this 💥🙏🏼💪🏼🕺🏾
Second Chance Hey 🌷
Same here brotha. I’ve grown so much since my divorce and relying on the creator from here on out to align me with my queen.
@@king_7567 I wish you well
Your videos helped me breakup with my ex boyfriend. A relationship that gave me so much anxiety and I knew I could do so much better. Your videos confirmed what I already knew in my gut and heart but kept stuffing down, which was making me sick. Thank-you so much 🇦🇺
@Renee cotty like sick physically?
That’s deep
Same
Same
OMG.......I am in tears...........I haven't cried this much in my entire life........... GOD BLESS YOU AND THANK YOU for opening my eyes that I am actually a good man
I’m so happy for you Sir! The world needs a ton of good men putting out valuable content like this about how to properly treat a woman if you aren’t doing it already on social media God bless you
Hallelujah
You would be an even better man if u choose good women over trophy women
@@Thaartofbeauty ???
That's solid, God bless you
'How does he make your spirit feel.. A man that is serious and a man that is healthy.. How does he make your spirit feel.. A man that is genuine.. A man that is sincere.. A man that is faithful' 🙏🏽 I receive
Amen so do I
At this generation I think no Man now who is faithful and Value a woman this year of 2008.! Even he is a man of God or a RELIGIOUS MAN BECAUSE THEY CAN EASILY CHANGE THEIR MIND AND EASILY FOR TEMPTATION. MY EX IS A RELIGIOUS PERSON BUT HIS A LIAR AND CANNOT TRUSTED. His very secretive person Quite but there is a plan to leave me that’s why even you are a very woman kind honest they still not content with their partner because some man get bored they SAME FOOD THEY EAT THEY WANT DIFFERENT RECIPE. Different kind of food to taste
12 years ...still a girlfriend GOD sent me here 🙌🏽 I needed this word
Pray u get the ring soon 12 years so long
Probably move on, not accepting a ring….too many years without honor…..
@@JoannA-sweetly true
Hes waiting for mrs right while having you as his pacifier.
Run! You're worth more than that! 🤗
IT IS VERY IMPORTANT THAT MEN ARE TAUGHT BY THEIR OWN FATHER'S HOW TO TREAT THEIR FUTURE WIFE THE FATHER'S ARE TRULY MISSING FROM THE HOMES TODAY !😭🙏🏾❤
How great of teaching I have been blest with two great husbands who behaved and lived like this. Twice now a widow are blessed mary
Well said!
Father has no clue either
Pùu .He needs to be taught first
That's a very good statement true
I want to say thank you for sharing the words and value of a man. It really taught me something never settle for less know your value. You are also right sometimes we pushes a person away who really trying to show the principal of love and we misses out on our blessings.
God led me to this message and I am so glad. I have been divorced for 30 years after being married for 12. I now know why. I have always respected our Black Nubian Queens but Pastor Blakes has shown what I haven't always done. I realize it is ONLY when a man understands he must:
1. Love
2. Value
3. Honor
his Queen, then he can proceed to the next level. It's not about the sheets, it's about finding a wife for life!💖💯
Thanks you soooo much for this word. I really enjoyed this word.
Yes God led me also to this Message . Thanks you sooo much I needed to hear this.
Well I sure stumbled upon this message by divine providence. Not only was it needed but also encouraging. Never too late to get that Queen thing going on....for myself.
Amen not abuse you beat hold a gun to your head 23 yrs together 😥 how do men say they love God when they abuse a Lady?
thank you for your message today .
This message opened my eyes to see why my relationships didn't work out. I didn't see the signs and didn't realize I wasn't being taken seriously. I so appreciate this teaching. Thank you
Yhh..this actually happened at time’s,I think the best way is prayers
This is good to hear and keep in our minds.I was in a relationship of 3 months but I can’t see the love in it .because all what the guy wants is sex and move on with his life
This was a awesome Vedio very serious message it was very important I will share it with my daughters may the Lord continue to bless u and your family and all the New Home churches
Pastor Blake's says..."Not sheets, for the night, but a wife for LIFE!" Yes, LORD! This is some real conversation. I wish this taught to me in my 20s/30s, I would have not made some of the choices that I did.
O ju
You needed those choices to balance out your life and who you are today
@@mzjriley2012 ...In some ways yes, but many times, I continued to repeat the same sin. One day, I was so disgusted with myself it made me sickened to my stomach. I feel flat on my face and cried out to Jesus. I am thankful to say that I have not slept with a man out of marriage since 2017. It's not a very long time, and temptation is always presented, but God! He is a mighty deliverer and my soul sure does feel better.
Agreed sis! At least we’re in the mental and spiritual space now where we’re choosing to learn these things on our own and make better decisions moving forward. Honestly, after all the crap you, I and plenty of other women experienced in the past, we learned what NOT to tolerate. Still valuable lessons. Good luck and blessings to all of us💕
@@BrittaniMeShay ....Absolutely Sis! I can't even allow myself to go through the emotional stress anymore. I asked GOD one night to please help me keep my legs closed (just being transparent) because I was so tired and drained spiritually, physically and mentally, looking for love from ALL the wrong men. Now, I am so thankful that I am not in that space anymore and it has become so much easier to
say "No, I'm good!" And mean, it too.
I miss my husband so bad. He passed away May 2020. He was just best husband ever. I don't think I will be able to date again, because I would be comparing him to every man.
So sorry for your loss. May his soul rest in peace and may you see him again in heaven.
You'll be together again .when it's your time he will be there .especially if he loved you .God bless .u
I’m so sorry for your loss believe me I understand my husband passed away August of last year❤️
Sorry for your loss. My husband passed away last year also.
So sorry for your loss🙏🏾
Thank you for this message. I was in a abusive relationship for 4 yrs and now I’m free and very cautious when meeting someone that wants to pursue me.
I was raised by both parents. My parents have been happily married for 52 years. I was taught these principles. So many men I have encountered were not. The world would lead you to believe that you are crazy for having these beliefs. Thank you for reinforcing the truth. I need this today.
Thanks another powerful message
I’m a 60year old widow and I’m listening.Thank you for the wisdom .
I love a man that provides. I'm blessed to have one.
My last boyfriend ( 50) always took phone calls when I was over. He made plans to hang with friends after I came to spend time with him. I left him.
What’s wrong with him making plans to hang out with friends?
@@jericaleigh "...after I came to spend time with him." No further explanation is needed.
@@jericaleigh nothing
Oooh tacky!
Yes that's very inconsiderate & disrespectful
The one about anger touched me the most. My dad was abusive and walked out growing up. Then I would choose men who were the same way for so many years. Now that is the biggest turn off. I want to see somebody who is kind and genuine and treats everybody around him with kindness. Somebody who never acts when angry. Once you see them angry you see the true person.
I was referred to you by a gracious woman at work. This video let's me know my abstinence has not been in vain and that I am on the right track and also that my husband is searching for me as hard as I am patiently waiting for him. God bless you Man of God. You and I'm sure your lovely wife❤
YES THIS HERE IS IT I LOVE THIS COMMENT😍😍😍😍
Interestingly enough, this teaching was uploaded on my birthday. After being married 45 years, during your instruction, I evaluated my relationship with my husband and remembered our beginning. I can truly say that Michael loved me, valued, and honored me. It is the Lord's doing, and it is marvelous in our eyes because my husband has constant in his care for me. I pray that those who are considering a relationship or in one, will receive this valuable information.
Amen.
Amen
Amen
Mrs. Davis, I am soooo elated to hear that u had a wonderful marriage....it is 😀👃💖👌 truly a blessing from God....sometimes, it is the little things that makes all the difference n a relationship....I truly hope 🤞 that u two have 45 plus blissful yrs to come..🙏💕💖😄🙏💯🌹😇🤗💙🖐️
Amen!!
When a man loves you he will go out of his way for her, he cherishes her
Wow! This man's ministry is much needed! I'm a Christian woman in her 60's, who is trusting in God to provide her with a second chance mate.
Valuable advise,...love, honour, respect, kindness and provision must not only be spoken but demonstrated.
I like how pastor Blake's is focusing on energy. I once dated a man that was very charming, he portrayed like he cared and supported me but only if I gave him my peace in return. I found myself not even breathing at times while in his company. His energy was bad! I had to pick myself up and get out of there.
I do too ! Energy is so key. Did you ever find out what it was you were sensing?
Yes. I experienced that too.
Yes ne too
I feel stressed in his presence
Oooohhhh myyyy God! HOW?!? I promise I never said this aloud because I knew no one would get it. But YES. I was so tired ...it's hard work holding your breath Chile. So glad to have done a Toni Braxton - breathe again.
Thank you to both RCBlakes and to Lisa. I pray that all the women here will truly find God Ordained husband's who truly love each of us. Thank you again Bishop RCBlakes Jr.
All women need to hear this. Amen
I'm hearing your message loud and clear. It is painful because I have never experienced this either in my marriage or in my 18 year relationship with the father of my two children (we were not married). Through your videos and your anointing, the HS helped me to finally cut this soul-tie. But it is hard to see that I have lived this long (I'm 54 with 14 and 12 year old sons) and have never yet known firsthand what you are telling us here. Thank you for being so strong and loving and pouring this Father Energy/Love into all of us out here listening to you. You have made all the difference for many of us.❤
So true! I had to value myself before i knew how a Man is supposed to value me. I know the difference from running game and a man that really honor and value me. I am single but i know waiting on my husband from God is worth the wait. Thank you and your wife. Your book Queenology helped me out a lot.
I am there standing in agreement with you my Sis been abstinate for 7 years going on 8, and will stay that way until !! Amen!!
I would really love to get a copy🤗
Very well said🙌🏽🥰
Same here, I had to value myself and love me.
Amen very true please don't settle nothing less!value yourself as he will you Always!🙏😊💞
I just have to say thank you so much for acknowledging that manipulating a woman into bed under the pretense that the relationship is going somewhere is in fact abuse.
Also, the 5,8 broke men with no 6 pack are f*** boys too lol
Energy, frequency, and vibration will tell you everything!! Energy never lies.
Thank you for another awesome video, Pastor Blakes!!
YES!
God, I thank you. I was married for 39 years my Husband transitioned a few years ago. I spent 39 years wondering if he loved ME (I was broken in my childhood in multiple ways) or did he settle because I could give him children. He came from a large loving family. This video truly blessed and clarified his love for me. He truly valued and loved me. One of the last things he told our sons hours before he transitioned was “take care of your Momma” Conversations he had with our children as they begin to entered adulthood and search for their companions let me know also that not only did he value me but also honored me by using me as an example for qualities their future mates should have. This video gave me so much joy and peace🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼. Thank you so much
Janis Im sorry for your loss. I'm curious because I went to high school (I believe) with someone with the same last name as yours. Its a unique name. I was raised in Los Angeles but lived other places too. I wanna say the first name we called him Lonnie?
Aww bless ❤
You were blessed with the right man for you.
@@sylviemorgan9770 right!! She really was!!! I hope I’ll be lucky enough to experience this.
Love. ❤️
This is so powerful but made me sad at the same time. I am going through a divorce and resonate with what I always thought would happen during the marriage - but it didn't. A healthy relationship is so nice. Those of you who are looking for a lifetime partner, please listen to the Bishop. God is using him for this season.
You can and will make it.
@@l.m.dougherty7344 Thank you! Blessings.
Listen.. I was feeling sad as well. I had to take breaks watching it. It was confirmation for me
He dropped a whole word in this video. I hope y'all hear this very valuable word!! Thank you
❤❤❤Thank you so much. Right message delivered at a right time....Thank you again Man of God
My principles for my Wife! It’s wonderful to hear another man with the same principles. 🙏🏾
Wow nice to know..because he right here is a greater teacher..
Pastor, thank you so much for your ministry! You have made this brother become a LOT more aware of his KINGLY duties as a Black man this turbulent world we live in.
Awesome to know ! We need more nice men .so many disrespectful men .
Excellent
Much respect to YOU, sir -- wear your crown well!
Glory to God, God will continue to help you if you're willing, stay faithful 👏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾💯➕
How beautifully received from this message 🙏🏾
Thank you, Pastor Blakes! You are reaching and touching more “kinds” of women than you realize. I am 62, widowed twice and have recently become engaged to the man who will be my 3rd husband. This talk reassured me that he is a quality man and that I am not wasting my time.Here’s to a beautiful future!!
You go girl!!
Let me guess: You own your own home, planning to Retire in about 3 years or so, or you have a LOT of Insurance $$ from being widowed twice. The 3rd man may have hit the Jackpot!!! 🤔
“If Lisa can’t go, me neither!” Ik that’s right!!! ❣️🦋
Paster Blakes, you are just what the doctor ordered for my mind and spirit. Thank God for your wisdom.
You better say that🙌🏾
I am standing in agreement with you sis. Pastor Blakes is a Godsend indeed and he has great teaching about relationships, especially for us queens Amen!!!!
Well said Leeza
Thank you Pastor for this much needed message
More Women Need NOT just HEAR this.....however UNDERSTAND WHAT IS BEING SAID AND UNDERSTAND THIS!!
With tears in my eyes I say in truth BISHOP & wife you have become father & mother to some who were without your teaching. You are touching so many lives.
The man must honor the woman… have high respect…. Amen amen hallelujah
It will take alot of praying and fasting to meet a man like that in today's world
@patricia Sydney… it only takes faith
GOD ALWAYS have somebody the devil wants u to believe that
@@TheRaptureIsComingSoon faith? I think I've lost faith when it comes to a man like Pastor Blake describes. Haven't found one like that.
It's not impossible. God is able.
You are so true. Most of these men behave like they were not taught how to respect and honor a woman . The thing about men is that they invest their time in different women . So they don’t know which one to marry , so they end up hurting one or several women that they were telling the same thing. May advice to women is ask God to direct you.🙏
*Understanding the signs of a man's seriousness is vital for building a solid relationship. Let's encourage open communication and create an environment of trust.*
Yes Bishop.. Im in my 50s and will not settle below my value or worth.. Living my life and being patient. 🎯💯
I said I would never get married again , but I met someone after being single for the past few years that made me change my whole outlook. He is something I never expected! I was so hurt from my first marriage and it turned me into a monster until I met him.
I came from a abusive marriage. The communication was not existing. Listening to this explanation helps me understand what I went through.
When a good man is serious about a woman. ❤
He is devoted loyal, supremely comfortably happily focused, and staunchly carefully caring every moment of Life Together.
That's beautiful ..exactly what I want
Nobody is that all times. That's an unreasonable expectation . We aren't even all that all the time!
Men get tired of being a sole provider. So they just hit and run, or they hit and missed. You are the only one who is talking about sex.
@@claudettejackson9676
the man should always have great pride in providing for the others;
the woman should always harbor great pride in recognizing the efforts of the man;
Should there be children, they should always honor with immeasurable pride the Center of the Family, the Mother;
And, with very acute affection and recognition, harbor great pride in the Dad.
This is the strongest, invincible Pair, And the Unified, invincible Family.
Even in the face of the worst challenges.
Even as they lose each other through time and old age.
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Yes,✓
yet never be downtrodden by the woes that exist.
Strive for it.
No matter the outcomes of unpredictable Life.
It must be done.
You are the One.
I love how he explained to honor first then submission comes naturally!!!!! That’s the best!!!!! Way I ever heard the Bible explained!!!!! With real life!!!
I can't tell you how much your teachings have helped me renew my mindset. Thank you for showing me that I deserve a man that truly loves me.
A man can love, value and honor you but if he doesn’t have a job nor show promise that he even wants to work…he has to go!!!
Exactly...cause that woman would be working her tail off to keep him....can u imagine?
😰😨😂😂😂that thought is traumatizing...lmbo.😂
If he truly love, value and honor you, then he would work and provide for his family. He will be more concerned about your needs rather than his own. Unfortunately, many boys were never taught how to be a good man by example. Maturity doesn't automatically come with age. Most boys are raised by females in single parent households in the black community. A boy needs a good man, in most cases, to teach him how to be a man. I'm not putting down sisters trying to raise their sons alone, I applaud them. However God's order is the best: love, marriage, sex and babies. We got it twisted.
@@van182 AMEN TO THIS.🙏🙏
Well, he had better find a job! There are plenty available now! No woman will honor a non- working man!
@@purposelypondering4292 No, I can't imagine it! Either we work together; bring home the dough or we don't work at ..all! 🙄smh
I was in this situation and felt the man was weak, but something deep inside told me he was the one. I was just coming out of a 5 year very unhealthy relationship and was broken from that. Nevertheless, I’m
Glad I listened to that something.
This was just the cherry on top of CONFIRMATION about my relationship!! I felt he was God sent because he is so different then any other ive experienced BUT this checked off all of the things he consists of.. SO patient, he covers me, prays with me, desires purity until marriage etc etc. I have never in my life met such a calm, kind, Christ like, vessel of God. Thank you for this list!!!
Be careful... ALL of these traits can be false pretenses for a while!
I definitely know I haven’t met him yet. I’m waiting on God to send him. I can’t believe the things I have taken over the years and I’m not doing it anymore. I’m tired of being hurt. I know God has a man with these qualities for me and more.🙏🏼😭❤️
Gurrrrl....me too movement. I'm introducing the new me to an old boo Right now. Lol This new me feels good. They can keep thier empty dreams. I have no more tears to shed. When God sends my earhly King he is going to be one of the most blessed, happy, joyful men in the world!!!! Gurrrl won't He do it PRAISE GOD!!!
@@michelebrown5487 Amen! Yes!🗣🗣🗣
Kimmie Ann GOD sure does
Jimmie, thank you for your honesty
I'm right here 💒😉
I am extremely excited that a Man of God is online , to help me realize the truth about relationships. Thank you so much Bishop
Wow. For 30 years I was so used and taken advantage of. Just got out and started valuing myself. Thank you for this.
I two was married for 28 years. I realized that he gave me what he was capable of giving, lying and cheating. I emerged from that married with my self esteem in tact. I'll always love him but I just couldn't give that man all of my life. It was one skeezer after another. I ended up taking two blood pressure meds, stomach medications, and meds for nervousness. I met my current husband and didn't look back. My ex cries a lot about how he misses me and I believe him. I always change the subject. I'm free praise the Lord I'm free, no longer bound, I've got no chains holding me.
32 yrs for me. Used and taken advantage of direspected, liar, fake, always trying to impress the public, a Mr think that he walks on water. Not faithful, womanizer in church, on job etc. Not a real man.
This is where we begin anew..
Its never too late to live out your true identity🙏🙏🙏🎁
This message made me sad 😞 because I recognized that I had a man that was doing all that a man in love do, like you described him. And I made him pull back because I sabotaged the relationship with my insecurities and fear of rejection. I learned the lesson and I'm learning so much with your preaching, thank you for doing this for all of us God bless you!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
❤ LOVE brings VALUE THAT EQUALS HONOR FOR A LIFETIME. GOD BLESS YOU R.C. BLAKES! SO MANY LEVELS OF MARRIAGE COUNSELING EXPOUNDED IN 3 SIGNS. . .WHAT A MESSAGE FOR THE 21ST CENTURY GENERATION. ❤ 😍✌ LVH FROM BOTH INDIVIDUALS.
Are you single Merlin ?
This was a great eye opener i will use this. For when my husband finds me.
@@jardeanthornton2899 Tell me Please are single ?
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OMG! This has happened to me in the past few days. A man who I just started seeing made it very clear that he wanted me to be his lady. He was very clear about that. It was strangest thing I’ve ever experienced in my life because it didn’t seem real. How could he be so sure?? I made the decision to begin a relationship with him. So many thing that you have mentioned in this video have occurred when I’m with him. This video was “clarification” for me that this real and his intention is good. Thank you so much.
Same with me. It blows my mind to be with someone who values me and honors me. We met 5 1/2 mos ago and we’re getting engaged next week. ❤
This was on point. Thank you Pastor. I think the guy I’m seeing is displaying these characteristics. I don’t think he loves me yet, but values, respects & honors me. He opens doors, we talk on the phone for hours about everything. We’ve been dating for 3 months & haven’t had sex yet. He’s not pushy & we seem to both want the same thing which is marriage. I’ve never connected with someone on all levels the way I do him. Physically, emotionally, mentally & spiritually. I don’t wanna loose him or mess things up. Thank you for this video.
God bless you your channel has blessed me and allow me to understand what A Godly man supposed to be like...you are helping us young ladies 🙏🏽
I really understand, first hand experience- he’s my husband. That’s how we started building a genuine friendship first - didn’t really see the relationship becoming more . I married my best friendship and we developed a companionship.
Thank you Bishop🙏 I am older than most of your Queens but the lessons I have learned from you have changed my life ! I will never ever settle again thanks to God & your teachings! Don’t know if I will ever marry again after 2 useless marriages. I give myself a pass , sort of for the first one that lasted 30 years . But I should have known better with the recent one that lasted 7 years but I ignored all the red flags 🚩 yes I divorced them but so many wasted years! Except for my 4 grown children! The rest was a sad disaster but I know better now! God Bless you for all that you do! It is well 🙏🙏❤️
You are describing my boyfriend and reinforced what I already knew about him. He is so different from my past relationships and I cherish him so much.
Dating a wonderful man right now. He is displaying all the things Pastor Blakes is saying. I’m very pleased and inspired. I listen to Pastor’s messages with my teenage daughter, so she will be able to discern properly and have the ability to choose a mate properly. Thank you for this message 🙏🏾
Thank u Kei, for i will allow my grandchildren to view these messages as well
Even a man who is sincere about what he is looking for, something physical will be on his mind
Agreed! Men love beautiful woman. God made us the way he did because he made man the way he did. Woman also want to be with a man who is attractive. Does he have to be a perfect 10? Absolutely not but you shouldn't want to throw up in your mouth a little bit when thinking about being intimate with him. I dated a man who treated me like a true Queen but I was repulsed by him physically. Men ain't doing that...getting involved with a woman that he's not attracted to.
Yes. And know that you cannot predict that a person will enjoy you or not. People like different things. You have to figure it out.
I disagree. I know plenty of men who want to postpone sex till marriage. These are strong, committed CHRISTIAN men, mind you.
This philosophy of marriage is something I wish I had heard before getting married. It also makes me ask "How do I treat my partner?" I think RC Blakes should title this lesson "Treat Each Other with Honor and Value, Accept No Less in a Relationship."
I am sharing these lessons with all the young adults in my family because they can't learn this from anywhere else. Thank you, RC Blakes and thank you Lisa for your part in this.
Thank you so much! This Is exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve been sent a husband but because I haven’t had someone like this in 10 plus years it was odd to me. Now I know it’s me that needs to accept my blessing. ♥️
Beloved, it’s good that you realize and know that it’s on YOU!
Same with me. I met someone so nice after a 10 year loser relationship. I will cherish this new person as he cherishes me.
Thank you for having a real man talk I want a young guy that myself I've been through hell and back and tonight has another listen to you he wants to call the police to do more damage in my life God no I don't need this I need somebody to kiss the understanding that I could talk to I will keep up for it one day God Will supply my knee amen
I've just met such a man
i met such men several times but and rejected because i married another who i thought is good was just attracted to me sexually nothing serious beyond that cause he is not cooperative but again he doesnt allow me to quit either so am stuck
Sir... I want to personally "Thank You." After hearing this message, after 2 marriages, and break-ups here and there, I truly realize that I have never been loved, valued, and honored. I pray that at 61 years old, one day God will put that real man in my Life. 🙏🏽😭💯🙆🏽♀️
I pray that the Lord provides for you that experience. Isaiah 54 "... for thy Maker is your husband..."
I can concur the same thing too sister
At 62 I met my husband. I married him at 63. I too was married three times before him. Once at 19, and twice in my thirties. One lasted 10 months, another 3 years and last 28 years. My 9th anniversary was August 31. He is 12 years younger than me. He is a good man, he is not a perfect man, and I know he loves me. He pays most of the bills, does all of the driving, is always home although he doesn't check all of my boxes, but he does the best he can. I appreciate all that he does. I didn't come on to him he found me and not in a club. I do believe what the Minister said about honoring me. God will send you your Boez.
At 65 years old I have never married (lots of the wrong ones), and I am praying that before I take my last breath, the Lord will lead me to HIS choice for both of us.
Same here.
Thank you so much!! I knew I met my husband when he came to me. He is everything you describe in a man. This confirmed everything for me. I appreciate this message.
My eyes are wide open. I got a whole husband on my hands. Thank you lord!
Amen!! I felt that. Yes Queen, and may God bless and keep you both always! 🙌🏾
Congratulations
Pastor Blake's thank you God bless you for this word of enlighten:
When a man is serious about a woman , he devotes his time, energy , honours, value,and loves you
I know a friend, Radcliffe. He travels far to help people with things like painting, and other DIY tasks. Most of these people are women. He has mostly women as friends and many. He gives his time and energy where necessary and especially when asked. However he is not seeking to love, value and honour these women. In fact he is kinda dating a lawyer on one of the islands right now but is still in love with the female friend (L) that he was dating in the UK before. The lawyer asked him out. He didn't tell the lawyer about L, he didn't break off with L, and on his return to the UK he is having very close relations with L. He has been married twice before and he is looking for wife #3. He tells L about the lawyer, rings her everyday and most times on video. Does he honour, value and love either of these women? He stated that he's prepared to dabble.
This is confirmation of exactly what I'm seeing now, is not God's desire for my life. My destiny is too great to fool around with a man, not sent by God. That you RC Blakes for breaking it down!
@@olderwiser1017this behavior is common among some men
After watching this I’m proud of the decision I made to part ways with my ex husband all the above things that has been said he used to do it and I came at the point where I felt comfortable to accommodate them later on I realized I was tolerating a narcissist,trust me running away from toxic marriage takes courage and determination,I’m now healing and embracing my purpose whether I get another one or not all I know my life never deserves to suffer
I am here as well 😢
This helped me too. To make sure im doing these three things for my love
I’m not a Christian but I listen to you. You teach in a very calm way other teachers aren’t doing. They yell, harangue and teach in a very condescending way.
Continue doing what you’re doing. More power for high value evolved black men.
I wasn’t raised by one, didn’t see many around me when growing up but I know they exist and they are in plenty.
Totally agree. All the other so called teachers are so angry and condescending. Men and women. Found myself taking that in spirit. I didn’t like it. I like how he is saying similar things but it is in such a calm manner and it soothes my spirit.💕
Thank you for sharing this knowledge as some of us don't have a foundation of what we should be looking for in a great spouse... I think my husband just found me a few days ago! He's actively showing these signs. I'm excited & prayerful of what's to come! 🙏🏾🥰💕
Bishop you gave me a word of confirmation this morning. I receive it. I once met a man that you're speaking of in so many words. Once I relocated and was on his turf, everything changed. He flipped the script. He was deceitful. I called him out...a long story short...the relationship ended. I try to be encouraged to wait on the man you described. I am losing faith that there is that man for me. Asking prayer for me in Jesus name.
Geretha, Im 65 years young and never married. Im still waiting on that special someone. Nevertherless I continue to pray that i remain the healthy lifestyle i have. Amen to ur comment above
Was with a man who displayed all those qualities but was verbally abusive and on few occasions it got physical. As I waited and professed my faith and total trust in GOD, he got more disrespectful and verbally abusive attempting to demean and bring me down as I kept the faith and spoke love, life, and health he got more abusive to the point where GOD intervened and rescued me. It is possible for a man to show those attributes you spoke of but if you wait patiently on GOD the real man or beast will manifest. So please ladies wait and trust GOD in the process before falling for the counterfeit Love of the enemy. Thank you pastor for sharing with us ladies, what to look for. GOD BLESS YOU 🙌 🙏 ❤
Thank you for this message. By listening to this message made me a stronger real woman and I ended my relationship. It’s the value part that got me focused. I really needed to hear this and I’m taking all this information in. When God blesses me with a Godly man he will love, value, and honor me. Command respect instead of demanding it, big difference.
Thank you for this wonderful message